1 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is Sunday, September the twenty first. Tranquility, happiness, passion, understanding, love. 2 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: Those are the themes on this Sunday Morning Run. Welcome 3 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 1: to this What Inspiration edition of Amy and TJ or 4 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: Robes Again, give you folk credit. You pull our quotes 5 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: of the week every week that go in our Monday 6 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: through Friday morning run, our newscast podcast. They're always doozies, 7 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: and then we come here and give them more a 8 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: little more insight and background and what they mean to us. 9 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: But you always pluck these out from I don't even 10 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,519 Speaker 1: know where, But this past week you use some that 11 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: I thought were really really timely given a lot of 12 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 1: the conversation that was going on in the country. 13 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 2: Look, you get there are obviously plenty of quotes out 14 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 2: there to last for years and years and years, but 15 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 2: there are the same ones that somehow stand out the most. So, yes, 16 00:00:57,280 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 2: you have to do a little bit of a deeper 17 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 2: dive when you do this on a daily But the 18 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 2: news has been so dark and heavy. I did try 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 2: to find some way to maybe take another look at 20 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: things or what we can do. I think so many 21 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:12,400 Speaker 2: of us feel powerless as to what's happening around the 22 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 2: world and specifically in our country. So I did try 23 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 2: to find ones that maybe could lift us up or 24 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 2: empower us as we try to navigate all of this stuff. 25 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 2: So the first quote comes from Oprah Winfrey. She says, 26 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 2: you get a car, you get a car, You get 27 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 2: a car. The greatest discovery of all time is that 28 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 2: a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. 29 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: Talk about that all the time. It seems the simplest 30 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: thing in the world. But man, it's hard, isn't it. 31 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: It's simple in theory, very hard in practice. 32 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 2: It's very hard in practice because it's easy to have 33 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 2: a good attitude when things are growing your way. It's 34 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 2: very difficult to have a good attitude when everything's going 35 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 2: wrong or falling apart, or not going the way you 36 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 2: want it to. So that is the challenge. But when 37 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 2: you re I think that I always say this, But 38 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 2: the first step is just recognizing. And sometimes you pointed 39 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 2: out to me, sometimes I pointed out to you, and 40 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 2: sometimes I figure it out on my own. Why am 41 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 2: I making myself miserable right now? I'm not changing anything, 42 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 2: But what I can change is my attitude. And once 43 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 2: you make that decision. It is a decision. It might 44 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 2: take a little while, might take a couple of minutes, 45 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 2: might even take a couple hours, but suddenly things do 46 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 2: start to change. 47 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: Well, the day was that I had that last week. 48 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: It was like a message you say, I apologize. 49 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 2: Actually no, actually yes, you texted me and you said, 50 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 2: I'm sorry that I let my frustration get the best 51 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 2: of me. I am working on it. Now you want 52 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 2: to go run an errand to try and change I 53 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:39,239 Speaker 2: think it was it was something I say, as simple 54 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,920 Speaker 2: as but it's frustrating when things like wi Fi don't work, 55 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,959 Speaker 2: or the thing you purchased to extend your WiFi isn't 56 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: accessible because of some technical glitch. So yes, those are 57 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 2: the kinds of things, as mundane as that is, that 58 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 2: can set you off if you've already had other things happening, 59 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 2: or not enough sleep, et cetera. But yeah, from the 60 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 2: small to the large, you just kind of have to 61 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:01,919 Speaker 2: sometimes you need a beat. 62 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I to your what it made me think 63 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: of it when you said you have to recognize it, 64 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: and when I recognized, okay, I'm not well, I'm frustrated 65 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: and I'm getting set off by the smallest of things. 66 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 1: And this wasn't even a matter of me blowing up. 67 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 1: It was just a matter of just you can tell 68 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: I get quiet or I get very short, and my 69 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: responses get very direct. 70 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 2: And sometimes you let out an expletive do I? Yeah? 71 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: Did I about what? 72 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,519 Speaker 2: Yeah? Because you were really frustrated. I mean, you weren't 73 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:33,519 Speaker 2: saying it at me, you were just saying it in general. Hey, 74 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 2: by the way, I'm not against that. Sometimes a cathartic 75 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 2: f U c K or s H, I T I 76 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 2: guess we're clean. So I was trying not to say that. 77 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: But not directed at you. You wouldn't want to nod okay, sorry. 78 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 2: Ahead, no no, no no. But when you say you 79 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 2: stub your toe or you get a parking ticket, sometimes 80 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: just saying it is a little bit of a release. 81 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: Maybe do it in your pillow if you have to. 82 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 2: But I actually think sometimes that is a cathartic release 83 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 2: and then you can move on. You get a let 84 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 2: it out, you can't keep it in. 85 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: But haven't we reported on studies that show that people 86 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: who don't use profanity have higher levels of. 87 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 2: Stress, correct because they're not letting it out. That is 88 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 2: a big thing I do think, yes, you need to 89 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 2: change your attitude, but sometimes you need to let it out. 90 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 2: I actually think you always need to let it out, 91 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 2: whether it's on paper. Sometimes you journal. I remember, even 92 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 2: as a kid, because I was not allowed to curse, 93 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 2: I would go into my pillow and just say all 94 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 2: the curse words just to get him out. And I 95 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 2: instantly felt better. But no one heard me. 96 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: God, that sounds like Ava. I can see a little 97 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:33,359 Speaker 1: Ava doing it. 98 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 2: Well, Little Amy used to do that. Now I just 99 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:36,239 Speaker 2: say it out loud. 100 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 1: That is so funny. 101 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 2: All right, one last time for you from Oprah Winfrey. 102 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 2: The greatest discovery of all time is that a person 103 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:50,720 Speaker 2: can change his future by merely changing his attitude. All right. 104 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 2: The next quote comes to us from Wayne Dyer. I'm 105 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 2: a big fan of his work. He says this, with 106 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,919 Speaker 2: everything that has happened to you, you can either feel 107 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 2: sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. 108 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 2: Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle 109 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 2: to keep you from growing. You get to choose. 110 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: I get it. Gift is tough hard times to see 111 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 1: a hard time of difficulty, adversity as a gift. It's 112 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: hard I realized because everything you I, anybody's ever gone 113 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:29,239 Speaker 1: through led you to this other thing right, which was better, 114 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: which was greater, which was where you should have been. 115 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:37,559 Speaker 1: But man, to think that losing a job or getting 116 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: out of a relationship, or even an accident or a 117 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: medical diagnosis is a gift, that's an opportunity. It's tough 118 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 1: to think that. In the moment. 119 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 2: You just named every hard thing that's happened to me 120 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 2: and to so many people in the last decade. And yes, 121 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 2: people say, why me, how could this have happened to me? 122 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 2: You start to feel sorry for yourself, and that is 123 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 2: a very common human experience. But I just love what 124 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 2: he said, because you until you're willing to turn it 125 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:10,239 Speaker 2: around and say, hey, I'm supposed to be here because 126 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 2: I'm supposed to learn something. And I will say through 127 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 2: all of those moments where I felt sorry for myself 128 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 2: and I wished it had never happened, with enough time 129 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 2: and perspective, I look back and say, thank God that happened. 130 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 2: Like I actually can say that about losing a job. 131 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 2: I can say that about a cancer diagnosis. And I 132 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 2: can say that because I'm still here and I get 133 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 2: that and other people have different experiences, but for the 134 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 2: most part, even the things that you think our worst 135 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:42,479 Speaker 2: case scenario end up being the most important lesson you'll 136 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: ever learn and will change you in ways you couldn't 137 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 2: have imagined. But in that moment, right, don't say that 138 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 2: to somebody, No, I'm saying. 139 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: For you when you're going through it. I can't imagine 140 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: how long it took before you considered a cancer diagnosis, 141 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: or a job change, or a divorce, humiliation, a blessing 142 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: or a gift. In the moment, it's hard to see 143 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 1: it as a gift. 144 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 2: And in the moment it's almost impossible to see us again. 145 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,679 Speaker 2: But I think once you go through enough of these 146 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 2: life hardships, and I hope you don't have many, but 147 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 2: for those of us who have had quite a few, 148 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 2: you can at least anticipate this is going to be 149 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 2: something that I am going to look back on and 150 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: say thank you. And I've actually, after cancer other things 151 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 2: that have happened, I've been able to say remember that perspective. 152 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 2: My on collegeist said to me, and you doctor, and 153 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 2: we love her. She said to me right when I 154 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 2: was diagnosed. I know you're never going to believe me, 155 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 2: but for every woman who has come back after five 156 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 2: ten years. They've said to me, if I could have 157 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 2: given back my cancer, I wouldn't because I wouldn't be 158 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 2: the person I am today. Here's how my life has 159 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 2: changed for the better because I am now aware of 160 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 2: things I never was before. I couldn't believe her. I 161 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 2: thought it was actually offensive initially when she said that 162 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 2: to me, But now I get it. So thank you, 163 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 2: doctor Ortz for those wise words that only were understood 164 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 2: by me years later. 165 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: But work on your timing, doctor Ratz dst. 166 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 2: She's amazing, and she knew that I was going to 167 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 2: be able to reflect on those words later. She knew 168 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 2: it all right. Next one, this is from unknown, but 169 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 2: all the powerful. Just as much happiness is letting go 170 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 2: of what you think your life is supposed to look like, 171 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 2: that whole expectations things. 172 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: It's every When do you ever get disappointed in somebody 173 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 1: only when you have an expectation that they were going 174 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: to do something else? Isn't that right? Yes? Again, maybe 175 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,199 Speaker 1: who set the expectation? I don't know, but it's always 176 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: that thing. Look at your own life. When have you 177 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: ever been upset about the state of your life because 178 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: it's not where you expected to be or how you 179 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: expected it to go. 180 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you feel powerless. You would like just little things. 181 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 2: How you expect your partner to react to you in 182 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 2: certain moments. How you expect anyone in your life, a friend, 183 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 2: a parent, a child, how you expect them to react 184 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 2: when they don't do what you think they should or 185 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 2: what they're supposed to. That creates so much suffering. And 186 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 2: I have been learning that the expectation should simply be 187 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 2: placed on myself. I'm responsible for me, I'm responsible for 188 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 2: how I feel. I'm responsible for soothing myself and for 189 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 2: making myself what I want to be. 190 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: I can't happy to watch your gross I. 191 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: Can't put I'm just but how many of us and 192 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 2: I am so guilty of this. Somehow put that on 193 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 2: other people that they're supposed to do this for me, 194 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 2: and that is a recipe for unhappiness. 195 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: We still kind of pause when we're here, and I 196 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: get it. It's not the worst thing in the world, 197 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: but it is sometimes a red flag warning sign. When 198 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: you hear you make me happy. That's supposed to be 199 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: an innocuous phrase, this person makes me happy, but I 200 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: always hesitate a little bit like do they, Because if 201 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: they make you happy, that means they can take it away. 202 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: They're in control of your happiness is always a little 203 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: something I hesitate on. I get what it means, But. 204 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 2: How about you contribute to my joy? 205 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: I'm happy already, you are enhancing it. If there's anybody 206 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 1: in your life, if you're happy, that takes away from 207 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: it exactly. 208 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 2: But you also can't put that on someone else and 209 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 2: expect someone else to make you happy. I agree so much. 210 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 2: I have actually said that to someone before. I can't 211 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 2: be the source of your happiness. It's way too much 212 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 2: pressure and we're going to crumble. 213 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: And I took it to heart. I did. 214 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 2: I did not say that to you, all right. The 215 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 2: next one. Wow, we needed some words of wisdom from 216 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:43,680 Speaker 2: the Dali Lama this week, and I do appreciate what 217 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 2: the Dalai Lama has had to say. 218 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 1: Isn't this the one you keep saying, Let's just do 219 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 1: a week of Dali Lama? Yes? 220 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 2: I should do it because Dhali Lama is just remarkable. 221 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 2: Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can 222 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 2: bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek. 223 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: Damn, just compassion and understanding for others. We should just 224 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 1: we should include that in every podcast we do, just 225 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 1: a compassion and understanding for others. 226 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 2: And I appreciate that he used the word development of 227 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 2: because we're not always it's not right there. You don't 228 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 2: always feel compassion or understanding for someone who you vehemently 229 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 2: oppose or disagree with. So I like the idea of just, hey, 230 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 2: just try and develop the compassion and understanding for others. 231 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 2: The development of where works in progress. So don't beat 232 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:41,079 Speaker 2: yourself up if you jump to feeling angry or even 233 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 2: you know, extreme anger towards someone who you disagree with, 234 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 2: But recognize that what is it in me that feels 235 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 2: so threatened or so triggered? That word everybody uses now, 236 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 2: And instead of putting it on the other person for 237 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 2: having a different belief, ask yourself why you feel so angry, 238 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 2: And then you have to develop compassion, You have to 239 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 2: develop understanding. It doesn't necessarily come naturally to a lot 240 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 2: of us. In terms of self preservation. Our ego takes 241 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: over and we need to be right and they need 242 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: to be wrong. And that's how you feel safe and 243 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 2: good because you're protecting your values, your beliefs. But it's 244 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:16,679 Speaker 2: compassion and understanding. That's the only thing that's going to 245 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 2: set us free and give us peace. Thank you, Dali Lama. 246 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 2: All right, all right, Mitch album. Does that name ring 247 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:25,199 Speaker 2: a bell to you? Oh? 248 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 1: Yes? 249 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 2: Tuesdays with Maury What an amazing book. I haven't read 250 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 2: that in forever, but obviously people love him and I 251 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 2: loved this quote. One day spent with someone you love 252 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 2: can change everything. Look, we're not meant to be alone. 253 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 2: I've talked about self empowerment and of course working on 254 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 2: ourselves and not relying on other people to bring us joy. 255 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 2: But my god, aren't we here to love? And that's 256 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 2: just not ourselves, but to love other people? And so yeah, 257 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 2: to spend a day with someone you love can change everything. 258 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 2: And of course he wrote a lot about death and 259 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 2: someone specifically dying Tuesdays with Maury and recognizing how precious 260 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 2: time is and how precious that is and we should 261 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 2: be spending it loving one another. 262 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: You know, I get into trouble with the quote, is 263 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,839 Speaker 1: spending time with someone you love? And I would not 264 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 1: correcting or trying to any way take away from his quote. 265 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 1: I just always think about spending the time and being 266 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: in the moment with that person, and there's so much chaos, 267 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:34,839 Speaker 1: so much always going on, and we do, we try 268 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 1: to make a conscious effort to be present, in particular 269 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: with the kids. We got so much going on that 270 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,200 Speaker 1: when the kids here, they need attention. Sometimes if they 271 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: don't have analyst runs off with her friends, being can 272 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: run off with her friends. But when they're with us, 273 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: they are with us, and it does you have to 274 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: make an effort to be there and be present with 275 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: that person you love in addition to not just being 276 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: around them. 277 00:13:58,080 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've had to work on that and I'm 278 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 2: still working on not being on my phone. I know 279 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 2: my girls have absolutely complained about that with me, more 280 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 2: so than me complaining that about them. 281 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 1: That's I know. 282 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 2: I'm admitting that right now, But I am working on that, 283 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:16,600 Speaker 2: because yes, that's all your kids really need, that's all 284 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 2: your partner really needs. They just need your time and 285 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 2: your attention. 286 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: Complain about that with you all the time, you do. 287 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 2: I know, it's it's I am, and I am working 288 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 2: on it. 289 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: I say, not you. I think it's us, and not 290 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: even so much the phone, the matter of us sitting 291 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 1: right next to each other and not interacting like we're 292 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: so into work. I know it's work time, but there 293 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: have been mornings you'll come out, sit down, and next thing, 294 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 1: I know, an hour and a half going by. I 295 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,240 Speaker 1: say hi, you'll say good morning. Oh yeah. We just 296 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 1: don't interact as if we know each other. 297 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 2: Right, we're colleagues. 298 00:14:48,720 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll sit in the living room in my robe 299 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: with my colleagues. You want to come, Trump's love all right? 300 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 2: When we come back, We've got your bonus quote for 301 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 2: you of the weekend. It's short, it's simple, but it's powerful. 302 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:17,880 Speaker 2: Welcome back everyone to your Sunday morning run where we 303 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 2: go over our quotes of the week. A little inspiration 304 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 2: for all of us on this Sunday as we get 305 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 2: our heads on straight and prep for another work week. 306 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 2: As we begin our Sundays. This bonus quote comes to 307 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 2: us from someone I don't know, a name I didn't recognize, 308 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 2: Philip Pullman. He's a British author. He wrote a trilogy, 309 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 2: a very successful trilogy. I don't know the name. No, no, 310 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 2: But the point being, I love when I So many 311 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 2: of these inspirational quotes come to us from authors. I 312 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 2: guess it makes a lot of sense. They write for 313 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 2: a living. But so many of them who I didn't 314 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 2: ever know before, and now I'm kind of interested in 315 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 2: reading their books because their quotes are so incredible. Now 316 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 2: I tease ahead that this one is short and simple, 317 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 2: but I just loved its message you cannot change what 318 00:16:08,520 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 2: you are, only what you do what you are, because 319 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 2: I think a lot of us are trying to change ourselves, 320 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 2: like I want to be something different. I want to 321 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 2: I want to have like even something as I don't 322 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 2: want to say narcissistic, but as silly as I wish 323 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 2: I had curlier hair or straight or hair. I wish 324 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,880 Speaker 2: that I was taller. I wish that I, you know, 325 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 2: had a better job. I wish that I I wish 326 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 2: I looked different. I wish all of those things that 327 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:39,720 Speaker 2: you cannot change. Like you are who you are. And 328 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 2: I think a big message that I've been trying to 329 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:47,440 Speaker 2: send to myself and to my daughters is that acceptance, 330 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 2: acceptance of what you are things you cannot change. 331 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: You know what I'm getting caught upon what you are 332 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 1: versus who you are. 333 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 2: Oh well, I think you can change what you do. 334 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:00,080 Speaker 2: You can't change what you are, which is you. You 335 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:03,200 Speaker 2: are a black male who is six feet tall like 336 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:05,720 Speaker 2: those are things you cannot change. And I think a 337 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: lot of people spend time wishing they were in someone 338 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 2: else's steam, wishing they look different, wishing they had a 339 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 2: different they were born into a different family, or born 340 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:18,920 Speaker 2: into a different financial situation. A lot of folks harp 341 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:21,520 Speaker 2: on what they cannot change what they are. 342 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 1: I was, you know, I was thinking about My mind 343 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: went to character like to characteristics, what you are I 344 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:33,280 Speaker 1: want to change? When you said black, that makes sense 345 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: to me. Now. People want to change who they are, 346 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:38,119 Speaker 1: want to be more of a this, They want to 347 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 1: be more of a that. It's like a who thing, 348 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 1: like who are you in that question? And I often 349 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 1: hear people say you can't change who you are. You 350 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 1: are who you are kind of a thing. And to 351 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 1: hear the what threw me off from. 352 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what or who? And maybe this was a 353 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:52,640 Speaker 2: he's a little bit older, So maybe this is even 354 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 2: semantics from a different time or a different generation. But 355 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 2: I do think that that is something that everyone struggles with. 356 00:17:58,160 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 2: If you're being honest, how many times if you thought 357 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,760 Speaker 2: and I wish I looked like this, or was born 358 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 2: into this, or had a different experience. Some people, you know, 359 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 2: want to be lots of different things that they cannot change, 360 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,239 Speaker 2: and you're so focused on what you can't change that 361 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 2: you don't even think about what you can change. So 362 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 2: I like this again, all of these quotes are so empowering. 363 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 2: You cannot change what you are, only what you do. 364 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 2: And really, truly, the bodies that we were given to 365 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 2: do what we do should matter a lot less than 366 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 2: our actions because our actions, our words, our thoughts, all 367 00:18:32,720 --> 00:18:36,600 Speaker 2: of that have the impact on potentially changing the world, 368 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 2: changing ourselves, making our lives and the people around ours better. 369 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 2: And it's by our actions, not by what we look 370 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:44,919 Speaker 2: like or the body that we were given. And I 371 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 2: just thought that was a cool reminder from Philip Pullman. 372 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 2: So thank you Philip Pullman for those words of wisdom. 373 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:54,160 Speaker 2: And with that everyone, thank you for listening to us 374 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 2: on this Sunday morning run. I made me Roebuck alongside 375 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 2: DJ Holmes. We will be talking to you very soon.