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Speaker 3: Okay, everybody, welcome home. This is our mini pod. Y'all's
Speaker 3: giving Battle of the sex This here because you know,
Speaker 3: back in the day, Eliah said, aj no, but the number.
Speaker 3: But what we didn't know was that that r Kelly
Speaker 3: Lurkin in the background was going to create a much
Speaker 3: larger problem for young women everywhere. And you know, I
Speaker 3: just think that sometimes women escape this when they are
Speaker 3: the cougars and the predators. So I'm not gonna necessarily
Speaker 3: say that this woman was a predator for dating someone
Speaker 3: who is legal. But I do have a problem with
Speaker 3: a forty someven year old woman dating somebody the same
Speaker 3: at as my godchild. This woman was on love and
Speaker 3: hip hop, I believe Tommy, and she was at least
Speaker 3: on a date with Solange Knowle's son Jules Smith. Now,
Speaker 3: if you gonna date a young man, don't let it
Speaker 3: be the young man with the mama that beats it
Speaker 3: with in a fight in the elevator.
Speaker 4: Now, I don't know if you want to run up
Speaker 4: on that one. Let's rote this clip.
Speaker 5: Nick Oh lord, oh lord, look at look at him happy,
Speaker 5: happy to be really happy.
Speaker 4: Look at and the fact that she's recording this.
Speaker 5: That's what they do these days.
Speaker 3: My baby, literally your baby, young enough to be your baby.
Speaker 1: It's hard to be fine.
Speaker 2: I said, it's hard to be fine.
Speaker 3: We got some money on your back.
Speaker 5: He's in Miami, day in Miami.
Speaker 1: What's the objections? It's about to figure out what Angela's
Speaker 1: objection is. What's the core objection?
Speaker 2: How old is he?
Speaker 4: This child is twenty? Isn't he twenty twenty one? He's
Speaker 4: twenty one? You're right? And Tommy is forty one, and well.
Speaker 1: What should issue? I think Angela is the only one
Speaker 1: with a problem because I was. I was a cougar hunter,
Speaker 1: That's what I was.
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 4: Not twenty years twenty when.
Speaker 1: I met Ellen. Now, Ellen was eight and a half,
Speaker 1: nine years older than me. It wasn't twenty, but that
Speaker 1: was a whole lot. I mean, so.
Speaker 4: Ellen still looks younger than you, with all due respect.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so what does that?
Speaker 1: I mean, does it have to do with how you look?
Speaker 1: Your age?
Speaker 3: I mean, twenty years is too significant for a man
Speaker 3: or a woman dating someone their junior.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I was forty and she was sixty.
Speaker 1: Still the big issue.
Speaker 2: Maybe Look, look, I don't share run around here with
Speaker 2: a thirty five year old. What is she she pushing?
Speaker 4: Pushing too much too, that's too much. I don't like that.
Speaker 2: Love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we loved this.
Speaker 4: Mini pot is over. I thought that. Okay, so I
Speaker 4: was not the only one carried, but so many.
Speaker 2: Now you agree with me.
Speaker 6: I'm going to tell you that these are these gentlemen
Speaker 6: are not even are he is She's not.
Speaker 5: Talking about cheering, We're talking about adult No, but my.
Speaker 4: God child is the same age.
Speaker 6: That's why. That's why you see it, and that makes
Speaker 6: perfect sense. But I will say, Angela, there's something in
Speaker 6: the water. And I'm not saying this is for everyone,
Speaker 6: but there is something in the water about this generation
Speaker 6: of young men who are unafraid to holler at.
Speaker 2: Women older than them from.
Speaker 1: Tell me what your no.
Speaker 6: I only like younger men come to me with no
Speaker 6: issue and come to me with no drama, come to
Speaker 6: me like, hey, what's up?
Speaker 2: If they they not nonchalant?
Speaker 6: You older men be nonchalant like I'm not a big
Speaker 6: deal chalant me my.
Speaker 2: G B chalanted?
Speaker 6: Okay, do not come to me on some nonchalant you are, okay,
Speaker 6: I want you to be chalanting me the entire time.
Speaker 6: These young men will do that because they have no
Speaker 6: ego involved. They have not been hurt, they have not
Speaker 6: been damaged, and they will come to you. Look, I'm
Speaker 6: not doing twenty, but I will say, I mean, I
Speaker 6: do get a young fella, youngest the youngest where I
Speaker 6: would really seriously consider it.
Speaker 2: I'd live right around thirty five. That's where I'm a b.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm gonna be I could do thirty six.
Speaker 1: Wait, wait for what?
Speaker 2: So is this just like to know today for real?
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, y'all?
Speaker 6: Just fun and then they're dating for real? So fun fun,
Speaker 6: I'd hit to third night, I go right at a
Speaker 6: third end.
Speaker 4: I can't do it.
Speaker 2: I would, I would, But my question isn't cause you do, Angela.
Speaker 1: This is where you get.
Speaker 4: I just I can't. I just I can't.
Speaker 1: But for fun, y'all ain't really asking people for this.
Speaker 1: Ain't like to say that you're not meeting somebody in
Speaker 1: a mutual space asking them for their identification card. If
Speaker 1: you find somebody to be attractive when you're in their conversation,
Speaker 1: has a good job you know them if they are
Speaker 1: twenty six, twenty seven, twenty eight.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, you'll know they am my professional development program.
Speaker 4: I don't know them any other way, you know.
Speaker 6: And then it's rare that you'll meet I think, at
Speaker 6: least in my particular case, it's rare that I meet
Speaker 6: somebody in their twenties that I'm like, oh, this sounds
Speaker 6: like someone I would like to have a full conversation with.
Speaker 6: This sounds like somebody I want to sit and talk about.
Speaker 6: But the thing is they haven't had enough experiences to
Speaker 6: maintain the stimulation that would want to keep me there.
Speaker 2: And so that's it.
Speaker 5: I think that's the line of demarcation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's why I really couldn't take someone that young. Seriously.
Speaker 6: Now, that's what I said about thirty five in your
Speaker 6: dating summer, You're like, Okay, you've had some life experiences.
Speaker 6: You may own a home, you may have you may
Speaker 6: have started your own business. You're you're you're fully invested
Speaker 6: into this thing called adulthood. You're you've been adulting and
Speaker 6: so therefore allegedly way, but what I mean, just in theory,
Speaker 6: you've traveled, you've lived the world, Like there are things
Speaker 6: that you've experienced, and so the conversation and so the
Speaker 6: agreements and the level of which we can really relate
Speaker 6: keeps me interesting.
Speaker 1: I understand that because the first time you get the
Speaker 1: Cheesecake Factory menu, if you haven't been there before, if
Speaker 1: you haven't seen it before, it can be overwhelmeding.
Speaker 5: Options.
Speaker 1: But everybody, everybody knows you got to start with the
Speaker 1: lettuce raps. That's why you need that experience. Mercy, my
Speaker 1: significant other and I still go tod We still we
Speaker 1: do Applebee's appetizers because that's that's.
Speaker 5: When you know better. You do better.
Speaker 1: Brother.
Speaker 3: No, yes, Psychritt, we're still eating there. But I'm not
Speaker 3: let me ask you this, you guys, what about So
Speaker 3: we talked about the youngest.
Speaker 4: The guys didn't answer.
Speaker 3: Really, y'all should we want to keep you safe with
Speaker 3: your with your wives, but I do want to know
Speaker 3: what's the oldest, so you guys can go back to
Speaker 3: the oldest you dated when you were still in the
Speaker 3: streets and then carry the oldest you date now.
Speaker 1: I just didn't like young I didn't like young women.
Speaker 4: That's because you just pop.
Speaker 1: But I just did to. I didn't feel like I
Speaker 1: didn't feel like teaching. Yeah, I didn't want to. I
Speaker 1: wanted somebody with the with with a certain level of
Speaker 1: experience physically, emotionally, had been through those things. I was
Speaker 1: out here. I wasn't. Yeah, we're not out here trying
Speaker 1: to trying to, you know, teach a protagona theorem. When
Speaker 1: we're hanging out together. I want you to already be experiencing.
Speaker 2: To come and do it the way he wanted. That's
Speaker 2: what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: So that's why, that's why me and my wife hit
Speaker 1: it off. Well, so I didn't I didn't train. Yeah, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: we don't. We don't. We don't practice this game time.
Speaker 6: I will date probably say the youngest. I would really
Speaker 6: and again the word date is I'm using that word lightly.
Speaker 6: I the latest, i'd consider the youngest. I'd consider it this.
Speaker 6: Oh oh yeah, I'm not yeah, because maybe this sounds
Speaker 6: awful what I'm about to say, maybe sixty sixty something.
Speaker 2: But you have to be together, Like if I'm working,
Speaker 2: I don't want you to work out.
Speaker 1: You know, sure, yeah you can work out, but the
Speaker 1: problem is the problem is if they sixty something, you're
Speaker 1: gonna work out together, but you.
Speaker 5: Gotta update your narrative.
Speaker 6: Sixty Yet I'm thinking fifty five right right, If I'm
Speaker 6: being honest, I was going to live right here.
Speaker 1: Ask you to a question, can you too do? Can
Speaker 1: you to do? Divorced with another family?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: That wait a minute, hold on divorce with another family?
Speaker 3: You sound like afro Man, which you know he.
Speaker 5: Ain't say nothing by marriage afro man.
Speaker 1: I didn't say and but like but divorce but has
Speaker 1: but has like I used with so like divorce but
Speaker 1: has college age ex wife and college age children ex wife? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that doesn't I've dated.
Speaker 5: I diated somebody who had a child when I was
Speaker 5: first elected, and I actually thought it was going somewhere.
Speaker 5: And then of course all the older women in my
Speaker 5: life were like, I don't know what you wasted.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna that doesn't bother me. The children, I.
Speaker 1: Never thought it would be. It was, and I love it.
Speaker 1: I realized.
Speaker 4: My kids, like I love kids, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: I think we're approaching at a different ages now. I
Speaker 5: think we it'd be very hard to go into something
Speaker 5: new and lasting that doesn't have some history. But I mean,
Speaker 5: for me, the number is not as important as like
Speaker 5: the connection with the person, and I get like if
Speaker 5: you're a certain age and you haven't lived enough life.
Speaker 5: But I don't necessarily prescribe exclusively. I think you should
Speaker 5: had you lived this long, know some things and so
Speaker 5: on and so forth. But I've also met people who
Speaker 5: you're like, God, damn, this person's been here. I don't
Speaker 5: know how you know my life, like you know my life,
Speaker 5: but you know you're speaking it into me, and vice versa.
Speaker 5: So I think I'm not hooked up on age, except
Speaker 5: probably when it comes to my kids. Maybe I may
Speaker 5: have some opinions that will differ uh here, but but
Speaker 5: I think if you got a solid connection, the age
Speaker 5: thing will figure itself out.
Speaker 1: I think that man look at things differently too, though,
Speaker 1: I think that the I think that the attachment that
Speaker 1: men gravitate towards first is more of a physical rather
Speaker 1: than the emotional attachment that you that Angela and Carry
Speaker 1: were alluding to, like the emotional maturity age. But yeah,
Speaker 1: but well, yeah, I do do you think it thinks?
Speaker 1: But I think twenty to forty most most men, the
Speaker 1: first thing that they gravitate towards is the physical attraction
Speaker 1: and more somebody, more so than for me. But I'm
Speaker 1: not when I say, I mean, I mean all of
Speaker 1: the physical.
Speaker 4: Tiff was still on the show. Tiff was on the show.
Speaker 3: Tiff said she attracted somebody's brain when she see them.
Speaker 5: I have she you gotta have some.
Speaker 2: You got some real serious.
Speaker 6: For that to overcome it on this precious beautiful man
Speaker 6: like on the show on Flavoring and Funny Jamal and
Speaker 6: I talk about this.
Speaker 2: I love them.
Speaker 6: I love you, Bakari, I love you Andrew. You as
Speaker 6: are beautiful, handsome man, like right up my alley. I
Speaker 6: like you, tall, dark and handsome, and so it is.
Speaker 6: I will go for that first, which leads me in trouble.
Speaker 6: Now when you open your mouth and it's nothing, then
Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm turned off.
Speaker 2: You can only do so much with that. You can
Speaker 2: only for.
Speaker 6: A woman and a man could deal with the aesthetic
Speaker 6: all day. I need something more. But I do like
Speaker 6: to look at you. I do want to be like here, Andrew.
Speaker 1: You never you never never dated any women Andrew that
Speaker 1: weren't they weren't like.
Speaker 5: No, they they they they're beautiful, I mean, look good
Speaker 5: on the outside. But if we can't get past that,
Speaker 5: Like I'm talking to you about something serious and you're
Speaker 5: like babe, you want some ice cream for dinner? Like
Speaker 5: it's it's so like that's not going be like.
Speaker 1: What flavor do you with a little strawbery?
Speaker 5: Mostly because I think relationships have to be partnerships.
Speaker 1: I think is my partner. I tell everybody that she's.
Speaker 3: Beautiful and brilliant, and I think that's the part, Like
Speaker 3: we're not talking about just the superficial connection. There has
Speaker 3: to be something there there, and I think that's the part.
Speaker 3: And what I'm concerned about, for especially these younger men,
Speaker 3: is yeah, that's that's fun and fine, But a lot
Speaker 3: of these women who focus just on aesthetic also expect
Speaker 3: to be taking care of There are whole songs about it.
Speaker 3: What are you buying me? Where are you taking me?
Speaker 3: Give me some money? Like all that stuff, like what
Speaker 3: happens when you get beyond that?
Speaker 1: What happens when you let me tell you what?
Speaker 2: What's she doing to that boy?
Speaker 4: She better hope Solange don't get a hold of it.
Speaker 3: All I'm saying is you can run up on Solange
Speaker 3: knows if you want to. That's not a good bet.
Speaker 3: You should have found somebody else's child. But and then
Speaker 3: the thing that I don't like about it is. It
Speaker 3: wasn't that like Jules was recording this content. It was
Speaker 3: this woman recording this content. And I think it was
Speaker 3: for leverage over Solange and b And I really just
Speaker 3: don't I'm always I'm always gonna go to the worst
Speaker 3: possible scenario. That's what I saw for in life.
Speaker 2: Is Christy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I will say this. I will say this.
Speaker 6: She got married and she was fifteen, like she's been
Speaker 6: a rebel, like what she she was like a young
Speaker 6: teenager when she got married and pregnant, and so I
Speaker 6: think so much was she she got married, she has fifteen,
Speaker 6: she got she had she had old boy, Yes, she
Speaker 6: did good jewels, she had jewels, was you utene? And
Speaker 6: I think they were trying to marry Oh. I think
Speaker 6: they were trying to say she was married. In theory,
Speaker 6: they were.
Speaker 2: Trying to protect it.
Speaker 6: My point being seventeen okay, so okay, My point being
Speaker 6: is that she's been here before. That is her child,
Speaker 6: that spirit of I will try something different and be different.
Speaker 2: That's who she is. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Friend, The quickest way to lose a child is to
Speaker 1: push him away. I will tell you that. To say,
Speaker 1: to say don't do this. As soon as she said
Speaker 1: don't date this girl or whatever, that's the quickest way
Speaker 1: for them to go out and double down.
Speaker 5: She also looks like a mother who like, lets you
Speaker 5: walk out on the legend probably off and then you know, correct.
Speaker 2: You and learn.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I feel like she's protective of her
Speaker 4: loved ones.
Speaker 1: I just like the fact that they looked happy. Life
Speaker 1: is too short. That man looked happy. He was about
Speaker 1: he was about Yeah, he was about to put his
Speaker 1: churchhots on and have a ball.
Speaker 3: It's I think the girls now saying they broke up.
Speaker 3: So that's why I'm saying, I think that this was
Speaker 3: all the is to begin with. It was like a
Speaker 3: you know, to get to get your people talked to you.
Speaker 3: Minutes she got us talking, she got us and.
Speaker 4: Sixteen year old. That's not just too old here. I
Speaker 4: ain't gonna do that.
Speaker 6: But you know you can't date a six year old.
Speaker 6: But I will say this, I gotta go on mixtrien,
Speaker 6: I gotta go to But let me say, six ye oh,
Speaker 6: six zero. I wouldn't date a six zero five to five?
Speaker 4: Is you right?
Speaker 2: I'm right there?
Speaker 6: Six Zeero's hard to find out a healthy six zero.
Speaker 6: But I will say this, the way in which she was.
Speaker 2: He picked her.
Speaker 6: Up and she was on his back and he was filming.
Speaker 6: He was schalanting her. That's what she was getting into.
Speaker 4: She was schalanting him her.
Speaker 2: He was happy, did you get her?
Speaker 4: He was.
Speaker 2: He was excited.
Speaker 1: And also sometimes she was heavy because she was. Sometimes
Speaker 1: sometimes we gotta just mind business, be happy.
Speaker 4: You know what. Sometime that's true.
Speaker 2: But by the way, and on that, mind your business.
Speaker 4: Leave my guy children alone.
Speaker 1: He's gonna start dating your friends. By y'all, By y'all.
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