Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, I feel a fresh We're back, We're black,
Speaker 1: we're brown ambition.
Speaker 2: Hey hey, Mandy, Hey, I need my own thing. You're hey.
Speaker 2: Hey hey, I'm just saying hey.
Speaker 1: So up, Hey, it's up.
Speaker 3: Hi.
Speaker 2: You had a big weekend.
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 1: I went to Chicago for Lovey's wedding. She married this
Speaker 1: awesome guy named Carnell. It was cute because his last
Speaker 1: name is Jones, so the hashtag was love Jones.
Speaker 3: Get it?
Speaker 2: Does anyone not know who love he is at this point?
Speaker 3: Those who might be living under a rock.
Speaker 2: But we call her cultural icon.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a social comment her and so yes, that's
Speaker 1: what I would call her, like if you have to
Speaker 1: call her anything.
Speaker 3: But she's a writer.
Speaker 1: She's an awesome podcast, two of them. She just Yes,
Speaker 1: she's a social commentar and people typically hire her to
Speaker 1: share kind of like what many of us are thinking
Speaker 1: but would not dare to say.
Speaker 3: And she's like, I'm going to.
Speaker 2: Say it professional hot taker.
Speaker 1: Yes, no, but honestly it was it was dope because
Speaker 1: Superman came with me. It was in the shy of course,
Speaker 1: it was rainy and cold, except for the day we
Speaker 1: were leaving.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, that's great.
Speaker 1: But it was nice because she had a mixer. She
Speaker 1: had a traditional wedding, which Superman had never been to,
Speaker 1: and then she had what we call the white wedding,
Speaker 1: which just because she wears the white dress, so she
Speaker 1: had the traditional in the white wedding on the same day.
Speaker 2: So that's what I was waiting to see a picture
Speaker 2: of her in the traditional. Oh it was the same day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I saw that.
Speaker 3: Well, how was it the same day?
Speaker 2: But it's been like a twelve hour wedding because the
Speaker 2: traditional wedding takes I went to one before and it
Speaker 2: was like, well, I mean it was supposed to be
Speaker 2: from four to ten, but to start till like eight o'clock.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's about right. It said, we're not doing niage
Speaker 3: time Nigerian times.
Speaker 1: For those unfamiliar, it's like it's like a it's the
Speaker 1: extension of.
Speaker 2: CP time, like way extended way.
Speaker 1: So CEEP time is like, oh, half an hour, forty
Speaker 1: five minutes, maybe an hour. NIGEA time is straight two, three,
Speaker 1: four or five hours. But no people people largely came
Speaker 1: on time because she said we're not playing that, and
Speaker 1: so it started about a hour late. But that's actually
Speaker 1: pretty good for Niga time, but it was honestly, it
Speaker 1: was awesome to see the colors.
Speaker 3: So the way a traditional.
Speaker 1: Nigerian wedding goes, so if if we were living in Nigeria,
Speaker 1: they consider Nigerian's considered once you do the traditional wedding,
Speaker 1: that you're married, whether you do the right wedding or not,
Speaker 1: because the way it works is that really women are
Speaker 1: considered like this gift and then the groom's family has
Speaker 1: to come to the women's compound.
Speaker 3: So a compound is.
Speaker 1: Like basically like you, your family, your extended family live
Speaker 1: in like typically a compound or a village. So if
Speaker 1: I were to go to like my village, almost everyone's
Speaker 1: like an elite and then next door to that is
Speaker 1: like maybe my mom's village where everyone is at Ugara
Speaker 1: that's her maiden name. And this is one of the
Speaker 1: ways that Africans like you know, prevented intermarrying and like
Speaker 1: you know marinual first, second, third, because we didn't do
Speaker 1: all that. So anyway, so during a traditional wedding in
Speaker 1: the actual village, the family would actually like come physically
Speaker 1: like walk over to the woman's village and basically have
Speaker 1: to prove themselves worthy that yes, we can take care
Speaker 1: of your daughter that you are bestowing upon us, and
Speaker 1: yes we are. You know, we know that this is
Speaker 1: a gift that you're that you're sharing with us, and
Speaker 1: so you kind of like reenact that during a traditional
Speaker 1: wedding where like the women's the women's family wears like
Speaker 1: the same color or the same fabric and they dance
Speaker 1: in and then the man's family wears the same tabcant
Speaker 1: and they dancing and then they kind of re enact
Speaker 1: coming into the compound and asking for the woman and
Speaker 1: like you know what they're willing to do, and yes,
Speaker 1: we're able to take care of her, and there's like
Speaker 1: this like kind of like switching over where the woman
Speaker 1: then joined the man's family.
Speaker 3: It's just really beautiful, honestly.
Speaker 1: It's just a lot of history and really beautiful, and
Speaker 1: it was, Yeah, I tried to do as much if
Speaker 1: you followed my ig it's gone now, but I tried
Speaker 1: to do as much recording of it as possible so
Speaker 1: people can kind of see.
Speaker 3: But it was it was just beautiful array of colors.
Speaker 1: And then that was maybe like from eight thirty to
Speaker 1: like I don't know, noon, and then we all went
Speaker 1: back to the hotel, took a nap, and then came
Speaker 1: back for the ceremony, the white wedding, just meeting, like
Speaker 1: the white dressed ceremony at like five. So it was honestly,
Speaker 1: really beautiful.
Speaker 3: It was a great time.
Speaker 2: The colors were amazing, Yes, you guys looked amazing. I
Speaker 2: love the gold, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Because her colors were like gold and there was some
Speaker 3: blue in there and then there was in burgundy.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it was good because because Carnell is he's
Speaker 1: African American, so I just thought that, you know, it
Speaker 1: was so nice, you know because you know, when you're
Speaker 1: you have two different cultures figuring out how you're going
Speaker 1: to make it, so each side feels like they're participating.
Speaker 3: So yeah, it was just like, honestly, it was really dope.
Speaker 1: But what was super fun was honestly, from the first
Speaker 1: day that I got there, someone came out to me
Speaker 1: and they were like, oh my god, are you Tiffany
Speaker 1: from Brown Ambition? And I was like, what, Yes, not
Speaker 1: Tiffany the Budget lista, but Tiffany from Brown Ambition. That
Speaker 1: happened like four times, and I was like, wow, I
Speaker 1: mean there are other people that came up to me
Speaker 1: like because Superman and I go on to like shopping
Speaker 1: and eating all this kind of stuff, and so people
Speaker 1: came up to me definitely saying, oh, but Janista, But like,
Speaker 1: this was the first time that so many people were like, no,
Speaker 1: Tiffany from Brown Ambition and shout out to Brooklyn, young black,
Speaker 1: amazing young man who he's like twenty one or twenty
Speaker 1: two that I was coming out of the hotel.
Speaker 3: I was staying at the corn Rad Chicago, and he was.
Speaker 2: Like, wait a minute, no way to today.
Speaker 3: I heard on your podcast that you were going to
Speaker 3: be here. I was like, wait what you listened to
Speaker 3: Part a Bush And he's like, that's how I know you.
Speaker 1: And he was like so amped, and I was giving
Speaker 1: him financial advice, but he totally loves the podcast.
Speaker 3: Shout out to you, Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: And honestly, it was just so awesome because that's probably
Speaker 1: was probably the first man it's ever kind of like
Speaker 1: stopped me and said, oh my god, I'm a Round
Speaker 1: Ambition fan.
Speaker 3: So that was really dope. I know we're out here
Speaker 3: in these streets.
Speaker 2: We need to do a show in shy Town apparently.
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, Honestly, it was really really awesome.
Speaker 1: I just couldn't because you know, when we're on here,
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, manage just we will talk beforehand, some
Speaker 1: pus we'll talk after, and I will totally forget. They're like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're table to podcast because I'm like, oh, I'm talking
Speaker 1: to Mandy and then I'm like, oh wait, people listen.
Speaker 3: Y'all be listening. Keep it up.
Speaker 2: They listen. They quote us on Twitter, people quoted me
Speaker 2: back to myself. I'm like, okay, be careful now. Actually,
Speaker 2: people want to know if you have made any progress
Speaker 2: hiring your executive assistant. After last week's show, where we
Speaker 2: talked about if you haven't listened to it yet, you
Speaker 2: got to hear the story of Tiffany's executive admin who
Speaker 2: was fired in less than twenty five hours. Twenty four hours,
Speaker 2: twenty five hours? What kind of what?
Speaker 3: Yes? What of my employees hit you up? She said,
Speaker 3: you're savage, but I was like no. She was like
Speaker 3: she didn't know it had to be done, and I
Speaker 3: felt so bad. But honestly, I didn't realize how many
Speaker 3: y'all really listen, Manny.
Speaker 1: I was so flooded with admin't we haven't even gotten
Speaker 1: through all of them yet, Like from almost instantly, so
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, one or two, oh, but oh thirty offen.
Speaker 3: I mean flooded.
Speaker 1: So for those of you who shot me a message
Speaker 1: on the budgetiesa dot com, my COEO is going through
Speaker 1: them and you know she's gonna sw I guess she's
Speaker 1: sending out like, you know, whatever our requirements are, and
Speaker 1: then she'll start interviewing.
Speaker 3: But thank you so much. Honestly, I'm like, wow, you.
Speaker 1: Know you say things and you're like at people out there. Uh,
Speaker 1: they're out there and they're listening. So yeah, if definitely
Speaker 1: you if you hit me up like I asked you
Speaker 1: to be a social media but the budgetiesa dot com
Speaker 1: and the contact me button, then someone's going to reach
Speaker 1: out to you.
Speaker 2: So thank you guys, Yes, thank you for specifying that.
Speaker 2: Not don't go to our Instagram and try to apply.
Speaker 2: That's not the proper routes. There's no forward button, go
Speaker 2: to the budget is budgets dot com to the contact.
Speaker 3: And then somebody will send you like an email with
Speaker 3: like mixed steps.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm pretty sure right now we have tons
Speaker 1: of I mean, you can still apply, I guess if
Speaker 1: you'd like. But but yes, for those who just because
Speaker 1: some people hit me up just on I g you know,
Speaker 1: well meaning like hey girl, and I'm like, sis, I
Speaker 1: gave one set of instructions already you hit me up
Speaker 1: in a way.
Speaker 2: Don't tell them this is the screen or question. This
Speaker 2: is how you. You don't want to hire anyone who
Speaker 2: can't listen to directions, you know how, like on your
Speaker 2: dating profile. You never online dated probably, but back in
Speaker 2: the day, back in the day when I was on
Speaker 2: the internets looking for love, you would try and like
Speaker 2: put something in your profile that people had to mention
Speaker 2: them when they when they messaged you, just to like
Speaker 2: weed out people who wouldn't read your profile were just
Speaker 2: clicking on like your pretty face or whatever. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: you need like the same kind of thing, like a
Speaker 2: little uh, I don't know, like a little a little
Speaker 2: hidden gem that only really only really detail oriented people,
Speaker 2: which is what you need.
Speaker 1: We'll find you're like, yeah, down, listen already, Okay, what
Speaker 1: about you?
Speaker 3: How was your weekend?
Speaker 2: The weekend was exhausting, exhausting. I went to see I
Speaker 2: went to see Mulin Rouge, the Broadway musical, so I
Speaker 2: was so excited about it was really really good. I
Speaker 2: mean it really it was camp be af, like I
Speaker 2: wish I had a couple of cocktails, but it was.
Speaker 2: It was good, so much glitter, so much sparkle. Went
Speaker 2: with a couple of girlfriends, and then I spent. I
Speaker 2: literally did not leave my house yesterday, and I somehow
Speaker 2: did close to twelve thousand steps in a single day
Speaker 2: just cleaning and cooking. I mean, I was so tired
Speaker 2: and sore. I can't do that anymore. I don't think
Speaker 2: I was like so tired and so sore, but I
Speaker 2: just have been in this this I don't know. I
Speaker 2: guess the nesting mode of just wanting everything to be
Speaker 2: organized and perfect and clean, and uh yeah, it was
Speaker 2: like a little tornado yesterday has bi. I'm I feel
Speaker 2: kind of guilty, but I we got a quote to
Speaker 2: paint the nursery, like the couple of spare bedrooms upstairs,
Speaker 2: including what will be the nursery, and it was you know,
Speaker 2: it wasn't insane. It was like twelve hundred dollars, which
Speaker 2: it's not just painting. It's like we had to replace
Speaker 2: a bunch of doors. I won't get into it, but anyway,
Speaker 2: I was like, we can save a thousand dollars by
Speaker 2: uh you painting, so you're gonna go get a paint
Speaker 2: brush because, uh, it just seems so simple to me.
Speaker 2: Of course you can paint your future child's nursery, but
Speaker 2: that was two weeks ago and lots of angry you know,
Speaker 2: yells from him upstairs. Later it just became a way
Speaker 2: bigger anyone who's ever painted on your own. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: not just painting. It's like the pep, it's standing. It's
Speaker 2: like a million things. And I just am so tired
Speaker 2: of him complaining about how hard it is that we
Speaker 2: got we we managed to finish will, he managed to
Speaker 2: finished the baby's room, and I've caved in and we're
Speaker 2: gonna just hire painters to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think when I'm learning, that's something that I'm learning, Like,
Speaker 1: it's one thing when you're like broke, I get it
Speaker 1: because i'd be like, so I'll be doing my own hair. Thanks,
Speaker 1: because I'm still trying to figure out how I'm gonna
Speaker 1: pay for this food.
Speaker 3: But it's taken me a long time.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's only within the last maybe like
Speaker 1: year that I and even still but take.
Speaker 3: Me a long time.
Speaker 1: Do you find yourself like like it's really Angelie, my
Speaker 1: financial Advisor. She's like Tiffany because I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: me and jer I gotta cut this cable off. She said,
Speaker 1: is it because you don't use it or you think
Speaker 1: that you can't afford it. I'm like, I reasonably know
Speaker 1: we can afford it, but it just seems like a lot.
Speaker 3: She's like, okay, so, but you're right.
Speaker 1: There's some things where it actually doesn't make sense for
Speaker 1: you to do it yourself because of either the stress
Speaker 1: or the Yeah. Painting is like I mistakenly offered for
Speaker 1: my parents that we were going to paint there their
Speaker 1: their guest bedroom, which is in the basement. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: manje I can do it together, Samana and I have
Speaker 1: it'd be fun. Three days later, he was like, so
Speaker 1: you and your suggestions we never got out because it's
Speaker 1: just so I'm just learning now about certain things, like
Speaker 1: because I was thinking to myself, I'm going to I
Speaker 1: don't know if I'll do task rabbit or maybe I'll
Speaker 1: just hire like someone who's basically going to be like
Speaker 1: my errand person. I was just thinking about that today
Speaker 1: on the plane because I was like, oh, I gotta
Speaker 1: return this and I gotta and I'm like, I have
Speaker 1: so much other like business work to do, and I
Speaker 1: was thinking to myself, Tiffy, you have to return this
Speaker 1: Amazon stuff.
Speaker 3: You gotta you know, there's.
Speaker 1: All these little things like you want to return those
Speaker 1: genes to Target. But I'm like, why wouldn't it be
Speaker 1: better if you just had like an errand person come
Speaker 1: to the house once a week and you give them
Speaker 1: these kind of like nonsensical errands that don't require you
Speaker 1: to do that. Because I'm listening and.
Speaker 3: This is a good a good Uh.
Speaker 1: Netflix has this great documentary about inside the mind of
Speaker 1: Bill Gates, and one of things that really struck me
Speaker 1: about why he was so successful was that he is
Speaker 1: so focused.
Speaker 3: He uses all of his energy for a singular focus.
Speaker 1: Now I don't want to do all that because Bill
Speaker 1: Gates's borderline, you know, crazy when it comes to that.
Speaker 1: But I do know that I spread myself too thin
Speaker 1: and some of those things are really like do I
Speaker 1: have to go to Target to return these genes?
Speaker 3: No? I do not. Someone can do that, Tiffany for you.
Speaker 1: So I'm learning that, like, I'm not broke anymore, and
Speaker 1: it's okay to spend money to make life a little
Speaker 1: easier instead of running every single, solitary minw Err and
Speaker 1: myself on top of trying to like run a business.
Speaker 2: You know, yes, I hear you, and my husband would
Speaker 2: be nodding his head probably like breaking his neck right
Speaker 2: now if he hears you, because he's He's all he
Speaker 2: keeps saying is man, we could have professionals come been
Speaker 2: done in forty eight hours. And you know, because I've
Speaker 2: been getting onto him because we I forced him to
Speaker 2: come visit his cousin, you know, some of our friends
Speaker 2: this weekend because he's just been in the nursery like
Speaker 2: painting or doing whatever he's do would make a noise
Speaker 2: for the past two or three weekends, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: are we just not going to have a life anymore?
Speaker 2: You're just gonna be up there all the time. Why
Speaker 2: can't you go faster? And you know you can imagine
Speaker 2: his reaction to that. So I ga, we're gonna hire
Speaker 2: the painters. But we did at least finish the paint
Speaker 2: in the in the in the fetus's room, so we're
Speaker 2: excited about that.
Speaker 1: So for the baby, did you is it like the room?
Speaker 1: Is it close to the master bedroom? Because all like
Speaker 1: the moms I know is like you're not gonna want
Speaker 1: the baby to be far because I almost like we
Speaker 1: have like a I turned into my office now, but
Speaker 1: I was gonna put the nursery on the second floor
Speaker 1: and we're on the third floor.
Speaker 3: Every mom's like, girl, by, that's not how that.
Speaker 2: Works, Like right, well, we don't really have a choice.
Speaker 2: And I know, ideally you would have the nursery on
Speaker 2: the same level, but our house is small. It's not
Speaker 2: even if it's it's upstairs, but it's not far, like
Speaker 2: literally it's right outside of our door. But you know, the
Speaker 2: first six months I have And that's why we're not
Speaker 2: rushing the nursery either. I'm not I don't have any
Speaker 2: grand plans to make sure it's perfectly decorated and instagram ready.
Speaker 2: I just want paint and uh for nature in there
Speaker 2: because it's going to be in our room for the
Speaker 2: first six months, right, you know, attached to the bed.
Speaker 2: So I'm actually switching to work on we I'm like,
Speaker 2: we need to be focusing on our little triage center
Speaker 2: in our bedroom, like where are we going to change
Speaker 2: the diapers? And where am I going to rest feed?
Speaker 2: And and like making that little that little baby nook
Speaker 2: in the bedroom now that's our plan. That's ah. But
Speaker 2: coming down, like we're nine weeks out now and the
Speaker 2: serious conversations around child care needs to be happening, and
Speaker 2: pediatricians needs to be booked, and.
Speaker 3: You're writing this baby, it's like it's like a business.
Speaker 3: You're like, so you can tell you it's.
Speaker 2: So type like my therapist that it's very healthy how
Speaker 2: I'm handling it, thank you very much.
Speaker 1: No, it's just being organized, honestly, you know, I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: where I'd be Like I had one sister that I
Speaker 1: was like, did you even get a cribbey at? Because
Speaker 1: it was her second So she was like, yeah, so
Speaker 1: I happen to do that this weekend. I'm like that
Speaker 1: Babby's doing this weekend.
Speaker 3: Well, like baby one bass baby too. There's a big difference,
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 2: I know, well my brother was baby four, so I
Speaker 2: we just we still hear him complaining about how he
Speaker 2: has no photos of himself as a child because my
Speaker 2: parents were tired by then. But uh no, I mean,
Speaker 2: I've honestly been procrastinating until this point. I kept saying
Speaker 2: I'm gonna wait till like eight weeks out because I've
Speaker 2: been trying to just focus on I don't know, baby
Speaker 2: moon and traveling and my selfish my selfish things that
Speaker 2: I wanted to get done before the kid comes. But
Speaker 2: now it's like go time. I just don't want to
Speaker 2: be caught in a frenzy. And now that I'm getting
Speaker 2: more the third trimester is real. There is a difference.
Speaker 2: I feel different now. I'm definitely feeling tired and pregnant,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, need to get stuff done before my
Speaker 2: energy is depleted even further. Like I give myself a
Speaker 2: pat in the back if I walk the dog in
Speaker 2: the morning.
Speaker 3: The dogs shit you differently when you're pregnant.
Speaker 2: My husband says, she's just sniffing for crumbs, but she
Speaker 2: she does lay her head on my tummy sometimes. My
Speaker 2: husband's like, she's probably just looking for crumb. But no,
Speaker 2: I think I've heard from women. I've heard from other
Speaker 2: women that their dog sometimes it can be bad, like
Speaker 2: sometimes the dogs can like we'll start getting territorial and
Speaker 2: like peeing randomly and acting out and stuff. But not really,
Speaker 2: there hasn't been a change. However, did I tell you
Speaker 2: guys that we have we decided to hire a dog
Speaker 2: trainer to get Molly in shape. Yeah, so on my
Speaker 2: list of pre baby things is so, we have a dog, Mollie,
Speaker 2: and if you guys out there have children and pets
Speaker 2: or had a pet before you had your first child,
Speaker 2: I'm open to anything, any advice you guys have. But
Speaker 2: Mollie is she's almost two years, but she's still very
Speaker 2: puppyish and we've only had her since February, and she
Speaker 2: does have some behavioral issues. So we and I just
Speaker 2: got paranoid that baby would come and Molly would become
Speaker 2: problematic and step on the baby or bark at the
Speaker 2: baby or something, you know. So we found we searched
Speaker 2: and searched and found a really nice training service in
Speaker 2: our area, which is expensive upfront, it's twelve hundred dollars,
Speaker 2: but you get the trainer for the lifetime of the dog.
Speaker 3: So we dow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've heard from so many people, well okay,
Speaker 2: three people who've paid for like upwards of two thousand
Speaker 2: dollars for a single week of lessons or sent like
Speaker 2: my mom sent her dog away for two weeks for
Speaker 2: two thousand dollars and there was no follow up you
Speaker 2: know after that. But she this trainer comes does everything
Speaker 2: in your house, so we don't have to send the
Speaker 2: dog anywhere, and she has her own program for getting
Speaker 2: the dog ready for baby. So she came a couple
Speaker 2: of weeks ago and we we've already seen a big
Speaker 2: difference in Molly some of her behaviors that have been problematic.
Speaker 2: And I'm really I feel really good about it, because
Speaker 2: I mean I was paranoid that she was going to
Speaker 2: come and be like, oh, you can't have this dog,
Speaker 2: like sorry, this dog's too wild. But it's been it's
Speaker 2: been good, and I think that was worth the investment.
Speaker 2: And she can come back anytime. If we ever have
Speaker 2: an issue, we can call her and she'll return. So
Speaker 2: we're happy about that.
Speaker 3: No, that's good because you're right.
Speaker 1: I think you know well, I mean I feel like
Speaker 1: largely pets, are you know, do good with babies.
Speaker 3: I guess I don't know. I've never had a cat,
Speaker 3: but I was like a teenager.
Speaker 1: But I see, like my niece and nephew there, their
Speaker 1: uncle has like a pit bull and they used to
Speaker 1: all live together and I'd be like, so, but that
Speaker 1: dog was so good with them, Like oh, I know
Speaker 1: they're like, hey, I'm Rocky.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I'm scared of Rocky.
Speaker 1: They're like pulling Rocky's tail because like Rocky is like
Speaker 1: clearly new these are kids, but they'd be pulling his
Speaker 1: tail trying to ride him, and he was like such
Speaker 1: a good sport about it. But I'd be like, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna sit over here.
Speaker 3: But what I love.
Speaker 1: About it is that it made them not nervous about
Speaker 1: like when they're out, they're like, doggie, you know how
Speaker 1: some kids are like I'm scared. Yeah, they're like, you know,
Speaker 1: because they're four, four and two, and when other dogs
Speaker 1: are around, they're like totally like, oh, like you know,
Speaker 1: let me pet. I'm not I'm not scared, which I do, like,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really it makes me sad when we have
Speaker 2: kids over who are afraid of dogs, because you know,
Speaker 2: it stresses out that they trusts. I had to keep
Speaker 2: the dog up STI and she can feel that tension.
Speaker 2: But we're definitely we're gonna prepare. They say to like
Speaker 2: make sure you bring home the baby's blanket before you
Speaker 2: come home so they can start sniffing it. And but
Speaker 2: definitely dogs have various reactions. So if you guys want
Speaker 2: to share your puppy baby story, there are but pit
Speaker 2: bulls it's not about the breed. So I'll do a
Speaker 2: quick PSA for pit bulls because my neighbor has a
Speaker 2: pit bull. They had her sense of puppy and her
Speaker 2: two year old little master Joe, who is the who's
Speaker 2: their baby? Like they He rolls all over her, pulls
Speaker 2: her tail, chases her around and they're the cutest little couple.
Speaker 2: I just want that from Molly too. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: but she's too crazy, I'm afraid, but we'll see.
Speaker 3: Well, it's half of my favorite segment of the show. Questions.
Speaker 3: If you got them, share them, maybe we'll so.
Speaker 2: Have you went from James Brown to like Alexa with
Speaker 2: your tone? All right, you guys, you know the drill.
Speaker 2: Reach out to us with your questions, any and all questions.
Speaker 2: Of course, we're not financial experts or investment advisors, but
Speaker 2: we do the best we can to share advice and
Speaker 2: tips based on our own experience. You can hit us
Speaker 2: up at Brandhambision podcast dot com go to ask us anything,
Speaker 2: or I'm getting lots of questions from you guys on Instagram,
Speaker 2: which is great. We're at Brand Ambition Podcast on the
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Speaker 1: Dot com, And yes, I always say we're not your
Speaker 1: financial group, where your financial girlfriend.
Speaker 2: That's very different, very very different. Okay, let's we got
Speaker 2: a bunch of questions over the last week, so let
Speaker 2: me start with. Oh, speaking of men who listen to
Speaker 2: the show, how about a question from listener Jason Ooh, okay,
Speaker 2: he and I actually have a similar problem, So I
Speaker 2: feel you on this question, Jason. So here's what he says.
Speaker 2: My wife and I are on our debt payoff journey
Speaker 2: using the snowball method. We're expecting our second child in
Speaker 2: a couple months, and I'm starting to think of replacing
Speaker 2: my sedan with a crossover suv within a year. Both
Speaker 2: of our cars are paid off and it feels so good,
Speaker 2: but I'm torn because I really wanted my next car
Speaker 2: to be paid for in cash. But we also want
Speaker 2: to save about ten thousand dollars to have as savings
Speaker 2: for the baby after the baby's delivery. Because my wife
Speaker 2: won't be able to work for a few months, reaching
Speaker 2: that goal has been complicated. So I'm wondering would me
Speaker 2: getting a newer vehicle make me financially irresponsible or am
Speaker 2: I thinking too hard? We have plenty of breathing room financially,
Speaker 2: but I can't ignore my commitment to have our family
Speaker 2: debt free in the near future. Please help a frugal
Speaker 2: guy who is scared to make a decision.
Speaker 3: So what was his name again?
Speaker 2: Jason?
Speaker 1: Oh, just so I can get some clarifying questions. So,
Speaker 1: for Jason, they have two cars that are paid.
Speaker 2: Off, they do, but he wants basically I didn't read
Speaker 2: his entire question because it was long, but the car
Speaker 2: that they're looking to replace has like over one hundred
Speaker 2: and something thousand miles on it and is old. So
Speaker 2: he wants to upgrade it to something that's like an
Speaker 2: SUV size, but he doesn't think he'll be able to
Speaker 2: pay for it in cash if they want to stick
Speaker 2: to their goal of saving ten thousand before the baby comes.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So that makes that makes the difference, because
Speaker 1: if he was just getting a new car because you know,
Speaker 1: trying to be cut in these streets, and I'd be like, well,
Speaker 1: but honestly, I mean, you know, depending on what how
Speaker 1: of car it is, you know, Nissans and Hondas and
Speaker 1: you know those things too, hundred thousand, one hundred thousand
Speaker 1: is not much for a Honda, you know, quite honestly,
Speaker 1: if there if it's been well taken care of and
Speaker 1: getting regular oil changes.
Speaker 3: But for like an American car, that might be a
Speaker 3: lot and.
Speaker 1: Only can you kind of know your car. So if
Speaker 1: you feel like it's already starting to give trouble, then
Speaker 1: you know, I you know, I might, I might. You know, say,
Speaker 1: you know, now's the time to make the move. But
Speaker 1: if it's more so like, well, we're gonna have to
Speaker 1: actually get another car anyway, although the cars not giving
Speaker 1: me any trouble, I probably, quite honestly, I would probably
Speaker 1: wait because my financial goal of having more than enough
Speaker 1: safe because your wife's not working would for me would
Speaker 1: likely be the greater pull. If the car was still safe,
Speaker 1: you know. Now, if the car's on the borderline, then
Speaker 1: I might be like, okay, especially since you know it's
Speaker 1: not going to put you in in the financial harms
Speaker 1: way just the it'll it'll of course be debt that
Speaker 1: you have, but I mean some things can't be avoided.
Speaker 1: Then you know, then I would then I would go
Speaker 1: ahead and get a safer car. But to me, it
Speaker 1: really all depends on the state of the car and
Speaker 1: how you feel about it. Like, if it's not giving
Speaker 1: you any trouble, then I likely would like just to say,
Speaker 1: like the Honda whatever, and you're like, honestly, it could
Speaker 1: go to another fifty two hundred easily, then I probably
Speaker 1: would rock out save that ten thousand, because you just
Speaker 1: never know. I mean for me, but I air on
Speaker 1: the side of caution and like, I am definitely a saveaholic,
Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know if I'm the best person.
Speaker 2: Saying how long did you have your car before you upgraded?
Speaker 3: Child?
Speaker 1: Don't even ask, because first of all, Maddy, I had
Speaker 1: the car so bad, like Superman would have to pick
Speaker 1: me up from places like honestly, Tiffany, I need to
Speaker 1: literally it was a fifty to fifty chance if this
Speaker 1: car was going to turn on. And I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I think, I think it's time for
Speaker 1: another car, So I am, but do not.
Speaker 3: Obviously that is not what I want for you.
Speaker 1: So I probably should have given away my car or
Speaker 1: or you know, got rid of that car probably.
Speaker 3: A year or two.
Speaker 1: But it was a Toyota Camra, and I said'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. It rocked out for a long time with
Speaker 1: no issue, and then you know, then like you know,
Speaker 1: two years before I got rid of it, it started
Speaker 1: to act up a little bit, and I should have
Speaker 1: gotten rid of it as soon as it started to
Speaker 1: act up, but I didn't because I was scared of
Speaker 1: not having well, one, I didn't want to have I
Speaker 1: didn't want to have a debt, you know, getting a car.
Speaker 1: And two I was scared of not having money saved
Speaker 1: because the recession really scarred me.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I'm scared to take this money out.
Speaker 1: But finally I did pay for the car that I
Speaker 1: have now cash, I will say that, so that helped
Speaker 1: me to get over that. But that's not my expectations
Speaker 1: from you. Sometimes we need to borrow, sometimes we need
Speaker 1: to finance, and as long as you're doing so responsibly
Speaker 1: and you're doing so because it's for the safety of
Speaker 1: your family, and then there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2: I agree. And actually my husband and I are having
Speaker 2: the same debate right now because we only have one car,
Speaker 2: and already we're having days where you know, I need
Speaker 2: the car, you need to go somewhere, and the other
Speaker 2: person's like, okay, you know, now we're in the suburbs,
Speaker 2: so there's no trains. I mean, there is a train,
Speaker 2: but it only goes to the city, you know, so
Speaker 2: we sometimes end up like I'll end up taking an
Speaker 2: uber to the doctor in the morning if he needs
Speaker 2: to get to work at a certain time or whatever.
Speaker 2: And he's definitely pushing for a new car. Of course
Speaker 2: he wants a Tesla, and of course he's wanted a
Speaker 2: Tesla for years and years, remember, And I'm just like,
Speaker 2: it can't be a Tesla because I don't know. I
Speaker 2: feel like, with a luxury car like a Tesla, if
Speaker 2: you have to finance it, then like, why do you
Speaker 2: have a Tesla? I don't know, so I think, and
Speaker 2: especially when the kid comes, I feel like two cars
Speaker 2: will be good. But our car is paid off, and hey,
Speaker 2: we don't have a debt payment, and I'm just like Jason,
Speaker 2: where I feel so good about that and kind of
Speaker 2: cocky about it, you know, I like it. I'm a
Speaker 2: little I'm proud of the fact that we don't have
Speaker 2: a car payment. But it may end up being another
Speaker 2: paint situation where the cost of and we could qualify
Speaker 2: for a really great loan I'm sure for some you know,
Speaker 2: a really good rate on the loan if we needed
Speaker 2: to finance something and put down a decent depositor whatever,
Speaker 2: and just do what we did with the first car,
Speaker 2: which is aggressively pay it off in the first six months.
Speaker 2: But I think we might I might end up having
Speaker 2: to give in. I am however, I think there's just
Speaker 2: too much going on right now. It's our first kid coming,
Speaker 2: you know. We I also have a goal for our
Speaker 2: emergency savings and it's where I want it to be
Speaker 2: right now, and I don't want to dip into it.
Speaker 3: We just are.
Speaker 2: We're still on this process finishing updating the house and stuff.
Speaker 2: So for me, it's not the top of my priority
Speaker 2: list right now. And I've just said, let's see what
Speaker 2: happens with this little kid, and if it really becomes
Speaker 2: a huge burden for us not to have a second car,
Speaker 2: then okay, we can make that decision when the time
Speaker 2: comes to it. I don't know if doing it right now,
Speaker 2: especially before your second kid comes, makes the most sense
Speaker 2: at least not. That's not the way I'm going to
Speaker 2: handle it.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking, well, it's.
Speaker 2: Just like get through this so and go ahead and
Speaker 2: start saving, Like whether it's for the kids, you know,
Speaker 2: if that ten K that you wanted for your to
Speaker 2: replace your wife's income, or you end up not needing
Speaker 2: the full amount and you can put some toward a
Speaker 2: car or later. Just starting to save now for whatever
Speaker 2: comes probably makes the most sense, and then you guys
Speaker 2: can decide later, you know, how best to use that savings.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think like, if there's no urgency, don't
Speaker 1: act urgently.
Speaker 2: Wait did you just take that up right now? That
Speaker 2: was good?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Then if there's no urgency, don't act urgently, you know.
Speaker 1: So the good thing is you you sound like you're
Speaker 1: in a good shake.
Speaker 2: So sound like a run DMC line or something.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: If there is no urgency, then don't act urgently.
Speaker 2: All right, Okay, I've been watching a lot of Living
Speaker 2: Single lately. And then my night is groove again. Yes again,
Speaker 2: I started from the beginning. It's too good. All right,
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your question, Jason, and congrats
Speaker 2: on number two. It's exciting.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 2: Let's see, I'm gonna take a question from a repeat
Speaker 2: questionnaire only because this one's really funny, well, not funny,
Speaker 2: but I think we both will have an interesting answer.
Speaker 2: And I think it's a unique problem that touches on
Speaker 2: what happens when she earns more m all right from
Speaker 2: the gram, We'll keep her anonymous. Anonymous says, my boyfriend
Speaker 2: and I both earn six figure incomes, but I make
Speaker 2: twenty k more than he does, and recently his pride
Speaker 2: has become a problem. For example, I recently wanted to
Speaker 2: get orchestra tickets to a show, but he wanted to
Speaker 2: get mezzanine. I told him I'd buy the orchestra tickets
Speaker 2: I wanted, and then he could buy dinner. He got
Speaker 2: mad at me, saying, I always throw my money around
Speaker 2: and it's the same show no matter where we sit.
Speaker 2: Things like this are happening more and more often. I
Speaker 2: don't care that he makes less than me. We've been
Speaker 2: together for a year. I'm not willing to have less
Speaker 2: enjoyment with him than I would have without him, especially
Speaker 2: when I'm willing to pay for what I want. How
Speaker 2: have you guys dealt with male pride related to the
Speaker 2: difference in income? When is this pride too much and
Speaker 2: you are better off potentially ending it? Thanks? So, they've
Speaker 2: been together year and already he's got some uh problems
Speaker 2: that she's earning. She's in a bit more financially of
Speaker 2: a comfortable space than he may be. Interesting that they
Speaker 2: already know what each other earns that early in their relationship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I guess, yeah.
Speaker 1: Especially that sometimes you know, like, oh I make a
Speaker 1: little bit more, but especially to that specific degree.
Speaker 2: Because twenty k over the course of a year, you know,
Speaker 2: especially I don't know where they live, but let's say
Speaker 2: they live in New York City. You're not talking about
Speaker 2: like a different income bracket. You know, that's it's not
Speaker 2: necessarily that much of a deal, but I mean it
Speaker 2: would give you the little bit of extra disposable income to.
Speaker 3: Get those seats.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. So what do you what do you say?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, here's the thing with Superman and I.
Speaker 1: I mean I make significantly more, like you know, probably
Speaker 1: five or six times more so, but they're definitely when
Speaker 1: I first met him, we were like grown. So I
Speaker 1: moved in, well, I knew him from before, we had
Speaker 1: dated off and on before, and so when we started
Speaker 1: dating seriously again, I moved in after like a year
Speaker 1: and a half. But he was insistent that he paid
Speaker 1: the bills basically because he was like, before you got here,
Speaker 1: I was playing the bill. So you know, so even
Speaker 1: though with my finances, we could have definitely afforded to
Speaker 1: live someplace better, but that was like his thing. I'm
Speaker 1: the man, I pay the bills, and I said, okay,
Speaker 1: and honestly I didn't. I wasn't mad at that because
Speaker 1: the last serious word that I had before him was like,
Speaker 1: my son. It got so bad. I remember one time,
Speaker 1: this is when I knew we're breaking up.
Speaker 3: We went to go get ice cream and it was
Speaker 3: a dollar, a whole dollar.
Speaker 1: And so, you know, like, so we're staying at the
Speaker 1: ice cream and so he orders his ice cream and
Speaker 1: steps to the side, like mom, he.
Speaker 3: Got this, and I looked at him. I said, you
Speaker 3: don't have a dollar.
Speaker 1: He looked flustered because he was so used to me
Speaker 1: because I was young Grenard trying to he was so
Speaker 1: used to be paying like everything. And I remember looking
Speaker 1: at him, thinking to myself, this is what I would
Speaker 1: do with my son if I had one, like you
Speaker 1: would order your ice cream and I would pay for it.
Speaker 3: And I was like, this is not gonna work.
Speaker 1: So I actually kind of appreciated the fact that Superman
Speaker 1: was not like that, and I respected the fact that
Speaker 1: he was like, you know, I want to you know,
Speaker 1: I might not make as much as you, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to contribute. So we, like I said, we lived
Speaker 1: in a we lived in honestly, quite honestly, what I
Speaker 1: called the halfway hood. So but what we did do
Speaker 1: is that I was like, Okay, especially when we got serious,
Speaker 1: then I will save you know, so you've pay the
Speaker 1: bills and I will even though I actually paid.
Speaker 3: The bills online, but it was his money, like.
Speaker 1: He would have his money deposited until we opened up
Speaker 1: once we got well, once we got married, it was
Speaker 1: a joint bills account, but at the time it was
Speaker 1: his checking account. But I would go in and like
Speaker 1: pay the bills. But and even when we bought the house, Mandy, honestly,
Speaker 1: one of his prerequiesces, which was really hard, was that
Speaker 1: we couldn't get more house than he could afford.
Speaker 3: I was like, huh, you.
Speaker 1: Know so and at the time we were looking for
Speaker 1: we were looking to finance, and so like when it
Speaker 1: came down to like, okay, well let's look at the financials,
Speaker 1: it was like, well, this is what he makes annually,
Speaker 1: and so that meant that's what our mortgage could be.
Speaker 3: Even though I was like, well we can get more, Nope, And.
Speaker 1: I was like okay, cause I get it because he's
Speaker 1: like Tiffany, I want to be able to provide and
Speaker 1: if something should have happened to you, or you don't
Speaker 1: want to work anymore because you want to have kids,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, I want to make sure that we're
Speaker 1: not dependent on you being the budgetista for us to
Speaker 1: be able to maintain life. So I mean, I hit
Speaker 1: the jackpot in then I know, and I said, I
Speaker 1: appreciate that. And I hit the jackpot in at the
Speaker 1: house that we end up getting, we end up paying
Speaker 1: for it cash because it was a foreclosure. The bank
Speaker 1: would not take financing, and we, like, like I said,
Speaker 1: we lived off his income and we saved and invested mine.
Speaker 1: He had personal savings himself. I have personal savings, but
Speaker 1: we have our joint savings. And then he pays bills,
Speaker 1: and then I contribute to the bills as far as
Speaker 1: it relates to like my my family, so we like
Speaker 1: help out some family members.
Speaker 3: So but I contribute to that component.
Speaker 1: So I just say share all that to say that
Speaker 1: that's not necessarily a bad thing. He's gotten a little
Speaker 1: bit better with like allowing me to kind of say, like,
Speaker 1: well I got it, you know, so, but it wasn't
Speaker 1: easy because sometimes you know, like I'll want because I'm
Speaker 1: not super I'm not someone I would do mezzanine as well.
Speaker 3: So most time we're on the same page.
Speaker 1: But every once in a while, I'm like, let's get
Speaker 1: fancy and do this fancy thing, and I can tell
Speaker 1: he's slightly like I'm comfortable even though we're married now,
Speaker 1: So we have a rule now, this is what we've
Speaker 1: done to ease it up. Even though you guys are
Speaker 1: not married, so it's different. But we have a rule
Speaker 1: now that if we go on on a date, so groceries,
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, you know, that's like community property.
Speaker 1: But if we go on a date, to alleviate that
Speaker 1: sense of well, we want to go someplace fancy. But
Speaker 1: maybe because I pay most of the bills, I don't have,
Speaker 1: it is that you're allowed to use our community property money.
Speaker 1: Like if I'm treating, I'm not really treating, I'm just
Speaker 1: taking it from our joint checking account. If he's treating,
Speaker 1: same thing, So it alleviates some of that feeling. So
Speaker 1: I would just say that it's not necessarily bad thing
Speaker 1: that he wants to be able to afford and not
Speaker 1: lean on you. But I think that it's more about
Speaker 1: talking about it and maybe if you guys, I mean,
Speaker 1: if you guys could save jointly, not in a joint
Speaker 1: account together, but meaning like there's maybe like an account
Speaker 1: where you're setting aside for those things, so you can
Speaker 1: kind of upgrade experiences from a place that's been set
Speaker 1: aside and saved.
Speaker 3: So that's what we did. We had two separate savings.
Speaker 1: Accounts where we would be saving, and when we went
Speaker 1: to go on vacation, it wasn't like I can't afford
Speaker 1: to go. We would kind of pull from our joint
Speaker 1: savings accounts and just continuously talking about it. But I
Speaker 1: feel him and I don't think it's necessarily wrong.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And what I'll say is, I mean, you guys
Speaker 2: have only been together for a year, and the attitude
Speaker 2: that you bring to it of I don't want to
Speaker 2: enjoy my life less than I would if he wasn't
Speaker 2: in the picture. I don't know if that's the right
Speaker 2: attitude to bring to the table, especially this early. I mean,
Speaker 2: I think you may just have a difference in priorities.
Speaker 2: And my husband and I definitely, early on dating, it
Speaker 2: was clear we had difference in how we like. He
Speaker 2: loved to spend money on gadgets. I love to spend
Speaker 2: money on travel. To me, it was stupid for him
Speaker 2: to spend and you know, he got me an Apple
Speaker 2: watch for my birthday, for example, like my past birthday,
Speaker 2: and I'm and on the inside, I'm like, seriously, dude,
Speaker 2: this is so much money for a watch. But like that,
Speaker 2: for him, it means something and it's a useful use.
Speaker 2: It means the thing for his money, you know, to
Speaker 2: spend it on that. And I've come around to the
Speaker 2: fact that he really does see value and take pleasure
Speaker 2: in tech things, and he's come around to the way
Speaker 2: that I value traveling. And we both kind of have agreed, Okay,
Speaker 2: you know, we'll bend for each other or we'll you know,
Speaker 2: we'll save toward goals that we both So I'm cool
Speaker 2: with saving toward a goal that has something to do
Speaker 2: with gadgets, and he's cool with saving toward a goal
Speaker 2: has something to do with travel, because we've kind of accepted, Okay,
Speaker 2: these are our differences and priorities for where our disposable
Speaker 2: income goes. And maybe it's just that he doesn't love
Speaker 2: theater and maybe he would be happy spending a lot
Speaker 2: of money on you know, whatever he is interested in.
Speaker 2: And I feel like you should be open to understanding
Speaker 2: where what makes you know where he puts value in
Speaker 2: things and don't see it as a deal breaker. And
Speaker 2: you know, front mezzanine seats or that's where I love
Speaker 2: to sit front mezzanine orchestra's not always the best. And
Speaker 2: you know, would you rather be at a show by
Speaker 2: yourself or with a with a nice man who has
Speaker 2: a good job, Like I don't know, So I sometimes
Speaker 2: is single life with you going to shows by yourself.
Speaker 2: I used to go to shows by myself. I wouldn't
Speaker 2: go back to those days necessarily.
Speaker 3: So you can have your fancy friends, right because I've
Speaker 3: got a fancy friend.
Speaker 1: My friend Cabral is one of my fancy friends, and
Speaker 1: so because Superman is not fancy, and honestly, typically I'm
Speaker 1: not either. But when it comes to like going to
Speaker 1: like the fancy restaurant whatever, my friend Cabral, he's like
Speaker 1: he's the one that's like, Ooh, let's do this fancy thing.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh gosh, how much is it going
Speaker 1: to cost me? But that's where I do those fancy
Speaker 1: things with. So I mean you know, it's okay to
Speaker 1: be like, you know what with my man, we're gonna
Speaker 1: we're gonna do it this way. But you know, I've
Speaker 1: got a couple of friends that I know that if
Speaker 1: I wanted to do this specific thing, I go with them.
Speaker 1: It's okay for your man to be one of your friends,
Speaker 1: not your only you know.
Speaker 2: So exactly. Yeah, And maybe it really is that he
Speaker 2: just doesn't love theater enough to want to put the
Speaker 2: extra money toward it, which is fine. You know, there's
Speaker 2: there's times that I really love having. First of all,
Speaker 2: it's great to have people who love to go to
Speaker 2: shows with you because it is hella expensive and once
Speaker 2: you start living out, you know, jointly income wise, you're
Speaker 2: just paying double you know, then you would if you
Speaker 2: went by yourself with some girlfriends. So it's actually a
Speaker 2: way of saving money eventually. But I don't see his
Speaker 2: pride as a huge red flag. I think it's you
Speaker 2: less to do with it could be less to do
Speaker 2: with pride and more to do with just difference and
Speaker 2: priorities of where you guys spend. And maybe you should
Speaker 2: just start understanding a little bit better what he values
Speaker 2: and how to how to you know, compromise and do
Speaker 2: what he values sometimes too, not just what you value. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but uh, thank you very much for your question. All right,
Speaker 2: we're going to close the reader reader inbox for the day,
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Speaker 3: So now it's time to boost a break with all
Speaker 3: my family. You're gonna boost, You're gonna break.
Speaker 2: What you're gonna do, Mandy, I gotta do. This is
Speaker 2: not necessarily financial. I mean I'll find I always find
Speaker 2: a way to make it financial. But I am so annoyed.
Speaker 2: So I've always dealt with acid reflux and having you know,
Speaker 2: all my organs being pushed up my throat right now
Speaker 2: really has made it worse than anyone who's been pregnant
Speaker 2: probably deals with it. And what did my excuse me?
Speaker 2: What did my doctor prescribe me? But you know, take
Speaker 2: a Zantac once a day, it's perfectly fine. Blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Turns out Zantac's an't like recently studies have found traces
Speaker 2: of this type of chemical or something that causes cancer.
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, what the and I've been taking
Speaker 2: it for I mean, like really for years. It's been
Speaker 2: like the go to over the counter drug. And it's
Speaker 2: not cheap, these stupid over the counter drugs, and you
Speaker 2: can't use your FSA card to purchase them either, so like,
Speaker 2: you know, it's an investment buying these stupid drugs. And
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I don't know, taking a brown break
Speaker 2: from the FDA or whoever's not regulating these drug companies
Speaker 2: and giving me something else to stress about. Essentially, So
Speaker 2: even though the FDA, if you guys takes it's such
Speaker 2: a such a common over the counter medication, if you
Speaker 2: guys take it, the FDA has not said that the
Speaker 2: study findings are conclusive enough to show that you should
Speaker 2: stop taking it right now. But Walgreens, Write Aid, and
Speaker 2: CBS have all pulled it off their shelves. So that's
Speaker 2: very telling. And I mean I talked to my doctor
Speaker 2: and I was like, so, what do you think And
Speaker 2: she was like, Ah, these studies are whatever, just keep
Speaker 2: taking it. I'm like, uh, but can you give me
Speaker 2: an alternative just in case? Like I don't know, hormonal
Speaker 2: emotional pregnant lady here, maybe let's not play, you know,
Speaker 2: play games with my zantac. But so that's a brown break,
Speaker 2: and uh, I will be looking for an alternative to
Speaker 2: my ride or die because the attack really that gives
Speaker 2: me life. It's the reason I can get up in
Speaker 2: the in the morning and actually like get through the day.
Speaker 2: Because acid reflux is no joke.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I can't when I have it.
Speaker 1: It feels like, I mean, I don't get it often,
Speaker 1: but every once in a while hit and I'm like,
Speaker 1: what is that?
Speaker 3: That that so I can't imagine.
Speaker 1: So I want to take a break as well. I'm
Speaker 1: going to tread lightly. So there's an organization that I
Speaker 1: did work with, and so there are like other requirements,
Speaker 1: but you know, like it was totally volunteer.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, yes, I'll do this.
Speaker 1: Is not no payment or anything. The level of instruction
Speaker 1: of what to do after it you've remet there. I
Speaker 1: have never gotten more emails and then and then and
Speaker 1: then and then and then and more instruction and then,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what is happening.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm in like a I don't know,
Speaker 3: freshman seminar.
Speaker 1: Like there's so many emails, so much instructions, so much,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, all for this one thing that I
Speaker 1: donated my time for.
Speaker 2: Hmm, so late to back out.
Speaker 3: No, no, because I've already done that. I already did
Speaker 3: the donating part, and so I just I've just.
Speaker 1: Honestly told my admins, like, you know, hey, just kind
Speaker 1: of flagged me when it's like really important, because I
Speaker 1: there's so much work, and I'm thinking to myself, I
Speaker 1: can't believe the I can't be the only one who
Speaker 1: thinks that when you ask something of someone and they
Speaker 1: donate their time, that I feel like it's my duty
Speaker 1: and I try to do this. I'm sure we fail
Speaker 1: that sometimes. I try on my end to make the
Speaker 1: donation process and I'm not talking about financial like your time,
Speaker 1: to try to make that process as as easy as possible,
Speaker 1: just because I'm already grateful that you know you're ready
Speaker 1: giving your time, so then you're giving your time, and
Speaker 1: I'm saying in more time and more time, oh a
Speaker 1: little bit more time.
Speaker 3: It could have some time, a top of time. And
Speaker 3: I'm like, so that is kind of like my brown break.
Speaker 1: It's just like who child, I mean, I don't I
Speaker 1: just I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3: I can't wait for this component of my life to.
Speaker 1: Be over because there's so many instructions, and I get
Speaker 1: what they're doing. The reason why there's so many instructions
Speaker 1: that they think they're making it easier, you know.
Speaker 3: But sometimes it's like it's like the.
Speaker 1: Law of diminishing returns, where you can have a good thing,
Speaker 1: but sometimes too much of a good thing actually becomes
Speaker 1: a bad thing, like if you drink too much water,
Speaker 1: you can actually flood.
Speaker 3: Yourself on the inside. Or for like me, I.
Speaker 1: Say so much that it actually was detrimental because I
Speaker 1: was not investing, you know.
Speaker 3: So there is it is possible to do a good
Speaker 3: thing too much.
Speaker 1: So they are trying to make they're trying to make
Speaker 1: it as organized as possible. So but honestly, it's actually
Speaker 1: made it disorganized. We have tipped over into where it
Speaker 1: no longer is easy breezy. It is actually overwhelming. And
Speaker 1: I've checked that. I just looked at my inbox and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm never you know what, I'm not.
Speaker 2: Doing it And they need someone to send them a
Speaker 2: word one word email KISS, which stands for keep it
Speaker 2: simple stupid.
Speaker 1: But like I said, it's a good old the thing
Speaker 1: I donated, like it's definitely an awesome organization.
Speaker 3: They're doing great work. So I'm glad for the donation
Speaker 3: of my time day game.
Speaker 1: So that's not it, it's just the follow up and
Speaker 1: all that's required afterwards is definitely, you know, borderline overwhelming,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's giving me anxiety and I'm like,
Speaker 1: so I just can't wait till it's done. But yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my brown break that you know, over complicating things
Speaker 1: and you know, making a thing more than it needs
Speaker 1: to be.
Speaker 2: I co signed that brown break. Oh God, that's the show.
Speaker 2: We'll see you guys next week.
Speaker 3: Yes, indeed,