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Speaker 1: Andrew Martinez in Real Life podcast. This episode and conversation

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Speaker 1: is powered by I Do Say What's up? Guys? We

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Speaker 1: are back. This is Agie Martinez IRL Takeaways where we

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Speaker 1: discuss the brilliant moments or just the moments that after

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Speaker 1: the podcast or after the conversation stay with us. The

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Speaker 1: takeaways the things that when you were in the shower

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Speaker 1: were like, damn well he said that, he hit hit.

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Speaker 1: I felt that, or just sometimes I don't know, even me,

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Speaker 1: sometimes when I'm interviewing people, even throughout like all the

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Speaker 1: years of my career, there's just certain things that stay

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Speaker 1: with me. This person said this, This person said this

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Speaker 1: random story that just comes to me right now. I

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Speaker 1: was interviewing Beyonce around her her birthday album B Day,

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Speaker 1: and I guess they did. Is that's the album right

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Speaker 1: that Your life flex is Crazy. I'm just sorry that

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Speaker 1: that's what just came up for me. What's that? Is

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Speaker 1: that the album where she has Upgrade You? Yes? Yes,

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Speaker 1: so we're talking about Upgrade You and I we were

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Speaker 1: talking about, you know, Jay being on that song, and

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Speaker 1: I remember her saying to me, yeah, Jay was not

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Speaker 1: having it. He wanted to be on that song. He

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Speaker 1: was like, what you're not gonna do is nigga song

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Speaker 1: upgrade you and I'm not on it. I'm paraphrasing what

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Speaker 1: Beyonce said, But to meybe for a couple that rarely

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Speaker 1: rest of our relationship, because you would know a song

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Speaker 1: like that could stick. It sticks in a headline. Think

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Speaker 1: about the term like boo delicious, right, You don't how

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Speaker 1: many headlines she had to deal with. Where the boot delicious? Beyonce.

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Speaker 1: It's just what you put out in the world. It

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Speaker 1: stays with you sometimes. So a song like upgrade you

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Speaker 1: in a relationship, it would have forever been Beyonce upgrades

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Speaker 1: jay Z. This the mentality of that, I wouldn't have

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Speaker 1: mine that. But his verse on that song is hard. Oh,

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Speaker 1: his verses fire. And also it just levels them out.

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Speaker 1: It puts them like we're both upgrading each other yea.

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Speaker 1: And it just was like a little insight to that,

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Speaker 1: the thoughtfulness of how their relationship could be perceived. I

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Speaker 1: just is like a stuck with you it was. It

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Speaker 1: was a takeaway of that conversation, like how they navigate

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Speaker 1: their music making and the messages they put out and

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Speaker 1: then what's their relationship anyway. It was a takeaway from

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Speaker 1: that episode, not necessarily a takeaway I use in my

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Speaker 1: own life, but just a takeaway of like how they

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Speaker 1: navigate anyway. I say all that to say, every episode

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Speaker 1: we discussed some of the takeaways and some of the episodes.

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Speaker 1: And now this is the in real life podcast, so

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Speaker 1: our hope is that our takeaways are ones that we

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Speaker 1: could actually use in our real life. And Ryan Coogler

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Speaker 1: absolutely gave us some takeaways I know for me and Brittany,

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Speaker 1: I know, you know this work addiction conversation that we

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Speaker 1: had with Ryan. First of all, how dope is he?

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Speaker 1: He came in, He's so like, what's up, everybody? What's up?

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Speaker 1: Everybody said, talks to the whole room. He is in

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Speaker 1: and thoughtful and just a nice guy. Right. So sure

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Speaker 1: he's not he's not walking in like hey, everybody, look

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Speaker 1: at me, but he's definitely like walking in looking at

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Speaker 1: the room being thoughtful, and you know he's a filmmaker,

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Speaker 2: You know, everybody wants to like impress him.

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Speaker 1: They want to do right. Yeah, and you could tell

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Speaker 2: This was really a pick for us, like, yeah, yes,

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Speaker 2: we know people love Ryan Coogler, and and he's done

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Speaker 2: great movies Black Panther, Fruit Filled Station, like he's done

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Speaker 2: great work. But really this was just like Angie and

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Speaker 1: Ryan Coogler. Yeah, I love the way he infuses his

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Speaker 1: Like he gets honesty and he gets like those little

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Speaker 2: He obviously cares so deeply about everything, even in the

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Speaker 2: and he like it was a lot of him you

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Speaker 1: He's so thoughtful. I saw that in some of the

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Speaker 1: like how thoughtful he was in every question. I asked him.

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Speaker 1: But then we learned inside the conversation when he's talking

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Speaker 1: he says that one of the things is that chad

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Speaker 1: wonder how much of Ryan was like that before, or

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Speaker 1: maybe it just gave Ryan the freedom to be like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: be working. He would, you know, I'll give him direction.

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Speaker 3: He would stop. He would look me right in the eye.

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Speaker 4: And and he can't he couldn't be hurried neither. You

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Speaker 3: But yeah, like like he was gonna he was gonna

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna take a page from that. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to take a beat more often. I've gotten better

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Speaker 2: It actually, to me is more interesting because at least

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Speaker 1: could lose loose your purpose. So you're so busy grinding

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Speaker 1: It's like and then you will find if you bury

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Speaker 1: You got to go and live life to be inspired

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Speaker 1: We love Ryan. Team Ryan. I did see in a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right. I r Ralph family. Hold Angie, Dad,

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