WEBVTT - Ep40: Living HIV Positive 0:00:01.280 --> 0:00:04.720 Hey, guys, I am so super excited about posting this 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:07.440 episode and you guys finally getting the chance to listen 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:10.240 to it. UM. We were joined in the studio by Tavarus, 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:15.080 who is a straight male UM born with the HIV virus. 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:17.880 It is something that as a sex positive podcast, we 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.239 never thought we would get the chance to touch on, 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:22.759 nor have someone who was as open as to bar 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:25.759 as to talking about it. During this podcast, we kind 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:28.320 of debunked some of the myths associated with the HIV 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:31.000 virus and we kind of learned some things that we 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:35.480 had no idea about. UM. I'm super excited. We definitely 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:37.720 were able to ask a lot of the questions that 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.839 you guys shared with us on the Patreon platform as 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:44.760 well as our Instagram page, and we hope that we 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.920 did justice to this conversation and we hope that you 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:50.120 guys learn as much as we learned. While recording it. 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:54.360 UM Me and Wheezy had Google pulled up the entire time. UM, 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.920 so we hope we were able to really dig into 0:00:57.160 --> 0:01:00.680 this and hopefully you guys enjoy. Please feel free to 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:05.080 give us feedback on this episode at the Patreon platform 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.559 and that's at www dot Patreon. Dot com back slash 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:13.560 Horrible Decisions, or on our Instagram page at Horrible Underscore Decisions. 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:18.560 Can't wait to hear from you guys soon, I decides depressing, 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:22.160 it's actually not depressing. I really liked this song. Um, 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.760 this is jesse J. Who you are. It's like, you're 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:29.840 fucking A and R s Now what do we not? Yes? 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:34.320 You know what. I actually first heard this song when 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.839 we were at spin class and I really really really 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.760 like yeah, So I'm gonna play this for the rest 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:43.920 of UM towards the end of the episode. I want 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.480 people to listen to it because I think it's really hard, 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:50.800 you know, touching, and we'll relate to the deep conversation 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.360 that we're about. I just want to say, this is 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:56.920 a podcast about hot shit. I don't know what, UM 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:58.920 I hear you, but UM, A lot of people have 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:00.960 actually been hitting us up saying that they've been learning 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:05.840 a lot and as much. And it's not crying. It's 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:09.040 a really good well no, it's super swaggy. The song 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:11.520 is amazing and jesse J is awesome. UM, and I 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:13.720 want people to know that, bitch, although we're holds, we 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:17.120 can educate these holes too. Goddamn you really come in 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:23.000 here lit today. I never know why, and I literally 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.480 and I can't take you when you're sober off anything. 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:27.560 So the fact that you're on caffeine, I'm about to 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:31.400 die today. UM. Anyways, guys, welcome to another episode of 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:36.080 Horrible Decisions. UM, I'm your girl, maybe I'm easy. And 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:41.080 we have our guests to bars today. Yeah, speaking right now, 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:43.720 speaking right now. So UM, I guess if you guys 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:46.720 haven't noticed by even the intro today, UM, today, we're 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.880 actually gonna be having a more UM, more deep conversation, 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.520 something that's a little bit more educational and something that 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:55.640 I honestly didn't think we would ever get to touch on, 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:58.000 because I didn't think we would ever have anyone open 0:02:58.120 --> 0:02:59.760 enough to come into the studio and talk with us 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:02.440 about about this. But our guest today in the studio 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:08.160 UM has HIV. UM, and so this is gonna be 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:11.120 an episode where we can talk about how you're living 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:14.040 with HIV, how you got it, UM, debunking some of 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.680 the things that are associated with it. UM. Because as 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.480 much as we talk about how amazing sex is and 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:23.320 how much we be sucking dick, I think that it's 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:26.360 also very important to know that we are educated in 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:29.160 the realm of sex, and we like to continue learning, 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:33.200 um more about the risks associated with the pleasures of 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:36.840 the things that we like. Um So, I guess we 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:39.360 can start. So normally when we have guests, we like 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:43.200 to do kind of an ice breaker. Um and this 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.360 icebreaker is going to be different than any other. What 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.000 I wanted to do is actually kind of debunk some 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:52.360 of the myths. No, it's actually kind of like, um, 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:57.720 I'm gonna say things that people may think is associated 0:03:57.760 --> 0:03:59.960 with with HIV, and what I want you to do 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.280 is maybe talk about how it's not true. And of 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:04.360 course I did a little bit of background research as 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:07.160 well to to kind of furthermore let you guys know 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:11.400 that these are not the case. Um So the first one, 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:13.520 oh my god, there's one that I didn't know already. 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:16.760 You can't get HIV from insects. I thought that they 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:20.080 were saying you can't get sex from what HIV from 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:23.479 insects when they say, like, I thought that it could 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.960 be transferred through like mosquito bites, and oh that was 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.240 they would have. There was always a thing that they 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.640 would say about like, oh, if you go to like 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:34.839 the rainforest, you go to Amazon, you go to Africa, like, 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:38.560 some of the insects can infect you with you you'll 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.080 get maybe yellow fever or anything else. You can't get 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:45.280 any animals. Remember that you're you're totally off of my 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:48.159 my um. Yeah, we're reading the ship together, but that 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:50.279 was going to be after the myths. Those are not myths. 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:53.720 Those are ways you cannot contract. These are the myths. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:56.880 Read the outline, hope, I'm reading things that you can't. Yeah. Yeah, 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.560 So the one of the first myths that I wanted 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:04.440 to debunk is that HIV is a gay man's disease. 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:10.040 It's not. And so do you have anything further on, um, 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:14.359 maybe how HIV doesn't discriminate? And um me I was 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:17.400 born fit you were you were born with HIV okay, 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.039 and so your mother had it and passed it down 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:22.719 to here. And so was this something that upon birth 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:24.960 your mom was notified of did they give you medication? 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.839 That was their complications with your birth because of knowledge 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.120 because at my mom not because she had passed away 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:32.560 like about four years ago, but to my knowledge and 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:35.400 when we had my mother had those talks, it was 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:37.560 more so that she don't know how she how she 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:40.320 contracted herself because because she was doing drugs at the time, 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:43.520 she was shooing heroin and having sex with people. Once 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:46.520 saw that, but I think you tracked to do it. 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:50.479 Do birth, okay, And so I guess I wondered the 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.920 percent of people that they're born with HIV. Yeah, now 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:57.920 it's better because I'm going to nineties. So like nineties, 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:02.160 late eighties is when messages are really coming out, okay. 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:04.719 And that's also when yeah, we weren't even just aware 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:06.680 of what it is. And so I want to talk 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.400 to you about the second myth. So the second myth 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:13.160 is that being diagnosed with HIV is a death sentence. 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:16.960 It's not. And you're and your how old? So you've 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:20.000 been living with HIV for twenty five years and at 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.680 any point during any doctor's visits did any of your 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.600 doctors say you have this much time to live? Nahum, 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:29.360 we're also a concerner of my mother because doing doing 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.640 like the early nineties, the eighties, Um, the medicine was 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:38.360 not as advance like some people have. Medicines was really 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:41.560 in the testing phases. I think the better way to 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:43.240 describe this stuff before we even get into that is, 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:46.480 like people think HIV and AIDS are the same. Oh 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.279 is that right? Okay? Oh so yeah, we'll definitely have 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.400 to to go into that because a lot of times 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:54.760 you even see just HIV backslash AIDS um and I 0:06:54.800 --> 0:07:00.760 believe AIDS is just higher. Do you know the form 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.760 after HIV. I have to because once you go on 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:06.680 to age, you cannot have HV no more, okay, because 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:12.200 h is a the virus is sleeping, okay, and AIDS 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:16.120 is the final step. You cannot cannot reverse it. It's 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:20.160 like once you have it magic Johnson have v HIV, 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.920 has HIV. Ok Yeah, people say he has AIDS because 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:24.560 at the time that it was but it was like, 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:29.320 so say so new because it's it's easier to live 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.720 with HIV. It's like it's it's it's a lot of 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:34.280 medicines that are advanced to where you can keep yourself 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.400 from the point of AIDS. And I think what you 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.080 were saying is in the early nineties and eighties, a 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.400 lot of people dying from HIV because they didn't know 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:42.760 how to keep it from getting to a And so 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:46.680 are your doctors telling you that you have HIV, now 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.040 you're gonna have AIDS at this age? Like does it? 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:51.560 Does it? Are you you know, are you bound to 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:54.720 have AIDS having HIV or Now there's always it's always 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.360 gonna be a what if when you have HIV. So 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:00.520 pretty much like if you have it, if you take 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:04.320 your messine at all, you get oh so, so the 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.640 medicine that you're taking with HIV is is what's keeping 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:12.000 you from getting AIDS. Oh okay, that's something that I 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.000 wasn't aware of. Um So another myth that I found, 0:08:15.040 --> 0:08:19.520 and this was actually something that related to our Herpies conversation. 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:23.280 So a myth is that it is the sole responsibility 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:28.640 of hip positive individuals to initiate safe sex. Now we 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:30.600 say this and we're going to talk about more so 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:34.760 when you're dating. But I feel like people who have 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.640 herpies or have HIV, or have any of these sexually 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:42.080 transmitted diseases, people put it solely on that person to say, hey, 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:43.960 we have to use condoms. And I think it's very 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.040 important to know that everyone needs to sit here and 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:48.920 if you if you're not aware of your partners and 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:52.240 people that have HIV one point one million in the US, 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:55.080 but one point one in every seven of them don't 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:58.680 know they have it. Oh wow, Yeah, and that's actually 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:02.200 a lot. Yeah, herpes was one three an adulted decline 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:05.000 from in the last seven years went down by so 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:08.360 people are because has been more advanced. Now, yeah, I'm 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:12.040 reading that particularly young black men. UM and it says 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:15.840 gay men are most affected. And again I think that 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:18.679 comes from just the lack of us being able to 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:23.520 get insurance and education on sexually transmitting diseases. UM. One 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:27.680 of the other myths that I saw that was actually 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:31.320 really interesting to me that I actually didn't know it. UM. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.480 It says having sex with someone who is HIV positive 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:40.160 means you will contract HIV. And that's what do you 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:43.800 have these conversations the people that you date like, it 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.040 depends on who I'm talking to, because I know for 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.400 a fact that let me say, the converts with you 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.040 and you found I found that you are a little 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:57.800 bit ignorant or at a little childish. I'm also not 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:02.160 tempted to really tell you because they when you do 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.480 come up, you acting like child Oh, oh I'm gonna 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.120 get it or this is third right, so I have 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:12.480 it now, and that that blows up my psyche. Oh 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.920 I'm doing something wrong. And that brings back to my 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:19.920 childhood or live with it. Okay, okay, you tell all 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:23.920 your partners before, so yes, for most of what I do, 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:28.920 and you're keeping from telling them. Um, for most was younger, 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:31.080 it was more hard for me to deal with it right, 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:35.240 just openly tell someone I have at CHEV because going 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.440 up my hospital and my doctors had told me don't 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:42.480 tell nobody. Wait, your doctor's told you not to tell people, yeah, 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:46.040 back in the early days. And I think because people 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:48.400 used to think, oh my god, you're gonna touch me instead? 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.960 Is that and ignorance of people. But it's crazy to 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:55.880 know the doctors told you not to tell because I'm 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:59.000 a child. Said the same thing with her pies. Her 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.400 doctors told her don't tell people, like unless it's you're 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:03.240 about to have sex with them. Yeah, because I'm in 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:07.200 a big attached to HIV. Oh absolutely well with any 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:10.880 sexual diseases, like people get worried for their safety as 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:14.080 far as having HIV as well. That is crazy And 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:17.439 so I guess, um, even you bringing up the fighting, 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.559 everyone just assumes like if you touch someone who has 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:23.160 HIV um that you're going to contract it. And so 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:24.400 I don't know if you want to pull up that 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:27.319 list because I wanted to go ahead and and further 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:32.560 talk about things that listen. These are kind of myths 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.600 as far as transmission of HIV, and so we're gonna 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:37.240 run through them. Let me know if you've heard any 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:38.920 of them, and let me know maybe if you have 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.920 any specific thoughts on any of these. Touching someone you 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:48.679 can't get it outside of the body, shaking their hand, um, tears, sweat, Um, 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:53.480 there's no HIV infected through things like that. And UM, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:57.319 this is a cool one. So mutual masturbation, so masturbating 0:11:57.360 --> 0:12:00.480 with um. As far as fingering and hand jobs, those 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:06.880 are all safe from HIV. However, depend depending. Women are 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:10.360 internalmen are external. Yeah, because I say I've cut my 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:14.600 finger and I'm I'm aware of it, and I'm fingering you, okay, 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.640 and I'm not sure I have HIV and I'm fingering 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.959 you and have to cut my finger then, because that's 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:24.360 an open wound, technically it can't. And it also says 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.760 that if you use sex toys, make sure to use 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:29.079 a new condom on them when switching between partners. That's 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.280 something that we already know. You brought up the insects, 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.120 which kind of leads us to the animal This is 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.120 a funny one, and I think that's more so relates 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.120 to back in the day, But it says air HIV 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:41.960 cannot survive in the air, so coughing, sneezing, or spinning 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:46.559 cannot trans transmit HIV. Yes, I can cough, sneeze. You're 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:48.720 not gonna get it. Have people been around you that 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.160 have been uncomfortable and have you done those things and 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:54.640 they thought, you know, maybe they would catch it? Because 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.960 I told one of my friends when I was like, 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:02.320 I was like eight oh and and that's like, that's 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:05.760 really yeah. I can only imagine, especially at that age, 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.880 you're just uneducated about sex at all, and back in 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:11.200 the nineties you're not far off from our age. I 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:16.240 know that the whole stigma and mindself surrounding HIV was 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:18.400 just like, oh my god, that's the killer. Yeah, because 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.959 I'm told him, oh, I want to get this on 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:26.360 third and the whole friendship at changed after that. I 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.960 was okay, that that just tells me what my doctor 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:32.320 told me is true. Don't tell nobody. And instance is 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.480 what ch child where I'm in a lunch room, Yeah, upset, 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:39.040 I can go out of recess and there's these kids, 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:43.160 my classmates were talking about as NTIV and me being 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.199 a young kids like, I know, I can't talk about it. Wait, 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:49.120 why can't you go to recess? Somebody should happen. I 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:54.920 thought that you're really in trouble. Else second, go outside, 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.840 So and these kids having a full conversation but as ANTIV, like, oh, 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:01.000 I heard this on third and I want to educate 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.120 them because I'm mean having it and I'm okay, I'm 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:07.480 just I'm saying I'm crying by myself, damn. And because 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:09.760 you can't go outside, we're really I can't tell you 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.959 what you're saying is wrong right right? At one thing 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.640 I wanted to ask um. And it's funny because I 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.080 just went down the list. I was going to ask 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:18.320 you as far as like saliva and sharing the blood, 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.480 but I just pulled up some and that says there's 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:22.920 such a small amount of HIV and saliva that kissing 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.120 it can't you can't be And what's and what's crazy 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:28.720 is I read this and I'm not exactly sure if 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:33.240 it goes to the semen. I'm not sure is is 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:35.800 do you know is HIV and the semen as well? 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:39.240 It is? Okay, so I know blood too, but it 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:42.400 says that the risk of HIV from oral sex is 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.760 very small unless you were your partner have large open sores. 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.320 UM it says that there is only a slightly increased 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:51.560 risk if a woman given being given oral sex as 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:56.760 HIV positive. And if you I'm like thinking, if you swallow, 0:14:57.680 --> 0:14:59.640 because it's open wounds, it's like a blood it's a 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:04.560 blood ze. So if you're swallowing during oral sex, it's different. 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:08.560 That's that's what it's saying. It's very small much. That's 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:10.920 that's where I'm confused, because if it's if HIV is 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:13.320 in the semen, if you're swallow, that's what I'm saying. 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:17.440 I don't know that. That's pretty much if a female 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:24.520 has cutting them all, cut them off, and you chances 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:26.880 are low to get it. If I haven't and you're 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.000 talking me off, it's on third and you have to 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:30.960 cut them off, your chance is small to get it 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:32.840 unless you drink like a whole gut on my nut. 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:35.040 But see this is also saying that's what he's saying. 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:37.800 He's saying the cut because even on here it says 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:41.360 that UM, your risk is slightly increased if the woman 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.400 is menstruating, So it has to be. Is it not 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:49.560 just through blood? Yeah, pretty much. Anybody is a blood disease, right, Well, 0:15:49.600 --> 0:15:53.200 the virus lives in your blood stream. I get that. However, 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.080 if we can't get it from slive, but we can't 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:57.200 get it from sneezing, coffee, touching all these other things. 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:02.160 What about semen? Yes, you can. You can't get it 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.640 from Okay, so if you're swallowing the nut, there is 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:07.640 a chance that you can get it just from Let 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:11.480 me google this because we're trying to make how much 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:16.160 if you have at your mouth yourself No, no, no, 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.360 you're fine. You're fine if you swallow seamen. That from 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:24.400 an HIV and I think it's because it goes your 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.560 had much of acids and end zombies and that kills 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.280 it off. And as soon as the h is hitting 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.040 in the air, it's a ready killed off. A good 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:38.120 it says, um, it's more transmitted through like the cut. 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:42.000 Like he's saying, um. It's saying that they've done evaluations. 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.920 It's very low, but it's not zero. At the risk 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:48.040 of acquiring it through vaginal sex and anals hot far higher. 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:52.440 But it's not saying why um the fluid I guess 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.160 when it's swallowed. It's just like goes through a different 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:58.080 way in your body pretty much, it's just body fluids 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:01.680 pretty much like Okay, um, like when you get wet 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:08.240 and pretty much body one per ten thousand if it's 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:11.640 oral sex. Oh, so the chances of that, yeah, are 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:14.800 very low. It's still possible, but it's still possible. But okay, 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.919 and then I guess one of the last um ways 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.120 that you can contract it that you can't really contract 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:23.600 it as um as highly is through tattoos and piercings. 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:26.640 And I know that's a large we used to always 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:29.320 be scared about. You better be using a new needle. UM. 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:31.119 So it actually says here that there is only a 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:33.680 risk of the needle is used by the professional UM 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:35.160 that has been used on the body of an HIV 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:39.000 infected person and not sterilized afterwards. However, most practitioners are 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:41.800 required now to use new needles for each client. UM. 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:44.920 So I guess that there is actually kind of, you know, 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:48.320 a possibility. So if you guys are into tattoos, they're 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:51.000 getting because everything is saying, he's like, now you can 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:56.880 get what you mean you're talking tattoo A chance it's 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:59.959 always made a chance, but depending on but it's real. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:02.600 If there's blood that came in contact that wasn't clean, 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.639 it's blood. So it's pretty much blood transmission. Is to 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:11.159 how when you have you had an unprotected sex? And 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.720 is it with people that have HIV as we who 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:17.800 have HIV who do not have it? Yes? And okay, 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:19.720 we don't have to. I guess we can get into that. 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.879 So if you guys didn't know, the horrible decision for 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:25.919 this week is HIV and unfortunately this wasn't even a 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:29.320 decision for you. Um, So I guess we'll get into 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.160 that with dating. So she just asked you if you've 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:34.720 had unprotected sex with anyone in your life? You said 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:37.399 you have. How do you go about dating now as 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.919 a twenty year old man? And I want for our 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:42.439 viewers to know you are a straight man? Correct? Have 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:45.080 you ever been with men? No? Okay, so you're a 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:47.600 straight man, only been with women? What is the conversation 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:54.560 that you have when dating women? As more more hard enough? 0:18:54.640 --> 0:18:57.560 When I was going up, Okay, I can't tell you 0:18:57.560 --> 0:18:59.720 if I want to tell you because I'm romantically involved 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:03.840 with you, right, So it's like I would tell you, 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:07.800 but I to get to know you first, so real quick. 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:11.360 You said romantically involved. So at one point you were 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:15.600 having sex with individuals before telling them. No, I always 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:17.560 had a conomal because my mom always said, we put 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:21.000 a rain cold on you. Like you have never used 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:25.040 a condom, had unprotecting self without telling someone. Okay, okay, 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.520 And what is the reaction? I guess when you become 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:29.480 that involved that you want to take it that step? 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.240 What do you tell them? I told him I have 0:19:31.280 --> 0:19:33.840 a serious talk with them. Send you down. I'm gonna 0:19:33.880 --> 0:19:37.600 tell you something. I have HIV. Even you're just telling 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:39.720 me that, my heart just dropped because I don't know 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:42.800 what my immediate response would be to that, if any 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:47.240 have you ever been broken up with I've been broken 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:49.920 up with um. I've been told it's so far, it's 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:54.680 all right. And I've been cheering on put much every 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:58.280 every normal relationship I've been through, Like I broke upbout 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:01.680 you getting back with you, it's not there. I'll be 0:20:01.760 --> 0:20:03.720 with you be cause you have it. So I'm gonna 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:06.080 my life and I'm saying that, wondering, okay, where you 0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:11.160 at calling? So they just disappear how like? So I'm 0:20:11.200 --> 0:20:12.680 aware of prep and we'll talk about that later in 0:20:12.680 --> 0:20:14.760 like true Veda and stuff. Are you on that or 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:16.960 you can't be on that because you already contracted No, 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:21.879 like prep Haven who had hard zero, do not have 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:25.800 it at all? Now, how how do people protect themselves 0:20:25.840 --> 0:20:29.800 when you haven't unprotected sex with you? Um? Pretty much? 0:20:30.440 --> 0:20:34.160 I took much it every day. The medicine helps keep 0:20:34.160 --> 0:20:40.280 the dormant. Oh so so we're both like, be honest, 0:20:40.320 --> 0:20:43.280 I just don't know. Medicine it helps you learning into AIDS. 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:45.280 I just thought it helped you live. I kind of 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:50.560 did it does I'm here to keep it dormant because 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:54.360 no cure for it, right, But to keep it dormant 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:56.920 means that when you're sleeping with these women, it's a 0:20:57.000 --> 0:20:59.040 less likely chance they have it because you're on medicine. 0:20:59.640 --> 0:21:01.439 So that I didn't know that. I didn't know. So 0:21:01.520 --> 0:21:06.120 your medicine also keeps from transmitting it to someone else. 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:09.400 So I guess so people that are like, the way 0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:11.280 it's spreading is for people that probably have no idea 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:17.679 they have it. Yar people who have it, they use 0:21:18.320 --> 0:21:22.119 condoms or whatever, and they do decide to have I'm 0:21:22.280 --> 0:21:25.840 taking sex. It's and do they ask you these because 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:27.840 you just mentioned and protected, and now I can understand 0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:29.680 how someone falls in love with you and now they Okay, 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:35.000 so that's why magic Magic Wife doesn't have it. That's 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:38.240 fine because he takes me every single day and he 0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:40.080 probably take the best of medicine, so I wanted to 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:44.920 So I'm just saying rich, he probably take the ones 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:50.439 you don't even know about. Okay. So speaking of this 0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:56.399 joke though, because he's so healthy and he's right, he 0:21:56.520 --> 0:21:59.359 still continues to even play. He still looks athletic, he 0:21:59.359 --> 0:22:01.800 doesn't look sick, and so I wanted to talk about 0:22:01.840 --> 0:22:05.879