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Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect

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Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode

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Speaker 1: of Reasonably Shady. My name is Gizelle Bryant. What's up?

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Speaker 1: What's up everyone, I'm Robin Dixon. Thank you, thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you once again for joining us. We love you

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Speaker 1: so much for loving us. Yes we do. We're so

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Speaker 1: happy to be back once again. And just like usual,

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Speaker 1: we have our Reasonably Shady moment of the week. And guys,

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Speaker 1: it is a doozy for me. Okay, So, a couple

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Speaker 1: of weeks ago, we had a dietitian I believe that

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Speaker 1: was we were talking to. Her name was what's her

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Speaker 1: name to the trainer trainer, but yes, we're talking about

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Speaker 1: nutrition with yes, And she said, asparagus it's great to eat, okay, um,

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Speaker 1: it helps you lose weight, it tastes good. Just put

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Speaker 1: in an oven like for like fifteen twenty minutes and

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Speaker 1: roasted up and you're gonna be like feeling like a

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Speaker 1: million bucks. And I was like, you know what, I

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Speaker 1: was sick of kale because I've been a kale girl

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Speaker 1: for like ten years. Kale, I'm done with you. Broccoli,

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Speaker 1: I'm done with you. Two because Brocoli, you give me gas. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so um Carly our director of operations, she said, but

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Speaker 1: you know that asparagus makes your um piasting God, and

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Speaker 1: I can't believe you didn't know that. Well I did

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Speaker 1: know that, but to what degree I did not know.

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Speaker 1: So I went out of town with my kids last

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Speaker 1: weekend and there was a whole lot that went down

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Speaker 1: with the with our room that I had. I had

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Speaker 1: booked a Sweet I'm in Tallahassee, by the way, I

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Speaker 1: had booked the Sweet, but this hotel I don't know

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Speaker 1: guests through that reservation in trash can. So we ended

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Speaker 1: up in like this little small room. But whatever, We're

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Speaker 1: only there for yeah, maybe maybe another episode. That would

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Speaker 1: be my shady moment. So I went to go eat

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Speaker 1: and my kids were like, Mom, you have funked up

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Speaker 1: the whole room. Were you farting? What did you doing there?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god? And I was like, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: My piece stinks. I mean like stink stinks, like horribly stinks.

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Speaker 1: So long story short, asparagus, you are shady. You are shady,

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Speaker 1: okay shady? So are you no longer eating it? Now?

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Speaker 1: So this is the deal, guys, I actually really love it,

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna eat it, but not as much as before, okay,

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Speaker 1: or just eat it when you're like when you know

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Speaker 1: you're not going to be peeing around other people? Right,

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Speaker 1: when does that happen? Like you're at home, like eating

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Speaker 1: for dinner and you're using your own private that's true,

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Speaker 1: that's true, very true. So so if I'm if this,

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Speaker 1: but this would make any guy run away from me.

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Speaker 1: So if if there's any dayting going on, then asparagus,

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Speaker 1: I cannot eat asparacus. You're shady. I want everybody to

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Speaker 1: be clear on that. But I don't want anyone to

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Speaker 1: like not eat asparacus because it's really good for you.

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Speaker 1: I know exactly. So you know, just if you're if

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Speaker 1: you're around a guy or whatever, just give them the disclaimer. Okay,

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Speaker 1: my piece stinks, yes, because I'm being healthy because I'm

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Speaker 1: being okay, Okay, I didn't fart, I didn't go number two,

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Speaker 1: it's just my pe Okay, got it because of its

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Speaker 1: serious right, Yes, that's it. Okay, that's it. Now do

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Speaker 1: you have a shady moment? I mean I just have

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Speaker 1: a frustrating moment. So you know, we moved in a

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Speaker 1: new house. The first thing my kids want is a

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Speaker 1: basketball court. Not just my kids, but my husband wanted

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Speaker 1: to So it's like, we have to have a basketball court.

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Speaker 1: And I was ready to like put this basketball court

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Speaker 1: in and something told me this was literally yesterday something

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Speaker 1: and we're scheduled. Actually they're out there doing the court now.

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Speaker 1: Something told me, Um, why don't you talk to the

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Speaker 1: builder to make sure, like, you know, there's no issues

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Speaker 1: with putting this basketball court in long story short, I

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Speaker 1: mean it's actually like, you know, a little silver lining.

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Speaker 1: Um if we if I had gone with my original plan, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would have been in trouble with the county. I

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Speaker 1: would have been like building the court on on in

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Speaker 1: an area for like a utility easement, a ten foot

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Speaker 1: utility easement. So I had to reduce the size of

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Speaker 1: our basketball court by ten feet. So is it a

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Speaker 1: half court? It was always a half court, but it

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Speaker 1: was literally going to be like a court, a whole

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Speaker 1: half court that would allow them allow them to like

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Speaker 1: can't get their corner three point shots. So they just

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Speaker 1: they just have a file line. They shoot, come to

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Speaker 1: talking about it's still in this this thing and I

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Speaker 1: have to care my son, Corey, well this why why

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Speaker 1: can't you do this? And why why why and just

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Speaker 1: if someone from the county comes back here and sees

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Speaker 1: and tell us to dig it up. And he's like, well,

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Speaker 1: so what just paid a fine boy? Get little boys? Exactly?

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Speaker 1: He needs to get a little boys. So our dreams

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Speaker 1: of having this amazing full half court basketball have been shattered. Well, clearly, Robbing,

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Speaker 1: you're part of the wrong family, and we're going to

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Speaker 1: talk to the right family today as it relates to basketball. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we have a guest with us and her name is

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Speaker 1: we'll let you introduce her Robina. So our guest today

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Speaker 1: is none other than the beautiful Saddel Curry Lee. Um.

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Speaker 1: A lot of you might know Sadel because she belongs

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Speaker 1: to a very prestigious basketball family. Okay, Her father is

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Speaker 1: Dell Curry. He played sixteen years in the league. Her

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Speaker 1: brother is the amazing Stephen Curry UM. Her other brother

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Speaker 1: who plays for the Golden State Warriors. Her younger well,

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Speaker 1: the seventy sixers. She is also married to Damien Lee,

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Speaker 1: so anyway, but we're talking to Saddel not only because

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Speaker 1: UM her focus is mental space mental health. So I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna read her bio and introduce her in the mental

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Speaker 1: health before I talk about Saddell. The mental health topic

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Speaker 1: UM that we recently discussed got such a positive response.

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Speaker 1: I mean I saw emails where people said, I just

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Speaker 1: made an appointment because of you all. So people are

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Speaker 1: in a really dark place. Um. My cousin told me

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Speaker 1: it was the best one yet. So yes, you know

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Speaker 1: online has always been to surface the topic of mental

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Speaker 1: on how we can all discuss the subject better as

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Speaker 1: well as things we can do to improve our mental

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Speaker 1: health Because life, that's the name of Her podcast centers

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Speaker 1: around an open and honest discussion amongst Saddel, a mental

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Speaker 1: you is struggling with their mental health. So um Saidel

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Speaker 1: with you know without further ado, welcome to reasonably Shady said, welcome, welcome,

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Speaker 1: We are so happy to her. Were cracking up. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, I just want to say that just how

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Speaker 1: you already got the communication down to the relationship just

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Speaker 1: have a quick first top top of the episode questions,

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Speaker 1: So your your podcast because life one? How long have

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Speaker 1: love it? Thank you? So we just started in May.

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Speaker 1: Our first episode was May nineteen, two thousand twenty one.

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Speaker 1: And when coming up when I'm sorry, that's around the

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Speaker 1: always said growing up, I would never date or marry

427
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: a basketball player NBA player because I don't know how

428
00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 1: they are. And I know that like the guys in

429
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 1: my family are top notch and they're like we called

430
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 1: them unicorns. Um. And I didn't think that that was possible.

431
00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: But when I met I met my husband way before

432
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 1: he was even in the league. Um, because we went

433
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: to I went to Ellen. He went to Drexel and

434
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: so they're in the same conference. So he was playing

435
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 1: basketball in drexxl UM. But like, I didn't know if

436
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 1: he was any good. I didn't know anything. Like he

437
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,200
Speaker 1: even transferred to Louisville and like hit me in my

438
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: d M and I was like, who are you? Like,

439
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 1: what do you do? Like whatever? And so we met sister.

440
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: He was always he always tells me that he wasn't

441
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 1: like pawning for me. I'm like, he was trying, you know,

442
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 1: in the curries. He was trying to get into the curries. Okay,

443
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 1: we understand. I mean he succeeded. Hey, that is your

444
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 1: brother feel about it? I mean, I'm sure he's over

445
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 1: it now. I mean, you guys, are you know? I

446
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: mean the way their best friends. Like their relationship is

447
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: kind of sickening, to be honest. I'm like, they're a

448
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: little too close. And then you know what I mean, look,

449
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 1: he better, he better stay on Steph's team because Steph

450
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: can keep an eye. Yes, I mean, it's definitely it's

451
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: easier for me maybe, like, excuse me, who are you talking?

452
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: Who is this woman you're talking to? Right? Yeah? You

453
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: know what's kind of annoying though about him being on

454
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 1: the team is that everyone thinks that Stephen literally called

455
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 1: up the GM of the Warriors like, hey, is my

456
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,400
Speaker 1: brother in law? But they he was on the team

457
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,879
Speaker 1: before we were even engaged. We were just dating and

458
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: like the whole the whole nepotism thing. And then I'm

459
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: just like, do y'all not know how the NBA works

460
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 1: because they're not going to give away just money to

461
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: somebody because of who they're related to, Like they have

462
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 1: to actually be able to contribute something. So your brother

463
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: is married to Doc River's daughter. I know, it's very incestual. Yes,

464
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 1: I realized that. And how the hell did that he

465
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: ended up on the same team, I don't know, but no,

466
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: I like, I love it. Keep it in the family,

467
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 1: you know, like good people when you know them, and

468
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: so I feel like, hey, if if we already know

469
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 1: the Curries are great people, so if the Curries approved

470
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 1: of you know these Damien, then like he has to

471
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: be an amazing person. And within the n b A,

472
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,719
Speaker 1: it's not just about your talent, it's it is almost

473
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: equally about how good of a person are you? How

474
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 1: reliable are you? How? Yeah? I mean more and more

475
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 1: of these days, like it's more important to have people

476
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: of character in your organization than just people with talents. Okay,

477
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 1: So so share with us you are, by the way, congratulations,

478
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: you get ready? Okay, So what is your day? Can

479
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:49,919
Speaker 1: you share that orm weeks today? Yeah? Oh my gosh, okay,

480
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: so what well, because I'll give you my brief because

481
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 1: it's so weird. My kids asked me this this morning.

482
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 1: They were like, Mom, did you have any trouble getting pregnant?

483
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 1: And I was like, first of all, why you'll been

484
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 1: thinking about that? Um? And I? And I did so

485
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 1: my first child, Grace. You know, it took me like

486
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 1: six months or so. There was nothing that the doctors

487
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: felt like they needed to do. If it had gone

488
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 1: longer than of course, we would have done some different things,

489
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 1: but um, you know, it just took about six months.

490
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:22,200
Speaker 1: The twins was like that, you know pregnant. Was that

491
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 1: a mistake? That's what the twins asked. They were like,

492
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, we mistakes and like, first of all,

493
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: you no, it was not. It was definitely playing. So

494
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 1: they soon because they're not even they are Grace and

495
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,399
Speaker 1: the twins or how many, they're eighteen months apart. So

496
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: I wanted them to be wanted to torture yourself? Well, no,

497
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 1: I thought it was gonna be one more, but it was.

498
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: And I wanted the one more and Grace to be

499
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: grow up together and then two stuff together. But it

500
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: was two more. So yes, then I was tortured. But anyway,

501
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 1: enough about me. Um what to give us, like your story,

502
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 1: because that's every woman who's been pregnant, they have a story.

503
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. Um So Dammy and I got married

504
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: in two thousand and eighteen. Um, and like June of

505
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: two thousand eighteen, we were like, let's kind of wait

506
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 1: a year before we start trying to have a baby.

507
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: So I got I got birth control, and then we

508
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 1: got married and then December of Tusan eighty came around

509
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 1: and we were like they spent enough time together, like,

510
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: let's let's start trying to have a baby. Yeah. And

511
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: so we haven't tried about six months pretty much. We

512
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 1: have been trying her about six months, nothing happened. Went

513
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 1: to my doctors. She was like, oh yeah, yeah, just

514
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 1: like keep trying and then if the year comes by

515
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 1: and nothing happens, and come back and we'll do some tests.

516
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: I got pregnant in September two thousand and nineteen. Um,

517
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: but it ended up being a chemical pregnancy, which really

518
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: really sucks. Chemical pregnancy. It's like an early miscarriage. UM.

519
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: So I tested positive, and then because I was trying

520
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 1: to get pregnant, I would test every day, every day

521
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 1: in the positive, just get lighter and lighter and lighter

522
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: until it was a false positive. I don't know, no, no,

523
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 1: that the baby implants, but it doesn't stick long enough, okay, bible.

524
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: So um went went back to my doctor. Six months later,

525
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: we got test done. Uh. Two weeks into or a

526
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: week into quarantine when the lockdown happened. Twenty we get

527
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 1: the call that we couldn't have kids naturally or we

528
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 1: had like a really really low chance of having kids naturally. Um.

529
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: Uh issues with both of us kind of yeah, which

530
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 1: people were shoved was because like we're so young I

531
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: was at that time and he was only So was

532
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: the miscarriage related to the reasons why you can't why

533
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: they said you couldn't get pregnant. My miscarriages happened because

534
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: I have a progesterone level or a progesterone level issue.

535
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: After implantation UM, so my progesons levels didn't stay high enough. Okay, okay,

536
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: And so we went into like right into partillary treatments.

537
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: We tried UM three months of i U S, which

538
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 1: is in inter uterine insemination UM, which basically is a

539
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 1: step up from natural. They'll put me on medicasions and

540
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: create more eggs and then they'll insert his uh like

541
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 1: they call it the good swimmers through a capital. And

542
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: we tried those for three months, didn't work, took a

543
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: month off of October, and then we went into IVF. Okay,

544
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: and that's like pretty rigorous, right, like you have to Yes, yes,

545
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: I did two weeks of three injections a day in

546
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: my stomach UM. And honestly, though, like this is this

547
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: is kind of like full circle right now, because it

548
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 1: was UM this time last year's when I started watching

549
00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: the House Lives of Potomac. So you guys, I took

550
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: a whole month off of November to do my IVF

551
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,719
Speaker 1: and just would sit down every day with my husband,

552
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: my mother in law and we would watch Real House

553
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: Lives of Potomach everything. We watched all seasons every day,

554
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: watched the whole scene if you get pregnant. We did,

555
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 1: so thank you and it's like this literally. So anyways, Um,

556
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 1: we did our IVF cycle. We got a good amount

557
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: of embryos um, which is as far as they can

558
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 1: be developed outside of my body, went through our first

559
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: embryo transfer in February. That didn't work. Um, it just

560
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,959
Speaker 1: it was a really devastating time. So then we went

561
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: into my next embryo transfer, which I had asked my

562
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 1: doctor like, can I go on some progestro and because

563
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: I felt like I think I had another chemical pregnancy

564
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: in the first embryo transfer, so that's kind of where

565
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: I found out. Went on progesterone for the second one,

566
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: and this one stuck. Um and we are thirty five

567
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 1: weeks pregnant with the first baby. Boy. Oh it's a boy.

568
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ. Girls. We have three girls, already we have

569
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: that girls, three girls and boy. Okay, so now I

570
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 1: get it. Now I get why. Um, your brother and

571
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: your sister in law were super excited that you are preggers,

572
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: and so like your husband, I know, he was just

573
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: like through the roof, he was so excited. I actually

574
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 1: got to surprise him too with this pregnancy because when

575
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: you go through this and there's doctors and timelines involved,

576
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: like you know, every single time, I got a doctor

577
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: at this day this time, so I had actually tested

578
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: and found out earlier than expected that I was pregnant,

579
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: and so he they were in the middle of the

580
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: season last year and he was away for a road

581
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: trip when I had found out that I was pregnant.

582
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: So I got to surprise him when he came home. Um,

583
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 1: he had no idea that I was pregnant, because again

584
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: we had a week to go until I went to

585
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 1: the doctor from my blood test to see if it

586
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: had worked. UM. And that was just like one of

587
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: the best moments of my life because you know, I

588
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: really wanted this to be as normal of an experience

589
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: as possible. UM, and it hasn't been that normal because

590
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: all the doctors and all my legs and stirrups and

591
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: all kinds of oh my gosh, it was great, Like

592
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: how were you able to even keep that from him?

593
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: Like day and my hardest thing? Every he was like,

594
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: I am I the last one to know? Did you

595
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: tell everyone except from me? Like? No, no, I only

596
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: people I told my mom and my sister mom. Okay,

597
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: speaking of sister in law, let's get back to this

598
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: dinner that y'all play Russian Roulette with the bill. Um. So, yeah, first,

599
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: does she let you cook with her? Because she's got this,

600
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,719
Speaker 1: you know, all this cooking situations going on. It's her

601
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:12,839
Speaker 1: food really good. Yeah, that's getting there. We're not done

602
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:16,879
Speaker 1: with the question yet. Hold on, hold time. Okay, when

603
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 1: y'all have moments at because you know, any family have

604
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: some tense moments at the table. Okay, nine times out

605
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 1: of ten she starts it right, she starts she's a jokester.

606
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: She's she's trying to do this everyone. I'm just staying

607
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: her jokes. Okay. Are the jokes really not funny? They're funny,

608
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 1: but she has a different type of humor and you

609
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: really have to understand her to really like, I think

610
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 1: it's funny, and sometimes look at her like I laugh,

611
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: but like you laugh at her because she's she thinks

612
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: she's hilarious and she is. Her and stuff in just

613
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,879
Speaker 1: feed off of each other. So that's funny to watch.

614
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 1: Even if you don't get the joke, you know that

615
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: they're and they're all a little world. Okay, good for

616
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: them right now? She food's bomb if you have bomb? Really,

617
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: have you been to any of the restaurants? Yeah? Really,

618
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: it's got like three or four. Where have I been

619
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 1: under a rock? I mean they're there aren't any like

620
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: over here. They're more like what isn't in Texas or something.

621
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: She has one in Miami. She has one in the

622
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: MGM in Vegas. Okay in Miami. What's the one that

623
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: called in Miami? Because I'm about to go back down there.

624
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:35,920
Speaker 1: They're all called International Smoke because she has It's like

625
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 1: it's it's barbecue from all around the world though, but

626
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:43,399
Speaker 1: they have everything. Okay, mac and cheese, tried tip, mac

627
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: and cheese. Okay, okay, okay, there was one in Miami,

628
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 1: but okay, okay, I'm gonna. I'm gonna okay, So Miami, Vegas,

629
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: we're where else? And and San Francisco. There was one

630
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: in Houston, but Houston, they don't like the Warriors. And

631
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: it was they started yelping her like before they started negative, negative,

632
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 1: yelping her. That is that deep. But y'all, that's not

633
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: on some food, So goodad that is. Now, how is

634
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 1: your relationship with your sister in law? You all, from

635
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: what I can tell you all appear to be really

636
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: really close. Yeah no, I super blessed. I was always

637
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 1: really hard on all my brother's girlfriends, and you should be,

638
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 1: because you know the holes out here in the streets ran.

639
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: I ran a few of them, all ran a few,

640
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:37,919
Speaker 1: actually the one that ran. And that's a long movement.

641
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: And it's a lot to live up to because their

642
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: mother is a bad one. And so if like the

643
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: girlfriend or discali wag got a hole on the side,

644
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 1: can't live up to the mama, it's a problem. Yeah no,

645
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: but with Aasha like I was mean to her for

646
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: about two weeks okay, good, and I couldn't be I

647
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: couldn't be mean to her anymore. I was like, I

648
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 1: can't not like you, um and we became like that.

649
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 1: I was her maid of honor in their wedding. Yeah,

650
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: I couldn't be with both my sister in laws are

651
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 1: amazing their sisters. I always wanted, Oh yeah, they perfectly.

652
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:18,879
Speaker 1: If you all have Thanksgiving dinner, I wouldn't mind being

653
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 1: invited one day, or if y'all want, I could just

654
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: like fit in. Y'all be like, oh there's cousin everyone does.

655
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: Everyone does. Or going to a restaurant because I just

656
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,360
Speaker 1: want to go and order the home menu because I

657
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: know I'm not paying it, so I'm just gonna, okay,

658
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: bring me the lobster. And I don't know, you might

659
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,360
Speaker 1: you might have to, you might have to guess on

660
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 1: that on the on the bill. Just know she makes

661
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:58,760
Speaker 1: money to anyone money. Let's g get into your Instagram

662
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: because it is the pictures, the way it's laid out,

663
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: like everything about it. It's like clearly I look at

664
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, okay, what professional is doing this?

665
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: Um it's it's amazing. So talk to us about like

666
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: why you there's like a style to it, is there.

667
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: I mean I don't try to fit any kind of style.

668
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 1: I think that I just try to be myself and

669
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 1: it's a gets sometimes imposter syndrome like I'm not doing enough,

670
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough, because then I go look at

671
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: other people's pages and I'm like, wow, that's so aesthetically pleasing.

672
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: Every every filter is perfect with the other. But that's

673
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: just not me. Like if I've spen hours editing a

674
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 1: photo or thinking about, you know what I'm gonna post like,

675
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel genuine and authentic. And I want everything

676
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: that I do to feel genuine, authentic because that's where

677
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 1: how I've gotten to this point. And it's much harder

678
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: to be someone else than it is just to be me.

679
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:57,919
Speaker 1: And I don't have time, Like I just I don't

680
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: have time. It's exhausting. So but thank you. I appreciate that.

681
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: I know I want people to look at my Instagram

682
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: and know that that's me, and it's there's nothing fake

683
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: about it. There's nothing, um you know, highlight really like

684
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: I like to be. I like to show all the

685
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: good and the bad of my life because it's normal.

686
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 1: I think you do an awesome job and it is

687
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: definitely aesthetically pleasing, but without being you know, it doesn't

688
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: it does not look fake or forced. Um so in

689
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: in in the content creator world, if that's really it's

690
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 1: it's people don't really realize how hard it is actually

691
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 1: to put out good content, aesthetically pleasing content. So you know,

692
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 1: kudos to you for doing a great job. You're welcome.

693
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 1: Now are you gonna I'm sorry, go ahead. Do you

694
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:46,879
Speaker 1: have to get into this topic? Okay? Are you going

695
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: to um, you know, after your son is born? By

696
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 1: the way, do we have a name? Is it an

697
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:56,240
Speaker 1: s name? So y'all are going to have an empire

698
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 1: of d's like, it's just fair, okay, very good. Are

699
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 1: you going to show a bunch of pictures of him? Like,

700
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: how do you feel about social media and your child?

701
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 1: Because it's all it's it's a little tricky. It's a

702
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 1: little tricky. Yeah, I mean I've seen both sides of that. Um,

703
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 1: Stefan and Aisha they show their kids a lot, Seth, Callie,

704
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: don't show there's that much. Um just the back of

705
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize he had a child, mm hmm. Yeah,

706
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 1: So I've seen both sides. Honestly, when he's when my

707
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 1: baby is first born, I'm gonna really determine on if

708
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: he's cute or not because the last thing, that's what

709
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 1: I want thing I wanted for him to be eighteen

710
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: twenty years I'd like, ma, why is this picture on

711
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: the online of me looking all like I don't want that.

712
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:44,399
Speaker 1: I'm not going to have problems. But if you like, wait,

713
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: don't feel rushed to put your child. If he looks

714
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: like an alien, you're gonna think his hand, his little foot,

715
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: wait until he fills out a little bit. I mean

716
00:40:57,840 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: my my son Carter that was talking to you or

717
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 1: he was I don't like to use the word ugly

718
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 1: cute and look at him now so time. Yeah, but

719
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: like the I got a d M one time from

720
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: the phone who was like yelling at me because I

721
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: didn't show pictures of my nieces and nephew. She's like, oh,

722
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: you have our pictures like your dogs, And I'm like, okay,

723
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 1: well first that's not a responsibility like my dogs. But

724
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,839
Speaker 1: she and I like was like, well, ma'am, I don't now.

725
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 1: I definitely don't feel full showing pictures of my of

726
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:35,320
Speaker 1: my nieces and nephews, because like there's people like you

727
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: who are incessant on the fact that I post them

728
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 1: and what are you gonna do with them? And why

729
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 1: do you need them so badly? And their parents post

730
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,800
Speaker 1: pictures of them so and so that to me like

731
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: really with a red flag about you know, the craziness

732
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,360
Speaker 1: of people. But um, I don't want people to dictate,

733
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 1: you know, what I do or don't do. So it's

734
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: really game time decision on on little baby boy. But okay,

735
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, he's gonna be cute, stop it. It's

736
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 1: gonna be adorable six months from now, and he's gonna

737
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: be goocy down to the socks I already know. Listen,

738
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 1: I got them. I got them hand me downs from

739
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: Stephan and Aisha. There we go, listen, there we go,

740
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: There we go, because you know they only wear one time.

741
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 1: And yes, the whole bag at Gucci hand me down,

742
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 1: so good, must be nice, must be nice. All right, Well,

743
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: before we let you go, let's talk a little bit

744
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:37,919
Speaker 1: more about mental health, um, specifically seasonal depression, because I'll

745
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:40,800
Speaker 1: be honest. The other day it was like two pm.

746
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 1: It was gloomy outside, and I was on my couch

747
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 1: and I just felt this like heaviness over me and

748
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, it's starting already. Um, So,

749
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 1: you know, do you have any advice or remedies or

750
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 1: just you know, any words of wisdom that you can

751
00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,719
Speaker 1: give to people who may be around this time of year?

752
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: Are alreat even feel different and they don't know why. Definitely,

753
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: it's a normal thing. A lot of people who don't

754
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: experience depression during the other uh seasonal months of the year,

755
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 1: experience it during this time. So now that you're not alone.

756
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: One thing for sure, especially for us black people, we

757
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: need to be Vitamin D is huge because we get

758
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: vitamin D from the sun and vitamin D deficiency. So

759
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,439
Speaker 1: get your supple vitamin D supplement. Make sure you're taking

760
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: that because it will not only help you mentally but

761
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: also physically. Um, it gives your energy backup and stuff

762
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: like that. Uh. And now what so why is that

763
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: like not a universal thing? Why is that like geared

764
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: towards black people. We're just known to have low vitamin

765
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: D deficiency. Um. I mean, I'm sure white people can

766
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: get it as well during this time, but especially black people. Uh.

767
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: And I didn't know that was a thing. I don't

768
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 1: know that was a thing. So that's good to sure.

769
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 1: It's could be very isolating too, because it's cooled outside,

770
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 1: it's dark faster. Don't really want to go anywhere, but

771
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 1: make an effort to if you feel safe. Obviously we're

772
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: still living in COVID times. Uh. See people, go get

773
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 1: drinks with people, go hang out. Um, just walk around

774
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 1: something with someone other than yourself, because that's gonna be

775
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 1: really good to get you out of that mood. For me, Um,

776
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 1: it's not. I mean it kind of might not be

777
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 1: too late. I have a summer set in a winter scent.

778
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:27,280
Speaker 1: So if I'm feel like a perfume, if I'm feeling

779
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: really I'm really really down or really like just depressed

780
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: or whatever, I'll spray my summer set and that sen

781
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 1: use your senses during this time. Eyes ears. Now it's

782
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: some watermelon. I don't know something that you know can

783
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: bring you to summary. That's my craving right now. I

784
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:49,919
Speaker 1: mean I was gonna I was gonna ask you because

785
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,760
Speaker 1: I was gonna tell you my child. My pregnancy cras

786
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 1: were ridiculous. But I love that. So either, So spray

787
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: something that's gonna remind you of like the sum more

788
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: time and happy and sunshine and all that I love.

789
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 1: So throw the pumpkin spice in the trash. But I

790
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: love me a little pumpkin. Yeah, life, but afraid either

791
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:16,840
Speaker 1: during right Christmas? But opiniata really good like that. That

792
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: is good. But a lot of people talk about um

793
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 1: in the wintertime, it's like coffing seasons, like when you

794
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 1: got to make sure you gotta boo so and but

795
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 1: now that you kind of like broke it down, like

796
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: make sure you're engaging, make sure you're going out going

797
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: and you have drinks whatever. That makes sense. Like I

798
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: couldn't understand coughing season, but I understand it now because

799
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 1: you do need somebody, are you. You should have somebody

800
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 1: that you can just kind of like cuddle up with um,

801
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: you know, hang out with whatever, go to the movies

802
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: with whatever. And my thing is, you know I don't

803
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: like to leave the house, right yeah, and I think

804
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 1: you have the battle is like putting on clothes and

805
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 1: make a little hare. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard. Self

806
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: care is it's easy to talk about, but it's hard

807
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 1: to get going. But you always feel better afterwards. Like

808
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: it's like working out. It's really hard to start working out,

809
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: but as soon as you're done, you're like, I mean

810
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: I'm tired, but I'm so happy I did that. So

811
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 1: they just think about the reward at the end um

812
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: of getting started. And then also, like my last advice

813
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 1: with the seasonal depression is no, this is a season

814
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 1: like there will beat in, the sun will come out again,

815
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: the days will be longer, it'll be lighter outside longer again.

816
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 1: So it's just as time span. There is light at

817
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:28,960
Speaker 1: the end of the tunnel um and so it's not

818
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 1: gonna be like this forever. Oh I love that. No,

819
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: I mean I love that. It's so funny. So the

820
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: other day I was talking to Wan and I was like,

821
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel it and he was like, you know.

822
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm like, do you feel the same thing?

823
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 1: And he was like no. I said, remember when we

824
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 1: lived in Portland. We lived in Portland, Oregon, and he

825
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 1: you know, it rained every day literally from like early

826
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 1: December until the middle of May. It literally rained like

827
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: every single day. So I was like, one, you remember

828
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 1: the feeling when we lived in Portland, Like how when

829
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 1: it rained every day, you just it just did feel great.

830
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 1: And he was like yeah. I was like, well that's

831
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: how I feel, you know, this time of year until

832
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: probably early February, right or maybe you know, maybe March.

833
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: And he was like wow, like you know, he doesn't

834
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 1: feel that at all. And I'm just like, damn, like, yes,

835
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: that must be like, so I'm like I don't. I

836
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: mean yeah, I gotta really make an effort because it

837
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: does keep me in the house, like told the dark,

838
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 1: you know, just balling up on the couch, not wanting

839
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 1: to get dressed. Now, it's but it it becomes debilitating

840
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: because I do feel like I do miss out on

841
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff. For me to get Rabbit out

842
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:43,919
Speaker 1: of the house in the wintertime, is it's a struggle, yes, really,

843
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 1: And I feel bad because I think people think that

844
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: I'm being like anti social and it's just like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm just a lot of energy. Yeah, or like they're

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00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:55,520
Speaker 1: taking it personal because I'm not hanging out with them,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, don't take a person. I'm not

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00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: hanging out with anyone, right, But yes, I gotta make

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Speaker 1: more of an effort because it's yeah, for sure. Um.

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00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 1: And then my mom always said, you know, if you

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Speaker 1: are having a bad day, just put on lipstick and

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00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,399
Speaker 1: I'll make you feel better. So I I like live

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00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,720
Speaker 1: by that. Yeah, you always have to have your lips popping,

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00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: like you feel bad, and so put lipstick on and

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00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: just looking at yourself in the mirror and just say

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00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 1: I'm beautiful, Like I'm beautiful. I don't care what you say.

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Speaker 1: Affirmation yeah, talking affirmations will start becoming a real thing. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I do say though. One of my advice is, like

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Speaker 1: when you're feeling down is just to like smile and

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Speaker 1: brind because when the smile, like the endorphins you get

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00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 1: from the smile like really changes your mood. So sometimes

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00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 1: you just like sit there and just like put on

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Speaker 1: the big, cheesiest smile and you can like feel a

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Speaker 1: little bit better, like feel a little endorphin rush. So well,

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Speaker 1: you have been amazing, amazing, and we got you know,

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Speaker 1: you didn't mind us getting all up into the curry

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Speaker 1: leaf business. All right, I'll tell all the I'll tell

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Speaker 1: all the stuff nobody else talk. I'll talk. And if

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Speaker 1: we ever see y'all out, I'm just coming to sit

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00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 1: down at the table. I'm fine. They will never know

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00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm not family. They won't. They won't. Me and Robert

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00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 1: are coming to the family reunion, okay, because I think

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be off. The chain always is. It's always

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00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: a good time. People never want to leave us. That's

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Speaker 1: so awesome. Well you have been to drink? Yeah, do

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Speaker 1: you have anything you want to like um promote? Well,

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00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:29,959
Speaker 1: what's your Instagram page? You have my websites or anything

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00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 1: else going on. My Instagram is just my name, Sadel

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Speaker 1: Curry Lee. Um. And then my podcast because life with

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Speaker 1: Saddel on Instagram and anywhere you listen to your podcast.

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00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 1: So yes, yes, you're you're I'm gonna recommend your instagram.

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00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 1: It is beautiful, Like I just throw pictures up because

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Speaker 1: it's just it's a mess, but it's fine. But yours

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Speaker 1: it's absolutely beautiful. And thank you so much. Um. Always

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Speaker 1: remember never forget live your life, either reasonable or shade.

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Speaker 1: You know what, we weren't even shady with you, see,

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Speaker 1: I mean we tried to throw your system law under

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Speaker 1: the bus, but you would like I can't, I can't,

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Speaker 1: all right, I think there's nothing okay, alright, So this

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Speaker 1: was a very reasonable episode people, which we probably need

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Speaker 1: some of those. We got to balance it called balance. Yes,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. We appreciate you, all right, girl,

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Speaker 1: thank you. Right. Reasonably Shady is a production of the

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Speaker 1: Black Affect podcast Network. For more podcasts from our Heart Radio,

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