1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space, bake fun 2 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: into your fitness journey. Whatever fun looks like to you, 3 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: right for me, what makes my fitness journey fun is 4 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: I like to match my clothes when I go to 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: the gym. I'm trying to look cute, right, So I'll 6 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:22,479 Speaker 1: have my shoes usually matching, my gym fit, matching my 7 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: head scarf or my headband. And then my train there 8 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: records the videos so I get to put content on 9 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: social media. I got my little matching fit. It's cute. 10 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: I feel nice, I feel cute. I'm ready to go. 11 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 2: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, 12 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 2: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments 13 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 2: or appreciate anything from this episode, please leave us a 14 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 2: review to let us know we're on the right track. Also, 15 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 2: we release episodes every Friday, so be sure to subscribe 16 00:00:55,760 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 2: on iTunes and visit cultivatinghurspace dot com to act as 17 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 2: our exclusive after show and other bonus content from the 18 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:05,119 Speaker 2: Patreon tab. 19 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 3: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting 20 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 3: women like you. We're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Broussard, a 21 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 3: college professor and psychologist. 22 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a 23 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please 24 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from 25 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where 26 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: black women can just be. 27 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 4: Hey, lady's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her Space podcast. 28 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 4: Are you currently a resident of the state of California 29 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 4: in contemplating starting your therapy journey? Well, if so, please 30 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 4: reach out to me at doctor Dominique Brussard dot com. 31 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 4: That's E R D O M I N I q 32 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 4: U E B R O U S S A r 33 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 4: D dot com to schedule a free fifteen minute consultation. 34 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 4: I look forward to hearing from you. 35 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 5: Our quote other day, It's time for you to move, 36 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 5: realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you. 37 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 5: This quote comes to us from Ion Love. I'm going 38 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 5: to read that one more time for the folks in 39 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 5: the back. It's time for you to move realizing that 40 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 5: the thing you are seeking is also seeking you. 41 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 4: Now, t. 42 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 5: What's the what's the thing that's seeking you right now? 43 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 5: In terms of as we think about this episode, what 44 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 5: is the thing that is seeking you? 45 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: Well, I was not ready for that question, but I 46 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: love this question because it's a whole lot of things 47 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: seeking me. I'm not gonna name everything, but I mean 48 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: it's the millions for me, it's the body goals. For me, 49 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: it's the abundant. But no, I would say for this 50 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: particular conversation, it is a happy, healthy, strong body, you know, 51 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: since we're talking about fitness. 52 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 4: But I would say with this quote, I was redefeated 53 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 4: to be like, what this quote mean to you? 54 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: Because when you first share this quote with me, I 55 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: was like, wait a minute, I gotta sit with it. 56 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 1: And then when I when you read it again, you know, 57 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: you read it again for the people to back, I 58 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: was like, oh, so I want to hear your perspective 59 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: to Don. But here's what I here's what I'm thinking 60 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: when this quote comes up for me, when it sus 61 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: it's time for you to move. Realizing that the thing 62 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: you are seeking and seeking you, I feel like that 63 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 1: means that whatever it is that you are pursuing or seeking, 64 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: it's obviously seeking you too because the thought is in 65 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: your mind right. So, if you are in a place 66 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: in life where you're like Okay, I really wanted to, 67 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: you know, change my fitness goals, or I really want 68 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: to embark on this journey. Then there's something in you 69 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: that's resonating on the same frequency as this fitness journey, 70 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: and so once you start moving toward it, you'll see 71 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: more progress and more results because it's already in here 72 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: and the mental it's so it's a matter of you 73 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,160 Speaker 1: catching letting the physical catch up with the mental. Does 74 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: that make sense? 75 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 5: Yes, because that's where I was at when I saw 76 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 5: the quote too, right, Like yes, like you, you are 77 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 5: already in pursuit mentally, so now you just need your 78 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 5: actions to match your thoughts in this It's time for 79 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 5: you to move. It's about the action, like it's time 80 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 5: for you to take action, like that thing that you 81 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:59,279 Speaker 5: keep thinking about and in this conversation, particularly about around 82 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 5: your physical fitness, like that thing that you were thinking about, 83 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 5: it's time to take action on it. 84 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 1: Same way. Le okay, okay, well lady, we are so 85 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: excited for this conversation. We're delving into the deep realm 86 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 1: of mental resilience on our fitness journey and Domini each 87 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,119 Speaker 1: have our own unique experiences when it comes to fitness, 88 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: and we're going to give you the real deal. Let 89 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,799 Speaker 1: you know what it's all about, some of our personal struggles, 90 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: what we're doing to push past it. And I will 91 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: say this topic is not just about physical strength, but 92 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: the mental fortitude that can propel us toward our fitness goals. 93 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 1: So get ready to get ready because now more than ever, 94 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: breaking through the mental barriers is crucial to achieving holistic fitness. 95 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 1: So whether you're a seasoned athlete or just starting the 96 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: power of mind over matter, it can significantly impact your journey. 97 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 1: So dom, let's jump on in and talk about our 98 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 1: stories around fitness. Yes, where do you want to be? 99 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 1: Get it? 100 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 4: You know? Way back when? 101 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 5: So no, really, I mean honestly, yes, way back when, 102 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 5: when I think about being a kid and be not 103 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 5: wanting to do anything physical, like the idea of play. 104 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 5: I was that quote unquote prissy girl right that the 105 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 5: idea of playing outside and getting sweaty and dirty was 106 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,679 Speaker 5: just like nah, I'm good on that, Like where's my book? 107 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 4: Like for real, where's my book? And I remember. 108 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 5: In high school in pe class, I would save minstrel 109 00:06:56,720 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 5: cramps if I did not want to play in particular 110 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 5: whatever it was whatever activity we were doing that day, 111 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 5: I would pull the I got cramped so bad card 112 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:14,440 Speaker 5: so that I wouldn't have to Now, I will say, 113 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 5: in all fairness to myself, there were times where I 114 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 5: legit had bad cramps and really couldn't do the work. 115 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 5: But more often than not in pe class it really 116 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 5: was I feel like playing, so I wasn't. And as 117 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 5: I got older, it became a thing of I don't know, 118 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 5: I'm not really trying to be outside for real. And 119 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 5: then I would have when I did start, like actually 120 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 5: in college, like going to the gym, because it was 121 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 5: more of a vanity thing for me of like, oh yeah, 122 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 5: like I gotta stay I gotta stay slim, so we're 123 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 5: gonna have to work out to do that, and would 124 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 5: occasionally go play around in the gym, but not for real. 125 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 5: It wasn't until I was in my twenties where I 126 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 5: really started to take it a lot more seriously and 127 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 5: really for me, the fitness journey kind of started in 128 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 5: my twenties around wanting to like lose a few pounds 129 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 5: get in shape for spring break, right and for years 130 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 5: after that, like that's kind of where I was. I 131 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 5: would like, you know, have my seasons of working out 132 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 5: because I had a goal like oh, I'm going on 133 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 5: vacation or I'm doing this thing, like I need to 134 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 5: get into this dress, and so I'm gonna work out 135 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 5: for a little bit to lose some weight. It wasn't 136 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 5: until I was around thirty where I was like, oh, no, 137 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 5: I need to take this a bit more seriously and 138 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 5: was able to like really be hard for or what 139 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 5: I call hard for for myself because I also recognize 140 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 5: that there is and I want to acknowledge there is 141 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 5: a spectrum on people's definition of fitness and physical activity. 142 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,440 Speaker 5: And so it wasn't until I was around thirty when 143 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 5: I was like, Okay, I need to start doing I need. 144 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 5: I'm going to be more disciplined about working out. 145 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 4: And in my thirties, like at various points, I've worked 146 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 4: with trainers, I've done different programs, so like shawing T 147 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 4: with like P ninety X, Insanity T twenty five, all 148 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 4: of that, taking spin classes, doing yoga, doing weightlifting. So 149 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 4: at various points throughout my thirties, I've had different fitness 150 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 4: things that I've worked on. 151 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 5: Now in my forties, my fitness journey looks different, and 152 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 5: we'll talk more about my fitness journey in my forties 153 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 5: as we go through the tips, because really, for me, 154 00:09:58,760 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 5: it really. 155 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 4: Has because mind over matter at this stage. 156 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:05,959 Speaker 6: Hey lady, it's Terry here, Dom and I want to 157 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 6: take a moment to thank you for choosing to listen 158 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 6: to our podcast. 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Tell us some of your fitness. 198 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: Journey, Dom, I wanted to say, first, that was such 199 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 1: a beautiful overview, like I like how you painted the pictures, 200 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: like where you were back then, where you were in 201 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 1: your thirties and now your forties, how it's changed. And 202 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: I will say I was also I'm like, oh, Dom, 203 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: we right here because girl was one of them pretty 204 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: girls too. I did not want to sweat. I did 205 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:40,200 Speaker 1: not want to like I always had to have my 206 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: lip buffs. I did not want to get dirty. But 207 00:12:42,360 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: I was still very active growing up. So I remember 208 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 1: our church used to have like these walk of thons, 209 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: and my parents had me and my sister in basketball 210 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: and different sports, so like whether it's cheerleading or step team, like, 211 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 1: we did a lot of that. And so I was active. 212 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: But I was also very slim, so I never really 213 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: had an incentive to work out, like I wanted to 214 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: always game weight, so I kind of shied away from 215 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: like actively working out. I would go to the gym 216 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: every once in a while in college because it just 217 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: felt like I could say I worked out, but I 218 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:11,959 Speaker 1: mean I wasn't really doing I wasn't really doing nothing 219 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 1: like that. Now after I had my daughter three years ago, 220 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,440 Speaker 1: right after I had Abz, I feel like that was 221 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: the first time that I it was the first time 222 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: in my life that I struggled with weight in particular. 223 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: So I was literally always around one twenty five. I 224 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 1: felt like I was like one twenty in size zero 225 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 1: in school forever, and then an adulthood, I was like 226 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 1: one twenty five in max and I was like, damn, 227 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 1: I can never gain weight. So let me just say, y'all, 228 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:41,080 Speaker 1: during the pandemic, mama was eating well. I did not 229 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:46,040 Speaker 1: work out my pregnancy because the morning sickness was doing 230 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 1: his thing. And during the pandemic, I got up to 231 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 1: like I think I gained like forty something pounds when 232 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: I was pregnant, and so I learned later that's a 233 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: lot to gain. That's a decent amount to game when 234 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 1: you're pregnant. I know, it's usually like it was like 235 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 1: the higher end of the rain. So I was like, damn, 236 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: I really was eating everything. But I was pregnant and 237 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 1: me and baby were healthy, So that was the things. Now, 238 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:10,319 Speaker 1: after I had my daughter, I did not recognize my body, 239 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 1: and so I was trying to be gentle and kind 240 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 1: to myself and give myself time and space to you know, 241 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:17,319 Speaker 1: go through the process of what they call it the 242 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: fourth trimester, where you're you know, feeding the baby, getting 243 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: my body back to normal, or at least getting my 244 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:25,600 Speaker 1: body back to like some type of you know, level 245 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: of states and baseline as I was breastfeeding. But girl, 246 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 1: when I got to that point where it was like, Okay, 247 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: I can work out now, I was like, what is 248 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:36,000 Speaker 1: going on with the stomach, What's happening with the love handles? 249 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: Like I was not recognizing myself at all, and I 250 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 1: did not like it. And so I tried to start 251 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: doing workouts at home and I was just failing down. 252 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: But I remember doing milk. I was up late breastfeeding 253 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: and I were milk prep and I was doing this 254 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 1: online program and I did it for two weeks consistently, 255 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: and I actually saw some of the fat in my 256 00:14:56,040 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: back like disappear, like it burned down from that that 257 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: workout I was doing. So I was like, Okay, I 258 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: know that this works, but I struggled so much with consistency. 259 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 1: And so we'll talk about some of our you know, 260 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: our tips and everything later, but I would say dom, 261 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 1: over the past three years, I made some big improvements 262 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 1: because of some of the tips that we're going to 263 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 1: share today. So I won't give them all the way 264 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,080 Speaker 1: all the way now, but I will say today I'm 265 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: the happiest and most confident I am with my body, 266 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,840 Speaker 1: and I have a very i would say, structured routine 267 00:15:28,880 --> 00:15:32,080 Speaker 1: that holds me accountable, that keeps me some energized, and 268 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 1: so yeah, it's only up from here. 269 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 4: I love that. 270 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 5: And what I appreciate is you acknowledging, like what you 271 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 5: shared around like for you, like your size, right, and 272 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 5: I want to acknowledge for our listeners that size is 273 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 5: relatives that lady, as you're listening to this conversation, the 274 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 5: thing you want to pay attention to is what is important, 275 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 5: what is healthy for you as an individual That recognizing 276 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 5: that what Terry says is comfortable for her is comfortable 277 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 5: for Terry. Right, what I say is comfortable for me 278 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 5: is comfortable for Don And what you say is comfortable 279 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 5: for you is comfortable for you. That it's part of 280 00:16:28,640 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 5: that mind over matter is also about not comparing yourself 281 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 5: to someone else. Everybody's body truly is unique, and what 282 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 5: works for Terry, it's not gonna work for me necessarily, 283 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 5: and vice versa. 284 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 4: And that's part of why we wanted to share with you, 285 00:16:56,920 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 4: like our different journeys, so that you also recognize that. 286 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 5: Lady, whatever your journey is truly is your journey. And 287 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,919 Speaker 5: I also think it's important for us to acknowledge that 288 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:21,080 Speaker 5: within everybody's journey, there may be physical barriers that or 289 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 5: physical challenges that may be keeping you from being able 290 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 5: to perform certain things that we might suggest, and we 291 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 5: want to fully acknowledge that, and we want you to 292 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 5: be able to as always take what resonates and leave 293 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:43,520 Speaker 5: what doesn't. 294 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 4: You hit the nail on the head. Thank you so 295 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 4: much for mentioning that. 296 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: Don I really appreciate that, because I even even when 297 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 1: you think about weight in particular, like someone makes, say 298 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:56,439 Speaker 1: a number, and because all of our bodies are different, 299 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:57,960 Speaker 1: you might be the same way to sell on but 300 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:01,359 Speaker 1: look totally different because of your height, genetics and other things. 301 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:03,719 Speaker 1: And so I'm really grateful that you mentioned that. So 302 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: everything that Dom just said, shall we jump to these 303 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 1: shall we jump into these tip these tips? Yes, let's 304 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: do it. 305 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:19,360 Speaker 4: So one of the things that for me at this. 306 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 5: Stage has really been important is focusing on moving my 307 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 5: body right, Lady. I don't know about for you, but 308 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 5: during the pandemic, I was, And when I say pandemic, 309 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 5: I'm refined to those months where we all were at home, 310 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 5: weren't yes, And so for me, during that time period, 311 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:53,679 Speaker 5: I became more sedentary than I had ever been in life. 312 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 5: And my job is a pretty sedentary job. It's a therapist, 313 00:18:57,840 --> 00:19:01,399 Speaker 5: Like I am literally sitting down for hours talking to 314 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 5: people and so, but pre pandemic, you know, I had 315 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 5: my commute, so you know, there was way more and 316 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:14,160 Speaker 5: I was on a college like physically on the college campus. 317 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 5: So and the campus that I was on had heills 318 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:20,320 Speaker 5: and so there were like it was lots of movement 319 00:19:24,480 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 5: into the pandemic, and I'm at home literally in my 320 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:32,679 Speaker 5: like I don't know, maybe it was like seven hundred 321 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 5: square feet one bedroom apartment, Like not a whole lot 322 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:41,680 Speaker 5: of movement happened in there. And so it was also 323 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 5: during that term two that I was like, oh wait, 324 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 5: at some point I really did realize I need to 325 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 5: move my body. And when we think about exercise, it 326 00:19:55,280 --> 00:20:01,880 Speaker 5: really is you know, oftentimes we think exercise and it's like, oh, 327 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:04,040 Speaker 5: you got to be going hardcore in the gym, and 328 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:05,000 Speaker 5: that's exercise. 329 00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:17,359 Speaker 4: No, literally going for a walk is exercise, right, Dancing 330 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 4: is exercise if you have little ones and you're like 331 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,760 Speaker 4: playing outside with your little ones, or even playing in 332 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 4: the living room with your little ones, like you're moving 333 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:34,200 Speaker 4: around like that's exercise. 334 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:41,000 Speaker 5: So part of it really is just focusing on let's 335 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,200 Speaker 5: move your body. 336 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 1: That's a man to that. And the only thing I 337 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: would add on is, lady, I like to remember that 338 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: a body in motion stays in motion. And I don't 339 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,680 Speaker 1: know about you, but girl, okay, I don't know about y'all, 340 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 1: but I want to be a baddie when I'm seven. 341 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: I want to look good, okay. And when you see 342 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: a lot of those people, so I'm just like, when 343 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 1: you see a lot of those people who look amazing 344 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,440 Speaker 1: when they're older, they didn't start Many of them didn't 345 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 1: start that shit when they were like at that age. 346 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:15,119 Speaker 1: They started building habits back in the day. And so 347 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 1: I think for me, it's just so important to remember 348 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:21,399 Speaker 1: that don't underestimate what moving your body means. Whether like 349 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:23,120 Speaker 1: I know, for me, usually I try to go down 350 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 1: the stairs up and down the up. Used to go 351 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 1: down the stairs, and my bell I'm like, all right, 352 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,639 Speaker 1: do I go up sometimes? But I usually try to 353 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:34,159 Speaker 1: go down versus going down the elevator. So getting some 354 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,679 Speaker 1: extra steps in so anywhere you can, whether it's parking 355 00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: a little bit farther from this, you know, the mall 356 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:41,040 Speaker 1: of the grocery store, wherever you're going, just so you 357 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: can get those steps. And I think that's really important. 358 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 1: And that takes us to number two, which is find 359 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,120 Speaker 1: a physical activity that you enjoyed. There is so much 360 00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 1: that you could do out there, fun stuff that will 361 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: allow you to get your body moving and get the 362 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:57,119 Speaker 1: blood flowing. And when you think about it, like people 363 00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: who don't move their body, they often have aches and pain. 364 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:04,520 Speaker 1: They often have a higher probability of, you know, overstretching 365 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,399 Speaker 1: a muscle because they make a quick movement and they 366 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: don't realize like, oh, I haven't stretched this muscle so long. 367 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: So now I bent down to pick up my phone 368 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: to fell, not in what a ligament I didn't, you know, 369 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: hurt my body because they haven't moved. And so when 370 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,720 Speaker 1: I think about the physical activity dance classes they've read 371 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 1: love it, give me more like twork class, right, Reggae dance, 372 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 1: I mean whatever. You can go on YouTube and find 373 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: so many different dance classes. You can go on YouTube 374 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 1: and find so many different dance classes. Then you have biking, right, 375 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: what are there some other fun activities down that you 376 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: like to do? Oh? 377 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:41,200 Speaker 4: Now you got me something. 378 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,119 Speaker 5: I was like, oh my god, as this well, I'm 379 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 5: thinking less hiking, right, hiking and swimming? 380 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:47,400 Speaker 1: Is swimming a great one? 381 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:47,640 Speaker 3: Right? 382 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:51,440 Speaker 1: It doesn't always have to be this rigid like sometimes 383 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,679 Speaker 1: I do this down like out set of Gold. I'm like, 384 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: it has to look a certain way in order for 385 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 1: me to say I achieved it. And so I got 386 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: to go to the gym. It has to be at 387 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,360 Speaker 1: five thirty in the morning. I gotta, you know, do 388 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: this certain exercise like yogata, do all that. Do do 389 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: what's gonna be fun and enjoyable to you exactly exactly. 390 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 5: And I think, and I think that's the thing too, right, 391 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:17,160 Speaker 5: because I've had recently, like this year, I've had conversations 392 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:23,159 Speaker 5: with different friends who are working out right, and everybody's 393 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:28,479 Speaker 5: doing something different, and one friend is like, they enjoy running, 394 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 5: and I'm like running hain't never been my ministry, okay, 395 00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 5: but they doing it and I admire that. 396 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 4: And then I'm like, maybe I will try it, you know, 397 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 4: because I keep saying that things are not my ministry, 398 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,639 Speaker 4: and then I end up doing it, and so maybe 399 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:49,479 Speaker 4: I will look into running, right, but I also know 400 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:55,360 Speaker 4: that that's not necessarily something that I enjoy. Yet I 401 00:23:55,560 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 4: like yoga, and so for me, yoga is something that 402 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 4: it helps me get grounded every day. And you know, 403 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 4: I think that leads. 404 00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 5: To our third tip, which is do the activity at 405 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:20,119 Speaker 5: a time and place that works for you. See, I 406 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 5: come back to what you mentioned before about having this 407 00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 5: image in your mind of like you got to do 408 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,120 Speaker 5: it at this exact time and it needs to look 409 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 5: a certain way. And for a while I used to 410 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 5: be like that, right as well, Like, all right, well, 411 00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 5: I said that I needed to get this workout in 412 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 5: at five thirty in the morning. But five thirty in 413 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 5: the morning comes and I'm still tired. And now I 414 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,240 Speaker 5: didn't do this workout at five thirty, So I'm like, 415 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,760 Speaker 5: I don't feel like doing it at all, and now 416 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:53,360 Speaker 5: I've missed the till I've missed an opportunity. Right, I've 417 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 5: allowed myself to miss an opportunity. But when you do 418 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,920 Speaker 5: it at a time and place that works you, you're more 419 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 5: likely to engage in it. So for me, yoga is 420 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 5: one of the things that I have gotten more into 421 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:13,880 Speaker 5: this year, and what I have found is. 422 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 4: That I get up in the morning and I do 423 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:22,199 Speaker 4: yoga in my bedroom so I don't even have to 424 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 4: like because for me, also part of it is is 425 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 4: like once I open my bedroom door and my day 426 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 4: gets started, like that's it. My day gets started. 427 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:31,840 Speaker 1: Right. 428 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 5: If I can get up and do yoga before I 429 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 5: even get my day started, then I feel good about 430 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 5: the day. I feel grounded, I feel simpered, right. And 431 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 5: what that also then does is motivate me to do 432 00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 5: other forms of working out, other forms of like physical 433 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:03,919 Speaker 5: activity and out. What that ends up looking like for 434 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 5: me is also a recognition to do other workouts, I 435 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 5: have to have the physical energy, right. What helps for 436 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,240 Speaker 5: me with that is having magic mind. 437 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 1: Right. 438 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 5: So magic mind is this cute little green shot, right, 439 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:28,200 Speaker 5: and you can take it straight or a couple of times, honestly, 440 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,480 Speaker 5: I've poured it into a smoothie, had that for breakfast. 441 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 5: And what it does is it gives me sustained energy 442 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 5: throughout the day and in terms of having that physical 443 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 5: energy to get a workout in at some point later 444 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,439 Speaker 5: in the day that fits in my schedule, so that 445 00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,160 Speaker 5: I'm not like tired that I don't feel tired at 446 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:55,200 Speaker 5: the end of the day. Magic mind has like truly 447 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 5: been a game changer in that way. What about for 448 00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:01,919 Speaker 5: ut I, It's funny, I'm not a morning person. I 449 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,159 Speaker 5: feel like having a child kind of turns into a 450 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:07,679 Speaker 5: morning person. But I'm not a morning person, and I 451 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 5: push myself to get up in the morning because it's 452 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,119 Speaker 5: the only time of the day in my workout days 453 00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 5: where it makes sense for me to work out because, 454 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 5: like you said, if most days I work super late, 455 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 5: so if I wait until the end of the day, 456 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 5: I don't have the energy and it's not going to happen. 457 00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 5: And so if y'all are anything like me and you're 458 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 5: not a morning person, a good pick me up with 459 00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:31,280 Speaker 5: all natural ingredients can really really help. 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And the 499 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,440 Speaker 1: reason I say that is because I remember when I 500 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,120 Speaker 1: was on I was gearing up for my fitness journey, 501 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: and I within my spirit, I was like, okay, look, 502 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 1: I had a conversation with myself and I do this often. 503 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, Terry, we know that when. 504 00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 1: You look in this mirror, you're not comfortable with how 505 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,960 Speaker 1: your body looks. I'm not happy with it, and so 506 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 1: what am I going to do about that? That was 507 00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: the first question I asked myself, what am I going 508 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 1: to do about it? And then I began to consume 509 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: content about working out before I even took any steps 510 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,680 Speaker 1: in the physical world. I began to put it in 511 00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 1: my spirit by way of consuming content about working out. 512 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,800 Speaker 1: So I was watching videos, watching testimonials, and this particular 513 00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 1: phase of my journey, I was watching videos of other mothers. 514 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 1: I was watching all positive content, like, right, I'm not 515 00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,880 Speaker 1: watching failure stories. I'm watching success stories, right, because that's 516 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 1: where I want to go. So I'm watching moms and 517 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 1: seeing how they got their you know, new body after 518 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: the baby, how they built this new body they were in. 519 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 1: I you know, looked at different testimonials and just different 520 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 1: tips and understood, Okay, how does my diet fit into 521 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 1: this new routine that I want to adopt and what's 522 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 1: required of me? Looking at different workout plans. So I 523 00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: did all that, and then I began to look at 524 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,920 Speaker 1: what I was saying to myself, like that internal narrative 525 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 1: and the stories I was telling myself about my body. 526 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:04,920 Speaker 1: And I think one of the most powerful things that 527 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 1: I did as well was I began to stop criticizing 528 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,560 Speaker 1: myself as much, and I began to be grateful for 529 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 1: the body that I was in at that moment. So 530 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for these beautiful love candles that gave me 531 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,000 Speaker 1: the extra fact that I needed to be able to 532 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,880 Speaker 1: be healthy and carry this baby. I'm grateful for this 533 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: belly that allowed my body to expand and hold this 534 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 1: human like I'm grateful for my stretch marks, and I 535 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:31,440 Speaker 1: began to love my body so that I could continue 536 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,959 Speaker 1: to cultivate that type of energy on my fitness journey. 537 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 1: What about you, don. 538 00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:43,240 Speaker 5: I love that that inner dialogue is so important, and 539 00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:48,920 Speaker 5: part of that inner dialogue is in addition to how 540 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 5: you talk to yourself about your body, it's also how 541 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,000 Speaker 5: you talk to yourself about your fitness journey. 542 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:57,760 Speaker 1: Right. 543 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,040 Speaker 5: One of the things for me that I had a 544 00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:09,720 Speaker 5: friend gently correct me on that was I had when 545 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 5: I first got back into yoga earlier this year, and 546 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, you know, I just did it 547 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,680 Speaker 5: for five minutes. That's all I did today, was like 548 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 5: a five minute yoga class, and or or I would 549 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,200 Speaker 5: say yeah, all I did was yoga today, and I 550 00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:31,440 Speaker 5: had a friend gently correct me and say, no, don't 551 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:33,800 Speaker 5: say it like if you by saying it like that, 552 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 5: you're minimizing the work that you've done. And so instead 553 00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:41,680 Speaker 5: of saying, oh, you just did or you only did 554 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 5: five minutes, it's I did some yoga today. And what 555 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 5: that does is allows you to acknowledge that you moved 556 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 5: your body, that you worked out today. And for me, 557 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,120 Speaker 5: what that then does is that puts me in this 558 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:09,280 Speaker 5: reinforcement mindset of Okay, well, then I can keep working out, 559 00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,719 Speaker 5: I can do I can move my body again the 560 00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 5: next day in the day after that, and if life happens, 561 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:22,720 Speaker 5: does life be life? And if I am if I 562 00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 5: miss my morning yoga workout, I end up making time 563 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 5: forward at some point later on in the day because 564 00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:40,040 Speaker 5: now at this point my internal dialogue has been yoga 565 00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:45,200 Speaker 5: is moving your body, Yoga is working out, Yoga helps 566 00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 5: ground you, and so I want to keep that internal 567 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 5: positive dialogue going. 568 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 4: Yes girl. And so then that takes us to our 569 00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:00,080 Speaker 4: next tip, which. 570 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 5: Probably should be step one or two in your journey, 571 00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:12,880 Speaker 5: and then maybe get revisited at different points. Seek professional guidance. 572 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:19,400 Speaker 5: So whether that's working with a trainer, a therapist, a 573 00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:24,600 Speaker 5: physical therapist, your medical doctor, a mindset coach, a chiropractor, 574 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:29,960 Speaker 5: whoever it is, and in some cases it may be 575 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:35,720 Speaker 5: multiple professionals that you'll consult with as you get ready 576 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 5: to move your body. I know, for me, after I 577 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,880 Speaker 5: had my hysterectomy, I was working with a physical therapist 578 00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:50,120 Speaker 5: on improving my abdomen and my pelvic floor right. And 579 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 5: part of that work was like working with this physical 580 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:59,400 Speaker 5: therapist and then also consulting a trainer, So I was 581 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:05,640 Speaker 5: working with both professionals on what are the appropriate ways 582 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:11,200 Speaker 5: that I can move my body that were helping in 583 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:16,520 Speaker 5: my healing. And there have been various points healing in 584 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 5: my fitness journey where I've consulted different professionals. And so, lady, 585 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,280 Speaker 5: it's about you identic sying. You know, they always say 586 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 5: with any workout program that I've seen, they always say, 587 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,480 Speaker 5: please consult a medical professional or your doctor before starting 588 00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:37,800 Speaker 5: a new program. And that's true because there may be 589 00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:44,719 Speaker 5: certain activities that could cause more harm to you if 590 00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,839 Speaker 5: you were to engage in them at this point, and 591 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:54,160 Speaker 5: so checking in with professionals on what your body can 592 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:58,040 Speaker 5: handle and is equipped to do at this point and 593 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,479 Speaker 5: recognizing that that that will change over time. 594 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,719 Speaker 1: Poor girl, that is such a good one. I'm so 595 00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:09,000 Speaker 1: glad that you named off all the various professional support 596 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:12,080 Speaker 1: options that someone can choose. I know, for me, I 597 00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,879 Speaker 1: remember getting a nutritionist for a while as well, and right, 598 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,279 Speaker 1: and I learned that what I learned about myself is 599 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 1: when I'm accountable to someone else, I'll usually perform better. Right, Like, yeah, 600 00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:29,319 Speaker 1: Like there are certain goals that you know I'm gonna 601 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:31,160 Speaker 1: I'm fine with achieving them, but it usually when it's 602 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:35,640 Speaker 1: something that's for me, I just struggle, like being consistent 603 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,160 Speaker 1: working out, it's a struggle. So I was like, Okay, 604 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:40,160 Speaker 1: I had to again have a conversation with myself and 605 00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:43,279 Speaker 1: it's like, okay, boo, you struggling here. What are we 606 00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,399 Speaker 1: gonna do? So I know that I'm paying somebody all 607 00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:47,840 Speaker 1: my ass is gonna show up and I'm gonna do it. 608 00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 1: So I decided to get a trainer after I know, 609 00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 1: kept following off the workout fitness journey after having my baby, 610 00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:57,280 Speaker 1: I got the trainer. I've been working with my training 611 00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:59,600 Speaker 1: for about two and a half years now. And my trainer, 612 00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,279 Speaker 1: the cool thing about him is he's in his sixties 613 00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:06,560 Speaker 1: and he is super fit, super healthy, very active, flexible, 614 00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:10,879 Speaker 1: all those things, and he inspires me because of his age. Right, 615 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,279 Speaker 1: and what he's able to do. But what I've learned 616 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,560 Speaker 1: from him is that again a body emotion stays emotion, 617 00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:18,560 Speaker 1: and when you are used to moving, it's easier to 618 00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 1: continue moving. I think about during my pregnancy journey, where 619 00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:24,560 Speaker 1: I was in of course the pandemic and then being pregnant, 620 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,680 Speaker 1: I was not active at all. So some of the 621 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:30,400 Speaker 1: very basic moves that I tried to do in that journey, 622 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,759 Speaker 1: like after I had the baby, were so challenging because 623 00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:34,799 Speaker 1: I hadn't moved in so long, and so I wasn't 624 00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,479 Speaker 1: very flexible. I feel like I lost flexibility. I feel 625 00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:39,400 Speaker 1: like I definitely wasn't as strong as I was before. 626 00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,960 Speaker 1: And so now that I've gotten to where I am 627 00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:45,799 Speaker 1: right now, I'm looking at fitness for me as a lifestyle. 628 00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:47,920 Speaker 1: So instead of me looking at it as, oh, it's 629 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:49,960 Speaker 1: something I have to do, I look at it as 630 00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,279 Speaker 1: this is something I get to do. And I think 631 00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,480 Speaker 1: my body for being strong enough to be able to 632 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,080 Speaker 1: show up and do this work, and so I would 633 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 1: say that looking at it as a lifestyle is really 634 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,600 Speaker 1: important for me. And then again seeking that professional guidance 635 00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,960 Speaker 1: that got the DOM and I we're talking about now 636 00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: the next thing I want to talk about here. It's 637 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:14,960 Speaker 1: goed be tip number six and this is fake fun 638 00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:18,480 Speaker 1: into your fitness journey. Whatever fun looks like to you. 639 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 1: Right for me, what makes my fitness journey fun is 640 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:27,360 Speaker 1: I love to dress up not I like to match 641 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:28,719 Speaker 1: my clothes when I go to the gym, and like 642 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,279 Speaker 1: try to look cute, right, So I'll have, you know, 643 00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:36,560 Speaker 1: my shoes usually matching, my gym fit, matching my head 644 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:39,480 Speaker 1: scarf or my headband. And then my trainer records the 645 00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,800 Speaker 1: videos so I get to put content on social media. 646 00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: I got my little matching fit. It's cute. I feel nice, 647 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,040 Speaker 1: I feel cute. I'm ready to go. And so that's 648 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 1: part of the experience. In addition to me, you know, 649 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,760 Speaker 1: doing my gratitude in the morning, taking my magic mind shot, 650 00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,760 Speaker 1: doing my you know, taking my vitamins, I'm also getting 651 00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 1: cute for the gym. And the thing about it is 652 00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,399 Speaker 1: it's all about what works for you. Some people will 653 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,120 Speaker 1: be like, are you getting dressed up gold to the gyma? 654 00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,160 Speaker 1: Why are you putting on lipstick? Because it's a part 655 00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,279 Speaker 1: of my process and what makes it fun for me. 656 00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,279 Speaker 1: So you may see someone else do something that doesn't 657 00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:13,160 Speaker 1: resonate with you, that's cool. Don't do that if it 658 00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:16,040 Speaker 1: doesn't resonate with you, But figure out what works for 659 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,359 Speaker 1: you and go do that thing regardless of what other 660 00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,880 Speaker 1: people think, because it's about what's going to get you 661 00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:22,799 Speaker 1: to show up and be excited and in the right 662 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,560 Speaker 1: headspace to be able to fulfill whatever the goal is. 663 00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:27,759 Speaker 4: Love that. 664 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:32,560 Speaker 5: And lady, if you have not seen Terry's Instagram or 665 00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:33,920 Speaker 5: her TikTok. 666 00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:38,080 Speaker 4: With her workout videos, go check it out. Go check 667 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:38,359 Speaker 4: it out. 668 00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:41,920 Speaker 5: Because the outfits the outfit, and they keep grade thank you, 669 00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:46,560 Speaker 5: And so I love that I'm figuring out what is 670 00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,880 Speaker 5: going to work for you to get you motivated, to 671 00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:52,760 Speaker 5: get you to enjoy what you're doing. Because, if I'm honest, 672 00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:57,160 Speaker 5: there are some some aspects of working out that just 673 00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 5: aren't fun. But I do them because of health reasons, 674 00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 5: because I know the long term health benefits, or because 675 00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:10,160 Speaker 5: and or because they fit into a goal that I'm 676 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:15,400 Speaker 5: trying to achieve. Personally, I don't like plants like that, 677 00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:23,360 Speaker 5: ain't me not. I'm good hate these things right, burpies, man, whatever, 678 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,640 Speaker 5: I know that if I'm taking a class and those 679 00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,440 Speaker 5: planks and plants are often incorporated into yoga Burpies are 680 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,920 Speaker 5: usually incorporated into any strength class that I'm taking, and 681 00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:37,759 Speaker 5: so I'm like, gotta do it right because it's part 682 00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,840 Speaker 5: of the overall class. But what shelks for me, what 683 00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:43,120 Speaker 5: makes it fun for me. 684 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:44,480 Speaker 1: Is the music. 685 00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:52,440 Speaker 5: So personally, like I need Spotify has and I know 686 00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 5: that Apple title. Wherever you listen to your music, they 687 00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:59,399 Speaker 5: all usually have different playlists. Right for me, I use 688 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:04,160 Speaker 5: Spotify workout to workout, and you want to talk. 689 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:10,480 Speaker 4: About some some like Ratchet ranching, Ratchet music gets and 690 00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,239 Speaker 4: it gets me hip and so I'm in there, like 691 00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:15,319 Speaker 4: whether whether I. 692 00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:19,640 Speaker 5: Am on the treadmill, on the spin bike or taking 693 00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:20,719 Speaker 5: a walk outside. 694 00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:23,279 Speaker 4: When I'm listening to that. 695 00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 5: Music, like I get like, I get hype, and before 696 00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 5: i know it, I'm like pushing myself and doing more 697 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:33,279 Speaker 5: than I normally would like, I get lost in the 698 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:37,319 Speaker 5: music and I'm just working. And so for me, it's 699 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:40,719 Speaker 5: the music that makes it fun. And even with yoga, 700 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:44,280 Speaker 5: like the yoga classes that I take, I'm intentional about 701 00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:48,760 Speaker 5: selecting classes that have music that I want to listen 702 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:53,080 Speaker 5: to and that match the mood that I'm in or 703 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,799 Speaker 5: the tone that I'm trying to set for my day. 704 00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,520 Speaker 1: Ooh girl, I'm so glad you mentioned music. I don't 705 00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:02,880 Speaker 1: know how I could forget music because that is definitely 706 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 1: so key. There have been times where I've worked out 707 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:09,200 Speaker 1: and I forgot my freaking headphones and I was like, 708 00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:11,359 Speaker 1: and I really felt like I just couldn't put I mean, 709 00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,240 Speaker 1: I did it, but it was a weak ass working 710 00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:17,960 Speaker 1: on right the music I listened to don we now 711 00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:19,920 Speaker 1: so my training and I used to be. It used 712 00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:21,440 Speaker 1: to just be us in the gym in the morning, 713 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,080 Speaker 1: and now other people in there. So I can't play 714 00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:25,759 Speaker 1: on music. The music I play is disgusting. It is 715 00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,880 Speaker 1: so nasty and ratshet and I love it because the 716 00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:32,560 Speaker 1: beats or fire it gets me going so cool. 717 00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:36,040 Speaker 4: Yes, I second that on the music. Yes, the music, 718 00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,840 Speaker 4: and so lady. The final tip that we want to 719 00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:44,840 Speaker 4: bring to you is know that baby steps are perfectly old, 720 00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:52,680 Speaker 4: kay when you particularly when you are just starting out 721 00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:58,000 Speaker 4: or you find yourself in a rut. So for me. 722 00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:03,719 Speaker 5: Again, I'm going I keep referencing yoga because that's the 723 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:07,560 Speaker 5: activity that I am doing on a daily basis now. 724 00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,359 Speaker 5: At the start of the year, when I said, Okay, 725 00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:16,439 Speaker 5: I'm going to start doing yoga again, legit, some mornings, 726 00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:22,200 Speaker 5: five minutes was what I was giving it. Right now, 727 00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:27,200 Speaker 5: thirty minutes is what I'm focused on. 728 00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:31,520 Speaker 4: And then on the weekends I'm doing forty five and 729 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:35,319 Speaker 4: sixty minutes. And for me. 730 00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:41,880 Speaker 5: Doing those five minutes in the beginning helped me to 731 00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:49,799 Speaker 5: get connected and invested in doing the activity. And so 732 00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:55,400 Speaker 5: as you are trying to start a new fitness journey, 733 00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:06,120 Speaker 5: five minutes, give yourself whatever time that you have, and 734 00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:09,040 Speaker 5: by doing so again that helps you get connected and 735 00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:14,480 Speaker 5: invested so that you then keep coming back to it. 736 00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,759 Speaker 5: Because what happened for me is like at first it 737 00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:19,360 Speaker 5: was like, all right, I'm gonna do these five minutes 738 00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,360 Speaker 5: and then I'm done. And then after a few days 739 00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:26,360 Speaker 5: it was like, wait, that doesn't feel like enough, Like okay, 740 00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:31,160 Speaker 5: now I'm used to it, like I need more, And 741 00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:35,960 Speaker 5: then you let yourself build up and then also recognizing 742 00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,640 Speaker 5: that there may be some days again where we're like 743 00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:43,440 Speaker 5: just be licensed, and so you give it five minutes. 744 00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,840 Speaker 4: What about for ut what are your baby steps? 745 00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,560 Speaker 1: Well, first off, Donald, I'm so happy that you mentioned 746 00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:53,920 Speaker 1: that because I think a lot of times we underestimate 747 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,680 Speaker 1: the baby steps and we judge ourselves right, like you 748 00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,839 Speaker 1: were saying earlier how your friend gently corrected you. I'm 749 00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:00,840 Speaker 1: the same way, like there are times I'll do something 750 00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:02,759 Speaker 1: then I'll have to have a you know, a friend 751 00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,080 Speaker 1: of love, one like hold up, let's celebrate what you've done. 752 00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:08,080 Speaker 1: And y'all, we're not preaching today, but there is a 753 00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:11,759 Speaker 1: Bible verse that I really appreciate and go back to 754 00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:15,000 Speaker 1: Austen and it do not despise the days of small beginnings, 755 00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:19,200 Speaker 1: and so don't judge the baby steps. Celebrate that it's 756 00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,240 Speaker 1: worth something, because you know how they say every journey 757 00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,800 Speaker 1: begins with a single step, right, that single step is 758 00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:26,480 Speaker 1: what's gonna get you to the next step. So be 759 00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:31,760 Speaker 1: be gentle with yourself and be compassionate, and sometimes showing 760 00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:33,280 Speaker 1: up is the step. 761 00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:33,759 Speaker 5: Right. 762 00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:38,080 Speaker 1: Sometimes I remember hearing a good friend say how she 763 00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,439 Speaker 1: was trying to work on her gym routine and trying 764 00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:41,880 Speaker 1: to get herself to the gym, and so it was 765 00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:45,200 Speaker 1: a very it was a very long process for her. 766 00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:48,359 Speaker 1: So until sleeping in her gym clothes, which I've done before, 767 00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:50,000 Speaker 1: sleeping in your gym clothes, you can just get up 768 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,040 Speaker 1: in the morning and go. She would drive to the 769 00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,840 Speaker 1: gym every day at whatever time in the morning. She 770 00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:57,000 Speaker 1: was going and she wouldn't even get out. She was 771 00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:58,839 Speaker 1: just getting into the habit of I'm going to drive 772 00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,000 Speaker 1: to the gym, going to drive to the gym and 773 00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,560 Speaker 1: take these baby steps. And then weren't you do that? 774 00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:05,920 Speaker 1: And you're consistent with driving to the gym. Now I'm 775 00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:07,560 Speaker 1: going to get out and I'm going to go work 776 00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:09,960 Speaker 1: out for like you said, five minutes. And it might 777 00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,760 Speaker 1: sound silly to you, but you're building in the habit 778 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:17,239 Speaker 1: that you want to continue, right and build upon. And 779 00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,479 Speaker 1: so I think about that, But I also think about 780 00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:21,040 Speaker 1: all the goals that we've all set, Like when we 781 00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,680 Speaker 1: were babies and we were walking, we didn't give up 782 00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:26,280 Speaker 1: or judge ourselves because we took a couple of steps 783 00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:27,880 Speaker 1: and then we fell, we got back up and we 784 00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:31,239 Speaker 1: tried again. So just don't judge yourself for where you are. 785 00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:34,520 Speaker 1: Put some respect on those baby steps, all right, yes, 786 00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:37,080 Speaker 1: So respect on those baby steps, yes. 787 00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:37,799 Speaker 4: And what I. 788 00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:40,359 Speaker 5: Would also answer to that as you were talking with Key, 789 00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:45,640 Speaker 5: something that came up for me too, is when you 790 00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,319 Speaker 5: take a like when life, when you take a vacation, right, 791 00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:52,759 Speaker 5: because I know for me, I can't speak to nobody else, 792 00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,080 Speaker 5: but I know for me, Oftentimes I don't have the 793 00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,680 Speaker 5: goal of Okay, I'm going on vacation or I'm taking 794 00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,680 Speaker 5: a trip, whether you know, I'm getting outside of my 795 00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:02,640 Speaker 5: normal routine. 796 00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:05,359 Speaker 4: Right I'm not gonna be at home. 797 00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:12,759 Speaker 5: So if I'm gone for a few days, then oftentimes 798 00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:17,920 Speaker 5: that's when the workout routine stopped, because even if I 799 00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:22,440 Speaker 5: did something physical while I was away, getting back into 800 00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,319 Speaker 5: that routine can often be a struggle. And so for me, 801 00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,680 Speaker 5: that's where the baby steps come back into play, because 802 00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:33,560 Speaker 5: it's like, Okay, wait, one, I can do those baby steps. 803 00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:37,200 Speaker 5: I can go back to those baby steps while I'm away. 804 00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:42,399 Speaker 5: So maybe I don't have the jimmy equipment that I'm 805 00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:47,640 Speaker 5: used to, or I don't have the space, but I 806 00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:54,960 Speaker 5: can do one small thing that moves my body for 807 00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,360 Speaker 5: like five minutes. So maybe I don't have the space, 808 00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:59,960 Speaker 5: but maybe as I'm wherever I am, I'm in the back, 809 00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:03,160 Speaker 5: after I'm getting ready, I turn on some music and 810 00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:06,920 Speaker 5: I do some torquing in the mirror, and I have 811 00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,520 Speaker 5: now gotten like a five or ten minute dance break, 812 00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:15,000 Speaker 5: and that was me moving my body, right, And then 813 00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,160 Speaker 5: when I come back home and I'm getting back into 814 00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:24,640 Speaker 5: my routine, give myself five minutes to do something, and 815 00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:29,000 Speaker 5: that allows you to keep the habit going, keep your 816 00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:31,280 Speaker 5: workout and fitness in place. 817 00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:35,719 Speaker 1: That is so good, don That's so good. I think 818 00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:39,719 Speaker 1: about when my trainer went on vacation and baby, I 819 00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:42,759 Speaker 1: was like, oh, it was a reminder for me of like, 820 00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:46,640 Speaker 1: it's great to get support and help, but for me personally, again, 821 00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,160 Speaker 1: this is a personal journey. So it resonates, come on, 822 00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:51,319 Speaker 1: and if it doesn't, you can leave it. But for me, 823 00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:55,120 Speaker 1: I don't ever want to become dependent upon the resource. 824 00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,239 Speaker 1: And so when he was away, it took me a 825 00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:01,640 Speaker 1: while to get into my workouard team solo, but I 826 00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:03,960 Speaker 1: did it, and I posted my own videos on my 827 00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:08,040 Speaker 1: TikTok on my TikTok and I did the workouts right 828 00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:09,719 Speaker 1: in the living room at home and you can check 829 00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,799 Speaker 1: it out. I am Terry Lolax on TikTok. But yeah, 830 00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:14,600 Speaker 1: so I kept up with it because in my mind, 831 00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, wow, if he goes on vacation, or 832 00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:18,560 Speaker 1: let's say he wants to retire, I still need to 833 00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,000 Speaker 1: be committed to this lifestyle. And so I think that's 834 00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:24,040 Speaker 1: super important. Lady, we have a couple reflection questions that 835 00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:25,279 Speaker 1: we want you to think about, and then we're going 836 00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:28,160 Speaker 1: to jump into the after show, so be sure to 837 00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:31,520 Speaker 1: head on over to Herspace podcast dot com, click on 838 00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,880 Speaker 1: Wisdom Wednesday with Terry or Patreon in our page and 839 00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:37,560 Speaker 1: you can get access to exclusive content in our weekly 840 00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,000 Speaker 1: after show and all that good stuff. So the first 841 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,279 Speaker 1: question is which of the seven tips resonates with you 842 00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:45,239 Speaker 1: the most, and we're going to revisit those tips so 843 00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:47,920 Speaker 1: you can kind of get them all in order and 844 00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,880 Speaker 1: how can you apply these tips to your fitness journey. 845 00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:55,440 Speaker 1: The second question is what specific mental blocks do you 846 00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:58,239 Speaker 1: identify with and how do they impact your goals? So 847 00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:01,920 Speaker 1: think about those internal convers that you're having. And then 848 00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:03,520 Speaker 1: the next question kind of leads on to that, and 849 00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:06,360 Speaker 1: it's what are the top five statements I say to 850 00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:11,080 Speaker 1: myself on a consistent basis. Ooh, that is a hell 851 00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,040 Speaker 1: of a question, right there. Domina are going to share 852 00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:17,120 Speaker 1: our answers to these questions or some of them in 853 00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:18,560 Speaker 1: the after show, but we're going to go ahead and 854 00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:23,120 Speaker 1: do a quick recap of our tips and then we're 855 00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,239 Speaker 1: going to jump into the after show. 856 00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:28,720 Speaker 5: So let's do it, Dona, all right, So the seven 857 00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:36,320 Speaker 5: tips focus on moving your body. Find a physical activity 858 00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:40,960 Speaker 5: that you enjoy, do it at a time and place 859 00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:46,719 Speaker 5: that works for you. Monitor and adjust your mental dialogue, 860 00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:53,480 Speaker 5: seek professional guidance, Bake some fun into your fitness journey, 861 00:50:54,960 --> 00:51:01,160 Speaker 5: and know that baby steps are perfectly okay. Catch us 862 00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:01,919 Speaker 5: in the after show. 863 00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:05,360 Speaker 3: Thanks for joining us today. 864 00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:11,840 Speaker 4: Please note that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice, 865 00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:16,680 Speaker 4: self empowerment, and mental health, but is by no means 866 00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:20,600 Speaker 4: meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal relationship 867 00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:24,680 Speaker 4: with a trained mental health provider. 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