WEBVTT - Ep 22: The 36 Questions To Find Love 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:06.480 Novel. 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:13.840 This show contains adult material, references to drugs and swearing. 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:18.200 You have been warned listen. Okay, Look, I've been shamed 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.360 on this before because people think I do have sexual 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:23.759 people sometimes too quickly. Sure, maybe there's some truth in 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:27.400 that three months. I do not have three months in 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:30.680 my life to spend not fucking someone that I'm spending 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:40.479 time with me I'm a savage. Are you bored of 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:43.760 modern dating? Meeting the same people from the same apps 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.520 in the same bar You've only chosen because it's close 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.280 to your house and you can make your usual quick getaway. 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:52.560 It's time to change the narrative on how we find love. 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:55.520 It's time to start looking for love in all the 0:00:55.560 --> 0:01:00.200 wrong places. I'm going on a wild dating adventure up 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.200 only picking people who are the total opposite of my type. 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:06.560 And after twenty eight of these dates in two months, 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:10.319 will I find that special someone or Well, this experiment 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.600 proved that I should just give up on dating altogether. 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:19.080 It's time to find out. I'm Grace Campbell and this 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:29.800 is twenty eight dates later. Dan, Yeah, do you ever? 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.360 You and I have the same problem, right, which is 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:36.160 because the performers we worry that first impressions first dates, 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:39.199 we have to be performing, and I find that quite draining. 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:41.400 Do you ever worry about like the conversation running draw 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:41.800 on a day? 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:45.360 Yeah, like one of my biggest well maybe not even 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:47.920 on a date, like a fear of mine or like. 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.960 Something that I don't understand is what do couples talk 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:53.559 about after like four years, five years, like even longer? 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:55.480 What do you talk But it's I guess, what do 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:57.680 you talk to your friends about after five years? 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:00.960 But a lot of the time you talk about. 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:06.280 Well maybe that's why lots of these couples opening up 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:09.200 their relationships, because then they have interesting stuff to talk about. 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:10.720 Well, yeah, I guess, and I think that, but I 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:14.400 think that's the future. I think like monogamy is not 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:15.639 the perfect thing for everybody. 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:19.560 So on this day I did something that I would 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:23.280 never do in the real world because to them, as 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:31.520 I no, I didn't. Actually, don't be so rude that 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.120 I did something which I would never do, because, as 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:38.320 I've already said, I hate fucking questions like this, and 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.320 I hate being asked with questions like this, and I'd 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:41.480 rather sit in silentce. 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:41.760 What did you do? 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.120 So I've been sent this thing online and it's like 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:47.359 thirty six questions that you should ask someone if you 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:48.840 want to fall in love with them, right, And it's 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.360 been like New York Times, Cosmopolitin whatever, and it's like 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:54.880 questions like, I guess, get to know someone, but to 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:57.320 see if you like have compatibility with them. 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.720 I just don't understand the science behind questions like this, 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.519 you know what I mean? Like, I think the science 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.880 behind falling in love is going on enough dates. I 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:06.679 mean like, if I spend enough time with somebody, I 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:07.640 think he's just kind of falling. 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:10.080 I think the science of really falling in love with 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.400 someone is chemical, to be honest, I think it's like 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.680 you do tell you bit. 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.720 Of care in the toilet? Yeah, I see it. 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:22.239 It's like now spell it is like I remember my 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:23.680 uncle said this to me when I was younger, and 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:25.359 he was like, the smell of someone is like forty 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:27.520 percent of like what you actually fall in love with. 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:29.280 There was someone I was once in love with, and 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:31.040 once I realized I wasn't in love with them anymore, 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.880 was when I smelt his cologne in an airport and 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:35.800 didn't like the smell. And then I was like, Wow, 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:36.760 I think I'm over him. 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.119 No, but that's the smellst one's cologne. I think you're talking. 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:42.720 About that, no, because it's it's no, not at all. 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:45.000 It's the smell that you associate with them, so like 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:48.000 I guess. And also a man's colone or any perfume 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:52.560 whatever changes on someone's skin, so like how someone's scense smells, 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:54.920 Like if you wore this colone, it would smell different 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:57.200 on you to how it's spelled. My ex boyfriend, et cetera, 0:03:57.240 --> 0:03:59.160 et cetera. That's why people try lots of different perfumes. 0:03:59.200 --> 0:03:59.920 Should check it out. 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:03.680 So I just wear links Africa every day and my 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.240 boys out there, Africa boys out there. 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:10.680 So we tried this. So this guy, his name was Michael. 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:13.120 I picked this guy because you just seem like a 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:17.760 really nice, handsome guy from his profile. But the bigger 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:20.599 experiment in this day was that we did something I'd 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:24.599 never normally do and it did give me the ick. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:29.880 How are you? 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:30.600 Yeah, I'm good? 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:31.200 How are you? 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:31.520 Yeah? 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:33.760 I'm good, I'm good. I didn't really know what to expect, 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:34.599 to be honest. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:35.840 Yeah that's fair. Yeah. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:39.040 I had a little look yesterday night at what some 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:41.320 of this, like some of the stuff you do so tell. 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:47.200 Me what did you think about me? Be honest, any feedback, Thank. 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:47.719 You so much. 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:51.520 Well at first I was like, oh, so all the 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.760 stuff with your dad. I was like, there's no way 0:04:54.760 --> 0:04:58.760 you could do that if you're black like that, it's 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.480 just not it's not well yeah African. 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:06.040 Parents is being like talking about yeah. 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:10.800 Yeah, if not now when about your vagina? Yeah, I 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:13.840 mean exactly is that thing with you? You know when 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:15.880 the older people are there, like have as much sex 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.080 as you can now, like love your body now because 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:19.040 it will change, and. 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.920 Don't say that it will change I'm going to have 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:24.000 a c section anyway. 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:28.160 No, but also just gravity, like gravity will affect us. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:34.320 All if not now when when you catch saying anyway? 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.239 But it was like really good chat from the start, 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:38.919 like we had Yeah, we had good chat and it 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.640 was like fun. There was just a lot of banter. 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.520 He did say that he'd thought from judging me that 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:48.560 I would have definitely not been popular at school. Wow. 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.880 I found that really really offensive. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:53.480 I mean that is offensive. 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.600 It is offensive considering how that he. 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.440 Can sum it up so perfectly. 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.200 No, because we've already covered this, like I was so 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:02.360 popular square, I had a war on my nose and 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:03.960 nobody even said anything bad. 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:06.159 You were like the most popular posh girl. Your horse 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:07.320 is the biggest to get it. 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.640 If not now when? Okay, So we've been talking for 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.360 a bit, and then I was like, okay, even though 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:14.359 this date is actually flowing, and maybe I should have 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:17.160 used these questions in the one where the conversation was 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.680 a bit more stifled any of the other day one 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:23.640 of the more constipated dates that I've been on. But yeah, 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:27.760 I've been given a task, which is to use this questionaires. 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:35.400 I started asking him questions. So I have a list 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:36.080 of questions. 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.000 Oh yeah, we go. 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.720 Okay. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:51.279 quality or ability, what would it be photographic memory. I'd 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.440 love to be able to speak every language in the world. 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.840 I'd love that. I just think you then get such 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:58.800 power because then you cannot hear when people are. 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:00.000 Talking about you. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.839 Do you hear all those stories like oh I was 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.159 in this foreign country and some guy who was talking 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.520 in another language and they were basically that a dickhead, 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:07.719 And then I spoke back to her. 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:09.800 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I've done that. I can speak French 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.680 and I've been in France several times when people talking 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:15.680 about me, Like I was once on the Metro and 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:18.640 these girls were talking about my hair and they were 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.880 like making all these jokes about how like I've probably 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:23.560 lost loads of hair brushes, like in my hair. 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:26.200 Roasted. 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:31.160 And I was like, a good one, We'll so fuck you. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.360 I can hear what you're saying. And then they actually 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:34.160 didn't even care. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:38.040 I mean, that is honestly one of the funniest things 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:38.440 that I've heard. 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:40.480 I actually didn't even tell that story. Probably what they 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:44.160 actually said was I wonder how many hair brushes are 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:47.000 in her hair right now, like that she's been trying 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.400 to brush her hair and they have gotten lost in 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:54.160 her And they were discussing how many hair brushes could 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:55.720 be inwre in this moment. 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:59.480 That is genius. That is genius. That is a shade. 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:02.600 If you could wake up with any ability, Dan, what 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:03.680 would it be? Can I guess? 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:04.200 Yeah? 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:07.760 I guess time travel? 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:11.080 Wait, so okay, the question being like, is it like 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:14.800 marvel ability, We'll refine it. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.120 No, No, we'll refine it, okay, time travel. 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:21.160 So you know me so well, and you think the 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:22.680 one thing that I would want if I could wake 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.600 up tomorrow is time travel because I want to be 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.520 gay in the past. I want to be this gay 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.600 in the past. No, thank you. 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:45.920 I was kind of pissed off when he said that 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.320 he thought I was definitely not calling school, because as 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:52.800 you can imagine, that's a bit of a misunderstanding of me. 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:56.760 So then I grilled him on that a bit. 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:58.560 But I love that he was open enough just to 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:00.600 say it, no, I love it dead in the eyes 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:01.959 and be like, hey, nerd. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:06.880 I was just like looking in the mirror of ages, 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:09.640 trying to figure out what it was that made you 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:10.960 think I was like cool of school. 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.240 Get this ship off your shoulder. 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:16.800 Because I don't because I don't think it's my hair 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:20.880 because I hate my hair makes me look really cool, right, Okay, 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:22.360 that you were nerds. 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.679 I was a big nerd even to like. 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:26.720 There was a day actually and I think about this 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.600 moment so much and I hate myself for it. 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:31.080 It was like the first year of un. 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:33.840 And we all went to the pub and three of 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:36.440 my friends and it was like this guy and his girlfriend. 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:38.960 We're just talking, having a few pints. All three of 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:42.120 us whip our DS's and we played Pokemon, And it 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:44.040 is the most I think about. 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.839 It and I including the girlfriend, not. 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:49.520 The girlfriend girl just like looking at us. 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:50.800 Like, oh my god. 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.520 I'm doing with these massive. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.960 Oh my god, no. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.960 One nerdy something that burn Thursday? 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:11.760 What you're going to do? So when did you lose that? 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.920 Do you know what? I am so fucking cool that 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.960 when he said DS, I was like Dick's eyes. It 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.480 took me so long to realize what DS was. I 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.280 love the level of paranoia in this date as well. 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:25.640 When it was like asked what you would want, you 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:27.720 were like, I can learn all the languages in the world, 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.960 not to build communities or like relationships, but to find 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.000 out if people are talking about your behind your back. 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:35.440 And then you've been there, Like I just spent ages 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.160 looking in the mirror trying to figure out, like what 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.000 it was about me that made you think I was 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.480 a nerd at school? Like I just with the level 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:42.679 of paranoia. 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:51.240 Because I was sober. That's the downfall, thoughts allowed. Yeah, 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.559 he's also being so open. That's like he's a sweet 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:54.319 He was really sweet. 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:56.600 Yeah, we actually had a really it was really sweet. 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:56.760 Yea. 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.680 He was telling me that like every year for his birthday, 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.560 he has tradition where he gets all his friends together 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:04.959 and he's task them with writing like a stand up 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.400 set or like a song, or like a game idea 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:09.480 or like whatever, and every year, like on his birthday, 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:11.600 like every and I thought that was really cute, right, 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.360 But then he said he had this girlfriend once who 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.040 didn't really get it, and then he broke up with her. 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:17.920 I was like, you're so cute. You like really have 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:21.840 your own individual like personality. And I liked that. 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:22.840 Yeah that's nice. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:24.880 Yeah, it's like a cool hot nerd do you know 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:25.280 what I mean? 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.559 Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah. My piano player Robin, they do 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.200 that for their birthday as well, Like I really birthday. 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:33.400 They get their friends to little performance. Yeah. 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:34.760 I think that's such a nice thing to you. I mean, 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:36.000 my friends would never do it. 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.199 But they've got no talent. 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:42.520 Anna did you hear that? Anna? Anna? Where are you babe? Anna? Anna? 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:44.600 Come out the cupboard, Come out the cup now? Anna 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.240 need to come a fucking batter? Dan? Did you hear 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:50.800 what he just said about it? She can try? 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:52.440 Okay? 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.200 Would you ever like to be famous? 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:58.680 The reason I'm because I want to be. 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.160 I don't know this going to make your famous, all right? 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:03.559 So I would like to be famous. 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:07.320 But for what a load of class famous like David 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:08.440 Mitchell level famous. 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:10.440 Okay, that's like quite iconic famous. 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:12.080 It's like UK famous. 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:12.360 Right. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:15.640 I can go into Spain and no one's gonna name me. 0:12:15.800 --> 0:12:18.000 But I feel like a lot of people look at 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.880 David Mitchell and they're like, I know you from somewhere, but. 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:24.320 They don't know exactly. It must be like do you 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:24.640 get it? 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:26.640 Like do you get people who sort of recognize you? 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:26.720 No? 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:28.920 I only ever get people who like truly love me. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:30.880 Apart from that, no one, no, because I have a 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:33.520 very small fan base of women who just assessed me. 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:40.000 They are history. I'm not even lying. They would definitely 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:42.760 if I did an Instagram story like I need a lung, 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:48.920 someone would be like, here's my lungs? 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:55.520 Like radio, Oh my god. Do you think if you 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:57.880 did an Instagram story saying guys, I need a life, 0:12:58.200 --> 0:13:02.280 they'd give you a lie. Imagine the day. I love 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.600 that he's calling the fun out. 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:06.439 But the thing is, can I just say to people 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.559 listening who might think that makes me sound like really insufferable? 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.520 I do that ship on dates to be like how 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:15.400 much can this person take of me? Because when they 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:17.680 can't handle it, I'm like, Okay, you're so not my 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:20.760 kind of person, whereas he was really taking it and 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:21.960 was do you know what I mean? 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:26.280 Yeah, Can I just say that, like I performed the 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.240 four Graceist shows her fan base. I always say, it's 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:32.480 like the Wendy Williams fan base. Like it's like, yeah, 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.320 it's cool, it's intense. They love in the room is 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:36.080 so brilliant. 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.680 Always No, that's what my cousin says. My cousin comes 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:40.600 and she's like, obviously, we're exactly the same age. She's 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:43.720 my whole life obviously with cousins, and she's there like, no, 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.080 it's mad watching these people love you more than like 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:47.600 anyone in our family about. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:52.240 Sees me performed. She's like, a, I just watching other 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.000 people laugh at you. That's funny because every time we 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:56.920 hang out as a family laugh at me. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.760 But I just disagree. I think David Mitchell's bad. Famous Well, 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:06.520 David Mitchell is from I mean, he's a comedic actor. 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:08.640 He's also like the host of like would Alive to 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:12.319 You but so funny sou in peep Show. He's one 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:14.320 of the main guys in peep Show. And he's a 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.240 great British comedian, but I get what he means in 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:19.400 the sense of, like, you know, it's a bit like 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:22.640 I'll only ever be like really famous in like hubs 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:25.280 and Clapham and coffee shops in North London. Leave those places. 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:26.840 Nobody knows who I am. 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:30.040 Yeah, carry But it's an interesting question though, because I 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:31.800 was out of the weekend and I was at like 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:36.600 this like gay disco night absolutely fucked, like post verbal 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:39.200 like real fuck. Had so many people come up to 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:40.760 me and be like, oh my god, where you say, 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:43.720 And I was like, not now, like if not now 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:48.680 when though, when I'm not fu That's what I mean. 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.880 So they're like. 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.720 Glastonbury was like hell for me, but I didn't realize 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:56.040 it was gonna because it's where there's a concentrated level. 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:58.560 So David Mitchell is that kind of like famous? 0:14:58.680 --> 0:14:59.840 I guess yeah. 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:03.200 And then he told me this story about his friend 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:03.960 from work. 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:11.120 She was saying she's been seeing this guy two months 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:12.040 but they've. 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:12.840 Not even slept together. 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:14.840 Oh really, it's been like. 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:15.720 Two months as well. 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:17.960 How would you date that over two months? 0:15:18.760 --> 0:15:21.760 That is in sense, yeah, I would say if that 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.360 situation ever happens to you, don't go to a comedy 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:26.440 show and don't sit in the front row because it's 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:26.880 not fun. 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:32.480 I've seen someone and we've been together like. 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:32.800 Three months or something. 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:33.920 I never did anything. 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:36.040 And we went to this comedy show and the guy 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:37.960 like begged us as we ended, He's like, please go 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:39.560 on the front, like it's just we want to make 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.880 it look more full. I said, if you're not gonna right, 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:47.880 it's down, get to the front. Straight away picks on us. 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:49.720 And the guy I was like, Oh, have you guys 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:50.680 like slept together. 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.920 I was like, oh, no, we've not. And he's like, oh, 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:54.320 that's cool. 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.880 How long have we've been together? Three three months? 0:15:57.320 --> 0:16:01.800 And from there every single person went through just roasted yeah, 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:04.000 would you Yeah. 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:05.040 I don't like comedians. 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:07.480 I don't like you. 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.600 I have to say, right, he's telling this story, and 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:16.360 I'm thinking, maybe that's because you like didn't want to 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:18.480 have sex with him. Have I just offended you by 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:20.600 being like I would never do that. So then I 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:22.720 was being a bit more like nice after you told 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:24.680 that story of like we were on the topic of like, 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:28.040 you know, waiting to have sex with people, and then 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.200 I was like, but how comes you hadn't He was like, oh, 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.320 because she basically told me, like on our second date 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.240 that she didn't believe in sex before marriage, and I 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:39.080 was like, Okay, that's interesting. Yea, I personally would not 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:40.160 then carry on day. 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.520 At least he's respecting the boundaries of it, you know, 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.160 and like obviously into the person enough to like still 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:45.760 be with them. 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.440 It was interesting. Listen, Okay, look, I've been shamed on 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.560 this before because people think I do have sex with 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.920 people sometimes too quickly. Sure, maybe there's some truth in 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:57.560 that three months. I do not have three months in 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:01.120 my life to spend not fucking someone that I'm spending. 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:03.640 Time with, honestly. And also, like I always question, like 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:05.560 is love real? Like imagine like falling in love with 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:07.480 somebody and you haven't fucked them for three months, and 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:08.920 then when you do, the dick is dead. 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:09.720 That's what I mean. 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:11.800 Love is not real. Yeah, if the dick is dead, 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:14.000 then like I'm actually sorry, I don't love you anymore. 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:15.960 But that's what I'm saying. For me, most of falling 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:20.639 in love is about smelling sex intimacy. Yeah, so I 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:23.440 just can't really imagine over three months me being stimulated 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:25.520 enough by you if we're not having sex, because I'm 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:27.280 not really looking forward to seeing you because I'm not 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:29.320 thinking about sucking you. I'm not thinking about getting with you. 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.359 And then what kind of relationship it must be such 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:36.320 a different type of relationship. Yes, yeah, I guess you're right. 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:37.840 You know, I guess that's a rectally true. But I 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:41.080 also think, like for the people that save themselves to 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:44.280 your marriage that first night when you're married, being like 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:48.320 in your thirties and having virgin sex, like having the 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:49.960 kind of sex that you had when we were like 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:50.840 six names. 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:52.840 They probably don't get to the peak of sex or 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:56.680 they're like in their fifties. Oh, because sex just gets 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:58.439 better and better and better from the first time you 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:00.400 have it, but it takes a long time. I didn't 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:02.400 start having good sex till I was like twenty five. 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:09.080 I'm still waiting. Okay, So Michael sounds great. He was great, 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:10.320 Like I'm into him for. 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:12.000 You, Yep, I would see him again. 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:15.399 Do you think actually, like asking those magazine questions was 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:16.440 actually useful in work? 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:19.840 No, I would say doing that that part of the 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:23.680 day felt extremely ick to me and made me feel 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:25.639 like I was slightly outside of my body. But the 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:26.880 rest of the day it was really fun. 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:29.960 But it becomes an interview, becomes like it becomes not organic. 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:30.840