Speaker 1: Wind down with Jane Kramer. Did I heart radio podcast?
Speaker 1: I feel like Mike is about to beat up some
Speaker 1: of the bachelors, Like I'm feeling this energy that he
Speaker 1: just wants to legit, like punch a few bachelor's. Getting
Speaker 1: the recap of y'all strip in Vegas. Yes, Um, me
Speaker 1: and my girlfriend Sarah John was there too. You were
Speaker 1: looking gorgeous and we're like you were working though, yeah,
Speaker 1: and then Easton was there. I didn't see you, Mark,
Speaker 1: but Easton was there. Um. You were doing podcasts with
Speaker 1: Becca and Dean and all them, and so we were
Speaker 1: just kind of recapping about the bachelor's and Mike said that,
Speaker 1: did I I didn't come home with a big head.
Speaker 1: You came home feeling very good about yourself. Well, it's
Speaker 1: I think they were just trying to make me feel
Speaker 1: because you know, I'm pregnant. I'm seven months pregnant, I'm
Speaker 1: in Vegas, and you know they were like, wow, like
Speaker 1: you're an attractive pregnant person. I think they were just
Speaker 1: trying to be nice. No, I think that's where you're
Speaker 1: selling yourself short, and especially when a group of boys
Speaker 1: like that get around a beautiful woman like woman like
Speaker 1: you you're like, oh my god, Like they're like, I
Speaker 1: can't handle how beautiful you really are and stunning. Oh.
Speaker 1: As a witness, the boys were drooling. Stop you know this.
Speaker 1: I was a witness. I would be in the green
Speaker 1: room and I'm like, Janna, never mind. The boys were
Speaker 1: just like I couldn't even get through to her. She
Speaker 1: was such a hot commodity. But can I say she's
Speaker 1: most humble human being though, because all throughout the night,
Speaker 1: she would check in on everybody that was working the event,
Speaker 1: would ask how everyone's doing, would like literally ask me
Speaker 1: if I needed water, and I'm like, do you do
Speaker 1: you need water? You're the ones and heels like what's happening?
Speaker 1: That sounds like, well, I just well, let me just
Speaker 1: say this. There were a lot of attitudes with from
Speaker 1: some of the celebrities that came to the festival, and
Speaker 1: I saw firsthand that some of them were not treating
Speaker 1: some of the I heart people. Were they that we're
Speaker 1: helping them, like Tori, And it was just I felt
Speaker 1: bad because I'm like, I don't care who you are.
Speaker 1: If you were Maria carry which by the way, she
Speaker 1: wasn't at all. I didn't meet I didn't get to
Speaker 1: meet Maria. But I mean, Paula Abduel was the nicest
Speaker 1: person the whole entire planet. Like I freaked out when
Speaker 1: I met her. She likes amazing by the way amazing
Speaker 1: she was. She's fantastic, but she like she was so sweet,
Speaker 1: but there was people underneath her that we're being so
Speaker 1: rude and so nasty. I even stuck up for Tori,
Speaker 1: stood up for Tori because she was being so mean.
Speaker 1: I was just like, you're being rude and I didn't
Speaker 1: even care. I don't care who you are if you
Speaker 1: mean to the people that are helping you, Like, that's
Speaker 1: just not nice. No, I don't like it. So that's
Speaker 1: I was like to need Mama Bear came out for
Speaker 1: but it was much appreciated because it's in like the
Speaker 1: most delicate and gentle way, and she just has a cute,
Speaker 1: litt pregnant belly where like anything goes very sweet. But
Speaker 1: I mean, we're obsessed. Well I just again, I think
Speaker 1: they were just trying to be nice. But I mean
Speaker 1: I still got every she I appreciate the compliment of
Speaker 1: them drooling all over you because you're my wife, my
Speaker 1: pregnant wife with a second child. So ownership has written
Speaker 1: all over that. Did you get that? Guys? You guys
Speaker 1: want to come and talking abou podcast about it? We can.
Speaker 1: But I think what's funny is is Mike said something
Speaker 1: to me the other night that kind of like it
Speaker 1: was kind of a dig it? What did you say?
Speaker 1: So I went to Dancing with the Stars to support
Speaker 1: Bobby Bones. We might be on the show today, We're
Speaker 1: not sure yet, but um so I went to go
Speaker 1: support him, and I my old partner, was dancing with
Speaker 1: Nicky Glazer, who's a comedian. She's really sweet. I've never
Speaker 1: met her before, so I wanted to kind of go
Speaker 1: talk to her. So I tapped her on the shoulder,
Speaker 1: you know, back in the red room, and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: I just want you to know that I think you
Speaker 1: did a really great job. And I think you're so sweet.
Speaker 1: And you know, if Gleb's hard on you, like you know,
Speaker 1: that's just how he is. And he's very Russian and dada,
Speaker 1: and she was so nice, like so so so nice
Speaker 1: cut too. I come home, bib and no, and Janna
Speaker 1: is telling me about this and her Nikki already texting
Speaker 1: and and I told Janna I was I'm a fan
Speaker 1: of Nikki's and I've listened to her Comedy Central show
Speaker 1: you Up on you know, serious ex Salm and stuff,
Speaker 1: and I've always liked her stuff. And Jane's just reading
Speaker 1: me some of their conversation back and forth, and just
Speaker 1: Nikki was just like, you're awesome, Like I'm blessed to
Speaker 1: know you already. Janna like it's amazing, and yeah, it's
Speaker 1: super cute, but the and I was just like, what
Speaker 1: do all these people seeing you? But I didn't. I
Speaker 1: didn't mean it like that. I was like, what do
Speaker 1: people see in me? I was like, oh wow, I
Speaker 1: didn't mean it like that. My whole what did you mean?
Speaker 1: Point was she has this uncanny ability to meet people
Speaker 1: and in five minutes people love her and she's the
Speaker 1: best person in the world and people that's how I feel.
Speaker 1: But it's just it's just she comes home and I'm like,
Speaker 1: how many new best friends do you have now? Because
Speaker 1: ten people fell in love with you tonight? Like job
Speaker 1: to keep us humble? But what do people see in? Like?
Speaker 1: What do people? And today, like, we're coming back from
Speaker 1: our ultrasound appointment and I was like, I'm going to
Speaker 1: bring up to because it kind of hurt my feelings,
Speaker 1: like what do people see in me? Like? What do
Speaker 1: not see in me? That I'm a nice person? But
Speaker 1: what do people see in me? I see all those things. Honey,
Speaker 1: I phrased it the wrong way I meant. I meant
Speaker 1: to say. I meant to give you the explanation of
Speaker 1: you have this ability just for people to fall in
Speaker 1: love with you and a snap, but instead it's what
Speaker 1: do people see in you? For the record, in sixty years,
Speaker 1: you're still going to be having this kind I just
Speaker 1: like to talk to people, and I like people to
Speaker 1: For example, this one girl and followed me on Instagram
Speaker 1: in the country world, and it really hurt my feelings
Speaker 1: because I was like, just why that the bad energy?
Speaker 1: Why do you follow me? Do not like me? And
Speaker 1: so I get really upset if someone doesn't like me.
Speaker 1: And so I I texted her and was like, Hey,
Speaker 1: all good. I just like, uh, I hope I didn't.
Speaker 1: I never said anything bad about you. I hope that
Speaker 1: you like. So like she's like, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry. I just kind of like cleared through whatever,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. It's fine, but I hate like bad
Speaker 1: energy out there. So that's why I am always trying
Speaker 1: to be very nice to people, and I do understand
Speaker 1: why people do, because, especially in the kind of entertainment
Speaker 1: world and the world that Jan is in a lot,
Speaker 1: it is very refreshing to see someone so rigorously honest
Speaker 1: and someone who's so genuine as her and so people
Speaker 1: in that business, you know, probably don't see that a lot.
Speaker 1: So when someone sees such honesty and such you know,
Speaker 1: genuine attitude and just personality, people probably are drawn to that.
Speaker 1: But then the question lies, what do people see? You know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be I'm gonna eat that one for a
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Speaker 1: I'm not excited again to have. But you don't have
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Speaker 1: can can you You brought up something to me the
Speaker 1: other day that thought was kind of interesting. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, it was very random, but I thought about it.
Speaker 1: So I was getting a coffee in the morning out
Speaker 1: of Starbucks on the West Side and you know, this
Speaker 1: home with me and outside asked me very nicely, He's like, hey, man,
Speaker 1: you know, do you get a cup of coffee? And
Speaker 1: I just kind of like looked down. I was like,
Speaker 1: not today, right, But I was like, man, he asked
Speaker 1: so nicely, and I was in there waiting in line
Speaker 1: I was kind of looking outside at him. I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, he's very respectful and when I said no,
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, it's okay, thanks though, like you know,
Speaker 1: he wasn't didn't say anything else, like he's very nice
Speaker 1: and even was okay with me saying no. And so
Speaker 1: I got him one and handed it to him, and
Speaker 1: he was very grateful and you know, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: You gotta bless you all that stuff. And so I
Speaker 1: got in the car and was driving to where I
Speaker 1: had to go, and but I started thinking. I was like,
Speaker 1: maybe this is too introspective, but it's like, did I
Speaker 1: do it to really help him or because you know,
Speaker 1: you feel good about yourself after you do something like that,
Speaker 1: or I was like, did I do it too for myself?
Speaker 1: Is do I do it in a selfish way to
Speaker 1: make myself feel good about myself or is it a
Speaker 1: little bit of both or so I just thought it
Speaker 1: was interesting because you know, some people help out, some
Speaker 1: people don't, And what's the true motivation behind doing that? Jen,
Speaker 1: I think you only have the answer for that because
Speaker 1: was it because you were walking away feeling guilty and
Speaker 1: you wanted that feeling to go away? And you didn't
Speaker 1: want to think about it the rest of the day.
Speaker 1: It was truly because he was very kind, He was
Speaker 1: very appreciative, he was very accepting of even when I
Speaker 1: said no then for him. Yeah, I like the fact
Speaker 1: that he actually asked you for what he wanted to
Speaker 1: save money, Like, hey, it wasn't like money. It was
Speaker 1: like I would like coffee, which surprises me. It's almost
Speaker 1: like the girl Scout that showed up at your door
Speaker 1: at one time. I'll never forget that. You want to
Speaker 1: talk about that one because that just on a complete
Speaker 1: side note, when I was playing in Buffalo, so usually
Speaker 1: we'd have teammates kids or some of our trainers, some
Speaker 1: of this coach's staff, like basically their daughters would get
Speaker 1: hooked up because the girl Scout cookie thing would go
Speaker 1: around the locker room and I mean every a guy
Speaker 1: with this girl would clean up right, and she was
Speaker 1: winning free summer camp out something. Yeah, get the whole
Speaker 1: Buffalo Bills football team to buy all of her cookies.
Speaker 1: So it was like the day I did that, Like
Speaker 1: I bought these cookies and I think I had just
Speaker 1: gotten them. And it was raining a gray, rainy day
Speaker 1: in Buffalo as it normally is, and this hear knock
Speaker 1: on my apartment door. I go to the door and
Speaker 1: it's this little girl standing out in the rain like
Speaker 1: her dad's kind of like ten feet behind her, staying there.
Speaker 1: It's like, would you like to buy some girl scout cookies?
Speaker 1: And I was just like, uh no, And it started
Speaker 1: slowly closing. I was like I just like slowly closed
Speaker 1: the door and she's just standing there with guys. I'm like, no, sorry, sorry,
Speaker 1: and I just got something. They closed the door, and
Speaker 1: like two minutes later, I'm like, I'm the worst human
Speaker 1: being in the world that has haunted me to this day.
Speaker 1: I'm like, to this day, like exactly one box that
Speaker 1: was just so busy I can buy one. It's just
Speaker 1: because I just bought like ten doesn't matter like rain.
Speaker 1: Her poor dad has to explain to her why I'm
Speaker 1: such a karma. Yeah, I wonder what I see in you.
Speaker 1: That's a great question. I'm opposite though. I buy like
Speaker 1: twelve packages because I look at like all these cheapos
Speaker 1: are just getting one box. Well for the twelve. When
Speaker 1: Rocco comes home with the sheet of something to self
Speaker 1: for school, I just buy the whole thing because I
Speaker 1: just can't. It's just too much. Or I'll call my
Speaker 1: mom and say, oh, can you mau a hundred dollars
Speaker 1: worth of whatever? Po in a bind here, We've got
Speaker 1: to build a self esteem a little bit, yes, But
Speaker 1: to get back to the pay it forward stock and
Speaker 1: helping out. Have you ever paid for somebody's meal or
Speaker 1: anything like that? I love that. I do too. I
Speaker 1: love I love I love it. I love playing pain.
Speaker 1: Remember we paid for someone's drinks one time. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: like that, just being like, hey, don't tell them, but
Speaker 1: we'd like to buy their drinks. You walk out feeling selfishly,
Speaker 1: selfishly do it? You walk up. But then I feel
Speaker 1: like that encourages people to do it, to do it forward.
Speaker 1: Even more so, when I get coffee in the morning
Speaker 1: about once or twice a week, I will give an
Speaker 1: extra ten and just say, however, Lily, however Lily wants
Speaker 1: to distribute it with coffee or a pastry or whatever,
Speaker 1: then she can do that straight Lily's pocket. No, we
Speaker 1: should challenge people to do a pay it forward. So
Speaker 1: I think everyone should try and pay it forward this
Speaker 1: week and then let us know how it made you
Speaker 1: feel what you did, and email us at Janet Kramert
Speaker 1: I heart media dot com. It can be as small
Speaker 1: as filling someone's meter. Yeah, and all of us need
Speaker 1: to do it too, So let's all let's all challenge.
Speaker 1: I love it good. It's making me already feel good.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll come back next week and we'll all
Speaker 1: say what we did to pay for word like I
Speaker 1: gave Oh my god, speaking of a bachelor person. Sorry,
Speaker 1: we're all over the place. Amanda Danton, did you guys
Speaker 1: see what she did on e or she beat she
Speaker 1: beat up her boyfriend, like domestic violence or whatever. And
Speaker 1: then she goes on record saying, because I take it
Speaker 1: very seriously, I'm going to donate three hundred dollars. Don't
Speaker 1: if you're only going to donate three dollars, don't say
Speaker 1: the amount. It's great that you're donating, but don't save
Speaker 1: you You your post alone is like five grand on Instagram.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Don't that's offensive to someone
Speaker 1: that's been in a domestic abuse Thank thank you for
Speaker 1: your three Like when you're an actual like person that
Speaker 1: gets paid way more for social ads. So they with
Speaker 1: a kid, yeah, they I mean they flattered her, which
Speaker 1: I mean again, if if you're not. I think it's
Speaker 1: great that she gave money, But at the same time,
Speaker 1: if you're going to just say, I'm going to donate
Speaker 1: money to domestic Violence Aware, you know, to awareness, not
Speaker 1: I'm giving three hundred dollars disclaimer disclaimer when you guys
Speaker 1: pay listeners pay for it this week, you know, no,
Speaker 1: but it's not No, I'm not about that because of
Speaker 1: her social media, because she, according to this article, she
Speaker 1: gets between five and fifteen thousand dollars per social post
Speaker 1: thank you well, she could donate a social post. She
Speaker 1: could have said that, like even when we like, you know,
Speaker 1: I agree. I mean I didn't even say how much
Speaker 1: we won for family feud. It was thousand, but you know, regardless, like, wait,
Speaker 1: are you allowed to say that, yeah we won? It
Speaker 1: just aired, Yeah, I saw it was fun. But anyways,
Speaker 1: I just think if like again, it could be five dollars,
Speaker 1: you could buy someone's coffee. But it's the fact that
Speaker 1: she said that's how much she was donating. That was
Speaker 1: I think that was super techy. Yeah, that's brutal. One
Speaker 1: more little fun since we're all over the place, I know,
Speaker 1: but I like, yeah, it's great. So Jane and I
Speaker 1: had another scenario come up in the car actually this morning,
Speaker 1: would you like, would you like to bring this up
Speaker 1: to me? Go ahead? Well, yeah, because I we kind
Speaker 1: of started getting into it and I was like, no,
Speaker 1: let's just table it for the podcast because I will
Speaker 1: say this. Let me first off by saying this. Michael
Speaker 1: drives ninety five percent of time, nine percent of the
Speaker 1: time for his choice, because he's large, he's got a truck.
Speaker 1: He doesn't like fitting into my car. He doesn't like
Speaker 1: being the passenger in my car. So he likes to drive.
Speaker 1: And Janna doesn't drive on expressways. So we have done
Speaker 1: in combat. But whatever, it's not like we really have
Speaker 1: to take the expressway a lot of places anyways. But
Speaker 1: irregardless and even know if that's a word, but regardless
Speaker 1: or irregardless, um he I always make sure that I
Speaker 1: am not on my phone the entire time that he
Speaker 1: is driving. If I go on, it's to be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta text um Nick to see if
Speaker 1: you can play, or I gotta I gotta do that's
Speaker 1: really fast. But I am not on my phone a
Speaker 1: lot of the times because I think it's rude. I
Speaker 1: just don't want to be like on my phone while
Speaker 1: he's driving, but when he is in my car and
Speaker 1: I drive. For example, this morning to our ultrasound appointment,
Speaker 1: he was on his phone the entire time, and I
Speaker 1: was like, would you like some mints? I feel like
Speaker 1: you're uper driver, Like you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: I think it's I just feel like it's rude and
Speaker 1: he's and he's just and then what we'll go ahead,
Speaker 1: Tommy to feel because he started to get a little
Speaker 1: for me, I was like, first of all, she is
Speaker 1: on her phone quite a lot in the car. I
Speaker 1: understand that not all the time, and I do appreciate that.
Speaker 1: I acknowledge your side of that. But what's even worse
Speaker 1: for me is she'll get on phone calls, which that's
Speaker 1: my number one thing. If your passenger gets on the
Speaker 1: phone call, if they're on the phone, okay, you can
Speaker 1: still talk to them. And many times so I get
Speaker 1: on the phone in the phone call. Not not many, okay,
Speaker 1: I always ask I get on the phone really quick, right,
Speaker 1: that's that's very nice. But so again I drive nine
Speaker 1: we'll call it percent the time. So Janna gets that
Speaker 1: time to whether she's on her phone a lot or not,
Speaker 1: she's able to do. You're still on it at some
Speaker 1: point during every drive, so she's able to take care
Speaker 1: of emails or things or look at stuff about a minute.
Speaker 1: So she drives today and I'm like, man, this is great.
Speaker 1: I can like stuff. I wanted to catch up on
Speaker 1: stuff I want to do. Got a big fancy football
Speaker 1: week coming this week? Do I pick up Baker Mayfield?
Speaker 1: Is it worth it? I don't know, a lot of
Speaker 1: people are streaming him. Put him on my bench and
Speaker 1: I kept the lancing over and you know, okay, and
Speaker 1: in my league with my buddies back home, there's it's
Speaker 1: a fourteen team league. All you fancy football ballers out there. No,
Speaker 1: that's a very hard league for switch sides. Because I
Speaker 1: thought you were catching up on work. Thank you. I
Speaker 1: was doing some of that too, some emails. But still
Speaker 1: this was my time to do it. So I didn't
Speaker 1: do it at the Ultra sound. So I'm sitting there.
Speaker 1: Why can't you do it when you're on the when
Speaker 1: you spend your time, you spend ten minutes taking a
Speaker 1: crap on the toilet, do it then, or do you know,
Speaker 1: do it when Joel is napping? Why do you have
Speaker 1: to do it? Why do you have to look at
Speaker 1: the fantasy football the entire time I'm driving. It takes time,
Speaker 1: does in dedication and when you're undefeated like me, yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to put in the work. Okay, Well, I
Speaker 1: just felt like I was an uber driver and I
Speaker 1: just think it's I just I don't know, I for
Speaker 1: some reason just rubs me wrong. I just feel like
Speaker 1: you should put the phone down. And even if we
Speaker 1: don't have a conversation, because we don't talk a lot
Speaker 1: in the car, we don't have to have a conversation,
Speaker 1: just be respectful that you're not just like like literally,
Speaker 1: I felt like I was like driving this daisy and
Speaker 1: I don't like it because I know that I make
Speaker 1: a conscious effort to not well now, I know in
Speaker 1: six months from now when drives again that I will do.
Speaker 1: You guys have a rule while you're eating our phones away. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: no phone's away. But there is a real big one
Speaker 1: that I'm still stickler on with him when he has
Speaker 1: when Jolie is asking for for something and he's on
Speaker 1: his phone, it drives me. It's a trigger from my childhood.
Speaker 1: I feel ignored and I'm like I do certain things
Speaker 1: and now in my adult life, because I was ignored
Speaker 1: as a kid and my dad was on his freaking
Speaker 1: computer and I asked him a question ten minutes later,
Speaker 1: one of those inclusion it's like no, Dad, like you know,
Speaker 1: you know. So it's like when I see her being
Speaker 1: like like, uncle, put your phone around, like it's just
Speaker 1: like it burns me inside, which she will look over
Speaker 1: for the split second I have it, and it's every
Speaker 1: time I look, which we jan and I both know
Speaker 1: that me giving Jolie attention, there's no I give her
Speaker 1: way more. He's a great dad. He's a great dad.
Speaker 1: It's just unfortunate whenever that I do look, it's always
Speaker 1: the times when she's like grabbing for him and he's
Speaker 1: like she just started grabbing for me, and she's like
Speaker 1: I found out. I'm like really I was that. I
Speaker 1: could be finishing email or finished typing something, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: she can hang on for two seconds. I also don't
Speaker 1: want to be like, oh, what do you need? What
Speaker 1: do you need? What do you I mean, like Kaddy's
Speaker 1: doing something right. So it's it's a healthy balance too.
Speaker 1: Where As she gets older, it's like I'm finishing something, Jolie,
Speaker 1: let Daddy finish this and then I'm all yours. But
Speaker 1: I think it's the phone that bothers me because in
Speaker 1: this day and age, I think it's always going to
Speaker 1: be Well, it could be we're doing dishes, Can you
Speaker 1: please wait while mommy finishes doing dishes and daddy's on
Speaker 1: the phone. Well, I always say, I always say, Rocco,
Speaker 1: I need ten seconds to finish this email, right like
Speaker 1: I have to finish my thoughts, and then I immediately
Speaker 1: put it down and then I'm right back at him.
Speaker 1: Do you ever feel like you're not being good enough parents?
Speaker 1: Though at times always got the worst mom on the planet,
Speaker 1: You're the best mom in the world. Why do you
Speaker 1: feel like, well, you know you can never be perfect?
Speaker 1: You know, sure you can. I am no kidding people
Speaker 1: seeing me a bachelor's nicky glazier Jane is perfect. Well
Speaker 1: you know what. I'm sorry, No, no, um, stop it now.
Speaker 1: I'm really excited because we have Rachel. Do you want
Speaker 1: do you want to just because you're obsessed? Rachel's my dream?
Speaker 1: We have rachel'szo on and I have been watching her show.
Speaker 1: I watched her show for years. She actually has not
Speaker 1: and um she has an actual brick and mortar store
Speaker 1: opening there's uh these velvet suits I've been eyeing on
Speaker 1: her website. Didn't that I'm about to What does that mean? Like?
Speaker 1: Does it literally mean a brick and mortar store? Like
Speaker 1: I don't even know brick and mortar me because everything
Speaker 1: that's like a brick building, like a Baltimore building, Well,
Speaker 1: it just means, um, she's not going to be online anymore.
Speaker 1: Store a store up, whatever materials it's made of, it
Speaker 1: is irrelevant. That's I mean, that's online story, brick and mortar. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: what's din? What's her face? Maker? Famous from not Paris Hilton,
Speaker 1: where I think I know it is also my spirit animals.
Speaker 1: So I feel like one time I saw Nicole Rich
Speaker 1: and I ran a red leg cause I was like,
Speaker 1: it's still Rich And I was like I just ran
Speaker 1: a red light because I was so star starting. I
Speaker 1: was like, would do that? Yeah, it's like simple life,
Speaker 1: Well you do that now? Okay? Do we have so? Um?
Speaker 1: Nicole has the House of Parlow jewelry. I love. Then
Speaker 1: Rachel Zoe is the fashion queen. I mean she has
Speaker 1: styled the wide range of celebrities on and off the
Speaker 1: red carpet, including Jennifer Lawrence Kiera Knightley, and Kate Hudson.
Speaker 1: I wonder if she did she do guys, I don't know. Well,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'll check her Instagram because I follow
Speaker 1: her and we'll see what she's doing. Oh so I
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Speaker 1: only Rachel's Oh I can't wait. Rachel. Hi, Oh my goodness,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for calling in, because my husband
Speaker 1: just started talking about fantasy football and I was about
Speaker 1: to lose my mind. I was like, fashion, please, not football.
Speaker 1: I'm totally with you. Does your husband do all that too?
Speaker 1: He does the fantasy football and everything? Yeah, he does
Speaker 1: all of that. I mean he only started caring about
Speaker 1: the sports when he started betting on the sports. Right motivation,
Speaker 1: Where are you at right now? I hear sorry, right,
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely in my very peaceful and serene office that
Speaker 1: is currently not peaceful in serene because there is a
Speaker 1: protest going on outside my office, not because of anything
Speaker 1: in my office. It's like a stag protest. Oh are
Speaker 1: you in l A. Yeah, I'm in l A on
Speaker 1: my roads and say it's crazy. It literally sounds like
Speaker 1: a parade. Um, it's insane. Are testing. I don't know xactly,
Speaker 1: but sad. Something to do with sag right, actors rights,
Speaker 1: commercial rights? Interesting? Yeah, go go us, go go sack.
Speaker 1: Rachel who is the very first celebrity you ever styled? Um?
Speaker 1: The very first celebrity I ever styled? UM was a hole? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: um no it was It was pop stars. So well, okay,
Speaker 1: let me rephrase that. I had one job in my
Speaker 1: life before I went freelance when I was twenty five,
Speaker 1: and I worked at YAM magazine UM and I styled
Speaker 1: a lot of celebrities while I was there. But in
Speaker 1: my career as a stylist UM, my first celebrity client
Speaker 1: was UM Factory Boys, Brittain Spears, then UM all kind
Speaker 1: of at the same time, and then I shifted into
Speaker 1: doing actors UM in about two thousand and to two
Speaker 1: thousand three at my first big red carpet moment in
Speaker 1: Hollywood with Jennifer Garner and then Cameron Diaz and kid
Speaker 1: husband and talmahiok and Turn Nightly and and all these
Speaker 1: other amazing women. Who's the biggest diva? And I'm kidding
Speaker 1: And you can't tell I know, you can't tell me that.
Speaker 1: I really wish you good, but I have to kill you. No.
Speaker 1: I know, well, because I am my style every time,
Speaker 1: I like, I always try to get stuff out of her,
Speaker 1: and you know she can't. But it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: she's kind of giving me like a look and I'm like, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: but I mean that's gonna be hard to like such
Speaker 1: big personalities and you, you know, you just but you
Speaker 1: you're obviously like so confident in what you do. And
Speaker 1: I think it's great because obviously you're like, I know,
Speaker 1: I'm the best of the best. No, I actually never
Speaker 1: had that kind of confidence. I think you just I no,
Speaker 1: I mean no, I just not really built that way.
Speaker 1: I think you just I always felt like I could
Speaker 1: do better and be better, and I think when I
Speaker 1: was with my clients, I just always approach it though
Speaker 1: it was a service I was providing because it is
Speaker 1: really a service business, and you know, really trying to
Speaker 1: crack the code on you know, what my client wanted
Speaker 1: and sort of how they can absolutely look and feel
Speaker 1: their best and have that moment you know, every time
Speaker 1: they go out there in the public. Is there one
Speaker 1: disaster that you can like it was a total disaster.
Speaker 1: I mean I've had a few. Really, I would say, well,
Speaker 1: there are more technical difficulties, meaning you know, a closure
Speaker 1: on a picture down, you know, busted right as you
Speaker 1: got in the car to go to the Ascars after
Speaker 1: the dress was made. Course of two months and like
Speaker 1: ten fittings, and then another one someone was performing on
Speaker 1: stage in put some leather pants uh at not a
Speaker 1: Sin Square Garden and they ripped right down the middle. Um,
Speaker 1: you know things like that. Lots lots of those moments.
Speaker 1: That's fantastic. Rachel, your son's always look I follow you
Speaker 1: on Instagram and I'm always on your Instagram watching. I
Speaker 1: love your clothes, but your sons are always dressed so cute.
Speaker 1: Thank you. And I have a six year old son
Speaker 1: and I buy him the cutest clothes and all he
Speaker 1: wants to wear our basketball shorts in tight eye t
Speaker 1: shirts and I cannot get him into anything else. How
Speaker 1: do you do it? Um? You know it's interesting. Um,
Speaker 1: A friend of mine taught me when my when my
Speaker 1: first son was born, and see a great sape and style.
Speaker 1: And you know, I had all these beautiful clothes for
Speaker 1: first guy, and I said, God, I feel like as
Speaker 1: soon as you too, free's gonna want to start taking
Speaker 1: on his own instead of what am I gonna do
Speaker 1: when he starts putting on all these like nylon shorts
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. And my girlfriend was like, do you
Speaker 1: know what your soil? If you only get good things,
Speaker 1: they don't have to be expensive. But if you only
Speaker 1: find like things you love that you're happy that you
Speaker 1: wear it and not what he picked from. And I
Speaker 1: was like, God, that seems so simple but true. It
Speaker 1: seems so obvious, but it's so true. So that's kind
Speaker 1: what it did. And then I think, you know, once
Speaker 1: guy started like kindergarten and first grade, he obviously started
Speaker 1: some more of an opinion, and um, now we kind
Speaker 1: of do trade out like as long as it's comfortable,
Speaker 1: keep happy, Okay, you know what I mean? And it
Speaker 1: would happened was there was a moment where he was like, Mom,
Speaker 1: I just want to wear like, you know, sports shorts,
Speaker 1: and you know, he was like. I was like, first
Speaker 1: of all, you don't have to dress like everyone else.
Speaker 1: You're your own person. And then I said and and
Speaker 1: second I was like, honey, mom, you've built her whole
Speaker 1: career and was paid to actually tell people decide what
Speaker 1: to wear. So I know that's confusing, but but let's
Speaker 1: plea just try and text me on this a little bit.
Speaker 1: You know, if what I would give to have that freestyling. Well,
Speaker 1: I was funny because then at that point, people like
Speaker 1: he would put on these co opsits and everywhere we
Speaker 1: went strangers and be like cool outfit, dude, Oh you
Speaker 1: look so good. And I think he started to really
Speaker 1: like the feedback, so now he doesn't really question it
Speaker 1: too much. That's really cute. Cool, That's kind of what
Speaker 1: I'm afraid of. Yeah, that's really good. It's almost like
Speaker 1: because our daughter, she every single morning, before she even
Speaker 1: says good morning to us, she's about to be three,
Speaker 1: she says dress, dress, dress, and sometimes like we I
Speaker 1: love putting her in dresses, but sometimes, you know, like
Speaker 1: she has to wear pants to school and like, I mean,
Speaker 1: it is. It is like tackling an alligator to put
Speaker 1: on leggings. It's it's so I'm like, do I just
Speaker 1: take all the dresses out so she doesn't even see them? Well,
Speaker 1: do you want me to make you feel better? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I have a friend that he a daughter at that
Speaker 1: age would only go to school in a bathing suit.
Speaker 1: And thank you. Actually in Manhattan, so had to wear
Speaker 1: a coat and a bathing suit. But I feel better,
Speaker 1: I mean I do feel better because I mean, it's
Speaker 1: it's to the point where I mean, she is. I
Speaker 1: mean I had to have my father in law helped
Speaker 1: me hold her down to put because she will just
Speaker 1: I mean scream bloody murder. Yeah, this morning, this morning,
Speaker 1: I even put her in like a skirt, like a
Speaker 1: cute golf outfit that I just shot. It's great, but
Speaker 1: it was. It was a skirt and like a little
Speaker 1: collared shirt and that's not the one she wanted to wear.
Speaker 1: But I had to hold her down and yeah, let
Speaker 1: her have it. Well, and now I'm afraid of because
Speaker 1: we're we have a boy on the way. We're seven
Speaker 1: months pregnant, and oh my god, congratulated, thank you and
Speaker 1: I'm so excited because boy clothes are so cute. I've
Speaker 1: got something drop crotches and stuff. And Michael is like, honey,
Speaker 1: he's just gonna want to wear like the basketball shorts.
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, like not happening. Like he's going to
Speaker 1: be styled to the team. But it's just not number three.
Speaker 1: No to to Oh, I thought you said you had
Speaker 1: a boy and a girl. No, we have just a
Speaker 1: girl and then we have a boy on the way.
Speaker 1: Oh got it? Good for you, that's like the dream. Congratulate,
Speaker 1: thank you? Yeah? Are you going to try again for
Speaker 1: a girl? I would dream every dream I could ever
Speaker 1: dream of a girl. I'm not just thought my boys
Speaker 1: won't so badly they do. They don't want to boy.
Speaker 1: They only want a baby sister, So maybe a third
Speaker 1: then maybe. I mean, you never know what will happen.
Speaker 1: I mean I would, I would. I mean look at
Speaker 1: Kate Hudson. You know your client. I mean, and I bonded,
Speaker 1: we've bonded over, we've known each other forever. But she
Speaker 1: um the fact that she sent me a girl. I
Speaker 1: literally cried, Oh I did too, and I don't even
Speaker 1: know where, but I was like, it's just you know,
Speaker 1: like the relationship she has with her mom and like
Speaker 1: she needs a girl. You know, I know it's amazing
Speaker 1: often that gold do you choose some must us the human? Wow?
Speaker 1: Do you style men? I started my career styling men
Speaker 1: for the very beginning. For many years I sailed men.
Speaker 1: And it's not that I don't, it's that it's just
Speaker 1: not as interesting. Mike's like, thanks, what I mean is
Speaker 1: what I mean? It's like, yes, I do, and I
Speaker 1: love doing it. But after a while you're like you're
Speaker 1: a little creatively, you know, he's a kind of the
Speaker 1: same thing over and over again and jeans bla blah blah. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you have a new story that just opened in
Speaker 1: the Pacific Palisades in Los Angeles. Yeah, I do. Can
Speaker 1: you tell me as please? It's so exciting. It's um
Speaker 1: at the new Palace Sates village, you know, the new career.
Speaker 1: So I cannot tell you. How have you done yet? Yeah?
Speaker 1: It's stunning, Like it's so beautiful. Yes, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's like everything you ever wanted all in one village.
Speaker 1: It's so beautiful. Um. I will be there over the
Speaker 1: next level days quite a lot. But I'm like a
Speaker 1: Dick that I can't stop going, and um, my store
Speaker 1: is there, and it's just it's a footer down from
Speaker 1: Jennifer Meyer and right across from the movie theater and
Speaker 1: all the restaurants. It's honestly this magic. I mean I
Speaker 1: created this store to kind of feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: the customers sort of coming in to get staled and
Speaker 1: have that great stop the experience, and also feel like
Speaker 1: they were sort of walking into my living room a
Speaker 1: little bit. You know that they could be very kind
Speaker 1: of comfortable and lounge you but still feel like they're
Speaker 1: in this sort of easy, glamorous kind of place. I
Speaker 1: love that. I feel like that makes it like very
Speaker 1: you know, just really fatable. And yeah, you got to
Speaker 1: make easy for people that and people who aren't listening
Speaker 1: or who don't live in Los Angeles. Um, you can
Speaker 1: always go on her website, which we should louch will
Speaker 1: plug and you can buy listen your fall line. I
Speaker 1: always buy suits every year from here. You have the
Speaker 1: best suits every season, and this these velvet suits this season.
Speaker 1: I'm going to own all of them. And there's a
Speaker 1: sequen one. My god, if it doesn't stretch, I can't
Speaker 1: wear it yet. But next year I'm going to have
Speaker 1: a whole like wardrobe. I told you that, Michael, remember said,
Speaker 1: I'm getting I did show much online shopping when I
Speaker 1: was pregnanty so like I but in vomnia and I
Speaker 1: was like, and as I have this baby, I'm jumping
Speaker 1: right back into these clothes. Yeah, I'm gonna because I've
Speaker 1: had some of my clothes for for years and years,
Speaker 1: and so I'm gonna just I'm gonna have I told
Speaker 1: my lesson after this baby, I'm getting my body back.
Speaker 1: I'm going to just I'm going to buy finally clothes
Speaker 1: that are you know, not just the things that one
Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to buy nice clothes that are
Speaker 1: gonna last me and that I compare with other things
Speaker 1: and totally you know, because I'm a leg But that's
Speaker 1: why I love to more of them separate together during dual.
Speaker 1: And you really have the bus cuts so much. That
Speaker 1: makes me so happy. Think, Hey, what is um screen
Speaker 1: responsibly dot com? So I mean, listen, I think all
Speaker 1: of us. I think admittedly, we all sit on our screens,
Speaker 1: whether it's our phone or wrap bo iPad um way
Speaker 1: too many hours. I mean one and three adults say
Speaker 1: they they screens more than ten hours a day, and
Speaker 1: when you even ten hours a day. Yeah, but there's
Speaker 1: the thing. I was like, oh my god, crazy. And
Speaker 1: then I think about it and I'm like, okay, I
Speaker 1: got up. It took the clocome morning. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: honest screen by right, and then I get home and
Speaker 1: then I'm back online again, like even like after I
Speaker 1: got the kids down, and after I'm honest screen all
Speaker 1: day at work, and all day work I am, and
Speaker 1: then I wanted again to return on the emails at night.
Speaker 1: And then I'm like, okay, you are on way more
Speaker 1: than you think you are. Um. And I think sort
Speaker 1: of changing your behavior a little bit by doing these
Speaker 1: like very little changes in your life, like just literally
Speaker 1: taking times to look away from the screen for periods
Speaker 1: of time to give your eyes a little break, um,
Speaker 1: or even something like keeping your laptop or your screen
Speaker 1: inches away from you actually makes a huge difference. And
Speaker 1: then something that seems obvious but isn't. It's geeming your
Speaker 1: screens um, geeming the brightness. Because that changed my life.
Speaker 1: When I did that, that was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: how have I been staring at it like this for
Speaker 1: so long? You know, It's funny it's all makes fun
Speaker 1: of me. He's like, you had your screen is so dark,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, your screen is so bright. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: just it's just how I guess we view things differently.
Speaker 1: I just didn't find down. Yeah, but no, I think
Speaker 1: that's like, so, well, what made you you just was
Speaker 1: it you just realized you were on your phone too much?
Speaker 1: Or um? No? I just you know, I have really
Speaker 1: sensitiviz and they think doing these things just it was
Speaker 1: such they were still life changing and they were so
Speaker 1: easy to do. And then you know, I just really
Speaker 1: think that it's important that people kind of learn and
Speaker 1: understand more about screening screening responsibly, quite honestly, because I
Speaker 1: think it's really important because we live on our screens,
Speaker 1: Our kids live on their screens. You know. I try
Speaker 1: and limit my kids time too. You know, they say
Speaker 1: two hours or less. Um, Obviously I think those words
Speaker 1: changed on travel days. Um, travel days. I have no
Speaker 1: idea how long my kids on I don't even want
Speaker 1: to know, um. But you know, I'm constantly moving the
Speaker 1: iPad further away from them, you know, because if you
Speaker 1: think about it, you know, it's just we're older, so
Speaker 1: we kind of are more aware and more sensitive to.
Speaker 1: But younger kids don't know, you know, right, it could
Speaker 1: be too great, or could be too close or just
Speaker 1: you know. So I just think it's important to understand, um,
Speaker 1: you know what you can do to sort of help
Speaker 1: you your eyes and just sort of scream more responsively. Honestly,
Speaker 1: our daughter likes to. She challenges us all right already
Speaker 1: and wants to put her face right next to her
Speaker 1: iPad fust entire time, in which we rarely give it
Speaker 1: to her. But if we're having dinner whatever, she'll she'll
Speaker 1: like push it forward and with no push it back,
Speaker 1: like it's I mean, it's a constant battle. It's so frustrating.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're really just taken over. I'm a huge fan.
Speaker 1: Jen's a huge fan. Michael Will will be a huge fan.
Speaker 1: Once I start buying your clothes, I'm going to have
Speaker 1: to actually, I don't know, you probably won't. I'm going
Speaker 1: to have to get married again just to be involved
Speaker 1: in the new Bridle collection. I know money, you want
Speaker 1: to get married in? Um where can my listeners find
Speaker 1: you out? Um? Stop rates? But well, uh, Instagram is
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Speaker 1: then of course my store Policade Village. Um. And then
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Speaker 1: I all work, well, I love you, thank you for
Speaker 1: coming on the show. We appreci I'm gonna I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: while we wait for our surprise visitors, a surprise. You
Speaker 1: haven't said his name yet, and his name I said
Speaker 1: he might come on the show. Oh yeah, you did,
Speaker 1: Bobby Bones might come on the show. But already said
Speaker 1: it in the beginning of the show. All right, this
Speaker 1: is an anonymous emailer. She needs some advice. One of
Speaker 1: her mom's friends a lawyer in February of legal questions,
Speaker 1: so she asked about them. Similar you know anonymous as
Speaker 1: a banker, people come to her for a financing questions,
Speaker 1: the same sort of idea. Well, she had an attorney,
Speaker 1: but when with somebody else because she didn't feel like
Speaker 1: it was appropriate to hire a family friend to be
Speaker 1: her attorney. She felt like it could be a conflict
Speaker 1: of interest. Well, she ran into this woman in court,
Speaker 1: and that lawyer is very upset that she did not
Speaker 1: hire her. What she called me out, She blocked me
Speaker 1: from everything, didn't give the mom group is included from
Speaker 1: mom group chats. And now I feel like everyone's knowing
Speaker 1: my business and I'm being punished for trying to keep private.
Speaker 1: What did I do wrong? Did I do anything wrong?
Speaker 1: I can't stand confrontation between things. She did nothing wrong.
Speaker 1: We talked about this. I think that you have strong ethics.
Speaker 1: I think it's actually unethical you work in the capacity
Speaker 1: with a friend in that manner. Absolutely, And I was
Speaker 1: telling Michael this too. I had a court case situation
Speaker 1: and the defendant had the lawyer. You know, some sometimes
Speaker 1: it's okay if it's the friend. But I just think
Speaker 1: that's some cases courts won't even allow that. It's too
Speaker 1: close to the person of interest. Even when you're a therapist,
Speaker 1: it's unethical to work with someone that you're even an
Speaker 1: acquaintance with. It's you just can't do it. It's wrong.
Speaker 1: The boundaries are too muddy. It's just so muddy. The
Speaker 1: only thing, the only thing, just to play Devil's advocate
Speaker 1: is I don't know, I know you love that. I
Speaker 1: don't know how she handled the situation where she could
Speaker 1: have gone to her and been like, look, I would
Speaker 1: love to hire you as my attorney. But here's my
Speaker 1: feeling around it is that we're just too close of friends.
Speaker 1: Would just be uncomfortable for me, and so I would
Speaker 1: just I just want to let you know that I'm
Speaker 1: probably gonna go with somebody else. It's nothing personal. It's
Speaker 1: just I don't want it to get in the way
Speaker 1: of our friendship or it just seems to also the
Speaker 1: privacy issue when you're dealing with something in the court,
Speaker 1: there could be some serious private legal what this whole
Speaker 1: situation is about. And you don't want your friend to
Speaker 1: be that right, But if she didn't handle it the
Speaker 1: right way, you're absolutely right we would be like, whoa,
Speaker 1: you didn't even like you asked me, you asked me
Speaker 1: for advice, and now all of a sudden, you show
Speaker 1: up the courthouse with someone else. It's like I could
Speaker 1: see why the lady's like, wait what, And maybe she
Speaker 1: probably didn't because she says she doesn't like confrontations, so
Speaker 1: I doubt that she actually didn't tell her friend, which
Speaker 1: you know which too. If you want to unmuddy it,
Speaker 1: I would just be like, you know what, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: I just I'm really bad. I should have done this
Speaker 1: and I didn't. So if I hurt your feelings, I
Speaker 1: really do truly apologize to I think you can try
Speaker 1: to make it right again. But she does have a
Speaker 1: slight point, if you if if she didn't handle it first, yeah,
Speaker 1: but if she asked, it's almost like, for example, we
Speaker 1: have a friend, Nick Wotter. He's our um, he's our realtor,
Speaker 1: and you know my um her his wife is my
Speaker 1: best friend, and also I work with her as well,
Speaker 1: and so um if we were to ask Nick a
Speaker 1: question about a home, but then we didn't use him
Speaker 1: as a realtor when we've used him before, he would
Speaker 1: be and she would too, rightfully, so be upset to
Speaker 1: be like you didn't even like you've you asked us,
Speaker 1: and now then you just didn't use us, but then
Speaker 1: you use somebody else. I could see why they do
Speaker 1: not true. You know, I feel like the attorney should
Speaker 1: have just said, I'm going to give you this advice.
Speaker 1: But I you know, it's an ethical for me to
Speaker 1: work with you since we're in a mom group together,
Speaker 1: we're friends. Were this were that, I suggest that you
Speaker 1: find an attorney that you feel comfortable working with. That's
Speaker 1: that's asking a lot. That just seems too conscious of
Speaker 1: the whole professional and you have to be when you're
Speaker 1: profession that kind of profession. I agree, I agree. I
Speaker 1: think you have to look at it from a work
Speaker 1: perspective as opposed to a friend person. That's like, if
Speaker 1: an e R doctor someone in his family comes in
Speaker 1: to the e R, he shouldn't be working on that person, right,
Speaker 1: And I've asked my and my my cousin Rachel is
Speaker 1: a doctor, and so I asked her. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: if anything ever happens, you can do my surgery. Right.
Speaker 1: She's like, no, I'm not allowed to m HM, which
Speaker 1: is like a total bummer because if she went into plastics,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, can you hook a sister up? Well,
Speaker 1: that might be different, right, No, No, it's the same thing,
Speaker 1: can't We could do it, yeah, but same thing, you
Speaker 1: can't do it. So yeah, ethics, this is a bigger question.
Speaker 1: We might have to come back to it if Mr
Speaker 1: Bones shows up here. Alicia has a quick question. It's
Speaker 1: two sentences sex postpartum. Do some woman want to do
Speaker 1: it right away? Are they disgusted by the thought of
Speaker 1: it for a while? That is the extent of her email. Um, well, uh, professionally,
Speaker 1: not professionally. What's the medically you're not allowed to do it?
Speaker 1: Six weeks? Is oh? I think if it's vaginal, if
Speaker 1: you have vaginal birth, you can't do it six weeks.
Speaker 1: I don't know. You all can google it. Because I'm
Speaker 1: not a doctor. I think it's but then it's less
Speaker 1: for a se section. Maybe I think it was six
Speaker 1: even for after Joey. Yeah, I mean I would want
Speaker 1: to do it. I mean again, I want to do
Speaker 1: it a lot, but I would I would want to
Speaker 1: do it like a couple of weeks after. I don't know,
Speaker 1: as a as a man, are you grossed up? Because
Speaker 1: now I wouldn't have my belly anymore. It's like when
Speaker 1: she just want to get back to it because now
Speaker 1: it's like we got a bump in the way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys, you're having it. I can't wait
Speaker 1: to take you home right now, honey. No, but since
Speaker 1: you're having a C section, I mean, I don't think
Speaker 1: it affects. I don't know. I think your recovery time
Speaker 1: with the c section. It's if you feel more well.
Speaker 1: That's the thing I would be more afraid to, like
Speaker 1: hurt because you I mean, you hit, you're open, you
Speaker 1: have to heal major major j. Yeah, we're gonna chill off.
Speaker 1: We should we tell them what we're doing though, What
Speaker 1: are we doing? Remember that thing that you said you're
Speaker 1: gonna get me for Christmas? Oh my God, to help
Speaker 1: work on intimacy? Mm? Do I tell? Well? Now, you
Speaker 1: guys have to so through. Buddy came up with this idea,
Speaker 1: which I think is really sweet. And since intimacy is
Speaker 1: something that I'm trying to work on and get better at,
Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate that you even are wanting to
Speaker 1: try and perfect timing Ladies and gentlemen. Bobby Buddy Podcast,
Speaker 1: What's up. Okay, so you texted me this morning. Hi,
Speaker 1: who you texted me this morning saying that you hurt
Speaker 1: your rotator cuff. I did not say that the publicly.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be the guy in the show
Speaker 1: that's injured. I was injured the second week. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I don't want to be that guy. Okay, fine, so
Speaker 1: you're not that guy. But do you know why Michael goes?
Speaker 1: Probably because he was the russ celebrating. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: it's part of it him. Yeah, I mean, and then
Speaker 1: did you see did you watch Bobby on the show
Speaker 1: and then his after apart, like with his celebrating the
Speaker 1: celebratory dance. I mean I think you, I mean, you
Speaker 1: literally pumped your arms so much that you probably tore
Speaker 1: your arm out. Well, I don't know about my arm out.
Speaker 1: It's still a real arm. But my thing is, and
Speaker 1: I think as an athlete, Mike you'll know this, because
Speaker 1: I'm not not that I'm an athlete, but you you
Speaker 1: probably do the same thing, is that you don't want
Speaker 1: to always be injured because then when you're really injured,
Speaker 1: they're going, oh, come on, you're the injured guy. So
Speaker 1: I had a tooth knock loosen practice, and now I
Speaker 1: have a slight, a little we'll just call it a
Speaker 1: little gibil rotator cove. And I don't want them. I
Speaker 1: don't want him to know that because I can't be
Speaker 1: the guy that's hurt, because if I do hurt myself,
Speaker 1: then it's oh, Bobby's hurt again. So and I and
Speaker 1: I went to the doctor, and I can manage this
Speaker 1: because it's not something that I just do some pain,
Speaker 1: pain work and then it's over. I'll get it fixed.
Speaker 1: Much like a football season, there are things that you
Speaker 1: don't have to fix it at the end of the season.
Speaker 1: Because I'm comparing me to the NFL player right now,
Speaker 1: because anyone wanted will I will say, after winning sing
Speaker 1: what Janna went through? What two years ago in the schedule.
Speaker 1: I have a new found respect for dancers in general,
Speaker 1: and you guys on that show. So don't shortside yourself
Speaker 1: because I've done one episode. Mike, it's not well, that's
Speaker 1: the thing. He's You've been practicing for about three weeks
Speaker 1: how many hours a day? A lot of hours? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean all of a sudden. I mean because that's
Speaker 1: like when I tore my intercostal muscles. The second week,
Speaker 1: you're not. You're doing moves your body doesn't even know,
Speaker 1: like how to move this way and that way, and
Speaker 1: all of a sudden you're being thrust into being a
Speaker 1: professional dancer. Yeah, it's not like jazzer sides where they're
Speaker 1: slowly going side to side. It's like, okay, welcome to it.
Speaker 1: Go Yeah. And so yeah, he's partner Sharna, and so
Speaker 1: she's like, now, go go go, and she's she's hard
Speaker 1: right Yeah. Day one she actually pulled my score them
Speaker 1: completely off. So it's a whole I know. Yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 1: It's a tough, tough life of a dancer. But I
Speaker 1: believe they're all scrow them us. I'm just the group. Now.
Speaker 1: Just what happens. Yeah, then a blister just goes over
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, it's there's a new scrowed them perfect. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's all just one. I mean, wow, we really do
Speaker 1: have two athletes in this room right now. We have
Speaker 1: one athlete and one that tried. But do you have
Speaker 1: to say to the athlete, I mean, like, because you
Speaker 1: saw that. Because when I came home, Michael was his
Speaker 1: father in law wasn't town, so he didn't come to
Speaker 1: show with me, but I went to support Bobby, even
Speaker 1: a friend for a long time, and I'm very appreciative
Speaker 1: who came to the trailers that hello, you and your friend.
Speaker 1: It's awesome really because nobody can see. Yeah, I really
Speaker 1: appreciate that. Yeah, well, I just I'm I felt like
Speaker 1: I was a proud mom. I mean, I was just
Speaker 1: so excited and he yes, no, I'm sorry, this is sorry.
Speaker 1: I'm doing how we do on our show. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean stop. What happens on our show is when someone's
Speaker 1: talking and someone has something they want to say, they
Speaker 1: just go a hand, come over to me. Neck. I
Speaker 1: do mean to interrupt you, but that's what that mail like,
Speaker 1: I have something to say when you're done, okay. I
Speaker 1: just like, I'm just like the proudest mom ever. And
Speaker 1: I was so excited. So when I came home, I
Speaker 1: was like, honey, you have to see Bobby's dance. And
Speaker 1: I was like, and wait for the end. It's the
Speaker 1: best part. And you were like like, so like wow,
Speaker 1: oh I was impressed. Yeah, I was thoroughly impressed. First,
Speaker 1: I wonder you're watching, and I knew that you had
Speaker 1: done the show, so to you, it's still kind of cool.
Speaker 1: To go back, and then you're there because you know me,
Speaker 1: and I'm very supportive. I'm very happy that you were
Speaker 1: supportive of me. Were you nervous before I went on?
Speaker 1: Because one it was me and two you had been
Speaker 1: in that situation. I was nervous because I knew you
Speaker 1: were nervous, and I was nervous because I remember the nerves,
Speaker 1: So yes, it was. It was definitely both of those things.
Speaker 1: But I was more nervous because you were my friend.
Speaker 1: So I've never been nervous like that watching anybody else
Speaker 1: person I was personally nervous for someone else. I was like, I,
Speaker 1: please don't fall, Please don't fall, Bobby, Please, they don't
Speaker 1: don't mess up because I'm like, because I wanted you
Speaker 1: to feel how you fell at the end. That's where
Speaker 1: it was like that proud moment where I was like
Speaker 1: I got tearyot, I was like, yes, like there's because
Speaker 1: I genuinely care about you and I wanted it was
Speaker 1: like really rooting for someone and being like, God, you
Speaker 1: can do this. And then when you had that moment
Speaker 1: at the end, that's exact moment that I wanted you
Speaker 1: to have. Was that excitement and that that thrill. It's
Speaker 1: like you just did the coolest freaking thing in your life.
Speaker 1: And like you said, you you grew up in a
Speaker 1: town of seven people, like you don't get to do
Speaker 1: these people get to get to do this. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm there, and I feel like that my whole career,
Speaker 1: Like I'm representing people that were never told they could
Speaker 1: do things. We were never told we couldn't do things.
Speaker 1: But it just wasn't in our dna that you could
Speaker 1: leave the small town or the mill. You know, that's
Speaker 1: what everybody did. And so now no one said how
Speaker 1: you can't, but it was just never a thing that
Speaker 1: you could do. So, you know, with kids and people
Speaker 1: in high school and college, it's like, man, if I
Speaker 1: can do it, like I grew up a food stamp
Speaker 1: kid and seven people. If I can do it, anybody
Speaker 1: can do it. Because my only talent is showing up
Speaker 1: like that's but that is a talent. And I don't
Speaker 1: say that as someone who's like, oh what was me?
Speaker 1: Like that's really a big thing to show up consistently.
Speaker 1: And when lou was tide draw hurt, you know, as
Speaker 1: long as I'm not injured, I'm there. And so it
Speaker 1: was really cool for me to finish that dance, because
Speaker 1: but I think people felt that though that's that's there's
Speaker 1: a lot of hate. But but what would people say, Hey,
Speaker 1: it was too much, and it's fair because it was
Speaker 1: too much. But I'm okay being always too much because
Speaker 1: that means at least you're a blip into the radar
Speaker 1: of everything's trying to matter at once. And if you
Speaker 1: can matter in any way, as long as I'm hurting
Speaker 1: a kid or animal, put put me in the news.
Speaker 1: And I'm trying to be seen on this show, right,
Speaker 1: So I think it's people. People might hate on you
Speaker 1: and say it was too much or you're you know,
Speaker 1: overacting or something like that, but no one knows how
Speaker 1: they would feel, like with your backstory, like you're just
Speaker 1: talking about how they would feel on that national stage,
Speaker 1: being able to do something that your body has never
Speaker 1: physically done ever in its life, and you did it
Speaker 1: and you finished, well, it wasn't seamless, but everyone else
Speaker 1: you didn't miss a beat. I didn't. I didn't see
Speaker 1: a missbeat at all. But you also know, if you
Speaker 1: do it, you realize all the beats you missed, all
Speaker 1: the small I'm like, I've never did a perfect between ever,
Speaker 1: but there was no overacting because that was all legitimate
Speaker 1: because I fell down like if I were really controlled.
Speaker 1: And also she was bent over. I started celebrating one
Speaker 1: step too early and so she was still bent over
Speaker 1: backward the whole thing. By the way, there's like a
Speaker 1: gift going around that's fantastic at her face, being like whoa.
Speaker 1: And this week I have to really keep it together
Speaker 1: to show that I'm not just I am an idiot,
Speaker 1: but I'm not just the idiot. And that's kind of
Speaker 1: what it is. It's the people that said it's too
Speaker 1: much if you did it again like that, and then
Speaker 1: they would be like, yeah, maybe that's a little like
Speaker 1: even again, it's that pure excitement, but you can't do that,
Speaker 1: and that's a high energy dance. My next dance is
Speaker 1: like it's called the fox hoop or something. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: They asked me, they said, hey, what's your favorite style
Speaker 1: of dance? And I said, this is before one on
Speaker 1: the show. I said I prefer line. I said, yeah,
Speaker 1: we don't we do that on this show. I was like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: so I'm doing the fox trot. Yeah, that's very like happy.
Speaker 1: You're never like smooth yeah, smooth and happy. So it's
Speaker 1: like the Fredish Stair Jeane Kelly type stuff. And and
Speaker 1: I know you look at me and go, man, Bobby's
Speaker 1: so smooth all the time. It's not true dorky, tall,
Speaker 1: goofy dude. And so you know, I think for me,
Speaker 1: it's just going to be a struggle every week. And
Speaker 1: I've now accepted that, now that I know it's always
Speaker 1: a struggle. And what I strive for in my life period,
Speaker 1: not just in this because this is going to come
Speaker 1: and go in a matter of weeks, but what I
Speaker 1: strive for in my life all the time. It's consistency.
Speaker 1: I think that's currency. If you can get consistency from
Speaker 1: anyone like that's valuable. Because even with my training partner,
Speaker 1: and I'll use that as a metaphor for for life
Speaker 1: and for the session, she's consistently hard on me. So
Speaker 1: I know that you know what to expect, and I
Speaker 1: know that if she says I'm doing something right, I
Speaker 1: can believe her. And I know if she sayn't doing
Speaker 1: something wrong, which is most of the time because I
Speaker 1: am doing something wrong, I believe her. But she's consistent
Speaker 1: with it. And people said, what do you want to
Speaker 1: partner that would cadd on you, sure if they caught
Speaker 1: on me consistently. And I really know because again in relationships,
Speaker 1: in professional really, if you can get consistency from someone,
Speaker 1: that is so valuable because there becomes a point where
Speaker 1: you have too somewhat uh not let the good or
Speaker 1: the bad influence how you feel, but the data that
Speaker 1: you take in and if you can get to that
Speaker 1: point with someone else, there's real value in that relationship,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. And so I have that relationship now.
Speaker 1: I have that relationship with my co host on my
Speaker 1: radio show. I have that relationsip in my book editor
Speaker 1: where it was just like, just be for real with me.
Speaker 1: Whatever you're for real is, but if you're the same
Speaker 1: for real with me, and when you go one way
Speaker 1: or the other, I know that you mean that good
Speaker 1: or bad. And so that's what I strive for in life.
Speaker 1: That's what I strive for on this show, and I'm
Speaker 1: getting it now. That's kind of for both of you guys.
Speaker 1: How do you feel like and how did you feel
Speaker 1: every week knowing that you did the previous week? Okay,
Speaker 1: hey I made it through. I did. Yeah, it wasn't perfect,
Speaker 1: but I did a good job. Were you more confident
Speaker 1: and Bobby, do you feel more confident going to the foxtrot?
Speaker 1: Or is it because it's completely different dance. It's like
Speaker 1: from square one all over again. For me personally, it
Speaker 1: was square one. I sucked every every new dance that
Speaker 1: I learned. I was like, I suck, this sucks. And
Speaker 1: it wasn't until you know, and as some of them
Speaker 1: did suck. But and that's the thing, Like some dances,
Speaker 1: like the jive, he had the drive lot. I was
Speaker 1: terrible at the Drive, but the next week I had
Speaker 1: something that was better. But I mean, you start from
Speaker 1: square one learning a dance that you don't even you
Speaker 1: don't know, like he doesn't, we don't even know the
Speaker 1: name of it, how Viennese waltz or it's like the
Speaker 1: moves that you don't know. So it's literally starting from scratch,
Speaker 1: is what I think. But yeah, I think it's the
Speaker 1: comparison that I would make is let's say I took
Speaker 1: Rosetta Stone and I learned Spanish and trying to learn Spanish,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, wow, the Spanish sucks, and I'm trying
Speaker 1: to learn it, and I kind of get enough to
Speaker 1: get by because I did learn Spanish Rotta Stone anyway,
Speaker 1: so um, I was, Yeah, I learned Spanish, and then
Speaker 1: it would be okay, well, now I'm gonna try to
Speaker 1: learn Mandarin. Now I just went through the process of
Speaker 1: learning Kanish, but now I'm going to try to learn
Speaker 1: a different language. I remember the struggle of Spanish, so
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel so foreign to struggle, but there's still
Speaker 1: an intense struggle there. So the struggle is the same.
Speaker 1: But you know you could do one. Maybe you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe I can do this too, because I was able
Speaker 1: to learn Spanish. Yeah, And maybe it's the the not
Speaker 1: succeeding doesn't feel so unfamiliar. It's kind of the if
Speaker 1: you fail and you keep trying and you fail again,
Speaker 1: that failure doesn't hurt so much because you've already done it,
Speaker 1: and eventually it gets a little more comfortable failing, to
Speaker 1: the point where you're so comfortable that you can kind
Speaker 1: of get it. At least that's what I hope. I'm
Speaker 1: not there yet, but I'm failing miserably this week training.
Speaker 1: But I'm not as down on myself because I trust
Speaker 1: the process that happened last the last So but we
Speaker 1: had two and a half weeks to learn the first
Speaker 1: dance though, and we have five days learned two other days.
Speaker 1: How do you feel right now? How do you feel
Speaker 1: about like where you are with those two dances? Well,
Speaker 1: we have something called it um quick Step that this week.
Speaker 1: I haven't even started on it, so I don't know
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen there and so I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know about that one. So I guess you step
Speaker 1: in a quick way. I don't know, um And that's
Speaker 1: next week. The fox thought. It's tough because my whole
Speaker 1: life I've been a sloucher from my shoulders and your posture,
Speaker 1: especially as the dude, it has to stay perfect through
Speaker 1: all of these front backside moves um and and it's
Speaker 1: a struggle. But I and it's harder to me than Jib,
Speaker 1: but you have Len on your side. I trust the process.
Speaker 1: I do. Once the process proves that it can be
Speaker 1: done in any situation, then I trust the process very
Speaker 1: on side of you. Yeah, yeah, no. Do you have
Speaker 1: any regrets though, I mean from all the conversations we've
Speaker 1: had about should I do the show, should I not
Speaker 1: do the show? Because we we went back and forth
Speaker 1: a lot. But I'm not really a regret guy for
Speaker 1: anything ever, um, just because I feel like even the
Speaker 1: things that screw up I learned a lot from and
Speaker 1: as long as I'm taking something from it, I don't
Speaker 1: think there's a reason to regret it. Because let's say
Speaker 1: I would have taken it, I got offered another show
Speaker 1: at the same time, right, and I would say about
Speaker 1: taking that show. It could be something as sense less
Speaker 1: as what if I was driving to that show I
Speaker 1: get hit by a car, Like, I don't know what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen. We don't know the minor situational things that
Speaker 1: happened around the bigger situational things or um. And so
Speaker 1: when I commit to something that's it, I try to
Speaker 1: do the best in that situation, and I can always
Speaker 1: look back at it and go ahead. I wonder what
Speaker 1: would happened here and there, but we can wonder about everything.
Speaker 1: What do you do with the comments. I have a
Speaker 1: job where I'm constantly critiqued on everything that I do,
Speaker 1: so at times I just it's it's water off a
Speaker 1: duck's back. However, I've never danced before, so this is
Speaker 1: new to me. It would be like you're reading comments
Speaker 1: about your podcast when you started um, so you're used
Speaker 1: to be slammed. In other places, they slam because people
Speaker 1: in the just slam, and I don't mean that in
Speaker 1: a bad way. But what happens with well but what
Speaker 1: but why they do it is I believe And and
Speaker 1: this is the part of our culture that makes me
Speaker 1: kind of sad and I wish we could help improve.
Speaker 1: Is that people don't have a voice, so when they
Speaker 1: finally do have one, they feel like they have to
Speaker 1: have one that is so strong that it gets noticed.
Speaker 1: And the only way to get noticed is to not
Speaker 1: even be super positive about something, is to be super
Speaker 1: negative about something. So I don't even feel they I
Speaker 1: don't even think they really feel what they're writing. But people,
Speaker 1: including myself, not in comments, but in other ways, we
Speaker 1: want to be noticed. You know, we have this we're
Speaker 1: striving for love in some way, and when we're not
Speaker 1: getting it, we're trying to find it in other places.
Speaker 1: And so I feel like that's why people go to
Speaker 1: Facebook or or pigeon carriers watch Game of Thrones. However,
Speaker 1: they're sending things around and that's why they're sending those messages.
Speaker 1: And so dancing was new to me, and I wanted
Speaker 1: to see really what they thought. And I looked and
Speaker 1: there was a lot of a lot of hate. I'd
Speaker 1: been down that before, but it was new, So yeah,
Speaker 1: I read it. It sucked. It never doesn't suck. It
Speaker 1: never doesn't suck. By the way, Yeah, if anyone tells
Speaker 1: you with the comments, and it never we're human beings, well,
Speaker 1: and we we I know I can't speak for everyone,
Speaker 1: but I know Michael and I and Bobby and we
Speaker 1: all we we feel like we're not good enough. And
Speaker 1: so when we read those things, even though we say, oh,
Speaker 1: they're just the people at home behind their computers, but
Speaker 1: it still gets to you. There's still words. The words
Speaker 1: still hurts, and unless you not feel good enough, less
Speaker 1: and less. Yeah, but there's never a time where I
Speaker 1: read them all and go great, freaking love that even
Speaker 1: feel better about yourself coming out. But I you know,
Speaker 1: I appreciate all the early advice that you gave me
Speaker 1: because I don't know that I would be here without it.
Speaker 1: And I love it like I love it well. It shows,
Speaker 1: it shows that you're having fun. And I want everybody,
Speaker 1: all my listeners to vote for Bobby. Dancing with the
Speaker 1: Stars may be kicked off. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: you just you just keep being you and you keep
Speaker 1: you know, being fantastic and humble and screw the haters.
Speaker 1: And I'm super proud of you. So and um, he's
Speaker 1: got also a podcast art radio called Bobby Cast. There's
Speaker 1: a there's one January hour and I lost my voice
Speaker 1: before I laryngitis. I think we taught myself in laryngitis
Speaker 1: on that show. You know, it totally is. But Bobby Bones,
Speaker 1: thank you for coming. And I know you've got to leave.
Speaker 1: Actually I'm going to dance practice right now. Yeah. Oh,
Speaker 1: I just love Bobby. He is the sweetest. I spent
Speaker 1: some time with him in the green rooms room at festival.
Speaker 1: He's great, he was just great. I'm just really proud
Speaker 1: of him because he's he's really come a long way. Um,
Speaker 1: Michael and I did his podcast like he he actually
Speaker 1: went to on site to that place that we talked
Speaker 1: about a lot about, you know, therapy and living centered
Speaker 1: kind of self healing. Yeah. Uh, and he's you know,
Speaker 1: he's he's had a really hard life and upbringing and
Speaker 1: he but he's ready for love and he's ready to
Speaker 1: be loved. And so I'm just like sweet, it's just
Speaker 1: been really nice to see him kind of evolve into this,
Speaker 1: you know, very aware, self aware of person, and I
Speaker 1: just I'm so happy that he did dancing. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean his reaction where I can see where people
Speaker 1: are like, oh, it's over the top. At the same time, man,
Speaker 1: he like well, he felt like he was proud of himself,
Speaker 1: and he should have been proud of himself, you know.
Speaker 1: And they don't know his background, they don't know where
Speaker 1: he was in his head when he completed that. It
Speaker 1: was authentic. Yeah, I loved it. Do we finish or
Speaker 1: do we leave him hanging him INTI missy thing? Can
Speaker 1: you guys just finish? Like that was like the Fox music?
Speaker 1: Perfect timing. I know this, Mike's trying to be more
Speaker 1: intimate and and so I got this idea from a
Speaker 1: buddy of mine because we can't have sex after baby
Speaker 1: for a couple of weeks, so the pressure is kind
Speaker 1: of off and kiss on him. That's when he feels pressure.
Speaker 1: He has a problem with intimacy when he feels pressured
Speaker 1: to have sex. Okay, so continue, So basically for Christmas,
Speaker 1: I told her ahead of time, this is one of
Speaker 1: those like you can't start have an argument about something.
Speaker 1: The president to be like, well, I've been working on
Speaker 1: this to fix this back about it. Yeah, So I
Speaker 1: kind of told her. I was like, well, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: set up appointment with this like Tantra therapist, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna go in for a couple of sessions and kind
Speaker 1: of do that whole gig. And I don't know what
Speaker 1: all it entails, but it's gonna be very uncomfortable what
Speaker 1: but um, hopefully it'll kind of break down something. I
Speaker 1: don't know much about tantra, but I'm excited to learn.
Speaker 1: But I'm also I'm also scared because I don't I
Speaker 1: don't want us to because I feel like you can
Speaker 1: you can easily laugh when you're staring at each other.
Speaker 1: But it's like I want to be I want to
Speaker 1: take it serious. But I also in the back of mind,
Speaker 1: I'm like, is he just going to be so uncomfortable
Speaker 1: that he's not even present? Do you do things to
Speaker 1: each other in front of the coach therapist person? No,
Speaker 1: it doesn't. It doesn't get to like sexual. It's not
Speaker 1: sexually just learning. It's learning to just know like still
Speaker 1: touch a lot of breathing, yeah, non sexual touch, but
Speaker 1: touch and just like breathing in each other's souls and
Speaker 1: whatever all that stuff, which is the most uncomfortable thing
Speaker 1: for you, which in my back of my mind, I'm like,
Speaker 1: how am I going to be present? Stay present when
Speaker 1: I know that this is You're gonna say, look at
Speaker 1: my husband trying to really work on things that he
Speaker 1: has character defects, and you're gonna work on being in
Speaker 1: the moment. M Jen is going to be there being
Speaker 1: like stay in the moment, the moment moment. I think
Speaker 1: it's cool, it's proactive, and it's I have a friend
Speaker 1: who is she's a touch with specialist and she is incredible,
Speaker 1: um and she helps people immensely, and it is it
Speaker 1: is uncomfortable, but it'll take two seconds for you guys
Speaker 1: to snap out of your heads and get into the
Speaker 1: moment because of the breathwork. Yeah, it's going to be fun.
Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to And again there's not the pressure
Speaker 1: of having sex afterwards, so hopefully that during that time
Speaker 1: you can really like do like hardcore intimacy work. You
Speaker 1: know what sucks. We talked about all this stuff about
Speaker 1: you want to have sex more and he's got any issues.
Speaker 1: I'm like, we have sex. People like, but it's you know,
Speaker 1: we want to be more intimate on a more frequent basis. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: we'll keep working at that. All right, Well, thank you
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Speaker 1: Um today was fun and hey, I'm really excited. I
Speaker 1: know we were all over the place of the show,
Speaker 1: but I think what I'm taking from the show is
Speaker 1: I'm excited to see how people give back. You can't
Speaker 1: pay it forward. And again, it's not even about the money.
Speaker 1: It's not about how much you spend. I know I
Speaker 1: made that one comment earlier, but it's it could be
Speaker 1: a simple gesture of a smile or a wave or
Speaker 1: something like that. So just something to pay it forward,
Speaker 1: all right. Can't wait to wind down next week. Ye Bye,
Speaker 1: that was fun. Good job,