Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, It is Eric from the One You Feed
Speaker 1: with this week's mini episode. Before we get started, a
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Speaker 1: you can't think your way into right action. You have
Speaker 1: to act your way into right thinking. If you're struggling
Speaker 1: with those day to day actions having trouble making the
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Speaker 1: can talk about some of the one on one work
Speaker 1: I'm doing for the many episode. Today, what I want
Speaker 1: to talk about is one giant cliche, which is one
Speaker 1: day at a time. One of our earlier guests, Jessica
Speaker 1: Lamb Shapiro, we talked a lot about cliches and how
Speaker 1: um silly they become, and yet if you can get
Speaker 1: underneath the silliness, or you can hear them fresh, you
Speaker 1: realize how much power is really in them. And one
Speaker 1: day at a time is one of those cliches that
Speaker 1: can be very, very useful. I first came across it
Speaker 1: in recovery programs where one day at a time is used.
Speaker 1: Often it's really used in the sense of don't drink
Speaker 1: one day at a time. It's very difficult to make
Speaker 1: a commitment to never drink again, and people get very
Speaker 1: overwhelmed by that. So the commitment is just don't drink today,
Speaker 1: and sometimes we have to deconstruct that further. Don't drink
Speaker 1: this hour, don't drink this minute, and you just keep
Speaker 1: stringing one more minute that you don't drink together. So
Speaker 1: this can be useful in anything that we're trying to do.
Speaker 1: By breaking it down to just not today, it's very
Speaker 1: easy to get overwhelmed by a lot of things in
Speaker 1: the future. So, for example, if we're talking about not drinking,
Speaker 1: people will start getting way ahead of themselves, like, well,
Speaker 1: what about it my wedding? Am I not going to
Speaker 1: drink at my wedding? And they don't even have a
Speaker 1: girlfriend yet. So by focusing on one day at a time,
Speaker 1: we can come back to the moment and try and
Speaker 1: only solve the problems we have to solve. The same
Speaker 1: is true of trying to accomplish a goal. I find
Speaker 1: it very often that I find myself going, I don't
Speaker 1: see how on earth I'm going to keep going to
Speaker 1: the him every day. Well, I don't have to keep
Speaker 1: going to the gym every day. Right now, I just
Speaker 1: have to go to the gym today. And this always
Speaker 1: brings us back to the fundamental idea that all we
Speaker 1: can really do anything about is this current moment. And
Speaker 1: so if there is something that needs done in the
Speaker 1: moment and we do it, we feel better and we
Speaker 1: are setting the stage for all those things in the future.
Speaker 1: Worrying is the spending the time over and over worrying
Speaker 1: about the future, but not doing anything about it. And
Speaker 1: so one of the rules I have for myself is
Speaker 1: if I'm worried about something, then I asked myself, is
Speaker 1: there anything I can do about it right now in
Speaker 1: this moment, and I try and do that. So if
Speaker 1: it's a situation that needs figured out, then I think
Speaker 1: about it in that moment and I come up with
Speaker 1: a plan. If I'm worried about getting everything done that
Speaker 1: needs to get done for the podcast this week, then
Speaker 1: obviously the obvious answer, obviously the obvious answer is to
Speaker 1: do the work on what needs done right then. So
Speaker 1: the idea is not to get It's very easy to
Speaker 1: get caught up in the future. How am I going
Speaker 1: to do this? How am I gonna do that? But
Speaker 1: coming back to one day, at a time, back to
Speaker 1: this moment, what's in front of me right now that
Speaker 1: I can do something with, What action can I take
Speaker 1: today that's going to set the stage for those future days.
Speaker 1: What we're trying to do is bring ourselves out of
Speaker 1: that realm of rumination, that place where our thoughts spin
Speaker 1: and spin and spin on the same thing, not producing
Speaker 1: any new results, and bring them back to the present
Speaker 1: moment where we can either a do take some action
Speaker 1: on it, or be We can come back to where
Speaker 1: we are and and focus on where are we? And
Speaker 1: sometimes this is a very physical thing. Where am I sitting?
Speaker 1: How do my feet feel on the ground, What do
Speaker 1: I hear around me? What colors do I see? It's
Speaker 1: about getting out of the theoretical world, which for a
Speaker 1: lot of us is a world of a lot of
Speaker 1: anxiety and worry, and back to the real world, which
Speaker 1: is sitting right here today. Hopefully that was helpful for
Speaker 1: you if you are interested in working with me again
Speaker 1: Eric at one you feed dot Net. Have a great week.
Speaker 1: Another episode out on Tuesday. Thanks as always by