Speaker 1: Hey, I'm Cadine and we're the ellis Is. You may
Speaker 1: know us from posting funny videos with our boys and
Speaker 1: reading each other publicly as a form of therapy. Wait,
Speaker 1: I'll make you need derby most days. Wow. And one
Speaker 1: more important thing to mention, we're married. We are. We
Speaker 1: created this podcast to open dialogue about some of life's
Speaker 1: most taboo topics, things most folks don't want to talk
Speaker 1: about through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead
Speaker 1: adds is the term that we say every day. So
Speaker 1: when we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts, the truth,
Speaker 1: the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. We're about
Speaker 1: to take phillows off to a whole new level. Dead
Speaker 1: ass starts right now. What's up? Yes, yes, yes, look
Speaker 1: at all these are beautiful faces out here. Look good.
Speaker 1: Y'all look really really good. Y'all look really good? Man.
Speaker 1: How long was it? Welcome since we've been in Atlanta?
Speaker 1: How long was it? What do you mean? How long
Speaker 1: is it since we've been in the live show? We
Speaker 1: seen a live show in Atlanta? Oh, the live show
Speaker 1: that we did last time with February. Who was at
Speaker 1: the February show anyway? I remember you. Yes, I remember you. Yes,
Speaker 1: we took pictures. Have a seen? Everybody? Have a seen? Yes,
Speaker 1: have a sea? So yes, first and foremost, I gotta
Speaker 1: tell y'all how this show almost didn't happen. Alright, just
Speaker 1: give me to swim me a second. Jesus so who
Speaker 1: he follows us on social media? Thank y'all, Yes, thank you? Yeah. OK.
Speaker 1: Last week it's it's cadeed for me to always. Last week,
Speaker 1: we was filming season two of The Team A right,
Speaker 1: and as you know, when we filmed at Tyler Perry Studios,
Speaker 1: we film a lot of pages, right, so it'd be
Speaker 1: sixteen hour days. Sometimes I need sleep. At like twelve
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning, I get a phone call from
Speaker 1: cadem She's like one thing about me. I'm anna crying.
Speaker 1: So I'm half sleep. I'm like, I'm like, what's up?
Speaker 1: It was up? What's up? What's up? She's like, my face,
Speaker 1: my face fucked up. I said, it can't be fucked up.
Speaker 1: She said, I'm gonna send you a picture. So she
Speaker 1: sends me a picture. Y'all see that, so loose? Thank you?
Speaker 1: Who said that? Thank you, thank you, thank you. So
Speaker 1: I was like I was like, I was like baby, baby,
Speaker 1: you look amazing, I said you as I said, baby,
Speaker 1: you look amazing. Go to sleep. When you wake up
Speaker 1: in the morning, everything will be fine. I went to sleep,
Speaker 1: I woke up in the morning. She sent me this. Yeah. Okay,
Speaker 1: So so now it's sixty five in the morning. I
Speaker 1: haven't gotten any sleep. I gotta be on set. When
Speaker 1: I first opened up the thing, I was like, damn.
Speaker 1: But I couldn't let that be my response when I
Speaker 1: saw her, so I immediately faced timed her back and
Speaker 1: I was like, what am I looking at? I don't
Speaker 1: I don't see anything. I don't see any of the right.
Speaker 1: Then she sends me this, she had to have oral surgery.
Speaker 1: So now I don't know how to respond. I go, babe,
Speaker 1: what is this? She said, Look at it to vowel.
Speaker 1: It looks like someone put a field goal post in
Speaker 1: front of my face and kicked field goals in my
Speaker 1: mouth for three hours. Facts all the way to my brain. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what I was like, babe. As soon as they
Speaker 1: get done removing all of that, the swelling is going
Speaker 1: to be gone. Then she sends me this, do y'all
Speaker 1: see the tears the residue? So me now I'm in
Speaker 1: husband moved. I don't care about filming. I don't care
Speaker 1: about nothing. I said, baby, I'm coming home. She said why.
Speaker 1: I said, I'm sucking the Dennis up all right. So
Speaker 1: she's like, you know what the four You can't do
Speaker 1: that because you have a job. I don't want you
Speaker 1: to lose your job. I don't want you to be
Speaker 1: on TMZ sisters actor beings up the dentist. So I said, fine,
Speaker 1: I'm canceling the tour. She said, no, you're fucking not.
Speaker 1: I said, I said, so, so what do you want
Speaker 1: me to do? White can't? She said, you know, people
Speaker 1: spend time they got baby since for their kids. They
Speaker 1: put that part. I know the struggle. She said, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna figure it out. You don't worry about it. I
Speaker 1: said that, baby, I gotta go back to set. Cool.
Speaker 1: She goes, So now I'm like, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: don't know what to do. I didn't get no sleep,
Speaker 1: I said, baby, what's the matter? She said, hold on, dad,
Speaker 1: If my dad in the audience cold your ears, the
Speaker 1: show out to my dad, y'all, Hey, papa, all right?
Speaker 1: So Cicari cols his ears. She says, baby, I'm just mad.
Speaker 1: I said, why are you mad? And she goes because
Speaker 1: I got my period, so I can't give you no
Speaker 1: pussy and I can't suck no dick. I was like
Speaker 1: this whole time, I'm just concerned about you ache, Tier, Tier,
Speaker 1: But that shows you commitment. My wife is always ready
Speaker 1: to serve, always ready to serve, and in more ways
Speaker 1: than what song give me something. The reason why it's
Speaker 1: important for me is because I can approached by a
Speaker 1: lot of men. They'll be coming up to me. They'd
Speaker 1: be like, you know you devout right. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: don't let this purple joke up you nigga. I'm from Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: I throw these things and it's like, nah, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know what it is. You know what it is? What
Speaker 1: is here? Did tonight? But they come to me super aggressive,
Speaker 1: and they'd be like, man, you'd be writing on like
Speaker 1: sensitive ship about your wife on social media and my
Speaker 1: wife be like, why can't you be more like the Vale?
Speaker 1: Why can't you be more like de Val? So I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, don't let your girl do
Speaker 1: that to you. Brother. The next time your girl asked
Speaker 1: you why you can't be like the Val asked her
Speaker 1: why she can't be like codein, because codein is like this.
Speaker 1: And and before you ladies in here say, oh my god,
Speaker 1: the violence so misogynistic. You want to know who set
Speaker 1: me this fucking picture with a halo? She said it
Speaker 1: to me with a halo. I was on set film
Speaker 1: and I hadn't been home in four days. She said, baby,
Speaker 1: how are you? I said, I'm stressed. She said, check
Speaker 1: your d M. I checked my d M and I
Speaker 1: was there. I was trying to give him something to
Speaker 1: look forward to. But then my tooth was happing. But
Speaker 1: that's why she was so mad. But but yes, your
Speaker 1: heart always was and it does get reciprocated. Yes, she's
Speaker 1: called the throat goat. I am the tongue god. All right.
Speaker 1: I remember the first time I tried to eat pussy.
Speaker 1: I was nineteen years old. I didn't know what I
Speaker 1: was doing. She was like, hey, hey, hey, I was
Speaker 1: like what she was like, I got a so damn
Speaker 1: So I started watching some porn before. No before I
Speaker 1: used to fast forward through all that part, I said,
Speaker 1: let me pay attention to this point in right hand.
Speaker 1: So now, who are I'm paying attention? Right? So? I
Speaker 1: remember the first time I went in the room. I
Speaker 1: looked on her face, and she just knew because normally
Speaker 1: I come in there after football practice, I'm soup like something.
Speaker 1: You know what time it is? This time I came
Speaker 1: in there, I said, maybe I want you just laying
Speaker 1: your back real quick. He dropped the octave. I know
Speaker 1: what time. I dropped the octave to prepare. I was prepared.
Speaker 1: I was prepared. I opened up the knees real slow,
Speaker 1: like right, and I just kissed. I said, Bob Bob,
Speaker 1: Bob bob. The minute I just kissed right there, she said, Executive,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna beat you up. I promise you. They're always
Speaker 1: in COMETI with each other, not be the last to
Speaker 1: know the joke. Yeah, okay, the Land of Milk and Honey.
Speaker 1: There you got sorry? Are you all ready for that?
Speaker 1: As podcast? So who listens every week Today's podcast? Alright? Alright, alright,
Speaker 1: So y'all know after I talk my ship, we always
Speaker 1: go with karaoke. My wife says she got some special
Speaker 1: for me today for karaoke. I decided to take it
Speaker 1: back because if you listen to the podcast, you know
Speaker 1: I can't hold a note if you place it in
Speaker 1: my hands. So I'm gonna ask y'all, because really, these
Speaker 1: live shows are not about deval and I talking, because
Speaker 1: y'all listen to us. Talk comes from we want you
Speaker 1: all to participate. We want you all to let lose,
Speaker 1: get some drinks in your systems, make it a cute date. Now,
Speaker 1: how many couples do we have in the house? All right?
Speaker 1: My single women? Okay, well just so you know, single women,
Speaker 1: my single brother is here and today is his birthday?
Speaker 1: Say can we get him a little happy birthday? Real quick? Oh?
Speaker 1: Just twenty days? Happy birthday? Broke. So ladies, just so
Speaker 1: you know you're single in England? And how about my
Speaker 1: single men other than my brother? Single man? What I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be honest, I'm gonna tell you right now. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now. The only man you're gonna
Speaker 1: see it here is the man whose girlfriends or fans
Speaker 1: a wife said you're gonna watch that as podcast live
Speaker 1: with me? Because then be the same niggas that be
Speaker 1: approaching me in the airport man, and I'd be like,
Speaker 1: I ain't tell you to watch this ship man. So
Speaker 1: if karaoke, I want to take you back to a
Speaker 1: song that's actually very special to deval and I because
Speaker 1: October three will make twenty years for us dating y'all
Speaker 1: two decades twelve married. That's crazy to me. Whole score.
Speaker 1: But this song, I think it's pretty popular. I think
Speaker 1: y'all can sing along, and it's very sentimental attachment for us.
Speaker 1: We're gonna sing it first, and I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: why after. This song is significant to us, all right, exactly?
Speaker 1: All right, all right, give it up for yourselves. Do
Speaker 1: y'all know what that song is important? To tell them? Why? Why?
Speaker 1: Who knows? That's the first time we made love. That
Speaker 1: song was in the background. It was in the background.
Speaker 1: I was on top of cake. We was doing out this.
Speaker 1: I spared them the details the valve enough about us tonight. Huh.
Speaker 1: That's the first time I've had a woman crowd who.
Speaker 1: I was like, what happened? You said, yes, right, it
Speaker 1: was the moment she was like, I just feeling right now.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, that's a love, that is all love.
Speaker 1: All right, So let's jump into the show, Jump into
Speaker 1: the show. Who he grew up in church? Yeah, we
Speaker 1: just spent the last twenty minutes talking about sex. Now
Speaker 1: we're gonna transition. I grew up, I grew up the
Speaker 1: church Sailing Missionary Baptist Church in Brooklyn on an album
Speaker 1: All Yes, I heard somebody saying, Jesus know my heart.
Speaker 1: That's what people do right before they right, they say that,
Speaker 1: right before they do something fucked up. Jesus, No, my heart, Jesus.
Speaker 1: So I grew up going to church, and one of
Speaker 1: the first moments that I had with Codeine was in
Speaker 1: church because my parents was like, if you're diding a
Speaker 1: young lady and you're gonna be serious, bring her to church.
Speaker 1: So it was Easter Sunday. We went to six o
Speaker 1: clock service, and on this day I thought I was
Speaker 1: gonna lose my girl because it was around one forty
Speaker 1: and we were still in church. Still in church, I
Speaker 1: remember I was sitting there nodding. Kerry was over there nodding,
Speaker 1: and I said, baby, baby, wake up. Once I tapped
Speaker 1: it like this is a baby, baby, you can't you
Speaker 1: can't nod. This is what she did in the middle
Speaker 1: of the church. Now we're in the front right and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like, Dean cadan Man, get up. She's
Speaker 1: looked at me. She said, m M. I've been here
Speaker 1: for six hours. I don't know none of these niggas
Speaker 1: and I don't even know you no more. Wake me
Speaker 1: up when it is over. So from that moment when
Speaker 1: I was just like, all right, we were not necessarily
Speaker 1: church people, but we are spiritual people. Who here is
Speaker 1: spiritual when you I'm a very spiritual person. I believe
Speaker 1: in God. I pray to God every day. I thank
Speaker 1: him when things go wrong, I thank him when things
Speaker 1: go right. That's just how it goes right. Um. One
Speaker 1: thing I remember watching when I grew up was how
Speaker 1: the preacher always had mad money. Are you fly? And
Speaker 1: I remember the first time I came down to Atlanta
Speaker 1: and I went to a mega church and the mega
Speaker 1: church was just like this, and they had a DJ,
Speaker 1: and the DJ was like, give it up for Bishop
Speaker 1: so and so dude came out dressed just like this.
Speaker 1: He said what And I was like there he got
Speaker 1: an ice style rolegs. I'm like, dang, I need to
Speaker 1: I need to be a freaking preacher. And the conde
Speaker 1: I started talking about how we were gonna raise our kids.
Speaker 1: Because you know a lot about dead as podcast. We
Speaker 1: do tell jokes, we talk about relationships and love, but
Speaker 1: it's also about just being a better version of yourself. Right.
Speaker 1: We want that when you guys leave here, you leave
Speaker 1: filled with motivation and inspiration to be better tomorrow than
Speaker 1: you were today. And what I realized is that a
Speaker 1: lot of people go to church for the same reasons.
Speaker 1: And what we do is we often judge people in church,
Speaker 1: don't we We often judge passes. But are they not
Speaker 1: people like us? They are? Right? So, Kadina and I
Speaker 1: found out about this movie was the name of a movie. Man, Well,
Speaker 1: let's you're the trailer first. I think that would be
Speaker 1: a good way to start it. Yah, I think I
Speaker 1: should watch this trailer trailer? What are you thinking? Him?
Speaker 1: What is calling you first Sunday back? Nothing? These m nothing.
Speaker 1: You can see our first Sunday back is East Sunday
Speaker 1: and that right, that deserves something special, something new. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you should wear nothing. An I'm gonna tell you what
Speaker 1: I'm thinking. I'm thinking product. I'm telling you there, it's
Speaker 1: just something about a pastor and product. It just it
Speaker 1: gives you chill. I have been blessed with some beautiful product.
Speaker 1: Mm hm. You know what. We don't want to go
Speaker 1: to extravagant, you know, we want people to Yeah, souls
Speaker 1: And I don't think it's going get deal with the pearl,
Speaker 1: all right. So the name of the movie, it's called
Speaker 1: Honk for Jesus. Do y'all know the two people right
Speaker 1: there for Jesus save your soul out in theaters and
Speaker 1: on Peacock September second, and here to talk about it
Speaker 1: live in the flesh are the sties of this new
Speaker 1: felt one more time? Scaring k Brown? Do y'all need
Speaker 1: two people? I don't know if y'all know the man?
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us. Good over the couch? Man?
Speaker 1: So are you doing? The whole time? I was like,
Speaker 1: can a negro make it over the couch? Do I
Speaker 1: still have scared? Warming up? Warming up? Oh man. So
Speaker 1: we're so happy to have y'all here today. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much. We are excited to be this is Atlanta.
Speaker 1: We have to show Regina what this energy is like
Speaker 1: because she was warning, what what is this live podcasting about?
Speaker 1: And here we are. This is what the shows is
Speaker 1: how we do it. So we have to show them
Speaker 1: some love. So tell me, y'all, what can everyone expect
Speaker 1: from this film? For Jesus? What you got to say
Speaker 1: about this? I don't know. I don't know you saw
Speaker 1: it you saw a trailer. You know what, I'll tell
Speaker 1: you one thing. It's good times. It's a good it's
Speaker 1: we love the church. So we want everybody to know
Speaker 1: this is not a condemnation of tying to not at
Speaker 1: all trying to build it up back back, that's right,
Speaker 1: build better, yeah, build back back. We love it. And
Speaker 1: also there's a it's a critique, you know, it's a
Speaker 1: critique of prosperity preaching, it's a critique of other things
Speaker 1: that we associate with the Black Church as well, because
Speaker 1: you can only critique something, I think, authentically if you're
Speaker 1: coming from a place of love, and that's what I um.
Speaker 1: We got a chance to watch the movie and I
Speaker 1: was thoroughly entertained one because you two are just great artists.
Speaker 1: But number two, the way the story was told was
Speaker 1: so different. It's a mockumentary style film, and you guys
Speaker 1: get to show us first lady and a bishop in
Speaker 1: a different type of light. Can you talk about what
Speaker 1: you guys went through to get to that level to say,
Speaker 1: you know, I understand these characters and this is how
Speaker 1: I'm going to present them. Well, you know, at first
Speaker 1: of all, it was so easy with Sterling, right, like
Speaker 1: as soon as we met. I mean, I think that
Speaker 1: energy was there. We had the respect already, and then
Speaker 1: the camaraderie, and then I was like, wait, Sterling is
Speaker 1: a fool, Like I'm a fool, So then we just
Speaker 1: have fun. People didn't know they think I'm raised by
Speaker 1: white people in real life. I didn't, you know what,
Speaker 1: I didn't know how black Sterle. Yeah, and then we
Speaker 1: had an honest conversation. We did, and I said, you
Speaker 1: wanted that I'm one of you. Yeah, yes, you're coming
Speaker 1: to the barbecue, Starling, we wanna to the barbecue. Did
Speaker 1: any of your personal experience of some church kind of
Speaker 1: manifest its way into this while you were preparing for
Speaker 1: your role that I think? I think it can't help,
Speaker 1: but do that? You know, I grew up in the church.
Speaker 1: My mom was born again at age forty. She had
Speaker 1: me at thirty four, So from six on we spent
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes a day praying in tongues. And I'm like, Mom,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: good for you get it. My man is all about
Speaker 1: the personal prayer language. I believe this. Yeah, I want
Speaker 1: to go to heaven, but right, don't get hit by nothing. Um.
Speaker 1: But but so it was something that like this business
Speaker 1: in particular, and you guys can attest to this is
Speaker 1: a faith walk. If nothing else. It is people constantly
Speaker 1: saying no, no, I don't think so maybe next time,
Speaker 1: and in the back of your mind you have to believe,
Speaker 1: like there's a yes. I know my yes as eternal
Speaker 1: and it may be deep inside me and quiet, but
Speaker 1: one day somebody else is going to see it too.
Speaker 1: So so my faith has brought me through this whole career,
Speaker 1: including this movie. Very nice. How does your Regina well,
Speaker 1: same thing? I mean, I was raised in a quiet
Speaker 1: church because my my mother went to uh Regina was
Speaker 1: Greek Orthodox, Orthodox, Catholic something. No, my mother went to
Speaker 1: a very quiet church because she was raised in a
Speaker 1: in a Southern Baptist church. So okay, yeah, but when
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. When I was a little girl
Speaker 1: and I was at the church, I got scared. I've
Speaker 1: never seen people running and fainting. I saw nurses. I
Speaker 1: was like, it's dangerous in here. Um. But I did
Speaker 1: come to love it, and yeah, every time the revival
Speaker 1: week was seven hours A nice I was, but I did,
Speaker 1: but I do love it. You know, they're parts of
Speaker 1: the church that I mean, you can't you can't find
Speaker 1: anything more uplifting and soothing and so. But I didn't
Speaker 1: know much about first ladies, so it was interesting to
Speaker 1: see how women anchor the man a man and although
Speaker 1: you might not see what's happening behind the scenes, it
Speaker 1: is that stability that allows that man come on, okay,
Speaker 1: come on, no, yeah, but to do and see everything
Speaker 1: that he is. So I had I have a lot
Speaker 1: of I have a lot more respect about what they
Speaker 1: endure than I did before. Um, I just I wanted
Speaker 1: to jump in because when when I was watching the film,
Speaker 1: that's the one thing I noticed. I grew up in
Speaker 1: a church, and when you grew up with a church,
Speaker 1: the first Lady doesn't really have a voice. She wears
Speaker 1: nice hats, she wid dresses, he always stands behind. When
Speaker 1: watching this film, it was like an in depth look
Speaker 1: to how much inside and how the voice of God
Speaker 1: speaks through the first Lady to the bishop. Can you
Speaker 1: talk a little bit about that? It's true? I mean, no,
Speaker 1: it is true. I think that's an instinctive quality that
Speaker 1: women have. But specifically because the first Lady and the
Speaker 1: pastor have to represent the roles right and the role
Speaker 1: of the husband or the head of of the pastor
Speaker 1: is the head of the church. And I think you know,
Speaker 1: Trinity says that you know, he may be the face
Speaker 1: and the head, but I am, you know, the next
Speaker 1: um and and and and I'm sure you probably can
Speaker 1: see that in ways the vale as the dude who's
Speaker 1: out from he got on a pink suit. But you know,
Speaker 1: like pful if my respective party. But like I just
Speaker 1: behind closed doors that you guys sharing this thing that
Speaker 1: you guys talk all this stuff through. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's similar. And let me tell you there
Speaker 1: is no decision that I'm make in my life. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't look over and go, what do you what
Speaker 1: do you think about this? Yeah? Like that ever watch
Speaker 1: the shoes being here, everything we talk about, and I
Speaker 1: always look over my shoulder and I'm always just like,
Speaker 1: you know what you're thinking. I trust her discernment. I
Speaker 1: always feel like women have a different level of discernment.
Speaker 1: I believe that because we can see things that yeah,
Speaker 1: absolutely absolutely you can't see. You want to know. I
Speaker 1: had a guy tell me I mean, no offense, ladies,
Speaker 1: but I had a guy tell me if Oh damn,
Speaker 1: it don't work. Said if if if if if If
Speaker 1: men had what women had, they ruled the world. But
Speaker 1: they kind of already do. But that's not what I meant.
Speaker 1: He meant that we have uh, we have a who
Speaker 1: has heard me? Is that? God? I'm sorry, you know,
Speaker 1: but they're so connected to the intuition and that in
Speaker 1: a way that men are not, and that we don't
Speaker 1: realize that in the beginning, for so long we're not
Speaker 1: aware of that power of a better word. So with
Speaker 1: your characters, though, in the face of scandal within the marriage,
Speaker 1: what do you think makes your characters marriage different? M wait,
Speaker 1: how do we think we should do? What? What makes
Speaker 1: the marriage difference? What makes it different dealing with scandals?
Speaker 1: So they're in the marriage. We don't want to give
Speaker 1: away like spoilers and nothing. But but you know, he
Speaker 1: just did something that made him lose his congregation, and
Speaker 1: so the film is about like us hiring a documentary
Speaker 1: film crew to get our congregation. Keeps saying us, I
Speaker 1: did not want that documentary. He wants to chronicle the
Speaker 1: great comeback. In his mind, she understands that the document
Speaker 1: film crew is gonna film what they wanted film to
Speaker 1: tell the story that they want to tell. Um. So
Speaker 1: after they go through what they go through and you
Speaker 1: see it when you come out, set to him for
Speaker 1: a second and on the moment um, like she has
Speaker 1: to make decisions in terms of like do I support
Speaker 1: my husband? Do I do I not? What is the
Speaker 1: Christian thing to do? You know what I'm saying, And
Speaker 1: like what exactly does that mean for this culture, for
Speaker 1: us as a as a couple of and as a
Speaker 1: church at the church. Did she do more than you
Speaker 1: would have done? Oh? It's funny you ask a question.
Speaker 1: We literally went through the same thing, the same thing exactly. Okay,
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, I'm a clarified. When I first met Sterling,
Speaker 1: it was four years ago. I was trying to get
Speaker 1: in the TV game and I told him. I was like, I, Sterling,
Speaker 1: I want to be a TV be an actor. So
Speaker 1: I was like, you got to be your own advocate.
Speaker 1: You have to go through the necessary channels, put in
Speaker 1: the work, and wait your time, right And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I want to do that. So I told Kerry, I said,
Speaker 1: I'm going to create a social sitcom and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: build my own platform with sixty seconds in an iPhone
Speaker 1: and my wife said you not. She was just like no,
Speaker 1: like I don't want people on in my business. And
Speaker 1: I was like, trust me, trust me, this is this
Speaker 1: is gonna work. I trust me if we're gonna do this,
Speaker 1: And the whole time in the beginning she was like, devout, man,
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this. And I was like,
Speaker 1: do you trust me? Do you believe in me? And
Speaker 1: she said yes. I said, well, if you believe in me,
Speaker 1: just followed that's beautiful. All of this came from sixty
Speaker 1: seconds in an iPhone for me doing this every morning,
Speaker 1: all up in the house, in her bonnet, everything, everything
Speaker 1: d crusted in the eyes, all that. But and and
Speaker 1: the truth is I picked up my phone and did this.
Speaker 1: But it wouldn't have worked without her, Like what what?
Speaker 1: What the whole thing was about was that relationship. So
Speaker 1: when I watched the film, it was about watching the
Speaker 1: relationship and I could relate to it. And I feel,
Speaker 1: like so many people your bedroom scenes better. It depends
Speaker 1: on what you catch. Because if I had a little
Speaker 1: bit of Hennessey tend to go left. If she had
Speaker 1: an edible, he may not even make it. Hey, But
Speaker 1: with all due respect, Yeah, Mr Brown, Yes, man, you
Speaker 1: go about an a peck oh triple, And I were
Speaker 1: just like, how my past was it? Six eight ten?
Speaker 1: My good man? All right, I'm trying to keep up
Speaker 1: with your husband. I listen, listen, my wife is not here.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Ryan Shot. I appreciate that. No, listen,
Speaker 1: I work out, But you want to know, I bet
Speaker 1: you can feel me on this one. D The thing
Speaker 1: that I want most is longevity. I want to be
Speaker 1: around for a long time. And I think unconsciously and
Speaker 1: consciously we as black men, sometimes I think we only
Speaker 1: have in a lot of the amount of time and
Speaker 1: sometimes make different choices based upon like, well, we're only
Speaker 1: gonna be here for so long. I got two beautiful boys,
Speaker 1: You've got four beautiful boys. I want to see their
Speaker 1: beautiful boys and girls. And I want to see their
Speaker 1: beautiful boys and girls. So the thing is, I work
Speaker 1: out so I can play. Absolutely, So I absolutely the
Speaker 1: energy that it was required for boys. Yes, you know,
Speaker 1: you know, yes, So I work out for that. I First, well,
Speaker 1: I want to show you how women do right in
Speaker 1: my house. It don't matter what I'm talking about. My
Speaker 1: wife gonna talk about something. This is every day. Look,
Speaker 1: we're having a whole podcasting. I don't want to know
Speaker 1: what they're talking about this. No, Regina's over here asking
Speaker 1: me the question that I'm gonna have one more baby?
Speaker 1: What's that guy? What's the answer to that? Y'all? I
Speaker 1: just like that. The next one could be your girl,
Speaker 1: or it could be you my other boy. You need
Speaker 1: a basketball team, no, like you can fill it out.
Speaker 1: Tell you a shallow strokes? Damn, Regina. I don't, Regina,
Speaker 1: as he may not. That's what I'm saying. I'll be
Speaker 1: able to help himself in terms of his stroke. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to be nice. God, where's that voice again? Is
Speaker 1: that what happens? Shallow strokes? Shallow strokes? Y'all? The boys
Speaker 1: shoot out, The boys shoot out fast, and they reached
Speaker 1: the target picker, and the girls happen, They swim. Then
Speaker 1: you gotta go shallow shows, and then the place is
Speaker 1: gonna shoot out fast. This is the first time, and
Speaker 1: the girl is gonna keep going. Regina, this is the
Speaker 1: first time I've ever had a woman in my life say, bro,
Speaker 1: you need to be more shallow. That's the first time ever.
Speaker 1: Because I have to, but I want more, baby, I
Speaker 1: promise you all. All right. So to wrap things up,
Speaker 1: how well did you get to know each other during
Speaker 1: the film? Pretty well? Yeah, yeah yeah once we once
Speaker 1: we zumed, we were like, oh, we're gonna we're gonna
Speaker 1: do this. We don't get along. Yeah, And and I
Speaker 1: love Ryan too, so it make it easy to have
Speaker 1: a very similar relationship with somebody the audience too. But
Speaker 1: we'll talk about that later. But I hope you I
Speaker 1: know each other really well because we're gonna actually put
Speaker 1: that knowledge to a test. Alright, hold that thought. We
Speaker 1: have so much more to say, but not before we
Speaker 1: get into these ads. Will be right back, y'all. We're
Speaker 1: gonna have a little audience participation slash. Our guests are
Speaker 1: going to play a game with us because we want
Speaker 1: to get you all involved in the conversation. In the
Speaker 1: situation up here is already for all right? All right?
Speaker 1: So Trinity and Lee Kurtish Child's those your character names, right,
Speaker 1: so fun fat And this is them writing into us
Speaker 1: as if this were like a listener letter. When we met,
Speaker 1: he was Baptist and I was apocalypse out. It's the
Speaker 1: lights in the eyelashes, my bad. I promise I could
Speaker 1: read um but we brought our love for Jesus and
Speaker 1: Holy Abundance together to start one of Atlanta's biggest, most
Speaker 1: prosperous churches. Wander to Greater Paths, give it that fraternity
Speaker 1: and league Ernest Child's y'all. So they're going to play
Speaker 1: the game as dead characters. Yes, they're gonna play as
Speaker 1: their characters. And then we're actually gonna have a couple
Speaker 1: from the audience join us on stage. So pretty much
Speaker 1: we had you all right into deadness Advice at gmail
Speaker 1: dot com and trouble went and picked out someone's love story.
Speaker 1: So I won't give your names. First, I'll read the
Speaker 1: love story. And when you hear this or you know
Speaker 1: your love stories being read, you should make your way
Speaker 1: up to the front of the stage and you can
Speaker 1: come over to Donora on the side. Here, wave your hand,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna make your way up to the stage.
Speaker 1: All right, we're ready. Yes, this is a portion where
Speaker 1: all the men get really nervous because they're wondering did
Speaker 1: my wife, did my fiance? Did my significant other? Right
Speaker 1: in and now she's about to make me get up
Speaker 1: on these people's stage and act to fool This is
Speaker 1: the moment y'all, you're gonna hear somebody go down every show.
Speaker 1: We've been married for almost nine years, and the reason
Speaker 1: we resonate with you guys so much is because we're
Speaker 1: also from Brooklyn. Cadine. I empathize with you because I
Speaker 1: too married a Yankee, and I have no ross business marrying,
Speaker 1: all right, so she must be at yacht out there
Speaker 1: and not a crow tonight, all right. The only difference
Speaker 1: we seem to find between the four of us is
Speaker 1: that instead of the nfl our New York escape was
Speaker 1: the military. I thought when he left for basic training
Speaker 1: and that was it but going away to an h
Speaker 1: B c U and was going to enjoy myself or
Speaker 1: we know who it is now. Okay, before you knew
Speaker 1: what he was visiting me on campus. Our cute boyfriend
Speaker 1: girlfriend phase came to a halt when we found out
Speaker 1: he was deploying to Afghanistan. Somehow we knew we couldn't
Speaker 1: do that journey without each other, so we eloped and
Speaker 1: got married. I was eighteen, he was twenty. Since then,
Speaker 1: the Army has has given us the opportunity to live
Speaker 1: all over again. Hawaii and Italy just come to the
Speaker 1: most recent names that we've been so now we're apparents
Speaker 1: to a two year old son, and we truly got
Speaker 1: to enjoy this first few years of us married and
Speaker 1: it was fun while it lasted. Come to the stage,
Speaker 1: Tyanea Malik Watson. All right, couple number three again. When
Speaker 1: you hear your story, make your way, even if you're
Speaker 1: up at the top. Our relationships started with a catastrophe. Well,
Speaker 1: god damn like when you use the word like catastrophe,
Speaker 1: that that's that's pretty significant, right I hit him with
Speaker 1: my car while he was on his bike. But there's
Speaker 1: not much better blue light and some quality time. Can't
Speaker 1: hell get it up for seconds for so so? So
Speaker 1: I felt like, since we have Sterling and Regina playing
Speaker 1: their TV couple situation, I might as well bring up
Speaker 1: my hobby and his co star get it up for crystals?
Speaker 1: All right, So we're gonna play a little game. Do
Speaker 1: we have our notepads? Oh? Wonderful we do. Okay, great,
Speaker 1: So let me tell you all how this is going
Speaker 1: to work. Everyone has their little dry erase board. We're
Speaker 1: gonna have our couples back to back, so you will
Speaker 1: go back to back with your significant other. Okay, And
Speaker 1: the way this is going to work. I will read
Speaker 1: a question, and I will direct the question to either
Speaker 1: the gentleman or the ladies on stage, and you are
Speaker 1: going to answer the way you feel your significant other
Speaker 1: would answer. Baby. Hold on, I'm just letting you know.
Speaker 1: I'm answering these as Zack, not not not not. I
Speaker 1: just want to be clear. Alright, thanks for the clarification.
Speaker 1: That's a good point. That's a good point. We don't
Speaker 1: want nobody's marriage to tonight. That's good. That's good. Yes,
Speaker 1: so we have sterling answering a sternity answering as Zach.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being cleared. All right, Maliko answer as
Speaker 1: Malik though period. We don't got no Alton that nobody
Speaker 1: over here is Malik being Malik personality. I heard what
Speaker 1: he does. He served in the military. Okay, that part alright,
Speaker 1: Question number one, I am asking this to my gentleman. Okay,
Speaker 1: but I remember both of you you all are answering who
Speaker 1: is more likely to sneak out of church before service ends.
Speaker 1: I think we got answers, all right, all right, now, yes,
Speaker 1: all right. I would like to have couple number one
Speaker 1: reveal on the count of three, one to three at
Speaker 1: the same time, a couple of number one, Me and Malik. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're right, they gotta match. Give it up, give it up. Oh,
Speaker 1: now they're arguing over who gonna clean wood board? Lord,
Speaker 1: y'all married and absolutely all right. In the middle, we
Speaker 1: have uh trinity the past, all right, Zach and Fatima.
Speaker 1: That yo, y'all be acting like Zach like the worst
Speaker 1: guy ever. Y'all go the shady crazy bro. Right, this
Speaker 1: is a difference, all right. Next question, I'm gonna ask
Speaker 1: this to the ladies. What would your spouse say they
Speaker 1: are the most blessed to have? All Right, we'll have
Speaker 1: our couple in the middle. Answer first one to three, yep,
Speaker 1: me my wife. Okay, that's a match. They're ay good,
Speaker 1: very good, very good. One point for you, Zach and Fatima.
Speaker 1: One to three, Yes, it's another man that no, he
Speaker 1: blessed to have the tema. All right? And down here
Speaker 1: couple number one. Oh, that's okay, she let him rock
Speaker 1: because that's their son. Okay, all right, but I beat
Speaker 1: you out, bro, that's a that's an honest answer, y'all.
Speaker 1: See how he still want me to clean him up?
Speaker 1: That's an understand sower. You ain't getting no boody tonight.
Speaker 1: But it's an understandswer. That's a rap. What are you
Speaker 1: doing here? Question number three, This is a question for
Speaker 1: the gentleman. What is your partner's biggest deal breaker? Couple
Speaker 1: number three, what y'all got down their biggest deal breaker? Okay,
Speaker 1: cheating and lane, that's a deal breaker for me too,
Speaker 1: so good ship, alright. Couple number one loud chewing. That's
Speaker 1: a pet peeve chewing. She said, this is not a
Speaker 1: fish market. Close your mouth in a very West Indian
Speaker 1: Caribbean thing to see. That's a very Caribbean thing for sure.
Speaker 1: She's Haitian in Panamanian. So there you go, yo yo.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something you know about Caribbean women, y'all.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something about Caribbean women, y'all. Cade
Speaker 1: is a people watching Well, be at dinner, right, and
Speaker 1: I will put a piece of food in my mouth,
Speaker 1: close my mouth and chew, and let's be holding her
Speaker 1: breath so she can hear me. What why She's like,
Speaker 1: why you gotta cheose so loud? Eat your food. If
Speaker 1: you eat your food, you can't hear me too. This
Speaker 1: should be just taking over my whole everything. You got
Speaker 1: that at though not training him right? How to chew y'all,
Speaker 1: couple in the middle, What do we have? What's the
Speaker 1: biggest deal breakers? I'm watching the movie. There's no deal
Speaker 1: I had to struggle to come up with something. But
Speaker 1: that's probably the right answer. And that's accurate. When y'all
Speaker 1: see the movie, you'll know why. That's very accurate, very accurate. Yes,
Speaker 1: I almost want to give you all a point, just because,
Speaker 1: just because, all right, on to the next question we're
Speaker 1: gonna get. Let's spicy exactly. I hope you got a
Speaker 1: good song for this question to night, just so you know,
Speaker 1: I think I stepped on my brain. Goddamn. All right, listen,
Speaker 1: you want brain watch down here, so make sure I
Speaker 1: don't fall off the stage. And I gotta save the
Speaker 1: braide for later on tonight. You know what time it is?
Speaker 1: All right, couples, And this is going to be directed
Speaker 1: to our ladies. If your spouse had to give you
Speaker 1: a report card grade, what sex position would she give you?
Speaker 1: For sime, This is for the men. I wrote this wrong. Men.
Speaker 1: If your spouse had to give you a report card grade,
Speaker 1: what sex position would she give you? An? A four
Speaker 1: A plus couple number one one? To three. What we got,
Speaker 1: don't you? Style and missionary. It's not a match. It's
Speaker 1: not a match. They thought one thing and now they
Speaker 1: found something up. Okay, it's education ctainly worried about how
Speaker 1: you answer this question. This is this is marriage breaking
Speaker 1: type of stuff. It's the zacting the table. It's just
Speaker 1: the game. It's just the game, y'all. And it's a
Speaker 1: judgment free zone. Thank your baby, you remind them and yourself.
Speaker 1: I'm on my first ladyship. I'm on my first ladyship today. Hi, y'all.
Speaker 1: All right, let's do zacting the table which I got
Speaker 1: down there? Wait, what do you that's the one. That's
Speaker 1: the one that come on, that's the one. Come on.
Speaker 1: See the blue Light. Let me let me tell you
Speaker 1: a little something about when uh, real life imitates art.
Speaker 1: It's called the cold on Marley. All right, thank you.
Speaker 1: Number four. I was inspired. I was inspired number four. Yeah,
Speaker 1: um coda is here because of the Blue Light. That
Speaker 1: episode came out of February twelve. I got home February.
Speaker 1: Dakota was born November eight. Then you do the math.
Speaker 1: You do the math, alright, right in the middle of
Speaker 1: my couple, Let's see where we go. What's you'all got
Speaker 1: bank shot the dog truyn getting hallelu hallelui shull ah.
Speaker 1: And our last question of the night, I've done lost
Speaker 1: score because between karaoke with y'all and there Shenanigan's up here,
Speaker 1: I don't know who's winning. Oh, Sis down here? Score
Speaker 1: keeping two one one two one one, all right, we
Speaker 1: got it And this is the last one for the wind.
Speaker 1: For the wind, I will ask this to the ladies.
Speaker 1: How many times regimea any day? Is that you better
Speaker 1: get it? Sis? All right? This is for the ladies.
Speaker 1: How many times a week do y'all have sex? The
Speaker 1: real couple should win this like this is these are
Speaker 1: real married people. I know, all right, I know right,
Speaker 1: y'all gotta beat us on it. My answer is two
Speaker 1: times a week. And it determines on what type of
Speaker 1: sex are we talking about? Okay, she said all sexes,
Speaker 1: not even but roughly two times a week? You you agree?
Speaker 1: Two times a week? We got to see, is it?
Speaker 1: So don't try to change your hands now you'll see
Speaker 1: them over they're talking about something up up three solid
Speaker 1: y'are getting complicated. They give it to these mad people.
Speaker 1: They got it got it. Thank God, you got it.
Speaker 1: You go because listen, some days I have some weeks
Speaker 1: I think we did it twight. Sometimes we did it
Speaker 1: four times, three times. Who could keep tracked? I'll be
Speaker 1: keeping tracking? Yeah, leave it up to a woman to
Speaker 1: be like, who keeps tracking at me? Me? I keep tryingly, Okay,
Speaker 1: I know when we did do it. Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: my goodness. All right, Trinity and Meno, what's you got
Speaker 1: going on over here? That's the same thing. First, lady, y,
Speaker 1: this is less than once a week. Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that doesn't contradict I'm doing a little man less than
Speaker 1: thank you. Oh right, I think that's great answer what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Let's let me tell you. If you watch
Speaker 1: the movie, you'll understand why. The reason why it is
Speaker 1: we get partial credit at least that's all I'm saying. Partially. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, alright.
Speaker 1: So the wind Zach and Fatima, which I got going
Speaker 1: on over there every day, Holle lou give it on
Speaker 1: the God. Yes, thank you for this heavenly body. Clearly
Speaker 1: clearly did aout be coming home in Zach thinking that
Speaker 1: we're gonna have the same situation at home. But then
Speaker 1: we got these four kids that be staring us in
Speaker 1: our face. So every day is virtually impossible. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not if you really really married, like really married, not
Speaker 1: TV married. Is no way you have sex every day.
Speaker 1: There's no way, no way. All right, y'all giving up,
Speaker 1: especially for our married Yes, thank you so much, play massive,
Speaker 1: Rara ra much for participating all night. Your drinks are
Speaker 1: on me and Cadine. So going back, get lit, get
Speaker 1: lit babies, Yes, everybody, can we get around of applause?
Speaker 1: Please for Stolen and Regina please thank you? Yes, my man.
Speaker 1: All right, before you keep going, let's stop for a
Speaker 1: quick second. We're gonna go pay some bills. We're gonna
Speaker 1: be right back, so hold that thought. Alright, alright, alright,
Speaker 1: So so before we get into the rest of the
Speaker 1: AS podcast, we do have a nice surprise for you
Speaker 1: guys if y'all look this way. Has another surprise for
Speaker 1: you guys, if you take a look this way. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: So first, first and foremost um to my lovely co host,
Speaker 1: thank you, Crystal and I. We manifested this and our
Speaker 1: first read together. When she was a recurring character, we
Speaker 1: were going into season two, the pandemic was happening, and
Speaker 1: she and I had to go and do our reads
Speaker 1: for all episodes on Zoom. And we started reading and
Speaker 1: we was just like, yo, these characters are interesting, but
Speaker 1: they work. And I remember us going through every scene
Speaker 1: and we looked at each other and we were just like,
Speaker 1: we're gonna get our own show. And because of you guys,
Speaker 1: Because of you, guys. Yes it came to fruition. So
Speaker 1: thank you and thank all of you guys. But um,
Speaker 1: I also I also would be remiss if I didn't
Speaker 1: thank my beautiful wife because no, no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: there are certain parts of Zack that are devout. For example,
Speaker 1: y'all see the handshake bow bow bow. Growing up, I
Speaker 1: watched Martin, I watched The Fresh Prince, I watched Jamie Fox,
Speaker 1: and I saw how they took parts of their real
Speaker 1: life and they implemented it into the TV show. And
Speaker 1: I always wanted to do that with my own show.
Speaker 1: So of course I had a conversation with my wife first,
Speaker 1: then we spoke to Crystals. So everything you see is
Speaker 1: honestly a collaboration from all three of us and of
Speaker 1: course the great Tyler Peril. So shout out to my
Speaker 1: wife the being I love you. Also shout out to
Speaker 1: the cast the sisters. We have we got scary carry
Speaker 1: scary Kelly, Yes, yes, yes, puzz nay. I also have
Speaker 1: two very good friends of mine that they played my
Speaker 1: best friends on the new show. Give it Up. You're
Speaker 1: gonna see Tony and Nathan stand up. You got Cameron
Speaker 1: and give me ya they're gonna be on the team.
Speaker 1: Or I just want to shout out all of y'all.
Speaker 1: I love y'all, Thank you so much. And before we leave, right,
Speaker 1: she didn't even know I'm gonna do this, but y'll
Speaker 1: be singing. Do y'all know the Cristinal knows how to sing?
Speaker 1: Christ come on, go ahead to something? Go ahead, go ahead,
Speaker 1: do something? Stop your going on? Oh saying something that
Speaker 1: reminds you of Zach Efertino. Oh wow, Why y'all not
Speaker 1: to be all like that? That's turnover to leave. Y'all
Speaker 1: watch Season for the Coaster. Okay, you need music or
Speaker 1: you going on a cappella? Just acapella since you don't
Speaker 1: put me on the spot compella. Go ahead, son, help
Speaker 1: me out, because y'all singing. I hear y'all singing, all right,
Speaker 1: so y'all help me out. Top on my hand, since
Speaker 1: you went away. I ain't got no plans, no no, no,
Speaker 1: y'all sound good. And the sound of the rain against
Speaker 1: my window pane it's snow slull in tryving me and say,
Speaker 1: oh boy, I'm the window. I'm going down because you
Speaker 1: went around baby, my whole sad I love. And before
Speaker 1: you the stage really quick, a little something. I wanted
Speaker 1: to make sure that, um, you guys have no idea
Speaker 1: how hard Deval and Crystal and their casts work on
Speaker 1: this show, like you have no idea, And I just
Speaker 1: wanted to give you all your flowers while you're here
Speaker 1: because I just love what you'll do with each other
Speaker 1: on screen. I love that you are. You know. One
Speaker 1: thing I'm gonna do is but I just wanted to
Speaker 1: say it to you too, um that not only are
Speaker 1: you seeing the reality of your your prayers, but you're
Speaker 1: seeing the reality of your hard work. And I see
Speaker 1: it day in day out. So I just want to
Speaker 1: give you both your flowers while we're here, actual flowers,
Speaker 1: and just say congratulations, and I love you both, and
Speaker 1: I'm so excited it's the team. I have not seen
Speaker 1: not one, not two, not three minutes of it yet
Speaker 1: because I want to be surprised just like you all.
Speaker 1: But I'm so happy for you. I love you both
Speaker 1: and I just cannot wait for this what this classic
Speaker 1: that is the team is about to be So I
Speaker 1: love you, thank you, thank you so much. People always
Speaker 1: ask like, how does Codeine deal with the sex scenes?
Speaker 1: How does she deal with the intimacy you see how
Speaker 1: she's she's a goddess, Like she's just amazing. She's my
Speaker 1: biggest supporter, Like this's my baby right here. I love
Speaker 1: you and so you'll get a chance to see it
Speaker 1: in real time. So I have a seat. Let's talk
Speaker 1: to the people a little bit. Baby, Yeah, let's we
Speaker 1: wrap up things. I feel like we've had the full
Speaker 1: experience with you guys tonight having a good time. So
Speaker 1: you know, like I always say or do that likes
Speaker 1: to put it out there, that my favorite part of
Speaker 1: the show. It's listener letters. You're going to hear from y'all. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we decided that we're going to have a microphone
Speaker 1: in the audience and we'll just answer a couple of questions.
Speaker 1: If you have any um, this is your moment. I
Speaker 1: know normally listener letters tend to be anonymous, so don't
Speaker 1: be shy um again, this is a judgment free zone.
Speaker 1: Jument Okay, So don't judge these people when they ask
Speaker 1: these wild last questions until you get home. Yeah, when
Speaker 1: you get home, you can judge, you believe, she said.
Speaker 1: But in here, we're going to clap and applaud everybody. Yes,
Speaker 1: so we have a microphone down front here. I believe
Speaker 1: Dinora or Trivile has it. Raise your hand. We're gonna
Speaker 1: come to you. Just stand, give your name, and you
Speaker 1: can ask us anything you'd like. I see somebody back
Speaker 1: there with a hand already. Ready, you can't see anything
Speaker 1: in these lights. And I see a gentleman right here too.
Speaker 1: I see a dude right here, this girl saying, put
Speaker 1: his hand down. Let's make sure we asked him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's come over to him first. There, you're gonna ask
Speaker 1: this question. So I'm gonna make sure your voice is heard. Love.
Speaker 1: When the guys asked questions, a donor screaming give him
Speaker 1: the mic pause? Hey there, New York I'm still in
Speaker 1: New Yorker. Not the pause, You're I love how obnoxiously
Speaker 1: are with the your We're in a metro South Carolina, Okay,
Speaker 1: South Carolina. Tring me some orange birth, so you know
Speaker 1: what it is. Hey, al right, so my question is
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get on the show. What's up? I'm
Speaker 1: trying on the show. All you gotta shoot your shot.
Speaker 1: You gotta call Tyler Perry. Do you have an agent?
Speaker 1: I can get one. Well, you got the first thing
Speaker 1: you gotta do. I mean, I know you, You know me.
Speaker 1: Look at that I'm trying to get year. We're in
Speaker 1: a group together, so we're gonna have an honest conversation
Speaker 1: about this. I get this a lot. All right. People
Speaker 1: come up to me all the time and be like,
Speaker 1: put me on the show. It don't work like that.
Speaker 1: There is a whole process. They are executive producers, then producers,
Speaker 1: then casting directors. All of those people have to approve
Speaker 1: somebody getting on the show. They're not gonna just put
Speaker 1: you on the show just based on me. So you
Speaker 1: have to audition. There you go. You have the audition,
Speaker 1: submitting audition. It has to get to the casting director,
Speaker 1: approved to the producer, than approved to the executive producer,
Speaker 1: and then you have an opportunity. I'm smart, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: hit you up. This is what you're gonna do. Send
Speaker 1: your information to my manager send it to my manager.
Speaker 1: He like, I know I heard this before. I know,
Speaker 1: I gave you the mic and that's what the fuck
Speaker 1: you did. They ain't gonna let nigas talking here no more.
Speaker 1: Thank you, South Carolina. Who's next? We got a question
Speaker 1: over here? Send it to your right, to my right.
Speaker 1: All right, Oh there we are. Okay, hello, y'all. My
Speaker 1: name is Justine, Um South South Jamaica. Queen's by the way, Okay,
Speaker 1: queens of almost I love y'all, y'all um, But my
Speaker 1: question is for Codeine specifically, how do you balance being
Speaker 1: a mom to a toddler with your business and your
Speaker 1: husband and just all the things that you have had
Speaker 1: going on for you? How do you balance that? Because
Speaker 1: I only have one three year old at the moment,
Speaker 1: and I'm having the hardest time trying to work and
Speaker 1: be good to my bed and also just balancing and
Speaker 1: trying to start my own business. So how do you
Speaker 1: find that balance? Girl? I will be honest with you,
Speaker 1: there is no such thing as balanced anymore. For me.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I've learned that I need to sometimes
Speaker 1: have the chips fall where they're mad and just realize
Speaker 1: that I cannot be to everything to everyone and every
Speaker 1: circumstance at every time. And I think we all have
Speaker 1: this this idea that people need to have that instant
Speaker 1: access to you. It's just this this age of instant
Speaker 1: gratification that we live in where people have to have
Speaker 1: things done right now in this moment. So I've learned
Speaker 1: to just realize that I need to prioritize things to
Speaker 1: get done. Some things are just gonna have to wait. Um.
Speaker 1: I also rely very heavily on my village. So Mimi
Speaker 1: said to tell y'all what, So, MEMI would love to
Speaker 1: be here tonight with Papa, but she's holding on the
Speaker 1: four at home because who also gonna watch all them kids? Right?
Speaker 1: But I do have a trusted village between DeVos family
Speaker 1: and mine, who really helped to hold us down when
Speaker 1: those moments when I felt like, you know what, I
Speaker 1: definitely have the mom guilt that kicks in because I
Speaker 1: want to be able to do everything and be everything
Speaker 1: to each one of my children. And as you know,
Speaker 1: we have four boys with four completely different personalities, So
Speaker 1: who am I going to be catering to in that moment?
Speaker 1: And then you add my husband to the mix, who
Speaker 1: deserves his time. Then we have my career and then
Speaker 1: it's just literally can never be a balancing act. Um
Speaker 1: the juggling. Usually just let the balls fall. She will
Speaker 1: never let the balls fall, you know, cut the balls
Speaker 1: kind to the Maybe it came out of my mouth.
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I gave his ass. She just
Speaker 1: keeps going. You're not gonna miss the alley? You who
Speaker 1: are you? Never? But I would say since to be
Speaker 1: kind to yourself. Just know that things are gonna happen
Speaker 1: as they should. Prioritize, lean on your village if you
Speaker 1: have one, Learn to relinquish power, delegate responsibilities, and know
Speaker 1: that if you have a trusted team of people or
Speaker 1: group of people, or even just one or two trusted
Speaker 1: friends in your area that you can rely on. We
Speaker 1: have that in abundance. Thankfully. We've made our family out
Speaker 1: here in Atlanta. Shout out to all of our peeps
Speaker 1: out here, Arianna, see you there, A got us our home.
Speaker 1: Sean and James, their son is with our kids right
Speaker 1: now because they can be here today. Keep it beyond guys,
Speaker 1: I mean, we have so many friends and family that
Speaker 1: we can count on to be that for our children.
Speaker 1: So don't be too hard on yourself. Just make sure
Speaker 1: you as a unit with your husband, you guys move accordingly,
Speaker 1: because this is where it starts for me. Sure, it
Speaker 1: also takes your spouse knowing to have grace, right, Like,
Speaker 1: sometimes k is not gonna get to me, and it's
Speaker 1: me understanding that I know she's not gonna get to me.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that she gets to just put me
Speaker 1: on the back burner all the time. But when you
Speaker 1: give someone grace and then help them when you realize
Speaker 1: they need help without them asking, it allows them to
Speaker 1: get to you faster. So as much as we're you know,
Speaker 1: we're very old school and traditional. When I'm like I
Speaker 1: like to pay all the bills, she's gonna cook and clean.
Speaker 1: I can tell when my wife is tired and I'll
Speaker 1: be like, yo, let me just hop on the grill
Speaker 1: and make something. Let me just order some toime food. Baby,
Speaker 1: put that down, let me get it. This is way
Speaker 1: she can get rest and then we can get back
Speaker 1: to each other. So it's just a balance and act
Speaker 1: giving each other grace, And that's really what it is, absolutely,
Speaker 1: And the double down on that is because he lightens
Speaker 1: my load, I can't always expect for him to just understand.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. There's times when I have
Speaker 1: to like, you know what, some things are gonna have
Speaker 1: to stop. I'm gonna have to hit my manager to
Speaker 1: Nora up and be like yo, your boys over here wilding.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need to handle him for a day or
Speaker 1: two block my dabby hand. So I'm like, I need
Speaker 1: you to block my calendar for two days because we
Speaker 1: need those touch bases. Devot does not do well, nor
Speaker 1: do I. If we're not um, we're not in sync,
Speaker 1: nothing else. The businesses don't work, we don't parent well
Speaker 1: when we're not in unison, nothing else. And I know
Speaker 1: that's a debate on social media what comes first to
Speaker 1: kids or your spouse. In our house, we take care
Speaker 1: of each other first, because when we take care of
Speaker 1: each other, all of that stuff just comes. So thanks
Speaker 1: for the questions, is yes? Good questions? Y Hey, y'all.
Speaker 1: So my question is I've been watching you guys back
Speaker 1: since you were on Black Love. Thank you so much. UM,
Speaker 1: So I have a real question. I hope it's not
Speaker 1: too hard, and I hope I don't you guys on
Speaker 1: the spot. But what I wanted to know is how
Speaker 1: are you guys able to move forward. I know you
Speaker 1: both talked on infidelity on both parts. How are you
Speaker 1: able to gain their trust back? Because now you're even
Speaker 1: more of a superstar than you were back then. So
Speaker 1: how are you guys able to push forward and get
Speaker 1: to where you guys are now? You want to talk you?
Speaker 1: For me, it's about making a choice to be in
Speaker 1: a positive space. Right when you first meet someone, you
Speaker 1: don't have a reason to trust them or not trust them.
Speaker 1: You just decide that you're going to trust them. Once
Speaker 1: you're learning someone, I've learned that people have the right
Speaker 1: to make options that are better for them in in
Speaker 1: certain moments. That means that she can't always just be
Speaker 1: about devour all the time. I'm not always gonna be
Speaker 1: about codeine all the time, especially when we're learning each other.
Speaker 1: Once we've made that commitment that we're gonna constantly be
Speaker 1: of service, things are different. But during the process of
Speaker 1: trying to learn each other, there were times that I
Speaker 1: was selfish and I made decisions that were for me.
Speaker 1: She did the same thing. But once we got to
Speaker 1: the point where we were like, you know what, we
Speaker 1: are going to commit fully with each other. I'm making
Speaker 1: a choice in this moment to trust her. I'm not
Speaker 1: going to continue to dwell on the things that happened
Speaker 1: in the past. I hope she doesn't dwell on the
Speaker 1: things that happened in the past, because we can't grow
Speaker 1: and move forward if we keep looking behind us. And
Speaker 1: you'll you'll learn this as you get into relationships. We
Speaker 1: learn to trust people in our family and our friends
Speaker 1: who do way worse things we have. We give grace
Speaker 1: to everybody else except file significant other. That person has
Speaker 1: to walk like Jesus in order to be in our life.
Speaker 1: But we'll let our brother, our sister, our mother and
Speaker 1: father walk all over us and be like, you know what,
Speaker 1: they're human, We're all human. When you understand that the
Speaker 1: person sitting across from you as human, and you know
Speaker 1: that they're working towards being a better of themselves for
Speaker 1: themselves and you, you have no choice but to trust them.
Speaker 1: And that's how I watch us, my wife, for sure,
Speaker 1: that's good. I think that's both like a mutual thing
Speaker 1: that we both have decided on. It's it's constantly making
Speaker 1: the choice to decide that this is where we want
Speaker 1: to be. And like I said earlier, when we did
Speaker 1: the karaoke session. This will be twenty years of us together.
Speaker 1: We started this whole thing where we were babies, we
Speaker 1: were eighteen, and I think for me, I was just
Speaker 1: wrapped up in this idea of what I was supposed
Speaker 1: to be as a girlfriend, or supposed to be as
Speaker 1: a fiance, or supposed to be as a wife that
Speaker 1: was not necessarily true to what I believe I needed
Speaker 1: to be for him or what he needed me to be.
Speaker 1: So in those moments where I may have faltered, I
Speaker 1: just knew wholeheartedly that it was a choice that I
Speaker 1: may have made in a weak moment, and I'm not
Speaker 1: going to say some mistake. It was a choice that
Speaker 1: I made, and we dealt with it, and then we
Speaker 1: moved forward. So if it's something that I feel like
Speaker 1: couples in general are dealing with, you have to really
Speaker 1: honestly decide is this something that is worth working on
Speaker 1: and moving forward? If not, let it go, because no
Speaker 1: one wants to live having to always constantly deal with
Speaker 1: the well you did this or it being brought up
Speaker 1: all the time, then you're never gonna get forward in
Speaker 1: any kind of positive space or atmosphere. So that's how
Speaker 1: we were able to get past this stuff. For years
Speaker 1: ago and here we are today. It was worth sticking
Speaker 1: around for. I'm happy we did. Thank you. Also, I
Speaker 1: want you to think about this when something happens in
Speaker 1: your relationship. Are you upset or is there a bunch
Speaker 1: of people outside your relationship telling you you need to
Speaker 1: be upset? Because a lot of times when you're trying
Speaker 1: to forgive someone, it's the outside people telling you you
Speaker 1: shouldn't forgive them. Meanwhile, baby forgiving niggas for worship. So
Speaker 1: I really want you to think about that when you
Speaker 1: get into a relationship with someone. When your thing's happening
Speaker 1: between YouTube, keep it between you two. Anytime you're seeking
Speaker 1: advice or you're seeking a word, look up, then look within,
Speaker 1: because these are the only three that matter. Thanks for
Speaker 1: the questions. Is we appreciate that here anymore? Oh? We
Speaker 1: have another? Okay, so I'm going to be sure I
Speaker 1: don't have a question. My husband is probably very grateful
Speaker 1: for that question and the answer. He's back there. Um.
Speaker 1: I just want to say we love you y'all. On
Speaker 1: our vision board, we see you and shoot three sixty
Speaker 1: all the time, which okay, okay, I saw you at home.
Speaker 1: I have a picture with you pregnant girl. We love ya.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for the support.
Speaker 1: Now good night. My name is Justin Gray. I'm originally
Speaker 1: from the Bahamas, but I moved all the way to
Speaker 1: Atlanta from my queen Crystal Gray. Um, I'm a big
Speaker 1: I'm a big admirer of you guys. First off, I
Speaker 1: have to say God bless you guys. All Right, we
Speaker 1: appreciate you so much for this opening up your lives
Speaker 1: to just help every one of us. Right, So, I
Speaker 1: don't really have a question, but they do possibly have
Speaker 1: a proposal for you guys. Are yo yo, I feel
Speaker 1: I feel you a lot. Um. It is possible though
Speaker 1: that I may have missed one or two of your
Speaker 1: podcast episodes, right, and so my question or proposal is,
Speaker 1: have you guys consider it? If I did, have you
Speaker 1: guys consider it possibly bringing in a younger couple, maybe
Speaker 1: someone that you have mentored, or even as a random couple.
Speaker 1: I am me and my wife, UM let me any
Speaker 1: time we had to do. That's a question. Let me
Speaker 1: thinking about business. I'm not mad, real question. Can I
Speaker 1: answer this one? Yes? I freelance produced. So if you
Speaker 1: and your wife want to start a podcast. Hit me
Speaker 1: in there you go, there you go. That's trouble triple
Speaker 1: through it out there. But I think he was looking
Speaker 1: for maybe like a couple of you want to to
Speaker 1: mentor you guys just like is that what it was?
Speaker 1: More or less? Who gave Dollo the mic? Yeah? She
Speaker 1: can't hear me? Um? So yeah, well we really newly words.
Speaker 1: We've been married for about two years now. We have
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We have our first our first princess.
Speaker 1: Her name is a really um but yeah, we Marge
Speaker 1: is tough. I'm gonna be on this. Marge is tough.
Speaker 1: You know it was. It was one through seven first marriage.
Speaker 1: Marriage is not tough. Get that out of your mind.
Speaker 1: Marriage is not tough. Doing marriage by yourself. It's tough.
Speaker 1: For example, if I had to move this couch and
Speaker 1: I lift that ship up by myself, it might hurt, right,
Speaker 1: But if I put K on the other end and
Speaker 1: I'm on this sand, we can move this couch anywhere
Speaker 1: we want. You gotta get in your candid. Marriage ain't tough.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Marriage ain't tough. Marriage. This
Speaker 1: is marriage. This right here is marriage. Me saying, Babe,
Speaker 1: I want to do this no, no, and her saying
Speaker 1: no and be saying trust me, trust me, trust me.
Speaker 1: She's saying no. I'm saying trust me, you believe in me,
Speaker 1: and she goes yeah, and then we do it together
Speaker 1: with sixty into the iPhone. We were able to build
Speaker 1: a multi media empire because we're married, we're partners. That's marriage, bro.
Speaker 1: Marriage is the greatest business proposition. You are literally in
Speaker 1: business with your best friend. Why would that be tough?
Speaker 1: Think about it? Agreed? Agreed. So I'm gonna ask you
Speaker 1: this one question. Questions. I'll try all you BROMI dot com,
Speaker 1: that's s A d I c E dot com. We
Speaker 1: have time for one more. Let's round it out. What's up? Brother?
Speaker 1: At my own nice hat? What's up? Wife? One? Very nice?
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to ask um, we're we're about
Speaker 1: to hit ten years um and appreciate um just some advice,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean for moving forward because we're
Speaker 1: big on longevity, so we want to keep this train going,
Speaker 1: so you know, just some words of encouragement things like that.
Speaker 1: So ten years married or just ten years day? Ten
Speaker 1: years married? Very nice, very nice. I think the biggest
Speaker 1: thing for me is UM, well with deval and I
Speaker 1: at least, this is my freaking best friend. Y'all, like,
Speaker 1: this is my best friend. And as long as you
Speaker 1: are as are moving together with your best friend to
Speaker 1: just do whatever it is you want to do in life.
Speaker 1: There's nothing greater than having someone by your side, who
Speaker 1: you love, who you trust, who's rooting for you, that
Speaker 1: you literally feel you can do anything with. And as
Speaker 1: long as you guys continue to be of service to
Speaker 1: each other check on each other's needs. I tell you
Speaker 1: every morning Devil and I wake up, it's become a
Speaker 1: thing where me particularly, I think about, well, damn, the
Speaker 1: alarm clock went off on need more sleep, That's the
Speaker 1: first thing. But then I'm like, ship, I gotta get up.
Speaker 1: But then it's also how can I make his day
Speaker 1: easier today? We have goals for each other that we set.
Speaker 1: We have goals for ourselves, goals for our family, goes
Speaker 1: for our children. So the goals go from how are
Speaker 1: we going to get through this day? To how are
Speaker 1: we going to get through this week? Through how are
Speaker 1: we gonna get through this month? Continue to plan, continue
Speaker 1: to speak life into each other, continue to manifest your dreams.
Speaker 1: This started an eighteen years old I sat on that
Speaker 1: bed into Vow's dorm room and I was like, bro,
Speaker 1: so what you want to do with your life? And
Speaker 1: Martin was on TV and he was just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to do that. I want to be an actor.
Speaker 1: And guess what, y'all my husband is a working actor. Okay.
Speaker 1: And I'd like to say that we just literally did
Speaker 1: it together. You know, he did a lot of the work.
Speaker 1: Of course I would never take his shine, but it
Speaker 1: was just so much easier doing it together. So keep
Speaker 1: rooting for each other, keep working together. Yeah, I would say, Um,
Speaker 1: being of service is the biggest thing. It sounds cliche,
Speaker 1: but it's true because you and not have an announcement. Um,
Speaker 1: it'll be out very soon. But we actually wrote a book. Um.
Speaker 1: We got offered a book deal the beginning of spring
Speaker 1: last year. We've been working on this book and it's
Speaker 1: very dear to us because it's not what you expect.
Speaker 1: It's not the Ten Pillars to have a perfect marriage. No,
Speaker 1: it's not it because we don't believe our marriage is perfect. Um.
Speaker 1: It's sort of like the Black Notebook. It's our journey
Speaker 1: from the time we were eighteen until now. And you
Speaker 1: get a chance to get in depth insight to what
Speaker 1: we were thinking during those times. And one thing I
Speaker 1: noticed while writing the book with my wife is that
Speaker 1: we started to gain traction of being soul mates when
Speaker 1: we were constantly focused on the other person. Right when
Speaker 1: I first got married, my idea of what a husband
Speaker 1: was was a guy who provides, you know, a guy
Speaker 1: who puts a roof over his head, a guy who
Speaker 1: was tough and protects. And I wasn't there emotionally or
Speaker 1: spiritually because I was thinking about, if these are all
Speaker 1: the things that I'm supposed to do, let me make
Speaker 1: sure my wife is doing all the things that she's
Speaker 1: supposed to do. And rather than focusing on being who
Speaker 1: I needed to be, I was too busy checking her
Speaker 1: for stuff that she wasn't not realizing that I wasn't
Speaker 1: doing my part, and we started to drift apart. And
Speaker 1: the first five years of our marriage was tough. And
Speaker 1: it wasn't tough for the typical reason that people think
Speaker 1: it was tough. They think it's always tough because the
Speaker 1: infidelity is tough because of finances. No, it was tough
Speaker 1: because we weren't focused on each other. Right. I was
Speaker 1: making money, I was building I was getting better, and
Speaker 1: I used to come home piste off because stuff wasn't
Speaker 1: done the way I wanted it to be done. And
Speaker 1: it wasn't until Cadeine got pregnant with Cairo, and I said,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna focus on making sure that
Speaker 1: this pregnancy was perfect, and I started to really focus
Speaker 1: on her. Then I realized that the reciprocation was coming
Speaker 1: back tenfold, and I was like, what if I applied
Speaker 1: this mentality to my marriage even when she wasn't pregnant.
Speaker 1: And for a lot of young men out there, you're
Speaker 1: here on social media, Oh this guy love, he's loving
Speaker 1: on his wife. He's a simple or you're here young
Speaker 1: women say, oh she's loving on her husband. She's submissive.
Speaker 1: When you're married, there's no such thing is simple and
Speaker 1: being submissive, it's being of service. And we really pride
Speaker 1: ourselves on being I am everything I need to be
Speaker 1: for my wife. There's nothing she can say to me
Speaker 1: in real time that she wants a need that I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna try to do with all my heart. Period.
Speaker 1: There's no there's nothing, and it goes both ways having communication.
Speaker 1: Do not be afraid to say to your wife and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna speak to the gentleman directly on this. Don't
Speaker 1: be afraid to say to your wife what you need
Speaker 1: and what you want. We, just like them, have a
Speaker 1: right to get everything we desire out of life, but
Speaker 1: a lot of times our masculinity holds us back from
Speaker 1: speaking and saying what we want. They're not mine. Readers,
Speaker 1: you can't get upset at your wife for not giving
Speaker 1: you what you need and what you want when you
Speaker 1: haven't told her. And a lot of times we don't
Speaker 1: tell them. I was guilty of that. I thought I
Speaker 1: was a punk. If I say something, I don't want
Speaker 1: to be a nagging husband. So I'm gonna just be quiet.
Speaker 1: I no more come home. I'll be like, yo, it's Friday.
Speaker 1: This Wednesday will suck. And sometimes she needs that. She's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I didn't realize maybe I got you
Speaker 1: because why I'm trying to balance and then I don't.
Speaker 1: And in the past, what would I used to do?
Speaker 1: It would be Friday, nothing happened, I go to sleep,
Speaker 1: get mad, wake up on Saturday, got an attitude. Now
Speaker 1: my attitude puts her and even worse attitude, and now
Speaker 1: she don't even want to do nothing. And sometimes then't
Speaker 1: even about sex. Sometimes I just want my wife to
Speaker 1: sit on my lap and watch a movie. Just just
Speaker 1: be there, you get it, Just be there, Just just
Speaker 1: be here. Divid just want me to sit here? Yea,
Speaker 1: sit here? Shut up, Shut up. She's like, why you
Speaker 1: want me here? Because I might want some wings? And
Speaker 1: if I want some wings, I need somebody to get
Speaker 1: the wings. And to be honest, that's just the truth.
Speaker 1: Be of service to each other. Brother, open your mouth,
Speaker 1: say what you want, what you need. There's nothing anti
Speaker 1: masculine about being open, honest, and vulnerable. So that space,
Speaker 1: be that safe space for your husband to be able
Speaker 1: to open up too. Okay, that's also very important because
Speaker 1: if they don't feel like they have any kind of voice,
Speaker 1: if they feel on her ward, then that in itself
Speaker 1: just makes it counterproductive altogether. So women be that safe space.
Speaker 1: Because our men, particularly are black men, have enough to
Speaker 1: battle with in this world on a day to day basis.
Speaker 1: They should not walk through the door, and I feel
Speaker 1: like they're hurting their own home. So I'm glad you
Speaker 1: said that, Donor do I got time to tell a
Speaker 1: quick story? Quick story? This was two thousand and I
Speaker 1: think it was two thousand and fourteen, right before Kyl
Speaker 1: was born, me and Conde was going through some issues
Speaker 1: and at the time I was like, I'm gonna speak
Speaker 1: on it and be honest. So we're having a conversation
Speaker 1: and Codeine doesn't like to argue, and I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to argue. I'm just being honest about what I feel
Speaker 1: and what I need. And after a while, those about
Speaker 1: three hours, we're going in circles. She said to me,
Speaker 1: she said, yo, man, you just sound like a bit seriously,
Speaker 1: and I said, I'm glad you said that, because when
Speaker 1: I when I don't say nothing the next time and
Speaker 1: I'm out here running the streets, I don't want to
Speaker 1: hear ship about why I didn't say something. And she
Speaker 1: sat back and she was like, the all right about
Speaker 1: that word. And the reason why I'm being vulnerable about
Speaker 1: this is because everybody goes through this, right. She grew
Speaker 1: up in a home where speaking honestly about your emotions
Speaker 1: didn't happen. She felt attacked. So while she was feeling attacked,
Speaker 1: she just felt like she wanted to attack me back
Speaker 1: to get me to stop and that, and it happens
Speaker 1: in a lot of relationships. You bro you know, bro,
Speaker 1: it's the moans, and men don't talk about men don't
Speaker 1: talk about this, but there have been times and and
Speaker 1: there have been times and and and not not to
Speaker 1: make excuses or make justifications, but when people typically step out,
Speaker 1: it has way more to do than just sex. And
Speaker 1: that goes for both sides you make. You don't make
Speaker 1: a woman feel appreciated, she's gonna step out. You keep
Speaker 1: telling a man he not good enough and won't say
Speaker 1: anything positive, he's gonna step out. So we learned over
Speaker 1: time that those words have power. And if you want
Speaker 1: your man to be honest with you and be vulnerable,
Speaker 1: you have to create a safe space. And gentlemen, if
Speaker 1: you want your wife or your girlfriend or your baby
Speaker 1: mother to be honest with you, you can't beat her
Speaker 1: down with your words. Bro. You have to empower her
Speaker 1: and make her feel comfortable about being who she is,
Speaker 1: because when you do that, nothing can stop to people.
Speaker 1: There's not a day in my life I walk out
Speaker 1: in this world and feel by myself. You see, she
Speaker 1: can finish my sentences. She know I go on and
Speaker 1: so many times I just take a gamble. I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck how much this cause I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: that ship. You wanna know why, Because whether I lose
Speaker 1: all my money on filthy Rich, I got her. Being
Speaker 1: able to take those chances is how we got here.
Speaker 1: So I hope you. I hope that helps a lot
Speaker 1: of couples who may be going through it, because Kadina
Speaker 1: and I we're going through it and no one told
Speaker 1: us about it, and we had to find the hard way.
Speaker 1: And part of the reason why we do this is
Speaker 1: to help couples like yourself and like you, so so unlucky.
Speaker 1: You have a good time tonight. I sure Atlanta showed out.
Speaker 1: Atlanta did show out. So as we close the show,
Speaker 1: there's something I like to do for everybody. Like I
Speaker 1: said before, this is a safe space, but this is
Speaker 1: also a place where we want you to leave here
Speaker 1: filled up, feeling like you you became a better person
Speaker 1: today than you are before tomorrow. So can I ask
Speaker 1: everybody to stand up. This is a mantra pretty much
Speaker 1: what I do every single day to help me when
Speaker 1: I walk out in the world. I want you, guys
Speaker 1: to close your eyes, close your eyes, and I want
Speaker 1: you to envision the biggest house you ever seen, the
Speaker 1: most money you ever made, the nicest cars, you're next
Speaker 1: to your best friend, You'll have a ton of kids,
Speaker 1: and you are living your life with full autonomy, no
Speaker 1: ownership from anybody else over what you want. And I
Speaker 1: want you to think about this. If you can envision
Speaker 1: that and you can see it, that means that it's
Speaker 1: already happened. God has already provided a way for you
Speaker 1: to get it, but you have to claim it. I
Speaker 1: open your eyes, it's yours. Go get that ship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's some beautiful people in here tonight. Look at y'all
Speaker 1: looking at us. Don't be looking at me like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it looks so good. Before we leave, we never say goodbye.
Speaker 1: We never say goodbye because we always believe we're gonna
Speaker 1: see you again, see you all later. So we're gonna
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