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Speaker 1: Hello, how is everyone doing today? Thank you for tuning

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Speaker 1: in to this podcast. Thank you for being alive and

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Speaker 1: not dead. You chose to wake up again for another

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Speaker 1: morning of life, and I hope you're happy with that decision.

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Speaker 1: I know, I am. I know it's a good day

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Speaker 1: to be alive. I hope that you all had a

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Speaker 1: good holiday season, and blah blah blah that stuff. Listen. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna cut to the chase here. I am here

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Speaker 1: today to read viewer emails. This is a new thing that

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Speaker 1: I've been doing recently, where normally I have a two

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Speaker 1: then they talk to me. But I decided, you know what,

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Speaker 1: this is my goddamn podcast, and I'm going to put

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Speaker 1: out an episode sometimes where only I talk. It is

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Speaker 1: a lonesome, brutal endeavor, but I can think of about

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Speaker 1: twenty five thousand more brutal and more lonesome endeavors than

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Speaker 1: reading emails, which I guess is most people's jobs in

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four is reading emails. Sorry, that was inappropriate.

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Speaker 1: Okay in the past. For those of you who've listened

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Speaker 1: to these episodes before, I think I get a little

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Speaker 1: to talking about these emails, I think I get a

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Speaker 1: little self conscious about giving my opinion, which is I

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Speaker 1: think a bad thing for a podcaster to do. I

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Speaker 1: think part of having a podcast is you say opinions,

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Speaker 1: that's why I like the podcast that I do, is

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Speaker 1: that I get to just kind of learn from other

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Speaker 1: people's lived experiences and let them talk and I don't

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Speaker 1: I'm making a firm decision. I am going to give

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Speaker 1: my opinion on all of these emails. I'm going I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna I'm not gonna hold back. I'm gonna give

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Speaker 1: my real opinion on these emails because I just I

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Speaker 1: don't know what the fucking point is of doing this show,

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Speaker 1: and but also be fair to about these emails. You know,

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Speaker 1: I want to be fair. That's why the main reason

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Speaker 1: I don't let you know, the the diarrhea of my

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm trying to be fair, and you know,

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Speaker 1: i might say a bunch of stuff and then someone's like,

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Speaker 1: well what about this, and I'm like, ah, here probably

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Speaker 1: writes but uh, anyway, let's just let's just read some

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Speaker 1: GAK mail, shall we. Let's read some gek mail? All right?

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Speaker 1: This is from grim subject line situation happening in real time. Hey, Gek,

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Speaker 1: you said you were going to read some of these

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Speaker 1: have done my best to swallow these feelings immediately. Part

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Speaker 1: They don't no I feel this way, and I feel

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Speaker 1: We'd love to hear your thoughts on what I should

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Speaker 1: be doing right now. Whether you read this or not,

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Speaker 1: this is my attempt at therapy and thinking it through.

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Speaker 1: Wish me luck, garm parentheses. Yeah, let's go with that name.

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Speaker 1: Uh Well, here's the thing. I think if your friends

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Speaker 1: So I'm not particularly worried about what you might say

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Speaker 1: just not a good dynamic for friendship. But I think

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Speaker 1: And right now, if you're like, oh, I want to

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Speaker 1: Navigating relationships and dealing with other people is h is

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Speaker 1: kind of kind of kind of crazy. What's the chat? Say?

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Speaker 1: Thahia eighty eight says you should express your feelings regardless

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Speaker 1: and able. There's a lot of spelling errors in this

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Speaker 1: an appropriate amount of spelling errors in this message in

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Speaker 1: perfect grammar is not to be expected in the switch chat.

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Speaker 1: So that's okay. All right, Let's take another email. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this is from William subject line talk to the Hand, Hey, Lyle,

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Speaker 1: big fan, I wanted to get your opinion and assistance

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Speaker 1: on a live stream slash podcast I'm trying to make.

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Speaker 1: The show is called Talk to the Hand, where I

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Speaker 1: dress in a full body hand costume, and talk to

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Speaker 1: people like you do that. I just want you to

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Speaker 1: know that this idea is about twenty times better than therapy. Getcko.

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Speaker 1: I really I really like this. I love psychology and

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Speaker 1: allowing people to be listened to. This gives me great

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Speaker 1: What platform do you recommend I stream on to get started?

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Speaker 1: And do you have any tips? Slash advice ps. I

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Speaker 1: came and saw you in Perth, Australia. My girlfriend and

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Speaker 1: Plush toys kick ass. What platform do I recommend you

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Speaker 1: because are you asking for tips or advice on how

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Speaker 1: general journey of doing something like this, I mean, okay

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Speaker 1: I mean, like for discoverability, YouTube is best. But dude, like,

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Speaker 1: But let me rephrase this, the most important thing is

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Speaker 1: That's what I've learned. That's not what I would have

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Speaker 1: gives you great joy, So you know you could stream

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Speaker 1: So this is from a crisp rat subject line. I

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Speaker 1: really hate texting and it affects my relationships. Hello green Man,

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Speaker 1: I've been getting frustrated at my own inability to text,

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Speaker 1: twenty one years old, Gecko, this shit is embarrassing. I

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Speaker 1: just started talking to this one girl who seems pretty cool,

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Speaker 1: and I'm afraid my brain's self sabotage is gonna blow

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Speaker 1: it for me. I know this is a dumb problem,

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Speaker 1: but I still can't get over it. Idka, if you

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Speaker 1: have any advice I haven't heard already, but you seem

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Speaker 1: fall in love with uh a, really, you're happen to

427
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Speaker 1: fall in love with race car driving, which is objectively

428
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 1: logistically a horrible hobby to have. You picked a very

429
00:25:55,600 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 1: logistically bad goal. But I only say that because it's

430
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: the truth. But what is also But okay, don't don't don't, Nick,

431
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 1: if you're listening, don't pause and throw your phone away. Okay,

432
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 1: that is the truth. What I also believe to be

433
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 1: the truth, Nick, is if you is that there probably

434
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: exists a path for you, a plan for you to

435
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: work less than e race cars, or at least like

436
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: get another job or a different job that allows you

437
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 1: some more, some more benefits? What is what is it

438
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 1: that you work as an engineer? Is there any way

439
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,919
Speaker 1: that you can I don't know, can you get a

440
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: job or like what what can you get a job

441
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 1: in race cars? I feel like that's a that's a

442
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: question that a seven year old asks, can you get

443
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 1: a job in a race car? But seriously, can you

444
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:06,199
Speaker 1: get a job in race cars? Does that exist? I

445
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 1: don't know? This is like I don't I genuinely here

446
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: if I had to give like what my gut is

447
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: telling me about this. My gut is telling me that

448
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 1: neither I nor you have really done enough research and

449
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 1: thought into what a plan to allow yourself to race

450
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 1: cars and not be homeless might look like. And I

451
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 1: guess I encourage you to kind of like like like

452
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 1: be a little insane and decide for yourself that it

453
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:51,360
Speaker 1: is possible and see if a path, if a career

454
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 1: path exists where you can do something like this. Because

455
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: you said here, you're like, I make seventy five thousand

456
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: year and I'm grateful for it. I think, you know,

457
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: gratefulness is an interesting little bug because if you don't

458
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: have enough of it, Because I think there's like an

459
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: optimal amount of gratefulness to have in life, because I

460
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: think if you don't have enough of it, you will

461
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,320
Speaker 1: literally never ever, ever, ever, ever be fucking happy with

462
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: anything you ever do ever. But if you're like too grateful,

463
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: then like life walks all over you, you know what

464
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: I mean. If you're just sitting there like I'm just

465
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 1: glad I have arms, and you know, every other, every

466
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: waking moment of your life is hell, and you hate

467
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: where you live, and you hate your job, and you

468
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: hate your family, and you hate you hate yourself, and

469
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 1: you're just like, well, at least I'm grateful I'm not dead,

470
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: you know. I think there's something good to that. But

471
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 1: but also I think the optimal thing is like, you know, Okay,

472
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for what I have, I'm grateful for where

473
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: I am, but I want more out of my life.

474
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 1: I want to do this thing. Pretty soon. I'm gonna

475
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: be dead forever and I'm not gonna be able to walk,

476
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 1: let alone race a car. So let's figure out something.

477
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm I really I feel like I

478
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: feel like I'm saying a ton of fluff right now,

479
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 1: but all of everything that I'm saying makes some sense

480
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: in my head because we could sit here and get

481
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: logistical about how you could do this, and I'm actually

482
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 1: trying to think about how you could do it. I

483
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 1: mean like, could you could you work, could you look

484
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: for different jobs that allow you to have more time?

485
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: Could you go into business for yourself, which you know,

486
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: over the course of a few years, maybe get whatever

487
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: business to a point where you could have more time.

488
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm like, I'm optimist again. You picked

489
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: a hard thing because I think if you were like,

490
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: I want to play frisbee golf, I'd be like, you

491
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 1: can do that tomorrow. But racing cars, I have no

492
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: idea how that works. But I'm kind of guessing that

493
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: you don't either, And I'm kind of guessing that if we,

494
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: instead of fully denying that this was ever possible from

495
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: the jump, we went into it and we were like,

496
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: you know what, what could that look like? We did

497
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: some more research, maybe options would open up. I hope

498
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 1: any of what I just said was was remotely helpful.

499
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: Let me you know what I have Google, Let me google.

500
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: Let me google how to become a race car driver? Okay,

501
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 1: how to become a race car crap? I just all right,

502
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: I googled how to become a race car That would

503
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: require some biological engineering. Okay, how to become a race

504
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 1: car driver? Okay, to become a race car driver, you

505
00:30:55,240 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: have to attend a racing school. Yo? Are the race

506
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: hold on? What hold on? Race car driver school? Can

507
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 1: you can you fucking major in race car driving? Yo?

508
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: They have race car driving school? It's probably it's okay,

509
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: they have race car driving school. It is almost certainly

510
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: really fucking expensive. But I don't know. Maybe you could

511
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: work at one of these tracks. Okay, I'm just okay.

512
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: The gist of what I said in my whole rant

513
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: is like, look, do a Google, look at shiite, see

514
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 1: what's out there. Maybe it'll spark some ideas. Well. What

515
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: is it? What does the chat have to say? Does

516
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: the chat know anything about race cars? Lots of people

517
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: I know share cars. They kind of just have their

518
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: cars sitting around as a project. What does that mean?

519
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: All right? All right, let's keep going. All right? This

520
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 1: is from g subject line. Am I still a monkey? Hey? GEK?

521
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: How are you? I'm g I'm gonna be twenty five

522
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: in five days and not gonna lie. I'm terrified. I

523
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: finished my bachelor's degree last year, and now I'm doing

524
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: all sorts of things to fill my resume and go abroad.

525
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: I like none of the things I do. I like

526
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,719
Speaker 1: no profession or jobs. I have no passion in my

527
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: life rather than being comfortable and eating great food. On

528
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: the other hand, being unemployed and useless makes me terribly depressed.

529
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 1: So I tempt myself to do something money wise just

530
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 1: to decrease the pressure. But then again I am always annoyed.

531
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 1: I want to go back to bed. Am I a

532
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 1: pathetic lazy animal or IDK? What am I? Will I

533
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: ever feel satisfied and happy with anything? You know? Ge genuinely,

534
00:32:53,880 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: I really I empathize with the plight of like being

535
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: fucking depressed and being like, oh, I don't I don't

536
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 1: want to do anything. Like like somebody asks you, like, well,

537
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 1: what are your goals and what do you want to do,

538
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: and You're just like, I don't wanna fucking do anything.

539
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like this is like kind of

540
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: like classic motivational bullshit, But it makes a lot of sense,

541
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: and I hope it like speaks to you in some way,

542
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: because I I've actually the problem that you're talking about

543
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 1: in this email. I have a very similar problem where

544
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: I'm just like, well, I don't know what the fuck.

545
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if anything is like worth doing. I've

546
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: learned this, Like, so when you're like in bed and

547
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: you're at home and you're not doing anything, and you're

548
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: depressed the idea and you're thinking in your head about

549
00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: the idea of doing anything, you're whatever, Like whatever you're

550
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:11,359
Speaker 1: imagining you're going to feel like in your head when

551
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 1: you're thinking about doing something is always going to be

552
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: like ninety seven percent different than how you're gonna feel

553
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 1: when you're actually fucking there. So you can't really make

554
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: any kind of honest judgment call on any experience or

555
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 1: anything at all unless if you're actually there, because you're

556
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,919
Speaker 1: just making the judgment call on how you think you're

557
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: gonna feel, and you know, you can make judgment calls

558
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,919
Speaker 1: on how you think you're gonna feel all fucking day long,

559
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:48,919
Speaker 1: but they're they're wrong because because you won't know any

560
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 1: of this shit until you're actually there. So like if

561
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 1: I were you, if I were going to give you advice,

562
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:01,400
Speaker 1: I would say to just like try your best to

563
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: think of like a couple things that could maybe And

564
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,959
Speaker 1: I'm not even By the way, I'm not even talking

565
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: about like big things. I'm not talking about like you know,

566
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: I'm not saying right down like be a doctor. I'm

567
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 1: talking about like go on a walk or fucking volunteer

568
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 1: or something like just something like what's something you can

569
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 1: just fucking do to just get out of the house.

570
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 1: Because once you're actually I there's a chance that once

571
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 1: you've tried something and you're like actually fucking there, you

572
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: you your brain chemistry just changes. But when you're not

573
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: doing anything and you're just like imagining what doing things

574
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:52,959
Speaker 1: is going to be like, then uh yeah, you're gonna

575
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: fucking hate it because you're it's there's a lot of this.

576
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 1: There's you gotta physically be there. I think that made sense.

577
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try doing this too again. I empathize strongly

578
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 1: with this email because I'll get depressed all the time

579
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 1: and be like, I don't know if it's worth it

580
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:13,320
Speaker 1: to pursue or do anything. There's a lot of times

581
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 1: when I'm recording this podcast where I'm like, oh, man,

582
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 1: I don't know if I really want to do this

583
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: right now. And then I show up and I'm here

584
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: and I'm doing it, and now that I'm actually sitting

585
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: in this fucking chair right now talking me to this microphone.

586
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: I feel great, So I don't know, you have to

587
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 1: kind of get yourself to that point where you're in

588
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: the fucking chair on the street doing whatever the thing is.

589
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 1: You're not crazy, though, and you're not pathetic because these

590
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 1: are these are legitimate feelings that I've had before. So

591
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: I get you. Let's see yan. Okay, this is from Lily.

592
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 1: The subject line is kind a weird TMI, but not horrible. Hey, gek,

593
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 1: my boyfriend wants to go sleep with other women with

594
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 1: his best friend like he like he wants to like. Okay,

595
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: let me read the whole email. I told him I

596
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: would be okay with that if I could go sleep

597
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 1: with other people, and then he got mad at me

598
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: and said that I could only sleep with women. I

599
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: don't know if this is fair or not. I'd k

600
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,319
Speaker 1: why I am asking a gecko for advice about this,

601
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: but here I am happy New Year's don't drink too

602
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: many diet mountain dews, and don't you tell me what

603
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 1: to do? Uh. This is not related to the like

604
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 1: crux of what this email is about. But when your

605
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 1: boyfriend says he wants to go sleep with other women

606
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: with his best friend. Does he mean like he wants

607
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 1: to go with his best friend, like out to the

608
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: bar and like look for women, or does he mean

609
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 1: like that he wants to have threesomes with his best friend.

610
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 1: Either way, whatever, that's not important. Look, Lily, at the

611
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 1: end of the day, Uh uh you know relation relationships, uh,

612
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:08,839
Speaker 1: and these boundaries and stuff. It's it's whatever you're down with.

613
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: You know, if you're down with your boyfriend going out

614
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: and doing whatever he wants. But the parameter of that

615
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 1: is that you can do whatever you want, then great.

616
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: And if he's not on board with that, then uh,

617
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: an agreement has not been come to. You said, I

618
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: don't know if this is fair or not. I kind

619
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 1: of Look, when two people in a relationship are like

620
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 1: deciding some shit, the idea of like fairness is completely

621
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 1: utterly subjective, So it you don't you don't not know

622
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 1: if it's fair or not. You get to decide for

623
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: yourself if it's fair or not. So ask yourself if

624
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: it feels fair to you, if it feels like it's

625
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: what you want to do, and if it is, then great,

626
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 1: and if it's not, it's not but if you're looking

627
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: for some kind of like objective measuring stick of fairness,

628
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,400
Speaker 1: you will not find it. Because this is the question

629
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 1: of whether or not this is fair is up to you.

630
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: So that's how I would reframe thinking about this. This

631
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: is from mister V. Subject line Motown Blues Tales from

632
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 1: the assembly line. Hey, GEK, my name is mister V,

633
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: and we spoke three years ago where we discussed how

634
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 1: I quit my teaching job and took a job on

635
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: the assembly line in Detroit. I actually genuinely do remember you,

636
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,799
Speaker 1: mister V. I don't remember a lot of details about

637
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: our conversation, but I remember talking to a teacher named

638
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 1: mister V. I felt my brain was turning into mush,

639
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:56,759
Speaker 1: similar to the FedEx man. My union gave me a

640
00:39:56,760 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 1: great raise, and I'm enjoying a great standard of Livingtionately,

641
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 1: my brain is no longer turning into mush, as I've

642
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 1: rediscovered my passion for reading and writing. Here's the thing.

643
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 1: My job seems to interfere with my dating life. I'm

644
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 1: drawn to intelligent, independent women, and the feelings are mutual.

645
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 1: At first, things start fiery and passionate, but eventually fizzle

646
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 1: out when they grow resentful of my blue collar life. Wow,

647
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: you're like uh Johnny Cash or something. You're like Hank

648
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 1: Williams junior. No, not Hank Willimes Junior. Like Hank Williams,

649
00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 1: I can clock in and clock out, enjoy great books,

650
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:41,720
Speaker 1: good food, and a comfortable lifestyle, and be an attentive lover. Ooh,

651
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 1: but TikTok slash Instagram. Hustle culture seems to make them

652
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 1: want to want a partner with a cool job like

653
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 1: teaching or getting a PhD. Paths I see as financial

654
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 1: suicide at twenty nine. Maybe I'll revisit those at forty,

655
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: but not now. Okay, I have thoughts, but I'll read

656
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 1: the end of this email. I have a love hate

657
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: relationship with Detroit in my job. The costs of living

658
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: and benefits are great, but the city's environment is not

659
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: exactly ideal. I'm torn should I stay or should I go.

660
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 1: I'm tired of replaying this goodwill hunting scene over and

661
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: over again. I would like your thoughts, as you have

662
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: spent time in the Midwest and know how mid it

663
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: is ps last year when you came to Detroit, I

664
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 1: wanted to go to the show in the Rave, but

665
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: I was dating a psychologist at the time who didn't

666
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 1: believe in your art and banned me from going. That's

667
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 1: really funny safe to say we split up. I hope

668
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 1: you can come back to the three one three as

669
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 1: I will be attending. Thank you for generously calling this art.

670
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you? I'm confused at what this email

671
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 1: is asking, because you're asking this is okay. This is

672
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 1: a two part email. One is about if you should

673
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:03,399
Speaker 1: leave Detroit or not. I'm not I I don't know, man,

674
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if you should leave Detroit wherever you

675
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 1: go here, Okay, let me. I'm gonna answer you. I'm

676
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 1: gonna speak to the thing you said about like, uh,

677
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 1: you know, women wanting a guy with the cool job

678
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: or whatever, but about like moving places. Here's the thing

679
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 1: I really, truly, genuinely believe when it comes to like

680
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: moving the actual location in which you live, like where

681
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: on the earth you are set, there's elements of it

682
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: that are I would be lying if I said that

683
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: I don't think about the place itself, Like I like

684
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 1: a walkable city, you know, I like a major city.

685
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: But other than that, once you get like a few

686
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:58,439
Speaker 1: key things going where the quality of where you live

687
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 1: is going to be dependent upon and how much you've

688
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 1: actually invested in being there. So if you're if you

689
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 1: stay in Detroit and you're like, oh, I want to

690
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: get involved in the you know, I want to start

691
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: a fucking book club in Detroit. Right, you start your

692
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 1: little book club because you love reading and writing. You

693
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: start your little poetry club, and then you have all

694
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: these poetry friends in Detroit. Right, whatever it is, you're

695
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 1: gonna like Detroit because you have a whole community, you

696
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 1: have a whole scene that you like. Places, Okay, there's

697
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:36,880
Speaker 1: a difference between a place and your life in that place.

698
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: Your life in that place is way more important than

699
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,839
Speaker 1: the place itself. Places are just everywhere you go. There'll

700
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: be food and people and you can walk around and stuff,

701
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: and you can probably get some fucking job doing something.

702
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: You can do that anywhere on the planet. Well, not

703
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 1: anywhere on the planet, but some places do. Some places

704
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: do suck a lot, some places are horrible and everyone

705
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: there wants to leave. But in most in a lot

706
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: of places, it doesn't matter. So whether you stay in

707
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 1: Detroit or you go to Tampa, you just have to

708
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 1: invest in your life as it is, So that doesn't

709
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: really matter, right, Because if you wanted to do your

710
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 1: little poetry club and you know, book club or whatever

711
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 1: the fuck it is, like, you could move to you know,

712
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,799
Speaker 1: Tampa and do it, or you can move to California

713
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 1: and do it. You could move to fucking Texas and

714
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 1: do it, or you stay in Detroit and do it.

715
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 1: Doesn't really matter. You should think more about you know,

716
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: how you actually want to invest in wherever you are.

717
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 1: And then this thing of let me read this part again.

718
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: Women are resentful of my blue collar life. Do me

719
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: a fake? Just look, do me a fair? I don't

720
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,840
Speaker 1: know how many women it took for you to grow

721
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 1: this heuristic? Is that the word I'm gonna google, I'm

722
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:06,240
Speaker 1: gonna if I am I using this word right? Heuristic?

723
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: What is a heuristic? I think I'm using the word

724
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: heuristic right, I'm I'm mainly I think I'm using the

725
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 1: word heuristic to just mean belief. Okay, I don't know

726
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: how many women it took for you to develop this

727
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 1: storyline that you have that women are resentful of your

728
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: blue collar life. But if I were you, I would

729
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: ditch that storyline. I would really like kind of try to.

730
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: I would try your best to examine all the storylines

731
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: that you have about what you think women are attracted to,

732
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: and I would ditch a lot of them because, like

733
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:50,439
Speaker 1: what you know, maybe you met a couple people who

734
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 1: were like, oh, I don't like that you work in

735
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: a factory. But that doesn't mean that every woman you

736
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 1: meet is gonna care that you work in a factory.

737
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: And if you go in to your dating universe thinking

738
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 1: that everyone is gonna be resentful of your blue collar life,

739
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: that's probably gonna come off and I don't think it

740
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 1: would be good for you. So I would try to

741
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 1: challenge that belief. Ah God, I need to think of

742
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: something funny to say. I've just been saying, and I've

743
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: just I gotta think of something funny to say. No,

744
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: that's stupid. All right, let's move let's move on, let's

745
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: let's talk to let's read more emails, shall we? Oh? Okay, okay, okay.

746
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: This is from Khalil, subject line university struggles. Hey gak,

747
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: my name's Khalil. I'm from Morocco and my first semester

748
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,240
Speaker 1: of UNI just ended. I moved about seven hundred miles

749
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: from my hometown to pursue my higher education. I'm very

750
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 1: introverted and quiet and don't speak unless spoken to. I

751
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: started feeling the effects of this much worse since I

752
00:46:56,360 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: live alone now and almost have zero human contact. Needless

753
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: to say, that took a huge toll on me, and

754
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 1: I want to do a lot better in the second semester.

755
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: I guess I just need someone telling me to stop

756
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: the bs and go talk to people. But that just

757
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: feel so agonizing. It makes me so anxious. I've basically

758
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 1: had the same group of friends back home my whole life,

759
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: so I never developed social skills. Maybe I just need

760
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 1: one of those goals that are like go out and

761
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,399
Speaker 1: say hello to twenty people today or something. I think

762
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: I have a very deep fear of rejection, especially social rejection,

763
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: so I just need some way to face it. PS.

764
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 1: You have fans all over the world, mister Ghek. The

765
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 1: amount of places you can actually sell out a show

766
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:35,720
Speaker 1: will surprise you, especially here in North Africa. Much love, Gek, blessed.

767
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 1: There's no way I could. Maybe I could sell if

768
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: I could find a one seat venue, and you come,

769
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: I could sell out a show in North Africa. I

770
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: don't know. Maybe yeah, if I can find a one

771
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 1: seater venue in North Africa. I'll do a show if

772
00:47:55,600 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 1: you come, all right, I mean, Khalia, listen, man, everything.

773
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 1: I don't have much for you except the Nike. Just

774
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 1: do it, right, because this whole email is you. This

775
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 1: whole email is you came up with the answers to

776
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 1: all of your problems. While you were writing this email,

777
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:17,399
Speaker 1: you were like, I need to stop the BS. Maybe

778
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: I need one of those goals that are like stay

779
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 1: hello to twenty people. You know, I'm trying to develop. So,

780
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:31,320
Speaker 1: like you have all the answers that through in this email,

781
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 1: you just have to do them. And you're only you know,

782
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 1: you're only in your what so you probably your first

783
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 1: semester UNI just ended, so you're probably like, what nineteen, Yeah,

784
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: now's the time to try to develop some social skills. Yeah,

785
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,399
Speaker 1: I have a deep fear of rejection. I don't know,

786
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,720
Speaker 1: I really don't. I really don't have anything for you, Khalil,

787
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: except to just go and do it. Try to talk

788
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: to people. Also, nobody gives a fuck about it. Also,

789
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 1: just Khalil, just Khalil. Just remember that nobody gives a

790
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: fuck about anything. Nobody gives a fuck about anyone except

791
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: for like themselves. So nobody like nobody cares if you

792
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 1: come up and say hi to them. And I don't

793
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 1: I mean that in a good way, like I mean

794
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: that in like you think that people are gonna think

795
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: something about you, but they're not. Either they're not gonna

796
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 1: want to talk to you, or they will want to

797
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: talk to you. And them not wanting to talk to

798
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 1: you is literally nothing. It's it's not I'm not gonna

799
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 1: say it's not the worst thing in the world because

800
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: it's not even anything. It's like a nothing. It's nothing,

801
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: and it affects your life in no way, shape or form.

802
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 1: Whereas the best case scenario they do want to talk

803
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 1: to you, you make a friend or or or or

804
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: a romantic friend or something like that. And so I

805
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 1: just give it a shot. Man. I don't know. I

806
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 1: wish I had something better for you than just give

807
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 1: it a shot, man. But that's that's that's really what

808
00:49:54,640 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 1: it is, all right. Okay, this is from Coal subject

809
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: line the color brown. Cole says, did you know that

810
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: the color brown is just dark orange? There's no way

811
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 1: that's true. I'm gonna type the hold on, let me

812
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 1: google this. Wait is the color brown? Orange? Brown is

813
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 1: a dark orange color made by combined combining red, yellow,

814
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: and black. Yo, I never knew that. Damn. The more

815
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: you know, that's cool. I mean, all colors are just

816
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 1: combinations of other colors, right, except the primary ones. What

817
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 1: are the primary colors? Red, yellow, and blue? Right? Everything

818
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: else is just a fake? What's green? Green? Is yellow?

819
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 1: And blue? You know? Colors are crazy? Man? All right,

820
00:50:58,480 --> 00:50:59,920
Speaker 1: that's it. That's all I have to say about that.

821
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:13,239
Speaker 1: But all right, let's see here. All right, Uh, this

822
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 1: is from Jeremy, said Jack Line. I want to be

823
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 1: on Survivor. Jeremy says, Hey, Gek, I'm Jeremy and I

824
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 1: listened to your podcast frequently. I also went to your

825
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 1: live show in the Los Angeles. Hell. Yeah, thank you, Jeremy.

826
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 1: I really want to be on the reality TV show Survivor.

827
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:32,439
Speaker 1: I've yet to submit an audition tape to the casting team,

828
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:34,399
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure what I want the audition tape

829
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: to be, or really how I want to express myself

830
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,720
Speaker 1: as a would be character on Survivor. What are your thoughts?

831
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. I will read the rest of this email,

832
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 1: but I don't know fucking anything about sir. I don't

833
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 1: know anything about the show Survivor. So I'm not gonna

834
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: be helpful to you, but I'll read the rest of

835
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 1: this email. My concern is that the show has been

836
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 1: going on since like a two thousand and one. I

837
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: can imagine that thousands of people have applied to be

838
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 1: on the show, and with that, almost every way the

839
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 1: game can be played by a person has been done before.

840
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:04,439
Speaker 1: So how do I stand out among other contestants. Here's

841
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: a few things about me, twenty five year old white.

842
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 1: Thank you for including that. Jewish, la born and raised.

843
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 1: I am a very analytical person, but very socialable. I

844
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,799
Speaker 1: have a pet cat. I'm not very athletic, but in

845
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:22,240
Speaker 1: the moment I can rise to the occasion. I'm a virgo.

846
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:24,879
Speaker 1: I work in music. Thanks for your help. GEK can't

847
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:26,919
Speaker 1: wait to hear this on the pod. Do you wonder

848
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:28,759
Speaker 1: my Okay, here's my actual I said. I said I

849
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: was going to tell the truth on this fucking thing,

850
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna do it. Hold on, I gonna take

851
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: a sip of my energy drink. Jeremy, here's what I

852
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:43,439
Speaker 1: would actually do. You know, I'm gonna be very honest

853
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 1: with you, Jeremy. Thousands of people apply to be on

854
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:50,000
Speaker 1: Survivor and you have like a you pretty much have

855
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: no chance of being on the show. This is the truth.

856
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:58,840
Speaker 1: But I'm going to tell you why that's not depressing

857
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:02,399
Speaker 1: if you if we were on the phone right now,

858
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 1: I would be like, well, what do you want to

859
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 1: get out of being on Survivor? Right? And then ask

860
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 1: yourself that what do you want to get out of

861
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: being on Survivor? Did you did you mention that in

862
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: this email? No? Not really, it didn't really mention what

863
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 1: you want to get out of being a Survivor. But

864
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 1: so I would take whatever it is you want to

865
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 1: get out of I hate things. I hate things that

866
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:36,280
Speaker 1: involve like applying, you know what I mean. I hate

867
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:39,759
Speaker 1: things that involve like, oh I need to ask for

868
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 1: permission from this amorphous entity, and the amorphous entity sits

869
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 1: in a throne above me and goes, hmmm, are you

870
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 1: worthy of being on my show? I just think it's lame,

871
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 1: you know, Whereas like Jeremy, I'm dead serious. If you

872
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: want to if you want to just make a YouTube

873
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: channel where you fly to a deserted island and try

874
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: to survive. To do that, that's way, first of all,

875
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 1: way more interesting than being on Survivor. Second of all, Uh,

876
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,440
Speaker 1: you know, it's your choice, Like if, if what you

877
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: really want is to see if you can survive on

878
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:22,840
Speaker 1: a desert island, just go do it. You know, you

879
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: don't need to add, you don't need to fucking send

880
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 1: an email to someone to do that. You don't need

881
00:54:27,680 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 1: you don't need permission to go be stranded on a

882
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:33,359
Speaker 1: desert on a desert island, Jeremy, just go do it.

883
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get this guy killed by doing that. I'm

884
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:38,839
Speaker 1: gonna get this guy killed. But uh, I do mean

885
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:40,839
Speaker 1: what I'm saying though, Like whatever it is you're hoping

886
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: to get, just do something that doesn't involve having to

887
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: ask someone to let you be on their stupid TV show,

888
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 1: Like fucking go make your own. Go make your own.

889
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 1: Go make your own fucking reality show on YouTube where

890
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:58,320
Speaker 1: you have a phone. Just make your own fucking survivor.

891
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 1: Like what you're gonna put together on audition tape? Right?

892
00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 1: Instead of putting together on audition tape, when don't you

893
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: just make a fucking thing and put it on the internet.

894
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:11,279
Speaker 1: And that way you did it, you didn't have to

895
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: ask anyone for permission, and you got whatever it is

896
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:16,879
Speaker 1: you wanted out of it. So that's that's my that's

897
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: my true recommendation. Having never ever seen the show Survivor.

898
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: Someone in the chat said he probably wants money and fame.

899
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,799
Speaker 1: You can get money and fame by going on the

900
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 1: internet instead of you don't have to ask, You don't

901
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 1: have to send an email to some motherfucker to get

902
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: money and fame. All right, let's keep going. Pretty sure,

903
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 1: someone said he pretty sure he wants to win a

904
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 1: million dollars. If if, if you, if, Jeremy, if we

905
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 1: had a conversation and you were like, genuinely honest to god,

906
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:55,360
Speaker 1: the one thing I really want, the main reason I

907
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: want to go on Survivors to win a million dollars,

908
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: I would go, that's one of the stupidest ways to

909
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 1: achieve that goal. And then I would say, let's set

910
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:08,960
Speaker 1: you up with a roth Ira at Vanguard, and you're

911
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 1: gonna contribute one hundred dollars a month to it until

912
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 1: you're sixty years old, and by the time you're re tire,

913
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: you'll have a million dollars. I don't actually know if

914
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:22,959
Speaker 1: that math is true, but that was I'm so lame.

915
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:25,200
Speaker 1: Now I'm the lamest. I'm the fucking lamest guy of

916
00:56:25,239 --> 00:56:29,759
Speaker 1: all time. I'm so fucking lame now I'm fucking Oh God,

917
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm so fucking lame. Why I am soone asked why

918
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 1: I'm naked. I'm not naked, but I am shirtless while

919
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:39,680
Speaker 1: I'm recording this, because because I can do whatever I want.

920
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:46,760
Speaker 1: Did it? Did it? Did it? Did? Uh? Uh? Okay uh.

921
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 1: This is from Diego subject line serious discussion about the

922
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 1: best flavor of twigs. And then in the body he

923
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:59,640
Speaker 1: wrote another subject and he wrote outdoor pooping and other

924
00:56:59,760 --> 00:57:03,880
Speaker 1: train running adventures, and then he wrote, Dear Gek, I lied.

925
00:57:04,040 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 1: We're not here to discuss twigs or what the plural

926
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 1: of twigs is even. Instead, I'm writing to seek your

927
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:11,719
Speaker 1: opinion on a more pressing matter. You know what. Fuck No,

928
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 1: I'm not reading this. I'm not No, I'm not reading

929
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:18,880
Speaker 1: this email. I thought I was clicking on an email

930
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: to talk about twigs, and you did it to trick

931
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: me and lie to me. How dare you? No, I'm

932
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:28,479
Speaker 1: not reading your email. Maybe send me, if send send

933
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 1: whatever you were gonna send me again with the fucking

934
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 1: honest subject line, and maybe I'll read it, but I'm not.

935
00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: I'm not putting up with this uh fake out. Subject

936
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 1: line bullshit that you're trying to pull. I don't know

937
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: how you thought you were gonna get away with that.

938
00:57:45,640 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 1: The best flavor of twigs, uh is is? I don't

939
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 1: TwixT is actually not that good of a candy. All right,

940
00:57:56,320 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 1: m let's see here. Uh okay, hold on, sorry, I'm

941
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:12,240
Speaker 1: looking for I'm sorry. I was a little rattled by

942
00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 1: this guy. Let's see all right. This is from Jim.

943
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: Subject line the stop and chat. Hey, gek, Jim from Syracuse. Here,

944
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: hope all is well. Just wanted to ask if I'm

945
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 1: wrong for feeling some sort of way when I encounter

946
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,760
Speaker 1: a group of people stopped dead in their tracks at

947
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:34,680
Speaker 1: the grocery store during peak shopping hours to talk about

948
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 1: whatever it is they want to talk about. For curb

949
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: your enthusiasm, fans, it's better known as the stop and chat.

950
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: For example, Wegmans in Syracuse on a Sunday is the

951
00:58:43,120 --> 00:58:46,919
Speaker 1: most anxiety filled store, with shitloads of people flying past

952
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 1: each other to get their overpriced groceries for a week

953
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 1: or even just the day. But for you to get

954
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 1: your pasta noodles or cured meats and cheese, you have

955
00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: to say excuse me and reach around people that are

956
00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 1: posted up talking about how their son is mediocre at

957
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:01,400
Speaker 1: basketball or daughter had a dancer cell or some other

958
00:59:01,480 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: bullshit like get the fuck out of my way and

959
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: don't even think about giving me a side. I like,

960
00:59:05,640 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 1: I'm being the rude one. Get your shit and tell

961
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 1: your friends that Braden and Caiden are fine and keep

962
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 1: it moving. Not gonna lie. It makes steam come out

963
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:18,600
Speaker 1: of my ears like some old bugs Bunny cartoon. Let

964
00:59:18,600 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 1: me know if you have encountered a similar situation. Have

965
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 1: a good holiday, Go Bills. Come to Syracuse for a

966
00:59:24,040 --> 00:59:27,480
Speaker 1: show soon please. I was actually in Syracuse earlier this year,

967
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 1: back in April. That's a good time. That's a good time, okay.

968
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 1: Uh Jim from Syracuse, Uh yeah, No, people are people

969
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 1: have Look look, people have very low situational awareness. I

970
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 1: think the way that you are handling this is perfect,

971
00:59:49,240 --> 00:59:53,919
Speaker 1: unapologetically being like hey, you know, you're not being rude

972
00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:56,200
Speaker 1: about it. You're not like, uh well, I mean, look,

973
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: you could, like, you know, stab these people to death.

974
00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 1: That'd be very rude, but you're not that. You're a

975
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:04,600
Speaker 1: decent enough guy and not do that. You you're understanding

976
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 1: the social contract, You're doing your best Jim to abide

977
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 1: by the social contract of society. And I want you

978
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 1: to know that me and the other listeners of Therapy

979
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 1: Gcal podcasts stand by you in your efforts to abide

980
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 1: by that social contract. But alas you live in a

981
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 1: world inhabited by other human bodies and brains that are

982
01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 1: not cognizant of the space that they take up or

983
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 1: give a fuck. You know, just don't let it. Don't

984
01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 1: stab these people to death because that will affect your

985
01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: life negatively. It's like that, Like there's a guy who, like,

986
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 1: there was some like protesters blocking a road and he

987
01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 1: pulled out a gun and he killed them. Don't do that,

988
01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:57,600
Speaker 1: but you can ask him to move. And if they

989
01:00:57,680 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 1: give you the side I you could, don't you. I mean,

990
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 1: if you know what, if they give you the side

991
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 1: eye and you want and it makes you feel good

992
01:01:05,640 --> 01:01:08,240
Speaker 1: to yell at them and you really feel like they

993
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:13,880
Speaker 1: deserve it. I'm trying to think if I would do that,

994
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:17,280
Speaker 1: Like if I like, I'm going into the Wegmans and

995
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get some shit and these two people

996
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,440
Speaker 1: are like talking about their son and I'm like, hey,

997
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 1: can you guys have I's like, hey, excuse me, and

998
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 1: they're like, ugh, no, I'd probably yell at them. It

999
01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:35,000
Speaker 1: depends on It depends on how uh aggressively they were

1000
01:01:35,080 --> 01:01:40,360
Speaker 1: appalled by me asking them to move. If it was

1001
01:01:40,440 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: just a side eye, I'd let it go. But if

1002
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:45,360
Speaker 1: they made some kind of noise when I moved past them,

1003
01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 1: I would go off. What do you get at Wegmans?

1004
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:54,920
Speaker 1: Wegmans is sick? All right? Uh, let's steal a couple.

1005
01:01:55,040 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 1: Let's do a couple more right here. This is from

1006
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 1: it's even subject line, I'm sleeping with a guy forty

1007
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:07,640
Speaker 1: years older than me. Hey Lyle, I was showing your

1008
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: podcast at a very uncertain time in my life a

1009
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 1: few years ago. It was one of the main things

1010
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 1: that helped me shift my mindset on not only my

1011
01:02:15,320 --> 01:02:18,560
Speaker 1: own problems, but the problems of others around me as well.

1012
01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 1: I've always known I was gay and had to come

1013
01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:23,520
Speaker 1: to terms with it a long time ago. What I

1014
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: struggled to accept was that I'm attracted to older men.

1015
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:31,240
Speaker 1: Overwhelming guilt and fear clouded every thought I had about

1016
01:02:31,240 --> 01:02:33,560
Speaker 1: finding a partner or even just a hookup. I was

1017
01:02:33,560 --> 01:02:35,800
Speaker 1: hard on myself and shut down any and all feelings

1018
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:37,880
Speaker 1: I had of love. It's like there was a second

1019
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:40,680
Speaker 1: closet to come out from a friend of mine shout

1020
01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:42,840
Speaker 1: out to Cam. Showed me your podcast and I started

1021
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,560
Speaker 1: listening at work. Hearing all the amazing stories from your listeners,

1022
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:47,160
Speaker 1: as well as your outlook on most things, helped me

1023
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 1: take a step back from it all. I found a

1024
01:02:48,840 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 1: real therapist and it changed my life. Okay, so now

1025
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:56,880
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping with a guy forty years my senior. I'm

1026
01:02:56,920 --> 01:03:01,640
Speaker 1: twenty six, he's sixty six. It's cool. Sorry, there's not

1027
01:03:01,680 --> 01:03:03,479
Speaker 1: a whole lot to the story, but I just wanted

1028
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 1: to say thanks for all you do. Am. I Are

1029
01:03:05,680 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 1: you implying that I somehow led to you sleeping with

1030
01:03:11,240 --> 01:03:14,120
Speaker 1: this sixty six year old guy. I don't think you are.

1031
01:03:14,440 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: I don't even know why I said that, because I

1032
01:03:15,800 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 1: really don't think you are. But uh, let's see. We

1033
01:03:19,640 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 1: saw your show in Melbourne and it was awesome. Okay,

1034
01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:26,760
Speaker 1: so you live in Australia and you've been sleeping with

1035
01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:29,600
Speaker 1: a sixty six year twenty six I mean she I

1036
01:03:29,640 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 1: mean at twenty six, fucking go crazy, sleep with it,

1037
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 1: go to a If you're twenty six years old, I

1038
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 1: mean by then, you know, if they're if you're twenty

1039
01:03:39,800 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 1: six and your horny, and you go to a nursing

1040
01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 1: home and that you meet like a seventy nine year

1041
01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 1: old man and he's horny, and you guys want to

1042
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:53,040
Speaker 1: have sex with each other, that's fair game, entirely fair game.

1043
01:03:53,560 --> 01:04:00,040
Speaker 1: That's a that's a beneficial that seems to be a

1044
01:03:58,440 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 1: uh beneficial transaction for both parties. I mean, yeah, whatever,

1045
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 1: you seem like you like this guy, or at least

1046
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 1: you like having sex with him, and he probably likes

1047
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:18,640
Speaker 1: having sex with you, so whatever, I mean, don't let

1048
01:04:18,680 --> 01:04:23,160
Speaker 1: him like kill you. I don't know why he said that.

1049
01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:27,520
Speaker 1: Maybe are you trying to get money from him? Sixty

1050
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 1: six is not that old. You got along if you're

1051
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 1: trying to get money. If I will say, if you're

1052
01:04:31,880 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: trying to get money from him, you're probably in it

1053
01:04:33,880 --> 01:04:37,160
Speaker 1: for another. They have pretty good healthcare in Australia, I think,

1054
01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:39,440
Speaker 1: so you're in it for another. If this is a

1055
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 1: money ploy, you're in it for at least another twenty years.

1056
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, yeah, I'm gonna say at least another

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Speaker 1: twenty years. That's cool. Does he have an Australian accent?

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Speaker 1: I don't have a. I don't have a good bit.

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Speaker 1: I'm not good at bits. Ah. Well, good, I'm glad

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Speaker 1: that you, uh, you seem happy about this. This is good. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's uh, let's do let's see what's how long have

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Speaker 1: you been going? What do you? What do you? What

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Speaker 1: do you? What do you guys think? What does the

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Speaker 1: chat think about this? I'll ask the chat. Oh, someone said,

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Speaker 1: does he spank you with his cane? That's good? Someone

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01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:35,320
Speaker 1: said seniors are dangerous? That also might be kind of true.

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Speaker 1: All right, let me read one or two more. This

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01:05:42,000 --> 01:05:47,000
Speaker 1: is from Missy, subject line high lyle with four exclamation points.

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01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 1: I listened to your podcast a lot at work while

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01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: I am beautifying the produce department at my co op.

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01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:55,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes I fantasize about calling in, and it's thrilling to

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Speaker 1: just imagine maybe someday. I have been enjoying the email

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Speaker 1: episodes as well. Here's my contribution. I loved to read

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01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,600
Speaker 1: when I was younger, but fell out of the habit

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01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:07,160
Speaker 1: and just recently picked it up again. I'm now thirty one.

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01:06:07,720 --> 01:06:12,600
Speaker 1: I'm trying to detox my screen addicted brain. I agree

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01:06:12,640 --> 01:06:15,320
Speaker 1: that reading is generally no more virtuous than playing video games.

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01:06:15,440 --> 01:06:19,680
Speaker 1: Or watching movies. I did say, just for context. On

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01:06:19,760 --> 01:06:23,160
Speaker 1: an earlier podcast, I went on a rant about how

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01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:27,360
Speaker 1: I don't think that reading is inherently more virtuous than

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01:06:27,360 --> 01:06:29,760
Speaker 1: playing video games or watching movies because they kind of

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01:06:30,720 --> 01:06:33,000
Speaker 1: have the same result. But anyway, but there is something

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01:06:33,040 --> 01:06:35,480
Speaker 1: incredibly satisfying about finishing a good book that I don't

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01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:38,720
Speaker 1: feel with other media. It's a uniquely calming experience to

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01:06:38,760 --> 01:06:41,920
Speaker 1: sit in silence and read. I think there's something special

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01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:44,240
Speaker 1: that happens in your brain while you let the words

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01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:47,680
Speaker 1: wash over. You would recommend to anyone feeling overwhelmed by

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01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:56,440
Speaker 1: this increasingly overstimulated life. We all suffer your fan Missy, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I'll go on my rant again.

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Speaker 1: I don't think. I think that if in general, whether

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Speaker 1: it's a video game or a movie or a book

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01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:09,920
Speaker 1: or whatever, if you can do something that's not that

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01:07:10,160 --> 01:07:13,640
Speaker 1: like without where you're going long periods of time without

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01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:17,640
Speaker 1: being on your phone, that's great. It's I this is

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01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:19,600
Speaker 1: a bad way to end the show, But we live

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01:07:19,600 --> 01:07:24,080
Speaker 1: in a horrifying world. Like if you're listening to this,

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01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:27,000
Speaker 1: when if if the people listening to this, when's the

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01:07:27,080 --> 01:07:33,800
Speaker 1: last time you went a full day morning till bed

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01:07:34,360 --> 01:07:42,120
Speaker 1: without looking at your phone or the internet. For me,

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01:07:42,240 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 1: it was probably probably two thousand and two, I would say,

1101
01:07:48,120 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 1: is the last time I did that. Probably do it

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01:07:49,680 --> 01:07:54,760
Speaker 1: in two thousand and two. For most of the Like

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01:07:54,800 --> 01:07:57,360
Speaker 1: when you think about all the time that human beings

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01:07:57,400 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 1: have been alive, they were doing that for virtually one

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01:08:02,720 --> 01:08:06,880
Speaker 1: hundred one hundred percent of the time. Human beings with

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01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:13,320
Speaker 1: your same biology. We're just going about life without the Internet.

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01:08:14,040 --> 01:08:17,000
Speaker 1: And now we're on the Internet like all the time

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01:08:17,160 --> 01:08:19,439
Speaker 1: for like twenty four hours or except when we're sleeping,

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01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:21,880
Speaker 1: and it's fucking scary. So if you can do anything

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01:08:21,920 --> 01:08:26,960
Speaker 1: that detox yourself from it, that's a good thing, even

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01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 1: if it's just playing video games or watching the movies.

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01:08:29,920 --> 01:08:32,360
Speaker 1: I'm not the screen part of it. I'm not so

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01:08:32,560 --> 01:08:34,760
Speaker 1: obsessed with as much as I am like the constant

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01:08:35,439 --> 01:08:42,120
Speaker 1: checking and like ADHD crap. I feel less bad about

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01:08:42,120 --> 01:08:45,080
Speaker 1: what I do because it's a podcast, and and you

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01:08:45,120 --> 01:08:49,400
Speaker 1: know it, it feels less ADHD to listen to a

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01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:52,639
Speaker 1: podcast than you know, I don't know, like a mister

1118
01:08:52,680 --> 01:08:55,519
Speaker 1: Beast video whatever, But even even a Mister Beasts video

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01:08:55,640 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 1: is good. I don't know. I don't know. I don't

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01:08:58,080 --> 01:09:00,360
Speaker 1: know why I said that. I don't know why that

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01:09:00,439 --> 01:09:04,880
Speaker 1: came into this rant. But yeah, all right, you know,

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01:09:04,960 --> 01:09:06,880
Speaker 1: all right, all right, all right, you know I'm missy. Fine,

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01:09:06,920 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 1: I'll read a book. I'll read a fucking book. I'll

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01:09:11,320 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: buy a book and I'll read it. Okay, let's do

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01:09:15,280 --> 01:09:19,840
Speaker 1: one more email. Okay, Yeah, we can't end like that.

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01:09:19,840 --> 01:09:22,840
Speaker 1: We gotta do one more. We gotta do we gotta

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01:09:22,840 --> 01:09:26,479
Speaker 1: do one more. All right, great, all right. This is

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Speaker 1: from Robert. Subject line help, I'm becoming a nerd. Hey Lyle.

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01:09:32,160 --> 01:09:35,519
Speaker 1: This is Robert from the Netherlands. I'm pretty sure that

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01:09:35,640 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 1: this is like an all time thing that artists struggle

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01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:41,680
Speaker 1: with all over the world all the time. When I

1132
01:09:41,720 --> 01:09:43,639
Speaker 1: was little, I went out to play with my friends

1133
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:48,200
Speaker 1: and brought a small iPod with me, and I'd record

1134
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:51,479
Speaker 1: everything and make small scenes where we would pretend like

1135
01:09:51,520 --> 01:09:54,320
Speaker 1: we were cops catching a drug cartel and shit like that.

1136
01:09:54,880 --> 01:09:57,120
Speaker 1: I kept making videos showing it to my family. I

1137
01:09:57,200 --> 01:09:58,760
Speaker 1: knew I had some sort of talent when I made

1138
01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:01,760
Speaker 1: a World War video for a middle school assignment. In

1139
01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:03,880
Speaker 1: this video, there was the scene where someone threw a

1140
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:06,840
Speaker 1: grenade and it actually had an explosion. The faces that

1141
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 1: my classmates had were priceless. Anyhow, four years later, I

1142
01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 1: am studying at UNI for being a director, and I'm

1143
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 1: getting into it big time. Making movies is all I

1144
01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:20,600
Speaker 1: think about. I have this class called film History, and

1145
01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:23,040
Speaker 1: bro I have been extremely invested, Like I go to

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01:10:23,120 --> 01:10:26,640
Speaker 1: museums and go to every film exposition there is. I

1147
01:10:26,720 --> 01:10:29,679
Speaker 1: feel ashamed to go out and tell people this because

1148
01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:33,760
Speaker 1: it makes me feel like a nerd dude? What Like

1149
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:35,800
Speaker 1: I think I'm driving my family and friends nuts with

1150
01:10:35,880 --> 01:10:37,680
Speaker 1: my bullshit? Do you have any advice on this? Like

1151
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:41,000
Speaker 1: how I deal with this? Also? Do you think directors

1152
01:10:41,040 --> 01:10:44,080
Speaker 1: are artists or just bossy cunts? I like to know

1153
01:10:44,120 --> 01:10:48,040
Speaker 1: what your favorite movie is minus Fallen Angels nineteen ninety five,

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01:10:48,200 --> 01:10:55,040
Speaker 1: directed by Wong car Wi. I don't really watch movies. No,

1155
01:10:55,120 --> 01:10:58,679
Speaker 1: you're not a nerd. Why do you feel a sh Robert?

1156
01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:00,800
Speaker 1: Why do you feel a shame usually proud of this?

1157
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:03,920
Speaker 1: Do you know how many people like don't have just

1158
01:11:04,160 --> 01:11:08,320
Speaker 1: don't care about fucking anything? I don't know, Robert, I

1159
01:11:08,360 --> 01:11:11,880
Speaker 1: don't know why. I feel bad that you live still

1160
01:11:11,880 --> 01:11:14,880
Speaker 1: in a world. I mean you you're at I how

1161
01:11:14,920 --> 01:11:19,040
Speaker 1: old are you? Probably? Like let's see, all right, so

1162
01:11:19,120 --> 01:11:21,080
Speaker 1: you were in like high school. You're probably like eighteen

1163
01:11:21,200 --> 01:11:26,519
Speaker 1: nineteen something like that. Okay, so you probably you're you

1164
01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:33,760
Speaker 1: are old enough at eighteen or nineteen to realize that, uh,

1165
01:11:34,520 --> 01:11:38,479
Speaker 1: caring about things is it is no longer cool to

1166
01:11:38,680 --> 01:11:43,640
Speaker 1: not care about things or have interests. It is not

1167
01:11:44,320 --> 01:11:47,679
Speaker 1: a lame to give a fuck about things in life.

1168
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:51,800
Speaker 1: It's actually kind of sick. It's actually not even kind

1169
01:11:51,840 --> 01:11:56,759
Speaker 1: of sick. It's sick. You know so many people, I just, Robert,

1170
01:11:56,760 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 1: I just want you to be, uh proud of this.

1171
01:11:59,439 --> 01:12:01,599
Speaker 1: So many people I just fucking depressed because they don't

1172
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:04,599
Speaker 1: care about anything. And I just think having this thing

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01:12:04,640 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 1: that you have, I'm not even I honest, I Robert,

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01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:12,960
Speaker 1: I'm I mean this. I think what you have right now,

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01:12:13,640 --> 01:12:17,559
Speaker 1: where you are so passionate and you give a fuck

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01:12:17,920 --> 01:12:22,639
Speaker 1: so much and you're extremely invested in what you are doing,

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01:12:23,360 --> 01:12:27,480
Speaker 1: is more valuable than like being a majorly successful filmmaker.

1178
01:12:28,040 --> 01:12:32,639
Speaker 1: I really believe that, because that what you have right now,

1179
01:12:33,200 --> 01:12:35,679
Speaker 1: having a thing that you love and that you care

1180
01:12:35,720 --> 01:12:38,559
Speaker 1: about and that you can reasonably do for the rest

1181
01:12:38,600 --> 01:12:40,240
Speaker 1: of your life until you don't want to do it anymore,

1182
01:12:40,600 --> 01:12:44,320
Speaker 1: is like a valuable, beautiful amazing thing, and you should

1183
01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:50,160
Speaker 1: feel really proud to have it. You know, you said,

1184
01:12:50,200 --> 01:12:52,519
Speaker 1: I'm driving my friends and family nuts with my BS.

1185
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:54,559
Speaker 1: I mean, you should learn how to talk about things

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01:12:54,600 --> 01:13:00,000
Speaker 1: that aren't just making movies. Maybe that's it. I think

1187
01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:02,800
Speaker 1: it's beautiful that you have. You should develop, though, you

1188
01:13:02,800 --> 01:13:08,160
Speaker 1: should develop well rounded social skills, if that's kind of

1189
01:13:08,160 --> 01:13:11,960
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. But no, you should be happy

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01:13:12,000 --> 01:13:16,479
Speaker 1: that that you care about something, especially at eighteen. It's

1191
01:13:16,479 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 1: harder as you get older, I think, to care about shit.

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01:13:18,840 --> 01:13:24,559
Speaker 1: So just be excited and grateful and immersed in not

1193
01:13:24,600 --> 01:13:27,040
Speaker 1: only what you care about, but be excited at the

1194
01:13:27,400 --> 01:13:31,280
Speaker 1: pure fact that you care. Don't let anyone tell you

1195
01:13:31,360 --> 01:13:35,640
Speaker 1: it's lame. Do you think directors are artists are just

1196
01:13:35,720 --> 01:13:39,920
Speaker 1: bossy cunts? It depends on the person. Also, I don't

1197
01:13:39,920 --> 01:13:44,040
Speaker 1: really know many directors. I don't. I never met Alfred Hitchcock,

1198
01:13:44,080 --> 01:13:51,759
Speaker 1: but he's probably a cunt. Yeah. Anyway, okay, Fallen Angels

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Speaker 1: nineteen ninety five. I'm gonna go watch that. I wish

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01:13:54,960 --> 01:13:57,799
Speaker 1: I had something funny to say about any of these emails. Instead,

1201
01:13:57,800 --> 01:14:00,400
Speaker 1: I just gave advice based on what I feel in

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01:14:00,439 --> 01:14:05,280
Speaker 1: my gut, which is fine too, I'm just I'm gonna.

1203
01:14:05,479 --> 01:14:07,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna this can be a part of the podcast too.

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01:14:07,439 --> 01:14:09,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna does the chat have any questions that they

1205
01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:14,160
Speaker 1: want to say before we go? Someone says, we love

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01:14:14,160 --> 01:14:25,800
Speaker 1: a good war? Want gar why movie? Okay? Uh? Someone

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01:14:25,840 --> 01:14:30,880
Speaker 1: said I like boats. That's cool. I'm gonna wait. I'm

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01:14:30,880 --> 01:14:34,880
Speaker 1: gonna wait two more seconds. If if there's any more chats,

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01:14:35,000 --> 01:14:38,400
Speaker 1: am I gonna go? See no stafaru uh no s

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Speaker 1: faratu No. I don't really like making I don't really

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01:14:43,160 --> 01:14:45,760
Speaker 1: like watching movies. I get too bored. I love playing

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01:14:45,840 --> 01:14:48,880
Speaker 1: video games. I'm playing a little update on the video

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01:14:48,920 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 1: games I'm playing. I'm getting into I'm a little late

1214
01:14:51,080 --> 01:14:56,080
Speaker 1: on it, but I'm getting into Little Nightmares. If I

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01:14:56,120 --> 01:14:58,760
Speaker 1: think I might start, I'm gonna start casually reviewing video

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01:14:58,800 --> 01:15:03,160
Speaker 1: games on this podcast a lot. I highly recommend Little Nightmares.

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01:15:05,240 --> 01:15:08,959
Speaker 1: I have it on the switch, and uh, it definitely

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01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:13,120
Speaker 1: looks better on like you know, PlayStation over the fuck.

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01:15:13,200 --> 01:15:17,960
Speaker 1: But it's a sick game. It's a pretty stealthy, pretty

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01:15:18,000 --> 01:15:20,160
Speaker 1: I don't like video I hate like so many video

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01:15:20,200 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 1: games just waste your fucking time. And they're just like,

1222
01:15:23,520 --> 01:15:27,200
Speaker 1: go here, do this, and they don't and this this

1223
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:30,840
Speaker 1: video game really like creates an awesome atmosphere and it's

1224
01:15:31,520 --> 01:15:36,040
Speaker 1: linear and it's rewarding and it's immersive and it's it's great. Yeah.

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01:15:36,040 --> 01:15:38,720
Speaker 1: So Little Nightmares one and two highly recommend. I just

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01:15:38,720 --> 01:15:45,479
Speaker 1: beat one, so I'm gonna play Little Nightmares two. Okay,

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Speaker 1: anything else, well, uh, thank you guys for listening to

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Speaker 1: this podcast. This is I am Lyle, I am a

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Speaker 1: gecko And do I have anything else to say? No?

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Speaker 1: Not really enjoy life. It's the end of the year,

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01:16:04,439 --> 01:16:09,240
Speaker 1: Happy New year. Next soon, and thank you guys for

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01:16:09,320 --> 01:16:13,240
Speaker 1: listening to my podcast. Here's to let's see. I'm doing

1233
01:16:13,240 --> 01:16:16,880
Speaker 1: this twice a week in twenty twenty five. I'll probably

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Speaker 1: put out one hundred and four of these podcasts. So

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Speaker 1: if we have not talked on the phone yet or

1236
01:16:23,840 --> 01:16:27,240
Speaker 1: have not read your email yet, I'm gonna need enough

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01:16:27,320 --> 01:16:31,760
Speaker 1: phone calls and I'm gonna need enough phone calls and

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Speaker 1: emails to complete at least one hundred and four more

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01:16:36,160 --> 01:16:40,000
Speaker 1: podcasts in twenty twenty five. So if you want to

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Speaker 1: be a part of gek Mail, send an email to

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01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:47,360
Speaker 1: Therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com. I just kind

1242
01:16:47,360 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 1: of keep a rolling. I just kind of sort by

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01:16:51,600 --> 01:16:55,360
Speaker 1: unread and I just kind of keep a rolling whatever

1244
01:16:55,439 --> 01:16:57,920
Speaker 1: of emails. So if you're listening to this and you

1245
01:16:57,920 --> 01:17:01,960
Speaker 1: want to submit an email, send it to therapy geckomail

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01:17:02,439 --> 01:17:06,360
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. I have a my streamings. I

1247
01:17:06,360 --> 01:17:07,760
Speaker 1: know a lot of people want to call in to

1248
01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 1: the show. My streaming schedule is random. I kind of

1249
01:17:13,200 --> 01:17:17,120
Speaker 1: just do it when I feel like it, well, not

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01:17:17,160 --> 01:17:18,599
Speaker 1: really when I feel like I do it like twice

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01:17:18,640 --> 01:17:23,320
Speaker 1: a week usually like Mondays and Fridays. But the best

1252
01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:25,960
Speaker 1: way to get on the phone is if you go

1253
01:17:26,040 --> 01:17:30,720
Speaker 1: to twitch dot tv, slash Lyle forever and you subscribe,

1254
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Speaker 1: you can get a notification for when I'm going live,

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Speaker 1: or if you follow me on Instagram, Instagram, dot com,

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Speaker 1: slash Lyle the number four Ever I usually post on

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Speaker 1: Instagram when I'm live and taking calls. Uh, thank you

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01:17:45,600 --> 01:17:48,720
Speaker 1: guys for listening. Ghek bless you all and UH have

1259
01:17:48,800 --> 01:17:52,599
Speaker 1: a great rest of your life. Ever goes on the line,

1260
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Speaker 1: thank you your phone calls every night. Everything can goes

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Speaker 1: to staging loud in the mean live is not really

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Speaker 1: an expert