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Speaker 1: we're brown ambition.

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Speaker 2: Hey hey, Mandy, Hey, I need my own thing. You're hey.

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Speaker 2: Hey hey, I'm just saying hey.

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Speaker 1: So up, Hey, it's up.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: You had a big weekend.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 1: I went to Chicago for Lovey's wedding. She married this

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Speaker 1: awesome guy named Carnell. It was cute because his last

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Speaker 1: name is Jones, so the hashtag was love Jones.

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Speaker 3: Get it?

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Speaker 2: Does anyone not know who love he is at this point?

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Speaker 3: Those who might be living under a rock.

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Speaker 2: But we call her cultural icon.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a social comment her and so yes, that's

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Speaker 1: what I would call her, like if you have to

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Speaker 3: But she's a writer.

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Speaker 1: She's an awesome podcast, two of them. She just Yes,

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Speaker 1: she's a social commentar and people typically hire her to

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Speaker 1: share kind of like what many of us are thinking

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Speaker 3: And she's like, I'm going to.

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Speaker 2: Say it professional hot taker.

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Speaker 1: Yes, no, but honestly it was it was dope because

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Speaker 1: Superman came with me. It was in the shy of course,

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Speaker 1: it was rainy and cold, except for the day we

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, that's great.

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Speaker 1: But it was nice because she had a mixer. She

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Speaker 1: and then she had what we call the white wedding,

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Speaker 1: which just because she wears the white dress, so she

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Speaker 1: had the traditional in the white wedding on the same day.

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Speaker 2: So that's what I was waiting to see a picture

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Speaker 2: of her in the traditional. Oh it was the same day. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Well, how was it the same day?

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Speaker 2: The colors were amazing, Yes, you guys looked amazing. I

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Speaker 1: And honestly, it was just so awesome because that's probably

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Speaker 1: I just couldn't because you know, when we're on here,

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Speaker 3: Y'all be listening. Keep it up.

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Speaker 2: They listen. They quote us on Twitter, people quoted me

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Speaker 2: people want to know if you have made any progress

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Speaker 2: hiring your executive assistant. After last week's show, where we

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Speaker 2: got to hear the story of Tiffany's executive admin who

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Speaker 2: was fired in less than twenty five hours. Twenty four hours,

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Speaker 2: twenty five hours? What kind of what?

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Speaker 3: Yes? What of my employees hit you up? She said,

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Speaker 2: That's not the proper routes. There's no forward button, go

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Speaker 3: How was your weekend?

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Speaker 2: The weekend was exhausting, exhausting. I went to see I

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Speaker 2: It was good, so much glitter, so much sparkle. Went

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Speaker 1: some kids are like I'm scared. Yeah, they're like, you know,

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Speaker 1: because they're four, four and two, and when other dogs

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Speaker 1: are around, they're like totally like, oh, like you know,

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Speaker 1: let me pet. I'm not I'm not scared, which I do, like,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really it makes me sad when we have

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Speaker 2: kids over who are afraid of dogs, because you know,

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Speaker 2: it stresses out that they trusts. I had to keep

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Speaker 2: the dog up STI and she can feel that tension.

446
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Speaker 2: But we're definitely we're gonna prepare. They say to like

447
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Speaker 2: make sure you bring home the baby's blanket before you

448
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Speaker 2: come home so they can start sniffing it. And but

449
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Speaker 2: definitely dogs have various reactions. So if you guys want

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Speaker 2: to share your puppy baby story, there are but pit

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Speaker 2: bulls it's not about the breed. So I'll do a

452
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Speaker 2: quick PSA for pit bulls because my neighbor has a

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Speaker 2: pit bull. They had her sense of puppy and her

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Speaker 2: two year old little master Joe, who is the who's

455
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Speaker 2: their baby? Like they He rolls all over her, pulls

456
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Speaker 2: her tail, chases her around and they're the cutest little couple.

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Speaker 2: I just want that from Molly too. Yeah, you know,

458
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Speaker 2: but she's too crazy, I'm afraid, but we'll see.

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Speaker 3: Well, it's half of my favorite segment of the show. Questions.

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Speaker 3: If you got them, share them, maybe we'll so.

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Speaker 2: Have you went from James Brown to like Alexa with

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Speaker 2: your tone? All right, you guys, you know the drill.

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Speaker 2: Reach out to us with your questions, any and all questions.

464
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Speaker 2: Of course, we're not financial experts or investment advisors, but

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Speaker 2: we do the best we can to share advice and

466
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Speaker 2: tips based on our own experience. You can hit us

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Speaker 2: up at Brandhambision podcast dot com go to ask us anything,

468
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Speaker 2: or I'm getting lots of questions from you guys on Instagram,

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Speaker 2: which is great. We're at Brand Ambition Podcast on the

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Speaker 2: Gram and you can email us directly at Brand Ambition

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Speaker 2: Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Dot com, And yes, I always say we're not your

473
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Speaker 1: financial group, where your financial girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: That's very different, very very different. Okay, let's we got

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Speaker 2: a bunch of questions over the last week, so let

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Speaker 2: me start with. Oh, speaking of men who listen to

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Speaker 2: the show, how about a question from listener Jason Ooh, okay,

478
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Speaker 2: he and I actually have a similar problem, So I

479
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Speaker 2: feel you on this question, Jason. So here's what he says.

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Speaker 2: My wife and I are on our debt payoff journey

481
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Speaker 2: using the snowball method. We're expecting our second child in

482
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Speaker 2: a couple months, and I'm starting to think of replacing

483
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Speaker 2: my sedan with a crossover suv within a year. Both

484
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Speaker 2: of our cars are paid off and it feels so good,

485
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Speaker 2: but I'm torn because I really wanted my next car

486
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Speaker 2: to be paid for in cash. But we also want

487
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Speaker 2: to save about ten thousand dollars to have as savings

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Speaker 2: for the baby after the baby's delivery. Because my wife

489
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Speaker 2: won't be able to work for a few months, reaching

490
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Speaker 2: that goal has been complicated. So I'm wondering would me

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Speaker 2: getting a newer vehicle make me financially irresponsible or am

492
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Speaker 2: I thinking too hard? We have plenty of breathing room financially,

493
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Speaker 2: but I can't ignore my commitment to have our family

494
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Speaker 2: debt free in the near future. Please help a frugal

495
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Speaker 2: guy who is scared to make a decision.

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Speaker 3: So what was his name again?

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Speaker 2: Jason?

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Speaker 1: Oh, just so I can get some clarifying questions. So,

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Speaker 1: for Jason, they have two cars that are paid.

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Speaker 2: Off, they do, but he wants basically I didn't read

501
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Speaker 2: his entire question because it was long, but the car

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Speaker 2: that they're looking to replace has like over one hundred

503
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Speaker 2: and something thousand miles on it and is old. So

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Speaker 2: he wants to upgrade it to something that's like an

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Speaker 2: SUV size, but he doesn't think he'll be able to

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Speaker 2: pay for it in cash if they want to stick

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Speaker 2: to their goal of saving ten thousand before the baby comes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So that makes that makes the difference, because

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Speaker 1: if he was just getting a new car because you know,

510
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Speaker 1: trying to be cut in these streets, and I'd be like, well,

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Speaker 1: but honestly, I mean, you know, depending on what how

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Speaker 1: of car it is, you know, Nissans and Hondas and

513
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Speaker 1: you know those things too, hundred thousand, one hundred thousand

514
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Speaker 1: is not much for a Honda, you know, quite honestly,

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Speaker 1: if there if it's been well taken care of and

516
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Speaker 1: getting regular oil changes.

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Speaker 3: But for like an American car, that might be a

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Speaker 3: lot and.

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Speaker 1: Only can you kind of know your car. So if

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Speaker 1: you feel like it's already starting to give trouble, then

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Speaker 1: you know, I you know, I might, I might. You know, say,

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Speaker 1: you know, now's the time to make the move. But

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Speaker 1: if it's more so like, well, we're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: actually get another car anyway, although the cars not giving

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Speaker 1: me any trouble, I probably, quite honestly, I would probably

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Speaker 1: wait because my financial goal of having more than enough

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Speaker 1: safe because your wife's not working would for me would

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Speaker 1: likely be the greater pull. If the car was still safe,

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Speaker 1: you know. Now, if the car's on the borderline, then

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Speaker 1: I might be like, okay, especially since you know it's

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Speaker 1: not going to put you in in the financial harms

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Speaker 1: way just the it'll it'll of course be debt that

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Speaker 1: you have, but I mean some things can't be avoided.

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Speaker 1: Then you know, then I would then I would go

535
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Speaker 1: ahead and get a safer car. But to me, it

536
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Speaker 1: really all depends on the state of the car and

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Speaker 1: how you feel about it. Like, if it's not giving

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Speaker 1: you any trouble, then I likely would like just to say,

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Speaker 1: like the Honda whatever, and you're like, honestly, it could

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Speaker 1: go to another fifty two hundred easily, then I probably

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Speaker 1: would rock out save that ten thousand, because you just

542
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Speaker 1: never know. I mean for me, but I air on

543
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Speaker 1: the side of caution and like, I am definitely a saveaholic,

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Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know if I'm the best person.

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Speaker 2: Saying how long did you have your car before you upgraded?

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Speaker 3: Child?

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Speaker 1: Don't even ask, because first of all, Maddy, I had

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Speaker 1: the car so bad, like Superman would have to pick

549
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Speaker 1: me up from places like honestly, Tiffany, I need to

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Speaker 1: literally it was a fifty to fifty chance if this

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Speaker 1: car was going to turn on. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I think, I think it's time for

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Speaker 1: another car, So I am, but do not.

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Speaker 3: Obviously that is not what I want for you.

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Speaker 1: So I probably should have given away my car or

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Speaker 1: or you know, got rid of that car probably.

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Speaker 3: A year or two.

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Speaker 1: But it was a Toyota Camra, and I said'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna lie. It rocked out for a long time with

560
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Speaker 1: no issue, and then you know, then like you know,

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Speaker 1: two years before I got rid of it, it started

562
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Speaker 1: to act up a little bit, and I should have

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Speaker 1: gotten rid of it as soon as it started to

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Speaker 1: act up, but I didn't because I was scared of

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Speaker 1: not having well, one, I didn't want to have I

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Speaker 1: didn't want to have a debt, you know, getting a car.

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Speaker 1: And two I was scared of not having money saved

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Speaker 1: because the recession really scarred me.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, I'm scared to take this money out.

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Speaker 1: But finally I did pay for the car that I

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Speaker 1: have now cash, I will say that, so that helped

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Speaker 1: me to get over that. But that's not my expectations

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Speaker 1: from you. Sometimes we need to borrow, sometimes we need

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Speaker 1: to finance, and as long as you're doing so responsibly

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Speaker 1: and you're doing so because it's for the safety of

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Speaker 1: your family, and then there's nothing wrong with that.

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Speaker 2: I agree. And actually my husband and I are having

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Speaker 2: the same debate right now because we only have one car,

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Speaker 2: and already we're having days where you know, I need

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Speaker 2: the car, you need to go somewhere, and the other

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Speaker 2: person's like, okay, you know, now we're in the suburbs,

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Speaker 2: so there's no trains. I mean, there is a train,

583
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Speaker 2: but it only goes to the city, you know, so

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Speaker 2: we sometimes end up like I'll end up taking an

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Speaker 2: uber to the doctor in the morning if he needs

586
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Speaker 2: to get to work at a certain time or whatever.

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Speaker 2: And he's definitely pushing for a new car. Of course

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Speaker 2: he wants a Tesla, and of course he's wanted a

589
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Speaker 2: Tesla for years and years, remember, And I'm just like,

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Speaker 2: it can't be a Tesla because I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: feel like, with a luxury car like a Tesla, if

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Speaker 2: you have to finance it, then like, why do you

593
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Speaker 2: have a Tesla? I don't know, so I think, and

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Speaker 2: especially when the kid comes, I feel like two cars

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Speaker 2: will be good. But our car is paid off, and hey,

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Speaker 2: we don't have a debt payment, and I'm just like Jason,

597
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 2: where I feel so good about that and kind of

598
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: cocky about it, you know, I like it. I'm a

599
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 2: little I'm proud of the fact that we don't have

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Speaker 2: a car payment. But it may end up being another

601
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Speaker 2: paint situation where the cost of and we could qualify

602
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Speaker 2: for a really great loan I'm sure for some you know,

603
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 2: a really good rate on the loan if we needed

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Speaker 2: to finance something and put down a decent depositor whatever,

605
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 2: and just do what we did with the first car,

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Speaker 2: which is aggressively pay it off in the first six months.

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Speaker 2: But I think we might I might end up having

608
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Speaker 2: to give in. I am however, I think there's just

609
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 2: too much going on right now. It's our first kid coming,

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Speaker 2: you know. We I also have a goal for our

611
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 2: emergency savings and it's where I want it to be

612
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Speaker 2: right now, and I don't want to dip into it.

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Speaker 3: We just are.

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Speaker 2: We're still on this process finishing updating the house and stuff.

615
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 2: So for me, it's not the top of my priority

616
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 2: list right now. And I've just said, let's see what

617
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: happens with this little kid, and if it really becomes

618
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 2: a huge burden for us not to have a second car,

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Speaker 2: then okay, we can make that decision when the time

620
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Speaker 2: comes to it. I don't know if doing it right now,

621
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Speaker 2: especially before your second kid comes, makes the most sense

622
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Speaker 2: at least not. That's not the way I'm going to

623
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Speaker 2: handle it.

624
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Speaker 3: I'm thinking, well, it's.

625
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Speaker 2: Just like get through this so and go ahead and

626
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 2: start saving, Like whether it's for the kids, you know,

627
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 2: if that ten K that you wanted for your to

628
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 2: replace your wife's income, or you end up not needing

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Speaker 2: the full amount and you can put some toward a

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Speaker 2: car or later. Just starting to save now for whatever

631
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 2: comes probably makes the most sense, and then you guys

632
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 2: can decide later, you know, how best to use that savings.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think like, if there's no urgency, don't

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Speaker 1: act urgently.

635
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 2: Wait did you just take that up right now? That

636
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 2: was good?

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00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 3: Right?

638
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 1: Then if there's no urgency, don't act urgently, you know.

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00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 1: So the good thing is you you sound like you're

640
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: in a good shake.

641
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 2: So sound like a run DMC line or something.

642
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 3: Right.

643
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: If there is no urgency, then don't act urgently.

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00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 2: All right, Okay, I've been watching a lot of Living

645
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: Single lately. And then my night is groove again. Yes again,

646
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: I started from the beginning. It's too good. All right,

647
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your question, Jason, and congrats

648
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 2: on number two. It's exciting.

649
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 3: All right.

650
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Speaker 2: Let's see, I'm gonna take a question from a repeat

651
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 2: questionnaire only because this one's really funny, well, not funny,

652
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 2: but I think we both will have an interesting answer.

653
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 2: And I think it's a unique problem that touches on

654
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Speaker 2: what happens when she earns more m all right from

655
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:11,479
Speaker 2: the gram, We'll keep her anonymous. Anonymous says, my boyfriend

656
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 2: and I both earn six figure incomes, but I make

657
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,719
Speaker 2: twenty k more than he does, and recently his pride

658
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 2: has become a problem. For example, I recently wanted to

659
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 2: get orchestra tickets to a show, but he wanted to

660
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 2: get mezzanine. I told him I'd buy the orchestra tickets

661
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: I wanted, and then he could buy dinner. He got

662
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 2: mad at me, saying, I always throw my money around

663
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 2: and it's the same show no matter where we sit.

664
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 2: Things like this are happening more and more often. I

665
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 2: don't care that he makes less than me. We've been

666
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 2: together for a year. I'm not willing to have less

667
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 2: enjoyment with him than I would have without him, especially

668
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 2: when I'm willing to pay for what I want. How

669
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 2: have you guys dealt with male pride related to the

670
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 2: difference in income? When is this pride too much and

671
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 2: you are better off potentially ending it? Thanks? So, they've

672
00:30:55,960 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 2: been together year and already he's got some uh problems

673
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 2: that she's earning. She's in a bit more financially of

674
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 2: a comfortable space than he may be. Interesting that they

675
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 2: already know what each other earns that early in their relationship.

676
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I guess, yeah.

677
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: Especially that sometimes you know, like, oh I make a

678
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 1: little bit more, but especially to that specific degree.

679
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 2: Because twenty k over the course of a year, you know,

680
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 2: especially I don't know where they live, but let's say

681
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 2: they live in New York City. You're not talking about

682
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 2: like a different income bracket. You know, that's it's not

683
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 2: necessarily that much of a deal, but I mean it

684
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 2: would give you the little bit of extra disposable income to.

685
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 3: Get those seats.

686
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. So what do you what do you say?

687
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, here's the thing with Superman and I.

688
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:46,719
Speaker 1: I mean I make significantly more, like you know, probably

689
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: five or six times more so, but they're definitely when

690
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 1: I first met him, we were like grown. So I

691
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 1: moved in, well, I knew him from before, we had

692
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: dated off and on before, and so when we started

693
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 1: dating seriously again, I moved in after like a year

694
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: and a half. But he was insistent that he paid

695
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: the bills basically because he was like, before you got here,

696
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 1: I was playing the bill. So you know, so even

697
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: though with my finances, we could have definitely afforded to

698
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 1: live someplace better, but that was like his thing. I'm

699
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: the man, I pay the bills, and I said, okay,

700
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: and honestly I didn't. I wasn't mad at that because

701
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 1: the last serious word that I had before him was like,

702
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: my son. It got so bad. I remember one time,

703
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: this is when I knew we're breaking up.

704
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 3: We went to go get ice cream and it was

705
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 3: a dollar, a whole dollar.

706
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: And so, you know, like, so we're staying at the

707
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 1: ice cream and so he orders his ice cream and

708
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: steps to the side, like mom, he.

709
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 3: Got this, and I looked at him. I said, you

710
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 3: don't have a dollar.

711
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: He looked flustered because he was so used to me

712
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: because I was young Grenard trying to he was so

713
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: used to be paying like everything. And I remember looking

714
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 1: at him, thinking to myself, this is what I would

715
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 1: do with my son if I had one, like you

716
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: would order your ice cream and I would pay for it.

717
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 3: And I was like, this is not gonna work.

718
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 1: So I actually kind of appreciated the fact that Superman

719
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 1: was not like that, and I respected the fact that

720
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: he was like, you know, I want to you know,

721
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: I might not make as much as you, but I'm

722
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,120
Speaker 1: going to contribute. So we, like I said, we lived

723
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: in a we lived in honestly, quite honestly, what I

724
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 1: called the halfway hood. So but what we did do

725
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:24,200
Speaker 1: is that I was like, Okay, especially when we got serious,

726
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 1: then I will save you know, so you've pay the

727
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 1: bills and I will even though I actually paid.

728
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 3: The bills online, but it was his money, like.

729
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:33,959
Speaker 1: He would have his money deposited until we opened up

730
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: once we got well, once we got married, it was

731
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 1: a joint bills account, but at the time it was

732
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 1: his checking account. But I would go in and like

733
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 1: pay the bills. But and even when we bought the house, Mandy, honestly,

734
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: one of his prerequiesces, which was really hard, was that

735
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: we couldn't get more house than he could afford.

736
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 3: I was like, huh, you.

737
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: Know so and at the time we were looking for

738
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: we were looking to finance, and so like when it

739
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: came down to like, okay, well let's look at the financials,

740
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: it was like, well, this is what he makes annually,

741
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: and so that meant that's what our mortgage could be.

742
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 3: Even though I was like, well we can get more, Nope, And.

743
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 1: I was like okay, cause I get it because he's

744
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: like Tiffany, I want to be able to provide and

745
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: if something should have happened to you, or you don't

746
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,240
Speaker 1: want to work anymore because you want to have kids,

747
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:18,439
Speaker 1: whatever it is, I want to make sure that we're

748
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: not dependent on you being the budgetista for us to

749
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: be able to maintain life. So I mean, I hit

750
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: the jackpot in then I know, and I said, I

751
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: appreciate that. And I hit the jackpot in at the

752
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 1: house that we end up getting, we end up paying

753
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 1: for it cash because it was a foreclosure. The bank

754
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 1: would not take financing, and we, like, like I said,

755
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: we lived off his income and we saved and invested mine.

756
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 1: He had personal savings himself. I have personal savings, but

757
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 1: we have our joint savings. And then he pays bills,

758
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: and then I contribute to the bills as far as

759
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 1: it relates to like my my family, so we like

760
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: help out some family members.

761
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 3: So but I contribute to that component.

762
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: So I just say share all that to say that

763
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 1: that's not necessarily a bad thing. He's gotten a little

764
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: bit better with like allowing me to kind of say, like,

765
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: well I got it, you know, so, but it wasn't

766
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 1: easy because sometimes you know, like I'll want because I'm

767
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 1: not super I'm not someone I would do mezzanine as well.

768
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 3: So most time we're on the same page.

769
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 1: But every once in a while, I'm like, let's get

770
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 1: fancy and do this fancy thing, and I can tell

771
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 1: he's slightly like I'm comfortable even though we're married now,

772
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 1: So we have a rule now, this is what we've

773
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: done to ease it up. Even though you guys are

774
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 1: not married, so it's different. But we have a rule

775
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 1: now that if we go on on a date, so groceries,

776
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,280
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, you know, that's like community property.

777
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: But if we go on a date, to alleviate that

778
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: sense of well, we want to go someplace fancy. But

779
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 1: maybe because I pay most of the bills, I don't have,

780
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,280
Speaker 1: it is that you're allowed to use our community property money.

781
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: Like if I'm treating, I'm not really treating, I'm just

782
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 1: taking it from our joint checking account. If he's treating,

783
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 1: same thing, So it alleviates some of that feeling. So

784
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 1: I would just say that it's not necessarily bad thing

785
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: that he wants to be able to afford and not

786
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 1: lean on you. But I think that it's more about

787
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: talking about it and maybe if you guys, I mean,

788
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 1: if you guys could save jointly, not in a joint

789
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: account together, but meaning like there's maybe like an account

790
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 1: where you're setting aside for those things, so you can

791
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 1: kind of upgrade experiences from a place that's been set

792
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 1: aside and saved.

793
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 3: So that's what we did. We had two separate savings.

794
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: Accounts where we would be saving, and when we went

795
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 1: to go on vacation, it wasn't like I can't afford

796
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:27,839
Speaker 1: to go. We would kind of pull from our joint

797
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: savings accounts and just continuously talking about it. But I

798
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 1: feel him and I don't think it's necessarily wrong.

799
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, And what I'll say is, I mean, you guys

800
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 2: have only been together for a year, and the attitude

801
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 2: that you bring to it of I don't want to

802
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 2: enjoy my life less than I would if he wasn't

803
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 2: in the picture. I don't know if that's the right

804
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 2: attitude to bring to the table, especially this early. I mean,

805
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 2: I think you may just have a difference in priorities.

806
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 2: And my husband and I definitely, early on dating, it

807
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 2: was clear we had difference in how we like. He

808
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 2: loved to spend money on gadgets. I love to spend

809
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 2: money on travel. To me, it was stupid for him

810
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:01,720
Speaker 2: to spend and you know, he got me an Apple

811
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,280
Speaker 2: watch for my birthday, for example, like my past birthday,

812
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 2: and I'm and on the inside, I'm like, seriously, dude,

813
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 2: this is so much money for a watch. But like that,

814
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 2: for him, it means something and it's a useful use.

815
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: It means the thing for his money, you know, to

816
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 2: spend it on that. And I've come around to the

817
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 2: fact that he really does see value and take pleasure

818
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 2: in tech things, and he's come around to the way

819
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 2: that I value traveling. And we both kind of have agreed, Okay,

820
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 2: you know, we'll bend for each other or we'll you know,

821
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 2: we'll save toward goals that we both So I'm cool

822
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 2: with saving toward a goal that has something to do

823
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: with gadgets, and he's cool with saving toward a goal

824
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,479
Speaker 2: has something to do with travel, because we've kind of accepted, Okay,

825
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 2: these are our differences and priorities for where our disposable

826
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 2: income goes. And maybe it's just that he doesn't love

827
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 2: theater and maybe he would be happy spending a lot

828
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 2: of money on you know, whatever he is interested in.

829
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 2: And I feel like you should be open to understanding

830
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 2: where what makes you know where he puts value in

831
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: things and don't see it as a deal breaker. And

832
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 2: you know, front mezzanine seats or that's where I love

833
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 2: to sit front mezzanine orchestra's not always the best. And

834
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 2: you know, would you rather be at a show by

835
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 2: yourself or with a with a nice man who has

836
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 2: a good job, Like I don't know, So I sometimes

837
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 2: is single life with you going to shows by yourself.

838
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 2: I used to go to shows by myself. I wouldn't

839
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: go back to those days necessarily.

840
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 3: So you can have your fancy friends, right because I've

841
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:28,800
Speaker 3: got a fancy friend.

842
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: My friend Cabral is one of my fancy friends, and

843
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 1: so because Superman is not fancy, and honestly, typically I'm

844
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 1: not either. But when it comes to like going to

845
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: like the fancy restaurant whatever, my friend Cabral, he's like

846
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: he's the one that's like, Ooh, let's do this fancy thing.

847
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh gosh, how much is it going

848
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 1: to cost me? But that's where I do those fancy

849
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 1: things with. So I mean you know, it's okay to

850
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 1: be like, you know what with my man, we're gonna

851
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: we're gonna do it this way. But you know, I've

852
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: got a couple of friends that I know that if

853
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:58,439
Speaker 1: I wanted to do this specific thing, I go with them.

854
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:00,800
Speaker 1: It's okay for your man to be one of your friends,

855
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: not your only you know.

856
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: So exactly. Yeah, And maybe it really is that he

857
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: just doesn't love theater enough to want to put the

858
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,919
Speaker 2: extra money toward it, which is fine. You know, there's

859
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 2: there's times that I really love having. First of all,

860
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:13,799
Speaker 2: it's great to have people who love to go to

861
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 2: shows with you because it is hella expensive and once

862
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 2: you start living out, you know, jointly income wise, you're

863
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 2: just paying double you know, then you would if you

864
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 2: went by yourself with some girlfriends. So it's actually a

865
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 2: way of saving money eventually. But I don't see his

866
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 2: pride as a huge red flag. I think it's you

867
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 2: less to do with it could be less to do

868
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 2: with pride and more to do with just difference and

869
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 2: priorities of where you guys spend. And maybe you should

870
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 2: just start understanding a little bit better what he values

871
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 2: and how to how to you know, compromise and do

872
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 2: what he values sometimes too, not just what you value. Yeah,

873
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 2: but uh, thank you very much for your question. All right,

874
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 2: we're going to close the reader reader inbox for the day,

875
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: but again, holler at us at Instagram, Brandhibition Podcast on

876
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 2: Instagram or go at Brandabission podcast dot com to leave

877
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 2: us your questions.

878
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 3: So now it's time to boost a break with all

879
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 3: my family. You're gonna boost, You're gonna break.

880
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 2: What you're gonna do, Mandy, I gotta do. This is

881
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,879
Speaker 2: not necessarily financial. I mean I'll find I always find

882
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 2: a way to make it financial. But I am so annoyed.

883
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 2: So I've always dealt with acid reflux and having you know,

884
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 2: all my organs being pushed up my throat right now

885
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 2: really has made it worse than anyone who's been pregnant

886
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 2: probably deals with it. And what did my excuse me?

887
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 2: What did my doctor prescribe me? But you know, take

888
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 2: a Zantac once a day, it's perfectly fine. Blah blah blah.

889
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 2: Turns out Zantac's an't like recently studies have found traces

890
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 2: of this type of chemical or something that causes cancer.

891
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, what the and I've been taking

892
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,879
Speaker 2: it for I mean, like really for years. It's been

893
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 2: like the go to over the counter drug. And it's

894
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 2: not cheap, these stupid over the counter drugs, and you

895
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 2: can't use your FSA card to purchase them either, so like,

896
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 2: you know, it's an investment buying these stupid drugs. And

897
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I don't know, taking a brown break

898
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: from the FDA or whoever's not regulating these drug companies

899
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 2: and giving me something else to stress about. Essentially, So

900
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 2: even though the FDA, if you guys takes it's such

901
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: a such a common over the counter medication, if you

902
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 2: guys take it, the FDA has not said that the

903
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 2: study findings are conclusive enough to show that you should

904
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 2: stop taking it right now. But Walgreens, Write Aid, and

905
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:41,279
Speaker 2: CBS have all pulled it off their shelves. So that's

906
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 2: very telling. And I mean I talked to my doctor

907
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 2: and I was like, so, what do you think And

908
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 2: she was like, Ah, these studies are whatever, just keep

909
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 2: taking it. I'm like, uh, but can you give me

910
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 2: an alternative just in case? Like I don't know, hormonal

911
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 2: emotional pregnant lady here, maybe let's not play, you know,

912
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 2: play games with my zantac. But so that's a brown break,

913
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 2: and uh, I will be looking for an alternative to

914
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 2: my ride or die because the attack really that gives

915
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 2: me life. It's the reason I can get up in

916
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 2: the in the morning and actually like get through the day.

917
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 2: Because acid reflux is no joke.

918
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I can't when I have it.

919
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 1: It feels like, I mean, I don't get it often,

920
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: but every once in a while hit and I'm like,

921
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: what is that?

922
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,760
Speaker 3: That that so I can't imagine.

923
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 1: So I want to take a break as well. I'm

924
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:38,399
Speaker 1: going to tread lightly. So there's an organization that I

925
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 1: did work with, and so there are like other requirements,

926
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: but you know, like it was totally volunteer.

927
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, yes, I'll do this.

928
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 1: Is not no payment or anything. The level of instruction

929
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 1: of what to do after it you've remet there. I

930
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 1: have never gotten more emails and then and then and

931
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,839
Speaker 1: then and then and then and more instruction and then,

932
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what is happening.

933
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm in like a I don't know,

934
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 3: freshman seminar.

935
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,239
Speaker 1: Like there's so many emails, so much instructions, so much,

936
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:12,960
Speaker 1: and I'm like, all for this one thing that I

937
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: donated my time for.

938
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 2: Hmm, so late to back out.

939
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 3: No, no, because I've already done that. I already did

940
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 3: the donating part, and so I just I've just.

941
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 1: Honestly told my admins, like, you know, hey, just kind

942
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: of flagged me when it's like really important, because I

943
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: there's so much work, and I'm thinking to myself, I

944
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: can't believe the I can't be the only one who

945
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 1: thinks that when you ask something of someone and they

946
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 1: donate their time, that I feel like it's my duty

947
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:45,719
Speaker 1: and I try to do this. I'm sure we fail

948
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 1: that sometimes. I try on my end to make the

949
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: donation process and I'm not talking about financial like your time,

950
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: to try to make that process as as easy as possible,

951
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: just because I'm already grateful that you know you're ready

952
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: giving your time, so then you're giving your time, and

953
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying in more time and more time, oh a

954
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: little bit more time.

955
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 3: It could have some time, a top of time. And

956
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, so that is kind of like my brown break.

957
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: It's just like who child, I mean, I don't I

958
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 1: just I'm not gonna lie.

959
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 3: I can't wait for this component of my life to.

960
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: Be over because there's so many instructions, and I get

961
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 1: what they're doing. The reason why there's so many instructions

962
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: that they think they're making it easier, you know.

963
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 3: But sometimes it's like it's like the.

964
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: Law of diminishing returns, where you can have a good thing,

965
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,319
Speaker 1: but sometimes too much of a good thing actually becomes

966
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 1: a bad thing, like if you drink too much water,

967
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: you can actually flood.

968
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 3: Yourself on the inside. Or for like me, I.

969
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:43,520
Speaker 1: Say so much that it actually was detrimental because I

970
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 1: was not investing, you know.

971
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,279
Speaker 3: So there is it is possible to do a good

972
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 3: thing too much.

973
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: So they are trying to make they're trying to make

974
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 1: it as organized as possible. So but honestly, it's actually

975
00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: made it disorganized. We have tipped over into where it

976
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 1: no longer is easy breezy. It is actually overwhelming. And

977
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 1: I've checked that. I just looked at my inbox and

978
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm never you know what, I'm not.

979
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 2: Doing it And they need someone to send them a

980
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 2: word one word email KISS, which stands for keep it

981
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 2: simple stupid.

982
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 1: But like I said, it's a good old the thing

983
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 1: I donated, like it's definitely an awesome organization.

984
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 3: They're doing great work. So I'm glad for the donation

985
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:22,879
Speaker 3: of my time day game.

986
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 1: So that's not it, it's just the follow up and

987
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,320
Speaker 1: all that's required afterwards is definitely, you know, borderline overwhelming,

988
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's giving me anxiety and I'm like,

989
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 1: so I just can't wait till it's done. But yeah,

990
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: that's my brown break that you know, over complicating things

991
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 1: and you know, making a thing more than it needs

992
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 1: to be.

993
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: I co signed that brown break. Oh God, that's the show.

994
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 2: We'll see you guys next week.

995
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 3: Yes, indeed,