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Speaker 1: Can't wait to hear from you guys soon, I decides depressing,

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Speaker 1: die today. UM. Anyways, guys, welcome to another episode of

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Speaker 1: just no, I'm just thinking like people that are homeless

427
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 1: or that are unemployed, it's way harder to get it

428
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 1: if you if you even get the medicine, not even

429
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 1: if you could have messin in itself, it's gonna run

430
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:43,119
Speaker 1: you about like two a month pretty much. Oh okay

431
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:48,360
Speaker 1: that yeah, yeah, it depending on how mad stages are.

432
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 1: Oh so there's different medicine depending on what stage. Yes,

433
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: because before I was I was on a because I

434
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,199
Speaker 1: was a little I always had a little white white liquid.

435
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: You a white liquid they paste tasting that like that ship.

436
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,959
Speaker 1: Then I grew up and I said, it's a messine pills. Okay,

437
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: I was on I was on a combination pills like

438
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 1: a cocktail to call it. I was on Condaba and

439
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 1: Seesteva commabart what was the first one? And seestevao conat

440
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,239
Speaker 1: twice twice the day, when in the morning, when night,

441
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: I took Seva at night with the conna bear. Oh wow, okay,

442
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: so it's three. So at that point it was three pills.

443
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: How many pills a day are you taking on one? Oh? Because? Um,

444
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 1: because mess and I got so advanced where I can

445
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 1: just just take one pill, okay, technology and science Like, yes,

446
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 1: I hope this isn't a dumb question. But I feel

447
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 1: like there's no like you said, there's different stages of HIV,

448
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: like being that you've you've been on metaphor sin for

449
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 1: so long, does it ever get lower? No, you just

450
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: stay the same. You take it consistently all the time. Um, say,

451
00:24:56,200 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: I don't say myself like a good three days, Um,

452
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: I might have a blip and my bless cell count

453
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 1: which means three days, which means what, um that I

454
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: might become resistant to the medication. Oh yeah, because the

455
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 1: HIV IS is a smart virus and everyone take it

456
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 1: for us on all days. Is okay, I'm into the

457
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 1: main So you gotta put different, different, different, because right right,

458
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 1: you can get I got it. Yeah, I had. I

459
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:25,879
Speaker 1: had some other questions, and I'm like, I'm trying to think, well,

460
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 1: how did you guys find each other? So he um,

461
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: so I was y'all know I'm on Twitter a lot,

462
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: and he actually hit me in my d M s

463
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: and was like, hey, um, I listened to the show.

464
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm a fan of yours. I just want to know

465
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,240
Speaker 1: if I can come on and talk about my story.

466
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 1: I'm HIV positive And I was just like hello, really

467
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 1: like because even starting the show, like when when the

468
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: whole usher thing came out and I was like, we

469
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: need somebody with herbies who's gonna talk about it. I

470
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: was just like, how are we gonna find this person?

471
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 1: And shout out to Ala Dawson for coming on this show.

472
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: She does fucking ted talks talking about it. But I

473
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: know that this is such a sensitive topic. I was

474
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: just like, I want to make it like it's not

475
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: scary or like you like I told you I'm not

476
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: even dating you when and when you literally said, well

477
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 1: I tell them listen, I have my heart dropped because

478
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: literally it's it's still something to where if I know

479
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: that I grew these feelings for somebody and I and

480
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,360
Speaker 1: I talked about this all the time, like people who

481
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 1: have sucked for years, I use condoms and if we

482
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 1: got to the point where we wanted to turn, you know,

483
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 1: take the condom off. And he brought me that news.

484
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 1: I honestly don't know how I could or would respond

485
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 1: to that. Um And so even you saying that people

486
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 1: go ghost or you're able to have relationships that last

487
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: less regular relationships, it's literally something where I'm just like,

488
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 1: I still don't know how the funk I would respond

489
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 1: to that. Where I'm at, that's fine, that's fine, because yeah,

490
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: how do you know, because it's how you deal for it,

491
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: because they if I'm like being a spiteful about it,

492
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: and I know some people with the the neals with

493
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:07,880
Speaker 1: that that okay, I'm getting I'm affecting so many women. Yeah,

494
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 1: because I feel angry about because I got it for

495
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: someone else to said, Oh now, yes that happens. You

496
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 1: can go to jail for that, right, yes, Charlie. Charlie

497
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,200
Speaker 1: Sheen is getting sued because apparently he knew and he

498
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: continued to have sex. So I guess, yeah, that's why

499
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 1: I think he raped someone. He wrates someone. But since

500
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: we have it, they more liable because they sy you'll

501
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 1: find someone else's life. This is what I wanted to ask. So, Okay,

502
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: I'm a friends with friends with a lot of gay men,

503
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 1: and so conversation with grinder in different gay apps, it's

504
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:50,640
Speaker 1: like already in their disease free, disease free or positive

505
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,719
Speaker 1: they'll have I wanted to know, are there dating sites

506
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,399
Speaker 1: that you can go on to meet people HIV? So

507
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 1: it's really do you have some of those that you

508
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: know of? Not know of one? I hold on, I'm

509
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: actually gonna read people who who have s wait that

510
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 1: have STDs period? Oh so actually, here you go. This

511
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: is the first site. There's two that come up. Um,

512
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,479
Speaker 1: so it's positive singles dot Com. It's the number one

513
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 1: STD dating community, so that's probably the one you're talking about.

514
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: And then there's one that's called p O S Date

515
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: and it's dating for HIV people. UM. And this one, actually,

516
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 1: I will let you know. It says create your free

517
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: profile now, so that's one you do not have to

518
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:40,479
Speaker 1: pay for, sir UM And so it's crazy because one

519
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 1: of the myths that I read, UM and I want

520
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 1: to talk about this as well, UM, since we're talking

521
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 1: about dating other people with HIV. One of it says,

522
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: UM and it's a myth for any of our listeners

523
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,959
Speaker 1: who may have this. UM. It says that my partner

524
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: and I are both positive, so we don't need to

525
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: use condoms. UM and so I'll read what it says

526
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: about this. It's of course there's still other STDs that

527
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: you can catch and pregnancy. I was gonna but it

528
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: says that additionally, it is possible for an HIV positive

529
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 1: individual to become infected with a second strain of HIV,

530
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 1: which is called HIV reinfection. Being infected with another strain

531
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: of HIV could potentially cause regimen regiment regiment regiment regiment.

532
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: I guess I didn't know what spell like it. Regiment

533
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,479
Speaker 1: failure a your treatment plan into a spiral. And then

534
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: it says for more information on reinfection. Um there's an

535
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 1: article and in the how do you get pregnant twice? Like?

536
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: What reinfected? Reinfected with another strain? So do you do

537
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 1: you have any insight on any different kinds of cancer?

538
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: I had dated my mom my child, she has she

539
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 1: had it? So can I ask you as well? Does

540
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: your I didn't know you had a child, So this

541
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: is this is new information. Does your does your child

542
00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: have HIV? Is that because you were it's on medicine?

543
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: You were saying, was that and we took when she

544
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: was born? We give her mess it is messing now

545
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:10,959
Speaker 1: that that prevents transmission. Oh, while she was pregnant, when

546
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: she's born, she was born to be born for us,

547
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: we've seen the messine. Wait wait wait, wait to prevent transisicine?

548
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: She should because would we give like should I give

549
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: my kid this when I have a kid? Like why

550
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: would a kid take that? Because the only give it

551
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 1: to you when the parents the parents? Okay? And so

552
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: when you met her, did she have HIV already? And

553
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: so that was a clear talk. Was that something that

554
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 1: you funds your childhood friends? Okay? And did she contract

555
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: HIV as well through birth or was that. Okay, how

556
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: old your daughter now? She's before? Okay, okay, yeah, I

557
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: didn't know, and they do that in case. I mean,

558
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: because I guess you're with each other every day, just

559
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: like you're talking about cousins your medicine. Now, I do

560
00:30:58,560 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: have a question. I don't know if you could answer

561
00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 1: this and try to google some of it. So, like

562
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 1: I said, a lot of my gays take PREP, which

563
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: I see all of the subways actually all over. And

564
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 1: it's funny because I actually went and got UM tested recently.

565
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: Because before you actually can, of course, even have your

566
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 1: insurance cover PREP or your medical um your medical provider

567
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 1: issue you PREP, you have to get tested to make

568
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: sure you don't have, you know, HIV first. And so

569
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 1: I went and got tested because I was considering getting

570
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: on PREP, just because when I told you, I was

571
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: trying to go to the to the sex parties, and

572
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: just because I knew I was going to enter more

573
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: promiscuous lifestyle, I wanted to get on it. I'm trying

574
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: to google can women take PREP? Yes, I'm a female,

575
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 1: and I went is it as effective? Because they do

576
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 1: not promote it? Is question, But they don't promote it

577
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: for women as much because they say that HIV is

578
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 1: a gay disease, you're not You're not as likely to

579
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 1: catch it. But I will say this was another reason

580
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: why I wanted to get onto it, because I am

581
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 1: open to free love. I guess if that's the case,

582
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 1: and because I have been open to guys who have

583
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 1: been with other guys, or I know the lifestyle of

584
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: men on the download. To me, as a female, none

585
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: of us are safe because there are men who who

586
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: are open coming out of the closet. So to me,

587
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: if this is a quote unquote gay virus like they

588
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: like they call it, I wanted to be safe knowing

589
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 1: that it wasn't something that bothered me if a man

590
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 1: dealt with another man. But I did read though, it's

591
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: just like your medication. If you go like two or

592
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: three days without taking it, your chances of catching it

593
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: if you're exposed to are just as just like birth control. Um.

594
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 1: And so yeah, it's it's one of those that there's

595
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: a ton of information that's crazy. Because I called my

596
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: mom and told her that I was considering getting on

597
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: this and she was just sucking like it is everyday peel,

598
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 1: and she was just like, why why are you getting

599
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 1: on it, and I was like, my mom trying to

600
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: go to these sex parties, like I'm trying to be

601
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: safe out here, like I don't want anything to happen

602
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 1: because I don't want in the back of my mind,

603
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I just dealt with a guy who

604
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: gave another guy hand job. Oh my god, I'm gonna

605
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: get you know, I'm gonna catch something. Um And so yeah,

606
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: as far as prep, if you guys are interested in it,

607
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: it's called p r EP. It is different than Truvilla,

608
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 1: Correcta Creveda like the same thing. Prep is a word

609
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: for um the medicine used. It's like calling something birth

610
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: control prep preparation for like STDs and Treveda is. One

611
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: of the brands actually went to a gay club and

612
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 1: heals catching my mom and the guy was telling a joke.

613
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 1: He said, it's a prep rally in here. Prep it's

614
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: working with the joke. So I like, on the website,

615
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: I've been on here while you guys have been talking.

616
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: So I was a little bit skeptical preppy because I

617
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: never saw it used, like even on the advertisement, maybe

618
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: one girl out of ten men. So it's saying that's

619
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: good for trans women, women and men um and apparently

620
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: we're the same. Um it said they compared it with

621
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 1: the press place eb oh, which is a fake pill.

622
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah, and um yeah it caused reduction and

623
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 1: infections by prep cut infections by the other Sorry, the

624
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 1: placebo was seventy five so it really doesn't work. Okay, yeah,

625
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: it's um So, it's one of those that, of course,

626
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 1: the more you're consistent with taking your pill at the

627
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 1: same time everyday type of thing, it's like definitely a

628
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: super high chance of it's not the best option because

629
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 1: absolutely before it's before yet um wow. Okay, So it's

630
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 1: not like a plan B. Yeah, no, no, no, no, no,

631
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: it's not a plan there's no So so do you

632
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 1: want to talk about this? So there's no plan B.

633
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: If you go to the doctor and what would they

634
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 1: tell you, like because I know a lot of times,

635
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 1: like my friend right now, she's been going to the

636
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: doctor and they keep talking about her white har white

637
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,239
Speaker 1: blood cell count, and that's what I'm just like, do

638
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So, So, if if any

639
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: of our listeners were to go to the doctor and

640
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: they say, listen, we want to retest you because this

641
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 1: is lower we see this what is the what would

642
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 1: they say? So you said teth with me um thing

643
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 1: called varra load. Varra load is basically how much it

644
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 1: is present in your blood, Okay, and when you have

645
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 1: bad zero fantastic Okay. So if you have point zero

646
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: one percent basically anything, opportunity, I think Biboulo have to

647
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 1: be up. I think I think two or three, Dan

648
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 1: Dando show more concerned, okay, three? Wow, yeah, that's still yeah,

649
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: because my whole lot of time I've been I've been

650
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: only like one blip. I mean it came out to

651
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 1: late one, okay. And she was saying that some of

652
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: the side effects a lot of people experience very bad nausea,

653
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: nausea from from any side from the prop Do you

654
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 1: have any side effects with your medicine? It says it

655
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 1: makes me drowsy and somewhere I don't feel it. And

656
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 1: I wanted to know too, because we again and I

657
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: hate to keep comparing this to herpes because it's not,

658
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: but we just someone on that was able to talk

659
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:05,919
Speaker 1: about it, and she talked about outbreaks. Do you get

660
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 1: any type of symptoms to where maybe you feel really

661
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: sick out of nowhere or are there any symptoms related

662
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 1: to your HIV if I if I stopped taking it,

663
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 1: what would you feel like if you do? You know

664
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 1: what you would find like a little a little nausea

665
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: is maybe a little week here and there. Really Yeah,

666
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: Now the weight loss that we see like when we

667
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 1: think about HIV, I think that's as like a TV

668
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: that you lose mad way your age is pretty much

669
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 1: if you get a cold, then your body cannot find

670
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 1: that all. And they pretty much that they just have

671
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: to come in cold, coming cold, And you know there's

672
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: a funk. I can't remember this HBO show something Hard

673
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: with them and it was a movie talking about the

674
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 1: outbreak of AIDS in the eighties when all those people

675
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 1: are just having a cold they didn't know why. And

676
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 1: so is that something that your mom showed you growing up?

677
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: Like were you watching these movies with HIV? Because there's

678
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:06,800
Speaker 1: a movie that pretty much because I remember one in

679
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 1: since but I was like, I think this is about

680
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: entering enter high school and it was like, um, it's

681
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: like an ACE epidemic documentary on HBO can Avoca and

682
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: how affect kids not So I was like me and

683
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: I had that that moment where we just sit there

684
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: and quiet and just because she's always she's always I

685
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: would die before on five. Your mom thought that she

686
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: thought that she would die before you were five, But

687
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 1: you don't remember. He was saying, they don't know much

688
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: back then. Yeah, a lot of people make it. So

689
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 1: that's something that the doctors told her, like listen, don't

690
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: oh wow, And the medicine just kept working and kept on.

691
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 1: Did you have any complications, because because medicine wasn't it

692
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 1: as advanced in the nineties. Did you have any complications

693
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: as a child. I was born premature, and I have

694
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: the introview and I had a heard you as a baby.

695
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 1: I don't wait, what's it, honey? It's pretty much like

696
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: the intest on lining, whether it were ay or like,

697
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 1: it's not existent, and this is the linings getting pushed out.

698
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:18,439
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I had grow from my bedy button.

699
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: Um fuck. Health complications going up because not only what

700
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: I was, uh, look a drug out its baby, and

701
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: I was I had heroin my system. I had like

702
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: crack cocaine, I mashing my system right, So therefore my

703
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: chance of the limon was small. And now I have

704
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: an HIV small? Can I ask? I don't I want

705
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 1: to kind of It's a kind of a sensitive question, um,

706
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 1: and I'm not sure if you even have the answer

707
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 1: to this, But why at any point, um, or was

708
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: it discussion for you to be taken away from your

709
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: mom being that you were born with these drugs in

710
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: your system, because I know that that's the thing I did.

711
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,399
Speaker 1: I did get take away from from my mom because

712
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: because because she was she was in rehab. But I

713
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 1: got up in rehab and we have facility. I was

714
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,800
Speaker 1: like four, oh wow, and then she got better. You

715
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: got better, so you were able to live because I

716
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: got to tell you. My sister told me. Now I

717
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 1: got to take away one time. Did your sister have HIV? Really?

718
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 1: Is this from a different mom and dad or the

719
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: same mom and different father, different father, but same mothers

720
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: older betweens apart, and so she did apart twenty years apart.

721
00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:34,840
Speaker 1: So it's possible that your mom just didn't have it

722
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:38,800
Speaker 1: when she had your older sisters. Because my mom, she

723
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: had my sister, I think, okay, and then she had

724
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: me forties is there? Um? Did you feel any strain

725
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 1: with your relationship with your sister growing up or did

726
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:55,800
Speaker 1: she did she treat you any differently knowing that you

727
00:39:55,920 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: had this anyone else is now a little trans but

728
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 1: because I'm going up right, but like her son, Okay,

729
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: don't think another mother for me. I'm just reading something

730
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: because I wanted to, Like our next thing was gonna

731
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: be like how to prevent and stuff. We're talking about

732
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: prep if you don't have insurance, that a month the

733
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 1: holy ship, and that's that's for the one chill that

734
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: he's taking. No, no, not for him. This is for

735
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 1: people that do not have HIV and want protection against it.

736
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: It's prep. It's thirteen hundred dollars a month. I think, what, Oh,

737
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 1: that's high. It's fun with no insurance that you. Let

738
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 1: me just see how much that is the day, real quick.

739
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: She's doing the math, and forty dollars a day. No,

740
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: that's high. That's really high. And the month that is

741
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: fucking insane. That's crazy. So you know what, though I'm

742
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:54,280
Speaker 1: not gonna lie to you, um, not that I consider

743
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 1: getting off of it. I'm affluent enough to be able

744
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 1: to take care of myself as far as medications and health,

745
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 1: and I have insurance. But um, I've been considering dropping

746
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:05,320
Speaker 1: insurance because I looked in my pay statements, aw that

747
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: I'm spending six thousand dollars a year, and I thought, Okay,

748
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 1: if I do these things privately, how much all they

749
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 1: cost me? Started adding it up with my accountant. Birth

750
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 1: control alone would cost me three tho eight hundred dollars

751
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 1: in one year, and kind of like kind of visits

752
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So bro, I hit a lovable

753
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,800
Speaker 1: I said, get me all my pills in Europe because

754
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: kidding me, and just the way that like our country

755
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 1: works as far as health care, you can't afford do

756
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: you do you know if there's any difference, like do

757
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: you have any friends or any type of pen pals

758
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: in other countries that are infected that maybe have a

759
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: different experience than you. I'm not sure, but I do

760
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 1: know our friends of other countries stuff like that. But

761
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: as far I know, one of my friends that go

762
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 1: out with and I know who had it. He had

763
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: moved to Canada. He moved to Canada specifically for the

764
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 1: healthcare or oh yeah, I have drugs from Canada too, Yeah,

765
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 1: Canada has free healthcare. Moved to Canada for healthcare. Wow,

766
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 1: Wow that's just some ship money. Yeah, that's really crazy. Yeah,

767
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 1: I know. Ho my year and we talked kind of

768
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 1: like I'm out of It's like the promised line. When

769
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 1: I went to Canada. I've never been to Canada. The

770
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:19,280
Speaker 1: first time bumping into someone in Canada, they said sorry

771
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: to me, and then I was just like, it's like

772
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: a story. Like everybody's just so fucking nice. The health

773
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,439
Speaker 1: care is great, they're fucking Prime minister. Do you see

774
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: him fucking coming out of the gay parade, Just like

775
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: everybody's just so dope. And Canada, I don't get it.

776
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 1: They're like twenty ft away. I mean, our school books

777
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 1: are four hundred dollars. Oh yeah. When I so, I

778
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: studied abroad in Singapore for a semester, My school books

779
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 1: for my semester was eleven dollars and was eleven dollars

780
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: for the semester. Mind you, I came back in the spring,

781
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: my books were six dollars. Yeah, because well, well my

782
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:58,360
Speaker 1: books range anywhere from oh my god, anywhere from forty

783
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 1: to a book. And because I'm on track to finish fast,

784
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 1: I literally take six to seven classes a semester, and

785
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,720
Speaker 1: so yeah, it's it's it's insane. So I can understand

786
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: even just the cost associated here in um in the

787
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 1: States compared to anywhere else. Like as far as how

788
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 1: that's affecting you. Um, do you do you feel like

789
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: I mean clearly you don't wear a sign on your

790
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,800
Speaker 1: shirt or anything like that. Um, how is it going out? Like?

791
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: Are there places that you can go and hang around

792
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 1: other people that you know there? Because I know that

793
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: there's like there's gay communities, there's black communities, there's all

794
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: these communities. Is there an HIV community? And how do

795
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: you guys uplift each other? Um, there's many communities over

796
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 1: here because I know my hospital they try to open

797
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 1: the little little community. Okay, have you been study? I stopped?

798
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 1: I was yeah, and why and why do you feel like?

799
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 1: It was just it brought down? It was just too

800
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 1: much because to me, it was more depressing because I'm

801
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: talking about this. I have HV. I get it. I'm like,

802
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 1: you're doing right now, right right, We're not struggling to

803
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 1: do It's a it was more somber on the mood.

804
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:18,439
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, oh we're doing. I can see people

805
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: that are like newly right O. I was like, I

806
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 1: gotta stand up. I just can't like we can name

807
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: a little little name so that like they're doing too

808
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: much okay, okay, So you're just at the place in

809
00:44:36,239 --> 00:44:38,399
Speaker 1: life where you are now. You're just happy to be alive.

810
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:41,839
Speaker 1: You're living, you have a healthy child. Are you still

811
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: are you currently in a relationship? Are they positive or negative?

812
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 1: And this unproductive? Yeah? Oh wow, you said sometimes so

813
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 1: you go back and forth and musing condoms. I know

814
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:58,960
Speaker 1: apparently us a lot of people say that once you

815
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: stop using condoms, you don't go back to using condoms.

816
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: So what is what is the purpose of you guys

817
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 1: going back and forth with condom? Us sometimes have sometimes

818
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: I have condoms sometimes? Okay, but does she prefer the

819
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: use of condoms or does she prefers was in the

820
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: moment okay? Oh wow? Yeah, because because I was at

821
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 1: from one him and I told you I have it,

822
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 1: And let me ask you, is this because like so

823
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 1: like pulling out help? So there's pretty comb there's like

824
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 1: so like is that is pulling out like the way

825
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 1: to like not? Well, we just said, come, I mean

826
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 1: sperm doesn't really affect it, like you can't contract it

827
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 1: through sperm. There's an opening. No, we just had this

828
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: whole conversation, did we not? Because you picked up your

829
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: phone so fast. We just had this whole conversation in

830
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 1: the beginning about about sperm not being the transmission because

831
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: it goes through a different opening. That's when you swallow. Oh,

832
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 1: but when you come inside the vaginantess is ridiculous. For

833
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: an hour, we don't know how you get it. How

834
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 1: do you get HIV during intercourse? Well, there we go.

835
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: You know that's what you're saying. Yeah, because if you're

836
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: not getting it through swallowing, that's because it's going through

837
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: your stomach. I'm pretty sure I mentioned this earlier. He's

838
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 1: not listening, you know what she's confused at We're all

839
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: talking about oral sex. Oral sex, right, this is different.

840
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: So like swallowing, it is different from it going vaginally.

841
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: You're at a higher risk of its vaginal and and

842
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 1: even higher if it's anal Yeah okay, but that's because

843
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 1: during anal sex there's a lot of tearing. Uh. Look

844
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 1: like speaking of that the other night, right, I was

845
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 1: so scared to like, I'm trying to have more and

846
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 1: more anal sex, and like the second I went to

847
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 1: the bathroom, I was just like, how is that? I

848
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 1: didn't like, it didn't hurt, but it's almost like you

849
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: can't feel now that should be tearing it comes off

850
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:04,839
Speaker 1: and and because I didn't and so sex but how

851
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 1: long have you been with her? Four months? Okay, so

852
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 1: it's fairly new. Oh all right, well that's fucking I

853
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: don't know that. Look, we weasy really in here googling bab.

854
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: She's like web MD. They're wrong, right, they think we're

855
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 1: gonna get it from half five. Um, So I guess

856
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 1: what we'll get into now. And it's gonna be brief

857
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 1: because we're running out of time. But UM, the homemail

858
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 1: for this episode, if you know you listen to the show,

859
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: we do homemail for this show. I actually wanted to

860
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: give an update. Um. And so the last episode you

861
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 1: guys listened to with our Femdom Lisa Spliffson, UM, we

862
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: had a homemail from a listener who was having an

863
00:47:55,280 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: issue UM with his partner being sexually confident. She had

864
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: gained weight, and so I just wanted to give a

865
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: quick update to our listeners. It says that she's lost

866
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: weight and is doing great um, and is doing great

867
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: things for her health. Now. Unfortunately nothing has changed sexually.

868
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:15,800
Speaker 1: So I'm starting to starting to see that it is

869
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 1: more of a self esteem issue. UM, do you have

870
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 1: any Do you have any tips on helping someone through insecurities?

871
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: We were both into everything the threesomes, toys, piss and bondage,

872
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,759
Speaker 1: but now she is too worried and lazy to enjoy

873
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 1: those things. Thanks again, Anonymous. He's using the word lazy,

874
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: and that's why I'm like, I don't know if it's

875
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 1: maybe she's just not writing, is what I think. Everything

876
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 1: is fun in Dandy in the beginning. I had a

877
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 1: ship fit this morning when we didn't have sex. I

878
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: was like, are we fucking tired of each other? Last night?

879
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: It doesn't fucking matter. I suck your dick every day

880
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: before I went toward and now we're sucking in the mornings,

881
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: and I think like, at one point maybe the or

882
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: it's not even the through. I think also that some

883
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: people just have different sex drives, and so he may

884
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 1: feel like she doesn't want to have sex, but she

885
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: just may not want to have sex. And maybe you

886
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 1: want to have sex too much, because I know that's

887
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: me with some of my partners. I'm not let's go again,

888
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 1: let's go again, and they'd be like, bros, A healthy

889
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 1: amount of sex for people that are living together a week.

890
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 1: Do you live with your girlfriend. You don't. How often

891
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 1: do you guys have stuff twice? Someone? I would Beth

892
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 1: because I'm busy doing my thing. It's all sketches, don't

893
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: line up, which Banks says? I know? I would be

894
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 1: content depending on the happy with you a week? No?

895
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 1: He said a month? No, But we meet up, we

896
00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 1: get crazy. That's what I like. It's a very consistent.

897
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:45,839
Speaker 1: We're going go for around, for a round. I would

898
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:47,800
Speaker 1: be content with three times a week. Okay. This is

899
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:50,399
Speaker 1: a study of thirty thousand Americans. Couples have sex once

900
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 1: a week or the happiest once a week. We love it?

901
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: Where two to three? Right now? That lived together? Though? Like,

902
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 1: if I live with someone, I'm getting it everything together.

903
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: I think needed you think hold on, hold on? I

904
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,359
Speaker 1: wish can we get you on the mic real quick, preach.

905
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: I want to know how many times a week do

906
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:19,760
Speaker 1: you and your wife have said? Why? You can't can't answer? Please?

907
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: You got a baby? Yeah? I got another one on

908
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 1: the way? Really like we got a baby all the way? How? How? Yeah?

909
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 1: Go ahead? Ten years? Okay? Now, how often are you

910
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: fucking a ten years? A month? It depends. It's like, okay,

911
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: before she got pregnant. Before when we first moved it together,

912
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: it was probably like three or four times a week.

913
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: And then as the years he has gone on, then yes,

914
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 1: things work in stress and bills and things like that happened,

915
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:54,720
Speaker 1: So it probably goes out to like once or twice

916
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 1: a week. But is that because you you too, or

917
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 1: because people blame a lot of the woman. I'll tell her,

918
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 1: I say that she's always up whenever I'm ready, So

919
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 1: she's always ready to go. Yeah, she's always like she

920
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 1: she's willing to go whenever, like you know what I'm saying.

921
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,320
Speaker 1: But sometimes it's not like she wants to initiate. Have

922
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 1: you ever had a time where maybe her insecurity you

923
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 1: felt like went down and how were you able to

924
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,800
Speaker 1: assist with that insecurity? As far as insecurity as you

925
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 1: felt like maybe she wasn't comfortable with her body and

926
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: didn't want to have sex or wasn't his No, it's

927
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: never been like, no, we've never had that. I don't

928
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: think she's ever felt like, No, she's always down, like

929
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:36,719
Speaker 1: that's never been a problem. Like she always I will say,

930
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: like I would prefer more that. I've always said this.

931
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 1: I'll probably killed for this, but I always prefer that

932
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:45,520
Speaker 1: she take the bull by the horn more so, like

933
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: when you said, like you know, I used to wake

934
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 1: up and that's never been the case as far as like,

935
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of men feel that way.

936
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: I feel I feel like a lot of men want

937
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 1: their women to initiate it more so maybe in this case,

938
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: not only is she saying, oh baby, not tonight, she's

939
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 1: also just not initiating it right I get it, And

940
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: you feel like you're not wanted rightly. I recently had

941
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: a conversation a small level, but I was like, why

942
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 1: am I always the one asking you for us to

943
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: go on a date? You always say yeah, but like

944
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 1: when are you gonna take me out? You pay? But

945
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 1: like this a variety do things, yeah, spice it up

946
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:24,399
Speaker 1: and yeah, because I find it with me it's bad

947
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 1: to sibinate your mind. Then then I'm thinking sex they

948
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: could why don't you get your minds like yo, sexually

949
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:42,479
Speaker 1: banging averaging one time? I don't like some nah because

950
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 1: I took my girlfriend out like about like I see

951
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:48,720
Speaker 1: him more often it's going on random dates. This is random.

952
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 1: But I need to ask this question because I'm shocked

953
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:53,279
Speaker 1: at the number because on that thing about a couple

954
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 1: having sex. All right, I'm gonna ask preach first. Would

955
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 1: you rather for one year give up sess sex to

956
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 1: guarantee of the rest of your life, your computers and

957
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 1: your software would be hack free? Would you all my

958
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 1: ship would give up sex for a year. People are

959
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: so freaked out about cybersecurity and the internet and it's

960
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: such a part of our lives. Ever, I want to know.

961
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:20,720
Speaker 1: I want to know what she's doing. Security, horrible decisions.

962
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 1: We're gonna security that people would worry about their software.

963
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 1: That is talking about how overtime people are like less

964
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:32,399
Speaker 1: into sex and more into other things. And that's why

965
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,839
Speaker 1: that's one of the things the devil. Are you worried

966
00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 1: about me? Actually guys come out on online and not

967
00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: for a year as soon as you guys are about

968
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 1: like commitment and you guys want to be married one day?

969
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:47,280
Speaker 1: Is that? Yeah? Yeah? Are you worried about that future?

970
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:50,359
Speaker 1: About it might turn into a once a month type

971
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:53,320
Speaker 1: of I live someone for two years and it's freaky

972
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: as I could be. I didn't want to have sex

973
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 1: that often, you know what. And it's crazy because, um,

974
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: there was a person who actually we were talking about

975
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 1: engagement and moving in and he actually came to me

976
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: and how to talk, and he was like, we need

977
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: to learn how to have regular sex. He felt like

978
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: every time we had sex it was like the super

979
00:54:10,160 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 1: intense porn star sex, and he's like, sometimes I just

980
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 1: want to have regular Jacksonville really. Yeah. He hated that

981
00:54:20,680 --> 00:54:23,399
Speaker 1: we would like fun like. He was like, I want

982
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: to like have sex like more. Yes, I'd be liking

983
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 1: to get fun like that's what I like. Yeah, And

984
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,680
Speaker 1: so with him that was a thing like and I

985
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: just need and these men have taken. I think I've

986
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:44,360
Speaker 1: noticed myself over the years, the more I have that

987
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,359
Speaker 1: looking at each other's ice sex, I've had more men

988
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:50,919
Speaker 1: attracted to me afterwards or more like into me. It's weird. Yeah,

989
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get Yeah. I don't know if you've ever

990
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 1: had sex like that where you felt like totally connected

991
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:04,480
Speaker 1: to someone. Course, I have you, of course, but I

992
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:09,240
Speaker 1: prefer I prefer porn size sex over making love. Honestly,

993
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:10,920
Speaker 1: I've only had sex two or three times in my

994
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 1: life where I felt that in tune with somebody, I'm

995
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 1: gonna have car energy. But I was also on edible,

996
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 1: So I don't know if that help Anyways, UM, I

997
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 1: want to thank our guests for coming on the show

998
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 1: this week. UM again, I guess if any of you

999
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 1: guys listening, UM maybe just recently found out or anything,

1000
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: would would they be able to maybe reach out to

1001
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: you and talk to you about stuff. UM, So, guys,

1002
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 1: if you guys an email about that, we're not just

1003
00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 1: gonna post his ship. But if you guys maybe just

1004
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 1: contracted the virus or know someone close to you that's

1005
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 1: living with it, please send us an email and UM

1006
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:51,479
Speaker 1: I can go ahead and contact you with to virus

1007
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 1: and he can share more about how you guys can

1008
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 1: get through it mentally, emotionally. UM, there's a lot of

1009
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:00,040
Speaker 1: free HIV testing centers. All you have to do is

1010
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: like Google and look local college. And I've not to

1011
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 1: you girls knowing what you know now, Yes, if a man,

1012
00:56:09,360 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 1: you guys dated a man, know how I would do.

1013
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 1: And to be fair, you can't understand people being uncomfortable,

1014
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 1: all right, So I don't want to put you in

1015
00:56:20,440 --> 00:56:22,800
Speaker 1: the spot like I don't know. I know what you

1016
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: know now, and I know I learned a lot and

1017
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: thank you so much. But knowing what you guys know now,

1018
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: how comfortable would you be Now if you would be

1019
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 1: would you be able to? Would you be able to?

1020
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: I mean that's something to where I mean, I think

1021
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 1: I would have to continue aside from everything I've learned

1022
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 1: from you, I would have to continue my UM research

1023
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 1: as far as the odds of me contracting it and

1024
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 1: the odds that he won't give it to me, and

1025
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 1: all of this and all of this. But I also

1026
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 1: like condom. Dick and I talked about this often, so

1027
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 1: I mean me moving forward with it's really just raw

1028
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 1: sex that would you know, be welcomed into our thing.

1029
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,279
Speaker 1: I don't know mind either condoms of them love with

1030
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:01,520
Speaker 1: I think that would just be the thing for me,

1031
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 1: and I don't know if they would like that. Like,

1032
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:04,600
Speaker 1: think about it if a girl told you this is

1033
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 1: gonna be us for the next few years, but we

1034
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:12,320
Speaker 1: want it. Yeah, it's two decisions to make, right, So

1035
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 1: I'm just fortunately someone now understand. Yeah. Absolutely well. We

1036
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:19,479
Speaker 1: want to thank you so much again to bars Again.

1037
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 1: If you guys have any questions regarding this, Google dot

1038
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Speaker 1: com is your friend. Anyways, thank you so much to

1039
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 1: ours UM. We see I guess we sign it out.

1040
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: This has been another episode of horrible decisions by yeah.

1041
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: A seven Moms slection, Why am I doing this? Tom

1042
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 1: losing my mind on a tiny air I nearly left

1043
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 1: the room, me on the ship. No no, no no.

1044
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 1: In the part of the SID saying that the saving

1045
00:58:24,080 --> 00:58:30,040
Speaker 1: turning is believing it's okay not to be okay sometimes,

1046
00:58:32,720 --> 00:58:40,720
Speaker 1: look said, some mean you're losing everybody's closing. Just be

1047
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: true to you.