WEBVTT - GECKMAIL: “THERE IS A 40 YEAR AGE GAP” 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.320 Hello, how is everyone doing today? Thank you for tuning 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:08.760 in to this podcast. Thank you for being alive and 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:14.120 not dead. You chose to wake up again for another 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:18.880 morning of life, and I hope you're happy with that decision. 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:21.640 I know, I am. I know it's a good day 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:25.360 to be alive. I hope that you all had a 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:31.120 good holiday season, and blah blah blah that stuff. Listen. Okay, 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.440 I'm gonna cut to the chase here. I am here 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:40.080 today to read viewer emails. This is a new thing that 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:44.400 I've been doing recently, where normally I have a two 0:00:44.520 --> 0:00:49.440 way conversation with someone where I talk to them and 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:51.960 then they talk to me. But I decided, you know what, 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:55.680 this is my goddamn podcast, and I'm going to put 0:00:55.680 --> 0:01:01.840 out an episode sometimes where only I talk. It is 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:07.560 a lonesome, brutal endeavor, but I can think of about 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:12.000 twenty five thousand more brutal and more lonesome endeavors than 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:17.720 reading emails, which I guess is most people's jobs in 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:23.280 twenty twenty four is reading emails. Sorry, that was inappropriate. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.720 Okay in the past. For those of you who've listened 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.759 to these episodes before, I think I get a little 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.720 self con You probably know I get a little self 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:40.959 conscious when it comes to talking to when it comes 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:44.000 to talking about these emails, I think I get a 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.080 little self conscious about giving my opinion, which is I 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:51.520 think a bad thing for a podcaster to do. I 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:55.240 think part of having a podcast is you say opinions, 0:01:57.720 --> 0:02:00.000 but maybe not necessarily. That's I kind of think. That's 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:01.640 that's why I like the podcast that I do, is 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.120 that I get to just kind of learn from other 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.200 people's lived experiences and let them talk and I don't 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:09.120 have to give my opinion. But you know what, I've decided, 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:14.160 I'm making a firm decision. I am going to give 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:17.120 my opinion on all of these emails. I'm going I'm 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:20.280 not gonna I'm not gonna hold back. I'm gonna give 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.840 my real opinion on these emails because I just I 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:25.040 don't know what the fucking point is of doing this show, 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:27.320 or of doing any of this if I'm not going 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:31.240 to really say how I feel about things. So I'm 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:34.880 gonna try my best to uh to not hold back 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.560 and but also be fair to about these emails. You know, 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.600 I want to be fair. That's why the main reason 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:44.560 I don't let you know, the the diarrhea of my 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:49.560 own opinions flow out of my mouth or whatever is that. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.880 I don't know. I'm trying to be fair, and you know, 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.880 i might say a bunch of stuff and then someone's like, 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:56.440 well what about this, and I'm like, ah, here probably 0:02:56.480 --> 0:03:00.400 writes but uh, anyway, let's just let's just read some 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:04.160 GAK mail, shall we. Let's read some gek mail? All right? 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:13.080 This is from grim subject line situation happening in real time. Hey, Gek, 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:16.399 you said you were going to read some of these 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:20.160 emails tomorrow. If that's the case at this time that 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.839 you are reading them, I'll probably be going through some 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:27.280 shit emotionally while trying my best to hide it. Basically, 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.880 I've come to realize within the last month that I've 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:33.480 grown feelings for a close friend who earlier this week 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.520 told me they started seeing someone. I'm supposed to go 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:38.160 hang out with them all day tomorrow, and we were 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.520 both looking forward to this. I want to show up 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:43.280 and just be business as usual, but I've been dealing 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.600 with this lump in my chest for the last couple 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:49.000 of days and it's not getting easier. Past me would 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:52.440 have done my best to swallow these feelings immediately. Part 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.960 of me now is wanting to say something, just because 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:57.280 we've grown to be more open to talking about certain 0:03:57.280 --> 0:03:59.240 stuff lately, and we talk on the phone all the time. 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.880 They don't no I feel this way, and I feel 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.120 I'm gonna need to step back for a bit. But 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:07.040 I'm also worried about what I might say in the 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:11.320 spur of the moment and how I will make them feel. 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:14.520 I don't want this friendship to end, and despite everything, 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.440 I still care for them. So yeah, that's where I'm at. 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:18.800 We'd love to hear your thoughts on what I should 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:20.200 be doing right now. Whether you read this or not, 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:23.680 this is my attempt at therapy and thinking it through. 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:29.280 Wish me luck, garm parentheses. Yeah, let's go with that name. 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:35.160 Uh Well, here's the thing. I think if your friends 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.800 started seeing it, sounds like you want to stay friends 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:41.520 with this person, but it's hard to just be friends 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:45.000 with them because you have, you know, you got romantic 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:49.279 feelings for them. And I think I think in a 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:53.799 situation like that, if you have to take a step 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:58.240 away from a person because it's too painful to be 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:02.839 around them with these unrequited romantic feelings. I think that's okay. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.479 I'm a little bit confused at what you mean by 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:08.159 you're worried about what you might say in the spur 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.560 of the moment and how they might make them feel. 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:13.400 I mean, you sound like you like this. I don't 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:15.200 think that. You don't sound like you're about to be 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.880 like you know, you're a fucking piece of shit for 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:20.200 not liking me back and fuck your you know, boyfriend 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:21.720 or whatever. You don't sound like you're about to go 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:25.760 don't do that, don't go off on them. But you 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:27.400 don't say and I know there's not a word in 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.720 this email that makes me think you're gonna do that. 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:33.880 So I'm not particularly worried about what you might say 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:35.560 in the spur of the moment. Maybe what you mean 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:39.680 by that is you're gonna like express your feelings and 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:44.960 they won't be requited and you'll be sad. But that's okay, 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:50.920 there's there's that's a that's a normal human experience to have. 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:55.120 So I don't know. I think I think you're actually 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.560 handling this pretty maturely, to be honest with you, garm. 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:00.840 So I don't know how you are or where you 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:03.359 are in your life, but I think you're handling this 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:08.520 pretty maturely. And look, I don't know, everyone to each 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.960 their own. I think that if you need to take 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:16.600 some time away from the friendship to kind of let 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:21.960 yourself be detached romantically so that you can actually genuinely 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.440 be friends and don't here's another thing, is like don't 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:27.440 try don't like. I think people will sometimes like force 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:30.560 themselves to be friends with someone even though they like 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:34.880 it's just hurting them deeply because they are like attracted 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:38.080 to them or like romantically feel a certain way about them. 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:43.479 And I think that's like worse for both people, right 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:45.360 because no one wants to like because that's what because 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.640 that's bad for this person because then they feel bad 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:50.360 that you like them and they don't. You know, it's 0:06:50.400 --> 0:06:52.360 just not a good dynamic for friendship. But I think 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:54.760 if you want to have a friendship, just like, I 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.960 think similarly in the way that like, if you feel 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:00.559 romantically about someone, you should like be honest about those 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:04.560 feelings and come at it from an honest place. I 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:06.480 think if you want to be friends with these persons, 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:08.960 you have to come at that from a very honest place. 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.080 And right now, if you're like, oh, I want to 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.120 be friends just because you know, I don't want this 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:18.280 person to leave. It feels, I think a little dishonest, 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.600 But I don't know. You seem like you're going about 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:25.240 this in a good way. Yeah, good luck. I don't know. 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:30.480 Navigating relationships and dealing with other people is h is 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:33.960 kind of kind of kind of crazy. What's the chat? Say? 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:40.800 Thahia eighty eight says you should express your feelings regardless 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.120 because no matter what. Sadly, even though you might not 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.840 like it, you have to be okay with their decisions 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:50.880 and able. There's a lot of spelling errors in this 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.240 comment from the chat, but you know what, there's actually 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:59.320 an appropriate amount of spelling errors in this message in 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:03.200 the twitch chat. I feel like I feel like to 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:07.360 express I feel like thinking about perfect I feel like 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:12.160 perfect grammar is not to be expected in the switch chat. 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:17.120 So that's okay. All right, Let's take another email. Okay, 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:22.440 this is from William subject line talk to the Hand, Hey, Lyle, 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:26.520 big fan, I wanted to get your opinion and assistance 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.520 on a live stream slash podcast I'm trying to make. 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:32.680 The show is called Talk to the Hand, where I 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:36.160 dress in a full body hand costume, and talk to 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:38.880 people like you do that. I just want you to 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:44.640 know that this idea is about twenty times better than therapy. Getcko. 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:48.280 I really I really like this. I love psychology and 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:50.440 allowing people to be listened to. This gives me great 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.240 joy and it's something I do in my everyday life. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:57.160 What platform do you recommend I stream on to get started? 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.720 And do you have any tips? Slash advice ps. I 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:02.960 came and saw you in Perth, Australia. My girlfriend and 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:04.600 I had an excellent time and we have one you're 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:09.640 Plush toys kick ass. What platform do I recommend you 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:16.480 get started on? I mean, look, here's the thing, and 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:22.559 I could I enjoy getting in depth on like the 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:25.599 business of like trying to turn a live stream or 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:29.720 a podcast into a job. I think it's fun to 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:33.000 talk about, especially when people are still getting started. But 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:37.439 for right now, if you've never even streamed before, if 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:39.839 you've never taken a phone call and put on the 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:44.360 costume at all, and you're just starting out, that what 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:52.200 platform you stream on doesn't really matter that much? Are 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.320 because are you asking for tips or advice on how 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.560 to like grow your stream or just about like the 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:02.120 general journey of doing something like this, I mean, okay 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:04.160 to actually to give a non bullshit answer the question. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:10.480 I mean, like for discoverability, YouTube is best. But dude, like, 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:14.959 here's the thing. If you can like make a living 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:19.439 doing some shit like this, then that's awesome. But if 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:23.160 you can't and you're just like talking to who and 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.160 you're just like talking to whoever, not if you can't. 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:31.200 But let me rephrase this, the most important thing is 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:36.520 that you're actually doing it and you're enjoying doing it. 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:38.920 That's what I've learned. That's not what I would have 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:41.200 told you. I think, like three years ago, when I 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:44.440 was like in the middle of really really really trying 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:46.520 to grow this thing, I would have gone on a 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:52.360 rant to you about short form content versus long form content, 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.240 and we could have we could go deep on platforms 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.240 and whatever whatever. But now that I've been doing this 0:10:57.280 --> 0:10:59.560 for a little while, I all of that stuff is like, 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:03.000 the number one thing that really, honest to god, will 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:07.280 fucking matter is that you really, truly, honestly enjoy doing 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:09.719 this and are having fun with it. And from the 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:14.480 way you're talking in this email, it says that this 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:18.880 gives you great joy, So you know you could stream 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:24.760 on fucking you porn to zero people, and you're gonna 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:27.319 have a good life because you actually like what you're doing. 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:38.600 So this is from a crisp rat subject line. I 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:46.200 really hate texting and it affects my relationships. Hello green Man, 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.160 I've been getting frustrated at my own inability to text, 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.560 and I have come to you to rant I am 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:56.320 a really bad texter. I often overthink my responses, say 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:59.319 things that come off in the wrong tone, or honestly, 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.320 just forget to reply to people mid conversation since my 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:06.280 mind wanders easily. Most of my issue lies in how 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.360 it has made online dating a lot harder. I feel 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.880 like once I'm in person having a conversation, or even 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:13.840 just on the phone with someone, I can keep a 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.800 conversation flowing pretty easily, but I can't, for the love 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.439 of God, hold a conversation over text. It's gotten to 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:22.640 the point where I'm intentionally delaying even opening someone's message 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.280 because I dread having to respond to it. I'm almost 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:29.200 twenty one years old, Gecko, this shit is embarrassing. I 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:31.880 just started talking to this one girl who seems pretty cool, 0:12:31.920 --> 0:12:34.240 and I'm afraid my brain's self sabotage is gonna blow 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.960 it for me. I know this is a dumb problem, 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:40.000 but I still can't get over it. Idka, if you 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:42.240 have any advice I haven't heard already, but you seem 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:47.360 to have a nice way with words. Ps. Here's a 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.719 picture of a cool frog I found. Oh this is 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:53.880 a cool frog. Okay, I you know what this is. 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:56.600 I think this is good. Let me tell you something, 0:12:56.640 --> 0:13:00.080 Chris Bratt. I am so happy to hear that you 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.920 have this problem and not the opposite problem, because I 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:06.240 feel like not I'm gonna good. I'm gonna sound like 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.080 a I grew up in the sixties or something, But like, 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:13.079 I think most people have the opposite problem, right, most 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.480 people are like, oh, text is great because I can. 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.240 I mean, we're gonna into a We're getting into a 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:21.200 dangerous universe where like, you know, you're gonna be talking 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.240 to somebody on a on a dating app or something, 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:26.000 and you're gonna be able to tell that they're just 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:29.480 asking an AI to fucking respond to every one of 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:33.040 their messages and stuff. But yeah, this is not a 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:37.480 This is way way better than the opposite problem of like, oh, 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:41.040 I'm good at texting because I you know, am able 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.360 to send the fucking text to my group chat and 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:46.360 get fifty different messages and uh, you know take the 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.560 time to overthink it and stuff. But I can't talk 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.200 to people in real life or on the phone. I mean, 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:53.160 this is easy, man. Why don't you just, like, if 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:55.360 you're talking to a lady on a dating app or something, 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:59.600 why don't you just like, after after a couple of messages, 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:04.920 you know, be honest about it and be like, hey, listen, 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:08.280 I'm more of a phone call kind of a guy. 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:11.840 Because I think a lot of people, I think, you know, 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:15.040 women on the dating apps are probably not gonna want 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:19.200 to like meet up with you immediately after like a 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:21.480 couple of messages. But if after a couple of messages 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:23.560 you're like, hey, let's do a facetimed, let's do a 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:29.680 phone call, and you know, I think I should think 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:33.600 people will be refreshed by that because I think most again, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:36.440 you have what I think is the opposite problem of 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:38.960 most people. So I mean that's what I would do, man, 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:42.560 Just like be you know, be fresh with it. Just 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.760 be like, hey, I'm not much of a texter. I'm 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:46.560 a phone call guy. I think I think people will 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:50.600 be into that. So I just started talking to this 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:55.080 one girl who seems super cool? Is what you wrote 0:14:55.680 --> 0:15:00.960 in this email? Have you? I? Why don't you call her? 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.120 Just be like, Hey, you seem cool. Let's talk on 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:10.480 the phone and get coffee and fall in love. Crisp 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:17.520 rat Okay, let's take another's tick another thing. Hey, okay, okay. 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:20.600 The subject line is worried if I can't wipe my 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:26.720 ass after surgery. Hey, you can call me beck. I'm 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:30.400 planning on getting top surgery in the summer so I 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:33.000 can get rid of some boobs that I don't want. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.520 I'm not nervous about the end result of the surgery, 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:40.120 but I'm nervous about recovering and how bad I will smell. 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:45.360 When you are recovering, you cannot shower for like ten days, 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:49.680 at least six days, and your arms are basically stuck 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:53.800 to your sides, so I'm gonna be smelly. Other trans 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:56.920 folks have said that they smelled bad too during that time. 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.720 My biggest fear is that if my arms are stuck 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.040 are my sides, how am I going to wipe my ass? 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.600 I don't want my parents to wipe my ass. I'm 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:09.400 twenty two. That's supposed to happen when you're eighty. They're 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.160 writing this in all caps. By the way, can you 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.040 give me hacks on how to wipe my ass or 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:18.760 comfort me? Because I'm scared? Look, let me tell me. Look, beck, 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:21.000 here's the thing. Let me tell you something. I really 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.080 I can I can I say can I can? I 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:26.920 This is this actually is my real opinion. This is 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:30.080 my real opinion. All this and not to be like 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:36.680 if I were you, genuinely, if your parents, like there's 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:39.960 so many people who's like parents would be like fucking 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:44.000 like pissed off at them forgetting top surgery or like 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:48.680 just in general, like don't support them or not like 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:52.040 not even like with with transitions or this like life 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:55.800 in general. Like, here's the thing. If your parents are 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:59.320 willing to wipe your ass to help you with your 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:02.200 top surgery, that should be an excite. That should be 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:06.760 that's a good thing. That's a good uh development in 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:10.080 your life. I think so, Like the fact that you 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:13.600 have parents who are so supportive of you that they're 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:17.199 willing to wipe your ass is a good thing. So 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:23.560 this this is a reframing of perspective. Okay, now, if 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.080 your parents, if your parents seem like excited to wipe 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:30.160 your ass, then that's there's something maybe that's not good. 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:33.120 But if they're willing to wipe your ass for you, 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:36.280 instead of instead of thinking like, oh, I'm twenty two, 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.720 I don't want my parents to wipe my ass, think oh, 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:43.800 I have such wonderful parents that they are willing to 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:49.679 get within centimeters of my diarrhea because they love me 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:53.240 so much. So that's that's that's how I would think 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:59.640 about this, all right. Someone in the chat said, Lyle, 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:01.760 do you pay your face green or is this a filter? 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.120 I paint my face green. I've got it, by the way, 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:07.720 I've got it down. I haven't timed myself yet, but 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:13.119 I've got it pretty down to where I think I 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:16.879 can do it in under a minute. I think I 0:18:17.240 --> 0:18:19.120 haven't time myself, but I think I can get it 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:23.840 in under a minute. All right, let's keep going. This 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:29.600 is from Van subject line that one time my mom 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:34.639 went to prison. Hey Gek, this is Van, longtime listener, 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:38.320 first time contributor. I saw you recently in Houston. Shout 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:40.600 out to the secret group in Houston. What a kick 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:42.679 ass venue. Thank you so much for everything you do. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:45.919 Really love the gek mail segment. All right, let's take 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:48.359 it back to my senior year of high school. My 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:51.840 mother was a longtime addict. To spare details and make 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:54.040 this haste. I get called to the principal's office to 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.119 be told my mother had been arrested. To my shock, 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:00.520 I do get home. You guessed it, my house empty, 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:04.120 mother nowhere to be found. Turns out she had stabbed 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:09.440 her boyfriend's sister parentheses her drug dealer in the neck, 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:15.280 chest and arms. Jesus, it was a drug deal gone wrong. 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:19.040 I think my mom was just super broke and thought 0:19:19.040 --> 0:19:22.560 she could rob this woman. My mom was also wearing 0:19:22.600 --> 0:19:25.159 my clothes and I never got them back. Well, you know, 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:28.240 I'm sorry that you were victimized in all of this. 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:32.199 The lady did survive. They both got arrested, and they 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:35.480 both went to the same jail. Present day me is 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:37.960 very okay and doing well and has moved far from 0:19:37.960 --> 0:19:42.880 where this happened. My mother served seven years in prison, 0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:47.639 and she is actually doing surprisingly well with sobriety. I 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:50.359 am proud of her. Changing your ways. I am proud 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:55.639 of her changing her ways. Thanks gex stay cool. My 0:19:55.720 --> 0:19:58.000 mom served eight years of prison. She's doing well. Okay, 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.320 well that's good. That's good, she's doing well. Well, is 0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:04.280 this a happy story? I mean I went not happy 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:07.159 in the moments, but is I think it's happy like 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:10.760 it ended well, no one died. I mean, you got 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.640 she got stabbed. You know, your mom stabbed this lady 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:17.720 in the neck and she didn't die. That's a happy ending. 0:20:17.760 --> 0:20:21.560 That's pretty good. And then your mom is out of prison. 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:26.200 Sounds like you guys are hanging out, she's sober, and 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:28.080 this is I actually kind of like the story because 0:20:28.119 --> 0:20:34.320 life is just so insane and so I like that. Uh. 0:20:35.119 --> 0:20:37.359 I think sometimes like in a situation like your mom 0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:39.679 like stabs the fucking guy and goes to prison, and 0:20:39.680 --> 0:20:41.760 you're like, all right, well that's that's it for mom. 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:45.479 And then uh she comes back and it's like, no, 0:20:45.520 --> 0:20:47.560 that's not it for mom. We get a second act. 0:20:48.359 --> 0:20:51.760 She also attacks the picture of a dog. So this 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:54.320 this lady's hanging out with a dog and her mom. 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:58.720 So that's good. This is that's a nice story. Thank 0:20:58.760 --> 0:21:09.240 you for sharing. Okay, let's see here. Uh this is 0:21:09.240 --> 0:21:14.440 from Daniel subject line, I saved my dad's life by 0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:18.080 breaking his back. Hey, mister ghek, I have a long 0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:20.960 story about how I broke my father's back and saved 0:21:21.080 --> 0:21:23.879 his life. First, I wanted to say how your podcast 0:21:24.400 --> 0:21:28.080 helped me figure out something I needed to restart. Let's 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:30.240 dive into it. So, back when I was in first 0:21:30.320 --> 0:21:32.439 for second grade, I used to do some wrestling and 0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:35.840 gymnastics that my parents put me in. My dad and 0:21:35.920 --> 0:21:38.520 brother always helped me train for wrestling at home, and 0:21:38.560 --> 0:21:41.119 we always did it with no issues. One week, I 0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:44.040 remember we were going at it in the living room 0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:46.640 and me and my brother and my dad were all 0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:52.240 grappling each other and jumping around. Okay, like fifteen minutes in, 0:21:52.359 --> 0:21:55.280 I jump on my dad's back and he yells out 0:21:55.280 --> 0:21:59.639 in pain. He gets up, walks into the kitchen, sits down, 0:21:59.720 --> 0:22:03.479 and the call nine one one. The ambulance comes and 0:22:03.560 --> 0:22:07.640 takes him away. You guys were doing like fucking WWE 0:22:07.680 --> 0:22:10.560 in the house. The kicker is this part. Later at 0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:13.679 the hospital with me and my mom and my brother, 0:22:13.960 --> 0:22:16.960 the doctor comes out with a somber face and pulls 0:22:17.000 --> 0:22:20.880 my mom aside. She starts crying. Then the doctor tells 0:22:20.960 --> 0:22:24.080 us to come over and looks at me and points 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:30.440 at me and says, you saved your father's life. By 0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:34.920 jumping on my dad's back, I broke it. But when 0:22:34.960 --> 0:22:38.320 they took X rays where I jumped and broke his back, 0:22:38.800 --> 0:22:43.040 they found cancer. They said, if I hadn't jumped on 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:46.320 his back, he would have died within a couple of 0:22:46.440 --> 0:22:51.080 years because of the size of the mass. He passed 0:22:51.119 --> 0:22:54.719 away back in twenty sixteen, but he had more life 0:22:55.119 --> 0:23:01.919 thanks to me. Wow. Pretty crazy. I mean, okay, not 0:23:02.000 --> 0:23:05.199 to discount the story, but like, couldn't your dad had 0:23:05.240 --> 0:23:08.399 just gotten a check up once a year. Did you 0:23:08.480 --> 0:23:14.120 have to break his back for him to figure this out? 0:23:14.359 --> 0:23:18.720 I don't. Oh, you know what? Never sorry, never mind? Yes, yes, 0:23:18.760 --> 0:23:21.320 you saved your dad's life. He always called me his 0:23:21.359 --> 0:23:24.560 guardian angel. I'll end it here. I tried to call. 0:23:24.960 --> 0:23:26.760 I tried to call and tell the story because it 0:23:26.760 --> 0:23:28.440 has way more to it, but I can never get through. 0:23:28.720 --> 0:23:31.280 Love your show, Love you all, stay safe and healthy. 0:23:33.119 --> 0:23:40.560 I you know what I this hopefully this conversation. I 0:23:40.600 --> 0:23:42.639 feel like now that I like reading this, I'm like, 0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:45.480 I should get an X ray once? Uh once a year, 0:23:45.520 --> 0:23:51.399 just do a physical once a year. That should be enough, right, Like, 0:23:51.640 --> 0:23:55.359 I guess why why did he have to be in 0:23:55.480 --> 0:23:59.439 severe injury for them to get an X ray. I 0:23:59.440 --> 0:24:00.960 said it at the beginning of this I was gonna 0:24:00.960 --> 0:24:02.640 give my real opinion on all this stuff, and I 0:24:02.680 --> 0:24:09.720 have to hold myself to that. But uh I hope, 0:24:09.880 --> 0:24:12.439 I hope you're doing better, Daniel. I hope you're still 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:15.159