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Speaker 1: Hey, I'm Cadine and we're the ellis Is. You may

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Speaker 1: know us from posting funny videos with our boys and

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Speaker 1: reading each other publicly as a form of therapy. Wait,

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Speaker 1: I'll make you need derby most days. Wow. And one

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Speaker 1: more important thing to mention, we're married. We are. We

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Speaker 1: created this podcast to open dialogue about some of life's

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Speaker 1: most taboo topics, things most folks don't want to talk

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Speaker 1: about through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead

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Speaker 1: adds is the term that we say every day. So

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Speaker 1: when we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts, the truth,

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Speaker 1: the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. We're about

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Speaker 1: to take phillows off to a whole new level. Dead

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Speaker 1: ass starts right now. What's up? Yes, yes, yes, look

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Speaker 1: at all these are beautiful faces out here. Look good.

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Speaker 1: Y'all look really really good. Y'all look really good? Man.

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Speaker 1: How long was it? Welcome since we've been in Atlanta?

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Speaker 1: How long was it? What do you mean? How long

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Speaker 1: is it since we've been in the live show? We

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Speaker 1: seen a live show in Atlanta? Oh, the live show

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Speaker 1: that we did last time with February. Who was at

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Speaker 1: the February show anyway? I remember you. Yes, I remember you. Yes,

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Speaker 1: we took pictures. Have a seen? Everybody? Have a seen? Yes,

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Speaker 1: have a sea? So yes, first and foremost, I gotta

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Speaker 1: tell y'all how this show almost didn't happen. Alright, just

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Speaker 1: give me to swim me a second. Jesus so who

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Speaker 1: he follows us on social media? Thank y'all, Yes, thank you? Yeah. OK.

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Speaker 1: Last week it's it's cadeed for me to always. Last week,

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Speaker 1: we was filming season two of The Team A right,

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Speaker 1: and as you know, when we filmed at Tyler Perry Studios,

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Speaker 1: sixteen hour days. Sometimes I need sleep. At like twelve

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Speaker 1: cadem She's like one thing about me. I'm anna crying.

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Speaker 1: So I'm half sleep. I'm like, I'm like, what's up?

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Speaker 1: It was up? What's up? What's up? She's like, my face,

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Speaker 1: my face fucked up. I said, it can't be fucked up.

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Speaker 1: She said, I'm gonna send you a picture. So she

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Speaker 1: sends me a picture. Y'all see that, so loose? Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Who said that? Thank you, thank you, thank you. So

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Speaker 1: I was like I was like, I was like baby, baby,

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Speaker 1: you look amazing, I said you as I said, baby,

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Speaker 1: in the morning, everything will be fine. I went to sleep,

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Speaker 1: I woke up in the morning. She sent me this. Yeah. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So so now it's sixty five in the morning. I

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Speaker 1: I first opened up the thing, I was like, damn.

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Speaker 1: But I couldn't let that be my response when I

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Speaker 1: I was like, what am I looking at? I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't see anything. I don't see any of the right.

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Speaker 1: Then she sends me this, she had to have oral surgery.

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Speaker 1: So now I don't know how to respond. I go, babe,

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Speaker 1: what is this? She said, Look at it to vowel.

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Speaker 1: It looks like someone put a field goal post in

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Speaker 1: mouth for three hours. Facts all the way to my brain. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's what I was like, babe. As soon as they

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Speaker 1: get done removing all of that, the swelling is going

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Speaker 1: see the tears the residue? So me now I'm in

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Speaker 1: husband moved. I don't care about filming. I don't care

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Speaker 1: about nothing. I said, baby, I'm coming home. She said why.

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Speaker 1: I said, I'm sucking the Dennis up all right. So

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Speaker 1: that because you have a job. I don't want you

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Speaker 1: on TMZ sisters actor beings up the dentist. So I said, fine,

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Speaker 1: I'm canceling the tour. She said, no, you're fucking not.

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Speaker 1: I said, I said, so, so what do you want

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Speaker 1: me to do? White can't? She said, you know, people

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Speaker 1: But that shows you commitment. My wife is always ready

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Speaker 1: than what song give me something. The reason why it's

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Speaker 1: lot of men. They'll be coming up to me. They'd

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Speaker 1: be like, you know you devout right. I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: don't let this purple joke up you nigga. I'm from Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: I throw these things and it's like, nah, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: wife be like, why can't you be more like the Vale?

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Speaker 1: Why can't you be more like de Val? So I

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Speaker 1: why she can't be like codein, because codein is like this.

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Speaker 1: And and before you ladies in here say, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: the violence so misogynistic. You want to know who set

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Speaker 1: me this fucking picture with a halo? She said it

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Speaker 1: called the throat goat. I am the tongue god. All right.

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Speaker 1: So I started watching some porn before. No before I

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Speaker 1: So now, who are I'm paying attention? Right? So? I

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Speaker 1: I come in there after football practice, I'm soup like something.

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Speaker 1: You know what time it is? This time I came

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Speaker 1: in there, I said, maybe I want you just laying

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Speaker 1: your back real quick. He dropped the octave. I know

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Speaker 1: what time. I dropped the octave to prepare. I was prepared.

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Speaker 1: like right, and I just kissed. I said, Bob Bob,

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Speaker 1: There you got sorry? Are you all ready for that?

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Speaker 1: As podcast? So who listens every week Today's podcast? Alright? Alright, alright,

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Speaker 1: So y'all know after I talk my ship, we always

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Speaker 1: go with karaoke. My wife says she got some special

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Speaker 1: live shows are not about deval and I talking, because

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Speaker 1: My single women? Okay, well just so you know, single women,

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Speaker 1: my single brother is here and today is his birthday?

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Speaker 1: Just twenty days? Happy birthday? Broke. So ladies, just so

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Speaker 1: y'all know what that song is important? To tell them? Why? Why?

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Speaker 1: the show. Who he grew up in church? Yeah, we

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Speaker 1: All Yes, I heard somebody saying, Jesus know my heart.

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Speaker 1: That's what people do right before they right, they say that,

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Speaker 1: right before they do something fucked up. Jesus, No, my heart, Jesus.

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Speaker 1: the first moments that I had with Codeine was in

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Speaker 1: So it was Easter Sunday. We went to six o

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421
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: I was like, trust me, trust me, this is this

422
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:42,719
Speaker 1: is gonna work. I trust me if we're gonna do this,

423
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 1: And the whole time in the beginning she was like, devout, man,

424
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this. And I was like,

425
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 1: do you trust me? Do you believe in me? And

426
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 1: she said yes. I said, well, if you believe in me,

427
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: just followed that's beautiful. All of this came from sixty

428
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 1: seconds in an iPhone for me doing this every morning,

429
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: all up in the house, in her bonnet, everything, everything

430
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: d crusted in the eyes, all that. But and and

431
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 1: the truth is I picked up my phone and did this.

432
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,640
Speaker 1: But it wouldn't have worked without her, Like what what?

433
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: What the whole thing was about was that relationship. So

434
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: when I watched the film, it was about watching the

435
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 1: relationship and I could relate to it. And I feel,

436
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: like so many people your bedroom scenes better. It depends

437
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: on what you catch. Because if I had a little

438
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: bit of Hennessey tend to go left. If she had

439
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: an edible, he may not even make it. Hey, But

440
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 1: with all due respect, Yeah, Mr Brown, Yes, man, you

441
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: go about an a peck oh triple, And I were

442
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: just like, how my past was it? Six eight ten?

443
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:06,719
Speaker 1: My good man? All right, I'm trying to keep up

444
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 1: with your husband. I listen, listen, my wife is not here.

445
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: Shout out to Ryan Shot. I appreciate that. No, listen,

446
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: I work out, But you want to know, I bet

447
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 1: you can feel me on this one. D The thing

448
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: that I want most is longevity. I want to be

449
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 1: around for a long time. And I think unconsciously and

450
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: consciously we as black men, sometimes I think we only

451
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: have in a lot of the amount of time and

452
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: sometimes make different choices based upon like, well, we're only

453
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: gonna be here for so long. I got two beautiful boys,

454
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 1: You've got four beautiful boys. I want to see their

455
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: beautiful boys and girls. And I want to see their

456
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:48,720
Speaker 1: beautiful boys and girls. So the thing is, I work

457
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: out so I can play. Absolutely, So I absolutely the

458
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: energy that it was required for boys. Yes, you know,

459
00:29:55,760 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: you know, yes, So I work out for that. I First, well,

460
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: I want to show you how women do right in

461
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: my house. It don't matter what I'm talking about. My

462
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: wife gonna talk about something. This is every day. Look,

463
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 1: we're having a whole podcasting. I don't want to know

464
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 1: what they're talking about this. No, Regina's over here asking

465
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:21,719
Speaker 1: me the question that I'm gonna have one more baby?

466
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 1: What's that guy? What's the answer to that? Y'all? I

467
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: just like that. The next one could be your girl,

468
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 1: or it could be you my other boy. You need

469
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: a basketball team, no, like you can fill it out.

470
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: Tell you a shallow strokes? Damn, Regina. I don't, Regina,

471
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 1: as he may not. That's what I'm saying. I'll be

472
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:53,960
Speaker 1: able to help himself in terms of his stroke. I'm

473
00:30:54,080 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: trying to be nice. God, where's that voice again? Is

474
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: that what happens? Shallow strokes? Shallow strokes? Y'all? The boys

475
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: shoot out, The boys shoot out fast, and they reached

476
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: the target picker, and the girls happen, They swim. Then

477
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: you gotta go shallow shows, and then the place is

478
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: gonna shoot out fast. This is the first time, and

479
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: the girl is gonna keep going. Regina, this is the

480
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: first time I've ever had a woman in my life say, bro,

481
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: you need to be more shallow. That's the first time ever.

482
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: Because I have to, but I want more, baby, I

483
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: promise you all. All right. So to wrap things up,

484
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: how well did you get to know each other during

485
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 1: the film? Pretty well? Yeah, yeah yeah once we once

486
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 1: we zumed, we were like, oh, we're gonna we're gonna

487
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 1: do this. We don't get along. Yeah, And and I

488
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 1: love Ryan too, so it make it easy to have

489
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 1: a very similar relationship with somebody the audience too. But

490
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: we'll talk about that later. But I hope you I

491
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 1: know each other really well because we're gonna actually put

492
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: that knowledge to a test. Alright, hold that thought. We

493
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 1: have so much more to say, but not before we

494
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: get into these ads. Will be right back, y'all. We're

495
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 1: gonna have a little audience participation slash. Our guests are

496
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: going to play a game with us because we want

497
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: to get you all involved in the conversation. In the

498
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: situation up here is already for all right? All right?

499
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 1: So Trinity and Lee Kurtish Child's those your character names, right,

500
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: so fun fat And this is them writing into us

501
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 1: as if this were like a listener letter. When we met,

502
00:32:55,160 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: he was Baptist and I was apocalypse out. It's the

503
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: lights in the eyelashes, my bad. I promise I could

504
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 1: read um but we brought our love for Jesus and

505
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: Holy Abundance together to start one of Atlanta's biggest, most

506
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: prosperous churches. Wander to Greater Paths, give it that fraternity

507
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: and league Ernest Child's y'all. So they're going to play

508
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: the game as dead characters. Yes, they're gonna play as

509
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 1: their characters. And then we're actually gonna have a couple

510
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 1: from the audience join us on stage. So pretty much

511
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: we had you all right into deadness Advice at gmail

512
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 1: dot com and trouble went and picked out someone's love story.

513
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: So I won't give your names. First, I'll read the

514
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: love story. And when you hear this or you know

515
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: your love stories being read, you should make your way

516
00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 1: up to the front of the stage and you can

517
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: come over to Donora on the side. Here, wave your hand,

518
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: and you're gonna make your way up to the stage.

519
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:08,399
Speaker 1: All right, we're ready. Yes, this is a portion where

520
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:13,879
Speaker 1: all the men get really nervous because they're wondering did

521
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 1: my wife, did my fiance? Did my significant other? Right

522
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: in and now she's about to make me get up

523
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: on these people's stage and act to fool This is

524
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 1: the moment y'all, you're gonna hear somebody go down every show.

525
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 1: We've been married for almost nine years, and the reason

526
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,399
Speaker 1: we resonate with you guys so much is because we're

527
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 1: also from Brooklyn. Cadine. I empathize with you because I

528
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 1: too married a Yankee, and I have no ross business marrying,

529
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,399
Speaker 1: all right, so she must be at yacht out there

530
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 1: and not a crow tonight, all right. The only difference

531
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 1: we seem to find between the four of us is

532
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 1: that instead of the nfl our New York escape was

533
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 1: the military. I thought when he left for basic training

534
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: and that was it but going away to an h

535
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: B c U and was going to enjoy myself or

536
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: we know who it is now. Okay, before you knew

537
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: what he was visiting me on campus. Our cute boyfriend

538
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,439
Speaker 1: girlfriend phase came to a halt when we found out

539
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: he was deploying to Afghanistan. Somehow we knew we couldn't

540
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 1: do that journey without each other, so we eloped and

541
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,919
Speaker 1: got married. I was eighteen, he was twenty. Since then,

542
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 1: the Army has has given us the opportunity to live

543
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 1: all over again. Hawaii and Italy just come to the

544
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 1: most recent names that we've been so now we're apparents

545
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 1: to a two year old son, and we truly got

546
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 1: to enjoy this first few years of us married and

547
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 1: it was fun while it lasted. Come to the stage,

548
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 1: Tyanea Malik Watson. All right, couple number three again. When

549
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: you hear your story, make your way, even if you're

550
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: up at the top. Our relationships started with a catastrophe. Well,

551
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: god damn like when you use the word like catastrophe,

552
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: that that's that's pretty significant, right I hit him with

553
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: my car while he was on his bike. But there's

554
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:24,760
Speaker 1: not much better blue light and some quality time. Can't

555
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: hell get it up for seconds for so so? So

556
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: I felt like, since we have Sterling and Regina playing

557
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 1: their TV couple situation, I might as well bring up

558
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 1: my hobby and his co star get it up for crystals?

559
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:54,880
Speaker 1: All right, So we're gonna play a little game. Do

560
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,720
Speaker 1: we have our notepads? Oh? Wonderful we do. Okay, great,

561
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 1: So let me tell you all how this is going

562
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: to work. Everyone has their little dry erase board. We're

563
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 1: gonna have our couples back to back, so you will

564
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 1: go back to back with your significant other. Okay, And

565
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 1: the way this is going to work. I will read

566
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: a question, and I will direct the question to either

567
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: the gentleman or the ladies on stage, and you are

568
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: going to answer the way you feel your significant other

569
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: would answer. Baby. Hold on, I'm just letting you know.

570
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: I'm answering these as Zack, not not not not. I

571
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: just want to be clear. Alright, thanks for the clarification.

572
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 1: That's a good point. That's a good point. We don't

573
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: want nobody's marriage to tonight. That's good. That's good. Yes,

574
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: so we have sterling answering a sternity answering as Zach.

575
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: Thank you for being cleared. All right, Maliko answer as

576
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:11,720
Speaker 1: Malik though period. We don't got no Alton that nobody

577
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 1: over here is Malik being Malik personality. I heard what

578
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 1: he does. He served in the military. Okay, that part alright,

579
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:27,280
Speaker 1: Question number one, I am asking this to my gentleman. Okay,

580
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 1: but I remember both of you you all are answering who

581
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: is more likely to sneak out of church before service ends.

582
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 1: I think we got answers, all right, all right, now, yes,

583
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 1: all right. I would like to have couple number one

584
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: reveal on the count of three, one to three at

585
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: the same time, a couple of number one, Me and Malik. Yeah,

586
00:38:53,239 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 1: they're right, they gotta match. Give it up, give it up. Oh,

587
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:04,479
Speaker 1: now they're arguing over who gonna clean wood board? Lord,

588
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: y'all married and absolutely all right. In the middle, we

589
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: have uh trinity the past, all right, Zach and Fatima.

590
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,240
Speaker 1: That yo, y'all be acting like Zach like the worst

591
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 1: guy ever. Y'all go the shady crazy bro. Right, this

592
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 1: is a difference, all right. Next question, I'm gonna ask

593
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: this to the ladies. What would your spouse say they

594
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: are the most blessed to have? All Right, we'll have

595
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 1: our couple in the middle. Answer first one to three, yep,

596
00:39:55,160 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: me my wife. Okay, that's a match. They're ay good,

597
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: very good, very good. One point for you, Zach and Fatima.

598
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: One to three, Yes, it's another man that no, he

599
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: blessed to have the tema. All right? And down here

600
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:26,799
Speaker 1: couple number one. Oh, that's okay, she let him rock

601
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: because that's their son. Okay, all right, but I beat

602
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 1: you out, bro, that's a that's an honest answer, y'all.

603
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: See how he still want me to clean him up?

604
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 1: That's an understand sower. You ain't getting no boody tonight.

605
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: But it's an understandswer. That's a rap. What are you

606
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: doing here? Question number three, This is a question for

607
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:58,720
Speaker 1: the gentleman. What is your partner's biggest deal breaker? Couple

608
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: number three, what y'all got down their biggest deal breaker? Okay,

609
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: cheating and lane, that's a deal breaker for me too,

610
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 1: so good ship, alright. Couple number one loud chewing. That's

611
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:30,279
Speaker 1: a pet peeve chewing. She said, this is not a

612
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 1: fish market. Close your mouth in a very West Indian

613
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: Caribbean thing to see. That's a very Caribbean thing for sure.

614
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: She's Haitian in Panamanian. So there you go, yo yo.

615
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something you know about Caribbean women, y'all.

616
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something about Caribbean women, y'all. Cade

617
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: is a people watching Well, be at dinner, right, and

618
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 1: I will put a piece of food in my mouth,

619
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 1: close my mouth and chew, and let's be holding her

620
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: breath so she can hear me. What why She's like,

621
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: why you gotta cheose so loud? Eat your food. If

622
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: you eat your food, you can't hear me too. This

623
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: should be just taking over my whole everything. You got

624
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: that at though not training him right? How to chew y'all,

625
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: couple in the middle, What do we have? What's the

626
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 1: biggest deal breakers? I'm watching the movie. There's no deal

627
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: I had to struggle to come up with something. But

628
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 1: that's probably the right answer. And that's accurate. When y'all

629
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Speaker 1: see the movie, you'll know why. That's very accurate, very accurate. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I almost want to give you all a point, just because,

631
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Speaker 1: just because, all right, on to the next question we're

632
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Speaker 1: gonna get. Let's spicy exactly. I hope you got a

633
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Speaker 1: good song for this question to night, just so you know,

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Speaker 1: I think I stepped on my brain. Goddamn. All right, listen,

635
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Speaker 1: you want brain watch down here, so make sure I

636
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: don't fall off the stage. And I gotta save the

637
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 1: braide for later on tonight. You know what time it is?

638
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 1: All right, couples, And this is going to be directed

639
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 1: to our ladies. If your spouse had to give you

640
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Speaker 1: a report card grade, what sex position would she give you?

641
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: For sime, This is for the men. I wrote this wrong. Men.

642
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 1: If your spouse had to give you a report card grade,

643
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,439
Speaker 1: what sex position would she give you? An? A four

644
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:38,359
Speaker 1: A plus couple number one one? To three. What we got,

645
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Speaker 1: don't you? Style and missionary. It's not a match. It's

646
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: not a match. They thought one thing and now they

647
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:58,399
Speaker 1: found something up. Okay, it's education ctainly worried about how

648
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Speaker 1: you answer this question. This is this is marriage breaking

649
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 1: type of stuff. It's the zacting the table. It's just

650
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 1: the game. It's just the game, y'all. And it's a

651
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 1: judgment free zone. Thank your baby, you remind them and yourself.

652
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm on my first ladyship. I'm on my first ladyship today. Hi, y'all.

653
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Speaker 1: All right, let's do zacting the table which I got

654
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Speaker 1: down there? Wait, what do you that's the one. That's

655
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Speaker 1: the one that come on, that's the one. Come on.

656
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: See the blue Light. Let me let me tell you

657
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: a little something about when uh, real life imitates art.

658
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 1: It's called the cold on Marley. All right, thank you.

659
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 1: Number four. I was inspired. I was inspired number four. Yeah,

660
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 1: um coda is here because of the Blue Light. That

661
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: episode came out of February twelve. I got home February.

662
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: Dakota was born November eight. Then you do the math.

663
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Speaker 1: You do the math, alright, right in the middle of

664
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Speaker 1: my couple, Let's see where we go. What's you'all got

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Speaker 1: bank shot the dog truyn getting hallelu hallelui shull ah.

666
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: And our last question of the night, I've done lost

667
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 1: score because between karaoke with y'all and there Shenanigan's up here,

668
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:02,799
Speaker 1: I don't know who's winning. Oh, Sis down here? Score

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Speaker 1: keeping two one one two one one, all right, we

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00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: got it And this is the last one for the wind.

671
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 1: For the wind, I will ask this to the ladies.

672
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:23,879
Speaker 1: How many times regimea any day? Is that you better

673
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 1: get it? Sis? All right? This is for the ladies.

674
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: How many times a week do y'all have sex? The

675
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 1: real couple should win this like this is these are

676
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: real married people. I know, all right, I know right,

677
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:45,879
Speaker 1: y'all gotta beat us on it. My answer is two

678
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: times a week. And it determines on what type of

679
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 1: sex are we talking about? Okay, she said all sexes,

680
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 1: not even but roughly two times a week? You you agree?

681
00:46:57,040 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: Two times a week? We got to see, is it?

682
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: So don't try to change your hands now you'll see

683
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: them over they're talking about something up up three solid

684
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 1: y'are getting complicated. They give it to these mad people.

685
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:19,320
Speaker 1: They got it got it. Thank God, you got it.

686
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: You go because listen, some days I have some weeks

687
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:23,800
Speaker 1: I think we did it twight. Sometimes we did it

688
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: four times, three times. Who could keep tracked? I'll be

689
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: keeping tracking? Yeah, leave it up to a woman to

690
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 1: be like, who keeps tracking at me? Me? I keep tryingly, Okay,

691
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:44,920
Speaker 1: I know when we did do it. Thank you, thank you,

692
00:47:46,840 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 1: my goodness. All right, Trinity and Meno, what's you got

693
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: going on over here? That's the same thing. First, lady, y,

694
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,439
Speaker 1: this is less than once a week. Oh yeah, yeah,

695
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:12,879
Speaker 1: that doesn't contradict I'm doing a little man less than

696
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: thank you. Oh right, I think that's great answer what

697
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,280
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Let's let me tell you. If you watch

698
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:26,440
Speaker 1: the movie, you'll understand why. The reason why it is

699
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 1: we get partial credit at least that's all I'm saying. Partially. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, alright.

700
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: So the wind Zach and Fatima, which I got going

701
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 1: on over there every day, Holle lou give it on

702
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 1: the God. Yes, thank you for this heavenly body. Clearly

703
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: clearly did aout be coming home in Zach thinking that

704
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 1: we're gonna have the same situation at home. But then

705
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 1: we got these four kids that be staring us in

706
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 1: our face. So every day is virtually impossible. Yeah, it's

707
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 1: not if you really really married, like really married, not

708
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 1: TV married. Is no way you have sex every day.

709
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 1: There's no way, no way. All right, y'all giving up,

710
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 1: especially for our married Yes, thank you so much, play massive,

711
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: Rara ra much for participating all night. Your drinks are

712
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 1: on me and Cadine. So going back, get lit, get

713
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:36,360
Speaker 1: lit babies, Yes, everybody, can we get around of applause?

714
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 1: Please for Stolen and Regina please thank you? Yes, my man.

715
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: All right, before you keep going, let's stop for a

716
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 1: quick second. We're gonna go pay some bills. We're gonna

717
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 1: be right back, so hold that thought. Alright, alright, alright,

718
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 1: So so before we get into the rest of the

719
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 1: AS podcast, we do have a nice surprise for you

720
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 1: guys if y'all look this way. Has another surprise for

721
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 1: you guys, if you take a look this way. Yeah. No,

722
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 1: So first, first and foremost um to my lovely co host,

723
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Speaker 1: thank you, Crystal and I. We manifested this and our

724
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 1: first read together. When she was a recurring character, we

725
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 1: were going into season two, the pandemic was happening, and

726
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 1: she and I had to go and do our reads

727
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: for all episodes on Zoom. And we started reading and

728
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 1: we was just like, yo, these characters are interesting, but

729
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: they work. And I remember us going through every scene

730
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:54,239
Speaker 1: and we looked at each other and we were just like,

731
00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: we're gonna get our own show. And because of you guys,

732
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: Because of you, guys. Yes it came to fruition. So

733
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 1: thank you and thank all of you guys. But um,

734
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:14,959
Speaker 1: I also I also would be remiss if I didn't

735
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:20,320
Speaker 1: thank my beautiful wife because no, no, no, no no,

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Speaker 1: there are certain parts of Zack that are devout. For example,

737
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 1: y'all see the handshake bow bow bow. Growing up, I

738
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 1: watched Martin, I watched The Fresh Prince, I watched Jamie Fox,

739
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,399
Speaker 1: and I saw how they took parts of their real

740
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: life and they implemented it into the TV show. And

741
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 1: I always wanted to do that with my own show.

742
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: So of course I had a conversation with my wife first,

743
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 1: then we spoke to Crystals. So everything you see is

744
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 1: honestly a collaboration from all three of us and of

745
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 1: course the great Tyler Peril. So shout out to my

746
00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: wife the being I love you. Also shout out to

747
00:51:53,960 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 1: the cast the sisters. We have we got scary carry

748
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:21,360
Speaker 1: scary Kelly, Yes, yes, yes, puzz nay. I also have

749
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:24,880
Speaker 1: two very good friends of mine that they played my

750
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 1: best friends on the new show. Give it Up. You're

751
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 1: gonna see Tony and Nathan stand up. You got Cameron

752
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: and give me ya they're gonna be on the team.

753
00:52:35,120 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: Or I just want to shout out all of y'all.

754
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:40,839
Speaker 1: I love y'all, Thank you so much. And before we leave, right,

755
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 1: she didn't even know I'm gonna do this, but y'll

756
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: be singing. Do y'all know the Cristinal knows how to sing?

757
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 1: Christ come on, go ahead to something? Go ahead, go ahead,

758
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: do something? Stop your going on? Oh saying something that

759
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:04,239
Speaker 1: reminds you of Zach Efertino. Oh wow, Why y'all not

760
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 1: to be all like that? That's turnover to leave. Y'all

761
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 1: watch Season for the Coaster. Okay, you need music or

762
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:18,839
Speaker 1: you going on a cappella? Just acapella since you don't

763
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 1: put me on the spot compella. Go ahead, son, help

764
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:26,359
Speaker 1: me out, because y'all singing. I hear y'all singing, all right,

765
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 1: so y'all help me out. Top on my hand, since

766
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 1: you went away. I ain't got no plans, no no, no,

767
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 1: y'all sound good. And the sound of the rain against

768
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 1: my window pane it's snow slull in tryving me and say,

769
00:53:56,040 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 1: oh boy, I'm the window. I'm going down because you

770
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 1: went around baby, my whole sad I love. And before

771
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 1: you the stage really quick, a little something. I wanted

772
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 1: to make sure that, um, you guys have no idea

773
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 1: how hard Deval and Crystal and their casts work on

774
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 1: this show, like you have no idea, And I just

775
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:40,200
Speaker 1: wanted to give you all your flowers while you're here

776
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,440
Speaker 1: because I just love what you'll do with each other

777
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 1: on screen. I love that you are. You know. One

778
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 1: thing I'm gonna do is but I just wanted to

779
00:54:54,719 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 1: say it to you too, um that not only are

780
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:05,319
Speaker 1: you seeing the reality of your your prayers, but you're

781
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: seeing the reality of your hard work. And I see

782
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 1: it day in day out. So I just want to

783
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 1: give you both your flowers while we're here, actual flowers,

784
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:24,279
Speaker 1: and just say congratulations, and I love you both, and

785
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: I'm so excited it's the team. I have not seen

786
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,879
Speaker 1: not one, not two, not three minutes of it yet

787
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: because I want to be surprised just like you all.

788
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,839
Speaker 1: But I'm so happy for you. I love you both

789
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:39,920
Speaker 1: and I just cannot wait for this what this classic

790
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: that is the team is about to be So I

791
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: love you, thank you, thank you so much. People always

792
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 1: ask like, how does Codeine deal with the sex scenes?

793
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 1: How does she deal with the intimacy you see how

794
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: she's she's a goddess, Like she's just amazing. She's my

795
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 1: biggest supporter, Like this's my baby right here. I love

796
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 1: you and so you'll get a chance to see it

797
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: in real time. So I have a seat. Let's talk

798
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:07,320
Speaker 1: to the people a little bit. Baby, Yeah, let's we

799
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 1: wrap up things. I feel like we've had the full

800
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:16,800
Speaker 1: experience with you guys tonight having a good time. So

801
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: you know, like I always say or do that likes

802
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 1: to put it out there, that my favorite part of

803
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: the show. It's listener letters. You're going to hear from y'all. Okay,

804
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 1: So we decided that we're going to have a microphone

805
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 1: in the audience and we'll just answer a couple of questions.

806
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 1: If you have any um, this is your moment. I

807
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 1: know normally listener letters tend to be anonymous, so don't

808
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,959
Speaker 1: be shy um again, this is a judgment free zone.

809
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: Jument Okay, So don't judge these people when they ask

810
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:51,120
Speaker 1: these wild last questions until you get home. Yeah, when

811
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 1: you get home, you can judge, you believe, she said.

812
00:56:57,440 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 1: But in here, we're going to clap and applaud everybody. Yes,

813
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: so we have a microphone down front here. I believe

814
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 1: Dinora or Trivile has it. Raise your hand. We're gonna

815
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 1: come to you. Just stand, give your name, and you

816
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:12,839
Speaker 1: can ask us anything you'd like. I see somebody back

817
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:15,160
Speaker 1: there with a hand already. Ready, you can't see anything

818
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: in these lights. And I see a gentleman right here too.

819
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 1: I see a dude right here, this girl saying, put

820
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 1: his hand down. Let's make sure we asked him. Yeah,

821
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 1: let's come over to him first. There, you're gonna ask

822
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 1: this question. So I'm gonna make sure your voice is heard. Love.

823
00:57:34,560 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 1: When the guys asked questions, a donor screaming give him

824
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 1: the mic pause? Hey there, New York I'm still in

825
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 1: New Yorker. Not the pause, You're I love how obnoxiously

826
00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: are with the your We're in a metro South Carolina, Okay,

827
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 1: South Carolina. Tring me some orange birth, so you know

828
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 1: what it is. Hey, al right, so my question is

829
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,280
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get on the show. What's up? I'm

830
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,880
Speaker 1: trying on the show. All you gotta shoot your shot.

831
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 1: You gotta call Tyler Perry. Do you have an agent?

832
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 1: I can get one. Well, you got the first thing

833
00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: you gotta do. I mean, I know you, You know me.

834
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 1: Look at that I'm trying to get year. We're in

835
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Speaker 1: a group together, so we're gonna have an honest conversation

836
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 1: about this. I get this a lot. All right. People

837
00:58:41,120 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 1: come up to me all the time and be like,

838
00:58:42,480 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 1: put me on the show. It don't work like that.

839
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: There is a whole process. They are executive producers, then producers,

840
00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:55,720
Speaker 1: then casting directors. All of those people have to approve

841
00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:58,600
Speaker 1: somebody getting on the show. They're not gonna just put

842
00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 1: you on the show just based on me. So you

843
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:05,600
Speaker 1: have to audition. There you go. You have the audition,

844
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 1: submitting audition. It has to get to the casting director,

845
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 1: approved to the producer, than approved to the executive producer,

846
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:16,600
Speaker 1: and then you have an opportunity. I'm smart, I'm gonna

847
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 1: hit you up. This is what you're gonna do. Send

848
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:24,160
Speaker 1: your information to my manager send it to my manager.

849
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 1: He like, I know I heard this before. I know,

850
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:31,600
Speaker 1: I gave you the mic and that's what the fuck

851
00:59:31,680 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 1: you did. They ain't gonna let nigas talking here no more.

852
00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:43,919
Speaker 1: Thank you, South Carolina. Who's next? We got a question

853
00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 1: over here? Send it to your right, to my right.

854
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: All right, Oh there we are. Okay, hello, y'all. My

855
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 1: name is Justine, Um South South Jamaica. Queen's by the way, Okay,

856
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:05,200
Speaker 1: queens of almost I love y'all, y'all um, But my

857
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 1: question is for Codeine specifically, how do you balance being

858
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 1: a mom to a toddler with your business and your

859
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:18,600
Speaker 1: husband and just all the things that you have had

860
01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 1: going on for you? How do you balance that? Because

861
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 1: I only have one three year old at the moment,

862
01:00:24,640 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 1: and I'm having the hardest time trying to work and

863
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: be good to my bed and also just balancing and

864
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 1: trying to start my own business. So how do you

865
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 1: find that balance? Girl? I will be honest with you,

866
01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 1: there is no such thing as balanced anymore. For me.

867
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 1: To be honest, I've learned that I need to sometimes

868
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:52,920
Speaker 1: have the chips fall where they're mad and just realize

869
01:00:52,960 --> 01:00:55,680
Speaker 1: that I cannot be to everything to everyone and every

870
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 1: circumstance at every time. And I think we all have

871
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 1: this this idea that people need to have that instant

872
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 1: access to you. It's just this this age of instant

873
01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: gratification that we live in where people have to have

874
01:01:06,520 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 1: things done right now in this moment. So I've learned

875
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,480
Speaker 1: to just realize that I need to prioritize things to

876
01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:13,760
Speaker 1: get done. Some things are just gonna have to wait. Um.

877
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:16,840
Speaker 1: I also rely very heavily on my village. So Mimi

878
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:23,240
Speaker 1: said to tell y'all what, So, MEMI would love to

879
01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: be here tonight with Papa, but she's holding on the

880
01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:28,000
Speaker 1: four at home because who also gonna watch all them kids? Right?

881
01:01:29,440 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: But I do have a trusted village between DeVos family

882
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: and mine, who really helped to hold us down when

883
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 1: those moments when I felt like, you know what, I

884
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,000
Speaker 1: definitely have the mom guilt that kicks in because I

885
01:01:38,080 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 1: want to be able to do everything and be everything

886
01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: to each one of my children. And as you know,

887
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:45,080
Speaker 1: we have four boys with four completely different personalities, So

888
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:47,400
Speaker 1: who am I going to be catering to in that moment?

889
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 1: And then you add my husband to the mix, who

890
01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:52,480
Speaker 1: deserves his time. Then we have my career and then

891
01:01:52,920 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: it's just literally can never be a balancing act. Um

892
01:01:56,560 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: the juggling. Usually just let the balls fall. She will

893
01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 1: never let the balls fall, you know, cut the balls

894
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:08,439
Speaker 1: kind to the Maybe it came out of my mouth.

895
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I gave his ass. She just

896
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 1: keeps going. You're not gonna miss the alley? You who

897
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:23,400
Speaker 1: are you? Never? But I would say since to be

898
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 1: kind to yourself. Just know that things are gonna happen

899
01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:29,720
Speaker 1: as they should. Prioritize, lean on your village if you

900
01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:34,320
Speaker 1: have one, Learn to relinquish power, delegate responsibilities, and know

901
01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:36,520
Speaker 1: that if you have a trusted team of people or

902
01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: group of people, or even just one or two trusted

903
01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 1: friends in your area that you can rely on. We

904
01:02:41,160 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 1: have that in abundance. Thankfully. We've made our family out

905
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 1: here in Atlanta. Shout out to all of our peeps

906
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:51,680
Speaker 1: out here, Arianna, see you there, A got us our home.

907
01:02:52,120 --> 01:02:54,640
Speaker 1: Sean and James, their son is with our kids right

908
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:57,560
Speaker 1: now because they can be here today. Keep it beyond guys,

909
01:02:57,560 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: I mean, we have so many friends and family that

910
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 1: we can count on to be that for our children.

911
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,440
Speaker 1: So don't be too hard on yourself. Just make sure

912
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: you as a unit with your husband, you guys move accordingly,

913
01:03:07,680 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 1: because this is where it starts for me. Sure, it

914
01:03:11,280 --> 01:03:15,440
Speaker 1: also takes your spouse knowing to have grace, right, Like,

915
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: sometimes k is not gonna get to me, and it's

916
01:03:18,800 --> 01:03:21,080
Speaker 1: me understanding that I know she's not gonna get to me.

917
01:03:21,440 --> 01:03:22,880
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that she gets to just put me

918
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 1: on the back burner all the time. But when you

919
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: give someone grace and then help them when you realize

920
01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:30,720
Speaker 1: they need help without them asking, it allows them to

921
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 1: get to you faster. So as much as we're you know,

922
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:36,640
Speaker 1: we're very old school and traditional. When I'm like I

923
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:38,600
Speaker 1: like to pay all the bills, she's gonna cook and clean.

924
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 1: I can tell when my wife is tired and I'll

925
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:42,080
Speaker 1: be like, yo, let me just hop on the grill

926
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:45,000
Speaker 1: and make something. Let me just order some toime food. Baby,

927
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 1: put that down, let me get it. This is way

928
01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 1: she can get rest and then we can get back

929
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:50,200
Speaker 1: to each other. So it's just a balance and act

930
01:03:50,240 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: giving each other grace, And that's really what it is, absolutely,

931
01:03:52,720 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 1: And the double down on that is because he lightens

932
01:03:55,440 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 1: my load, I can't always expect for him to just understand.

933
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:01,200
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. There's times when I have

934
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 1: to like, you know what, some things are gonna have

935
01:04:03,080 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 1: to stop. I'm gonna have to hit my manager to

936
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 1: Nora up and be like yo, your boys over here wilding.

937
01:04:07,080 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need to handle him for a day or

938
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:14,640
Speaker 1: two block my dabby hand. So I'm like, I need

939
01:04:14,680 --> 01:04:16,920
Speaker 1: you to block my calendar for two days because we

940
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:20,320
Speaker 1: need those touch bases. Devot does not do well, nor

941
01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 1: do I. If we're not um, we're not in sync,

942
01:04:24,040 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 1: nothing else. The businesses don't work, we don't parent well

943
01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 1: when we're not in unison, nothing else. And I know

944
01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: that's a debate on social media what comes first to

945
01:04:32,920 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 1: kids or your spouse. In our house, we take care

946
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 1: of each other first, because when we take care of

947
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:43,479
Speaker 1: each other, all of that stuff just comes. So thanks

948
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:48,480
Speaker 1: for the questions, is yes? Good questions? Y Hey, y'all.

949
01:04:49,680 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 1: So my question is I've been watching you guys back

950
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 1: since you were on Black Love. Thank you so much. UM,

951
01:04:56,840 --> 01:04:58,720
Speaker 1: So I have a real question. I hope it's not

952
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:00,480
Speaker 1: too hard, and I hope I don't you guys on

953
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:03,240
Speaker 1: the spot. But what I wanted to know is how

954
01:05:03,360 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 1: are you guys able to move forward. I know you

955
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:11,640
Speaker 1: both talked on infidelity on both parts. How are you

956
01:05:11,800 --> 01:05:14,560
Speaker 1: able to gain their trust back? Because now you're even

957
01:05:15,320 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 1: more of a superstar than you were back then. So

958
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:21,200
Speaker 1: how are you guys able to push forward and get

959
01:05:21,280 --> 01:05:23,680
Speaker 1: to where you guys are now? You want to talk you?

960
01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:28,440
Speaker 1: For me, it's about making a choice to be in

961
01:05:28,480 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 1: a positive space. Right when you first meet someone, you

962
01:05:33,080 --> 01:05:35,600
Speaker 1: don't have a reason to trust them or not trust them.

963
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:40,160
Speaker 1: You just decide that you're going to trust them. Once

964
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:44,360
Speaker 1: you're learning someone, I've learned that people have the right

965
01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:47,800
Speaker 1: to make options that are better for them in in

966
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:50,800
Speaker 1: certain moments. That means that she can't always just be

967
01:05:50,920 --> 01:05:53,720
Speaker 1: about devour all the time. I'm not always gonna be

968
01:05:53,800 --> 01:05:57,080
Speaker 1: about codeine all the time, especially when we're learning each other.

969
01:05:57,760 --> 01:06:00,120
Speaker 1: Once we've made that commitment that we're gonna constantly be

970
01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:02,880
Speaker 1: of service, things are different. But during the process of

971
01:06:02,960 --> 01:06:05,200
Speaker 1: trying to learn each other, there were times that I

972
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:08,040
Speaker 1: was selfish and I made decisions that were for me.

973
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:10,920
Speaker 1: She did the same thing. But once we got to

974
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 1: the point where we were like, you know what, we

975
01:06:12,560 --> 01:06:15,680
Speaker 1: are going to commit fully with each other. I'm making

976
01:06:15,720 --> 01:06:18,720
Speaker 1: a choice in this moment to trust her. I'm not

977
01:06:18,760 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 1: going to continue to dwell on the things that happened

978
01:06:20,880 --> 01:06:23,200
Speaker 1: in the past. I hope she doesn't dwell on the

979
01:06:23,280 --> 01:06:25,240
Speaker 1: things that happened in the past, because we can't grow

980
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 1: and move forward if we keep looking behind us. And

981
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:33,200
Speaker 1: you'll you'll learn this as you get into relationships. We

982
01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:35,920
Speaker 1: learn to trust people in our family and our friends

983
01:06:35,960 --> 01:06:40,120
Speaker 1: who do way worse things we have. We give grace

984
01:06:40,280 --> 01:06:44,840
Speaker 1: to everybody else except file significant other. That person has

985
01:06:44,920 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 1: to walk like Jesus in order to be in our life.

986
01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:50,320
Speaker 1: But we'll let our brother, our sister, our mother and

987
01:06:50,400 --> 01:06:52,400
Speaker 1: father walk all over us and be like, you know what,

988
01:06:52,480 --> 01:06:56,240
Speaker 1: they're human, We're all human. When you understand that the

989
01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:58,080
Speaker 1: person sitting across from you as human, and you know

990
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:01,160
Speaker 1: that they're working towards being a better of themselves for

991
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:04,440
Speaker 1: themselves and you, you have no choice but to trust them.

992
01:07:04,480 --> 01:07:06,520
Speaker 1: And that's how I watch us, my wife, for sure,

993
01:07:07,960 --> 01:07:09,760
Speaker 1: that's good. I think that's both like a mutual thing

994
01:07:09,800 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: that we both have decided on. It's it's constantly making

995
01:07:12,240 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 1: the choice to decide that this is where we want

996
01:07:13,920 --> 01:07:15,640
Speaker 1: to be. And like I said earlier, when we did

997
01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:18,720
Speaker 1: the karaoke session. This will be twenty years of us together.

998
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:22,400
Speaker 1: We started this whole thing where we were babies, we

999
01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 1: were eighteen, and I think for me, I was just

1000
01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:26,560
Speaker 1: wrapped up in this idea of what I was supposed

1001
01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:28,600
Speaker 1: to be as a girlfriend, or supposed to be as

1002
01:07:28,640 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 1: a fiance, or supposed to be as a wife that

1003
01:07:30,840 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 1: was not necessarily true to what I believe I needed

1004
01:07:33,400 --> 01:07:35,320
Speaker 1: to be for him or what he needed me to be.

1005
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 1: So in those moments where I may have faltered, I

1006
01:07:38,320 --> 01:07:40,920
Speaker 1: just knew wholeheartedly that it was a choice that I

1007
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:42,360
Speaker 1: may have made in a weak moment, and I'm not

1008
01:07:42,360 --> 01:07:44,120
Speaker 1: going to say some mistake. It was a choice that

1009
01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:46,400
Speaker 1: I made, and we dealt with it, and then we

1010
01:07:46,520 --> 01:07:48,520
Speaker 1: moved forward. So if it's something that I feel like

1011
01:07:48,560 --> 01:07:50,960
Speaker 1: couples in general are dealing with, you have to really

1012
01:07:51,040 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 1: honestly decide is this something that is worth working on

1013
01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:56,560
Speaker 1: and moving forward? If not, let it go, because no

1014
01:07:56,640 --> 01:07:59,760
Speaker 1: one wants to live having to always constantly deal with

1015
01:08:00,040 --> 01:08:02,840
Speaker 1: the well you did this or it being brought up

1016
01:08:02,880 --> 01:08:04,960
Speaker 1: all the time, then you're never gonna get forward in

1017
01:08:05,000 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 1: any kind of positive space or atmosphere. So that's how

1018
01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: we were able to get past this stuff. For years

1019
01:08:09,360 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 1: ago and here we are today. It was worth sticking

1020
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:16,040
Speaker 1: around for. I'm happy we did. Thank you. Also, I

1021
01:08:16,120 --> 01:08:18,800
Speaker 1: want you to think about this when something happens in

1022
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:22,400
Speaker 1: your relationship. Are you upset or is there a bunch

1023
01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:25,320
Speaker 1: of people outside your relationship telling you you need to

1024
01:08:25,400 --> 01:08:28,160
Speaker 1: be upset? Because a lot of times when you're trying

1025
01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:31,360
Speaker 1: to forgive someone, it's the outside people telling you you

1026
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:37,600
Speaker 1: shouldn't forgive them. Meanwhile, baby forgiving niggas for worship. So

1027
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 1: I really want you to think about that when you

1028
01:08:39,840 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 1: get into a relationship with someone. When your thing's happening

1029
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:47,880
Speaker 1: between YouTube, keep it between you two. Anytime you're seeking

1030
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:52,360
Speaker 1: advice or you're seeking a word, look up, then look within,

1031
01:08:53,160 --> 01:08:58,880
Speaker 1: because these are the only three that matter. Thanks for

1032
01:08:58,960 --> 01:09:02,640
Speaker 1: the questions. Is we appreciate that here anymore? Oh? We

1033
01:09:02,680 --> 01:09:04,640
Speaker 1: have another? Okay, so I'm going to be sure I

1034
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:07,439
Speaker 1: don't have a question. My husband is probably very grateful

1035
01:09:07,479 --> 01:09:11,040
Speaker 1: for that question and the answer. He's back there. Um.

1036
01:09:11,120 --> 01:09:12,680
Speaker 1: I just want to say we love you y'all. On

1037
01:09:12,720 --> 01:09:15,040
Speaker 1: our vision board, we see you and shoot three sixty

1038
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:18,760
Speaker 1: all the time, which okay, okay, I saw you at home.

1039
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:21,040
Speaker 1: I have a picture with you pregnant girl. We love ya.

1040
01:09:23,640 --> 01:09:26,599
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for the support.

1041
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:32,679
Speaker 1: Now good night. My name is Justin Gray. I'm originally

1042
01:09:32,760 --> 01:09:34,479
Speaker 1: from the Bahamas, but I moved all the way to

1043
01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:38,720
Speaker 1: Atlanta from my queen Crystal Gray. Um, I'm a big

1044
01:09:38,800 --> 01:09:41,280
Speaker 1: I'm a big admirer of you guys. First off, I

1045
01:09:41,360 --> 01:09:43,560
Speaker 1: have to say God bless you guys. All Right, we

1046
01:09:43,600 --> 01:09:47,240
Speaker 1: appreciate you so much for this opening up your lives

1047
01:09:47,360 --> 01:09:49,680
Speaker 1: to just help every one of us. Right, So, I

1048
01:09:49,720 --> 01:09:52,080
Speaker 1: don't really have a question, but they do possibly have

1049
01:09:52,160 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 1: a proposal for you guys. Are yo yo, I feel

1050
01:09:58,240 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 1: I feel you a lot. Um. It is possible though

1051
01:10:01,360 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 1: that I may have missed one or two of your

1052
01:10:03,160 --> 01:10:07,000
Speaker 1: podcast episodes, right, and so my question or proposal is,

1053
01:10:07,080 --> 01:10:09,960
Speaker 1: have you guys consider it? If I did, have you

1054
01:10:10,200 --> 01:10:15,000
Speaker 1: guys consider it possibly bringing in a younger couple, maybe

1055
01:10:15,080 --> 01:10:17,679
Speaker 1: someone that you have mentored, or even as a random couple.

1056
01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:23,840
Speaker 1: I am me and my wife, UM let me any

1057
01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:26,600
Speaker 1: time we had to do. That's a question. Let me

1058
01:10:26,680 --> 01:10:32,519
Speaker 1: thinking about business. I'm not mad, real question. Can I

1059
01:10:32,600 --> 01:10:36,240
Speaker 1: answer this one? Yes? I freelance produced. So if you

1060
01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: and your wife want to start a podcast. Hit me

1061
01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:43,320
Speaker 1: in there you go, there you go. That's trouble triple

1062
01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:46,000
Speaker 1: through it out there. But I think he was looking

1063
01:10:46,040 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 1: for maybe like a couple of you want to to

1064
01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 1: mentor you guys just like is that what it was?

1065
01:10:51,640 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 1: More or less? Who gave Dollo the mic? Yeah? She

1066
01:10:56,400 --> 01:11:00,320
Speaker 1: can't hear me? Um? So yeah, well we really newly words.

1067
01:11:00,320 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 1: We've been married for about two years now. We have

1068
01:11:03,479 --> 01:11:06,360
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We have our first our first princess.

1069
01:11:06,680 --> 01:11:09,960
Speaker 1: Her name is a really um but yeah, we Marge

1070
01:11:10,080 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 1: is tough. I'm gonna be on this. Marge is tough.

1071
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:18,200
Speaker 1: You know it was. It was one through seven first marriage.

1072
01:11:19,280 --> 01:11:23,080
Speaker 1: Marriage is not tough. Get that out of your mind.

1073
01:11:23,200 --> 01:11:27,280
Speaker 1: Marriage is not tough. Doing marriage by yourself. It's tough.

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01:11:27,880 --> 01:11:31,280
Speaker 1: For example, if I had to move this couch and

1075
01:11:31,400 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 1: I lift that ship up by myself, it might hurt, right,

1076
01:11:35,680 --> 01:11:37,360
Speaker 1: But if I put K on the other end and

1077
01:11:37,439 --> 01:11:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm on this sand, we can move this couch anywhere

1078
01:11:40,160 --> 01:11:42,960
Speaker 1: we want. You gotta get in your candid. Marriage ain't tough.

1079
01:11:43,560 --> 01:11:46,040
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Marriage ain't tough. Marriage. This

1080
01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 1: is marriage. This right here is marriage. Me saying, Babe,

1081
01:11:50,040 --> 01:11:52,360
Speaker 1: I want to do this no, no, and her saying

1082
01:11:52,439 --> 01:11:54,320
Speaker 1: no and be saying trust me, trust me, trust me.

1083
01:11:54,400 --> 01:11:56,280
Speaker 1: She's saying no. I'm saying trust me, you believe in me,

1084
01:11:56,320 --> 01:11:58,240
Speaker 1: and she goes yeah, and then we do it together

1085
01:11:59,200 --> 01:12:01,519
Speaker 1: with sixty into the iPhone. We were able to build

1086
01:12:01,560 --> 01:12:07,479
Speaker 1: a multi media empire because we're married, we're partners. That's marriage, bro.

1087
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:11,320
Speaker 1: Marriage is the greatest business proposition. You are literally in

1088
01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:14,240
Speaker 1: business with your best friend. Why would that be tough?

1089
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:17,240
Speaker 1: Think about it? Agreed? Agreed. So I'm gonna ask you

1090
01:12:17,320 --> 01:12:26,040
Speaker 1: this one question. Questions. I'll try all you BROMI dot com,

1091
01:12:26,280 --> 01:12:34,200
Speaker 1: that's s A d I c E dot com. We

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01:12:34,320 --> 01:12:39,960
Speaker 1: have time for one more. Let's round it out. What's up? Brother?

1093
01:12:40,520 --> 01:12:53,400
Speaker 1: At my own nice hat? What's up? Wife? One? Very nice?

1094
01:12:53,880 --> 01:12:57,200
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to ask um, we're we're about

1095
01:12:57,240 --> 01:13:03,639
Speaker 1: to hit ten years um and appreciate um just some advice,

1096
01:13:04,000 --> 01:13:06,280
Speaker 1: you know what I mean for moving forward because we're

1097
01:13:06,479 --> 01:13:09,559
Speaker 1: big on longevity, so we want to keep this train going,

1098
01:13:09,720 --> 01:13:12,600
Speaker 1: so you know, just some words of encouragement things like that.

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01:13:12,760 --> 01:13:15,439
Speaker 1: So ten years married or just ten years day? Ten

1100
01:13:15,520 --> 01:13:17,960
Speaker 1: years married? Very nice, very nice. I think the biggest

1101
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:20,519
Speaker 1: thing for me is UM, well with deval and I

1102
01:13:20,680 --> 01:13:24,840
Speaker 1: at least, this is my freaking best friend. Y'all, like,

1103
01:13:24,960 --> 01:13:26,439
Speaker 1: this is my best friend. And as long as you

1104
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:29,600
Speaker 1: are as are moving together with your best friend to

1105
01:13:29,800 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 1: just do whatever it is you want to do in life.

1106
01:13:32,080 --> 01:13:35,360
Speaker 1: There's nothing greater than having someone by your side, who

1107
01:13:35,439 --> 01:13:37,280
Speaker 1: you love, who you trust, who's rooting for you, that

1108
01:13:37,520 --> 01:13:39,800
Speaker 1: you literally feel you can do anything with. And as

1109
01:13:39,840 --> 01:13:41,479
Speaker 1: long as you guys continue to be of service to

1110
01:13:41,560 --> 01:13:43,880
Speaker 1: each other check on each other's needs. I tell you

1111
01:13:44,000 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 1: every morning Devil and I wake up, it's become a

1112
01:13:46,520 --> 01:13:51,320
Speaker 1: thing where me particularly, I think about, well, damn, the

1113
01:13:51,360 --> 01:13:53,160
Speaker 1: alarm clock went off on need more sleep, That's the

1114
01:13:53,200 --> 01:13:56,080
Speaker 1: first thing. But then I'm like, ship, I gotta get up.

1115
01:13:56,280 --> 01:13:57,960
Speaker 1: But then it's also how can I make his day

1116
01:13:58,040 --> 01:14:00,920
Speaker 1: easier today? We have goals for each other that we set.

1117
01:14:01,240 --> 01:14:03,360
Speaker 1: We have goals for ourselves, goals for our family, goes

1118
01:14:03,400 --> 01:14:05,760
Speaker 1: for our children. So the goals go from how are

1119
01:14:05,800 --> 01:14:07,360
Speaker 1: we going to get through this day? To how are

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01:14:07,400 --> 01:14:08,720
Speaker 1: we going to get through this week? Through how are

1121
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:11,200
Speaker 1: we gonna get through this month? Continue to plan, continue

1122
01:14:11,200 --> 01:14:14,000
Speaker 1: to speak life into each other, continue to manifest your dreams.

1123
01:14:14,479 --> 01:14:16,600
Speaker 1: This started an eighteen years old I sat on that

1124
01:14:16,720 --> 01:14:19,120
Speaker 1: bed into Vow's dorm room and I was like, bro,

1125
01:14:19,280 --> 01:14:20,880
Speaker 1: so what you want to do with your life? And

1126
01:14:20,960 --> 01:14:22,519
Speaker 1: Martin was on TV and he was just like, yeah,

1127
01:14:22,560 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 1: I want to do that. I want to be an actor.

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01:14:24,600 --> 01:14:29,040
Speaker 1: And guess what, y'all my husband is a working actor. Okay.

1129
01:14:30,439 --> 01:14:33,240
Speaker 1: And I'd like to say that we just literally did

1130
01:14:33,320 --> 01:14:35,400
Speaker 1: it together. You know, he did a lot of the work.

1131
01:14:35,439 --> 01:14:37,360
Speaker 1: Of course I would never take his shine, but it

1132
01:14:37,479 --> 01:14:39,559
Speaker 1: was just so much easier doing it together. So keep

1133
01:14:39,760 --> 01:14:43,000
Speaker 1: rooting for each other, keep working together. Yeah, I would say, Um,

1134
01:14:43,680 --> 01:14:46,000
Speaker 1: being of service is the biggest thing. It sounds cliche,

1135
01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:48,320
Speaker 1: but it's true because you and not have an announcement. Um,

1136
01:14:48,400 --> 01:14:51,800
Speaker 1: it'll be out very soon. But we actually wrote a book. Um.

1137
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:57,639
Speaker 1: We got offered a book deal the beginning of spring

1138
01:14:57,760 --> 01:14:59,400
Speaker 1: last year. We've been working on this book and it's

1139
01:14:59,520 --> 01:15:01,639
Speaker 1: very dear to us because it's not what you expect.

1140
01:15:02,080 --> 01:15:05,040
Speaker 1: It's not the Ten Pillars to have a perfect marriage. No,

1141
01:15:05,200 --> 01:15:08,559
Speaker 1: it's not it because we don't believe our marriage is perfect. Um.

1142
01:15:08,680 --> 01:15:11,639
Speaker 1: It's sort of like the Black Notebook. It's our journey

1143
01:15:11,680 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 1: from the time we were eighteen until now. And you

1144
01:15:15,040 --> 01:15:17,080
Speaker 1: get a chance to get in depth insight to what

1145
01:15:17,240 --> 01:15:20,200
Speaker 1: we were thinking during those times. And one thing I

1146
01:15:20,400 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 1: noticed while writing the book with my wife is that

1147
01:15:24,000 --> 01:15:27,599
Speaker 1: we started to gain traction of being soul mates when

1148
01:15:27,680 --> 01:15:30,680
Speaker 1: we were constantly focused on the other person. Right when

1149
01:15:30,720 --> 01:15:33,759
Speaker 1: I first got married, my idea of what a husband

1150
01:15:34,000 --> 01:15:37,200
Speaker 1: was was a guy who provides, you know, a guy

1151
01:15:37,240 --> 01:15:38,920
Speaker 1: who puts a roof over his head, a guy who

1152
01:15:39,040 --> 01:15:42,360
Speaker 1: was tough and protects. And I wasn't there emotionally or

1153
01:15:42,400 --> 01:15:45,559
Speaker 1: spiritually because I was thinking about, if these are all

1154
01:15:45,640 --> 01:15:48,080
Speaker 1: the things that I'm supposed to do, let me make

1155
01:15:48,120 --> 01:15:50,160
Speaker 1: sure my wife is doing all the things that she's

1156
01:15:50,160 --> 01:15:53,599
Speaker 1: supposed to do. And rather than focusing on being who

1157
01:15:53,680 --> 01:15:55,720
Speaker 1: I needed to be, I was too busy checking her

1158
01:15:55,800 --> 01:15:58,960
Speaker 1: for stuff that she wasn't not realizing that I wasn't

1159
01:15:58,960 --> 01:16:02,160
Speaker 1: doing my part, and we started to drift apart. And

1160
01:16:02,240 --> 01:16:04,560
Speaker 1: the first five years of our marriage was tough. And

1161
01:16:04,680 --> 01:16:07,000
Speaker 1: it wasn't tough for the typical reason that people think

1162
01:16:07,040 --> 01:16:09,160
Speaker 1: it was tough. They think it's always tough because the

1163
01:16:09,200 --> 01:16:11,680
Speaker 1: infidelity is tough because of finances. No, it was tough

1164
01:16:11,760 --> 01:16:14,600
Speaker 1: because we weren't focused on each other. Right. I was

1165
01:16:14,720 --> 01:16:17,600
Speaker 1: making money, I was building I was getting better, and

1166
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:20,280
Speaker 1: I used to come home piste off because stuff wasn't

1167
01:16:20,360 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 1: done the way I wanted it to be done. And

1168
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:24,599
Speaker 1: it wasn't until Cadeine got pregnant with Cairo, and I said,

1169
01:16:24,640 --> 01:16:26,479
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna focus on making sure that

1170
01:16:26,560 --> 01:16:29,320
Speaker 1: this pregnancy was perfect, and I started to really focus

1171
01:16:29,439 --> 01:16:32,639
Speaker 1: on her. Then I realized that the reciprocation was coming

1172
01:16:32,680 --> 01:16:36,200
Speaker 1: back tenfold, and I was like, what if I applied

1173
01:16:36,320 --> 01:16:39,080
Speaker 1: this mentality to my marriage even when she wasn't pregnant.

1174
01:16:39,880 --> 01:16:42,519
Speaker 1: And for a lot of young men out there, you're

1175
01:16:42,560 --> 01:16:45,439
Speaker 1: here on social media, Oh this guy love, he's loving

1176
01:16:45,479 --> 01:16:47,840
Speaker 1: on his wife. He's a simple or you're here young

1177
01:16:47,880 --> 01:16:50,320
Speaker 1: women say, oh she's loving on her husband. She's submissive.

1178
01:16:51,240 --> 01:16:53,040
Speaker 1: When you're married, there's no such thing is simple and

1179
01:16:53,320 --> 01:16:57,559
Speaker 1: being submissive, it's being of service. And we really pride

1180
01:16:57,640 --> 01:17:00,479
Speaker 1: ourselves on being I am everything I need to be

1181
01:17:01,120 --> 01:17:03,439
Speaker 1: for my wife. There's nothing she can say to me

1182
01:17:04,040 --> 01:17:06,760
Speaker 1: in real time that she wants a need that I'm

1183
01:17:06,800 --> 01:17:09,880
Speaker 1: not gonna try to do with all my heart. Period.

1184
01:17:10,240 --> 01:17:14,400
Speaker 1: There's no there's nothing, and it goes both ways having communication.

1185
01:17:14,560 --> 01:17:16,240
Speaker 1: Do not be afraid to say to your wife and

1186
01:17:16,280 --> 01:17:18,719
Speaker 1: I'm gonna speak to the gentleman directly on this. Don't

1187
01:17:18,760 --> 01:17:20,720
Speaker 1: be afraid to say to your wife what you need

1188
01:17:20,800 --> 01:17:24,479
Speaker 1: and what you want. We, just like them, have a

1189
01:17:24,600 --> 01:17:27,840
Speaker 1: right to get everything we desire out of life, but

1190
01:17:27,960 --> 01:17:31,240
Speaker 1: a lot of times our masculinity holds us back from

1191
01:17:31,280 --> 01:17:34,240
Speaker 1: speaking and saying what we want. They're not mine. Readers,

1192
01:17:35,120 --> 01:17:37,000
Speaker 1: you can't get upset at your wife for not giving

1193
01:17:37,000 --> 01:17:38,479
Speaker 1: you what you need and what you want when you

1194
01:17:38,560 --> 01:17:41,240
Speaker 1: haven't told her. And a lot of times we don't

1195
01:17:41,320 --> 01:17:43,600
Speaker 1: tell them. I was guilty of that. I thought I

1196
01:17:43,720 --> 01:17:45,720
Speaker 1: was a punk. If I say something, I don't want

1197
01:17:45,720 --> 01:17:48,280
Speaker 1: to be a nagging husband. So I'm gonna just be quiet.

1198
01:17:49,080 --> 01:17:53,400
Speaker 1: I no more come home. I'll be like, yo, it's Friday.

1199
01:17:54,439 --> 01:17:58,519
Speaker 1: This Wednesday will suck. And sometimes she needs that. She's like,

1200
01:17:58,560 --> 01:18:00,680
Speaker 1: oh my god, I didn't realize maybe I got you

1201
01:18:00,760 --> 01:18:02,880
Speaker 1: because why I'm trying to balance and then I don't.

1202
01:18:03,880 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 1: And in the past, what would I used to do?

1203
01:18:05,360 --> 01:18:08,559
Speaker 1: It would be Friday, nothing happened, I go to sleep,

1204
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:11,680
Speaker 1: get mad, wake up on Saturday, got an attitude. Now

1205
01:18:11,840 --> 01:18:14,200
Speaker 1: my attitude puts her and even worse attitude, and now

1206
01:18:14,280 --> 01:18:16,920
Speaker 1: she don't even want to do nothing. And sometimes then't

1207
01:18:16,920 --> 01:18:19,360
Speaker 1: even about sex. Sometimes I just want my wife to

1208
01:18:19,400 --> 01:18:22,160
Speaker 1: sit on my lap and watch a movie. Just just

1209
01:18:22,360 --> 01:18:25,120
Speaker 1: be there, you get it, Just be there, Just just

1210
01:18:25,360 --> 01:18:27,760
Speaker 1: be here. Divid just want me to sit here? Yea,

1211
01:18:27,800 --> 01:18:31,120
Speaker 1: sit here? Shut up, Shut up. She's like, why you

1212
01:18:31,200 --> 01:18:33,240
Speaker 1: want me here? Because I might want some wings? And

1213
01:18:33,280 --> 01:18:35,080
Speaker 1: if I want some wings, I need somebody to get

1214
01:18:35,160 --> 01:18:38,280
Speaker 1: the wings. And to be honest, that's just the truth.

1215
01:18:38,680 --> 01:18:40,720
Speaker 1: Be of service to each other. Brother, open your mouth,

1216
01:18:40,760 --> 01:18:43,559
Speaker 1: say what you want, what you need. There's nothing anti

1217
01:18:43,680 --> 01:18:48,360
Speaker 1: masculine about being open, honest, and vulnerable. So that space,

1218
01:18:48,920 --> 01:18:52,120
Speaker 1: be that safe space for your husband to be able

1219
01:18:52,200 --> 01:18:55,639
Speaker 1: to open up too. Okay, that's also very important because

1220
01:18:55,680 --> 01:18:59,000
Speaker 1: if they don't feel like they have any kind of voice,

1221
01:18:59,120 --> 01:19:01,479
Speaker 1: if they feel on her ward, then that in itself

1222
01:19:01,680 --> 01:19:05,080
Speaker 1: just makes it counterproductive altogether. So women be that safe space.

1223
01:19:05,120 --> 01:19:07,680
Speaker 1: Because our men, particularly are black men, have enough to

1224
01:19:07,760 --> 01:19:10,559
Speaker 1: battle with in this world on a day to day basis.

1225
01:19:10,680 --> 01:19:12,479
Speaker 1: They should not walk through the door, and I feel

1226
01:19:12,479 --> 01:19:14,760
Speaker 1: like they're hurting their own home. So I'm glad you

1227
01:19:14,840 --> 01:19:17,640
Speaker 1: said that, Donor do I got time to tell a

1228
01:19:17,720 --> 01:19:22,720
Speaker 1: quick story? Quick story? This was two thousand and I

1229
01:19:22,800 --> 01:19:25,760
Speaker 1: think it was two thousand and fourteen, right before Kyl

1230
01:19:25,880 --> 01:19:28,040
Speaker 1: was born, me and Conde was going through some issues

1231
01:19:28,720 --> 01:19:30,519
Speaker 1: and at the time I was like, I'm gonna speak

1232
01:19:30,560 --> 01:19:32,519
Speaker 1: on it and be honest. So we're having a conversation

1233
01:19:32,600 --> 01:19:35,040
Speaker 1: and Codeine doesn't like to argue, and I'm not trying

1234
01:19:35,040 --> 01:19:37,320
Speaker 1: to argue. I'm just being honest about what I feel

1235
01:19:37,360 --> 01:19:39,400
Speaker 1: and what I need. And after a while, those about

1236
01:19:39,439 --> 01:19:42,280
Speaker 1: three hours, we're going in circles. She said to me,

1237
01:19:42,400 --> 01:19:46,960
Speaker 1: she said, yo, man, you just sound like a bit seriously,

1238
01:19:47,880 --> 01:19:50,519
Speaker 1: and I said, I'm glad you said that, because when

1239
01:19:50,560 --> 01:19:52,840
Speaker 1: I when I don't say nothing the next time and

1240
01:19:52,920 --> 01:19:54,680
Speaker 1: I'm out here running the streets, I don't want to

1241
01:19:54,680 --> 01:19:57,640
Speaker 1: hear ship about why I didn't say something. And she

1242
01:19:57,840 --> 01:20:02,439
Speaker 1: sat back and she was like, the all right about

1243
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:07,559
Speaker 1: that word. And the reason why I'm being vulnerable about

1244
01:20:07,640 --> 01:20:11,360
Speaker 1: this is because everybody goes through this, right. She grew

1245
01:20:11,439 --> 01:20:14,280
Speaker 1: up in a home where speaking honestly about your emotions

1246
01:20:14,320 --> 01:20:18,759
Speaker 1: didn't happen. She felt attacked. So while she was feeling attacked,

1247
01:20:18,800 --> 01:20:20,559
Speaker 1: she just felt like she wanted to attack me back

1248
01:20:20,640 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 1: to get me to stop and that, and it happens

1249
01:20:23,920 --> 01:20:27,640
Speaker 1: in a lot of relationships. You bro you know, bro,

1250
01:20:28,240 --> 01:20:32,160
Speaker 1: it's the moans, and men don't talk about men don't

1251
01:20:32,160 --> 01:20:35,880
Speaker 1: talk about this, but there have been times and and

1252
01:20:36,080 --> 01:20:39,240
Speaker 1: there have been times and and and not not to

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Speaker 1: make excuses or make justifications, but when people typically step out,

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Speaker 1: it has way more to do than just sex. And

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Speaker 1: that goes for both sides you make. You don't make

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Speaker 1: a woman feel appreciated, she's gonna step out. You keep

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Speaker 1: telling a man he not good enough and won't say

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Speaker 1: anything positive, he's gonna step out. So we learned over

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Speaker 1: time that those words have power. And if you want

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Speaker 1: your man to be honest with you and be vulnerable,

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Speaker 1: you have to create a safe space. And gentlemen, if

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Speaker 1: you want your wife or your girlfriend or your baby

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Speaker 1: mother to be honest with you, you can't beat her

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Speaker 1: down with your words. Bro. You have to empower her

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Speaker 1: and make her feel comfortable about being who she is,

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Speaker 1: because when you do that, nothing can stop to people.

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Speaker 1: There's not a day in my life I walk out

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Speaker 1: in this world and feel by myself. You see, she

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Speaker 1: can finish my sentences. She know I go on and

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Speaker 1: so many times I just take a gamble. I don't

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Speaker 1: give a fuck how much this cause I'm gonna do

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Speaker 1: that ship. You wanna know why, Because whether I lose

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Speaker 1: all my money on filthy Rich, I got her. Being

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Speaker 1: able to take those chances is how we got here.

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Speaker 1: So I hope you. I hope that helps a lot

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Speaker 1: of couples who may be going through it, because Kadina

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Speaker 1: and I we're going through it and no one told

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Speaker 1: us about it, and we had to find the hard way.

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Speaker 1: And part of the reason why we do this is

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Speaker 1: to help couples like yourself and like you, so so unlucky.

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Speaker 1: You have a good time tonight. I sure Atlanta showed out.

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Speaker 1: Atlanta did show out. So as we close the show,

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Speaker 1: there's something I like to do for everybody. Like I

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Speaker 1: said before, this is a safe space, but this is

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Speaker 1: also a place where we want you to leave here

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Speaker 1: filled up, feeling like you you became a better person

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Speaker 1: today than you are before tomorrow. So can I ask

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Speaker 1: everybody to stand up. This is a mantra pretty much

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Speaker 1: what I do every single day to help me when

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Speaker 1: I walk out in the world. I want you, guys

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Speaker 1: to close your eyes, close your eyes, and I want

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Speaker 1: you to envision the biggest house you ever seen, the

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Speaker 1: most money you ever made, the nicest cars, you're next

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Speaker 1: to your best friend, You'll have a ton of kids,

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Speaker 1: and you are living your life with full autonomy, no

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Speaker 1: ownership from anybody else over what you want. And I

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Speaker 1: want you to think about this. If you can envision

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Speaker 1: that and you can see it, that means that it's

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Speaker 1: already happened. God has already provided a way for you

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Speaker 1: to get it, but you have to claim it. I

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Speaker 1: open your eyes, it's yours. Go get that ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's some beautiful people in here tonight. Look at y'all

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Speaker 1: looking at us. Don't be looking at me like that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it looks so good. Before we leave, we never say goodbye.

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Speaker 1: We never say goodbye because we always believe we're gonna

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Speaker 1: see you again, see you all later. So we're gonna

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Speaker 1: give you what we call ellis goodbye. On the counter three.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna tap yourself on the chest two times and

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Speaker 1: say peace, ellis goodbye on three one two three. He

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Speaker 1: Dead Ass is a production of I Heart Media podcast

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Speaker 1: network and is produced by the Nora Opinion and Triple

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