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Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to the Amy and TJ Podcast. Amy Robot

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Speaker 1: here along with my partner TJ. Holmes, and we're continuing

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Speaker 1: our conversation with New York Times best selling author and

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Speaker 1: self help guru Gabby Bernstein.

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Speaker 2: We are lucky enough to be sitting here in New

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Speaker 2: York having this conversation right now. And we three of

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Speaker 2: us have had different journeys, but it wasn't always a

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Speaker 2: pleasant one. But we're sitting here in New York and

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Speaker 2: but blessed folks. But there are so many folks in

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Speaker 2: the country who are who will listen to this conversation

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Speaker 2: and go, how am I supposed to do that? I'm

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Speaker 2: under constant assault because I'm just trying to put food

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Speaker 2: on the table. I'm under constant assault because I'm trying

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Speaker 2: to get my kid to a decent school. For those

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Speaker 2: folks who maybe don't feel like they have the time,

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Speaker 2: the energy, they just this cannot be the focus because

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Speaker 2: they're in survival mode, literal survival. What can you advise

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Speaker 2: with these same tools for folks who might be thinking

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Speaker 2: I can't do this, I ain't got time for this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean simple refrain, right, So I choose to

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Speaker 3: see my obstacles as opportunities to leave me in the

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Speaker 3: right direction, or obstacles are detours in the right direction.

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Speaker 3: When we're in crisis, sometimes the simplest thing we can

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Speaker 3: do is pray, is to set an intention. You know, Universe,

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Speaker 3: guide me, I turn this over. I don't know the answer,

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Speaker 3: show me the way, whether to what to pray to Grandma,

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Speaker 3: pray to God, pray to the universe, pray to your

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Speaker 3: inner wisdom. I don't care who you pray to. Just

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Speaker 3: just pray, asking for a guided, a guided, intuitive next step.

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Speaker 3: Because it's in those times of crisis where we need

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Speaker 3: this work most, because that's when that's actually and it's

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Speaker 3: also oftentimes in times of crisis where it works the

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Speaker 3: best because there's this beautiful roomy quote when the wound

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Speaker 3: is the place where the light enters you. And so

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Speaker 3: if you notice, Okay, I'm in a stuck moment right now,

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling completely out of alignment or that this isn't working,

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Speaker 3: that's sometimes where that that cracking point can enter. I

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Speaker 3: think that the time that it takes can't be something

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Speaker 3: that stops you, because this is a shift in your

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Speaker 3: thinking doesn't take time right your your your reconditioning of

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Speaker 3: your mind doesn't have to take time. There's I have

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Speaker 3: a lot of free meditations out there.

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Speaker 4: One would be what what would what would be a

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Speaker 4: go to r L the just free Deergaby dot com

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Speaker 4: slash free meditations plural Yeah, Deargabby dot com slash free meditations,

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Speaker 4: And that is a place to start. Just listening to

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Speaker 4: my voice, listening to to to even just someone's podcasts,

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Speaker 4: just listening to something that's going to just change your mind. Now,

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Speaker 4: we can always look at people in those moments of

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Speaker 4: crisis and say one we can say yet, for those

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Speaker 4: of us who are not in crisis, we have to

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Speaker 4: get to work on behalf of those who are. Okay,

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Speaker 4: So those of us who have the privilege to be

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Speaker 4: able to be here in this great studio in New

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Speaker 4: York City and have our green teas and whatever is

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Speaker 4: going on, it's our responsibility to get it together for

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Speaker 4: the people who don't have the same privileges. Because when

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Speaker 4: we get it together, we bring a higher vibration. That

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Speaker 4: higher vibration starts to affect everybody around us. You guys

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Speaker 4: are affecting millions of people. Your high vibration energy is

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Speaker 4: having a ripple effect throughout the world. Even the person

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Speaker 4: that you smile to on the street or the person

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Speaker 4: that you respond to in a direct message. These are

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Speaker 4: moments that could change someone's life. So the world does

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Speaker 4: not have the privilege of having their green tea and

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Speaker 4: sitting in iHeartRadio. But what those of us who do

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Speaker 4: have to get to work and those of us who don't,

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Speaker 4: may they find sparks of light along the way.

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Speaker 1: TJ talks about this all the time, but just yes,

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Speaker 1: taking that time to write a note to Smoddy when

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Speaker 1: you're thinking about them. Don't understand or you don't realize

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Speaker 1: perhaps the ripple.

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Speaker 3: Effect of that.

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Speaker 1: But you talk a lot about vibrations and the energy

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Speaker 1: you put out, it absolutely comes back to you and

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Speaker 1: choosing to how do you tell yourself in a moment

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Speaker 1: when you don't feel like you are in a good

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Speaker 1: place or your energy isn't positive, how do you get

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Speaker 1: out of that and create? Can you force yourself into

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Speaker 1: I don't care, I don't wanna, this is awful? How

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Speaker 1: do you bring yourself into a higher vibration?

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Speaker 3: I would never say force yourself but you can guide yourself.

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Speaker 3: So there's noticing that I'm in this negative thought and

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Speaker 3: then choosing the next best feeling thought. This is the

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Speaker 3: choose again method, which is, Okay, I'm in a really

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Speaker 3: low place, but what's the next best feeling thought. And

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Speaker 3: it could be that, you know, I have I have

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Speaker 3: this podcast that I can listen to that's going to

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Speaker 3: that might make me feel better. And just reaching and

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Speaker 3: thinking your way out, because you know, in my book

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Speaker 3: Add More ang to Your Life, which is my first book,

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Speaker 3: was in her guidance, I had this, I started channel

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Speaker 3: call it energy of the spiritual space. And so I

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Speaker 3: started channeling and Frank at the end of this thing,

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Speaker 3: so I closed the book with this story about Anne

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Speaker 3: she was sort of visioning, like where the daffodils were

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Speaker 3: were in the park and she would think her way out.

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Speaker 3: And the message in that chapter was like, if in

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Speaker 3: the most dire circumstances, like hiding for your life, not

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Speaker 3: being able to speak all day, move all day, and

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Speaker 3: you can think your way out, that's the power of

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Speaker 3: our mind. And so I think that it's about being

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Speaker 3: in the practice of this when things are good, so

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Speaker 3: that when things are tough you have more access to it.

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Speaker 2: Can you just briefly, and maybe for me and a

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Speaker 2: lot of the people listening, you will refer so much

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that when we have a repeated negative belief,

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Speaker 3: I mean, just think about it. Think about the negative

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Speaker 3: stories that you guys have on Loop in general, and

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Speaker 3: how's that working out for you? Right? Is that making

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Speaker 3: you feel good? Is it making you feel more connected

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: No, no, So when we start to not just override

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Speaker 3: check in because that's like befriending the thought. It's giving

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Speaker 3: the thought a little bit of love. It's saying I

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Speaker 3: I'm not trying to judge you for being there. I'm

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Speaker 3: just saying, Okay, let's check in so that you can

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Speaker 3: alchemize a little bit and then I can come out

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Speaker 3: of it's just habitual, right, it's just okay, that's a

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Speaker 3: storyline I've had for forty five years, Gabby Bernstein. Let

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Speaker 3: me change that around. And it's choosing a different thought

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Speaker 1: It's so empowering, and I have to I do have

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Speaker 1: to revisit it because it's not something that we all

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Speaker 1: into these negative patterns. I wanted you, if you would,

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Speaker 1: to explain angel numbers and signs and why they're a

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Speaker 1: part of your practice, because that is where some people say, come.

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Speaker 3: On, yeah, Well, we're always being guided and it's just

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Speaker 3: our choice to choose to see that guidance and follow

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Speaker 3: that guidance. It's always there. We have ancestors, we have guides,

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Speaker 3: It's just that some of people are tuned off it

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Speaker 3: is the right choice. And so I've got all kinds

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Speaker 3: a little bit of a curveball. I want rainbow unicorns.

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Speaker 3: And let me tell you something about rainbow unicorns. All

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Speaker 3: see a toy with the rainbow unicord. Now is fao schworts.

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Speaker 3: It's easier to find rainbow unicorns. But but it was

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Speaker 2: Well, is that the key right there? Is? Is it

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Speaker 2: really a matter? I guess it's a balance. The universe

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Speaker 2: Are we talking about it? It's a little bit of both,

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Speaker 3: But there also is spiritual guidance that's being planted in

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Speaker 1: I feel the same way, Gabby, the same way.

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Speaker 3: I did an entire podcast episode on my show Deer

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Speaker 3: Gaby where I was literally telling like six stories in

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Speaker 3: universe would just plant itself in my face.

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Speaker 1: I think we should because it's interesting. Well, I was

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Speaker 1: explaining to him. I was literally at across and I said,

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Speaker 1: and when I am and when I'm thinking things I

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Speaker 1: would love to see. I know, red cardinals are that rare,

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Speaker 1: but living in the city, I turn the corner within

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Speaker 1: five minutes and I said this to my best friend NICKI.

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Speaker 1: I turned the corner and it wasn't actually a cardinal.

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Speaker 1: It was a leftover Christmas decoration of a red cardinal

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Speaker 1: and so sometimes when I'm feeling frustrated or scared or

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Speaker 1: I will literally see a red cardinal.

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Speaker 1: I get chills a lot. But when it speaks to me,

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Speaker 1: when it resonates with me, can you repeat those four

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Speaker 1: questions because I really want to start doing that.

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Speaker 2: Who do I want to be today?

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Speaker 3: I think I want to be today. How do I

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Speaker 3: want to feel today?

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Speaker 2: What do I want to give? And what do I

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Speaker 2: want to receive? That's right, I actually I am taking notes.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing because even this morning.

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Speaker 3: Wait, when we kissed and.

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Speaker 1: We get up at three o'clock in the morning, I

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Speaker 1: think we kissed when I was saying goodbye for a

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Speaker 1: quick moment. You said, it's been eight hours and we

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Speaker 1: have been working next to each other for eight hours,

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Speaker 1: and it is the first time that we have hugged

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Speaker 1: or kissed all morning long.

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Speaker 3: Because you get so wrapped up in what you have

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Speaker 3: to do.

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Speaker 1: Our work right now has just taken over and it's

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Speaker 1: been it's it's been a blessing because we have been

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Speaker 1: building something.

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Speaker 3: Can I tell you something because I'm hearing something for

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Speaker 3: both of you. Do you want to hear it? Yes,

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Speaker 3: there's something really big coming for the two of you.

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Speaker 2: We've been hearing that a lot.

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Speaker 3: King something that is there I have to tell you this,

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Speaker 3: like there's something huge coming for the two of you,

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Speaker 3: and there's something really beautiful about the love between you

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Speaker 3: and the work that you do, and it's going to

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Speaker 3: be very very meaningful. It already is, it already is,

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Speaker 3: but there's like another up leveling of it all. It's

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Speaker 3: really loud for me and watching the two of you

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Speaker 3: even just like the connection and when when TJ was

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Speaker 3: checking in and you were just put your hand on him,

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Speaker 3: It's like that coregulation between the two of you is extraordinary.

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Speaker 3: It's really beautiful, I think is what the world really

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Speaker 3: needs to see too.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I mean, it's been, it's been. It's been

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Speaker 1: built slowly through friendship and you know, trust is a

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Speaker 1: huge thing, right and it's something that most people don't

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Speaker 1: have because we're trying to protect ourselves and we still

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Speaker 1: have to work on that constantly.

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Speaker 3: Always relationships. Never never stop the work.

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Speaker 1: And I was actually, I know we're running out of time,

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Speaker 1: but gosh, I could I could talk to you for hours.

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Speaker 3: I'll come back. I love you, guys, I do, I do.

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Speaker 1: I do appreciate this. I'm curious when you're when you're

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Speaker 1: taking in all of these practices and you're working on yourself,

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Speaker 1: how does that self love improve the love you have

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Speaker 1: with your significant other or with that most important relationship

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Speaker 1: in your life?

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Speaker 3: Massively? Massively? Uh. My husband sent me this video when

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Speaker 3: I was in Australia last week. I got I was

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Speaker 3: like up in you know, up in the middle of

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Speaker 3: that night because I was at jet lagged, and he

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Speaker 3: sends me this Wayne DIYer video. And if those of

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Speaker 3: you got listening, Waye Die was an extraordinary spiritual teacher,

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Speaker 3: really the godfather of manifesting, and he was my guide

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Speaker 3: and still is as a spirit. And Wayne's holding this

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Speaker 3: orange and he's talking to an audience. He's holding this orange,

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Speaker 3: and he's saying, you know, if I squeeze this orange,

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Speaker 3: what's going to come out? And everyone's like, it's an

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Speaker 3: orange juice. He's like, no matter how hard I squeeze

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Speaker 3: this orange, apple juice is not coming out. It's just

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Speaker 3: gonna be orange juice because that's what's inside. And he says,

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Speaker 3: let me extend the metaphor, if I squeeze you and

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Speaker 3: you get squeezed, what's going to come out? And he says, well,

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Speaker 3: it depends on you know, if somebody squeezes you with

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Speaker 3: aggression or or if they're judgmental, or if they're blaming

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Speaker 3: or shaming, all kinds of things are going to come out.

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Speaker 3: You're going to have anger and rage and protection and

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Speaker 3: fierceness and shut down. And he says, why is that

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Speaker 3: coming out. It's because it's what's inside. And he goes

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Speaker 3: on to say that it's not about what someone does

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Speaker 3: to you, it's about what's inside of you. And so

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Speaker 3: if you're doing the self help work, if you're healing

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Speaker 3: the parts inside of you, you can stop blaming the

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Speaker 3: outside world. You can stop being the victim of the

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Speaker 3: world you see, and you can recognize no matter what

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Speaker 3: happens outside of me, I can be safe inside. And

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Speaker 3: so that's that shift lets everybody else in your life

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Speaker 3: off the hook. It creates more safety in your relationships,

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Speaker 3: less reactivity, especially in marriages. You know so much. So

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Speaker 3: much of the time, I'll be like, well, it's the

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Speaker 3: way you're saying it that's triggering me. It's like, okay, yeah, sure,

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Speaker 3: maybe you could say it nicer, but that's triggering something

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Speaker 3: inside me. And so if I heal what's inside of me,

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Speaker 3: it doesn't matter how you say it. I can look

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Speaker 3: at you and I can say bro, say it in

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Speaker 3: a nicer way, you know, but it's not going to

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Speaker 3: be Why are you talking to me like that? Right?

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Speaker 3: That's the shift, that's wild.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna have to pay you for this session.

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Speaker 2: I would feel bad.

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Speaker 3: Just just just just just do the work and spread

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Speaker 3: the love. That's how you can repay me.

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Speaker 2: We've been talking about this last thing from me about

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Speaker 2: checking in and checking out with yourself. I am aside

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Speaker 2: from that checking out, how do you, Gabby Bernstein check out?

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Speaker 2: Like so much is coming at you, talking about urgency

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Speaker 2: to help and all these things. You do constant work

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Speaker 2: and you're constant thinking. When you just want to watch

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Speaker 2: like I don't know, ninety day Fiance, When you want

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Speaker 2: to watch Stephen, Colbert, Colbert, that's your check.

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Speaker 3: Colbert is my check, Colbert, Seth Byers, Jimmy Kimmel. I'm

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Speaker 3: really I go Colbert, Seth and then I go Kimmel

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Speaker 3: and then I go Fallon. Yeah, it's like Seth. But

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Speaker 3: but Colbert and Seth are my guys late Night coming.

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Speaker 3: They're just my guys. Colbert, really, I mean, my my manifestations.

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Speaker 3: My biggest dream is to be on Colbert. I just

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Speaker 3: want to sit with him and having no it's my

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Speaker 3: biggest dream. It's gonna happen, to happen. It's got how

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Speaker 3: manifesting that right now, so manifesting that right now. I

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Speaker 3: love that guy. I just I think he is the

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Speaker 3: most extraordinary human I do believe. And he's also a

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Speaker 3: very spiritual man, very religious man. I love him.

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Speaker 2: I really love That's late night TV. That's all you get.

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Speaker 2: That's all.

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Speaker 3: I don't drink, I don't eat sugar, I don't watch housewives.

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Speaker 3: I just I just I like Colbert. It's my thing. Colbert.

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Speaker 2: Okay, jet lag middle of the night. I'll need to

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Speaker 2: put something on TV. Cobert. Okay, I swear two in

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Speaker 2: the morning. Cobert is not on live YouTube.

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Speaker 3: I watched them on YouTube. Okay, I don't watch anything live.

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Speaker 3: I watched it all.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, I got h Gabby. Honestly again, I cannot

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Speaker 1: thank you enough. I knew this was going to be special.

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Speaker 1: I was so excited about it, but it was even

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Speaker 1: more special than I could have imagined. Because you are you,

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Speaker 1: and you are living what you're preaching, and I appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: I know TJ does too.

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Speaker 1: I've never seen him take so many notes, by the way,

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Speaker 1: but I.

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Speaker 2: Usually Gabby at the end of these take my papers

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Speaker 2: and I put them in the trash. This is in

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Speaker 2: my pocket, Yeah, because I took notes that I need. Really,

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Speaker 2: that's the truth.

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Speaker 3: I send you dead books here. I can't wait, you know,

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Speaker 3: I guise my app. Also, I can't be coaching app.

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Speaker 1: And I do love I Just to anyone who's now

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Speaker 1: interested who hasn't read Gabby's books, it's great to read

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Speaker 1: them in paperback, but I am just such a huge

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Speaker 1: fan of listening to them because Gabby reads all of

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Speaker 1: she narrates all of her books, so you're actually it

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Speaker 1: feels like Gabby is your own personal guru guiding you through.

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Speaker 3: That's why I gotta give you the Iby coaching app.

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Speaker 3: Because I'll give it to you. Guys. It's it's like

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Speaker 3: having me as your spiritual coach in your pocket. But

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Speaker 3: there's like the unit trust, the Universe challenge, the manifesting challenge,

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Speaker 3: it's all in. They'm gonna give it to you now.

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Speaker 2: Oh I don't need that. You remember you said you're

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Speaker 2: going to give us your numbers were literally.

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Speaker 1: Gabby Bernstein, thank you so much. For being with us,

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Speaker 1: and you've got to come back.

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Speaker 3: I definitely will come back, of course,