Speaker 1: So this is where I get exasperated because it's the
Speaker 1: type of story that I get exasperated about. But it's
Speaker 1: too good a story to not tell. So I get
Speaker 1: set up with a guy, and the pitch is very successful,
Speaker 1: like a billionaire. There's like eight hundred billionaires in the country,
Speaker 1: and somehow everybody knows one. So I just do the
Speaker 1: math and mathe and matham, but THEMI and if someone
Speaker 1: has a couple hundred million dollars and it doesn't matter
Speaker 1: to me. I'm just letting you know that this person says,
Speaker 1: this person's a billionaire.
Speaker 2: I don't care.
Speaker 1: I didn't see his fucking W two or network statement.
Speaker 1: I am going to start doing that on my dates
Speaker 1: from now on. But that he's good looking, he's tall,
Speaker 1: he can keep up with you, he's fun. He's New
Speaker 1: York and Miami. He's on his way to Miami. Now,
Speaker 1: can you host poone leaving?
Speaker 2: Can you stay the week?
Speaker 1: I said, I'm going back to see my daughter. She
Speaker 1: doesn't know who I am. My daughter's in the Witness
Speaker 1: Protection program. She's been studying, and honey Badger, don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck. She told me. She told me last week
Speaker 1: this would be a good time for you to go
Speaker 1: to Miami. Everybody thought she was having a party.
Speaker 2: She wasn't.
Speaker 1: She's just in her room studying. She's very intense and
Speaker 1: I love that, and it's so beautiful that she's so
Speaker 1: intense about like doing well and she does the work.
Speaker 1: But she basically I felt like I was a hooker
Speaker 1: that the job was asking to leave. She was like,
Speaker 1: it'd be a great week for you go to Miami,
Speaker 1: Like you gonna give me a lot of cash. I
Speaker 1: can fucking buy myself something pretty. So she pieced me
Speaker 1: the fuck out. You didn't have to tell me twice.
Speaker 1: There were skid marks. I was, I was out there,
Speaker 1: goddamn door. We were on a carvel run on it
Speaker 1: because she was studying, and we just took a break
Speaker 1: to go to Carvell. We came home. We were on
Speaker 1: the way in the car and that's when she told me.
Speaker 1: We came home, the bikinis were bikini I was ready
Speaker 1: to go. I had to do a podcast I think
Speaker 1: the next day, and and and all of my work
Speaker 1: obligations were interfering with my fucking peeling out.
Speaker 2: But I was out.
Speaker 1: I was outy five hundred so coming back, honey Badger
Speaker 1: really don't give a fuck. I was shocking to me.
Speaker 1: I was like getting homesick. I missed my dogs, I
Speaker 1: missed my daughter. I was like super just like I
Speaker 1: was over. I'm I'm a bird. I like the nest.
Speaker 1: I don't like to be away too long.
Speaker 2: I could. I get excited, I go, and then I'm like,
Speaker 2: get me home.
Speaker 1: So now I'm distracted by guilt because I don't have
Speaker 1: the dogs in my room.
Speaker 2: Hold on, you're you're having like a real you might
Speaker 2: You're gonna end up.
Speaker 1: We're gonna end up having to do podcasts in bed
Speaker 1: because you're gonna be like I like the chaos, the unhinged.
Speaker 2: Watch this.
Speaker 1: Hold on, warning, you're gonna trigger warning, you're gonna hear jingles.
Speaker 1: But I feel guilty. I've been home all day, I
Speaker 1: was home all away all week, and I don't have
Speaker 1: the babies.
Speaker 2: Guys.
Speaker 1: Sorry, come on, come on, jingles, come on, babies. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I feel guilty. I was away a week and then
Speaker 1: I didn't have the babies.
Speaker 2: For Yeah, I'm potting right now. We're part of it.
Speaker 1: This is we're just doing a live This is a
Speaker 1: different like unfiltered. This is like pod unplugged. But you guys, guys,
Speaker 1: you guys.
Speaker 2: You can't talk.
Speaker 1: You gotta be quiet. You can't jingle. We got it's
Speaker 1: called we're work. Mommy's at work and we're doing podcasts. Now,
Speaker 1: lay down. We can't do we gotta we gotta settle
Speaker 1: quiet on a set, sit down quite on the set.
Speaker 1: The heavy breathing is a lot. You can't breathe like that.
Speaker 1: We're doing a podcast. You were built for porn, Like, honestly,
Speaker 1: you should be doing phone sex. The panting is extreme,
Speaker 1: that's small. He's very neurotic. Everything scares him. He needs
Speaker 1: like medication. Biggie's like a lump. They're so excited they're
Speaker 1: staring at the pod. I literally need to take the picture.
Speaker 1: It's so cute. Okay, So I stay an extra day
Speaker 1: to meet this guy.
Speaker 2: She says he's so great. I stay an extra day.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter who she is.
Speaker 1: She's not getting blamed because what's about to be described
Speaker 1: and ensue is not something she could have vetted or predicted, Okay,
Speaker 1: because I don't think she like looked up psychopaths andymous
Speaker 1: and saw his face. All right, So so I go
Speaker 1: out to dinner and I dress cute. Thank god, I
Speaker 1: didn't go crazy like I didn't like do too much glam,
Speaker 1: and I wore a dress I've worn before, and I
Speaker 1: I didn't actually feel like I looked my total best,
Speaker 1: but it was fine.
Speaker 2: I looked pretty enough. I looked pretty and.
Speaker 1: That that like to land of goddamn major, smart, successful
Speaker 1: whale when I'm in rare air with the people that
Speaker 1: I want to date. Because most people can't handle this
Speaker 1: fucking circus. I was I should have put more my
Speaker 1: back into it more, but whatever. So I sit down
Speaker 1: and he got a take. Here's the first thing in
Speaker 1: the plan making process. He he like it was giving
Speaker 1: like Bill who has like a name tag on at
Speaker 1: the office, Like in the plan making process, it was
Speaker 1: a lot. It was like a row of clappy emojis,
Speaker 1: Like I was like, I'm five minutes late. It was
Speaker 1: like eight claps, like did you not fuck could you
Speaker 1: miss emoji?
Speaker 2: Class? Like what the fuck is that? Why? Eight slast
Speaker 2: I'm five minutes late? Why? Okay? Fine?
Speaker 1: But that was on the heels of another one that
Speaker 1: we're almost glad that I didn't end up with a
Speaker 1: billionaire because I could. My friend when I told him
Speaker 1: this story, I said, listen, if this guy wasn't touted
Speaker 1: as good looking and rich and smart, let me tell you.
Speaker 1: He sent me a dancy girl and dancy guy emoji.
Speaker 1: The fuck is that? He goes, Oh my god, you
Speaker 1: must like rant about this. I'm like, okay, but like
Speaker 1: I can if I like marry the guy. But lo
Speaker 1: and behold, I'm in my bed with the dogs, not unmarried.
Speaker 1: So he sent me an emoji guy emoji girl dancing?
Speaker 1: Why first of all, dear God, dear God, tell me
Speaker 1: we're not going dancing cause I don't like big activities
Speaker 1: on first dates. I don't I'm not on the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go hang gliding. I don't want
Speaker 1: to go to a sports game. I don't want to
Speaker 1: do anything interest saying on the first date. I'd like
Speaker 1: you to think on the most too. I don't want
Speaker 1: to see a fucking art. I don't want to go
Speaker 1: to the opera.
Speaker 2: I don't want to go. You have theater tickets, Good
Speaker 2: for you, Mazzle. I don't want to go.
Speaker 1: There's one environment that I want to be in, and
Speaker 1: it usually involves alcohol. I haven't been drinking as much,
Speaker 1: but i'd like to know it's available. It involves food
Speaker 1: and drink, and my ass parked. I'd like to be
Speaker 1: able to like internally judge this person. I need a
Speaker 1: quiet space. I don't need to be at the fucking bubbleship.
Speaker 2: What you guys are bored?
Speaker 1: Stay up here, just just commit to the bit. Come
Speaker 1: on all right now, you guys, we're gonna scud the
Speaker 1: day together. Come up here.
Speaker 2: We can't we can't be in and out. This is it,
Speaker 2: this is what we're doing. We're in a Hodnist till
Speaker 2: it's over.
Speaker 1: Buckle up, fashion your seatbelts, put your emergency mask on
Speaker 1: before others.
Speaker 2: And shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I want to park my ass and internally
Speaker 1: judge and just have the safe space to do that,
Speaker 1: like I need, you know, I just I don't want
Speaker 1: any like circus performers to distract me. I just would
Speaker 1: like to like look and hear. And I also just
Speaker 1: don't want like.
Speaker 2: Do you like jazz?
Speaker 1: I don't know what I feel about jazz, but I
Speaker 1: feel deeply violated by the word tonight. So don't mention
Speaker 1: any because because it's always like I'll plan a beautiful
Speaker 1: night or I'll plan a special I don't want a
Speaker 1: special night.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't want McDonald's. I don't want a diner. But
Speaker 1: I don't need special. I just need a night.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: We don't have to make all your dreams come true. Okay, nicely,
Speaker 1: I'm single. So the man is there before I get there.
Speaker 1: He looks nice, he looks attractive like and he's of
Speaker 1: a certain age but is in his sixties. But he
Speaker 1: looks attractive, and he's dressed cool, a little douche Miami dress,
Speaker 1: but he's allowed to have his own style that it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to like what I wear either. He's a person,
Speaker 1: he's dressed like, he looks fine. I didn't look at
Speaker 1: his shoes. I'll call him and ask him to send
Speaker 1: me your shoes, even though he's in the witness protection program. Now,
Speaker 1: so I we have a nice chat. We almost forget
Speaker 1: the menus there. He's smart, he's interesting, he's not funny,
Speaker 1: but he's cute and I like him enough. At this point,
Speaker 1: it's giving second date. He wire call me Gabby in Miami,
Speaker 1: which looks like the Ivy in LA but has I
Speaker 1: guess I wouldn't know what the food was really like.
Speaker 1: We'll get to that soon. Different food staff is fine.
Speaker 1: The irony of his story is that the service wasn't
Speaker 1: that great, but we can get into that. That happens
Speaker 1: a decent amount in Miami. So he asks me what
Speaker 1: I'm interested in. I was like, I'm allergic to fish,
Speaker 1: just regular fish. I didn't really care. I like, when
Speaker 1: the man feels empowered to order, it's giving female energy.
Speaker 1: It's giving you being control, just a little you know,
Speaker 1: fairy waif that just like was transported in here on
Speaker 1: a feather, you know, like I'm just so delicate and
Speaker 1: just can save me.
Speaker 2: So he asks what I like?
Speaker 1: I said that, and I'd given a glance because don't worry.
Speaker 1: Nothing's coming to that table that I don't want to
Speaker 1: come to that table. It's just the Jedi mind. It's
Speaker 1: just the mind control program. So I said, yeah, I
Speaker 1: like a salad. And then the other thing. No, And
Speaker 1: then we end up with the gem salad, zucchini cucumber
Speaker 1: strips on it, A nice, nice slice of the cucumber.
Speaker 1: They did, by the way, to split. This is key
Speaker 1: to split. And he says what about the ribbi? And
Speaker 1: I said great? He said, you like it sliced? He says,
Speaker 1: slice six times it's important, and it's sliced, it's important.
Speaker 1: So I like it s lice too, but I didn't
Speaker 1: say it six times. So charred medium rare, okay, So
Speaker 1: it's like gonna have that good crispy on the outside.
Speaker 2: But it's medium rare.
Speaker 1: And I call that like medium pink, like I always clarify,
Speaker 1: like the word rare is scary, but I don't want
Speaker 1: a medium. It's like medium like pink, and medium is pink,
Speaker 1: but like medium pink is like it's in between medium rare,
Speaker 1: medium and medium. So salad comes completely uneventful and boring salad.
Speaker 1: And we had our fork and our knife and our utensils,
Speaker 1: and they did not bring serving utensils for the salad.
Speaker 1: And he said, can you bring us serving pieces? And
Speaker 1: he had said before like a plate and then share
Speaker 1: plates whatever, and he asked them to bring serving pieces.
Speaker 1: I don't think they ever did. They didn't, but we
Speaker 1: ate this that we manage with our forks. Now the
Speaker 1: ribbi comes and it's a giant ribbi as it is,
Speaker 1: and it's on a board, a cutting board, and there
Speaker 1: he says there are no serving pieces, and like he's
Speaker 1: noticing that this is a theme in this restaurant, which
Speaker 1: is annoying.
Speaker 2: It is annoying. I have a fork.
Speaker 1: It's like we just and because then it's communal and
Speaker 1: it's I don't know, like, so we have another problem.
Speaker 1: So I serve myself some pieces from the end because
Speaker 1: they're more well done. Because what we I realize immediately
Speaker 1: is that the mill is rare. It is bloody rare.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to send it back because I
Speaker 1: don't care, and I'm gonna have two bytes of it,
Speaker 1: three bytes of it.
Speaker 2: I'm other potatoes and I don't care.
Speaker 1: And he asks me a question. I don't know what
Speaker 1: the question was, like, not like how was it? Because
Speaker 1: if he said how was I wouldn't say it's rare,
Speaker 1: But like he pushes on it, like is it is
Speaker 1: it good? Is it cooked right or something. I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's a little rare, but it's okay. It's like, we'll
Speaker 1: send it back, send it back, send it back. I'm
Speaker 1: like it's okay. It's like they and and then he
Speaker 1: goes and they didn't give us bring us the serving utensils.
Speaker 1: Like one thing is wrong because it's medium rare. But
Speaker 1: now we're kits and sinking and he's piling it on.
Speaker 1: They didn't bring the serving utensils, and I didn't remember
Speaker 1: that they hadn't eventually brought them for the other thing.
Speaker 1: I wasn't paying attention, but it was like a recurring theme.
Speaker 1: So he got he goes, he goes, so we'll send
Speaker 1: it back. We're gonna send it back. So he had
Speaker 1: said sorry, he had said once, we're going to send
Speaker 1: it back. So then he said something to me, but
Speaker 1: is it good.
Speaker 2: Or it was weird?
Speaker 1: He was asking me how it was, but he wanted
Speaker 1: to send it back, and I was like, it's actually fine.
Speaker 1: I could just eat the n piece. It's not a problem.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna eat that much anyway. So in that
Speaker 1: when when that correspondence happens, he proceeds to give me
Speaker 1: more meat. He's like, I'll do it for you, and
Speaker 1: he seems a little nervous. This is the second time
Speaker 1: it's someone's been nervous when it's serving me, Like they
Speaker 1: like want to do that overall, but like they get nervous,
Speaker 1: they like shakey. So for some reason he gives me
Speaker 1: the middle raw pieces. I'm the one who said it
Speaker 1: was cooked weird. Now he's giving me the middle like
Speaker 1: the most middle, and then he says, we're we're sending
Speaker 1: let's send it, We're sending it back. So I take
Speaker 1: the two pieces he's just given me and put it
Speaker 1: back in the middle. Was sending it back.
Speaker 2: It's like you don't keep food at all.
Speaker 1: Because you're sending back because there are probably some sickos
Speaker 1: that like want to not pay for something and they
Speaker 1: send it back.
Speaker 2: But we were.
Speaker 1: Getting more, mate, or you want more, like now they're
Speaker 1: giving me a whole.
Speaker 2: I don't know what he was thinking.
Speaker 1: So I put it back and he goes, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's yours, and this is the communal plate. Like okay, dad,
Speaker 1: you just said we're sending it back, so no one's
Speaker 1: ever eating this again, first of all, and second of
Speaker 1: like he was weird about it for himself. I go,
Speaker 1: you said we're sending it back. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: keep the food like fuck off, like for fuck off weirdo.
Speaker 1: But anyway, no problem. And there was an orneriness to
Speaker 1: him that I could feel ramping up based on the utensils.
Speaker 2: He was fixated on that. And then now this.
Speaker 1: So now the server comes over and she has an accent.
Speaker 1: There are a lot of people from cube By that
Speaker 1: work in Miami, so she could be Cuban. I don't
Speaker 1: know if she's Cuban. In fact, I don't know. He
Speaker 1: later said that, but again that's what he would say,
Speaker 1: not knowing, he would make an assumption. So she comes
Speaker 1: over and she's like hi, like kind of like, how
Speaker 1: may I help you?
Speaker 2: And I I.
Speaker 1: Think he was trying to He was like, the steak
Speaker 1: is not cooked, but like we lost the plot on
Speaker 1: that because I think you just said that. He's like,
Speaker 1: and you didn't bring the utensils before? And she and
Speaker 1: in fairness, she did have a little bit of like
Speaker 1: a a face on her, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: like a little face, like a little indignant. He's like, right,
Speaker 1: you didn't. You didn't bring the utensils, the serving pieces.
Speaker 1: And she's like okay, because he's coming at her, and
Speaker 1: she's like, well, we don't do that, and I think
Speaker 1: she thinks that he means you have to serve for us.
Speaker 1: She's like, well, we don't do that, and he's like
Speaker 1: and I'm realizing the language, the language barrier, but it
Speaker 1: doesn't really matter based on what's it's burying the lead,
Speaker 1: based on what's happening. So he's like, right, well, we
Speaker 1: asked you before. Like so now he's kitchen sinking like
Speaker 1: he's he's now like got a case going. He's like,
Speaker 1: we'll be asked you before he didn't bring them, and
Speaker 1: now why didn't you bring them? Why didn't you bring them?
Speaker 1: And she's getting a little belligerent too and standing around
Speaker 1: for it, which anybody else might have walked away or
Speaker 1: just been like I'll bring them, but like she was
Speaker 1: wanting to fight too because he was being so rude
Speaker 1: to her, and that's where it was wrong. But it's
Speaker 1: still none of this matters. I'm just giving you the
Speaker 1: actual facts of what happened. And so because you may
Speaker 1: have an opinion, like you will have an opady. So
Speaker 1: she's like he's like, well, yeah, we'll bring it. So
Speaker 1: she's like, well, okay, well I could bring him. He goes,
Speaker 1: so do it because she's standing there, and she is
Speaker 1: standing but he's like, so do it. And it was
Speaker 1: like whoa, And it was like whoa, and it was
Speaker 1: just it was just giving, like you work for me,
Speaker 1: and like it just was like it lost. But this
Speaker 1: is where it doesn't matter what the content is the
Speaker 1: delivery they you know, And I did a TikTok about this,
Speaker 1: and I never mentioned this part because this part is important.
Speaker 1: Like she was not the best server I've ever had
Speaker 1: in my life. You know, she would have gotten like
Speaker 1: a normal tip, and I'm an amazing tipper. She was fine,
Speaker 1: and she was standing around like kind of baiting him.
Speaker 2: But it does it matter? He's like, so do it.
Speaker 1: So now he's like heated and his voice is raised,
Speaker 1: and you can never treat staff like this, and also
Speaker 1: what they go through and being a waitress, like the
Speaker 1: whole thing. So now the manager comes over, a tall
Speaker 1: man and he's like also a little coming at like
Speaker 1: he's like, so, what's the problem, because he's coming in
Speaker 1: to protect his staff and he sees there's a problem
Speaker 1: in the restaurant. And this guy's like, well, you never
Speaker 1: brought us utensils and she didn't bring it and I
Speaker 1: don't know why.
Speaker 2: And we asked him.
Speaker 1: He's like, well, we don't do that, and it was
Speaker 1: like again, the same serving thing. And she was like
Speaker 1: and I wasn't interjecting because I was. It wasn't that
Speaker 1: I was above my pay grade. I'm not even near
Speaker 1: my pay grade. I was horrified. So and we're in
Speaker 1: like a part public place. There are people everywhere. So
Speaker 1: he's like, what's going on? How can I help you?
Speaker 1: And he's like, well, shit, they didn't bring the ut
Speaker 1: to and he's yelling at the guy didn't bring the
Speaker 1: utentals and you didn't whatever. I mean, we're not fucking farmers.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if he said fucking I think
Speaker 1: he did, but it's like I'm always very literal about
Speaker 1: what I say. We're not farmers, he said, and so
Speaker 1: the guy is like, well, I don't, you know, also
Speaker 1: discussing it, and then you can sort of hear that
Speaker 1: the guy kind the manager kind of wants to like
Speaker 1: know what went on, which he should have just been
Speaker 1: like he was like he's like, I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: figure out what happened, and like I don't think that
Speaker 1: that was the time figuring out what happened.
Speaker 2: It's like kind of what how can I help you? Like,
Speaker 2: I just want to know how I can help you.
Speaker 1: So note to anybody in restaurants, like we don't need
Speaker 1: to go revisit history, we don't need to stay there
Speaker 1: to fight it out, Like how can I help you?
Speaker 2: But so he's like, I'm just trying, and.
Speaker 1: It was like a little belabored and by that token
Speaker 1: like I understand frustration, I really do. And so this
Speaker 1: guy was like, we're not far and he's standing up
Speaker 1: like their body to body, and this guy was like,
Speaker 1: I mean, this is fucking bullshit. Get up, we're leaving,
Speaker 1: like to me, like we've been married twenty years. I
Speaker 1: was like, so he's a get up, we're leaving, get
Speaker 1: let's go. Then let's go. We're leaving, and the guys
Speaker 1: like I guess, insisting that he has to pay. But
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm blacked out, and so I just while
Speaker 1: they're talking, and after he say get up, we're leaving,
Speaker 1: they're still arguing. I stand up and I walk out.
Speaker 1: I sneak out, like I don't I'm just like this
Speaker 1: is a good distraction. And I walk out and I'm
Speaker 1: by like a little alley hiding because what I don't
Speaker 1: want is this guy finding me. I don't want to
Speaker 1: get into it. I don't want to explain himself. There's
Speaker 1: no turning back from this, is no coming back from this,
Speaker 1: like the tall like the ability to not the fact
Speaker 1: that you can't control yourself on even like forget that
Speaker 1: he was terrible to the staff, like, don't forget that
Speaker 1: that's the headline, but like put that to the side
Speaker 1: for a second. That he can't even be self aware
Speaker 1: enough to ay, he's very well aware that I'm a
Speaker 1: public person, so that is not the point. But he's
Speaker 1: making a scene. He's very well aware that he's on
Speaker 1: a first date. Now, I later found out he liked
Speaker 1: me and had a good time, So if you like me,
Speaker 1: this is like, it was insane.
Speaker 2: It did not.
Speaker 1: Warrant this hysteria in any circumstance. So I'm now calling
Speaker 1: my driver, and my driver is coming and I get
Speaker 1: in and I'm shocked, and of course I said to
Speaker 1: call the woman to say like wow, like, and I
Speaker 1: call the restaurant to talk to the manager ril to
Speaker 1: just say I'm really And as I was leaving, I
Speaker 1: saw the girl, the waitress, and I said, I'm out
Speaker 1: with him. I'm sorry, like, and I called up the
Speaker 1: manager to be like and he's like, I'm really sorry
Speaker 1: that you had to see that, and I'm like, listen,
Speaker 1: and my guys, like the manager said, he treated us
Speaker 1: like slaves, Like there's no reason only my daughter can
Speaker 1: treat me like a slave. And I said, listen, I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry. It doesn't reflect me. And we went over
Speaker 1: like the thing the serving people, which doesn't matter to me,
Speaker 1: That didn't matter, that was not on my list of
Speaker 1: things I gave a shit about because the restaurant didn't
Speaker 1: handle it great from either person. And the food was fine, fine,
Speaker 1: salad was bland, and the atmosphere was nice. But like,
Speaker 1: that's not the point. You do not treat staff like that,
Speaker 1: and that is a cautionary tale about my future life
Speaker 1: with that person.
Speaker 2: Like it was sick.
Speaker 1: And I'm saying to young women in particular, if you
Speaker 1: feel any kind of way about anything, men too, If
Speaker 1: you feel any way about anything that's weird, like something's off,
Speaker 1: something makes you feel uncomfortable, get the fuck out of there.
Speaker 1: You forget that this person is a stranger that you
Speaker 1: did not know an hour ago. Could happen on the
Speaker 1: second date, and maybe they're less of a stranger. Get
Speaker 1: the fuck out. But like, this person is a stranger,
Speaker 1: You don't know them, you don't owe them anything. Whoever
Speaker 1: you know in common, you're worried about what they're gonna think.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. You go with your
Speaker 1: best instinct and you get the fuck out of there,