1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,840 Speaker 1: All right, we got a new episode for you today, 2 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: and it is a textual healing. That's where somebody needs 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: help with a texting situation, and well that's where we 4 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: step in. 5 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: Yes, we don't get to do these that often, but 6 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 2: no we don't. 7 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 3: We don't, but they're fun. 8 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: But first we got to talk about Costco Costco guy yesterday, 9 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 1: executive members only. 10 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, people are not a fan of executive members only guy. 11 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,479 Speaker 2: Someone said, actually, is this too bad to read? 12 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 4: Maybe not, he was exposed to too much Costco gasoline 13 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 4: as a kid. 14 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 2: But look at that one. Oh my goodness, what a 15 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 2: judgmental snob. She could do much better. 16 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 4: Sounds like a guy who thinks he is self made 17 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 4: with a silver spoon. 18 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:39,240 Speaker 3: Up his butt. 19 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 4: And then somebody else who said, I was waiting for 20 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 4: Kai to be in on it with the LARPers. 21 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 3: Oh, oh el yeah, I could see that. Maybe it'd 22 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 3: be good for him. Yeah, he needs to put his 23 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 3: energy somewhere. 24 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,000 Speaker 2: Else if he needs to get into a little LARPing. 25 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, a little la action role play night fixed Kai. 26 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: All right, Well we'll see how you feel about today's episode. 27 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 5: Right now, the modern dating world has so many different 28 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 5: levels of relationships that you can be in and it 29 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 5: really depends on what you want. You're actually right, there's 30 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 5: like categories. 31 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 3: Now for everybody else. 32 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 5: It's kind of nice because there's you know, a casual 33 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 5: companionship where you hang out but it's not romantic, a 34 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 5: situationship where it's romantic but it's not committed, A monoga 35 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 5: mish where it's committed but not serious. What word would 36 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 5: you describe your situation, brook, Mine's just marriage. I don't 37 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 5: say it too romantically. I'm so hyped. 38 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:41,960 Speaker 3: Retro. 39 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 5: But one of our listeners is caught in a different 40 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 5: type of complicated entanglement and she's hoping that we can 41 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 5: help uncomplicate it. I hope it's not as complicated as 42 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 5: a Brooks good luck, and she wants to do it 43 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 5: in the weirdest way possible. She's asked for our help. 44 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 5: You're gonna hear it right after this. How many times 45 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 5: on this show have listeners asked us to help them 46 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 5: break up with their significant others? Oh no, it's brook 47 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 5: and Jeffrey in the morning. That's why we created an 48 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 5: entire segment called Brooke Breaks You Up. 49 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I am not in the headspace for this today, 50 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: Jeff Okay. 51 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 5: Well, here's the good news, Brook. Yeah, you don't have 52 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 5: to do that today. 53 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:26,799 Speaker 4: Oh good. 54 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 5: Okay, because this couple has already had the breakup talk. 55 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 3: Oh good. 56 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 5: And I guess the issue is the problem is the 57 00:02:34,720 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 5: breakup isn't happening fast enough. 58 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 3: What a breakup happened right after the talk? 59 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,800 Speaker 5: That's what I think this listener is saying in her email. 60 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 5: But before I confuse my co host any further, let's 61 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 5: just talk to Maria about it. Maria, welcome to the show. 62 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 6: Hey, you sound chipper for a lady who may or 63 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 6: may not be in a relationship. 64 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 5: We've officially confused everybody in the room. Maria. So what's 65 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:00,919 Speaker 5: the situation that you're in with this guy that you're 66 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 5: dating or or not dating? What's going on? 67 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 6: Okay? So I started dating this guy like six months ago. 68 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 6: His name is James James. 69 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 5: Okay, and what's the situation with James. 70 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 6: Well, I do really like spending time with him. He's 71 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 6: a good guy, but it's just it's not a relationship 72 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 6: that I ever kind of saw getting too serious. Like 73 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 6: when I picture my future husband, it's it's just not him. 74 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 3: Okay, But why why isn't it him? 75 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 6: I don't know. It's just like they say, like when 76 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 6: you know, you know, but also you know when you 77 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 6: know that. 78 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: It's not. 79 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 3: Fair, that's fair. 80 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: Like this spark isn't quite right. It has nothing to 81 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: do with who he is as a person. 82 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,119 Speaker 3: It's just not and it kind of hurts. 83 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 5: But have you been honest with him that he's not 84 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 5: husband material for you? 85 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 3: We don't need to say it that, yeah, you're not 86 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 3: doing the breakup. 87 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 5: So how honest are we being with James? 88 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 6: I mean, a couple of months into us dating, I 89 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 6: could kind of tell that he was more into me 90 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 6: than I was into him, and so I basically told 91 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:09,119 Speaker 6: him like, Hey, I'm having fun with you, but I 92 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 6: just don't know if we should continue what's going on 93 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 6: between the two of us. 94 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 3: And so what was his response to that? 95 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 6: Honestly, he could do really well. 96 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 5: He joke. 97 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 6: He was kind of joking back like, well, if you 98 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 6: want to break up with me, you can't do it 99 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 6: until your mom's wedding because you already invited me. 100 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: Oh, okay, do you mind bringing him to your mom's wedding? 101 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:30,479 Speaker 6: Honestly, no, Like we kind of came up with a 102 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 6: solution is that we'll do the wedding, but we're going 103 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 6: to have a scheduled breakup. 104 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:40,359 Speaker 5: Date or in the middle of your mom's wedding. 105 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 3: That's really cordial, Like it's kind of cool. 106 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, so the wedding is coming up or it already happened. 107 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 6: Yeah, it's so it just happened, and congress anytime. So 108 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 6: that's the thing is that we decided that it would 109 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 6: be two weeks after the wedding. 110 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 5: Okay, just to wind it down a little bit after. 111 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: Like the jo or maybe not to make it look 112 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: like it was your mom's fault that you're breaking up. 113 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 5: Fair. 114 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean we just didn't want to do it 115 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 6: like directly after. And honestly, like, we had a great time. 116 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 6: We had a good run and I wasn't stressing about it. 117 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:15,280 Speaker 6: But then a funny thing happened while we were at 118 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 6: the wedding. James was off eating and talking with family 119 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 6: and stuff like that, and I ended up meeting another guy. 120 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: Oh maybe the new stepdad's got some hotties. 121 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 6: No, it's nothing, it's nothing weird. It's not like a 122 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 6: stepbrother or anything like that. Because he's friends with my 123 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 6: new stepdad's family and and you know, it was really cute. 124 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 6: It was sweet, like we had instant chemistry and he 125 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 6: asked me out, but it was it was really cute. 126 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 6: But the only thing is he's going to be leaving 127 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 6: town soon and the only day that he can meet 128 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 6: up is the day before our schedule to break up. 129 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 3: So you just need to change the day to the 130 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 3: breakup up to see. 131 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 7: Wait, if you guys already know you're going to break 132 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 7: up if you go on a David, so that's not 133 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 7: cheating you guys are done, right. 134 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 5: But remember this guy likes her more than she likes him, 135 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 5: so it's going to affect him differently. I mean, so she's. 136 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 3: Still thinking of his feelings at the end of it. 137 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:15,279 Speaker 3: It sounds like you just want to keep it clean, 138 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:16,159 Speaker 3: is that right? 139 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: Yeah? 140 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 6: Well, I also really appreciated him being so cool about 141 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 6: everything and still wanting to go to the wedding and 142 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,920 Speaker 6: all that. Like, it's already a weird situation. I'm trying 143 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 6: to just do it the best way that I can can. 144 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,719 Speaker 1: I ask, are you guys acting like boyfriend and girlfriend 145 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:29,280 Speaker 1: right now? 146 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 6: I mean, well, we're still technically together, so yeah, okay. 147 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 5: But we're not doing Brooke breaks you up instead. What 148 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 5: She's requested is some textual healing on to text her 149 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,039 Speaker 5: current guy James and ask him to push up the 150 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 5: date of the breakup. 151 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 6: Yeah, I just I want to move it up by 152 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 6: one day. 153 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 1: Oh, you know, this is the first time I feel 154 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: like the breakup conversation via text is allowed because you've 155 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 1: had so many breakup stations. 156 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:03,599 Speaker 7: But what if you have something planned, like there's a 157 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 7: last date meal, Like, do you. 158 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 5: Have anything planned like that? Special? 159 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 6: The plan for us was to kind of do breakfast 160 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 6: together at the same diner where we first met. 161 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 5: Full guys are so poetic about that. 162 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 2: I know, I feel like a text breakup might just 163 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 2: be better this way. 164 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 3: So how do we start the conversation? 165 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 5: Well, what if you be direct with him but also 166 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 5: unavailable at the same time. 167 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 3: That sounds passive and aggressive. 168 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 5: That, yes, that's the perfect sweet spot. That so, if 169 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 5: I'm you, I want to put it in their core 170 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 5: and let them make the final decision on how to proceed, which. 171 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: Is so Jeffrey, nobody you can understand my life. 172 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 3: Were making a decision, We're pretty good. 173 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 5: I would say, listen, I'm so so sorry, but my 174 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 5: plans have changed and I have a conflict on that day, 175 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 5: and I'm not going to be able to make our 176 00:07:55,320 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 5: breakfast sad emoji. You are owning like it's my fault, 177 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 5: but that day doesn't work, and then you see what 178 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 5: he wants to do with it. 179 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, he likes you so much up scared is going 180 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 4: to push it a year out. 181 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: A terrible text descend, but just for experiment experiment reasons, Yeah, 182 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: and experimentation. 183 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 6: So let's try there we go, Yeah, okay, I like that. 184 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 6: Let me kind of write it out and. 185 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 5: Make it sound like you're upset, like, Hi, I'm so 186 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 5: so sorry to do this, but my plans have suddenly changed. 187 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 5: I can't make our breakup breakfast. 188 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 3: We're going to call it break. 189 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 5: Up whatever you want to call it, okay, and then 190 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:40,679 Speaker 5: put sad emojis like you really were looking forward to that. 191 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: God, it feels so bad because something else is more 192 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: important than breaking up, Like. 193 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 7: He's gonna ask what could be more important? 194 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 5: I'm just going off of what we know about this 195 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 5: guy in his personality, and he was cool with the 196 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,959 Speaker 5: whole concept of a breakup date, so you might not. 197 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 2: Be as devastated and doesn't like him, but he's still 198 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: go hang out. 199 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 6: With her for. 200 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: I mean with the he could be a guy like 201 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 1: Jeffrey that likes others to make the decisions him. 202 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 5: You tell me exactly, so Maria, you make the final 203 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 5: choice here. What do you want to I don't want 204 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:16,199 Speaker 5: to be responsible. 205 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 6: Okay, I'm gonna say, Hi, I'm so sorry, but my 206 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 6: plans have changed this week. I'm going to be camping 207 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 6: on Saturday. 208 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 5: Make up the line, right, I would be less specific, 209 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 5: camping just so that way. 210 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 6: I'm out of town. 211 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 5: You can I'm out of town. 212 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 3: Out of town, he would be the date. 213 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 6: Okay, I'm just gonna say. I'll just say that I'm 214 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 6: out of town. I think that's good. 215 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 2: Send the text sage and. 216 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 6: Okay, okay, I sent it and I put at the end, 217 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 6: I put the I can't make our planned break up breakfast, 218 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 6: and I did Emoi. 219 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 3: Okay, there you go. 220 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: It's like, are you sad because of the breakup or 221 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: are you said because you can't make it? 222 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:04,960 Speaker 5: Well, whatever happens, it's on you one hundred percent. I 223 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 5: would take no responsibility. Then when we come back, we 224 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 5: will see if you're soon to be ex boyfriend has responded. 225 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 5: As we continue Textual Healing Breakfast Breakup Edition and it's 226 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 5: coming up right after this. 227 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 3: Good music choice. 228 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, we're in the middle of textual healing with 229 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:27,800 Speaker 5: our listener Maria, who's been dating a guy for almost 230 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 5: six months now and realized just a little while in 231 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 5: that this isn't going to be forever. 232 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 3: Yeah, so which is okay, doesn't mean it's bad. Yeah, 233 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 3: not foreverything totally. 234 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 5: So they made the choice, you know, since her mom 235 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 5: was getting remarried, why not extend their relationship just a 236 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 5: little bit longer, and came up with a breakup date, 237 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 5: which is a specific day on the calendar when they 238 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 5: both agreed the relationship would officially end. The only problem 239 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:00,679 Speaker 5: is a new love interest has suddenly resurfaced for Maria, 240 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:05,720 Speaker 5: so she's come to us wondering how can she text 241 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 5: her current guy, James, to let him know I actually 242 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:14,080 Speaker 5: need to move up our breakup date without being too specific. 243 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: About why, without saying I found another guy who's super 244 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,679 Speaker 1: hot and I'm really into him, and he's leaving for work, 245 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: so I need to get this date in. 246 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 247 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 5: I mean most guys would take that so well, but James, 248 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 5: we're a little worried about. I am curious how he's 249 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 5: going to react because I'm thinking, how would I personally feel, 250 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 5: or how would any of us feel if you're him 251 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 5: and you get that message. 252 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: Well, and even though he's more into you than you 253 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: are to him, like he obviously agrees this isn't a 254 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: forever thing, else he would have fought harder to Yeah. 255 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 5: Sure, so he might be a little hurt or he 256 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 5: might be totally cool with it, Maria has He responded, 257 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 5: he has, Oh my gosh, Okay, what did he say? 258 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 1: So? 259 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 6: He texted a picture of Macauley Cokein's shocked. 260 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:05,679 Speaker 3: Like a shaving cream on or the ship after shave on. 261 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 1: Any streams Okay, yeah, okay. 262 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 6: No, And underneath it he wrote reactivating my Tinder as 263 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 6: we speak with the smark emoji. 264 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 3: Okay, So does that mean you're just single? 265 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 6: Now? 266 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? 267 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 5: Maybe that's the text we need to ask, what does 268 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 5: this mean? We're done? 269 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 7: Now? 270 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 5: What does that mean to you? Maria? 271 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 6: That's the thing. So we've had this like whole inside 272 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 6: joke saying going about how we're going to reactivate our 273 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 6: Tinder accounts at the exact same time when we break up. 274 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 6: He's really funny, like honestly, like this is why I 275 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 6: kind of wanted to date him in the first place. 276 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 3: I kind of wanted. 277 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, just one of the ways that you're reacting, it 278 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 5: sounds like you don't even want it to really end, 279 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 5: like deep down, I don't know that. 280 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 7: Reminded her him. 281 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 2: She seems excited going to date with the new guys. 282 00:12:57,520 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 6: It just sucks because he's been super charming and I 283 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 6: hate it it, you know, I mean, I'm. 284 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 4: Freaking easier if one person is just bad guy. 285 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 3: You can't be indecisive. 286 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 5: No, because from his text it sounds like he's cool 287 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:13,079 Speaker 5: with it. It's over. 288 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 6: Yeah, this is like the best case scenario, right Well, 289 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 6: that's the thing is like it should be over in 290 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 6: a few days, but like it shouldn't be over like 291 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:21,680 Speaker 6: right now. 292 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 5: Wait are you saying now that you feel like maybe 293 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:26,959 Speaker 5: you like him and you don't really want it to end? 294 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 6: Feel that no, like for me and him. I just 295 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 6: I just need to confirm that it's done officially, you 296 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 6: know what I mean? 297 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 5: I mean, didn't he already confirm it? 298 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 3: Mcaulay Culkin just confirmed it? Yeah for sure. 299 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 5: I mean I guess he did it through a joke. 300 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:45,440 Speaker 5: You want, like actual written words, we are over? 301 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:50,079 Speaker 6: I I mean, I just I have to like figure 302 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 6: out how to do this, so I know that there's 303 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 6: like an actual like that it's done. 304 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 3: Okay. 305 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: Is there a chance that maybe you're disappointed in him 306 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 1: in being not caring. 307 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:04,080 Speaker 5: Not pushing back more? 308 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 6: I mean no, I just I don't know. I I 309 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 6: already made my decisions, so I just have to go 310 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:12,160 Speaker 6: through with it. 311 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 5: Okay. Well, look, if you want to keep it with 312 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 5: the funny light mode that he's been doing, maybe just 313 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 5: type in the date when you first started dating with 314 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 5: a dash to today's date and then a little tombstone emoji. 315 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 6: Alright, oh god, what do you think? Yeah, I know 316 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 6: I do kind of Okay, Jeff, you're really funny are using. 317 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, let's focus on the goal that you came to 318 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 5: us hoping to do. What do you think about what 319 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 5: I said sending the dates with the dash and the 320 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 5: tombstone emoji? Yeah? 321 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 6: I like that. I'm going to send that right now. 322 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, so we're just wrapping things up. 323 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: This is actually, like I feel like, a really good 324 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: example of how we all should handle breakups. 325 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, every relationship should have a premeditated breakup and Murray, 326 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 5: by the way, I forgot to tell you Chime in 327 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 5: anytime if you see him texting you back, or you 328 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 5: see any dots or anything like that. 329 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 3: And if you see dots, also let. 330 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 5: Us know because that's very important for the show. 331 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 6: Okay, I need to tell you something. What what I 332 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 6: didn't send the toobest text? 333 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 3: What did you the tombstone text? What did you send? 334 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 6: I didn't, I didn't send anything. I think I'm starting 335 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 6: to have feelings for him more than money. 336 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 2: These are going to last a week. 337 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:37,760 Speaker 3: You can't do this. 338 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 1: You're just straging him along and then you're gonna actually 339 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: hurt his feelings. 340 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 3: This is the way to do this. 341 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 6: It's all happening so fast, and now I'm just like 342 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 6: second guessing it. 343 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 5: Okay, listen, we get that you're confused, but we are 344 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:53,480 Speaker 5: on a time limit here on this show, and if 345 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 5: you don't know what you want to do, then we 346 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 5: have no goal to reach for. 347 00:15:57,240 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: No. 348 00:15:57,480 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 6: I know, I know I didn't mean to put you 349 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 6: guys in this position, but I guess I want to 350 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 6: enjoy the last three days of them. 351 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know that that's an option. 352 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 5: If that's how you feel, then why don't you just 353 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 5: send that? 354 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 7: Then? 355 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 3: Can't hand? 356 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 2: It looks like books. 357 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 5: It's on fire. I can't go there. No, she won 358 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 5: What are you gonna say? 359 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 6: Now, I'll just tell them that I'll see if I 360 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 6: can live the date or something like that, and just 361 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 6: that I want to at least have our last couple 362 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:23,480 Speaker 6: of days together. 363 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 5: Oh, I respond to. 364 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 3: This is when you see the power pendulum swing. 365 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like, what. 366 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 7: Are you doing? 367 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 2: She likes me too much? 368 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 3: He's saying, she's so into me. 369 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 6: Okay, I sent it. 370 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 3: Oh respond, I think you're going to be heartbroken this weekend. 371 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 5: So uh yeah, we've gone from like wanting to move 372 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:49,960 Speaker 5: up the breakup date to not having a breakup date 373 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 5: to now it's back to the original breakup like. 374 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 4: Nothing ever happened, Brooks saying, I wish all relationships handled 375 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 4: this way. 376 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 7: No wonder if they can't. 377 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 5: At least it's not confusing. 378 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:09,800 Speaker 6: Oh my god, what he sent me a message? 379 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 5: What is the most important one of the whole thing? 380 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:18,679 Speaker 6: He said, too late, And he sent a screenshot of 381 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 6: his Tinder bio he already restarted. 382 00:17:22,320 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 3: Right, God, have fun with the new guy, Maria. 383 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,159 Speaker 6: I guess God, I'm gonna go. I have to re 384 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:35,120 Speaker 6: download my Tinder so I can rematch him. 385 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 5: No one of us can get there for you're in 386 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 5: a healthy mental state, Marina, I feel like textual healing achieved. 387 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 1: Hey, but listen, she did finally let him make the choice, 388 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 1: just like you wanted to. 389 00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 5: You did it with the other guy. 390 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:50,880 Speaker 7: Now. 391 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, enjoy trying to rematch with your ex boyfriend on Tinder. 392 00:17:57,880 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 3: I feel like she's going to stand outside of he's 393 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:00,160 Speaker 3: a part. 394 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 6: Enough swiping Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. 395 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:11,639 Speaker 5: Is it harder to rematch with someone on Tinder after 396 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 5: you've already been in a non serious, exclusive six month 397 00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 5: relationship with them? 398 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 7: I would think emotionally it's harder. 399 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:21,760 Speaker 4: Could set your you know categories really specific? 400 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:29,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, this color hair. Yeah. 401 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 5: Maybe it's just like the normal thing on Tinder where 402 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 5: everyone's just going through the rotation until they wind up 403 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 5: back where they started. 404 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:37,560 Speaker 7: You know what. Actually, I remember being on Tinder and 405 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 7: I unmatched with somebody or I match and then I 406 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 7: didn't go back on the app. I go A week later, 407 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 7: she's back in my options. 408 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:46,080 Speaker 3: I'm like, does that is it like reaching the end 409 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 3: of the Internet. Yeah? 410 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 5: It just makes me so happy for her. I feel 411 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:52,479 Speaker 5: like she's right where she wants to be. 412 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 3: She knows where she knows to be. 413 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 2: Reminds every friend going through a breakup. 414 00:18:56,840 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: Ever, that woman needs to be single is what she needs. 415 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 3: Well, we have to work on ourself a little bit. 416 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,280 Speaker 5: Yes, we have asked Maria to keep us updated on 417 00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:08,040 Speaker 5: her breakup and her possible rekindling. Juting on you by 418 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:08,480 Speaker 5: the end. 419 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 3: Jury, I don't know that I want to be updated 420 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 3: on this updates good just. 421 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 5: Leaving it, dag pause with the new guy who knows 422 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 5: what's going to happen. But if you enjoyed that, We've 423 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 5: got plenty more textual healings up on our podcast at 424 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey. And in the spirit of this call, 425 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:25,399 Speaker 5: we want you to subscribe unsubscribed six months later, and 426 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:27,720 Speaker 5: then we subscribe to us all over again, and then 427 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:28,399 Speaker 5: just watch us. 428 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fun. 429 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 5: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.