WEBVTT - Textual Healing: Breakup Breakfast 0:00:00.000 --> 0:00:01.840 All right, we got a new episode for you today, 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:04.840 and it is a textual healing. That's where somebody needs 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:07.680 help with a texting situation, and well that's where we 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:08.119 step in. 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:10.000 Yes, we don't get to do these that often, but 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:10.920 no we don't. 0:00:11.080 --> 0:00:12.000 We don't, but they're fun. 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:16.400 But first we got to talk about Costco Costco guy yesterday, 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:18.280 executive members only. 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.000 Yeah, people are not a fan of executive members only guy. 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:24.479 Someone said, actually, is this too bad to read? 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:28.400 Maybe not, he was exposed to too much Costco gasoline 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:28.800 as a kid. 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:31.280 But look at that one. Oh my goodness, what a 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:33.720 judgmental snob. She could do much better. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.680 Sounds like a guy who thinks he is self made 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:38.800 with a silver spoon. 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:39.240 Up his butt. 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.440 And then somebody else who said, I was waiting for 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:44.479 Kai to be in on it with the LARPers. 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:46.800 Oh, oh el yeah, I could see that. Maybe it'd 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:48.600 be good for him. Yeah, he needs to put his 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:49.600 energy somewhere. 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:51.000 Else if he needs to get into a little LARPing. 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:53.600 Yeah, a little la action role play night fixed Kai. 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:56.520 All right, Well we'll see how you feel about today's episode. 0:00:56.600 --> 0:01:00.920 Right now, the modern dating world has so many different 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:04.200 levels of relationships that you can be in and it 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:07.720 really depends on what you want. You're actually right, there's 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:09.000 like categories. 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.000 Now for everybody else. 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:12.600 It's kind of nice because there's you know, a casual 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:17.280 companionship where you hang out but it's not romantic, a 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:22.560 situationship where it's romantic but it's not committed, A monoga 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:29.039 mish where it's committed but not serious. What word would 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:35.880 you describe your situation, brook, Mine's just marriage. I don't 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:39.440 say it too romantically. I'm so hyped. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:41.960 Retro. 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:45.480 But one of our listeners is caught in a different 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:50.160 type of complicated entanglement and she's hoping that we can 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.840 help uncomplicate it. I hope it's not as complicated as 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:57.520 a Brooks good luck, and she wants to do it 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:00.400 in the weirdest way possible. She's asked for our help. 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:04.520 You're gonna hear it right after this. How many times 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:07.640 on this show have listeners asked us to help them 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:11.600 break up with their significant others? Oh no, it's brook 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.320 and Jeffrey in the morning. That's why we created an 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:17.919 entire segment called Brooke Breaks You Up. 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:21.520 Yeah, I am not in the headspace for this today, 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:22.320 Jeff Okay. 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:25.440 Well, here's the good news, Brook. Yeah, you don't have 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:26.320 to do that today. 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:26.799 Oh good. 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.560 Okay, because this couple has already had the breakup talk. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:31.160 Oh good. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:34.720 And I guess the issue is the problem is the 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:37.000 breakup isn't happening fast enough. 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:40.200 What a breakup happened right after the talk? 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:42.800 That's what I think this listener is saying in her email. 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.040 But before I confuse my co host any further, let's 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:48.440 just talk to Maria about it. Maria, welcome to the show. 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:53.160 Hey, you sound chipper for a lady who may or 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:54.520 may not be in a relationship. 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:58.600 We've officially confused everybody in the room. Maria. So what's 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:00.919 the situation that you're in with this guy that you're 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.840 dating or or not dating? What's going on? 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:09.720 Okay? So I started dating this guy like six months ago. 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:11.720 His name is James James. 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.080 Okay, and what's the situation with James. 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:18.000 Well, I do really like spending time with him. He's 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:22.400 a good guy, but it's just it's not a relationship 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.520 that I ever kind of saw getting too serious. Like 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:29.360 when I picture my future husband, it's it's just not him. 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:31.679 Okay, But why why isn't it him? 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:33.840 I don't know. It's just like they say, like when 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:36.160 you know, you know, but also you know when you 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:36.640 know that. 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:36.880 It's not. 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:40.200 Fair, that's fair. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.520 Like this spark isn't quite right. It has nothing to 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:43.880 do with who he is as a person. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.119 It's just not and it kind of hurts. 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:49.200 But have you been honest with him that he's not 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:50.600 husband material for you? 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.680 We don't need to say it that, yeah, you're not 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:55.560 doing the breakup. 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:58.480 So how honest are we being with James? 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:01.200 I mean, a couple of months into us dating, I 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:03.160 could kind of tell that he was more into me 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.800 than I was into him, and so I basically told 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.119 him like, Hey, I'm having fun with you, but I 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:12.240 just don't know if we should continue what's going on 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.400 between the two of us. 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:15.160 And so what was his response to that? 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:17.080 Honestly, he could do really well. 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:17.520 He joke. 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.200 He was kind of joking back like, well, if you 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:20.719 want to break up with me, you can't do it 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:22.880 until your mom's wedding because you already invited me. 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:27.400 Oh, okay, do you mind bringing him to your mom's wedding? 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.479 Honestly, no, Like we kind of came up with a 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.000 solution is that we'll do the wedding, but we're going 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:36.240 to have a scheduled breakup. 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:40.359 Date or in the middle of your mom's wedding. 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:43.640 That's really cordial, Like it's kind of cool. 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.560 Yeah, so the wedding is coming up or it already happened. 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:52.039 Yeah, it's so it just happened, and congress anytime. So 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:54.000 that's the thing is that we decided that it would 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:56.920 be two weeks after the wedding. 0:04:56.920 --> 0:04:59.760 Okay, just to wind it down a little bit after. 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.120 Like the jo or maybe not to make it look 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:03.880 like it was your mom's fault that you're breaking up. 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:04.440 Fair. 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:06.839 Yeah, I mean we just didn't want to do it 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.960 like directly after. And honestly, like, we had a great time. 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.800 We had a good run and I wasn't stressing about it. 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:15.280 But then a funny thing happened while we were at 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:18.480 the wedding. James was off eating and talking with family 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:22.880 and stuff like that, and I ended up meeting another guy. 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:29.760 Oh maybe the new stepdad's got some hotties. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:35.479 No, it's nothing, it's nothing weird. It's not like a 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:38.880 stepbrother or anything like that. Because he's friends with my 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:41.880 new stepdad's family and and you know, it was really cute. 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.520 It was sweet, like we had instant chemistry and he 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:48.760 asked me out, but it was it was really cute. 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:50.440 But the only thing is he's going to be leaving 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:53.000 town soon and the only day that he can meet 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:56.440 up is the day before our schedule to break up. 0:05:57.960 --> 0:05:59.640 So you just need to change the day to the 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:00.520 breakup up to see. 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:02.640 Wait, if you guys already know you're going to break 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:04.320 up if you go on a David, so that's not 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:05.880 cheating you guys are done, right. 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:09.080 But remember this guy likes her more than she likes him, 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.600 so it's going to affect him differently. I mean, so she's. 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:13.720 Still thinking of his feelings at the end of it. 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:15.279 It sounds like you just want to keep it clean, 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:16.159 is that right? 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:16.720 Yeah? 0:06:16.760 --> 0:06:19.680 Well, I also really appreciated him being so cool about 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:21.400 everything and still wanting to go to the wedding and 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:23.920 all that. Like, it's already a weird situation. I'm trying 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.080 to just do it the best way that I can can. 0:06:26.120 --> 0:06:28.719 I ask, are you guys acting like boyfriend and girlfriend 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:29.280 right now? 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:35.520 I mean, well, we're still technically together, so yeah, okay. 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:39.040 But we're not doing Brooke breaks you up instead. What 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:44.040 She's requested is some textual healing on to text her 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:47.039 current guy James and ask him to push up the 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:48.040 date of the breakup. 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.640 Yeah, I just I want to move it up by 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:51.760 one day. 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:55.599 Oh, you know, this is the first time I feel 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:58.320 like the breakup conversation via text is allowed because you've 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.280 had so many breakup stations. 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.599 But what if you have something planned, like there's a 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:05.960 last date meal, Like, do you. 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:07.600 Have anything planned like that? Special? 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.960 The plan for us was to kind of do breakfast 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.200 together at the same diner where we first met. 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:17.960 Full guys are so poetic about that. 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:19.560 I know, I feel like a text breakup might just 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:20.680 be better this way. 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:22.560 So how do we start the conversation? 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:25.800 Well, what if you be direct with him but also 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.160 unavailable at the same time. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.840 That sounds passive and aggressive. 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:34.600 That, yes, that's the perfect sweet spot. That so, if 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.920 I'm you, I want to put it in their core 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:40.120 and let them make the final decision on how to proceed, which. 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.760 Is so Jeffrey, nobody you can understand my life. 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.160 Were making a decision, We're pretty good. 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:49.880 I would say, listen, I'm so so sorry, but my 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:52.960 plans have changed and I have a conflict on that day, 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:55.320 and I'm not going to be able to make our 0:07:55.320 --> 0:08:01.000 breakfast sad emoji. You are owning like it's my fault, 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.880 but that day doesn't work, and then you see what 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:04.880 he wants to do with it. 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:07.040 Yeah, he likes you so much up scared is going 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:10.680 to push it a year out. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:16.440 A terrible text descend, but just for experiment experiment reasons, Yeah, 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.080 and experimentation. 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:21.120 So let's try there we go, Yeah, okay, I like that. 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.160 Let me kind of write it out and. 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:25.720 Make it sound like you're upset, like, Hi, I'm so 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:28.440 so sorry to do this, but my plans have suddenly changed. 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:30.880 I can't make our breakup breakfast. 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:32.920 We're going to call it break. 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:37.920 Up whatever you want to call it, okay, and then 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:40.679 put sad emojis like you really were looking forward to that. 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:44.400 God, it feels so bad because something else is more 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:48.600 important than breaking up, Like. 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.520 He's gonna ask what could be more important? 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:53.040 I'm just going off of what we know about this 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:54.960 guy in his personality, and he was cool with the 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:58.959 whole concept of a breakup date, so you might not. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.000 Be as devastated and doesn't like him, but he's still 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:01.560 go hang out. 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:01.760 With her for. 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:06.240 I mean with the he could be a guy like 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.960 Jeffrey that likes others to make the decisions him. 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:12.800 You tell me exactly, so Maria, you make the final 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.120 choice here. What do you want to I don't want 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:16.199 to be responsible. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:23.360 Okay, I'm gonna say, Hi, I'm so sorry, but my 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:27.400 plans have changed this week. I'm going to be camping 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.160 on Saturday. 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.520 Make up the line, right, I would be less specific, 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.640 camping just so that way. 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:37.560 I'm out of town. 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:40.839 You can I'm out of town. 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.240 Out of town, he would be the date. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:46.600 Okay, I'm just gonna say. I'll just say that I'm 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:47.800 out of town. I think that's good. 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:50.199 Send the text sage and. 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:52.760 Okay, okay, I sent it and I put at the end, 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.360 I put the I can't make our planned break up breakfast, 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:56.760 and I did Emoi. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:57.920 Okay, there you go. 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.240 It's like, are you sad because of the breakup or 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:01.600 are you said because you can't make it? 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:04.960 Well, whatever happens, it's on you one hundred percent. I 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:08.480 would take no responsibility. Then when we come back, we 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:11.520 will see if you're soon to be ex boyfriend has responded. 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:17.400 As we continue Textual Healing Breakfast Breakup Edition and it's 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:18.600 coming up right after this. 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:19.400 Good music choice. 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:24.160 Oh yeah, we're in the middle of textual healing with 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:27.800 our listener Maria, who's been dating a guy for almost 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:31.480 six months now and realized just a little while in 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:33.760 that this isn't going to be forever. 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.319 Yeah, so which is okay, doesn't mean it's bad. Yeah, 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:38.520 not foreverything totally. 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.360 So they made the choice, you know, since her mom 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:45.120 was getting remarried, why not extend their relationship just a 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:48.480 little bit longer, and came up with a breakup date, 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:52.400 which is a specific day on the calendar when they 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:56.760 both agreed the relationship would officially end. The only problem 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:00.679 is a new love interest has suddenly resurfaced for Maria, 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:05.720 so she's come to us wondering how can she text 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:08.520 her current guy, James, to let him know I actually 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:14.080 need to move up our breakup date without being too specific. 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:16.120 About why, without saying I found another guy who's super 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.679 hot and I'm really into him, and he's leaving for work, 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:20.000 so I need to get this date in. 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:20.640 Yeah. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:24.920 I mean most guys would take that so well, but James, 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.640 we're a little worried about. I am curious how he's 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:30.440 going to react because I'm thinking, how would I personally feel, 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:32.400 or how would any of us feel if you're him 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:34.120 and you get that message. 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.280 Well, and even though he's more into you than you 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.280 are to him, like he obviously agrees this isn't a 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:43.000 forever thing, else he would have fought harder to Yeah. 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:44.679 Sure, so he might be a little hurt or he 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.400 might be totally cool with it, Maria has He responded, 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:52.360 he has, Oh my gosh, Okay, what did he say? 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:54.440 So? 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:59.760 He texted a picture of Macauley Cokein's shocked. 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:05.679 Like a shaving cream on or the ship after shave on. 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:13.000 Any streams Okay, yeah, okay. 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:16.360 No, And underneath it he wrote reactivating my Tinder as 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.160 we speak with the smark emoji. 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:22.199 Okay, So does that mean you're just single? 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:22.480 Now? 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:23.080 Yeah? 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:26.200 Maybe that's the text we need to ask, what does 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:27.240 this mean? We're done? 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:27.480 Now? 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.000 What does that mean to you? Maria? 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:31.720 That's the thing. So we've had this like whole inside 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.400 joke saying going about how we're going to reactivate our 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:36.920 Tinder accounts at the exact same time when we break up. 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.880 He's really funny, like honestly, like this is why I 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:43.640 kind of wanted to date him in the first place. 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:44.760 I kind of wanted. 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:46.920 Yeah, just one of the ways that you're reacting, it 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.120 sounds like you don't even want it to really end, 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:50.960 like deep down, I don't know that. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.480 Reminded her him. 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:55.480 She seems excited going to date with the new guys. 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:59.679 It just sucks because he's been super charming and I 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:02.840 hate it it, you know, I mean, I'm. 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:05.960 Freaking easier if one person is just bad guy. 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:07.640 You can't be indecisive. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:12.000 No, because from his text it sounds like he's cool 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:13.079 with it. It's over. 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:17.200 Yeah, this is like the best case scenario, right Well, 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:18.960 that's the thing is like it should be over in 0:13:19.000 --> 0:13:21.040 a few days, but like it shouldn't be over like 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:21.680 right now. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.920 Wait are you saying now that you feel like maybe 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:26.959 you like him and you don't really want it to end? 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:30.240 Feel that no, like for me and him. I just 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.880 I just need to confirm that it's done officially, you 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:34.440 know what I mean? 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:36.679 I mean, didn't he already confirm it? 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:40.240 Mcaulay Culkin just confirmed it? Yeah for sure. 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:42.320 I mean I guess he did it through a joke. 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:45.440 You want, like actual written words, we are over? 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:50.079 I I mean, I just I have to like figure 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:51.760 out how to do this, so I know that there's 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:53.400 like an actual like that it's done. 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:55.720 Okay. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.960 Is there a chance that maybe you're disappointed in him 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:02.600 in being not caring. 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:04.080 Not pushing back more? 0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:09.880 I mean no, I just I don't know. I I 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:11.640 already made my decisions, so I just have to go 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:12.160 through with it. 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.679 Okay. Well, look, if you want to keep it with 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:17.520 the funny light mode that he's been doing, maybe just 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:20.080 type in the date when you first started dating with 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.680 a dash to today's date and then a little tombstone emoji. 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:33.480 Alright, oh god, what do you think? Yeah, I know 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:36.240 I do kind of Okay, Jeff, you're really funny are using. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.200 Yeah, let's focus on the goal that you came to 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:44.440 us hoping to do. What do you think about what 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:46.720 I said sending the dates with the dash and the 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:48.320 tombstone emoji? Yeah? 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:49.720 I like that. I'm going to send that right now. 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:52.880 Okay, Okay, so we're just wrapping things up. 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:55.200 This is actually, like I feel like, a really good 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:58.640 example of how we all should handle breakups. 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:06.240 Yeah, every relationship should have a premeditated breakup and Murray, 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:07.720 by the way, I forgot to tell you Chime in 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.960 anytime if you see him texting you back, or you 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:11.360 see any dots or anything like that. 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:13.120 And if you see dots, also let. 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:15.200 Us know because that's very important for the show. 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:22.040 Okay, I need to tell you something. What what I 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:23.880 didn't send the toobest text? 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:27.400 What did you the tombstone text? What did you send? 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:31.560 I didn't, I didn't send anything. I think I'm starting 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.560 to have feelings for him more than money. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:36.800 These are going to last a week. 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:37.760 You can't do this. 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.600 You're just straging him along and then you're gonna actually 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:41.800 hurt his feelings. 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:43.680 This is the way to do this. 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.200 It's all happening so fast, and now I'm just like 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:47.160 second guessing it. 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:51.320 Okay, listen, we get that you're confused, but we are 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:53.480 on a time limit here on this show, and if 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:55.480 you don't know what you want to do, then we 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.000 have no goal to reach for. 0:15:57.240 --> 0:15:57.360 No. 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.280 I know, I know I didn't mean to put you 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:01.240 guys in this position, but I guess I want to 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:02.960 enjoy the last three days of them. 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.280 Okay, I don't know that that's an option. 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.560 If that's how you feel, then why don't you just 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:08.040 send that? 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:08.240 Then? 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:10.280 Can't hand? 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:13.040 It looks like books. 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:15.560 It's on fire. I can't go there. No, she won 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:16.960 What are you gonna say? 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.320 Now, I'll just tell them that I'll see if I 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:21.120 can live the date or something like that, and just 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:22.880 that I want to at least have our last couple 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:23.480 of days together. 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.040 Oh, I respond to. 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.840 This is when you see the power pendulum swing. 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:32.400 Yeah, he's like, what. 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:32.800 Are you doing? 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:33.840 She likes me too much? 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.560 He's saying, she's so into me. 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.920 Okay, I sent it. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:43.800 Oh respond, I think you're going to be heartbroken this weekend. 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.000 So uh yeah, we've gone from like wanting to move 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:49.960 up the breakup date to not having a breakup date 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:52.520 to now it's back to the original breakup like. 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.280 Nothing ever happened, Brooks saying, I wish all relationships handled 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:57.640 this way. 0:16:57.880 --> 0:16:59.040 No wonder if they can't. 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:03.440 At least it's not confusing. 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:09.800 Oh my god, what he sent me a message? 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:13.840 What is the most important one of the whole thing? 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:18.679 He said, too late, And he sent a screenshot of 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:20.840 his Tinder bio he already restarted. 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:30.280 Right, God, have fun with the new guy, Maria. 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:33.159 I guess God, I'm gonna go. I have to re 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:35.120 download my Tinder so I can rematch him. 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:39.960 No one of us can get there for you're in 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:44.119 a healthy mental state, Marina, I feel like textual healing achieved. 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:46.840 Hey, but listen, she did finally let him make the choice, 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:47.639 just like you wanted to. 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:50.600 You did it with the other guy. 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:50.880 Now. 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:55.840 Yeah, enjoy trying to rematch with your ex boyfriend on Tinder. 0:17:57.880 --> 0:17:59.680 I feel like she's going to stand outside of he's 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:00.160 a part. 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:06.560 Enough swiping Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:11.639 Is it harder to rematch with someone on Tinder after 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:15.080 you've already been in a non serious, exclusive six month 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:16.080 relationship with them? 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:19.040 I would think emotionally it's harder. 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:21.760 Could set your you know categories really specific? 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:29.160 Yeah, this color hair. Yeah. 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:31.560