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Speaker 3: My boyfriend's sisters mocked me for years, and I finally

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Speaker 3: shut her down. E I, twenty two female, have been

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Speaker 3: with my boyfriend, twenty six male, for just over three years.

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Speaker 3: He has an older sister, thirty one female, with two kids.

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Speaker 3: We've always been civil, but we'd never been close. She's

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Speaker 3: one of those people who likes making little comments at

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Speaker 3: other people's expense and then says everyone's too sensitive if

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Speaker 3: ignores it because that's just how she is, and I

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Speaker 3: usually do too, because I don't think every comment is

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Speaker 3: worth arguing over. Last weekend, my boyfriend's parents hosted a

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Speaker 3: barbecue because his grandparents were visiting. There were around twenty

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Speaker 3: people there between family and close friends. His mom had

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Speaker 3: been cooking all day, so I helped carry fudo, clear plates,

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Speaker 3: refill drinks whenever she asked. While we were bringing dessert outside.

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Speaker 3: She thanked me for always helping without being asked, and

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Speaker 3: I told her it wasn't really a big deal. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Katie Brooke zero four and

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we have a very special

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Speaker 1: guest here today. Can you go ahead and introduce yourself please.

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Speaker 2: I am Alex with Sabby. I've been making videos for

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Speaker 2: like twenty years now. I recently won a boxing match,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'm excited to be here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you so much for joining us. Yeah, Alex

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Speaker 3: is going to give some advice on these stories. I

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Speaker 3: appreciate it. Let's get back into it, and Opie says,

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Speaker 3: as soon as we got back outside, my boyfriend's sister

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Speaker 3: but then she added, you know, you don't have to

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Speaker 2: That's why that's a lot that's unnecessary negativity.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're just helping someone take food out and then

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Speaker 3: someone's like, right, making comments.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, oh wait, what's the relation between them?

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Speaker 2: Again?

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Speaker 3: This is Ope's boyfriend's sister.

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Speaker 2: So it's her okay, hold yeah, her boyfriend's sister. Oh

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Speaker 2: and then so this is all their family, all a boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: She's okay, okay, yeah, so she's at her house crazy exactly,

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Speaker 3: M About half an hour later, my boyfriend's mom asked

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Speaker 3: up the picture, his sister laughed again and said, see

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Speaker 3: she's campaigning. Why why she's getting you lemonade?

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Speaker 4: And I feel like she's like, oh, like if she

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Speaker 3: And this woman is thirty years old. Yeah that's too

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Speaker 4: Sounds like she still lives at home.

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Speaker 3: And you're like, this is how I would have you.

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Speaker 3: went completely quiet. She immediately asked if I was calling

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she grabbed her husband and kids and left. Since then,

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Speaker 4: So you have to be the one to.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to. And also you gotta like smooth

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Speaker 2: This is how it's gonna be for the rest of

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Speaker 4: And it's gonna be your her sister one day.

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Speaker 3: So your sister in law, Oh my god, unless your

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Speaker 3: I don't think what I said was that bad, but

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I could I could give her advice.

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Speaker 2: The sister was upset because she said a harmless joke

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, how did you handle that? We broke up?

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Speaker 2: Well, I wasn't a big fan of her mom because

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Speaker 4: Oh this is the worst thing.

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Speaker 4: I didn't do it. I promise it was a thing.

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Speaker 3: I was sorry. No, no, I.

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Speaker 1: Can't compete if it's competition, you know.

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Speaker 4: I No, he was a really good friend. It was

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Speaker 2: So sometimes you just gotta have a serious conversation with

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Speaker 4: The root of it. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because the root of it was just competition. And like,

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Speaker 2: I think he wanted to look good his friend, his family.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to look at him for my girlfriend's family.

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Speaker 2: So I couldn't let him win. Yeah, otherwise I would.

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Speaker 4: The common ground.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, figure out what the what is it actually is?

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Speaker 2: She is she upset that she's not the only like

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Speaker 4: I think it was unnecessary.

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Speaker 2: Yeah more jewelry.

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Speaker 3: I mean maybe I don't know my mom like never.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my mom would be like, oh, look they're looking. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, she used embarrassment for sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah too late.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it means everything.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think I wouldn't have gotten married to this guy.

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Speaker 3: But I also wouldn't have put the nine year album last. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think that's a lot.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a lot.

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Speaker 1: It's just what I don't know what this you know,

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Speaker 3: Drege having beef with a nine year old.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's been three years.

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Speaker 2: It's not like you just noticed this or this is

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Speaker 2: address it now. At the wedding, it's very like have

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Speaker 2: you seen four Weddings in a Funeral?

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Speaker 3: he's like cheating and or and also so it's the

443
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Speaker 3: girl that he's in love with, and then at the

444
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Speaker 3: wedding he's like, oh my god, I've just realized I

445
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Speaker 3: actually don't want to do this.

446
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Speaker 2: But I'm like why, Yeah, I don't know. It's just

447
00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,760
Speaker 2: so much wasted money for both of you too. Yeah,

448
00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,719
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, like we could have I mean, I

449
00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:42,480
Speaker 2: have been in a relationship a lot longer than I

450
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Speaker 2: should have been not it was a horrible relationship.

451
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Speaker 4: I just knew she wasn't the one.

452
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Speaker 2: And I was like, I was just being hopeful for like,

453
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Speaker 2: after the first year, I pretty much knew she was

454
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Speaker 2: the one. Yeah, and then the next year and the

455
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Speaker 2: next year, I was just hoping things have change. I

456
00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,840
Speaker 2: was hoping and hoping and hoping, and it never did

457
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Speaker 2: and I wasted a lot of time.

458
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so so I guess I don't know.

459
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Speaker 4: Maybe she's hoping and like I think, she says she.

460
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Speaker 2: Was thirty four, he was thirty eight, so like she's

461
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Speaker 2: getting older, she doesn't want.

462
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Speaker 3: To start over again, which is fair, is fair, But yeah,

463
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Speaker 3: I probably would have had a conversation in private, yeah,

464
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Speaker 3: and said, hey, I don't think this is working out.

465
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Speaker 3: I don't like how you parent your child.

466
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yep, I know when you say it's like, oh,

467
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Speaker 1: it's a nine year old versus like a thirty four

468
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Speaker 1: year old, but let's be real, it's a nine year

469
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Speaker 1: old plus her dad.

470
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Speaker 2: As a team against you and grandma too, and everyone's

471
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Speaker 2: against CPS.

472
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Speaker 3: But we've got more. Sorry. I walked out, got in

473
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Speaker 3: my car, and drove home. My phone blew up immediately,

474
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Speaker 3: his family calling me cruel and heartless, his friends saying

475
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Speaker 3: I humiliated a child. My own family was split, some

476
00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 3: saying I went too far, other saying it was about time.

477
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 3: But here's the thing. Two weeks after mutual friends started

478
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Speaker 3: telling me stuff, apparently, the daughter admitted to her therapist,

479
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Speaker 3: who then told me x that she'd been trying to

480
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Speaker 3: break us up on purpose because she wanted her dad

481
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Speaker 3: to herself. That was honestly, I'm not that surprised. The laptop,

482
00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 3: the CPS lie, all of it was intentional. My ex

483
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Speaker 3: tried to downplay it. So she's just a kid, but

484
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Speaker 3: his parents apparently laid into him hard after finding out.

485
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Speaker 1: I still think op went a little too far to

486
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Speaker 1: put the kid on blast.

487
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Speaker 3: I agree, yeah, yeah, definitely.

488
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Speaker 2: It was like the kids that there's always the underlying reason.

489
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Speaker 2: You gotta find another reason, and obviously that's what it is.

490
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Speaker 2: It's it's the daughter of the guy you're dating. They

491
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,440
Speaker 2: were gonna marry. Yeah, course that's the reason. But I

492
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 2: still think she was wrong.

493
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Speaker 1: Do you think the kid was like crying but like

494
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Speaker 1: you know, doing like the fake like it worked, you know,

495
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Speaker 1: it happened. I broke her kind of thing, I.

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Speaker 3: Don't think so. I don't think a nine unless she's

497
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Speaker 3: like a little nine year old genius.

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Speaker 1: I think probably these days could be really conniving. You

499
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Speaker 1: never know.

500
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Speaker 4: She like, I guess, I don't know.

501
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Speaker 3: It's hard.

502
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Speaker 2: It's like we're not crazy people, so we don't know

503
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Speaker 2: how they think it was.

504
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Speaker 3: She like, yes, yeah, I don't know, but uh, we

505
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 3: got a little bit of story left.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if a nine year old can be

507
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Speaker 1: like if I break everything and break if I break

508
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 1: her spirit, she won't marry my dad. I don't know.

509
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Speaker 1: When I was nine years old, I was like I

510
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Speaker 1: should have bought Pokemon cars or something like that.

511
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Speaker 4: When I was nine, I could.

512
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Speaker 2: I could be like, I'm gonna keep doing bad things,

513
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Speaker 2: but I wouldn't think of it in the long term.

514
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 2: I just think I'm gonna do a bad thing now

515
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 2: to make it harder for them. And then she probably

516
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:26,920
Speaker 2: looks back and well, I've done a lot's dang.

517
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Speaker 3: And also for raid and run. She brings up like

518
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 3: children with like neurodivergency and stuff, which that is different.

519
00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,880
Speaker 3: That doesn't usually you know, in terms of parenting. Obviously

520
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 3: you're gonna have different needs and stuff for a child

521
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Speaker 3: who is neurodiversient. But we got a little bit left.

522
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Speaker 4: Let's go now.

523
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 3: It's been a month. His lease is up at his

524
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Speaker 3: apartment and he's been texting me NonStop. Says he understands now,

525
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 3: says he'll go to family therapy, says his daughter is

526
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Speaker 3: really sorry and wrote me an apology letter. He showed

527
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Speaker 3: up at my door last night, literally begging, saying, he

528
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Speaker 3: has nowhere to go, and he made a mistake.

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Speaker 1: What what do you mean where to go to his house? No?

530
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 5: What?

531
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,959
Speaker 3: I told him that's not my problem anymore and closed

532
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 3: the door. But my sister thinks I'm being vindictive. She says, yes,

533
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 3: he messed up, but calling off a wedding that publicly

534
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 3: was extreme that I could have just postponed it or

535
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 3: handled it privately. Some of my friends agree that I

536
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 3: went scorched earth when I didn't have to. So now

537
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:25,479
Speaker 3: I'm second guessing myself. Should I have just pulled him

538
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 3: aside instead of announcing everything to one hundred and fifty people?

539
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole? A hundred hole?

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Speaker 2: There's no way that little girl's dress was more expensive

541
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Speaker 2: than one hundred and fifty people's wedding.

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Speaker 3: Well no, no, not the wedding. It was just the

543
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Speaker 3: wedding dress. Oh, yeah, that would be great if you

544
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Speaker 3: don't imagine.

545
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Speaker 4: Oh I think she'd yeah, she should have postponed.

546
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:43,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

547
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Speaker 2: And also now like he's doing therapy, the daughter wrote

548
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 2: a podulator, I would give him another chance. If you

549
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:51,160
Speaker 2: were about to marry him, you can give him another chance.

550
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 2: And like now he sees that was especially if that

551
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Speaker 2: was the only.

552
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Speaker 4: Problem in the relationship. He's worked super hard to fix it.

553
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I probably wouldn't have given than another chance,

554
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 3: But I do think, oh, he's a little ahlish for

555
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 3: doing it publicly. Yeah, I think she should have done

556
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 3: it privately or postponed something along those lines, But I

557
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 3: probably would not have continued.

558
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 1: Ear she's doing the parent trap?

559
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 3: But who is she trapping?

560
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 4: Exactly, Lilians, they're doing another parent trap?

561
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 3: You see that?

562
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 4: Are they? You don't see that as an adult?

563
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 2: And now she's a mom and then her twins and mom.

564
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 2: I guess they're switching moms.

565
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 3: It's mom's wife.

566
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Speaker 2: So yeah, it's like parent trap, but it's like knee

567
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Speaker 2: trap now like she's the parent.

568
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Speaker 3: Interesting.

569
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Speaker 4: I don't know.

570
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Speaker 3: I can't wait to find out what the preference of

571
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Speaker 3: that is. Christina the Greek I kind of agree with you,

572
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 3: says could she had handled it better? Yees? Should she

573
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 3: go back to him? Now that's kind of where I'm at.

574
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know if I'd like that guy,

575
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 3: but probably could have just for the sake of Like,

576
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Speaker 3: I personally always am of the opinion that we don't

577
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 3: need to put your whole dirty laundry on the last

578
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 3: for the crowd, you know, like, let's let's have that

579
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 3: just because people talk and and all of your stuff

580
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 3: is like everyone knows all your stuff.

581
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 4: Well, what do you think is the main reason why

582
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 4: no second chance for me?

583
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 3: I think like in this scenario where I keep bringing

584
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 3: where I don't do this, where I don't publicly and out, yeah,

585
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 3: you know, put this child on blast. Uh, and I

586
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 3: just talked to him. I don't know if he would

587
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 3: have had this realization without this big announcement.

588
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 2: But in this scenario that you did do this and

589
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 2: now he's taken as all the steps he can to

590
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Speaker 2: fix it, and no second chance.

591
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,640
Speaker 3: I guess maybe he had started it, but I don't

592
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 3: know if he had. You know, like you can start therapy,

593
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 3: but has it actually worked?

594
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would want.

595
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Speaker 3: More proof of that.

596
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 4: Okay, Oh, so you'd be like, well, we'll come back

597
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 4: to this.

598
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 3: Yeah maybe maybe here, let's see how your daughter's doing.

599
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 3: I'll come over and and see if she's she's cool. Yeah,

600
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 3: if she still sucks, then we're done.

601
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

602
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, And we got

603
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 3: another one coming right up.

604
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Speaker 4: Do it.

605
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Speaker 3: My boyfriend embarrassed us my best friend's wedding, so I

606
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 3: dumped him. About a year and a half ago, my

607
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 3: best friend became engaged to her now husband. I twenty

608
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 3: four female, was asked to be the maid of honor,

609
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 3: and I was extremely happy to do so. Over the

610
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,119
Speaker 3: past year, I helped her with whatever needed to be done.

611
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 3: Throughout all of this, I talked to my boyfriend, thirty

612
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 3: one male about it. He knew how happy I was

613
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: for and he knew I had a big part in

614
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Speaker 3: the wedding. He knew my parents would be attending. He

615
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 3: knew everything that I knew about the wedding. He knew

616
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Speaker 3: the day and time, what would be expected of him

617
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,479
Speaker 3: when he needed to show up. I didn't talk his

618
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Speaker 3: ear off about it. I would only really bring it

619
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Speaker 3: up if I had gone dress shopping or something with

620
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Speaker 3: my friend. However, last week, a couple of days before

621
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Speaker 3: the wedding, he started to act kind of weird about it.

622
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Speaker 3: He said something along the lines of, I know you

623
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Speaker 3: don't want to be involved in the wedding. It'll be

624
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 3: over soon and then you can forget all about it

625
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 3: and everything will be normal again.

626
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Speaker 4: What that came out of a hurry. Ye, not a lot.

627
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Speaker 3: No, that's weird. I've been nothing but happy, excited for

628
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 3: my friend in this wedding, but he continued to act

629
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: like I wasn't having fun and tried to convince me

630
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 3: that I hated every minute of helping my friend plan it.

631
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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Throwaway, What the F Man?

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Speaker 1: Can you go ahead and introduce yourself please.

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Speaker 4: I'm Alex Sabby. If you had a childhood, I was

637
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Speaker 4: probably part of it.

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Speaker 3: maybe there's some children out there right now who you.

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Speaker 1: Could be a part of be a part of their.

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Speaker 3: Child Wait, but thanks. Alex's gonna help us read some of.

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Speaker 1: These stories before we get into the story. Yeah, we

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Speaker 1: do have to do a huge shout out to a

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Speaker 1: super fan that is one of ours. Is Lana Lana

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Speaker 1: Lana loves Alex Lalana r Lana.

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Speaker 3: Yes, no way, Alana's our star storyfinder Yes or Landay,

647
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Speaker 3: that's so funny. I didn't I didn't know that.

648
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 4: Wow, Alana, I was part of your childhood. Look at that.

649
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 4: I told you, I told you.

650
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:03,959
Speaker 3: You were right. You're right. Hopefully not that nine year

651
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 3: old child that the no no no, no, yeah, no no no,

652
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:06,680
Speaker 3: she's terrible.

653
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 4: She's been no second chance for her.

654
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 3: But uh, if he continues. He kept talking about the

655
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 3: wedding like it was something awful and stupid. He treated

656
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 3: it as an annoying chore we had to do and

657
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 3: complained about having to go. He even asked me after

658
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Speaker 3: the rehearsal dinner if he could just not go to

659
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 3: the wedding at all. Keep in mind, I had already rsvp'

660
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Speaker 3: for both of us, my parents were expecting him, and

661
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Speaker 3: he just dropped that on me as we were going

662
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 3: to bed the night before the wedding. He also never

663
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 3: expressed his congratulations to the bride or groom at any point.

664
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 3: The day of the wedding was this past Saturday. I

665
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 3: told my boyfriend what time he needed to show up,

666
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 3: But lately he's been notoriously late for everything, like several

667
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 3: hours late to anything he's invited to. I hate that.

668
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 4: Are you?

669
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 3: Are you an on time person?

670
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 4: I'm so on time? Yeah, like I'm known in my

671
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 4: friends to be the on time guy.

672
00:28:56,480 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 3: Yeah late. I hate being late. I am often late,

673
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 3: but I hate it.

674
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 2: I'm actually never late. I mean ten minutes early, sitting

675
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 2: in my car on my phone. Yeah, because I hate

676
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 2: being late.

677
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 3: It does depend on what the thing is. Sometimes I'm

678
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 3: like we need to be there early.

679
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, but if it's an LA thing, it's like it's.

680
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 3: So hard to get the traffic. Yeah, you're like, okay,

681
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 3: well for a party, I'm like, I'm an hour late.

682
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 3: But yeah, like several hours late for things that he's

683
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 3: been invited to is.

684
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's too far.

685
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: That's crazying.

686
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 2: The first one anywhere, Yeah, oh I gotta sit here.

687
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: Do you sit in the car and just like, all

688
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 1: right one? Five people in, all right, twelve, we've hit

689
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: double digits. Time to go in.

690
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 4: You're the only one in there. Then you have to

691
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 4: talk to everybody else that comes in.

692
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a lot.

693
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 3: My first ever college party that I went to is

694
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 3: a Halloween party and I it said I think invite

695
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 3: was nine, and I showed up at nine and there

696
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 3: was no one there and I was like, hello, yeah

697
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: except for the host wait Alex.

698
00:29:58,160 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: But you know about Filipino time, though.

699
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 4: Right late.

700
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 2: I think I grew up in that and that's why

701
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 2: I'm never late mmm, because uh uh, it's just a lot.

702
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 2: And then I hate it when people are late, and

703
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: I just feel like it's just a respecting other people's

704
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 2: time kind of situation.

705
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 3: No, it really depends on the scenario, because, yeah, I

706
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 3: don't like to be late if someone's waiting for me,

707
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 3: Oh me either.

708
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 2: But if there's like a bunch of people coming, then

709
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 2: I don't care. Oh it's fine, some other people will

710
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 2: be there.

711
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

712
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 3: A lot of times he's late because he's hanging out

713
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 3: with one of his friends smoking and playing video games

714
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 3: and he ends up losing track of time. I didn't

715
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 3: want him to be late to my best friend's wedding,

716
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: so I basically told him he needed to be there

717
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 3: three hours earlier then necessary. I feel like you guys

718
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 3: should have just gone together.

719
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, why is that not happening?

720
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,239
Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, no, he's a part of it.

721
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 3: So maybe she had to do some stuff wrong.

722
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 4: She better be there three hours early. If she's telling

723
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 4: him to be there three hours early.

724
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, wedding, that's like, what why are we playing video

725
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: games and Okay, Oh.

726
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 3: Well maybe she's saying come three hours earlier, so then

727
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 3: he comes on top.

728
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 2: Oh well, if she's in the wedding, I've been there.

729
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 2: If you're in the wedding, you have to get there

730
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 2: early for pictures and stuff. So then like it's like

731
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 2: six hours early. Yeah, so it makes sense that he

732
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 2: wouldn't go with her. Yeah, exactly, Okay, okay.

733
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 3: I told him he needed to be there at one pm,

734
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 3: when in reality he needed to be there before four

735
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 3: to thirty pm. He showed up around four to thirty pm.

736
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 3: I might be breaking up with my partner if they

737
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 3: did that to me.

738
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 2: Wait, she knew he was going to be there, and

739
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 2: then she gave him a time and he showed up

740
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 2: at the right time. And that's why she gave the

741
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 2: fake time so he would be.

742
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 4: There on time.

743
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, he was on time. Yeah, but if my partner

744
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 3: I had to give them a fake time because they

745
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 3: would never show up, that would But her plan works.

746
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 3: It did work. It did. Yeah, she was right.

747
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: I'm not saying my girlfriend.

748
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 3: Knows this, No, you have to give her a fake time.

749
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 1: No to me. Oh oh sometimes sometimes.

750
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 3: He got there right as cocktail hour started and got wasted.

751
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 3: I was told by someone else that he was pounding

752
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 3: back the mirrors as soon as the bartender started serving.

753
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 3: Then he sat with my parents and told my mom,

754
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 3: if I didn't come to this thing, hope he would

755
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 3: have ended me. Once the bride and groom were announced

756
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 3: as mister and missus X, my boyfriend loudly cheered and

757
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 3: clapped while everyone else did a normal clap. It wasn't

758
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 3: a very big wedding, so it was weird and awkward.

759
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 3: It stood out a lot, and it was obvious that

760
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 3: he was already inebriated. Multiple people looked over at him

761
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 3: and know what the f way. I felt awful and

762
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: embarrassed when this happened. After all the photos were taken,

763
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 3: he found me and told me that his work called

764
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 3: and then he needed to go in a sap. Before

765
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 3: the wedding, he had assured me that he had taken

766
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 3: the day off and that his work, he's a bartender,

767
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 3: knew he would be at a wedding that day. I

768
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 3: knew he was lying to me, but I didn't care

769
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 3: at that point. He ubered out to supposedly go to work.

770
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: When I finally got home around two am, he told

771
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 3: me that it turned out work didn't actually need him,

772
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 3: and that he forgot the name of the venue so

773
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 3: he couldn't uber back to it, and that his phone

774
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 3: was acting weird so he couldn't get a text message

775
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: to send to me.

776
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: I think this guy's trying you break up with him.

777
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 3: I seen that, like being so terrible to just get that.

778
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 2: They don't want to hurt them, so they just act

779
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 2: terrible so that they're the ones getting broke up and

780
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 2: it's crazy.

781
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: And then then they're the victim. How dare you out.

782
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 4: I might have done that?

783
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: Who?

784
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 2: So, Like I was in a relationship and I was like, oh,

785
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 2: I don't want to, like, I don't want to break up,

786
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 2: but I think subconsciously I was like, oh, if I

787
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 2: start just being annoying or just like not being the

788
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 2: best boyfriend, I could be not being like attentive then

789
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 2: and then and it worked.

790
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 3: She broke up.

791
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, she worked up with me. Uh, not a good

792
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 2: thing to do. But everybody makes mistakes when you're young.

793
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you learn you're about to you know,

794
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 3: about to have a very success. You're in a very.

795
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 4: Success I'm engaged.

796
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 2: We just had our year long engagement anniversary, so congratulations, you've.

797
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 3: Come so far. I know he told me how he

798
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 3: really wanted to come back to the reception, but he

799
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 3: just couldn't make it happen. Obviously those were all all lies.

800
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 3: I feel like his behavior was just abhorrent. I'm so

801
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 3: pissed off at him right now. I'm looking at him

802
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 3: in a new negative light, and I can't stop thinking

803
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 3: about how awful he was throughout this whole wedding. I

804
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 3: know some people act weird about weddings sometimes, but this

805
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 3: takes the cake. Is there any coming back from this?

806
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 3: I've thought about ending it with him because of this.

807
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 3: I don't think he has any intention of apologizing, and

808
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 3: we haven't talked about the wedding much since Saturday. But

809
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:30,399
Speaker 3: he doesn't think he's done anything wrong. What do I do?

810
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,760
Speaker 3: Am I crazy to think his actions are god awful

811
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 3: and quick edits? I've read most of the comments here

812
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:40,760
Speaker 3: and I've been thinking about what you all have said. Well, actually,

813
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 3: before we get into what she's decided, what do you

814
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 3: think she should do?

815
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 4: Get rid of him?

816
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's hard because there's two sides in every story.

817
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,960
Speaker 2: But and like usually when people are in a bad

818
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 2: worship and they're talking about their relationship, You're only going

819
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 2: to hear the bad stuff.

820
00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, that we don't know why she's with him?

821
00:34:58,840 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 4: Yeah? Why are you with him?

822
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 2: Sounds like there's no reason for you to stay with him.

823
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: He's inconsiderate of time, he doesn't care, he's negative, he

824
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: doesn't think he did anything wrong.

825
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 4: He doesn't even like contemplate it. So why be with him?

826
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 3: Yeah? It kind of sucks to I mean beyond just

827
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 3: the time stuff, it kind of sucks to be with

828
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,919
Speaker 3: someone who always hates on things that you're excited about. Yeah,

829
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 3: it's like, why I'm excited about this? Why can't you

830
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 3: just be you know, happy, even if you're not interested

831
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: about it? Yeah, yeah, I agree, I'm on your side.

832
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: Also, weddings are just fun.

833
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 3: Weddings are fun, Yeah, and the fact that he doesn't

834
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 3: like them is a red flag.

835
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 4: Yeah.

836
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 3: I mean, have you been to a lot of weddings?

837
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 4: I have been there a lot of wings. I love wedding.

838
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:41,760
Speaker 4: Me too, every wedding, even if I barely know them.

839
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 3: I'm down. If you're I'm on a dance floor for

840
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 3: having fun time party.

841
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: It's just a party. That dance floor is always fun.

842
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 2: To bring us one usually yeah, like, and then you

843
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 2: just bring somebody you want to have fun with and

844
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:53,359
Speaker 2: everything's free.

845
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:56,720
Speaker 3: I'm going to a wedding for a friend in a year,

846
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 3: and I'm really excited. It's in Mexico.

847
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 4: So look at that. It's a year away. You're already excited.

848
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 3: I'm already excited. Ope, he says. Anyway, as I've read

849
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,919
Speaker 3: most of the comments, it's basically confirmed that I need

850
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 3: to end things with him. Yeah. I actually try to

851
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 3: end things with him a couple of hours ago. He

852
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 3: doesn't seem to be accepting the breakup. Okay. He started

853
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 3: to apologize about what happened and said he'll try to

854
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 3: be better. I'm currently at a friend's house for the night.

855
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 3: I brought some things with me that should last a

856
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 3: couple of days, but I'm really not sure what else

857
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 3: to do. Both of our names are on the lease

858
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 3: and he's still at the apartment for all I know.

859
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 3: And we do have an update updates. Yeah, let's see

860
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 3: what happens.

861
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 4: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host. Here.

862
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 3: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

863
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,440
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864
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 3: some frequent comments about my ex I wanted to clear

865
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 3: up some people thought he had anxiety around weddings or

866
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 3: people he didn't know. He knew the bride and groom

867
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: very well, as we used to go in double dates

868
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 3: a lot.

869
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

870
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 3: He's even spent some one on one time with the groom.

871
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 3: He knew a lot of other people at the wedding too,

872
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 3: but he only sat with my parents because they didn't

873
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 3: really know anyone else besides the bride and a couple

874
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 3: of my other friends. He's a social butterfly and has

875
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 3: been to more weddings than me. He's even gone solo

876
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 3: to a couple of weddings for former coworkers while we

877
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 3: were together. Many people suggested he had a crush on

878
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 3: the bride. That is a wish. That would be crazy.

879
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 3: I can't confirm this, but I'm leaning towards now. It's possible,

880
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,399
Speaker 3: of course, but it doesn't matter at this point. All

881
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 3: I can really say is they are complete opposites and

882
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 3: have very little in common.

883
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:35,720
Speaker 1: Hey, they say it opposites attract.

884
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe he's attracted and she doesn't care about them

885
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 3: at all.

886
00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 1: Well, she's getting married. Yeah.

887
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,759
Speaker 3: If he did have feelings for I never picked up

888
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 3: on it. After I initially tried to end it with him.

889
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:49,759
Speaker 3: He texted, called, and DMed me, basically using any means

890
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: of communication possible to get my attention. He started by

891
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 3: apologizing profusely and asked me to give him another chance.

892
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 3: I didn't respond to all of this because I didn't

893
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 3: know what to say. I turned off off my phone

894
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 3: before I went to sleep and woke up to a

895
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 3: set of messages mm hmm. Some of the last ones

896
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 3: were him apologizing for the messages he left throughout the night,

897
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 3: saying he was wasted and that he didn't count whatever.

898
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 3: The apartment issue has been a nightmare. It's got to

899
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 3: be extremely expensive to get out of the lease and

900
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 3: only have his name on it. Apparently they need both

901
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 3: of our signatures in order for this to happen, and

902
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 3: I'll need to pay a fee. The only communication I've

903
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 3: had with my axes to ask him to sign the

904
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 3: new leasing agreement, which he refuses to do.

905
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 1: Shocked.

906
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 3: I still had to pay rent for March and the

907
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 3: lease is 'en up for several more months. I can't

908
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 3: afford to pay two rents at once. I did manage

909
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 3: to get my stuff out. I called up the bar

910
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 3: he work sad and started talking to one of the

911
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,799
Speaker 3: women that I felt comfortable with. I told her my

912
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 3: situation and asked if she could call me the next

913
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 3: time he showed up for a shift so I could

914
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:55,320
Speaker 3: get my things. I had a bunch of my friends

915
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 3: come to the apartment with boxes and plastic tubs and

916
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 3: cut most of my stuff. Unfortunately, my TV it's huge,

917
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 3: the sofa and a couple other large things couldn't be grabbed.

918
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 3: But I got everything important. We've got a little bit

919
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 3: left the story. Do you have any final thoughts or

920
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 3: words of wisdom for.

921
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 1: A p.

922
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 2: I don't believe that he's changed. I think he's been

923
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 2: like this for a long time. Yeah, that he might

924
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 2: change for a little bit until you're stuck again. Yeah,

925
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 2: and he's gonna go right back to it.

926
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 3: I mean the fact that he won't even talk about

927
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 3: helping you out of this lease.

928
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fair because he knows it's like he has

929
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 2: you trapped, and as soon as he does, then it's

930
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 2: over for real.

931
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe you can live with some family

932
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 3: members until yeah, this is our friend, Yeah, something like that.

933
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 4: That's a yeah.

934
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 2: And the rumor about him like it makes sense why

935
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 2: he doesn't want to go to the wedding is you've

936
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 2: been to a lot of weddings, you know these people,

937
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 2: why you don't want to go.

938
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 4: If that's not the.

939
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 2: Reason, there is a reason, we just don't know it. Yeah,

940
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: there's something, but there's a little bit left.

941
00:39:58,120 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 4: Okay.

942
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,760
Speaker 3: When he found out I took all all of my stuff,

943
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 3: the messages began again, demanding that I come home immediately.

944
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 3: Then he started sending apologies again and even told me

945
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 3: that he's willing to forgive me and move on from

946
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: this mess willing to forgive me.

947
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

948
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 3: I would block him, but I.

949
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 1: Guess he can't.

950
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that pretty much just says that he is just

951
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 2: saying whatever he has to. And then he's like, look,

952
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 2: I can forgive you. This is like this is all dumb,

953
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 2: Like are we done being mad yet? Like he doesn't

954
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 2: take it seriously.

955
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:30,840
Speaker 3: No, he doesn't.

956
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, he doesn't see any of this as like a

957
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 2: real He thinks it's just a temporary obstacle that he'll

958
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 2: get through and then he'll be fine.

959
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:39,280
Speaker 4: Not trying to actually fix anything.

960
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, my current challenges are trying to find a place

961
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 3: to live for the next few months and figuring out

962
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 3: what to do about the least with both of our

963
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 3: names on it. I have friends who understand my situation

964
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 3: and are letting me couch her for a bit, but

965
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 3: it's not a permanent solution. The apartment management has been difficult.

966
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 3: I'm not totally convinced that they do need both signature,

967
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 3: but that's what they keep stressing. Worst case scenario, I

968
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 3: have to quit my job and live with my parents

969
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 3: for a bit, through an hour away, and drive an

970
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 3: hour to a class a few times a week until

971
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 3: the semester is over, and that is the end of

972
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 3: that story. Seems like, oh, he's got a lot to handle,

973
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:20,240
Speaker 3: but at least she's not handling this relationship anymore.

974
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 4: So the problem is they both need to sign and

975
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 4: he won't sign.

976
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

977
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like for you to get off of

978
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 3: the least, Yeah, they both would need to sign, which

979
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 3: he's refusing. Yeah, which he's saying no.

980
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 2: I would it might sound bad, Yeah, yeah, go for it.

981
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 2: I'd be like, I'll give you another chance if you

982
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 2: sign it. And then as soon as he signs on them.

983
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 3: Out honestly, yeah, I do that. Yeah, let's move forward.

984
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:42,759
Speaker 3: You sign this, But these.

985
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 4: Kind of people.

986
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 2: You gotta cut him off any way you can. You

987
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:48,279
Speaker 2: gotta get all the attachments, and he won't let this

988
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 2: one go. So yeah, you gotta trick him.

989
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 3: I don't know why I thought you were gonna say

990
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 3: I would forge.

991
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I thought you were like, oh, he's sleeping

992
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 1: his hand.

993
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 3: Yeah he did it. It was his It was his hand.

994
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. I would definitely fake it till you make it,

995
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: till you make it out of this relation.

996
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: Get out the manipulate the manipulator.

997
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:06,479
Speaker 4: Yeah.

998
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh, Lana, if you're watching this, I hope we'll

999
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 2: give you friends one day.

1000
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 4: Yes, maybe we'll retire in the Philippines.

1001
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 2: You can find stories for me and leave them on

1002
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 2: my doorstep for me to read in the morning.

1003
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 3: It's like the newspaper, but it's just Lana dropping off

1004
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 3: Reddit story.

1005
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 2: Go on your bike, just throw a newspaper of some

1006
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 2: interesting stories for my fiance and to read.

1007
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 4: Maybe these are all her stories, These are just this

1008
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 4: is just her life experience on his life. She's sending us.

1009
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like, I just need advice on it. Yeah,

1010
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 3: you're giving good advice, Onna, But that is the end

1011
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 3: of that story. If you have time, we got we've

1012
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 3: got another one, but do it all right? I am

1013
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 3: suspicious of my girlfriend's girls only trip, so I hired

1014
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:49,800
Speaker 3: a private investigator.

1015
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 4: I'm glad I stayed for this one.

1016
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 3: To get a long story short, my fiance and I

1017
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 3: have been together for five years. Every year she goes

1018
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 3: on this girl's only trip with her clothes friends something,

1019
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:03,240
Speaker 3: and my God has been bothering me about these trips.

1020
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 3: Maybe it was the slight change in her behavior afterward,

1021
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 3: or the cryptic conversations i'd overhear. Instead of directly confronting her,

1022
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 3: I did something I'm deeply ashamed of. Oh wow, I

1023
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 3: hired a private investigator to watch her during her recent trip.

1024
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 4: Oh okay, reaching knew the price.

1025
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: Yeah it's a red flag, right ah yeah?

1026
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 3: Instead of talking to your partner a little bit yeah

1027
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,799
Speaker 3: on me. I got back the results a few days ago,

1028
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 3: and as much as I regret violating her privacy, my

1029
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 3: suspicions were not unfounded. Tough the PI presented evidence of

1030
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 3: her being unfaithful. It shattered my heart. Now I'm caught

1031
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:42,840
Speaker 3: in this storm of emotions. On one hand, I deeply

1032
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 3: regret snooping and not trusting her enough to talk about it.

1033
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,280
Speaker 3: On the other hand, the betrayal from her side feels

1034
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 3: even more significant. I love her, but I can't see

1035
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 3: a future together anymore. By the way, this comes from

1036
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 3: torn Trust twenty three, twenty three, And if you want

1037
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 3: to submit your own stories, go to the r slashowcase

1038
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 3: storytime severed it.

1039
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we have a very special guest, Alex.

1040
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: Can you go ahead and introduce yourself please?

1041
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 4: I am Alex Osabi and I am here.

1042
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 3: It's true. He's here, and he's here to read stories.

1043
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 1: Look at that charming?

1044
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 3: Such charming?

1045
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 4: Wait, so what did the investigator find because I missed it?

1046
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 3: Oh, she did cheat, but we don't know. We don't

1047
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:19,959
Speaker 3: know any other information yet.

1048
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:21,959
Speaker 4: Just what does she need to know it's true?

1049
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 3: Wait? Wait?

1050
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 4: Cheat?

1051
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 1: How?

1052
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 3: We don't know?

1053
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 4: Flirt? Kiss? We don't know with who, bicy.

1054
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 3: Sleep, We don't know. It could be any or all three?

1055
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 4: Hot dog, Okay, let's go.

1056
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 3: How do I even approach this situation? Do I confess

1057
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 3: my snooping or just end things without revealing the reason.

1058
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 3: Any advice is welcome, and we do have an update.

1059
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 3: We're gonna jump right in. More than a week later,

1060
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 3: when my fiance returned from her trip. I tried my

1061
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 3: best to handle things maturely. I gave her a chance

1062
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:51,240
Speaker 3: to be honest, asking if there was anything she wanted

1063
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:54,319
Speaker 3: to share about her trip. Instead of coming clean, she

1064
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 3: gas lit me, making me question my own perceptions and reality.

1065
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,760
Speaker 3: Having the evidence I have, I confronted her about the affair.

1066
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,319
Speaker 3: She was taken aback and immediately asked how I knew.

1067
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: She didn't go deny it.

1068
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 3: You went, well, no, she denied it first, and then

1069
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 3: was like, I have proof, and she's like, what.

1070
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: Shoot, show me that proof.

1071
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 3: I didn't think about proof. I told her the truth

1072
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:18,760
Speaker 3: that I hired a PI. I didn't want to falsely

1073
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 3: accuse any of her friends, as some of you suggested,

1074
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 3: even though honestly part of me was tempted. She was furious.

1075
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 3: I have never seen her that angry in all their

1076
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 3: years together. Additionally, feeling it was the right thing to do,

1077
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 3: I shared the evidence with one of her friend's boyfriends

1078
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 3: so he could be informed and considered getting tested if necessary.

1079
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 3: Oh so it seems that they were all child Yeah,

1080
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 3: it was a cheating I'm wondering if like this was

1081
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 3: some sort of they hired people or if they just

1082
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 3: went on this trip and like hooked up with random people.

1083
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:55,879
Speaker 4: Know, I have a similar story to this.

1084
00:45:56,160 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 2: Oh I tell you, I'm gonna try to give any

1085
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 2: Yeah you can, you can anything.

1086
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 3: But I did go.

1087
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 2: To this trip and it was with a childhood friend. Yeah,

1088
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:12,480
Speaker 2: he was getting married. He brought all his friends I

1089
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 2: had never met the air Bachelor trip.

1090
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1091
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, all pretty much all of them cheated and they

1092
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 2: were all married.

1093
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 4: Pretty much all of them cheated on the wise, except

1094
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 4: for my childhood friend. Yeah, he didn't.

1095
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: I didn't.

1096
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 4: Everybody else did.

1097
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 2: And it was like I was like, oh, whoa, yeah,

1098
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 2: and I was like I was, I just didn't know

1099
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 2: that that happens. That's so I didn't know that was

1100
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 2: that common, and like not even give me a heads

1101
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: up or anything. Yeah, And I'm just like oh, and

1102
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 2: then you just see them going off and I'm like, oh, wait,

1103
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 2: what I just talked to him.

1104
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:45,880
Speaker 4: He's married.

1105
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 1: I just met that guy. He said he's married. He's

1106
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: very happy.

1107
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, And that was it was never talked about. It

1108
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 4: was obviously you can see everybody going off, but it

1109
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 4: was never talked about. There's no like good job, like

1110
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 4: fist nothing. And then they just go back to their

1111
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 4: lives like nothing happened.

1112
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,439
Speaker 3: Oh my god. And these aren't people that you knew

1113
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 3: they like, No, they're.

1114
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:06,479
Speaker 4: Friends of friends of my childhood friend.

1115
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: Wow.

1116
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 4: And like the childhood friend hit me up and I

1117
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 4: was like, you know what, let's go the four hour drive.

1118
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 4: It'll be fun.

1119
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1120
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:17,240
Speaker 4: I didn't expect it to be what it was. Crazy.

1121
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 4: It was crazy.

1122
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 3: Did you talk to that, like to your friend about that?

1123
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 4: Nope, You're just like I'm like, oh, that's your friends.

1124
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:24,320
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1125
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want to talk to them, Like I'm

1126
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 3: never going to.

1127
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:26,879
Speaker 4: See them again.

1128
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: Like why does it matter if I if I tell

1129
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 2: him or not.

1130
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 4: I'm like, he knows.

1131
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

1132
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. It was like stepping into another world.

1133
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 3: And I was like, whoa. No, We've read a lot

1134
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 3: of stories where people will cheat on bachelor or bachelorette

1135
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 3: trips and stuff, and I'm like, why are you getting married?

1136
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah. Their excuses like yeah it's my last it's

1137
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 1: like your last day, and you go, you've been in a.

1138
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:53,279
Speaker 3: Relationship this whole time.

1139
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:57,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never cheated, but I couldn't live with the guilt.

1140
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 3: No, that's what I like. There's so many people who

1141
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 3: are like I've had. We'll read stories and there will

1142
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 3: be in a relationship for like six years and they've

1143
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 3: been cheating for three and I'm.

1144
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:09,760
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, how may even be in the relationship.

1145
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 1: I know some people are just built defense. Was gonna

1146
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: be not better, just different in a bad way.

1147
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 4: Very common.

1148
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,439
Speaker 3: But we got more about this cheating troup.

1149
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 1: Okay, hey, it's Carly, your favorite Jersey girl.

1150
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 3: Here.

1151
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:26,760
Speaker 4: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three.

1152
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 3: Minutes of ads from our sponsors. It was clear to

1153
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 3: both of us that our relationship had reached a breaking point.

1154
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 3: We broke up right then, despite it being my house

1155
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 3: that I've financially covered for us. I laughed and checked

1156
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 3: into a hotel, giving her space and asking her to

1157
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 3: pack her things and move out. Wow. We didn't communicate

1158
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 3: for a few days. When she finally reached out, she

1159
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 3: expressed a desire to talk and perhaps find a way

1160
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 3: to mend things. But the trust was broken and I

1161
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 3: couldn't see a future for us, so I told her no.

1162
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 3: And now the part I didn't see coming, she's considering

1163
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 3: pursuing holomony plomony.

1164
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: I've never heard of palomony.

1165
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 3: For those unaware. Palomony is financial support provided to a

1166
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 3: partner in a non marital relationship after separations.

1167
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 4: Because we're pals, that's.

1168
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 2: Usually when you're like domestic partner. Yeah, it's not just

1169
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:17,839
Speaker 2: from a relationship.

1170
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 3: You can't just be like, hey, I want my ex

1171
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 3: boyfriend to pay me money. Yeah, but when you're in

1172
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 3: like a ten year yeah, it's like.

1173
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 4: A domestic it's it's something more.

1174
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 2: But and like he was financially taking care of you,

1175
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 2: and then it's like, oh, like child'sport before a relationship. Yeah,

1176
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:35,319
Speaker 2: but this is not serious enough and cheating should null

1177
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 2: and void that.

1178
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been informed that due to the relationship laws

1179
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 3: in our state, this could very well be a real concern.

1180
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 1: WHOA, what's a real thing? I'm looking this up.

1181
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:47,840
Speaker 2: What do we need to move to get someone this?

1182
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:51,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, my exes owe me some palomony.

1183
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 3: You know, I've initiated the process of hiring a lawyer.

1184
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 3: I need to know more about palomony.

1185
00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 1: Approximately twenty nine states and the District of Columbia. We

1186
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 1: have to put that out there allow some form of palomony.

1187
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 3: Like how do you qualify for palomony?

1188
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:07,720
Speaker 4: Like, what do we need to do. What's requisit?

1189
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 1: It's no idea, but California is the most well known

1190
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: state for palomony.

1191
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 4: Wow, wow, ching ching, that's crazy.

1192
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 3: It doesn't have any like you have to be, you know,

1193
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 3: in a relationship for X amount of years.

1194
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 4: I'm sure there's requirements of some sorts.

1195
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 3: You can't just be like every one of my exes

1196
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 3: owes me palomony.

1197
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sure.

1198
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 3: It's like if they're financially supporting.

1199
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's all like different variations and

1200
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:33,760
Speaker 1: laws per state.

1201
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 4: Have you guys ever.

1202
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:39,839
Speaker 2: In your relationship and you suspected stuff and you asked

1203
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 2: about it and they said they denied it, and the

1204
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 2: only way to find out.

1205
00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 4: The truth is to do a private netsca or would

1206
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 4: you do it?

1207
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 3: I have a kind of like not golden rule per se,

1208
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 3: but like a kind of rule of if you snoop,

1209
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 3: you know, go through someone's phone.

1210
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,319
Speaker 4: You've never done that. No, No, you've never done Have

1211
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 4: you had it done to you? No?

1212
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 3: Again, I've only been into reallyationships.

1213
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 4: So it's happened to me when you snooped, yes.

1214
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 1: Or no.

1215
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 4: They just bring it up to.

1216
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 5: Me because like I snooped, Because when you when you

1217
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 5: go through somebody's phone, it's because you are looking for something,

1218
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 5: and a lot of times you can find what you're

1219
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 5: looking for, and even if it's not, it's like, oh

1220
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 5: that must mean oh yeah that in.

1221
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 4: The search, I saw this person, so that must mean this.

1222
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,839
Speaker 2: And it's like you're looking for something that's not there,

1223
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 2: but you can convince yourself that you found something. So

1224
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 2: a lot of times that's what happens. And then they

1225
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,759
Speaker 2: they bring it up I explained. Then they're like, oh, yeah,

1226
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 2: that that makes more sense.

1227
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, so and then you go, well, not's that. No,

1228
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:42,520
Speaker 1: don't just walk away? That was something yeah.

1229
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:44,239
Speaker 2: And then it's just like this was This is like

1230
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 2: an extreme version of looking through your phone is hiring

1231
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 2: a private restigator.

1232
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:48,879
Speaker 3: That's my point is like I think when you look

1233
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,919
Speaker 3: through someone you do the snooping mm hmm. I think

1234
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:55,919
Speaker 3: you have almost you know, you've you've created a crack

1235
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 3: in the relationship that can't often be fixed. And either

1236
00:51:59,840 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 3: you have done it for no reason or there was

1237
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 3: already a crack and they were cheating and you.

1238
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 4: Find that out.

1239
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 3: So it's like you you you're it's going bad that

1240
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:07,560
Speaker 3: you know bad.

1241
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 2: Other way it's bad, but it's just like, yeah, it

1242
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 2: does suck because then it's like, uh, like when that.

1243
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:16,960
Speaker 4: Happened before, I was like, do I have to.

1244
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 2: Be worried about you going through my phone and finding

1245
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 2: something that's not there and it's going to cause a

1246
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 2: big fight.

1247
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 4: So I'm like, do I really have to be worried

1248
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:26,800
Speaker 4: about this in our relationship?

1249
00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 1: No?

1250
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,879
Speaker 3: Like that sucks when you're yeah, when someone snoops, you're like, well,

1251
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,240
Speaker 3: now I know you don't trust me. Yeah, you didn't

1252
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 3: feel like you could have a conversation with me, So

1253
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 3: why are we in this relationship.

1254
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 1: List I'm just trying to beat this guy, Okay, snoopy, Yeah, no,

1255
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: don't get look at him. He's so innocent until until

1256
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 1: he becomes the red bear, and then that's a different.

1257
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 3: But I think I think he was already kind of

1258
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 3: like out of the one foot out and he just

1259
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:51,600
Speaker 3: needed that, like.

1260
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: That reason, the fact that he had to be like,

1261
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: I need to hire something to follow.

1262
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you would never hire a private investment, I

1263
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 4: don't think.

1264
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,240
Speaker 3: I think if I were at the point where I

1265
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,399
Speaker 3: truly believe that my partner was cheating on.

1266
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 4: Me, but you had no proof, and he's saying and

1267
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 4: he didn't.

1268
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 3: I feel like I would say, hey, we need to

1269
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 3: go to therapy because this isn't working, like obviously there's

1270
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 3: something wrong here.

1271
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:16,839
Speaker 2: But then you go to therapy and then he still

1272
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 2: gets away with it because you didn't hire a private

1273
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 2: vestcator and make sure. And then you go your whole

1274
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:23,919
Speaker 2: life and then and then on your deathbed, he's like.

1275
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 6: Gotcha, no, he holds me, he's like, yeah, I love you,

1276
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 6: and also.

1277
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:42,000
Speaker 2: I did no, I love you, and Linda, or maybe

1278
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 2: he does it on his deathbed.

1279
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, So it's a real gotcha, sorry about

1280
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 3: and you're like, oh, there's a little bit of that.

1281
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 4: Dang, that's crazy. Okay, there's more, let's go.

1282
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 3: During our relationship, I took on the majority of the

1283
00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 3: financial responsibilities, including the mortgage. We had an unspoken understanding.

1284
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 3: My money is our money, her money is her money.

1285
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 3: Due to our significant income differential. I never thought that

1286
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 3: my generosity would come back to haunt me. There it

1287
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:14,919
Speaker 3: is the update many of you asked for. I wish

1288
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 3: I had a happier conclusion to this, but life has

1289
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 3: its twists and turns. It seems she might have the

1290
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 3: upper hand in this final act, but I am hoping

1291
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:25,920
Speaker 3: for a fair resolution. Thank you for your support and advice.

1292
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:28,399
Speaker 3: It really means a lot. And that's that. I hope

1293
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:31,240
Speaker 3: that they don't get palamony. That would be pretty silly.

1294
00:54:31,360 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 4: Oh, I thought that's what he said. He said, I

1295
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:33,440
Speaker 4: have bad news.

1296
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,360
Speaker 3: Well, I think he's just like, it seems like she

1297
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 3: could have a chance of getting it.

1298
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 4: It doesn't look good, but there's no nothing certain. Dang,

1299
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 4: how can you cheat and then just act like, yeah,

1300
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 4: how they happen?

1301
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 3: Yeah? And every well every time she he said, she

1302
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 3: came back and she acted a little.

1303
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 4: Different, and it was once a year, he was once

1304
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 4: a year.

1305
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 3: She goes on this girl's trip where they're like, what

1306
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 3: kind of friends do you have to have? I mean, yeah,

1307
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 3: you said you like that group of guys, but like,

1308
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 3: what kind of friends you have to all be so

1309
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:02,400
Speaker 3: okay with that type of behavior?

1310
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, And it was weird because like it

1311
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 2: like back in my dating days, I was never good

1312
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 2: at Like I had some friends that were good. Theyre

1313
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:12,840
Speaker 2: hook up with the girl I'll never see again. Yeah,

1314
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:15,520
Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to hook up with somebody unless I

1315
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:18,319
Speaker 2: enjoyed hanging out with them, So then we would go

1316
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 2: get food or we would like hang out sometimes, so

1317
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Speaker 2: like I'm.

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Speaker 3: I, I you already need that.

1319
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't be with somebody if there's not some

1320
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 2: kind of little bit of connection. But when we were there,

1321
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 2: they were all it was like anybody. It was like

1322
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 2: the girl already knew the situation, but they never had

1323
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 2: to say. It was like an unverbal the girl's like

1324
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:39,879
Speaker 2: I'm down, and then they're like cool, and then they

1325
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 2: never talked again.

1326
00:55:40,840 --> 00:55:42,360
Speaker 3: Did they never pick off their rings?

1327
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Speaker 4: You can't remember. I was just shocked by the war.

1328
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 2: And then uh, and they you would never like we

1329
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 2: were there for a few days that you would never

1330
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 2: see the same girl twice, so like they were like

1331
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 2: one of times they're like oh done, or like it

1332
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 2: was it might have been one and then that was it.

1333
00:55:57,000 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 2: I just saw them for that night and does it

1334
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, wait, crazy hate I don't

1335
00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 2: even know now, Yeah, wow, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's pretty wild. I don't know. I can't imagine

1337
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,960
Speaker 3: being friends with like with people who just like go on.

1338
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 4: Yeah and it's just like another day. It's not a

1339
00:56:13,280 --> 00:56:13,719
Speaker 4: big deal.

1340
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 3: I think.

1341
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:16,319
Speaker 2: I think it was very brief, so they could put

1342
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 2: in their mind like Oh, like they can just forget about.

1343
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 3: It if he cares.

1344
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 4: It was I'm not like creating an emotional it was

1345
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:24,160
Speaker 4: like five minutes or whatever. Yeah, dang, that's crazy.

1346
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 3: Wow. But that's the end of that story, and I

1347
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 3: think that's the end of our time with you. Yeah,

1348
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Speaker 3: thank you so much for joining us.

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Speaker 4: That's great.

1350
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 2: You know, the tea has been spilt and my fiance

1351
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:38,799
Speaker 2: loves the tea. Hell, you guys need another girl on,

1352
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:40,000
Speaker 2: she might be down.

1353
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 3: We would love that. We'll reach out to let me

1354
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:43,080
Speaker 3: know and I'll.

1355
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 4: Hey, you want to do this because it was Yeah.

1356
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:48,680
Speaker 3: No, we always love having people on, so that would

1357
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 3: be great.

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00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:53,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, Alex, before you go, anything up and coming for you,

1359
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: I know you have some big events.

1360
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 2: I have a bunch of traveling. I'm moving across the

1361
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:01,400
Speaker 2: country from California in North Carolina.

1362
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 3: Oh what yeah right, yes, yeah.

1363
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 4: Moving with my fiance and then getting.

1364
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:10,360
Speaker 2: Married's and then hopefully soon after that, I get a

1365
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:11,040
Speaker 2: little baby.

1366
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 4: So I'm in that face. So thanks for having me.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

1368
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 4: I got to get back to that.

1369
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:21,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's the end of the episode. So if

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Speaker 3: you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 4: We love you and see you tomorrow.