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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject. If he's up, everybody needs to

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Speaker 1: be up. Dis Steven Shirley. My husband and I are

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Speaker 1: forty eight years old. We have a fourteen year old

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Speaker 1: about my husband, he's going to have some kind of

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Speaker 1: intimacy every night of the week. I stopped fighting it

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Speaker 1: closer because we have such great chemistry. When I had

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Speaker 1: to wait until my body was ready for sex again.

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Speaker 1: Everyone and our family knows how spicy we are, and

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Speaker 1: it's a running joke. My mother stayed with us for

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Speaker 1: a week after I gave birth to the second boy.

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Speaker 1: My husband showed out every night, and she finally said

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Speaker 1: something to me about it. She asked if I enjoyed

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Speaker 1: it as much as my husband did. I blushed and

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Speaker 1: I could not believe. My mom asked me that I

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Speaker 1: can't get my husband to be quiet or stay in

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Speaker 1: yells or moans the whole time. He overdoes it every time.

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Speaker 1: His reactions are better than any gift he could ever

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Speaker 1: calls me his queen. My two aunts think it is unnatural,

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Speaker 1: and I can't tell them if they're both haters, or

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Speaker 1: I can't tell if they're both haters, or if there

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Speaker 1: might be really something wrong with my husband. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: consider him a sex addict, but there are times when

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Speaker 1: he will not take no for an answer. As we

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Speaker 1: Is it cool to still be that loud and wild

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Speaker 1: during intimacy after sixteen years of marriage? Well to that,

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Speaker 1: I have to say, girl, yes, you know that depends

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Speaker 1: on you too. I just say, please don't listen to

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Speaker 1: those haters. Enjoy your life. Okay, there's nothing wrong with

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Speaker 1: your husband except he has a very high libido. You

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Speaker 1: guys are only forty eight, you're grown, and the kids

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Speaker 1: Could he be more quiet? He could probably take it

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Speaker 1: down and not your two. But it is his house

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Speaker 1: and he's free to do what he wants. The question

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Speaker 1: is why are your aunties all up in your business?

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Speaker 1: And how does everyone in your family know what's going

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Speaker 3: Is it your mom telling them? I mean who's telling them?

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Speaker 1: You?

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Speaker 3: Are you telling them? They're all too nosy?

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Speaker 1: You yourself said his reactions are the greatest gifts he

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Speaker 1: that makes you feel uncomfortable, if it's painful in any way,

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Speaker 1: and he won't stop or something like that, then I

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Speaker 1: would say that would be a problem. You seem happy

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Speaker 1: to me, So, like I said earlier, enjoy your life, Steve.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: What, too much?

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Speaker 4: It's too much. Go sit down somewhere. Wait a minute,

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Speaker 4: stop it. I don't feel like it. Not tonight.

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Speaker 2: You just had some.

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Speaker 4: What you won't now, don't touch me. I'm over this.

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Speaker 2: What's the matter with you?

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Speaker 4: What in here? Child's be quiet? These kids get away

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Speaker 2: I am. I'm fine.

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Speaker 4: Get waiting the door now, Charles Jr.

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Speaker 4: The second, Get wait. I'm in here with your mama.

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Speaker 2: A ah, heart is good. I ain't never had nothing

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Speaker 4: Now tell the neighbors, tell him.

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Speaker 4: Girl, I don't want to put the fill over my mouth,

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Speaker 4: Charley said, my house, I do what I want. This

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Speaker 4: letter crazy, This letter is crazy, she said, both of them.

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Speaker 4: For the the one thing about my husband. He gonna

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Speaker 4: Shirley said, girl, ignored them. Going to enjoy your life?

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Speaker 2: How this every night? This is every night.

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Speaker 4: I stopped fighting when I met him. We had sex

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Speaker 4: y'all always being intimate. You were as close as you

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Speaker 2: What y'all to say't what you mean? How this normal?

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Speaker 4: Everybody in our families know how spicy we are, and

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Speaker 4: this will run a joke. Your mama stayed with you

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Speaker 4: for a week after you gave birth to the second boy.

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Speaker 4: My husband showed out every night, every night after the

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Speaker 4: Because he in that jet clown, he don't care who

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Speaker 2: You the rest. I just.

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Speaker 3: All right. We'll have her too. Of Steve's response after

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Speaker 3: the hour, A ya ya ya ya.

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Speaker 1: Subject is if he's up, everybody needs what you doing

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this.

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Speaker 3: You're listening hardy morning show.

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Speaker 4: Hyundai's done a lot to support American consumers. I mean,

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Speaker 1: zero three for more details. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is if He's up,

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Speaker 4: This is about a letter about a man that has

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Speaker 4: to have intimacy with his wife after sixteen years of

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Speaker 4: marriaging two children. They have to have some form of

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Speaker 4: intimacy every single night of the week. I'm saying, this

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Speaker 4: ain't natural. Shirley said, go and enjoy your life.

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Speaker 2: How you going to enjoy your night every night?

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Speaker 3: It's not natural for who?

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Speaker 4: It ain't natural for most people. This is abnormal. And

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Speaker 2: That's what it is.

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Speaker 4: That's what you gonna do. You gonna stop acting like

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Speaker 4: it's natural because it ain't. But she is complaining, you

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Speaker 1: The line, the line that says, it's the great his

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Speaker 1: his reaction is the greatest gift he he overdoes it

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: The line says, I stopped fighting it when I met him.

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Speaker 3: They had the first night they're into.

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Speaker 4: It and she stopped fighting it because it's how they

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Speaker 4: stay close. My husband showed out every night. He don't

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Speaker 4: keep quiet something he wake our sons up. My mama

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Speaker 4: stayed with me for a week and she couldn't believe it.

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Speaker 4: She asked me one day, do you just enjoy it

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Speaker 4: couldn't believe. My mama asked me that I can't listen

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Speaker 2: Both of them statements is true.

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Speaker 4: Your aunts them them big wide helpless is up?

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Speaker 2: They hate us, ain't.

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Speaker 4: Nobody moaned and hollered on them in a while, so

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Speaker 2: The next line says, or.

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Speaker 4: If there might be something really wrong with my husband,

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Speaker 2: It's it's every day.

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Speaker 4: Though. Listen, surely, surely, too much water ain't good for you.

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Speaker 2: You're taking away the specialty of it.

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Speaker 4: We already with the anniversary Mother's Day date night don't

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Speaker 2: Now, let me explain something to you that you don't know.

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Speaker 4: Shit. Okay, in a man's body, he's able to produce

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Speaker 2: Let's just say that for okay, all right, a man.

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Speaker 3: And now you're getting clinical.

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Speaker 4: The gun is now gonna fire. After you've used up

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Speaker 2: He forty eight.

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Speaker 4: Now I'm predicting at this pace, he got about another

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Speaker 3: Okay, then he'll slow down. Okay, that's fair.

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Speaker 2: He gonna slow wade own.

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Speaker 4: Should he gonna be out of bullets, he gonna have

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Speaker 2: To hisself the same medicine. Should it be something else, now,

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Speaker 4: Tell you this, Okay, if there might be something wrong

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Speaker 4: I would assume now if you that's a problem, if

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Speaker 4: he can't take no for an answer, because it has

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Speaker 4: to happen every night.

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Speaker 3: According to this letter, Now there is a problem.

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Speaker 2: Make him make up your mind.

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Speaker 3: No, I did say if it's uncomfortable.

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Speaker 4: Or I told you it was a problem at the

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Speaker 4: beginning of this letter.

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Speaker 2: She now took you to just now to admit.

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Speaker 3: No, that's not true.

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Speaker 1: I said it in my response if it's uncomfortable for her.

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Speaker 4: As we get all, I wonder if I will be

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Speaker 2: You ain't gonna have to wear about it, so he

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Speaker 3: Listen post you're coming before solved.

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Speaker 2: Us in a minute, and you ain't gonna have to

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