Speaker 1: Another thing society tries to put on young women. I
Speaker 1: was at a dinner a couple months ago with several
Speaker 1: gorgeous young women. One had more extensions and lashes and makeup,
Speaker 1: and they all looked hot, and they had hot dresses
Speaker 1: on all of them twenty years younger than I am.
Speaker 2: All of them.
Speaker 1: I can't meet anybody. There's nobody. I'm like, listen, you
Speaker 1: guys all don't know what you're doing. Get to come
Speaker 1: to my house with the internship program, because I could
Speaker 1: be your mother. And I can get pretty much any
Speaker 1: man that I am interested in and that I meet.
Speaker 1: And I'm not being conceded.
Speaker 2: I'm not bragging. It's just a fact. It's just a fact. Why.
Speaker 1: Because I have my own money, because I'm confident, because
Speaker 1: I'm funny, because I'm not vain, because I don't care,
Speaker 1: and because I'm enjoyable and entertaining. Nobody has anything I
Speaker 1: need or want. I don't need someone to support me.
Speaker 1: I don't need someone to pay for my dent work,
Speaker 1: my new tits, my new nose, my house. My kids
Speaker 1: are not coming in a lot of women are coming
Speaker 1: in their fifties divorce, and they're they're the taking tree.
Speaker 1: They think they're hot. They've gotten plastic surgery. They're forty,
Speaker 1: they're fifty, they're divorced, they've got two to three kids.
Speaker 1: They're a little self conscious about that. They've got a
Speaker 1: little bit of baggage. But okay, they start meeting men,
Speaker 1: they start being on the blood in the water hunt
Speaker 1: because they want to meet a man who's gonna take
Speaker 1: fold in this program. They may not have done well
Speaker 1: and they're divorced, they've got kids. Men are gonna be like,
Speaker 1: what the f I don't.
Speaker 2: Need that program.
Speaker 1: I don't need the I got to support someone in
Speaker 1: their whole life when I've got my own ex program.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard for that group. That group also
Speaker 1: has a lot of problems, and they're always I've heard
Speaker 1: my friends say to me that they're other friends a bag.
Speaker 2: How does Bethanios meet these guys? How does Bethany always
Speaker 2: meet these guys?
Speaker 1: Oh? My god, the rings, the guys, the men, the boats,
Speaker 1: the planes, the presence. Why because I'm the prize? How
Speaker 1: age is just a number? It is, it doesn't I
Speaker 1: don't care about it. If you care about it, keep
Speaker 1: it moving. But I haven't had that experience I also
Speaker 1: know to shop. Not going for twenty eight year old
Speaker 1: You know guys like I'm not going for thirty eight
Speaker 1: year old bro, Guys that fistpound each other and like
Speaker 1: go to bars, and like, I'm interested in men. If
Speaker 1: you're a man, you do not want to date a
Speaker 1: young girl who's on the gold digger take care of
Speaker 1: my life program. That's not what they want. So be
Speaker 1: a woman who's independent, who's happy and fine being alone,
Speaker 1: and any man would just be additive. That's the kind
Speaker 1: of woman you want to be, where the man is complementary,
Speaker 1: a supplemental aspect, but you go out there hunting. Be
Speaker 1: a one size fits all woman that can support yourself,
Speaker 1: can have a baby on your own, can do whatever
Speaker 1: you want on your own, and then if you meet someone,
Speaker 1: it's just additive. That's the way to roll. And I've
Speaker 1: had men say to me, I don't know what the
Speaker 1: what's wrong with me? Why I'm jealous for the first time,
Speaker 1: Why I'm so into you? I'm not.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: What they want to say is you're fucking fifty three, bro,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm so into you. That's what
Speaker 1: they want to say. They're confused as to why they're
Speaker 1: into me. So if you don't get it, you don't
Speaker 1: get it. I can explain it to you, but I
Speaker 1: can't understand it for you. So I'm not saying it's
Speaker 1: gonna be this cute at sixty five. But this fucking
Speaker 1: program is still going. And I'm shocked too. But there's
Speaker 1: no shortage of men at my feet wanting to me
Speaker 1: to pick them as the bachelor, wanting me to give
Speaker 1: them the final rose. So while you're young, this is
Speaker 1: what this is. This is what my daughter has to
Speaker 1: look forward to. That's what my daughter has met. Young
Speaker 1: boys always swirling too, because she's the least interested party.
Speaker 1: She's confident. She wants to work on her own, be
Speaker 1: on her own. No, I'm gonna be at the girls
Speaker 1: this weekend. What she's fourteen or fourteen? I was running
Speaker 1: boy crazy. Nope, we're not inviting Boys's just gonna be
Speaker 1: with the girls this weekend. I'm like, you go, girl,
Speaker 1: I want to make my own money. I want to
Speaker 1: do my own to make my own money. I don't
Speaker 1: need a boy. Yes, yes, Quin learned from the Master Jedi.
Speaker 1: Mind trick is working. Let's talk about the lines in
Speaker 1: my life that people have told me famous quotes, the
Speaker 1: famous people and some non famous people have told me
Speaker 1: in my life that I've stuck with me. I could
Speaker 1: have had so many more, but these are the ones
Speaker 1: that stick with me. Number one, pros play hurt. You
Speaker 1: fucking show up. That's it. It doesn't matter, no one cares.
Speaker 1: You committed to it, you do it, you finish it,
Speaker 1: you crush it. We don't care if you're tired. We
Speaker 1: don't care if you're hungry. We don't care if you
Speaker 1: can sleep last night. We don't care what happened to
Speaker 1: your foot. We don't care if you have a sore ankle.
Speaker 1: We don't care if you're cold. It doesn't matter. If
Speaker 1: you're committing to it, commit to the bit. So pros
Speaker 1: play hurt. I can't sleep at night, I have to
Speaker 1: do an interview the next morning. That are committed to
Speaker 1: I have to get on a plane, do an appearance.
Speaker 1: It's the tough Ship program, It's the pros play hurt.
Speaker 1: I'm down, I don't feel good. We'll sleep when we're dead.
Speaker 1: So number two is we'll sleep when we're dead, which
Speaker 1: is a relative to pros play hurt and commit to
Speaker 1: the bit is just to it you're a bad singer,
Speaker 1: but you're singing in something. Commit to it, don't like
Speaker 1: be don't waffle, don't be halfway in, don't be halfway out.
Speaker 1: Commit just go all the way. Okay, whatever it is,
Speaker 1: do it or don't, that's another relative, do it or don't.
Speaker 1: But the ones that are like more like less obvious
Speaker 1: are Ellen Degenero is telling me two things.
Speaker 2: You may love Ellen, you may not like Ellen. I
Speaker 2: don't care. What she said was right.
Speaker 1: What she said was don't believe the hype and don't
Speaker 1: believe the hate. Don't believe everyone loving you, don't believe
Speaker 1: everyone hating you. And you don't have to be famous
Speaker 1: for this to apply. It means in any case, don't
Speaker 1: get all into yourself. Don't drink your own kool aid,
Speaker 1: don't believe it all. Just don't buy into it. But
Speaker 1: also when everyone hates you, don't buy into that either.
Speaker 1: Be unbothered. People hate you, great, they're talking about you.
Speaker 1: If they stop talking, start worrying, that's another one. I
Speaker 1: keep doing ones that I don't even believe, like that
Speaker 1: it weren't even intended, Like don't drink your own kool aid.
Speaker 1: That's a cousin don't believe the hype. That's funny, So yeah,
Speaker 1: don't buy into the bullshit. I am a walking bumper sticker.
Speaker 1: I've determined after this okay. He also said to me,
Speaker 1: you will keep making the same mistake until you learn
Speaker 1: the lesson. Yes, relationships, jobs, problems, issues with the law, substance, whatever,
Speaker 1: you will keep making the same mistake until you learn
Speaker 1: the lesson. A cousin of that is definition of insanities
Speaker 1: repeating the same behavior and expecting different results. These things
Speaker 1: are real because they're true, Maya Angelou. If someone shows
Speaker 1: you who they are, believe them massively true. Another one,
Speaker 1: Lauren Michaels, said to me, he's the creator of SNL.
Speaker 2: You have to make an exit to be able to
Speaker 2: make an entrance. I love that.
Speaker 1: For me, that was the difference between leaving Housewives for
Speaker 1: what was now to me a pittance coming back to
Speaker 1: a pile of money. I didn't do it on purpose.
Speaker 1: I hadn't heard his quote yet, but I left because
Speaker 1: I wanted to leave.
Speaker 2: You have to be able to walk out of something.
Speaker 2: That's what it really is like.
Speaker 1: You have to be able to walk away from something
Speaker 1: for everything else to come. That's how my career became
Speaker 1: so much more lucrative every time I walked from the Housewives.
Speaker 1: The first time I came back for any number I wanted,
Speaker 1: I asked for the number. I got it, and it's
Speaker 1: not a million. Just so we are all clear, I
Speaker 1: didn't make a million dollars per season. I didn't make
Speaker 1: a million dollars per season. I made a lot more.
Speaker 2: So that's that.
Speaker 1: But I walked out, and the second time I walked out,
Speaker 1: I thought, I'm so to semi retiring, and I make
Speaker 1: a lot more money since walking out, a lot more,
Speaker 1: and I thought the party's over.
Speaker 2: It was multiple millions of dollars.
Speaker 1: Guess what, being honest, being truthful, loving what I do,
Speaker 1: being passionate, being authentic, and doing it my way, I
Speaker 1: ended up making a lot more money and.
Speaker 2: It drives people crazy.
Speaker 1: So and the last one, my friend Loui Lasanaro, he
Speaker 1: said to me in Matters of the Heart in dating
Speaker 1: and relationship, based on my patterns that he's observed knowing me,
Speaker 1: he said, you're always with the same it's all the
Speaker 1: same guy, the same guy, over and over. He said,
Speaker 1: rock stars need rock stars. I said, that's fucking powerful.
Speaker 1: Lulaiz an arrow.
Speaker 2: Rockstars need rock stars. You're right.
Speaker 1: My whole life, I've gone out, I've found amazing people,
Speaker 1: but in many cases, dated down rockstars need rock stars.
Speaker 1: We as women often think we're lucky to be in
Speaker 1: the room.
Speaker 2: I'm like God, the God. I see it on TikTok
Speaker 2: all the time. Look what he said, Look at he texted.
Speaker 2: He texted, you're cute. Oh my god, what you're the prize?
Speaker 2: He should be texting that. He should be texting.
Speaker 1: Don't be graveling and picking up scraps and crumbs, and
Speaker 1: don't be dating down.
Speaker 2: Be alone. If you're gonna date down, be alone.
Speaker 1: If you're going to settle for less than what you deserve,
Speaker 1: be alone.
Speaker 2: Want to back to the after