1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: Today's tip is that for many areas of life, you 4 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: only need one good solution to be fine. Don't worry 5 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: if you're not naturally talented or interested in something. You 6 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: can reach the level of fine with one go to answer. 7 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:41,639 Speaker 1: If you have ever experienced job seeking or dating, as 8 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: I imagine most of us have, you know that both 9 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 1: of these processes can get discouraging. So it's helpful to 10 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: remember that you don't need to find a lot of 11 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: great options in both of these categories. One great job 12 00:00:56,680 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: and you're employed, one great significant other and you're partnered. 13 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: That's enough. You don't need to find five amazing significant others. Really, 14 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: one good one is what we are aiming for. Sometimes 15 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: remembering this is comforting, the search process feels far more doable. Now. 16 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: There are obvious differences between partners and say, holiday gifts, 17 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: but I do think this mindset can be helpful for 18 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: many aspects of life. If there is an aspect of 19 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:38,840 Speaker 1: your life where you are not confident or just not interested, 20 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,279 Speaker 1: all you really have to do is find one way 21 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 1: to be reliably successful, and then you can be satisfied 22 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: with that. So, for instance, if cooking is not your thing, 23 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 1: you can get by with just one dish that you 24 00:01:56,800 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 1: know you can make any time you have company. Unless 25 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: you are having the same people over every week, no 26 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: one cares that you are serving lasagna again. And if 27 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: your lasagna is really good, that's probably better than getting 28 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: worked up about trying to make some sort of fancy 29 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: beef stew. Just go with the lasagna. It's all good. 30 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: You can also have a go to holiday gift. Maybe 31 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,919 Speaker 1: you always order gift baskets from your favorite local food store, 32 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: or you send flowers from your favorite local florist. Just 33 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: think of something that almost everyone would be fine with, 34 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: and then there is no need to stress out over 35 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: gift shopping ever. Again, all you need is one great gift. 36 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: For those of us who aren't in the fashion business, 37 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: we might only need one special outfit. If I am 38 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: speaking somewhere formal, chances are are I am wearing a 39 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: blue shift dress. If it's business casual and it might 40 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: be cold, I've got a dressy pink sweater, black pants 41 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: and heels. I know I'll feel confident and appropriately dressed 42 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: when I am wearing these things and I won't have 43 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: to spend time in my closet deliberating about what to wear. 44 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:29,799 Speaker 1: You need only one response to some common questions. Anytime 45 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: someone asks you to share a fun fact about yourself, 46 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: you can use the same fun fact. You can give 47 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: the same response anytime you have a job interview and 48 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: are asked to tell us about yourself or what is 49 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: your greatest weakness. You do not get bonus points for novelty, 50 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: trust me on this one, So just use the same 51 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: go to responses again and again. Now, if it excites 52 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: you to think of lots of cool facts to share 53 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: about yourself, or you love trying different outfits than by 54 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: all means do so. But for many of us it's 55 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: better just to simplify. In these areas, all you need 56 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 1: is one. If you've got a surefire winner, just be 57 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: happy with that. Save the mental energy you'd spend trying 58 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:27,679 Speaker 1: to get some more variety on something you truly care about. 59 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: You'll probably be happier as a result. In the meantime, 60 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:39,160 Speaker 1: This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making 61 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to 62 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 1: hear from you. You can send me your tips, your questions, 63 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: or anything else. 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