1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio Podcast. 2 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:08,800 Speaker 2: Okay, well this is going to be a really fun 3 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: wind down. Hi Catherine, Hi, did you end up listening 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,079 Speaker 2: to last week's I didn't you didn't. I saw the 5 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 2: preview in nervous Oh faking it? Yeah? 6 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm so glad Kristen was there not me. 7 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 2: Have you ever faked it? Oh? Yeah, okay, I would 8 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: see you not being the faking type. 9 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 3: I mean I could see that too, but now I 10 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 3: have usually just stop. We talked about this last week. 11 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 2: You're like, yeah, why are we repeating once again? 12 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: Oh? 13 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 2: Man, Well, we wanted to do something a little different 14 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 2: on today's podcast. It's going to be a Q and A, 15 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 2: but also to dive in and you know, things come 16 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 2: up if you know, you know how I love a 17 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:53,559 Speaker 2: good devil's advocate. 18 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, if. 19 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 2: You want to, you know, jump in on those and 20 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: just have a converse about this is like the Seinfeld 21 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 2: episode where you don't really have a topic. Oh okay, 22 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 2: but it just kind of is a show, right is that? 23 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 2: But yet there's going to be so much in there 24 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 2: because you guys have a lot of questions and we 25 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 2: may or may not answer all of them, So stay 26 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 2: tuned and Mark of course is here and he's going 27 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 2: to be the MC for the day. 28 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,039 Speaker 1: Thank you very much. There are a lot of questions 29 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:33,479 Speaker 1: about a specific topic that I'm wondering if we should 30 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: ask those questions or not. I need your guidance on that. 31 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 32 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 3: The eyes. 33 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 2: Can we just go to some other questions and then 34 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 2: like you know, just getting warmed up first? 35 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, let's just start. We'll start in the relationship section. 36 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: This is from Laura Wellness. 37 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 2: That I want to start. 38 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: It's like, what's your favorite color? Mark? No one asked 39 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 1: that one, But how about this one? How did you 40 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: get your spark back after your divorce? 41 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 2: How did I get my spark back after divorce? I 42 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 2: think it's about how do I say this? I think 43 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 2: you have to go through the on the floor, ball 44 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 2: your eyes out moments to be able to find your spark. 45 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 2: Does that make sense? Like you have to go through 46 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 2: the stages of all of the healing, because if not 47 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:39,839 Speaker 2: like the spark when you do find the spark, isn't 48 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 2: going to be a real spark. Does that make sense? 49 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 2: It's going to be like a fake spark? Does that 50 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 2: make sense? To any of you guys. 51 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:49,959 Speaker 3: Maybe it's just a little stronger because you know what 52 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 3: you went through, or because you went through it hard, 53 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 3: or what do you mean. 54 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. 55 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:56,239 Speaker 3: I'm not following you. I'm trying to figure it out. 56 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 2: So I think it's like if you don't, if you 57 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: just brush every thing underneath the you know, the rug, 58 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 2: I think you can like fake it in a way 59 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 2: like I'm so happy and everything's amazing and great, when 60 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 2: it's like, hmmm, is that spark real? 61 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: Got it? 62 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 3: So it's just like fake, it's just not. 63 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. 64 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 2: So it's like I think you have to go through 65 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 2: all the stages of just like anger and denial and 66 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 2: crying to find you through that. And then when you 67 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 2: find yourself through that, you're like, you're gonna start to 68 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 2: feel more like yourself. And every day you start to 69 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 2: feel a little bit more like yourself, and then a 70 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 2: little bit more like yourself, and then you find the 71 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 2: pieces of you they're new pieces, Like I have definitely 72 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 2: old pieces of me from when I was younger, but 73 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: now I've got new pieces where I'm like, oh, I 74 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 2: feel stronger, this is a new spark in me. And 75 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 2: so then you start to feel better, and I think 76 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 2: I think that's through experience and going through all the 77 00:03:56,880 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 2: like heaviness of it and like the tears of it 78 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 2: in the and not just putting a band aid on 79 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 2: it makes sense. 80 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, there are no shortcuts. 81 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I want shortcuts. I love shortcuts. I'm a 82 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: big fan of shortcuts. Like when I was doing my 83 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 2: half marathon, I saw like a thing that could shortcut 84 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 2: and I was like, God, I want to take that 85 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 2: shortcut right now because that would shave like, you know, 86 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 2: zero point five miles. But I was just like, I 87 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 2: can't do it, Like I can't do it, but I 88 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 2: have done. I have short I have shortcutted. Is that 89 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 2: the word I've I've taken a lot of shortcuts when 90 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 2: it has come to my healing because I want to 91 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:38,119 Speaker 2: feel better. So I have in the past for sure, 92 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 2: jumped into things or I have gone down roads because 93 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 2: it in the moment makes me feel better. But long 94 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 2: term it doesn't actually work. 95 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: It's a fake spark until you actually get through it. 96 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:55,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then again like you start to realize, you know, 97 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 2: I think I think I've got a pretty good spark 98 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 2: right now, but sure there's still moments. So it's like 99 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 2: I think people just think like all of a sudden, 100 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 2: you're just like better. It's like you're just you've got 101 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 2: great days and you've got some days that kind of suck. Sure, 102 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 2: And I think, you know, but getting the spark is 103 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 2: just going through it and you know, believing that there's 104 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:16,679 Speaker 2: another side, because there is another side. 105 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: Should I ask another question that's nonspecific or should I 106 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: follow up to that question with something more specific. 107 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 2: Between the lines, Oh, okay. 108 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: What's your current spark status? 109 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 2: I'm I feel like I'm oh my spark status. I'm 110 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 2: really happy with my spark. I think it's again, like 111 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 2: I just said, like, I think there's good days, and 112 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 2: I think there's you know, days where it's like, oh, 113 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 2: it's a bummer. But I'm everything that I've gone through, 114 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 2: I keep learning lessons and I'm and through that. It's like, 115 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 2: you know, and I'm having fun. Like I'm going out 116 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 2: with my girlfriends and we're going to get drinks and 117 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 2: like I'm Stella's getting her groove back in a way, 118 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 2: you know, like in just a way of like the 119 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 2: things that I did, you know, with my therapist in 120 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 2: the office. It's like, you know, and then like finally 121 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 2: forgiving Mike, and like all these things. It's like those 122 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: pieces like let my spark shine and let my light 123 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 2: go a little brighter? 124 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: Is okay? 125 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 2: Mark? 126 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 1: I know, but this is a good question. I ask 127 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: got to phrase it properly. 128 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 2: Okay. 129 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: Any relationships that have happened since your divorce, were they 130 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 1: part of the healing process of getting your spark back? 131 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: Or are they kind of like starting over again in 132 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: a new situation to grieve when they don't work out? 133 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 2: Okay? Wait, thank you? Can you can you on that one? 134 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 2: Can you try again? 135 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, you've seen you've seen some men since your divorce. 136 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:55,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, I mean those men. 137 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,880 Speaker 1: Go ahead, Yeah, And have those men been part of 138 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: the process of getting your spark back from your divorce 139 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:06,840 Speaker 1: or is each of those an individual relationship that also 140 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: needs to be mourned? Kind of you kind of a 141 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: setback towards getting your spark back? 142 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 2: Got it? Good question. I think one of the first 143 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 2: guys that I hung out with post divorce, I unfairly 144 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 2: hung out with him because I was nowhere near ready, 145 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 2: Like no, that was where I was putting a band 146 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 2: aid on things because I felt better. I was being 147 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 2: told that I was beautiful, and I was pretty and 148 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 2: I was strong. Everything that I haven't heard for seven 149 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 2: almost seven years, I was starting to hear it from 150 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: someone else and it felt really nice. But if I 151 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,239 Speaker 2: was being honest with myself, I was not being honest 152 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 2: in that at all, because I just I wasn't ready 153 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 2: to be in a relationship, which is you know, when 154 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 2: I was when the person wanted to be, I was 155 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 2: just like, I don't want to be like I'm I 156 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 2: don't know what I want. And then you know, so 157 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,680 Speaker 2: I think that one was and and I was reading 158 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 2: people's comments like girl, just like be by yourself, and 159 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 2: but it was just it felt nice again to have 160 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: something that felt so different from my past. But again 161 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 2: it was don't you do agree? Yeah, it was putting, oh, 162 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 2: absolutely given my you know what I think, and here's 163 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 2: the thing I think. And when Pamelin said this best 164 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: she goes we almost needed him to get you out 165 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 2: of the gutter, to know that you will be like 166 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 2: that you will be, which you know sucks for that 167 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 2: person that but the timing also, I'm like, you know 168 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 2: that was but I think it was, Yeah, I just 169 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 2: I couldn't. I didn't want to come out because I 170 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:45,439 Speaker 2: just got out of something. I was so fresh, but 171 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 2: I think it was nice to feel like it's like 172 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 2: that that helped me kind of get up a little 173 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 2: bit and go, Okay, maybe I won't be alone forever 174 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 2: and maybe this maybe someone will like me again or 175 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 2: think I'm pretty. And but like through dating post divorce, 176 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 2: I think where I have struggled is I have not 177 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:09,839 Speaker 2: been strong on boundaries that I know are important to me. 178 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,320 Speaker 1: Okay, I have more follow ups, but I'm gonna hold 179 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 1: him for right now. Okay, because this is the Instagram 180 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: Q and A. This is not the Marky melekew And Okay, 181 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: here we go, cam cam Ara nine two five. How 182 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: to forget after you have forgiven? My husband cheated on 183 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: me with his ex wife before we got married. I 184 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: can forgive, But how do I forget? 185 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 2: My husband cheated on me with his ex wife. 186 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: Before we got married. 187 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:43,719 Speaker 2: So they got divorced and then, Yeah, you know what's 188 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 2: really interesting about that? What because I remember John, you 189 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 2: know who was who was here? I remember he Like, 190 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,679 Speaker 2: there's that connection with that person like he had. I 191 00:09:57,760 --> 00:09:59,719 Speaker 2: think he went back to Christine at one point in 192 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 2: time after they got divorced. But it's like a I 193 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 2: think you have that connection right now, I'm not saying 194 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 2: that's right at all, Like please don't even like, please 195 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 2: don't hear that at all, but that it happened almost something. Yeah, Yeah, 196 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:16,320 Speaker 2: it's like where it's like if you I don't know, 197 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 2: I don't want to sound I'm gonna sound like a 198 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 2: total hipper it. So I'm just gonna stop what I'm 199 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 2: saying right now. You'll never forget, That's the thing unless 200 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 2: you are in the Truman Show. What this in that show? 201 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 2: Or the Mission Impossible or not Mission Impossible? But the 202 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 2: Men in Black where they erased your memory Men in Black? Yeah, 203 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 2: like Eternal Sunshine, that was it. Thank you Eternal Sunshine. 204 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 2: That was what I was thinking, Like, I don't think 205 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 2: you for like, I'm never gonna forget when that my 206 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 2: ex cheated, I forgive them, but I'll never forget. That's 207 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,319 Speaker 2: the thing. It's it's how what you do with that memory? 208 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 2: So are you gonna let it affect you every single day? 209 00:10:57,559 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 2: Like I know I can fault it with my last 210 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 2: you know, my past relationship with my ex. I could 211 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:07,240 Speaker 2: not forget it, and I absolutely could not forgive in 212 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:11,319 Speaker 2: that moment. But when you so that those were two 213 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 2: big things, but me not being able to forget it, 214 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 2: I let it take over every single day when someone 215 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 2: just wants to like move on. So it's what you 216 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 2: do with the information that you have and how you 217 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:24,839 Speaker 2: handle it with the information you have. 218 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: Hm, right, no, yeah, no, yeah, I mean I think 219 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 3: it's part of your story. So I don't know how 220 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 3: you forget it. 221 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, you shouldn't. 222 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: Forget it, yeah, because it's part of your story, but 223 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: it's also part of your story together. You can forgive 224 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: it and you can move on, but it's always got 225 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 1: to be filed away in there. 226 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, unfortunately, And when it comes up, like one of 227 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 2: the things to do is like, hey, this is coming 228 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 2: up for me, and hopefully your husband will go will 229 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:55,559 Speaker 2: be empathetic and not say God, can you just forget 230 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 2: about it already? Or can you just move on? Or 231 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 2: can you just like what that person needs to do. Like, 232 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 2: if they're a healthy person, they'll say, hey, I'm really 233 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 2: sorry that's coming up for your anounser anything that I 234 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 2: can do around it to make you feel safe or comfortable. 235 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 2: But for so many people that are in that position, 236 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 2: of the ones that are cheated, they have so much 237 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:15,640 Speaker 2: like shame. They just want you to forget it and 238 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: move on, and that's not how it works for people 239 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 2: that have been affected by abuse of cheating. 240 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, especially if it's still going on. I mean, 241 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 3: that's like a different like them wanting to forget about it. 242 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 3: You know, they can't keep repeating the pattern. You can't 243 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 3: just let's forget about it, but keep repeating the pattern. 244 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 3: So hopefully in this instance it's something that they don't 245 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:41,959 Speaker 3: do again. You can start to move forward together again. 246 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:43,440 Speaker 3: But you're never going to forget it. I don't know 247 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 3: how you would ever. 248 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 2: No, it's just not letting it have the impact that 249 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 2: it has had. Like you go to therapy, talk to 250 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 2: your friends, like see his actions, see how if it 251 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,560 Speaker 2: comes up. I mean, I remember that one hotel that 252 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 2: you know, I had struggled going past, Like I'd be like, hey, 253 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 2: like the memories of like that hotel, like and then 254 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 2: hopefully that person will be like, hey, I'm so sorry 255 00:13:07,720 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 2: that sucks, you know, and empathize with you and not 256 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 2: make you feel crazy for thinking it. 257 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: I'm going to move on from the relationship questions for 258 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: a moment. We can return to those. We'll put a 259 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:29,160 Speaker 1: pin in those a. 260 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:34,080 Speaker 2: Pin, put a pin. Name the movie Bolt, Bolt, Bolt, 261 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 2: such a good movie. 262 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:37,079 Speaker 1: The Dog the Dog. 263 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 2: Agent was like, let's put a pin in it. The 264 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:43,960 Speaker 2: entire movie was about putting a pin in it. I 265 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:44,440 Speaker 2: loved it. 266 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:46,559 Speaker 1: Well, only a mom would come up with Bolt as 267 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: a reference. So let's go to the parenting section of 268 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 1: the Instagram Q and I, Bonnie M, and then a 269 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: whole bunch of numbers. What is your greatest hope or 270 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: dreams for you and your kids in the future. M. 271 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 2: I just want them to be and look back on 272 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:06,760 Speaker 2: their childhood and yeah, just have really good memories. I 273 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 2: look back on my childhood and I think sometimes like, oh, yeah, 274 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 2: that was a fun memory. Ah, but that's when mom 275 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 2: and dad like we're fighting, and that's when my parents 276 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: got divorced, or that's when. And it was always kind 277 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 2: of like shadowed by a negative experience. And I just 278 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 2: want them to look back and go, oh, that was 279 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 2: a great memory with mom when we went here and 280 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 2: we went up north, and yeah, and I think just 281 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 2: that they're I just want them to be happy, and 282 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 2: I want them to be healthy, and I just want 283 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 2: to I want to soak up every minute that I 284 00:14:38,240 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 2: have with them, because you know that meme that always 285 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 2: goes around. You've only got kids for four years, just 286 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 2: like you know, little kids for then they grow up 287 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 2: and then you know they're not gonna want to play 288 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 2: with me anymore. And you know, Jace wants me to sing, 289 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 2: you know, he's like sometimes it's two songs, but he 290 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 2: like five songs. And in the moment, I'm like, oh god, 291 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 2: I'm so tired. You just want to go to bed, 292 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 2: and then I have to remember it's like, all right, buddy, 293 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 2: let's do five songs, you know, because it's like he's 294 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 2: not gonna want me to lay in bed and sing 295 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 2: him five songs. Like that's yeah, so that's what I would. 296 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 2: What do you want? 297 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:18,600 Speaker 3: Well, the same, I mean, and that's kind of the 298 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 3: cliche answer. But doesn't every mom want their kids to 299 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 3: be happy and healthy? 300 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? 301 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,000 Speaker 3: You know, but that's a good one because that's hard. 302 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 3: It's like the books when you have to read them 303 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 3: books and you skip through, you know, but now it's like, 304 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 3: you know, flocking out. 305 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 2: That one not gonna lie like I had, I skipped 306 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 2: a whole chunk the other night. 307 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 3: But I'm when they don't know though, it's just so easy, 308 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 3: like they'll never know that were But yeah, I mean 309 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 3: now I'm at a point where, like my kids put 310 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 3: themselves to bed, which I mean is weird. It's kind 311 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 3: of nice, but it's kind of sad at the same time. 312 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 3: It's kind of bittersweet. Ramsey puts herself to bed sometimes. 313 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:57,320 Speaker 3: I mean, like her and Emmy basically sleep together most 314 00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 3: of the time, and so they just go to bed together. 315 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 3: But I mean, if I'm home, I'll definitely go up 316 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 3: there and light with her for a little bit. But 317 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 3: and she just kind of reads on her own. 318 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:06,400 Speaker 1: And this is a perfect transition into this question from 319 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 1: k Brohlt, who says, how do you handle mom guilt? 320 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,240 Speaker 1: I work full time and yesterday I missed my eight 321 00:16:12,280 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: year old's swim lessons. 322 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 2: I mean I said this on the show a few 323 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 2: weeks ago. But wherever I get my mom guilt from 324 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 2: other moms and that's really sad. Where I feel judged 325 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:29,160 Speaker 2: from other moms and that bums me out. And that's 326 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 2: where I like my girl Jesse Decker. She was on 327 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 2: her Instagram story like crying about, you know, trying to 328 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 2: be a working mom and raise your kids and instead 329 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 2: of you know, saying, you know, I'm sure, she got 330 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 2: some negative comments like well you shouldn't you know, be 331 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 2: working so much, and said it's like, hey, you're doing 332 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 2: a great job supporting your kids, and like just like 333 00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 2: because everyone has that mom guilt and like you just 334 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,160 Speaker 2: want other moms around you and other people to go 335 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 2: you're doing a great job and you're working so hard, 336 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 2: and they're going to see that, like I was. I 337 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 2: played a song with her at the Rhymen last week, 338 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 2: and you know, seeing her three kids up on stage, 339 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:13,439 Speaker 2: like they're seeing what a badass mom she is, you know, 340 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 2: and it kind of started to make me think about 341 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 2: my kids and it's like, yeah, I don't like to 342 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 2: go away and be filming and working and stuff, but 343 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 2: I also think they're seeing that I'm I. One day 344 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:27,000 Speaker 2: they will see how hard I worked for them and 345 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 2: the balance that I made to make sure we still 346 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:32,400 Speaker 2: had awesome memories. I was still with them, and yeah, 347 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 2: I ended up turning something down that was going to 348 00:17:35,560 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 2: be I would be gone for about two and a 349 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 2: half weeks, but sometimes you have to make the choice, 350 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 2: and it's it's tough, and some people, you know, would 351 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 2: would have taken the two and a half weeks, but 352 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 2: for me, I also know that, like I don't again, 353 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 2: they're so young right now. Maybe I can do that 354 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 2: later when they're older, but it's hard. It sucks. But 355 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 2: trying to think of the positive on it, that's where 356 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 2: I'm trying to go. Like I feel like I've been 357 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,399 Speaker 2: so not negative, but I want to just lean into 358 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:08,360 Speaker 2: more like positive and go, Okay, what's what's the positive 359 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 2: of me working well? I'm supporting my kids and my mom. 360 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:14,320 Speaker 2: My kids are seeing that, like they you know, if 361 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:15,879 Speaker 2: you work hard and all those things. 362 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:16,479 Speaker 1: I don't know. 363 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think it's I think about this a 364 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:22,439 Speaker 3: lot because I have, you know, with three kids with 365 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 3: a lot of activities. I always tried to be at everything. 366 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:31,480 Speaker 3: I've always tried, and really just now this year, I've realized, 367 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 3: like it's not physically possible, you know, working and three 368 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 3: kids three different places, Like sometimes they happen at the 369 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 3: same time, sometimes the dad, my dad, my husband, their 370 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 3: dad has to be there, or sometimes my parents or 371 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 3: sometimes a babysitter. But I think you just have to 372 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 3: you just have to realize, like missing a swim lesson, 373 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:53,880 Speaker 3: it's not like they're going to go back and remember 374 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:55,800 Speaker 3: that you missed a swim lesson. They're going to remember 375 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 3: that you were there for the other fifteen swim lessons. 376 00:18:59,200 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: You know. 377 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 3: It's just I think we put so much pressure on 378 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 3: ourselves working or not working. I mean, even if you're 379 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 3: home and you have a lot of kids, you can't 380 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 3: physically do everything, you know, So I think it's just 381 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 3: taking that pressure and knowing that they are seeing you 382 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:18,400 Speaker 3: again if you are working, working hard, but doing your 383 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 3: best and being there when you can. 384 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:23,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like my mom never and I was thinking about this, 385 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 2: I was like, she's never do I don't think she 386 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 2: Maybe she went to one figure skating competition, but the 387 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 2: reason she didn't was because she was a single mom 388 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,640 Speaker 2: and she had to work. So I had my coach 389 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 2: drive me to every single thing that I had. And 390 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 2: looking back, like, I didn't didn't judge her for it. 391 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 2: I just knew that, all right, mom has to work. 392 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 2: And now I know I'm like, yes, I have to work, 393 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 2: and my kids are going to see that. I'm still 394 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:48,439 Speaker 2: you know, I'm doing the bes But like then, well 395 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 2: the other day though, I did get on Jolie because 396 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:51,919 Speaker 2: she was like, this is the worst day ever. And 397 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:55,160 Speaker 2: I was like, you are so lucky to have everything 398 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 2: that you have and like that whole Like, I'm like, 399 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,720 Speaker 2: you don't even understand you have a roof over your head, 400 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 2: you have food. I'm like, do not say this is 401 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 2: so you want to know what a worst day looks like? 402 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 2: So I pulled it up on Google. I was like, 403 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 2: that is what a worst day looks like. That little 404 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 2: girl doesn't have a house, but her mom's trying the 405 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 2: best you can, you know, like it was just so hard. Yeah, 406 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 2: oh yeah, yeah, it's uh lighter. 407 00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: Note this is from Kimmy eleven thirty. This is just 408 00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: a quickie what happened with the tooth theory and Josie 409 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 1: wake up? 410 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 2: Oh yead that was so funny. 411 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 3: I just picture you with the piggy bank was. 412 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 2: Okay, So my daughter she had a loose tooth. I'm 413 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 2: not the one that pulls the teeth. Mike is the 414 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:36,919 Speaker 2: one that pulls the teeth. I'm like, hey, it's just 415 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:39,960 Speaker 2: coming in with a you know, a wiggler, like get 416 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:41,919 Speaker 2: it out before she comes back to my house, Like 417 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 2: I can't. I can't handle the blood, the pulling, Like, 418 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:48,760 Speaker 2: can't do it. So she comes in and she's like mommy, 419 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,679 Speaker 2: look and it's like bending over and I'm like, oh, 420 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,919 Speaker 2: it's ready. I couldn't grab onto it. Catherine tried, she 421 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 2: couldn't grab onto it. 422 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 3: I don't do it either, though, I don't pull my kids. 423 00:20:58,040 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 2: Too, but yet you tried to try my daughter, and 424 00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:03,480 Speaker 2: I was like, handle it your goddam yes. And so, 425 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 2: long story short, I was doing an Instagram live because 426 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:10,640 Speaker 2: my one brick team was in town and the babysitter. 427 00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 2: She had the babysitter pull it and she's like, Mommy, look, 428 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 2: Emma pulled it. And I was just like, oh my god, Emma, 429 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:18,760 Speaker 2: how did you that. She's like, we you just kind 430 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,800 Speaker 2: of have to like twist. She's like senior in high school, 431 00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:23,439 Speaker 2: and she's like trying to describe like how she's like 432 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,640 Speaker 2: twisting her tooth off, and I was just like okay, 433 00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 2: and then I was like and then I put her 434 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 2: to bed, she put the tooth underneath there, and then 435 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:33,639 Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I don't have any cash. So 436 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 2: then I'm like what do I do? So I'm like, 437 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 2: who carries cash? Yeah, I'm like, I can't remember the 438 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 2: last time I've had cash, So I mean, I'm I'm 439 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 2: freaking out. Pam comes over. My other neighbor, Molly I 440 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 2: was like, hey, you guys had a cash and they're 441 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 2: like no, they're like looking. That was like I want 442 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 2: what I'm supposed to the too thory. I almost texted 443 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 2: my next door neighbor because you know, she's just a 444 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,120 Speaker 2: little bit older, and so I was like, well, she's 445 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,359 Speaker 2: got to have cash, like older people probably keep cash. 446 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 2: So like, I mean, she's like my grandma's age, you 447 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like they've got cash, right, So 448 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 2: I'm like but I'm like it was at that point 449 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 2: nine o'clock because I'm like, I'm not gonna wake her up, 450 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,720 Speaker 2: And then I went into Sarah's room. I did end 451 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 2: up waking her up. I was like, do I do 452 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 2: you have any cash? Like I couldn't find her purse 453 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:18,439 Speaker 2: on the things. I was going to go to her 454 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:22,119 Speaker 2: purse and just like grab cash. So then I go 455 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,120 Speaker 2: up to Julie's room and I'm just like pacing. I'm 456 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:26,160 Speaker 2: like what am I going to do? So I start 457 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 2: shaking her piggy bank because it's glass, so there's nothing 458 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:32,399 Speaker 2: that's like, there's nothing to twist off. So I'm looking 459 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: at it and I'm trying to like I get I 460 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:35,919 Speaker 2: go grab tweezers to try to get tweezers to go 461 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 2: inside the sliver where the money comes through, and I'm like, 462 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,640 Speaker 2: this is a really low moment in my parenting right now. 463 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,159 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm trying to steal my daughter's money to 464 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 2: put money underneath your pillow. And then I thought about 465 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 2: breaking the sow. I looked at it. I'm like, I think, 466 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:51,439 Speaker 2: I'm I don't have to break it. I'm have to 467 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 2: get some money out and then explain what happened. And 468 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,680 Speaker 2: then I went down. I was like, wait, maybe I've 469 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,639 Speaker 2: got some like change or something in I've got a 470 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,439 Speaker 2: you know, a couple of purses, so I was I 471 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 2: was going through them, and then I found three dollars 472 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,919 Speaker 2: in the one of my little lip things, and so 473 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 2: I ended up finding it. But then when I put 474 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:14,160 Speaker 2: it in there, she stood up. That's like my worst 475 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 2: and I was like, and I just like this gently 476 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 2: like pushed her back down, and I was like, shouldn't round, 477 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,199 Speaker 2: like hopefully she wouldn't won't remember in the morning, And 478 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 2: luckily everyone was like, just tell her you were checking 479 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 2: to see if the tooth fairy came, but she didn't ask. 480 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,400 Speaker 2: She woke up and she was mommy the tooth Fairy 481 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 2: came and I was like, oh. 482 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:31,960 Speaker 1: Did she. 483 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:37,359 Speaker 2: That's great, honey, Oh my gosh. 484 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 3: First of all, that's how our tooth fairy got so 485 00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:43,400 Speaker 3: rich because I only had like a twenty dollars bill. 486 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 3: And I was like, this is really setting a precedent. 487 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: That's all I have is for the next five teeth. 488 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:52,080 Speaker 1: You can't do that exactly. 489 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:53,800 Speaker 2: So I think what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna 490 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 2: go to the bank and just get some money out 491 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 2: for my tooth fairy fund. 492 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,440 Speaker 3: So you know, as the kids get older, I start 493 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 3: having cash because people give them cash for like birthdays 494 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 3: and Christmas. Oh yeah, we got three wallets and our things. 495 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,159 Speaker 3: So I just steal from them and then put it 496 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 3: back if I have to, I do all the time. 497 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:12,399 Speaker 1: So we just tell our kids that the toothpairry sent 498 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 1: five dollars to your college fund via zel. 499 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 3: That's brilliant. 500 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 1: No, we don't. 501 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 2: I mean, that's actually a really good idea. 502 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 1: I know. 503 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 2: I was like, kind start is a Venmo for you, 504 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 2: baby girl, Like the twothrey is going to give you 505 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:23,159 Speaker 2: Venmo money? 506 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,680 Speaker 1: All right, let me rapid fire you these lifestyle questions 507 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 1: because they're quickies and then we have a few more 508 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,439 Speaker 1: relationship questions we should probably get to quickly. Is there 509 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: a new book coming? Asks Bree. Maybe Taylor's thoughts says 510 00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,280 Speaker 1: what is your favorite concert you've ever been to in 511 00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:41,840 Speaker 1: your whole life? 512 00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 2: I know this is rapid, but this is hard Garth 513 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 2: Brooks or James Taylor. 514 00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:51,199 Speaker 1: I need more specifics, like Garth Brooks at Ryman and 515 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:52,400 Speaker 1: two thousands. 516 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 2: Garth Brooks at Bridgestone when there was the flood in Nashville, 517 00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,199 Speaker 2: and then James Taylor pretty much like a year after that. 518 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 1: Okay. Same person says any plans for touring or putting 519 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:04,720 Speaker 1: on a new album. 520 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,359 Speaker 2: I don't think I'll ever do another album just because 521 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 2: it's so expensive. I'll release songs for sure. 522 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 1: I feel like that's the way to go these days, 523 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 1: isn't it. 524 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 2: I mean it sucks because like albums are so great, 525 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 2: but at the same time, yeah, it's just especially for 526 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,720 Speaker 2: an independent artist. I just it's way too expensive and 527 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,639 Speaker 2: it Yeah. 528 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 1: Okay, And did you decide in the dog, says sport 529 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:29,920 Speaker 1: Sport old wife. 530 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 2: Yes, I did. I'm so excited. So Tanya sent me 531 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 2: here breeder Tanya rad Yeah, and I'm going to get 532 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:36,879 Speaker 2: a cavapoo. 533 00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: Oh man, Sonny is pretty adorable. 534 00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 2: I am so excited. Yeah, so I've put the deposit 535 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:47,400 Speaker 2: inhappy and it'll be I think in like the late summer, 536 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 2: early fall. 537 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,199 Speaker 1: Let's take a break and then we have some more 538 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: relationship questions. 539 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 2: I'm feeling nauseous. 540 00:25:54,080 --> 00:26:09,719 Speaker 4: Okay, bye, all right, so you know what I'm going 541 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:10,160 Speaker 4: to ask. 542 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 1: I think you've seen some of these and do I 543 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 1: have your permission to ask the question from Ashpole? 544 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,200 Speaker 2: I haven't actually not looked at the breakdown for today 545 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:20,359 Speaker 2: because I knew it was a Q and A and 546 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 2: I just kind of wanted to avoid it. 547 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:26,840 Speaker 1: All right, Well here we go, Okay, cam Aara says, 548 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: how did you overcome your breakup with Ian? You seem 549 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:35,680 Speaker 1: happy and radiant. 550 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 2: So obviously we've gotten a lot of these questions like 551 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:52,760 Speaker 2: what happened? Are you? What's like? Where is you know? 552 00:26:54,880 --> 00:27:05,320 Speaker 2: And I truthfully didn't want to say anything because I'll 553 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,960 Speaker 2: let you go, Catherine. Why did we discuss that we 554 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 2: weren't going to say thing? 555 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,679 Speaker 3: Why did we discuss Well, first of all, you're going 556 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,600 Speaker 3: to have relationships and you're going to have breakups. You're dating, 557 00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:24,400 Speaker 3: you're divorced. But I think that there's lessons from every relationship, 558 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 3: and I think that that's the important thing to focus on. 559 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:32,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's you know, and I don't want to 560 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 2: be like the last thing that I want is to 561 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 2: when I say something it's like the victim or that 562 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 2: mentality and I just have gotten so I just want 563 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,439 Speaker 2: to move on from. And I understand that I am 564 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,399 Speaker 2: very public and I say a lot of things and 565 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 2: I talk about my relationship, but there's a piece where 566 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 2: sometimes maybe I just don't want to share because I'm 567 00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 2: still going through it. And I think that's okay too, 568 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,680 Speaker 2: because there were and have been a lot of lessons 569 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:23,360 Speaker 2: post divorce. And I know now that when I get 570 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 2: into a relationship, if I see similar patterns or behaviors 571 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 2: that are similar to my ex like lying or saying 572 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,760 Speaker 2: something and acting a different way, I have to have 573 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 2: very strong boundaries to say that's not okay and I'm out. 574 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 2: And I think that's really hard for me to do 575 00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:49,800 Speaker 2: because I always want to believe people's intentions and their words. 576 00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 2: But I also know like I'm not going to be 577 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:57,040 Speaker 2: able to, most likely right now, in this state where 578 00:28:57,040 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 2: I'm at, have a relationship with someone that has have 579 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:07,360 Speaker 2: had similar patterns to my ex, yeah, or triggers something 580 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 2: that is in that because that is going to bring 581 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 2: out a piece of me because I am still doing 582 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 2: my work, and yes I am. I believe that I'm 583 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 2: healed from my ex, but I still have triggers from 584 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 2: that past. That is not going to bring out the 585 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:28,000 Speaker 2: best version of myself in a relationship when a pattern 586 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,080 Speaker 2: is noticed and I have to go, Okay, that's not 587 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,960 Speaker 2: healthy for me and I can't stay in something like that. 588 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 2: But I have a really hard time sticking with my boundaries, 589 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,840 Speaker 2: I really do, because I just want to I want 590 00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 2: love so bad, almost to my detriment, Like I want 591 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:52,640 Speaker 2: to be loved because I have so much love to give. 592 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,840 Speaker 2: I just want the same love in return, knowing what 593 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:05,120 Speaker 2: I deserve. And it's very hard when you realize if 594 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 2: there's things you don't want to tell your friends, that's 595 00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 2: probably a red flag, definitely, And that's something that I've 596 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:17,479 Speaker 2: realized I just in relationships post divorce, that I have 597 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 2: to just be really clear on boundaries of what I'm 598 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 2: looking for and what is going to be the healthiest 599 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 2: thing and stand by it and not just go, well, 600 00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 2: it's just because of this or make excuses, or's like 601 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 2: I've done that for seven years. I'm done making excuses 602 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:35,760 Speaker 2: for other people. 603 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,520 Speaker 3: I think you so badly don't judge other people and 604 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,880 Speaker 3: don't want to that when someone shows you something or 605 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 3: does something, well I've lied before, or well I've done 606 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:52,200 Speaker 3: this before. Well, I like, I can't judge them. I can't. 607 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 3: So it's really hard for you when it's kind of 608 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 3: smacking you in the face for you to truly see 609 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 3: it and truly go, this is not good for me. 610 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 3: I love myself and I need to get out. 611 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is and this just isn't the last, you know, 612 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 2: It's just it's it's every relationship that I've kind of 613 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 2: been in where it's like I just I do that. See, 614 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:16,040 Speaker 2: well I've lied before, and so how can I How 615 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,320 Speaker 2: can I judge someone for that? Or how can I'm like, oh, 616 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 2: yeah I have I did cheat in a relationship when 617 00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:23,640 Speaker 2: I was not in my marriage, but yes, I did 618 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 2: cheat at one point, and like, how can I. 619 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 3: Well, I think it's okay to not judge someone for 620 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 3: their past, but say that this doesn't work for me. Yeah, 621 00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:35,479 Speaker 3: I can't be in a relationship where I can't you know, 622 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 3: where similar patterns are and again this isn't a lot 623 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:42,160 Speaker 3: of relationships for you, but recognizing those similar patterns and 624 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,160 Speaker 3: being strong enough to walk away when you recognize. 625 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,640 Speaker 2: Them, Yeah, I think that's really important. Yeah, I agree. 626 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,400 Speaker 2: And I think you always say people show you who 627 00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:55,800 Speaker 2: they are, believe them. Yeah, And I I just for like, 628 00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,280 Speaker 2: I know now, like when if I have a list 629 00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:01,640 Speaker 2: to somebody, you know, if I'm working with a you know, 630 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,120 Speaker 2: my therapist or whoever, it's like, Okay, what are things 631 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,680 Speaker 2: that are really important to me? Someone that doesn't lie? 632 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 2: Because where I'm at in my life now, I can 633 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,520 Speaker 2: own my past. As ugly as some of the things 634 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:14,320 Speaker 2: I've done. I will sit there in front of you 635 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,080 Speaker 2: and say some really awful things I've done and it 636 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 2: feels terrible to share, like awful, but I can own 637 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:27,400 Speaker 2: it because I've you know, you know, I've grown through 638 00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 2: it and I realized like who I am now. So 639 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 2: it's like all I want that same level of someone 640 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,160 Speaker 2: who is has has done the work to be able 641 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,600 Speaker 2: to look and be like, yeah, this is what I've 642 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,640 Speaker 2: done and it's really bad, but like this is who 643 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 2: I am now, and like what I'm doing and stuff 644 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:43,920 Speaker 2: like that. 645 00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,800 Speaker 1: That's interesting. So, but if you've met a guy and 646 00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,320 Speaker 1: in the first couple of days he mentioned to you 647 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:49,920 Speaker 1: that he cheated on his exu wife and that's why 648 00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 1: it fell apart. But I'm a much better person now. 649 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:53,560 Speaker 1: I think you'd have a hard time looking past that 650 00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:54,840 Speaker 1: and I would understand why. 651 00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:57,480 Speaker 2: And that's something where I was talking to one of 652 00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 2: my good girlfriends, Briann, who I've had on here. She's 653 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:01,959 Speaker 2: a you know, she's a sexually sex and love addict, 654 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:05,280 Speaker 2: and you know she was She's like where you're at now. 655 00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 2: She's like, she's like, I don't think that would be 656 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:10,520 Speaker 2: a healthy relationship for you because of you're always going 657 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,600 Speaker 2: to wonder, well is he is he going back into that? 658 00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,880 Speaker 2: And you're right, And that's something where if someone did 659 00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,000 Speaker 2: say that, but it's terrible because I'm like, I do 660 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 2: believe people can change. That's that's where I go, Like, 661 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,000 Speaker 2: that's where I go. I really truly believe people can 662 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:28,040 Speaker 2: change and people can, you know, be better versions of themselves. 663 00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,040 Speaker 2: And so it's like, who am I to cast judgment 664 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,200 Speaker 2: on someone from because I've done stuff too, So it's like, 665 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 2: who am I to judge? It's just for me, Like, yes, 666 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 2: it would be hard, but them acknowledging it and being 667 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:45,320 Speaker 2: honest is something that would be like a like a 668 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 2: beautiful thing, and I would have a lot less like 669 00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 2: triggers around it if they were open and honest about it. 670 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,280 Speaker 2: But I mean, sure, it's not like I mean, I 671 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:59,240 Speaker 2: would love to find someone that doesn't, you know, and 672 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,360 Speaker 2: I think so lying and she pat like, that's yeah, 673 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,440 Speaker 2: that's hard, And I think, just again, someone that's just 674 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,319 Speaker 2: wanting to like I had to, I had to have 675 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,480 Speaker 2: to just have very clear boundaries of what I want 676 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 2: and stick by them. 677 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: And also there's a lot of men in the world 678 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:20,359 Speaker 1: that believe in monogamy and faithfulness. I promise there are 679 00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,880 Speaker 1: there are two on this zoom right now, I promise. 680 00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,319 Speaker 2: I think I'm just And this is where, like I 681 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:30,520 Speaker 2: think I've become just jaded to you know, past relationships 682 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,480 Speaker 2: and stuff like that, where I just am like like, 683 00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,399 Speaker 2: but I also know what I deserve. It's just again 684 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 2: I go to that place like, well, I believe people 685 00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,640 Speaker 2: deserve to have chances and love, you know, like I 686 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:44,920 Speaker 2: just I do. I believe in it, like I believe 687 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,799 Speaker 2: that people deserve second chances. 688 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,400 Speaker 1: Well, I have a perfect question to end with is 689 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,680 Speaker 1: from Danielle Morrell, who just says, how are you feeling? 690 00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:57,359 Speaker 2: I'm good. I am, I'm good. I'm I'm getting very 691 00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,520 Speaker 2: clear about things that I want in my life. Who 692 00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,400 Speaker 2: I want my life, how I want it in my life. 693 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:07,080 Speaker 2: And it's really really nice and I feel like me. 694 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:08,959 Speaker 2: You know, my therapist. It's so funny. She said something 695 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 2: to me last week when I had a session with her. 696 00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,920 Speaker 2: She goes, do you remember when I asked you? She's like, 697 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,840 Speaker 2: it was about a month ago. She's like, you just 698 00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 2: looked and I and I wasn't sharing some certain things 699 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 2: with her too again because I just I don't want to. 700 00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:29,200 Speaker 2: I yeah, And so she was like she's like, you 701 00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:30,600 Speaker 2: just kind of really like yeah, no, no, I'm good, Like 702 00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,759 Speaker 2: I'm good. And she's like she's like, you're back, like 703 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,399 Speaker 2: you you've kind of like come back and you're back 704 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,440 Speaker 2: in you as opposed to just like holding onto things 705 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,520 Speaker 2: that might have not been serving you very well. Your spark, 706 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:50,560 Speaker 2: my spark. All lessons. Yeah, it's all lessons. But I will, 707 00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:55,000 Speaker 2: I will. You know, I'm gonna definitely just focus on 708 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:59,239 Speaker 2: on the kiddos and and just write a list of 709 00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:07,160 Speaker 2: clear boundary even when there's ever a next don't worry. 710 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,120 Speaker 2: I won't go into the hole like, oh never be 711 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 2: like I'm gonna be alone forever. But I will say like, 712 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 2: it's about loving myself right now, and that's that's the 713 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:14,279 Speaker 2: biggest piece. 714 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:18,239 Speaker 1: Great. I think I think that someone else will be 715 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,120 Speaker 1: along in short order. 716 00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:26,279 Speaker 2: Not even on the radar right now, not even on 717 00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:30,040 Speaker 2: the radar a couple of weeks. No no, no, no, 718 00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,400 Speaker 2: no, no no no no, no, it's not it's not on 719 00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:35,839 Speaker 2: my radar. I promised my therapist a timeline that I'm 720 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:36,640 Speaker 2: not telling anyone. 721 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:45,560 Speaker 3: Oh you're not telling anyone, not even Catherine Cather. I've 722 00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:46,799 Speaker 3: got to count down on my friend. 723 00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:56,600 Speaker 2: Oh man, Well that was fun. Yeah, that was fun, 724 00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,520 Speaker 2: so fun. Love you guys. Thanks Mark, great job, my pleasure. 725 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:00,919 Speaker 1: Thank you. 726 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 2: You're the sweetest. See you guys. Next week. We're going 727 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,520 Speaker 2: to have a really cool guest on next week's show. 728 00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:09,640 Speaker 2: We're going to go talk about I believe food and 729 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:13,200 Speaker 2: wellness and stuff like that. So I'm looking forward to 730 00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:16,240 Speaker 2: that conversation. Okay, bye,