Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you may be.
Speaker 1: That's why get sooned into the Vitamin D Podcast and
Speaker 1: I am your host, Dawn Day, here to help you
Speaker 1: get excited about your life. If you're a returning family member,
Speaker 1: welcome back, and if you know a special welcome to you. See.
Speaker 1: Vitamin D is a multi vitamin for your mind, your body,
Speaker 1: and your soul. The whole reason for this podcast is
Speaker 1: to ensure that you get excited about your life. And
Speaker 1: we do that by shedding night. And that means on
Speaker 1: the good, the bad, and the indifferent. Because in order
Speaker 1: to be our best selves, we have to see our
Speaker 1: best selves. And on this podcast, we do this by
Speaker 1: having inspirational conversations and covering inspirational insights. Sometimes it's from
Speaker 1: our stream of consciousness. Sometimes it's from your favorite celebrities
Speaker 1: and everyday people, and sometimes and do something. I've run
Speaker 1: a special treat. It's called My Advice Letters, and it's
Speaker 1: where I've listeners just like you who need advice on life,
Speaker 1: life to be better, life to go beyond, just some
Speaker 1: sort of guidance and direction, and listeners right in from
Speaker 1: all various walks of life, in various situations um hoping
Speaker 1: to get some light, some type of insight on the situation.
Speaker 1: And I do that and I answer it. Now, let
Speaker 1: me tell you this right now. I've said it before
Speaker 1: him and say it again. So if you knew this
Speaker 1: is gonna be a new memo, I'm an aries. That
Speaker 1: means I like to give it to your raw. I
Speaker 1: give it to you straight because you gotta think about it.
Speaker 1: The sun doesn't say, oh, step back, I don't want
Speaker 1: to shine too bright. The light is on. You have
Speaker 1: to adjust your vision because remember, your attitude dictates your altitude.
Speaker 1: How are you going to view this? Okay, So, now
Speaker 1: that we've gotten that clearance to have memo without further ado,
Speaker 1: let's five ends. It's some vitamin D advice letters. Right
Speaker 1: with me and get excited about subject. Partner is cheating
Speaker 1: on me. But I need a job, dear non, Hey,
Speaker 1: I sa. I'm a thirty seven year old woman living
Speaker 1: in San Luis, Obispo. Things in life haven't been great
Speaker 1: for about a year now. I lost my job as
Speaker 1: a librarian, and since then I've just kind of drift.
Speaker 1: I've spent the first couple of months filling out of sorts,
Speaker 1: then spent them of trying to get back in touch
Speaker 1: with myself and my body, and finally I decided my
Speaker 1: next venture would be to start a production company. But
Speaker 1: breaking into such a small market with the tight knit
Speaker 1: scene has been harder than I initially thought. It's really
Speaker 1: kicking my butt and has really had an effect on
Speaker 1: my self esteem, almost as much as of an effect
Speaker 1: as it has on my wallet. I'm making work, doing
Speaker 1: the uber lifting. Then COVID happened, and just through every
Speaker 1: outside of whack, my relationship with my boyfriend has taken
Speaker 1: a big hit. We haven't had sex in six months.
Speaker 1: And you know what's even worse, he's shading on me.
Speaker 1: Worse than that. I know the check. She's a local
Speaker 1: artist and recently came to me about working on a
Speaker 1: project with her. Even though pay isn't what I might like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to turn down an opportunity to get
Speaker 1: a project under my belt. I had initially been interested
Speaker 1: in doing educational work, and she reached out in response
Speaker 1: to a Craiglist ad I put up weeks before. We
Speaker 1: run in different circles and I was hesitant to take
Speaker 1: on something not really in my field, but I met
Speaker 1: her to talk about a project in February, and we've
Speaker 1: been in touch sporadically about it since. She recently said
Speaker 1: she wanted to start this upcoming spring, and I was stoked.
Speaker 1: That wasn't until I found out in my boyfriend's phone
Speaker 1: that I met that he's been texting constantly has the
Speaker 1: same number as the artist. I ran through their messages
Speaker 1: one night, and it seems like he's been keeping her
Speaker 1: in the dark about our relationship. Dawn, I don't know
Speaker 1: what to do. Do I confront my boyfriend. Do I
Speaker 1: reach out to the other woman and possibly lose the opportunity.
Speaker 1: Do I swallow this and just do the thing with
Speaker 1: the other woman and address it later. Please, I'll take
Speaker 1: any help you could get good. Sometimes you just gotta bread. Um.
Speaker 1: We have a few things going on in here, and
Speaker 1: first first, first, we need to understand that we need
Speaker 1: to know what's the temperature check going on with you?
Speaker 1: And I love it. You addressed it right early on
Speaker 1: in the letter. You said, Hey, Dawn, after everything has
Speaker 1: been moving around, everything's been shifting, you know what I
Speaker 1: decided to do. I spent some time trying to get
Speaker 1: in touch with myself, and then you also made sure
Speaker 1: to include and my body, which leads on that probably
Speaker 1: um explains why you and your boyfriend haven't been intimate
Speaker 1: for several months now. No shape, this is just us unraveling.
Speaker 1: And like I said, the en vitamin ded you gotta
Speaker 1: know what you're gonna get, and we're here to get
Speaker 1: to the bottom up. You are no spring chicken. So
Speaker 1: for you to be a woman of a certain age,
Speaker 1: to be thirty seven years old, you understand there are
Speaker 1: things that certain men need. That's just the fact of
Speaker 1: the matter. But what I love about it is that
Speaker 1: you're not ignorant that that something is going on with you,
Speaker 1: and you outlined it here and it's nothing to say
Speaker 1: what's wrong. So do I love the fact that you
Speaker 1: went ahead and you did a temperature check? Yes, okay.
Speaker 1: I love the fact that when you're doing this self
Speaker 1: evaluation you decide to have a vision. You said, Hey,
Speaker 1: I got this idea to start a production company. But
Speaker 1: here's the thing. When we talk about vision, when we
Speaker 1: talk about life, when we talk about stepping into our greatness,
Speaker 1: we have to get off this whole notion of limiting
Speaker 1: the vision, limiting the life. Remember, the sun doesn't ask
Speaker 1: for permission to shine. It isn't a moment where it says, oh,
Speaker 1: we're not gonna shine right here, nobody shine. So when
Speaker 1: you decide to put a limit on your vision, on
Speaker 1: your light, you see how it has a negative effect
Speaker 1: on you because now here here, what this is what
Speaker 1: you said? You said, hey, but breaking into such a
Speaker 1: small market with the tight knit scene has been harder
Speaker 1: than I initially thought. Well, you're talking about me, and great,
Speaker 1: what did you think that it was going to be easy?
Speaker 1: And in fact, how did you have a perception of
Speaker 1: what you thought it was going to be? And this
Speaker 1: is the first time you've ever done it. You've been walking,
Speaker 1: I guess um this let's just say at least thirty
Speaker 1: five years of your life you're walking, and how you
Speaker 1: walk now is different from when you were walking as
Speaker 1: a child because you didn't know how to do it.
Speaker 1: So when you say, hey, it's harder than what you
Speaker 1: initially thought. You gotta keep going. You know, we just
Speaker 1: had major on the past episode and what he said,
Speaker 1: he said, you can't fail if you don't quit. You
Speaker 1: gotta keep going. So when the right opportunity comes, boom
Speaker 1: and so it hits okay, So let's keep going here.
Speaker 1: So Um, you said, yes, it's really kicking me in
Speaker 1: me a butt and had an effect on my self esteem.
Speaker 1: Well for your and favors the bold How bad do
Speaker 1: you want it? Remember you're asking to grow. We see,
Speaker 1: everybody can be in the ordinary bubble, but when we
Speaker 1: talk about being extraordinary, we have to step outside of
Speaker 1: that realm. Well, that's gonna take some reaching. That's gonna
Speaker 1: take some being uncomfortable, that's gonna take extra work, that's
Speaker 1: gonna take extra time. But it Remember it depends on
Speaker 1: what you want. Hence that's why the first thing I
Speaker 1: wanted to address before we talk about, Hey Dawn, do
Speaker 1: I stay with my man or work with this woman?
Speaker 1: Do I do both of what I do? We need
Speaker 1: to do a temperature check on what's going on with you? Okay,
Speaker 1: So then you went on to say you said, um, hey,
Speaker 1: all of this has been going on my life. You know,
Speaker 1: the pandemic has happened. It really has taken effect on
Speaker 1: my self esteem. And guess what, my relationship has taken
Speaker 1: a big hit. Remember what we say or why I'm
Speaker 1: saying that. What's the temperature check on you? You've heard
Speaker 1: it constantly. How you do anything is how you'll do everything.
Speaker 1: And if you don't have yourself in order, anything that
Speaker 1: is an extension of you can go and disarray. What
Speaker 1: do I mean by that? If you are well in
Speaker 1: your life bank account, if your asset isn't together, whatever
Speaker 1: is an extension of your account, whether it be in
Speaker 1: your love account, whether it being your work account, whether
Speaker 1: it being your self esteem account. Guess what, there's a
Speaker 1: lack because now the liability becomes you haven't done the
Speaker 1: work with yourself. So guess what Now you have your
Speaker 1: relationship account taking a hit. But guess what, it's because
Speaker 1: you are trying to get in tune with your body,
Speaker 1: which is nothing wrong with that. But that's when I
Speaker 1: have to go back to Lauren Hill. How you gonna
Speaker 1: with when you ain't right within? Come again? All right?
Speaker 1: So when we talk about understanding self and getting right,
Speaker 1: what's going on with you? What's the temperature with you? Remember,
Speaker 1: things are an extension of you, So getting right with that? Well,
Speaker 1: you're saying, hey, my relationships taking a hit. It's taking
Speaker 1: ahead that you haven't had sex with your boyfriend in
Speaker 1: six months. Now you're in a situation where the vision
Speaker 1: is getting a bit hazy. Because you said Hey, I
Speaker 1: had this idea to start a production company at some point,
Speaker 1: fear hitting the way because you said, oh, it's such
Speaker 1: a close knitche scene, and perhaps maybe it may limit
Speaker 1: your possibility. But hey, now you've got an olive branch.
Speaker 1: Now this olive branch comes in the form of a
Speaker 1: woman who you later find out is that I met
Speaker 1: and your boyfriend's phone, who wants to offer you this
Speaker 1: job position. So you said, hey to self, Now here's
Speaker 1: the thing that I thought was so interesting. Let's go
Speaker 1: back down later in the letter when you asked me,
Speaker 1: you said, Hey, Dawn, do I confront my boyfriend? Or
Speaker 1: do I reach out to the woman and possibly lose
Speaker 1: this opportunity? Do I swallow this and just do the
Speaker 1: thing with the other woman and address it later. Are
Speaker 1: you willing to put yourself on the back burner? Huh?
Speaker 1: Are you willing to say self? Because how you're gonna
Speaker 1: win if you ain't right with it. You're putting yourself
Speaker 1: on the back burner about what serves you. Because remember,
Speaker 1: if it's not adding, it's subtracting. If it's not a deposit,
Speaker 1: it's a liability in your account. And what this is
Speaker 1: about is about the balance but guess what. The only
Speaker 1: way to understand the balance of it is for you
Speaker 1: to be honest with yourself. You have to ask yourself this,
Speaker 1: do you know who you are? Has this relationship been over?
Speaker 1: But more importantly, how grown do you want to be?
Speaker 1: How grown do you want to handle this situation? Are
Speaker 1: you at a level of communication that you're going to
Speaker 1: communicate with your boyfriend and say, hey, this is what's
Speaker 1: going on, because you're going to be an angst. You're
Speaker 1: gonna be looking over your shoulder if you feel any
Speaker 1: amount of jealousy or you're feeling type of anguish. It's
Speaker 1: going to affect in the work. Now. The one thing
Speaker 1: I can say that not that I appreciate, but one
Speaker 1: thing that says on a high note when looking at
Speaker 1: this other woman is that she's completely oblivious to it.
Speaker 1: So I'm sure that there's no man listen on her end,
Speaker 1: But it doesn't stop the fact that when you see her,
Speaker 1: are you thinking about what she with your man the
Speaker 1: last night before? Are you gonna be thinking about every
Speaker 1: time she's checking the phone that it could be your boyfriend.
Speaker 1: That's not a peace of mind. And remember everything's an
Speaker 1: extension of you. How you're gonna win if you ain't
Speaker 1: right within. At what point are you going to be honest?
Speaker 1: And only you know the answer to that is he
Speaker 1: where you want to be? Now? One thing I did highlight,
Speaker 1: as I noticed in the letter, is that you said
Speaker 1: the pay isn't what I might like, so meaning there's
Speaker 1: more in abundance. Do you want to be in a
Speaker 1: situation where you're going to be frustrating? You can't think
Speaker 1: right now? Remember you're getting to the heart of the matter,
Speaker 1: and you have to understand that you have to get
Speaker 1: to yourself now. Is it's going to be a matter
Speaker 1: of you having to remove yourself from one situation or
Speaker 1: the other in both only you know that. But what
Speaker 1: it sounds like is that in this relationship you're not
Speaker 1: able to give your boyfriend what it needs, and you
Speaker 1: have to think about it. It's gonna take confidence, it's
Speaker 1: gonna take guts for you to go after your dream
Speaker 1: to do this production company. You need your self esteem
Speaker 1: to free pristine. So if you already have a lack
Speaker 1: of self esteem because you got shifted in your job
Speaker 1: and no longer the librarian, when you decided to get
Speaker 1: your hustle on, you start to do the uber lifting.
Speaker 1: There's a pandemic. Now you can see that it's such
Speaker 1: an effect that you can't even have sexual relations with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend. How do you expect to go out in
Speaker 1: the world to see a vision or to execute a
Speaker 1: vision that only you can see? And you're gonna have
Speaker 1: so many naysayers telling you know, you better check yourself
Speaker 1: before you wreck yourself, because how you're gonna win if
Speaker 1: you ain't right within. You gotta make sure you show
Speaker 1: up for yourself. So when you say, hey, don what
Speaker 1: do I do? You need to address the situation at
Speaker 1: home because right now your home is not in order.
Speaker 1: Your home is not in order because your home is
Speaker 1: where your heart is, and it's your heart. What your boyfriend, Well,
Speaker 1: you gotta tell me that are you gonna have enough
Speaker 1: confidence to step out on your own to create your
Speaker 1: production company and put one ft after the other right now? Honestly,
Speaker 1: I think that you need to address to your boyfriend
Speaker 1: and tell him that you're aware of what's going on. See,
Speaker 1: if this is something that you want to bring to
Speaker 1: your possibility employer, you're gonna have to discern that if
Speaker 1: you find that it's having an effect on you dissolve
Speaker 1: it all. Start from square one, because remember, when you're
Speaker 1: already down, at least you can look up. You can
Speaker 1: get up, and that's what you're gonna propel from there.
Speaker 1: But you need to get self in order. You gotta
Speaker 1: love on yourself, you, and you gotta do it right,
Speaker 1: because I know that if I were you and I
Speaker 1: was working with somebody that was messing with my man,
Speaker 1: I'll be singing, Nivya, don't mess with my man. Um
Speaker 1: just saying, okay, I hope that was helpful. Because here,
Speaker 1: here's another thing. Even if this situation and you decide
Speaker 1: to leave this relationship, even if you go on to
Speaker 1: another relationship, because remember, every relationship is about communication. You're
Speaker 1: unable to even have a communication relationship with yourself to
Speaker 1: understand a step into your sexy that's probably preventing your
Speaker 1: relationship with your boyfriend. Who's to say when you go
Speaker 1: onto the next relationship that that's gonna prosper. Then are
Speaker 1: you gonna be in the same situation because you can't
Speaker 1: get down with him? Come on, I'm just saying, is
Speaker 1: this is gonna be the same situation? Is this going
Speaker 1: to be on the repeat? All right? Thank you for writing,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate your honesty and willing to show up
Speaker 1: to do the work. Okay, all right, next letter subject
Speaker 1: long distance with a guy. I have a great physical
Speaker 1: chemistry with living with a guy. I have good emotional
Speaker 1: chemistry with Okay, Um, Dear Dawn, Okay. So I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm a bad person and deep down, but I
Speaker 1: feel like one right now. I would really appreciate your advice.
Speaker 1: So I've got two boyfriends. I know, I know. It
Speaker 1: started out as a thing two years ago when my
Speaker 1: at home boyfriend friend a h b F it's a
Speaker 1: good break. I went home to the East Coast to
Speaker 1: get a handle on myself emotionally, and while I was there,
Speaker 1: I had a fling with this guy. We had and
Speaker 1: have really good chemistry, but he's not particularly focused on
Speaker 1: anything and just kind of drifts through life. He has
Speaker 1: the benefit of a trust fund. But that's another letter.
Speaker 1: But the sex is great. It was nice and I
Speaker 1: could have seen myself ending up in some sort of thing,
Speaker 1: but I ended up making up with my at home
Speaker 1: boyfriend a h BF and came back to l A.
Speaker 1: But every time I would go back, two or three
Speaker 1: times a year, I will see this guy, and eventually
Speaker 1: it spiraled into this thing where I had kind of
Speaker 1: had two boyfriends, at home boyfriend and now long distance
Speaker 1: boyfriend l d BF. What throws me is that l
Speaker 1: d BF long distance boyfriend, has known about the situation
Speaker 1: since the beginning. It has been absolutely cool with it
Speaker 1: up until recently. Now he's claiming that he wants me
Speaker 1: to move back and to choose him. And then there's
Speaker 1: my at home boyfriend, you know, the a h BF.
Speaker 1: He's super sweet. We just get along really well, like
Speaker 1: I actually like him, not just love him, and I
Speaker 1: know if we weren't together, we'd be best friends. But
Speaker 1: also we've been together six years, and while we both
Speaker 1: don't believe in marriage, we kind of have lost the passion.
Speaker 1: So yeah, ldbfs long distant boyfriends offer sounds tempting, and
Speaker 1: I kind of wish I could be with both of them,
Speaker 1: but I don't see how I could do that. Should
Speaker 1: I tell my at homeboyfriend? UM? Should I cut things
Speaker 1: off with my long distance boyfriend? Should I even be
Speaker 1: in a relationship right now? If I can't settle on
Speaker 1: one person? Girl, girl, I can feel in UM reading
Speaker 1: this letter, I can feel what you're feeling I can.
Speaker 1: I can feel the the stress and the tension of
Speaker 1: what's going on. Here's something that stood out and I
Speaker 1: received it at the end of like going through this letter.
Speaker 1: You know I'm going to I got my highlighter out
Speaker 1: of my pen. I'm just making notes on things I
Speaker 1: want to make sure I circle back. And I thought
Speaker 1: I was gonna start from the aid, but I'm gonna
Speaker 1: start right at the very end. You say, should I
Speaker 1: even be in a relationship right now? If I can't
Speaker 1: settle on one person, settle no relationship. It's something that
Speaker 1: you just settle on. What you need to settle on
Speaker 1: is that you have to figure out what it is
Speaker 1: that you want and further discern do you have the
Speaker 1: capacity to give what is that you wish to receive?
Speaker 1: Because remember this is an energy source. Remember this is
Speaker 1: a year and a yang. Remember when two becomes one.
Speaker 1: Remember this is an exchange. Remember that's what the relationship
Speaker 1: is about. Okay, So here's the thing one adjusting your
Speaker 1: mindset because I don't know why this is a situation
Speaker 1: of suddenly, because it sounds like which everyone you're gonna choose,
Speaker 1: You're probably not gonna be happy. So what I think
Speaker 1: you need to start at first and foremost you need
Speaker 1: to figure out what you want or what you're looking
Speaker 1: for in a relationship, Like what's important to you? Um,
Speaker 1: that's what you truly have to ask yourself. Now. One
Speaker 1: thing that I say that stood out to me when
Speaker 1: we're looking at a h BF you're at home boyfriend,
Speaker 1: is that you said, not only do you love him,
Speaker 1: but you actually genuinely like him. And I think that's
Speaker 1: important because you're here. Oftentimes people say it takes more
Speaker 1: than love to help sustain and help a relationship thrive,
Speaker 1: because you have to figure out, you know, what are
Speaker 1: the things that you're gonna put up with? How are
Speaker 1: you going to be courteous? Um? Do you like or
Speaker 1: enjoy being around them? Now? Would alarm me on the
Speaker 1: same token about your at home boyfriend is that you
Speaker 1: haven't communicated with him. And what disturbs me most of
Speaker 1: all is that, Um, you said that if you weren't together,
Speaker 1: you'd be best friends. What kind of friendship is that?
Speaker 1: You said, he's super sweet, you said we just get
Speaker 1: along really well. You said I actually like him, not
Speaker 1: just love him. Not only do you need to be
Speaker 1: honest with him, but you need to be honest with
Speaker 1: yourself and really understand the words that you are using,
Speaker 1: the descriptures that you are using. Um because life is
Speaker 1: a journey. What happens when you fall, you get up,
Speaker 1: You get a wounded has to heal. Here in your situation,
Speaker 1: you said, hey, whether or not it's quote unquote a
Speaker 1: marriage for when he's sacril official or religious purpose sake,
Speaker 1: you have a union of you two together. And you
Speaker 1: said you lost the passion, So when does it comment
Speaker 1: that you do the work to help ignite it, to
Speaker 1: help find it? Because remember, how you do anything is
Speaker 1: how you do everything. So what you're gonna go on
Speaker 1: this whole lie that you're living, what do you want? Now?
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna completely fault you for dipping in two
Speaker 1: flavors of the kool aid because you're confused. But what's
Speaker 1: unfair and where do I fault you at, is that
Speaker 1: you're not giving your at home boyfriend that you've been
Speaker 1: with the past six years the choice to decide if
Speaker 1: he wants to be there. Why again, I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: it to you raw because it sounds like you're selfish.
Speaker 1: You're just thinking about what it is that you want
Speaker 1: when you wanted to leave and you wanted to get
Speaker 1: some time to breathe. You went back home so you
Speaker 1: could emotionally get together, and you kind of realize that
Speaker 1: when you're saying, oh, I'm gonna go back home, what
Speaker 1: are you adding to the union? Remember, it's not a
Speaker 1: situation where you want to come with something is lacking.
Speaker 1: You don't come half full. You I'm fool, so that
Speaker 1: you're you're to come together so that it's an overflow.
Speaker 1: And what we talk about depositing and liability, you're automatically
Speaker 1: trying to take from its account because you aren't showing
Speaker 1: a fool is your best self. You aren't showing enough
Speaker 1: fools who know what it is that you want. And
Speaker 1: it's not that it's wrong. It just comes to a
Speaker 1: point that you're gonna have to take some time to
Speaker 1: do your work for yourself. Do you understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If this is your best friend, be honest. If this
Speaker 1: is a situation of where you're talking about igniting, you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to find it back because how you do
Speaker 1: anything is how you do everything. If you can't be
Speaker 1: honest in this situation of you saying somebody that you like,
Speaker 1: what is gonna happen when when it's the new job.
Speaker 1: What's gonna happen when it comes down to your children,
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen when it comes down to your work ethic?
Speaker 1: M hmm, what's gonna happen to that? Now? When we
Speaker 1: talk about the whole situation of this um long distance boyfriend,
Speaker 1: you said that there's a chemistry. But is this something
Speaker 1: that you can just say, is this something that when
Speaker 1: you are upset and you're not feeling like you really
Speaker 1: love on this person right now, you're gonna be able
Speaker 1: to stand to like being around them? Now? You said, oh,
Speaker 1: they are trust on one baby, So that's a whole
Speaker 1: other conversation, old tool. You better start talking about that now. Huh. Now,
Speaker 1: is there anything wrong with finding some security and somebody
Speaker 1: that can financially take care of you know? But again,
Speaker 1: that's where you're gonna have to be honest and realize
Speaker 1: what it is that you want because you gotta at
Speaker 1: home boyfriend right now that loves you, and while you're
Speaker 1: figuring out what it is that you want, you gotta
Speaker 1: realize or figure out what is it that you love
Speaker 1: about this fleeing with this long distance boyfriend huh, because
Speaker 1: there's something that you're ignoring because you said that there's
Speaker 1: something that he's lacking. And remember when we talk about
Speaker 1: being vitamin dude, we talk about how the light feels
Speaker 1: up the room. Hello, light opens way. We need to
Speaker 1: open up what it is about what you're willing to
Speaker 1: overlook with this long distance boyfriend, and more importantly, we
Speaker 1: need to understand why, because right now you gotta add
Speaker 1: home boyfriend that if you say is your friend, well
Speaker 1: perhaps you have to be honest and say that you
Speaker 1: don't deserve him, because right now you out here riding
Speaker 1: around againting communication is key and don't forget that. And
Speaker 1: that even means with yourself, what do you want? Let
Speaker 1: me say it again, what do you want? Remember, if
Speaker 1: you can't identify what it is that you want, you
Speaker 1: will go in any direction. So when you say, hey, Dawn,
Speaker 1: should I even be in a relationship right now if
Speaker 1: I can't settle? Probably not, because you're trying to settle
Speaker 1: because we all deserve the best. You said it right
Speaker 1: in the beginning, you said, I don't think I'm a
Speaker 1: bad person, but deep down I feel like I am.
Speaker 1: Do you see this avoiding process that keeps going on here.
Speaker 1: You're avoiding being honest with your boyfriend that perhaps the
Speaker 1: the there some type of passion lacking. You're avoiding the
Speaker 1: idea of whether or not you're going to be with
Speaker 1: this long distance boyfriend, and avoiding the fact that there's
Speaker 1: stuff that he lacks, but yet you're willing to as
Speaker 1: you quote, these are not my words to settle. Now.
Speaker 1: Let's not forget that this long distant boyfriend from day
Speaker 1: one knew that you had a boyfriend. So I don't
Speaker 1: know what playing field that puts you back. I don't
Speaker 1: know what ease that puts you at. But I can't
Speaker 1: say he's worse off because he knew from day one
Speaker 1: was cool with it, and you knew from day one
Speaker 1: that you never told your boyfriend. So again, you know,
Speaker 1: for you to say that you're not a bad person,
Speaker 1: you gotta do some self reflection because right now it
Speaker 1: sounds like you're only viewing it from your perspective, and
Speaker 1: that's very selfish, you know what I'm saying, And I'm
Speaker 1: not not trying to be shady. I'm just saying I
Speaker 1: need you to look at it from a three sixty
Speaker 1: perspective because you have other people that you said that
Speaker 1: you love people said you said you care about lives, emotions,
Speaker 1: and essentially their spirits at say, okay, all right, let's
Speaker 1: go onto the next one subject. Girlfriend won't pay Dear Dawn,
Speaker 1: I'm thirty four. I think I've been pretty good job
Speaker 1: for myself. I got a full time job, my own
Speaker 1: my own house, and I have a thriving side business.
Speaker 1: I'm busy, but I've also managed to cultivate a three
Speaker 1: year relationship, and we've already been talking about marriage, especially
Speaker 1: when we're getting romantic. But honestly, sometimes I think she's
Speaker 1: with me out of convenience. Um. She's more from a
Speaker 1: poor family, so I essentially pay for everything. Um. Every
Speaker 1: time we go out, whether it's because for a special
Speaker 1: occasion she doesn't feel like cooking or she doesn't too
Speaker 1: much like the food that I make, I end up paying.
Speaker 1: But due to COVID, we don't go out as much anymore,
Speaker 1: so it really hasn't been an issue. Honestly, she's truly
Speaker 1: enjoyed to be around. She always sets up little surprises
Speaker 1: or even make dinner. This past March she lost her
Speaker 1: job and since then and she really hasn't shown any
Speaker 1: interest in work and while I do enjoy our company
Speaker 1: and thinks she's not really taking up space. I think
Speaker 1: it's unattractive in that slow grinding way that she doesn't
Speaker 1: really want much. I guess they're not paying. Hang up
Speaker 1: is an extension of that. Am I over it or
Speaker 1: am I overthinking it? Anyway? I would appreciate any input
Speaker 1: you might have. Thanks. Oh um, I'm looking at this
Speaker 1: letter from a few a couple of different angles. One
Speaker 1: I gotta say, um, bravo to your brother, because uh,
Speaker 1: that's something to be said to be thirty four. You
Speaker 1: got your job, you got your side hustle, and you
Speaker 1: are able to maintain a relationship. That means that you
Speaker 1: juggle and you know what it is that you want. Okay,
Speaker 1: now you've been in a relationship for three years and
Speaker 1: you're you're considering taking it to the next level because
Speaker 1: there's a conversation and I know that this is something serious,
Speaker 1: because we just pointed out that you are a man
Speaker 1: and who gets what he wants you. You understand commitment,
Speaker 1: You own your own house, and now you found this,
Speaker 1: this this young woman, and now you're in a situation
Speaker 1: where you don't know if she's after you are for
Speaker 1: your money. Now you pointed out a couple of things.
Speaker 1: You said that, um, she's pumping poor family on top
Speaker 1: of the fact that she just lost her job. That's
Speaker 1: a pandemic going on. Now you're caught up and I
Speaker 1: want to say caught up in your feelings, but part
Speaker 1: of me you're caught up in the notion because you
Speaker 1: say you have to pay for everything. Now you don't
Speaker 1: know if she's with you because she loves you, are
Speaker 1: out of convenience. There's nothing wrong on two fronts. Uh.
Speaker 1: If we want to talk about financial perspective, when you
Speaker 1: say is she with you? Because she's with you, you
Speaker 1: have to think about what every relationship there's an exchange.
Speaker 1: And if your asset that you're bringing to this relationship
Speaker 1: is because that you bring a fine financial cushion, a
Speaker 1: financial support, that's what you offer. But in the same token,
Speaker 1: don't forget that you just said that she offers you joy,
Speaker 1: that she brings you a different thing. So you gotta
Speaker 1: understand that a lot of tokens opposite a tract. Now,
Speaker 1: if we're talking about strictly from a financial perspective, brother,
Speaker 1: I think you better check yourself because now you're missing
Speaker 1: the point of the relationship. However, if we're looking from
Speaker 1: the perspective where you're saying her lack of ambition isn't there,
Speaker 1: that's different. And as I'm saying this, a few things
Speaker 1: are being even revealed to me now, because no one
Speaker 1: can say they want to be with somebody that, uh
Speaker 1: lacks ambition, Because I feel like when you lack ambition
Speaker 1: or when you have ambition, I should say whether there
Speaker 1: there's just such a thing as you're gonna make sure
Speaker 1: that you have your money, You're gonna make sure that
Speaker 1: you're taken care of, you know. And so when I
Speaker 1: see in this letter and I'm reading this, and I'm
Speaker 1: understanding and and and really diving in, we gotta see
Speaker 1: what exactly is the determining factor of this relationship. Ambition
Speaker 1: is sexy, and she honestly sounds like she's a great one.
Speaker 1: You're talking about the money thing, but you said she
Speaker 1: doesn't even take up space. You've got so much stuff
Speaker 1: going on. Why are you all up? And what she's doing? Now?
Speaker 1: You say whether or not, um and she was you convenienced?
Speaker 1: You better believe that it is an asset to the
Speaker 1: fact that you are financially well off or you have
Speaker 1: some stability. You are six years older than her. You
Speaker 1: are thirty four, she is twenty eight. Mm hmm. Now
Speaker 1: here's another thing that stood on the letter. You said
Speaker 1: that the fact that you make money. But it's the
Speaker 1: principle of the matter. What's the principle that she's supposed
Speaker 1: to pay, that she's supposed to come fifty? Brother, you
Speaker 1: got to see how you want to step into this relationship.
Speaker 1: And well, let's be clear. One thing that I think
Speaker 1: that's important, and I think that you know about this
Speaker 1: because you make consistent payments on each month, whether it
Speaker 1: be for your home, for expenses, for your business, and
Speaker 1: you expect your consistent payments to come for your job.
Speaker 1: What are you consistent we showing this woman, it seems
Speaker 1: like you showed up as somebody that's gonna provide. So
Speaker 1: now all of a sudden you want to split the script.
Speaker 1: You gotta walk through the doors and then saying, man
Speaker 1: that you showed up at the door. And it sounds
Speaker 1: like you said showed up as a man that is
Speaker 1: a provider, and it doesn't sound like she's taking again.
Speaker 1: And when we talk about the life bank account, right,
Speaker 1: we talk about your assets, and we talk about your
Speaker 1: deposits versus your liabilities. She sounds like she's depositing in
Speaker 1: her life now. Is there a conversation to be had
Speaker 1: about what her ambitions and what are the things that
Speaker 1: she wants to do? Sure, but I don't know if
Speaker 1: that's something that UH is called off. Is this something
Speaker 1: that she talks about. You said that she shows up
Speaker 1: in different ways. You said that she makes dinner and
Speaker 1: she does things for special occasions. Well, brother, you're talking
Speaker 1: about that. She says you're cooking is land when you
Speaker 1: also to learn how to cook. You also get your
Speaker 1: tail in the kitchen, so that maybe it's the money
Speaker 1: is a thing you gonna learn to cook, So she
Speaker 1: doesn't and he has another thing? You know. I can't
Speaker 1: you heard that pause because I was like, wait, why
Speaker 1: are you tripping about this money like that? You didn't
Speaker 1: say that she asked you to buy some Birkins, spending
Speaker 1: twenty thousand dollars of your money every month you're talking
Speaker 1: about going out and eating. You just saying money ain't
Speaker 1: a problem now. Nobody wants to just throw their money away.
Speaker 1: What are you complaining about? We gotta get to the
Speaker 1: heart of the matter. What is it that you want
Speaker 1: What are you thinking. You said that she is a
Speaker 1: joy to be around, she's in your space, and you
Speaker 1: said she doesn't even take up space, So what is it?
Speaker 1: M hmm. I think there's a level of I think
Speaker 1: you gotta build your confidence up a bit because you're
Speaker 1: talking about and convenience. Who are you showing up to her.
Speaker 1: I don't think anybody you know should definitely suck you dry,
Speaker 1: but I think you should consider or perhaps think about
Speaker 1: the fact of how you want your relationship balance. If
Speaker 1: you are all the time busy, she's gonna be busy,
Speaker 1: are you gonna ever have time to see each other?
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't say that you have all this
Speaker 1: time on your hands now she was walking around here
Speaker 1: moping and things. I can understand that, but that's not
Speaker 1: the case. And here's another thing. Let's be considered, when
Speaker 1: we have power couples or you know, being a relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody is highly successful, let's not they discredit that.
Speaker 1: It takes some work for whomever your partner is to
Speaker 1: handle you because probably you're in a lot of stress.
Speaker 1: They're probably being convenience. They're probably making time to show up,
Speaker 1: they're probably making time to understand. So show some consideration
Speaker 1: of that. They're making sure that you're fed, they're making
Speaker 1: sure that you are handled. Now here's another thing. Perhaps
Speaker 1: you're in your feelings because you say, hey, I do
Speaker 1: all this work and I managed to cook, and then
Speaker 1: when I don't cook it right, we still gotta pay. Like,
Speaker 1: what what are you seeking? You said? She always sets
Speaker 1: up little price surprises that makes dinner. She's an amazing cook.
Speaker 1: So what's the problem. I think that's what we need
Speaker 1: to really figure out. Not I I'm not. I feel
Speaker 1: you on the struggle about the fact that she doesn't
Speaker 1: have any ambition. Um, but I guess I can need
Speaker 1: to wonder what level of the love language is here.
Speaker 1: But let's not forget opposites of tract and just give
Speaker 1: her some more time. But perhaps I have a conversation. Um,
Speaker 1: that's what I can say. That's it's an interesting dynamic
Speaker 1: that you're you're I want to say crime, But you're
Speaker 1: making a point to identify the fact that she doesn't pay.
Speaker 1: Yet the first thing you come out the first is
Speaker 1: the thing. Hold up, let me go back a little bit. Wow,
Speaker 1: this letter is about your girlfriend not paying. The first
Speaker 1: thing that you come up in a letter is saying
Speaker 1: I'm thirty four. I think I've done a pretty good
Speaker 1: job for myself. Hold on, bro and that sentence right there,
Speaker 1: I already kind of have an idea the kind of
Speaker 1: guy you are, because if that's your leading opening statement,
Speaker 1: that's probably how you lead and then you're presenting yourself.
Speaker 1: So whether or not, um, she is somebody that looks
Speaker 1: at you as somebody that and financially take care of her.
Speaker 1: Look how you stepped to her in the game. You
Speaker 1: introduced yourself. Remember how I said, how you do anything
Speaker 1: is how you do everything right. I don't think that
Speaker 1: you're just writing this in this letter, and that's not
Speaker 1: the guy that you're presenting yourself with. Whether you are
Speaker 1: sharp tailored from head to toe, smelling good Chris shirt O,
Speaker 1: good lord, whatever it is, understanding that's how you're showing up,
Speaker 1: and that's how you're presenting yourself. You know, I think
Speaker 1: sometimes we forget about that. So how much can we
Speaker 1: false her the fact that she finds comfort and knowing
Speaker 1: that you can take care of her. But how about
Speaker 1: we identify why you are making an issue that she
Speaker 1: isn't paying When the first thing that you come out
Speaker 1: in this letter of saying, Dang, I've done a pretty
Speaker 1: good job for myself. I got a full time job
Speaker 1: on my house and I have a thriving side business.
Speaker 1: You're putting it out there, brother. So if you say
Speaker 1: that she is a joy to be around, that she
Speaker 1: sets up little surprises that she makes dinner, enjoy your woman,
Speaker 1: have a conversation, and you probably need to figure out
Speaker 1: what's your love language because you're focused no money, even
Speaker 1: though you got enough of that, But then she gives
Speaker 1: you joy at other little places. So identify what your
Speaker 1: focus is. Don't make it a problem with there's no issue.
Speaker 1: You feel me all right? Moving on to the next
Speaker 1: letter subject father wants to remove me from family will hey, Dawn,
Speaker 1: So here I am asking for some advice. I'm thirty five,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty independent, only getting help from the family and
Speaker 1: emergencies in Seattle, and I've been in a relationship for
Speaker 1: over nine years with my fiance. We lived together, and frankly,
Speaker 1: she and my parents don't get along for religious reasons,
Speaker 1: but they've kept it cordial for the most part. When
Speaker 1: I went over to my parents house to drop off
Speaker 1: a few things the other day, my father suddenly told
Speaker 1: me that if I am with this person, and I
Speaker 1: decided to choose to stay with them or marry them.
Speaker 1: I am out of the will and they will donate
Speaker 1: the house and everything to a charity that he doesn't
Speaker 1: want to choose between me and God. They don't like
Speaker 1: her non religious lifestyle and can't fathom why I am
Speaker 1: with a heathen. I brought up that if I was
Speaker 1: with anyone present or in the past, it's not their life.
Speaker 1: He states that he doesn't want it to be an
Speaker 1: ungodly household. Frankly, I'm taking it back. I've always had
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with my parents. They don't care that
Speaker 1: I'm gay, and they've always said that it's my life.
Speaker 1: But at this rate, I'm stuck with a choice, and
Speaker 1: it's not right in any way. How do I address
Speaker 1: this without letting it tear my family apart? Thanks in advance,
Speaker 1: I do appreciate it. Baby. Hmm, you better do what
Speaker 1: makes you happy. You gotta live your life. Living in
Speaker 1: your truth takes courage, and living in truth and being
Speaker 1: in truth is also stepping in a light. Now, Wow,
Speaker 1: that's pretty messed up that your dad and I used
Speaker 1: messed up loosely because on the basis of him dictating
Speaker 1: where he's going to get the money depending on who
Speaker 1: you're you're choosing to live your life with, regardless of
Speaker 1: the fact they're happy. Is that your alliance on what
Speaker 1: your your dad is willing to do. Now, kudos to
Speaker 1: your fiance. Nine years of the game and you're still
Speaker 1: talking about any emergencies you gotta reach out to your parents.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a blessing, but that's a stretch because
Speaker 1: at this point I need you to stand on your own.
Speaker 1: I also wonder where you stand in your level of commitment.
Speaker 1: Are you afraid to take care of yourself? Um, because
Speaker 1: you're lucky that your girl has been waiting on you
Speaker 1: this long. But while we tackle that that part first
Speaker 1: and foremost, because we need to make sure that you're consistent.
Speaker 1: Because remember the reason probably why we can identify why
Speaker 1: this letter is definitely written and why it bothers you,
Speaker 1: because you're in a bind of a situation where you
Speaker 1: feel as though or the way things your circumstances are,
Speaker 1: you are being lead whether or not you can't financially
Speaker 1: support yourself, because whether you are relying on your parents
Speaker 1: to give you money in those quote unquote emergencies, you
Speaker 1: said that at the top or whether or not they
Speaker 1: are going to give this house to you. At some point,
Speaker 1: you don't have to grow up and take care of yourself.
Speaker 1: Baby girl. You know your thirty five. You've been with
Speaker 1: the same girl for nine years and where is the progression?
Speaker 1: And I understand that we all go through difficult times,
Speaker 1: but when you have something dictating how you want to
Speaker 1: live your life and it's based on a financial time,
Speaker 1: then you have to check yourself a why are you
Speaker 1: allowing relying on some type of outside support from your
Speaker 1: family and you are grown Another thing, let's break down
Speaker 1: the letter even some more. How do you want your
Speaker 1: home to be established? Do you want it to be
Speaker 1: contingent on how you choose to live your happiness? Like
Speaker 1: your parents are saying, it's gonna be a godly home.
Speaker 1: But we know that Jesus is love, so you better
Speaker 1: love and living your truth. You said it yourself, It's
Speaker 1: not their life You're gonna have to live. At some point,
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to be bold. And whether that be
Speaker 1: bold is to take a chance, take a chance on you.
Speaker 1: Fortune favors the bold. Remember everybody exists in the ordinary.
Speaker 1: But it's gonna take a little some um to be extraordinary,
Speaker 1: and you gotta think about it. Fifteen years in the future,
Speaker 1: are you gonna be happy that you in this house alone?
Speaker 1: Are you're gonna be happy that you're in there with
Speaker 1: your partner? That's what we gotta think about when we
Speaker 1: talk about the heart of the matter in the situation.
Speaker 1: We need to identify how this is going to affect
Speaker 1: our lives because we're only here for a fine night time.
Speaker 1: You can't allow things and other people to dictate who
Speaker 1: you are because if you don't stand for anything, you're
Speaker 1: gonna fall for everything. And you can't fall for somebody
Speaker 1: else's perception of what they dictate on what your life
Speaker 1: will be. You came in this world by yourself. You're
Speaker 1: gonna die by yourself. You better live while you're still
Speaker 1: alive and love why you still can celebrate joy? Why
Speaker 1: you can? You're a grown woman. You have this relationship
Speaker 1: with your family. But at some point you're gonna have
Speaker 1: to put your big girl panties on and live your
Speaker 1: life for yourself, live your life for your girl. And
Speaker 1: we need to figure out what is going on financially
Speaker 1: that even nine years in the game, at the age
Speaker 1: of thirty five, you are still relying on your parents
Speaker 1: for support. And let me just say that, because you
Speaker 1: are relying on your parents, do you see how the
Speaker 1: pool and the tug that they have on you have
Speaker 1: you questioned how you can live out your joy and
Speaker 1: your happiness in your life. Because this is not about
Speaker 1: the situation of your girl not loving you. This is
Speaker 1: about the situation of your parents are accepting you. They
Speaker 1: dug government dictating on you because of financially So it's
Speaker 1: time for you to walk in to be fully independent.
Speaker 1: I N D E P E N d E N T.
Speaker 1: Do you know what that means? Man? Do you know
Speaker 1: what that means? Me? All right? No T, no shame,
Speaker 1: just speaking truth, live your life for you, be true
Speaker 1: to you. Okay, thirty five years out the womb, It's
Speaker 1: time to cut the core. All right? All right, let's
Speaker 1: go on to the next Let him subject. Should I
Speaker 1: quip my comfortable job to be with my girlfriend of
Speaker 1: five years in Australia? Dear Dawn, I am twenty eight
Speaker 1: and currently working in a company that I don't enjoy
Speaker 1: working for in Houston, and I felt like I'm on
Speaker 1: a path that will ultimately leave me feeling very unfulfilled
Speaker 1: even if I were to be very successful by any
Speaker 1: objective measures. Is a good company to work for, decent pay,
Speaker 1: good benefits, global ability to travel, pre covid um, decent colleagues, etcetera, etcetera. However,
Speaker 1: my problem is I find no joy in working there.
Speaker 1: I go to work, putting a lot of effort, get bonuses, promotions,
Speaker 1: and yet don't feel like I'm really enjoying any of it,
Speaker 1: nor have any real ambitions other than ambition. For the
Speaker 1: sake of ambition, I have recently had the ability to
Speaker 1: sell a property and this put me in an even
Speaker 1: more comfortable natural position then before. On top of being
Speaker 1: frugal with a decent salary, my girlfriend of five years
Speaker 1: is also coming to a time where she is able
Speaker 1: to move and would be able to go to Australia
Speaker 1: due to citizenship, while I would need a visa. My
Speaker 1: question is basically, um, would it be insane for me
Speaker 1: to quit my current job and go to Australia with
Speaker 1: her and take some time to reevaluate things in my career?
Speaker 1: Heck no, you better live your life. I listen. This
Speaker 1: is the reason why I say this. You said it
Speaker 1: right here, you said in the very top of the letter,
Speaker 1: I don't enjoy working at this job. You said that.
Speaker 1: You said, I am twenty eight and currently working in
Speaker 1: a company that I don't enjoy working for. You said,
Speaker 1: I am on a path that will ultimately leave me
Speaker 1: feeling very unfulfilled if you were to be very successful.
Speaker 1: So what you're gonna just really sit there and drink
Speaker 1: the poison. We gotta really check ourselves before we fracked ourselves.
Speaker 1: I've been saying that this entire time. You gotta really
Speaker 1: evaluate the choices with the decisions that you make in
Speaker 1: your life. Do you hear what I'm saying? You're gonna
Speaker 1: sit there and die? Do you hear what you're saying?
Speaker 1: Do you hear the words that you wrote on this paper?
Speaker 1: In this email? You said, Dawn, I can't breathe and
Speaker 1: I've decided to turn off the oxygen. You're going to say,
Speaker 1: is that my problem is I find no joy working there.
Speaker 1: You even go on further to say, nor have any
Speaker 1: real ambitions? Do you understand that? Um, if you were say,
Speaker 1: have you decided to say just for the sake of
Speaker 1: making money? That and you feel like if you were
Speaker 1: to leave and go to Australia, that you'll be risking
Speaker 1: the fact of not knowing where you are financially because
Speaker 1: you don't have any stability. You know nothing is safe right.
Speaker 1: Your company could wake up today and say Okay, we're done,
Speaker 1: thank you so much, goodbye. And you're in a situation
Speaker 1: where you know this isn't where you want to be.
Speaker 1: You said, I need to take some time to reevaluate.
Speaker 1: You need to evaluate why you are willing to put
Speaker 1: yourself in an uncomfortable position where you don't desire to
Speaker 1: be in. Now. I do talk about being uncomfortable, and
Speaker 1: I talk about going outside, stretching, pulling, growing, melting, putting
Speaker 1: yourself and testing it under the fire. But that's because
Speaker 1: what you seek on the other side is a desired
Speaker 1: I'll come. There's no desire I'll come over here. So
Speaker 1: what you just ramming yourself in the circle. You don't
Speaker 1: have to ask for permission to live your life. The
Speaker 1: sun doesn't ask for permission to shine. You just gotta
Speaker 1: show up. So I'm asking you, are you gonna show
Speaker 1: up for the sake of your betterment of living? Huh?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna show up to live your best life
Speaker 1: so you can be your best life? Remember how you
Speaker 1: do anything, we'll definitely have an effect on how you
Speaker 1: do everything. And remember everything is an extension of you.
Speaker 1: Take that money and go to Australia in turn and
Speaker 1: enjoy yourself with your girlfriend. Do that and figure out
Speaker 1: what your love is. You might find it out there.
Speaker 1: But you're young. You were twenty eight years old. Brother,
Speaker 1: You got the rest of your life to sit in
Speaker 1: a job that you hate. I didn't see you said
Speaker 1: anything about you having kids, So you don't have any
Speaker 1: other beings to think about right now. Your responsibility as
Speaker 1: you and why you still have good health because you
Speaker 1: have youth on your side. Go out there and live.
Speaker 1: We're in a pandemic right now. Half of us don't
Speaker 1: even know what tomorrow will bring. You. Feel what I'm
Speaker 1: saying now. If this was a situation where this is
Speaker 1: a job that you loved and you you said you
Speaker 1: had a goal and this was a dream, this ain't
Speaker 1: even when you want to be So why are you
Speaker 1: allowing this to be the location or where you at.
Speaker 1: Vitamin D is all about cutting the light on, and
Speaker 1: when you cut the light on, you realize that you're
Speaker 1: gonna see things that you may not like. But you
Speaker 1: can't be afraid of it because what is fear. Fear
Speaker 1: is false evidence appearing real. Fear freezes us, Fear prevents
Speaker 1: us from moving. Fear is a premature death. Remember when
Speaker 1: we talk about living, when we talk about growing, there
Speaker 1: is an evolution and adamant objects, those are things. They
Speaker 1: don't grow, they don't prosper, they'll live in abundance. You
Speaker 1: as a being, you do that, So don't be afraid
Speaker 1: to be great. Gosh, dog on it. You deserve that.
Speaker 1: That that kind of goes on what we've been talking
Speaker 1: about this entire time of of just self love. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have to love on you. You gotta give yourself
Speaker 1: what you deserve. And that takes you for being bold.
Speaker 1: That and I appreciate each and every person that has
Speaker 1: written in because it takes a bold person right in
Speaker 1: and show their flaws. Okay, but you realize that wounds
Speaker 1: only here when you take the bandage off. Remember you
Speaker 1: only get see things when the lights are cut on.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sitting here and it's like the thing
Speaker 1: in this episode seems to be just communicating with yourself.
Speaker 1: What she say, tap tap tap in. It's time to
Speaker 1: tap in wherever you don't find your greatest potential. You
Speaker 1: tap into the greatest potential, and that potential is you
Speaker 1: tap in, because how you go in when you ain't? Right? Then?
Speaker 1: Uh huh, come again, that's Lauren Hall right there. We
Speaker 1: need to speak in to existence of having her on
Speaker 1: the show. I need to talk to in. We need
Speaker 1: to get that to happen. I think that would be good. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's what I was saying. Live your life
Speaker 1: and understand that you only here for a fine night time.
Speaker 1: You've got nothing to lose but time, okay, and while
Speaker 1: you're using it, why is ever fleeting away? You better
Speaker 1: live it out to your best your dick. Oh, I
Speaker 1: guess I didn't hit the rest of the bag. That's
Speaker 1: it for today. Well yea. I thank you so much
Speaker 1: for sending your letters in um, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for choosing to live on purpose and for purpose. Thank
Speaker 1: you for choosing to step in the light. Thank you
Speaker 1: for being an avid listener to Vitamin D. So that
Speaker 1: means thank you for investing my dreams. You know, I
Speaker 1: hope I answered some great questions and really gave some
Speaker 1: great insight and perspective on how to view things in
Speaker 1: life and what it comes down to. Making a decision,
Speaker 1: but hopefully highlighting and underlining and exclamation point making it
Speaker 1: stand out the importance of the self love, the importance
Speaker 1: of the communication with self, the importance of uncovering self,
Speaker 1: because when we are right with them, we'll leave discovered.
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