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Speaker 1: Welcome to reasonably Shady mail bag. Do do do do do? Do? Do?

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Speaker 2: It's your music.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's my male bag music. All right. So it

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Speaker 1: is a new year, it's a new time, it's a

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Speaker 1: new day. Yes, all right. So once again, we do

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Speaker 1: appreciate every any and everybody that writes into us.

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Speaker 2: Yes, what's up at reasonably shady dot com? Yes you

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Speaker 1: That true true, Yeah, personally and on shade. Yeah, for sure,

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Speaker 1: you've got mail. Okay. So this is from LaToya Edwards

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Speaker 1: and she wanted to say, oh, listen to me. She

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Speaker 1: wanted to say, Jaselle, I just want to say that

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Speaker 1: I just love Jaselle r H O P. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Love her fun shape and that picture of her from

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Speaker 1: back in the HBCU Day's classic. Yes it is. I

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Speaker 1: listened to the podcast and I just laugh along with

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Speaker 1: you all beautiful women inside and out. Okay, So, speaking

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Speaker 1: of things from back in the day, you know the

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Speaker 1: Kilani song folded, Yes, I love that song. By the way,

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Speaker 1: you do. Yeah, Okay, I mean so I want to

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Speaker 1: say I had something to say about it. Okay, no,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonn let you finish.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: That song and Mariah the Scientist song, those are the

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Speaker 2: only songs that are playing on the radio right now.

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Speaker 2: If you listened to the radio, like because I like

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Speaker 2: to listen to the More in the Morning, and every

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Speaker 2: other song is Kaylani and Mariah the Scientists. There are

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Speaker 2: no other people making music right now, apparently not. Yes,

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Speaker 2: we continue.

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Speaker 1: Because Beyonce's on hiatus. Yes, so shout out to the

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Speaker 1: Alphas of the Gamma Iota chapter of Alphas at Hampton Universe. Okay,

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Speaker 1: because they did a stroll to the folded song outside

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Speaker 1: it was like snowing. It was like picturesque looking.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Nice, nailed it, really killed it, demolished it. She reposted it.

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Speaker 1: Oh she did so.

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Speaker 1: Kudos to the Gamma Eye japter.

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Speaker 2: And then, speaking of the Alphas, I saw a clip

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Speaker 2: it was on Peacock's Instagram page of the show bel Air.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and I saw that, Yes, and they.

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Speaker 2: Were I don't I don't watch bel Air. I don't

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Speaker 2: I watched it like ten times because it was the

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Speaker 2: alphas were stepping and I guess maybe the characters, I

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Speaker 2: And I just thought it was so cool because a

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Speaker 1: it's cold, Yeah, it's cold. Oh it's cold in here. Okay,

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Speaker 1: actually I can do that because I'm an aka. You cannot. Okay,

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Speaker 1: in the day, the Alphas at Hampton were not like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they usually aren't well okay, no, no, no, no, okay true,

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Speaker 3: But today, like the Alphas at Hampton, when I went

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Speaker 1: Who were these guys, right right? I said a door.

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Speaker 1: we digress. This is from Susan McDonald Hello, which we.

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Speaker 2: Need to note Susan wrote us two years ago ago.

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Speaker 2: This is from two years ago.

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Speaker 1: so she says, hello, I'm a longtime fan of r

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Speaker 1: Green Eyed Bun died by the way, Yes, somebody sent

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Speaker 1: me the first time somebody called us green Eye band.

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Speaker 1: It's on Potomac, right, it was. We talked about this Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I have a question for Giselle and Robin. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: this is a novel, Okay, so we'll buckle up. I

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Speaker 1: had a friend of fifteen years named Gloria. We both

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Speaker 1: not very often. Okay. We were not best friends, more

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Speaker 1: like good friends. She is single and thirty seven, and

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Speaker 1: I went to lunch with an old friend and coworker

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Speaker 1: chatted for a while about work, and then I brought

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Speaker 1: I saw this going, okay, just by the racks, I

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Speaker 1: this is getting to the good part. To make matters worse,

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Speaker 1: A couple of weeks after this, no text or call

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Speaker 1: talked to me since this happened late. Actually, right, the bitch.

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Speaker 1: She didn't say the bitch, okay, but it says it

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Speaker 1: says bleep, beep and bleep, and I for the because

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Speaker 1: would love to would love y'all take on this. I'm

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Speaker 1: still confused, okay, okay, your thoughts. See, I thought she

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Speaker 2: Hap was not but nothing. I think the friend is jealous.

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Speaker 2: What territorial friend, you know? Like okay, like doesn't like

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Speaker 2: so I think the friend is feeling left out. She's

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Speaker 1: Probably like wants her life a little bit. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: I was thinking, it don't even matter two tears in

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Speaker 1: Like this is over, Like what are we doing here?

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Speaker 2: Right, Yes, and for like no reason. So, yeah, their

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Speaker 2: Can't be who gets mad over someone going to lunch?

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Speaker 1: know when do I get a lunch date? Or you

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Speaker 1: never invite me to lunch? Well, friend, you could have

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Speaker 1: It took us two years to tell you that you

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Speaker 2: Mean it's also this just could be good advice for

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Speaker 2: anyone that goes through something similar. I feel like people,

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Speaker 2: I've you know, you do have friends who get jealous

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Speaker 2: when you go out with your other friends and or

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Speaker 1: Yes, no, totally. Yeah, but I feel like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I mean? Yeah, but you but in the meantime, you

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Speaker 2: And then and then you just don't know what, like Okay,

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Speaker 2: So that lunch date could have been something really spontaneous

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Speaker 2: where the guy called her and said.

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Speaker 1: Hey, let's go to n let's go to lunch.

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Speaker 2: So like, what what is the other person getting mad at?

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this this is really weird. Okay, anybody toxic in

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Speaker 1: your life, they got to go, Yes, they got to go.

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Speaker 1: All right. So this is from Tracy, Henry, Hi, Robin,

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Speaker 1: This message is for Giseelle. I just want to thank

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Speaker 1: I'm no longer eating on television for the record. Why

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Speaker 1: because I saw I was in the scene and I

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Speaker 2: Like that wouldn't feel normal.

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Speaker 1: So you're just gonna like sit at a entertain I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna do Karen. Yes, I'm gonna do a Karen. I'm

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Speaker 1: not eat because it's just distracting. Okay, I'm gonna eat

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Speaker 1: a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Fine, Rapp.

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Speaker 2: It's it's not distracting, it's actually normal.

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Speaker 1: I was distracted by watching myself eat. Oh yeah, okay, No,

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Speaker 1: not distracting to the scene by No, I was just distracted.

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Speaker 1: I was like, why am I still chewing? But anyway,

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Speaker 2: That's what you're not unbothered by. You are bothered by

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Speaker 2: watching yourself eat. Yes, yeah, bother that.

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Speaker 1: Was like, ohoh, because I can't. I was like maybe

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Speaker 1: I was in and I was eating in all of them,

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Speaker 1: so I was like, okay, no one more eating for me,

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Speaker 1: all right. Then she goes on to say, I am

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Speaker 1: really working on getting to that level of unbothered goals.

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Speaker 1: You both are so funny, and I wish you continued

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Speaker 1: success for your show. Sincerely, Tracy Henry. Yes, why are

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Speaker 1: we bothered? Right? Why?

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Speaker 2: I mean I can't say I am unbothered probably ninety

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Speaker 2: percent of the time. Yeah, you know, there can be

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Speaker 2: sometimes when people something just like takes you over the edge.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I really feel like that comes. I feel

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Speaker 1: like as people get older, you become more and more unbothered. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's for sure, you know. Sure? Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like, so do you think would you say when you

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Speaker 2: were twenty five you were.

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Speaker 1: I was very bothered? Yeah, yeah, when I was in

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Speaker 1: not even so let's take it back to like high

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Speaker 1: twenty eight, I was very bothered, right, And then I

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Speaker 1: So I think that what I realized was that other

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Speaker 1: people were controlling my attitude, right, and that's a problem

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Speaker 1: for me. No, I should be the only one that

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Speaker 1: can control my attitude. Yes, you do something to me,

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Speaker 1: you piss me off, whatever, I feel different. I feel

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Speaker 1: angry that it messes up my day, Yeah, because I

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Speaker 1: got things to do. Like is it food, right? Yeah? Yes? Right.

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Speaker 2: So it's like you sitting at home mad and upset

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Speaker 2: over something that somebody said or did, And then when

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Speaker 2: doing that personally is going on about their life mine

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Speaker 2: and now thinking about you and not thinking about what

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Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, well am I upset?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So I just think when you put it that way,

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Speaker 2: it's like, why would I allow something that someone else

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Speaker 2: times you can't control. Why would you let that consume

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Speaker 2: you and control your day and mess up your day,

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Speaker 2: mess up your energy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Totally. And and I don't. I don't believe in

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Speaker 1: like hypertension, high bood pressure, all of that. I want

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Speaker 1: all of my arteries to be pumping as they should. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want none of that. Yes, all right,

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Speaker 1: that is our mail bag. Alright, we love y'all, Yes,

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Speaker 1: say mail bag at the end.

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Speaker 2: No, no, we.

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Speaker 1: Did it already, all right, bye y'all all. Bright