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Speaker 1: Hey, Babe, La La canne welcome back to then Give

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Speaker 1: Them La La Acas. I'm pre recording this intro and

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Speaker 1: we have the amazing girls from the podcast Girls Gotta Eat,

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Speaker 1: Girls Gotta Eat. I'm pre recording because I'm headed off

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Speaker 1: to New York to do some press for the paperback

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Speaker 1: of my book Give Them La La. So many things

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Speaker 1: falling underneath the Give Them Lalla Umbrella love when that happens.

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Speaker 1: So that's the drill for this podcast. I'm excited to

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Speaker 1: have them on because it's all things sex.

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Speaker 2: All things sex, sex sex.

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Speaker 1: I mean, can I just tell you I think back

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Speaker 1: there was a season where James had like or I

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Speaker 1: think it was Sandoval, like had spilled the tea about

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Speaker 1: me and Arianna hooking up. And by the way, what

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Speaker 1: I have so many photos from that night, none of

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Speaker 1: us hooking up. No, but and it's just like you

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Speaker 1: can tell, like as we get more drunk, runk, and

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Speaker 1: it's just like a drunken mess.

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Speaker 3: But Sandoval explains what I'm wearing that night. Okay, I

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Speaker 3: have to post the picture. Why is he on point?

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Speaker 3: Like does he do it?

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Speaker 1: He remembers it? But now it's like I have pictures

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Speaker 1: from that yet yes, and it was just all such

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Speaker 1: a vibe. But I remember this season happening where Sandoval

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Speaker 1: outs us or whatever, which for me, like it wasn't

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Speaker 1: like I wasn't trying to keep it a secret, but

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Speaker 1: like I definitely didn't know where Ariana was at with it,

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Speaker 1: Like until I know where are Ariana stands, Like, I'm

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Speaker 1: certainly not going to talk about it, right, So, like

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Speaker 1: I heard about this Jackson Brittany called me out on it,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, never happened.

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Speaker 3: I called Ariana. I was like, yo, so lying, what

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Speaker 3: do you want to do about this?

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Speaker 2: Was she pissed?

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Speaker 1: She was pissed at Tom because she was like, this

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Speaker 1: is bullshit, like it's none of your fucking bus She's

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Speaker 1: such a gangster.

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Speaker 2: Well, which is the same energy she kept on the

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Speaker 2: show as I totally.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, I remember in this Little Boy's Outing when

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Speaker 1: it comes up, James telling everybody what a bag of fun.

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Speaker 1: I am in the bedroom and I'm sitting here at

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Speaker 1: the age of thirty one, sober and a child later,

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Speaker 1: patting myself on the ass because I'm like, you go, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you go do them handstands, bitch.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, yes, yeah, you know, and TBD, but

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Speaker 2: I think you probably still got it.

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Speaker 3: I won one hundred percent, still got it.

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Speaker 1: Now it's just about who deserves it or not exactly,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's be real.

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Speaker 1: My time is precious and I'm getting myself off way

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Speaker 1: quicker and way more better than any dude could ever

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Speaker 1: have that happen.

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Speaker 2: Right, Yes, yeah, you know yourself the best. So why

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Speaker 2: do you, you know, need to reut?

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Speaker 3: You've got yourself. I have myself.

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Speaker 1: I have my little oils, I have my little mirror.

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Speaker 3: Hate cooking, you know, hey, cooking. Have you ever looked

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Speaker 3: at it? Not mine?

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Speaker 2: I yes, and the first time, but this is insane.

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Speaker 2: I ever looked at my vagina? Oh my god, you guys,

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Speaker 2: this is embarrassing. But I'm gonna say I didn't realize

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Speaker 2: he came out of a different hole.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not kidding.

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Speaker 4: And I and I was like.

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Speaker 1: Did you learn it from Orange is the New Black?

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Speaker 1: Or did you know when you look?

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Speaker 4: Luckily?

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Speaker 2: I was a little my best friend told me. I

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Speaker 2: was like, I think I was sixteen though, or seventeen,

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Speaker 2: which is oh, okay, you realize that in my best

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Speaker 2: I said something like, yeah, but when you know, when

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Speaker 2: you put a tampon it, and then you obviously have

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Speaker 2: to change it once you pee, because like, hello, it

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Speaker 2: gets soaked. And my friend was like, well, maybe you

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Speaker 2: should put it in deeper and I was like, no,

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Speaker 2: I mean Pete comes out of that hole anyway, and

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Speaker 3: Very important to look at your vagina.

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Speaker 3: I a few weeks ago, was.

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Speaker 1: In Orange County with my mom and one of her

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Speaker 1: her Sally. I was like, Sally, you've never looked at it.

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Speaker 1: She was like, no, it's sad. I know it looks sad.

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Speaker 1: I was like, no, it's happy down there. You need

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm hoping she did.

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Speaker 1: My mom didn't say anything, so I know that she'd

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Speaker 1: be looking at hers, and she like, I know she's

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Speaker 1: looking at hers, right.

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Speaker 2: Are you supposed to for health reasons anyway? I don't that.

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Speaker 1: I think it's just important to look at it and

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Speaker 2: Love, and see what your partners see.

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Speaker 3: Correct.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that was another thing that we spoke about. I

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Speaker 1: think this was two years ago on the show and

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Speaker 1: someone was talking. It was me, Dana and Ariana.

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Speaker 3: It always goes back to Puss with Ariana and Dana.

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Speaker 1: But I told I was like, you have to taste it,

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Speaker 1: you know, you put the finger in, give it a

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Speaker 1: little swirl. Yeah, give it a little It sounds disgusting

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Speaker 1: when you talk about it like that, like put it

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Speaker 1: in right, you just got You just have to know,

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Speaker 1: like what's happening right area.

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Speaker 3: I think that's important.

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Speaker 2: I have always even before before I think before I

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Speaker 2: well not before, but like shortly after a partner went

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Speaker 2: down on me for the first time ever. That's when

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Speaker 2: I was like, wait a second, like because you have

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Speaker 2: all these I had these thoughts like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: it probably tastes wild, and then I'm like, oh no,

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Speaker 1: I tasted mine for the first time when I knew

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Speaker 1: because I had like regular sex before. I talk about

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Speaker 1: it in my book. Yeah, I had sex with my

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Speaker 1: high school sweetheart when I lost my virginity and he literally, okay,

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Speaker 1: so I don't. He had like an obsession with red.

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Speaker 1: It was very strange. He had like red light bulbs

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Speaker 1: and the condom he used was red. And you know,

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Speaker 1: when you're in high school, boys are so weird and right,

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Speaker 1: so I like lose my virginity to him. He takes

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Speaker 1: it was red, and I started sobbing.

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Speaker 3: Because I thought, you know, the cherry popping, and.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, oh wait, like my.

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Speaker 1: Innocence was gone, and I'm looking at this like condom

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Speaker 1: that I think is bloody, but it's not. It's just

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Speaker 1: a strawberry scented colored condom. But after we had sex, right,

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Speaker 3: Not sucking the dick okay, because I was concerned.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know that I'm good at that.

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Speaker 1: How does one suck a dick without teeth involved?

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Speaker 3: Right? I learned, Trust me, I'm like champion at it now.

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Speaker 1: But then I got in my head and I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: if something's going into my mouth, something's going to go

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Speaker 1: into his mouth too, which is gonna be me and

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Speaker 1: like I need to make sure we're like tasting right down. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like went in my little bathroom at the age of

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Speaker 2: A little taste test. Were you like okay? Because I

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Speaker 2: was like pleasantly surprised. I thought I was gonna be

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Speaker 2: horrified or something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, Well when you think about it and you're like,

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Speaker 1: it's a hole. It's a hole, and like all of

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Speaker 1: our stuff is on the outside where all the guy's

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Speaker 3: Like put in a little sausage pat yeah you know, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it gets stuffed sausage. That's stuffed sausage. So I was

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Speaker 1: I just think that, I mean, you know, I I

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Speaker 1: and then I look at my Explorer page and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: sex needs to be spoken about less less, Like we

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Speaker 1: get it.

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Speaker 3: You have nipples.

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Speaker 1: We don't need to have you in a mess shirt

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Speaker 1: on social media. All right, I've done that before. By

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Speaker 1: the way, I walked through New York City with my

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Speaker 1: nips out in nash Lingerie too free Home?

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Speaker 3: Oh was it free? No? Was it free? Like? Because

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Speaker 3: I showed them. But I felt so like powerful because

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Speaker 3: I walked into the restaurant and dudes would look at

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Speaker 3: me and then they'd look at my nips and the

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Speaker 3: look of shock, and I'm like, I have you in

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Speaker 3: the palm of my hand, right owners. I just fully

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Speaker 3: enjoyed caviar. See that.

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Speaker 2: I get that a lot of people show their bodies

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Speaker 2: blah blah blahlah blah. But I'm also like, do you

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: But then another part of me is like, what if

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Speaker 2: there's a little kid and a little boy.

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Speaker 3: But that's where my head went to.

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Speaker 1: I took a blazer because when I was like, once

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Speaker 1: it hit a certain hour, it's like the kids are

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Speaker 1: at catch at ten thirty at night in New York City.

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Speaker 3: That's true. Okay, that's a great point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I did take a jacket just because, you know,

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Speaker 3: I had something to cover you. They didn't. It's New

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Speaker 3: York City. They don't give a damn.

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Speaker 2: They're like nipples fashion fashion people. Well, the nipples are

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Speaker 2: out constantly, like in high fashion show everywhere. Now, I mean,

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Speaker 2: maybe it's always been like that and I haven't noticed,

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Speaker 2: but I've seen like Bellaheadet's nipples, Candy Jet nipples.

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Speaker 1: I just knocked all these people and I'm like, now

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Speaker 1: I totally want to go show my nipples, show your nips. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like, I mean, wasn't it Rumor Willis who started it?

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Speaker 1: She was walking down the street years years upon years

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Speaker 1: upon years ago and it was the hashtag free the Nipple?

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Speaker 3: Was it? It was one yes, walking down New York

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Speaker 3: City fabulous being all woman?

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Speaker 2: Was it just a mess shirt?

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Speaker 3: Or totally?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Interesting? See, because my head goes to like Miley cyrus,

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Speaker 2: but that's probably not accurate.

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Speaker 3: You're up in the night? What does that mean?

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Speaker 2: You mean?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Where are you mean?

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Speaker 2: Like you're yeah, you're up in the night.

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Speaker 3: You say sometimes that.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, what does that mean?

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Speaker 3: What does it mean? Are you being serious? Does no

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Speaker 3: one know what that means? No?

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Speaker 4: Up in the night?

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Speaker 3: One, I think it's me Up in the night means

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Speaker 1: So when this airs, my paperback of the book will

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Speaker 2: Will have been released the day before April twelve.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yay coinrat.

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Speaker 2: With the beautiful red mark that says national best seller.

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Speaker 3: And you know that's strictly based on copies sold? Is

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Speaker 1: BAM entering the pandemic lockdown, No book tour, no nothing,

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Speaker 2: So it smells great, you guys. It feels great. I'm

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Speaker 2: I just wish I could be flying to New York

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Speaker 3: It just feels better. I wish that too.

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Speaker 2: It's gonna be great, and so I will meet you

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Speaker 2: See that's why I wish I was traveling there with you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I love that.

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Speaker 3: Perfect love it all right, you guys. When we come back,

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Speaker 3: and he bought me this boom tattoo that I always wanted.

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00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,840
Speaker 3: He didn't say you have to get those on your arm.

441
00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 3: I love it. I love it so much. It's one

442
00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:23,360
Speaker 3: of my most favorite tattoos I've ever seen. Oh my god,

443
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:28,400
Speaker 3: thank you so much. I drew it myself. Actually it's fantastic.

444
00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 3: So cheers to the boobs. Wait do you get turned

445
00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:33,560
Speaker 3: on by the mail stripper? Is it more quirky?

446
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,000
Speaker 5: First of all, other people get so turned on at

447
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:37,800
Speaker 5: our shows, and it's so funny because to us it's

448
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:39,960
Speaker 5: just funny, like Rain and I don't get off stage,

449
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 5: or we're like we're so wet, you know, like it's

450
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 5: just this funny thing.

451
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,119
Speaker 3: But people leave the show and they're like, I got

452
00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 3: so turned on.

453
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,440
Speaker 5: I mean there's other stuff we do at the shows too,

454
00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:49,719
Speaker 5: but they like leave and they like fuck and they

455
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 5: have threesomes and they're just like all juiced up, And

456
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,439
Speaker 5: it's so funny to us because I don't know, do

457
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 5: you get.

458
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 3: Turned off my hotel room alone? Text Ashley a couple

459
00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 3: of things and go to sleep all times. But yeah, people,

460
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,920
Speaker 3: just another night on tour. We talk about I mean

461
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,440
Speaker 3: so much. We were so sacked positive about like whatever

462
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 3: you want to do, and we talk about it so much.

463
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:11,120
Speaker 3: So yeah, we want people to go home and like fuck, yeah,

464
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,400
Speaker 3: so how did you two meet and start? Girls got

465
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 3: to eat. It's just like the super cheesy love story.

466
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 3: We met on the beach in Aruba on an influencer trip.

467
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 3: We were there like yeah for the Aruba Marea. And

468
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 3: this was in twenty seventeen, so in October. I had

469
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,399
Speaker 3: recently moved to New York earlier that year, and we

470
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 3: just bet on this trip and we really like vibed.

471
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 3: I mean the first night, it was not a lot

472
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:36,120
Speaker 3: of people. It was like five people on this trip.

473
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 3: We all just ended up staying up and talking in

474
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 3: the hotel lobby about like, was it like a fun

475
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 3: influencer trip or the kind where like models are like

476
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 3: posing with their ass. No, I mean this was kind

477
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 3: of like I say, influencer.

478
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,360
Speaker 5: Just at that time, I was more of a blogger,

479
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 5: like I'd just say because that's the word we use now.

480
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 5: But this now, at this point was like five years ago,

481
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 5: but Raina had a food blog like another girl just

482
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 5: wrote for like a traditional media outlet and magazine. So

483
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 5: I say it was influencer, but it was like a

484
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 5: media trip. Everyone was from New York and it was

485
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 5: like four women and one guy, and we just all

486
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 5: stayed up at night talking about like relationships and stuff,

487
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,159
Speaker 5: and Rain and I just end up hanging out the

488
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 5: whole rest of the trip, you know. We came back

489
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 5: to Newark and it was very like are we going

490
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 5: to be friends?

491
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 3: Irl? Like now that we're.

492
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 5: Back, And we ended up hanging out a couple times.

493
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:18,960
Speaker 5: And I had wanted to start a podcast at that

494
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 5: point for months, and it was like on my mind

495
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,360
Speaker 5: and I was like I have to do this, and

496
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 5: I just didn't know.

497
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 3: Who to do it with.

498
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 5: By this guy friend, I was like, I just don't

499
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 5: feel like this is right because I saw very like

500
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 5: big picture business tour the world, like I really did

501
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 5: see it being like a thing. I was like, I

502
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 5: don't know if I want tour the world with this

503
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 5: fucking dude, you know. So I wanted to do it

504
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 5: with the woman, and rain and I just were texting

505
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 5: more and more, becoming friends and always talking about dating.

506
00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 5: We were both single with these like flexible lifestyles with

507
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 5: what we did for work, and I just asked her like,

508
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 5: would you want to start a podcast?

509
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,400
Speaker 3: And she was like absolutely, I'm in.

510
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 5: And that was end of November twenty seventeen, and we

511
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:56,320
Speaker 5: got it off that. We started having meetings and stuff,

512
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 5: and we got it off the ground in February twenty eighteen.

513
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 3: Wow, and you guys just knew, like, this is going

514
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 3: to be a sex positive podcast. I think Ashley and

515
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 3: I just are naturally really open and sexual people, and

516
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 3: we grew up and I think a pretty sex positive environment.

517
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 5: Well that's it's funny you asked that, because I said

518
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 5: I asked braina like would you want to do a podcast?

519
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 5: I think I want to do a funny podcast but

520
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 5: about dating, relationships and sex and stuff. And she was

521
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 5: like yeah, sold. And then I was like, I don't

522
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 5: know where that well. I had had noted for two

523
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,360
Speaker 5: months at this point, barely, and I was like, well,

524
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 5: do you feel comfortable talking about your sex life and stuff?

525
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 3: And she was like yeah, like have we met that?

526
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 3: So when she whipped her tits out and said absolut fuckingutely, yeah,

527
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 3: she sent me.

528
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 5: A video of her masturbating. No, I'm just kidding it.

529
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 5: It was like, I've always been super open. I had

530
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 5: a blog before that where it like, my parents don't care,

531
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 5: you know, I do stand up.

532
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 3: So not everybody is that way. I think it's a

533
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 3: little more rare.

534
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 5: So I just wanted to make sure she was because

535
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 5: that would be that would have been my fear.

536
00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 3: You know.

537
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 5: We start recording and she's like, well, I feel weird

538
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 5: because my dad's going to listen, you know, And that's.

539
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 3: Not the case at all. Yeah, And I think I

540
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 3: was always the kind of person and growing up my

541
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,919
Speaker 3: mom always said, like I marched to the beat of

542
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 3: my own drum. I would always say the things that

543
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,640
Speaker 3: like people like couldn't believe it came out of my mouth,

544
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: not like an unhinged crazy person, but like I was

545
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,640
Speaker 3: always the person that like talked about sex, talked about

546
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,640
Speaker 3: sexuality that people were like, I can't know what she's

547
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 3: saying that stuff. And I think that for me, it

548
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 3: was natural to like hone that learn how to speak

549
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 3: about it in a funny way and an interesting and

550
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 3: engaging way. And I talk about my own personal sex

551
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 3: life as much as I talk about other people's so right.

552
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 3: I am willing to put myself out there and say,

553
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 3: like I had sex for the first time last weekend

554
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 3: with my new boobs, and like what did that feel like?

555
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 3: And how often is somebody willing to do that? So

556
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 3: I hope to promote a lot of sex positivity and that,

557
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 3: like anything is fine. It's so refreshing, by the way,

558
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,200
Speaker 3: because I feel like I grew up in a very

559
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 3: open household. Like I would walk through the front door

560
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 3: and be like, I just gave that hot dude a blowjob,

561
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 3: and my Dad's like, what, what the fuck? I mean,

562
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 3: go Larren, I don't want to hear that. And I'm like,

563
00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 3: then go away, because we're talking about it. Well, you

564
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 3: are very much. I mean, I've been like such a

565
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 3: fan of banderd Hen Roles forever, and I worked in

566
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 3: restaurants my whole life, so I was like, oh my god,

567
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 3: Like a restaurant on television is amazing. And you were

568
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 3: always so open about your sexuality and your tits and

569
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,360
Speaker 3: just like being out there on the show, and I

570
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 3: was just like, I like this girl, she just like

571
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 3: owns it. She is open with her body. I always

572
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,120
Speaker 3: thought it was so fucking cool. Yeah, it's amazing. Well

573
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 3: thank you.

574
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,879
Speaker 1: So when I hear other people talking about it, I'm like, Okay,

575
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,360
Speaker 1: this is my bitch, this is you know. I'm down

576
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 1: with the people bringing strippers on.

577
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 3: Stage, getting tit tattoos, wanting to talk about how they

578
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 3: came to California and had a lot of bang sessions. Thought, well,

579
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 3: you have to tell me more, Like, what do you

580
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 3: mean you came to California to do a show? Yeah,

581
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 3: we didn't have sex with each other, we'd sex with

582
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 3: other people. Yeah, no judgment here. I mean, we just listen.

583
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 3: It's not New York is not our fave for dating,

584
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 3: for fucking. It's really just not ideal. It's you know,

585
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 3: we do our best. We like living here for now,

586
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 3: not that much. But but we just seemed to meet

587
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 3: more guys on the road. And I will not subscribe

588
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:07,400
Speaker 3: to this. Like, but you're in a different mindset, you're

589
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:08,879
Speaker 3: out of town. It's not that it's New York. New

590
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 3: York fucking suck. What is it about New York that

591
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 3: sucks for dating?

592
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 5: The way that New York changes men into the garbage

593
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 5: of the earth in terms of the way they date,

594
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 5: the way they communicate, the way they view women, not

595
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 5: all men like we have. We have amazing guy friends.

596
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 5: We've friends that have found men here in the garbage

597
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 5: can of the dating scene, but we just we don't

598
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 5: love it and we're retired by it. So I think

599
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 5: we get really rejuvenated to go to different cities and

600
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 5: just meet different guys that we like a little bit

601
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,640
Speaker 5: more than your New York command. So, I mean, we

602
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 5: went to San Francisco, we met these guys braina set

603
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 5: it up and we had a great time with them.

604
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 5: And I met a guy in San Diego and we

605
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,120
Speaker 5: ended up fucking. Then he came to LA and we

606
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 5: were just like, you know, fucking all over the state.

607
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 5: It was really great.

608
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, to echo what she said, I mean, dating here

609
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 3: is fine. I've lived here since college. I've dated a

610
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,159
Speaker 3: lot in New York. I find that men outside of

611
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 3: New York are a little more intentional.

612
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:02,680
Speaker 4: They follow up more.

613
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 3: They not that there's like, you know, I think that

614
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:06,679
Speaker 3: you hear a lot in New York and LA, like

615
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 3: everybody feels like there's so many options, so you're disposable,

616
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 3: And I don't know what I feel like that's the

617
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: main issue. I don't know.

618
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 4: People just move here and they become garbage. People don't.

619
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 4: I don't know what to say.

620
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 3: My last couple of relationships have all been long distance,

621
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 3: out of town guys, and I've enjoyed them more. Yeah,

622
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 3: they're not even that hot. Like it's not like I

623
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 3: swear like rain and night. I kind of thought I

624
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 3: would move here and it would be like the hottest guys.

625
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 3: It's just not. Listen, we'd love to hear our guy

626
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 3: friends are hot with no shade to them, but like

627
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 3: it's just we go to other cities in Austin, for example,

628
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 3: or you know, even like hot Denver, and we're like,

629
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,719
Speaker 3: this is where the dick is, Like it's not in

630
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 3: New York. Yeah, Charleston, San Francisco. I mean there's hot guys.

631
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 3: I understand the problems to dating in every city, actually,

632
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 3: and I've been doing the show for so many years.

633
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 3: I know every city presents its own challenges, but New

634
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 3: York and LA seem to be pretty specifically challenging.

635
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 4: And I can only speak to dating in New York

636
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 4: and it's been a little tough.

637
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I can speak for LA and I'm telling

638
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 1: you what. I'm scarred from my last relationship.

639
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 3: So I brought on a PI for anybody who comes

640
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 3: into my life who I want to date. No, you

641
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: think I'm kidding you so much? Good for you. I

642
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 3: mean you're a public figure. Why not I need to

643
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 3: know everything, everything, your credit score, what you got going on.

644
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 3: And I've lost a few based on and I don't

645
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 3: tell them. I don't say, like, by the way, this

646
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:26,719
Speaker 3: ain't gonna work out because your background check came back

647
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 3: a little sketch, because then I look crazy? Right, what

648
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 3: is the things that makes you walk away? What is

649
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 3: like a red flag? Your background check came back. So

650
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 3: this is the end of the road for you, Trevor.

651
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 3: End of the fucking road. I have no tolerance. You

652
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 3: can be as fine as they come. You're cut a

653
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 3: big one.

654
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: If you got kids and I see that you've had

655
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 1: some maybe like not great track record with child support,

656
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: you're done. When I see that, like you may owe

657
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: money to the government, you gotta go.

658
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 3: There was one guy who he had like all of

659
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 3: these unpaid like parking tickets and then like driving without

660
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: license and insurance. I'm like, motherfucker, that's the easiest thing

661
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 3: to do.

662
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 5: If you're doing that, you're not going to be a

663
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 5: grown up in a relationship, Like if you're living like

664
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 5: that outside of being like twenty one, you know, like, yes,

665
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 5: it's not for me. That's a great example of stuff

666
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 5: that you should find out.

667
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 3: I need to know. If you can't do the most

668
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: simple thing in life, which is just drive with insurance

669
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 3: and a driver's license, it ain't gonna work out. Paying

670
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 3: a parking ticket takes three seconds if you're not the

671
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 3: kind of person to hands it. Actually, I always say, like,

672
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 3: I think one of the problems with my previous relationship

673
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 3: that I've had is that dated people that I could

674
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 3: like handle their shit, and it made me feel insane

675
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 3: because like, not only am I paying for everything, I'm

676
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 3: also planning it, I'm producing it.

677
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 4: I'm doing everything.

678
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 3: I'm producing the relationship, and I just want a man

679
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 3: that can handle their shit. If you as unpaid parking tickets,

680
00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure that that permeates in the rest of

681
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 3: your life. And first of all, why are there so

682
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,959
Speaker 3: many Why are you in so many un parking tickets?

683
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 3: I don't understand. Yeah, the only way, So now you're

684
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 3: telling me you can't even park a car.

685
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 5: I got a parking ticket recently and it was like

686
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 5: I was like, I don't think I'm gonna pay this.

687
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 3: What are they going to do? And it went to

688
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 3: my parents' house and my mom. My mom called.

689
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 5: She was like, it's Father's Day and your father just

690
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 5: got a ticket because the car was I was just like, fine,

691
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 5: I'll pay it.

692
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: And then they just kept harassing me. I was like,

693
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 3: it's fine, I'll pay it. It's fine. One parking ticket,

694
00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 3: I get it. But this motherfucker who has about fifteen

695
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: now you gotta go. All right. I want to talk

696
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 3: to you guys about how you feel about dating app

697
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 3: Do we like them? Are they stupid? We have differing opinions.

698
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 3: I mean, I'll just get me out of the way quickly.

699
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 3: It's not my thing. Every six months so you've tried it,

700
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 3: you've tried it.

701
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 4: Try it is just a stretch. I'm gone on them,

702
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 4: and you look at them, looked at the mine.

703
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 3: I'm gone on one dating app date too, sorry, two

704
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 3: dating app dates. I went on a date like twelve

705
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 3: years ago. What is that, Jade, It's it's for Jews.

706
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 3: It's back when dating apps weren't even apps their websites.

707
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 3: Oh wow, Okay, I ran into my ex's best friend

708
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 3: while I was on the date with this guy and

709
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 3: he told my ex. My ex bet jealous. We got

710
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 3: back together, so that was the end of that. And

711
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 3: then I think I did one from Tinder like seven

712
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 3: years ago. I get on there and I feel really

713
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,479
Speaker 3: fatigued shopping for human beings. I don't want to do it.

714
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 3: I get really like tired out asking the questions of.

715
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 4: Like, what did you do it today? Would you have

716
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 4: for lunch? I just don't care, and.

717
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: I just I feel like I lose interest really quickly.

718
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 3: That's just I enjoy meeting people in person. I want

719
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 3: to see how you like, how you move, how you

720
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 3: talk to people, how do you eat. I want to

721
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 3: see how you smell. I know that sounds crazy, but

722
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 3: I'm like attracted to smells and people totally. And this

723
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 3: guy that I was with last weekend, I was saying

724
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 3: to his friends one of the reason why I don't

725
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 3: like dating apps is like I never would have swiped

726
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 3: on him on a dating app because he's shorter than

727
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 3: I normally go for.

728
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 4: It's not a profession. I would never normally.

729
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:59,719
Speaker 3: Gravitate towards because he has a significant online following, and

730
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: I probably would have just been out and I met

731
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 3: him and I was like, this is the coolest person

732
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 3: I've ever met, and I would have thrown him in

733
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 3: the trash on a dating app. Wow, So I steer clear. Okay,

734
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 3: I love that, Ashley. What about you?

735
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 5: Well, you know we have a dating podcast and online

736
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 5: dating is a huge way that people date, so we

737
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 5: last thing I want to do it with shit all

738
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 5: over it I've done. I've been on a million app dates,

739
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 5: like I've been on, starting with Tinder when it first

740
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 5: came out, and bumble and hinge and everything, and I've

741
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 5: tried rayah and but it's not my favorite way to

742
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 5: meet somebody. I have never gone on a second date

743
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 5: with someone I met on an app. I'm the same

744
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 5: with Rain in terms of, like you just can't really

745
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 5: get a vibe for somebody. I've been on so many

746
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 5: dates where the person just showed up and like their

747
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 5: voice was terrible, or their posture is bad, or they

748
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 5: don't seem confident, or they just have terrible manners or

749
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 5: whatever it is. So like like Braina says, you don't

750
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 5: know how they like walk, talk, or smell or interact

751
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 5: with the world. So right, it's not my preferred way.

752
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 5: And I've done all the things I could do. My

753
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 5: profile is great, you know we have a banter or

754
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 5: like it's we know all the hacks. It's just not ever,

755
00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:01,680
Speaker 5: how aw I've met somebody and I think like kind

756
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 5: of like the numbers speak for themselves, like anybody I've

757
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 5: ever dated, I met them in person or I was

758
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 5: introduced to them somehow.

759
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 3: So yeah, I get on there.

760
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 5: I like to go to a new city and like

761
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 5: scope about what it looks like there. But it's just

762
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:13,359
Speaker 5: not really for me.

763
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 3: You use it as the throwback, you use it for

764
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 3: some dick and then like if it's fun and you

765
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 3: like the person, you're like, I guess I'll come back

766
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 3: for a second plate of dick.

767
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 5: It's not even that, Like I don't even when's last

768
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 5: time I got laid from a guy on an app?

769
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 4: Like it's not that doesn't even world.

770
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 3: What I will say about you is that actually will

771
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 3: say like I feel like dating, I feel like finding somebody,

772
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 3: and then she will purposefully make a concerted effort to

773
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 3: go on a dating app and go on dates with

774
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 3: people like Ashley has never been the kind of person

775
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,040
Speaker 3: and neither am I that complains about something long term

776
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 3: and will not fix it. So if She's like, I

777
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 3: want to find somebody's going day. I've gone some dates.

778
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 3: I I'm like, I want to find somebody. I'll go

779
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 3: to a bunch of bars and meet people. Okay, And

780
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 3: I do think it's one ie fits one. I want to,

781
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 3: you know, credit what she said in terms of like

782
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 3: we're dating podcasts. We believe it online dating. Ashley and

783
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 3: I have the we're fortunate enough to be out in

784
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 3: the world a little bit more for our jobs and

785
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 3: meet people. Not everybody has that luxury. Some people are

786
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 3: behind a zoom screen all day every day and that's

787
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 3: the best way to meet somebody, right, So I think it's.

788
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 4: Great for some people.

789
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 5: But I mean I also think, like our episode this

790
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 5: week is about about setups and like getting people to

791
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 5: set you up, and I think there's like could you

792
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:21,959
Speaker 5: scroll for hours and try to go in these days

793
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 5: with these strangers, or could you like talk to somebody

794
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 5: and be like, Hey, do you have anybody you might

795
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 5: want to set me up with. Let's think about this together,

796
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 5: like a friend or you know, a cousin or whatever

797
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,879
Speaker 5: it is. So I just think there is soone should

798
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 5: be said for someone that you kind of know or

799
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 5: someone you know kind of knows them, and I just

800
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 5: think it's all about like being open. Like I think

801
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 5: this past tour, it was like these guys in San

802
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 5: Francisco's like, yeah, we'll go out with them. We had

803
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 5: a great time with them. You know, the guy that

804
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 5: I met San Diego. I just like, I can be

805
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 5: a little closed off and I was like, no, I'm

806
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 5: going to like lert this guy, and we ended up

807
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 5: hooking up. And it just is like a mindset too,

808
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:57,959
Speaker 5: because I just think I'm done ish with the dating

809
00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 5: apps just because it doesn't work for me.

810
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 3: I like what you said, Raina, it's one size fits one.

811
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 3: But the thing is is I sit here and I'm.

812
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 2: Like, I will not join a dating app, but you

813
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 2: can slide in my DM, right.

814
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,280
Speaker 3: Like, what's the fucking difference.

815
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 5: I think the difference is like, at least you've seen

816
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 5: somebody on Instagram.

817
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,880
Speaker 3: You know, you may have heard them talk, even you

818
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,439
Speaker 3: can see like videos, yeah, Like, but you can see

819
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: what they follow, which is a huge important thing to

820
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 3: me to see if you follow the same kind of musicians, politicians,

821
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 3: fashion brands, whatever.

822
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 2: Right.

823
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 5: Also, I think dating apps like where I think it

824
00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 5: works better when you're just in your twenties, totally.

825
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, every reason their twenties.

826
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 5: You know, like you know you're in your thirties, you

827
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 5: start getting the polls just smaller, you know, unless you

828
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 5: really want to go. It just kind of gets smaller

829
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 5: as you age. I don't mean that in a bad way.

830
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 5: You can also lower your age range. But we know

831
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 5: so many successful relationships. Our assistant stating around here she

832
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:50,759
Speaker 5: met her now boyfriend on dating app. I'm thinking over

833
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 5: friend Jackie and met her fiance and an unbumble like

834
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 5: it does work. I think that maybe it's just not

835
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 5: my preferred way, and it just gets a little harder

836
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 5: as you age a little bit more.

837
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 3: Have you ever gone on a date with someone where

838
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,880
Speaker 3: everything is working? You've been on multiple dates. You vibe

839
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 3: with them, you dig it. You get into the bedroom

840
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 3: and the dick just ain't right, Like do you sit

841
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 3: there and go, oh, but the rest of it will

842
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 3: outweigh the small dick. Oh you mean the side just

843
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: the size of the dick or like it could be

844
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 3: the size it could be like he doesn't really know

845
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 3: how to do this. Uh huh.

846
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 4: So for me, can I tell you one thing? Please?

847
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 3: Do I've answered this before? Before you answer on Steve Harvey. Okay,

848
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 3: they asked about dick, and I responded. All the girls answered,

849
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 3: and then it was my turn. I said, you know,

850
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 3: I think if the person's kind and they're good to you,

851
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 3: it's gonna be the best sex you've had, no matter what.

852
00:37:53,280 --> 00:38:00,399
Speaker 3: I got booed. They booed me. No one liked that answer.

853
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 3: I see, I can just see you're like, I'm trying

854
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 3: to stick up for my man. I love it. Oh

855
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 3: my gosh. So I want to know your I want

856
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 3: to know what you guys think. So I am meant

857
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 3: I can only I'm just gonna speak for I'm an

858
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,239
Speaker 3: extremely sexual person, and I've learned that if like the

859
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 3: dick isn't good long term, that I'm out right so

860
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 3: good dick can keep me for a really long time.

861
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,239
Speaker 3: The first time you have sex with a person, it's

862
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 3: always awkward. It might be a home run for some people,

863
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 3: but I think like the first time is ever gonna

864
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 3: be the greatest. A you're figuring out into those bodies,

865
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 3: you're seeing, like what does everything look like, smell like,

866
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 3: feel like? I think you're just really feeling your way

867
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 3: through it, and I think it takes some time to

868
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 3: learn with somebody last. First time always awkward. I'll try

869
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 3: a second time if I like you long term, if

870
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 3: I have a partner that's enthusiastic, like really present during

871
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 3: sex and like want yeah, I can teach you, Like

872
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 3: I like a lot of dirty talk that's not natural

873
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 3: to everybody, but like, if you're like I want to

874
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 3: please her, I want to like, I think that I

875
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 3: can work with that. I've dated every end of the spectrum.

876
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 3: I dated some it just isn't a super sexual person,

877
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 3: not super enthusiastic in bed, and that would never ever

878
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 3: work for me. Now. I just never gonna work somebody

879
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:06,839
Speaker 3: who's at least sexually enthusiastic. Like I fought this guy

880
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 3: like five times on Saturday that I could work with

881
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 3: his very enthusiastic in life enthusiastic. So I guess that's

882
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 3: my answer.

883
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 4: First time.

884
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 3: I'll definitely go back for a second time. Five six

885
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 3: times it's bad, I will try to work on it.

886
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 3: But sex is a really really important part of a

887
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,439
Speaker 3: relationship to me. Yeah, I mean the first time.

888
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 5: I mean it just guys get in their head just

889
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 5: as much as we do, maybe even more so because

890
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 5: they got to make the dick work and they they're

891
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 5: supposed to like dick you down, and so I think

892
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 5: that nerves play into it and like nothing can be

893
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 5: based on the first time. Like I had a situation.

894
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 5: This was like a little while back, this a few

895
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 5: months ago.

896
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 3: I was with this guy and when we started we

897
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,919
Speaker 3: started making out. His dick was soft, and I thought

898
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 3: it was so small. I was like, this is a

899
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 3: micro penis, like it was my first wife. Like I

900
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 3: was thin, it's so tiny, and so I was like

901
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 3: a little upset. I mean, I just was like I

902
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 3: don't know what to I don't know what to do.

903
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 3: It just he was like the grower to end all growers.

904
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 3: It ended up like blowing up, like I put so

905
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 3: much work into it.

906
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 5: It was like I really put a lot of time

907
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 5: and effort into like getting it where it needs to be,

908
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 5: and when it was like full capacity, it was like

909
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 5: a totally different dick.

910
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 3: So that was the thing that I like went into

911
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 3: the night like.

912
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 5: That's like a fun surprise. It was the best surprise.

913
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 5: I felt so proud of myself and you know him,

914
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 5: and it was just like a really great thing for anyone.

915
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 3: So that was a very a moment of like I mean,

916
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,720
Speaker 3: whatever like I don't want a body shame guys with smalltics.

917
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:30,239
Speaker 3: But it was a very moment of like, oh, that's

918
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: probably not gonna do much for me tonight. And then

919
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 3: little did I know, I was like, we're gonna need

920
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 3: some more loop. I had no idea that could grow

921
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 3: that big, neither dinyway I had. It was unbelievable. I

922
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 3: still can't shake it. I was like telling everybody he's like,

923
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 3: just you wait, baby, telling people you should be like,

924
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 3: just give it some time. Should be like on a

925
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 3: note cardians people like his allergies and then his dickets.

926
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 3: I'm a grower.

927
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 4: Let me ask you, guys, if you ever had this situation?

928
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 3: So with my AX, that was probably like the best

929
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 3: ex I've ever had, wild, filthy, disgusting journey all the time.

930
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 3: The very first time we had sex was one of

931
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 3: those moments where like no one came, You're both naked,

932
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 3: staring at the ceiling, no one will make eye contact,

933
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 3: and you're both like I liked this person so much?

934
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 3: That was so bad and what.

935
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 4: Am I gonna have you guys, ever had that happen yet?

936
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 3: That happened with my ex? Like I was like, God,

937
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,720
Speaker 3: I just like him. So much, and we kind of waited.

938
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 5: He wanted to wait on whatever, and it was like

939
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 5: such a letdown. There was no way we were abandoning

940
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 5: the relationship. It just was awkward. He was a person

941
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 5: that got in his head a lot. I know, he

942
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 5: was like so nervous to fuck me for the first time,

943
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 5: and the next time was amazing, and then it was

944
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:39,720
Speaker 5: amazing every time after.

945
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 3: I've had that happen once and I couldn't look him

946
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 3: in the eyes and I couldn't wait for him to leave,

947
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 3: and I immediately deleted his number. I was like, don't

948
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 3: ever come around me again. Different five, so you're not

949
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,319
Speaker 3: going back for around two. And it's like, so, why

950
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 3: was it so awkward and weird? I just think like

951
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 3: he was listening to like Celin Dear in his head,

952
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 3: where I was listening to maybe like playlist Asap Rocky.

953
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 3: You know, we need to get on the same page.

954
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 3: That is so funny, different playlists. It was like very

955
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:18,320
Speaker 3: very different. And I don't know because then I'm wounded

956
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 3: if the first time is like that, like I'm nervous

957
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: to venture back in to that territory. It's like someone

958
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,280
Speaker 3: like drowning you right in the middle of the ocean

959
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 3: and then being like, we're going to go try that

960
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 3: again and see if it's better next time. It's like, no, no,

961
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,399
Speaker 3: we're not. I almost I almost died. Just leave immediately, right.

962
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 3: So one of the reasons I think it was so

963
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,920
Speaker 3: weird for me was that my axe was sober and

964
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 3: I drink and I know you're I know that you're sober.

965
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 3: So I think he got like a little in his head.

966
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 3: And then I got in my head because I was like,

967
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 3: I'm a little buzzed. He's dead sober. What is he

968
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 3: going to think about me? This is crazy. I think

969
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 3: he got his head too. Do you ever like get

970
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 3: in your head like it was sober sex weird for you?

971
00:42:57,440 --> 00:43:01,280
Speaker 3: In the beginning, I have yet to have sober sex

972
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:05,760
Speaker 3: with a new partner. Okay, interesting, I'm super nervous about

973
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 3: it and not saying like I need to drink to

974
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 3: have sex, but you know, you're with the same person

975
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:15,919
Speaker 3: for a really long time. But going going into this

976
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:19,799
Speaker 3: new territory of like being sober because I'm a bag

977
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:23,440
Speaker 3: of fun. When I'm fucked up, let's do it. I

978
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:26,479
Speaker 3: fuck sit up in the bedroom. But now I'm worried.

979
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be in my head. I had Emily from

980
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 3: sex with Emily on and she was like, You've got

981
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 3: to like make it about you because I'm so into

982
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 3: Like is it good for the other person, because I'm fine,

983
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:41,399
Speaker 3: I'll rub one out later like flick the bean at home.

984
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 3: I'll be fine. Fuck that.

985
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 2: I'm not doing that anymore. Do some work, Like I

986
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 2: need to get mine, just like you've got to get yours. Yes,

987
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 2: So I need to get into that selfish headspace.

988
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 3: I think that, I mean, sober sex to me is

989
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 3: incredible and I'll come over and over again. So I

990
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:00,760
Speaker 3: think that your pleasure is just heightened in general, hopefully.

991
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 3: I think it's really nice to watch your partner be pleasured.

992
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 3: That gives me pleasure. But yeah, I might be like

993
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 3: a little scared. But I mean with a new person,

994
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 3: like I love sober sex. So I just did it Sunday,

995
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 3: Like it was great. I just that's a new part.

996
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 5: But we'd had sex one time, you know, a few

997
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:20,280
Speaker 5: nights prior drinking. But a sober sex with a brand

998
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 5: new person would I think intimidate most people.

999
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 3: I am intimidated.

1000
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm super intimidated, and I want some big old dick.

1001
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 1: But now you're telling me that this guy was a

1002
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 1: grower and not a shower. I mean, now I'm kind

1003
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: of like, do I.

1004
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 3: Give small pp a chance because I may be surprised.

1005
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:42,480
Speaker 5: The thing with with that situation was that I'm not

1006
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 5: around a lot of soft dicks, like I'm usually just

1007
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 5: start like making out with somebody and there they get hard,

1008
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 5: you know. So it was like but it was just

1009
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 5: kind of whatever that situation was. But yeah, so if

1010
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 5: you if there's a small dick that's soft, you've got

1011
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 5: to give it a chance because you just don't know.

1012
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 3: You just literally don't know what's going to happen. Can

1013
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 3: I ask you, though? How did you have to get

1014
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 3: it up? Have you ever had to put a soft pepa?

1015
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 3: It's like a slug, It's like putting a deflated balloon

1016
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 3: in your mouth.

1017
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 5: It was not good. I got there with hand stuff.

1018
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:17,400
Speaker 5: I'm just really vigorous, and what you massaged it with

1019
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:18,840
Speaker 5: your index finger and saw.

1020
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 3: That first Yeah, kill. It was just that's you know,

1021
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 3: I can't listen. This guy was very hot and he

1022
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:29,840
Speaker 3: was worth trying. I would have sat there all day long. Really, yeah,

1023
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 3: oh no, it's just he was that fine yeah, but again,

1024
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 3: the dick is amazing.

1025
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 5: It just had to get you know, it just it

1026
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 5: started small. So I just anyone listening, like, if you

1027
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 5: don't freak out and be like, oh my god, it's

1028
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 5: so small, they can run from the room because it

1029
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 5: could just not grow much, but or it could just

1030
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 5: balloon up. I was like, let's just see, I can't

1031
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 5: what do here? Like I'm going to dedicate my inject well,

1032
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 5: I was like, I want to fuck him, you know

1033
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 5: what I mean? Like, yeah, and I had an end

1034
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 5: goal too, so we all have the same goals. I

1035
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 5: just we had to work together as a team. I

1036
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 5: told it right about it.

1037
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 3: I was like, it was a journey. I will tell

1038
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 3: you it was such a journey, but it probably it

1039
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 3: probably made it so much better.

1040
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 5: I was thinking, like in my head because I hadn't

1041
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 5: really encountered something quite like this before where it like

1042
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 5: really took a long time to get to that point.

1043
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 5: And again we've been drinking and stuff like that, Like

1044
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:30,279
Speaker 5: I don't think I had sex with this guy again

1045
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 5: and it wasn't a problem at all.

1046
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 3: Maybe there was nerves invaulved whatever it was. So let

1047
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 3: me let me ask you this. Do you think that

1048
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:37,439
Speaker 3: there's anything too.

1049
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: Like, if you like a dude, you meet up with him,

1050
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: you let him hit it the first night, do you

1051
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,719
Speaker 1: think there's more of a chance of him calling or

1052
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:46,840
Speaker 1: not calling you back? Or do you think that you

1053
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 1: should only fuck on the first night if you don't

1054
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: care about them?

1055
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 4: Tell me, thank you so much. We'll talk about this forever.

1056
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 3: First of all, Ashley and I do not think there's

1057
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 3: like a way to game the system. We think that

1058
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 3: you should have sex when you feel ready and comfortable

1059
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:01,319
Speaker 3: to have sex, And we say it all the time.

1060
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 4: Having sex with somebody.

1061
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 3: Is not going to make somebody not want to date you,

1062
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 3: and withholding sex is not going to make them date you.

1063
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:10,399
Speaker 3: I agree, you know, listen, you fuck when you want

1064
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 3: to and then have no expectations afterwards. But also there's

1065
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 3: no reason to not wait, so you do whatever feels

1066
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 3: good to you.

1067
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 5: I love that we did a whole episode on this.

1068
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 5: I mean, it's just I think at this stage of

1069
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 5: my life, if I met somebody, went out with them

1070
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 5: and they lived in a city that was doable for

1071
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 5: me to date them, and they felt like a real

1072
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 5: partner in terms of like looking at somebody like this

1073
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 5: isn't just like a fling. This isn't some like super

1074
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 5: young guy that lives across the country or whatever. It

1075
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,760
Speaker 5: is Like, if I really from what we have on paper,

1076
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 5: they seem like somebody that could be a real match

1077
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 5: for me. I probably wouldn't sleep in them the first

1078
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 5: night because I just think we don't have to. But

1079
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 5: if I was feeling it, I would. I mean, I've

1080
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,320
Speaker 5: just I've done both Ran and I have both fucked

1081
00:47:50,320 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 5: guys the first night that turned out to be our boyfriends.

1082
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 5: There was no like whoa like theyre weren't interested after that.

1083
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 5: It's also but I think at this point, I'm like,

1084
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 5: there's no we can make out the first night and

1085
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 5: we can you know, do it another time, or I

1086
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 5: think there's nothing wrong with leaving somebody wanting more. So

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00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 5: I also think it's how you act afterwards. So I

1088
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 5: think that if you if you know that when someone

1089
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 5: penetrates you, you're gonna get really feeling really attached to them,

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00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 5: even if chemically. And I think the times when I've

1091
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 5: slept with somebody the first night and they've pursued me

1092
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 5: heavily after to like date, it's because I was pretty

1093
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 5: chill about it. It wasn't like a what are we

1094
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 5: the next morning? You know, I think it's or you

1095
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 5: gave them the best cookie of their life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, good for you.

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00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 5: I did have a drive five hours round trip this

1098
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 5: past time in California to have sex be so I

1099
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 5: was feeling pretty good about it.

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Speaker 3: God, I have to like meet you guys in person

1101
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 3: and you have to take I'm all for all of this.

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00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 3: You guys are so much fun. Let's do it. I'm

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00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 3: with Ashley too, though, I think for me, at least,

1104
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,400
Speaker 3: sex is better when I'm a little more comfortable with

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00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 3: the first I want to like do all kinds of

1106
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 3: crazy shit and sixty nine if you had talk dirty,

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00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna let loose like that with a

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00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:03,479
Speaker 3: brand new person. And I think about, like the last

1109
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 3: person I dated very seriously. It was long distance and

1110
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 3: we were like texting and talking on the phone for

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00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 3: weeks before we met in person. So by the time

1112
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 3: I met him, I was like, I know this person.

1113
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 3: I'm comfortable with this person. I trust this person totally.

1114
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 3: I have no problem coming to oury sex. I want

1115
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 3: to like suck your dick. I want to do all

1116
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 3: this stuff, but I'm not gonna necessarily feel so like

1117
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 3: loose and ready with like a brand new person that

1118
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 3: like lives down the street that I just met. So

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00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 3: I'm with Ashley, no reason to not wait. You have

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00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 3: all the time in the world. You have all the

1121
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 3: time in the world. I agree. I'm getting back into

1122
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 3: this like dating game. I've I've realized I'm not ready

1123
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 3: to have sex yet. I still need to like get

1124
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 3: comfortable with my sexuality again and come into my own

1125
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:48,760
Speaker 3: I'm like a brand new person. Basically, I'm not ready.

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00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:52,319
Speaker 3: I'm like nervous. Absolutely, yeah, you don't.

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00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:54,919
Speaker 5: But also it's like the thing that we always say

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00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 5: is it's hard to think about your body being like

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00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 5: ready for sex when we're sitting here in the middle

1130
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 5: of the day. I think the thing with sex is

1131
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:05,359
Speaker 5: like we always say, like someone needs to make me

1132
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 5: want to have sex to them so badly, like oh,

1133
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:11,359
Speaker 5: I want to be like making out and being like

1134
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:14,760
Speaker 5: whatever you're doing and be like so hot and heavy,

1135
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 5: Like you'll know when you're right to have sex, you'll

1136
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 5: feel it in your body.

1137
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 3: Maybe that's what it is.

1138
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 5: Like go into it being like I feel comfortable kissing

1139
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:23,959
Speaker 5: tonight and make it. You could be making out with somebody.

1140
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 5: They could get you to a point where you're like,

1141
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:26,920
Speaker 5: all I want to do is fuck this person. Like, right,

1142
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:28,960
Speaker 5: I've gone into situations where I'm like, there's no way

1143
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 5: I'm fucking a night.

1144
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 3: I'm not in the mood. We just did a show,

1145
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 3: whatever it may be.

1146
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:34,920
Speaker 5: And then it comes down to it and it's like, well,

1147
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 5: this guy's hot and he's doing all the right things,

1148
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 5: and then your body actually is ready.

1149
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, before you know it, he's munching the cookie and

1150
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 3: you're having all the fun in the world.

1151
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:45,720
Speaker 4: I think you should give yourself time.

1152
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 3: I think that, like, what you went through is like

1153
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 3: pretty traumatic in terms of being betrayed by a person

1154
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 3: that you thought you felt safe with, and so I

1155
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 3: think it takes extra long to come back from that.

1156
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 3: If it takes six months, if it takes a year, like,

1157
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:00,799
Speaker 3: it's not going to feel good if you do it

1158
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 3: and you're not ready. So why not just take the

1159
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 3: time to like process what happen, raise your daughter, do

1160
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 3: it whenever you feel ready, because it's a lot to

1161
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 3: process somebody betraying your trust. No, you put it perfectly.

1162
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 2: And also I got to wait for the PI investigation

1163
00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 2: to come back.

1164
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 3: Which is a few weeks.

1165
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:23,359
Speaker 4: Oh, I was wondering if the turnaround time it's in depth.

1166
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 3: He was like, how in depth do you want to go?

1167
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 3: I was like, balls deep, to the bottom, to the

1168
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 3: bottom of the barrel.

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Speaker 5: I have just picturing this PI like outside someone's home

1170
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:34,280
Speaker 5: with like a camera. He's like hiding into the bushes,

1171
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 5: dressed like you are now just like getting fun.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm sure he's like this bitch is crazy because

1173
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:40,840
Speaker 3: I just like send him names. I'm like, here he is,

1174
00:51:40,880 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 3: this is his age, here's his birthday, here's a picture

1175
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:46,720
Speaker 3: of him. And he's like sounds good. Yeah. She was like, whoa,

1176
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 3: this bitch is wounded.

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Speaker 4: They don't hear from you for two weeks. You're like, sorry,

1178
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,360
Speaker 4: my investigator was wrapping up.

1179
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

1180
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 4: If someone asked you about You're like, I'll be back.

1181
00:51:57,719 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 3: To you in two weeks. Then walked with an answer, No,

1182
00:51:59,920 --> 00:52:02,319
Speaker 3: I have to like go and find dudes that like

1183
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 3: will not listen to this podcast because they will immediately

1184
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 3: run away. They'd be like, this bitch calls the PI.

1185
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 3: I don't want to be on that radar. We need

1186
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 3: to put this one behind a paywall, and I want

1187
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 3: a guy that's like, I have nothing to hide, do it?

1188
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 4: I dare you?

1189
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 3: Right? Eee?

1190
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 4: I me that's true.

1191
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: That would be hot. That would be enough to be like,

1192
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: I don't think I need to. If you're seemed very

1193
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:28,839
Speaker 1: into this investigation, what if you end up.

1194
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 3: Falling for the PI. Like that's the twist, Like, if

1195
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 3: you know the I think the PI is way too

1196
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 3: grown for me. He's hot though, he's pretty hot, is he? Yeah?

1197
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 2: But he's like fifties and been there, done that. Twenty

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Speaker 2: eight is the youngest, and I want to.

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Speaker 1: Say, like thirty eight would be the oldest, But again,

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00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 1: you're talking to a wounded woman right now, So we'll see.

1201
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:50,800
Speaker 3: We'll say, maybe the PI has another PI friend and

1202
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 3: they went to the I school together. You know, k

1203
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 3: you up? Just ask him, We'll ask him. I love it.

1204
00:52:56,280 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 3: I think you're in a great age range. They can

1205
00:52:58,719 --> 00:53:01,720
Speaker 3: dick you down the fuck a lot, over and over again.

1206
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 3: Twenty eight to thirty eight fields, that's that is the

1207
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:07,720
Speaker 3: sweet spot. You guys are fucking amazing. Where can people

1208
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:11,440
Speaker 3: listen to your podcast? And where's the next stop for

1209
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 3: the tour? We will be in Portland at Seattle Vancouver

1210
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Speaker 3: in the end of this month. We're going to Saint Louis,

1211
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Speaker 3: Kansas City, Pittsburgh, Indianapolis, to Troy, so that if you

1212
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:24,720
Speaker 3: guys want to come see us out and fun and crazy,

1213
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 3: and then everything is at Girls Gotta Podcast dot com

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Speaker 3: for show dates.

1215
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Speaker 5: I love it, And then you can follow us on

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Speaker 1: You guys are fucking amazing. Thank you so much for

1221
00:53:45,680 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: coming on my podcast and you're amazing. I'm going to

1222
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Speaker 1: slide in your DM with my number if you're ever

1223
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Speaker 1: in my area or I'm by you like, please take

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Speaker 1: me out.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to be that. That's stage five, Clinger, done

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Speaker 3: and done.

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Speaker 4: We would love it playing on us. We'll play on

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Speaker 4: you back.

1229
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Speaker 3: I love it. I love it. Have the best day

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Speaker 3: you guys.

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Speaker 4: Thank you all right, well, thank you fin