WEBVTT - Shannon Elizabeth Talks About Making Millions on OnlyFans and That She Will Never Date Again 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:18.000 Hi, everybody. 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.480 I'm one of your hosts, Brian Austin Green, and I'm 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:25.200 really excited for my guest today, who is literally redefining 0:00:25.239 --> 0:00:29.360 herself in chapter two. You know her from roles in 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:33.720 movies like the American Pie franchise, Scary Movie. She has 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:38.159 an incredible foundation helping wildlife in South Africa. She just 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:42.400 got divorced this week, not kidding, and we're going to 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:46.120 dive into that and so much more so here she 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:47.600 is Shannon Elizabeth. 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:52.000 I can't believe that we've never met before, right. 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:54.600 I don't think so, but I feel like we should have. 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:59.720 Isn't that bananas? I was like, how is that possible? 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:04.280 Like, I we we met everyone during that time period. 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:09.319 What was what was the timeframe of the American Pie movies? 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:10.240 That was like. 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:16.200 Ninety nine was the first one and all right. 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.560 So our show was already sinking at that point. So 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:20.120 that's why that's why. 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:23.399 We never met, because our ratings were going to s 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.119 as you guys were just like blowing up. 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.200 That explains Yeah, it's. 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:31.440 Yeah, I don't, I don't. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:35.360 It's fine not to put you on the spot or anything. 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.720 So yeah, that's usually it's and it's funny too, Like 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:43.360 the business was so much more segregated at that point. 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:47.120 It was like you were either film or you were TV. 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:50.920 And what TV always wanted to do. Film film never 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:53.880 wanted to do TV. Film was like no, no, no, 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.920 forget it, Like this is this is the life. I 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:00.640 like being a movie star. TV is beneath me, which 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:06.360 it felt like it was. Now it's all, uh opposite everybody. 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:10.400 Field has evened out and people realize, I think, if 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.160 I want to have a family and I like I 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.720 want to be around, I need to do a show 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.520 that is set kind of in one place compared to 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:19.640 traveling all over the world doing stuff. 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:22.920 And I mean there's not a lot of sitcoms anymore. 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:26.639 But doing the sitcom was amazing, Like there was no 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:27.119 better sense. 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:31.800 Yeah I did. I did a couple. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.880 I did a couple of sitcom things that were like 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:39.960 just game changers. They were so easy. It was so great. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:44.040 But like being on a lot, having like specific hours 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:45.519 and all that, it was unbelievable. 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:49.120 I mean yeah, especially if you lived close to the lot, 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:51.200 if you live nearby, like. 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:54.120 Just all of it, Like honestly the lot is close 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:56.960 no matter what. Now, like it compared to having to 0:02:56.960 --> 0:02:59.919 fly to Canada to shoot everything, or you know, both 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:01.880 Garia or all. 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:02.359 Over the place. 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:04.400 Well, do you know where I am right now? 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:06.440 You're in South Africa right now? 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:06.679 Yeah? 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:07.639 Yeah? 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.840 Do you live there? Yeah? 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:13.040 I pretty much look here, Yeah I do. 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.000 Do you do you what do you travel back to 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:18.720 the States for at this point? Like just to buy 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:23.960 buy groceries? No, there's a Whole Foods in Texas I 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:24.720 really love. 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:31.440 Well, I love Whole Foods. Yeah, anywhere I travel back 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:37.120 for jobs. I travel back for appearances for my fundraiser 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:40.960 at the end of June, so things like that, you know, 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:44.880 and seeing family and friends. But I mean, there's lots 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:46.280 of reasons to travel back. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.160 Families all here, right. Where are you from originally? 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:55.520 I'm from Texas originally. But the only I mean, I 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:59.320 have lots of aunts and uncles and cousins, and my 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.480 cousin and New York is like a sister to me, 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:05.000 so I probably see her most of anyone. So when 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.200 I travel back a lot of times, I'll stay with her, 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:10.320 and you know, we're we're always looking for ways to 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:13.800 work together and do things together, because you know, she 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.360 doesn't have a sister. I don't have any brothers or sisters. 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:18.520 So it's kind of you're a child. 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:20.840 I am amazing. 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.559 I So I have an older brother and an older sister, 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.240 but they're from my mom's first marriage, and there's a 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.320 nine year age difference between my sister, who I'm the 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:33.440 closest with. So I grew up feeling like an only child. Also, 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:40.080 so I get I understand that, can we? So I 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:43.120 I just in doing research on you, there was so 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:48.880 much about you that I didn't know. So then you 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.240 bringing up like, oh, I'm in South Africa right now, 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:54.440 It's like, okay, yeah, let's go there first, Like this 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:58.520 is really interesting. So this show is I don't know 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:01.560 if you've ever listened to it or checked it out. 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.000 It's I Do Part two. 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:06.159 And to me, the concept of this show is people 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:10.760 that have lived these full lives and have experienced things 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:13.120 and then kind of go in after the first time 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:15.640 where things have gone a bit sideways, and they and 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:19.040 they start sharing these lessons that they've learned and sharing 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:21.320 who they are and how they've grown. But then we 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:25.279 all were sort of a community, so we grow together. Okay, 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:31.800 only child, raised, born and raised in Texas. How how 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:32.760 many pets did you have? 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:36.520 When you were a kid. One well, just one. 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:38.719 There was a moment where I had a bird as well. 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:42.040 Somebody gave me a bird, but then the bird died. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:46.320 And my parents had a poodle like a miniature poodle 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:49.919 when I was born, and they would never allow me 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:51.120 to have more animals. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:52.719 Did you want more animals? 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:53.000 Though? 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.400 Yeah? I would cry and be like, when I grow 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:58.160 up tons of animals around me, I'm gonna have like 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.480 a farm of animals, was always my threat to them. 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:04.479 Cut two rhinos and all that. 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:07.200 Well, when I lived in La and I started my charity, 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.480 I had seven dogs at any given time. I always 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:11.839 had seven dogs in my house. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:15.520 Like rescues like fostering, you know. 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.560 They became mine, so I did. I would foster and 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:24.279 sometimes animals. It kind of it was weird because it 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:30.080 started out that we would foster these animals and or 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:33.919 we would find an animal and then somebody a friend 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.320 would come over and be like, oh that's a cool dog, 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:38.760 and we're like do you want them? You know, And 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:42.720 that's kind of how it started. That's how the rescuing 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:45.480 kind of started. It's like, oh, you like this dog, 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:47.800 do you want a dog? And they would take them 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:51.080 and and it just kind of naturally developed from there 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:54.920 and then you know, they're just became. You just kind 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:57.880 of knew when it was your core animal or a 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.400 rescue that was going to move on to another home, 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:04.360 you know, but it was always So I have one 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:06.400 dog sitting next to me right now, in the chair 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:07.039 next to me. 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:11.760 So what's really funny is my fiance she before me, 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:16.800 she owned a house off of beech Wood, just under. 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.160 The Hollywood sign, and it was her and her. 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:22.760 Two dogs that she had rescued, and she lived this 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:26.200 very simple life, but she would like foster dogs all 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:28.120 the time and like that was a big part of 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:33.240 everything for her. And then we ended up together. She 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:36.080 now we had a baby together, but I already had 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:37.800 four kids, so all of a sudden she had this 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:41.720 like massive family. And then when she decided she wanted 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:43.960 to foster, it was like, you've got to we already 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:48.480 had three dogs, Like this has to fit into our world, 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:54.200 which is it's difficult because foster dogs sometimes have a 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:57.600 lot of issues from you know, like previous traumas and 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:00.840 things that they've this one here. We have little dogs 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:08.960 and one named Daisy, that is she's I love Daisy, 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:12.559 but she is so complicated, like there's just so much 0:08:12.640 --> 0:08:15.880 going on in her head, and she is like constantly 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.080 growling and sort of snapping and worried that somebody's gonna 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:22.880 hurt her. So she's got that little dog syndrome. Plus 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:26.679 she's getting old now, so her hearing is going, which 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.240 just makes it twice is worse. Like she's running around 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.840 the house and she's panicking, thinking she wants to find you, 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:35.600 and you call her name, but she doesn't even hear you, 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:40.080 like she just keeps running in the opposite direction. But 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:43.720 so we fostered dogs that were pregnant and had puppies, 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:46.840 and we ended up having these puppies and we have 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:50.360 a bunch of friends that have them now that adopted. 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:51.880 Them, and we love them. 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:57.280 But it is, it's it is a choice to gold 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.800 the route of animal activism. I mean, can we jump 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:04.320 into your I don't want to say personal life because 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:07.600 it's not, but because this show is, I do part two, 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:11.160 Like I want to get into relationships stuff a little 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.160 bit because I think people need. 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.120 All the help they can get. 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:18.080 I know I did, like I you know, I just 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:22.240 sort of I learned it was trial by fire for me. 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:27.319 So you were you were not you were not married 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:30.640 at the point when you moved to South Africa. That 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.160 was you were married before then. 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:38.679 So I was married in early two thousands for a 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.400 few so I was with a guy named Joe who 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:42.400 is now my manager. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.760 And yeah, I think I think the people that actually 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.880 put this together they spoke to him all, which is fantastic. 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:49.960 I love that you guys have that. 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.800 Joe actually was on nine O two one zero for 0:09:53.840 --> 0:10:00.560 an episode because he's yeah, you're kidding, he was cut out. 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:04.000 He got cut out because it was a controversial episode 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:10.080 and they yeah, yeah, they were worried about it. But 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:12.040 that was one of his first jobs. 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:13.840 He had said, that's hysterical. 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:18.600 So we were together for ten years. So we were. 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.200 We were together for seven before we got married and 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:26.640 then married for three and then then I dated way 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.680 too much and then I moved to South Africa. I'm 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:33.320 just kipping over. I moved to South Africa and then 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:39.040 I met someone here and got married and just got 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.360 divorced and it got finalized two days ago. 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:42.599 Congratulations is that? 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:43.920 Yes? 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:48.760 Yes, that is absolutely congratulations. And that's the end of 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:53.400 my dating. I'm done, is it? Yeah? I don't see 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:56.560 me dating ever again, not for a very long time 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:00.000 or not on purpose. Yeah, No, I'm absolutely not getting 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:03.760 married again. And I just I don't have I don't 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:06.480 have any desire right now today, Like I don't. 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:10.240 Do you feel like your your pickers broken at all? 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:15.400 Like what do you think? Because it's it's it's hard, 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:19.480 Like I get it. I have again, five kids, three 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:24.679 different mothers, and I went through two relationships one we 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:30.160 were married for almost ten years, very public divorce, and 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:35.080 I remember at one point going thinking, God, I am 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:39.199 like I'm the common denominator with everything that's gone wrong, 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.079 Like so I have to accept some sort of responsibility 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:46.560 because I didn't want to be single the rest of 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.440 my life and I didn't want to carry into my 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:52.520 next relationship what I had done, what I felt my 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:56.160 part was in the first two relationships that didn't work. 0:11:57.840 --> 0:11:59.200 Have you had any of that or are you just 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.080 sort of like I just want to focus on what 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:02.920 I'm doing now and I'll get to that later. 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.920 What do you mean you have any like working on myself? 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:11.160 Yeah? Like do you is there are do you have? Uh? 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:12.719 Do you feel like you're in a place where you 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:15.720 want to work on yourself to better yourself for the 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:18.160 next relationship, or do you feel like I just want 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.320 to work on myself to be the best conservationist I 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:23.360 can be right now, on the best human being on 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:23.760 my own. 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:26.160 I had a lot of working on myself after my 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:29.320 first relationship. After I did all that Deity, I did 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.520 a lot of work on myself. So after I went 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:33.800 a little wild and crazy, I did a lot of 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:39.040 work and I definitely did a lot wrong in that relationship, 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.719 and it took a lot of responsibility for that. Eventually 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:43.800 that was one hundred percent on me. 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:50.520 This last it was, well, it's two people in a relationship, 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:53.400 so I feel like there are but they each person 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:56.720 triggers each other, and then it triggers the worst in people. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:59.040 And I'm sure you could have made a ton of 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.200 mistakes and done things, but never one hundred percent you, 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:04.440 I don't think, But go ahead. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:06.640 Sorry, yeah, I mean. 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:12.600 I'm taking responsibility for it though, like he knows. We've 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:16.720 talked about it, and I acknowledge that I did a 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:21.880 lot wrong. I was for whatever reason, I just wasn't. 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:25.600 I wasn't myself, to be honest, like, I just wasn't. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.920 That wasn't me. I wasn't myself that wasn't authentically who 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:33.480 I am. And I think that's why now we are 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:36.960 best friends and we could come back to working together 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:39.960 and loving each other in a different way. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:42.960 How could you possibly authentically be you? Though? 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:46.120 Like how there's nothing authentic about what it is we 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:47.880 do professionally. 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:48.000 Like there is. 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.440 It's a very weird place to be and especially because 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:58.400 you were young, I was like, it's not there is? Well, 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:02.839 what who do you possibly meet or ask questions to 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:06.959 get any sort of like good perspective on it. It's 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:11.360 a very upside down, crazy world to be in. So 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:15.440 I feel like you'd like I not to preach to you, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:18.240 but like people have to give themselves a little grace 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:23.080 sometimes in growing and figuring something out. And the world 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:26.000 that we're in that we live in professionally is not 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:29.880 a normal, healthy place to be in. You can make 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:32.840 a lot of wrong turns if you allow yourself. 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:38.080 Yeah, no, absolutely, And I think I definitely had those 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.920 moments where I just went off the rails, you know. 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:45.000 And I have a lot of regrets from back then, 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.480 and I've worked really hard to try to make amends 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.040 to things that I did and said and the ways 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.760 I acted and I'm not proud of that period of 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:55.640 time at all. 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:56.440 I think. 0:14:56.520 --> 0:15:01.000 I mean, like regrets are I regret what are to 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:07.880 me are good if you recognize them as periods of growth, 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.840 Like I don't. To me, any of the failures that 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:13.000 I had in my life leading up to now, all 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:14.760 of them created who I am now. 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.080 So I wouldn't change any of them. 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:20.200 But I definitely look back and I go, boy, that 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:21.440 wasn't handled well. 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.920 I definitely could have been better in this situation. I could. 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:29.520 But I love them now, like I embrace all of 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.800 them because they all have Look at you, look at you, 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.720 look at the life that you're that you're living, and 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:39.000 look at what you're doing. And the better the betterment 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:44.560 that you that you are providing to the world. But 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:48.640 it's all of those all of those crazy missteps, it's 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.200 you know, it's you from American Pie. 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:52.800 It's like all of the stuff. 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.360 That you went through leading to who you are now, 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:57.320 which is which is really amazing. 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:00.880 Well thank you for that, I mean, and that's very sweet. 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.640 But I do have the regrets, and I would change things, 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:08.240 and I think I would still be I would still 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:11.360 be where I was supposed to be now, whether it 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:13.720 would just I would have gotten here in a different path. 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:16.720 I would have taken a different road, a different yellow 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:18.760 brick road. I would have gone a different direction, but 0:16:19.040 --> 0:16:21.720 it would still have led to the same place. I 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:24.720 think I think it had to, you know, I feel 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:38.040 like I was supposed to be here no matter what. 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.120 What was the biggest lesson you think that you learned 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:41.680 through throughout? 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:45.320 Like if you could looking back on the twenty five 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:48.880 year old Shannon, like, what would you what advice would 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:50.200 you give her now. 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:53.640 Compared to the way you were living then. 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:56.760 I don't know, to be honest, as far as like 0:16:57.080 --> 0:17:02.120 the relationship side of it goes, you know, I think 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:05.760 there was a part of me that always thought I 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:08.760 was missing out on something, that the grass was always greener, 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.720 that there was always something else out there I was 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:14.560 supposed to be doing and it's just not the case. 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:20.359 And I don't really know how to answer that, to 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.760 be honest, I think I just I went through a 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:28.440 very dark period. I think like attracts like and when 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.120 I started going through a bad time, I was attracting 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.960 a lot of bad things. And likewise, if you're in 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:37.200 a good place, you attract good things. And that's why 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:41.520 it's so important to try to always be energetically in 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:45.920 such a good place. So it's you know when people say, oh, 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:48.960 one thing goes wrong, everything goes wrong, Well, yeah, because 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:51.240 you're attracting other things and that low vibration. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.080 That's exactly right, especially if you're putting that energy out, 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:57.560 Like if you believe in manifesting at all, which I do, 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.439 is like, if you're putting out nothing but negative energy, 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:03.480 that's what you're going to attract, Like you attract exactly. 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:07.520 That is what you to me, that's what you have 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.480 control over. Like that is the control in your life. 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:13.880 All the rest of it is bananas all the time, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.919 and it will be your entire your entire go at it. 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:20.000 The only thing that we have control over are these 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.120 choices that we make in how we deal with them, 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:29.040 who we are, how people experience us, and whether we 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:33.440 see the silver lining and everything or we just sort 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:37.520 of fade into the tough situations. 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.280 Yeah. Yeah, I think there's a lesson in everything. I 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:43.880 do believe everything happens for a reason. It doesn't mean 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:46.280 that I don't wish I could go back and change 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:48.560 some of the things that I went through and that 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:53.240 I've done. There are definitely pivotal moments that change things 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.359 in my life and in my career that I would 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:58.720 love to know had I gone a different way, what 0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:02.280 things would be like, you know, And one day I 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:06.359 probably will put it all in a book. Yeah, you know, 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:08.919 I think there's a lot of things that I feel 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:13.080 like more and more I can, I'm getting closer to 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:17.159 being able to talk about them. It's tough because you know, 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:19.639 we're in an industry. When you start talking about things, 0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:23.560 it does involve other people in the industry, And what 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:25.480 are you allowed to say? What do you want to say? 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:26.960 What are you who are you protecting? 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:27.280 Like? 0:19:27.720 --> 0:19:30.560 And at some point you just want to let it 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.359 all out and release that. 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:32.760 Sure. 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:37.800 Yeah, transparency is tough, for sure. It's really hard. 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:41.680 To know what to get into and not like I am. 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:45.400 I'm in a place now where I definitely share more 0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:48.040 than I ever did. But at the same time, you're right, like, 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:51.520 there's a part of me that is like, hmmm, is 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:54.280 that going too far? Am I implicating somebody that's not 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:55.199 ready to get into it? 0:19:55.240 --> 0:19:56.080 On their side? 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:59.840 Like, you know, it's you do you do edit yourself 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:03.200 and the things you talk about a little bit, which sucks. 0:20:03.240 --> 0:20:05.520 It's it's not a great feeling because then you're not 0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:06.920 getting everything out. 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:11.000 Yeah, I mean there's definitely things people asked me about 0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:13.159 that I have to lie. We've got to be like, oh, 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:13.720 I don't. 0:20:13.520 --> 0:20:16.359 Get everything out in a book, Like I can't. 0:20:16.840 --> 0:20:20.000 Writing a book terrifies me because it's like, oh, man, 0:20:20.080 --> 0:20:23.520 do I really want to? Like because those words on 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:27.399 page those are truly forever. Like I can change my 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.200 mind in interviews and go in different directions, and people 0:20:30.240 --> 0:20:33.159 sort of see the evolution of me compared to like 0:20:33.280 --> 0:20:35.880 how many books am I going to write? You know, 0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:40.080 like I may I may write two, and at that 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:42.639 point it's like you've only seen two iterations of me 0:20:42.720 --> 0:20:46.560 on paper. I'm much more of like I'll just choose 0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:48.600 to do interviews and talk about things. 0:20:49.400 --> 0:20:52.800 See. But with the interviews sometimes I mean for me, 0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:55.400 I say the wrong thing and then I like stress 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:57.360 about it till it comes out. I'm like, oh, maybe 0:20:57.359 --> 0:21:00.399 I shouldn't have said that, Oh why did I say that? Like, 0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:03.399 and there's nothing I can do. I've lost control at book. 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:05.359 At least I can go back and I can edit it. 0:21:05.400 --> 0:21:07.520 I can have a lawyer look at it and like, Okay, 0:21:07.720 --> 0:21:09.560 get it to the boy where I'm like, I've sat 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:12.000 with it for two years before I decide. 0:21:12.200 --> 0:21:14.440 Interviews, though, you can take you can take your time 0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:17.439 when you're speaking to people, Like most most of the 0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:21.920 interviews that we do aren't live, so it's like, take 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:24.200 your time. If you have to think about a question 0:21:24.320 --> 0:21:26.439 for five minutes, you think about it for five minutes. 0:21:27.160 --> 0:21:27.359 You know. 0:21:27.440 --> 0:21:29.719 If somebody needs to cut it out for time, then 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:33.160 they do. If it's a print interview, it doesn't can 0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:35.720 matter anyway. They're just literally going from answer to answer 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:40.080 to answer. But yeah, it's a very uh, it's a 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:43.720 weird it's a weird kind of fish bowl thing that 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.240 we I mean, especially now for you, Like all of 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:50.760 the attention that you're getting with only fans is it's 0:21:51.040 --> 0:21:54.080 mind blowing, Like were you expecting at. 0:21:53.840 --> 0:21:56.480 All to have the attention that you're that you're getting. 0:21:56.600 --> 0:21:57.760