WEBVTT - Ep. 191 — When Bae Doesn't Like That You Earn More 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:22.360 Hey, hey, Hey, I feel a fresh We're back, We're black, 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:23.239 we're brown ambition. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:29.040 Hey hey, Mandy, Hey, I need my own thing. You're hey. 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:30.400 Hey hey, I'm just saying hey. 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:34.960 So up, Hey, it's up. 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:35.720 Hi. 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:37.519 You had a big weekend. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:38.840 I did. 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:43.440 I went to Chicago for Lovey's wedding. She married this 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:47.199 awesome guy named Carnell. It was cute because his last 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:49.720 name is Jones, so the hashtag was love Jones. 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:50.120 Get it? 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.960 Does anyone not know who love he is at this point? 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:56.000 Those who might be living under a rock. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:57.560 But we call her cultural icon. 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:02.200 Yeah, she's a social comment her and so yes, that's 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:03.880 what I would call her, like if you have to 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:04.440 call her anything. 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:05.080 But she's a writer. 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:09.880 She's an awesome podcast, two of them. She just Yes, 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:13.280 she's a social commentar and people typically hire her to 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.400 share kind of like what many of us are thinking 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:18.319 but would not dare to say. 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:19.640 And she's like, I'm going to. 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:21.880 Say it professional hot taker. 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:25.640 Yes, no, but honestly it was it was dope because 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.480 Superman came with me. It was in the shy of course, 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.160 it was rainy and cold, except for the day we 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:31.559 were leaving. 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:32.559 I was like, oh, that's great. 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:36.959 But it was nice because she had a mixer. She 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.840 had a traditional wedding, which Superman had never been to, 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.560 and then she had what we call the white wedding, 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.760 which just because she wears the white dress, so she 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.000 had the traditional in the white wedding on the same day. 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:48.840 So that's what I was waiting to see a picture 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:51.520 of her in the traditional. Oh it was the same day. Yeah, 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:51.880 I saw that. 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:52.840 Well, how was it the same day? 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.080 But it's been like a twelve hour wedding because the 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:58.040 traditional wedding takes I went to one before and it 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:00.520 was like, well, I mean it was supposed to be 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:05.360 from four to ten, but to start till like eight o'clock. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:09.919 Yeah, that's about right. It said, we're not doing niage 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:11.400 time Nigerian times. 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:14.720 For those unfamiliar, it's like it's like a it's the 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:15.480 extension of. 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.200 CP time, like way extended way. 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:20.480 So CEEP time is like, oh, half an hour, forty 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:24.000 five minutes, maybe an hour. NIGEA time is straight two, three, 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.919 four or five hours. But no people people largely came 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:28.960 on time because she said we're not playing that, and 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:33.519 so it started about a hour late. But that's actually 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.840 pretty good for Niga time, but it was honestly, it 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:37.160 was awesome to see the colors. 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.760 So the way a traditional. 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:42.960 Nigerian wedding goes, so if if we were living in Nigeria, 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:45.880 they consider Nigerian's considered once you do the traditional wedding, 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:47.959 that you're married, whether you do the right wedding or not, 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.080 because the way it works is that really women are 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:57.040 considered like this gift and then the groom's family has 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.920 to come to the women's compound. 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:00.960 So a compound is. 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:05.000 Like basically like you, your family, your extended family live 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:08.840 in like typically a compound or a village. So if 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.840 I were to go to like my village, almost everyone's 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.840 like an elite and then next door to that is 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.280 like maybe my mom's village where everyone is at Ugara 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:18.079 that's her maiden name. And this is one of the 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.600 ways that Africans like you know, prevented intermarrying and like 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:24.400 you know marinual first, second, third, because we didn't do 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:28.200 all that. So anyway, so during a traditional wedding in 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:32.840 the actual village, the family would actually like come physically 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:36.960 like walk over to the woman's village and basically have 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.840 to prove themselves worthy that yes, we can take care 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:42.480 of your daughter that you are bestowing upon us, and 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:44.920 yes we are. You know, we know that this is 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.480 a gift that you're that you're sharing with us, and 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:49.600 so you kind of like reenact that during a traditional 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:53.040 wedding where like the women's the women's family wears like 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:57.080 the same color or the same fabric and they dance 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.960 in and then the man's family wears the same tabcant 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.080 and they dancing and then they kind of re enact 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:06.560 coming into the compound and asking for the woman and 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:08.080 like you know what they're willing to do, and yes, 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:10.440 we're able to take care of her, and there's like 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:12.839 this like kind of like switching over where the woman 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.400 then joined the man's family. 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:16.760 It's just really beautiful, honestly. 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:19.520 It's just a lot of history and really beautiful, and 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:21.440 it was, Yeah, I tried to do as much if 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.520 you followed my ig it's gone now, but I tried 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.760 to do as much recording of it as possible so 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:27.640 people can kind of see. 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.520 But it was it was just beautiful array of colors. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.520 And then that was maybe like from eight thirty to 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:36.840 like I don't know, noon, and then we all went 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.400 back to the hotel, took a nap, and then came 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:43.080 back for the ceremony, the white wedding, just meeting, like 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:46.520 the white dressed ceremony at like five. So it was honestly, 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:47.159 really beautiful. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:49.000 It was a great time. 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:52.320 The colors were amazing, Yes, you guys looked amazing. I 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:53.920 love the gold, Yeah. 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:56.240 Because her colors were like gold and there was some 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:59.440 blue in there and then there was in burgundy. 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.080 But yeah, it was good because because Carnell is he's 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.880 African American, so I just thought that, you know, it 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.080 was so nice, you know because you know, when you're 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:10.360 you have two different cultures figuring out how you're going 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:14.560 to make it, so each side feels like they're participating. 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.200 So yeah, it was just like, honestly, it was really dope. 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:20.200 But what was super fun was honestly, from the first 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.039 day that I got there, someone came out to me 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:24.880 and they were like, oh my god, are you Tiffany 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:29.040 from Brown Ambition? And I was like, what, Yes, not 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.839 Tiffany the Budget lista, but Tiffany from Brown Ambition. That 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.159 happened like four times, and I was like, wow, I 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:35.920 mean there are other people that came up to me 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.800 like because Superman and I go on to like shopping 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:42.479 and eating all this kind of stuff, and so people 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:45.360 came up to me definitely saying, oh, but Janista, But like, 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:48.640 this was the first time that so many people were like, no, 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:54.080 Tiffany from Brown Ambition and shout out to Brooklyn, young black, 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.679 amazing young man who he's like twenty one or twenty 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.160 two that I was coming out of the hotel. 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:01.920 I was staying at the corn Rad Chicago, and he was. 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:06.480 Like, wait a minute, no way to today. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.920 I heard on your podcast that you were going to 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:10.680 be here. I was like, wait what you listened to 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:12.320 Part a Bush And he's like, that's how I know you. 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:14.560 And he was like so amped, and I was giving 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:17.320 him financial advice, but he totally loves the podcast. 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:18.479 Shout out to you, Brooklyn. 0:06:18.520 --> 0:06:22.159 And honestly, it was just so awesome because that's probably 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.600 was probably the first man it's ever kind of like 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:27.360 stopped me and said, oh my god, I'm a Round 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:27.960 Ambition fan. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.360 So that was really dope. I know we're out here 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:31.200 in these streets. 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:33.839 We need to do a show in shy Town apparently. 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.039 Yeah. No, Honestly, it was really really awesome. 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.040 I just couldn't because you know, when we're on here, 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:40.760 I'm like, well, manage just we will talk beforehand, some 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.400 pus we'll talk after, and I will totally forget. They're like, oh, 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.479 we're table to podcast because I'm like, oh, I'm talking 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.960 to Mandy and then I'm like, oh wait, people listen. 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:50.720 Y'all be listening. Keep it up. 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:53.640 They listen. They quote us on Twitter, people quoted me 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.080 back to myself. I'm like, okay, be careful now. Actually, 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:59.320 people want to know if you have made any progress 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:02.000 hiring your executive assistant. After last week's show, where we 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:03.680 talked about if you haven't listened to it yet, you 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:07.480 got to hear the story of Tiffany's executive admin who 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:09.720 was fired in less than twenty five hours. Twenty four hours, 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:11.320 twenty five hours? What kind of what? 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:13.560 Yes? What of my employees hit you up? She said, 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:17.680 you're savage, but I was like no. She was like 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:19.760 she didn't know it had to be done, and I 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:22.840 felt so bad. But honestly, I didn't realize how many 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.520 y'all really listen, Manny. 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:29.160 I was so flooded with admin't we haven't even gotten 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.760 through all of them yet, Like from almost instantly, so 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:34.400 I'm like, oh, one or two, oh, but oh thirty offen. 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:35.360 I mean flooded. 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.239 So for those of you who shot me a message 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:42.680 on the budgetiesa dot com, my COEO is going through 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.320 them and you know she's gonna sw I guess she's 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.360 sending out like, you know, whatever our requirements are, and 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:49.040 then she'll start interviewing. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.360 But thank you so much. Honestly, I'm like, wow, you. 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.440 Know you say things and you're like at people out there. Uh, 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:57.760 they're out there and they're listening. So yeah, if definitely 0:07:57.880 --> 0:07:59.240 you if you hit me up like I asked you 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:03.680 to be a social media but the budgetiesa dot com 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.960 and the contact me button, then someone's going to reach 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:06.360 out to you. 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:09.480 So thank you guys, Yes, thank you for specifying that. 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:11.640 Not don't go to our Instagram and try to apply. 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.800 That's not the proper routes. There's no forward button, go 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:20.400 to the budget is budgets dot com to the contact. 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:21.160 And then somebody will send you like an email with 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:21.920 like mixed steps. 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:24.080 I mean, I'm pretty sure right now we have tons 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:25.840 of I mean, you can still apply, I guess if 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:28.240 you'd like. But but yes, for those who just because 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.680 some people hit me up just on I g you know, 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:34.600 well meaning like hey girl, and I'm like, sis, I 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.000 gave one set of instructions already you hit me up 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:37.559 in a way. 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:39.480 Don't tell them this is the screen or question. This 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.040 is how you. You don't want to hire anyone who 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:44.160 can't listen to directions, you know how, like on your 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:47.400 dating profile. You never online dated probably, but back in 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.679 the day, back in the day when I was on 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:52.880 the internets looking for love, you would try and like 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:55.280 put something in your profile that people had to mention 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.640 them when they when they messaged you, just to like 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.599 weed out people who wouldn't read your profile were just 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:03.600 clicking on like your pretty face or whatever. Yeah, so 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.560 you need like the same kind of thing, like a 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.720 little uh, I don't know, like a little a little 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:12.520 hidden gem that only really only really detail oriented people, 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:13.400 which is what you need. 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:18.840 We'll find you're like, yeah, down, listen already, Okay, what 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:19.280 about you? 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:20.280 How was your weekend? 0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:25.760 The weekend was exhausting, exhausting. I went to see I 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:28.800 went to see Mulin Rouge, the Broadway musical, so I 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:30.520 was so excited about it was really really good. I 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:32.920 mean it really it was camp be af, like I 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:34.800 wish I had a couple of cocktails, but it was. 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:37.480 It was good, so much glitter, so much sparkle. Went 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.240 with a couple of girlfriends, and then I spent. I 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:43.280 literally did not leave my house yesterday, and I somehow 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:46.800 did close to twelve thousand steps in a single day 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:49.959 just cleaning and cooking. I mean, I was so tired 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.040 and sore. I can't do that anymore. I don't think 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:54.720 I was like so tired and so sore, but I 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.520 just have been in this this I don't know. I 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.480 guess the nesting mode of just wanting everything to be 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:02.560 organized and perfect and clean, and uh yeah, it was 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:06.800 like a little tornado yesterday has bi. I'm I feel 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.960 kind of guilty, but I we got a quote to 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.920 paint the nursery, like the couple of spare bedrooms upstairs, 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.200 including what will be the nursery, and it was you know, 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.600 it wasn't insane. It was like twelve hundred dollars, which 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:20.680 it's not just painting. It's like we had to replace 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.280 a bunch of doors. I won't get into it, but anyway, 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.199 I was like, we can save a thousand dollars by 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:29.959 uh you painting, so you're gonna go get a paint 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:33.640 brush because, uh, it just seems so simple to me. 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:36.600 Of course you can paint your future child's nursery, but 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:41.120 that was two weeks ago and lots of angry you know, 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:43.800 yells from him upstairs. Later it just became a way 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.920 bigger anyone who's ever painted on your own. Yeah, it's 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:50.480 not just painting. It's like the pep, it's standing. It's 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:53.560 like a million things. And I just am so tired 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:57.400 of him complaining about how hard it is that we 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.920 got we we managed to finish will, he managed to 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:03.199 finished the baby's room, and I've caved in and we're 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:04.920 gonna just hire painters to. 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:08.400 Yeah, I think when I'm learning, that's something that I'm learning, Like, 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:10.760 it's one thing when you're like broke, I get it 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:13.480 because i'd be like, so I'll be doing my own hair. Thanks, 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:15.480 because I'm still trying to figure out how I'm gonna 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:16.600 pay for this food. 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:20.360 But it's taken me a long time. 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:22.120 I feel like it's only within the last maybe like 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:26.120 year that I and even still but take. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:26.559 Me a long time. 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:29.440 Do you find yourself like like it's really Angelie, my 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.079 financial Advisor. She's like Tiffany because I was like, yeah, 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.160 me and jer I gotta cut this cable off. She said, 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.240 is it because you don't use it or you think 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:39.760 that you can't afford it. I'm like, I reasonably know 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:41.840 we can afford it, but it just seems like a lot. 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:47.000 She's like, okay, so, but you're right. 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:51.240 There's some things where it actually doesn't make sense for 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:54.400 you to do it yourself because of either the stress 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:58.199 or the Yeah. Painting is like I mistakenly offered for 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:00.480 my parents that we were going to paint there their 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.560 their guest bedroom, which is in the basement. I'm like, oh, 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:05.000 manje I can do it together, Samana and I have 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:07.240 it'd be fun. Three days later, he was like, so 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:11.600 you and your suggestions we never got out because it's 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:15.240 just so I'm just learning now about certain things, like 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.160 because I was thinking to myself, I'm going to I 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:19.199 don't know if I'll do task rabbit or maybe I'll 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:21.720 just hire like someone who's basically going to be like 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:23.880 my errand person. I was just thinking about that today 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:25.400 on the plane because I was like, oh, I gotta 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:27.160 return this and I gotta and I'm like, I have 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.800 so much other like business work to do, and I 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:32.280 was thinking to myself, Tiffy, you have to return this 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:33.480 Amazon stuff. 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:35.000 You gotta you know, there's. 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:36.280 All these little things like you want to return those 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:39.959 genes to Target. But I'm like, why wouldn't it be 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.080 better if you just had like an errand person come 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.559 to the house once a week and you give them 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:49.520 these kind of like nonsensical errands that don't require you 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.079 to do that. Because I'm listening and. 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:54.480 This is a good a good Uh. 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.560 Netflix has this great documentary about inside the mind of 0:12:57.559 --> 0:13:01.320 Bill Gates, and one of things that really struck me 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.959 about why he was so successful was that he is 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:06.400 so focused. 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:10.440 He uses all of his energy for a singular focus. 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:13.120 Now I don't want to do all that because Bill 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.480 Gates's borderline, you know, crazy when it comes to that. 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:18.040 But I do know that I spread myself too thin 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:21.760 and some of those things are really like do I 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:23.400 have to go to Target to return these genes? 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:25.880 No? I do not. Someone can do that, Tiffany for you. 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.080 So I'm learning that, like, I'm not broke anymore, and 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:32.280 it's okay to spend money to make life a little 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:35.640 easier instead of running every single, solitary minw Err and 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:38.240 myself on top of trying to like run a business. 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:41.720 You know, yes, I hear you, and my husband would 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.840 be nodding his head probably like breaking his neck right 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:45.960 now if he hears you, because he's He's all he 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.200 keeps saying is man, we could have professionals come been 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:51.040 done in forty eight hours. And you know, because I've 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.000 been getting onto him because we I forced him to 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:55.680 come visit his cousin, you know, some of our friends 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.680 this weekend because he's just been in the nursery like 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.840 painting or doing whatever he's do would make a noise 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:02.800 for the past two or three weekends, and I'm like, 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:04.520 are we just not going to have a life anymore? 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:05.960 You're just gonna be up there all the time. Why 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.480 can't you go faster? And you know you can imagine 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:13.160 his reaction to that. So I ga, we're gonna hire 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:17.200 the painters. But we did at least finish the paint 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:19.760 in the in the in the fetus's room, so we're 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:20.560 excited about that. 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:24.240 So for the baby, did you is it like the room? 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:26.200 Is it close to the master bedroom? Because all like 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:28.080 the moms I know is like you're not gonna want 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:29.960 the baby to be far because I almost like we 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.200 have like a I turned into my office now, but 0:14:32.240 --> 0:14:34.040 I was gonna put the nursery on the second floor 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:34.840 and we're on the third floor. 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.440 Every mom's like, girl, by, that's not how that. 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.800 Works, Like right, well, we don't really have a choice. 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:42.840 And I know, ideally you would have the nursery on 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.240 the same level, but our house is small. It's not 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:47.800 even if it's it's upstairs, but it's not far, like 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:50.440 literally it's right outside of our door. But you know, the 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:52.120 first six months I have And that's why we're not 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:54.080 rushing the nursery either. I'm not I don't have any 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.760 grand plans to make sure it's perfectly decorated and instagram ready. 0:14:57.840 --> 0:15:00.720 I just want paint and uh for nature in there 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:02.480 because it's going to be in our room for the 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:05.160 first six months, right, you know, attached to the bed. 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:08.560 So I'm actually switching to work on we I'm like, 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:10.680 we need to be focusing on our little triage center 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:12.320 in our bedroom, like where are we going to change 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:13.920 the diapers? And where am I going to rest feed? 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.720 And and like making that little that little baby nook 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:21.120 in the bedroom now that's our plan. That's ah. But 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.080 coming down, like we're nine weeks out now and the 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.600 serious conversations around child care needs to be happening, and 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:30.080 pediatricians needs to be booked, and. 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:36.720 You're writing this baby, it's like it's like a business. 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:38.520 You're like, so you can tell you it's. 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:40.840 So type like my therapist that it's very healthy how 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:42.080 I'm handling it, thank you very much. 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.840 No, it's just being organized, honestly, you know, I'm like, wow, 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.760 where I'd be Like I had one sister that I 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:51.800 was like, did you even get a cribbey at? Because 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.520 it was her second So she was like, yeah, so 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.440 I happen to do that this weekend. I'm like that 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.080 Babby's doing this weekend. 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:03.200 Well, like baby one bass baby too. There's a big difference, 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:03.600 I know. 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:05.880 I know, well my brother was baby four, so I 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:07.720 we just we still hear him complaining about how he 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:10.920 has no photos of himself as a child because my 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:13.640 parents were tired by then. But uh no, I mean, 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.760 I've honestly been procrastinating until this point. I kept saying 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.160 I'm gonna wait till like eight weeks out because I've 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:21.800 been trying to just focus on I don't know, baby 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:25.000 moon and traveling and my selfish my selfish things that 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.840 I wanted to get done before the kid comes. But 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:31.000 now it's like go time. I just don't want to 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:32.800 be caught in a frenzy. And now that I'm getting 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.360 more the third trimester is real. There is a difference. 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:38.440 I feel different now. I'm definitely feeling tired and pregnant, 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:41.920 and I'm like, need to get stuff done before my 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.520 energy is depleted even further. Like I give myself a 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:46.840 pat in the back if I walk the dog in 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:47.280 the morning. 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.360 The dogs shit you differently when you're pregnant. 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:55.640 My husband says, she's just sniffing for crumbs, but she 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.400 she does lay her head on my tummy sometimes. My 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.720 husband's like, she's probably just looking for crumb. But no, 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:02.800 I think I've heard from women. I've heard from other 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:05.439 women that their dog sometimes it can be bad, like 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.040 sometimes the dogs can like we'll start getting territorial and 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:12.160 like peeing randomly and acting out and stuff. But not really, 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.639 there hasn't been a change. However, did I tell you 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:17.080 guys that we have we decided to hire a dog 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:21.600 trainer to get Molly in shape. Yeah, so on my 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:24.320 list of pre baby things is so, we have a dog, Mollie, 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:26.639 and if you guys out there have children and pets 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:28.560 or had a pet before you had your first child, 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:31.159 I'm open to anything, any advice you guys have. But 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:34.000 Mollie is she's almost two years, but she's still very 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:37.320 puppyish and we've only had her since February, and she 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:40.639 does have some behavioral issues. So we and I just 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.760 got paranoid that baby would come and Molly would become 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:46.639 problematic and step on the baby or bark at the 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:50.000 baby or something, you know. So we found we searched 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.879 and searched and found a really nice training service in 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:56.760 our area, which is expensive upfront, it's twelve hundred dollars, 0:17:56.840 --> 0:17:59.399 but you get the trainer for the lifetime of the dog. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:01.280 So we dow. 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:03.960 Yeah, and I've heard from so many people, well okay, 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:07.919 three people who've paid for like upwards of two thousand 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.840