Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Reasonably shake Dy. I am
Speaker 2: Jazelle Bryanton.
Speaker 3: What's up? What's up? I'm Robin Dixon.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being here with us once again.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And it's like kind of chilly outside. Well, thank goodness,
Speaker 3: it's like October decent. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually this is how I know I'm getting old
Speaker 1: when like I actually am enjoying the fall because like
Speaker 1: I was like always like a summer girl. I would
Speaker 1: be outside in the summer my swimsuit and get in
Speaker 1: the pool.
Speaker 3: I didn't go in.
Speaker 1: A pool one time this summer. Wow, And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: bring on the fall.
Speaker 3: Bring on the fall. So do your cause your parents
Speaker 3: have a pool? Uh huh do you I didn't go?
Speaker 3: Did you normally go? Do you normally go like just
Speaker 3: hang out one or to want to tice with the kids.
Speaker 3: When the kids were younger, we would go a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But even as they got older, they weren't really
Speaker 1: interested in like going like because they would want to
Speaker 1: go wherever their friends were, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So like if we were to go to my parents' house,
Speaker 1: then we would have to like probably invite a handful
Speaker 1: of friends over, and I just never I didn't want
Speaker 1: to like turn it into that, so they would end
Speaker 1: up wherever their friends were instead of at my parents' house. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 3: Plus, you know, leave Gladys alone. I leave alone, I know.
Speaker 1: But I still want a pool in my back or
Speaker 1: it's crazy. It's like I haven't been in a pool
Speaker 1: this summer. But that's because I don't like to leave
Speaker 1: my house.
Speaker 3: I just want to.
Speaker 1: But I just want to make note. We were both
Speaker 1: wearing skinny jeans. Did you know the skinny jeans are out?
Speaker 3: We're not supposed to wear skinny jeans anymore. No, what
Speaker 3: am I going to do with all my skinny jeans?
Speaker 3: I know? And I have some baggy ones.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but I just feel like I don't do
Speaker 1: we have to abide by that rule now? We do not,
Speaker 1: because skinny jeans are like sometimes certain things don't go
Speaker 1: with baggy or jeans.
Speaker 2: No, right, And sometimes if you have like a baggy top,
Speaker 2: then the skinny jeans are perfect, right, baggy baggy I
Speaker 2: don't like?
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, but now it's like, you know, you're not
Speaker 1: supposed to wear like skinny jeans at all.
Speaker 3: Ever, So what kind of jeans are we wearing these days?
Speaker 1: Straight leg okay, I have some of those wide legs,
Speaker 1: wieleg okay, I have that once to do.
Speaker 2: I'm wearing my skinny jeans. I know that I think
Speaker 2: we should wear stuff that looks good on you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: skinny jeans look good on me, my back, my booty
Speaker 2: bee popping.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. And then maybe it's just like of course,
Speaker 1: like all the younger people are like no skinny jeans,
Speaker 1: but maybe us oh.
Speaker 2: Oh, because the kids wear Yeah, the kids wear straight
Speaker 2: leg and wide leg.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, it's so weird. It's so cool.
Speaker 1: It's so like interesting to see like fashions.
Speaker 3: Just come and go. Yeah, it's weird because I I have.
Speaker 2: It's so funny because I bought like maybe three pairs
Speaker 2: of jeans. One had like it was like a cargo
Speaker 2: and had like big pockets on it because bothers, and
Speaker 2: they've been snatched by my children. Really, yes, they will
Speaker 2: snatch my stuff. They'll be like mom, I thinking ahead,
Speaker 2: uh huh. And I know if I just don't give
Speaker 2: it to them, they're gonna just take it. Yeah, So
Speaker 2: I just give Okay, yeah, but now I didn't know why.
Speaker 3: Yes, okay they're in.
Speaker 1: Oh the cargoes are in, the god legs, the bit,
Speaker 1: all of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were stealing my stuff. Yes, okay, you have
Speaker 3: a shady moment. I do.
Speaker 1: So I was put through the wringer this week with vehicles.
Speaker 1: Anything vehicle related. Oh lord, okay. So first it started
Speaker 1: off with my car. I was driving in this beautiful
Speaker 1: neighborhood looking at these humongous houses, and I hit a
Speaker 1: huge pothole like so it was like one was on
Speaker 1: the on the phone with me and he was like damn,
Speaker 1: like he could hear how loud that pothole was. So
Speaker 1: my tired didn't go flat. But as I'm driving, like
Speaker 1: my car shaking right, So I call the dealer. They're like,
Speaker 1: oh it's it sounds like it's a bent rim.
Speaker 3: Come in. So I go.
Speaker 1: So I go into the dealer. So get to the dealer.
Speaker 1: They give me a loaner car. It's an electric vehicle.
Speaker 1: Oh I love those.
Speaker 3: Go ahead right, I was like, oh cool, you know
Speaker 3: I've never driven one, Like yes, I'll have so quiet right.
Speaker 1: So quiet, so like fast you know, And I was
Speaker 1: like yeah, yes, like taking off so a couple of
Speaker 1: days go by and my car is still at the dealer.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then one day I'm driving Corey to school and
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit, I have twenty miles left on
Speaker 1: this car. Yeah, and I have to get to Corey school.
Speaker 1: It's like seventeen miles away from my house I get home. Yes,
Speaker 1: So I tried to like stop somewhere and charge it,
Speaker 1: and it was like you need an app and an
Speaker 1: account and I'm like, what the so I make it home.
Speaker 1: I have like three miles left anyway, you know, I
Speaker 1: end up having to like charge it at my neighbor's house. Okay,
Speaker 1: they have a slow ash chargers, like took an hour
Speaker 1: just to give me twenty miles blah blah blah. Okay,
Speaker 1: So that was like second, I was so stressed over
Speaker 1: this damn electric vehicle.
Speaker 3: But they're amazing. They're amazing.
Speaker 1: Yes, if you have a charger, but I'm like, you
Speaker 1: probably should not let people. You probably shouldn't loan them
Speaker 1: out to people who don't have a charger at home.
Speaker 3: True, but but I want the one that I had.
Speaker 2: I literally was like I might trade my car in right,
Speaker 2: I want to keep it right, And.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people probably end up. That's
Speaker 1: probably why they do it, because they want people to
Speaker 1: be like, Ooh, I like this, I want to get
Speaker 1: me one. But yeah, so, yeah, you should not have
Speaker 1: given me an electric vehicle because I had three miles left.
Speaker 3: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: I was stressing out, So then get my car back.
Speaker 1: Next day, I'm I have an appointment. Okay, disappointment. I
Speaker 1: have rescheduled twice so and it's appointment to meet with
Speaker 1: my estate lawyer.
Speaker 3: Oh that's important, yes, very important.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, yes, I'm about to go
Speaker 1: go to the lawyer's office.
Speaker 3: I hit my garage.
Speaker 1: Butt in the garage won't go up.
Speaker 3: What I suck in the garage? What happened?
Speaker 1: It's a spring broke on my garage door. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: so I could not leave the house. I couldn't put
Speaker 1: the garage up. I couldn't even do the pull thing.
Speaker 3: It wouldn't go up.
Speaker 1: It was completely stuck. So I was like, it was
Speaker 1: just a nightmare of a week. The pothole, the electric vehicle,
Speaker 1: the garage not opening.
Speaker 3: And then so finally someone came, thank.
Speaker 1: God, later that evening and fix the garage, the spring,
Speaker 1: the door. He said, yeah, these springs should have like
Speaker 1: a seven to ten year lifespan. My house is three
Speaker 1: years old.
Speaker 3: I was just so it was just like that was
Speaker 3: that was the was the moon in Mercury Grade?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, it was just one thing after the other
Speaker 1: with these damn like just I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: it's like it rains, it pours, that's yeah.
Speaker 3: There was an eclipse recently, by the way, was it? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Where and on my work vacation. I saw it. Oh yeah, oho, okay,
Speaker 3: cause I was here. It was here, but you couldn't
Speaker 3: see it. Oh yeah, so you could see it better.
Speaker 3: It was completely okay, most beautiful thing. Okay, anyway, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah it was. It was annoying. Yeah, it was a
Speaker 3: hell of a week. Okay, but do you want to
Speaker 3: get in like your car now? I do? Yeah, right,
Speaker 3: I do. Yeah, that's how I feel. So you had
Speaker 3: it was what it was this ratro overhaf It was
Speaker 3: a Jaguar.
Speaker 1: So you know how Jaguar and land Rover are like,
Speaker 1: yeah brothers or whatever. So it was a Jaguar eye
Speaker 1: pace and it was like it was it was cool looking.
Speaker 1: It was all blacked out, you know, I like my
Speaker 1: cars to be black on black on black. So it
Speaker 1: was like just it was.
Speaker 3: Like it looked like my car, you know. Yeah, so it.
Speaker 1: Was it was it was nice, it ran, it was
Speaker 1: so fast.
Speaker 3: They gave me a white which would be my car.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Mercedes something something something, and it was amazing.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my gosh, I love this.
Speaker 1: Yes, like you don't even know it's on. You just
Speaker 1: like press the button.
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's this thing on That's what I said,
Speaker 3: because you can't even hear it, right, And then I
Speaker 3: was scared I would leave it on. It was supposed
Speaker 3: to turn it off. Yeah, anyway, I love it. So
Speaker 3: I don't know. That might be my next car I
Speaker 3: do have.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like, should black people be buying
Speaker 1: Tesla's though, because Elon Musk is.
Speaker 3: Like, I'm not buying a Messa. Oh yeah you should not.
Speaker 2: No, black and white and purple people should not buy
Speaker 2: a Tesla, right, And I'm like I can't support Elon
Speaker 2: Musk no in the Twitter of it all, like boy,
Speaker 2: good night, right, Okay, Okay, So I want to give
Speaker 2: my shady moment, but before I do that, I want
Speaker 2: to remind people I'm going to be in Chicago. At
Speaker 2: the City Winery doing something called a live show. We're
Speaker 2: going to laugh, we're gonna cry, We're going to do
Speaker 2: all the things. So come out and see me City
Speaker 2: Winery October twenty first at seven thirty right, and I'm
Speaker 2: doing our little meet and greet too, so fun. I'll
Speaker 2: be taking pictures and all the things. So get your
Speaker 2: tickets all right now. You know, I was at my
Speaker 2: work conference for a very long time. And apparently while
Speaker 2: I was there, and I know I said last episode
Speaker 2: that like my kids were calling me in the morning
Speaker 2: and waking me up, but apparently other people were calling
Speaker 2: me too.
Speaker 3: Apparently.
Speaker 2: I the other day went to my esthetician. I walk
Speaker 2: in the door and they're like, just SA, what are
Speaker 2: you doing? And I was like, what are you talking about?
Speaker 2: And they were like, we talked and we canceled this,
Speaker 2: we moved you, we moved you.
Speaker 3: To another day.
Speaker 2: And I was like, and then it all came flooding
Speaker 2: back that we I talked to the front desk lady.
Speaker 2: She told me that my asthetition had to take the
Speaker 2: day off, and she said, you told me you were
Speaker 2: going to call back to reschedule.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, oh my god, because I remember the
Speaker 3: conversation as soon as she said it, but I totally forgot.
Speaker 3: There's so many things.
Speaker 1: Did take it off your calendar.
Speaker 3: I've had major conversations with people I don't remember, so
Speaker 3: I don't know who's shady here my brain, yeah, or
Speaker 3: people that continue to call me when it was four
Speaker 3: o'clock in the morning where I was, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think it's your brain. Is it my brain? Your
Speaker 3: brain shady? Yeah? Were you like I was eating my blueberries? Right?
Speaker 1: Well, clearly it don't work. Well, you know, it's so
Speaker 1: funny that you say that, because I have a.
Speaker 2: A letter, so seeing my blueberries every day blueber Okay,
Speaker 2: so my brain is very shady.
Speaker 3: You might not have been doing enough. Okay, why what
Speaker 3: they say?
Speaker 1: Because I have a little article. Yeah, and I was
Speaker 1: going to share this anyway.
Speaker 3: This is so crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I was going to share this anyway because
Speaker 1: as we get older, you know, there's just certain things
Speaker 1: we start to be more aware of.
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, but side note, if you are sleeping and
Speaker 2: having a conversation, yeah, you're not supposed to remember.
Speaker 1: So you were sleeping when you had this conversation, oh,
Speaker 1: because it was early, because it was early. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: was sleep Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: So that's okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I still have remembered when I woke up,
Speaker 2: not necessarily, but why are you.
Speaker 3: Able to have a full conversation while you're sleep right
Speaker 3: and then and then hang on, I go right back
Speaker 3: and then go right back to sleep and then no recollection. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but I was like, kind of scary. Well, I said
Speaker 3: to her. I was like, did I sound sleep? She
Speaker 3: was like, no, you sound of great. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I had a full conversation while I was sleeping.
Speaker 1: But what happened with that is so funny. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: kind of scary.
Speaker 3: A little bit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it happened several times I was there, people
Speaker 2: called me. It was late at night, I was talking
Speaker 2: my shit, talking all kinds of craziness.
Speaker 3: I fell in love with it bunch of times. Anyway,
Speaker 3: go ahead, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Okay, So now that we're talking about our brains, yeah,
Speaker 1: I came across this article. I say, I have to
Speaker 1: share this with the people. So these are six common
Speaker 1: habits that are prematurely aging your brain.
Speaker 3: And I really worry.
Speaker 1: About, you know, just living long and I want to
Speaker 1: have all of my facultackle teas and so this is
Speaker 1: stuff that I'm like, Okay, let me start preparing for that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for my long life. So number one, you over indulge
Speaker 1: in alcohol.
Speaker 3: I do not. You do not anymore anymore, yes, starting yesterday. Okay,
Speaker 3: Well me neither.
Speaker 1: Like I've said this recently, like I've just totally pulled
Speaker 1: back on alcohol. But alcohol is one of the most
Speaker 1: significant components of premium short aging of the brain.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, yes, So okay, what about weed?
Speaker 1: That's well weed smoking weed is bad for your heart.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, I thought I was. I thought I killed
Speaker 1: your brain, so that too.
Speaker 3: Okay, so well yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So I wouldn't do that either. Okay, you
Speaker 1: stay in all the time, Robin, I know, I know.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 1: The Frontiers and Aging Neuroscience Journal found that social isolation
Speaker 1: and loneliness were associated with poor cognitive aging.
Speaker 2: Well, you're not lonely and you're not isolating yourself, right,
Speaker 2: You just inside, right?
Speaker 3: Okay, right, But they need to get outside. I need
Speaker 3: to be more social.
Speaker 1: So whether it's a game night at a friend's house,
Speaker 1: a family dinner, or a big event, push yourself to
Speaker 1: say yes to spending time with loved ones. I love
Speaker 1: that You'll have fun, and these social interactions will also
Speaker 1: benefit your brain. Okay, Okay, you love junk food, oh,
Speaker 1: rob junk? I don't, not really, I kind of yeah,
Speaker 1: I kind of like junk food, like I do.
Speaker 3: I like sugar, like sugar.
Speaker 2: When I was on by the way, when I was
Speaker 2: on my work conference for almost thirty days, I decided
Speaker 2: not to like eat what I normally eat, which is
Speaker 2: like a bunch of sugar and obviously junk food, and
Speaker 2: it did change my body.
Speaker 1: You felt good, Yeah, I felt good. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I think it definitely makes a difference. So
Speaker 1: neuroscience neuroscientist doctor Amy Richolt explains that junk food is
Speaker 1: addictive because it activates the rewards system in our brains
Speaker 1: and releases dopamine, making us feel good. However, overly sweetened
Speaker 1: and fatty foods are bad for the brain. Toldally, okay,
Speaker 1: so they can inflame the brain, damaging brain cells. So
Speaker 1: let's get back on our sugar. Okay, on our junk food.
Speaker 1: I will do that, our fry, fatty food, our junk food.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: Another way we prematurely ate our brain is by skipping
Speaker 1: the gem.
Speaker 3: And yes, yes, and I know you have some problems
Speaker 3: over kip the gym.
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, and I know that doesn't apply to you,
Speaker 1: but that does apply to me, even though. So I
Speaker 1: was like working out consistently with my boys and they
Speaker 1: went back to school and I haven't worked out since.
Speaker 3: So I've not worked out.
Speaker 1: I think I worked out one day. I've not worked
Speaker 1: out one day since. I mean I only worked out
Speaker 1: one day since my boys have been back to school. Anyway,
Speaker 1: physical exercise promotes learning, planning, concentrating, and maintaining a clear
Speaker 1: active mind. It also counteracts the effects of cognitive agent.
Speaker 3: So okay, yes, I got Are you done? I have
Speaker 3: one more for you? No, okay, two more? Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1: You don't switch up your routine, so they say, doing
Speaker 1: the same thing every day, having a fixed schedule, the
Speaker 1: mundaneness of that can can cause premature brain agent.
Speaker 2: Okay, so that that would that could be me because
Speaker 2: I'm I there, I thrive off of a schedule. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so I need to switch it out. Yeah, okay, so
Speaker 2: that means different. Men, I'm with you too much.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need to switch it up, switch it up.
Speaker 3: I guess. Yes, it's time to take a break.
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Speaker 1: sip of relaxation. To remind you, this is my time
Speaker 1: this is my taste. So it said, you know, just
Speaker 1: like block off a few hours once or twice a
Speaker 1: week for free time to spontaneously decide what you'll do.
Speaker 1: This keeps your brain excited and motivated.
Speaker 3: I like that.
Speaker 1: Yep. Challenging your brain with new mental exercises helped maintain
Speaker 1: the health of brain cells and stimulates connection among them.
Speaker 1: And then the last one on this list is you
Speaker 1: sacrifice sleep.
Speaker 3: No, I know you don't do that. No, no, no, Yes,
Speaker 3: sleep is very important.
Speaker 1: Sleep is very important. Seven hours a day keeps aging
Speaker 1: at bay. So getting the doctor recommended amount of sleeper
Speaker 1: night works wonders on your mental and physical health, and
Speaker 1: it bodes well for long term brain health. Yes, everybody,
Speaker 1: get your sleep, eat healthy, get your exercise.
Speaker 3: Stop drinking alcohol. So I'm being a drunkard. Yes, what
Speaker 3: else I don't know?
Speaker 2: Okay, So there's a new study that reveals that traveling
Speaker 2: robin this is for you, is healthy and slows the
Speaker 2: aging process.
Speaker 1: Okay, I like that, and I think that kind of
Speaker 1: corresponds with it totally do this, yeah, yes, and I
Speaker 1: like that and that and that is actually one thing,
Speaker 1: you know, especially like once my kids get out of
Speaker 1: high school. Yeah, like that's going to be on my
Speaker 1: priority lists. I'm not just things to do, but my
Speaker 1: priority list.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're gonna so every time you go on
Speaker 2: a vacation, you're going to have booked another one.
Speaker 3: Because that's how I do it.
Speaker 2: Oh really, yeah, Like if I go, like right now,
Speaker 2: I have too many things planned, but I know that,
Speaker 2: like my big vacation that I'll do at the end
Speaker 2: of the year, I know as soon as I'm like
Speaker 2: getting ready to do that, I need to plan my
Speaker 2: next one.
Speaker 1: Oh I like that. Okay, I like that. I'm not
Speaker 1: a planner. I will I take like spontaneous. I'm you're spontaneous, spontaneous.
Speaker 3: But you have to do it.
Speaker 2: And they say that a part of it is you
Speaker 2: always should be looking forward to a trip or something
Speaker 2: exciting happening for whatever.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. I'm gonna do better at that.
Speaker 1: But right now, like with the kids, I mean I shouldn't.
Speaker 1: I should be able to make time for it. But
Speaker 1: with them and their sports schedules, it's just like it's
Speaker 1: crazy saying because you know I've talked about this. The
Speaker 1: basketball schedule alone takes us all over the country, so
Speaker 1: it's just trying to balance that. It becomes like too
Speaker 1: much for me to think about. Oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: gotta plan this. I gotta plan that for basketball, and
Speaker 1: then I gotta plan a trip playing something for myself.
Speaker 3: But you do, you got to plan these trips.
Speaker 1: I should. I guess that's what travel agents are for, right,
Speaker 1: I mean, if I know, you kind of do it yourself.
Speaker 3: I like to do it myself.
Speaker 1: So how do you feel about beggars on the street
Speaker 1: wearing Louis Baton shoes.
Speaker 3: What? Like? Are they real? I don't I don't know,
Speaker 3: but is that is that happening right now? Yes? Okay
Speaker 3: in this area? Yes, okay, And they have on like
Speaker 3: some Louis Slide some loafers like Louis Vuitton sneakers. They
Speaker 3: have on Louisvuittan's. Yes, So like just I think that's
Speaker 3: bad for business, you know what I'm saying? Like, yes,
Speaker 3: if your business is asking for money, yes, you should
Speaker 3: not have on designer sneakers, whether they're real or not.
Speaker 1: Yes, my guess is that they're probably fake, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: or okay, they're the fake hand me down. I mean shit,
Speaker 1: if they are real, I don't know, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: But let's say they're fake. Okay.
Speaker 1: Even still, let's say they're fake and a hand me down. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's bad for business, It totally bad.
Speaker 3: I see you on the street.
Speaker 1: With Louis Vuitton shoes and you're asking me for a dollar.
Speaker 1: I'm not giving it to you.
Speaker 3: I'm they supposed to be shoeless. Are they supposed to
Speaker 3: be barefoot? No?
Speaker 2: But you shouldn't be wearing Louis Vuitton. Louisat is just
Speaker 2: the optics of it. Yes, it's just bad.
Speaker 4: Either.
Speaker 1: You're right, that's bad because I'm like, okay, it's so
Speaker 1: I give you this dollar, you're gonna go buy now,
Speaker 1: you're gonna buy some Gucci sunglasses with it.
Speaker 3: Like what I'm moving on? I can't, I can't you
Speaker 3: all right.
Speaker 2: So there's this video in China that sewage erupts and
Speaker 2: sprays poop on cars all over. Okay, So it erupts
Speaker 2: from underneath the ground, right, and it's like sprunk. So
Speaker 2: imagine you know how we hit those water hydrants and
Speaker 2: like water's just like just it's like that, but it's
Speaker 2: poop and it's huge. Oh my, So it sent poop
Speaker 2: way up into the air. And it was going off
Speaker 2: for a very long time in China.
Speaker 3: That's not okay.
Speaker 2: Can you imagine no, I mean, can you imagine even
Speaker 2: like the smell. No, and then it's just spraying and
Speaker 2: then it gets on you and it sprang out from
Speaker 2: the ground.
Speaker 3: No, let's say you're driving by and it's on your car.
Speaker 1: I would be sick for months, like.
Speaker 3: For weeks.
Speaker 1: Weeks. Oh my gosh, yesterday, Yeah, my trash can. I
Speaker 1: guess when we put the trash out and it was
Speaker 1: like raining, so there's like a bunch of water in
Speaker 1: the bottom of the garbage can. Yeah, okay, Well because
Speaker 1: it's open, I guess it ended up being open.
Speaker 3: You know what.
Speaker 1: The trash people, they just throw them all around, So
Speaker 1: the lid must have been opened. It must have been
Speaker 1: water all in the bottom of it. So I go
Speaker 1: to put something in the trash can. I open it
Speaker 1: and it's the smell is rancid. And I look and
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, like this is disgusting. So
Speaker 1: I pull it out, I dump it out, I sprayed
Speaker 1: it out. I felt sick just.
Speaker 3: From that smell for hours. It's like three days.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, I was like my I thought I was
Speaker 1: going to throw up. It was rancid smell I ever smelled.
Speaker 1: So that's getting sprayed with poop.
Speaker 3: And huge, Oh my god God, And I'm trying to think, like,
Speaker 3: how did this happen? Take me away, how did this happen?
Speaker 3: Why is it spraying? Why is it spraying?
Speaker 4: A septic tank pipe burst during road construction in Wonxi, China,
Speaker 4: causing a massive eruption of waste. The explosion sends sewage
Speaker 4: shooting over ten meters into the air, covering nearby vehicles
Speaker 4: in waste. It is reported that the explosion was caused
Speaker 4: by a pressure test on a newly installed sewage pipe,
Speaker 4: not accidental damage during construction.
Speaker 2: I think it was done on purpose, just to see
Speaker 2: if they but you know, they probably it is a
Speaker 2: terrorist attack.
Speaker 3: Ohod that it's a terrorist attack. Okay.
Speaker 2: So Kim Kardashian is reportedly fuming. She's so upset Kanye
Speaker 2: because his wife, Bianca is wearing all this provocative clothes
Speaker 2: around the children.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, that's what this is.
Speaker 2: Fuming and she wants to take this to court, and
Speaker 2: she's in a terrible spot because Bianca has completely won
Speaker 2: over the kids.
Speaker 3: They love her.
Speaker 1: Oh, AND's gonna be like, bitch, if you looked at.
Speaker 2: Yourself lately, That's what I'm getting to. Ye, we we
Speaker 2: can never It's like it's good for the goose, it's
Speaker 2: good for the gander. No, it's like it's not like
Speaker 2: what you can't do if it's like you had a
Speaker 2: sex tape. It's like it's so many things. It's like, okay,
Speaker 2: what so what so where do we draw the line?
Speaker 2: Where do we draw the line?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Where where did Bianca overstep? I mean, yes, when we
Speaker 1: see her, we're like, okay, put on, yes, but but
Speaker 1: we've all had.
Speaker 3: To endure her sex tape. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's kind of like you can't win this fight. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this fight, said, Kim can win. But that isn't one
Speaker 2: of them.
Speaker 1: That woman does walk around with like no clothes on zero,
Speaker 1: like a string simples popping, a string over her nipple,
Speaker 1: nipple popping. So I can imagine, you know, if they
Speaker 1: if young children. Yeah, we're walking around or around her
Speaker 1: and she's walking around with a string over her nipples. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and her problematic.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's it's bothersome, no question.
Speaker 2: But yeah, but Kim, like I don't think you have
Speaker 2: any room, not that Kim does that nowadays, but you
Speaker 2: know there was once upon a time.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we always have to we can't, you know,
Speaker 2: we gotta keep in mind where we come from, right,
Speaker 2: very true. Cannot forget where we come from.
Speaker 3: So anyway, we you had to read something to read.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've got we have tons tons to read,
Speaker 1: tons tons to read, so I do want to. This
Speaker 1: is a more recent one. So I recently talked about
Speaker 1: Game of Thrones.
Speaker 3: Yes, honey, where are you now? I have not picked
Speaker 3: it back up.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Rob, and I was thinking about you
Speaker 2: because I was like, Robin, it's got to be on
Speaker 2: like season four, season five.
Speaker 1: No, I haven't picked up. You know why because I started.
Speaker 1: I watched the second half of the season of Power.
Speaker 1: Season you don't watch Power? No? And is the Power
Speaker 1: with Ghost no, with the Sun whatever? His name is,
Speaker 1: Tarik Tarik and I really I actually lost me. Did
Speaker 1: not watch it before, but like, I just ran out
Speaker 1: of things to watch, so I started watching it.
Speaker 3: So they had a You didn't run out of things.
Speaker 3: You could have finished Game of Thrones.
Speaker 1: That's true.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's true. So anyway, I don't know somehow I.
Speaker 1: Just decided to watch the rest of power. Okay, so
Speaker 1: that's kind of where I'm where my attention was. Ok So,
Speaker 1: let's get back to Game of Thrones. But go ahead,
Speaker 1: Game of Thrones. So we have a couple of letters.
Speaker 1: This one is from Alexandra Franch.
Speaker 3: Okay, she's hike girlies.
Speaker 1: I just want to say I love your podcast last
Speaker 1: so hard. When Robin was talking about Game of Thrones,
Speaker 1: I feel exactly the same. Tried to watch it so
Speaker 1: many times and I go to sleep. So I haven't
Speaker 1: even seen the first season. What, yes, Gazelle, Robin is
Speaker 1: not the only one that hasn't watched it.
Speaker 3: Did.
Speaker 1: She sends us a video, this conspiracy theory video on Beyonce. Oh,
Speaker 1: I watched it, and I'm like, it's nonsense.
Speaker 3: Okay, good nonsensical.
Speaker 1: Nonsense, just people trying to talk about Jay has control
Speaker 1: over Beyonce and Dre is drugged up Beyonce, And yes, nonsense,
Speaker 1: stop y'all. So she said, I would love to hear
Speaker 1: what you think about this theory. I think it's nonsense. Okay,
Speaker 1: Alexandra sending loads of hugs to you both from a
Speaker 1: virgo in Miyorca.
Speaker 3: Who spain Burg goes into house yes. Burg goes into
Speaker 3: house mayorca.
Speaker 1: Yes, and she said, ps, you can do more episodes
Speaker 1: a week.
Speaker 3: Maybe we can't.
Speaker 2: We sure can't, but yeah, we're not contractually obligated too,
Speaker 2: so this is what we do.
Speaker 3: Okay. So on the flip side, yeah, okay, go ahead, you.
Speaker 1: Another Game of Thrones? Hi, Robin, I work from home
Speaker 1: and listen to y'all religiously. This is from Kia Cannon.
Speaker 1: Maybe are you listening to us while you're working from home?
Speaker 3: Of course she is. And I'm not mad at it.
Speaker 1: Not trying to get you in trouble, Kiya, but Kia,
Speaker 1: we're about to get you in trou Okay, thank you
Speaker 1: for keeping me awake during the workday.
Speaker 3: Key, I'm got mad at you. I'm not mad at
Speaker 3: This is for Robin.
Speaker 1: I have started watching Game of Thrones too. I love
Speaker 1: period pieces and fantasy, so I am enjoying it. I
Speaker 1: want you to push through your boredom and keep watching.
Speaker 1: It's a slow burn, but will get interesting. I can't
Speaker 1: believe they keep it. It's like spoiler. I can't believe
Speaker 1: they keep killing off the main characters that you think
Speaker 1: will last through the entire show. But apparently that's their thing.
Speaker 1: Oh not really really okay, I think I am almost
Speaker 1: finished Season four. Giselle is correct about Denaris Targarian, Mother
Speaker 1: of Dragons, better known as Kalisi Bad. She is shaping
Speaker 1: up to be a cool character.
Speaker 3: Stay tuned. She is love you all.
Speaker 1: You get back to work.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, stop stop listening to us and not doing
Speaker 3: your job. So I'm gonna try.
Speaker 1: I'm going to give it another crack, and.
Speaker 3: You know, if it.
Speaker 1: Continues to put me to sleep, yeah, I'm just going
Speaker 1: to turn seeing In back on.
Speaker 3: Okay, as you should.
Speaker 2: But you know, seeing In right now is a lot
Speaker 2: of like political stuff, and sometimes I could just get over.
Speaker 3: It, I know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes I like to laugh though, Yeah I did.
Speaker 2: It's very It's comedy, okay, So I am. I want
Speaker 2: to read about Angel, who I've told you guys is
Speaker 2: at She does go to Spilman, yes, but if you
Speaker 2: see her leave her alone, is she still hot? I
Speaker 2: asked her yesterday how what the degrees of her room was?
Speaker 2: She said eighty five her room is and she said
Speaker 2: she got used to it. Really, I said that sounds
Speaker 2: Lord Chris. Oh okay, anyway, this is from Tasha Nicole
Speaker 2: High High Ladies, I'm a longtime listener, well pretty much
Speaker 2: from the beginning, because I'm a big podcast lover. Also,
Speaker 2: RHP is the only franchise I will watch because well,
Speaker 2: y'all are the best. Lol as straight up no chaser
Speaker 2: kind of gal myself.
Speaker 3: Is that you that's both of us. That's both of us.
Speaker 2: Okay, you two have always been fased. So now to
Speaker 2: the bulk of it all. This weekend, I'm home actually
Speaker 2: waiting to hear from my son how the sibling exchange
Speaker 2: went a morehouse tradition and she sent a picture and
Speaker 2: find out all the things. Imagine my surprise when my
Speaker 2: son finally sends a picture of his new Spellhouse sibling
Speaker 2: and it's little Miss Angel Bryant.
Speaker 3: Oh so this is this is actually a big deal.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna keep reading it and I'll come back.
Speaker 2: I respond back to him, William, I've watched her grow up.
Speaker 2: And he says, oh yeah, her dad is a big
Speaker 2: time preacher here and I saw no no, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: yeah that too, she says.
Speaker 3: She says, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, no.
Speaker 2: No, whatever whatever about her dand but her mom is
Speaker 2: an rho err And his reaction was like, oh okay,
Speaker 2: like he doesn't here anyway, I figured I would finally
Speaker 2: drop an email and say hey, because the last time
Speaker 2: I was going to send one was an episode topic.
Speaker 2: I waited and then couldn't recall what in the world
Speaker 2: I was going to email about anyway, So figured out
Speaker 2: that you'd already seen the picture of Angel and William.
Speaker 2: You probably got it way before I did, because these
Speaker 2: boys they don't cooperate, you know, they do not, but
Speaker 2: they're special. Love them, Love Robin So And this is
Speaker 2: from Tasha. T Hey, Tasha, So you know I told
Speaker 2: you how the hurricane was happening in Atlanta. Yeah, And
Speaker 2: I said, Angel, I'm gonna fly you to Hampton where
Speaker 2: Grace was.
Speaker 3: Angel said no, I'm like why. She's like, this is this.
Speaker 2: Big ceremony on Sunday and I don't want to miss it.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the hell is the ceremony? Who gives
Speaker 2: a damn? It's you don't have no power right down there.
Speaker 2: And she was like, oh, we know we get our
Speaker 2: more House brothers. Oh, And I was like that sounds dumb.
Speaker 2: So her dad was like her dad, who went to Morehouse,
Speaker 2: was like.
Speaker 3: Oh, this is very important, it's very especial. And she
Speaker 3: cannot miss it, just out and I was like whatever.
Speaker 2: So she said in a hotel, her and her friends,
Speaker 2: you know, because they didn't have any power anyway, she
Speaker 2: got to go back to the dorm, change up.
Speaker 3: And then go to the ceremony. Okay.
Speaker 2: She goes to the ceremony and she's like, I don't
Speaker 2: know how they pair them up, but apparently when you
Speaker 2: get your brother, it's like your brother, right, and you
Speaker 2: can't like date them. Oh really yeah, and it's like
Speaker 2: a thing like you cannot date your your more morehouse
Speaker 2: brother what. So she gets Will. She told me his
Speaker 2: name is Will, and she sends a picture and.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, he's kind of cute. Yeah. I
Speaker 3: was like date him Angel. Oh. She was like, by me,
Speaker 3: I cannot. And I was like, what brother, it's incessay
Speaker 3: he kind of cute, Like, yeah, you can.
Speaker 2: She was like that's my brother. I said, no, you're
Speaker 2: not right. Okay, you just met this man and he's
Speaker 2: cute and he's.
Speaker 3: Smart and he brought her flowers. Oh that's so nice.
Speaker 2: So I was like, so, Tasha, you have a very
Speaker 2: well respected son and I'm trying to hook up Angel
Speaker 2: and Will.
Speaker 3: Just for the record, right, Yes, so.
Speaker 1: I wonder how many sibling spell House siblings have actually dated?
Speaker 3: Yes, or even Mary got married?
Speaker 2: Yeah, send us letters, let us know, because I'm sure
Speaker 2: it's happened. Yes, Yes, And she's picture. I saw the
Speaker 2: picture of Ya Tasha and her son.
Speaker 3: And he's handsome. She was raving about how nice he
Speaker 3: is and how smart he is and blah blah blah. Angel,
Speaker 3: you about to get your man's what get? Will lock
Speaker 3: that thing down.
Speaker 1: She might need to like not be his sibling anymore
Speaker 1: because she can date them.
Speaker 3: You know what I said to her, I said, pass
Speaker 3: him off to one of your friends so that you
Speaker 3: can't date him. She's like, that's not how it works.
Speaker 3: I was trying to break the real rule follower. Oh,
Speaker 3: she definitely is a rule follower. Yes, the worst. But
Speaker 3: I love her. But like I'm trying to it's Angel
Speaker 3: and Will to the end. Oh that's nice. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: love that.
Speaker 1: That is one of like the beautiful things about going
Speaker 1: to an HBCU, a black school, like all of the
Speaker 1: traditions and the stuff that stays with you for your
Speaker 1: for life. Like, so Angel and Will are going to
Speaker 1: be connected for life. I have a when I went
Speaker 1: to Maryland, you know the that's a predominantly white school,
Speaker 1: and so the Black student Union they pair black people
Speaker 1: up with like a brother, a big right. Yes, I
Speaker 1: don't even remember my big name.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I know it was a guy. He
Speaker 3: was short, I don't he was not big, No, he
Speaker 3: was short.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah, I was not dating my big I
Speaker 1: mean so, I'm just but it's like you don't get
Speaker 1: those experiences at a predominantly white school that you do
Speaker 1: at a black school. So I think that is a beautiful.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's totally beautiful and hopefully so. Then she said, well,
Speaker 2: maybe Will has friends and I can date his friends.
Speaker 2: I said, no, just date well right the end. Right,
Speaker 2: she's not listening to me.
Speaker 3: All right, we've been vetted, he's been vetted, and I
Speaker 3: know his angel, I know his mama. His mama is
Speaker 3: Tasha se Yes, okay, all right, So this is from Fessica.
Speaker 3: Is that right for Socca Forska Fasika. Hey, Robin and joseetlle.
Speaker 3: I hope you're both doing well. I'm a college student
Speaker 3: in Chicago.
Speaker 2: Oh, she got to come to my show in Chicago,
Speaker 2: and I would love to attend yourself. Oh, and I
Speaker 2: would love to attend. Robin sent me up because I
Speaker 2: did not know I was reading this, and so Robin
Speaker 2: be is getting me okay. Pasika said she would love
Speaker 2: to attend Gazelle's twenty one Shady Question show. Is there
Speaker 2: a chance you can give a broke college student some
Speaker 2: free tickets?
Speaker 3: I know this thing right? If not, Gizelle, I hope
Speaker 3: you have an amazing show and enjoy your time in Chicago.
Speaker 2: Love you both so much. Forsika, you can definitely have
Speaker 2: because you're a broke college student.
Speaker 3: And I have three that I think they not broke.
Speaker 3: By the way, you.
Speaker 2: Can definitely have a ticket. Please come to the show.
Speaker 2: I would like to meet you.
Speaker 3: Pasika. You can bring because you know you got to
Speaker 3: be specific with these kids. You can bring one friend.
Speaker 2: Don't bring your five friends because y'all five friends gotta pay, Okay,
Speaker 2: but you and one friend can come.
Speaker 3: I love that. Yes, I'll put your name on the list, ma'am,
Speaker 3: I save this yes over, email us back, No, I
Speaker 3: put it just if your name is not Aska, Halleu HALLEYU.
Speaker 3: Just email us and confirm, Yes, email and confirm and
Speaker 3: yet come through.
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, Robin, if you set me up like
Speaker 2: that again. Rob was like, I'm a getter.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, we have a little advice question from Amy.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Amy's from Annapolis, Maryland. She said, Hello, ladies, I have
Speaker 1: a friend who just gout got out of an eight
Speaker 1: year relationship with a guy who treated her like absolute garbage,
Speaker 1: to the point where he got her inadvertently addicted to fentanyl.
Speaker 1: Her to go to rehab about six weeks ago. She
Speaker 1: just got out of her treatment facility a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks ago. She has told me she already met a
Speaker 1: new guy at the facility and has been dating him.
Speaker 1: I instantly started having thoughts about how she's going to
Speaker 1: get hurt again. I don't know what to do or
Speaker 1: what to say to her. I've known her since I
Speaker 1: was eight years old. I'm thirty two now, and she
Speaker 1: is one of my oldest friends.
Speaker 3: Any advice.
Speaker 2: I don't know how you get inadvertently hooked on fentanahl
Speaker 2: I do?
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're with someone who is not good
Speaker 1: for you and they're and they're doing it and they
Speaker 1: give it to you or you know, I don't know, like.
Speaker 3: That's overtly well, it's not inadvertently, that's but I don't
Speaker 3: think so.
Speaker 1: So she probably did not have addiction issues before she
Speaker 1: met and this person, you know, got.
Speaker 3: Her hooked on jobs. Okay, that's horrible and sorry, what's
Speaker 3: her name? Amy? Amy? Sorry? Amy? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So how do we how do you help a friend
Speaker 1: move on?
Speaker 2: But I think there's like some rules like that's supposed
Speaker 2: to date people that you're in the program with, right.
Speaker 1: I mean I think it's probably not encouraged.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're still going through the process of program, right,
Speaker 2: and the relationship is not good yeah, until you're like healed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So how do you as a friend like not
Speaker 1: overstep or not insult your friend, but also show them
Speaker 1: like concern you know, and this is like a touchy
Speaker 1: subject subject or really touchy subject because you don't I
Speaker 1: don't know, you don't want to like trigger anything.
Speaker 2: No, but you don't want her getting going backsliding and
Speaker 2: going back. I don't know, Amy, I think you should
Speaker 2: be a friend by asking the right questions, you know,
Speaker 2: like maybe ask probing questions without with like you don't
Speaker 2: want to make her feel like you're judging totally because
Speaker 2: she's going to like shut you off, turn away, but
Speaker 2: just ask her, like, you know, how are you doing.
Speaker 3: How are you being treated? Like?
Speaker 1: How does he treat you? Oh?
Speaker 3: What do you guys? Do you know?
Speaker 1: Maybe just ask questions to get a grip on the
Speaker 1: relationship and tell her, you know what, I love you
Speaker 1: so much, I care about you so much, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to see you get hurt again.
Speaker 3: So please, I don't know, like, don't.
Speaker 1: Put yourself in a situation that could make you go backwards,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, And let her know, like it's okay to be
Speaker 2: by yourself and that too. Yeah, it's totally okay to
Speaker 2: be by yourself, like you don't have to be in
Speaker 2: a relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I could see where that as a friend,
Speaker 1: like you could really worry about your friends, you know,
Speaker 1: like falling into the same traps again, especially if you're
Speaker 1: dating someone who's been at a treatment facility with you.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't think I know that many people
Speaker 3: that have been and well have gone through rehab. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 3: like close close friends, right right, and to know that experience. Yeah,
Speaker 3: one of one of one's cousins who I've you know,
Speaker 3: known for years, twenty eight years, he recently was at
Speaker 3: a rehab facility and he is like the funniest person alive.
Speaker 1: Like he is like the life of the party.
Speaker 3: He comes.
Speaker 1: He he loves to like just have an audience and perform,
Speaker 1: and he's every time you see Robin, when am I
Speaker 1: coming on the podcast?
Speaker 3: When am I coming on the podcast? What's the same?
Speaker 3: Tell him? Come through? Brother? So Brother, okay, And I'm like, well,
Speaker 3: what are we talking about doing the podcast? What we're
Speaker 3: talking about?
Speaker 1: So I want to bring brother on the podcast because
Speaker 1: he is a mess. Okay, But I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: know what we're talking about.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe we can talk about his journey and like
Speaker 2: him going through rehab and how because I'm sure it's
Speaker 2: very difficult to like come get out of rehab and
Speaker 2: then come back and start living your life and get triggered.
Speaker 2: I'm sure by things like that whole process.
Speaker 3: Yeah, is that something we want to hear?
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean I'm sure to help people. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: Well I'll see about bringing brother on.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, he's a handful. He's a lot.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's he's fun though, it's like good, it's
Speaker 1: good handful. But I you know what, Amy, as I
Speaker 1: think about it, I think you should actually maybe call
Speaker 1: someone or talk to someone that works at a treatment
Speaker 1: facility okay.
Speaker 3: And ask them their their advice, Yeah, their advice, or
Speaker 3: how you know, so smart their experience, or how you
Speaker 3: should handle it, because I'm sure a lot of other
Speaker 3: people have gone through this and you have family members
Speaker 3: who are concerned about, you know, their loved ones who
Speaker 3: have gone in.
Speaker 1: Treatment facility and fallen in love.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, So I say call someone at a treatment facility
Speaker 1: that works and get there and.
Speaker 3: Get their advice.
Speaker 2: Yes, agreed. Okay, So we have one more. And this
Speaker 2: is a cheating scandal. Yes, you have to bear with us.
Speaker 2: It's kind of hard to get through.
Speaker 1: I think it's it's a lot, it's a lot of
Speaker 1: he he did this, she did this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're gonna we're gonna skip around it, all right.
Speaker 2: So this is from Angela w and the and the
Speaker 2: subject is should I cuss out my ex BF?
Speaker 3: For closure? Ex boyfriend? For closure? I cussed them out?
Speaker 3: Have you ever cussed somebody out for closure? No?
Speaker 1: I give I'm just like silent treatment. Oh yeah, silent
Speaker 1: treatment is good like you never existed.
Speaker 3: Okay, but I okay, so me me too. Facts. However,
Speaker 3: there have been situations in.
Speaker 2: Which years later, like maybe ten years fifteen years later,
Speaker 2: either I talked to the guy or something happens and
Speaker 2: we're just this happened not too long ago, and we're
Speaker 2: just talking and kind of like talking about like what happened,
Speaker 2: and I cussed this boy.
Speaker 3: Out, really out.
Speaker 1: It felt good.
Speaker 3: It felt great because then and it was better this
Speaker 3: way because then he could really understand, like he explained
Speaker 3: his perspective, which at the time I probably would not
Speaker 3: have been mentally able to hear because I was probably
Speaker 3: too angry. And he was able to hear my perspective
Speaker 3: with some good old customers. It was amazing.
Speaker 2: So I encourage it's the way ten years yes, Okay,
Speaker 2: So this is from angela w our friend group was
Speaker 2: completely blown up after a major cheating scandal. Long story short, now,
Speaker 2: mind you, She says, long story short, but this is.
Speaker 1: As not a short story.
Speaker 3: This is not a short story. But we're gonna get through,
Speaker 3: all right. She seed her glasses for this one. Wow,
Speaker 3: I can see yeah, Okay, all right, long story short.
Speaker 2: My sister and I met a few friends from our
Speaker 2: job and we've been friends with them over a decade.
Speaker 2: Our friends included another pair of sisters five, S and A.
Speaker 3: Oh, she's not given names, right initials? Okay?
Speaker 2: S and A and two girls who have been best
Speaker 2: friends for ten years, C and Miranda, Well Sea and
Speaker 2: Miranda were living together with C's boyfriend of four years.
Speaker 3: Miranda was having a secret affair with him about a year.
Speaker 3: When she confronted her, she was very nonchalant and said, sorry,
Speaker 3: I love him. Can you imagine?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, This sent C into a major depression in harp
Speaker 2: break after her best friend acted like she never existed,
Speaker 2: but S did not. No, wait a minute, I skipped
Speaker 2: a line. Okay, right, okay. This ce into a major
Speaker 2: depression and heartbreak after her best friend that she considered
Speaker 2: a sister would never do this to her, my sister
Speaker 2: and I stopped all communication with Miranda immediately and acted
Speaker 2: like she never existed, but S did not.
Speaker 3: Ooh, so are we following this? S is still communicating.
Speaker 1: Friend group Miranda cheated on C's Yeah, S is still
Speaker 1: talking to and one of the friends is still talking
Speaker 1: to Miranda. Yeah. Okay.
Speaker 2: And to make things worse, Miranda asked S if C
Speaker 2: had moved because she wanted to send flowers for her
Speaker 2: mother's death anniversary. Fuel to the fire, yes, but the
Speaker 2: real reason she was trying to find if C moved
Speaker 2: was so she could ask for her security deposit back
Speaker 2: from the apartment, the same apartment she was sleeping with
Speaker 2: her boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Bitch, bye, what see? Audacity has me shaking.
Speaker 2: No flowers were ever sent, by the way, but what
Speaker 2: was sent was an email to see where she actually
Speaker 2: asked for the deposit back, but she could deduct for
Speaker 2: a cleaning fee.
Speaker 3: Clearly, Miranda has no shame. This is amazing. Okay, do
Speaker 3: we need to continue? I don't know. All you got
Speaker 3: two paragraphs sent fast forward about a year now, as
Speaker 3: wants to start hanging out with the adulteress again because
Speaker 3: she wants to rekindle her friendship with Miranda. So I
Speaker 3: wonder is Miranda dating the still wait for God? Who knows?
Speaker 1: God does she cheated with?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: As one of her really close friends. She brings this
Speaker 2: up to me and I tell her that ultimately it
Speaker 2: will change the dynamic of the group because this girl
Speaker 2: is the devil and she really hurts se.
Speaker 3: I told her, we.
Speaker 2: Cannot control what you do, but it will definitely make
Speaker 2: me feel some type of way, because why would you
Speaker 2: want to keep a friend around like that, right, She said,
Speaker 2: Miranda didn't kill anyone, which is really messed up thing
Speaker 2: to say. Because she was so depressed, everyone thought she
Speaker 2: was suicidal. I keep defending see, but she would constantly
Speaker 2: try to change my mind. She kept wanting to go
Speaker 2: back and forth with me, but I just stopped responding.
Speaker 2: Then s started posting subliminal messages online clearly about me,
Speaker 2: and of course I had to post a few back.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 2: Then I stopped because, as my daddy from Oppulusis would say,
Speaker 2: you can't argue with stupid mind you you know my
Speaker 2: mama was born to opolution.
Speaker 3: Really, yes, you can't argue with stupid this Okay, I
Speaker 3: didn't really want to read this letter, but I am
Speaker 3: so excited on reading this letter. This thing is so good. Okay,
Speaker 3: all right, where are we? Okay, So then you can't
Speaker 3: argueliminal message? Okay.
Speaker 2: Then she said, Since then she has unfollowed see my
Speaker 2: city and myself continued to post subliminal message about us
Speaker 2: online for months.
Speaker 3: She also had her family unfollow us and had them
Speaker 3: stop talking about us. She has put in more effort
Speaker 3: to show hate towards us than the actual adulterous who
Speaker 3: caused the situation. This is getting good, right, okay?
Speaker 2: All in all, Okay, so we're about to We're about
Speaker 2: to get this rap this thing up. All in all,
Speaker 2: she made this whole mess about herself. Anne has taken
Speaker 2: a lot out, a lot of our energy away from
Speaker 2: the true victim. See she has done this for years,
Speaker 2: and it's so tiring to have to keep catering to
Speaker 2: such selfish person. She's a Leo by the way. Who
Speaker 2: I'm like, who's a Leo out here?
Speaker 3: Not me?
Speaker 1: But Leo's are selfish. I don't know any leos.
Speaker 3: I don't think. Oh, leos think the world revolves around
Speaker 3: what what month is that?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: August?
Speaker 1: Oh, upper August? Yeah, early August? So mid I guess
Speaker 1: like late July, mid to mid August. Okay, yes, leo's
Speaker 1: think the world revolves around. Who do you know that's
Speaker 1: a leo? Actually have a lot of I'm a fire sign,
Speaker 1: so I'm an aries Leo's a fire sign, and so
Speaker 1: nobody that I'm trying to think anyone that you would
Speaker 1: know Jennifer Lopez.
Speaker 2: And that explains it. Okay, she said she's a Leo
Speaker 2: by the way. Way, real shock her. I'm sure I'm
Speaker 2: very clear that our friendship can't come back from this.
Speaker 2: She did a lot of other shady things in the meantime.
Speaker 2: But my question is, oh, thank god we.
Speaker 3: Got a question.
Speaker 2: Should I cuss her out for closure and tell her
Speaker 2: about herself okay? Or should I just ignore her and
Speaker 2: the nonsense that she posts?
Speaker 3: Cuss her out?
Speaker 2: Cuss her out, I say, because it's a woman and
Speaker 2: this is not like a romantic relationship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, cuss her to filth.
Speaker 1: Cuss her out, yes, tell them herself and keep it moving,
Speaker 1: and then you just ignore all the rest whatever falls
Speaker 1: out from that. Yeah, so be it. Cuss her out,
Speaker 1: cut her off my friend groups. She's no selfish, she
Speaker 1: owned the world revolves around here her.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Clearly, you have a friend that was really hurt by
Speaker 1: another friend, and you want to bring that friend around
Speaker 1: the group. No, if you want to spend time with
Speaker 1: the girl, find do it on your own, totally. Don't
Speaker 1: tell anyone. Yeah, don't bring her up like she's off limits,
Speaker 1: but don't put that in people's space and then when
Speaker 1: people don't like it, then you get mad.
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, No, definitely cuss her out. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's and she should be dead to you, like,
Speaker 2: why are we even dealing with this woman anymore?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Yea? And I think people everyone in this situation like
Speaker 1: the who is it?
Speaker 3: Is?
Speaker 1: It? It's s So that needs to be the cussing
Speaker 1: out s needs to put herself in sea's shoes, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like people when it when it's
Speaker 1: something controversial like this, or when stuff goes down and
Speaker 1: someone did something to someone and you're on the outside
Speaker 1: looking and like you gotta say, you know what, how
Speaker 1: would I feel if that person did that to me?
Speaker 1: How would I want things to be handled? Or how
Speaker 1: would I want my friends to deal with that person?
Speaker 1: And then the girl can understand a little bit more
Speaker 1: so while you're cussing her out, tell her to put
Speaker 1: yourself in sea shoes?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Or Miranda, Miranda was the adulteress. Yeah yeah, Like we're
Speaker 2: not talking to her either.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah you're not yeah, talking to rand No, Miranda,
Speaker 3: you are dead to us, Okay, but cuss her out,
Speaker 3: cuss her out, and it's like, go ahead.
Speaker 1: Because also, I mean you wrote a very long email, yeah,
Speaker 1: so clearly you have emotions about it. Yes, total, So
Speaker 1: I think ignoring the situation is not gonna bring you resolution. Now,
Speaker 1: it's what's going to bring you resolution is telling that
Speaker 1: person about themselves. So, whether you do it in a
Speaker 1: text message, in a voice memo, and a phone call,
Speaker 1: I think it's a phone call in an email, however
Speaker 1: you do it, do it, Yes, I think it's definitely
Speaker 1: a funt. You're not going to get your satisfaction. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you just ignore.
Speaker 2: It and and then and but then, don't just cuss
Speaker 2: out for cussing out, sake, have like, have like a plan,
Speaker 2: meaning like I don't like X, y Z and a
Speaker 2: third you run it all down and lose my number,
Speaker 2: right and bitch, I better not see you again exactly.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's how I do it. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know many people I told lose my number.
Speaker 2: Oh I love saying that, just lose my number. Yeah,
Speaker 2: he text me all his bullshit. I'm like, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: lose my number.
Speaker 3: Right, Yes, Yes, we're good, Yes, yeah, we're go on,
Speaker 3: go on, tell her boy.
Speaker 2: Herself, yes, cuss her tough film, Yes, all right, we're
Speaker 2: out of here.
Speaker 3: Guys. We love y'all so much.
Speaker 2: Don't ever forget to live your life either reasonable or
Speaker 2: shakey or both. And I'm in psaka I'm gonna see
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