WEBVTT - Danielle Byall: She’s been keeping my lashes gorgeous for over 3 years! 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:16.959 Hi, Hi, Carol. She's a queen and she's getting not 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:21.079 afraid to fail, so just let it flow. No one 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:31.440 can Carol sounds Carol. Okay, I'm so excited because I'm 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:37.920 here with Danielle Bile, the greatest lash specialist. Um, what 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:43.200 is your official title? I guess you could say specialist artist, 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:48.839 special art. Many names, many names, and so lashes. It's 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.320 something that has become very important to me. I never 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:56.480 knew how much I needed lashes, so I just had 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:00.320 my stylist sounds so boogie right now, lash awesome. List 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.320 all the things I just had my stylist on Kirby 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:05.240 Ryan Style. Everyone needs to check her out for a 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:09.840 wardrobe analysis. She'll change your life. And I don't think 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:14.320 caring about how you look if you're not. I mean, 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:18.280 there's a fine line with everything everything, but it really 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.560 helps you feel a certain kind of way when you 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:23.240 look a certain kind of way. So like lashes. When 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:26.360 I have lashes, I feel so confident because I don't 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.840 have to wear makeup. I feel like I can just 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.360 walk out and I feel great. The lashes feel long, 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:33.440 It makes me feel empowered, It makes me feel the 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:35.000 way I want to feel inside and that could be 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:39.080 called vanity. I mean, maybe it is, but it gives 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:42.120 me confidence, well cool it empowerment I mean, and so 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.880 talk to talk to me about that, like your job, 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.080 and how it is empowering and how like it is 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.640 also vanity, but like I didn't even know it exist 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.520 until I moved to Nashville and it was an option. 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:54.120 But now I feel like the world has opened up 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.160 and you can get lashes and all sorts of stuff 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.120 in a lot of places now. But tell me about 0:01:58.120 --> 0:01:59.680 how you even get into it, how you walk that 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:02.960 line with empowerment to dine lots of questions. I mean, 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:05.960 I think that the main thing for women these days 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:08.000 is that anything that makes you feel better, do it. 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:10.960 If it's lashes, if it's botox, whatever it is. If 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:13.440 it's making you feel good, who cares, Like, as long 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.200 as you're not hurting yourself, do it. And lashes are 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:18.000 one of those things where you get them put on, 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:20.040 you come see us, and then you wake up every 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.399 day looking at the same you look awake. You don't 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.280 have to do anything. You could roll out of bed 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:26.120 and go do anything, and people don't you know, you 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:29.960 don't have to put anything else on. So I think maintenance. 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:32.520 It's like maintenance. Yeah, I mean you come to see 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:34.959 us every few weeks and you're good to go. You 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:36.480 don't have to do anything else if you don't want to, 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.880 like so bougie like I said, But really it's it 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.200 allows you to live super low maintenance because you don't 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:42.400 have to wake up and work about You don't want 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.520 to wake up earlier because they're already done. You don't 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:46.560 have to do the mascara routine where you're trying to 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:48.679 scrub it off at night and somehow you still wake 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:50.680 up with it completely under your eyes. You don't do 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:53.360 any of that, just skip it all. Besides me hate 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:55.919 taking makeup off, Yeah, I hate taking makeup off. Yeah. 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.359 An hour every few weeks compared to that extra half 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:02.880 hour every day, you're saving time, truly. Yeah. Okay, So 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:04.799 there's so many parts to who you are, and I'm 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:07.000 not becoming. I've been coming to get lashes now for 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.079 I think over three years, I think, so before either 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:14.840 of us had babies. Before and into Danielle. It's like 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:17.120 going to the hair salon. Because I'm laying here on 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:19.720 her bed, my eyes are closed obviously because she's seeing 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.440 lashes and I'm here like every two to three weeks, 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:25.720 and I'm here for like thirty anywhere for thirty minutes 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.040 an hour every like let's just call it like two 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.560 and a half, three weeks, three weeks. Yeah, So you 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:33.520 really get to know someone and we talk about everything. 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:35.680 I like lay here and I feel like we cover everything. 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.880 But yet we never look at each other. Ifans are closed, 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:40.640 it's a chance to be vulnerable because you don't have 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:42.160 to look at each other. You just get to say 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.800 whatever you're feeling. And people just dump stuff on you. 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:47.960 They do, and because they can't even see so it's 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:50.240 like they're just talking to thee they can't see us. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:53.440 We're basically therapist at this point. Um, they can't see us. 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:55.720 We're no judgment zone, so you can say what you 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.480 need to say. It's it's really it's ideal. Do you 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.840 ever just like are you just ever like rolling your 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:04.360 eyes at someone and you're like, oh my gosh, shut 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:07.920 up rolling my eyes. But sometimes when people say stuff, 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:12.200 it's kind of like, oh, okay, all right, we're friends now. 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.360 We have to be friends now because you just said 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:17.000 that I just told me way, you just I just 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:19.159 found out your whole life in an hour and we 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:21.440 just met. But it's great. It's great, and then we 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:24.680 just continue that relationship for years and it's like it 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:27.719 starts so easily. Do you know so much about so 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:31.400 many people? So many people, so many people. It's kind 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:35.080 of great though, he was rolling it. Yeah, yeah, so 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.200 many people. It's good. It's good. It's especially good when 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.279 friends come in and one friend has already told you 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:42.960 something that the other friend maybe hasn't shared yet, but 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:44.880 you already know when you're just waiting for them to share. 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.600 It's good. You're just waiting for them, You're just waiting. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:50.640 So talk to me about how you got started. Because 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:54.800 you're from Indiana, Indiana and Florida not really. Yeah, our 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:57.600 family has. It's really funny because my husband's family too, 0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:00.880 has moved to Florida. So um, we're split. But yeah, 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:04.839 our families are basically in both and they're completely split. 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.080 So my mom is still in Indiana. But that's where 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:11.440 I grew up, small town, Indiana. Um, so yeah, you 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:14.840 grew up with your husband Tanner, small town? Yeah, I did, 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.800 And I started dating when you were held like ten, Um, 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.760 are your book photos are next to each other? No? 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.000 I dated other people in between, but breakups. We had 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:27.520 breakups in between, but it wasn't solid. Since not solid. 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:30.840 There were like around four years or somewhere it was 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.680 not but so no one really stood a chance. When 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:35.599 you start dating, when you're tin, there's really no one. 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:40.000 Nobody really compares, and it's like everybody else just eventually 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.599 gets really annoying and you're like, huh. And then there's 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:44.360 that one person who you don't really seem to get 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:49.640 annoyed with, and so nobody really Yeah, um, luckily for it. 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.240 Now I'm just kidding. Um, he might say unluckily for him, 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:56.279 but no, yeah, it's pretty much just been him. Everybody 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:59.120 else just it's annoying. Yeah, there have been other people 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:02.240 in between. Okay, so when did you get this very 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:05.520 strong work ethic? Because something that I haven't noticed about 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:07.719 you for these few years that i've been coming is 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:12.400 you're always adding a business on. You're like always doing something. 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.400 You're doing a renovation and you're doing it yourself. You're 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:17.080 adding on a business, you're bringing you're adding on a 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:20.880 different like a section to your already thriving business. It's 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:24.120 like and your mom and you went through intometriosis and 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:26.800 had a very long emotional journey which we talked about, 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.400 which I kind of want to tap into a lot 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:32.160 of women struggle with that and how do you find 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:33.640 time to do all this? And when did you get 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:39.479 this insane work ethic? Um, it took time, honestly, but 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.039 I think watching both of my parents do their own 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:44.440 thing for your first divorced at a young age. Yeah, 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.960 I was um five based almost six when they divorced, 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.120 so kind of just watching them split and still do 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:54.360 their own thing and have thriving businesses. And my dad 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.440 is the type of guy who if he wants to 0:06:56.480 --> 0:06:58.520 do something, he's going to try it, no matter what 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:00.080 it is. It's like, oh, I want to start this 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.479 business or I want to go do this and it 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:05.159 doesn't let all the like what if what if I 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.200 don't make any money? Or what if it doesn't take off? 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:08.720 I don't really know how to do this? Yeah, what if? 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:10.760 What do I need to learn? Like that's never been 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.920 his thing. He's constantly like, Okay, I think I can 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:16.000 do that. I'm going to do it. I admire people 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.640 like that, and it does. You just have tons of energy, 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:21.120 tons of energy and tons of like how did you 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.080 learn that? Or like how did you perfect that type stuff? 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:25.800 He's just one of those. Yeah, one of those like 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:28.240 he tries that he can do it. Like, um, when 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.160 I was in high school, he started building a house, um, 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:32.160 a family house, and it was like, Okay, you're gonna 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.480 have the people help you, you know, and he's like, no, 0:07:34.720 --> 0:07:38.040 just to build the whole house, the whole house, built 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:40.280 the whole house, built the whole house by himself. Did 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.000 he have people come over and help him, No, but 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:43.840 he had to have people like help him hold stuff. No, 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:47.480 but no. So he constructed this this lift out of 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:51.320 wood and trusses and was like lifting trusses up by himself. 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:54.000 Like what about like foundation and things like? Yeah. So 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:55.760 that's the funny part, right. So, like we get a 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.520 phone call from him and he's like, hey, let's go 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.240 to lunch. And he calls myself and my youngest other 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:02.640 and he's like, let's go to lunch. My middle brother 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:06.520 was in school at the time, and uh, okay, let's 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.640 go to lunch. No, we get there and it's hey, 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.080 this concrete truck is almost here and I need help 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.160 because it's going to drive faster than I can smooth 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:15.720 it out. So like, here are these tools. So y'all 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.040 all lived in the house that he built. It's going 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:20.160 to fall through. I would be a little nervous that. 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:22.240 I hope it was a one story house. No, it 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:23.960 was a two story house. I don't know if i'd 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:25.640 get on that second. And I did live in that 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:29.080 house because it ended up being finished while Um, I 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:31.680 had moved home after college, so it's your room upstairs. 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:36.880 It was lived like this bonus area upstairs because I 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.320 was like twenty three at this point and just being like, Dad, 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:43.480 I'm coming to live with you because life. Um, never 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:47.160 freaked out or something. It was weird, never freaked out. 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:49.720 Did it feels sturdy? It did? Yeah, And it was like, 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:52.600 you've built this house insane. Yeah, that's a house he did. 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:55.559 He's not at all like in construction. Um, that's kind 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:58.040 of what he does. Okay, yeah he hasn't. Yeah, that's 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.520 kind of what he does. But it's also those things 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:03.600 where he does so many other things, So how do 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:08.520 you perfect that? So you kind of got this insane work, ethic, 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.800 hustle drive, and he I'm sure he doesn't deal with 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.959 people coming up with excuses very well. He doesn't know. 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:17.840 He's like, Okay, change it. That's just my dad's thing. 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:21.000 It's okay, change it, um. I love that. Okay, change 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.520 it's not working over changing so many planning is not 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:25.280 going to help you. The plan is not gonna happen. 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:27.000 So many times, I feel like people get stuck in 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:28.320 a rut and they think they can only do this 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:31.280 one thing, the only one way that something can work 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:35.120 out or go. There are so there's endless routes and 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.600 it's the same destination, or maybe you're not even supposed 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:39.080 to go to this one destination you thought you were 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.040 going to go to, right, Like, maybe that isn't where 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.559 you're supposed to be, so you're not happy, so fix it. 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.040 I feel like you're really good at pivoting. I try. 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:49.400 I try to be better at pivoting than I used 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:52.600 to be before. If something would happen my younger years 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:54.680 and it was something that was out of my control, 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.800 I would have a many meltdown, and then over the 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:58.600 years I kind of gets over, like how you feel 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:00.480 like it's over. And then over the years it's kind 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:02.440 of those things where I'm like, okay, change it, like 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:05.200 it's not working, we just have to change it, um, 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.400 And I'm you know, just like anyone else. I can 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.200 get in that place where I'm stuck on something and 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:11.960 I'm kind of dwelling on it, but within a day 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:14.040 or two, it's like, okay, now, like you know the 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:17.400 same thing, it's not working, change it, um, you want 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:19.760 to try something else? Do it? Like, who's it going 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.160 to hurt? When I feel like you, it's like when 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:25.240 we first when I first started um getting to know you, 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.960 we both were like on our baby journey and I 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:31.520 struggled to get pregnant for a year and I had 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:35.240 like a miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, and it was so 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:38.880 devastating and depressing, and you feel like everyone else can 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.760 get pregnant and know you, why can't you? And it's 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:45.040 so hard, and it's just it starts to really it 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:47.959 comes at you like bullets, like it really is so 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:51.120 painful when you're longing for a job. Every doctor's appointment 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:53.280 I went to where it would be like something else 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.800 was bad news, or let's try this. It was almost 0:10:55.840 --> 0:11:00.559 like defeat. And that was one of the most struggles. 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:02.280 I think one of the things I struggled the most 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:05.800 with was the infertility journey and just you know, the 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.320 whole time my husband and I had been married. It 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.760 was like, Okay, we want babies, and you always think 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.600 it's just gonna happen. So it's just gonna happen because 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:18.800 people accidentally have babies and and so then it's like, oh, okay, 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:20.400 so it's not working. And then you go to the 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:22.000 doctor and you think they're going to tell you like, 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.920 oh no, this is easy, and then it's not easy. 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:28.480 And then another year passes and you struggle with you know, 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:31.320 seeing people around you getting pregnant and wanting to be 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:34.000 joyful for them, but at the same time, it's always 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:35.680 in your head, Okay, why isn't this working for me? 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:39.800 And it's a very very low devastating field. Is like 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.600 you unless you unless you kind of have like experience 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:45.240 that you really don't know how how awful. Yeah, and 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.680 people can say like, oh, just be patient, and that's 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:50.240 like one of the worst things. I think. It's oh, 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.679 it'll happen when it happens, and it's like I get that, 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:55.320 but you know, if you've never experienced it, it's one 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:57.120 of those things where it's just like you can't even 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.880 explain like just how deep the devastated Asian feels it. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.080 And it's and you feel almost like you failed, like 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:06.360 your body is failing you, like, Okay, I can do 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.880 anything else that I tried to do, why can't I 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.440 do this? And very humbling. Yeah it is. It's a 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:16.840 nice slice of humble. Um. So that was one of 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.000 the biggest things I've ever really struggled with. And then 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:21.480 coming to organization like Okay, this just might not work. 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:23.600 So is that what happened? You came to the realization 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:26.400 because you had been to the fertility doctor. Did you 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:30.120 have surgeries done to or like lasers? So we Yeah, 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:33.520 so we had switched fertility doctors. Um. Actually the year 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:35.880 that I found out I was pregnant, that February, we 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:38.560 were switching fertility doctors. And that just so happened to 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.679 be the month after we went on a vacation with 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:45.199 our best friends and my business partner as well, um 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.760 to Hawaii, and we had switched her name. Yeah, so 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.600 she's in Nashville, and we were switching from Bernwick to Nashville, 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:54.760 and we had an appointment sketch with her and MoU 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:57.240 with her and they did the ultrasound again and they 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.600 were like, okay, well, your tubes appear to be completely blocked. Like, 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:04.600 we can obviously verify this with another treatment or check, 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.360 but she's like, I really just think that's where we're 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:07.760 at at this point, Like your tubes need to come 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:11.040 out there, you want your So she wanted to schedule 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:13.720 me for surgery to have my tubes removed because she 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.680 thought that it would be easier to go in for 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.160 an IVF cycle if my tubes weren't in the way, 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:21.640 because um, the way my engine meteorosis has caused some 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:24.920 things to happen. Um, she saw it easier okay, and 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.440 then we'd have more of a success rate okay, And 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:31.080 so I was like, oh cool, it's just another blow there. 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:32.800 So that really means we're not doing it on our own. 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.400 And at this point it's been like basically four years 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:39.320 five years of this. So I'm like, okay, we'll schedule it. 0:13:39.520 --> 0:13:42.040 And then it was like within a week later, I 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.680 was finding out that I was actually pregnant. Why is 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:48.120 it that always happened? It was always happened. People say 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:49.679 that all the time. It's like, because you guys had 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:53.679 even thought about adoption and like you were really into 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:56.720 moving on next next? Really, yeah, we were like what 0:13:56.800 --> 0:13:59.400 are the next options we need? Really wanted kids, didn't 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.920 you know? Adoption great. I think it's awesome. My mother 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:06.040 in law's adopted, so that was always on the table 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:07.560 for us too, And it was just kind of like, Okay, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:09.760 where do we move forward? And then to find out 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.960 it was pregnant was just kind of insane. I felt 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.959 like I was like standing still in the middle of like, 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:20.360 you know, everything just surrounding me, Like yeah, I was yeah. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.080 I was like, I'm sorry, what how does that feel? 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:26.080 You know? I interviewed your interviews and come out after 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:30.760 this when I interviewed um Lacy Lacey K Booth, who's 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:32.720 like was an an American idol and just precious and 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.840 durable and so amazing, and we're talking about what it 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:38.000 feels like to have dreams come true because she's had 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:41.520 so many dreams come true and like having a pregnancy 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:44.000 and a healthy pregnancy and a baby that is actually 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:47.160 a huge dream for a lot of women and men, 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:50.240 but women especially. What does that feel like when you 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:53.520 have been walking this infertility line for so long and 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.200 you feel hopeless that you will be able to have 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:59.080 a carry a baby and have a baby, and then 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.680 you find out you're regnant, Like, how do you feel. Yeah, 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:05.400 So it was it was basically mixed emotions because I 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:07.640 think that we were both just so excited, but I 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:11.360 was so scared because nothing had ever worked, and I 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:15.440 was so like, Okay, how what do I need to 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.680 do to make sure that like he gets here? And 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:22.160 so I was scared and then but at the same time, 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:26.000 you're just so excited, Um that are you scared to 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.480 be too excited? Yeah, You're almost scared to be too 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:30.480 excited because you're like, Okay, well, what if something happens 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:32.960 And it's like, you know so many people that something 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:36.080 has happened too, and so it's just no one is 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:39.400 exempt from something exactly. So it's like, Okay, I don't 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:42.320 really want to build this up for myself because if 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:44.400 something does happen, I feel like I'm just going to 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:48.040 be completely crushed, like maybe not come back from it 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:51.320 crushed like so, but then as time went on, it 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:52.560 was one of those things where we just got more 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:54.120 and more excited and I was like, oh, we could 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.480 do a nursery okay, and then you know you actually 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.840 I went into labor three weeks early, so that was 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.480 semi scary, but I was also just so excited to 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:04.920 meet him that I was like, I don't care, Let's 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.520 do this thing. And I just remember being like, Yeah, 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.800 let's do it. Let's do this thing. Let's get him 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:11.680 here and talk to him about the moment when you 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.080 met which I love his name CoA. Tell me what 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.280 that means, because you guys like love Hawaii. It's like 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.520 a big part of who you are. Love Hawaii, and 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:20.880 mostly because Hawaii is how we got CoA in the 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:25.440 first place, and so I attribute Hawaii every time, just Hawai, 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:31.360 like I just it's like attribute. Sorry that was discussing. 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:34.160 It's it's just one of those things where it's like 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.600 that happy place and just like going there and not 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.120 being stressed. Isn't that wonderful to have a place that 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:40.840 you can think of that you can go to this 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.640 absolute peace? And yes, it's just enjoyment here joy for 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:48.080 us because we went and everything they're so beautiful that 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:49.880 it was one of the times in our life where 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:53.080 we actually calmed down and just enjoyed. And then to 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:56.600 know that co is kind of product a product of 0:16:56.600 --> 0:17:02.000 that was like, oh, okay, so CoA mean CoA. Um 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:05.919 we saw my husband and I, um, we're actually a 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:09.840 beach bar um next to the hotel we were staying 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:13.359 in because Tarran was obsessed with lava flows. She's my 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:16.280 business partner. Yeah, and lash Out. Oh everyone, this company 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.320 is called lash Out. That's where you come to get 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.640 your amazing lashes. Yes, so my business partner, Taran um 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:23.600 It was obsessed with lava flows. So we were always 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.639 at this little beach bar. I think it's Pina Clode 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:28.960 and Strawberry Dacrie, but I could be totally wrong. That 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:32.520 sounds like a great tipsy headache. Yes she was. She 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:34.600 loved him. So we were drinking those like basically the 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:36.800 whole time, and oh god, and that's what we're not 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:42.360 a beach trip. You drinking was frozen slush. This is awesome. 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:46.520 And the name of the hotel, which I made butcher slightly, 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:51.160 was the Hollakoa and it's a military hotel, so it's 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.600 like home of the Warrior. It's like brave warrior is 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:58.280 what Cola means. And so then when we finally got 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:01.280 pregnant and it had taken so long, we were like, okay, 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:03.680 that is the name. Because we saw on this cup 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:06.200 and I had taken like a picture of it Cola 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:08.240 and had put like a little heart around it and 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:11.399 posted it to my story, being like, oh, lava flows. 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:12.879 But then the more we thought about it, we were like, 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:14.879 CoA that if you know, we get lucky enough to 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:18.680 actually have a child, that's his or her name, because 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:23.240 it's either it's Cola. And so when we finally found 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:24.600 out we were pregnant, my husband and I were both 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:28.120 just like, it's Cola. It's great that he just symbolizes 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:30.640 that feeling for you. Yes, you know his name symbolized. 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:35.000 It's just pure joy. Oh yeah. I feel like one 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.560 of those people who you know, you always here when 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:40.280 people have kids, just how emotional they get all the time. 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.199 But it's like I'll just be watching TV randomly and 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:47.120 in tears because I'm like, oh, you just literally bit 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:49.240 me and it was it's great. It was so it 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:52.960 was so cute, like it's great, like everything he does. 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:54.959 I feel like Hanna and I my husband were just 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:57.880 over the moon about it. And it's one of those 0:18:57.880 --> 0:18:59.760 things where you don't think it's ever going to happen, 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:01.280 so someone and get it. It's just I have to 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:09.119 cherish every single second of it. I think that is 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:12.000 a huge difference because I felt the same way I 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:15.760 just when Sunny came here, I was so thankful and grateful, 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:17.560 and I knew how hard it was to have her. 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:20.199 Some people don't know how hard. They don't get pregnant. 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:21.760 People think every time you have sex you're going to 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:26.760