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<v Speaker 1>This is the Anxiety Bites podcast, and I am your host,

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<v Speaker 1>Jen Kirkman. Well, this is my first episode, so I

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<v Speaker 1>think I'll just talk off the cuff, off the top

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<v Speaker 1>of my head for a few minutes to just let

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<v Speaker 1>you know what we're doing here with this podcast. Anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>Bites as a little generation X nod to the movie

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<v Speaker 1>Reality Bites, but there is nothing bite sized about this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be having long conversations with all kinds of experts

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<v Speaker 1>who can help us understand our anxiety, where it comes from,

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<v Speaker 1>what we can do about it, whether it's a neuroscientist,

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<v Speaker 1>a psychiatrist and author, a researcher, a meditator and artist,

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<v Speaker 1>anybody who has experienced anxiety who works in the field

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<v Speaker 1>of helping others cope with anxiety. Now, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to make this podcast about me, because it's not about me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's about everybody. It's about anxiety. But a little background

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<v Speaker 1>on me. I am, in my other life a comedian.

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<v Speaker 1>I have comedy specials on Netflix. I'm also a TV

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<v Speaker 1>writer and I've been working in entertainment for about twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five years. But something happened during the Great Lockdown of

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<v Speaker 1>where I was no longer on tour. I wasn't on stage,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was fine with it, but I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>use my voice somehow, maybe in a way that just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't distract people with jokes, but maybe helped people. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was noticing on social media that a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people were discovering that they had anxiety for the first time,

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<v Speaker 1>or they were actually just becoming an anxious person for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time, and I realized, hey, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>actually feelt pretty good. I have had generalized anxiety disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>panic disorder, multiple phobias since I was eight years old,

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<v Speaker 1>and none of it was diagnosed or handled properly until

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<v Speaker 1>I was twenty two. But as a kid, I sat

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<v Speaker 1>around having panic attacks in school. I remember, at age twelve,

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<v Speaker 1>thinking I was having a heart attack. But there was

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<v Speaker 1>also a part of me that knew this has to

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<v Speaker 1>do with mental health, even though I had never heard

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<v Speaker 1>the expression mental health. But I knew, or I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I knew. If I tell people what I'm feeling, if

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<v Speaker 1>I tell people that I feel like I can't breathe

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like I'm going crazy, they will lock

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<v Speaker 1>me up for life in a padded room. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not ready for that yet. And so I just had

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<v Speaker 1>a grand plan, which was, whatever this is going on

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<v Speaker 1>inside of me that seems to be getting worse every year,

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<v Speaker 1>I will just ride it out until it gets so

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<v Speaker 1>bad that I want to live in a padded room.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is how I will deal with this thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I never had to go live in a padded room

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<v Speaker 1>because I got help. Ironically, there is padding in the

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<v Speaker 1>room I am in right now, but that is just

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<v Speaker 1>because it makes a podcast sound better. But I began

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<v Speaker 1>therapy in my early twenties. I've done it all, from

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<v Speaker 1>therapy to medication to meditation, and I'm telling you everything

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<v Speaker 1>I have tried to help my anxiety has worked. But

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<v Speaker 1>different things work at different times. But the one thing

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<v Speaker 1>that really tipped me over the edge into being able

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<v Speaker 1>to say I no longer have a phobia of flying,

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<v Speaker 1>of driving alone on the freeway, of getting in subways.

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<v Speaker 1>My silb a fear hides what helps my circular thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>my rumination, all of the thought processes that are anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>What helped was when I realized I can apply the

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<v Speaker 1>sense of humor I have in my job to my anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to take anxiety so seriously and say things

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<v Speaker 1>I suffer from anxiety. I just thought it was this scary,

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<v Speaker 1>terrible thing, and I gave it so much weight, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I almost gave it so much respect in a way.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I try to laugh about my anxiety. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have suffer from anxiety. So I have a

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<v Speaker 1>friend called anxiety, and it loves to get in the

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<v Speaker 1>passenger seat of my car and try to give me

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<v Speaker 1>suggestions about terrible things I should think about. And I

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<v Speaker 1>just don't let anxiety weigh in on any decisions I'm making.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's allowed to be there if it needs to

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<v Speaker 1>be there. You know, I learned to live with it,

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<v Speaker 1>but it is not anything like it used to be,

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't control my decisions or my life. I

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<v Speaker 1>know that might not sound appealing to people. I think

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<v Speaker 1>people want to just get rid of anxiety, But it

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<v Speaker 1>feels like I've gotten rid of it, if that makes sense,

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<v Speaker 1>by accepting it and poking a little fun at And

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<v Speaker 1>so I want to have honest conversations with people. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to come from some lofty place of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>peace and love. And I'm whispering, and you know I've

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<v Speaker 1>changed my life. I still swear and and and yell

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<v Speaker 1>fuck you at people if I'm driving in a bad mood.

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<v Speaker 1>This is real people talking. This is not self help,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not wellness, This is not anything on relatable.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless you don't have anxiety, then you know, congrats, you

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<v Speaker 1>won't relate. But yeah, during the lockdown, I was noticing

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<v Speaker 1>people on social media and I thought, wait, why don't

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<v Speaker 1>they just type anxiety into the internet, like like this

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<v Speaker 1>thing I wished I'd been able to do so many

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<v Speaker 1>years ago. And I realized people don't know where to start.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people don't even know if they're allowed to claim

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<v Speaker 1>that it's anxiety because they don't know what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>And doesn't a doctor have to tell them they have it?

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<v Speaker 1>And oh, maybe I'm just stressed, or it's the state

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<v Speaker 1>of the world, or you know, once this goes away,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be better. And and so I started teaching breathing

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<v Speaker 1>classes over zoom for fun, and I wrote a newsletter

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<v Speaker 1>about anxiety. And when the response was frankly more overwhelming

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<v Speaker 1>than the response to my last tour as a comedian,

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<v Speaker 1>I realized, I think I have something here, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I pitched this podcast I did to I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>They said, yes, so here we are together now, and

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<v Speaker 1>I actually thought at one point, Oh, I hope, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope everyone still wants to talk about anxiety by

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<v Speaker 1>the time this podcast comes out. I had no idea

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<v Speaker 1>that it would be the next epidemic. Anyway, I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you enjoy Anxiety Bites. There will be new episodes every week,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm sure over the course of the episodes, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>reveal more and more about my personal experiences with anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>But you don't need the whole story right now. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's frankly again, it's not about me. It's about all

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<v Speaker 1>of us, and it's about anxiety, and it's about not

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<v Speaker 1>feeling so alone, because that was always the worst part

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<v Speaker 1>of it for me, was that I felt so alone

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<v Speaker 1>when I had it, and even after I found out

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<v Speaker 1>what I had was normal, I still felt alone because

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<v Speaker 1>not a lot of people were talking about it. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk about it, Anxiety Bites. But you're in control,

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<v Speaker 1>and now let's talk to our guest today on Anxiety Bites.

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<v Speaker 1>I am talking to Dr Judd Brewer. He's a New

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<v Speaker 1>York Times bestselling author. He's a neuroscientist. He's the director

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<v Speaker 1>of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and Associate

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<v Speaker 1>professor and Behavioral and Social Sciences at the School of

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<v Speaker 1>Public Health and Psychiatry at the School of Medicine at

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<v Speaker 1>Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at m

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<v Speaker 1>I T. He's a wicked smartt you guys. His latest

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<v Speaker 1>book is called Unwinding Anxiety, a clinically proven, step by

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<v Speaker 1>step plan to break the cycle of worry and fear

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<v Speaker 1>that drives anxiety and addictive habits. So in this book,

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<v Speaker 1>Dr Judd is basically saying anxiety as a habit and

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<v Speaker 1>we can approach treating it the way we might approach

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<v Speaker 1>quitting smoking. Dr JEDD's book was called Craving Mind From

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<v Speaker 1>Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love, Why we get hooked and

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<v Speaker 1>how we can break bad habits. Doctor Jedd has done

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<v Speaker 1>a ton of TED talks, He's written articles. All of

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<v Speaker 1>the places that you can find him will be linked

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<v Speaker 1>in the show notes. And he's also the creator of

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<v Speaker 1>the Unwinding Anxiety app. It's a step by step program

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<v Speaker 1>for your smartphone or tab it. It helps you uncover

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<v Speaker 1>your triggers, break the cycle of worry and panic, identify

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<v Speaker 1>your anxiety habits, and learn specific anti anxiety tools. So

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<v Speaker 1>I've been a fan of doctor Judd for a while now.

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<v Speaker 1>I've just heard him on other podcasts and I've read

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<v Speaker 1>his books and the way he approaches anxiety as something

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<v Speaker 1>that we do have control over, and that in a

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<v Speaker 1>weird way, the way we've been habitually having anxiety, and weirdly,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a little bit of a reward system there, even

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<v Speaker 1>though it's a disordered reward. We're getting something out of worrying,

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<v Speaker 1>and so we have to change that and replace it

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<v Speaker 1>with something. So it's not easy, and I think a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people don't want to look at it that

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<v Speaker 1>way because you want to think, no, I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>any control. Anxiety is just something that's happening to me.

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<v Speaker 1>And yet isn't that what all of us anxious people

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<v Speaker 1>want is control. I think we want control over the

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<v Speaker 1>world and other people's actions. But when we're told, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you have control over your own actions or well, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want that's not a fun kind of control though. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>In my interview with Dr Judd, I talked to him

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<v Speaker 1>about his personal experience with anxiety that he actually thought

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<v Speaker 1>was ib s, how he gets anxious about his patients

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<v Speaker 1>who have anxiety, and what he's learned over the past

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five years studying the mind and how anxiety is driven,

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<v Speaker 1>and we talk about why his dream for his app,

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<v Speaker 1>Unwinding Anxiety is that people eventually unsubscribed from it. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk to your new favorite person, doctor Jedd, doctor

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<v Speaker 1>Judd Brewer, thank you for being on anxiety Bites. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to ask you what is your past relationship to

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<v Speaker 1>anxiety and what's your current relationship to anxiety today? Be

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<v Speaker 1>happy to explore my relationship with anxiety. You know it

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<v Speaker 1>started way back in the day. Actually, I didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>know I had anxiety. In college. I remember having let's

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<v Speaker 1>just say, some g I issues, you know, I'd talk

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit about this at the end of my book,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, you know, your new book on my anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>And I, you know, done a bunch of backpacking in

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<v Speaker 1>college and was also, you know, always concerned about you know,

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<v Speaker 1>getting back curely infections from not you know, carefully filtering

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<v Speaker 1>my water. And so my senior year, I remember going

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<v Speaker 1>to the student health in the doctor there you know,

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<v Speaker 1>these g I issues, and he said, oh, could you

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<v Speaker 1>be stressed out? And It's like, no, not me, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not stressed. I played the violet and I run I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a vegetarian, blah blah blah, and he goes, Okay, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a long story short. It turned out that I had

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<v Speaker 1>irritable ball syndrome, which is totally stressed and anxiety related.

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<v Speaker 1>And so so that was my first encounter, let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>with anxiety, not even knowing it. And so I think,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I think anxiety can really be a shape

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<v Speaker 1>shifter in many ways. A long story short. I went

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<v Speaker 1>on to get panic attacks during residency, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in my psychiatry residency, which was really fun because then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, after I have a panic attack, I could

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<v Speaker 1>go down the diagnostic checklist and be like check check, check, check. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just had a panic attack, you know. And and

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<v Speaker 1>today I would say, you know, a lot of what

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned about my own mind has helped me work

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<v Speaker 1>with anxiety. I certainly get sensations and feelings that come up,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's I'm much more able to manage and work

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<v Speaker 1>with it. And um, I can you know, I jokingly say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I I wrote this book because I was

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<v Speaker 1>anxious about how to help my patients with anxiety, because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, what I learned in medical school and residency

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<v Speaker 1>was to prescribe medications and the gold standard medications out there.

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<v Speaker 1>There's this term in medicine called number needed to treat,

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<v Speaker 1>which gives us a quick and dirty estimate of how

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<v Speaker 1>well something works. So the higher than number of the

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<v Speaker 1>worst it is. So with medications, that number needed to

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<v Speaker 1>treat is five point two, meaning you have to treat

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<v Speaker 1>five patients before one person shows a significant reduction and symptoms.

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<v Speaker 1>So you can imagine, for five patients come into my

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<v Speaker 1>office in one day, I don't know which of those

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<v Speaker 1>five is going to benefit, so I'm basically playing the

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<v Speaker 1>medication lottery with them, and I don't know what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do with the other. So I'm getting anxious about

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<v Speaker 1>to help my patients with anxiety. So those that's that's

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<v Speaker 1>my you know, my previous and I guess current relationship is.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been blown away with what I've learned about my

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<v Speaker 1>own mind. So I started meditating at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 1>medical school, first day of medical school, and over the

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<v Speaker 1>last twenty five years have learned so much about how

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<v Speaker 1>my mind works and all these twists and turns and

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<v Speaker 1>serendipity around how anxiety can be driven. That that's where

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<v Speaker 1>we started developing programs and then as a researcher testing

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<v Speaker 1>them to see how well they can work. And long

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<v Speaker 1>story short, that's why I wrote this on Running Anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>book was to make it accessible, make these these tools

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<v Speaker 1>accessible to anyone. Man, I wish you'd been around when

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<v Speaker 1>I was a teenager with anxiety and no Internet and

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know what it was. And I was afraid to

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<v Speaker 1>ask the Life arian if they had any books about

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<v Speaker 1>the brain, because I thought she was going to say, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to call the hospital and you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>have to live there the rest of your life. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you perhaps anxious? That's very bad? You know? Can you

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<v Speaker 1>hold for one minute please? And then she starts whispering, Well, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so let me get into this. And I want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about obviously your book and your app, but I

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<v Speaker 1>have a question about the brain because you are also

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<v Speaker 1>a neuroscientist. Is that right? Okay? First of all, when

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<v Speaker 1>the hell are our brains going to evolve past this?

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<v Speaker 1>Because if I hear one more time, oh, it's left

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<v Speaker 1>over from being a caveman. Well okay, but when when

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<v Speaker 1>will this change? When will this default setting to being

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<v Speaker 1>anxious and overreacting? You know, when in our lifetime now, well,

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<v Speaker 1>right from a genetic perspective, not in our lifetime. From

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<v Speaker 1>a functional perspective, I think it can happen. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>this evolutionary process can happen pretty quickly. So you can

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<v Speaker 1>look at to see how quickly we have learned to

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<v Speaker 1>use technology as a way to leverage attention. Right, So

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<v Speaker 1>that happened pretty darned quickly, you know. Within you know,

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<v Speaker 1>eighteen hundreds, there were you know, first researchers showing that

0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.360
<v Speaker 1>animals could learn how to get out of cages by

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<v Speaker 1>you getting a food reward. So that was you know,

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<v Speaker 1>late eighteen hundreds. That was a hundred and twenty years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>And now you can look at social media and how

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<v Speaker 1>they are totally getting us all addicted to those things.

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<v Speaker 1>So this process has been understood and people have adapted

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<v Speaker 1>it to capture our attention. And this is also driven

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<v Speaker 1>our anxiety, and so that as soon as we learn

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<v Speaker 1>how that works. You know, the way I think of

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<v Speaker 1>it is, if we can learn how our minds work,

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<v Speaker 1>then we can start to work with our minds. And

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<v Speaker 1>so in that sense, just like you know, it's capturing

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<v Speaker 1>our attention, it's capturing our the uncertainty you know around um,

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<v Speaker 1>I think of it this way. The only certain thing

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<v Speaker 1>is that there's always going to be uncertainty. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>not actually something that we want to evolve beyond because

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<v Speaker 1>that helps to survive. But what we can learn is

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<v Speaker 1>how that uncertainty drives anxiety, and that's something that we

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<v Speaker 1>can learn to work with within months. You know. For example,

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<v Speaker 1>my lab has done several clinical studies where we got

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<v Speaker 1>a fifty seven percent reduction in clinically validate anxiety scores

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<v Speaker 1>in anxious physicians using an app. You know, we did

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<v Speaker 1>a study with generalized anxiety disorder. We got the sixty

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<v Speaker 1>seven percent reduction, and there we could actually calculate that

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<v Speaker 1>number needed to treat the thing I mentioned earlier ray

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<v Speaker 1>for this. So in medications it's five. With this study

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<v Speaker 1>it was one point six, So so it only takes

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<v Speaker 1>one point six people doing this kind of a mindful

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<v Speaker 1>thought behavioral work around anxiety to see your results. Is

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<v Speaker 1>that what you mean? That's great. When I first found

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<v Speaker 1>out twenty years ago, when I went to therapy for panic,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was explained to me that it's just my

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<v Speaker 1>adrenaline kind of seaking out and it's this leftover thing

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<v Speaker 1>from you know, my brain is trying to protect me.

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<v Speaker 1>That that was of great comfort. But I know for

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<v Speaker 1>some people that it can seem like, oh great, well

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<v Speaker 1>now it can't be fixed. But like a lot of things,

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<v Speaker 1>we we can actually change our mind literally literally we can.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think one thing that I see they get

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<v Speaker 1>some conflated or mixed mushed together, is people conflating the

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<v Speaker 1>survival piece with the actual anxiety piece. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>think of the Cayman brain, it was really set up

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<v Speaker 1>to develop habits, you know, where it's it's about learning

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<v Speaker 1>where to remember food is and also how to avoid danger.

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<v Speaker 1>On top of that's been layered the neo cortex, literally

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<v Speaker 1>the new brain, which helps us survive in a different way,

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<v Speaker 1>which is through thinking and planning. And that survival comes

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<v Speaker 1>based on getting information, like accurate information in the present moment,

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<v Speaker 1>so we can our brains can basically simulate based on

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<v Speaker 1>past experience using information that we have. So here it's about,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if we don't have accurate information, that's when

0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:08.639
<v Speaker 1>our brains starts spinning out of control into anxiety. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think I want folks to be very you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to understand that because it's not just our adrenaline. Certainly,

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<v Speaker 1>when we get freaked out, our adrenaline pumps, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that you know, that fear reaction that happens really quickly,

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<v Speaker 1>actually faster than we can even think. That's a survival

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<v Speaker 1>mechanism that helps us learn to avoid danger. That's different

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<v Speaker 1>than anxiety. Does that make sense? That makes total sense?

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I'm glad you separated that for me too,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think i've like you said, anxiety is a

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<v Speaker 1>shape shifter, and uh, I think sometimes I have conflated

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<v Speaker 1>that fear instinct with with anxiety. Yes, so we all

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<v Speaker 1>have times when we're anxious and when we when we worry,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, that can actually feedback and you know, basically

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<v Speaker 1>kicking our adrenaline that makes us more anxious. So I

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of patients in my clinic who when

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<v Speaker 1>they go to bed, there head hits the pillow and

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<v Speaker 1>the brain starts thinking. And it's like the brain says, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's my turn. Now you get a chance to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>And now it's we start regretting the things we've done

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<v Speaker 1>during the day, or we start worrying about the future.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and then they look at the clock and

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<v Speaker 1>they think, I gotta get sleep because I got this

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<v Speaker 1>thing to do tomorrow, and which, of course, Jack's their adrenaline.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes it much harder for them to sleep. Yeah. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>so now they've just created this kind of thought pattern

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<v Speaker 1>of now the anxiety is about the sleep. Yeah, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>be right back. What what's the story on chemical imbalances?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, is it just sort of a a thing

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<v Speaker 1>that people saying, it's not really something we're born with?

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<v Speaker 1>Or can we change our chemistry in our brain? Well,

0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:00.640
<v Speaker 1>we can certainly change our chemistry in our brain. Thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>will literally have chemical have chemical cascades that lead to

0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:08.520
<v Speaker 1>chemical reactions. So in that sense, we are basically just

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<v Speaker 1>a jumble of chemistry. If you look at the chemical

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<v Speaker 1>and balanced thing, I think it's a simple and quick explanation.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh take this pill because it's a chemical imbalance and

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to help with the chemic. For some people,

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<v Speaker 1>they have genetic polymorphisms, meaning that they're they're they're the

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<v Speaker 1>proteins that are expressed on certain cells look slightly differently

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<v Speaker 1>than other people, which can affect how certain neurotransmitters, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>function in their brain. And for some people, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>things like selective serotonine reactic inhibitors, which are the first

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<v Speaker 1>line treatment like the prozacs, the soul lofts, the paxels

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<v Speaker 1>of the world. That's how you know, for some people

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<v Speaker 1>those can be helpful. Yeah, this is where this number

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<v Speaker 1>needed to treat comes in. It should be noted that

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<v Speaker 1>historically these were developed as antidepressants and people just started

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<v Speaker 1>using um testing them out with anxiety and found, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>they're better than placebo, so we'll prescribe those as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, they affect serrantonin reuptake, that's where their

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<v Speaker 1>name comes from. But it doesn't necessarily mean, especially for

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<v Speaker 1>the majority of the population, some chemical imbalance in their brain.

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<v Speaker 1>It means, this is the best we've got, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>our explanation. So try the pill. And because they're generally benign,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they don't have generally don't have sign effects

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<v Speaker 1>for most people, and you know, they're it's hard to

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<v Speaker 1>overdose on them. For a psychiatrist or even a general

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<v Speaker 1>practitioner like a primary care provider, to to prescribe these

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<v Speaker 1>things and not worry about it too much. And there's

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<v Speaker 1>also you know the added benefit of having a placebo effect.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I am taking a pill to help my brain.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know that's not to discount the placebo effect

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<v Speaker 1>for some medications. That's the majority of effect that's happening

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<v Speaker 1>in and from you know, from my clinical perspective, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like whatever, you know, if this is helping and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not harming, game on. So in terms of the type

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<v Speaker 1>of therapist someone should see, right if if they're experiencing,

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<v Speaker 1>let's say, daily anxiety attacks, um, whether it's thoughts, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts spiraling or sweaty palms or whatnot, or they're avoiding

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<v Speaker 1>certain things driving on the freeway there, you know, certain

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<v Speaker 1>places give them panic attacks, you know, all the whole

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<v Speaker 1>shi bang. And they're looking in a directory and they're

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<v Speaker 1>looking to find a therapist. Is there something they should

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<v Speaker 1>be looking for, because I know that for me when

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<v Speaker 1>I was having daily panic attacks, you know, my therapist

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to go back into childhood, which is great, but

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't going to help me have some tools to

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<v Speaker 1>go to bring to the office the next day. And

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<v Speaker 1>I believe in my recovery as an anxious person that

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<v Speaker 1>I need the tools now because I need to just

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<v Speaker 1>be able to function and then once I'm better, sure,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go back to childhood. Let's talk about this. I

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<v Speaker 1>get it, um, but what what do you tell what

0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:00.040
<v Speaker 1>would you tell someone to look for? So, as a

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<v Speaker 1>hard carrying psychiatrist who is trained about the whole childhood

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<v Speaker 1>thing and all that, it wasn't until I became a

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<v Speaker 1>neuroscientist that I started to realize, you know, neuroscience may

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<v Speaker 1>play a bigger role here in helping people with anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>than going back to our childhood and that childhood piece

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<v Speaker 1>maybe somewhat of a holdover from you know, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>Freudian days or whatever. You know, in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>we're just trained, Oh, this is what we should be doing.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you look at it, especially looking at how

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<v Speaker 1>anxiety is driven. So this is something I did not

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<v Speaker 1>learn in residency training. This is something that I learned afterwards. Serendipitously,

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<v Speaker 1>when I was studying habit changed. You know, we were

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<v Speaker 1>developing programs for smoking and for overeating, and especially with

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<v Speaker 1>our we had this eat right now app that we

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<v Speaker 1>were studying with folks, and folks were saying to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember somebody asking, hey, you know, I'm realizing that anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>is triggering me to Stressy can you create a program

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<v Speaker 1>for anxiety? And I was thinking, well, like medications, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know they don't work that well. So it put

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<v Speaker 1>a bug in my ear. And it was actually back

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<v Speaker 1>in the eighties when prozac, you know, first came out,

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<v Speaker 1>that people are doing research suggesting that anxiety could be

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<v Speaker 1>driven like other habits. And this is really what this

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<v Speaker 1>you know, at this lightbulb moment where I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I never learned that, Why didn't I? Where didn't I

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<v Speaker 1>learned that in residency? And the reason I mentioned that

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<v Speaker 1>is that when I started looking to the neuroscience behind

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<v Speaker 1>how that works, it's like, oh, habits are driven through rewards,

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<v Speaker 1>not based on childhood. There's actually a formula called Carla

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<v Speaker 1>Wagner curves. The details aren't important, but basically, how rewarding

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<v Speaker 1>a behavior is is going to drive whether we perpetuate

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<v Speaker 1>it or not, whether we keep doing it or not.

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<v Speaker 1>Childhood is nowhere in that equation. You want to change

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<v Speaker 1>the behavior, including worrying, which drives anxiety. It's not about

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<v Speaker 1>going back into the childhood. It's a about what's happening now,

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<v Speaker 1>what's driving this? And can we take a neuroscience based approach?

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<v Speaker 1>So long long answer to your short question, whoever it

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<v Speaker 1>is make sure that they're actually up on the current

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<v Speaker 1>neuroscience and not just you know, I had freedom psychoanalysis

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<v Speaker 1>training or something like that. Nothing wrong with that, but

0:24:20.560 --> 0:24:23.520
<v Speaker 1>we know a lot more now than was known in

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<v Speaker 1>Freud's days. But I think it's a it is a

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<v Speaker 1>sophisticated concept that Okay, you're doing this habit, this anxiety,

0:24:31.640 --> 0:24:34.480
<v Speaker 1>whether it's the kind of thought spiraling you're doing before

0:24:34.480 --> 0:24:36.440
<v Speaker 1>you go on a trip, or you're drinking every nite

0:24:36.440 --> 0:24:39.360
<v Speaker 1>to handle the work stress, whatever it is, you're actually

0:24:39.359 --> 0:24:42.800
<v Speaker 1>getting some kind of reward, however disordered it is, from

0:24:42.840 --> 0:24:44.480
<v Speaker 1>doing this. Let's look at it and get you a

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:48.320
<v Speaker 1>better reward. I mean, first, right there, somebody has to

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<v Speaker 1>be willing to say, for lack of a better word,

0:24:52.280 --> 0:24:54.600
<v Speaker 1>it's my quote fault. But I feel like that that

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<v Speaker 1>must be challenging to you know, I think there's some

0:24:57.560 --> 0:25:00.680
<v Speaker 1>comfort and saying no, no, no, I'm not doing anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Life is happening to me, now fix it, you know,

0:25:03.920 --> 0:25:08.040
<v Speaker 1>don't make me change something that must be extremely challenging

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<v Speaker 1>in your podcast, right And I actually learned something from

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<v Speaker 1>one of my patients that i've I've used to help

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<v Speaker 1>my other patients with this exact question that you're asking,

0:25:19.440 --> 0:25:21.679
<v Speaker 1>which is one of my patients. So, as I was

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<v Speaker 1>working with a patient and helping her understand like this

0:25:24.359 --> 0:25:28.040
<v Speaker 1>was basically, you know, her brain trying to help her survive,

0:25:28.119 --> 0:25:30.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, this thinking and planning brain going offline. She

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<v Speaker 1>actually started using this mantra with herself when she noticed

0:25:34.920 --> 0:25:36.760
<v Speaker 1>that she was starting to get repped up with anxiety.

0:25:36.840 --> 0:25:39.280
<v Speaker 1>She just used this mantra, Oh, that's just my brain.

0:25:40.040 --> 0:25:43.119
<v Speaker 1>And what that reminded her of was that it was

0:25:43.160 --> 0:25:47.840
<v Speaker 1>her brain doing this thing, it wasn't actually her fault,

0:25:48.359 --> 0:25:52.520
<v Speaker 1>and it could also help her remind herself, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>know how to work with this, so she could ground

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<v Speaker 1>herself and actually work with it. That's incredible, Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>I do think the irony about anxious people myself and

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<v Speaker 1>what did is we just want control. We want to

0:26:02.359 --> 0:26:05.120
<v Speaker 1>control the universe, we want to control you know, everything,

0:26:06.200 --> 0:26:09.760
<v Speaker 1>and things like your book on winding anxiety and working

0:26:09.800 --> 0:26:15.160
<v Speaker 1>with a therapist, you're actually being given the greatest gifts, control, options, choices,

0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:17.359
<v Speaker 1>and we're like no, no, no, no, no, don't you

0:26:17.400 --> 0:26:19.239
<v Speaker 1>know I don't want to It's just funny. I see that.

0:26:19.440 --> 0:26:22.119
<v Speaker 1>I saw that so many years in myself, Like someone

0:26:22.240 --> 0:26:24.400
<v Speaker 1>is giving me exactly what I want. Here you can

0:26:24.480 --> 0:26:26.240
<v Speaker 1>control this, and I'm like, now I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. And so you know, it's it's tough. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like everything you're saying in your book makes total sense,

0:26:31.440 --> 0:26:33.280
<v Speaker 1>but I imagine as the person that has to work

0:26:33.280 --> 0:26:36.280
<v Speaker 1>with people, it might take a beat to get there,

0:26:36.400 --> 0:26:40.240
<v Speaker 1>right it can, and so here I find two things

0:26:41.080 --> 0:26:43.600
<v Speaker 1>that are common. One is when the anxiety gets bad enough.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of like somebody getting into the gutter with

0:26:45.880 --> 0:26:48.399
<v Speaker 1>when they're drinking. Becomes bad enough, then they wake up

0:26:48.400 --> 0:26:50.879
<v Speaker 1>and're like, wow, this is a problem. Just something about this.

0:26:51.520 --> 0:26:54.040
<v Speaker 1>So when somebody's anxiety is bad enough, they're more driven

0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:57.480
<v Speaker 1>to find a solution. I hope that we can reach

0:26:57.520 --> 0:27:00.359
<v Speaker 1>people before that because I hate to see people suffer

0:27:00.400 --> 0:27:04.439
<v Speaker 1>from debility to tating anxiety. The other piece is to

0:27:04.480 --> 0:27:07.159
<v Speaker 1>really be able to see, oh, you know, this is

0:27:07.240 --> 0:27:10.159
<v Speaker 1>just my brain and we're giving them these tools. You know,

0:27:10.280 --> 0:27:13.480
<v Speaker 1>think of it as knowledge is power, And so for

0:27:13.560 --> 0:27:17.080
<v Speaker 1>anybody listening, keep in mind, the more you know about

0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:19.439
<v Speaker 1>how your mind works, the more you'll be able to

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:22.800
<v Speaker 1>work with it. And this applies beyond anxiety. So if

0:27:22.800 --> 0:27:24.760
<v Speaker 1>you're not sure, if you have anxiety or not. Just

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<v Speaker 1>think of any habit that you have, and this same

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<v Speaker 1>process can be applied in the same way, and then

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<v Speaker 1>maybe examine whether you've got a little bit of anxiety

0:27:32.720 --> 0:27:34.840
<v Speaker 1>and then use it in the same way. And I

0:27:34.880 --> 0:27:39.359
<v Speaker 1>want to empower everyone listening to be able to claim anxiety.

0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:41.199
<v Speaker 1>You know, I think so many people think it is

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<v Speaker 1>this big, bad disorder, and you know, they can't say

0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:47.040
<v Speaker 1>they have it because you know, they don't have it

0:27:47.080 --> 0:27:49.080
<v Speaker 1>as bad as this and that. And it's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>just think anxiety is sort of the human condition in

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<v Speaker 1>a way, you know, whether some people experience it often

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<v Speaker 1>or not. I like the way you put that. So

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<v Speaker 1>there is one condition that I certainty can say that

0:28:02.200 --> 0:28:06.000
<v Speaker 1>we all have what you just named the human condition.

0:28:08.119 --> 0:28:11.280
<v Speaker 1>And in that human condition is a whole range of

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:14.200
<v Speaker 1>emotions and a whole range of states. And our brains

0:28:14.200 --> 0:28:16.959
<v Speaker 1>are just they're just trying to gather information so they

0:28:17.000 --> 0:28:20.320
<v Speaker 1>can predict the future. And when there's uncertainty, we might

0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:23.440
<v Speaker 1>get a little anxious, and that's okay. And the more

0:28:23.440 --> 0:28:26.320
<v Speaker 1>we can notice more quickly that we're anxious, the more

0:28:26.359 --> 0:28:28.920
<v Speaker 1>we can actually get our thinking and planning brain back

0:28:28.960 --> 0:28:32.200
<v Speaker 1>online and get back on track. So let's talk about

0:28:32.200 --> 0:28:35.199
<v Speaker 1>how we do some of that. So maybe explain to

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<v Speaker 1>everyone what's an adaptive versus a maladaptive behavior and how

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<v Speaker 1>does that get us on the road to learning about

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<v Speaker 1>changing our habits within Well, let's use any habit as

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<v Speaker 1>an example. So we form habits through a simple process.

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:54.240
<v Speaker 1>You know, three elements of trigger, a behavior, and a result.

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 1>So an adaptive habit. You can think, I won't use

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:00.400
<v Speaker 1>too many examples from our ancient ancests is because I

0:29:00.440 --> 0:29:03.719
<v Speaker 1>agree with you, I think that's overplayed, but it's helpful

0:29:03.760 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 1>to just kind of conceptualize where this comes from. So

0:29:06.280 --> 0:29:09.880
<v Speaker 1>imagine our ancient ancestors didn't have refrigerators, right, they didn't

0:29:09.920 --> 0:29:13.400
<v Speaker 1>have um sources of food that they could get every day.

0:29:13.400 --> 0:29:16.040
<v Speaker 1>They had to go find food, and so the brains

0:29:16.040 --> 0:29:17.920
<v Speaker 1>are set up and our brains are still set up

0:29:17.920 --> 0:29:21.320
<v Speaker 1>this way, you know, to go find the food. So

0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:23.840
<v Speaker 1>the first element is a trigger. They see the food,

0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:26.680
<v Speaker 1>there's the trigger, they eat the food. There's the behavior.

0:29:26.800 --> 0:29:29.440
<v Speaker 1>That's the second element. And then the third element is

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<v Speaker 1>from a neuroscience perspective or reward, where their brain, you know,

0:29:32.720 --> 0:29:35.600
<v Speaker 1>the stomach sense this dopamine signal to their brain that says,

0:29:35.640 --> 0:29:38.080
<v Speaker 1>remember what you ate and where you found it. So

0:29:38.120 --> 0:29:42.160
<v Speaker 1>an adaptive habit is to remember where food is. Another

0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:46.240
<v Speaker 1>adaptive habit in modern day is too well. Think of

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:48.000
<v Speaker 1>all the habits that we have that we do every day,

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<v Speaker 1>like tying our shoes, putting our clothes on, walking, eating breakfast,

0:29:51.520 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>making breakfast, making coffee. Imagine having to relearn those things

0:29:55.640 --> 0:29:57.680
<v Speaker 1>every day. You know, we'd be exhausted by the end

0:29:57.680 --> 0:30:01.160
<v Speaker 1>of breakfast. So the idea there is there are tons

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<v Speaker 1>of adaptive habits that we take for granted because their habitual,

0:30:05.280 --> 0:30:07.720
<v Speaker 1>we do them without thinking. That's basically what habit is.

0:30:07.760 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 1>It's an automatic behavior that that's just cute. So there,

0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:14.479
<v Speaker 1>you know, we've got habits. Most of our habits are

0:30:14.480 --> 0:30:19.480
<v Speaker 1>adaptive and then sometimes they become maladaptive. So based on

0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:23.840
<v Speaker 1>what we've learned, they cannot be so helpful. So maybe

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:26.600
<v Speaker 1>an example would be, so adaptive habit is learning how

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<v Speaker 1>to eat. Maladaptive habit would be learning the value of

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<v Speaker 1>chocolate cake. You know, so we set down this reward

0:30:33.520 --> 0:30:36.120
<v Speaker 1>value of chocolate cake. Typically it starts okay, let's go

0:30:36.160 --> 0:30:40.760
<v Speaker 1>back to childhood. Are you ready? So so we got

0:30:40.760 --> 0:30:44.120
<v Speaker 1>a birthday parties when we're kids, and we associate cake

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:47.320
<v Speaker 1>with not only tasting good, but ice cream and presents

0:30:47.360 --> 0:30:49.720
<v Speaker 1>and friends and parties. And for me, did you ever

0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:54.120
<v Speaker 1>go to roller skating birthday party? You know? Yeah? Yeah,

0:30:54.320 --> 0:30:58.239
<v Speaker 1>I associate that with roller skating sometimes. Um. And so

0:30:58.480 --> 0:31:01.240
<v Speaker 1>imagine all the times we laid on that reward value

0:31:01.400 --> 0:31:04.640
<v Speaker 1>as a kid, and then when we're not a kid anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, when we were kids, we could eat cake

0:31:06.240 --> 0:31:08.440
<v Speaker 1>for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Right, it didn't affect us

0:31:08.440 --> 0:31:11.040
<v Speaker 1>at all, you know, just we're like boom all album

0:31:11.040 --> 0:31:14.080
<v Speaker 1>more cake. Now I get a sugar rushi and crash

0:31:14.120 --> 0:31:15.680
<v Speaker 1>when I eat cake, you know, so I have to

0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 1>eat it very judiciously, you know. And if I ate

0:31:18.840 --> 0:31:21.480
<v Speaker 1>cake for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, things probably wouldn't go

0:31:21.560 --> 0:31:24.280
<v Speaker 1>so well in terms of my body feeling good, in

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:27.960
<v Speaker 1>my brain functioning. So, uh, we can see how that

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 1>can become maladaptive if we just carry that habit forward,

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to take the rest of my life.

0:31:34.400 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 1>So that's where the same behavior can be just fine,

0:31:37.880 --> 0:31:40.840
<v Speaker 1>and then it becomes maladaptive. So I think of, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the far end of the habit spectrum as addiction, right,

0:31:43.520 --> 0:31:45.840
<v Speaker 1>and the simple definition there is like continued to just

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<v Speaker 1>despite adverse consequences. So that can be applied to everything

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<v Speaker 1>from overeating to smoking. Ready for this to worrying, right,

0:31:56.640 --> 0:32:00.240
<v Speaker 1>because worrying tends to be maladaptive. It just it's just

0:32:00.440 --> 0:32:04.000
<v Speaker 1>it gets us all fired up with adrenaline. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>help us solve problems. Actually, it moves this in the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite direction, because it's harder to think and plan when

0:32:08.200 --> 0:32:12.280
<v Speaker 1>we're when we're worrying. I Yet it's it. It becomes

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<v Speaker 1>rewarding in the sense that even if we can't control

0:32:15.200 --> 0:32:18.840
<v Speaker 1>the situation, we at least feel like we're doing something.

0:32:19.120 --> 0:32:21.320
<v Speaker 1>You know. It's like the parents worrying about their kidther

0:32:21.600 --> 0:32:24.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't know if he or she is safe. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just worry about them until they get home. I

0:32:27.200 --> 0:32:30.680
<v Speaker 1>can promise you they're worrying did not keep their kids safe,

0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:33.360
<v Speaker 1>but it gave them something to do. It's like if

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<v Speaker 1>you're driving on the freeway deadlock traffic and you start

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:39.600
<v Speaker 1>taking side streets. It takes the same amount of time,

0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:43.240
<v Speaker 1>but you felt like you were doing something and you

0:32:43.280 --> 0:32:45.320
<v Speaker 1>still we relate to the thing because there were just

0:32:45.360 --> 0:32:46.920
<v Speaker 1>too many cars on the road. That day, you know,

0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:49.479
<v Speaker 1>and and I really relate to that. You know, in

0:32:49.560 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 1>my days of fear flying, I had maladaptive habits I had.

0:32:54.360 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 1>I had the habit of doing certain thinking which only

0:32:58.280 --> 0:33:02.400
<v Speaker 1>increased my anxiety and panic on the flight. And I

0:33:02.440 --> 0:33:06.040
<v Speaker 1>couldn't let it go because the reward I was getting

0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:08.880
<v Speaker 1>was that I had convinced myself that I was inherently

0:33:08.920 --> 0:33:14.600
<v Speaker 1>doing something dangerous and I survived it because I got lucky,

0:33:15.160 --> 0:33:17.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, when the plane landed safely, and that all

0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:20.520
<v Speaker 1>of my worrying was keeping me in reality. I had

0:33:20.560 --> 0:33:25.560
<v Speaker 1>this very insistent thing that listen, nobody bullshit me here.

0:33:25.840 --> 0:33:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to hear about everything's okay and blah blah.

0:33:29.000 --> 0:33:31.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to face reality. You know. I know that

0:33:31.880 --> 0:33:34.200
<v Speaker 1>wasn't even a question. It was just sort of a rant.

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:38.440
<v Speaker 1>And well, I think you're highlighting something that I think

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 1>it's helpful to know, which is our brains love to

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:46.040
<v Speaker 1>make associations, right. One of the biggest ones that I

0:33:46.120 --> 0:33:50.320
<v Speaker 1>see is performance anxiety, where people feel like, well, I

0:33:50.400 --> 0:33:53.720
<v Speaker 1>was anxious and I performed well, so therefore anxiety helped

0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:57.480
<v Speaker 1>me perform well. Wrong, actually wrong, dead wrong. There's no

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<v Speaker 1>evidence to support the fact that anxiety makes people for

0:34:01.360 --> 0:34:04.600
<v Speaker 1>perform better. In fact, there plenty of research showing that

0:34:04.640 --> 0:34:08.080
<v Speaker 1>there's an inverse relationship, being the more anxious someone is,

0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:11.560
<v Speaker 1>the worst they perform. Now, I don't know about you

0:34:11.800 --> 0:34:15.960
<v Speaker 1>when you've performed, but the height, the peak of performance

0:34:16.280 --> 0:34:18.600
<v Speaker 1>is when people talk about being in flow or being

0:34:18.600 --> 0:34:21.960
<v Speaker 1>in the zone and how much anxiety is happening in

0:34:22.000 --> 0:34:25.880
<v Speaker 1>those moments. Zer oh yes. And you know what's interesting

0:34:25.880 --> 0:34:27.680
<v Speaker 1>you said that. I just figured it out now because

0:34:27.760 --> 0:34:31.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm not, uh, honest to God as a performer. I

0:34:31.239 --> 0:34:33.759
<v Speaker 1>really am not like this big, attention starved person. And

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:35.759
<v Speaker 1>so I used to think why the only place I'm

0:34:35.760 --> 0:34:38.560
<v Speaker 1>not anxious is on stage? And it wasn't because I

0:34:38.600 --> 0:34:41.000
<v Speaker 1>love the crowd and the applause. It's not that. It's

0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:44.680
<v Speaker 1>what you're saying. I was in flow, um, and and yeah,

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:47.640
<v Speaker 1>you can't really be anxious when you're I don't know,

0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:49.720
<v Speaker 1>the bad word for that is happy. It's not happy.

0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:53.960
<v Speaker 1>But when you're focused is way I think of this,

0:34:54.080 --> 0:34:56.879
<v Speaker 1>and is you know in the way that Mehi chicks

0:34:56.880 --> 0:34:59.360
<v Speaker 1>and Mohi was the psychologist that termed you know, the

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:03.040
<v Speaker 1>coin the term flow is that we're out of oursel

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:06.200
<v Speaker 1>we're outside of ourselves. Were merged with it. You know.

0:35:06.200 --> 0:35:10.480
<v Speaker 1>It's like action and events are merged into one where

0:35:10.560 --> 0:35:12.560
<v Speaker 1>we lose a whole sense of who we are. We

0:35:12.640 --> 0:35:15.480
<v Speaker 1>lose a sense of self. So he describes this as effortless.

0:35:15.640 --> 0:35:19.160
<v Speaker 1>It's selfless, it's joyful, it's timeless, all these things that

0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:22.600
<v Speaker 1>you talked about. And if you think of anxiety, so

0:35:22.680 --> 0:35:27.359
<v Speaker 1>anxiety makes feels closed down, it feels contracted flow, it

0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:31.680
<v Speaker 1>feels such the opposite. So expanded that you can think

0:35:31.680 --> 0:35:34.840
<v Speaker 1>of anxiety, says okay, here I am because I'm feeling anxious.

0:35:35.560 --> 0:35:39.280
<v Speaker 1>When we've expanded that to infinity, we lose a sense

0:35:39.320 --> 0:35:41.440
<v Speaker 1>of where we end and where the rest of the

0:35:41.480 --> 0:35:44.200
<v Speaker 1>world begins. And in fact, this is where my lab

0:35:44.239 --> 0:35:47.120
<v Speaker 1>has done some research, some neuroscience research on this, where

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<v Speaker 1>there's a part of the brain called the default one network,

0:35:50.000 --> 0:35:53.359
<v Speaker 1>which is involved in self referential processing. Basically, when we're

0:35:53.360 --> 0:35:56.800
<v Speaker 1>thinking about ourselves, it gets activated and it gets really active.

0:35:57.040 --> 0:36:01.160
<v Speaker 1>You said, that's called the default network because it is

0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:05.719
<v Speaker 1>what we default to. We're not doing, say anything else.

0:36:06.440 --> 0:36:09.920
<v Speaker 1>In fact, it probably we're defaulting to this about fifty

0:36:10.320 --> 0:36:13.560
<v Speaker 1>of waking life like this is this is the thinking

0:36:13.560 --> 0:36:15.759
<v Speaker 1>about ourselves and how we feel and what we think

0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:18.480
<v Speaker 1>and making our associations and all that. And so it

0:36:18.480 --> 0:36:22.560
<v Speaker 1>gets activated when we're craving things for everything from cocaine

0:36:22.600 --> 0:36:26.120
<v Speaker 1>to chocolate to gambling, and it gets activated when we worry.

0:36:26.239 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 1>The more we worry, the more it gets activated. Yet

0:36:30.560 --> 0:36:35.080
<v Speaker 1>when we so my lab studied experienced meditators, we find

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:41.279
<v Speaker 1>that experienced meditators decrease activity in that defaultment network. They're

0:36:41.400 --> 0:36:44.319
<v Speaker 1>deactivating that network compared to everybody else. And in fact,

0:36:44.400 --> 0:36:48.239
<v Speaker 1>we've even had folks get into flow while they're in

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:50.719
<v Speaker 1>the in our fm R I scanner and we can

0:36:50.760 --> 0:36:54.760
<v Speaker 1>see their post their defaultment network. Parts of that brain,

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 1>in particular the post your singulate cortex get really quiet

0:36:59.040 --> 0:37:04.120
<v Speaker 1>when they're in flow. Anxiety bites will continue on the

0:37:04.160 --> 0:37:16.520
<v Speaker 1>flip side of this message from our sponsors, This one

0:37:16.640 --> 0:37:18.640
<v Speaker 1>is just sort of a comment, I guess. But you

0:37:18.680 --> 0:37:21.080
<v Speaker 1>mentioned fun. You know, I think anxious people forget to

0:37:21.080 --> 0:37:24.399
<v Speaker 1>have fun, you know, And and I love you talk

0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:26.799
<v Speaker 1>a lot about in your book having a playful attitude, right, so,

0:37:26.880 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 1>being curious about our thoughts and like you said, your

0:37:29.080 --> 0:37:31.799
<v Speaker 1>your patient who said, oh, that's just my brain, you know,

0:37:31.920 --> 0:37:35.360
<v Speaker 1>that's sort of the point of One of the underlying

0:37:35.400 --> 0:37:37.640
<v Speaker 1>points of this podcast is like we can have some

0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:42.040
<v Speaker 1>fun with our self diagnosed anxiety diagnoses. You know, um,

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:45.000
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't have to be I have anxiety. And so

0:37:45.080 --> 0:37:46.960
<v Speaker 1>my point is like a little thing I do is

0:37:47.040 --> 0:37:50.439
<v Speaker 1>I call my anxiety Lisa. So. I used to work

0:37:50.440 --> 0:37:52.799
<v Speaker 1>at this office and the human resources woman was such

0:37:52.840 --> 0:37:55.279
<v Speaker 1>a drama queen, and she would come to my desk

0:37:55.320 --> 0:38:02.960
<v Speaker 1>and she would go Now, if I ask her, what's wrong, there,

0:38:03.000 --> 0:38:06.439
<v Speaker 1>I go. She's often running. If I pretend I didn't

0:38:06.480 --> 0:38:11.080
<v Speaker 1>hear her sighing, then she goes away. So my anxiety

0:38:11.160 --> 0:38:13.399
<v Speaker 1>tries to get my attention. Hey, when are you gonna die?

0:38:13.520 --> 0:38:16.560
<v Speaker 1>Hey you can't sleep tonight? Hey blah blah blah. That's

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:19.959
<v Speaker 1>Lisa sighing. I don't have to follow it down its road.

0:38:20.000 --> 0:38:23.399
<v Speaker 1>I can just go, h, thanks for weighing in and

0:38:23.400 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 1>and move on. Yeah, And you're giving a great example

0:38:26.680 --> 0:38:29.920
<v Speaker 1>of how things like mindfulness training like we use in

0:38:29.920 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 1>this Unwinning Anxiety app can help people get that perspective

0:38:33.760 --> 0:38:37.640
<v Speaker 1>where if you can see anxiety as thoughts and emotions

0:38:37.640 --> 0:38:41.480
<v Speaker 1>and body sensations, then you get perspective and you're no

0:38:41.560 --> 0:38:45.080
<v Speaker 1>longer as identified with it. You know, in physics they

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:48.440
<v Speaker 1>call this observer effect. By observing, you're affecting the results.

0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:51.480
<v Speaker 1>We can do that with our minds by seeing. And

0:38:51.520 --> 0:38:54.239
<v Speaker 1>I love how you name it Lisa. You know, it's like, oh,

0:38:54.360 --> 0:38:57.040
<v Speaker 1>there is Lisa again as compared to you know, you

0:38:57.080 --> 0:39:00.480
<v Speaker 1>are locking arms with Lisa and she's your she's grabbing

0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:04.120
<v Speaker 1>you and dragging you along. It's like, oh, there it is. Oh,

0:39:04.160 --> 0:39:08.080
<v Speaker 1>there's that thought, there's that body sensation and the oh

0:39:08.280 --> 0:39:11.560
<v Speaker 1>that's really where the curiosity comes in. It's like, oh,

0:39:11.600 --> 0:39:14.480
<v Speaker 1>this is this? So, for example, getting really curious when

0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:18.839
<v Speaker 1>we're anxious, it's like, oh, there's restlessness, there's tightness, there's heat. Well,

0:39:18.920 --> 0:39:22.560
<v Speaker 1>is it restlessness that equals anxiety? No, it's just restlessness.

0:39:22.680 --> 0:39:25.440
<v Speaker 1>Is it heat? Well, now that's heat, is it? The

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:27.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, is that that burning quality of this rising

0:39:27.920 --> 0:39:30.400
<v Speaker 1>my chest? Well, that's just burning rising my chest. So

0:39:30.440 --> 0:39:32.880
<v Speaker 1>it's not that these are pleasant, but it helps us

0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:36.080
<v Speaker 1>see that this big, bad concept of that we labeled

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.759
<v Speaker 1>anxiety is made up of physical sensations, and the more

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:43.080
<v Speaker 1>curious we get about them, the less identified we are

0:39:43.200 --> 0:39:46.400
<v Speaker 1>with them. So you have this wonderful app called unwind

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:49.480
<v Speaker 1>and I'm looking at it right now, and you can

0:39:49.520 --> 0:39:51.640
<v Speaker 1>do things like check in. So I'm checking in and

0:39:51.640 --> 0:39:54.080
<v Speaker 1>it asked me how I'm feeling. I could put anxious,

0:39:54.080 --> 0:39:57.080
<v Speaker 1>how anxious skill a one to tend hit next, and

0:39:57.080 --> 0:39:59.000
<v Speaker 1>then you know, you might take me through. Okay, so

0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:00.799
<v Speaker 1>bring your awareness to your thoughts, or it might give

0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:03.320
<v Speaker 1>you a little breathing exercise. So I really highly recommend

0:40:03.320 --> 0:40:06.840
<v Speaker 1>everyone get this app. And uh, I do mean this

0:40:06.880 --> 0:40:09.759
<v Speaker 1>as a compliment, but one time I used it last

0:40:09.760 --> 0:40:11.640
<v Speaker 1>week when I was feeling anxious, and I swear to God,

0:40:11.680 --> 0:40:14.319
<v Speaker 1>all I had to do was and I didn't even

0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:17.319
<v Speaker 1>end up doing anything because there's something in my brain

0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:18.920
<v Speaker 1>that goes, well, there's an app for this, so what

0:40:19.040 --> 0:40:21.919
<v Speaker 1>you have is normal and you just needed to check

0:40:21.960 --> 0:40:24.640
<v Speaker 1>in and get out of the default mode you talk about.

0:40:24.680 --> 0:40:26.680
<v Speaker 1>And then I didn't even end up checking and I

0:40:26.719 --> 0:40:30.400
<v Speaker 1>just merely opening the app and knowing that there's a

0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:32.719
<v Speaker 1>name for what I have, and it was enough for

0:40:32.760 --> 0:40:36.279
<v Speaker 1>that day. I'm not recommending people don't use and that's

0:40:36.480 --> 0:40:40.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, we've designed this with the world's worst business

0:40:40.080 --> 0:40:43.240
<v Speaker 1>model in mind, which is we've designed this on winding

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:47.080
<v Speaker 1>anxiety app to help empower people to learn how their

0:40:47.120 --> 0:40:50.000
<v Speaker 1>minds work and to work with their minds so that

0:40:50.040 --> 0:40:53.400
<v Speaker 1>they can internalize the training, because we're not trying to

0:40:53.440 --> 0:40:56.200
<v Speaker 1>get them to subscribe for life so we make more money.

0:40:56.239 --> 0:40:58.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm a I'm a psychiatrist. I want to help people,

0:40:58.920 --> 0:41:01.600
<v Speaker 1>and so the sooner somebody learns how to work with

0:41:01.640 --> 0:41:05.040
<v Speaker 1>their mind, the less they actually need it. And like

0:41:05.080 --> 0:41:08.759
<v Speaker 1>you're saying, just that association, like oh, I know how

0:41:08.800 --> 0:41:11.839
<v Speaker 1>to work with my mind. Just having it there can

0:41:11.960 --> 0:41:14.719
<v Speaker 1>help somebody, you know, once they've learned the tools, and

0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:16.560
<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you've done a great job with this,

0:41:17.040 --> 0:41:20.759
<v Speaker 1>they can internalize and use those tools whenever they need them. Yeah,

0:41:20.800 --> 0:41:22.520
<v Speaker 1>and I noticed it just sort of stopped, even the

0:41:22.560 --> 0:41:25.719
<v Speaker 1>physical sensation. So before we go, may I ask you

0:41:25.800 --> 0:41:27.719
<v Speaker 1>to do a little a little play with me. It's

0:41:27.719 --> 0:41:31.520
<v Speaker 1>an improvisational play. And uh okay, So I want to

0:41:31.520 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 1>take someone through what they should do in a panic attack,

0:41:34.160 --> 0:41:35.839
<v Speaker 1>right because and I know that we could have gone

0:41:35.840 --> 0:41:38.839
<v Speaker 1>on and on about your meditation practice, and maybe you'll

0:41:38.880 --> 0:41:41.359
<v Speaker 1>come back and we'll talk about that. But it's really

0:41:41.360 --> 0:41:43.040
<v Speaker 1>hard when you're in the middle of a panic attack

0:41:43.160 --> 0:41:45.680
<v Speaker 1>to suddenly start meditating or you know, I mean, it's

0:41:45.680 --> 0:41:48.480
<v Speaker 1>just not gonna happen. Right. So, let's say I'm on

0:41:48.520 --> 0:41:51.279
<v Speaker 1>an airplane and I'm having a panic attack, and you're

0:41:51.320 --> 0:41:54.440
<v Speaker 1>next to me, you're my coach, and I begin So

0:41:54.520 --> 0:41:57.040
<v Speaker 1>here it comes the sweaty palms, my heart's racing, and

0:41:57.160 --> 0:42:00.680
<v Speaker 1>feeling feelings of unreality. I'm going to die. Oh my god.

0:42:01.280 --> 0:42:02.719
<v Speaker 1>What do you say to me in that moment to

0:42:02.800 --> 0:42:08.080
<v Speaker 1>get me to try to stop this attack? Yeah? So knowing, so,

0:42:08.120 --> 0:42:10.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna say this. So in my mind as

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:12.200
<v Speaker 1>a neuroscientist, the first thing I'm going to think is

0:42:12.280 --> 0:42:15.040
<v Speaker 1>this person is having a panic attack, so they're thinking

0:42:15.040 --> 0:42:17.680
<v Speaker 1>and planning. Part of their brain is offline. They can't

0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:21.440
<v Speaker 1>actually utilize their rational brain right now, So we're not

0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:24.080
<v Speaker 1>going to go there. Okay. So you're sitting next to

0:42:24.120 --> 0:42:26.399
<v Speaker 1>me and I say, okay, pull out your hand. We're

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:29.240
<v Speaker 1>going to do this practice called five finger breathing together.

0:42:29.360 --> 0:42:32.520
<v Speaker 1>You want to do this, okay, but I can't breathe

0:42:32.600 --> 0:42:35.000
<v Speaker 1>in short of breath. What do you mean, Take your

0:42:35.040 --> 0:42:37.120
<v Speaker 1>index finger of one hand and put it at the

0:42:37.200 --> 0:42:39.719
<v Speaker 1>outside of the base of your pinky of your other hand.

0:42:39.800 --> 0:42:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Can you do that? Yeah, okay, I'll do that a while.

0:42:42.600 --> 0:42:46.080
<v Speaker 1>The plane's crashing. So as you breathe in, trace up

0:42:46.120 --> 0:42:49.359
<v Speaker 1>the outside of your pinky and feel what that feels like.

0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:52.800
<v Speaker 1>Now pause there for a second. Now I should breathe

0:42:52.800 --> 0:42:55.680
<v Speaker 1>in trace at the outside of your ring finger, long

0:42:55.760 --> 0:43:00.440
<v Speaker 1>deep breath, as you breathe out, traced down the inside

0:43:00.440 --> 0:43:03.000
<v Speaker 1>of your ring finger. And we're gonna do one more.

0:43:03.200 --> 0:43:05.839
<v Speaker 1>As you breathe in trace up the outside of your

0:43:05.840 --> 0:43:09.440
<v Speaker 1>middle finger, and as you breathe out, traced down the

0:43:09.480 --> 0:43:12.400
<v Speaker 1>inside of your middle finger. And if we were doing this,

0:43:12.480 --> 0:43:14.960
<v Speaker 1>we would keep going for five breasts up to your thumb,

0:43:15.000 --> 0:43:17.239
<v Speaker 1>and we do another five breasts from your thumb back

0:43:17.239 --> 0:43:22.200
<v Speaker 1>to your pinky. Yeah, so ten breaths of forcing your

0:43:22.520 --> 0:43:24.759
<v Speaker 1>working memory, part of your brain to pay attention to

0:43:24.880 --> 0:43:28.360
<v Speaker 1>four things at once. Okay, you're breathing rate your fingers,

0:43:28.440 --> 0:43:32.080
<v Speaker 1>your index finger, and your pinky, and then also visually

0:43:32.160 --> 0:43:35.760
<v Speaker 1>seeing your hands. Okay, those four things. Our brains can't

0:43:35.800 --> 0:43:38.800
<v Speaker 1>hold much more in working memory than four things at once.

0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 1>So if we do that, it does multiple things. One

0:43:43.040 --> 0:43:45.320
<v Speaker 1>is it forces us to see how quickly we're breathing.

0:43:45.400 --> 0:43:47.600
<v Speaker 1>And typically when you're tracing up your finger, our breathing

0:43:47.640 --> 0:43:49.759
<v Speaker 1>starts to slow down. Already. Typically, when we're anxious, we're

0:43:49.760 --> 0:43:52.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna breathe rapidly, so it starts to slow down our breathing.

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:55.920
<v Speaker 1>And at the same time, it's it's like our brain

0:43:56.000 --> 0:43:58.319
<v Speaker 1>has a certain amount of working memory. It crowds out

0:43:58.320 --> 0:44:01.480
<v Speaker 1>the working memory from those anxious oots. So those anxious

0:44:01.480 --> 0:44:05.000
<v Speaker 1>thoughts gets booted right, and when we take ten breasts,

0:44:05.000 --> 0:44:08.920
<v Speaker 1>our physiology calms down and when those thoughts come back on.

0:44:09.000 --> 0:44:11.960
<v Speaker 1>Now there's a mismatch in terms of arousal level. Our

0:44:12.000 --> 0:44:15.040
<v Speaker 1>body is calmer. Those thoughts come in at a different

0:44:15.080 --> 0:44:17.480
<v Speaker 1>arousal level, and they say, hey, we're supposed to be anxious,

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:20.000
<v Speaker 1>and our body says, well, I'm not actually feeling as

0:44:20.080 --> 0:44:23.120
<v Speaker 1>anxious as I was. So it's easier to be able

0:44:23.160 --> 0:44:25.840
<v Speaker 1>to watch those thoughts and just name, oh, there's Lisa

0:44:26.440 --> 0:44:29.960
<v Speaker 1>or whatever and let them go rather than get caught

0:44:30.000 --> 0:44:31.759
<v Speaker 1>up in them. Because if the arousal level is the

0:44:31.800 --> 0:44:35.279
<v Speaker 1>same for the body and the thinking brain, they're gonna

0:44:35.320 --> 0:44:37.000
<v Speaker 1>play off of each other and they're just gonna be like,

0:44:37.040 --> 0:44:39.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm anxious. Oh yeah, I'm really anxious. Now I'm really

0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:41.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, and they just go out back and forth

0:44:41.400 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 1>with each other. So if your body is calm your

0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.400
<v Speaker 1>anxious thoughts come in like a bunch of guys with

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.600
<v Speaker 1>a six pack and they're like, yeah, let's party. And

0:44:49.600 --> 0:44:51.320
<v Speaker 1>they opened the door to the house and it's some

0:44:51.400 --> 0:44:54.719
<v Speaker 1>old ladies knitting and they're like, She's like, oh, pull

0:44:54.800 --> 0:45:00.000
<v Speaker 1>up its chair, I've got some yarn. Let's party. Well

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:01.640
<v Speaker 1>us And I know you have to go go be

0:45:01.960 --> 0:45:06.319
<v Speaker 1>a real doctor here, but I want to thank you

0:45:06.360 --> 0:45:10.040
<v Speaker 1>for coming on anxiety Bites and being uh so informative.

0:45:10.440 --> 0:45:15.520
<v Speaker 1>My pleasure, Thanks for having him, Thanks for listening to

0:45:15.640 --> 0:45:18.600
<v Speaker 1>anxiety bis. I hope you enjoyed my chat with Dr

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:22.000
<v Speaker 1>Judd Brewer. So I made a list of some of

0:45:22.040 --> 0:45:25.000
<v Speaker 1>the practical takeaways that we learned today if you want

0:45:25.040 --> 0:45:28.680
<v Speaker 1>to refresh yourself. So number one is doctor Jedd said,

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:32.200
<v Speaker 1>the only certain thing is that there's always going to

0:45:32.239 --> 0:45:36.080
<v Speaker 1>be uncertainty. So uncertainty is not something we want to

0:45:36.160 --> 0:45:40.200
<v Speaker 1>evolve beyond because it helps us survive too. It's not

0:45:40.280 --> 0:45:43.400
<v Speaker 1>just adrenaline that makes us anxious. It's a natural function

0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:46.760
<v Speaker 1>of our mind to feel fear when the brain doesn't

0:45:46.800 --> 0:45:50.760
<v Speaker 1>have accurate information, and it's a survival mechanism that helps

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:54.879
<v Speaker 1>us learn to avoid danger. Three worry can feedback and

0:45:55.000 --> 0:45:58.960
<v Speaker 1>kick in our adrenaline, which makes us more anxious. For

0:45:59.280 --> 0:46:04.200
<v Speaker 1>neuroscience may play a bigger role in helping people with anxiety. Then,

0:46:04.360 --> 0:46:09.400
<v Speaker 1>going back to childhood in our therapy sessions. Five, habits

0:46:09.440 --> 0:46:13.400
<v Speaker 1>are driven through rewards and how rewarding a behavior is.

0:46:14.280 --> 0:46:18.680
<v Speaker 1>So that's going to drive a whether we perpetuate a

0:46:18.719 --> 0:46:23.080
<v Speaker 1>behavior or not. But by the way, rewards can be disordered,

0:46:23.120 --> 0:46:27.399
<v Speaker 1>and that's where it can get tricky. Six. The more

0:46:27.480 --> 0:46:29.799
<v Speaker 1>you know about how your mind works, the more you'll

0:46:29.840 --> 0:46:33.560
<v Speaker 1>be able to work with it. I think that was

0:46:33.600 --> 0:46:36.839
<v Speaker 1>actually seven. I at some point I've lost to count here.

0:46:38.480 --> 0:46:40.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to go back and re record this.

0:46:40.560 --> 0:46:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I told you this podcast is nothing if not unpretentious.

0:46:45.000 --> 0:46:48.319
<v Speaker 1>So whatever the next one is, the more quickly we

0:46:48.360 --> 0:46:52.160
<v Speaker 1>can notice we're anxious, then the more we can get

0:46:52.160 --> 0:46:55.200
<v Speaker 1>our thinking and planning brain online and get back on track.

0:46:55.719 --> 0:46:59.760
<v Speaker 1>A habit is just automatic behavior, and some are healthy,

0:47:00.000 --> 0:47:05.280
<v Speaker 1>are adaptive, and some are maladaptive. Like worry, worry doesn't

0:47:05.320 --> 0:47:08.120
<v Speaker 1>help us solve problems. That actually moves us in the

0:47:08.160 --> 0:47:12.879
<v Speaker 1>opposite direction, as worry makes the brain literally unable to think.

0:47:13.560 --> 0:47:17.600
<v Speaker 1>There is no scientific evidence to support the notion that

0:47:17.640 --> 0:47:21.640
<v Speaker 1>anxiety makes us perform better when in actuality the peak

0:47:21.719 --> 0:47:24.840
<v Speaker 1>of performances when we are in the zone or what's

0:47:24.880 --> 0:47:29.520
<v Speaker 1>called in flow, and the term flow means we are

0:47:29.600 --> 0:47:35.000
<v Speaker 1>out of ourselves. It's effortless, selfless, joyful. Anxiety is constricted,

0:47:35.520 --> 0:47:40.839
<v Speaker 1>flow is opposite. And lastly, anxiety is thoughts, emotions and

0:47:40.960 --> 0:47:46.080
<v Speaker 1>body sensations. But you are not anxiety. Thanks again for

0:47:46.120 --> 0:47:49.319
<v Speaker 1>listening to Anxiety Bites. Will see you next week and

0:47:49.480 --> 0:47:59.200
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