1 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,639 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. Nice to meet you. This is the first 13 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 2: time I talk to you, and you are a great 14 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 2: woman of God. I love you so much. I'm Christian. 15 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 2: I'm currently going through a divorce and I don't know 16 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 2: if I should be mean, not ask for alimony and 17 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 2: just believe and have faith that God has me. He 18 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 2: makes a lot of more money than I do so 19 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 2: for other people. I think that I'm very nice and kind, 20 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 2: but I also have to look out for my children. 21 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 2: I think I know the answer, but I just wanted 22 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 2: to ask, how did you deal with divorce. God bless you. 23 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 2: Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you find. 24 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: Rachel, divorce is tough. It is tough in the Bible 25 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: because you're a Christian woman. It does say at you 26 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: that the yodayu that so help yourself and I will 27 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 1: help you is what God says. There is nothing wrong 28 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: with you asking for alimony, I feel, especially if he 29 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: makes more money, if you guys have children together. I 30 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: don't know what the reason is. You don't have to 31 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: be mean to ask for what you deserve. He's not 32 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: going to be happy about it. But if he's also 33 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: a man of God and you know, has discernment and 34 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: knows that he needs to still take care of his 35 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: and take care of you and make sure you guys 36 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: are fine, then he's gonna do it without complaining and 37 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 1: without being mean. Now, if you make good money and 38 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: you're totally fine and you don't need it, then maybe 39 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:14,239 Speaker 1: don't ask for it. But there's nothing wrong and that's 40 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: not being mean for you to ask for alimony I had. 41 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: I think it was three long months of my separation, 42 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,360 Speaker 1: not even my divorce, because it took forever for me 43 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: to get divorced, and that was tough because there were 44 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: times where I was like, I want to be mean 45 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: and I mean, like me and mean, but I was like, 46 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm like, I'm just gonna leave it in 47 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: God's hands. And a year and a half later, it happened. 48 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: But the first three months were tough, very very hard. 49 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: I cried a lot. I was very deeply depressed. My 50 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: circumstances were a little different. It's not something that I wanted. 51 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: It was something that I knew I needed and it 52 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 1: just had happened. Now I'm happy. Now, I'm like, okay, 53 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,239 Speaker 1: woof thank goodness, I got over that. So I'm hoping 54 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: that you are not going through so much pain. And again, 55 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:57,959 Speaker 1: I don't know the circumstances are what happened. I hope 56 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: there wasn't any unfaithfulness in fidelity. But either way, there's 57 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: nothing wrong with you asking for alimony or child sport. 58 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: How old your children are? I mean, hey, you are 59 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: the mother. You gave your life to this person, so 60 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:11,919 Speaker 1: hopefully he's nice and he gives it to you. Sending 61 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: you a big hug, girl, because I know, I know 62 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: it's tough. A second question now comes from Yoli. 63 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 3: Hi Ji kis I'm a big fan of yours, And 64 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 3: my question is regarding my marriage. Been married for two 65 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 3: years and we've been together for eight years, but it's 66 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 3: been really difficult. We lived apart from each other, but 67 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 3: I see him a lot, like I go to my 68 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 3: country and I see him a lot. But I'm pregnant 69 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 3: now and I just realized that we can bid it gether, 70 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 3: not because of the distance, because he's not really committed 71 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 3: to our relationship, and I just wanted ad buy. I'm 72 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 3: not sure if it's the right thing to do now 73 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 3: that I'm pregnant, but I just feel like he's not 74 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 3: the right person. Society just sells to stay because of 75 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 3: our kids, but it's been really hard, but I think 76 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 3: it's the right thing to do. So if you please 77 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 3: can give me your advice, thank you. 78 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: Okay, really, congratulations on your pregnancy and your baby come 79 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: out healthy and blessed and beautiful. Okay, So I think 80 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: you know the answer because you're asking, and that already 81 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: indicates it's an indication that you don't have peace, and 82 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: when you don't have peace in your heart with the decision, 83 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: then that's telling you, Okay, I'm not happy. I need 84 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: to possibly let this situation or this person go, the 85 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: worst thing you could do is not the worst thing, 86 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 1: because I commend and I admire women that have stayed 87 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: in relationships that aren't necessarily the best for them for 88 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: their children because they're being selfless right and thinking about 89 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: their children. But you're right on time, babe, because your 90 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: baby is not born yet and they won't know the difference. 91 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: So I think if you have this opportunity and this 92 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: blessing of making this decision right now when the baby's 93 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: not here, so that the baby doesn't have imagine if 94 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 1: you stay with him and you know, the baby turns 95 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 1: five years old and then you do the separation, you're 96 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 1: gonna wish I would have done it way before when 97 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 1: the baby wasn't born, because it affects children very much. 98 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,039 Speaker 1: So I'm an advocate of if you're not happy in 99 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: a relationship, it's only going to cause unhappiness to your children. 100 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: They're going to feed off of that energy. So I 101 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: think that you're in time. And if you feel that 102 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 1: this relationship isn't bringing out the best in you, and 103 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: it's causing you sadness or depression or you're more angry, 104 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: then I think it's okay. For you to just make 105 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,280 Speaker 1: that decision and still allow the baby to see him. 106 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,039 Speaker 1: You know, he can still be the father and you 107 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: guys can still be friends. But maybe he's not a 108 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: good partner. He's just gonna be a great father. I 109 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: don't know. So think about it, pray about it. That 110 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: is my personal opinion. Because that okay, let's get out. 111 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: Whatever you decide, I'm gonna respect, okay. So thank you 112 00:05:54,160 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: for your question and wishing you and the baby the best. Okay. 113 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 1: So our next question comes from Shanty. 114 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 4: Hai chigis congress on your engagement. 115 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 3: I am very. 116 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 4: Happy for you, But what about my girl Snow. I mean, 117 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 4: everyone sees the big chemistry you both have, and you 118 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,719 Speaker 4: did say you like her, but you have somebody else, 119 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 4: So I wonder if you're a bit confused between the both, 120 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 4: between the Milion and Snow. 121 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:39,359 Speaker 1: Salulos, Oh my god, Shanty, I love you. Snow's gonna 122 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: love this. We were just on TikTok live. I love Snow. 123 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: I love her energy. I think she's super talented. I've 124 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 1: told you guys this before. Yes, I definitely have a 125 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: girl crush on her. That's no freaking secret. Emilio knows it. 126 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 1: I mean, look, I'm engaged girl, Like I don't know, 127 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: I have a great guy, and what can I say? Like, 128 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 1: here's the thing. I've known Snow for a long time 129 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: and I've always thought she's so cute and stuff. And 130 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 1: finally when we hung out and I was like, oh 131 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: my god, I love this girl's energy. But I was 132 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: already in a relationship and I didn't hide that, and 133 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: she understands it. And I think we just like both 134 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 1: flirt innocently and mess around like that, you know, but 135 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 1: in reality, like, I respect my relationship and I'm now engaged. 136 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: And she said congratulations, and now that, oh sav that's it, 137 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. She's still my friend. I 138 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: love her. We're going to do some cool things together. 139 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: And yeah, she's also not even ready to be in 140 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 1: a relationship. You guys know that. She's told you guys 141 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: she got out of a long term relationship and she's 142 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 1: just having fun right now and as she should. So 143 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: that's that. But thank you for your question. 144 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 4: Set. 145 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 1: You made me laugh grow and I loved it so 146 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: straight up love that for us. Okay, so our last 147 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: question comes from Bella or Bee. 148 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, hi, Cheeky's thank you, so much for taking the 149 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 5: time to speak with us. My question is a little intrusive, 150 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 5: so forgive me if it's too intrusive, but I would 151 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 5: like to know where you had your cosmetic surgery performed, 152 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 5: only because I'm interested in also doing so, and I 153 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 5: think the best way to find a doctor is by 154 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 5: someone who's had a great experience. Again, thank you so 155 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 5: much for all that you do, for all of your 156 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 5: fans and for everyone who listens to you. I wish 157 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 5: you the best in life and continue shining. Also, congratulations 158 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 5: on your engagement. 159 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I appreciate that you guys inspire 160 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,439 Speaker 1: me so much every single day, So thank you. Okay, 161 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: so no, it's not at all too intrusive. If anything, 162 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: That's why I created Dear Cheekys is I want you 163 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: guys to ask me anything in everything, even if it's 164 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: like a crazy weird question or you think something that 165 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: would make me uncomfortable. I am so used to everything 166 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: you guys, so please feel free to ask me absolutely anything. 167 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: I've had a few surgeries, to be quite honest, but 168 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: the last surgery I had was in TJ. I have 169 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:01,679 Speaker 1: a doctor. His name is Victo Gutierrez. I follow him 170 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: on Instagram, so maybe you can like just look him up. 171 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:09,199 Speaker 1: And he's very conservative. He's not into making you look 172 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: like a completely different person, which I love. I still 173 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: want to look like a I don't know, like I 174 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 1: don't like to say real woman because then people get offended. 175 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: I don't mean that, but I mean like I like 176 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: to look like I guess normal esque. I don't know. Anyways, 177 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: and hopefully I don't offend anybody. But he's very conservative. 178 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: So anyways, his name is Victor Gutierres and TJ. I 179 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: know some people feel very like weird and iffy about, 180 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:34,680 Speaker 1: you know, performing surgery across the border, but he is 181 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: very good and I got a breast lift with him 182 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: and also put in a new implant, a very small implant, 183 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: a high profile implant because I had removed the implants. 184 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: I've been through so much with these boobs. I am 185 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: so happy with his work. He also did like a 186 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: mini lift on my bottom, like very very small, but 187 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: it was more because I just wanted everything down there 188 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: to be happier, so that's what I did. It wasn't 189 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: like a tuck because you know, it wasn't like a 190 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: full on talk, but it was like a mini tuck. 191 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,640 Speaker 1: I guess, so that's what I got done. Oh and 192 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: I love my boobs, you guys. I love him. And 193 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 1: he only does one person a day, only performs one 194 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 1: surgery a day, which is great because some surgeons do 195 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:20,080 Speaker 1: like up to three. And he takes his time with 196 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: the incisions and he takes an hour just to close 197 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,719 Speaker 1: your incision. And he's so honest. He's amazing. And I'm 198 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 1: not just saying that because he's my doctor and I 199 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: love him, but he's great. And I'm very happy because 200 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:32,959 Speaker 1: I don't scar very well, so he really took care of, 201 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: you know, my scars like he's awesome. So look him 202 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: up if not, if you are in the States, and 203 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 1: I have tried also a doctor in Beverly Hills, and 204 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: I've also gotten surgery from a doctor here in Beverly Hills. 205 00:10:46,679 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: His name is doctor Mannis, so you can look him 206 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 1: up as well. I hope that helps. And thank you 207 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: so much for your question. Thank you all, so thank you. 208 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: Rachel Joli Schanti en beya. I love your questions. I 209 00:10:57,720 --> 00:10:59,199 Speaker 1: know this is supposed to be an advice show, but 210 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:01,640 Speaker 1: I also enjoy some of your lighter questions, So thank you. 211 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 1: We'll be back next Wednesday with some more of Dear Cheekies. 212 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 3: You guys. 213 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 1: Feel free to leave me your questions at speakpipe dot com, 214 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:17,640 Speaker 1: Slash Cheeky's and Chill Podcast See y'all soon. This is 215 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: a production of iHeartRadio and the Microdura podcast Network. Follow 216 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:24,960 Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts and follow me 217 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: Cheeky's That's c h i q u i s. 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