WEBVTT - Episode 399: Breath Control (Feat. Masego) 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:05.000 What's up its lip service? I'm Angela Yee, I'm Gigi MacGuire, 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:10.399 I'm Jazzline brand. I'm Laura Mura is here on tour 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:13.280 right now. Thank you for making time for us. Appreciate 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:16.239 and you had yes and gig. Tell them how you 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:18.079 got here today? Oh my god, y'all. I had to 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.480 fly from Atlanta to Trenton. Did y'all even know trent 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:22.440 had airport? I didn't know. The only airline that goes 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.599 there is Frontier. So I was in the big front 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:27.640 seat in Frontier. Okay, laid out, No, I wasn't. I was, 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:31.440 And then I took an Amtrak train. I waited an 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:34.639 hour in the train station for my train, and took 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:36.680 an Amtrak train from trent in New Jersey to New 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:39.440 York City and then Ubert from the train station to here. Okay, 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.519 guess what. Usually I'll stay right, but the flights are 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:44.080 so crazy. I don't know what's going on with these flights. 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.319 But flights are so crazy right now that it made 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.280 better sense for me to fly back out tonight. So 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:51.920 she really came here just for four hours and then 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:53.760 back to Atlanta. I got that's why he brought a 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:59.480 flower courtesy got flowers. Yeah, you know what I want 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.040 to ask you this, say, go so um buying flowers 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:05.280 for women sometimes, right, I've seen women get mad because 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.400 they think a man buys some flowers because he messed up. 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:11.840 But yeah, we've seen that happened before. So yeah, when 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:14.640 you mess up. But a woman like me, I love flowers. Yeah, 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:16.720 I buy myself flower I keep flowers in my house, Like, 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:18.760 I buy flowers like weekly, by weekly if I know 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:20.280 I'm gonna be home for a few days and I'll 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:23.000 be able to actually enjoy them. I have flowers all 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:25.399 around my house all the time, and I love women 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:27.760 send me flowers or buy me flowers. Like, I've had 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:30.680 flowers on first dates multiple times, and I think that's 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:34.559 a good Like, you know, it's a nice gesture. Okay, 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:37.240 like a small little plan you can keep it longer. 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.800 What do we give guys like on a you know what, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:43.600 I'm sorry, no, first date? First day? Yeah, on the 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:46.760 first date, gig. Sorry, Like I get a girl ever 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:48.560 given you a present like on a first date or 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:51.480 early on a present? Yeah? Like you know, like flowers 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:53.080 are a great gesture, but like, what do we give 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:56.200 a guy? Nah, I haven't been on a first date 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:57.640 in a long time. You know what I'm saying, Like 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:00.000 what y'all are saying sounds like a dinner we dress. 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:03.840 I haven't done that forever. But the flowers thing, like, 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:06.040 that's a cool move. I think. So no one's ever 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:08.000 been like the first time you go out, because I 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:09.920 just felt like, that's not fair. We don't given me 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:12.359 a gift. Yeah, like the first day. Now, I don't 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:14.880 think I've ever given a man women men give women. 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.640 We don't do anything given him a gift on the 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:21.080 first date. But like, if there's something we spoke about, 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:23.960 like on the first date that you know, and we 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:27.200 have a second date, like I've a small gesture, like 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.200 a small gesture, you know, something something said made me 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:32.400 think of something more. If I saw something that has 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:34.800 to do with something they spoke about, Oh this is cute. 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:36.640 Let me grab this real quick. Yeah, that's not on 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.000 the first date. But not the first but not the 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:41.520 first date. No, I am the present because sometimes people 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:43.320 are press Like let's just say, because there's a lot 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.080 of people that are meaning like online or online dating, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:47.760 and so they might know each other a little bit 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:51.600 before they actually go that's different. Yeah, on a date. 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:53.280 If you've been talking on the phone for a little bit, 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.320 you know, have you guys have an online dated. My 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:58.200 friend said, let me not say what she's gonna do, 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:00.079 because she's gonna do it. But I tried it. I 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:03.799 download apps, like two or three apps. The second third day, 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:08.519 I erased it because I just couldn't it wasp sipepe. 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:11.440 I can't with guys doing selfies of themselves and they 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:16.120 always post selfies of themselves are like pictures with no 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:22.160 shirt on them. But my friends said, I definitely should 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:26.040 try it. Okay again, go back there, go back out there. Well, Misa, 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:27.560 why haven't you been on that first day in a 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:32.079 long time in a relationship. I've been getting money. That's 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:35.520 all I've been trying to do, because I think I 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:40.400 think relationships are expensive, like really functional ones for people 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.760 like me. People see me and it's like the R 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:46.480 and B guy. Then you're thinking trips and balconies, and 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:50.880 I'm saying, so it's like, no, before I do all 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:53.200 that and the assumption of expectations, let me get my 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:57.880 net worth a little bit and we listen, no judgment. 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.280 But you have these sold out shows, you know, Grammy 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:07.040 dominated say to accolades. I feel like you can do 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:14.120 the balconies. Oh not yet. Have you been on any dates? 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.680 You haven't been on any dates. I feel like you 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:22.960 miss your X or something. X recently got pregnant. Yeah, 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:26.279 I'm not missing her. Still dealing with that one. He 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:30.680 doesn't feel about this. How long have y'all been broken up? Like? 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:35.520 For you, okay, she got pregnant, you still think? Okay, well, 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.040 you know what, I'm a sensitive He was trying to 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.320 leave that door open, and you know it a little 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:41.839 too long. I look back at the text, They're like, 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:45.440 what's the last thing we talked about? Okay, let just 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.840 see where I How did you find out? A friend 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:50.320 of mine called me. It was like you see this? 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.080 I was like, no, I didn't see this. It was 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:57.000 on Instagram? What was Did you hit her and say congratulations? 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:00.479 Are you ignored it? She's gonna see this interview? All good? 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:06.400 Why did you guys break up? Um? I feel like 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:11.000 my emotional intelligence wasn't high at the time. Okay, it 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:13.039 was your fault. Yeah, it was totally my fault. She 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:16.720 was real like she had all the things. I just 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.120 feelt like I was too, like just it wasn't ready 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.440 you know what I mean, just nigga time, just the life. 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.720 Feel like she's the one that got away, nah, because 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:26.159 I'd do with her, you know what I'm saying, Like 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.520 I feel that, but at the same time, just like 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:33.480 my ego, it's just it feels away down in the dumps. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:41.840 I like this, he plugged my music. See just you know, 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.640 I feel away about things for no reason. Okay, now 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.280 I think that's fair though. Yeah. Sometimes you see your 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:49.479 ax and you could be over and then you see 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.440 something you're like, oh, word, like that's what you do? Check, Like, 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.599 am I over? And not that you have this situation 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:58.479 Like I did an April Fool's joke. I like posted 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.080 that I was I proposed to young lady and my 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:05.039 phone was like filled with death threats. Wow. It was 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:06.960 just like if you I will kill you in the 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:11.360 wedding and I was like, oh are you carry carrying? 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:18.760 They were access dance right, no phone? Yea. I thought 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:22.040 were just kind of hanging out. But it seems like, oh, 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:26.760 this is this is a button for you. Let's get 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.960 into this. Because you are John I I am like 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:32.560 the good Yard eighth Gemini, You're Sam. This is a 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:36.920 well research podcast. Twenty third Gemini come on with it, 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.719 and and I've had a lot of Gemini men cross 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:45.240 paths within my lifespan. Yeah, I think this is crazy. 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.840 I'm gonna see that you are the reason why they 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:52.800 say we are crazy. It's y'all, and it's you. I agree, 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:56.280 So you right here, sir. I'm not fighting you at 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.000 all about that. I think I channeled my crazy into 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:02.360 my art. Great on the stage, I get to be regular. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:04.440 What's the craziest thing that you would say you've done 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.960 in a relationship? Did you look back and be like, man, 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:12.720 why did I do that? Was I thinking? I try 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:17.520 to do like mafia things like shop her head off. No, 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.560 like uh in the sense of like I bought my 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:27.160 lady x's uh barbershop and just turned it into something else. 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:33.040 Wait wait wait you bought her ex Wait trying to 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:34.840 tell you, like I'm trying to go for the juggular. 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:38.680 We have women right here. We have her men who 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.480 is a barber and he was succeeding. Then he owned 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:45.080 a barbershop. Then they broke up, and then her and 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.040 I got together. But then at that time I was 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:51.120 still in my like crazy Gemini. She can only be 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.640 with me, And so at the time, I'm trying to 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:55.760 be like, you get my investments up, you know, maybe 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:59.000 turn into a cafe or something. And so I copped 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.360 this little real estate and I was like, we could 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.920 keep it a barbershop, but then he would still have 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:08.080 his job. So he's just gonna take a the barbershop away. Gosh, 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:12.760 that crazy, pretty crazy. And what did she think about that? 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:18.280 That was crazy? Yeah? That it was much So where 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:22.760 is this property still? The same question driving it? And 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:29.680 is it still this over details about this man's barbershop. 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:38.000 You can get a balcony, for sure. I'm saying, I 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.120 feel like you need first class bot, but you're buying 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:46.240 barbershops right super ready in the black community. Um. He 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:47.920 said it was a He said it was a little 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:52.200 real estate situation. Yeah, but like I was just trying 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.000 to be a I was just trying to like think 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:58.200 too hard on how to like that's old okay years ago. 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:01.439 I can imagine you And because I know you and 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:05.040 sir cool dumb music together, right, a smoking young man. 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.480 I can imagine these types of conversations because he's a 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:12.800 he's a pretty fun person as well. Yeah, have talked, Yes, 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:16.360 he had what was that like we got to watch that, Yeah, 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:18.760 you do, because he's a few years But then we 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:20.880 spoke to him at B T Words as well. Oh 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:24.120 yeah we did. Interesting. Yeah he's cool. Yeah, he is 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.160 very cool, super talented. Tell me what it was like 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:29.280 for you guys working together. Surgis has a lot of 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:34.320 deep conversations about like love and life, and he had 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:38.640 this like trash can bag full of weed and then 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:43.280 I mean he's from Collie, yes, you know, yes, I 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:49.120 mean you're from like listen, all of these things are true. Yeah, 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.000 just I don't know. Serge is really smart, you know 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:52.600 what I mean. And I love the way he stacks 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.040 his harmonies and we're just always just having jam sessions. 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.720 And I would always like play keys while he's telling 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.760 a story and then that would be the song. That's 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:03.240 how we made Nanna and some other joints, just like 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:07.199 talking sitting around like this. You're smoking per usual and 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:10.920 I'm just playing keys per usual. So you like older women? Damn, 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:13.480 we're just getting straight into it, okay. I mean we 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:19.760 have a whole song about here. I feel like older 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:22.880 women usually have food in their fridge and at the 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.800 time that was my love language. Eating. Yes, you know 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:32.000 what I'm saying. So my fridge is there. Okay, are 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:38.760 you an old woman? Are you? Yeah? I think so? Yeah, Okay, 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.320 because you're very young. How old you think? I am 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:47.240 thirty twenty seven? Aren't you like thirty born than ninety three? 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:50.800 Were you older than that? I'm twenty nine, But I 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:59.199 just seeing what the research dealt with, probably ten years apart, 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:03.880 that's my limit. Yeah, I think a little. I'm gonna 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:05.520 go up to eighty. Yeah. She said, I'm gonna go 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:09.120 take right, but hello, I would take Granda. I'm gonna 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:11.320 take grand Fay on a spin on his on his wheelchair. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.199 But but younger than me. I can only go down 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.960 ten years. Yeah, because the maturity is just gonna get 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:18.640 a little out of here. Yeah. I feel like, if 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:21.959 not only that, I have a daughter who is twenty six, so, 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:25.120 and my nieces they're all like between like twenty four 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:27.880 and twenty two and like thirty three. But you are 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:30.439 a young mom. I am. I was. I'm forty three. 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:33.240 I had her when I was seventeen. But I just 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.360 feel like, and more recently, about maybe three years ago, 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.040 one of my nieces, the one that's a year younger 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:40.079 than my daughter, she moved to Atlanta. So now I 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.000 have three nieces that live in Atlanta and they're all 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:45.000 within that age range. And my one niece is running 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:46.920 into guys that I dealt with back in the day 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:50.280 and she's now meeting them. So it's like, it's kind 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.000 of weird. So I don't it gets kind of weird. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.520 So it's like when it comes to like a younger guy, like, 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.439 I don't feel like I can see myself being with 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:00.079 somebody that my daughter could possibly be with, right, But 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:04.480 these guys definitely could see them definitely. What I'm saying, 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:06.880 I don't know. It's just it's a morality thing with me. 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:08.800 If you had a choice between a younger woman and 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.280 an older woman, what would you pick. I'm gonna older woman. 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:17.320 I'm still taking in what you just said. That is wild, Okay. Yeah, 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:19.240 so I'll be like, oh, yeah I know him. Yeah. 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.280 She'll be like, oh, um, I just met this guy. 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:22.760 He said he know you, and I'm like, yeah, he 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.120 knows me, all right? Do you tell him? Like, tell 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:29.520 who how do you know? Nie Hurt? Yeah? You just 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:33.880 to give her head all the way. There's only been um, 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.880 there's only been one guy that um that she like 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.959 kinda was really into but I had never slept with 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:43.640 him before. I just knew him in that way. So 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:47.360 it's just like and what is that way? Like we 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:50.600 were like talking, but it never meted to the bedroom. 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:52.839 So we like went on a couple beats and you know, 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:57.920 and what happened. Um, I just wasn't interested. Okay, Yeah, 0:12:58.160 --> 0:12:59.880 what would make you not like what would make you 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:01.240 go out with some man a couple of times? Like? 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.199 What are some things that would make you not interested 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.560 in somebody? Oh, I'm gonna start with the way they smell. 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.600 You know, people have a smell, Like everybody has their 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.800 own smell. And if if your smell isn't something that 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:15.480 I'm attracted to, like your pheromones, you know what I'm saying, Like, 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:20.360 if that don't get me like this, then that's one personality? 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:23.079 Is another like waiting board that happened to you, Like 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.360 while I was talking to somebody on the Internet and 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.320 then we meet up and I'm like, I'm so man 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:32.920 he said on the internet? Yea, on the internet social media, 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:38.079 but like the pheromones on the WWW, like the pheromones 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:40.480 weren't working with me. It was like, Noah, that he 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:41.880 was talking for man long and I was like, I 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:46.320 can't that's crazy. It was just her, she looked at 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.000 she got a good personality all that. But it's like, 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.439 I don't know if y'all see my nostrils are like 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.600 I pray the sacks. You know what I meant breath 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:57.800 And so I'm like it gotta it, gotta align with 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.320 the nostrils. You know what I'm talking about me is breath, 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.040 especially when the breast smells like they just took some 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.920 listerine right before seeing you and you still smell the breath. 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:09.559 Oh my god, that is the worst. Sometimes a chip 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:12.000 to the dentist could fix that. Is it worth? But 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.680 if you bet old and you're still onto that stink 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:20.600 breath is definitely turn off. Let's go back to this plane, 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:25.760 the saxophone thing. Your transitions are stellar. Let's go back 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:28.640 to this saxophone situation. How do you think that plays 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:31.280 a role with you in the bedroom, like breath control 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.440 and all of that. Oh my god, I'm just curious 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:35.480 about you, say, do I play sax in the bedroom? 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.000 I was gonna ask, you know what, do you sing? 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:41.600 Yeah in the bedroom? Yeah, that's sexy. I want a 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:43.600 man this thing to me, have you ever had sex 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:50.480 with a sinker, like a like a real singer? Her 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:56.680 eyes answered back, I'm just had a little one before 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:00.440 y'all came up on these couches about some things. So, 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:02.960 um yeah, back to the saxophone thing, do you think 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.000 that that plays a role, like as far as you, 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:09.560 you know, being able to do certain things. That breath 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:17.080 was wild to hold your breath girl a long time, 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:19.920 or you know, I feel like there's something I noticed 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.600 that I was at a blue note last night and 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.240 I never watched other saxophone players perform, but that that's 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.240 not I did. And I'm like learning how sexual that 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.000 instrument is. It is like he's moving his hands mad 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.160 faster instrument. The girls are going wild like oh d 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.200 that to me, I was like they were not saying 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:41.080 that no one in the morning, they're gonna start being 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:43.760 real honest in the blue note. So you just realize 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:45.920 how sexual that is. Yeah, I'm real innocent, Like I 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:49.240 didn't know that the saxophone was seen that way, the saxophone, 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:53.040 the saxophone. Yeah, but you used like how you started 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:56.480 playing a saxophone? Was it to like, yeah, okay, we've 0:15:56.520 --> 0:16:00.840 all read up on me and okay, So there was 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.280 an older woman that I had a crush on as 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.280 a youngster, and the only information I had on her 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:09.200 was she had a picture of Nagi Davis, a saxophone player, 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:12.320 on her binder. So I have a little power my boys. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:13.960 I'm like, right, how do I back shorty? You know 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.000 what I'm saying. And it was like, we don't know. 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:18.960 But she got a picture of the saxophone a binder. 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.680 When I just ran with that and I started playing 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:25.480 sax in attempt to woo her, and it was cool. 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.880 I felt a little instrument the world. I was like thirteen, 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:32.920 and I really like this crush kind of changed your life. 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:36.440 That's a productive crush. Yeah, I think like men try 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.000 to excel when a woman's involved. Like we're playing just 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:41.440 pick up basketball then a girl walking. Were all trying 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:43.440 to dunk so they could get the older lady by 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:47.320 playing a sax. At thirteen, I got her. She probably 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:57.040 like thirty four, But you woo the world the world, Yes, 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.760 you really do like older women. He was thirty right, 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.160 like what was this action to you doing that? She 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.800 definitely was blushing because I was like, I'm Jamaican, so 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:08.280 I'm trying to be extra confident, like I think I 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.480 can marry you, like I'm going all out. I think 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:13.720 she just kind of strugged it off. She was like 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:17.960 a little boy. Oh yeah, I would have been on 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.000 the newspaper. Did she know who you are? Now? Like? 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.159 Do you have you seen her since you've been an adult? 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:24.639 People asked me that a lot. N I got to 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.200 figure out her first name. Oh my gosh, she was 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:35.240 a teacher. Okay, she was teacher. Yeah, she was my teacher. Yeah, 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.159 I was a kid in class. She came through and 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.679 I was just like, who shure are you right now? 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:43.080 Trying to see so our substitute teacher? I was, Now, 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:45.800 what made you decide to him? Do this album self titled? 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:50.439 I think usually I'm making my album with the company 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.240 of a lot of women, right, and it's discussions conversations. 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:55.960 This album was around a bunch of men, and we 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:59.879 were having different types of conversations and like vulnerability and men, 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:03.280 so health and femininity versus masculinity and all these different 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:07.080 conversations I don't usually have, and so they just kind 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:10.680 of challenged me to be vulnerable versus putting all these 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.960 like barriers against me and my music. Like my music 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.640 feels good, it's cool, but it's really ambiguous. It could 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.040 be about whoever, whatever, But I think this album is 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:21.640 a lot more vulnerable and personal. So I haven't done 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.880 that before, and they felt that it was necessary. That's 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:27.720 interesting because I don't look at like sometimes I feel 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:29.920 like it's harder for guys to have those conversations with 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:32.399 each other, and I don't know necessarily that they do. 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:35.560 It's just the company I keep. Like I'm around like 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:39.000 some really good guys. Like we talk about all of 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:42.000 the things we have of this. We're in the studio 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:45.680 doing this, discussing things dates all at and just trying 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:49.280 to figure out how to best maneuver it because everybody 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:51.760 kind of fighting the high value man versus the broken 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:57.000 bag women versus the broke men versus. Yeah, it's just 0:18:57.480 --> 0:18:59.840 hard we arguing, but like, does anybody have a solution 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:02.480 or a pathway? Who's happy? You know what I'm talking about. 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:04.560 So it's like we just try to figure out what's 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:08.880 the actual game plan for love since everybody just out 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:11.159 here trying to get bread or whatever. Did you like 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:16.680 getting more personal and vulnerable? Yes? And no, Like I like, 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.080 I like getting it out, but I don't like performing 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:20.680 it every night because it's like I gotta look y'all 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:24.000 in the eyes, and it's like it's not a comfortable 0:19:24.080 --> 0:19:26.960 feeling to be vulnerable. It's cool to perform and entertain people, 0:19:26.960 --> 0:19:28.600 but when you're talking about your real life, it's like 0:19:28.680 --> 0:19:33.200 a different like I don't enjoy it the same. That's interesting, yeah, 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:35.000 because I mean it's like when you're just having fun, 0:19:35.080 --> 0:19:37.000 you're doing almost like a cover song, you're just kind 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:39.440 of being like wild and everything, But when you're talking 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:43.320 about your life, it's just like when you're performing. Do 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:47.600 you ever lock eyes with one woman in the crowd 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:53.600 in the audience recently? Yes? It was crazy a homeboil. 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:56.440 My name Jesse Boykin's a third told me I should 0:19:56.480 --> 0:19:58.560 try that, and I was like, yo, this no, this 0:19:58.720 --> 0:20:01.480 is a terrible idea. And you tried it dead for 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:04.040 one night and how to go crazy? Like everybody was 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:08.879 like why not me? She squirming in her seat like 0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:13.800 when the five heart beats? Was she laughing? Yes? It 0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:18.960 was that. That's all I saw when you when you 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:20.520 when you said that, that was the vision I had 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:24.000 in my head. Will you do it again? Maybe? It's 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:26.399 really intense. It's got to be and it's cause a 0:20:26.440 --> 0:20:32.240 break up to right, have you ever dated a fan? 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:34.920 Hooked up with a fan with a fan back in 0:20:35.000 --> 0:20:38.240 the day, but like, it's just not the way that 0:20:38.720 --> 0:20:41.840 did you meet her at the show? Just a random 0:20:41.960 --> 0:20:43.879 fan at the show. It's the thing that you expect 0:20:43.920 --> 0:20:48.240 as a rock star. Happened shorty giving you a vibe 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:53.600 you like security, It's just foolishness. I just haven't see that. 0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:56.560 Like dating, I see that happen, but like dating a fan, 0:20:57.240 --> 0:21:01.280 you guys, because I mean I don't I don't want 0:21:01.320 --> 0:21:03.800 to be that much to someone. You know what I'm saying. 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:05.520 There needs to be a better balance because if I 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:09.120 can't do no wrong, it's like right saying it. Yeah, 0:21:09.280 --> 0:21:10.959 so you feel like when you're dating it you can 0:21:11.040 --> 0:21:13.840 only date one person at a time. Oh, were you 0:21:14.160 --> 0:21:16.399 you clever? No, I'm just trying to understand dating. And 0:21:16.400 --> 0:21:18.000 I'm still trying to figure this out. You're still name 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:21.960 dropping my songs, puliging me out now studying abroad nominated 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:26.040 but no, um, I still have discussions about this and 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:28.920 it gets debunked every now and again because I feel like, 0:21:29.240 --> 0:21:33.359 from a Gemini standpoint and an emotional intelligence I can 0:21:33.800 --> 0:21:37.159 definitely put together a structure where multiple women can be 0:21:37.280 --> 0:21:41.080 happy and fulfilled in one relationship. I'm confident about that. 0:21:41.680 --> 0:21:44.959 But in terms of when things change, like, Okay, if 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:47.359 it's open, what if you have a child with this woman, 0:21:47.680 --> 0:21:49.879 can she go with some other dude? And then my 0:21:50.040 --> 0:21:53.200