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Speaker 3: Sometimes a person in our lives, a friend, a student,

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Speaker 3: He's a stalker or she's abusive, and they want us

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Speaker 3: to shun, be cold, to exclude, or in other ways

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Speaker 3: punish this person. Our first responsibility is to determine if

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Speaker 3: they are in physical danger for real violence.

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Speaker 2: If not, then we ask to think with them.

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Speaker 3: About the order of events so the complexities of the

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Speaker 3: unethical to hurt someone because we have been told to

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Speaker 3: do so. We are required by decency to ask both

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Speaker 3: the complainant and be accused how they understand the situation,

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Speaker 3: and this I truly believe requires an in person discussion,

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Speaker 3: asking hard questions and creating an environment in which complexities

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Speaker 3: can be faced is, after all, what a real friend does.

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Speaker 3: The possibility that the person is not in physical danger,

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Speaker 3: but is experiencing their reasonable needs being overpowered and controlled

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Speaker 3: by others will be revealed by this process. Similarly, discussions

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Speaker 3: will also reveal if they are blaming, scapegoating, or punishing

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Speaker 2: What if we cared enough and took.

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Speaker 3: The time to have the full conversation focusing on details,

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Speaker 3: Not only could we get away from the buzzwords and

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Speaker 3: what friends, teachers, caseworkers, family and community members are supposed

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, wait, wait, wait, wait wait, I'm sorry. I forgot.

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Speaker 3: I didn't even say what the fucking book was. And

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Speaker 3: book about?

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Speaker 2: You know it? So I'm reading a new book.

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Speaker 3: It's conflict is not abuse, overstating harm, community responsibility, and

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Speaker 3: the duty of repair. And yeah, it's real deep and

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Speaker 3: it covers. It's funny because it's a lot of concepts

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Speaker 3: things that I thought about that I'm like, man, this

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Speaker 3: so to say, you know, like a member of Act,

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Speaker 3: like like Sarah Schulman is like a bona fide, bonafid activist,

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Speaker 3: you know, aids aids activism, you know, a professor all

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Speaker 3: fact that and this happens. I always say, what I

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Speaker 3: of goes into detail to say, like these tools online

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Speaker 3: and all this stuff, we've given people language to express

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Speaker 4: Before because they have access to people that without the Internet,

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Speaker 3: Right, So you know, before y'all even ask what I'm reading,

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Speaker 2: And it's very poignant and very man like.

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Speaker 3: Some of this shit is just so accurate to the

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Speaker 3: stuff that I see that I've been seeing for years.

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Speaker 3: I think being online has exposed us to more people.

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Speaker 3: And being so that we get exposed to more people,

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Speaker 3: we also attract certain people that are just not on

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Speaker 3: it's certain sick cycles you see where you're like, I

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Speaker 3: don't think this person as well, or I don't think

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Speaker 3: experienced before. You know, I think I've never even knew

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Speaker 3: now I see the patterns and I'm like, oh, this

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Speaker 3: Like that's sad, and you just kind of hope not

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Speaker 3: think it up until I read about that, I've men

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Speaker 2: I was like, what is wrong with this person?

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Speaker 3: But then I read it, I said, Oh, these are

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Speaker 3: I read a new article today about narcissists and they're

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Speaker 3: But it was just one of those moments where I

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Speaker 3: I've been kind of preparing myself for so much more

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Speaker 3: You know, there's whether it's people that don't like you,

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Speaker 3: yeah real, you willcome the focal point of these folks,

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Speaker 3: and of some of them anyway, not all of them,

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Speaker 3: but you know, and you end up having to be like,

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Speaker 3: how do I deal with this? I'm this is I'm

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Speaker 3: not a fucking trained psychologist. I don't know how you

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Speaker 3: how you deal with a person that is in conflict

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Speaker 3: But reading these things and reading like people say, like

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Speaker 4: And you're not going crazy and you're not alone. And

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Speaker 4: that's the biggest piece because so many people, because the

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Speaker 4: thing is everybody has some levels of narcissism, like within them,

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Speaker 4: like you have to in order to do certain things,

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Speaker 4: and accomplisse certain things, like it is a part of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's just to read about this stuff, man,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it's so affirming, you know. And then

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Speaker 3: if they can get to the to the tools faster yep,

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Speaker 2: That's what they do.

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Speaker 3: So, you know, it's it's just shit is more complicated

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Speaker 2: It's like a gun.

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Speaker 3: You know, a gun is not necessarily the thing that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's and it's kind of similar to drugs

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Speaker 4: one of those things where everybody uses these things. It's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like.

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Speaker 3: For like for example, the and she talks about this

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Speaker 3: But you know, as a she's a feminist, she's a lesbian,

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Speaker 3: But she talks about stuff like the believe women as

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Speaker 3: what about women who lie? So does this mean all women?

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Speaker 3: Do we believe candas owns? Do we believe Stacy dash?

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Speaker 3: Like what is the limit, because if there's limits to it,

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Speaker 3: and it's not like every woman is gonna tell the truth,

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Speaker 3: And if you and if you say I'm in this group,

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Speaker 3: what now you're protected? You know, Hey, look, black men

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Speaker 3: don't cheat. Okay, so we know that's not true. And

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Speaker 3: you guys can say it all the time, and of

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Speaker 3: course if you're a black man, you love to promote

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Speaker 3: And so what is the damage done behind being able

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Speaker 3: all of us, don't give a fuck, how nice you are,

436
00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:48,320
Speaker 3: how well like you are, somebody don't.

437
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:50,879
Speaker 2: Fuck with you, and you don't fuck with somebody. Cool,

438
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:51,560
Speaker 2: got it?

439
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:56,440
Speaker 3: And then there's I don't fuck with this person. None

440
00:20:56,480 --> 00:21:00,520
Speaker 3: of y'all can fuck with this person. Right, that's another level.

441
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:04,400
Speaker 3: That's very narcissistic. That's a very narcissistic tendency. We've all

442
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 3: seen that shit too, and I think when we get

443
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 3: in our egos. I've seen people do that. You know,

444
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 3: people have have done that before. Like, well, I've seen

445
00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 3: people get into that zone where maybe you're feeling bad

446
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 3: that day, you're angry that day, you're in the middle

447
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 3: of a conflict, and you now you're like, if you

448
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 3: follow so and so follow me, you know that kinde

449
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,960
Speaker 3: of shit. I've seen people do that I never do

450
00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:30,800
Speaker 3: that because it's just not my nature. And then there's

451
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 3: a third one, and this is the one I've seen

452
00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 3: now is hey, go get this person. And I see

453
00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 3: that one a lot, you know, And when I see that,

454
00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 3: not from a lot of people, but you know, people

455
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,680
Speaker 3: that repeat that pattern a lot, find a new target.

456
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:48,400
Speaker 2: Isolate them.

457
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 3: We're attacking them, you know, the people that go to

458
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 3: Facebook group, start fightsing and then send their friends to

459
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:54,560
Speaker 3: the Facebook group to fight more.

460
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,120
Speaker 2: People like that.

461
00:21:56,200 --> 00:22:00,479
Speaker 3: Type of like belligerent behavior and shit like that. That

462
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 3: Like now I'm reading and I'm like, oh, this is

463
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 3: this is not a thing that I just thought, Well,

464
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 3: that's weird. It's a thing that people can't like. Whether

465
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 3: they can't help it or whether they're bored, I don't know.

466
00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, some people and some people are just unaware and

467
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 4: some people are just more susceptible to that, if that

468
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 4: makes sense, Like, you know, because the thing is truth

469
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 4: be told. A lot of this stuff, if you're like

470
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:28,239
Speaker 4: a messy type of a person, is easy for you

471
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,199
Speaker 4: to get involved in this because a lot of it

472
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:34,120
Speaker 4: involves mess because it involves conflicts, it involves two parties

473
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 4: that don't get along, and actually you don't actually give

474
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 4: a fuck. You just want to see the fall like

475
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 4: a mess.

476
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:43,560
Speaker 3: Right, Well, apaths get something out of the relationship with

477
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:47,480
Speaker 3: a narcissist. Yeah, So like enablers, flying monkeys, whatever you

478
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 3: want to call them, these people actually get something out

479
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 3: of the relationship. Now it might not be physical, it

480
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 3: might not be monetary, but it could be self esteem,

481
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 3: it could be the control of them, it could be

482
00:22:57,680 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 3: the fact that they're getting attention from the narciss but

483
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 3: like the narcissist kind of becomes the religious tentpole for

484
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 3: these folks that do this.

485
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 2: And they'll do stuff.

486
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 3: Man, reading I'm telling you reading this article, they'll do

487
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 3: shit like and it's crazy because I've seen.

488
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 2: It, like I would.

489
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 3: I couldn't believe this until I saw it because I

490
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 3: was seeing behavior.

491
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 2: I was like, that seems actually fucked up on your part.

492
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 3: Like they'll do stuff like become like informants for the narcissists,

493
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:29,399
Speaker 3: Like they'll like, so you don't like this person, that

494
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,159
Speaker 3: person obviously blocks the narcissts because they're lying on them,

495
00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 3: they're attacking them, they're harassing them. So then that the

496
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 3: flying monkey does stuff like go back and forth between them,

497
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 3: you know, you're at work, you work with the narcissists.

498
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 3: You say, hey, I don't want to be in any

499
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 3: means with this person. I don't want to have any time.

500
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 3: They work on their side office.

501
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 2: I work on mine.

502
00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 3: Well, the flying Monkey goes back and forth between the

503
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 3: message the mess and they have gossip.

504
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: And they come back and inform on what you said.

505
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 3: And there's nothing you can say that actually will make

506
00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 3: that okay with them. You see what I'm saying, Like,

507
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 3: they'll tell you, like, here's the things that people do,

508
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 3: and sometimes people do stuff like, well, I'll here's a

509
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 3: third party. Maybe I can convince them that this person

510
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,679
Speaker 3: is actually the one that's fucking fucking with me. No,

511
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 3: they're getting a they're getting a high from being around

512
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 3: the narcissist career're just using your shit.

513
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 2: And like I've seen people screenshots shit.

514
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 3: I've seen people like private conversations put public because it

515
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,719
Speaker 3: curry's favor with the narcissists. I've seen it, And now

516
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 3: that I've seen it, I'm like I had to read

517
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 3: something about it cause I was like, this is and

518
00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: maybe because it's so far from the kind of person

519
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,360
Speaker 3: I am, this is that is insane to me. Right,

520
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 3: Like I have friends who don't like each other. I

521
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 3: don't go back and forth between them, like I like,

522
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 3: I will straight up to tell you straight up, like, hey,

523
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 3: that's my homie. I understand y'all don't get along. You

524
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 3: know this is the kind of person they are to me.

525
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 3: I don't you know, maybe y'all had a different experience.

526
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,119
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna tell you how to think about them.

527
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 3: But at the same time, no, it's not. I'm just

528
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 3: not gonna not be their friends because you don't like them.

529
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 3: What the fuck are we in third grade? Like we're

530
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 3: forty now, you know what I mean? Like we understand

531
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 3: these complexity. You know, this isn't high school anymore. But yet,

532
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,919
Speaker 3: watching this ship play, I had to read something. And

533
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:19,120
Speaker 3: it's very fortunate because I started reading this book before

534
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,879
Speaker 3: the like seeing more shit flare up. So I actually

535
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 3: started reading this book and was like, oh, I'm already

536
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 3: prepared for this. All you can do is cut them off.

537
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 3: You can't reason with these folks, You can't interact with

538
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 3: their the fucking flying You have to block the flying

539
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 3: monkey people. You have to get used to them lying,

540
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 3: you have to get used to them having their own

541
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: like version of reality where they tell people shit about

542
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 3: you and they what they want is panic, and they

543
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 3: want any response, any they like. Blocking them is a response, yes,

544
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 3: it is. Talking to them is a response. Not talking.

545
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: It's all.

546
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 3: They are self fueled because it's not about you. It's

547
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 3: about them glorifying themselves and having people join in to

548
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 3: be like, Yeah, you're the real hero, You're the one,

549
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 3: You're you're the you know, you're the You're the protagonist

550
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 3: of this story and there's and that stuff to me

551
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 3: is so scary. But I'm so glad for the lessons

552
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 3: we have gotten during this show and for the people

553
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 3: we've interacted with, the bad ones, not the good ones.

554
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 3: I'm thankful for the bad ones because man, when I

555
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 3: tell you cruise control now, like I get while Beyonce

556
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 3: just be like, I don't know, I'm putting out pictures

557
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 3: of me at the at the Matt Galla with my

558
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 3: husband that y'all don't like.

559
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:32,920
Speaker 4: My options and keep it truck.

560
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I.

561
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 3: Get it now, because it's just like I have to

562
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 3: live my life. You I'm you're gonna stay all mad.

563
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 3: I remember talking on this show. It's had to be

564
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:44,640
Speaker 3: years ago now, but it's probably The most important thing

565
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 3: I've ever discovered on this show was going on a

566
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 3: message for him where people were talking about us, and

567
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 3: I was hurt, you know. I was like, damn, Like,

568
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 3: we do a good show, we don't try to hurt nobody,

569
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 3: Like these are some very hurtful things people are saying.

570
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 3: They're saying it like they wouldn't say this to our face,

571
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 3: but anonymously on the internet they get to just say

572
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 3: whatever they want. They can call us names, they can

573
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 3: do whatever. And at that point, it had never crossed

574
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 3: my mind that that would be a day that we

575
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 3: would experience on the show, because we don't really do

576
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 3: that kind of work, Like we don't do the snarky

577
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: like we're shitting on everybody so you can come shit

578
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 3: on us type of thing. We don't do that, you know,

579
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 3: So to see somebody do that, even with us being

580
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,399
Speaker 3: well intentioned, like these weren't people that had issues with like,

581
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: well they use this phrase on the show is offensive. No,

582
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 3: it was like they're stupid, you're fat, you're ugly, you

583
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,640
Speaker 3: know that type of shit. And I was like, wow,

584
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: like that really taught me what people think about me

585
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 3: is not my motherfucking business.

586
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:45,919
Speaker 2: No, it's not.

587
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 4: You have the right to feel, however, you won't to

588
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 4: feel like and I have the right not to know

589
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 4: and not to give a fuck about how you feel.

590
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 3: Reading Francesca Ramsey's book just not like this shit is

591
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 3: so it's so, it's like the cosmos just lined up

592
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 3: because this informations coming into my brain at the time

593
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 3: that I needed, Like reading Francesca Ramsey talk about like

594
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 3: how she used to shit on Leana Dunnam and then

595
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,959
Speaker 3: met her, how she had another YouTuber that was more

596
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 3: successful for her than her and she was hating on her,

597
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 3: and then she met the woman and was like, what

598
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 3: the fuck was I hating her for?

599
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, how did I let this?

600
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: Like she had joined a form that was dedicated to

601
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 3: like hating this woman snarkily and her like having any

602
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,120
Speaker 3: Like the whole thing was we're not going to harass her,

603
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 3: but you did create a place to go to talk

604
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 3: shit about her. And you know, while you know you

605
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 3: can make different measures of morality, that's not very healthy either,

606
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 3: you know. And there's things, there's stuff I've decided to

607
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 3: do with myself and the show, whether people notice or not,

608
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 3: that has made my life better, like if people noticed

609
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 3: I don't talk shit about Charlemagne and at the Breakfast

610
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 3: club anymore, cause I realized, like part of that is

611
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,479
Speaker 3: either insecurity and jealousy of the fact that their message

612
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 3: is getting out bigger than our platform all that shit.

613
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 3: Part of that is it's in the cultural zeitguys, but

614
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 3: in my contributing to it by sharing the shit, and

615
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 3: then you know, I'm And then the other part was

616
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 3: it don't fucking matter. That's really not that's what they think.

617
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 3: You know, what our shows about what we think, and

618
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 3: that's what people come to listen to. They don't come

619
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 3: to listen to us be like I mean, some people

620
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: probably do, but and you know, but get ridmans to

621
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 3: those folks, because I like, if you're listening to me,

622
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 3: to be like, let me tell you why I don't

623
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 3: fuck with Oprah, let me tell you how Steve Harvey

624
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 3: mess stuff for one hundred times, Like that's.

625
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 2: Not really what I want to make my show. I

626
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: want my show to be about.

627
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: What we say, what we do, the things that we

628
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 3: have to contribute. And that was like things that I

629
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 3: came to these conclusions on my own, you know, And

630
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 3: so now to be here and like reading these things

631
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 3: and be like, Okay, I was making my life healthier

632
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,959
Speaker 3: the whole time, and I never fucking knew it. Like,

633
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 3: my anxiety is pretty much non existent now, you know,

634
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 3: which is for me is big.

635
00:29:58,880 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 2: You know.

636
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 3: There's times where I'm I'm like, I don't want to

637
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 3: go down to this event, I don't want to interact

638
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 3: with this person. I don't wanna you know whatever. And

639
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 3: now it's like I'm chilled, you know.

640
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, And sometimes I think it's just part of our

641
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 4: our our personalities because in my opinion, you were doing

642
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 4: things that was almost considered self cutting, Like I would

643
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 4: never go to a so I like, I like, I

644
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 4: don't give a fuck, Like it's ship that bothers you

645
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,479
Speaker 4: that I'm like, do do, Like I'll just keep trucking,

646
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 4: like like, who gives a fuck about this? You know?

647
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 4: But that's just a difference in our personality. They have

648
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 4: the right to say whatever they want to say, and like,

649
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 4: because I don't go looking, cause if you're looking for something,

650
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 4: you will find it.

651
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 2: Yeah. I called it right. I called it emotional cutting.

652
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 3: At the time when I that episode, I was like,

653
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm emotionally cutting myself because I know,

654
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 3: you can't expect one hundred percent uniformity of praise, and

655
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 3: yet here I was hoping to find that, knowing I wouldn't,

656
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 3: and then only concentrating when I didn't find it, and

657
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: I found.

658
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 2: Like peace and being like, oh this person doesn't like me. Cool. Cool.

659
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 2: It took me a while to get there, but I'm

660
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 2: fucking here now.

661
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 3: And so now it's like niggas, say what you're gonna say,

662
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 3: make up what you're gonna make up. The people that

663
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 3: like those flying monkey type people will flock to that

664
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 3: shit because they need that person, they.

665
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 2: Need that energy, they need that they need.

666
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 3: To feel that way. But you know what, man, so

667
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 3: much beauty has been around us. We've been supported by it,

668
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 3: Like we don't have to worry about that shit, Like

669
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: when I'm not, I'm not. I'm just here to live

670
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 3: my life and be give my honest truth and we

671
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 3: can do anything we fucking want with what we have,

672
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And so we're in a luxury,

673
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 3: luxurious spot and.

674
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 2: I would never lose focus of that.

675
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 3: So it was just kind of interesting to like read

676
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 3: these things, to be going through these things and dealing

677
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 3: with this shit at the same time, and then be like, wait,

678
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 3: I get it now, you know what I'm saying. That's

679
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 3: why I'm reading the book. And I'm not saying I

680
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 3: agree with everything in the book like it's any other opinion.

681
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 2: There's certain shit where I'm like, I don't know about

682
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 2: that one.

683
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 3: But some of these phenomena of like how people act,

684
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 3: how certain personalities, certain punitive things.

685
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 2: That shit is beautiful.

686
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 3: And I do believe in conflict, and I do believe

687
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 3: in the fact that people, especially in our circles or

688
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 3: the circles I was in or whatever, can many times

689
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 3: because we have words overstate harm on purpose because that's

690
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 3: how you get attention.

691
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 2: Agreed, So we you know.

692
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 3: So there's certain things that I've all I mean, we've

693
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 3: done episodes about it, like the one where it's like

694
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 3: you can't wrap the world in bubble wrap because I

695
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 3: think we're talking about trigger warnings and this is years ago,

696
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 3: and I was like, I'm not gonna do them on

697
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 3: our show. And I understand if that means we will

698
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 3: lose from listening, me too. And I'm not doing these

699
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 3: things to purposely offend people. No, not trying to be

700
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 3: a dick about it, but I have to understand that

701
00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 3: this is the world. I'm not going to sugarcoat the

702
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 3: world for you, and that'll mean some people will be like,

703
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 3: I need I need a sugarcoat it. You know, I

704
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,560
Speaker 3: need that, content want it, I need that. But you know,

705
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 3: sometimes I feel like people want it because you can

706
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 3: have it quote unquote right, and you can demand it,

707
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 3: and therefore you become the good guy. The people who

708
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 3: don't do it becomes the bad guy. And now we

709
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 3: have this I'm the good guy. You're the bad guy.

710
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 3: You didn't do enough, you didn't do and it's like, yeah,

711
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 3: even you know, especially for shit you're gonna watch or

712
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 3: see anyway you're gonna listen to anyway, hey man, that's part.

713
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 2: Of the game. That's part of the risk of life.

714
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 3: You're gonna walk out of the house and be you

715
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 3: know and deal with some shit, some adversity sometimes and

716
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 3: how you deal with that is how is what we

717
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 3: determine makes the value of our lives.

718
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 2: And so you know, like to that so to see

719
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 2: like other people.

720
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 3: Being like, oh, I've been thinking about this and here's

721
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 3: my thoughts on it, and be like okay, and this

722
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 3: person got skin in the game. They're not just some

723
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 3: asshole saying this isn't Bill o'relly you know.

724
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 2: So anyway, I really enjoyed this book.

725
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 4: But before we move on, also something else. When you're

726
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 4: dealing with a person that's a narcissists, particularly if you're

727
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 4: the type of person with a fighting spirit and you

728
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 4: fight like like fighting, you're one of them people, they

729
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,240
Speaker 4: be like, motherfucker, you come over here, I will fuck

730
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 4: you up, you know, because there's some people with that

731
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:16,240
Speaker 4: type of personality, which is fine, But the thing about

732
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 4: these people, you can't win. It's a lot of times

733
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 4: it's nothing physical you can do. And so those people

734
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,840
Speaker 4: have to understand that. Sometimes you got to be like,

735
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,720
Speaker 4: I can't fight you. And that is very very hard

736
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 4: for a person that has a fighting spirit. You lying

737
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 4: on me, bitch, what you said this nigga? What like

738
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 4: like like that fighting spirit flares up because you like

739
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 4: what you ain't gonna do. But you have to get

740
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,720
Speaker 4: to the point to where you realize that some battles

741
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,920
Speaker 4: you cannot win and you're taking a lot of energy

742
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 4: and a lot of effort and pouring it into the

743
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 4: person and guess what, you fail for the trap because

744
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 4: that's all they wanted in the first place was your attention.

745
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 3: In the chat doctor Umar Trita, she's when it's people

746
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 3: we don't like, we can pick it out immediately, right, right,

747
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 3: we don't like them, so we go, Yeah, they be

748
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 3: sending people after folks on Twitter.

749
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 2: They be harassing folks.

750
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 3: That's block them all day like they you know, like,

751
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 3: and it's like, well, we don't like him, and we

752
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 3: do like some of the people they target, and so

753
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 3: now we're you know, we want to get involved.

754
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:14,240
Speaker 2: We want and guess.

755
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: What they don't do stop ever, none of them have

756
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 3: ever stopped.

757
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 2: They still go on that.

758
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 3: And part of the reason they don'top is because they

759
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 3: always get a reaction, correct, you know, and because people

760
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 3: don't understand that the psychology of a narcissists of control,

761
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 3: they can't help themselves from responding, like people don't notice,

762
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 3: but I don't say it on the show because I mean,

763
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 3: at this point, who gives a fuck.

764
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 2: But people will never stop harassing me online.

765
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 3: Nope, I stopped talking about it, correct, Like I just

766
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 3: send the shit, delete, send it to spam or whatever,

767
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 3: or you know, delete the voicemail or don't read the review.

768
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,400
Speaker 2: Like I don't like. At some point I had to.

769
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 3: Stop being in turmoil, because my response to them was

770
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:56,840
Speaker 3: about my turmoil.

771
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:59,879
Speaker 2: It's not about them, you know, like, what the fuck?

772
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 3: And this person on the internet possibly have to say

773
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 3: to me that can affect me. They don't know me,

774
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So these were things that

775
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 3: you know, I think people probably think, oh, you guys

776
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 3: are just the show is so good now that y'all

777
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 3: don't deal with that.

778
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 2: No, it's not content. And I'm not like a dancing

779
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 2: you know, dancing machine.

780
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:18,880
Speaker 3: You just hit the button and all of a sudden,

781
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 3: I started jukeboxing because hey man, you don't get to

782
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 3: put a quarter in with negativity. You want to say

783
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 3: something positive. You want to interact with us with respect.

784
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 3: You want to come to us, you know, in a

785
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 3: mutual playing field. No problem. But I think it's hard

786
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 3: because this is something we had to learn, especially me,

787
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,359
Speaker 3: had to learn over time. People have watched, if they

788
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 3: listened to the show, they watched me learn this right.

789
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 3: And I haven't patted myself on the back floor or

790
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 3: told people like every step of the way.

791
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 2: There has been decisions I may want like not doing

792
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 2: that no more. It's not healthy.

793
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 3: It's not good for me, you know, and it's a

794
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: luxury to be able to have that. And it's also

795
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 3: stages of progress. There's other podcasts I listened to and

796
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 3: they're either younger, or they just have a different mentality,

797
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 3: or they haven't quote unquote made it to a level

798
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 3: yet where they're starting to.

799
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 4: Get or they hadn't dealt with certain things.

800
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I listened to how they think, and I go, damn,

801
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 3: I used to think that way.

802
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 4: And you and some of them, I've actually seen growth,

803
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 4: Like some people they do their podcast and if they're

804
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 4: actually a completely different podcast, yes.

805
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 3: And I love that me too. I love growth for them,

806
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. I mean a big example

807
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 3: that everybody knows and obviously no shade, but the Read

808
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:31,439
Speaker 3: when it started to where the read is now they're

809
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 3: on TV, Like that's been to me, that's a beautiful growth.

810
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: I know many of their fans.

811
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: That hate on that, Yes, they've turned.

812
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 3: Oh y'all used to go in there and say so

813
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 3: and so is this and lah blah blah, and it's like, well,

814
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: now we might be in a room with this person.

815
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 3: Come on now, we might need want them to have

816
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 3: a guest the interview on on our show like we

817
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 3: can't just be out here saying willy nilly shit just

818
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 3: to get the reaction for y'all to high five each other,

819
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 3: knowing that there's actual consequences and they now know what

820
00:37:58,320 --> 00:37:59,320
Speaker 3: it's like to be harassed.

821
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 2: They now know what it's like to be on the

822
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 2: other side of that shit.

823
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:05,240
Speaker 3: So like the toning down to them is actually maturity

824
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 3: and growth. They talk about going to therapy, they talk

825
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 3: about mental health, they do, Like who would down these things?

826
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 3: But there are people that down these things because they're

827
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 3: not as entertaining anymore to them, you know what I'm saying,

828
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 3: Like I was here for the mess Oh, y'all not

829
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 3: gonna be as messy as you used to be.

830
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 2: Fuck this, y'all, donun change blah blah blah.

831
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 3: But they don't care about the effects that would have.

832
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 3: Don't care if you're in Crystal's mental health. They don't

833
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 3: care how that would happen their actual life. When I

834
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 3: gotta go to fucking Apple Radio and I've been shit

835
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:34,399
Speaker 3: talking uh Nicki Minaj all day, you.

836
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 2: Know what I mean?

837
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 3: Like, that's a real fucking consequence to this that you

838
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 3: and podcast Land as a listener don't have to deal.

839
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 4: With nope and nope and and the thing is about

840
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:47,240
Speaker 4: the messiness that we've come up before. The average person

841
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 4: does not give a fuck about you falling out with

842
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 4: a narcissist. The average person, regardless of where they are,

843
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 4: are gonna sit back and just watch the ship and

844
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 4: just watch the mess They're not gonna pick sides. They

845
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 4: gonna keep friends with both, They're gonna keep associated with both.

846
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 4: And people's opinions and views are not going to change.

847
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 4: And once you understand that, you will pick and choose

848
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 4: your fights wisely. There are some fights that are not

849
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 4: worth it because the end result is nothing changed.

850
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: There's also a shit ton of.

851
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 3: Ego and the idea that you think you can decipher

852
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 3: a conflict from fucking you know, on the internet thousands

853
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 3: of miles away.

854
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 2: Right. I don't have that kind of ego, some of

855
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 2: you niggas.

856
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 3: I've sat at the table with people that have a

857
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 3: problem with other folks and been like, I don't know

858
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 3: their side of this, and I'm sure they have a

859
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 3: version of this event too. You know, iOS, I support you.

860
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna shit on you. You you know what I'm saying.

861
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,399
Speaker 3: Wishing nothing for the best, but I'm gonna be real

862
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 3: with you. I hope y'all resolve it. And I don't

863
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 3: want to say anything too bad because let's be frank,

864
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 3: if y'all resolve it, now, I'm a nigga that talked

865
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 3: out that shit, right, you know what I mean? Like,

866
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Speaker 3: but and this is the last thing I'll say. But

867
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Speaker 3: every single time that I've even been warned about a

868
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Speaker 3: narcissistic person or this person's blah blah blah, every single time,

869
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Speaker 3: pretty much they confirm the shit with their behavior. And

870
00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 3: that's the saddest part because narcissm is not something that

871
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: you can't even go to.

872
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Speaker 2: Therapy for it.

873
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Speaker 3: It's just it's either in you or it's not like

874
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 3: they don't have emotions. They fake emotions, right, you know that.

875
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 3: You know, it's like it's fucking weird. Like you can

876
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 3: watch the patterns happen. They say things that contradict other things,

877
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 3: and they because it's about what happens in the moment,

878
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 3: they aren't they aren't capable of stopping this behavior. So

879
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 3: it's you know, like with that kind of shit, it's

880
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 3: just sad to see. And then also because of the

881
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Speaker 3: culture of a lot of people, we now have this

882
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 3: thing where it's like if you're the victim, you're the

883
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 3: victor in a lot of these circles because we've switched

884
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 3: the power dynamics, but it's still a power dynamic at

885
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 3: play that, you know, the same way people get wrongfully convicted.

886
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 3: You can wrongfully support somebody or you can wrongfully take

887
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Speaker 3: someone else down out and shunning them and shit. And

888
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Speaker 3: I think it's interesting to see the tactics that people

889
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 3: say are conflict resolution when they're not, you.

890
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Speaker 2: Know, correct.

891
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 4: And there's also one of those things where if you're

892
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Speaker 4: the type of person to be like, am I wrong,

893
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 4: that means that you're willing to seek help. And but

894
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Speaker 4: if you're the type of person that's like, I don't

895
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Speaker 4: need no help, I'm right, I don't need no therapy.

896
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Speaker 4: Don't talk to me. No, I'm not going to get

897
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Speaker 4: no help.

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Speaker 2: Y'all.

899
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Speaker 4: Don't know what y'all talking about, y'all.

900
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 3: But you know, it's funny they'll say that and then

901
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Speaker 3: post a and then within the next moment be like,

902
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Speaker 3: I need money, I need help. I'm so sad and depressed.

903
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 3: Then they'll get money, and then the next one they'll

904
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Speaker 3: be like, I'm so angry fuck this. I don't need

905
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 3: no people you know, well, you maybe need therapy. I'm

906
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 3: already fixed. I'm already over it. Later on I want therapy.

907
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 3: I just you know, I can't like I've.

908
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 2: Seen this shit.

909
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:58,240
Speaker 4: Yes, it's like, oh.

910
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 3: My like this and it's all for these people that

911
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 3: are you know, gonna put them on a pedestal and

912
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 3: feed that ego.

913
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Speaker 4: So oh, just around looking at the mess.

914
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Speaker 2: YEP anyway back to our regular schedule program. Sorry, I

915
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Speaker 2: just that was just a word on my chest.

916
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Speaker 3: And if you guys dealing with it, like, because because

917
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 3: I've really been trying to keep this shit to myself,

918
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:19,319
Speaker 3: I really been try not talking about it. But because

919
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 3: it's narcissism, you're not supposed to fucking like acknowledge these

920
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 3: people and they're gonna do what they do anyway, So

921
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 3: you know, be yourself, be authentic. But the thing that

922
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Speaker 3: for me that really was like and this is like

923
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Speaker 3: I said, years ordeals, But the thing for me that

924
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Speaker 3: really was like affirming was like I shared a couple

925
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Speaker 3: of these articles and people started being like, oh, I've

926
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Speaker 3: dealt with this, or I've seen this, or I work

927
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Speaker 3: in a field where this is one of the main

928
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Speaker 3: issues we have to deal with and it's like, yeah, like, oh,

929
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Speaker 3: this is real. You didn't make this up. You're not crazy,

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Speaker 3: you know. And that's the whole thing is they're trying

931
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Speaker 3: to attack your reality, so you think you're crazy and

932
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Speaker 3: you think you're an asshole unless you do exactly what

933
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Speaker 3: they tell you to do and do their kite like

934
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Speaker 3: bidding for them, and if not, then they attack you.

935
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Speaker 2: Right.

936
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Speaker 4: And it's also one of the things too for a

937
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Speaker 4: lot of people, particularly if you've never dealt with this

938
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 4: before and you can't pin it, but you just know

939
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 4: the behavior is abnormal. That's when, excuse me, you feel

940
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 4: like you're alone and you don't want to ship. And

941
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,919
Speaker 4: when you do share with people who have never dealt

942
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 4: with this, they're gonna be like that ain't real. Something wrong,

943
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 4: Like I didn't think it was real, right, every everybody,

944
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 4: Because I've seen people that have deal with narcissis talk

945
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Speaker 4: to other people who've never never responsor was like, oh,

946
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 4: you've never dealt with this before because you because most

947
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 4: people just dismissed that, like like that shit has made up.

948
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Speaker 3: And online gives people the ability to create community, so

949
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 3: you can create community around someone being a narcissist.

950
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 2: You can create communities that enable people and shit.

951
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 3: And it's like sad to know, because if the art

952
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,839
Speaker 3: right can happen, you're telling me that that's the only

953
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:53,800
Speaker 3: bad thing on the Internet.

954
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 2: People get to create their own reality, you know.

955
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Speaker 3: Like friend talks about being in a fucking form that

956
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Speaker 3: was dedicated to hating on this woman, Like that's a thing.

957
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Speaker 3: They created a community of hating this woman. I think

958
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Speaker 3: she shut down her comments on YouTube, and then it

959
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Speaker 3: was like, well, we need someone to talk about her,

960
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Speaker 3: but she shut them down, for motherfucker probably shut them

961
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Speaker 3: down because of the attention in the harassment, and so

962
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Speaker 3: then it's like, well, well we won't harass her, but

963
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Speaker 3: we're gonna take the negativity and build a community off

964
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Speaker 3: of that.

965
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Speaker 2: And the community's been on negativity. Are never mind? Bob,

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Speaker 2: Know we would hurt, y'all. I smile, even though it

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Speaker 3: I know God is working, so smile even though he

995
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996
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Speaker 2: Smile. It's so hard to look up when you look down.

997
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Speaker 2: I sure would hate to see you give up. Now,

998
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Speaker 2: you look so much better when you smile. Can you

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1000
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Speaker 2: can you just smile for me? And the people say.

1001
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Speaker 3: You were so much better when you all right, all right,

1002
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Speaker 3: let's get into the money.

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Speaker 3: to the United States as a child from a small

1006
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Speaker 3: country in Africa, so almost all my extended family is

1007
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Speaker 3: still back on the continent. Ever since my mother and

1008
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Speaker 3: I arrived and eventually became you as citizens.

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1011
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,600
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1012
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1013
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 2: I went to the family cookout today and saw some

1014
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Speaker 2: of my cousins.

1015
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Speaker 3: I know Rod and Karen lead the kind of and

1016
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Speaker 3: I didn't take no selfish So did it happen?

1017
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

1018
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 4: I don't know if a tree following nobody around, did

1019
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:24,359
Speaker 4: it actually fall?

1020
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Speaker 3: If it's not, Graham did it was an event that

1021
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Speaker 3: took place in America.

1022
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: It was all in my mind.

1023
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Speaker 3: Rodick Caren Lee lead the kind of black cultural conversations

1024
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Speaker 3: I'm always glad I heard, especially when the subjects are hard.

1025
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Speaker 2: Thank you, Cuz, thank.

1026
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Speaker 4: You, thank you.

1027
00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 3: Kenny jack says, your perspectives give me hope. I work

1028
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 3: in a mental health clinic and clerical I asked a

1029
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 3: counselor what she thought if I wanted to become a

1030
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,279
Speaker 3: social worker. She encouraged me. I say that to say,

1031
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 3: your perspective fills me with light. It makes me feel

1032
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 3: okay when I forgive those who wronged me. It makes

1033
00:48:57,360 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 3: me feel comfortable with helping people who sentiment sometimes.

1034
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Speaker 2: Ushed on me.

1035
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Speaker 3: Man, listen, it makes me consider how I can make

1036
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 3: a bigger impact. Social work may become my field in

1037
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Speaker 3: the near future.

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Speaker 2: Thank y'all. Kenny Jackson from Natural Tochaz. I think that's

1039
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:12,879
Speaker 2: how it's pronounced. Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Listen, Yeah, because that's work that needs to be done

1041
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 4: and a lot of times forgiving and forgiveness and growing

1042
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 4: and growth. In my opinion, that makes you a better person.

1043
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 4: You know, some some people think that's a character flow.

1044
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Speaker 4: I don't, all right, you know, I shout through guys.

1045
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Speaker 2: I don't.

1046
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Speaker 3: Especially like now when we can build communities that support

1047
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,479
Speaker 3: us no matter what we decide, and I think that's

1048
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:44,839
Speaker 3: a It's scary because listen, I'm telling you man, we're

1049
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 3: gonna look back on the Internet and social media and

1050
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 3: we're going to discover some things at some point about

1051
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 3: the way that it is exacerbated certain mental health issues,

1052
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 3: the way that it is depressed some of us it is,

1053
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:02,840
Speaker 3: some of us angry, the way that it has changed

1054
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:06,799
Speaker 3: some of the way we communicate with each other. At

1055
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Speaker 3: some point that will be discussed. It's been some positive

1056
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 3: things too. This is not just all of this is negative,

1057
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Speaker 3: but we haven't really had enough studies done on it

1058
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 3: because it's still a fairly new, unregulated thing.

1059
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Speaker 2: Imagine this, How many people do you.

1060
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Speaker 3: Know who talk cold cash shit about Facebook?

1061
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 2: This week? How many of you do you know that you.

1062
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 3: Watched they were on Twitter talking about it, which is

1063
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Speaker 3: also supposed to assess pool.

1064
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 2: They were on Facebook talking about it.

1065
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Speaker 3: They share clips of this dude being dressed down from

1066
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Speaker 3: Congress women and stuff on Facebook while being like Facebook

1067
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Speaker 3: is terrible, it fucking ruined the election. How many of

1068
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Speaker 3: them deleted their Facebook? How many of them are gonna

1069
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Speaker 3: log right back on the Facebook because it's addictive and

1070
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Speaker 3: they know what the fuck they're doing, and they they've

1071
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Speaker 3: done studies that say, like, we know this shit is

1072
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 3: fucking with people, and we know how to fuck with

1073
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Speaker 3: your brain, how to track you, we know how to

1074
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Speaker 3: do this, we know how to bring up and we

1075
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 3: can make you impost by things.

1076
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Speaker 2: We know what we're doing.

1077
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,759
Speaker 3: And yet somehow we don't think this is changing us

1078
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Speaker 3: or by or affecting us or people or everyone can

1079
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Speaker 3: handle this, Like everybody is on this on an even

1080
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Speaker 3: from playing field, No one has more anxiety than other

1081
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 3: people about it. That kind of shit, you know, seeing

1082
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 3: scrolling videos of instant play, black death and shit is

1083
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 3: no effect on none.

1084
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 2: Of us, you know what I'm saying, Like it's just

1085
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 2: something to think about, you know.

1086
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 3: So yeah, and I appreciate you doing the kind of

1087
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: work that you're doing, and I'm glad to know that.

1088
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 3: I feel like people that work in those fields are

1089
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 3: people that need to understand forgiveness, the value of it,

1090
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:53,760
Speaker 3: and the value of restorative restorative justice, and the value

1091
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 3: of conflict resolution. Not enough people promote that anymore. You know,

1092
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,359
Speaker 3: it's like it's corny now, But like, how the fuck

1093
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:03,919
Speaker 3: you gonna work in a system where so many people

1094
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 3: you're working with gonna are gonna be people that have

1095
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:08,280
Speaker 3: harmed themselves harmed other people.

1096
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:12,880
Speaker 2: We can't just trash everybody.

1097
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 3: You know, We can't just you know, like yeah, and

1098
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 3: it's not gonna be easy a easy process, and it's

1099
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 3: not something that can take you can take care of it.

1100
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 2: One hundred and.

1101
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 3: Forty characters like these are real people, were real things,

1102
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 3: And if our show inspired somebody to like have that

1103
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:24,800
Speaker 3: type of attitude, man, that's.

1104
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 2: What we're here for. Straight up.

1105
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,359
Speaker 3: Love is freaking showed by Jarviy seven seven seven. Come

1106
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:33,800
Speaker 3: to the pod for Game of Throne, stay for everything else.

1107
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 3: We know we a bit of an everything else show.

1108
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 3: The feedback shows are bombed, and I honestly thought I

1109
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 3: wouldn't like them. I get so mad when my talkative

1110
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 3: coworkers come up and I'm listening to y'all. The blackoutiss

1111
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 3: has the best guess and I've been getting my life

1112
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 3: on the Walk of Day every cast and I don't

1113
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:50,359
Speaker 3: even watch the show.

1114
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 2: Lol, It's crazy.

1115
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 3: I feel like roder Carroon challenge listeners to think for

1116
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 3: themselves on like other podcasts that promote a sort of

1117
00:52:56,800 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 3: group thing. Man, you know that's circular thing thinking too,

1118
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 3: because like and this is you know, because I create

1119
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 3: a podcast for a living and I listen to a lot,

1120
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's them promoting the group think

1121
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 3: or they're in communities that have so much of the

1122
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 3: like uniformity of opinion and it's not really allowed for

1123
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 3: you to question or feel a different way. So you

1124
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 3: almost have to be that way because like what am I?

1125
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 3: Because a lot of podcasts don't have listeners like as

1126
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 3: many of us, So it's like, what if I say

1127
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 3: the thing that's gonna make the few people that fuck

1128
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 3: with me stop fucking with me or not listen to me,

1129
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:37,160
Speaker 3: And it's like they become stuck with They're afraid to

1130
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,400
Speaker 3: take a chance to say the unpopular thing or to

1131
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 3: even like attack something with nuance because the wave is

1132
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:47,840
Speaker 3: we're all clowning Kanye's interview right now, so they're afraid

1133
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 3: to come on a podcast and be like this dude

1134
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 3: might not be in a fucking mentally healthy place, you

1135
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like we don't. We can talk

1136
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:58,279
Speaker 3: about it here, but that's the way we always been.

1137
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 3: But imagine if you start this late, you look at

1138
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 3: other people's communities, you just want what they have. Then

1139
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 3: you kind of fold into what they do. You know,

1140
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 3: their shows, And I'm not knocking these shows. It's actually

1141
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 3: kind of flattering to me. There's shows that have been

1142
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 3: inspired by us, and they start their show and their

1143
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 3: shows kind of sound like us, and then they branch

1144
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 3: out into different opinions and stuff like that and grow.

1145
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can see it happen. Like I said, I

1146
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:21,760
Speaker 2: think it's wonderful.

1147
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 3: But yeah, like who knows if it's chicken or egg

1148
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:26,359
Speaker 3: with that, they might just be trying not to get

1149
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 3: quote unquote canceled, And by canceled, I mean piss off

1150
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 3: the few people that fuck with them. I feel like

1151
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 3: I can listen to this podcasts and either walk away

1152
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:36,879
Speaker 3: more informed or more confident of what I already thought. Man,

1153
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 3: I love it, Keep up, keep it up, you two.

1154
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 3: That's my five on the Jarvist. Thank you, thank you.

1155
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 3: We take the five Yeah, and like I said, man,

1156
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 3: it's not about dictating down the people are paying.

1157
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 2: We just like to talk about the thought processes. Uh.

1158
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 3: And I love that you like the feedback show. I

1159
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 3: always feel like these are the shows that people sleep on.

1160
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 3: But when I looked up the numbers the other week,

1161
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, people listen to this too.

1162
00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:00,919
Speaker 2: It used to be the time when it wasn't true.

1163
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, it used to be a town where people was

1164
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 4: like that feedback shopping.

1165
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they missed ound some good conversations when they

1166
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 3: skipped this because like that, I would have probably read

1167
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:12,919
Speaker 3: that narciss out article tomorrow and now I'm probably not gonna.

1168
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: I don't know, do I need to read it.

1169
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 3: We kind of talked about it right anyway. I love

1170
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:20,279
Speaker 3: the show. Frizzy Carl says. Five Stars started with Game

1171
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:22,360
Speaker 3: of Throngs. We cast and stayed for the last insights.

1172
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:24,800
Speaker 3: You both are very inspiring and love of different segments.

1173
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 3: I still can't get over the fact that there are

1174
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 3: so many stories or fools of swords.

1175
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 4: A lot of people are shot by that. It's it's

1176
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 4: it's the English, endless dark old baby.

1177
00:55:33,239 --> 00:55:35,920
Speaker 2: Yeah. Let me tell you something fritzy cars.

1178
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 3: I almost made it, just said, let's just do an

1179
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,479
Speaker 3: episode and nothing but the sword stories to get them

1180
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 3: to finally wrap them up, because there's so many as

1181
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 3: have been down for that.

1182
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:49,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1183
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 3: I almost did it, but then I was like, the

1184
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 3: sword stories are among the most depressing part of the show.

1185
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 2: I say, you know, I don't know if I can

1186
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 2: make it through.

1187
00:55:58,200 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1188
00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 3: By by some point were just gonna be laughing the

1189
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 3: people cutting their mama's heads off and ship and I

1190
00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 3: don't know that that's we've all been canceled enough.

1191
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 4: We don't canceled lost their fingers. Yeah, I don't know

1192
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:11,280
Speaker 4: if y'all ready for that that got stabbed in the eye, nigga,

1193
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 4: what is happening?

1194
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, we've been canceled enough times for not being sensitive

1195
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 3: enough of these stories, so let's uh, let's not.

1196
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:21,799
Speaker 4: And then we would get the letter of I who

1197
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 4: have been cut by a sword.

1198
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 2: So yeah, right right, that was my cousin to cut

1199
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:29,879
Speaker 2: by that sword. Oh damn, you know, So all right,

1200
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 2: let's get it to the.

1201
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 4: It's true, right, because because we would be on flat

1202
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 4: joke time.

1203
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:37,720
Speaker 2: We have had someone mad about everything.

1204
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 4: Everything from my voices to the way we look like y'all.

1205
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:43,959
Speaker 2: Just don't understand. Imagine that we was trying to piss

1206
00:56:43,960 --> 00:56:44,479
Speaker 2: people off.

1207
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,120
Speaker 4: What imagine if that was the whole purpose.

1208
00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:49,880
Speaker 2: We had comments on the on the website.

1209
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 3: Fight for Your Joy was a feedback show, Ama said,

1210
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 3: such a great feedback episode, And I agree, folks are

1211
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 3: missing out if they're not listening to the feedback show.

1212
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 3: I also agree with the email said sing about welfare checks.

1213
00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 3: It irked me seeing not welfare physical like, not the

1214
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:08,359
Speaker 3: welfare check like money. She's talking about checking on people's welfare, right,

1215
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:11,800
Speaker 3: it irked me. Seeing means calling the man a coward

1216
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 3: for not coming over there himself. Yeah, man, social media, Man,

1217
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 3: it's not good moments like that when people snap to

1218
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 3: conclusions and shit, it's just not it's not healthy. Man,

1219
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 3: I tap out, like we're experiencing emotions in real time.

1220
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 2: Man, But so do you putting this shit out here forever? Man?

1221
00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:31,560
Speaker 3: Or saying don't call the police to check on me.

1222
00:57:31,640 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 3: It's ridiculous and just giving it into this toxic system

1223
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 3: and doesn't help the real issue or the way these

1224
00:57:36,680 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 3: police are trained when dealing with black people, right, Like

1225
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 3: the police should have to be accountable for the violence

1226
00:57:43,240 --> 00:57:48,600
Speaker 3: that they commit. That doesn't mean that the idea of

1227
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 3: like an authority figure being the one to welfare check

1228
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 3: somebody is bad, right, someone that we can trust in

1229
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 3: the community that's been vetted. That's not bad. And people

1230
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 3: honestly aren't doing that on their owns. You see what

1231
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:07,120
Speaker 3: happens when people are able to form communities online them,

1232
00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 3: shit's gonna be good. People be picking all kinds of

1233
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 3: weird as leaders and rules and and harassment tactics and

1234
00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 3: shit like that. Like, you know, you can't always just

1235
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 3: depend on everybody, like in the neighborhood to figure out

1236
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 3: George Zmon's on Neighborhood Watch, like you can't figure it

1237
00:58:22,840 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 3: all out, and sometimes you do need if it knock

1238
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 3: on wood. But in a in a working society, the

1239
00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:34,480
Speaker 3: idea isn't bad, you know. So it's not like he

1240
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 3: called that he had no reason to think those police

1241
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 3: would kill that innocent woman. Agreed, And he saw a

1242
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 3: door open in the middle of the night at his

1243
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 3: neighbors who he knew an older woman lived there, and

1244
00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 3: then the woman who got shot lived there, like to

1245
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 3: put that.

1246
00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:52,000
Speaker 2: On him, and so it's just wrong.

1247
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 3: Man. I really wish, I really wish people would think

1248
00:58:55,680 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 3: for a second before they put stuff like that in

1249
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:59,920
Speaker 3: the universe. If you would have gone over there, he

1250
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:02,439
Speaker 3: might have put himself in danger in a number of ways. Yeah,

1251
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:06,600
Speaker 3: what if it is a robbery? What you know what

1252
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 3: I'm saying, What if it's Texas, she mistakes you for

1253
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 3: a truder? You know, Like people are bringing up the

1254
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 3: fact that she possibly had the gun pointed at the

1255
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 3: police officer. I don't know if that's true, but they're

1256
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:19,040
Speaker 3: pointing that out, and I'm like, so if he would

1257
00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:21,520
Speaker 3: have just walked through the front door, like hey, everything

1258
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 3: alright in here, and she and she shot him in

1259
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 3: the chest, we might be talking about a different story

1260
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:27,920
Speaker 3: right now and we would all be like that man

1261
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 3: should not have been in her house. If fucking men night,

1262
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:32,880
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck of the door was open.

1263
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:34,760
Speaker 3: You know, what was he even doing there? Because you

1264
00:59:34,800 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 3: know what, we wouldn't have got his side of the

1265
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 3: story if he got killed, All right, what was he

1266
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 3: doing there? Some of the fairies, He's gonna steal some shit?

1267
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 3: You know, men are trash hass tag Like it would

1268
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 3: have been a different ways it was taken. It's it's

1269
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 3: just not healthy for us to be like putting this

1270
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 3: shit out here immediate in the aftermath of stuff. It's

1271
00:59:50,320 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 3: why we wait to talk about some of the stuff

1272
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 3: on the show or when we talk about it, we

1273
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 3: just like, I don't have all the answers. I don't know, uh,

1274
00:59:57,640 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 3: but yeah, I'm glad to have three of my neighbor's numbers.

1275
01:00:01,040 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 2: So when something does go down, we call each other.

1276
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:05,520
Speaker 3: But even that doesn't solve a problem with black people

1277
01:00:05,600 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 3: have to do mental math and risk assessments of it

1278
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 3: is it worth it to call the police?

1279
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 2: Love y'all? Mind right?

1280
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 4: Thank you?

1281
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 2: You know, and there are times people do use the

1282
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 2: police as a weapon. Don't get me wrong.

1283
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:19,919
Speaker 3: We you know it happens, but I just think that's

1284
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 3: not what that man intended, and it's unfair to do

1285
01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 3: that to him.

1286
01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:25,360
Speaker 2: Have you ever been kicked out of a party? Yes?

1287
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:25,800
Speaker 2: Or no?

1288
01:00:26,080 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 3: Care No people say no, they have not been kicked

1289
01:00:30,040 --> 01:00:33,240
Speaker 3: out of a party, So caring is on that side.

1290
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,080
Speaker 3: Ten percent of people have been kicked out.

1291
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:36,640
Speaker 2: Of a party.

1292
01:00:36,880 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 4: I normally leave like yeah, and it's not even leave

1293
01:00:40,200 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 4: like we don't fall out about okay, time to go,

1294
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:45,560
Speaker 4: like m No, I've never been kicked out.

1295
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:47,959
Speaker 2: I've been kicked out of party.

1296
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:50,080
Speaker 4: Yes, you have have.

1297
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:52,920
Speaker 2: I got kicked out of a party once.

1298
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 3: In college. We had a homecoming jam or something like that,

1299
01:00:59,640 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 3: and I got real, real, real, real drunk, and I

1300
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 3: was with me and some of my friends were hackling

1301
01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 3: the comedians really badly. It was not a good scene,

1302
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:18,920
Speaker 3: and uh Favuel State decided they could no longer tolerate

1303
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 3: our foolishness and kicked us out of the party. And

1304
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:27,720
Speaker 3: even more hypocritically, I snuck back in.

1305
01:01:30,080 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 4: So look at the manor you are now. Growth.

1306
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 3: I didn't go man the Seals and Instagram live because

1307
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 3: we didn't have Instagram back then.

1308
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 2: No, I don't think we.

1309
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 4: Had cell phones that actually had cameras on them.

1310
01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:42,400
Speaker 3: I did sneak back in, and I did. I actually dance.

1311
01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 3: That's how drunk I was. I was.

1312
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 4: That is not your nature. I was like dancing.

1313
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 2: What the hell?

1314
01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:52,000
Speaker 4: Who who is this man dancing?

1315
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 3: I didn't don't dance. It was a bad night, guys.

1316
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,880
Speaker 3: But you know what, I'm honest with y'all. I'm offending

1317
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 3: with our audience. Danny says, I don't get kicked out

1318
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 3: of parties because I don't go to parties too much.

1319
01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 3: Hash hat introvert hashat ain't no party like an introvert

1320
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 3: party because the introverty party.

1321
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:13,680
Speaker 2: Don't start all true. That's my favorite kind of party.

1322
01:02:13,800 --> 01:02:16,240
Speaker 3: Alicia says, I would be interested in hearing why y'all

1323
01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 3: got kicked out for the yes voters. Well, I told

1324
01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:21,720
Speaker 3: you mine. Ama says I'm usually a wildflower. Wildflowers don't

1325
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:23,560
Speaker 3: get kicked out, but we love seeing others kicked out

1326
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:26,920
Speaker 3: while watching from the shadows more ha ha ha. And

1327
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,720
Speaker 3: Monique says God put out of Vegas nightclub because a

1328
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 3: white bouncer confused me with another black woman from our

1329
01:02:32,040 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 3: party that was wild, drunk, and belligerent. Granted I believe

1330
01:02:35,160 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 3: I was drunk as well, but I'm not gonna take

1331
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:41,919
Speaker 3: that accountability loss. And I got back in pretty embarrassing though,

1332
01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:44,160
Speaker 3: okame on Ni we used to hang out together.

1333
01:02:44,240 --> 01:02:48,760
Speaker 2: It's not we really shouldn't. Uh, those are very in

1334
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 2: appropriate things to do. But h.

1335
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 3: I have been there and it was not not a

1336
01:02:54,960 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 3: good job, not a good sight. Nineteen eight liquor then tongs. Yeah, uh,

1337
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 3: let's see we had four comments.

1338
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:10,720
Speaker 2: Uh.

1339
01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 3: Sidney says, I almost fell off the treadmill listening to

1340
01:03:13,440 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 3: y'all talk about Pastor pusta monster monster.

1341
01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:23,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Immediately paused and headed to Twitter for the visuals. Hilarious.

1342
01:03:23,240 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 2: Thank y'all for this laugh it was much needed.

1343
01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 4: I'm welcome.

1344
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:29,480
Speaker 3: Mine says, Oh dang, it's ghosts. I thought it was

1345
01:03:29,520 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 3: gonna be aliens. Thanks Science Epic.

1346
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 2: I row. Yeah, they said ghosts make gay people gay.

1347
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 3: I love how folks say it's science and have no

1348
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:40,800
Speaker 3: research or studies or examples, all things that actual science

1349
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 3: relies on.

1350
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:43,360
Speaker 2: But okay, yeah, you know what.

1351
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 3: I must be possessed by a ghost of a coffee snob,

1352
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 3: which is why I hate punk and spice Lata so

1353
01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 3: much and must troll my husband every time he gets one.

1354
01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 3: Blame the ghost, honey. Great episode, y'all. Yeah, what else

1355
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:54,840
Speaker 3: can ghost do?

1356
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:56,720
Speaker 2: Like as? That was wrong?

1357
01:03:56,760 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 3: When people say, like you talk white, it's like it's

1358
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 3: actually a white ghost to me, dog, I did not.

1359
01:04:03,720 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 2: I didn't know why I talked like that.

1360
01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:06,240
Speaker 4: His name is Jack.

1361
01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 3: Anonyma says five stars. I loved your review of the

1362
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:15,640
Speaker 3: updated Cinderella. Here for Billy Porter as the fairy Godmother. Yes,

1363
01:04:18,560 --> 01:04:21,640
Speaker 3: when when Cinderella finally tells off her her.

1364
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 2: Evil stepsisters and stepmother He'll be like, yes, read bitch,

1365
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:28,959
Speaker 2: read Billy Porter.

1366
01:04:29,080 --> 01:04:33,240
Speaker 3: So good, right, Felix says, brother, listen, I feel for

1367
01:04:33,320 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 3: Megan Marco so much. I swear for months on end,

1368
01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 3: I see gossip magazines have her on the front page

1369
01:04:40,160 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 3: with increasingly ridiculous rumors about how she made the Royal

1370
01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 3: family mad this week. That's not even talking about the

1371
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:48,600
Speaker 3: way newspapers are talked about her and how they dunk

1372
01:04:48,640 --> 01:04:49,479
Speaker 3: on black women who.

1373
01:04:49,400 --> 01:04:50,320
Speaker 2: Feel seen by her.

1374
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:54,280
Speaker 3: Yep, it's been a it's been a microcosm of a

1375
01:04:54,280 --> 01:04:57,600
Speaker 3: bunch of bad ship with Meghan Marko. And like, I

1376
01:04:57,720 --> 01:05:00,400
Speaker 3: just did not even want to get involved in that

1377
01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 3: whole debate about was it okay to like think it

1378
01:05:04,040 --> 01:05:06,760
Speaker 3: was cute that she was getting married to the prince

1379
01:05:06,840 --> 01:05:07,200
Speaker 3: or whatever.

1380
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:10,040
Speaker 2: I just a duke whatever he is.

1381
01:05:10,080 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 3: It just seemed like such trivial nonsense in the big

1382
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 3: scheme of like what that woman's life is gonna be

1383
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 3: now and what vicariously is gonna be said about black

1384
01:05:20,880 --> 01:05:22,400
Speaker 3: people through there. You know. It's kind of like the

1385
01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:24,640
Speaker 3: Obama thing where it's like there's some black people that

1386
01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:27,560
Speaker 3: loved shit on Obama, like they think they get a

1387
01:05:27,560 --> 01:05:29,919
Speaker 3: bigger black card for it. But there's a lot of us,

1388
01:05:30,160 --> 01:05:32,520
Speaker 3: the majority of us. It's not that we think the

1389
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:35,320
Speaker 3: man's perfect. It's just like, damn, this motherfucker catching hell

1390
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:37,720
Speaker 3: for a bunch of unfair shit too, right, So I

1391
01:05:37,800 --> 01:05:40,760
Speaker 3: just don't feel like contributed to it, because you know,

1392
01:05:40,840 --> 01:05:43,680
Speaker 3: what fucking color his tan suit was is not that

1393
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,400
Speaker 3: shouldn't be a problem, or headline or his wife's orange

1394
01:05:46,400 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 3: being out, it.

1395
01:05:47,480 --> 01:05:48,520
Speaker 2: Shouldn't be a problem.

1396
01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 3: And so it's like, I don't want to get into

1397
01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:53,960
Speaker 3: some of the other shit about him sometimes, you know,

1398
01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 3: because it does mean something to black people to see

1399
01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:58,479
Speaker 3: that black person there, and it does, whether you admit

1400
01:05:58,560 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 3: it or not. It means something to a lot of

1401
01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 3: black women to see that black woman over there, and

1402
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:05,920
Speaker 3: that black child. It means something. You know, you don't

1403
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,440
Speaker 3: gotta like it, but fuck man, a lot of black people,

1404
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 3: well meaning black people there aren't coons and shit, are like.

1405
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, like I feel something.

1406
01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 3: Wrong with that, And it still makes them a focal

1407
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:21,800
Speaker 3: point for a bunch of racism, Yes it does. Meanwhile,

1408
01:06:21,880 --> 01:06:23,760
Speaker 3: Kate gets treated with the respect you to hope she

1409
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,560
Speaker 3: would be giving her position. It's been frustrating, but I'm

1410
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:27,760
Speaker 3: happy Harry is doing his best.

1411
01:06:27,800 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 2: To fight this. I'm really praying they get through this.

1412
01:06:30,960 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 3: And yeah, I feel Felix. Let's see, we had a poll.

1413
01:06:35,960 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 3: Uh oh, we had comments on it. Will Pastor Wilson resigned?

1414
01:06:40,360 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 2: Mm hmm okay, what are the choices are?

1415
01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 3: Uh oh wait, I gotta wait for the page a

1416
01:06:49,520 --> 01:06:51,280
Speaker 3: lot because apparently it's taking this time.

1417
01:06:51,760 --> 01:06:54,120
Speaker 2: All right, Oh wow, both pages a lot.

1418
01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:59,960
Speaker 3: Well, we'll get to these answers in a second whenever

1419
01:07:00,160 --> 01:07:05,960
Speaker 3: the computer here get together. Do think Jesus, this is

1420
01:07:06,000 --> 01:07:07,120
Speaker 3: the longest it's ever taken.

1421
01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:09,360
Speaker 2: Oh, what's happening? I don't know?

1422
01:07:09,520 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 3: A pausive show? All right, technical difficulties. Will Pastor Wilson resign? Yes,

1423
01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 3: he'll step down now he'll be forced to resign eventually.

1424
01:07:18,640 --> 01:07:22,080
Speaker 3: Or no, he'll be just fine. Karen, No, Karen says

1425
01:07:22,200 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 3: he'll be just fine. Eighty one percent of the audience

1426
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:25,200
Speaker 3: agrees with Karen.

1427
01:07:26,960 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 2: Why do you say that?

1428
01:07:29,280 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 4: Why would you like in the position that he's in

1429
01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:38,439
Speaker 4: and stuff like that. You know, actually the correct thing

1430
01:07:38,480 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 4: to do would be do step down on his own position.

1431
01:07:41,840 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 3: But all right, I agree that he won't resign because

1432
01:07:46,000 --> 01:07:48,200
Speaker 3: I don't think these motherfuckers have to do the right thing.

1433
01:07:48,360 --> 01:07:53,600
Speaker 3: Because up the narcissism and these flying monkeys and shit,

1434
01:07:53,840 --> 01:07:56,240
Speaker 3: these motherfuckers be in these churches doing these people bedding.

1435
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:58,960
Speaker 2: So I mean, I remember when it was.

1436
01:07:59,000 --> 01:08:01,400
Speaker 3: Eddie Long and I'm like, yep, this dude got like

1437
01:08:01,520 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 3: fucking ten dudes being.

1438
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 4: Like he's coming out lefting right.

1439
01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:07,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what the fuck?

1440
01:08:08,600 --> 01:08:08,760
Speaker 4: Uh?

1441
01:08:08,800 --> 01:08:10,160
Speaker 2: He'll be forced to resign eventually.

1442
01:08:10,160 --> 01:08:13,160
Speaker 3: Seventeen percent and two percent say yes, he'll step down now.

1443
01:08:15,000 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I went to eighty one percent. He'll be all right.

1444
01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:20,639
Speaker 3: My mom says, well, I voted no because I don't

1445
01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:22,280
Speaker 3: have a lot of faith in people these days. If

1446
01:08:22,280 --> 01:08:24,000
Speaker 3: he really wanted to spend it to save face, he

1447
01:08:24,080 --> 01:08:26,559
Speaker 3: temporarily resigned, Say he's going to get treatment for sex

1448
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:27,439
Speaker 3: addiction or something.

1449
01:08:27,800 --> 01:08:29,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, do people even do that anymore? It feels like

1450
01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:30,679
Speaker 2: that's old. Now.

1451
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:33,439
Speaker 3: I feel sorry for his wife because even being Muslim,

1452
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:35,800
Speaker 3: I know that church gossip is what church lousip is like,

1453
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:38,040
Speaker 3: and they'll probably find a way to blame her. I've

1454
01:08:38,040 --> 01:08:40,400
Speaker 3: seen it in my own community. Or if he was

1455
01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:42,400
Speaker 3: Super Bowl he resigned and just go in the poem.

1456
01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:45,960
Speaker 3: Because every black Facebook group I'm in they've been talking

1457
01:08:45,960 --> 01:08:49,480
Speaker 3: about it, and the latest seemed to be very impressed.

1458
01:08:51,479 --> 01:08:54,160
Speaker 3: Doctor Tiff says, I voted that no, but eventually he

1459
01:08:54,240 --> 01:08:56,200
Speaker 3: will be forced to step down. For the life of me,

1460
01:08:56,280 --> 01:08:58,080
Speaker 3: I don't understand why he would allow her to pull

1461
01:08:58,120 --> 01:09:00,679
Speaker 3: out her phone. Was he in his own didn't notice.

1462
01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:03,080
Speaker 3: I really believe it would depend on how his wife

1463
01:09:03,080 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 3: handles this. If she comes out and supported him and

1464
01:09:05,560 --> 01:09:07,640
Speaker 3: asked the congregation for aginness, they would do so.

1465
01:09:07,720 --> 01:09:08,920
Speaker 2: Otherwise it's toss up.

1466
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know why you let her record either

1467
01:09:11,960 --> 01:09:14,080
Speaker 3: that was I mean, it's no way else secret.

1468
01:09:14,160 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 2: It's rain in his face.

1469
01:09:15,080 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 4: I mean she had the flash on. I mean she

1470
01:09:17,400 --> 01:09:20,680
Speaker 4: was bright as fuck and that you know, I can

1471
01:09:20,720 --> 01:09:22,400
Speaker 4: see it. She didn't have it on. I mean, because

1472
01:09:22,400 --> 01:09:25,400
Speaker 4: you're facing the ass, you ain't looking up. But I mean, god, damn,

1473
01:09:25,400 --> 01:09:26,559
Speaker 4: that shit was like action.

1474
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:30,559
Speaker 3: He can down join the infamous ranks of the other gods.

1475
01:09:30,600 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 3: So just Kreflo Dollar, Eddie Long, Henry Lyons, Gaster Smith,

1476
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:36,200
Speaker 3: and Thomas Wesley Weeks And thanks to you again for

1477
01:09:36,240 --> 01:09:38,080
Speaker 3: black Twitter. Sais side who was on the case they

1478
01:09:38,080 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 3: found Corinthia and who her waxer is just kidding a

1479
01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:44,800
Speaker 3: buyer waxer Lol. They really did find all that she did.

1480
01:09:44,720 --> 01:09:46,800
Speaker 4: Find out who a wax is. You dig deep enough

1481
01:09:46,840 --> 01:09:48,360
Speaker 4: in the whole, somebody knows.

1482
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:52,439
Speaker 2: Because they tagged themselves to it. Like mm hm, look,

1483
01:09:52,560 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 2: this is my work, this is my work. Come on.

1484
01:09:55,040 --> 01:09:56,720
Speaker 3: But when Shoe Bay says, how come you never hear

1485
01:09:56,760 --> 01:09:59,000
Speaker 3: stories about the first lady of the church busting it

1486
01:09:59,000 --> 01:10:01,400
Speaker 3: over before USh always a male pastor.

1487
01:10:01,439 --> 01:10:03,920
Speaker 2: Because Dick's are a problem, Well.

1488
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:06,200
Speaker 3: Nique said, this story was wild and unselling for me

1489
01:10:06,240 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 3: as a Christian. This is the type of apocacy that

1490
01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 3: keeps people from joining churches. I'm happy with the church

1491
01:10:10,520 --> 01:10:12,640
Speaker 3: on man, I'm growing spiritually, and I'm oblivious to the

1492
01:10:12,640 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 3: mess if it happens. The worst that happens is my

1493
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:17,559
Speaker 3: white pastor drags and white parishioners talking about white privilege

1494
01:10:17,560 --> 01:10:18,280
Speaker 3: and immigrant stories.

1495
01:10:18,320 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 2: Oh you want to woke churches? Good for you? Dogs

1496
01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:22,840
Speaker 2: hard to find, Yes they are.

1497
01:10:22,960 --> 01:10:26,040
Speaker 3: He's gonna preach about tolerance for the lgbtqy A community

1498
01:10:26,080 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 3: this Sunday, and he joked that it would most likely

1499
01:10:28,200 --> 01:10:30,559
Speaker 3: be his last summon to come on out to him

1500
01:10:30,600 --> 01:10:35,360
Speaker 3: tap dance to around the issue. Everyone got a kick

1501
01:10:35,400 --> 01:10:37,400
Speaker 3: out of it, so that I at this place, I

1502
01:10:37,439 --> 01:10:40,439
Speaker 3: found a relationship I've wanted and I'm not worrying about

1503
01:10:40,479 --> 01:10:43,120
Speaker 3: mess like this. Goodness, how do you look after your

1504
01:10:43,120 --> 01:10:45,719
Speaker 3: spiritual journey with this kind of thing happening?

1505
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 2: Blessed? Blessing to all those involved, though truly.

1506
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:52,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, when pastors are mascots now, man like, yeah mascots.

1507
01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:56,639
Speaker 2: People be defending that shit, Bean, says Rod Care.

1508
01:10:56,800 --> 01:10:58,760
Speaker 3: The internal scream I wanted to let out when y'all

1509
01:10:58,760 --> 01:11:01,320
Speaker 3: talk about Pastor Wilson is my fault for listeners at work.

1510
01:11:01,760 --> 01:11:02,400
Speaker 2: Ha ha.

1511
01:11:02,600 --> 01:11:05,360
Speaker 3: I was a damn food for also looking his name

1512
01:11:05,439 --> 01:11:07,400
Speaker 3: up on Twitter to see that video as a result

1513
01:11:07,680 --> 01:11:10,360
Speaker 3: on my phone, because I would have been fired for sure. Yeah,

1514
01:11:10,400 --> 01:11:11,800
Speaker 3: don't do that on company Wi fi.

1515
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:16,040
Speaker 4: M M so some of them, some of that right

1516
01:11:16,040 --> 01:11:17,080
Speaker 4: there was not safe for work.

1517
01:11:17,200 --> 01:11:19,040
Speaker 2: I man gonna show up like, oh, this is what

1518
01:11:19,040 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 2: you're into.

1519
01:11:20,040 --> 01:11:23,479
Speaker 3: A homegirl said she was gonna have some leverage over

1520
01:11:23,600 --> 01:11:24,840
Speaker 3: this man one way or another.

1521
01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:25,800
Speaker 2: Huh.

1522
01:11:25,960 --> 01:11:28,360
Speaker 3: It does feel like it would fall into the category

1523
01:11:28,360 --> 01:11:29,160
Speaker 3: of revenge for him.

1524
01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:29,600
Speaker 4: M m.

1525
01:11:29,680 --> 01:11:31,880
Speaker 3: But it don't count with this man, even if he

1526
01:11:31,920 --> 01:11:34,559
Speaker 3: knew he was being recorded, won't be surprised if he

1527
01:11:34,600 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 3: goes with the my phone was hacked excusive enough people tell, oh,

1528
01:11:38,439 --> 01:11:39,600
Speaker 3: she goes with that excusive.

1529
01:11:39,720 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can see that people do that too, But

1530
01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:42,720
Speaker 2: how you gonna prove that?

1531
01:11:43,920 --> 01:11:44,640
Speaker 4: Can everybody know?

1532
01:11:44,720 --> 01:11:48,200
Speaker 2: You put it out there like who hacked your phone

1533
01:11:48,200 --> 01:11:50,759
Speaker 2: and had motive? But I don't know. That's how difficult

1534
01:11:50,760 --> 01:11:51,160
Speaker 2: this shit is.

1535
01:11:51,200 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 3: In the court of Latto, Phil g says, when God calls,

1536
01:11:54,160 --> 01:11:55,759
Speaker 3: I get to provide a service.

1537
01:11:56,160 --> 01:12:00,080
Speaker 2: Don't ask no questions.

1538
01:12:03,240 --> 01:12:06,040
Speaker 3: All right, let's go to the next one. Nineteen eighty

1539
01:12:06,080 --> 01:12:09,920
Speaker 3: one rage yoga. We got five comments on this.

1540
01:12:10,120 --> 01:12:12,040
Speaker 2: And we'll get it those in a second.

1541
01:12:13,920 --> 01:12:15,679
Speaker 3: I don't know if anybody went and did some rage

1542
01:12:15,760 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 3: yoga since we put out the show.

1543
01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:20,800
Speaker 2: I haven't yet, Okay, Michelle says.

1544
01:12:20,880 --> 01:12:22,800
Speaker 3: The story about what happened to the black soldiers at

1545
01:12:22,800 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 3: Camp Logan is well known, a well known story in Houston,

1546
01:12:28,240 --> 01:12:30,240
Speaker 3: at least for people who know the city's history.

1547
01:12:30,320 --> 01:12:31,360
Speaker 2: Oh so not well known.

1548
01:12:31,680 --> 01:12:34,120
Speaker 3: An interesting side note is that the camp grounds where

1549
01:12:34,120 --> 01:12:36,719
Speaker 3: happened part of a larger city park called Memorial Park.

1550
01:12:36,880 --> 01:12:39,360
Speaker 3: They have a sign showing where the camp is that

1551
01:12:39,520 --> 01:12:42,200
Speaker 3: can be missed by anyone who doesn't know how to

1552
01:12:42,200 --> 01:12:44,480
Speaker 3: look for it.

1553
01:12:44,520 --> 01:12:46,000
Speaker 2: Isn't that how black history always is?

1554
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:48,000
Speaker 4: They got it they got it out there two inches

1555
01:12:48,040 --> 01:12:49,639
Speaker 4: off the ground like a yard tail sign.

1556
01:12:49,680 --> 01:12:52,599
Speaker 2: Neighborhood. This way, it's over here behind the creek.

1557
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:56,600
Speaker 3: But yeah, I never checked to see if there's a

1558
01:12:56,680 --> 01:12:59,000
Speaker 3: historical marker. But I do remember hearing the story behind

1559
01:12:59,000 --> 01:13:01,479
Speaker 3: the sign when they just says, hey, Rod and Karen,

1560
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:06,040
Speaker 3: people want black content but don't support black content. Then

1561
01:13:06,080 --> 01:13:08,439
Speaker 3: people get mad when the show gets canceled. They act surprise.

1562
01:13:08,840 --> 01:13:11,280
Speaker 3: I actually wanted to see Confederate. If the show is good,

1563
01:13:11,320 --> 01:13:14,040
Speaker 3: I'm watching it. Like the controversy with the Harriet movie.

1564
01:13:14,280 --> 01:13:17,200
Speaker 3: I'm just happy for a story being told. Yeah, my

1565
01:13:17,240 --> 01:13:19,120
Speaker 3: thing is, I'm going to see that Harry movie. I

1566
01:13:19,120 --> 01:13:21,840
Speaker 3: don't give a fuck like that's happening. I think it

1567
01:13:21,960 --> 01:13:23,280
Speaker 3: comes out on saying that it's turn in, So I

1568
01:13:23,360 --> 01:13:25,240
Speaker 3: might not see it the night up, but I'm seeing

1569
01:13:25,280 --> 01:13:29,559
Speaker 3: that shit because it's on the first. It might it might, Okay,

1570
01:13:29,800 --> 01:13:32,519
Speaker 3: So anyway, my point is I'm seeing it because I

1571
01:13:32,520 --> 01:13:35,559
Speaker 3: fucking asked for it. If it's not good, I mean,

1572
01:13:35,560 --> 01:13:37,599
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie and be like, oh, you gotta

1573
01:13:37,680 --> 01:13:39,080
Speaker 3: like it. I'm not one of those people, and I'm

1574
01:13:39,080 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 3: not guilting anyone to go and see it. But I

1575
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:43,160
Speaker 3: personally do want to see it, and I'll watch fucking

1576
01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:45,519
Speaker 3: fifteen of these movies. I watch a TV series based

1577
01:13:45,520 --> 01:13:48,080
Speaker 3: off it too, Harry Tubman, it's a goddamn superhero.

1578
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:50,440
Speaker 4: We're gonna watching that and Terminator next weekend.

1579
01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:51,680
Speaker 2: And yeah, who the fuck don't want to see that.

1580
01:13:52,280 --> 01:13:54,760
Speaker 4: We're gonna watching two Terminators, a real one and on

1581
01:13:54,960 --> 01:13:55,559
Speaker 4: in a person.

1582
01:13:55,840 --> 01:14:00,200
Speaker 3: Yeah we'll see what happens, you know, like, yeah, we'll see,

1583
01:14:00,320 --> 01:14:01,080
Speaker 3: Felix says.

1584
01:14:01,600 --> 01:14:03,440
Speaker 2: The more books I read on black.

1585
01:14:05,320 --> 01:14:08,519
Speaker 3: Excuse me, honesty, Black African slash, Black British history, and

1586
01:14:08,560 --> 01:14:10,360
Speaker 3: the history of the world in general, the more I've

1587
01:14:10,360 --> 01:14:12,960
Speaker 3: embraced the conversations that happen when everyone learns through media

1588
01:14:13,080 --> 01:14:15,880
Speaker 3: like Watchmen, watching folks get to know about.

1589
01:14:15,600 --> 01:14:18,360
Speaker 2: Something I've been aware of for a while, it was cool.

1590
01:14:18,760 --> 01:14:19,719
Speaker 2: Same here, I agree.

1591
01:14:19,840 --> 01:14:23,080
Speaker 3: Everyone sharing resources for folks to learn more and inform

1592
01:14:23,120 --> 01:14:25,600
Speaker 3: themselves was cool to see. Not everyone has time to

1593
01:14:25,600 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 3: go out of their way to inform themselves, and stuff

1594
01:14:27,320 --> 01:14:30,320
Speaker 3: like watching highlighting specific moments in history on this bigger

1595
01:14:30,320 --> 01:14:31,840
Speaker 3: platform always feels good.

1596
01:14:32,240 --> 01:14:34,040
Speaker 2: Also helped that. It also helps that.

1597
01:14:34,120 --> 01:14:36,920
Speaker 3: I want Regina Chen to choke me with her boss EPs.

1598
01:14:36,960 --> 01:14:38,120
Speaker 3: She was so good in the show.

1599
01:14:38,200 --> 01:14:38,519
Speaker 2: Ah ha.

1600
01:14:39,120 --> 01:14:41,800
Speaker 3: Also, I feel like the intro specifically for your black

1601
01:14:41,840 --> 01:14:43,280
Speaker 3: Brick fans bless you guys.

1602
01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:45,840
Speaker 2: Oh, because do you want to smoke brother dude? Yeah?

1603
01:14:46,040 --> 01:14:47,160
Speaker 4: Do you want to smok brother?

1604
01:14:47,479 --> 01:14:50,800
Speaker 2: Rod and Karen are heart? Yeah?

1605
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:54,400
Speaker 3: But uh yeah, I love that stuff. Like That's the thing.

1606
01:14:54,560 --> 01:14:57,280
Speaker 3: I wasn't even trying to be self righteous or no shit, like, no,

1607
01:14:57,439 --> 01:15:00,719
Speaker 3: it's good. Whenever you learn it, it's good. And I hope

1608
01:15:00,720 --> 01:15:02,960
Speaker 3: that people learn. The real lesson I want people to

1609
01:15:03,000 --> 01:15:04,839
Speaker 3: learn is not to be afraid of this stuff.

1610
01:15:05,479 --> 01:15:08,120
Speaker 2: Does it hurt a bit? Sure? Do you know? Do

1611
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:08,640
Speaker 2: you do?

1612
01:15:08,760 --> 01:15:12,200
Speaker 3: Some people have anxiety around it or issues and they

1613
01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:15,719
Speaker 3: need like special like kid gloves to see it. Maybe

1614
01:15:15,800 --> 01:15:17,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm not one of those people, so

1615
01:15:18,000 --> 01:15:19,559
Speaker 3: I can't speak for those people, you know. I know

1616
01:15:19,720 --> 01:15:23,479
Speaker 3: some people feel like it needs like some type of

1617
01:15:23,520 --> 01:15:26,680
Speaker 3: warning or something. I get it, But fictional lot of

1618
01:15:26,680 --> 01:15:29,720
Speaker 3: stuff doesn't do that to me. Only real stuff, Like

1619
01:15:29,720 --> 01:15:32,559
Speaker 3: if I see a real person get shot by the cops.

1620
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:35,080
Speaker 3: It could be grainy surveillance footage why I can't make

1621
01:15:35,120 --> 01:15:37,559
Speaker 3: out anything but shadows and that that's gonna always fuck

1622
01:15:37,600 --> 01:15:41,640
Speaker 3: with me. But if I see I don't know a

1623
01:15:41,640 --> 01:15:43,640
Speaker 3: TV show and that happens. It just doesn't bother me

1624
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:45,840
Speaker 3: the same way. I don't know why. It's just the

1625
01:15:45,840 --> 01:15:48,920
Speaker 3: way my brain set up. But yeah, yeah, put the

1626
01:15:48,960 --> 01:15:50,840
Speaker 3: wing on it if you need to just show it

1627
01:15:50,840 --> 01:15:53,120
Speaker 3: to people. I want people to see this stuff and

1628
01:15:53,160 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 3: they can choose to ignore it or be ignorant to it,

1629
01:15:56,400 --> 01:15:57,960
Speaker 3: or they can brace up and be like, Okay, oh,

1630
01:15:58,000 --> 01:16:00,320
Speaker 3: this is gonna be some real shit. But like the

1631
01:16:00,360 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 3: amount of praise I saw for it directly opposes the

1632
01:16:03,320 --> 01:16:06,800
Speaker 3: people who claim they're tired of these narratives. You haven't

1633
01:16:06,840 --> 01:16:10,679
Speaker 3: even seen these narratives. You barely they barely touched the surface.

1634
01:16:10,920 --> 01:16:13,800
Speaker 3: You don't know what's in the box. And you've only

1635
01:16:13,880 --> 01:16:17,599
Speaker 3: seen the service of things a little bit. And that's

1636
01:16:17,800 --> 01:16:20,120
Speaker 3: and we're like, that's too much. No man, we need

1637
01:16:20,320 --> 01:16:22,479
Speaker 3: Like I'm telling you, there's things in that box that.

1638
01:16:22,520 --> 01:16:23,200
Speaker 2: Are gonna give you.

1639
01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:26,880
Speaker 3: Uh not, I can't speak for you. For me, it's

1640
01:16:26,880 --> 01:16:30,879
Speaker 3: gonna give It gave me affirmation to be like that happened.

1641
01:16:31,439 --> 01:16:34,479
Speaker 3: I'm not crazy. When I ride through South Carolina, I

1642
01:16:34,520 --> 01:16:36,160
Speaker 3: look on the side of the highway sometimes to think

1643
01:16:37,400 --> 01:16:39,960
Speaker 3: my people might have truck through there. You know, what

1644
01:16:39,960 --> 01:16:42,720
Speaker 3: I'm saying, like someone might got through freedom through there.

1645
01:16:43,640 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 4: You know.

1646
01:16:44,120 --> 01:16:47,519
Speaker 3: I think about those things and and I'm not crazy

1647
01:16:47,760 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 3: for thinking that, you know. And I'm not playing victim

1648
01:16:50,600 --> 01:16:52,760
Speaker 3: or anything. It's just something that I'm black, and I'm

1649
01:16:52,800 --> 01:16:55,960
Speaker 3: gonna always be aware of. Ama says, Oh my god,

1650
01:16:56,000 --> 01:16:58,719
Speaker 3: the new voice of the Blackoutists intro was so surprised

1651
01:16:58,760 --> 01:16:59,320
Speaker 3: and sexy.

1652
01:16:59,360 --> 01:17:00,400
Speaker 2: I like the second too.

1653
01:17:01,200 --> 01:17:04,080
Speaker 3: My first set of roommates at AA m U yay

1654
01:17:04,320 --> 01:17:07,800
Speaker 3: HBCUs were from Oklahoma, and I looked at them the

1655
01:17:07,840 --> 01:17:10,080
Speaker 3: same way folks would look at me when I tell

1656
01:17:10,120 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 3: them I grew up in Nebraska. I said, they didn't

1657
01:17:13,200 --> 01:17:15,040
Speaker 3: run all the black people out of Oklahoma.

1658
01:17:14,640 --> 01:17:15,599
Speaker 2: After the race rids.

1659
01:17:16,400 --> 01:17:18,400
Speaker 3: They knew about it, but say people don't really talk

1660
01:17:18,400 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 3: about it much from where they're from. They also weren't amused. Yeah,

1661
01:17:22,439 --> 01:17:25,960
Speaker 3: I can imagine. It's like that time I ask them

1662
01:17:25,960 --> 01:17:28,479
Speaker 3: people from Trinidad Tobago if they was from a thoroughld

1663
01:17:28,479 --> 01:17:30,760
Speaker 3: country and they ended up being my sweet mates and

1664
01:17:30,840 --> 01:17:33,479
Speaker 3: some of my good friends. But boy, was I a

1665
01:17:33,560 --> 01:17:38,639
Speaker 3: n ignorant American that first day. Jesus motherfucking Christ had jokes.

1666
01:17:38,640 --> 01:17:40,479
Speaker 4: We all got running water, y'all.

1667
01:17:40,680 --> 01:17:43,880
Speaker 3: If I could fucking erase that joke time. Like, I

1668
01:17:43,960 --> 01:17:47,599
Speaker 3: was out there straight up like so uh, y'all have flowers?

1669
01:17:47,640 --> 01:17:49,160
Speaker 3: We on face and shit, and that was like, Nigga,

1670
01:17:49,200 --> 01:17:53,040
Speaker 3: what the fuck am I god to beat your ass?

1671
01:17:53,080 --> 01:17:54,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, why y'all get some mad?

1672
01:17:54,360 --> 01:17:57,080
Speaker 2: I seen the I seen this stuff on Africa on TV.

1673
01:17:57,240 --> 01:17:58,680
Speaker 3: I was like, I will fuck you up just at

1674
01:17:58,680 --> 01:18:02,280
Speaker 3: an infomercial. It's definitely a little known fact in American history.

1675
01:18:02,320 --> 01:18:04,879
Speaker 3: And I only learned about it after the movie Rosewood

1676
01:18:04,880 --> 01:18:06,920
Speaker 3: came out. I was in junior high and because I

1677
01:18:06,960 --> 01:18:09,719
Speaker 3: wasn't allowed to see the movie, I just researched the internet.

1678
01:18:09,800 --> 01:18:12,160
Speaker 3: Was super young back then, shout out to the AOLCD,

1679
01:18:12,280 --> 01:18:14,680
Speaker 3: so it led me down a rabbit hole of injustice.

1680
01:18:14,920 --> 01:18:15,840
Speaker 2: Asked my dad about it.

1681
01:18:15,920 --> 01:18:18,120
Speaker 3: He confirmed that a lot of riots like that happened

1682
01:18:18,160 --> 01:18:20,800
Speaker 3: all over America, and he reminded me of all the

1683
01:18:20,880 --> 01:18:23,719
Speaker 3: racism and my mom. My mom had to endure Nebraska,

1684
01:18:23,760 --> 01:18:24,680
Speaker 3: which was news to me.

1685
01:18:25,200 --> 01:18:25,920
Speaker 2: Growing up there.

1686
01:18:26,000 --> 01:18:29,280
Speaker 3: I thought racism was just a Southern thing. And I meet.

1687
01:18:28,800 --> 01:18:31,400
Speaker 4: A lot of people today people like ignorant about that,

1688
01:18:31,400 --> 01:18:33,160
Speaker 4: and I tell people, is it white folks there?

1689
01:18:33,240 --> 01:18:33,439
Speaker 2: Yes?

1690
01:18:33,479 --> 01:18:34,519
Speaker 4: Then racism is there.

1691
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:35,000
Speaker 2: Yep.

1692
01:18:35,920 --> 01:18:38,599
Speaker 3: I meet a lot of people who still think that way.

1693
01:18:38,640 --> 01:18:41,000
Speaker 3: The first time my nephew was called nigger was after

1694
01:18:41,000 --> 01:18:44,360
Speaker 3: my sister's family moved to Seattle not here in Alabama.

1695
01:18:44,560 --> 01:18:46,840
Speaker 3: After that incident, my sister said she just wanted to

1696
01:18:47,040 --> 01:18:49,559
Speaker 3: move somewhere, anywhere in the world where her boys will

1697
01:18:49,600 --> 01:18:51,479
Speaker 3: be safe from racism and bigotry. I told her there's

1698
01:18:51,479 --> 01:18:54,639
Speaker 3: no place on earth like that, honey, There's always something yes.

1699
01:18:54,960 --> 01:19:00,439
Speaker 3: And my Chris Rock voice, ain't no happiness nowhere? Did

1700
01:19:00,439 --> 01:19:03,080
Speaker 3: he say it three times? Though, Ain't no happiness nowhere,

1701
01:19:04,120 --> 01:19:05,280
Speaker 3: Ain't no happen it's nowhere?

1702
01:19:05,360 --> 01:19:07,360
Speaker 2: You know you like to do that? Uh? The five

1703
01:19:07,840 --> 01:19:10,719
Speaker 2: to find it always makes me have The.

1704
01:19:10,640 --> 01:19:15,040
Speaker 3: Line always makes me laugh when things are shitty. That's

1705
01:19:15,080 --> 01:19:17,720
Speaker 3: why fighting is so important. You can't always run from

1706
01:19:17,720 --> 01:19:20,960
Speaker 3: the certain problems. Love y'all in mind. Thank you, yep,

1707
01:19:21,560 --> 01:19:25,360
Speaker 3: that's true. And then we had to pole, which is

1708
01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:27,400
Speaker 3: do you share the pass or your Netflix account?

1709
01:19:27,479 --> 01:19:27,880
Speaker 2: Yes or no?

1710
01:19:30,000 --> 01:19:33,840
Speaker 3: Fifty five percent of people said yes, forty four percent

1711
01:19:33,920 --> 01:19:36,840
Speaker 3: said no, and we had some comments, so mine said.

1712
01:19:36,880 --> 01:19:38,800
Speaker 3: My little sister made a Facebook post a few weeks

1713
01:19:38,800 --> 01:19:41,200
Speaker 3: ago thanking me and our big sister for sharing our

1714
01:19:41,200 --> 01:19:43,439
Speaker 3: streaming subscriptions among other memberships with her.

1715
01:19:43,640 --> 01:19:44,240
Speaker 2: I'm just gonnad.

1716
01:19:44,320 --> 01:19:46,599
Speaker 3: Netflix has a different account set up because I used

1717
01:19:46,600 --> 01:19:48,880
Speaker 3: to get mad if someone watched something on my list.

1718
01:19:49,240 --> 01:19:51,360
Speaker 2: Now starting at a down, starting at a we hear

1719
01:19:51,360 --> 01:19:52,320
Speaker 2: a place y. I hate that.

1720
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:54,479
Speaker 3: But the important thing is knowing the rules and not

1721
01:19:54,520 --> 01:19:56,000
Speaker 3: sharing a pass or with anyone else.

1722
01:19:56,040 --> 01:19:56,400
Speaker 2: We didn't.

1723
01:19:56,439 --> 01:19:58,840
Speaker 3: Okay, that happened to my friends. She let her little

1724
01:19:58,840 --> 01:20:00,840
Speaker 3: sister use her account and then and her sister gated

1725
01:20:00,880 --> 01:20:03,320
Speaker 3: passed her to a boyfriend, who then hacked the account

1726
01:20:03,360 --> 01:20:05,639
Speaker 3: after they broke up. But she never told my friend

1727
01:20:05,640 --> 01:20:08,040
Speaker 3: to change her password, and when she told her how

1728
01:20:08,040 --> 01:20:10,680
Speaker 3: difficult it is to get your account unlocked and reverified,

1729
01:20:10,760 --> 01:20:13,120
Speaker 3: shaking my head. Needless to say, her sister is no

1730
01:20:13,200 --> 01:20:13,920
Speaker 3: longer allowed.

1731
01:20:13,640 --> 01:20:14,439
Speaker 2: To use her accounts.

1732
01:20:14,479 --> 01:20:20,599
Speaker 3: A mess or date fuck niggas. Brooklyn Shoebase says, oh no,

1733
01:20:20,680 --> 01:20:23,120
Speaker 3: I don't. The way my divorced settlement was set up,

1734
01:20:23,120 --> 01:20:25,040
Speaker 3: my ex husband agreed to share custody of the Netflix

1735
01:20:25,080 --> 01:20:26,000
Speaker 3: account and the children.

1736
01:20:26,160 --> 01:20:30,400
Speaker 2: Lol. A bunch of question marks. Monique says, I do

1737
01:20:30,520 --> 01:20:31,400
Speaker 2: share my Netflix.

1738
01:20:31,400 --> 01:20:33,559
Speaker 3: I was way too generous with the password, Apparently every

1739
01:20:33,600 --> 01:20:36,080
Speaker 3: time I logged in the language just turned to Italian

1740
01:20:36,120 --> 01:20:39,960
Speaker 3: no matter what, was trying to change Orange and watch Orange,

1741
01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:41,800
Speaker 3: and I almost tossed the remote of my screen because

1742
01:20:41,840 --> 01:20:43,080
Speaker 3: every single episode had.

1743
01:20:43,360 --> 01:20:45,280
Speaker 2: Update my own damn language settings.

1744
01:20:45,400 --> 01:20:48,599
Speaker 3: Damn somebody got you. Turns out my very nice Italian

1745
01:20:48,640 --> 01:20:50,640
Speaker 3: coworkers were watching the shows. That's all on me. But

1746
01:20:50,720 --> 01:20:54,720
Speaker 3: damn it if I didn't nearly lose my marbles old

1747
01:20:54,760 --> 01:20:56,479
Speaker 3: and if they were somewhere else watching Orange and Black,

1748
01:20:56,520 --> 01:20:59,320
Speaker 3: like who keep switching the shit to English? Yes, phil

1749
01:20:59,360 --> 01:21:01,800
Speaker 3: G says I don't, but only because my lady left

1750
01:21:01,800 --> 01:21:03,519
Speaker 3: me a few weeks ago, so no one to share

1751
01:21:03,600 --> 01:21:04,160
Speaker 3: with currently.

1752
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:06,639
Speaker 2: Oh I'm sorry to hear that.

1753
01:21:06,640 --> 01:21:10,160
Speaker 3: Phield G you, but hopefully it's from a positive place.

1754
01:21:10,160 --> 01:21:14,360
Speaker 3: And y'all mutually did a mutual uncoupling, conscious and coupling,

1755
01:21:14,439 --> 01:21:17,479
Speaker 3: and it's very healthy to hear you break up, I guess,

1756
01:21:19,800 --> 01:21:21,840
Speaker 3: and you got your Netflix rights back. So, ladies, if

1757
01:21:21,840 --> 01:21:24,200
Speaker 3: you're looking for somebody with a Netflix account, okay, my

1758
01:21:24,320 --> 01:21:25,320
Speaker 3: boy philed.

1759
01:21:25,000 --> 01:21:27,240
Speaker 4: G isn't out here any cuffing season.

1760
01:21:28,640 --> 01:21:33,840
Speaker 3: Cuffing and uh and chill season apparently, because okay, if

1761
01:21:33,840 --> 01:21:36,840
Speaker 3: you want to catch up on some on some on

1762
01:21:36,920 --> 01:21:39,920
Speaker 3: some dark Crystal something. Okay, your boy Phil G is

1763
01:21:39,960 --> 01:21:43,280
Speaker 3: out here. Okay, the doors of the church are opening.

1764
01:21:44,439 --> 01:21:47,120
Speaker 3: We got one comment on our Walking Dad review, which

1765
01:21:47,320 --> 01:21:49,840
Speaker 3: was I wain't no, no, I'm sorry this episode nineteen

1766
01:21:49,880 --> 01:21:52,920
Speaker 3: eighty two caring is not the one Phil G said.

1767
01:21:52,960 --> 01:21:55,000
Speaker 3: I was listen to the podcast. Someone said, futures kids

1768
01:21:55,040 --> 01:21:58,920
Speaker 3: names sound like a track list. Watch you drop an

1769
01:21:58,920 --> 01:22:00,640
Speaker 3: album with all his kids name it's tracks in the

1770
01:22:00,640 --> 01:22:04,880
Speaker 3: coming years. That would make sense. Then we had the

1771
01:22:04,960 --> 01:22:07,439
Speaker 3: poe do you like the new book excerpt openness for

1772
01:22:07,479 --> 01:22:07,840
Speaker 3: the show?

1773
01:22:08,000 --> 01:22:10,200
Speaker 2: No, go back to rap lyrics or yes, it's.

1774
01:22:10,040 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 4: Interesting for me, I like them all right.

1775
01:22:14,280 --> 01:22:16,920
Speaker 3: Ninety one percent think it is interesting and it also

1776
01:22:17,000 --> 01:22:18,519
Speaker 3: kind of gives us something to talk about to start

1777
01:22:18,560 --> 01:22:22,000
Speaker 3: the show. And then nine percent say no, go back

1778
01:22:22,000 --> 01:22:25,320
Speaker 3: to rap bics. So I'm sorry. Nine percent looks like

1779
01:22:25,439 --> 01:22:27,960
Speaker 3: most people don't agree. Michael London says, I love the

1780
01:22:28,040 --> 01:22:30,600
Speaker 3: new because rod and Can a hot voice. Though, so

1781
01:22:30,640 --> 01:22:34,479
Speaker 3: I guess Mike didn't like the book excerpts. The Shady

1782
01:22:34,560 --> 01:22:36,760
Speaker 3: Day says I love the book excerpts. I'm an avid reader,

1783
01:22:36,800 --> 01:22:39,160
Speaker 3: so I've taken a few notes about the books that

1784
01:22:39,280 --> 01:22:41,120
Speaker 3: you've been reading and has helped me add a few

1785
01:22:41,160 --> 01:22:42,360
Speaker 3: more books to my shopping list.

1786
01:22:42,439 --> 01:22:43,639
Speaker 2: Keep up to good work, you guys.

1787
01:22:44,120 --> 01:22:44,360
Speaker 4: Thank you.

1788
01:22:44,479 --> 01:22:46,519
Speaker 3: Broogly Shoeba says, I like it. I'm in the spirit

1789
01:22:46,560 --> 01:22:48,920
Speaker 3: of learning new things right now. Your book excerpts are

1790
01:22:48,920 --> 01:22:51,800
Speaker 3: helping me. Alicia says, I like both and the poems you.

1791
01:22:51,760 --> 01:22:52,080
Speaker 2: Used to do.

1792
01:22:52,360 --> 01:22:55,800
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I might get back to Yes money. Kim

1793
01:22:55,880 --> 01:22:57,720
Speaker 3: Docs has super informative. You read all the books. I

1794
01:22:57,800 --> 01:23:01,200
Speaker 3: truly wish I could. It's said I'm over here and shrines,

1795
01:23:01,640 --> 01:23:04,200
Speaker 3: struck in shrines and breath of the while keep educating

1796
01:23:04,280 --> 01:23:06,920
Speaker 3: us right as much appreciated. Well, look, if y'all like it,

1797
01:23:07,160 --> 01:23:09,000
Speaker 3: I'm gonna try to continue to do it. I mean,

1798
01:23:09,040 --> 01:23:10,960
Speaker 3: I can't always promise I'm gonna have a new book

1799
01:23:11,000 --> 01:23:11,800
Speaker 3: and next or to read.

1800
01:23:11,840 --> 01:23:14,439
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I've been on the reading kick lately. Man.

1801
01:23:14,439 --> 01:23:16,479
Speaker 2: I've been reading so fast and so much.

1802
01:23:16,520 --> 01:23:19,080
Speaker 3: It's like I'm all the way back to like when

1803
01:23:19,120 --> 01:23:22,240
Speaker 3: I was in like like high school the way i'm

1804
01:23:22,280 --> 01:23:24,639
Speaker 3: reading or junior high school and the way I'm just

1805
01:23:25,320 --> 01:23:27,240
Speaker 3: I don't know. I just feel like reading a lot lately,

1806
01:23:27,360 --> 01:23:33,120
Speaker 3: and it, honestly, it's very therapeutic. It's another thing you

1807
01:23:33,160 --> 01:23:34,680
Speaker 3: can't really do it while you're on the internet and

1808
01:23:34,880 --> 01:23:37,519
Speaker 3: live tweet it. You can't talk to other people while

1809
01:23:37,560 --> 01:23:39,240
Speaker 3: you're doing it. You know, I might just throw on

1810
01:23:39,280 --> 01:23:42,360
Speaker 3: some music or something for the fish bowl, you know,

1811
01:23:43,320 --> 01:23:46,679
Speaker 3: something like that, throwing some cash doll and go to work,

1812
01:23:48,040 --> 01:23:52,000
Speaker 3: all right. We had the last episode of the week, nineteen.

1813
01:23:51,720 --> 01:23:57,519
Speaker 2: Eighty three, Drench frying to tender loins. We are silly?

1814
01:23:58,320 --> 01:24:00,719
Speaker 2: Uh walk to Daddycap got three comments.

1815
01:24:00,760 --> 01:24:03,720
Speaker 3: Tooty toward says hey, Rodan care Man teen family is

1816
01:24:03,760 --> 01:24:04,639
Speaker 3: really going through it.

1817
01:24:05,439 --> 01:24:07,519
Speaker 2: Forty nine hours of walker killing. It's crazy.

1818
01:24:08,160 --> 01:24:10,040
Speaker 3: I don't know what to believe about how the Walkers

1819
01:24:10,040 --> 01:24:11,920
Speaker 3: are coming their way, but I want one hundred percent

1820
01:24:11,960 --> 01:24:13,600
Speaker 3: believe there is a spy in Alexandra.

1821
01:24:13,680 --> 01:24:14,599
Speaker 2: I'm looking at you side.

1822
01:24:15,520 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 3: Mishean continues to be a great warrior, diplomatic mother, Carol

1823
01:24:18,400 --> 01:24:20,759
Speaker 3: is turned into a crackhead, and it's all going.

1824
01:24:20,640 --> 01:24:21,559
Speaker 2: Crazy and I love it.

1825
01:24:21,600 --> 01:24:26,240
Speaker 3: Thanks for your recap, Chaco says, I feel I felt

1826
01:24:26,240 --> 01:24:29,280
Speaker 3: tired from watching this episode. Couldn't blame anyone for being snappy.

1827
01:24:30,360 --> 01:24:33,240
Speaker 3: I also need to know how Alpha knew about them

1828
01:24:33,280 --> 01:24:36,759
Speaker 3: crossing the first two times. Does she lead people around

1829
01:24:36,800 --> 01:24:40,080
Speaker 3: to report back was she calling their bluff. I'm hoping

1830
01:24:40,160 --> 01:24:42,439
Speaker 3: this is the first and last time we have to

1831
01:24:42,479 --> 01:24:44,920
Speaker 3: worry about drugs or carrols. This it's not something to

1832
01:24:44,960 --> 01:24:48,040
Speaker 3: easily come by. Lastly, not sure how I feel about

1833
01:24:48,040 --> 01:24:51,080
Speaker 3: this meaning Redemption Act because as an audience member, it's

1834
01:24:51,080 --> 01:24:55,400
Speaker 3: still been too recent that he's been an asshole. I

1835
01:24:55,439 --> 01:24:57,800
Speaker 3: know what happens to him in the comics, but this

1836
01:24:57,840 --> 01:25:00,120
Speaker 3: show will do what they want regardless of sourc of teery.

1837
01:25:00,360 --> 01:25:01,519
Speaker 2: So it's a wait and see game.

1838
01:25:01,600 --> 01:25:03,839
Speaker 3: Really, I mean, you just didn't make it past embassy

1839
01:25:03,880 --> 01:25:06,080
Speaker 3: in the books, and now she's showing was badass.

1840
01:25:06,800 --> 01:25:07,000
Speaker 2: Well.

1841
01:25:07,040 --> 01:25:11,400
Speaker 3: Also, you say it's been not been long enough to rezis,

1842
01:25:11,840 --> 01:25:13,840
Speaker 3: but remember they had that big time jump.

1843
01:25:14,000 --> 01:25:16,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, nobody knows how far they know we do. It's

1844
01:25:16,760 --> 01:25:17,400
Speaker 2: like six years.

1845
01:25:17,400 --> 01:25:19,360
Speaker 4: I think they said, okay, yeah, so it's been a

1846
01:25:19,360 --> 01:25:19,920
Speaker 4: good jump.

1847
01:25:20,240 --> 01:25:22,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I don't mean, how long are they supposed to.

1848
01:25:23,840 --> 01:25:26,240
Speaker 4: You know, j done got big. Yeah.

1849
01:25:26,320 --> 01:25:28,439
Speaker 3: I guess you're not a prison abolitionist like me. You

1850
01:25:28,479 --> 01:25:31,120
Speaker 3: aren't a free Felicity Huffman and I can see why.

1851
01:25:31,400 --> 01:25:32,800
Speaker 4: Nope, nope, lock up.

1852
01:25:33,080 --> 01:25:37,840
Speaker 2: Even he says, eh, Henry, oh, way to be consistent.

1853
01:25:38,280 --> 01:25:40,320
Speaker 3: Well, Eugenie finally accept that it's over for him and

1854
01:25:40,400 --> 01:25:41,240
Speaker 3: Rosita as the poe.

1855
01:25:41,320 --> 01:25:43,880
Speaker 2: Yes, he's got the point. No, he still thinks there's

1856
01:25:43,880 --> 01:25:44,280
Speaker 2: a chance.

1857
01:25:44,360 --> 01:25:49,000
Speaker 4: Careen, he got the point. Hopefully he got the point.

1858
01:25:49,280 --> 01:25:52,479
Speaker 3: Okay, this is a this is a very close poll.

1859
01:25:53,280 --> 01:25:56,400
Speaker 3: Forty six forty six percent of y'all say he got

1860
01:25:56,439 --> 01:25:59,439
Speaker 3: the point, which, if you're doing the math me, he's

1861
01:25:59,439 --> 01:26:01,519
Speaker 3: fifty four us and y'all thinks now he thinks it's

1862
01:26:01,520 --> 01:26:02,120
Speaker 3: still a chance.

1863
01:26:04,320 --> 01:26:06,639
Speaker 2: The real question is is there just still a chance

1864
01:26:07,800 --> 01:26:08,839
Speaker 2: it's over? Okay?

1865
01:26:09,240 --> 01:26:11,720
Speaker 3: Monique says they need to write a nerd What if

1866
01:26:11,760 --> 01:26:14,760
Speaker 3: they kill Gabe and Sedik at the same time and

1867
01:26:14,760 --> 01:26:17,320
Speaker 3: now he's all them all left? Yeah, cause you know what,

1868
01:26:17,360 --> 01:26:21,320
Speaker 3: I forgot this nigga projectile vomited on Rosita one episode,

1869
01:26:22,600 --> 01:26:26,360
Speaker 3: and I just don't know that after you projectile vomit

1870
01:26:26,439 --> 01:26:30,280
Speaker 3: on a woman, if it's if it's possible for her

1871
01:26:30,320 --> 01:26:34,439
Speaker 3: to see you in a different light of courtship, you know,

1872
01:26:34,479 --> 01:26:37,160
Speaker 3: I feel like it's just not gonna happen. Monique kim

1873
01:26:37,200 --> 01:26:39,320
Speaker 3: Knock says they need to write a nerdy honey depth

1874
01:26:39,400 --> 01:26:40,560
Speaker 3: into the storyline.

1875
01:26:40,760 --> 01:26:43,000
Speaker 2: They keep inventing members of the group.

1876
01:26:42,840 --> 01:26:46,559
Speaker 3: Anyway, half one of these highway women's push up on him. Lol,

1877
01:26:46,920 --> 01:26:48,920
Speaker 3: and my, well, that's who you know, getting all that

1878
01:26:49,000 --> 01:26:53,360
Speaker 3: strange Luke. That woman was pushing up on Luke. So

1879
01:26:53,439 --> 01:26:56,760
Speaker 3: now e Jean like Jean chasing after rosite. He could

1880
01:26:56,760 --> 01:26:57,679
Speaker 3: have been out there on that woman.

1881
01:26:57,760 --> 01:27:00,280
Speaker 4: It's like, I'm just trying to FuG Yeah, she's want

1882
01:27:00,240 --> 01:27:05,720
Speaker 4: of highway women. Be like life feels away. I can

1883
01:27:05,960 --> 01:27:14,640
Speaker 4: ride you, Oh, ncuse.

1884
01:27:10,920 --> 01:27:11,240
Speaker 2: Me, ma'am.

1885
01:27:11,760 --> 01:27:13,120
Speaker 4: You know you know you say you want to ride.

1886
01:27:13,160 --> 01:27:15,559
Speaker 4: Now we'll all be talking about a motorcycle or a car. Man.

1887
01:27:15,680 --> 01:27:18,599
Speaker 3: I'd love to get on the interstate to that municipality. Right,

1888
01:27:19,200 --> 01:27:21,960
Speaker 3: maybe you can annex me into your subdivision, if you know.

1889
01:27:21,960 --> 01:27:22,360
Speaker 2: What I mean.

1890
01:27:22,520 --> 01:27:24,960
Speaker 4: I mean, I mean, I mean, what off on that

1891
01:27:25,000 --> 01:27:25,559
Speaker 4: ex ma'am?

1892
01:27:26,800 --> 01:27:30,559
Speaker 2: He says he keeps getting red lined out of love Town.

1893
01:27:30,720 --> 01:27:33,800
Speaker 3: He knows now that he's never dropping his kids off

1894
01:27:33,880 --> 01:27:40,679
Speaker 3: in that school district. Oh that's hilarious. All right, let's

1895
01:27:40,720 --> 01:27:46,559
Speaker 3: get to the emails, because we did get a few

1896
01:27:46,600 --> 01:27:49,559
Speaker 3: emails no voice.

1897
01:27:50,560 --> 01:27:52,400
Speaker 2: I did check, and there were not.

1898
01:27:54,640 --> 01:27:57,120
Speaker 3: All right, let's see how much time we got. Let's

1899
01:27:57,120 --> 01:27:58,560
Speaker 3: see if I got okay, cool, we got plenty of

1900
01:27:58,560 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 3: time Uh, Kim right saying wait, or is it.

1901
01:28:03,680 --> 01:28:05,720
Speaker 2: I think it's Kim Dot, but it could be.

1902
01:28:06,120 --> 01:28:08,880
Speaker 3: I think it's Kim Dock. Mo Nigue right saying new

1903
01:28:09,120 --> 01:28:13,320
Speaker 3: Emma Emmit Tell memorial. Hey, Rody Caer, I remember you

1904
01:28:13,320 --> 01:28:15,479
Speaker 3: talking about the Emmett Tel memorial. I saw that Dave

1905
01:28:15,520 --> 01:28:19,639
Speaker 3: erected a bullet glass proof memorial for Emmet Tell.

1906
01:28:20,000 --> 01:28:22,759
Speaker 2: Is not enough that he was a heinously tortured and killed.

1907
01:28:22,600 --> 01:28:26,320
Speaker 4: By racist No, but you like five hundred pounds like

1908
01:28:26,320 --> 01:28:27,040
Speaker 4: an inch stick.

1909
01:28:27,800 --> 01:28:30,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had this for fucking with black people, but

1910
01:28:30,520 --> 01:28:33,000
Speaker 3: haven't covered it yet before. To be shot at countless

1911
01:28:33,000 --> 01:28:35,559
Speaker 3: times over the course of its existing speaks some inherent

1912
01:28:35,600 --> 01:28:37,839
Speaker 3: evil we can't quite put our fingers on as a country.

1913
01:28:38,160 --> 01:28:40,479
Speaker 3: According to CNN, the sign, which costs more than ten

1914
01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:43,400
Speaker 3: thousand dollars away more than five hundred pounds, Surrounded by

1915
01:28:43,479 --> 01:28:46,280
Speaker 3: security cameras. The sign marks the spot where Till's body

1916
01:28:46,360 --> 01:28:50,120
Speaker 3: was pulled from the Tallihatchie River in nineteen fifty five. Well,

1917
01:28:50,160 --> 01:28:53,519
Speaker 3: what's interesting about them putting cameras around it? Last time

1918
01:28:53,560 --> 01:28:56,160
Speaker 3: the kids took pictures of themselves after shooting it, and

1919
01:28:56,320 --> 01:28:57,760
Speaker 3: none of them got in trouble, didn't even get.

1920
01:28:57,680 --> 01:29:00,600
Speaker 2: Kicked out of school right camera to do this.

1921
01:29:01,280 --> 01:29:04,320
Speaker 3: The article further stays in July three, White University in

1922
01:29:04,320 --> 01:29:06,920
Speaker 3: Misssigi or we just don't story we're talking about.

1923
01:29:08,360 --> 01:29:10,439
Speaker 4: It's like the third sign they've had to do, third

1924
01:29:10,520 --> 01:29:11,160
Speaker 4: or fourth sign.

1925
01:29:11,720 --> 01:29:12,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1926
01:29:12,439 --> 01:29:14,519
Speaker 3: Although I'm glad the desecrat the sign was a place,

1927
01:29:14,600 --> 01:29:16,960
Speaker 3: I'm still thinking people will still be shooting at a

1928
01:29:17,040 --> 01:29:21,200
Speaker 3: sickening right. Yeah, I Mattil died and people still im

1929
01:29:21,240 --> 01:29:24,720
Speaker 3: Mattil died because he wasn't bulletproof. Black people continue to

1930
01:29:24,720 --> 01:29:28,200
Speaker 3: die because we're not bulletproof, and because they won't stop

1931
01:29:28,439 --> 01:29:30,839
Speaker 3: trying to kill us, they have to make the memorial

1932
01:29:30,880 --> 01:29:35,520
Speaker 3: bulletproof because they hate us that much. My favorite podcast

1933
01:29:35,600 --> 01:29:38,559
Speaker 3: kittens included dear Rod and Karen. I have not written

1934
01:29:38,600 --> 01:29:41,360
Speaker 3: in in quite some time, but please know that I

1935
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Speaker 3: have been listening. This is Chee chee, and I just

1936
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Speaker 3: have to write you all again about the marvelous quality

1937
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Speaker 3: of your shows. I've been a loyal listener for almost

1938
01:29:49,560 --> 01:29:51,960
Speaker 3: five years and I never miss a free episode. Not

1939
01:29:52,080 --> 01:29:54,559
Speaker 3: premium yet, but I feel like and know that I'm

1940
01:29:54,600 --> 01:29:57,880
Speaker 3: getting premium content. And your last feedback episode, right you

1941
01:29:57,920 --> 01:30:00,320
Speaker 3: commented about being as passionate about your having it you

1942
01:30:00,320 --> 01:30:01,280
Speaker 3: are about your anger.

1943
01:30:01,520 --> 01:30:03,160
Speaker 2: When I tell you this hit me like a punch

1944
01:30:03,200 --> 01:30:05,240
Speaker 2: of the throat I was. I wanted it more like

1945
01:30:05,280 --> 01:30:06,639
Speaker 2: a hug to the neck, but okay.

1946
01:30:07,120 --> 01:30:09,880
Speaker 3: I immediately paused the episode decided to tweet it, tagging

1947
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Speaker 3: both your Twitter account and the official blackout to his account.

1948
01:30:12,880 --> 01:30:14,880
Speaker 3: As a perfectionist, I decided to check the black out

1949
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Speaker 3: to his Twitter account to make sure that it was

1950
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Speaker 3: tagged correctly.

1951
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Speaker 2: So that all my mutuals can see it. Thank you, well,

1952
01:30:20,800 --> 01:30:22,559
Speaker 2: whoa there? Well there, whoa there?

1953
01:30:22,600 --> 01:30:25,240
Speaker 3: The show art for your Sunday Night show was a

1954
01:30:25,240 --> 01:30:27,080
Speaker 3: photo of that. Oh wait, let me go back to

1955
01:30:27,120 --> 01:30:30,880
Speaker 3: the first parout. Thank you m h cause I really

1956
01:30:30,880 --> 01:30:33,160
Speaker 3: do believe in that. And that's a battle I fight myself.

1957
01:30:33,200 --> 01:30:35,680
Speaker 3: That's not a you know, that's not some shit. I'm

1958
01:30:35,720 --> 01:30:39,640
Speaker 3: just saying, like platitudes. Now, man, you gotta fight to

1959
01:30:39,640 --> 01:30:42,160
Speaker 3: be happy because motherfuckers really will try to fuck with you.

1960
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Speaker 2: They see people trying to do good. Shit.

1961
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Speaker 3: Man, there's like certain people that are attracted to trying

1962
01:30:47,960 --> 01:30:50,080
Speaker 3: to bring people down. One of the things I also

1963
01:30:50,080 --> 01:30:52,439
Speaker 3: read about the nursest shit they attracted to certain people

1964
01:30:52,439 --> 01:30:56,040
Speaker 3: because they think they're quote unquote a challenge. Yes, so

1965
01:30:56,120 --> 01:30:58,120
Speaker 3: a lot of times with someone puts you on that

1966
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Speaker 3: pedestal to try to take you off that pedestal. So

1967
01:31:00,240 --> 01:31:03,080
Speaker 3: later keep in mind that they thought you were a challenge.

1968
01:31:03,120 --> 01:31:05,439
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna love bomb this person. They're the greatest

1969
01:31:05,439 --> 01:31:08,720
Speaker 3: person ever. Oh they're everything they don't say they are.

1970
01:31:08,760 --> 01:31:09,360
Speaker 2: They're the best.

1971
01:31:09,360 --> 01:31:11,560
Speaker 3: And then when they decide to discard you and to

1972
01:31:11,640 --> 01:31:14,320
Speaker 3: harass you, and shit, that just is what it is.

1973
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Speaker 2: Dog.

1974
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Speaker 3: And if you going through this process, you gotta you

1975
01:31:17,560 --> 01:31:20,000
Speaker 3: gotta fight for your own happiness. You can't get it

1976
01:31:20,040 --> 01:31:23,040
Speaker 3: from outside stimuli. You have to find it inside of you.

1977
01:31:23,120 --> 01:31:24,360
Speaker 3: Never gonna have it right.

1978
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Speaker 4: And the thing about it, the fighting for your joy

1979
01:31:26,720 --> 01:31:29,640
Speaker 4: is a double thing. I have to fight not that

1980
01:31:29,720 --> 01:31:31,360
Speaker 4: you don't steal it, but I also have to fight

1981
01:31:31,400 --> 01:31:33,800
Speaker 4: that I don't give it away because that can happen too,

1982
01:31:34,160 --> 01:31:36,400
Speaker 4: where you get so overwhelmed as you're like fuck it.

1983
01:31:36,800 --> 01:31:39,320
Speaker 2: And self care ain't just like buying shit, you know,

1984
01:31:39,439 --> 01:31:40,320
Speaker 2: it's nothing, you know what I mean?

1985
01:31:40,360 --> 01:31:42,120
Speaker 3: Self care is a lot of shit that you do

1986
01:31:42,200 --> 01:31:45,840
Speaker 3: to internally protect yourself and energy and to dedicate it

1987
01:31:45,840 --> 01:31:47,479
Speaker 3: to things that nourish you as well.

1988
01:31:48,040 --> 01:31:51,519
Speaker 4: Yes, And self care is doing the ship that you love.

1989
01:31:51,680 --> 01:31:54,360
Speaker 4: You love to read, motherfucking read. You wanna travel, fucking

1990
01:31:54,400 --> 01:31:56,360
Speaker 4: go out and see the world. You want to see

1991
01:31:56,360 --> 01:31:59,759
Speaker 4: family and friends do that shit too. And some things

1992
01:31:59,800 --> 01:32:02,280
Speaker 4: with self care is simple. Turn that motherfucking phone off

1993
01:32:02,280 --> 01:32:03,960
Speaker 4: and get your off that goddamn computer.

1994
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Speaker 2: Uh. For some people, no, no, no, no, I keeps laughing.

1995
01:32:09,160 --> 01:32:12,200
Speaker 2: I'm just laughing. This is not I'm not arguing. It

1996
01:32:12,280 --> 01:32:14,000
Speaker 2: was just funny the way you put it. My bad

1997
01:32:14,400 --> 01:32:16,840
Speaker 2: Get your fucking ass off that goddamn computer. I love

1998
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Speaker 2: your baby, go be great.

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Speaker 4: I love, I love right, And like I said, I

2000
01:32:20,160 --> 01:32:22,160
Speaker 4: have a weird well showing love. I go Okay. Then

2001
01:32:22,160 --> 01:32:24,520
Speaker 4: I'm gonais show your phone here and be like God

2002
01:32:24,560 --> 01:32:24,960
Speaker 4: Dan and do.

2003
01:32:24,920 --> 01:32:27,920
Speaker 2: Some good in the world. Baby, like the mic go

2004
01:32:28,000 --> 01:32:28,800
Speaker 2: I damn conquer it.

2005
01:32:28,960 --> 01:32:34,600
Speaker 3: Why because this, she says, Uh, Sunday.

2006
01:32:34,320 --> 01:32:35,800
Speaker 2: Night shows a photo all the past week.

2007
01:32:36,280 --> 01:32:38,719
Speaker 3: Because this is my professional Twitter account for professional individuals

2008
01:32:38,720 --> 01:32:40,120
Speaker 3: in my field. Following me, I had to delete the

2009
01:32:40,160 --> 01:32:42,040
Speaker 3: tweet at this I've just seen you a private even

2010
01:32:42,120 --> 01:32:42,960
Speaker 3: on feedback show.

2011
01:32:43,160 --> 01:32:44,920
Speaker 2: Even though I know this is gonna be read aloud.

2012
01:32:45,000 --> 01:32:47,320
Speaker 3: It's a little bit different than walking into Monday morning

2013
01:32:47,439 --> 01:32:49,280
Speaker 3: when some of your mutuals like, oh, I saw your

2014
01:32:49,320 --> 01:32:52,560
Speaker 3: podcast recommendation, let me check it out, and you see emoji.

2015
01:32:52,240 --> 01:32:53,760
Speaker 2: Kisses and searing his.

2016
01:32:55,840 --> 01:32:58,040
Speaker 3: All in all, caring abroud. You guys are constant in

2017
01:32:58,040 --> 01:33:01,559
Speaker 3: the ever changing world. Uh you know, we're constantly changing.

2018
01:33:01,800 --> 01:33:02,680
Speaker 2: That's what really are.

2019
01:33:03,400 --> 01:33:05,920
Speaker 3: It's almost like you all see into the future and

2020
01:33:06,560 --> 01:33:09,120
Speaker 3: are well aware of how empathetic and patient we should

2021
01:33:09,120 --> 01:33:10,520
Speaker 3: be with each other and with ourselves.

2022
01:33:11,479 --> 01:33:12,240
Speaker 2: Man, I'm just.

2023
01:33:12,320 --> 01:33:15,400
Speaker 3: That's just something I'm trying to lean into for myself.

2024
01:33:15,439 --> 01:33:18,880
Speaker 3: It's not even about everybody else, like and I mean,

2025
01:33:18,920 --> 01:33:21,080
Speaker 3: it's I felt like I lost that piece of myself

2026
01:33:21,280 --> 01:33:24,599
Speaker 3: and so being in these communities and shit like being

2027
01:33:24,600 --> 01:33:28,160
Speaker 3: in certain groups around certain people, like is that energy

2028
01:33:28,160 --> 01:33:31,519
Speaker 3: out of me? And it was making me feel like

2029
01:33:31,960 --> 01:33:34,640
Speaker 3: boxed in in a way. And it's not And this

2030
01:33:34,720 --> 01:33:37,360
Speaker 3: is not something I've fought people for. I have to

2031
01:33:37,360 --> 01:33:39,799
Speaker 3: control what I can control, and I can control people's

2032
01:33:39,840 --> 01:33:43,559
Speaker 3: access to me. I can control my time and my

2033
01:33:43,760 --> 01:33:46,880
Speaker 3: effort and the things like that. But it was really

2034
01:33:46,920 --> 01:33:50,120
Speaker 3: starting to affect me, and I was starting to see

2035
01:33:50,120 --> 01:33:52,160
Speaker 3: the world as such a black and white place and

2036
01:33:52,240 --> 01:33:56,000
Speaker 3: such a such a I don't know, like a place

2037
01:33:56,040 --> 01:33:58,240
Speaker 3: where just everything had to be.

2038
01:33:58,439 --> 01:34:00,599
Speaker 2: This person is terrible to card all this shit.

2039
01:34:01,760 --> 01:34:04,599
Speaker 3: I make jokes about it, but I'm closer to a

2040
01:34:04,640 --> 01:34:07,439
Speaker 3: prison abolitionist than I am to a fucking lock them

2041
01:34:07,479 --> 01:34:08,200
Speaker 3: all up person.

2042
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Speaker 2: Right, you guys, listen to the show. You know what

2043
01:34:10,320 --> 01:34:10,799
Speaker 2: I believe.

2044
01:34:10,880 --> 01:34:16,360
Speaker 3: But but like, certain people were turning me off so badly.

2045
01:34:16,880 --> 01:34:18,840
Speaker 3: You know, people that call him, you know, they claim

2046
01:34:18,840 --> 01:34:21,200
Speaker 3: a cause and then they act ill behind the calls,

2047
01:34:21,280 --> 01:34:25,120
Speaker 3: and that shit is so bad for everyone, And we're

2048
01:34:25,160 --> 01:34:28,160
Speaker 3: all exposed to these things and experiencing them constantly. It's

2049
01:34:28,240 --> 01:34:31,320
Speaker 3: not good, you know. So it was really about a

2050
01:34:31,360 --> 01:34:34,759
Speaker 3: fight to get back to myself. And I have always

2051
01:34:34,840 --> 01:34:38,479
Speaker 3: possessed these ideas and spoken them. But I've decided that

2052
01:34:38,520 --> 01:34:41,639
Speaker 3: if people are gonna be very bold and everybody's trash

2053
01:34:41,720 --> 01:34:44,799
Speaker 3: and fuck everybody and throw everybody away and don't forgive anyone,

2054
01:34:45,080 --> 01:34:47,040
Speaker 3: then let me be fucking bold in my truth. Because

2055
01:34:47,040 --> 01:34:49,280
Speaker 3: I'm not some fucking koon. I'm not some uncle Tom.

2056
01:34:49,600 --> 01:34:53,519
Speaker 3: I'm not some fucking misogynistic loser. I'm not some fucking

2057
01:34:54,040 --> 01:34:58,479
Speaker 3: rape defender. I'm not some fucking racist person like I like,

2058
01:34:59,200 --> 01:35:02,120
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be a good empathetic human being as

2059
01:35:02,200 --> 01:35:04,040
Speaker 3: much as I can, and somebody should put that out

2060
01:35:04,040 --> 01:35:06,599
Speaker 3: with confidence too, instead of being like, you know.

2061
01:35:07,000 --> 01:35:08,599
Speaker 2: I don't know, I can. I mean, are we sure

2062
01:35:08,680 --> 01:35:10,600
Speaker 2: that we should just be this way? Noah, let me

2063
01:35:10,640 --> 01:35:12,719
Speaker 2: say it with my chats. This is how I feel.

2064
01:35:12,800 --> 01:35:14,240
Speaker 2: You don't have to agree, but at least you know

2065
01:35:14,280 --> 01:35:15,080
Speaker 2: how I feel for real.

2066
01:35:16,200 --> 01:35:18,160
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for putting our quality content when

2067
01:35:18,200 --> 01:35:20,720
Speaker 3: I can learn, laugh at and ignore my coworkers with

2068
01:35:21,120 --> 01:35:22,080
Speaker 3: all the love in the world.

2069
01:35:22,200 --> 01:35:23,040
Speaker 2: Chee chee, thank you.

2070
01:35:25,120 --> 01:35:29,360
Speaker 3: And then James says, episode nineteen eighty two and Confederate

2071
01:35:29,400 --> 01:35:32,400
Speaker 3: stuff abroad, Hey, the Blackout tips. First off, I have

2072
01:35:32,520 --> 01:35:34,080
Speaker 3: to say that I love the show. Been listening since

2073
01:35:34,080 --> 01:35:36,200
Speaker 3: here and Rod calling up twelve blacking it up. Oh

2074
01:35:36,280 --> 01:35:38,760
Speaker 3: that's old school right anyway. I just want to let

2075
01:35:38,800 --> 01:35:41,800
Speaker 3: you know that white folks are Confederate crazy in other

2076
01:35:41,840 --> 01:35:44,000
Speaker 3: parts of Europe. I think you mentioned a sword wild

2077
01:35:44,000 --> 01:35:45,920
Speaker 3: and guy in London. Check out this pick and it's

2078
01:35:45,960 --> 01:35:49,000
Speaker 3: a picture of a table with a bunch of Confederate

2079
01:35:49,080 --> 01:35:49,840
Speaker 3: member billion on it.

2080
01:35:51,479 --> 01:35:52,280
Speaker 2: Check out this pic.

2081
01:35:53,200 --> 01:35:55,960
Speaker 3: I'm a US citizen black living in Hamburg, Germany, and

2082
01:35:56,200 --> 01:35:59,479
Speaker 3: was visiting an arts and craft tan area within a

2083
01:35:59,520 --> 01:36:01,840
Speaker 3: wild life preserve and saw this.

2084
01:36:02,040 --> 01:36:03,400
Speaker 2: It was taken two weeks ago.

2085
01:36:03,960 --> 01:36:05,439
Speaker 3: I took a pick because I thought it was the

2086
01:36:05,479 --> 01:36:08,680
Speaker 3: most random place for casual racism. Keep it the great work,

2087
01:36:08,680 --> 01:36:10,760
Speaker 3: and thanks for helping us black folks abroad and not

2088
01:36:10,800 --> 01:36:12,799
Speaker 3: lose our minds away from our people best.

2089
01:36:13,000 --> 01:36:15,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, they have laws to be like, y'all can't fucking

2090
01:36:15,120 --> 01:36:17,439
Speaker 4: do this Nazi flag, But what they can do is

2091
01:36:17,479 --> 01:36:18,200
Speaker 4: Confederate shit.

2092
01:36:18,400 --> 01:36:18,960
Speaker 2: I don't know why.

2093
01:36:19,000 --> 01:36:21,360
Speaker 3: I had never fucking thought of this until last week. Like,

2094
01:36:21,439 --> 01:36:23,599
Speaker 3: until reading that Sored story, I was like, wait a minute,

2095
01:36:24,640 --> 01:36:29,360
Speaker 3: the way people collect other people's racism, they gotta be

2096
01:36:30,240 --> 01:36:32,040
Speaker 3: Jarvis says Accountability Podcast.

2097
01:36:32,120 --> 01:36:34,840
Speaker 2: Wow, just wild. Hey Rody Karen currently.

2098
01:36:34,479 --> 01:36:37,120
Speaker 3: In the middle episode nineteen seventy five, way behind, I know,

2099
01:36:37,280 --> 01:36:40,360
Speaker 3: but I have comments and I gotta say this shit.

2100
01:36:40,800 --> 01:36:42,320
Speaker 2: I love y'all and can't stand y'all.

2101
01:36:42,200 --> 01:36:44,559
Speaker 3: At the same time, the kind of can't stand that

2102
01:36:44,640 --> 01:36:46,560
Speaker 3: when your best friend said something like you didn't have

2103
01:36:46,600 --> 01:36:48,120
Speaker 3: a gust to say it, but it's funny as hell.

2104
01:36:48,160 --> 01:36:50,160
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I know what you mean, Like nigg I

2105
01:36:50,160 --> 01:36:51,080
Speaker 3: can't stand y'all.

2106
01:36:51,280 --> 01:36:52,880
Speaker 2: You know, I get it. You a fool?

2107
01:36:53,160 --> 01:36:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah that I came you know that thing and writing

2108
01:36:57,120 --> 01:37:00,320
Speaker 3: it inviting it looks bad, but in real life it's like, yeah,

2109
01:37:00,360 --> 01:37:03,000
Speaker 3: I get it. I came upon this podcast from a

2110
01:37:03,080 --> 01:37:05,040
Speaker 3: post and a Facebook group listening to podcasts that did

2111
01:37:05,080 --> 01:37:07,360
Speaker 3: game of throngs with cats. I'm gonna say those were

2112
01:37:07,400 --> 01:37:09,280
Speaker 3: lit Like I wish I could go back in time

2113
01:37:09,320 --> 01:37:11,240
Speaker 3: and re experience those for the first time. But now

2114
01:37:11,280 --> 01:37:13,680
Speaker 3: I'm here to say I'm gonna put five on it too.

2115
01:37:13,760 --> 01:37:16,080
Speaker 3: I already got five stars holding my place. Now I

2116
01:37:16,200 --> 01:37:19,360
Speaker 3: just gotta find the worst to lift up YouTube content Royals,

2117
01:37:19,520 --> 01:37:21,840
Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you boy. As a G on the

2118
01:37:22,000 --> 01:37:25,080
Speaker 3: LGBT Plus Spectrum, I used to think of myself as

2119
01:37:25,080 --> 01:37:28,160
Speaker 3: an automatic ally to all other family members, but this

2120
01:37:28,240 --> 01:37:30,280
Speaker 3: show really puts me in check about that, and I

2121
01:37:30,320 --> 01:37:33,240
Speaker 3: love it. I'm constantly checking my own privilege growing up

2122
01:37:33,360 --> 01:37:35,519
Speaker 3: and growing as I game on information. Man, I love

2123
01:37:35,560 --> 01:37:38,800
Speaker 3: y'all for that. Yeah, I mean, everybody got some level

2124
01:37:38,800 --> 01:37:43,800
Speaker 3: of privilege, and everybody on some level you know is

2125
01:37:43,840 --> 01:37:46,479
Speaker 3: all you know, probably gonna be marginalized at some point.

2126
01:37:46,640 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 3: So yeah, man, you can, like Karen says, you can

2127
01:37:50,120 --> 01:37:53,240
Speaker 3: be on the LGERB the elder G and then be

2128
01:37:53,360 --> 01:37:54,759
Speaker 3: like fuck the B Fuck the ty.

2129
01:37:55,160 --> 01:37:56,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of them are like them. Rest of them.

2130
01:37:56,800 --> 01:37:59,120
Speaker 3: Let us Chappelle has some fucked U stuff in the

2131
01:37:59,160 --> 01:38:01,680
Speaker 3: Spence stand up, but that one analogy about the car

2132
01:38:01,720 --> 01:38:04,479
Speaker 3: and the LGBTQ on the ride like that, that's a

2133
01:38:04,600 --> 01:38:06,519
Speaker 3: very after analogy. And when you see it play out

2134
01:38:06,560 --> 01:38:09,040
Speaker 3: all the time, like we got marriage quality, we out

2135
01:38:09,439 --> 01:38:10,639
Speaker 3: we putting out.

2136
01:38:10,880 --> 01:38:12,639
Speaker 2: You know, we've seen it. We've seen it in real time.

2137
01:38:12,960 --> 01:38:14,760
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for sharing the audio from your

2138
01:38:14,760 --> 01:38:17,160
Speaker 3: public form. I think back to episode in nineteen sixty five,

2139
01:38:17,600 --> 01:38:19,600
Speaker 3: such good content, and you did your thing editing in

2140
01:38:19,640 --> 01:38:23,160
Speaker 3: that audio. I was like, this ain't bad at all. Oh,

2141
01:38:23,200 --> 01:38:25,880
Speaker 3: thank you, this ain't bad at all. Right, I can't

2142
01:38:25,880 --> 01:38:28,160
Speaker 3: say so much, but this email is already long. I'm

2143
01:38:28,160 --> 01:38:30,280
Speaker 3: going premium, so I'm ready to play guest the race.

2144
01:38:30,400 --> 01:38:30,719
Speaker 2: Lol.

2145
01:38:30,800 --> 01:38:36,760
Speaker 3: By friends, We appreciate you, and uh yeah that I'm

2146
01:38:36,760 --> 01:38:38,280
Speaker 3: glad the audio worked out, because I don't.

2147
01:38:38,400 --> 01:38:39,080
Speaker 2: I'm never sure.

2148
01:38:40,800 --> 01:38:43,639
Speaker 3: Let's see Nachelle Wright saying, hey, guys, guard your joy

2149
01:38:43,720 --> 01:38:46,200
Speaker 3: on episode nineteen eighty two, Rod I said guard your

2150
01:38:46,280 --> 01:38:48,479
Speaker 3: joy and that really resonated with me.

2151
01:38:48,600 --> 01:38:49,719
Speaker 2: It's so true. Lud show.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Michelle, thank you. Oh man, she still listen.

2153
01:38:53,080 --> 01:38:54,960
Speaker 3: That's dope, man. I always see it her on Twitter.

2154
01:38:54,960 --> 01:38:55,880
Speaker 4: I've been around a long.

2155
01:38:55,800 --> 01:38:58,800
Speaker 2: Down tweeting out that trust black women every morning. I

2156
01:38:58,840 --> 01:38:59,120
Speaker 2: don't know.

2157
01:38:59,360 --> 01:39:01,040
Speaker 3: I don't tweet us. You just wake up every morning

2158
01:39:01,320 --> 01:39:03,519
Speaker 3: like blood a on your face. Y'all gonna see this

2159
01:39:03,600 --> 01:39:07,439
Speaker 3: today and I'm like, so, states the dashing Nah, I

2160
01:39:07,479 --> 01:39:07,960
Speaker 3: don't do that.

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01:39:08,920 --> 01:39:10,960
Speaker 2: I wouldn't trust her like that. No, we would not.

2162
01:39:11,160 --> 01:39:12,920
Speaker 3: I be thinking it though, I'd be like, I should

2163
01:39:12,920 --> 01:39:15,960
Speaker 3: trull her today. Start just replying to that with different

2164
01:39:16,000 --> 01:39:18,360
Speaker 3: gifts of black women. We know we not to trust

2165
01:39:19,439 --> 01:39:23,400
Speaker 3: his Candice owns you niggas are crazy, Lamar says, Thank god,

2166
01:39:23,400 --> 01:39:27,120
Speaker 3: I work third shift alone. I was at my desk

2167
01:39:27,200 --> 01:39:30,920
Speaker 3: in the basement of a hospital and it Sully. You

2168
01:39:30,960 --> 01:39:34,280
Speaker 3: know when episode nineteen eighty Licking in the Tones came

2169
01:39:34,320 --> 01:39:35,560
Speaker 3: on when Karen started.

2170
01:39:35,280 --> 01:39:39,920
Speaker 2: Preaching, she hit that high pitch. Do this, nigga?

2171
01:39:39,960 --> 01:39:43,080
Speaker 3: I lost it, spit coffee all over my monitors. Literally

2172
01:39:43,920 --> 01:39:45,879
Speaker 3: was this episode? Responsibley trying a winecoe?

2173
01:39:45,880 --> 01:39:49,400
Speaker 2: Because y'all own one. Anyway. I love you guys, and

2174
01:39:49,520 --> 01:39:50,040
Speaker 2: what you doing.

2175
01:39:50,040 --> 01:39:53,719
Speaker 3: I'm sending five stars your way and going premium this weekend.

2176
01:39:53,880 --> 01:39:56,200
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. For putting some happiness in my life.

2177
01:39:56,360 --> 01:39:58,479
Speaker 3: I'll be moving to our hospital and Raleigh in de cemmer,

2178
01:39:58,560 --> 01:40:00,519
Speaker 3: so I hope to catch a live show. I wish

2179
01:40:00,600 --> 01:40:03,160
Speaker 3: you more and more success and happiness. Peace, thanks of mine,

2180
01:40:03,240 --> 01:40:08,160
Speaker 3: Thank you, and enjoy your job. Move and sorry about

2181
01:40:08,160 --> 01:40:08,920
Speaker 3: your computer matter.

2182
01:40:09,840 --> 01:40:12,080
Speaker 2: Know what Cam was thinking? Just very responsible?

2183
01:40:12,960 --> 01:40:16,240
Speaker 3: Uh, sleep says asleep. Mister Spann says, it's this science

2184
01:40:16,280 --> 01:40:18,879
Speaker 3: is fake news. Everybody knows you get rich by not sleeping.

2185
01:40:19,240 --> 01:40:20,320
Speaker 3: All the rappers tell me so.

2186
01:40:20,960 --> 01:40:22,840
Speaker 2: Yeah and see and Apple Pay.

2187
01:40:23,280 --> 01:40:26,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm in Apple Pae, apple Care.

2188
01:40:26,200 --> 01:40:35,519
Speaker 3: Apple Care, Apple, Apple Pay, Apple, Michael Wright said Pastor Rod, Uh,

2189
01:40:35,600 --> 01:40:38,760
Speaker 3: it must be a god first to the time long time.

2190
01:40:38,800 --> 01:40:40,600
Speaker 3: I've become a premium member a few months ago, and

2191
01:40:40,640 --> 01:40:43,519
Speaker 3: I've been balls deep in the premium content. The black

2192
01:40:43,520 --> 01:40:46,920
Speaker 3: outis Premium content is radio gold. It literally hundreds, maybe

2193
01:40:46,920 --> 01:40:50,200
Speaker 3: thousand hours of dope material. I've been binging the pregame

2194
01:40:50,240 --> 01:40:52,519
Speaker 3: and I listened to the hilarious episode called the Clowning

2195
01:40:52,520 --> 01:40:56,679
Speaker 3: of Brian Pumper. Oh you and dad boy, My god,

2196
01:40:56,760 --> 01:41:00,720
Speaker 3: they roasted that young man and his pumper plastics. Imagine

2197
01:41:00,800 --> 01:41:03,599
Speaker 3: getting clowned by your coworkers that wear dirty white socks

2198
01:41:03,600 --> 01:41:08,160
Speaker 3: and tims during film Quoitus. Damn Homie. I wonder if

2199
01:41:08,160 --> 01:41:11,360
Speaker 3: he's still wearing the pumper plastics. Hey, Brian, what color

2200
01:41:11,400 --> 01:41:12,000
Speaker 3: is your neck?

2201
01:41:12,439 --> 01:41:12,919
Speaker 2: Anyway?

2202
01:41:13,560 --> 01:41:16,200
Speaker 3: That the same day and I'm listening to episode nineteen

2203
01:41:16,240 --> 01:41:18,479
Speaker 3: eighty on the regular feed and I hear a classic melody.

2204
01:41:18,800 --> 01:41:20,599
Speaker 2: Oh and it's shaved. I literally cracked.

2205
01:41:20,600 --> 01:41:25,360
Speaker 3: And when you played if a pastor tongue roll as,

2206
01:41:26,040 --> 01:41:29,040
Speaker 3: it must be god, it must be a god. Right, Well,

2207
01:41:29,080 --> 01:41:31,240
Speaker 3: maybe it's a good time regardless, I needed that laugh.

2208
01:41:31,520 --> 01:41:35,880
Speaker 3: Great episode is always I hope there's another endorsement to

2209
01:41:35,960 --> 01:41:38,280
Speaker 3: sign up signing up for premium. Just sign up and

2210
01:41:38,320 --> 01:41:44,160
Speaker 3: don't ask no questions. Yes, just plastic paid around okay.

2211
01:41:44,760 --> 01:41:50,320
Speaker 3: And last one is by Slick, slick and slatious. Okay,

2212
01:41:50,720 --> 01:41:54,760
Speaker 3: Black Goddess Queen. It's not hotemperary, Hey, Ryan and Kerr

2213
01:41:54,800 --> 01:41:55,960
Speaker 3: and the Black Altis community.

2214
01:41:56,000 --> 01:41:59,320
Speaker 2: First thing, first, my pronouns are they them? Gotcha?

2215
01:42:00,320 --> 01:42:02,479
Speaker 3: Now that the intros out of the way, I really

2216
01:42:03,760 --> 01:42:07,280
Speaker 3: liked y'all discussion on cultural diffusion, natural cross cultural exchange

2217
01:42:07,360 --> 01:42:08,480
Speaker 3: versus cultural appropriation.

2218
01:42:09,040 --> 01:42:12,800
Speaker 2: Y'all stay with the nuance that they put the collapse

2219
01:42:12,880 --> 01:42:13,160
Speaker 2: in there.

2220
01:42:13,400 --> 01:42:16,000
Speaker 3: Also, I know Rod you mentioned keeping some things for

2221
01:42:16,040 --> 01:42:19,040
Speaker 3: yourself and black representation, but lol, if it ain't prying

2222
01:42:19,080 --> 01:42:22,360
Speaker 3: too much, I wonder if y'all seen American Gods. Oh,

2223
01:42:22,400 --> 01:42:25,400
Speaker 3: I watched that. I watched both seasons. By the way,

2224
01:42:25,520 --> 01:42:27,439
Speaker 3: I don't know why people was mad the second season.

2225
01:42:27,439 --> 01:42:28,439
Speaker 2: That shit was lit to me.

2226
01:42:29,320 --> 01:42:32,679
Speaker 3: You know why because speaking of the opening, the motherfucking

2227
01:42:32,680 --> 01:42:38,160
Speaker 3: watchman Man, American guys talk about that system thing about it,

2228
01:42:38,280 --> 01:42:41,280
Speaker 3: like I don't know they maybe, I mean, I don't know,

2229
01:42:41,400 --> 01:42:43,400
Speaker 3: maybe it's really not a good show, and people are right.

2230
01:42:43,479 --> 01:42:43,960
Speaker 2: I don't know.

2231
01:42:44,439 --> 01:42:46,960
Speaker 3: I just know they be talking about racism and it's

2232
01:42:47,000 --> 01:42:49,800
Speaker 3: American and they talk about the slave trade when the

2233
01:42:49,920 --> 01:42:53,080
Speaker 3: Nazi went off on that, like that black anger and

2234
01:42:53,120 --> 01:42:55,280
Speaker 3: that slavery vote on the ship and all them slaves

2235
01:42:55,320 --> 01:42:58,280
Speaker 3: knew they was gonna die, but they was like, fuck this,

2236
01:42:58,400 --> 01:42:59,320
Speaker 3: white people ain't.

2237
01:42:59,080 --> 01:43:00,760
Speaker 2: Taking us to America. We just gonna be one of.

2238
01:43:00,680 --> 01:43:03,559
Speaker 3: Them shift that's at the bottom of the Atlantic, Like Nigga,

2239
01:43:03,880 --> 01:43:04,639
Speaker 3: they don't put.

2240
01:43:04,439 --> 01:43:05,479
Speaker 2: That on TV often.

2241
01:43:06,320 --> 01:43:09,800
Speaker 3: Oh in that speech he gave, Now, I fuck with

2242
01:43:09,840 --> 01:43:11,559
Speaker 3: that show. I just don't like talking about it because

2243
01:43:11,560 --> 01:43:14,559
Speaker 3: I don't like arguing with these niggas. Niggas anything black

2244
01:43:14,640 --> 01:43:16,439
Speaker 3: is a double edge swing on social media. It's like

2245
01:43:16,479 --> 01:43:18,080
Speaker 3: watch it, watch it, we all watching it, and then

2246
01:43:18,080 --> 01:43:22,160
Speaker 3: you gotta deal with to me sometimes unfair harsh critiques.

2247
01:43:22,160 --> 01:43:26,960
Speaker 2: Man, And I don't I get that. Some people's jam

2248
01:43:27,000 --> 01:43:28,679
Speaker 2: so I don't. I don't yuck. They're young.

2249
01:43:28,760 --> 01:43:30,439
Speaker 3: To tell them that they gotta like it or to

2250
01:43:30,439 --> 01:43:33,439
Speaker 3: stop arguing. I don't do that, but they don't understand.

2251
01:43:33,479 --> 01:43:37,519
Speaker 3: Sometimes they put they make it suck for me, like

2252
01:43:37,600 --> 01:43:40,000
Speaker 3: I don't actually have to give a fuck that you're

2253
01:43:40,040 --> 01:43:43,360
Speaker 3: so offended about everything. Everything with race gotta be one

2254
01:43:43,400 --> 01:43:44,639
Speaker 3: hundred percent perfect all the.

2255
01:43:44,560 --> 01:43:46,320
Speaker 2: Time, and you just gonna lose your mind. Like I'm

2256
01:43:46,360 --> 01:43:48,400
Speaker 2: good anyway.

2257
01:43:50,479 --> 01:43:52,800
Speaker 3: It has some black people playing guys, and we never

2258
01:43:53,240 --> 01:43:55,439
Speaker 3: we next to never see black people being portrayed as

2259
01:43:55,520 --> 01:43:56,599
Speaker 3: positively divine.

2260
01:43:56,960 --> 01:44:00,640
Speaker 2: Bill Quist for MCU or Royal Storm, Yes, she do

2261
01:44:00,760 --> 01:44:01,360
Speaker 2: got that look.

2262
01:44:02,640 --> 01:44:06,800
Speaker 3: Also like the episode where she was sucking motherfuckers into

2263
01:44:06,800 --> 01:44:12,280
Speaker 3: her vagina as part of the worship ritual thing sacrificing themselves.

2264
01:44:12,280 --> 01:44:14,439
Speaker 3: I was like, oh this is that was actually when

2265
01:44:14,479 --> 01:44:15,400
Speaker 3: I said, oh this show is.

2266
01:44:15,400 --> 01:44:16,040
Speaker 2: On some other ship.

2267
01:44:16,120 --> 01:44:21,479
Speaker 3: Okay, you had my attention now now now you have

2268
01:44:21,600 --> 01:44:25,320
Speaker 3: my full my my full heart right now, Okay, I

2269
01:44:25,320 --> 01:44:28,720
Speaker 3: want to know what the fuck is happening Vagina. They

2270
01:44:28,760 --> 01:44:31,719
Speaker 3: also has some revolutionary perspectives that helps that they can apply.

2271
01:44:31,840 --> 01:44:35,080
Speaker 3: A Nazi also switches between different types of black accents, yes,

2272
01:44:35,560 --> 01:44:36,000
Speaker 3: which at.

2273
01:44:35,880 --> 01:44:37,800
Speaker 2: First I didn't know what was going on. It was

2274
01:44:37,840 --> 01:44:38,599
Speaker 2: like what the fuck right?

2275
01:44:38,600 --> 01:44:40,280
Speaker 3: I'm sure people was like this new You can't act

2276
01:44:40,360 --> 01:44:42,160
Speaker 3: like Orlando Jones can't act Get the fuck out of

2277
01:44:42,160 --> 01:44:44,800
Speaker 3: my face. And I'm sure y'all will appreciate some of

2278
01:44:44,840 --> 01:44:48,120
Speaker 3: the Bill quick sings. Oh I see you, you after

2279
01:44:48,160 --> 01:44:51,439
Speaker 3: my heart. I know you know I'm you. I said

2280
01:44:51,439 --> 01:44:53,320
Speaker 3: it on here all the time. I'm on Instagram to

2281
01:44:53,360 --> 01:44:55,680
Speaker 3: look at but I don't even try to like hide that.

2282
01:44:56,200 --> 01:44:59,439
Speaker 3: It's not you didn't catch me slipping. I just you know,

2283
01:44:59,600 --> 01:45:02,160
Speaker 3: I know, I mean you know why I and uh

2284
01:45:02,400 --> 01:45:06,599
Speaker 3: that woman that plays Bill quiz Uh is uh sexy,

2285
01:45:06,840 --> 01:45:11,479
Speaker 3: dark skinned woman that has a lot of sex scenes

2286
01:45:11,479 --> 01:45:13,519
Speaker 3: and you know when you see you're like, oh my god,

2287
01:45:14,120 --> 01:45:16,400
Speaker 3: she's so fine. I would do and then she starts

2288
01:45:16,400 --> 01:45:20,160
Speaker 3: sucking people. Whether Johnny, You're like, it's like that gift

2289
01:45:20,200 --> 01:45:24,560
Speaker 3: for the woman with the I'm like, I mean maybe.

2290
01:45:25,320 --> 01:45:26,320
Speaker 4: I might consider it.

2291
01:45:26,439 --> 01:45:30,599
Speaker 2: I mean, uh, if y'all ain't seen it. Check it out.

2292
01:45:30,720 --> 01:45:31,240
Speaker 2: He has care.

2293
01:45:31,280 --> 01:45:32,800
Speaker 3: And it took me a few episodes to realize you

2294
01:45:32,840 --> 01:45:35,920
Speaker 3: sing along with the lgbt Q song because you're.

2295
01:45:35,800 --> 01:45:39,040
Speaker 2: You be harmonizing on the track. I think some people

2296
01:45:39,040 --> 01:45:41,360
Speaker 2: would make the difference. By some people, I mean.

2297
01:45:44,040 --> 01:45:46,439
Speaker 4: I told him, I was like, we can't sang. He

2298
01:45:46,520 --> 01:45:48,080
Speaker 4: said no, no.

2299
01:45:50,920 --> 01:45:52,880
Speaker 2: He didn't really seem to have much cause he seemed

2300
01:45:52,880 --> 01:45:54,479
Speaker 2: to understand we can know.

2301
01:45:54,640 --> 01:45:58,280
Speaker 4: I told him he was trying to be nice about ship.

2302
01:45:58,560 --> 01:46:01,720
Speaker 3: Oh man, hold on, let me follow all right, we

2303
01:46:01,760 --> 01:46:03,960
Speaker 3: got cut off in the real time during the chat.

2304
01:46:04,200 --> 01:46:06,120
Speaker 3: Guys on the podcast want here to cut off of Karen,

2305
01:46:06,160 --> 01:46:07,000
Speaker 3: you will finish your thought?

2306
01:46:07,080 --> 01:46:09,640
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, because you know he was trying to be

2307
01:46:09,720 --> 01:46:11,800
Speaker 4: nice about it. But I was like, oh no, no, no, no, baby,

2308
01:46:11,800 --> 01:46:14,560
Speaker 4: we can't saying you ain't got to be cute. You

2309
01:46:14,600 --> 01:46:17,920
Speaker 4: can sing. You have a gorgeous voice, and we've heard

2310
01:46:17,920 --> 01:46:21,360
Speaker 4: you singer many a times. I just be playing in

2311
01:46:21,360 --> 01:46:25,080
Speaker 4: your field. I'm terrible singer, and.

2312
01:46:26,000 --> 01:46:28,800
Speaker 3: I don't know about music and acoustics like that. And

2313
01:46:28,840 --> 01:46:30,880
Speaker 3: that double the points double the race doesn't mean we

2314
01:46:30,960 --> 01:46:35,519
Speaker 3: guessing the race about racial people does not know what

2315
01:46:35,560 --> 01:46:35,880
Speaker 3: I mean.

2316
01:46:38,120 --> 01:46:39,360
Speaker 2: Sometimes I can't do.

2317
01:46:39,280 --> 01:46:42,120
Speaker 3: Stories because the people are too racially ambiguous, Like I

2318
01:46:42,160 --> 01:46:43,120
Speaker 3: don't know what that says.

2319
01:46:42,920 --> 01:46:45,760
Speaker 2: About me, but you're like, I got to know. The

2320
01:46:45,800 --> 01:46:47,479
Speaker 2: game's so fucked up, you know.

2321
01:46:47,640 --> 01:46:49,040
Speaker 4: It's like I don't want no questions.

2322
01:46:49,080 --> 01:46:51,360
Speaker 3: I should started doing those and giving everyone like like

2323
01:46:51,400 --> 01:46:53,920
Speaker 3: the bingo square's just the free square.

2324
01:46:54,520 --> 01:46:56,040
Speaker 2: It's like whatever you guess you was right.

2325
01:46:56,160 --> 01:46:58,120
Speaker 3: We don't know what this person looks like because races

2326
01:46:58,160 --> 01:47:01,360
Speaker 3: are made up construct and it's all right, uh.

2327
01:47:03,320 --> 01:47:05,759
Speaker 2: Uh that that and when.

2328
01:47:05,600 --> 01:47:08,559
Speaker 4: You mistakenly, you know, we didn't have like the race

2329
01:47:08,600 --> 01:47:10,000
Speaker 4: in the article, which I don't know why.

2330
01:47:10,600 --> 01:47:13,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you for the thank you for listening, and

2331
01:47:13,880 --> 01:47:14,400
Speaker 2: thank you for.

2332
01:47:14,400 --> 01:47:21,000
Speaker 3: The the feedback on it, especially the culture appropriation thing, man,

2333
01:47:21,040 --> 01:47:23,200
Speaker 3: because I'm not going into it again. But it's just

2334
01:47:23,240 --> 01:47:25,200
Speaker 3: one of those topics where you talk about it and

2335
01:47:25,240 --> 01:47:27,160
Speaker 3: people kind of cherry pick what they want to hear,

2336
01:47:27,200 --> 01:47:30,200
Speaker 3: and then everybody wants to like give you soapbox on

2337
01:47:30,280 --> 01:47:32,360
Speaker 3: it and ship and it's like, man, we covered everything.

2338
01:47:32,360 --> 01:47:35,840
Speaker 3: It's just it's just very complicated and and not as

2339
01:47:35,840 --> 01:47:38,160
Speaker 3: straightforward as as folks who like it to be, because

2340
01:47:38,400 --> 01:47:40,800
Speaker 3: gross ship is not black and white. Man, It's just not.

2341
01:47:41,680 --> 01:47:43,559
Speaker 3: You know, if you can't live in that then then

2342
01:47:43,560 --> 01:47:45,559
Speaker 3: this is gonna be a very uncomfortable show for folks.

2343
01:47:45,640 --> 01:47:47,720
Speaker 3: And you know, but there's a lot of people that

2344
01:47:47,760 --> 01:47:50,200
Speaker 3: are shown that like us being true to ourselves and

2345
01:47:50,240 --> 01:47:53,479
Speaker 3: living in that grade. Talking about these things has been

2346
01:47:53,479 --> 01:47:54,920
Speaker 3: a rewarding experience, and I'm.

2347
01:47:54,760 --> 01:47:57,080
Speaker 2: Glad people can fuck with it. Okay.

2348
01:47:57,920 --> 01:48:01,240
Speaker 3: I didn't leave my family cookout without eating so that

2349
01:48:01,479 --> 01:48:02,080
Speaker 3: I could.

2350
01:48:01,840 --> 01:48:02,800
Speaker 2: Go here and feel bad.

2351
01:48:03,040 --> 01:48:05,320
Speaker 3: Come on, all right, y'all. We'll talk to y'all later

2352
01:48:05,320 --> 01:48:06,960
Speaker 3: in the week. Until then, I love you.

2353
01:48:07,080 --> 01:48:08,040
Speaker 2: I wh