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Speaker 2: really gonna be fun and important. Uh, It's gonna be
Speaker 2: important to me because I always like to bring you
Speaker 2: into my rold, into my life, be as honest and
Speaker 2: as open as possible. And we're gonna be talking a
Speaker 2: little bit about a special day that should be celebrated
Speaker 2: every day, which is Mother's Day. Betty ye as madst
Speaker 2: for all the mothers out there listening, for.
Speaker 3: The mothers, the future mothers, the ones that are expecting,
Speaker 3: the ones who have adopted, the ones who have puppies
Speaker 3: and cats and animals, and are you know whatever it
Speaker 3: is if you are nurturing soul and you're out here
Speaker 3: being the best mother.
Speaker 1: You can be or plan on being a mother. Happy
Speaker 1: Mother's Days to you.
Speaker 3: Mother's Days doesn't necessarily have to be about you know,
Speaker 3: your biological mother.
Speaker 1: I know amazing grandmothers.
Speaker 2: There are great mothers and aunts who are great you
Speaker 2: know moms, and and.
Speaker 1: There's so many people out here raising these children and
Speaker 1: being uh, you know, being an.
Speaker 2: Amazing nurture that I feel is important to celebrate those
Speaker 2: people doing that job as well. Let's celebrate the day together.
Speaker 2: And I wouldn't be able to do this without. And
Speaker 2: I'm older than maybe either the person who raised me
Speaker 2: and has been my support system since day one, the
Speaker 2: person who created me, who is my mother. And now
Speaker 2: Tambing is abuda with you guys.
Speaker 1: Today we have mommy and my mom.
Speaker 2: Hi, Mom, Hi, telling the prama the exactly madre intu
Speaker 2: gas Mammy is to Premier, I'm your office. You know
Speaker 2: a girl canky Yeah, Losentinos, we feel it now officially
Speaker 2: that you are a grandmother. Means when Premiers so exactly
Speaker 2: came theself to Mather.
Speaker 1: I know that's right. Hey, the.
Speaker 3: Congos dire for losses mia a two ways I'll want
Speaker 3: to see me to the Negas condo.
Speaker 1: Okay, getting dad, get didn't when when you see my babies?
Speaker 2: Okay, for example, sum his dad, what do you see
Speaker 2: in her that you saw in me when I was little?
Speaker 1: So pick up? Yes, okay, it's very artistic.
Speaker 3: And okay a your highness you Hynes Soesa.
Speaker 1: Hey, come one, yes for sure.
Speaker 2: And you know, but me, I really enjoy seeing you
Speaker 2: as a mother as well obviously as my mother, but
Speaker 2: I enjoy seeing you as another version of a mother
Speaker 2: for my daughters.
Speaker 1: You know, you're a grandmother, but I see you reliving
Speaker 1: a lot of experiences.
Speaker 2: Then do you feel and now you will have a
Speaker 2: second opportunity to do things right?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: Then a couple so yeah, so you feel that my
Speaker 3: daughters give you life like the babies give you life.
Speaker 3: They make you want to live. So I love that,
Speaker 3: I really do. And that's such a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2: I think that sometimes as new you know, new mom's,
Speaker 2: first time moms, we're so caught up and like not
Speaker 2: knowing what we're doing, being excited as a mom, but
Speaker 2: still trying to figure things out. The don't realize how
Speaker 2: us bringing new life into the family really does give
Speaker 2: life to the family overall, especially our mothers our grandmothers.
Speaker 1: And the fathers too, you know, new life.
Speaker 2: Just learning how to raise a child and and showing
Speaker 2: them how to talk, how to walk, how to eat,
Speaker 2: just the process of it all.
Speaker 3: It really does give life to the whole family out.
Speaker 3: Is there any advice that you can pass down to me?
Speaker 1: Then, Madre.
Speaker 3: Is me primer avese and sindo mare.
Speaker 1: What advice can you give me? Why?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: I see say yo to create yes, right the vaara
Speaker 1: and when they yes they were they yes.
Speaker 3: La comnicas for lamentaaaaa.
Speaker 1: Okay, different the animals to sell the converts I alg.
Speaker 2: I comedic commo madri comira. Is there anything that you
Speaker 2: regret that you did as a mother that you wouldn't
Speaker 2: want me to to do?
Speaker 3: But satam you know you know complete genaro ruse at peto, Madre,
Speaker 3: no order notata dio to puberta.
Speaker 1: It's a primara teenager for this lot.
Speaker 3: Cose know josalian pet so the road. Okay, there's something
Speaker 3: that you did that you're like, you know what now now.
Speaker 1: Okay, I know no.
Speaker 3: Man, that's okay, No locme we make cri and Jeff
Speaker 3: okay or to say form our.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, borno.
Speaker 2: Okay, which, by the way, I feel that there's many
Speaker 2: things ka I never thought, Hey, I would do as
Speaker 2: a mother. I come and then I feel how I know,
Speaker 2: I see how I'm copying a lot of the things
Speaker 2: that you.
Speaker 1: You know, how you raised me. You were very strong
Speaker 1: with me when I was growing up.
Speaker 2: You're very tough on me, which I'm grateful because it
Speaker 2: taught me to be responsible, is be as it made
Speaker 2: me into a professional.
Speaker 3: I'm grateful for all those things. That's my professionality. As
Speaker 3: maybe I might have like.
Speaker 2: These high expectations of what I expect them to be,
Speaker 2: and I have to understand that they are going to
Speaker 2: be whoever they're going to be in their time. They're
Speaker 2: gonna pursue whatever it is that they want to be.
Speaker 1: How did you deal with knowing? In your case?
Speaker 2: Because you and I have different experiences that I wanted
Speaker 2: to be an artist, that I wanted to be payments,
Speaker 2: that I want to do all these great things, and
Speaker 2: financially you couldn't afford it.
Speaker 1: Cours what sort of k S A NBA. That's that? Okay, Ken,
Speaker 1: I go talk to like, ok.
Speaker 3: So, so compact Kenny through Now how about this, let's
Speaker 3: get let's get to it. This is a broo cue conversation,
Speaker 3: but to stop playing because when I was growing up,
Speaker 3: you used that.
Speaker 2: I don't use the word beats. I think the American
Speaker 2: version of that would be spank, and you used to spank.
Speaker 1: The hell out of me.
Speaker 3: But I know that that's a cultural thing and it
Speaker 3: all whatever she could find, she would throw it at me.
Speaker 1: And I feel that the kids.
Speaker 2: From our generation somewhere, how about the generation before us,
Speaker 2: they respected, you know, their elderly and their parents more
Speaker 2: than this generation.
Speaker 1: Do you still believe in the spanking.
Speaker 3: One the younsada alos alos majores mask.
Speaker 1: They all? Should I use other methods? Or do you
Speaker 1: still believe in the spanking? And pen yr como? Okay?
Speaker 3: And this.
Speaker 1: K greg die young moment you appears, okay, girl, you
Speaker 1: lying another girl?
Speaker 3: You didn't you never spend but you know you got
Speaker 3: that belt, that chant, that hangar, that wire, whatever, you
Speaker 3: have a plan.
Speaker 1: You know you spank the hell out of me.
Speaker 2: But I think that it's not just about the spanking,
Speaker 2: because there's a differently between spanking and abuse discipline. I
Speaker 2: think is important showing your children to respect you as
Speaker 2: a parent, to understand the sacrifices that you do for
Speaker 2: them as a parent, that everything that you're doing, you're
Speaker 2: disciplining them because you mean well for them, because you
Speaker 2: try to protect them, because you can't just raise them
Speaker 2: to be wild. I do understand there's other methods like
Speaker 2: stand in the corner, take away certain toys. I think
Speaker 2: that we've learned throughout, you know, time, there's other ways
Speaker 2: of doing it. But I know, other than the Latino household,
Speaker 2: that is very common. So I really wanted to know
Speaker 2: because in many occasions my mom would be like, you
Speaker 2: better not.
Speaker 1: Put your hands on the baby. And but you didn't
Speaker 1: know me anyways. But I mean simple pensel get.
Speaker 3: And doesn't just look at the part it's part the
Speaker 3: THEO and they kind of come out selling.
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's just me be don't is the
Speaker 1: positive person?
Speaker 2: Savad do incurgass and mean, so, how do you raise
Speaker 2: your daughter specifically or your children a row to have
Speaker 2: that that friendly bond, that relationship with their mother where
Speaker 2: they can feel comfortable enough to be honest with you
Speaker 2: and tell you everything that's going in there in their
Speaker 2: life without feeling necessarily, you know, judge, or feeling like
Speaker 2: I can't come to my mother to my father to
Speaker 2: tell them what's happening in my life. You know the
Speaker 2: passic you got you you see your considerata.
Speaker 1: And because not casa no no I like yay.
Speaker 3: No problema, the local vedia alamo and pante no so
Speaker 3: primri terno it was so it's a it's a part, okay,
Speaker 3: so Loyer, and.
Speaker 1: I am curious to.
Speaker 2: Know what are your honest thoughts on me becoming a mother,
Speaker 2: says a Quales son.
Speaker 1: To spend some mien pos okay baillo Marri.
Speaker 3: Chris is in my momentum Chris and Chris there vero
Speaker 3: mask Chris ka very cholantes.
Speaker 1: No look look some perfect in castle to you called
Speaker 1: take thee and didn't do something. And Mom, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Which is closet sipan Samoa Lesa.
Speaker 1: And me via the see the thousand and one after
Speaker 1: I had my daughters.
Speaker 2: Altra foulsa, there was another break in my career where
Speaker 2: I feel that God gave me the opportunity and was
Speaker 2: kind of blessing me with allowing me to enjoy my daughters.
Speaker 2: You know, God was more like, I'm gonna give you
Speaker 2: a different type of momentum that right now, life is
Speaker 2: gonna go a little bit slower for you so that
Speaker 2: you can enjoy being a mother, enjoy getting to know
Speaker 2: your daughter, spending time with them, because life will go
Speaker 2: back into you know, work, work, work, work, work, work, work,
Speaker 2: and you're gonna regret now spending time with your girls.
Speaker 2: So I thank God every day for the opportunity that
Speaker 2: he gave me of at least enjoying my.
Speaker 1: Daughters their first year. I've been there.
Speaker 2: Mammy has to go back to work, Mammy's going to
Speaker 2: be traveling again, Mammy is not going to.
Speaker 1: Be home fatal the first year of my daughter's lives.
Speaker 2: I've been here as much as possible to, you know,
Speaker 2: teach him how to eat, teach him how.
Speaker 1: To talk, how to walk. Like that journey. I didn't
Speaker 1: want to lose that.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to miss out on that, and I'm
Speaker 3: grateful that I've been able to be around.
Speaker 1: Do you think, mom, that I am a good mother,
Speaker 1: perfect anything? My whole suddenly? What do you be honest
Speaker 1: at that?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: See, okay, good be honest because.
Speaker 2: If I need to be better, that's another thing. As
Speaker 2: a new time, first time mom, sometimes we're not perfect.
Speaker 2: We're not perfect and we need help. And if you
Speaker 2: need help, it's okay to ask your mom ya wailita
Speaker 2: to me, I don't know what I'm doing it dependly,
Speaker 2: I don't know how to do is ask for help, Beto.
Speaker 1: I also want to know me and there's something I
Speaker 1: could do better as a mother. I'm never gonna take
Speaker 1: it personal. Teach me.
Speaker 3: So is there anything you think that I need to picture?
Speaker 3: You think I'm doing good? So far perfect, and then
Speaker 3: it takes us attle lot, please the way and.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2: That means a lot to me. I'm so grateful for
Speaker 2: your words. I know that we've had this conversation in
Speaker 2: the past about me having more children. Do you think
Speaker 2: that I would be prepared at this moment in life
Speaker 2: to have more children?
Speaker 1: Do you foresee me having more children? Or you think
Speaker 1: that my girls will be it? To get get to
Speaker 1: the fam really whole daycare center, Grey, I thought.
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, you know a lot of people
Speaker 2: have questioned me on the reasons why and how I
Speaker 2: decided to be a single mother. I don't think it
Speaker 2: was so much of a decision. I think I didn't
Speaker 2: have much of an option, much of a choice. Because
Speaker 2: if you have your child and your significant other, you
Speaker 2: guys break up, divorced, separate, or no longer wants to
Speaker 2: be part of your life, or you know, in many occasions,
Speaker 2: when the male separates from the mother, they kind of
Speaker 2: divorced the children as well. It's like says you and
Speaker 2: not together, will that you take care of that, and
Speaker 2: then they just leave and you have no other option
Speaker 2: but to continue to raise your children. So when I
Speaker 2: said I'm a single mother by toys or whatever, is
Speaker 2: because I guess I wasn't being one hundred percent honest
Speaker 2: because I didn't happen to the choice right.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to abandon my children.
Speaker 2: I would never leave my children, and it is my
Speaker 2: duty as a mother to always protect my children, and
Speaker 2: I will always do that.
Speaker 1: They will always be my priority.
Speaker 3: But I come from a single mother household as well,
Speaker 3: and I feel very guilty for a long time because
Speaker 3: I felt like I was repeating the pattern, not because
Speaker 3: I wanted to, when life just made it that way.
Speaker 1: And I feel guilty for.
Speaker 2: It because I wanted to have a beautiful household with
Speaker 2: a mother and a father for my children, and I
Speaker 2: didn't get the opportunity of doing that I would have
Speaker 2: done anything to fix it.
Speaker 3: Some things are unfixable and some things you just can't do.
Speaker 3: So in her case, they see things.
Speaker 1: In a moment man no poquet, no corpa, no not all.
Speaker 3: Corona, marimon establis, katerically a lot of correct a convert
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Speaker 1: Secan solo No, I see I located poken that could
Speaker 1: you see that?
Speaker 2: Go do as my face was this and when you
Speaker 2: see your majesty in your highness. I know that people
Speaker 2: automatically expect them to be artists or to be in
Speaker 2: the energinment industry because I've exposed them to that industry.
Speaker 1: But what would you like to see your granddaughters become
Speaker 1: Manana and cork a man Jose professional? I love it,
Speaker 1: but but you know what I mean. Honestly, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for being on exactly amount of today.
Speaker 2: Thank you for being an amazing mother, for being my
Speaker 2: support system, for being my mom, my sister, my doctor,
Speaker 2: my nurse, by everything I am. I am so grateful
Speaker 2: to have such an amazing example of a mother of
Speaker 2: a woman in my life. And obviously now as a grandmother,
Speaker 2: you're doing such a great job with my girls, with
Speaker 2: your babies, last World twins, and I just wanted to
Speaker 2: have a moment where I could celebrate your publicly because
Speaker 2: I always want publicly for people to know how much
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 1: I always want to give you your flowers.
Speaker 2: I don't want to wait till it's too late, because
Speaker 2: God's timing, you know, is always perfect, but we just
Speaker 2: never know. And if you're out there listening, you know,
Speaker 2: if you have your mother, your grandmother, dot Wallia, whoever
Speaker 2: it is that raised you, take this opportunity to say
Speaker 2: thank you, to show them love, to give them their flowers,
Speaker 2: because they're here today and you don't know about tomorrow.
Speaker 2: It takes a village, it takes a lot of people
Speaker 2: to really raise a person. But if there is a
Speaker 2: person alone that does it, they deserve even more credit.
Speaker 1: And here's something you could take home with you. Love
Speaker 1: and embraise your mother.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter what she's been through, it doesn't matter
Speaker 2: what she did regardless, she brought you into this world.
Speaker 2: And if someone else is raising you and is raising
Speaker 2: you or has raised you, or even it is still
Speaker 2: continuing to be a support system for you, be grateful
Speaker 2: for them, show them that you care, show them that
Speaker 2: you love them. It could be the smartest little thing
Speaker 2: just to show gratitude because now as a mother that
Speaker 2: I'm going through the process of raising two children, it
Speaker 2: is a sacrifice. You sacrifice your time, your life, your body,
Speaker 2: your mental health, your everything, trying to be the best
Speaker 2: that you can for someone else.
Speaker 1: Mammy, I love you so much.
Speaker 3: I know if you guys want to follow and see
Speaker 3: my mom, you can go see her app mamy Ana
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Speaker 1: She'd be thinking, she things, Anie, who will go follow me?
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