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Speaker 1: and listen. If you need advice on relationships, on sex,

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live on

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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. All right. Subject seems like

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Speaker 1: he's been waiting for me to leave. First. Here Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My husband and I are now fifty years old. We

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Speaker 1: have five grown sons and four grandchildren. Ten years ago,

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Speaker 1: my husband had a fling at work and the female

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Speaker 1: was barely twenty years old at the time. I was devastated,

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Speaker 1: but he swore nothing physical happened. The whole situation didn't

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Speaker 1: sit well with me, so one day last week I

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Speaker 1: checked my husband's old phone for any proof I could find.

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Speaker 1: I've found messages between my husband and the girl that

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Speaker 1: he had the flaying with, and she was thanking him

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Speaker 1: for all he was doing for her financially and praising

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Speaker 1: him for his sexual prowess. I was hurt and relieved.

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Speaker 1: At the same time, all of the heartache came back,

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Speaker 1: and I felt stupid for believing his lies, but I

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Speaker 1: was glad that the truth finally came out. Now I

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Speaker 1: know why he made all of the random bank withdrawals

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Speaker 1: told him that I had all of the proof that

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Speaker 1: I needed, and I asked him for a divorce. He

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Speaker 1: did not put up a fight. In fact, he did

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Speaker 1: not seem concerned at all. I have loved this man

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Speaker 1: since I was eighteen years old, and just like that,

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Speaker 1: he was ready to end our marriage. I should add

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Speaker 1: that we haven't had sex since twenty fifteen, and he

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Speaker 1: always says it's not me, it's him, and that I'm

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Speaker 1: still as fine as the day he married me. I'm

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Speaker 1: no fool. Though. If I wasn't enough for him, why

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Speaker 1: didn't he just let me go? I am feeling like

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Speaker 1: he only stayed with me all of these years for

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Speaker 1: the sake of the kids. I am still in good

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Speaker 1: shape and good health. My black has not cracked, so

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Speaker 1: I'm sure I could get me somebody else too. Should

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Speaker 1: I fight for my marriage or let it go? Please advise?

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Speaker 1: Should you fight for your marriage or let it go

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Speaker 1: to that. I ask what marriage? Okay? No sex for

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Speaker 1: three years, text messages and payouts to another woman, lies

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Speaker 1: upon lies upon lies, and the ultimate slap in the face.

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Speaker 1: He didn't even put up any kind of fight to

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Speaker 1: keep you. That's why I say what marriage. This was

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Speaker 1: a relationship of convenience and of tolerance. All right, this

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Speaker 1: thing that you had, you guys had going on, this

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Speaker 1: situation has been over for a very long time. He

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Speaker 1: was just waiting for you to say it first. Like

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Speaker 1: for me to leave first. He's waiting for you to

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Speaker 1: say it first, so he wouldn't be the bad guy.

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Speaker 1: Now he can tell the kids it was you. You You

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Speaker 1: asked for the divorce, You wanted the divorce. Well, you

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Speaker 1: did say you're glad the truth came out. The truth

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Speaker 1: is out. I would tell you to fight for your marriage,

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Speaker 1: but I don't see anything left here, do you really,

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Speaker 1: Steve Well, seemed like he'd been waiting on me to

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Speaker 1: leave first. Okay, let's just take it from there and

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Speaker 1: let's find out why you're and your husband fifty five

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Speaker 1: grown sons for grandkids. Ten years ago, see listen to this.

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Speaker 1: Ten years ago, my husband had a fling at work

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Speaker 1: and the female was barely twenty years old at the time.

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Speaker 1: whole situation didn't sit well with me. So one day

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Speaker 1: for any proof that I could. Fine. Wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: your husband had an affair ten years ago. Ten years ago.

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Speaker 1: You go back. He told you nothing physical happened. You

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Speaker 1: it last week, and I found messages between my husband

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Speaker 1: And you didn't think it was gonna stink? What okay, lady?

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Speaker 1: What all the heart? They came back, and I felt

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Speaker 1: he'd told you the truth back then. Guess what where

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Speaker 1: You're crazy, naw. I know why he made all the

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Speaker 1: random bank withdraws and had strange purchase on his credit card.

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Speaker 1: So I told him I had all the proof I needed,

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Speaker 1: and I asked him for disroars. He didn't put up

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Speaker 1: a fight. In fact, he ain't seen concerned at all.

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Speaker 1: He would probably relieve. I mean, really, don't you go

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Speaker 1: And now you're leaving him for that? Lady, I think

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Speaker 1: you should go. I love this man since I was eighteen,

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Speaker 1: and just like that he was ready to end our marriage.

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Speaker 1: I should add that we haven't had six since two

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Speaker 1: thousand fifteen. No, no, no, you ain't had that's what

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Speaker 1: you ain't here? What's he been doing? Steve? You take

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Speaker 1: we you can circle week eat, we ain't had six

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Speaker 1: since two fifteen, that w can flip that up? Me

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Speaker 1: meet meet me, you me ain't had six in two

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Speaker 1: thousand fifteen, I promise you his ass. All right, we'll

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Speaker 1: have part two. We're gonna dress this part right here.

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Speaker 1: I'm steal as fine as the day as he married me.

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Speaker 1: We'll have more at twenty three after with part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response to the letter today. The subject seems

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Speaker 1: like he's been waiting for me to leave first. Twenty

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Speaker 1: three afters when we'll be back right after this. You're

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Speaker 1: listening show, all right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letters. Subject seems like he's been waiting for me

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Speaker 1: to leave. First. A couple of fifty years old, five

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Speaker 1: grounds sos for grandkids ten years ago. The man having

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Speaker 1: a fair with a lady at work. He said nothing

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Speaker 1: physical happened, he just covering his tracks. She was devastated,

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Speaker 1: you know, but he swore nothing physical happened. The whole

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Speaker 1: situation didn't sit well. So one day last week, one

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Speaker 1: for ten years. She found his old phone and went

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Speaker 1: said found out they had been making love and that

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Speaker 1: he was paying her someone. Now you devastated. You want

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Speaker 1: want a divorce. He ain't put up a fight. In fact,

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Speaker 1: point because who ain't through that phone away that type

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Speaker 1: of information? Who ain't through that phone away? He left

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Speaker 1: I've been recharging it. I've been calling it, making it harm,

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Speaker 1: shooting him nothing. I've loved this man since I was

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Speaker 1: eighteen years old, and just like that, he was ready

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Speaker 1: to end out. Man, you the one said you wanted

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Speaker 1: that divorce. Then when he said cool, now you looking crazy?

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Speaker 1: I should add that we haven't had sex since twenty fifteen.

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Speaker 1: Please stop saying week please that this is the line. Y'all.

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Speaker 1: We haven't had sex, lady, you ain't had no sex,

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Speaker 1: but he've been filling up the trash can. I'm telling

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Speaker 1: you this right now. This boy been out here buck

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Speaker 1: straight wild, ain't no man weigh no three years for

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Speaker 1: what anyway? Then she says it's not Then he always

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Speaker 1: says it's not me, it's him, and that I'm still

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Speaker 1: as fine as the day he married me. Now that's

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Speaker 1: what you said. Let's let's say this again. You fifty,

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Speaker 1: y'all got five grown sons. Y'all been together since you

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Speaker 1: he manages? Hey, it could happen. Steve, who you know, sugar?

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Speaker 1: You know named the human? The human name all human

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Speaker 1: I just need a name better, no, as still as

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Speaker 1: fine as today? Who? I just need a name? Give

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Speaker 1: him something? Yeah, Steve Sell just came out. Who you know?

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Speaker 1: I just need a name of anybody you know that's

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Speaker 1: as fine at fifty as they was back then. Anybody,

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Speaker 1: give me a dude, anybody beautiful, give me an Injuriess,

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Speaker 1: give me anybody, Denzel, anybody that's just as who Now

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Speaker 1: you're talking Denzil. Ain't fine as he walked back then,

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Speaker 1: WHOA yeah, yeah, who? Well, well you said interest that

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Speaker 1: But some people get back I'm aging. Look, I'm aging, well,

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Speaker 1: I ain't what I walked without eighteen skin was smooth man,

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Speaker 1: I was six one, I weigh one forty seven. Been

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Speaker 1: That's what you want to say. You're fine as the

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Speaker 1: on to say that I'm still in good shape. That's

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Speaker 1: not the same as saying you as finding a couple

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Speaker 1: still in good shape. You know what that means, and

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Speaker 1: good health. My black has not cracked, so I could

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Speaker 1: we about to find out? All right, guys, all right, Steve,

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