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Speaker 1: This is a headgun podcast. Oh hi, hey Lily right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: even yes, Hi, okay, I recognize you from your profile

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Speaker 1: picture obviously because you're wearing the hell yeah. Oh wait,

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Speaker 1: am I wearing the same photo? I'm wearing my prof photo. No,

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Speaker 1: that's like cool, it's like it's on brand. Wait, spaces awesome,

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Speaker 1: by the way, I've been like me. I read about

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Speaker 1: it in Time Out Chicago, and I really want to go.

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Speaker 1: Hear my cousin sorry, I rapped, like, let's get let's

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Speaker 1: get drinks cocktail for a must. I couldn't agree more.

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Speaker 1: I read about this place in the Reader. Awesome. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I love the Reader and they were like, oh they

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Speaker 1: they do this thing with phone that's super cool. And

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, we're doing phone stuff now. Yeah, seriously,

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Speaker 1: it's always like that sounds embarrassing, but then I want

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Speaker 1: on a phone call. So, um, how many siblings you have?

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Speaker 1: That's um? I have um too? No, okay, alright, I

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Speaker 1: have one, but um she just got married two and

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Speaker 1: They're so awesome to gather. So yeah, We're always like

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Speaker 1: going to brunch and kickball and stuff like that anyway,

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Speaker 1: But no, I'm looking for now what about you? Oh um,

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Speaker 1: I uh well, I've um. I mean, as I said,

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Speaker 1: I'm divorced. Oh yeah, she's totally cool. My aunt's divorced.

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Speaker 1: Who's that knocking at the door. It's all your friends,

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Speaker 1: and a bottle of wind to kill. It's books, it's gossip.

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Speaker 1: I'm shook. It's memoirs. Martini Club. Come read it while

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Speaker 1: it's hot. Clebritook Club. Your secrets. We won't talk. No

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Speaker 1: boys are allowed. Book coming buzz Man. I brought the

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Speaker 1: queer voe Hey best friend. Happy Day after Valentine's Happy

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Speaker 1: Day for Valentine's Day, Happy President's Day, which is kind

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Speaker 1: of our Valentine's Day, Huge day for massachusettsers. I don't

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Speaker 1: think it exists in other states or No, that's Patriot's

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Speaker 1: Days Patriots Day. Sorry, back it up now, everything it

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Speaker 1: has a president, praise me to George. Yeah, I'm Lily,

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Speaker 1: I'm Steven. This is obviously Celebrity book Club, where we

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Speaker 1: I do think it's really interesting that we're sort of

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Speaker 1: reading this book day after v day. Yeah, how was

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Speaker 1: your read day? Well, the book we're reading, by the

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Speaker 1: way is, as you son, sorry, modern romance, right, just

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Speaker 1: to kind of give that, um okay, not to bribe,

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Speaker 1: but I actually had like a pretty chill, awesome Valentin's day. Yeah. No,

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Speaker 1: the day before totally sucked because I had to do

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Speaker 1: my dad's taxes. So I was like, right, and I

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Speaker 1: then but then she toldly surprised me and got me

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Speaker 1: actually a podcast themed valentinse present. She got me and

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Speaker 1: actually this book theme present. She got me like a

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Speaker 1: milk bar, like so many treats from crack cookies. Like

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Speaker 1: at milk bar. Oh she was at milkbar because she

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Speaker 1: couple's massage appointment. I okay. The couple's massage to me

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Speaker 1: It's a little more just about us, like getting massages

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Speaker 1: which is your girlfriend's Yeah, and you were celebrating. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so with the cups massage, and then we went out

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Speaker 1: The book is the book is completely insane. The fact

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Speaker 1: you're saying it and now it's real. Well it's kind

423
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 1: of like how I feel like I started saying nummy

424
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 1: ironically and my girlfriend is always like, oh, please don't

425
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 1: say nummy, and I'm just like this Robin's nummi. I

426
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 1: mean you have to like you have to build up

427
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:29,239
Speaker 1: a license to say that. It's like, okay, if you

428
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,439
Speaker 1: start out saying nummy on the first date, like you

429
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 1: back away. Here's why it's like not gross and I'm

430
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 1: not grossed out when I hear you say story about

431
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: this is because like you have like the sharpest tongue,

432
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 1: as in like you can be like absolutely cruel in

433
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,679
Speaker 1: a bit. So it's just like it's then you know,

434
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 1: it's nice for you to be like, hey, a little sweet.

435
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:50,479
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, Steven's not just like an

436
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 1: absolute monster like Maleficent has left the room for two seconds.

437
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,239
Speaker 1: Flap flap, this Holts. It makes me think of and

438
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 1: I feel like this is so is He's culture. One

439
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,080
Speaker 1: of the first times I really experienced the like disgusting

440
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 1: this of like gaslighting sensitive straight man because we're just

441
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 1: like not around them a lot. That is like as

442
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: He's I was cleaning a house because I am a maid,

443
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:14,959
Speaker 1: and this woman's house was it was disgusting and she

444
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 1: was like our age but rich and lived in the

445
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:18,879
Speaker 1: Upper West Side and just like her apartment was like

446
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: so gross, and she was like, so just like my

447
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: apartments a mess, just like throw it everything. So I'm

448
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 1: cleaning the couch and it was like a joke of

449
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 1: a breakup couch, like that would be in a Parks

450
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 1: and Wreck episode about like Amy Puller. I pull out

451
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: a bottle of wine from the couch, I pull out

452
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,439
Speaker 1: like Rese's I pull out a remote, and then I

453
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: pull out a letter and it's oh my god, wait, yes, yes, yes, yes.

454
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 1: She printed out an email that he said to her,

455
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 1: and she made annotations red marker in the email of

456
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: like what she would say back, whether she was doing

457
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,920
Speaker 1: that so she could get it out or to just

458
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 1: like then you know, use that notes to make her email.

459
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 1: So he basically for an entire page is explaining that

460
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to fuck her anymore. Instead of just

461
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: being like, look, this is networking out, he actually like

462
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: goes into brutal detail, and he probably thinks he's bringing

463
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: more sensitive but it's horrible. He's like, for example, like,

464
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,360
Speaker 1: my father's an alcoholic and so like I'm processing that

465
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: right now and like I don't want to kind of

466
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: like have you be affected by that? Also, like what

467
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: if we go to a museum together, like I don't

468
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 1: want to have the pressure of having to fuck you after,

469
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 1: Like I want to just be able to go home.

470
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,880
Speaker 1: So then he gives paragraph paragraph basically just like why

471
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to suck her, and at the end

472
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 1: he goes, it's like if you don't want to fuck someone, Yeah,

473
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:37,360
Speaker 1: it's just like, oh god, I'd say, it's like, oh god, yeah,

474
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 1: he didn't need to get from more paragraph. And then

475
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,760
Speaker 1: the worst part, at the end he goes, but I

476
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: just want to let you know you're awesome sauce, just

477
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: like a Hollandaise to call someone awesome sauce after six

478
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 1: paragraphs of telling them you don't want to fuck them

479
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 1: after like a Natchiest museum him, I literally have it

480
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: gives me shivers. I mean, this is house treat people

481
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,359
Speaker 1: talk to each other. Yeah, it is violence. If I do,

482
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 1: I do get what the trauma of heatersexuality is something

483
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 1: that like you know, there aren't there is no roadmap too,

484
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: and like it is like and it goes on die

485
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: do you think there is a roadmap? Oh, but but

486
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,880
Speaker 1: not that specific like the idea of like the sauce

487
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 1: and the pants and the pep. I think roma is disease.

488
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 1: He was probably just like I'm actually being like such

489
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 1: an well saying. It's like he's would say like that's

490
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: a good letter. He'd be like, fuck, yeah, dude, get

491
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: out all your feelings. And she was like red marker

492
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: crossing up paragraphs and it's really funny, honest, yeah, just

493
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 1: like pointing out Arrow's lies. So psychotic. I would just

494
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 1: want to do a few bullet points of just like

495
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: me being annoyed as ease in this book, please okay,

496
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 1: ulto a few moments I did law because like I did, sorry,

497
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: I ad mean it like I did like Master of

498
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 1: None and just like here's the thing I've ever watched it.

499
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: I did audition to play someone on a like a

500
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: golf course or something. Okay, yeah I didn't get the

501
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 1: part because it's just like I don't know, Yeah, it

502
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 1: is funny, just like can lean away than just like

503
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: the Eric from Tim and Eric and you're like, this

504
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 1: is a silly friend group and like, you know, having

505
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: the butch best friend, that's rare to see. So that

506
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: was for me to see, you know, the butch best

507
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: friend giving her gay seeming straight guy love it um

508
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 1: as much just like we roast. I feel like a

509
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,120
Speaker 1: Z's for being so like tacos at the same time,

510
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: like that we are part of this culture. We're not

511
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,119
Speaker 1: that far away, Like we live in cities, we go

512
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: to brunch. Like I got it right. He was just

513
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,479
Speaker 1: being like, oh, like I spent three hours looking for

514
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,359
Speaker 1: like where to eat in Seattle, and like, by the

515
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 1: time like I found a place I wanted to go to,

516
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: I had to perform, and I'm just like, we are

517
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: that's literally all we do. I mean, that's part of

518
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,200
Speaker 1: the book where he's just texting Chelsea pretty Nicole, being like,

519
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: where are we gonna go for brunch? And he's like

520
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: and then they ended up going to a dinner and

521
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: I wanted to go to like a fancier bunch place.

522
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that was insane when he was like, I

523
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 1: didn't want to go to that dinner, so I just

524
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: stayed home to text other friends about dinner plans. I

525
00:26:56,760 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 1: would like, you were actually diseased, No, but I mean diseased.

526
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm sorry anyone, No, But I do feel like I

527
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: kind of identify with him in that moment because I

528
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: was just like, okay, like sometimes I and the diner friend,

529
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: but sometimes when your friends are being so dining. You're like, no,

530
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: I kind of like had this idea that I wanted

531
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: to go to like Mogador in my head, and it's, well,

532
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 1: you are that there is like expensive Israeli Branston, like

533
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: I don't want and then you're like, actually, I'm not

534
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: going to eat and I'm gonna like go with my

535
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: boyfriend the super expensive restaurant just like a redly silent

536
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: expensive brunch. Okay. When this whole thing when he like

537
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 1: fights with his girlfriend and like he surprises her and

538
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,479
Speaker 1: she gets mad at him because she saw a photo

539
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: of him using a polaroid and she's like, you didn't

540
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,640
Speaker 1: call me because you were like instagramming you at the polaroid.

541
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 1: And then Valentine's Days a week later and he gives

542
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 1: her the polaroid that he was using in this photo,

543
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 1: and it's like supposed to be an apology or supposed

544
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: to be like a reveal that was doing. It's supposed

545
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: to be like a revealed. He's doing a surprise, and

546
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: then it was like his fuck you, oh yeah, and

547
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 1: he's like I never felt sucking better because like she

548
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 1: made me feel so bad for not calling her back,

549
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: and actually the reason why I wasn't calling her backs

550
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: because I was fixing a Polaro, a vintage Polaroid that

551
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 1: I got her. Okay, this thing where I'm just like,

552
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, like constrain people, can you guys just

553
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 1: like talk to each other? Like is it that hard? Well?

554
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: And I think to our point where we're always saying

555
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: how they don't know each other's I think as he's

556
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: thinks he's not that. I think he does. Think like

557
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 1: they're talking, he's like. And then I gave her Stevie Wonder,

558
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 1: like her favorite Stevie Wonder ALM on vinyl. And then okay, well,

559
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: there is this part Inn't Love whatever the fuck it's called,

560
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: where he takes this girl to Master of None, where

561
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: he takes this girl to Nashville and they go to

562
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: this amazing restaurant and they have like an iconic white

563
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: barbecue sauce and he really wants to buy it. I

564
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: really related with this, and then he doesn't because he's

565
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,959
Speaker 1: unsure about it. And then he makes them late and

566
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 1: missed their flight because he goes and gets the sauce

567
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 1: in the airport. That no, that's very you. I mean, yeah,

568
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: as we were saying over ski weekend at that great observation,

569
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: and then our friend made um lesbians will go to

570
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: a microbrewery and get two beers then drop one hundred

571
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: and eighty dollars on merch and it's just like you're

572
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: always immediately being like where is the mercer? I need

573
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: the sauce, I need the T shirt. Well, and all

574
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:22,239
Speaker 1: of my girlfriend's um anxiety dreams are usually about me

575
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 1: making us miss a flight. Mind you, we have never

576
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: missed a flight. Wow, But I think she sees me

577
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: as this kind of crazy daredevil get to the airport

578
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: hour fifteen before. Right, Well, you're an expander, she's a

579
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: container and she's like an up in the air businesswoman traveler.

580
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: He's just like I'm getting there exactly an hour and

581
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: forty five, like I'm pre check whatever. Yeah, and she's

582
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,479
Speaker 1: so global tsa um And all of her dreams are

583
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 1: just like we're going to China and you had to

584
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: like go to a store or something first miss the flight.

585
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: Of course they're going to China, and her dream um yeah,

586
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: I mean I that's so interesting that she kind of

587
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 1: like absorbs all of that of like your kind of

588
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: messy mass and like yeah, puts it in her psyche

589
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: and put it puts it in an airport. Yeah. I

590
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: feel like my boyfriend has never had a dream about

591
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 1: me being messy. He's like, that's sort of your problem.

592
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,479
Speaker 1: Really does he have dreams about you? I don't know.

593
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: I mean, he's so analysis, so I feel like his

594
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 1: dreams are really like content for analysis and like doesn't

595
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: really share them with me, because it's like when you're

596
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: in analysis twice a week, like, what do you do

597
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 1: but talk about dreams? You've got to like that. You've

598
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 1: got to sort of keep that fresh for the analysts.

599
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: And to quote my mother again, everyone falls in love

600
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: with her, their analysts. Oh, I know that he's in

601
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 1: love with it. His analyst is like this guy even

602
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: like who's like a gay, like Latin, like sexy. I'm

603
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: just like, okay, obviously you're in love with them. But

604
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: that's fine, that's totally fine. Well we literally fine. Okay.

605
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: I just wanted to when he talks about cheating the

606
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: book and like people Polly, Yeah, well, I mean obviously

607
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: you know my feelings on Polly, and like, even though

608
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: I am Polly, I think it's disgusting and I think

609
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: like having to schedule in an open relationship. I wouldn't

610
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 1: really qualify you as like traditional Polly where you're not

611
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: having like full No, I'm not like seeking. My whole

612
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: thing is just like I think it's I'm you know,

613
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 1: we're both from Boston, and it's like we're Catholic culturally,

614
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: and it's just like I think it's hotter to have

615
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: an affair and some secrets and like have some mystery

616
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: rather than like get permission to go on a date

617
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: with someone from your s O. Like, that's so fucking weird.

618
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 1: Speaking of us being from Boston and me going to

619
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 1: College of Chicago. He has this quote in the book

620
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: where he says where he's talking about like small towns

621
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 1: and how you don't meet anyone, and like the Internet,

622
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: there's this whole thing of like there's always something better

623
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 1: out there, and he's like, if you live in a

624
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: walking city like Boston or Chicago, there's always something hot

625
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: around the corner. And I'm just like, I'm sorry, there's not.

626
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: It's like just like slamming hot biddies in Boston and Chicago.

627
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 1: You're like, fucking I mean, I guess in my taste,

628
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 1: maybe it is, but I'm like, I don't think absolutely. Yeah,

629
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 1: I mean, yes, I take a turn on mass av

630
00:31:54,520 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: Bam hottie, take a turn on the Magnificent Mile in Chicago. No,

631
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: I mean for me, it's like, okay, do I need

632
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 1: to see a thousand Buddha judges? Like I guess for me, yeah,

633
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: So for you, I think most people would agree that.

634
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, those are gross cities. And for me,

635
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm seeing like a five four like

636
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: midwestern blonde girl like yeah, and I'm like fuck yeah,

637
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: So wrap it up? Hey, can I get this to go? Okay?

638
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: But what I wanted to ask about cheating? So he

639
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: brings up this interesting concept. Hey, I guess we're kind

640
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: of covering Polly, like do you cheat whatever? I'm pro cheating,

641
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: as you know. But he does say never read the text,

642
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 1: never checked the phone, never check the Gmail. It's completely

643
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: talks like and I do agree with that, because I

644
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: guess I was going to ask you, have you ever

645
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 1: checked I've checked text in the very end of my relation.

646
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: Oh and you didn't like? Well no, I mean I

647
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: I remember I saw Facebook message, but that was after

648
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: we were broken up, still living together. That didn't like

649
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 1: what I saw. I remember every time, I've done it

650
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: ever gretted it, and I don't do it anymore. I'm

651
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: really strong. Also, I feel like checking um Gmail, like

652
00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: I also never have anything. One time I checked Gmail

653
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 1: g chat. I feel it used to be such a thing.

654
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: Chat was a thing, and that's why. So I remember

655
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: I checked g chat of my second boyfriend and after

656
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 1: we broke up the first time, and I like, was

657
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 1: in his Gmail and I found a g chat where

658
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,600
Speaker 1: a he said that I was like a totally. He

659
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: called me nineties, which was kind of He was like,

660
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:20,959
Speaker 1: I've a cross in the cards of tween nineties. I

661
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: was like, read the full history. And then later I

662
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: found out him being like, yeah, I think he wants

663
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: to date, but I'm not into it. Oh I know,

664
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: isn't that so rude? Wow, So you're like nineties check

665
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 1: awesome sauce. Yeah, And then I think I don't want

666
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: to but but then every okay, then I remember another

667
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: time third whatever he everyone was going on reads misread.

668
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 1: He checked my Facebook messages. I was going to France

669
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: to visit a friend who I did have a crush on,

670
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 1: and I said in French just to be leed, which

671
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 1: I meant like I'm unemployed, but he read it as

672
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 1: like I'm free as and I'm single, so he fully

673
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 1: babble fished and incorrect read and then was like, oh

674
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 1: my god, even cheating on me in France. Oh god,

675
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: well that's very In this book he talks about how

676
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 1: like some girl had an insane ski accident and her

677
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: boyfriend was in the ambulance with her, and he looked

678
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: at her phone because he was calling her parents quote unquote,

679
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 1: and saw her snapchat and opened up the snapchat and

680
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: so that they're all these messages from a guy. And

681
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: then he was literally simmering with jealousy for eight months

682
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: until he met this guy at a party and the

683
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: guy was just her gay wow. And it's like, so

684
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 1: for eight months you were just like who, well fuck?

685
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 1: I mean, his mind. It's better than he didn't confront, right,

686
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: because she would have been like looking insane. I'm saying,

687
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 1: if you confront, I'm absolutely of the you know, just

688
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: don't check. Sometimes the world leads you to a direction

689
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: that you have to go no, no of it. You know,

690
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,240
Speaker 1: and everyone says, don't check, but you know, things happen.

691
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: The thing is because you don't know, Okay, finding out

692
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: that they've cheated. Maybe is important information, but like when

693
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 1: they say something like kind of like cutting about you,

694
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: like that can really fuck up your self esteem. Well

695
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 1: that I feel like that's worth because it's like everyone

696
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: just kind of says random stuff. Yeah, and so you

697
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:05,439
Speaker 1: need to, you know, give that space. Yeah, absolutely don't check.

698
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 1: So hey, listeners, don't check literally put it down. But

699
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,760
Speaker 1: also don't lock your phone. I think that's weird. It's us. Yeah,

700
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: I don't have a code on my Oh no, I

701
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,280
Speaker 1: guess now I do, but I do have some people

702
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: on like the little Moon icon, so like my boyfriend

703
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 1: won't see the text for them. Oh interesting, So I

704
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: am so you're us but right, it's kind of this

705
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: fakery of he just is he is kind of thing

706
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:33,360
Speaker 1: about him? Is that like? But also again, so fucking

707
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: like school paper about this is He brings up Dan

708
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: Savage by like page two hundred and fifty, and it's

709
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 1: kind definitely know, it's like, we don't need this book

710
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 1: because he is like, we're kind of quoting Dan Savage,

711
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 1: who's like because King like Saxon Relationshipship book winds its

712
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: way to dance Savage and basically the conclusion he makes

713
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: is like the basically like the dance Savage perspective on

714
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: love is like the correct one, and like that's also

715
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 1: it's so kind of twenty fourteen about this bookcase. It's

716
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: just kind of like oh, his like Naga mish kind

717
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 1: of like healthy attitude to be honest human behavior and desire,

718
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 1: but like being honest and open like with a little

719
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: bit of mysteries like basically the right answer. And it's

720
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: just like, yeah, people have been talking about this and

721
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: already write this conclusions podcast in books and like taking

722
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 1: two hundred pages to like bring up Dan Savage and

723
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: be like, actually, there's this sort of interesting theory that

724
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 1: like maybe you do you are committed and like you

725
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: do realize that like passion will go down. Yeah, and

726
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,359
Speaker 1: he's like and then he pulls up another graph. Oh

727
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 1: and I mean it also full thes he goes and

728
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:32,280
Speaker 1: then in conclusion of this book and you're like, okay,

729
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: the school paper what Also? I was annoyed as like

730
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: he only gets he references like this is again like

731
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:41,800
Speaker 1: I feel like why he's so canceled because he hardly

732
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: talks about himself in this book, only towards the whole

733
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 1: like reference little things throughout and make canceled because this

734
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: book isn't really about more no. No, I mean like

735
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 1: he's canceled because he's afraid to talk about his dating life,

736
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 1: like oh right, because he knows it's actually totally talks about.

737
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 1: And he'll just make little jokes where he's like, or

738
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,840
Speaker 1: this person in like has a pitbull themed a bedroom.

739
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,240
Speaker 1: It's just like a weird joke, and he in starts

740
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: a rap star and you're just like, yeah, a lot

741
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 1: of his okay, his jokes are kind of like mc

742
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 1: sweeney's in that way where it's very just like what

743
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 1: if I like read like a rap lyric and a

744
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 1: kind of academic way, but it is just like a

745
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:27,240
Speaker 1: rap is ridiculous, and it's especially ridiculous out of contact

746
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: so it read at the end then he basically it's

747
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 1: only two pages he talks about just like how he

748
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: went to bars and like jerked off too much and

749
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: it was exhausting. I will say, I think what this

750
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: book lacks is like a sense of joy about being single,

751
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: which I think is actually kind of sad because well

752
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: he says he loves it, but like, looking back on it,

753
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: basically has this very fun had her an armat I

754
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 1: of like view that's just kind of like the goal

755
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: of everything is like fine to me, and it's like, sure,

756
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 1: being a relationship is wonderful, but it's like being single

757
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 1: is just as wonderful. And it's like that's why one

758
00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: reason I love the film How to Be Single with

759
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: Rebel Wills Elson Anne what's her name from? Anna? Oh,

760
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 1: Dakota Johnson. Yeah, And it's like that movie's actually so

761
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: fun and sweet and it like shows the contrast and

762
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,359
Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, being singless and you should enjoy being

763
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: something as much as possible because it'll be over in

764
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: a second and then you'll be in a relationship. So

765
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 1: just like really try to like well, I think that's

766
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: what he was trying to say, that he was enjoying

767
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,239
Speaker 1: it so much and then he got like sad going

768
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 1: to Comedian barbecue. He has this moralizing puritanical in this

769
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: to him where he's just like it's actually like ultimately

770
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: it's like really sad. It's the downward spiral because like

771
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 1: you're getting drunk and you're not remembering names, and just

772
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 1: like it's because he's on his high horse with his

773
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: like Tosy muse and that clearly didn't work, and like

774
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 1: now he is single. I think it's just like because

775
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 1: he is such a like comedian short playboy and he's

776
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: like self loathing and is just like I do want

777
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: like a girl to go to pop ups with. And

778
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 1: that's why he's like so upset and it's like so

779
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: angry at himself. It's just it's just sad that it's like,

780
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,399
Speaker 1: you know, you can't find like being singles all about

781
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 1: like finding like different experiences, like not just going to

782
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: pop ups and food trucks and museums. It's like being

783
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: single is about like meeting the guy on the beach.

784
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: It's about just like having a work thing that develops

785
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: into something. It's about just like a DM that turns

786
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: into a cruise. It's like, well yeah, but again you're

787
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 1: like gay, so no, you know what I mean. Like

788
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: it's just like he's a straight guy. So it's like

789
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 1: being single is just like but going on tender dates

790
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: with And that's why. But I'm saying that people can

791
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 1: do different things. But that's why for him, being the

792
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: joy being single is going to food pop ups and museums.

793
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 1: I just think that it's so sad I want to

794
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: go sorry, I want to go to pop ups and

795
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 1: like random, I don't want to be covered and like

796
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: lobster juice, Like every time, I'm like, well, that's why

797
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:50,279
Speaker 1: you're not disease. Clearly he has a lot of demons. Well,

798
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,760
Speaker 1: also his parents haven't arranged marriage, and clearly he's like, oh,

799
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 1: they have this companionate love which he keeps on referring to.

800
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: He's like, clearly jealous of his parents, like a range

801
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: marriage and how they like do have like love data

802
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: section that's so fucking Bloomberg Business Week, and it's like

803
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,919
Speaker 1: who the fuck asked? Since twenty ten, the Japanese state

804
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 1: has paid parents a monthly allowance of between one hundred

805
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: and one hundred and fifty dollars per child to take

806
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: some with a financial burnt out of child raising. But

807
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: before you can have a kid, you need to find

808
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 1: someone to eleven marry right. Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abbe

809
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: allocated twenty five million in the twenty fourteen fiscal budget

810
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:28,400
Speaker 1: for programs designed to get people to pair off and

811
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: have babies, including government funded dating services. An official survey

812
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 1: conducted in twenty ten show that sixty six percent of

813
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 1: all prefecture governments, and thirty three percent of city ward

814
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 1: town village governments were implementing some sort of marriage support.

815
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: Even more so today it's like this literally reminder actually

816
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: trying to take up You're so double space right now.

817
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 1: This is why it's like he's so afraid to say

818
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: like he wants a blowjob, that he takes up an

819
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 1: entire book giving us statistics about the Japanese government. Preach

820
00:40:56,920 --> 00:41:01,720
Speaker 1: literally like I can read that Atlanta aloud. Read between

821
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 1: the lines, bitch of this college paper. It's a number

822
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 1: one New York Times best selling blowjop. You know, say

823
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: you want to see your dad, say your design, your

824
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: p in V. Then go to a pop up yes,

825
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 1: Burmese tacos. Oh. I wanted to talk about tanga, but

826
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: I guess we don't have to. Oh wait, I really

827
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,439
Speaker 1: want to talk about that because to reference my girlfriend again,

828
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 1: do you remember when well I got a tanga from

829
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,279
Speaker 1: some like activation. We went to no No, and it

830
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 1: was this Keith Harry no no, that was left at

831
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 1: her restaurant. Someone left a box restaurant, barbs. Wow. I

832
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: imagined an activation no no, that was someone left at

833
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 1: the restaurant she worked at, like a box of Keith

834
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: Harring flushlights, and like she brought them home and then

835
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: you use that and it was like the ridges on

836
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: the fleshlight which was of Keith Harrying like drawings. This

837
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 1: is a West Village topest restaurant. The estate of Keith

838
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,919
Speaker 1: Harring literally just says yes to any yeah, they're like sure.

839
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: But it was like a sheet, you know, a box

840
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,720
Speaker 1: was like seven flush lights in the box flush lights,

841
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 1: Like I'm sure if just like to speak of Burma

842
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: like the Burns. Junta was like, can we just like

843
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: put your design on like Kishmough there would be like absolutely,

844
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 1: go for it, let's do it, license it out. But

845
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: you used it. I did. I jacked off into this

846
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: egg and how it was it was just like this

847
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 1: is slimy. I mean, I'm not such a lube person.

848
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: Like when a guy, when guys come over to fuck me,

849
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 1: they're always like, do you have lube? And I'm like no,

850
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: I just like really, I just it's weird. It's like

851
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: it's unnatural. I don't use the oterant. I don't use lube.

852
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:39,439
Speaker 1: A lot of lube in my house, but natural, well

853
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: in every room, no, just one room. I mean there's

854
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:49,959
Speaker 1: a lot of you know toys, you know, yeah, I yeah,

855
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,280
Speaker 1: I mean it's not I'm not saying that, like my

856
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 1: my bussy is so yeah, it's so soaking it. Well,

857
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 1: I do salivate a lot, and so I have a

858
00:42:58,280 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 1: lot of saliva, and like I can just like you

859
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 1: that and I prefer I mean, I use live as

860
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 1: two I guess with like I'm a frothy fanning, you

861
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Frederica frossy, fredericasgusting. Okay, that was

862
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: the first female namer could think. I mean, I love that.

863
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a good drug ras name, Frederica. I'm sorry,

864
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: my dear you. Okay, okay, um As He's also agrees

865
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: with you. He did not like the flashlights. Yeah, you're like,

866
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 1: I do think that getting so getting topped by an

867
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 1: object is fine, Like I will, like I get off

868
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:35,399
Speaker 1: on like sucking a dildo or like obviously getting sucked

869
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: by a dildo, like I can like imagine that in

870
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: my mind, but like to top an object, so right,

871
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: so to fuck the tenga, to me, there's no fun

872
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:45,800
Speaker 1: in that because like it's like, yeah, it's like topping

873
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 1: is about like domination and power, So it's hot to

874
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 1: like dominate a person. But it's not I'm dominating this

875
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,800
Speaker 1: little egg is It's not like really, I'm just like damn, yeah,

876
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 1: take it egg, especially when it's a Keith Herring license day.

877
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 1: It's not really doing anything like in this in the Rotic,

878
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 1: where it's like, you know, bottoming for an object is

879
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: even more humiliing because you're like, oh, I'm literally less

880
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: than this object. And so it kind of works in

881
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 1: that American pie stuff. No, I'm American pie the opposite

882
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 1: of a pie, but I think American pie, I mean

883
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 1: it's probably still hotter than the Keith Herring flush light.

884
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and it's also alicit because it's like the

885
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: mom made the pie or whatever, and you're not supposed

886
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: to be pie. All right, I think it's time for segments.

887
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 1: Segment talk us. What does he wear? Do um? What

888
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 1: does he eat? I mean has he covered? Just like

889
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,879
Speaker 1: literally like he spent a year of his life going

890
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: to like mud there in Italy to like learn how

891
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: to make violi the most time out food. Yeah. Yeah,

892
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 1: he's foodie, just like he was like sliders. He loves bows.

893
00:44:56,239 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: He loves bows turned into pasta pop up pop up

894
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: Potts best Friends with our friend of the pod, David Cheng. Yeah,

895
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: a friend of the pod is not just anyone whose

896
00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 1: book the pod. Um. Yeah, he's like, in a way,

897
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 1: the opposite of Chaston. Yeah, chasin No, He's not going

898
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: to no, He's just oh dude, hold on, I have

899
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 1: actually a list of like my best favorite jos and

900
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: heights like all looked like any city that he goes

901
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: and like does hand up research against getting so many

902
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: rash He's doing like ten minutes on stage about like

903
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 1: what the restaurants are. He's like, so I went to

904
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 1: the fucking French place age you guys know it. And

905
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: then people are coming on stage and saying fair favorite

906
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 1: brunch place. Yeah, bunch culture you know. So it is PERETTI.

907
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: I mean their their squad is very brunch culture. And

908
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: are I feel like I haven't got I mean obviously

909
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: didn't prep. He's so take out and he's so Postmates,

910
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 1: and it's like I don't think he's cooking. I don't

911
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: think he's no babe. He literally went to that insane

912
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 1: that was like for TV show. Yeah, but he's like

913
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 1: making a great he's but he's like with his girlfriend,

914
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 1: they're cooking at home. She's a pastry chef. He's absolutely

915
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: rolling out pasta. He's buying himself a dumpling steamer. But

916
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: he's take out because he's on tour. But when he

917
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: is at home, he is absolutely making a short rib

918
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 1: fucking rug ou. I guess I just thought that. I

919
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: feel like everyone in las A Postmates and they're just

920
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 1: like posts meating like ice cream at two am, and

921
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 1: they're postmating nice coffee and they're like, but when he

922
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 1: is cooking, he is doing like a full hand pulled

923
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: noodles zelong bow. Like he's not doing like a sandwich

924
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 1: at home. No, he's either getting the most epic sir

925
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,919
Speaker 1: no cold cuts in that fridge right or going to

926
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: make the most epic two day long food. How does

927
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:41,320
Speaker 1: he live? I feel like he's the most like everything

928
00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 1: is mid century. Yeah, there's like not one thing that

929
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 1: it's all new mid century. It's completely new mid century.

930
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 1: It's a very like selling Sunset house, but that's going

931
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 1: for one point one, you know what I mean. It's

932
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: like a two bedroom and bedroom. I mean maybe the

933
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: credenza's vintage, but it's like in mid condition and super

934
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: expect and he's from nineteen sixty eight and it has

935
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: a built in record player, absolutely because he thinks that's

936
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 1: sucking pimp man. Ultimately, you know it is. I think

937
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: as he's like does have a lower end vinyl player

938
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: like Crossley, that brand, which I used to have, Like

939
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: I feel like, okay, he is buying a more basic retro.

940
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: I think I think that also though, like someone got

941
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 1: him as a gift this um thing I saw on

942
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 1: charctok once that's like that can play a record without

943
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: a record player. It's like this little car that goes

944
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 1: on vinyl. Like Bluetooth. I mean, like the Bluetooth in

945
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:39,319
Speaker 1: that house is out of control. Everything is bluetooth into

946
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 1: each other. Yeah, And I think he's like when he

947
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: was in Japan, he probably did get a super expensive record,

948
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: but he's mostly buying like a new. He's buying like

949
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: a new like Michael Jackson, like on vinyl. Yes, he's like,

950
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 1: oh the re released Billy Geane on vinyl. He's not

951
00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 1: like scouring for some like actually fucking anything is a

952
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:02,720
Speaker 1: fucking poser. Gud Follers are dude, not like us fucking

953
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,359
Speaker 1: Empire Records as indie people. I mean, as I've said,

954
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:09,520
Speaker 1: I'm not that but you are, and you invented not

955
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 1: to bring up my haircut, which is actually kind of

956
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 1: crazy that I have brought up this entire pod. I mean,

957
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: you've been emanating. I got a haircut vibes if you

958
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: can hear it through the airwaves. So I feel like

959
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:21,359
Speaker 1: I kind of have also got a Ja's hair but

960
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: also the owner of Empire Records. It's like a cross

961
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: I got like two. That movie is not like such

962
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: a hitting for you. It's just it's not like a

963
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: marker for me. Okay, moving moving on, then moving on? Um,

964
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:35,799
Speaker 1: what does he wear? I mean we know what, we

965
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 1: know what he wears like little all birds, all birds, Bonobos,

966
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 1: little blazers, most Bnobos. Person Yeah, it's like a brow

967
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: that like duck maybe colored. He's just like I like,

968
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: I like fucking like fabric that's comfortable but like a

969
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 1: little bit formal, you know, Yes, And then he's wearing

970
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: like a super nice New Versity bomber jacket. He's not

971
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 1: that store untucket, but like he might as well be.

972
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 1: I bet he has a few on tuckets, but like

973
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: he's not repping for them. But I think because of

974
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: his stature he has a shorter man as a shorter king.

975
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm wearing a shirt today that I wish

976
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,959
Speaker 1: was a little more on tucket, Like it's so long.

977
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:18,320
Speaker 1: Can I hate something? Yeah, I don't think you should

978
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: get too crop Now that you have the cropped haircut,

979
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 1: like you're gonna start looking just like an urban outfitters girl.

980
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 1: Like if you get two cropped with the shirts, it's

981
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 1: like you're just gonna be fully like black seed Bagel,

982
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 1: like with your big matcha at one PM. Like if like,

983
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:34,799
Speaker 1: let's not get too croppy. This shirt is so long.

984
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 1: I don't think it's so long. I think it actually

985
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: looks good with with your hair. I think what's the

986
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 1: one thing that's actually very cool about your head that

987
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 1: I will say? Yeah, is that one thing one one

988
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 1: of many things that is cool about your hair is that,

989
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: unlike the bouffant, like having some more volume on the sides,

990
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 1: like draws the eye up in a way that the

991
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: bouffont like like made extra like fabric seemed too extra,

992
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 1: but now extra fabric seems like it's more intentional. So

993
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 1: I think the longer shirt actually works. Wow, thank you,

994
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: So you don't you have taught me? Is that is

995
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 1: kind of about I think fabric lengths and proportions, because

996
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 1: you know, I would have gone in. I would have

997
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,359
Speaker 1: thought when she was getting it, I was like, oh,

998
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:18,759
Speaker 1: is is this puffiness on the side gonna make me

999
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: look more feminine? But it weirdly makes me look more

1000
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 1: masculine than my bouffont I feel, which was like some

1001
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 1: people read, I feel like some older women who were

1002
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 1: just like, oh, fabrious, do you look like this eighteenth

1003
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: century yeah woman, because it was a little rockabilly, because billy.

1004
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 1: But then people took it as a little more. Um,

1005
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think you've always read as like

1006
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:47,280
Speaker 1: total the butcher in New Yorker in history, like friend Lebowitz,

1007
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 1: take a seat. Oh well, that's the things I think

1008
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:55,520
Speaker 1: since I was born, this curve Italian cheka, right, Senora,

1009
00:50:55,640 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 1: really right? No, you're and your mom watched a lot

1010
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 1: of Sophila and films when she was a pregnant with you.

1011
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: That's actually how she got bregnant. That's the only way

1012
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:20,720
Speaker 1: your dad could get hard on that note, Senora. Um,

1013
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 1: this was this was this was a super Hello. Who

1014
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: are we always forget this segment? Okay, there's no one

1015
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 1: in this book. There's no character. Yeah, I know, it's

1016
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:33,280
Speaker 1: always like okay, am I this like Jane from Tampa

1017
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: who had a ski accident who downloaded snapchat. Yeah, like

1018
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's kind of like, well you could say

1019
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 1: there was um, there's parents. There's also um his friend

1020
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,400
Speaker 1: who was like a divorced dad who like wrote a

1021
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:48,319
Speaker 1: chlogo reader personal in the eighties. That was kind of

1022
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: a character I did like a lot. That was the

1023
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 1: guy I did make me nostalgic for like newspaper personals

1024
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:56,799
Speaker 1: and like I do and like, you know, we know

1025
00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 1: that the lex app is really trying to bring that

1026
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 1: back in a way. I will say he does actually

1027
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 1: make some some good points in this book to his credit,

1028
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 1: Like I think one of the best points was the

1029
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: idea of time and that like the fact that we

1030
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 1: are so instant gratification now actually changes like the mechanisms

1031
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 1: of desire and like makes you less into a person

1032
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:20,240
Speaker 1: when you have this like when you expect responses rapidly,

1033
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 1: and like the whole thing about like when you used

1034
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 1: to fill out a newspaper personal and you would like

1035
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,359
Speaker 1: write this ad and then like you would put like

1036
00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 1: you have a voice voice and then and then like

1037
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:30,920
Speaker 1: a week later, like someone's leaving your voicemone, then a

1038
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 1: week later you're checking the voice one. Then maybe you're

1039
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: calling some of the people back, and like that drawn

1040
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:38,359
Speaker 1: out process creates a sense of mystery and uncertainty that

1041
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:41,920
Speaker 1: is actually like much more exciting and like primes you

1042
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 1: to like be more into the person and like be

1043
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: more inquisitive and like sort of go down a journey

1044
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 1: with someone much more than when you're just like writing

1045
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 1: a thing and expecting immediate response and then just like

1046
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,839
Speaker 1: swipe people starting, you know. And so I think there

1047
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: was like we have lost something there in the immedia

1048
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 1: and again to kind of just me a time a

1049
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 1: bit to plug my business of crispy cruising is that

1050
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: is doesn't thing anymore because we have a sorry pandemic.

1051
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Speaker 1: Sorry it's a pandemic data. Sorry, we can't do iral

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Speaker 1: date anymore. Sorry dude, sorry, sorry, how it is you

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Speaker 1: do whatever? Do that? My friend Alex and I did

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00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:17,040
Speaker 1: start a queer speed dating business to bring stuff back

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00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: to the IRL universe and get off our phones. I

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Speaker 1: love that and it worked and it worked, and it's

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00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 1: about combining the phone and the IRL and it was

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00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 1: like put your Instagram handle on meet the person, take

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00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 1: the photo, the handle message and that again it's like

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Speaker 1: that is where I will come down, and I will

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Speaker 1: say that like all my relationships like do have some

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Speaker 1: sort of combination of technology in real life. And I

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00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:36,880
Speaker 1: think that it is important to be a part of

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Speaker 1: a social scene and like go to events and see

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00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: people and like you know, do we we Let's not

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00:53:41,239 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 1: pretend that phone zone exists. Obviously they are extension of

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Speaker 1: versals where attached them glued dada da da. But like

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00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,080
Speaker 1: like a lot, what would happen is people would be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: me and this person actually did message on Tinner and

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00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 1: then it was like catapulted by seeing each other irl

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00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 1: because and things got lost. So maybe you know you

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00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,880
Speaker 1: message you know some quacks and they were like some

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00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 1: thing happened to their cat and then you're like, oh

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00:54:02,120 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: they hate me, and then you actually saw them with

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00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 1: chrispeaks right, and then it was kind of hot and

1076
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,320
Speaker 1: then you had a connection. It's just like let everything simmer.

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00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: Have thirteen backburners at all times, but like don't get

1078
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:13,720
Speaker 1: too attached, but like play it cool to a message,

1079
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:19,879
Speaker 1: don't check usband, get a husband, divorce the husband, take

1080
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: out a real personal ad get a landline. Oh, we

1081
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:25,359
Speaker 1: never chose who we were in the book. Who are

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00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 1: we in the book? Who are you in the book? Ultimately,

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Speaker 1: I guess, like sadly, like I'm am half asy As

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00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 1: even though we like roasted him so much, so I

1085
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: know we're both kind of as easy because we're so brunch.

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00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:36,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I do kind of if we're going to

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00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 1: be that. There's that one scene where he references like

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00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:42,760
Speaker 1: texting Chelsea Bready Nicole and like, maybe I'm more Chelsea

1089
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 1: because I'm so wearing a weird top and she's always

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00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 1: we all want to be Chelsea, She's a queen. I'm

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00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: just yeah, I'm just more saying about like her sort

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00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 1: of random ass fashion choices. Although I guess I would

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00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:54,239
Speaker 1: say that I maybe have more, Yeah, I would say

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00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 1: more than I think I'm not so comedian style. I

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00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 1: would say I am more the little bit more. I

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00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 1: don't know. I think we're Azzo's on different days. Oh true.

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Speaker 1: But also I think maybe I am that divorced man

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00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 1: who wrote a personal lad and the Reader in nineteen

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Speaker 1: eighty five, yeah, and got like so many responses and

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Speaker 1: went with the woman who could speak Spanish or actually,

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00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,040
Speaker 1: where's that you? And I'm actually, since I do run

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00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:19,800
Speaker 1: a speed dating business, I'm like one of the people

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00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:24,239
Speaker 1: he quotes. Yes, you're like a noted sociologist at the

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00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 1: University of Connecticut who's writing a paper, and I'm this

1105
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:30,600
Speaker 1: guy who wants the dated woman who also speaks French.

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00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:34,200
Speaker 1: Thank you done. Rub that one up. Okay, let's go

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00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 1: get m barbecue shredded bow noodle COMPARI let's get lobster

1108
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:48,720
Speaker 1: mac and cheese slider pizzas Neopolitan Saint Louis Detroit style

1109
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: subs and found a cool, like weirdly long message like

1110
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:56,360
Speaker 1: not too long after you swipe on someone wait two minutes.

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Speaker 1: I would say that this book is I mean, you

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00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 1: don't need to read it's the most airport book ever,

1113
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 1: but it is very easy to read. Yeah, it's just

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00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 1: if you are practicing reading, pick it up. Yeah, even

1115
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 1: if you're a super huge fan of disease, just like

1116
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: watches stand up specials like this will disappoint you. Yeah.

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00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 1: So I give this honestly zero bows out of five. No,

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Speaker 1: I give it two out of five phones because I'm like, again,

1119
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 1: like I liked the ease of reading, because you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of like anti literate, like as a cause,

1121
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 1: and it's just like I'm reading one page of like

1122
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 1: fucking Freud or whatever because I love stories about dating

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00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 1: and just like random anecdotes, and if it was that

1124
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: doing so much more and less like graphs, yeah, less,

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00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 1: less graphs of stuff I already know. I'm like, thanks,

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00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:50,359
Speaker 1: I'm aware that like marriages are like declining and just

1127
00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: like women got jobs. Thank you for this history lesson. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if it were more like, oh my god, like that

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00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: book that I got like once at that like their

1130
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 1: story that was like the area of fifty women, and

1131
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 1: it was like, oh right, if it was a little

1132
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: more old. So he said it was a completely different book,

1133
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 1: he said. She said it was to be like Guys

1134
00:57:10,080 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 1: on Tender would be like ten interviews of guys or

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00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 1: just like I mean, it is fun that he shows

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00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 1: texts in this. Yeah, and it's like make the whole book.

1137
00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 1: It should have been a graphic novel, all of texts

1138
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 1: with one like hey ladies, yeah, which we love. Okay,

1139
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 1: so we're re I'm actually going to do this book

1140
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 1: and just make it like fictional and like only text

1141
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 1: and emails. Yeah. Okay, So our next book. Um, we're

1142
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:37,680
Speaker 1: totally switching gears because this book was all about straight people,

1143
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 1: which also he did call himself in by the way

1144
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 1: and say, I'm not even gonna try to do a

1145
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 1: book about people. I really appreciate that he said the

1146
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 1: parameters of sort of the study at the beginning email

1147
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: was that was really helpful. Anyway, we're doing lesbians next week,

1148
00:57:50,240 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: which is huge because we haven't done a book about

1149
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: lesbians yet. We're doing the Taken and Sarah memoir Boom

1150
00:57:54,720 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 1: Boom book. Indeed, anyone, um, mullets, anyone haircuts, any one wait, sorry,

1151
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 1: and their sisters who are lesbians. Yeah, so we can

1152
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: talk about that. Interesting twins. If I believe I actually

1153
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:09,439
Speaker 1: know nothing, I'm not a fan. I'm so I'm so

1154
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: excited to learn. It's so funny because you're not a

1155
00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: fan in a way that's like you're such like letsbian

1156
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,680
Speaker 1: music aficionado that you're like, yeah, that's like fucking like

1157
00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:18,920
Speaker 1: baby ship. Well, I think it's because I'm like sadly

1158
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:22,000
Speaker 1: old and I'm like of an any generation and they're like,

1159
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:25,080
Speaker 1: oh right, because you're spiritually gen X Yeah, spiritual gen

1160
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 1: o X rising millennial. Yeah. Okay, So rockers. See you

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00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 1: next week in Toronto. Rock On We're Going Back onto

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00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 1: and Headgum. The show is produced by Megmnade, who gives

1164
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Speaker 1: me a total boner, with editorial support from Andrew Parsons

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00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:01,560
Speaker 1: and Leon Napok, who also gives me a ban boner sorry.

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Speaker 1: Engineering by Ferris Manchi who I got awesome tacos with once.

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Speaker 1: Original theme song by Steam Phillips Horst who's a total

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Speaker 1: bro and he will be in my wedding. Art work

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Speaker 1: Twitter at CBC the pod Okay, honestly Twitter is kind

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00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:17,640
Speaker 1: of toxic and weird and I did have to take

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Speaker 1: a break. But if you're on it, honestly, dude, like

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