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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that for many areas of life, you

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<v Speaker 1>only need one good solution to be fine. Don't worry

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not naturally talented or interested in something. You

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<v Speaker 1>can reach the level of fine with one go to answer.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have ever experienced job seeking or dating, as

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<v Speaker 1>I imagine most of us have, you know that both

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<v Speaker 1>of these processes can get discouraging. So it's helpful to

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<v Speaker 1>remember that you don't need to find a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>great options in both of these categories. One great job

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<v Speaker 1>and you're employed, one great significant other and you're partnered.

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<v Speaker 1>That's enough. You don't need to find five amazing significant others. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>one good one is what we are aiming for. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>remembering this is comforting, the search process feels far more doable. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>There are obvious differences between partners and say, holiday gifts,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do think this mindset can be helpful for

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<v Speaker 1>many aspects of life. If there is an aspect of

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<v Speaker 1>your life where you are not confident or just not interested,

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<v Speaker 1>all you really have to do is find one way

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<v Speaker 1>to be reliably successful, and then you can be satisfied

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<v Speaker 1>with that. So, for instance, if cooking is not your thing,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get by with just one dish that you

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<v Speaker 1>know you can make any time you have company. Unless

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<v Speaker 1>you are having the same people over every week, no

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<v Speaker 1>one cares that you are serving lasagna again. And if

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<v Speaker 1>your lasagna is really good, that's probably better than getting

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<v Speaker 1>worked up about trying to make some sort of fancy

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<v Speaker 1>beef stew. Just go with the lasagna. It's all good.

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<v Speaker 1>You can also have a go to holiday gift. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you always order gift baskets from your favorite local food store,

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<v Speaker 1>or you send flowers from your favorite local florist. Just

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<v Speaker 1>think of something that almost everyone would be fine with,

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<v Speaker 1>and then there is no need to stress out over

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<v Speaker 1>gift shopping ever. Again, all you need is one great gift.

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<v Speaker 1>For those of us who aren't in the fashion business,

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<v Speaker 1>we might only need one special outfit. If I am

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<v Speaker 1>speaking somewhere formal, chances are are I am wearing a

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<v Speaker 1>blue shift dress. If it's business casual and it might

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<v Speaker 1>be cold, I've got a dressy pink sweater, black pants

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<v Speaker 1>and heels. I know I'll feel confident and appropriately dressed

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<v Speaker 1>when I am wearing these things and I won't have

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<v Speaker 1>to spend time in my closet deliberating about what to wear.

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<v Speaker 1>You need only one response to some common questions. Anytime

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<v Speaker 1>someone asks you to share a fun fact about yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>you can use the same fun fact. You can give

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<v Speaker 1>the same response anytime you have a job interview and

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<v Speaker 1>are asked to tell us about yourself or what is

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<v Speaker 1>your greatest weakness. You do not get bonus points for novelty,

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<v Speaker 1>trust me on this one, So just use the same

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<v Speaker 1>go to responses again and again. Now, if it excites

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<v Speaker 1>you to think of lots of cool facts to share

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself, or you love trying different outfits than by

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<v Speaker 1>all means do so. But for many of us it's

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<v Speaker 1>better just to simplify. In these areas, all you need

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<v Speaker 1>is one. If you've got a surefire winner, just be

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<v Speaker 1>happy with that. Save the mental energy you'd spend trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get some more variety on something you truly care about.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll probably be happier as a result. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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