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Speaker 1: What's up its lift service.

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Speaker 2: I'm Angela yee yes, I'm doctor Mimi.

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Speaker 3: And I am Radio Raheem Devon.

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Speaker 1: Radio Raheem Devon. I love that doctor Mimi from Married

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Speaker 1: to Medicine. You are a psychiatrist.

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Speaker 2: I am a bored certificed, yes, certified.

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Speaker 1: So let's be clear. Some people are not bored.

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Speaker 4: Some people are not bored certified. I am, and I'm

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Speaker 4: very good at what I do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, we got to get all into it. And

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Speaker 1: what I love is having both of y'all here, okay,

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Speaker 1: because he's really like a love doctor. Yes, is that

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Speaker 1: a real thing?

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know, I mean I don't know. Usually

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Speaker 5: the men they call me the love doctor when they

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Speaker 5: want to call me a love king publicly.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, we don't want to get a coming, you.

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Speaker 5: Know, the Moniker, the Love King of Solin R and B. Y, Yes, the.

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Speaker 1: Love Radio, the love King of Solin R and B.

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Speaker 1: But today you're the love doctor because you're giving us lessons,

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Speaker 1: that is, and I want to see, like how we

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Speaker 1: jive on these things.

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Speaker 5: I will definitely speak from personal experience vicariously through you

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Speaker 5: two ladies.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, tell he's good right now I want

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Speaker 1: to ask you, doctor Mimi, for you joining the cast

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Speaker 1: and married to medicine, which the ratings have been.

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Speaker 2: Through the roof, Yes they have.

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Speaker 1: How is that for you though? Because I always think

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Speaker 1: about being a psychiatrist and being on that show. There's

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Speaker 1: a lot of things that happened that could be stressful.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, I mean life is stressful, okay, like look at

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Speaker 4: the climate that we're in. But just to bring like

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Speaker 4: I join the cast, just to bring auth authenticity, to

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Speaker 4: showcase like who we are as a family, and just

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Speaker 4: showcase mental health, like this is kind of what we do.

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Speaker 4: And then to be someone that's relatable, to be someone

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Speaker 4: who is like, hey, you can come, you can come

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Speaker 4: to your psychiatrist.

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Speaker 2: This is who I am.

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Speaker 4: I am that good professional girlfriend and we're gonna hold

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Speaker 4: each other accountable.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're liking, right, have you ever gone to a

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Speaker 1: psychiatrist or counsel?

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Speaker 5: I was one of those. I was one of those

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Speaker 5: black men in it. Thought for a long time it

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Speaker 5: didn't apply for me. I didn't need it. And then

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Speaker 5: and then you know, and then I had a loss.

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Speaker 5: I lost my dad, you know, uh, and you know

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Speaker 5: lose I think, you know, the only thing worse than

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Speaker 5: probably losing a parent is like losing a child. You know,

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't either one on anybody, but that's what that's

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Speaker 5: what put me in a space of where I had

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Speaker 5: to go in like you know, talk to a therapist

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Speaker 5: start and you start to go to you start going

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Speaker 5: down the rabbit hole and realizing your triggers and the

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Speaker 5: trauma that you've been carrying your entire life. You know,

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Speaker 5: whether that's ranging from you know, sexual abuse to a physical,

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Speaker 5: that you just just just encountered.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 5: I think the dopest thing about that has for me,

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Speaker 5: it that has been great about therapy was like the

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Speaker 5: homework assignments because you might not understand what the whole

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Speaker 5: work assignments are for in real time, but it's when

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Speaker 5: it's when you take that break from therapy or you know,

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Speaker 5: some people continue to go or you know, or you're

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Speaker 5: not you may not be going right now in real time,

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Speaker 5: but it's but but but the homework assignments you know

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Speaker 5: why they gave us homework.

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Speaker 3: In therapeutic, Yeah, therapeutic.

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Speaker 5: And you can you can actually when you're in it,

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Speaker 5: when you're in a position where you have to make

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Speaker 3: You don't want to crash.

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Speaker 4: And I tell I tell people like finding a good

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Speaker 4: psychiatrist and the therapist.

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Speaker 2: Is like dating.

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Speaker 4: So you just if you don't jus or vibe with

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Speaker 4: that psychiatrist or therapists initially, keep going.

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Speaker 2: Find someone that you can relate to. Don't give up.

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Speaker 2: And so it's like dating. And so like, yeah, you're.

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Speaker 4: Gonna get that good therapist and they're going to show

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Speaker 4: because there're some skills that you can try in real

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Speaker 1: This is how you deal with it. What'sn't an example

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Speaker 1: of like homework that you had that helped you.

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Speaker 5: I mean I say, like boundaries for one, like you

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Speaker 5: being scenarios and you'd be like, am I tripping so

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Speaker 5: you're not tripping. You're allowed to set a boundary. You're

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Speaker 5: allowed to like completely, if necessarily, shut down on somebody,

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Speaker 5: not for lack of love for them, but more so

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Speaker 5: for lack of love for yourself, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 5: because of you know, triggers are real, are a serious thing,

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Speaker 5: for Black men in particular, for us, you know, you know,

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Speaker 5: it's for women that want to celebrate the men in

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Speaker 4: Something sexy about a man doing their own mental health work.

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Speaker 4: You're just like girl, like, yes, you are so in

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Speaker 4: like black men in particular doing their work and just

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Speaker 1: What's really hard is when you want to ask your man, like,

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Speaker 1: like nothing, nothing like sometimes you know, and I don't know,

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Speaker 5: We've been made to feel like I think we've been

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Speaker 5: think about it from a time from a time you know,

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Speaker 5: then you become this man and you and you're trying

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Speaker 5: to be able to identify, well, where's a safe space

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Speaker 5: to like the dunk?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, what was your relationship like with your father?

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Speaker 5: My father, we spoke, we spoke a few times a day,

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Speaker 3: But also he was he was a genius. He was

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Speaker 3: So he'd be up and just calling and doing that checking,

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Speaker 5: So that's something that I that that I miss, you know,

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Speaker 4: It ain't so proud there just there is so proud

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Speaker 5: But it's a but, But it's a it's a responsibility

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Speaker 3: So when you know, when.

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Speaker 5: People say, well, hey, yeah, you're the hardest working person,

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Speaker 5: my grandmother worked. You know, I saw you know, women.

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Speaker 3: I saw hard work.

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Speaker 5: You know, my first job I had at fourteen sixteen

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Speaker 3: Can have from you know, of course nowadays which the

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Speaker 1: Smarter, yeah, not harder, many different.

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Speaker 3: You want to enjoy life.

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Speaker 5: You want to enjoy you want to be able to

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Speaker 5: enjoy the fruits of the labor, smell of roses, you know,

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Speaker 5: and and and the kids and all the things.

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Speaker 3: You know, so balances is necessary.

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Speaker 5: And one of the things that one of the dopest

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Speaker 5: got into like, well, what are you doing for yourself,

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Speaker 5: like self love. So for me, it was like, well,

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Speaker 5: what's some of the things you enjoy doing?

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Speaker 5: So the feedback on twenty lessons of love has been great.

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Speaker 5: The grass is not greener on the other side.

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Speaker 1: Have a grass is greener on the other side? Story

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Speaker 1: Have you ever had to be like I just want

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Speaker 5: Yeah about like double back on some like absolutely like

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Speaker 5: But but even but even as even as creatives, I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, from experience, like and then you know, we have

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Speaker 2: I got to make sure that sious.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mis serve you ups like customer service, customer service,

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Speaker 5: like you know you have to make the slow damn.

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Speaker 5: Then you test it out. You don't want to give

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Speaker 1: Do you ever put on this? Yes, so you do.

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Speaker 1: You will put on a song.

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Speaker 3: We had that discussion. I'm going to will test it out.

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Speaker 5: Yes, a repeat that you should call it a playlist.

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Speaker 3: Now that I'm on the choir, still called it a

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Speaker 1: Lay your head.

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Speaker 3: Is, lay it down head whatever windows you like?

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Speaker 1: GZ what if you have to say some of your

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Speaker 6: You know I'm big on communication, Okay, Yeah, I feel

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Speaker 6: Two plus two equals four. But so the three plus one,

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Speaker 3: Say? Love is a verb of action.

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Speaker 6: Yes, action speaks louder than words. Showing your words is

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Speaker 5: Not just sexual satisfaction. It's more than just a four

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Speaker 1: We love it, that's all right? What about you?

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Speaker 4: To be attracted to that person. Okay, well, yes, we

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Speaker 2: I attracted to you?

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Speaker 2: What do you get me? And then a number two?

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Speaker 1: An attraction for you is different than somebody else, right

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Speaker 1: it is, yes, but I might be attracted to somebody

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Speaker 2: Yes, but get what you want?

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Speaker 4: Get like okay, like no, this is what I like,

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Speaker 4: this is what I want. But also apologize quickly. If

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Speaker 4: playing games like okay, we yes, this can be petty,

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Speaker 4: but I'm apologize. We don't have to reconcile right now.

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Speaker 2: I'm apologized very quickly.

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Speaker 1: Right, Okay, I like that.

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Speaker 2: Get what you want? Apologize quickly?

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Speaker 1: Oh you know what I would say. One of mine

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Speaker 4: That's everything, and that affirmation goes a long way.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you just got you got to set it up.

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Speaker 4: Set it up right, Okay, even if that's not your

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Speaker 2: Okay, do the things.

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Speaker 4: I see why, Hey, my kids were eighteen months apart.

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Speaker 1: You wasn't playing now. I want to ask you this

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Sweet Tea's husband is a psychiatrist. I'm a psychiatrist,

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Speaker 4: so we're in the same community.

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Speaker 2: No shade, no Tea.

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Speaker 4: But will I be Sweet Tea's friend? Like, I don't

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Speaker 4: we tried, it didn't work, and that's and that's fair,

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Speaker 2: But let's be clear, nobody brought me on the show.

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Speaker 2: You know, I was placed here.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, so check that. How do you feel? How

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Speaker 2: Season twelve? It is good, It's really good.

441
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 4: Last year I would say I was observing the mess.

442
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,920
Speaker 4: Now I am in some of the mess.

443
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 1: Okay, I tried to mediate I did. I did. I

444
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 1: think sometimes it's hard with the women on the show

445
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,480
Speaker 1: because they're getting into it. They don't want nobody to.

446
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 4: Know, they don't know, they don't want any resolve. But

447
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 4: that's who I am, Like, yes, that's my profession. But

448
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,520
Speaker 4: also you wanted people to have like meaningful dialogue like this,

449
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:48,400
Speaker 4: have some conversations.

450
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,320
Speaker 2: And they're not trying to hear each other, and so

451
00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:51,960
Speaker 2: let me go ahead and just fight it out.

452
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,800
Speaker 4: Untie, you s fight it out, Chad, Okay, go ahead.

453
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:59,480
Speaker 4: But it's been really good. I am just developing more

454
00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:01,120
Speaker 4: deeper connections with the ladies.

455
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:03,920
Speaker 2: But you know, it's a lot of history.

456
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 4: We've been on for like twelve seasons and this is

457
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:07,959
Speaker 4: my second season.

458
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,880
Speaker 2: But you know me, coming into this, I'm like, y'all.

459
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 4: Got a lot of ship, did y'all feel side? Here's

460
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,160
Speaker 4: the thing, I'm not gonna pick a side. I'm gonna

461
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 4: pick like who's holding Like, I'm gonna hold you accountable,

462
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 4: and so that is that's my side, the side of accountability.

463
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:24,240
Speaker 4: So I don't care who If you're in the wrong,

464
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 4: you're in the wrong. And so I'm going to tell

465
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 4: you I'm also going to.

466
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:28,120
Speaker 2: Deliver that ship.

467
00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:30,720
Speaker 1: To the death with each other.

468
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 6: Yes, instead of accepting accountability or admitting like Okay, what

469
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 6: I did wasn't right or whatever the case.

470
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:37,439
Speaker 2: They over talking.

471
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 4: Yes, But the thing is, you have to remember the

472
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 4: loudest person is usually the person with the most silent struggles.

473
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 1: So look at that now. I think we've seen that

474
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 1: in like the last episode, Doctor Heavenly really broke down,

475
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 1: Like we just see everybody's dealing with so much, and

476
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 1: sometimes they don't know what the other person is dealing with, no,

477
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 1: because everybody tries to act so.

478
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:07,360
Speaker 4: Strong, literally like you don't know what the other person is,

479
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:09,679
Speaker 4: what they have filmed, or what scene they have on

480
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 4: their personal story. And so when we're all coming together.

481
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,240
Speaker 4: You're just like, okay, and then when you're watching it.

482
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:16,880
Speaker 2: You're like, I don't know that what's going on?

483
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 3: You know?

484
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 2: Yes, I want to ask differently. I'm so sorry, and.

485
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 1: That's but it's like we don't know what anybody has

486
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 1: going on, you know. Sorry. Has anybody ever tried to

487
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 1: get you on the show. No one ever tried to

488
00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 1: be like, yo, come be you know transparents.

489
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Speaker 3: I can tell you this.

490
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

491
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Speaker 3: I had been offered a role. I was offered.

492
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 5: I was supposed I was I was supposed were offered

493
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 5: to play the boyfriend of a.

494
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 3: Of an actress, your actress. If you're on the show, I.

495
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 1: Can see you would be Reality Love.

496
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Speaker 5: And hip Hop office for the first up and hip hop,

497
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Speaker 5: the first original level hip Okay.

498
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Speaker 3: I had offers for what was it? I think it

499
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: was l A Housewives, the.

500
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 1: Original okay, the way the Real Housewives.

501
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 3: Real Housewives of l A.

502
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 6: No, that would make up real housewives wasn't.

503
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,159
Speaker 3: In l A hip Hop it was it was. It

504
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,159
Speaker 3: was one of those county there was an l A.

505
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 3: There was an l A show with wives some times.

506
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Speaker 1: Of sometimes wid you consider it.

507
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 3: No, I just anything where I can't control the narrative.

508
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, that's exactly what really is.

509
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 5: Like any thing is, it's just like you know, for me,

510
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 5: it's it's like you know, for for some common senses

511
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 5: in common for me anything, I can't control the narrative.

512
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 3: I just, I just I was kind to stay away

513
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 3: from it.

514
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 1: I don't feel like, while you're really great at talking,

515
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 1: you're also you got a little mysterious about you.

516
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, and that's that, and that's an old

517
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 5: schoolness to that, Like you know what I mean, where

518
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 5: like you know, artists, is that you know, if you

519
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,639
Speaker 5: study the greats like they didn't just give it all away,

520
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, Like, you know, you have

521
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 5: to you have to create some mistique, you know what

522
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 5: I mean. In the world of like social media even now,

523
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 5: I mean, like you can you can literally give it

524
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 5: all away and then there's nothing exciting to to to enjoy.

525
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 3: You got to leave something for the imagination.

526
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 6: And that's exactly what's lost these days when it comes

527
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 6: to the industry, I think and anybody, Yeah, there's no

528
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 6: figuring it out.

529
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 5: There's like you know, I'm like, you know, coming from

530
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 5: humble beginnings and jumping off the porch and all the

531
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,720
Speaker 5: things you know, you protected, things you love, you know

532
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 5: what I mean, especially especially if you're in the streets

533
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 5: like you, you ain't on social media showing every so

534
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 5: if you look at like how to, how to, how

535
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 5: the wiis and the youths, you can you can literally

536
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 5: go to an Instagram page and social media Facebook and

537
00:24:58,760 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 5: put the whole case together.

538
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: They have and they will. Because sometimes it's a balance too,

539
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I'm so bad really at social media.

540
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,640
Speaker 1: I feel like it's all about like work, and sometimes

541
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to be better at doing things right.

542
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: Is that like a struggle to to be to want

543
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,240
Speaker 1: to give more because it makes it more Sometimes it

544
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 1: makes things more relatable, like when you give more and

545
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: people know what you're going through and they're like, oh,

546
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: that's what.

547
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 3: I've warmed up to. It. It comes with the territory

548
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 3: of the job of doing.

549
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 5: You have to do a rollout, you have to let

550
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 5: people know, you have to do marketing, you have to

551
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 5: do promotion, you have to let let people know what's coming. Right,

552
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,199
Speaker 5: But you don't have to give everybody every aspect of

553
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 5: your life good, better and.

554
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 3: Different, because you know we're already under magnified, like what's

555
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 3: left for you?

556
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 5: Like, and I think everybody on these couches can relate that,

557
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 5: you know, at one at one time or another. Being

558
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,160
Speaker 5: a public figure it has challenges, you know what I mean,

559
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,400
Speaker 5: And it can affect your mental health. So there's nothing

560
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 5: wrong with you saying taking accountability of saying like like hey,

561
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 5: like I'm not going to show everything, or or I

562
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 5: take a break from this when I need to, you

563
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 5: know what I mean, Or I control what I want

564
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 5: people to see, you know, because everybody ain't.

565
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 3: Here to love you or like you.

566
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 5: You know, but but you know, and like you said,

567
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 5: you know, opinions of like assholes everybody got.

568
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 1: And sometimes they're shitty.

569
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we had to make My husband and I

570
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 4: had to make a decision what we wanted to share,

571
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 4: and we wanted to We made a conscious decision to

572
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 4: share our family dynamic and so just we ously, yes,

573
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 4: we have a son that has special needs and has autism,

574
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 4: and we're just like, hey, we know the struggles, like

575
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 4: we know it can get it can get heavy. And

576
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 4: just the outpouring of fans and just supporters of like

577
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 4: thank you for showing my type of family and allowing

578
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 4: me to be seen. I'm like, okay, this is why

579
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 4: I did this, Like.

580
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: You know how many people I know who have autistic children?

581
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: So many people and like what they go through and

582
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 1: so it is amazing.

583
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 4: And we didn't share with close friends and family until

584
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 4: Stevie was five that he had this diagnosis because we're

585
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 4: just trying to figure out, Okay, how do we navigate this?

586
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 4: And then how do we communicate this because there's such

587
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 4: like so much unknown and we are constantly learning our

588
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 4: child and learning like, okay, what are his gifts?

589
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 2: How do we cultivate that? What do we do?

590
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 4: Okay, what services we need? But just choosing to show

591
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,360
Speaker 4: that it was tough and every time I do talk

592
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 4: about it get emotional, but I'm just like, okay.

593
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 2: This is what I was.

594
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: So is that you feel like that's the support right there?

595
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 4: Absolutely forget Yes, yes it's the drama gonna be there, okay,

596
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 4: but just yes, showcase like what this looks like and

597
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 4: if this is going to help one family, I didn't,

598
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 4: this is good.

599
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 3: I love that nothing for me.

600
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 5: I think for me it was it was like the

601
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 5: Bravey'll be able to talk about like my dad and

602
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 5: the mental health aspect or like you know, and you know,

603
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 5: from being down on Congress and lobbying about mental health

604
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 5: and mental health awareness, right, and then you realize when

605
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 5: people pull you to the side, like how one degree separation,

606
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,640
Speaker 5: you know, or how common it is for someone to say, well, hey,

607
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 5: my partner, my child, my parent too as well, you know,

608
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 5: has has been going through a crisis, like what what

609
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 5: you know, what what medication was on? Or like you

610
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 5: know what I mean, one of the dopest things for

611
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,239
Speaker 5: my dad even you know, I wish they had had

612
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 5: it years ago, but I was I was able to

613
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 5: convince him to get on the shot, being able to

614
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 5: take a uh you know, appeal every day.

615
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 1: You know, I didn't even know about that.

616
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 5: Yes they have you know, they have a shot, and

617
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 5: you would take you you know, so you go get

618
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 5: the shot.

619
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 4: Once a month every three months. You don't have to

620
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 4: worry about everything.

621
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I mean.

622
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: So that's way easier than every day.

623
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, but it's just you know, so so

624
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 5: so to be able to to share that, you know,

625
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 5: it's not here anymore, you know, So so I didn't know,

626
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 5: but I still was kind of like on the fence,

627
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 5: like man, that's his business.

628
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, because sometimes we want to protect like our family too.

629
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: I think about that all the time.

630
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 5: But again, when you talk about mental health in particular

631
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 5: and then really getting an understanding for it and a

632
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,240
Speaker 5: movement that's happening out there as it relates to mental

633
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 5: health right now, it's so important because you know we're

634
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 5: talking about from the streets to the pole pit. You

635
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 5: can't it's not something you can.

636
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 2: Just pray away.

637
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 5: Some of these things require medications. Some of these things

638
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 5: required therapy and outside help.

639
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 4: And just talking about it like you're breaking that particular stigma,

640
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 4: and especially in today's climate where like funding for mental

641
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 4: health is being reduced, like people don't know, you don't

642
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 4: there's like a nine to eighty eight hotline that you

643
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 4: can call that's for mental health crisis. You don't have

644
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 4: to call nine one one. You can call nine eight

645
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 4: eight and get someone to your home to do an

646
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 4: assessment if that is necessary.

647
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes people are scared to call the police.

648
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, if you if you feel like it's a

649
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 5: mental health situation, yes, you know, get.

650
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 4: A alternative to nine one one, right.

651
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: You know I was saying this the other day, but

652
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: you know, my brother died a couple of months ago

653
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: from a brain aneurysm, and I was in the airport.

654
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: I had talked about it just on the air, like

655
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 1: the symptoms he had, and this guy stopped me in

656
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: the lounge and he was like, can I talk to

657
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 1: you for a second. He was like, you know, you

658
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 1: saved my brother's life because you talked about that on

659
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: the radio and my brother had a really bad headache

660
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: and I told him go to the doctor. It was

661
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: all the same things that you said your brother had experienced,

662
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: and he had an aneurysm and it saved his life

663
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 1: because I was listening to you on the radio and

664
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 1: then a couple of weeks later that happened. And I

665
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: do think sometimes that talking about things, you know, that

666
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: is something that is going to help.

667
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 2: Somebody else in the future.

668
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 1: So I was like, that's so crazy. He was like,

669
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: I never thought I would see you in person, but

670
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: I just want to tell you thank you. You know

671
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: this story about what I got to ask you this.

672
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 3: Here, let's get.

673
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: Because you did say you old school about certain things, right,

674
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: So what about when is the time to come out there,

675
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: like you know, as a couple or you know, something

676
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 1: like that that.

677
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 5: I think for me, Yeah, I think probably like like

678
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 5: I would probably say, like maybe if you've popped the question.

679
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: Or or you know, have you ever to anybody?

680
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 3: I have not.

681
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 5: I've been on the fence about proposing to someone once

682
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 5: upon a time and then I like prayed about it

683
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 5: and asked God for like confirmation and then I and

684
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 5: then I did probably the worst thing ever, went to

685
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 5: go go look for something.

686
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 3: And I found what I was looking for.

687
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: Well, you know what they say when you go look,

688
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: So what did you find? I gotta know because you're

689
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: not saying who it is?

690
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: Messages?

691
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: Was it pictures? Was it okay, Yeah, you're better than that.

692
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: But is that something that is like a goal of

693
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 1: yours are important to you or could.

694
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 5: You just I think I just I just think that's

695
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 5: a different world outside of like my world, Like you

696
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 5: know what I mean.

697
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 3: Like I just had to tell somebody close to me.

698
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 3: We seem like.

699
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 5: They they I think they feel like I don't support

700
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 5: them enough through social media, like you know what I

701
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 5: mean in terms of like like that their business owner.

702
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 5: And my thing is like I do, I do what

703
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 5: I can do, but but but the reality is I

704
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 5: support you in real life, which matters even more.

705
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 3: You know, I love you in real life. I support

706
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 3: you in real life.

707
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 5: There's nothing that you know, no matter what we've been through,

708
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 5: what stage we are right now in our life, in

709
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 5: our lives, it's nothing you could never not call me

710
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 5: for if in my power, if I can do it,

711
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 5: I'm not. And I feel like that. You know I've

712
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 5: been in some situations. I feel like you've been there

713
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 5: for me in that space, you know what I mean.

714
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 5: So because the day that happens, but it ight up

715
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 5: like yeah, you know that the you know, the internet

716
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 5: could crash tomorrow.

717
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 3: You know, everything is you.

718
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: Know, but I still.

719
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: Got your back.

720
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 3: The real relationships, it's gonna be there.

721
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 2: Yeah about that real life, Well that's your boundary though.

722
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 2: You just had a like, I support you in real life, okay.

723
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 5: I like age, knowledge, experience and growth and you know

724
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 5: what I mean, understanding things that we didn't understand twenty

725
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 5: years ago, twenty five years ago, you know either, you know,

726
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 5: I would.

727
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: Love a woman to do like a response on to

728
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 1: twenty Lessons of Love, and one of them got to

729
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: be like you gotta post me you know what?

730
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 3: Who would be? The who would be? The who would

731
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 3: who would.

732
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: Who would do the response. Yeah, he says, it would

733
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: be a good response. You know what else would be good?

734
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 6: Though?

735
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: No, lie, because she's funny Walker.

736
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 2: I was about to say that in the summer.

737
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: Yes, I can see Erica to be posted, to be

738
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 1: posted like it is that. Don't post me.

739
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 3: I'm not taking.

740
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: Complicated over there.

741
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,839
Speaker 2: I mean, if you're in a committed relationship.

742
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 6: I was just in the one year and some change

743
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 6: long relationship and he posted me a lot, and then

744
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 6: when it was over, I was like, delete all that ship.

745
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: Yeah it's done. I wonder, how did you know that

746
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: Steve was the one for you.

747
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 2: I'm okay. Here's the thing.

748
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 4: So the first time Steve and I liked spent a

749
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 4: time together, he told me that he wrote in his

750
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 4: journal He's gonna kill me.

751
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 2: He wrote in his journal, like I think I found

752
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 2: my wife.

753
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 4: I found her, and I'm just like okay, and I

754
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 4: have my issues idea.

755
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 2: Like I'm like, okay, I'm this young doctor.

756
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 4: I'm feeling myself okay, and I yes, I got the people,

757
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:05,240
Speaker 4: but he people.

758
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: I want the people. I can get the people people,

759
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 2: but like this guy, like.

760
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,400
Speaker 4: He he told me that he wrote in this journal,

761
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 4: but I had never met a man like this, Like

762
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 4: this man was god fearing, he was like attractive and

763
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 4: I'm just like and he was you know, just I

764
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 4: like a guy with range. I can take you anywhere

765
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 4: and we're gonna still, we're gonna blend in, we're gonna

766
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 4: do the things. And I'm just like he got it

767
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,800
Speaker 4: all together. And you know, you be a little scared. Okay,

768
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,240
Speaker 4: what's wrong, Yes, what's wrong?

769
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 1: Because that's no.

770
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 4: It was just like, okay, we're gonna, we're gonna be

771
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 4: all in this thing. And so I haven't looked back,

772
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 4: like this is I'm blessed.

773
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's amazing because it feels like when you

774
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 1: watch the show, you can see, yes, your man does.

775
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 2: Not play about me.

776
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,240
Speaker 4: He is like he's when when a woman is saying

777
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 4: that she wants to feel safe, like that is what

778
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 4: I feel like, Like I feel protected.

779
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 2: I feel like I can just.

780
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 4: When I when I walk in the room and he's

781
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 4: there like he don't see nobody else, right, and I'm

782
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 4: just like, oh my gosh. And then like the way

783
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 4: that he boosts me up and hiked me up, I'm

784
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:10,320
Speaker 4: like I can do anything, so like yes, so beautiful things.

785
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,240
Speaker 2: See what I'm saying he's like, yeah, to learn my lessons.

786
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 1: Now, talk to me about this partnership that you have

787
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: because you're putting out this project. It is quiet Storm.

788
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 5: Oh the quad Storm Lover Volume one, which is my

789
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 5: most recent project, slided.

790
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 1: To drop by the way, first R and B so

791
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: artists to do mixtapes period.

792
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was the first R and B sorry to

793
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 5: do the mixsage Jack the beats, you know that was

794
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 5: that was it was like a fusion for me.

795
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: List album to lis it a poetry. That's my joint

796
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 1: right there.

797
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 3: Preach preach.

798
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 1: Yeah.

799
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 5: So so so for those first of all, to talk

800
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 5: about the title Quia Storm Lover Volume one. For the

801
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 5: last year and some change, now, I've had the number

802
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 5: one nighttime music show in the d m V area.

803
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 5: I grew up, grew up listening to to w h

804
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 5: U R ninety six point three w h U R

805
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 5: and listening to Melvin Lindsay the Quiet on like that

806
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 5: was just like a thing in my household or in

807
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 5: the red Fiat with my mother. So I went from being,

808
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 5: you know, from listening to now being the guy in

809
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,760
Speaker 5: the hot seat every night, you know, giving love language

810
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 5: tips and and uh and just connecting with community in

811
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 5: a different way. I'm sure you know from doing you know,

812
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 5: being in radio and media for decades, right that it

813
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:34,959
Speaker 5: connects you a different way, you know than.

814
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 3: Being an artist. You know.

815
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 5: Uh and uh so I wanted to. I felt this

816
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 5: is a perfect opportunity to fuse the two. I'm hoping

817
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 5: to be syndicated at some point, you know what I

818
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 5: mean that that that that is a bucket list goal

819
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 5: for me. But in right now, I'm enjoying, you know,

820
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 5: being at h u R. I'm and enjoining my h

821
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 5: u R family, my extended XM series XM family, and

822
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 5: I wanted to do a fusion so when I'm not

823
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 5: gonna give it away, when we listen to the project,

824
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 5: which drops, by the way, on February thirteenth, ex exclusively

825
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 5: on even do biz, which is a directed consumer platform,

826
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 5: so you know, CDs.

827
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 3: Are back, Get a CD player, these are back. Finally,

828
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 3: get a Vinyl never.

829
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 6: Left my car still got a TD player where they

830
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:23,879
Speaker 6: came with a CD player. I never put a CD

831
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 6: in it, but like a year in I was like is.

832
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 5: And you know, Vinyl never left in cassettes, you know,

833
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 5: for those that just want fly memorabilia, you know, we're

834
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 5: gonna have cassettes too. All of these things will be

835
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 5: provided as well, as you know for my top tier

836
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 5: supporters over even if there's four price points of how

837
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 5: you can support for my top tier supporters, though, not

838
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 5: only do you get Quiet Storm Lever Value one, you

839
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 5: get a whole nother secret album.

840
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 3: Oh wow, that unlocks for you that you can enjoy.

841
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 5: And uh, you know, platform runs just like you know

842
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 5: Apple Music or Title or any of your streaming platforms.

843
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,399
Speaker 5: But but but but it's exclusive where the fan can

844
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 5: only listen to the music.

845
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 3: Uh there, you know.

846
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: So so for people that are super like, if you're

847
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 1: just want to support be a fan, go to even

848
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:13,800
Speaker 1: die biz because that is direct to consumer.

849
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 5: Like you said, and me, I studied, I studied the culture.

850
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,919
Speaker 5: I studied, So I started using even three years ago.

851
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 5: It's not my first release over there. I started using

852
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 5: a platform because of an artist, Lar Russell. We just

853
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 5: did this, you know, just signed with rock Nation last

854
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:30,879
Speaker 5: week and just performed on the super Bowl.

855
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 3: So I've been watching.

856
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 5: I've been an early Larrussell fan, but watching, you know,

857
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 5: been able to take tips from what he's done right

858
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 5: as a as a as an emerging artist and you know,

859
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 5: and apply it to my to my career as an

860
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 5: independent artist. He was the top selling artists over there

861
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 5: at the time at even you know, he was a

862
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 5: case study artist, right and I'm a top selling R

863
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 5: and B artists over there right now, you know, in

864
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 5: terms in terms of like you know, independent music, and

865
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 5: it wouldn't be without the fans. So you know, I

866
00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 5: can't I can't sell these can't sell music without somebody

867
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 5: purchasing it, you know what I mean. So for all

868
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 5: my directed consumer you know, supporters and music levers that

869
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 5: support brand Raheem Devine all of these years. You know,

870
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 5: let's make a bold statement. And I'm only looking I'm

871
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 5: only looking for a thousand people to support the first

872
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 5: week right here.

873
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 3: I'm cool. I'm with that.

874
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 5: You know, they'll be, they'll be. There'll be a full

875
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 5: release on March six. You know, we'll be available everywhere

876
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 5: excluding Spotify. You know, I have my own reasons for

877
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 5: not you know, using Spotify. It doesn't my moral compass.

878
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 5: You know, they've been running ice ads, you know, so

879
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 5: yeah so yeah, yeah, so so so for me, and

880
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 5: we've already been getting robbed anyway.

881
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 3: You know, uh, you know.

882
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:50,760
Speaker 1: It might be the lowest payouts.

883
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:52,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know what I mean, so so so so

884
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 5: I haven't been uploading any of my you know, all

885
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:57,720
Speaker 5: my future music.

886
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 3: That's just you know, I'm like leaving the stuff. Lot

887
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:00,600
Speaker 3: of five things.

888
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 1: Okay, we're with it. We got to support you and

889
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 1: that's a great education, you know, because sometimes we don't.

890
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 1: If you don't know better, you can't do better.

891
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 5: But it's all slow jims, you know what I mean.

892
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 5: There's no there's no up tempos on this record.

893
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 1: I love it, and it's right before Valentine. That's why

894
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: you get it.

895
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 5: You're right, get right, get right. But any night can

896
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 5: be Valentine's night.

897
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 2: You better tell.

898
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 1: Let me ask what did y'all think about Bad Bunny

899
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 1: during the super Bowl since we haven't.

900
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 3: I think it was amazing.

901
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 2: Yes, I think it's vibes. That's the thing. I didn't

902
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 2: have to understand what was going like, it's vibe. This

903
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:37,360
Speaker 2: is culture.

904
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,320
Speaker 1: That's the thing about music too, because I feel like

905
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: music is a unifying language. Yes, because you know, I

906
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: used to work for Wu Tang back in the day,

907
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: and they would performing Japan, they would perform internationally. You

908
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: know those people, they weren't speaking English, but they were

909
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: at the concept turn it up like sold out shows.

910
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 3: I'll say this. You know, when when the vibration of

911
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 3: love is in the music and in the frequency, you

912
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:03,320
Speaker 3: can feel language. Know, the language doesn't matter because.

913
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:04,240
Speaker 1: We know how you perform.

914
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you can feel it.

915
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 5: You know, you know it'll make you feel a way,

916
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, like like like it's supposed

917
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 5: to you know, so shout out to you know, bad

918
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 5: money for using his superpowers for good.

919
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 1: Have you ever been with a woman who couldn't speak English?

920
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, that must have been some good communication.

921
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:30,800
Speaker 2: A lot of non verbals, nonverbal, a lot of non verbal.

922
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:46,959
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, communication are universal. Yeah right here, Yeah

923
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: that's amazing. Yeah right there, it worked out for you.

924
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: I love that for you. Now you know we're talking

925
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: about Oh I got your lessons.

926
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,879
Speaker 2: Yes, apologize quickly and get what you want. I mean,

927
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 2: you have to be attracted, you have.

928
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 5: To be accountability ability that when you said, I think

929
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 5: accountability comes to mind.

930
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,360
Speaker 3: Effort, I think, and compromise.

931
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, so it doesn't have to be black and white.

932
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 4: We can agree to disagree, we can we can work

933
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 4: in that gray area for sure.

934
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: And sometimes that gray area is kind of where we

935
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:25,439
Speaker 2: need to be in the first place.

936
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 1: Hygiene yea great areas of dangerous soap and water hiding. Yes. Yes,

937
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 1: don't get into bed after being outside all day without

938
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: taking a shower, you know, don't you hop off that stage?

939
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 3: Was your wash your shack.

940
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:57,240
Speaker 1: Wash you yes, off the stage and be like okay.

941
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 7: No, we've got to hop anow no sugar, yes, and

942
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 7: losing those feet okay, yes.

943
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 1: You know. I remember when I was younger, this guy

944
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: I was talking to, he tried to like, just come

945
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 1: from off the street and getting a bit. You want

946
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 1: to go get in the showers.

947
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 2: You got outside on you yourself.

948
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 1: I feel like guys aren't as concerned about hygiene as women.

949
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: I don't know really really like as far as because

950
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:30,479
Speaker 1: y'all would put on like the same jeans three days

951
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 1: in a row.

952
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 2: And they will wear the same tracksuit.

953
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And then you guys would do stuff like

954
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,439
Speaker 1: take a ship and then come getting a bed.

955
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 6: No, no, you know, we need no, I never I've never.

956
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 1: Wipe it off.

957
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 2: No, we need to get in the shower.

958
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 3: The water on behalf of them men who were so

959
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 3: wives hit that y'all with some peppermint so speak for themselves.

960
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:09,319
Speaker 1: I mean we talked about lessons. What do you think

961
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 1: are some things that are overrated in the bedroom If

962
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:15,439
Speaker 1: you have to say something that's overrated, like will people

963
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: be asking like this all that? But I could do without.

964
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 3: It, I don't think.

965
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 5: I think when it comes to the bedroom, you're talking

966
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 5: about intimacy, I think whatever, whatever, you know, whatever you

967
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 5: figure like you and your partner is into, Like, I

968
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 5: don't think anything should be overrated. I think that, but

969
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 5: I think that you know, when it comes to intimacy, though,

970
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,840
Speaker 5: you have you have two different types of you have

971
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 5: two different types of of of lovers.

972
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 3: You have givers and takers.

973
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 5: So you have somebody that's there to basically more so

974
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 5: receive or may not be ready to put that put

975
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 5: the put the effort in.

976
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

977
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 5: I think that's what kind of like with a term

978
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 5: two minute brother, you know, probably kind of you know,

979
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 5: or they're just trying to get theirs off, you know

980
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 5: what I mean? Like you know, and then you have it,

981
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 5: but then you have the type of partner is there

982
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:03,440
Speaker 5: to get you off.

983
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 1: Which one of you who me, he's definitely pleasing.

984
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 5: You know heard them, you know, but they don't get

985
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,399
Speaker 5: a marathon. Yeah, I mean, I'm not everybody don't deserve

986
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 5: a marathon either. You have to you have to make

987
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 5: sure that you have to make sure now that's the thing,

988
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 5: understanding who you are, and that everybody is not deserving

989
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 5: of you, like you know what I mean too, And

990
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 5: that's something.

991
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 2: Why you're there in the first place, marathon.

992
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 5: What I'm saying is being able to read the room.

993
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:36,359
Speaker 5: Like when you get older, you get you know how

994
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 5: to read.

995
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 3: The room so you can look, you can you can

996
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 3: look admire and know that.

997
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 1: That's not it right, you know what I'm saying. How

998
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 1: do you think it's different for you, like sexually, from

999
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: when you were say, ten years ago to where you

1000
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 1: are now as far as because you know, we're talking

1001
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: about read the room. Everybody doesn't deserve that. And I

1002
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:57,720
Speaker 1: think sometimes when you're younger, you make decisions that maybe

1003
00:46:57,719 --> 00:46:59,919
Speaker 1: now ten years later you're like, I'm not wasting my time.

1004
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, because ultimately, you know, it's a lot

1005
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 5: of stuff out here we don't want, right, bigoted, and

1006
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 5: and then and then aside from that, you know, so

1007
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 5: so you know, so there's a sexual health factor.

1008
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 3: Right.

1009
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 5: But but but then but then that you know, things

1010
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 5: can happen, things can happen. You can, you know you can,

1011
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 5: you can pro create, you know what I mean? Like

1012
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 5: you know, it's about what you're seeking for in that partnership,

1013
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 5: somebody that that maybe you can not only love, but

1014
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 5: do business with, and you know, you can support their

1015
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:34,439
Speaker 5: business and invest in them and they can invest in you.

1016
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 5: And you know, I think, but I think the biggest

1017
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 5: investment is time. And when you get older, you realize it,

1018
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 5: you know, like me, I value time differently than I

1019
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,240
Speaker 5: ever had. Absolutely know, I understand. I understand the three

1020
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 5: you know, the three grade. You know, I got a

1021
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 5: book I've been working on and you know it's it's

1022
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 5: still be coming out. And one of the things I

1023
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 5: talk about, you know, the three greatest gifts that I

1024
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 5: feel like the Creator gave us is the gift of time,

1025
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 5: right to gift, the decision and free will, you know,

1026
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:00,959
Speaker 5: and the gift of wanting another. When you talk about

1027
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 5: the gift of time, right from the time we were

1028
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:04,399
Speaker 5: all born, we went out of time.

1029
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 3: And the older you get.

1030
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: You can't get it back.

1031
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 3: You can, you know, I can't get that back.

1032
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 5: Value you know what I mean, so so so, and

1033
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 5: then when you realize when you're not in the situation

1034
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 5: and the more that you waste it, you feel like

1035
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,280
Speaker 5: you may have wasted time and that in that one space,

1036
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 5: in that area, then then you got to be able

1037
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:25,919
Speaker 5: to you gotta be able to go within evaluate and say, okay.

1038
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,360
Speaker 3: Well, where where the where was where? Where? Where?

1039
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 5: Where was our flawed or what what lesson am I

1040
00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 5: going to learn out of this right? Or what steps

1041
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,800
Speaker 5: that I don't repeat those steps again?

1042
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 3: You know? And that's why and that and that's and

1043
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:38,240
Speaker 3: that's where.

1044
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:44,839
Speaker 5: Because you mentioned great areas earlier, and twenty twenty five

1045
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 5: was like great area territory for me, you know what

1046
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,160
Speaker 5: I'm saying, So like and gray areas can be can

1047
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:54,360
Speaker 5: be can be dangerous. If y'all not on the same page,

1048
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 5: y'all might think y'all on the same page, you know

1049
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:56,479
Speaker 5: what I'm saying.

1050
00:48:56,520 --> 00:49:02,479
Speaker 3: So you know, for me, I think the blunt, blunt, raw,

1051
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,719
Speaker 3: real conversations are important.

1052
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 5: They're way more important than kind of living in the

1053
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 5: great area of living in the in the in the

1054
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 5: fairy tale that we can all live in. Because you

1055
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, Sometimes that that that can it

1056
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 5: can create a security blanket, or it can create you know,

1057
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 5: it's like, you know, people get mad when I don't

1058
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 5: fairy tales don't exist to me, you know what I'm saying,

1059
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 5: Like like, but.

1060
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: Then when you see adapt to me, that feels like a.

1061
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 2: Fair no no with my husband and I No.

1062
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 5: I'm not let I want to misconstrue what I'm saying

1063
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:42,439
Speaker 5: when I say, like, yeah, her version of the fairy tale.

1064
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm sure that there's things that they Yeah.

1065
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 2: So here's the thing, you know, to her, we.

1066
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 4: Had to do our work because and I can honestly

1067
00:49:53,600 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 4: say like.

1068
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 2: In the first years of the marriage, I was the problem.

1069
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 4: I had to check myself and say, Okay, you know what,

1070
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 4: you're not coming here emotionally whole. You're not doing your work.

1071
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 4: Your own marital therapist told you, no, you need to

1072
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 4: come see me personally.

1073
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 2: Like me a psychiatry. Right.

1074
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:15,359
Speaker 4: No, but no, I really I really did not know

1075
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 4: myself until I got into a committed relationship. Because now

1076
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 4: we I'm like, I'm really getting to see myself. I'm

1077
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,000
Speaker 4: mirroring like, oh, I don't like that person and she

1078
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 4: talks to you like that. That's that's that's not cool.

1079
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: I feel like it would be had to be married

1080
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:31,280
Speaker 1: to a psychiatrists.

1081
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 2: Well, you have to ask people, but.

1082
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:38,319
Speaker 5: I didn't want to take over ahead of you. I

1083
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 5: was like, I wonder what like when she was talking

1084
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 5: about the show, right, and if some of the pushback

1085
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 5: she gets is it because they feel like you can

1086
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 5: kind of see through them wells speaking to the soul.

1087
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 4: I can say the same like someone else can say

1088
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 4: the same thing that I'm saying. But because I am

1089
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:59,919
Speaker 4: a psychiatrist, what I'm saying holds weight, and people think

1090
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 4: I'm psychoanalyzing.

1091
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 2: I'm not because first of all, that costs money. Okay,

1092
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 2: So I'm.

1093
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 4: Gonna give you assessment and a treatment plan and am

1094
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 4: sending you an invoice. So I'm not doing that. But

1095
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 4: I am like, I'm a true girlfriend.

1096
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 2: So if I see that you, hey, you out of line,

1097
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 2: I'm gonna hold you accountable.

1098
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 4: And the same thing with my in my marriage, my

1099
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 4: husband holds me accountable and I'm able to receive it

1100
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 4: from him because we have done the work. So I

1101
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 4: have gone to therapy and shout out to my therapist

1102
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 4: that I go every two weeks, shout out to doctor

1103
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 4: Houston and doctor Certaine. I have to make sure that

1104
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 4: I am straight, because if I'm not, I can't show

1105
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 4: up the way that I want to show up in

1106
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 4: my marriage as a mom, as a psychiatrist.

1107
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 2: Do you know how much stuff that I hear every day?

1108
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 2: Like how am I?

1109
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1110
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:43,439
Speaker 4: I have to decompress somehow and be whole in order

1111
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 4: to give out the way that I do. But like

1112
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 4: Steve and I, we done. We I had to do

1113
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 4: my work and I wrote a book about it. I

1114
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 4: wrote a book about like my first two chapters of

1115
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 4: my book was my journal, Like, girl, you get yourself together,

1116
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:58,320
Speaker 4: you know, you can be out here like wild in

1117
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 4: like this in terms of talking to people, just being

1118
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 4: so emotionally immature and so just going through the process

1119
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 4: getting married starting when I graduated from med school and

1120
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 4: I became a doctor, like that was the last dream

1121
00:52:12,880 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 4: that I had.

1122
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: Like Okay, what do we do now?

1123
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 4: And so okay, no, you need to sit down, go

1124
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 4: to this coffee shop, get your journal out, and figure

1125
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 4: out who you are. And so we're talking about intimacy,

1126
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 4: like okay, what is that first part? You need to

1127
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 4: be intimate with yourself? Who are you looking your inner me?

1128
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 4: And now I can show up in a marriage and

1129
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 4: show up for him in the way that he needs me.

1130
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 4: And then we haven't even got to kids. Like, well,

1131
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:38,879
Speaker 4: I got married at thirty.

1132
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 2: I don't think that's what that's young.

1133
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:42,240
Speaker 1: I guess in today's days.

1134
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: That's that's young.

1135
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:45,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, but you found your person pretty early, like

1136
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 1: because you dated before that in your twins.

1137
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 4: Yes, but it was like you, I did take a

1138
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,359
Speaker 4: risk in terms of like, Okay, I'm opening up my heart.

1139
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 4: I'm also at that time not where I needed to

1140
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 4: be emotionally, but I'm still able and willing to give love.

1141
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes when we have been hurt.

1142
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,279
Speaker 4: So much and we have not processed that, we come

1143
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 4: into relationship with a heart and heart and not even

1144
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:17,040
Speaker 4: knowing about it. And so when I'm when I married.

1145
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 2: My husband, like I was just blessed that he was

1146
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 2: he was a person willing to do his work too.

1147
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: That's amazing. Yeah, because as a professional athlete.

1148
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 4: Right, you would not think at all, but like just

1149
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:32,720
Speaker 4: for him to be so like psychologically minded, like I am,

1150
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:36,640
Speaker 4: like yes, like yes, brothers, like get you get in

1151
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 4: therapy figure out like, Okay, what have I been holding

1152
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 4: on to that I that does not serve me, and

1153
00:53:43,680 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 4: I'm able to show up in this relationship and just

1154
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 4: give all that I can to the person that deserves it.

1155
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 1: What do you think you've been holding on to when

1156
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:54,279
Speaker 1: it comes to relationships and commit I kind of.

1157
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 3: Like looked up.

1158
00:53:56,800 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 5: And and and one day and was like, wow, most

1159
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 5: of my adult life, especially the part just was was

1160
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:10,759
Speaker 5: connected to like the public figure and being like raheem devon.

1161
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 3: That I have.

1162
00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 5: Been supportive of everyone else like like like like what

1163
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:22,879
Speaker 5: was like left for like for like for like.

1164
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 3: For me, you know what I mean.

1165
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 5: So, so you know, I made decisions in the last

1166
00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 5: three four years to just like be probably as selfish

1167
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:36,920
Speaker 5: as I've ever been in my life as it relates

1168
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 5: to like what I want, what I feel like works

1169
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 5: best for me, whether that you know, from a from

1170
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 5: a workspace, whether that means you know, with the working

1171
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 5: environment changing or who I work with, you know, is

1172
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,919
Speaker 5: it relates to business, whether that's matters of the heart,

1173
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 5: whether that's a new hobby or new goal or new

1174
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 5: dream career path radio that I want to pursue, and

1175
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 5: being able to like really like be real and.

1176
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 3: Honest with myself about how much time that leaves for

1177
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:06,760
Speaker 3: for other.

1178
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,600
Speaker 5: Things that I may have to put on the back

1179
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 5: burner or not not to say that they matter any less,

1180
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:18,840
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. But you know that it

1181
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:21,160
Speaker 5: is time for me to for Rahen to do to

1182
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 5: you know, there's there's still yet another level of of

1183
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 5: of success and goals and things that I want, you know,

1184
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 5: I feel I feel like I've done a great job

1185
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:35,279
Speaker 5: of like trying to protect my spirituality and more moral

1186
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:37,920
Speaker 5: compass for this ship, you know what I mean. And

1187
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 5: I know I'm deserving of things that I will have,

1188
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 5: you know, but but I also understand linement and timing

1189
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 5: and sometimes and a lot of times a lot of

1190
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 5: the stuff that I probably hadn't had or people like well,

1191
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 5: oh you know, you're you should you deserve to be here,

1192
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:56,400
Speaker 5: that I probably was about the fact that the people

1193
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:58,239
Speaker 5: I had around me that didn't need to be going

1194
00:55:58,280 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 5: with me.

1195
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,399
Speaker 6: That part don't have it, you know what I mean.

1196
00:56:02,400 --> 00:56:04,600
Speaker 5: And that's not a shot at anybody, you know what

1197
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 5: I mean. It's just the reality of like that everybody

1198
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 5: can't go and sometimes you gotta go by yourself.

1199
00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:15,439
Speaker 1: That's one of them. Walk people with you as bad

1200
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 1: as you do.

1201
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes you gotta walk through that door by yourself.

1202
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 5: And then and then sometimes you gotta be able to

1203
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 5: and when you're walking in to be like, oh you

1204
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 5: know what, Yeah, this ain't the room I need to

1205
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,240
Speaker 5: be in. So I mean just hit that three sixty

1206
00:56:29,040 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 5: you know what I mean? You got reading reading the

1207
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:35,680
Speaker 5: room sixty Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, right, like yeah,

1208
00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 5: we ain't doing that three sixty deal, you know, but

1209
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 5: read read reading and reading the room is a is

1210
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,480
Speaker 5: a you know, that's a that's a real thing, you

1211
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying.

1212
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:46,279
Speaker 3: That's like, you know, that's on all levels. You know.

1213
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:48,399
Speaker 1: Where where do you see when you when you're talking

1214
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 1: about walking into rooms? You know? New project on the way.

1215
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:58,719
Speaker 5: Another tour, absolutely, yeah, absolutely, the Strategic Partnership.

1216
00:56:58,760 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, another year.

1217
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 5: That's actually a tour being announced tomorrow. I can't say

1218
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 5: with who it is.

1219
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 3: I'm gonna love this when you know what, when this

1220
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 3: comes out? When is this drop?

1221
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:14,160
Speaker 1: When is this next week? Yeah? Next week?

1222
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 3: Oh I can say, yeah, all right, So I'm going

1223
00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 3: on tour with Floor Tree.

1224
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 1: Oh wow, back together as together, my girl, my girl,

1225
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 1: Marsha and Natalie, And I'm so excited about it.

1226
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,720
Speaker 5: Listen, I'm so excited about it because I never had

1227
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 5: a chance to ask them this, and I've been around

1228
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 5: them numerous times individually. I've been on the last couple

1229
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 5: of albums that Natalie did, Marsha, That's My Girl we did.

1230
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 5: We did the Love Jones tour together, you know, and

1231
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 5: various things that we've done, you know, she she hopped

1232
00:57:48,120 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 5: on mixtapes for me and just you know whatnot. But

1233
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:52,240
Speaker 5: I think I had the last I think I was

1234
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 5: with them in the studio when the last time that

1235
00:57:53,840 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 5: they were together in the studio we were in New

1236
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 5: York in fact and record we recorded marathons, you know

1237
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 5: what I mean. So so I'm excited. I love them,

1238
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 5: I love what they stand for.

1239
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:04,760
Speaker 1: And did you never get to ask them?

1240
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 3: Well what I was just.

1241
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 5: I feel like that was the last time that, you know,

1242
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 5: I feel like right after that, whatever happened happened.

1243
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:13,560
Speaker 1: I believe I'm happy.

1244
00:58:13,800 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1245
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:16,000
Speaker 5: So so we're going on the road, you know what

1246
00:58:16,040 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 5: I mean. So it's it's just it's to say yes tour,

1247
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:19,560
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. I'm going as a supporting

1248
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 5: a shouting and shout the teacher Moses because she'll be

1249
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 5: joining us as well. Tea floor Tree you know they've

1250
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 5: been outside. That's a tour, you know what I'm saying.

1251
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,360
Speaker 5: And and and then with the resurgence of of course,

1252
00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 5: like my you know, I dropped. I dropped three four

1253
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 5: projects a year, if that's what I want to do, right,

1254
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 5: But Jill just coming out after ten years, you know,

1255
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:43,920
Speaker 5: I know a word on the street is music in

1256
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:46,240
Speaker 5: the studio music solis and studient real heavy right now.

1257
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 3: You know you see what blud just you know the tribute,

1258
00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:58,040
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like so yeah, man, so

1259
00:58:58,040 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 3: it's a resurgence of like you know that.

1260
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 5: You know, be mad at me whatever whatever, Right, I

1261
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 5: still feel like, you know, the nineties and the two

1262
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 5: thousands some of the best time for the R and B.

1263
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:14,120
Speaker 5: Like and if you if you're chasing, if you're chasing

1264
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:17,440
Speaker 5: the bar or the you know, of course the seventies

1265
00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 5: is what it was, you know, if it's if it's

1266
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 5: anywhere I could have been, you know, jumping the time machine.

1267
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,040
Speaker 5: See see yeah, and see what that what that was like?

1268
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 5: But like, yeah, the two thousands in the nineties, like

1269
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 5: I mean.

1270
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,000
Speaker 1: That's why you see so many people sampling from them

1271
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 1: that that's down to.

1272
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 5: There would be no there would be no quiet storm

1273
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 5: slow jams. Half of the stuff we play, you know

1274
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:37,080
Speaker 5: what I mean That I play you know, Monday through Friday,

1275
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 5: and on the weekend, it wouldn't be there accessible, you

1276
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:43,280
Speaker 5: know what I mean. So it's it's uh, yeah, I'm

1277
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:46,640
Speaker 5: excited about the tour, you know, performing this new music.

1278
00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 5: And when you say like what what like what do

1279
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 5: I see this next? I mean definitely more partnerships.

1280
00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 3: You know.

1281
00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 5: For the last two years, I've worked with Gilead Sciences,

1282
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:07,560
Speaker 5: you know, for awareness, yeah, HIV awareness, Yeah, HIV awareness.

1283
01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 5: Conversations about prep and if it's for you, and talking

1284
01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:13,680
Speaker 5: to your primary care doctor about prepping, knowing what it is.

1285
01:00:14,000 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 5: If I talk to find out about prep, you know

1286
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 5: what I mean, Like, you know, I'm not you know,

1287
01:00:18,240 --> 01:00:20,120
Speaker 5: I get I will probably be on PREP until I

1288
01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 5: get married, if I ever get married.

1289
01:00:22,200 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

1290
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:26,200
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, like, like talking to my primary care doctor,

1291
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:29,280
Speaker 5: doctor Hodge, was like, that's how I found out about it.

1292
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,000
Speaker 5: He strongly suggested it I try, you know what I mean,

1293
01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:36,040
Speaker 5: and I you know, to have that actually protection you know.

1294
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,760
Speaker 1: Feel comfortable ye not for sure in the morning and

1295
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:39,160
Speaker 1: be like.

1296
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:43,040
Speaker 5: For sure and it's not a great and it's not

1297
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 5: a green light. It's not a green light that Israel Doggie.

1298
01:00:45,840 --> 01:00:47,240
Speaker 5: You know what I mean because you're on prep right.

1299
01:00:47,760 --> 01:00:50,960
Speaker 5: So but you know it's it's probably would have been

1300
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 5: one of the most foodful partnerships that I've had, you know, uh,

1301
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 5: you know my connecting, you know with my Love Life Foundation,

1302
01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:01,880
Speaker 5: which we and it you know established his twenty twelve

1303
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 5: and you know so so you know, being a health

1304
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 5: advocate is something that that I you know, I'm proud of,

1305
01:01:10,280 --> 01:01:14,720
Speaker 5: you know, fighting domestic violence and having you know, another

1306
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 5: initiative and.

1307
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 1: Anytime you feel like you're in a situation where you

1308
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 1: want to hit somebody, get out.

1309
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:23,240
Speaker 3: Yes, nothing right, just leave.

1310
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 1: I'm telling everybody that I run there. If you feel

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Speaker 1: like you want to put hands on somebody, check yourself

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Speaker 1: and get out of there.

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Speaker 6: Advice and know that if you don't want to make them,

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Speaker 6: find a way out. Yeah, that's never a good thing.

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Speaker 6: It does not equally love.

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Speaker 5: So I want to do more partnerships. I want to

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Speaker 5: do things that are meaningful. You know, I see myself

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Speaker 5: if I could, if I could ever a crystal ball

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Speaker 5: and say what I see for myself, it would be syndication.

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Speaker 5: You know, I see it. You know I'm going to

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Speaker 5: continue to make those records that I want to.

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Speaker 3: I want to.

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Speaker 5: I want to bring the slow, the slow dancing back

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Speaker 5: then in the basement, the red light specials, that vibe,

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like you did like an annual you.

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Speaker 3: Look all that. But what I need is one of

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Speaker 3: these casinos.

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Speaker 5: What we need is the MD because I want you know,

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Speaker 5: I want to do I would love to do a

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Speaker 5: casino residency.

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Speaker 3: You know, I think it's all alignment. Is Tiny's time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean, right, you know how

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Speaker 1: much fun that would be?

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Speaker 5: I think I think you know, I'm a big fan

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Speaker 5: of Charlie Wilson. I think he's kind of like set

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Speaker 5: the set, the set, the mark, you know, he kind of.

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Speaker 3: The script is already there, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 3: Like I love that.

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Speaker 1: Now do to me me. I can't remember who said

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Speaker 1: it when they were asking about you being on the

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Speaker 1: show and they were like, I don't know about her,

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Speaker 1: but her husband could stay.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. Yes, the people have a lot to say.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you just have I just know that how I

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Speaker 4: show up and I show I show up with confidence.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes confidence is going to irritate insecurities.

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Speaker 2: So whoever is saying you know, hey, you know.

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Speaker 4: She may not be good for the show, it's because

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Speaker 4: that's your insecurity is talking.

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Speaker 2: And so that has nothing to do with me.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to show up and the people are liking

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Speaker 4: me and solo, yes, tell me more.

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Speaker 3: That's that thing, Like and I did it for I

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Speaker 3: used to. I used to. I used to purposely them

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Speaker 3: my life and no I'm days old over like, no.

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Speaker 2: This is who I am, and this is who you get.

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Speaker 4: I'm authentic and why why would I did my life?

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Speaker 1: You crazy?

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Speaker 3: It could be we can yeah, we could be.

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Speaker 5: We can be you know uh self sabotaging a lot

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Speaker 5: of ways to ourselves being conscient thinking like you know.

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Speaker 2: So I would never do my light. I just encourage

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Speaker 2: others come because put.

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Speaker 4: Here's the thing, like even before the show show up

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Speaker 4: this way, like and I and this is not arrogance,

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Speaker 4: but I it is not. But like I've always been

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Speaker 4: her and I'm always going to continue to be her

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Speaker 4: and forever will be her.

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Speaker 2: So I Am not going to dim my life. This

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Speaker 2: is just who I am.

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Speaker 4: I got I have a great career, got a great family.

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Speaker 4: I got a good husband. I mean, if you was

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Speaker 4: a hater, I would hate on you. I will hate

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Speaker 4: on me too, but that's just I mean, keep telling

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Speaker 4: on yourself, okay, keep telling.

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Speaker 2: On yourself that you have insecurities. Just keep telling yourself.

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Speaker 1: But so season thirteen, you'll be back absolutely, Okay, I'll

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Speaker 1: say it, yes, yes, yes, yes, no question. Well then

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Speaker 1: you both for joining us. This was really fun. I

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Speaker 1: enjoyed it. Gotta come back, and I'm so like, I

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Speaker 1: love these announcements. I love the good news for you.

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Speaker 1: Say yes, who do we gotta contact at the MGM

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Speaker 1: to get this done?

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Speaker 5: We won't figure out everything's about tim and an alignment,

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Thank you again for having

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Speaker 5: me on the platform. And of course you know it's

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Speaker 5: not a platform without the viewership.

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Speaker 3: So thank y'all.

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Speaker 5: You know, support, continue to support the podcast, continue to

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Speaker 5: support UH direct to consumer Energy, you know what I mean, Like,

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Speaker 5: this is a director, this is direct to consumer energy.

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: You see the couches, see.

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Speaker 3: The couches, you know, you know the vibes, you know

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Speaker 3: what's going on. I had to go ahead and just

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Speaker 3: make the song. I'm go go ahead, and put put

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Speaker 3: that on the massive Look.

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Speaker 6: It's a long time, that's my that's my Eliot to

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Speaker 6: cool a jump.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much. I appreciate you both here.

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Speaker 1: This is really fun and I think it was also

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Speaker 1: great information for people who are listening. So this is

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Speaker 1: really dope.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Let's Service