1 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:15,239 Speaker 1: Another thing society tries to put on young women. I 2 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: was at a dinner a couple months ago with several 3 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: gorgeous young women. One had more extensions and lashes and makeup, 4 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 1: and they all looked hot, and they had hot dresses 5 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 1: on all of them twenty years younger than I am. 6 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 2: All of them. 7 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: I can't meet anybody. There's nobody. I'm like, listen, you 8 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: guys all don't know what you're doing. Get to come 9 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: to my house with the internship program, because I could 10 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:38,160 Speaker 1: be your mother. And I can get pretty much any 11 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 1: man that I am interested in and that I meet. 12 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: And I'm not being conceded. 13 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 2: I'm not bragging. It's just a fact. It's just a fact. Why. 14 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: Because I have my own money, because I'm confident, because 15 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: I'm funny, because I'm not vain, because I don't care, 16 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: and because I'm enjoyable and entertaining. Nobody has anything I 17 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: need or want. I don't need someone to support me. 18 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:00,319 Speaker 1: I don't need someone to pay for my dent work, 19 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: my new tits, my new nose, my house. My kids 20 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: are not coming in a lot of women are coming 21 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: in their fifties divorce, and they're they're the taking tree. 22 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: They think they're hot. They've gotten plastic surgery. They're forty, 23 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: they're fifty, they're divorced, they've got two to three kids. 24 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: They're a little self conscious about that. They've got a 25 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: little bit of baggage. But okay, they start meeting men, 26 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: they start being on the blood in the water hunt 27 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: because they want to meet a man who's gonna take 28 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: fold in this program. They may not have done well 29 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: and they're divorced, they've got kids. Men are gonna be like, 30 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: what the f I don't. 31 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:29,320 Speaker 2: Need that program. 32 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: I don't need the I got to support someone in 33 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: their whole life when I've got my own ex program. 34 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard for that group. That group also 35 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: has a lot of problems, and they're always I've heard 36 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: my friends say to me that they're other friends a bag. 37 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 2: How does Bethanios meet these guys? How does Bethany always 38 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:45,639 Speaker 2: meet these guys? 39 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 1: Oh? My god, the rings, the guys, the men, the boats, 40 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: the planes, the presence. Why because I'm the prize? How 41 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: age is just a number? It is, it doesn't I 42 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: don't care about it. If you care about it, keep 43 00:01:57,280 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: it moving. But I haven't had that experience I also 44 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: know to shop. Not going for twenty eight year old 45 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: You know guys like I'm not going for thirty eight 46 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: year old bro, Guys that fistpound each other and like 47 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: go to bars, and like, I'm interested in men. If 48 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: you're a man, you do not want to date a 49 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: young girl who's on the gold digger take care of 50 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 1: my life program. That's not what they want. So be 51 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: a woman who's independent, who's happy and fine being alone, 52 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: and any man would just be additive. That's the kind 53 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: of woman you want to be, where the man is complementary, 54 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: a supplemental aspect, but you go out there hunting. Be 55 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: a one size fits all woman that can support yourself, 56 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: can have a baby on your own, can do whatever 57 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: you want on your own, and then if you meet someone, 58 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: it's just additive. That's the way to roll. And I've 59 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: had men say to me, I don't know what the 60 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: what's wrong with me? Why I'm jealous for the first time, 61 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: Why I'm so into you? I'm not. 62 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 2: You know. 63 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: What they want to say is you're fucking fifty three, bro, 64 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm so into you. That's what 65 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: they want to say. They're confused as to why they're 66 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: into me. So if you don't get it, you don't 67 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: get it. I can explain it to you, but I 68 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: can't understand it for you. So I'm not saying it's 69 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: gonna be this cute at sixty five. But this fucking 70 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: program is still going. And I'm shocked too. But there's 71 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: no shortage of men at my feet wanting to me 72 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: to pick them as the bachelor, wanting me to give 73 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 1: them the final rose. So while you're young, this is 74 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: what this is. This is what my daughter has to 75 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: look forward to. That's what my daughter has met. Young 76 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 1: boys always swirling too, because she's the least interested party. 77 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: She's confident. She wants to work on her own, be 78 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: on her own. No, I'm gonna be at the girls 79 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: this weekend. What she's fourteen or fourteen? I was running 80 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: boy crazy. Nope, we're not inviting Boys's just gonna be 81 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: with the girls this weekend. I'm like, you go, girl, 82 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: I want to make my own money. I want to 83 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: do my own to make my own money. I don't 84 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: need a boy. Yes, yes, Quin learned from the Master Jedi. 85 00:03:53,520 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: Mind trick is working. Let's talk about the lines in 86 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: my life that people have told me famous quotes, the 87 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 1: famous people and some non famous people have told me 88 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 1: in my life that I've stuck with me. I could 89 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 1: have had so many more, but these are the ones 90 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: that stick with me. Number one, pros play hurt. You 91 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: fucking show up. That's it. It doesn't matter, no one cares. 92 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: You committed to it, you do it, you finish it, 93 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: you crush it. We don't care if you're tired. We 94 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 1: don't care if you're hungry. We don't care if you 95 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 1: can sleep last night. We don't care what happened to 96 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: your foot. We don't care if you have a sore ankle. 97 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: We don't care if you're cold. It doesn't matter. If 98 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 1: you're committing to it, commit to the bit. So pros 99 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: play hurt. I can't sleep at night, I have to 100 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: do an interview the next morning. That are committed to 101 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: I have to get on a plane, do an appearance. 102 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: It's the tough Ship program, It's the pros play hurt. 103 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,279 Speaker 1: I'm down, I don't feel good. We'll sleep when we're dead. 104 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: So number two is we'll sleep when we're dead, which 105 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: is a relative to pros play hurt and commit to 106 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,359 Speaker 1: the bit is just to it you're a bad singer, 107 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: but you're singing in something. Commit to it, don't like 108 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: be don't waffle, don't be halfway in, don't be halfway out. 109 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: Commit just go all the way. Okay, whatever it is, 110 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: do it or don't, that's another relative, do it or don't. 111 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,919 Speaker 1: But the ones that are like more like less obvious 112 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: are Ellen Degenero is telling me two things. 113 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 2: You may love Ellen, you may not like Ellen. I 114 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 2: don't care. What she said was right. 115 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: What she said was don't believe the hype and don't 116 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 1: believe the hate. Don't believe everyone loving you, don't believe 117 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: everyone hating you. And you don't have to be famous 118 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: for this to apply. It means in any case, don't 119 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: get all into yourself. Don't drink your own kool aid, 120 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: don't believe it all. Just don't buy into it. But 121 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 1: also when everyone hates you, don't buy into that either. 122 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: Be unbothered. People hate you, great, they're talking about you. 123 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 1: If they stop talking, start worrying, that's another one. I 124 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: keep doing ones that I don't even believe, like that 125 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: it weren't even intended, Like don't drink your own kool aid. 126 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: That's a cousin don't believe the hype. That's funny, So yeah, 127 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: don't buy into the bullshit. I am a walking bumper sticker. 128 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: I've determined after this okay. He also said to me, 129 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: you will keep making the same mistake until you learn 130 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:12,720 Speaker 1: the lesson. Yes, relationships, jobs, problems, issues with the law, substance, whatever, 131 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 1: you will keep making the same mistake until you learn 132 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: the lesson. A cousin of that is definition of insanities 133 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: repeating the same behavior and expecting different results. These things 134 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 1: are real because they're true, Maya Angelou. If someone shows 135 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:30,840 Speaker 1: you who they are, believe them massively true. Another one, 136 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: Lauren Michaels, said to me, he's the creator of SNL. 137 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 2: You have to make an exit to be able to 138 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 2: make an entrance. I love that. 139 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: For me, that was the difference between leaving Housewives for 140 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:46,159 Speaker 1: what was now to me a pittance coming back to 141 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 1: a pile of money. I didn't do it on purpose. 142 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 1: I hadn't heard his quote yet, but I left because 143 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: I wanted to leave. 144 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 2: You have to be able to walk out of something. 145 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 2: That's what it really is like. 146 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: You have to be able to walk away from something 147 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: for everything else to come. That's how my career became 148 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: so much more lucrative every time I walked from the Housewives. 149 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 1: The first time I came back for any number I wanted, 150 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: I asked for the number. I got it, and it's 151 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: not a million. Just so we are all clear, I 152 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: didn't make a million dollars per season. I didn't make 153 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: a million dollars per season. I made a lot more. 154 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 2: So that's that. 155 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: But I walked out, and the second time I walked out, 156 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: I thought, I'm so to semi retiring, and I make 157 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: a lot more money since walking out, a lot more, 158 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: and I thought the party's over. 159 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 2: It was multiple millions of dollars. 160 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: Guess what, being honest, being truthful, loving what I do, 161 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: being passionate, being authentic, and doing it my way, I 162 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: ended up making a lot more money and. 163 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:42,679 Speaker 2: It drives people crazy. 164 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: So and the last one, my friend Loui Lasanaro, he 165 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 1: said to me in Matters of the Heart in dating 166 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: and relationship, based on my patterns that he's observed knowing me, 167 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: he said, you're always with the same it's all the 168 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: same guy, the same guy, over and over. He said, 169 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: rock stars need rock stars. I said, that's fucking powerful. 170 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: Lulaiz an arrow. 171 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 2: Rockstars need rock stars. You're right. 172 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: My whole life, I've gone out, I've found amazing people, 173 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: but in many cases, dated down rockstars need rock stars. 174 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: We as women often think we're lucky to be in 175 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: the room. 176 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: I'm like God, the God. I see it on TikTok 177 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 2: all the time. Look what he said, Look at he texted. 178 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 2: He texted, you're cute. Oh my god, what you're the prize? 179 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 2: He should be texting that. He should be texting. 180 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: Don't be graveling and picking up scraps and crumbs, and 181 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:37,839 Speaker 1: don't be dating down. 182 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 2: Be alone. If you're gonna date down, be alone. 183 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: If you're going to settle for less than what you deserve, 184 00:08:44,880 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: be alone. 185 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 2: Want to back to the after