1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: Morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, Angelaee. Charlemagne, the guy we 2 00:00:04,440 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: all to breakfast club is to him for asking ye hello, 3 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: who's this? Hey? How are you doing? I want to 4 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:13,039 Speaker 1: remain amounamou squ'sh your question for you? Easy? Yeah? So 5 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: my question is I've been committed in committed relationships like 6 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: my whole life and now I just heard thirty. Yeah. 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: I just I have a little money, so I want 8 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: to splurge, and I feel like I want option, Like 9 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: if I want to have two boys friends, Like, it's 10 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: okay for all these duds to have. I said, I'm 11 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: in a position to have two boyfriends. Okay, okay, but well, 12 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: first of all, you could do your thing, but they 13 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: don't have to be your boyfriend. You could just be 14 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: dating two guys at the same time. The only problem 15 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: is when words. The only problem is when we're not honest. 16 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 1: So you want to have two boyfriends but they don't 17 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: know about each other. No, I want them to know. 18 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: So like, I want to have one main boyfriend and 19 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: then I just want my fun guy. Okay, so you 20 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: want a side piece, Yeah, why I have a boyfriend, 21 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:54,639 Speaker 1: you can have it. So you can have somebody that's 22 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:56,279 Speaker 1: like your main but he don't have to be your man. 23 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: You don't have to give it a title. See that's 24 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: the thing. They all want titles as women. As they 25 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: start doing nice stuff for you, it's like, okay, now 26 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: I want you to be mine, but okay, but you 27 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: already know I'm dating Just say no, just be like look, 28 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:11,040 Speaker 1: and they're not gonna stop dating you, right, just being like, look, 29 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a relationship right now. 30 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: I've been in committed relationships for a long time, but 31 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: I really like you, right, And that's why I'm at 32 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: now just trying to figure out, like how to balance that, 33 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: because it's like I want to tell one, but it's 34 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: like only one knows about one. You don't have to 35 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: tell them about each other. You just have to say 36 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a committed relationship right now. 37 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,120 Speaker 1: I had to do that before to my now boyfriend 38 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: when we first started dating. I didn't want to be 39 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: in a relationship. Yeah I did, but I was honest 40 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: about it. I think it's important to be honest because yeah, 41 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: because first of all, sometimes you also don't want to 42 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: jump into a relationship right away. What made you change 43 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: your mind? You have to get to know each other first. 44 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: It just takes time, right, Like, how did you know? 45 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: Because everybody's always nice in the beginning and they buy 46 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: me all this nice stuff and they give me nice stuff, 47 00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: and then like after two or three months online did 48 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: not I need to see they gotta gambling problem, right, 49 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: And that's why to me, I think six months is 50 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: a good amount of time to know if you really 51 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: want to be in a committed relationship. But it all 52 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 1: depends on how much you see each other, how much 53 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: do you talk to each other. And it's also not 54 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: really a time limit. It's more of like how you 55 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: feel right and can people grow on you? Because I 56 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: think that's the issues. So I think I'm attracted to 57 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:21,959 Speaker 1: one of the dude and the other dude that's being 58 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: nicely that I kind of feel like I can go somewhere. 59 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: I'm not as attracted to him as I am with 60 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: the other one is, So I think that's what the 61 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: I think that's the problem is trying to find somebody 62 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: that's able to take on all my needs, Like it's issues. 63 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: I don't know, Well, no one's going to take care 64 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: of all your needs. I'm gonna tell you that, But 65 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: you tend to. You know, when you really love somebody, 66 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: it's okay because you love their imperfections and the things 67 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:47,519 Speaker 1: that they can't do as well as the things that 68 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: they can do. You still love them anyway. So I think, 69 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: just take your time and enjoy life, get those presents, 70 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:54,959 Speaker 1: go out and date, but just don't be in a 71 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:57,520 Speaker 1: committed relationship. And then you're not sneaking around doing anything 72 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,919 Speaker 1: wrong because that gets stressful and that carew and something. 73 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: Say your boyfriend your main piece. You decide you want 74 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: to be with him, but you have a side piece, 75 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: and then he finds out about it, and now it 76 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: destroys everything. What you need to do is just say 77 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: I'm not ready to settle down yet. I want us 78 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: to get to know each other better. That's all. Oh, 79 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: thank you so much. Because I was like, my friend 80 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,080 Speaker 1: was like, don't do it. I'm like, listen, I gotta 81 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,959 Speaker 1: do it. He knows better. Yeah, no, please just go 82 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: have fun. There's nothing wrong with that. Just have a 83 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: good time date and if at one point you decide, 84 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: you know what, now I'm ready to settle down, then 85 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: you do. Okay, good, well, y'all, y'all gonna be in 86 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 1: for more. Weekend, and I'm gonna be in Vegas. I won't. 87 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: My cousin's getting married. I'm gonna be in Detroit. Okay, 88 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: all right, mamma, have a good time, girl, go out 89 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: and have some fun in Vegas. All right? While out 90 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 1: five five one oh five one. If you need relationship 91 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 1: advice or any type of advice, call ye. Now it's 92 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Good morning morning. Everybody is DJ Envy 93 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: Angela Yee Charlomagne the guy we all the breakfast club 94 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: with in the middle of ask ye, who's this? Hi? Right? 95 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: What's it's your girl? Kay? Live? Okay, Okay. So I 96 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: currently have been going through it. I'm a senior in 97 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: high school. I'm graduating in a couple of weeks, and 98 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,839 Speaker 1: I've been going through the whole college process. I tried 99 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: to twenty colleges. I got into eighty and the congratulation, 100 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: thank you. And basically my issue is money, Like they 101 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: haven't given me as much money as I needed, and 102 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: I just wanted to know how much debt is too much? Cut, 103 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: what's like, what's a smart way to think about this? 104 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: Because I don't want to have to pay forty five 105 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year for school. Well, I think a 106 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: couple of things that you could do here because I 107 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: went through that whole process and it took me definitely 108 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,799 Speaker 1: a good twelve years to pay off all my student loans. 109 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:51,799 Speaker 1: But going to school, it's definitely an investment into your future. 110 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 1: So there's definitely a lot of programs out there that 111 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 1: can help you make sure you pay those back. But 112 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: student loan debts can be crippling when you have to 113 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: think about it, right. So a couple of things you 114 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 1: can do is they have different apps and websites like 115 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: myskolei dot com that you can go on to where 116 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: you can find out about different types of scholarships and 117 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: there's all kinds of I'm applied to about twenty different 118 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: scholarships when I haven't gotten anything, Yeah, because they do 119 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: have all types of grants and scholarships that people don't 120 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: even know about it aren't aware of. But I will 121 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:25,480 Speaker 1: say that student loans can be manageable. Like when I 122 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: went to college, I did work while I was at 123 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: school also, so at the same time that I was 124 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: at school, I was able to pay for certain things, 125 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 1: and you know, that's I think one of the best 126 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: things I was able to do was I didn't have 127 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: to get loans to buy my books and other things 128 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: like for when I was on campus and paying for 129 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: the school meals and all of that. I took all 130 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 1: of that into consideration. Also, also, I know what a 131 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 1: lot of people do is they might go to a 132 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: college that's a city college and then transfer. So that way, 133 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: maybe for the first year you go somewhere that's more affordable, 134 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: and then you can transfer to another school and transfer 135 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: those credits to you want to and not have that 136 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: debt either that you would have had if you went 137 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 1: to a school that's say forty five thousand dollars a year. 138 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: But the other thing, the other thing is, you know, 139 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: don't think that student loan debt has If you look 140 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: at this as it's an investment, you are going to 141 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,039 Speaker 1: be able to pay it back and you are going 142 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: to have time to pay it back. So don't let 143 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 1: that prevent you from going to the school that you 144 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: want to go to. Yeah, thank you. Just make sure 145 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: you work out that payment plan. And do you know 146 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: where you want to go out of the schools you 147 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,840 Speaker 1: got accepted to. Yes, I'm going to cop the state 148 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: all right, so you already know where you're going. Yeah, 149 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: and so that school you said, it's forty five thousand 150 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: dollars a year, yes, all right, all right, well just 151 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: make sure you keep on applying for scholarships, keep on 152 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: applying for grants. Even when you're in school. There might 153 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: be all kinds of things that you can still apply for. 154 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 1: But just look at there's all these apps that you 155 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 1: can sign up for that puts you in contact with 156 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: things that might be in line with what it is 157 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: that you can apply for. Thank you, hey, congratulations, thank you. 158 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: All right. Well that's ask e eight drew five eighty 159 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: five one O five one. Now we got rumors on 160 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: the way, yes, and you know when you break up, 161 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: you gotta cut all ties. Right, we'll find out who 162 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: it is saying now that me and my man ain't 163 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: together no more. We're not doing anything together anymore, including 164 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: our foundation. All right. We'll get into that next. Keeping 165 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: locked this to breakfast club. Good morning,