Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We are going back
Speaker 2: to twenty seventeen.
Speaker 3: Yes, we are a what a what a year to
Speaker 3: be alive? Yeah, twenty seventeen. I think we like had
Speaker 3: good mojo.
Speaker 2: Well it's interesting you say that because we are doing
Speaker 2: a re Listen today to episode seven, which was titled
Speaker 2: Annual Checkup, and in speaking about mojo, you were talking
Speaker 2: about how you just got your mojo back.
Speaker 3: In this episode because I was getting hit on and
Speaker 3: I was listening to it and I was like, wow,
Speaker 3: what a time to be me, because I remember I
Speaker 3: was getting hit on left and right, Like these hot
Speaker 3: guys that I wouldn't even think would ever hit on
Speaker 3: me were like hitting on me. I went to a
Speaker 3: baby shower, which was it was a co ed baby shower,
Speaker 3: and I got hit on at the baby shower.
Speaker 2: I was like thriving, I'm your advice on Like what
Speaker 2: there was an email? Okay, First of all, it made
Speaker 2: me realize that we get so many emails we have
Speaker 2: to like through them and pick the ones we wanted.
Speaker 2: So like, we need y'all to get back into the
Speaker 2: routine of sending emails because that was fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 2: Not fun that y'all are struggling or need advice on things,
Speaker 2: but fun for us to read.
Speaker 1: I don't remember that at all.
Speaker 2: So I was reading Yeah, yeah, I don't know when
Speaker 2: we made that switch, but I I was reading the email.
Speaker 2: It's wordy. It's a lot of work you do. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but it was funny because your advice to someone on
Speaker 2: like I don't know if the question was like how
Speaker 2: to get my mojor or whatever, but you're like, just
Speaker 2: look up and say hi or smile, Just look up
Speaker 2: and smile. Well, great advice.
Speaker 3: No, I still stand by that advice. Actually, it's so funny.
Speaker 3: On Sofia, when it was Sofia's birthday a couple of
Speaker 3: weeks ago, I posted this like video of her right,
Speaker 3: and the still photo that I chose of the two
Speaker 3: of us was this photo that I had on my
Speaker 3: hinge profile and Robbie screenshoted it and he said it
Speaker 3: to me, and he goes, this was the picture on
Speaker 3: your hinge profile that made me really like like you
Speaker 3: because I could tell your personality from this photo. You
Speaker 3: seem so such a happy go lucky, like fun loving girl.
Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, and I'm in this photo,
Speaker 3: I'm smiling. I'm not smising or like you know, posing
Speaker 3: like trying to be all hot. I'm just enjoying my life.
Speaker 1: There's a lesson there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't that a lesson to be learned?
Speaker 1: I try I tell that to my kids because they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: I hate that photo. Oh my gosh, that's you being real,
Speaker 1: that's you being natural, that's your actual smile like I
Speaker 1: was doing.
Speaker 3: I had my hand up and I was kind of
Speaker 3: going like you know, like a like a thing, and
Speaker 3: I just was like having a good time. And that's
Speaker 3: the photo that like He's like, I could feel your energy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah, that's what we're looking for as
Speaker 1: as people, not even as guys looking for women. And
Speaker 1: then goes the other way too. We want to know
Speaker 1: who you actually are, not who you want the world
Speaker 1: to think you are.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I still stand by that advice. I gave Tim
Speaker 3: a look up and smile.
Speaker 2: Great, great to hear it. Yeah. Well. The air day
Speaker 2: was October thirty first, twenty seventeen. I had just gotten
Speaker 2: back from Nashville for my birthday, where Klein was born, yes,
Speaker 2: and so there was a lot of like Klin content
Speaker 2: being talked about, and you were just like are you?
Speaker 2: And Amy were like horrified over the Kline costume. Who
Speaker 2: knew that that would still be around all these years later?
Speaker 3: Who knew?
Speaker 2: Not mean?
Speaker 3: Kind interesting that you were talking about hitting on some
Speaker 3: girl at the party.
Speaker 2: No, that was not I kind of laughed at that too.
Speaker 2: She was so mean. I'm still traumatized from that girl.
Speaker 2: Oh really, her name was Mary Margaret or something. She's
Speaker 2: so scary. She got kicked out the party. I can't
Speaker 2: remember what she there was like a fight. I was
Speaker 2: so drunk. I don't know what happened, but she ended
Speaker 2: up leaving. She was like, They're like, they kicked me
Speaker 2: out because of you, And I was just gonna like, sorry, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm outside because I'm wasted. I don't know what happened
Speaker 2: in there. Oh wow, But yeah, I was like, Now
Speaker 2: that I think about it, I think I was very annoying.
Speaker 2: But it was not hitting on a girl a way
Speaker 2: that now you would be like, oh, Becca was hitting
Speaker 2: on a girl. Not like that. Okay, I would have
Speaker 2: had more swag than that. Oh that's right. But the
Speaker 2: episode description doctor beca doctor Doctor Becat checks the vital
Speaker 2: signs on Whole Foods Guy and Instagram Guy. Then it's
Speaker 2: trick or treat time in the o R as Becka
Speaker 2: dresses like a man and introduces her alter ego Cline.
Speaker 2: The search for cures continues for the long distance relationship
Speaker 2: and the epidemic over of over analyzing text messages, and
Speaker 2: finally old wounds reopen as Becca has dinner with her
Speaker 2: ex Robert. That was when Robert and I went and
Speaker 2: had dinner and he got pants made.
Speaker 3: For me, remember all the cozy one.
Speaker 2: He got them made like cozy, like he sourced the
Speaker 2: material because I talked about I couldn't find these pants
Speaker 2: they did. I had gotten these pants that my mom
Speaker 2: got me for Christmas the year before and they were
Speaker 2: my favorite pants and they didn't sell them anymore. So
Speaker 2: I was like they were so ugly. They're really ugly, yeah,
Speaker 2: but like the coziest material. And so he went to
Speaker 2: downtown LA and had two pairs made for me and
Speaker 2: they said Becca's pants on the time.
Speaker 3: He's the best, the best.
Speaker 2: But like we I was kind of in a place
Speaker 2: where I think we were still had the connection, but
Speaker 2: it was like, is this really going to go anywhere?
Speaker 2: I was kind of in this like in between place,
Speaker 2: and you had just gone on a date with Whole
Speaker 2: Foods guy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and.
Speaker 2: What was the story? You met him at a Whole Foods.
Speaker 3: No, So we made eyes with each other, like a
Speaker 3: look up and smiled yes, exactly like that. But we
Speaker 3: had like kind of had this eye thing going on
Speaker 3: for quite a while, Like we'd see each other Whole
Speaker 3: Foods all the time and we'd make eyes at each other,
Speaker 3: you know, like you see someone you're like, you know, hey,
Speaker 3: like the heye. So we were doing that for weeks,
Speaker 3: and I was like, what am I doing? I'm just
Speaker 3: making eyes with this guy. I'm going to just do
Speaker 3: it one day. And actually I was sitting outside of
Speaker 3: Whole Foods and eating my soup. I was waiting for
Speaker 3: you to pick me up to go to the Hollywood
Speaker 3: Bowl for some concert or something, okay, And he sat
Speaker 3: down at a table not next to me, but like
Speaker 3: two down for me, and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 3: now is my time? I have an out? Beck is
Speaker 3: coming to pick me up shortly in an uber, I'm
Speaker 3: just gonna do it. And so I, instead of making eyes,
Speaker 3: I talked to him, and I gave him my number
Speaker 3: right then and there, and then no went on a date,
Speaker 3: and then we went on a date. But it was
Speaker 3: nothing you were like.
Speaker 2: We there was not a single thing that we had
Speaker 2: in commonly.
Speaker 3: Was like single thing.
Speaker 2: Stayed up late and this was the time where you
Speaker 2: were going to bed like seven.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he I remember, I remember he didn't own
Speaker 3: a television. Yeah, that was pretty interesting, which is not
Speaker 3: a deal breaker. But I was like okay. And then
Speaker 3: on the weekends all he did was like swim. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I get it. He would like go to like this wherever.
Speaker 2: That was his workout.
Speaker 3: No, that was like his thing, Like he was like
Speaker 3: swim all day, like he like loved swimming. And I
Speaker 3: was like, okay, I mean not getting these were deal breakers,
Speaker 3: but like Adam and then he was like atheist. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's one thing to be different religions. It's another thing
Speaker 3: to be atheist. So it's just kind of that's interesting
Speaker 3: to me. No judgement that is trying to date you.
Speaker 2: But I do find that interesting that why that is
Speaker 2: different to you because it's still not the same thing
Speaker 2: you believe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I don't. It was it was very jarring.
Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like at the time it
Speaker 3: was very I feel like to use the word atheist
Speaker 3: seems very like like I don't believe in God and
Speaker 3: I don't believe in any of that. Like it just
Speaker 3: seems very like abrasive in a way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, looking for faith of some kind in a higher right.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, Yeah, it just felt very like jarring.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then, uh, what some of the other things
Speaker 2: we talked about. Yeah, there was a guy that I
Speaker 2: went on a What did I say about the guy
Speaker 2: who was nicknamed Arnold Schwartzinger.
Speaker 3: I don't know. You were gonna get into it the
Speaker 3: next podcast, so Cliffhanger, but you were talking about someone.
Speaker 2: That was like stay duned for re listened to episode
Speaker 2: eight five years.
Speaker 3: Are you talking about Arnold Swarzenegger? And I was like,
Speaker 3: I don't even remember who that was.
Speaker 2: I think he was the personal trainer guy that I
Speaker 2: dated a little bit.
Speaker 3: I don't even remember his name. Oh wait, do you
Speaker 3: remember his name? No, that's a no.
Speaker 2: Wait, there's two people now that I feel like I
Speaker 2: thought it was one guy, and now I'm thinking it's
Speaker 2: another guy. He's not married and stuff. So the guy
Speaker 2: I think it is. He was like, this guy did
Speaker 2: this Tarzan thing with this like mud run thing. It
Speaker 2: was like a brand, right. He was like so big,
Speaker 2: he was like a bodybuilder right right, and he was
Speaker 2: so nice and really cute. But I think I said
Speaker 2: that he liked that I dressed this klin or some
Speaker 2: like he thought it was funny that I dressed as
Speaker 2: a dude. Uh huh, and uh. I was kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 2: we were like chit chatting again, he texted me, but
Speaker 2: clearly it didn't go anywhere. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3: I also think it's funny to kind of like, obviously
Speaker 3: there's those people that we remember from our past, but
Speaker 3: there's gonna be the tons of ones that like we're
Speaker 3: such flash in the pans that we don't even remember.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but the fact that we gave him a nickname.
Speaker 2: Normally we didn't do nicknames for people unless they had any.
Speaker 3: But but I don't really mister whole Food just like
Speaker 3: a month, but we went.
Speaker 2: On a date with him. I guess I went on
Speaker 2: a date with this guy. Yeah, yeah, but yeah, I
Speaker 2: think I think a lot of it was what really
Speaker 2: struck me was we were talking about I was saying,
Speaker 2: like I just want someone that is long distance, Like
Speaker 2: I need a relationships that is long distance.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the only way that were to be in
Speaker 3: a relationship that was long distance. And cut to you're
Speaker 3: in a somewhat of a long distance relationship now and
Speaker 3: you hate it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so careful what you wish for, because you'd never
Speaker 2: know what you really want. So true, No, it's so true.
Speaker 2: Like it was so I think what I was so
Speaker 2: scared of, Like I don't even know if I was
Speaker 2: scared of, like giving my heart to someone. I just
Speaker 2: hadn't experienced it. So it felt so unfamiliar that I thought, oh,
Speaker 2: it'll be so nice to have my space. I don't
Speaker 2: want to feel like smothered or you know, like I
Speaker 2: have to give my time to someone else. Yeah, but
Speaker 2: then it happens. Then you're so happy to give your
Speaker 2: time to someone else, but they're gone. I did.
Speaker 3: I really picked up on that because it was like
Speaker 3: such a drastic proclamation. Yeah, another big word. Thank you
Speaker 3: on the podcast about wanting to be in a long
Speaker 3: distance relationship and now you.
Speaker 2: Like, actually are I manifested it?
Speaker 3: You did?
Speaker 2: But in like the it was like a horrible manifestation
Speaker 2: for myself. But it was just funny listening to all
Speaker 2: the things that I was so certain that I wanted
Speaker 2: and who I was at that time, and like it
Speaker 2: was like weird was listening to I felt like I
Speaker 2: was listening to a different person when I was relistening
Speaker 2: to it a little bit. Really, yeah, just like I mean,
Speaker 2: that's that was almost six years ago. Like that's so
Speaker 2: much happened has happened in those six years, and it's
Speaker 2: like crazy to think. And it's also weird to think
Speaker 2: that I just met Haley less than a year later, Right,
Speaker 2: It wasn't like that long after, because that was October
Speaker 2: twenty seventeen. I met Haley April twenty eighteen. So it's
Speaker 2: just kind of weird how like quickly that turned. That
Speaker 2: was right before I got Phoebe, Like I didn't have
Speaker 2: Phoebe yet. It was just like my life has changed
Speaker 2: so much since then, and it was funny listening to
Speaker 2: me just be like the man I wanted.
Speaker 1: Okay, I have a question, Okay, we should take a
Speaker 1: break first.
Speaker 2: Oh, let's take a break, all right.
Speaker 1: So you listening to you from six years ago, it
Speaker 1: seemed like it was a different person. Yes, if there
Speaker 1: was a way to swap that if Becca from twenty
Speaker 1: seventeen could listen to a podcast from twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: uh and hear that you are now not only dating
Speaker 1: a woman named Haley, but so hung up on her
Speaker 1: that you don't know what to do with yourself because
Speaker 1: she's out of town for a month. How would she
Speaker 1: feel shook?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 4: Literally, I don't think that that person would believe that, Like,
Speaker 4: I don't think that that was ever gonna be a possibility.
Speaker 3: I literally for many years thought Becca just like didn't
Speaker 3: have the love chip in her.
Speaker 2: Like, I literally that's true.
Speaker 3: You did, no, Because I was like, I was explaining
Speaker 3: this like feeling of love and you were like, yeah, no,
Speaker 3: I just I don't think I can. I'm not gonna
Speaker 3: guess we were going through the whole Robert thing, yeah,
Speaker 3: and you were like, but it's just and I go,
Speaker 3: maybe you just don't have that chip. Just turns out
Speaker 3: it was just not the.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the chip had to be activated by the right person. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but yeah, I don't think that.
Speaker 1: But that's it. That was until you, until you met Hayley,
Speaker 1: that never would have even occurred to you that in
Speaker 1: six years you could be dating a woman.
Speaker 2: Right that in six years, I would have been with
Speaker 2: a woman for five years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's incredible, that's crazy, but it is.
Speaker 2: I I do think it's nice to listen to that
Speaker 2: with the perspective not saying that if you're if you
Speaker 2: haven't met, like, if you haven't fallen in love with
Speaker 2: a man, that like it must be that you're gonna
Speaker 2: end up with a woman, That's what I'm saying, but
Speaker 2: that once you meet the person, yes, yes, it can
Speaker 2: change everything. Well.
Speaker 3: It was also darring for me too because at first,
Speaker 3: and I didn't necessarily say in this episode, but the
Speaker 3: fact that he was atheist what was such a deal breaker?
Speaker 3: And for so long not being Christian was also the
Speaker 3: same deal breaker. And now I'm like dating a Persian
Speaker 3: Jewish guy.
Speaker 1: Did he use the word atheist that guy? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that word is very off putting. It is that word.
Speaker 2: It is the word. It's not even so much what
Speaker 2: it I mean. I think, if if you want to
Speaker 2: date someone that believes in a higher power and that's
Speaker 2: important to.
Speaker 3: You, whatever other ways to say it, like I don't
Speaker 3: really have faith or I don't really believe in anything, like,
Speaker 3: there's different ways to say. And I think when you
Speaker 3: say like I'm an atheist. Like it's like.
Speaker 1: It's like you're looking for an argument.
Speaker 2: Yeah, God does feel that way. I will. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: not that that's the meaning of it. But that's I
Speaker 2: think how it's taken a lot of times.
Speaker 1: I was raised without religion, and that's what I would say.
Speaker 2: To people, so you wouldn't say you're agnostic.
Speaker 1: I don't like any of those you used to No,
Speaker 1: I only because we'd bring it up around the staff
Speaker 1: or whatever. But I don't like to use that. I've
Speaker 1: never liked to use that word because people associated with
Speaker 1: like Satan.
Speaker 2: Worship, but Satan worship is still believing.
Speaker 1: That opposite them, Satan worship. But yeah, they do associated
Speaker 1: with like evil. Yeah, and so I tried not to us.
Speaker 3: Not knowing like that's an agnostic way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't thinks like I just don't know science or something.
Speaker 1: Label stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't need labels. We don't need labels for everything.
Speaker 3: I did find that interesting, like back then it was
Speaker 3: so he has to be Christian er, that's it.
Speaker 2: Believe me. I found an old prayer journal the other
Speaker 2: day and it was my list of non negotiables.
Speaker 1: You should find that yeah, what do you.
Speaker 2: Mean, she's it's like what is it like fit man
Speaker 2: or something like muscle man and like tall tall guy. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: No musical talent.
Speaker 2: Yeah no, I've always never okay, yeah, sure, always liked musicians.
Speaker 2: So that's been consistent. I've been very consistent with that.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's play a game. Okay, that was
Speaker 1: six years ago, So let's make some predictions for twenty
Speaker 1: twenty nine. Oh my gosh, so when we do this
Speaker 1: relive in twenty twenty nine, Han, I write that down?
Speaker 2: Old?
Speaker 3: Will I be in twenty twenty nine? If I'm thirty five?
Speaker 1: Now, you were born in eighty four years forty.
Speaker 3: One, so I'll be forty one.
Speaker 1: Okay, No, six years from now, So were you born
Speaker 1: in eighty seven? Yeah, so you'll be forty two.
Speaker 3: I'll be forty two, and you'll be forty one or
Speaker 3: forty forty thirty. Yeah, that took us way too long.
Speaker 2: Well, you know, we even said on this podcast there's
Speaker 2: a conversation about math, that we were not good at it.
Speaker 2: So we've stayed consistent there.
Speaker 3: Okay, one of the predictions.
Speaker 1: Well I guess, I guess, So I just just make
Speaker 1: a couple of states about your life in the year
Speaker 1: twenty twenty nine, and but the world in general, if
Speaker 1: you'd like.
Speaker 3: Kind of scared too?
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too? Like, what do I not want to happen?
Speaker 2: Right right?
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be miserable, Tanya.
Speaker 1: Are you married in twenty twenty nine for sure? Are
Speaker 1: you married to Robbie in twenty twenty nine four? Are
Speaker 1: you married to Robbie in twenty twenty nine? Great? Do
Speaker 1: you have kids of your own in twenty twenty nine? Yes,
Speaker 1: more than one?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't know about that. I'm going to see, Well.
Speaker 2: If she's married to Robbie, she'll have three kids. If
Speaker 2: that's the case, well, right, I'm true, okay.
Speaker 3: True, But I think whether I'll have more than one
Speaker 3: of my own is up to it's in biology. Yeah,
Speaker 3: about God's hands, Like, I don't know. I mean I
Speaker 3: would think people are having babies in their forties now,
Speaker 3: Oh yeah?
Speaker 1: Sure. Are you still living in Los Angeles?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Are you still working for iHeartRadio?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: If you're not, then we won't be able to look
Speaker 1: back on these predictions. Yeah, scrubbing in yeah, okay, what else?
Speaker 1: Anything else we need to ask you?
Speaker 3: My hashimotos is gone.
Speaker 1: Gone, breath completely gone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, reverse naturally.
Speaker 1: So what are your issues? It's like what we're painting
Speaker 1: is kind of a utopia. It's like perfect twenty twenty nine,
Speaker 1: happily married, kid's job, everything's great. But what are your concerns?
Speaker 1: What are your problems in twenty twenty nine?
Speaker 3: You know, it's interesting as I have the more conversations
Speaker 3: and we're talking more about the kid conversation, I do
Speaker 3: like I'm looking at people with kids and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: they make it look so easy. Like, look, I do
Speaker 3: feel like I'm I'm going to have a hard time
Speaker 3: just because of how attached I am to my dog,
Speaker 3: balancing a baby and like anything else. Well, because I
Speaker 3: feel like I'm going to be buried.
Speaker 1: You won't be so tested to your dog once the
Speaker 1: baby comes from No, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is I think I'm going to
Speaker 3: be so attached to that kid that, like everything else
Speaker 3: is gonna like I think I'm going to struggle with balance.
Speaker 1: Good, all right, your turned Tilly? Are you married in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty nine?
Speaker 2: The marriage things.
Speaker 1: Are tricky for me, though, I mean, this says so
Speaker 1: much by stuff. You knew the question was coming, and
Speaker 1: you're still taking twenty seconds to answer it answered in.
Speaker 2: Less than yeah, but Tanya wants to get married. It's
Speaker 2: like the marriage thing. But I would I'd hope I'm
Speaker 2: with Haley.
Speaker 3: Okay, do your next question?
Speaker 1: Well, the next ones would have been are you married
Speaker 1: to Hailey if it was a yes to the first question,
Speaker 1: So you're still we don't know if you're married.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, oh, I want to get married and
Speaker 2: that's important to her, But that's never been like a
Speaker 2: I mean it was at one point, but I realized, like,
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's something that I the marriage
Speaker 2: part that I want or need.
Speaker 1: Want to need a very different things there though.
Speaker 2: Things no, but I want to be with her, so
Speaker 2: having a legal marriage.
Speaker 1: Have you two discussed this? Yeah, and you're kind of
Speaker 1: both on the same page if you're not sure.
Speaker 2: If she was like, that's really important to me, I
Speaker 2: would marry her. But I'm like, that's not I'm not
Speaker 2: like the person that streamed of my wedding and stuff.
Speaker 1: Why not getting married if you want to spend the
Speaker 1: rest of your lives together?
Speaker 2: What was just like a piece of paper Now, no.
Speaker 3: It's like a lot of money for a party.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Sure, we'll go with yes, yes, married to Haley in
Speaker 1: twenty nine? Do you have children in twenty nine.
Speaker 2: As of right now? I hope not. I'm babysitting Tanya's child.
Speaker 1: Nah you are?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Sure? Why not?
Speaker 1: Oh at the time. Oh, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 1: I see there's nothing wrong with saying no to that.
Speaker 1: I don't think no.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I no. I don't think there's anything
Speaker 2: wrong with not wanting that. But it could go. I mean,
Speaker 2: I don't know. A lot has changed since the last
Speaker 2: time we made predictions. So I'm just like, I might
Speaker 2: have three kids.
Speaker 1: That's the fun part of this, because we.
Speaker 2: Don't think so I don't think.
Speaker 1: So Okay, all right, what vocationally speaking, do you have
Speaker 1: a job other than what you're doing now?
Speaker 2: I hope so. I hope to have like a brand
Speaker 2: or something that i've I hope I have a routine,
Speaker 2: you know, like a consistent I mean, I don't know
Speaker 2: where social media is going to go by that point.
Speaker 1: Like an office to go to. Are you looking for
Speaker 1: or are you looking for.
Speaker 2: An office at all? Have a home office, but something
Speaker 2: where I'm like consistently working that's not dependent on social media.
Speaker 2: I see, but I don't know if a lot of
Speaker 2: people get what I do. But I my job is
Speaker 2: like technically, I guess the term is influencer, but like
Speaker 2: it's working with brands on social media. So that is
Speaker 2: how I make a living. And so not knowing at
Speaker 2: any point that what where the direction of is going.
Speaker 3: I don't see that going anywhere anytime soon.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it might be like just like blogging in
Speaker 2: my forties.
Speaker 3: Just just a new set of stuff.
Speaker 2: Ye yeah, new new types of new brand right, like
Speaker 2: pre menopausal.
Speaker 3: Okay, when do you go through menopause later than forties?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Late forties, early fifties, fifties, Yeah, no, I think even
Speaker 2: like until like sixties.
Speaker 1: Yeah, really really, I thought most go through it now.
Speaker 2: No, I think it's like late fifty I mean, I
Speaker 2: think it depends, but I think it's like.
Speaker 3: I actually know nothing about menopause, and I love.
Speaker 2: Oh, You're going to do a lot of studies and
Speaker 2: by this time that we're talking about, you will know
Speaker 2: every single thing about menopause.
Speaker 1: According to Google, the menopausal transition often begins between ages
Speaker 1: forty five and fifty five. It usually lasts about seven years,
Speaker 1: but can last as long as fourteen years.
Speaker 3: Wow, damn, it's just not right.
Speaker 1: No, right, the average age is fifty one.
Speaker 2: Oh was like late fifties.
Speaker 1: Well that's the average fifty one, so it varies. Okay, Wow,
Speaker 1: will you still be living in Los Angeles?
Speaker 2: Interesting question? I'd like to have multiple homes?
Speaker 1: Wow? Yeah, big dreams?
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah? What if you're not dreaming big? What are
Speaker 2: you doing?
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: Well, there we go, Protections for twenty nine.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll be in a mansion.
Speaker 1: Will the world be in a better place?
Speaker 2: And I hope so?
Speaker 3: I think so. I think that's hopeful.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: I think you're right. I think it's got to bounce
Speaker 1: back back.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 2: Should we talk about the rapid fire deal breakers that
Speaker 2: that you brought up Mark during this episode?
Speaker 1: Sure, but it's time for another break?
Speaker 2: All right, we'll be back. All right, we're back. So
Speaker 2: what why this idea came about? To recap This episode
Speaker 2: was from an email from Emily Griffin Mark, if you
Speaker 2: want to read that.
Speaker 1: Hey, guys, I've been listening since about twenty eighteen, and
Speaker 1: I missed a lot of episodes in the beginning, so
Speaker 1: I've decided to go back and start, and I'm on
Speaker 1: episode seven right now. Guys, the foreshadowing in this episode.
Speaker 1: Can we talk about this? Tony goes on a date
Speaker 1: with a man who's an atheist and it sparks a
Speaker 1: big conversation about deal breakers. Then you guys do a
Speaker 1: rapid fire deal breaker conversation. I have to say, it
Speaker 1: was just so fun to listen to this knowing what
Speaker 1: is going on in real time and how different things
Speaker 1: can turn out from what you think you want. So
Speaker 1: I'm proposing you guys do a relisten episode. I think
Speaker 1: it would be so cool if you'd live listen to
Speaker 1: this podcast, episode number seven and compare your conversation to
Speaker 1: your lives now. I hope it's possible in some way.
Speaker 1: I don't think we could do that like a DVD
Speaker 1: commentary track. It'd just be double voices. It'd be kind
Speaker 1: of difficult, but yeah, but I like the way you
Speaker 1: did it. You guys listen to it, assign them the
Speaker 1: task of listening to it if they want to on Monday,
Speaker 1: and so you can talk about it together. I have
Speaker 1: a new list here of deal breakers. You want to
Speaker 1: go through it?
Speaker 2: Okay, all right?
Speaker 1: Deal breaker or not selfishness.
Speaker 2: Yes, I want to say selfish, yes, but like having
Speaker 2: conversations like if there's a reason to be reason to
Speaker 2: be selfish, like a reason to choose yourself. I don't
Speaker 2: think like that's a deal breaker. But if it's like constantly,
Speaker 2: like the theme of the relationship is one sided selfishness, yes, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: How about how about anger issues? Someone with anger issues?
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, right.
Speaker 1: Long and dirty toe and fingernails.
Speaker 3: No, it's not a deal breaker for me, but like
Speaker 3: get it together.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: They're super close with their ex.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like why yeah sam uh Oh?
Speaker 1: Financial irresponsibility, yes, I I don't think deal breaker.
Speaker 2: I think it's something to be worked, like to be
Speaker 2: worked on. But I do think that would get exhausting
Speaker 2: if there's no change.
Speaker 1: Someone who is rude to waiters.
Speaker 2: Oh, absolutely, deal breaker.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: About negativity, If it's constant, if there's like a time
Speaker 2: of life where things are sad or you're not feeling
Speaker 2: your best, then I don't think that's a deal breaker.
Speaker 2: But if it's like constant, like everything's like down in
Speaker 2: the dumps, that would wear on me.
Speaker 3: I think it would be a deal breaker if I
Speaker 3: was just constantly with someone that was just negative, especially
Speaker 3: for you. I think, yeah, I think it'd be really hard.
Speaker 2: Think it's a brightness any day and they're like, no,
Speaker 2: it's another.
Speaker 3: Okay you later tonight.
Speaker 1: Not funny, no sense of humor.
Speaker 2: That would be hard for me.
Speaker 3: I don't know if that would be a deal breaker
Speaker 3: for me. If he was like everything that was so amazing, men,
Speaker 3: he wasn't funny.
Speaker 2: That's so boring.
Speaker 3: I don't mind boring. Wow, I don't shout out to Robbie.
Speaker 2: We don't think you're boring.
Speaker 1: Robby's funny. The few conversations I have had with him,
Speaker 1: he's very funny.
Speaker 3: He's funny. But if you weren't, I would not be upset.
Speaker 1: Do you guys want to hear Robbie laughing at a
Speaker 1: show called Jury Duty on Amazon? By the way, if
Speaker 1: you're not watching Jury Dude Amazon, you used to watch it.
Speaker 1: It's very, very funny. Have we talked about it, Beecca?
Speaker 1: Do you know about it?
Speaker 2: I know about it, but I haven't watched it yet.
Speaker 3: But then it is like it has become a part
Speaker 3: of our identity, like we are obsessed with the show.
Speaker 3: We can't stop watching it. We're watching TikTok's about it now,
Speaker 3: like we are obsessed with it.
Speaker 1: This is the show where there's a court case going on.
Speaker 1: Everyone involved as an actor except for one guy who
Speaker 1: thinks this is his actual jury duty and they're just
Speaker 1: shooting a documentary and that's why there's cameras there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and James Marrison's on it playing himself and it's hysterical.
Speaker 1: And this is Robbie's review.
Speaker 2: It.
Speaker 1: Now, that's a guy.
Speaker 2: With a sense of h Yeah, that's a good that's
Speaker 2: a funny loss.
Speaker 3: That was like after ten minutes of him laughing like that,
Speaker 3: I was like, I gotta get this on video.
Speaker 1: I likes funny and just laughs his way through the
Speaker 1: word funny. That makes me happy. Somebody who dislikes your
Speaker 1: friends or family.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's a deal breaker.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Uh, someone who's a different diet or a lifestyle preference
Speaker 1: than you do.
Speaker 2: No, that's not a deal breaker.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's not a deal breaker.
Speaker 1: Because your ears especially is a pretty unique diet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be hard, but it wouldn't be a
Speaker 3: deal breaker.
Speaker 1: But he also be hard to find someone who fits
Speaker 1: yours to a t.
Speaker 3: I got him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he does, he does, he does.
Speaker 3: It for her in solidarity. Yeah, I mean he doesn't.
Speaker 3: It's not like one like sometimes he doesn't go gluten free,
Speaker 3: but i'd say like ninety percent of the time he's
Speaker 3: a good guy.
Speaker 1: And difference in sex drive, No, I don't think so
Speaker 1: it way more or less than you do.
Speaker 2: I think if it's never matched up, that would be hard,
Speaker 2: But I don't. I don't think it's a deal breaker.
Speaker 2: If you can get on the same page. I think
Speaker 2: that's something that you can work towards personally.
Speaker 3: If it's that imbalanced, yeah, I'd think it's like if Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean I think if one person's never getting satisfied,
Speaker 2: that's a problem. But I think if there's conversation and
Speaker 2: there's things in life where maybe that's not on the
Speaker 2: exact same page. But yeah, I think if you if
Speaker 2: there's like no hope for it and you've tried everything,
Speaker 2: I think that that's something to look into.
Speaker 3: We're so balanced now.
Speaker 1: And everything diet, sex drive.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're balanced girls.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: Oh she's talking about me and you No? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: all right, Well that was so fun. I think it
Speaker 2: went well. I'm proud to see that we have changed
Speaker 2: so much.
Speaker 3: Me too, because if you're not growing.
Speaker 2: If you're not changing though.
Speaker 3: If you're not growing, I don't know what you were doing.
Speaker 2: So well, have a great weekend. We love you so much.
Speaker 2: We'll see you Monday. Love you bye,