Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to the Amy and TJ Podcast. Amy Robot
Speaker 1: here along with my partner TJ. Holmes, and we're continuing
Speaker 1: our conversation with New York Times best selling author and
Speaker 1: self help guru Gabby Bernstein.
Speaker 2: We are lucky enough to be sitting here in New
Speaker 2: York having this conversation right now. And we three of
Speaker 2: us have had different journeys, but it wasn't always a
Speaker 2: pleasant one. But we're sitting here in New York and
Speaker 2: but blessed folks. But there are so many folks in
Speaker 2: the country who are who will listen to this conversation
Speaker 2: and go, how am I supposed to do that? I'm
Speaker 2: under constant assault because I'm just trying to put food
Speaker 2: on the table. I'm under constant assault because I'm trying
Speaker 2: to get my kid to a decent school. For those
Speaker 2: folks who maybe don't feel like they have the time,
Speaker 2: the energy, they just this cannot be the focus because
Speaker 2: they're in survival mode, literal survival. What can you advise
Speaker 2: with these same tools for folks who might be thinking
Speaker 2: I can't do this, I ain't got time for this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean simple refrain, right, So I choose to
Speaker 3: see my obstacles as opportunities to leave me in the
Speaker 3: right direction, or obstacles are detours in the right direction.
Speaker 3: When we're in crisis, sometimes the simplest thing we can
Speaker 3: do is pray, is to set an intention. You know, Universe,
Speaker 3: guide me, I turn this over. I don't know the answer,
Speaker 3: show me the way, whether to what to pray to Grandma,
Speaker 3: pray to God, pray to the universe, pray to your
Speaker 3: inner wisdom. I don't care who you pray to. Just
Speaker 3: just pray, asking for a guided, a guided, intuitive next step.
Speaker 3: Because it's in those times of crisis where we need
Speaker 3: this work most, because that's when that's actually and it's
Speaker 3: also oftentimes in times of crisis where it works the
Speaker 3: best because there's this beautiful roomy quote when the wound
Speaker 3: is the place where the light enters you. And so
Speaker 3: if you notice, Okay, I'm in a stuck moment right now,
Speaker 3: I'm feeling completely out of alignment or that this isn't working,
Speaker 3: that's sometimes where that that cracking point can enter. I
Speaker 3: think that the time that it takes can't be something
Speaker 3: that stops you, because this is a shift in your
Speaker 3: thinking doesn't take time right your your your reconditioning of
Speaker 3: your mind doesn't have to take time. There's I have
Speaker 3: a lot of free meditations out there.
Speaker 4: One would be what what would what would be a
Speaker 4: go to r L the just free Deergaby dot com
Speaker 4: slash free meditations plural Yeah, Deargabby dot com slash free meditations,
Speaker 4: And that is a place to start. Just listening to
Speaker 4: my voice, listening to to to even just someone's podcasts,
Speaker 4: just listening to something that's going to just change your mind. Now,
Speaker 4: we can always look at people in those moments of
Speaker 4: crisis and say one we can say yet, for those
Speaker 4: of us who are not in crisis, we have to
Speaker 4: get to work on behalf of those who are. Okay,
Speaker 4: So those of us who have the privilege to be
Speaker 4: able to be here in this great studio in New
Speaker 4: York City and have our green teas and whatever is
Speaker 4: going on, it's our responsibility to get it together for
Speaker 4: the people who don't have the same privileges. Because when
Speaker 4: we get it together, we bring a higher vibration. That
Speaker 4: higher vibration starts to affect everybody around us. You guys
Speaker 4: are affecting millions of people. Your high vibration energy is
Speaker 4: having a ripple effect throughout the world. Even the person
Speaker 4: that you smile to on the street or the person
Speaker 4: that you respond to in a direct message. These are
Speaker 4: moments that could change someone's life. So the world does
Speaker 4: not have the privilege of having their green tea and
Speaker 4: sitting in iHeartRadio. But what those of us who do
Speaker 4: have to get to work and those of us who don't,
Speaker 4: may they find sparks of light along the way.
Speaker 1: TJ talks about this all the time, but just yes,
Speaker 1: taking that time to write a note to Smoddy when
Speaker 1: you're thinking about them. Don't understand or you don't realize
Speaker 1: perhaps the ripple.
Speaker 3: Effect of that.
Speaker 1: But you talk a lot about vibrations and the energy
Speaker 1: you put out, it absolutely comes back to you and
Speaker 1: choosing to how do you tell yourself in a moment
Speaker 1: when you don't feel like you are in a good
Speaker 1: place or your energy isn't positive, how do you get
Speaker 1: out of that and create? Can you force yourself into
Speaker 1: a higher vibration if you're feeling that lower vibration like
Speaker 1: I don't care, I don't wanna, this is awful? How
Speaker 1: do you bring yourself into a higher vibration?
Speaker 3: I would never say force yourself but you can guide yourself.
Speaker 3: So there's noticing that I'm in this negative thought and
Speaker 3: then choosing the next best feeling thought. This is the
Speaker 3: choose again method, which is, Okay, I'm in a really
Speaker 3: low place, but what's the next best feeling thought. And
Speaker 3: it could be that, you know, I have I have
Speaker 3: a coffee break, or I have access to this, to
Speaker 3: this podcast that I can listen to that's going to
Speaker 3: make me feel better. I can actually move my body
Speaker 3: right now, or I can go call a friend and
Speaker 3: that might make me feel better. And just reaching and
Speaker 3: thinking your way out, because you know, in my book
Speaker 3: Add More ang to Your Life, which is my first book,
Speaker 3: was in her guidance, I had this, I started channel
Speaker 3: I'm a channel, so I started I can sort of
Speaker 3: call it energy of the spiritual space. And so I
Speaker 3: started channeling and Frank at the end of this thing,
Speaker 3: and I started seeing Anne Frank with she was in
Speaker 3: the closet, and I started just feeling her presence. And
Speaker 3: so I closed the book with this story about Anne
Speaker 3: Frank how she was in you know, in hiding from
Speaker 3: the Nazis, and she was thinking her way out and
Speaker 3: she was sort of visioning, like where the daffodils were
Speaker 3: were in the park and she would think her way out.
Speaker 3: And the message in that chapter was like, if in
Speaker 3: the most dire circumstances, like hiding for your life, not
Speaker 3: being able to speak all day, move all day, and
Speaker 3: you can think your way out, that's the power of
Speaker 3: our mind. And so I think that it's about being
Speaker 3: in the practice of this when things are good, so
Speaker 3: that when things are tough you have more access to it.
Speaker 2: Can you just briefly, and maybe for me and a
Speaker 2: lot of the people listening, you will refer so much
Speaker 2: to low and high vibration, just explain what you mean
Speaker 2: when we say that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that when we have a repeated negative belief,
Speaker 3: that's just going, going, going, it's making us feel terrible.
Speaker 3: I mean, just think about it. Think about the negative
Speaker 3: stories that you guys have on Loop in general, and
Speaker 3: how's that working out for you? Right? Is that making
Speaker 3: you feel good? Is it making you feel more connected
Speaker 3: to people? Is it helping you attract more of what
Speaker 3: you want into your life?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: No, no, So when we start to not just override
Speaker 3: the thoughts like that's why I like the four step
Speaker 3: check in because that's like befriending the thought. It's giving
Speaker 3: the thought a little bit of love. It's saying I
Speaker 3: see you're there. I don't want to push you away.
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to judge you for being there. I'm
Speaker 3: just saying, Okay, let's check in so that you can
Speaker 3: alchemize a little bit and then I can come out
Speaker 3: and feel a little bit different. And then also some
Speaker 3: of it's just habitual, right, it's just okay, that's a
Speaker 3: storyline I've had for forty five years, Gabby Bernstein. Let
Speaker 3: me change that around. And it's choosing a different thought
Speaker 3: and catching yourself in the moment.
Speaker 1: It's so empowering, and I have to I do have
Speaker 1: to revisit it because it's not something that we all
Speaker 1: slip into. And you even said you do as well
Speaker 1: into these negative patterns. I wanted you, if you would,
Speaker 1: to explain angel numbers and signs and why they're a
Speaker 1: part of your practice, because that is where some people say, come.
Speaker 3: On, yeah, Well, we're always being guided and it's just
Speaker 3: our choice to choose to see that guidance and follow
Speaker 3: that guidance. It's always there. We have ancestors, we have guides,
Speaker 3: we have a team of guides, spiritual guides that are
Speaker 3: there to support us and guide us and watch over
Speaker 3: us and direct us and inspire us and put us
Speaker 3: in the right position and open invisible doors for us.
Speaker 3: It's just that some of people are tuned off it
Speaker 3: and some people are turned in, tuned into it. And
Speaker 3: it's our job as someone who's open, to tune on,
Speaker 3: to tune in, to tune in, and just to ask
Speaker 3: and to receive. And so one of the great ways
Speaker 3: to get that connection from guides is to ask for
Speaker 3: a sign. And you could ask for a sign that
Speaker 3: I'm on the right track. You could ask for a
Speaker 3: sign that the guides are with you. You could ask for
Speaker 3: a sign that this is the choice that you're making
Speaker 3: is the right choice. And so I've got all kinds
Speaker 3: of signs that have followed me around. And recently I
Speaker 3: was like, you know, I'm going to give the universe
Speaker 3: a little bit of a curveball. I want rainbow unicorns.
Speaker 3: And let me tell you something about rainbow unicorns. All
Speaker 3: day we've been seeing rainbow unicorns. Like the whole we
Speaker 3: walked by a Fio Schwortz. It was like this huge
Speaker 3: rainbow unicorn in the window. You know, it's just there everywhere.
Speaker 3: So you open your and then the next thing, I
Speaker 3: see a toy with the rainbow unicord. Now is fao schworts.
Speaker 3: It's easier to find rainbow unicorns. But but it was
Speaker 3: just in my face, and it's up to you to ask,
Speaker 3: and it's up to you to witness and receive.
Speaker 2: Well, is that the key right there? Is? Is it
Speaker 2: really a matter? I guess it's a balance. The universe
Speaker 2: sends something your way, or you put that own thought
Speaker 2: in your mind to now you have a different awareness.
Speaker 2: Are we talking about it? It's a little bit of both,
Speaker 2: because I might have passed seven rainbow unicorns on the
Speaker 2: way here, but I wasn't thinking about it. Now that
Speaker 2: I am, I'm going to see them all in your consciousness.
Speaker 3: But there also is spiritual guidance that's being planted in
Speaker 3: front of you. So that's when you see eleven eleven,
Speaker 3: or you see three three three or four four four,
Speaker 3: you see those numbers in sequence, it's your guide saying
Speaker 3: wake up, I'm here. You know, there's there's so many
Speaker 3: moments where that kind of guidance just plants itself in
Speaker 3: my face, and it's undeniable.
Speaker 1: I feel the same way, Gabby, the same way.
Speaker 3: I did an entire podcast episode on my show Deer
Speaker 3: Gaby where I was literally telling like six stories in
Speaker 3: a row of just these incredible moments of when the
Speaker 3: universe would just plant itself in my face.
Speaker 2: We should do that episode.
Speaker 1: I think we should because it's interesting. Well, I was
Speaker 1: explaining to him. I was literally at across and I said,
Speaker 1: I want to know that I'm on the right path
Speaker 1: and when I am and when I'm thinking things I
Speaker 1: would love to see. I know, red cardinals are that rare,
Speaker 1: but living in the city, I turn the corner within
Speaker 1: five minutes and I said this to my best friend NICKI.
Speaker 1: I turned the corner and it wasn't actually a cardinal.
Speaker 1: It was a leftover Christmas decoration of a red cardinal
Speaker 1: that was stuck to a window that I had never
Speaker 1: noticed before that I found and I was like, are
Speaker 1: you kidding signed, So it wasn't even a bird. I
Speaker 1: was thinking, I was asking to see a bird I see,
Speaker 1: and I was just like, You've got to be kidding me,
Speaker 1: And then it just went on and on and on
Speaker 1: and so sometimes when I'm feeling frustrated or scared or
Speaker 1: fearful or I don't know if what I'm doing is right.
Speaker 1: I will literally see a red cardinal.
Speaker 3: Just when I need to and.
Speaker 1: It's the craziest thing. And he's seen me and he's.
Speaker 3: Like he can't. That made you emotional, Yeah, which is
Speaker 3: a sign too. So the emotions that you're feeling, are
Speaker 3: you feeling a genuine connection to your guides? Yeah, and
Speaker 3: that's what's undenied.
Speaker 1: I agree, And I do think that in addition to
Speaker 1: just being obviously intelligent about making good choices, I do
Speaker 1: think that when you can lean on a higher power,
Speaker 1: and again, whatever you call that higher power, it is
Speaker 1: a little bit about surrender as well and letting the
Speaker 1: road take you. And it's not where we thought we
Speaker 1: were going to end up, and it's not how we
Speaker 1: thought we were going to get there. And look, here
Speaker 1: we are in the studio with you in a way
Speaker 1: that I couldn't have imagined. When I was on Good
Speaker 1: Morning America, you came on, and I believe Robin got
Speaker 1: to do the interview with you, and I was in
Speaker 1: the background, and I was so for some reason, I
Speaker 1: didn't get up get to come meet you or talk
Speaker 1: to you, but I so wanted I wished I could
Speaker 1: have done the interview, and I so wanted to be
Speaker 1: able to have a long conversation with you because of
Speaker 1: how much your books have meant to me.
Speaker 3: And look here we.
Speaker 1: Are now in the studio having an amazing amount of
Speaker 1: time to really get into Yes it's not just a
Speaker 1: four minute quick hit on Good Morning America about your
Speaker 1: latest book, but actually getting to hear how you think
Speaker 1: and why you've come to this place and how you've
Speaker 1: been able to spread this message. That is a blessing
Speaker 1: that I couldn't have imagined the road that got me.
Speaker 3: Here, and that we can now exchange phone numbers of
Speaker 3: your friends. Yes, exactly exactly, we're friends. Exactly if us
Speaker 3: our spiritual running buddies.
Speaker 2: We're not friends or my therapist.
Speaker 3: It's a friend for all my friends. I'm there for
Speaker 3: them in that way and not being there for me too,
Speaker 3: So watch out.
Speaker 1: I also want to say congratulations because you are about
Speaker 1: to celebrate twenty years sober. That is no small feat.
Speaker 3: No small thing, but it's also what has my sobriety was.
Speaker 3: I was talking to a psychic friend recently and she said,
Speaker 3: you almost lost your You almost were taken twice and
Speaker 3: I was like, what do you mean, and she said
Speaker 3: from seventeen to twenty four. And I could put the
Speaker 3: twenty four together because at twenty four was when I
Speaker 3: was using drugs and alcohol, and at that shit the
Speaker 3: stage right before I was twenty five, I chose to
Speaker 3: get clean and sober, and so it was a month
Speaker 3: before I turned twenty five, and so that was That
Speaker 3: was in two thousand and five, and I made the
Speaker 3: commitment to get sober. So that I understood, and I
Speaker 3: was like, what was the other one? She said, you
Speaker 3: may not know, but your guide saved you from something.
Speaker 3: I was like, holy shit, So that's an interesting thing.
Speaker 3: She said, you'll see it at the end of your
Speaker 3: life when you do like your review. I was like,
Speaker 3: oh right, so this is stuff. I'm like, even more
Speaker 3: out there for me. I was like, that's amazing. But
Speaker 3: the but that was a huge turning point for me.
Speaker 3: It was a turning point for me. I had this
Speaker 3: this this psychic reading that someone had given me. It
Speaker 3: was on a cassette tape because this is two thousand
Speaker 3: and five, and I was sitting in my car and
Speaker 3: I had it on repeat and I would just replay
Speaker 3: this cassette tape over and over like rewind with play,
Speaker 3: rewind play, and it was this voice of this woman
Speaker 3: and she said, you're struggling with drugs and alcohol. And
Speaker 3: I could hear my voice quivering, and I was like,
Speaker 3: it's not that bad, It's just not that bad. And
Speaker 3: she said, you have two choices in this lifetime. You
Speaker 3: can stay on this destructive path then you could it
Speaker 3: could be really bad, or you can get clean and
Speaker 3: make a major impact on the world. And it makes
Speaker 3: me very emotional just to say that to you guys.
Speaker 3: And it was maybe a month later that I was
Speaker 3: just on my knees in my studio apartment, just praying
Speaker 3: for a miracle and actually heard an inner voice say,
Speaker 3: get sober and you will live a life beyond your
Speaker 3: wildest dreams. And it's almost twenty years now that we're here.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 3: And that was the catalyst for me to say to
Speaker 3: say a wholehearted hell yes to my spiritual path, a
Speaker 3: hell yes to my purpose, which was to be a
Speaker 3: rock and tour for miracles and for transformation and for healing.
Speaker 3: And it was and it was a huge turning point
Speaker 3: in my life. I feel right now at this twenty
Speaker 3: year mark of my sobriety. I'm actually at another turning
Speaker 3: point where I don't even get believe that the message
Speaker 3: I'm here to carry has even begun. I don't even
Speaker 3: believe it's begune. I think that I'm seeing down this
Speaker 3: barrel almost of just just some tough stuff coming to us.
Speaker 3: And I know that these kinds of conversations are going
Speaker 3: to be the most important conversations that the world has
Speaker 3: right now. So God bless you both for doing this,
Speaker 3: and I just hear it so loud, so I feel
Speaker 3: that this twenty year mark is just another turning point
Speaker 3: to say, let's get to work, let's carry this message
Speaker 3: gets empower people to heal themselves so that they can
Speaker 3: be there for the others, because we're all going to
Speaker 3: need that help.
Speaker 2: Do you ever feel pressure in your purpose because this
Speaker 2: has blown up in a way that maybe, yes, you
Speaker 2: imagine and you say, we're just getting started by scratching
Speaker 2: the surface. But to hear, folks, I'm sure you hear
Speaker 2: it all the time, like Robot talking about how much
Speaker 2: you have changed lives, you literally have with what you've done.
Speaker 2: But I know, I know you're overjoyed to be able
Speaker 2: to do it, and I know, you feel some responsibility,
Speaker 2: but that purpose does pressure come with it? Now that
Speaker 2: there's so many people who in a way depend on you.
Speaker 3: Right now, I feel an urgency. I don't know that
Speaker 3: it's pressure, but an urgency that I have to to
Speaker 3: to soften at times because I don't want it to
Speaker 3: get in the way. But it is a spiritual urgency
Speaker 3: of like it's a psychic urgency of like gotta get
Speaker 3: we gotta get carry the message we got to you know.
Speaker 3: So so I'm showing up in this you know, show
Speaker 3: me what to do, and I'm coming here and I'm
Speaker 3: doing these these interviews or whatever it is. But I
Speaker 3: am feeling a sense of urgency to make sure that
Speaker 3: that this message, that these messages are widely spread in
Speaker 3: a way. Whether it's me or somebody else, I don't care.
Speaker 3: There's beautiful teachers out there. But no matter what, the
Speaker 3: teaching has to be real. It has to be authentic.
Speaker 3: It has to be backed with truth. It can't be
Speaker 3: some TikTok viral moment. Those are fun, but the the
Speaker 3: and that may be a way you get through to somebody,
Speaker 3: but the but but behind it has to be truth.
Speaker 3: And I just I just feel the urgency A little
Speaker 3: bit right now, a lot right now.
Speaker 1: I I love so many of your quotes, as I
Speaker 1: pointed out, but this one really speaks to me. The
Speaker 1: very second we choose a loving thought, our emotion shift
Speaker 1: and our energy changes. This is realignment with the universe.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, nailed it. You just nailed it with
Speaker 3: my quote. But the point is that's that's it.
Speaker 1: It only like I say, only it's hard to do
Speaker 1: in the moment, but when you're in this place, if
Speaker 1: you just choose a loving thought, everything changes in your mind,
Speaker 1: in your body, in your energy, and it really just
Speaker 1: takes that decision.
Speaker 3: It's a choice. That's why I always say, you know,
Speaker 3: your happiness is a choice that you make, and people
Speaker 3: be like, you know, screw you, that's that's too easy,
Speaker 3: and it's not. It's it's am I gonna choose? And
Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be like you're going from I'm
Speaker 3: in despair to I'm the happiest person in the world.
Speaker 3: It's reaching for the next best feeling emotions. So I'm
Speaker 3: in despair, and it's it's a simple thought of you know,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say a prayer right now, I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 3: gonna set an intention to seek support. I'm going to
Speaker 3: place my hand on my heart and say I love you.
Speaker 3: I'm going to look in the mirror and say I
Speaker 3: need help. Those are loving thoughts. The miracle is the
Speaker 3: shift in our perception, and that shift is going from
Speaker 3: a fear based worldview to a spirit based view that's
Speaker 3: aligned with spiritual connection, with universal love with God, whatever
Speaker 3: you choose to believe in.
Speaker 2: Can I ask prayer? People hear that and say, well,
Speaker 2: that's reserved for religious folks who are going to church
Speaker 2: and they pray to God and they're usually praying for something.
Speaker 2: Can you expound a little bit about prayer and what
Speaker 2: do you mean by it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's really beautiful because oftentimes I might not
Speaker 3: even say the word prayer unless I'm in with people
Speaker 3: like you who can hear it. But I'd like to
Speaker 3: expand the spiritual lexicon because i think it's helpful for folks. Right,
Speaker 3: So maybe you could say intention, or you could say
Speaker 3: just you know, shift your thought or give it over
Speaker 3: rather than hold on so tightly the word. Another nice thing, too,
Speaker 3: is my work's totally non denominational. You know, I'm a
Speaker 3: nonpracticing Jewish. Well, I'm a Jewish, but I'm not religious,
Speaker 3: and I don't identify specifically with religion so much unless
Speaker 3: and I love religion for folks if it guides them
Speaker 3: towards spirit, if it guides them to a spiritual relationship,
Speaker 3: to community, to love. Anything other than that, I don't.
Speaker 3: I mean, that's just fear right. And so when it
Speaker 3: comes for me to talking about prayer, I'd love to
Speaker 3: just offer it up as a moment to shift your thinking,
Speaker 3: an opportunity to give over to a higher power of
Speaker 3: your own understanding. And if the word prayer is too
Speaker 3: much for somebody, just set an intention to say, I
Speaker 3: choose to see this differently. I choose to see this
Speaker 3: through the lens of love. I choose to see a
Speaker 3: possibility instead of an obstacle. Just choose to creative, creative possibilities.
Speaker 3: You know, people that are broke. It's like, I welcome
Speaker 3: creative possibilities for abundance. And just repeat that and repeat that.
Speaker 3: And affirmation is a prayer, and you talk about affirmations.
Speaker 1: You wake up every day, can you walk us through
Speaker 1: You wake up, you meditate.
Speaker 3: What's the first thing you do? Yeah, So I do
Speaker 3: my daily design method every morning which is kind of
Speaker 3: like a combination of meditation, prayer and affirmation. And so
Speaker 3: I close my eyes, I placed my hand on my heart,
Speaker 3: and I ask myself for questions. And the first question
Speaker 3: is who do I want to be today? The second
Speaker 3: question is how do I want to feel today? Then
Speaker 3: what do I want to give today? And what do
Speaker 3: I want to receive today? And asking myself those four
Speaker 3: questions just sets me up, just sets me up for
Speaker 3: success because it's putting me from the moment that I
Speaker 3: opened my eyes into a point of a alignment with
Speaker 3: who I want to be and how I want to
Speaker 3: show up, alignment with what I want to receive, alignment
Speaker 3: with what I want to give, alignment with how I
Speaker 3: want to feel. And it's very different than the typical
Speaker 3: ways that we would wake up. It's like turn to
Speaker 3: the phone and look at the news and rush to
Speaker 3: out the door, look at the to do list. And
Speaker 3: that's not how we want to feel or who we
Speaker 3: want to be, or what we want to give or
Speaker 3: what we want to receive.
Speaker 2: Is that really first thing opening up before you even
Speaker 2: get out of bed, Yeah, kind of a thing. I'm
Speaker 2: just curious about the routine.
Speaker 1: Can you can you say those. Yeah, I just got chilled.
Speaker 1: I get chills a lot. But when it speaks to me,
Speaker 1: when it resonates with me, can you repeat those four
Speaker 1: questions because I really want to start doing that.
Speaker 2: Who do I want to be today?
Speaker 3: I think I want to be today. How do I
Speaker 3: want to feel today?
Speaker 2: What do I want to give? And what do I
Speaker 2: want to receive? That's right, I actually I am taking notes.
Speaker 1: It's amazing because even this morning.
Speaker 3: Wait, when we kissed and.
Speaker 1: We get up at three o'clock in the morning, I
Speaker 1: think we kissed when I was saying goodbye for a
Speaker 1: quick moment. You said, it's been eight hours and we
Speaker 1: have been working next to each other for eight hours,
Speaker 1: and it is the first time that we have hugged
Speaker 1: or kissed all morning long.
Speaker 3: Because you get so wrapped up in what you have
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 1: Our work right now has just taken over and it's
Speaker 1: been it's it's been a blessing because we have been
Speaker 1: building something.
Speaker 3: Can I tell you something because I'm hearing something for
Speaker 3: both of you. Do you want to hear it? Yes,
Speaker 3: there's something really big coming for the two of you.
Speaker 2: We've been hearing that a lot.
Speaker 3: King something that is there I have to tell you this,
Speaker 3: like there's something huge coming for the two of you,
Speaker 3: and there's something really beautiful about the love between you
Speaker 3: and the work that you do, and it's going to
Speaker 3: be very very meaningful. It already is, it already is,
Speaker 3: but there's like another up leveling of it all. It's
Speaker 3: really loud for me and watching the two of you
Speaker 3: even just like the connection and when when TJ was
Speaker 3: checking in and you were just put your hand on him,
Speaker 3: It's like that coregulation between the two of you is extraordinary.
Speaker 3: It's really beautiful, I think is what the world really
Speaker 3: needs to see too.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I mean, it's been, it's been. It's been
Speaker 1: built slowly through friendship and you know, trust is a
Speaker 1: huge thing, right and it's something that most people don't
Speaker 1: have because we're trying to protect ourselves and we still
Speaker 1: have to work on that constantly.
Speaker 3: Always relationships. Never never stop the work.
Speaker 1: And I was actually, I know we're running out of time,
Speaker 1: but gosh, I could I could talk to you for hours.
Speaker 3: I'll come back. I love you, guys, I do, I do.
Speaker 1: I do appreciate this. I'm curious when you're when you're
Speaker 1: taking in all of these practices and you're working on yourself,
Speaker 1: how does that self love improve the love you have
Speaker 1: with your significant other or with that most important relationship
Speaker 1: in your life?
Speaker 3: Massively? Massively? Uh. My husband sent me this video when
Speaker 3: I was in Australia last week. I got I was
Speaker 3: like up in you know, up in the middle of
Speaker 3: that night because I was at jet lagged, and he
Speaker 3: sends me this Wayne DIYer video. And if those of
Speaker 3: you got listening, Waye Die was an extraordinary spiritual teacher,
Speaker 3: really the godfather of manifesting, and he was my guide
Speaker 3: and still is as a spirit. And Wayne's holding this
Speaker 3: orange and he's talking to an audience. He's holding this orange,
Speaker 3: and he's saying, you know, if I squeeze this orange,
Speaker 3: what's going to come out? And everyone's like, it's an
Speaker 3: orange juice. He's like, no matter how hard I squeeze
Speaker 3: this orange, apple juice is not coming out. It's just
Speaker 3: gonna be orange juice because that's what's inside. And he says,
Speaker 3: let me extend the metaphor, if I squeeze you and
Speaker 3: you get squeezed, what's going to come out? And he says, well,
Speaker 3: it depends on you know, if somebody squeezes you with
Speaker 3: aggression or or if they're judgmental, or if they're blaming
Speaker 3: or shaming, all kinds of things are going to come out.
Speaker 3: You're going to have anger and rage and protection and
Speaker 3: fierceness and shut down. And he says, why is that
Speaker 3: coming out. It's because it's what's inside. And he goes
Speaker 3: on to say that it's not about what someone does
Speaker 3: to you, it's about what's inside of you. And so
Speaker 3: if you're doing the self help work, if you're healing
Speaker 3: the parts inside of you, you can stop blaming the
Speaker 3: outside world. You can stop being the victim of the
Speaker 3: world you see, and you can recognize no matter what
Speaker 3: happens outside of me, I can be safe inside. And
Speaker 3: so that's that shift lets everybody else in your life
Speaker 3: off the hook. It creates more safety in your relationships,
Speaker 3: less reactivity, especially in marriages. You know so much. So
Speaker 3: much of the time, I'll be like, well, it's the
Speaker 3: way you're saying it that's triggering me. It's like, okay, yeah, sure,
Speaker 3: maybe you could say it nicer, but that's triggering something
Speaker 3: inside me. And so if I heal what's inside of me,
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter how you say it. I can look
Speaker 3: at you and I can say bro, say it in
Speaker 3: a nicer way, you know, but it's not going to
Speaker 3: be Why are you talking to me like that? Right?
Speaker 3: That's the shift, that's wild.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna have to pay you for this session.
Speaker 2: I would feel bad.
Speaker 3: Just just just just just do the work and spread
Speaker 3: the love. That's how you can repay me.
Speaker 2: We've been talking about this last thing from me about
Speaker 2: checking in and checking out with yourself. I am aside
Speaker 2: from that checking out, how do you, Gabby Bernstein check out?
Speaker 2: Like so much is coming at you, talking about urgency
Speaker 2: to help and all these things. You do constant work
Speaker 2: and you're constant thinking. When you just want to watch
Speaker 2: like I don't know, ninety day Fiance, When you want
Speaker 2: to watch Stephen, Colbert, Colbert, that's your check.
Speaker 3: Colbert is my check, Colbert, Seth Byers, Jimmy Kimmel. I'm
Speaker 3: really I go Colbert, Seth and then I go Kimmel
Speaker 3: and then I go Fallon. Yeah, it's like Seth. But
Speaker 3: but Colbert and Seth are my guys late Night coming.
Speaker 3: They're just my guys. Colbert, really, I mean, my my manifestations.
Speaker 3: My biggest dream is to be on Colbert. I just
Speaker 3: want to sit with him and having no it's my
Speaker 3: biggest dream. It's gonna happen, to happen. It's got how
Speaker 3: manifesting that right now, so manifesting that right now. I
Speaker 3: love that guy. I just I think he is the
Speaker 3: most extraordinary human I do believe. And he's also a
Speaker 3: very spiritual man, very religious man. I love him.
Speaker 2: I really love That's late night TV. That's all you get.
Speaker 2: That's all.
Speaker 3: I don't drink, I don't eat sugar, I don't watch housewives.
Speaker 3: I just I just I like Colbert. It's my thing. Colbert.
Speaker 2: Okay, jet lag middle of the night. I'll need to
Speaker 2: put something on TV. Cobert. Okay, I swear two in
Speaker 2: the morning. Cobert is not on live YouTube.
Speaker 3: I watched them on YouTube. Okay, I don't watch anything live.
Speaker 3: I watched it all.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, I got h Gabby. Honestly again, I cannot
Speaker 1: thank you enough. I knew this was going to be special.
Speaker 1: I was so excited about it, but it was even
Speaker 1: more special than I could have imagined. Because you are you,
Speaker 1: and you are living what you're preaching, and I appreciate it.
Speaker 3: I know TJ does too.
Speaker 1: I've never seen him take so many notes, by the way,
Speaker 1: but I.
Speaker 2: Usually Gabby at the end of these take my papers
Speaker 2: and I put them in the trash. This is in
Speaker 2: my pocket, Yeah, because I took notes that I need. Really,
Speaker 2: that's the truth.
Speaker 3: I send you dead books here. I can't wait, you know,
Speaker 3: I guise my app. Also, I can't be coaching app.
Speaker 1: And I do love I Just to anyone who's now
Speaker 1: interested who hasn't read Gabby's books, it's great to read
Speaker 1: them in paperback, but I am just such a huge
Speaker 1: fan of listening to them because Gabby reads all of
Speaker 1: she narrates all of her books, so you're actually it
Speaker 1: feels like Gabby is your own personal guru guiding you through.
Speaker 3: That's why I gotta give you the Iby coaching app.
Speaker 3: Because I'll give it to you. Guys. It's it's like
Speaker 3: having me as your spiritual coach in your pocket. But
Speaker 3: there's like the unit trust, the Universe challenge, the manifesting challenge,
Speaker 3: it's all in. They'm gonna give it to you now.
Speaker 2: Oh I don't need that. You remember you said you're
Speaker 2: going to give us your numbers were literally.
Speaker 1: Gabby Bernstein, thank you so much. For being with us,
Speaker 1: and you've got to come back.
Speaker 3: I definitely will come back, of course,