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<v Speaker 1>Morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, Angelaee. Charlemagne, the guy we

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<v Speaker 1>all to breakfast club is to him for asking ye hello,

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<v Speaker 1>who's this? Hey? How are you doing? I want to

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<v Speaker 1>remain amounamou squ'sh your question for you? Easy? Yeah? So

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<v Speaker 1>my question is I've been committed in committed relationships like

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<v Speaker 1>my whole life and now I just heard thirty. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I have a little money, so I want

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<v Speaker 1>to splurge, and I feel like I want option, Like

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<v Speaker 1>if I want to have two boys friends, Like, it's

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<v Speaker 1>okay for all these duds to have. I said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in a position to have two boyfriends. Okay, okay, but well,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, you could do your thing, but they

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to be your boyfriend. You could just be

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<v Speaker 1>dating two guys at the same time. The only problem

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<v Speaker 1>is when words. The only problem is when we're not honest.

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<v Speaker 1>So you want to have two boyfriends but they don't

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<v Speaker 1>know about each other. No, I want them to know.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, I want to have one main boyfriend and

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<v Speaker 1>then I just want my fun guy. Okay, so you

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<v Speaker 1>want a side piece, Yeah, why I have a boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>you can have it. So you can have somebody that's

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<v Speaker 1>like your main but he don't have to be your man.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to give it a title. See that's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. They all want titles as women. As they

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<v Speaker 1>start doing nice stuff for you, it's like, okay, now

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to be mine, but okay, but you

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<v Speaker 1>already know I'm dating Just say no, just be like look,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're not gonna stop dating you, right, just being like, look,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be in a relationship right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been in committed relationships for a long time, but

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<v Speaker 1>I really like you, right, And that's why I'm at

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<v Speaker 1>now just trying to figure out, like how to balance that,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's like I want to tell one, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>like only one knows about one. You don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>tell them about each other. You just have to say

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be in a committed relationship right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I had to do that before to my now boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>when we first started dating. I didn't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship. Yeah I did, but I was honest

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I think it's important to be honest because yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because first of all, sometimes you also don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>jump into a relationship right away. What made you change

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<v Speaker 1>your mind? You have to get to know each other first.

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<v Speaker 1>It just takes time, right, Like, how did you know?

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<v Speaker 1>Because everybody's always nice in the beginning and they buy

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<v Speaker 1>me all this nice stuff and they give me nice stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>and then like after two or three months online did

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<v Speaker 1>not I need to see they gotta gambling problem, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why to me, I think six months is

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<v Speaker 1>a good amount of time to know if you really

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<v Speaker 1>want to be in a committed relationship. But it all

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<v Speaker 1>depends on how much you see each other, how much

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<v Speaker 1>do you talk to each other. And it's also not

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<v Speaker 1>really a time limit. It's more of like how you

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<v Speaker 1>feel right and can people grow on you? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's the issues. So I think I'm attracted to

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<v Speaker 1>one of the dude and the other dude that's being

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<v Speaker 1>nicely that I kind of feel like I can go somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not as attracted to him as I am with

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<v Speaker 1>the other one is, So I think that's what the

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's the problem is trying to find somebody

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<v Speaker 1>that's able to take on all my needs, Like it's issues.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Well, no one's going to take care

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<v Speaker 1>of all your needs. I'm gonna tell you that, But

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<v Speaker 1>you tend to. You know, when you really love somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay because you love their imperfections and the things

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<v Speaker 1>that they can't do as well as the things that

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<v Speaker 1>they can do. You still love them anyway. So I think,

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<v Speaker 1>just take your time and enjoy life, get those presents,

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<v Speaker 1>go out and date, but just don't be in a

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<v Speaker 1>committed relationship. And then you're not sneaking around doing anything

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<v Speaker 1>wrong because that gets stressful and that carew and something.

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<v Speaker 1>Say your boyfriend your main piece. You decide you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be with him, but you have a side piece,

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<v Speaker 1>and then he finds out about it, and now it

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<v Speaker 1>destroys everything. What you need to do is just say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not ready to settle down yet. I want us

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<v Speaker 1>to get to know each other better. That's all. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. Because I was like, my friend

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<v Speaker 1>was like, don't do it. I'm like, listen, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>do it. He knows better. Yeah, no, please just go

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<v Speaker 1>have fun. There's nothing wrong with that. Just have a

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<v Speaker 1>good time date and if at one point you decide,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, now I'm ready to settle down, then

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<v Speaker 1>you do. Okay, good, well, y'all, y'all gonna be in

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<v Speaker 1>for more. Weekend, and I'm gonna be in Vegas. I won't.

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<v Speaker 1>My cousin's getting married. I'm gonna be in Detroit. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, mamma, have a good time, girl, go out

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<v Speaker 1>and have some fun in Vegas. All right? While out

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<v Speaker 1>five five one oh five one. If you need relationship

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<v Speaker 1>advice or any type of advice, call ye. Now it's

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<v Speaker 1>the Breakfast Club. Good morning morning. Everybody is DJ Envy

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<v Speaker 1>Angela Yee Charlomagne the guy we all the breakfast club

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<v Speaker 1>with in the middle of ask ye, who's this? Hi? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>What's it's your girl? Kay? Live? Okay, Okay. So I

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<v Speaker 1>currently have been going through it. I'm a senior in

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<v Speaker 1>high school. I'm graduating in a couple of weeks, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've been going through the whole college process. I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to twenty colleges. I got into eighty and the congratulation,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. And basically my issue is money, Like they

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<v Speaker 1>haven't given me as much money as I needed, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to know how much debt is too much? Cut,

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<v Speaker 1>what's like, what's a smart way to think about this?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I don't want to have to pay forty five

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars a year for school. Well, I think a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of things that you could do here because I

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<v Speaker 1>went through that whole process and it took me definitely

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<v Speaker 1>a good twelve years to pay off all my student loans.

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<v Speaker 1>But going to school, it's definitely an investment into your future.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's definitely a lot of programs out there that

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<v Speaker 1>can help you make sure you pay those back. But

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<v Speaker 1>student loan debts can be crippling when you have to

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<v Speaker 1>think about it, right. So a couple of things you

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<v Speaker 1>can do is they have different apps and websites like

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<v Speaker 1>myskolei dot com that you can go on to where

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<v Speaker 1>you can find out about different types of scholarships and

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<v Speaker 1>there's all kinds of I'm applied to about twenty different

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<v Speaker 1>scholarships when I haven't gotten anything, Yeah, because they do

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<v Speaker 1>have all types of grants and scholarships that people don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know about it aren't aware of. But I will

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<v Speaker 1>say that student loans can be manageable. Like when I

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<v Speaker 1>went to college, I did work while I was at

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<v Speaker 1>school also, so at the same time that I was

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<v Speaker 1>at school, I was able to pay for certain things,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, that's I think one of the best

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<v Speaker 1>things I was able to do was I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to get loans to buy my books and other things

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<v Speaker 1>like for when I was on campus and paying for

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<v Speaker 1>the school meals and all of that. I took all

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<v Speaker 1>of that into consideration. Also, also, I know what a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people do is they might go to a

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<v Speaker 1>college that's a city college and then transfer. So that way,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe for the first year you go somewhere that's more affordable,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you can transfer to another school and transfer

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<v Speaker 1>those credits to you want to and not have that

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<v Speaker 1>debt either that you would have had if you went

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<v Speaker 1>to a school that's say forty five thousand dollars a year.

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<v Speaker 1>But the other thing, the other thing is, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>don't think that student loan debt has If you look

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<v Speaker 1>at this as it's an investment, you are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to pay it back and you are going

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<v Speaker 1>to have time to pay it back. So don't let

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<v Speaker 1>that prevent you from going to the school that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to go to. Yeah, thank you. Just make sure

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<v Speaker 1>you work out that payment plan. And do you know

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<v Speaker 1>where you want to go out of the schools you

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<v Speaker 1>got accepted to. Yes, I'm going to cop the state

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<v Speaker 1>all right, so you already know where you're going. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and so that school you said, it's forty five thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollars a year, yes, all right, all right, well just

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<v Speaker 1>make sure you keep on applying for scholarships, keep on

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<v Speaker 1>applying for grants. Even when you're in school. There might

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<v Speaker 1>be all kinds of things that you can still apply for.

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<v Speaker 1>But just look at there's all these apps that you

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<v Speaker 1>can sign up for that puts you in contact with

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<v Speaker 1>things that might be in line with what it is

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<v Speaker 1>that you can apply for. Thank you, hey, congratulations, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>All right. Well that's ask e eight drew five eighty

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<v Speaker 1>five one O five one. Now we got rumors on

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<v Speaker 1>the way, yes, and you know when you break up,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta cut all ties. Right, we'll find out who

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<v Speaker 1>it is saying now that me and my man ain't

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<v Speaker 1>together no more. We're not doing anything together anymore, including

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<v Speaker 1>our foundation. All right. We'll get into that next. Keeping

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<v Speaker 1>locked this to breakfast club. Good morning,