Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,
Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello Call It Crew, and welcome to another episode of
Speaker 2: short and Sweet.
Speaker 3: Oh this one, this one, this one can get not
Speaker 3: so sweet I have.
Speaker 2: I'm interested to see what your opinion is on this,
Speaker 2: because we might have different opinions on it.
Speaker 4: Okay, talked about this before.
Speaker 3: Well what are we Well, first of all, what are
Speaker 3: we going to talk about?
Speaker 2: We're going to talk about baby names, but the stealing,
Speaker 2: oh shameless, the hijacking of the name.
Speaker 3: The high jinks that can occur around names. By the way,
Speaker 3: were you when you were a kid.
Speaker 1: Did you have your baby names picked out when you
Speaker 1: were like playing with Dolly's.
Speaker 4: I mean, I loved the name Lucy.
Speaker 2: That was my little rag doll name, and A was
Speaker 2: on the list for Hayden. But I'm glad actually didn't
Speaker 2: name her Lucy because she came out with bright red
Speaker 2: hair and I feel like, you know, I love Lucy
Speaker 2: in the US, like it would have just now, it
Speaker 2: would have been really cute, but I think it would
Speaker 2: have been too like on the nose.
Speaker 4: Did you have baby names like when you were little?
Speaker 3: Ah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't remember what they were. But I did
Speaker 1: love playing house. I loved the Yeah, I liked the
Speaker 1: conceiving of names and whole personalities.
Speaker 3: I remember when I was in French class, I had
Speaker 3: a French name. Yeah, I like names.
Speaker 2: Did you okay, so before you had kids, but you're
Speaker 2: getting older, you're getting married, doing all the things. Did
Speaker 2: you have your adult like you know, your real baby
Speaker 2: names ready to go?
Speaker 1: No? Every single one of our babies came out without
Speaker 1: a name. Oh really, we loved the hospital twice without
Speaker 1: a name?
Speaker 4: You did for which kids?
Speaker 1: Eve?
Speaker 3: Wow? Actually three all the girls, Eve, Poppy and Josephine
Speaker 3: and Luke. We we pretty.
Speaker 1: Much decided the day after he was born. He was
Speaker 1: born at night, and the next day I think we cemented.
Speaker 3: It that he was Luke all three of your girls.
Speaker 4: Eve.
Speaker 3: Took almost like a week, I think.
Speaker 2: Wow, I don't think I even knew that you could
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 3: Actually, they let you leave with a nameless baby. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 3: it's not illegal.
Speaker 1: By the way. With the first baby, I thought it
Speaker 1: was illegal to let me leave with a baby at all.
Speaker 4: I was like, well, what who's.
Speaker 3: Gonna let me leave with this baby?
Speaker 2: I don't know anything you're like, drive, drive, Like, have
Speaker 2: this idea.
Speaker 1: Of what they're gonna look like in the baby, like you,
Speaker 1: because you know how you put the car seat in
Speaker 1: like a month before you even have the baby. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just in case, you know, Yeah, because by the way,
Speaker 1: that's it's hard to put in. And so I remember
Speaker 1: putting the baby, you know, a day old. I always
Speaker 1: left the next day a day old in the car seat.
Speaker 1: And my idea of what a baby would look like
Speaker 1: in the car seat was far different than what the
Speaker 1: real baby looks like in the car seat. She was
Speaker 1: They were always like all shriveled up and like their
Speaker 1: you couldn't get their arms to go putting a raisin in, Yeah, but.
Speaker 4: A raisin with like a hat, a raison with.
Speaker 1: A hat and like hanger wire for arms, like they
Speaker 1: didn't then remember they couldn't get them to fully No, no,
Speaker 1: they like they didn't move, and so trying to get
Speaker 1: it inside the seat belt buckle, I was like, what
Speaker 1: is this?
Speaker 3: Am I uncandid camera?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: No, no, oh, because they're strong too. No one tells
Speaker 2: you how strong a newborn is. Yeah, if you don't
Speaker 2: want to.
Speaker 3: Move that arm, how about the legs in like the
Speaker 3: up position. Those things aren't moving either.
Speaker 4: They're not moving.
Speaker 2: No, they're in a full stork.
Speaker 3: They're like.
Speaker 4: Okay, back to baby names. Okay, that's interesting. Okay, So
Speaker 4: you didn't know.
Speaker 3: Did you? You had names for yours.
Speaker 2: I knew Lucas before I even had babies.
Speaker 4: Lucas was a name.
Speaker 3: You were having a boy, and it was going to
Speaker 3: be named Lucas.
Speaker 2: Yes, And when I was pregnant with Hayden, we were like,
Speaker 2: if it's a boy, it's Lucas, And so Lucas was Lucas.
Speaker 2: I did have a list of baby names for Hayden,
Speaker 2: and I went through a lot of them, but there
Speaker 2: was one name and I can't say it because I'm
Speaker 2: about to tell a story about it and it will
Speaker 2: just out that person.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: So I had one name that I absolutely loved forever.
Speaker 4: Matt really liked it for a girl too.
Speaker 2: And and then my uh but my uh ex boyfriends
Speaker 2: and my high school sweetheart that i'd been with for
Speaker 2: a really long time, like after I threw into college,
Speaker 2: we moved to Los Angeles together, ended up cheating on
Speaker 2: me with a pretty famous reality star that is still around.
Speaker 3: We're full of surprises, I know, why do we not
Speaker 3: know the story?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I need to tell you this story. So she's
Speaker 2: pretty famous. I mean that you definitely know her name.
Speaker 2: And she ended up naming her girl the year before,
Speaker 2: like maybe why maybe like a couple of years before
Speaker 2: I got pregnered with Hayden. My favorite baby name for
Speaker 2: a girl, and I can't say it because it's kind
Speaker 2: of an unusual name. Like if I said the name,
Speaker 2: would you Google would find it in two seconds and
Speaker 2: let's do it.
Speaker 1: Let's do it.
Speaker 2: No, I can't tell it out that Jessica Capsules, wheeling speed.
Speaker 3: Trouble make went a little trouble today.
Speaker 2: So it ruined it for me though, And then I
Speaker 2: kind of like, who cares, it doesn't matter, you can
Speaker 2: just still know. But it kind of it just didn't
Speaker 2: And honestly, I wish it hadn't because in a way,
Speaker 2: I feel like it would even have suited hated maybe
Speaker 2: a little bit more, but anyway.
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2: No, I did feel like my baby name was stolen
Speaker 2: without this person knowing we're not this girl.
Speaker 3: Knowing we named Luke.
Speaker 1: Then we got pregnant with you, we knew we were
Speaker 1: having a girl. And I had a friend who was
Speaker 1: pregnant at the same time as me, And what we
Speaker 1: all know about names in general is you actually probably
Speaker 1: shouldn't discuss them with anyone because everyone's got an opinion, right,
Speaker 1: and so then all of a sudden, they're gonna yeck,
Speaker 1: you're yum without even.
Speaker 4: Meaning to, or someone's gonna say, that's my baby name.
Speaker 1: You really best practices is you should just zip it, like,
Speaker 1: don't talk about your baby names.
Speaker 3: It's not a good idea.
Speaker 1: I did have a list and my friend who is
Speaker 1: also having her first baby, there was a name that
Speaker 1: was on both of our lists, but I was due
Speaker 1: before her, and it was my impression that she had
Speaker 1: not settled on any name. But I did know there
Speaker 1: was this name that was on both of our lists.
Speaker 1: And then baby Eve arrives and we don't what we
Speaker 1: didn't know was baby Eve baby girl arrives, and we
Speaker 1: are going through the exercise of naming her and we
Speaker 1: end up kind of zeroing in on this one shared name.
Speaker 3: And I'm like full of all the post partum.
Speaker 1: Feelings and the ups and downs, and it would like,
Speaker 1: on day three, it turns five o'clock and I'm crying
Speaker 1: in the kitchen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you don't even know why you're crying, but
Speaker 3: you're crying.
Speaker 1: And by the you're so happy, but you're like, I'm
Speaker 1: crying and that looks sad, but I'm actually happy, but
Speaker 1: I'm also really sad.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, all of those things. Yeah, and I have a.
Speaker 1: Nameless baby, which felt like some kind of pressure. And
Speaker 1: then and we zeroed in on this name and it
Speaker 1: sort of started seemed like it could be her name.
Speaker 1: And then this part is really fuzzy in my memory.
Speaker 1: But somehow that friend of mine who was still waiting
Speaker 1: for her baby, reached out and was like, where are
Speaker 1: you on the names? And I said, I think we're
Speaker 1: kind of narrowing it on these two. And one of
Speaker 1: them was the shared name, and she was devastated, hurt.
Speaker 1: Uh oh, it was a giant, giant, big, huge, giant giant.
Speaker 4: Issue.
Speaker 2: Oh. So wow.
Speaker 4: This is such an interesting story because I feel like,
Speaker 4: I don't know if this is fair.
Speaker 1: Well, I think probably The story is that sometimes in
Speaker 1: life neither side is fair. Like it's not like in
Speaker 1: life there's gonna be something that's not fair to someone,
Speaker 1: and that's exactly right.
Speaker 3: The story is not fair in my opinion. It was
Speaker 3: not fair to either one of.
Speaker 1: Us, right, because if she had settled on this, which
Speaker 1: in that at that point when there became this big issue,
Speaker 1: she it was her. It was her case that actually
Speaker 1: it was not a question mark over that name. It
Speaker 1: was already decided and even though this baby hadn't arrived yet,
Speaker 1: this was the name. And then it was a firm
Speaker 1: like planting in the soil, like this is mine. And
Speaker 1: I was sitting there looking at a baby.
Speaker 3: Without a name going and my husband was like, but
Speaker 3: I really like that name.
Speaker 4: And I was like.
Speaker 1: I really liked that name and I really love that friend.
Speaker 1: And so everything came into a cross section of like
Speaker 1: choice and again, wow, not very fertile ground, not very
Speaker 1: comfortable ground to be making big decisions a couple of
Speaker 1: days after having a baby. It's just everything is just
Speaker 1: like it's like you're walking around without skin. It's just
Speaker 1: like your sensitive to the whole world.
Speaker 2: I mean, she also like really left that to the
Speaker 2: last minute, like the week that your baby's out.
Speaker 4: She's like, actually that is the name for me, Like yeah.
Speaker 3: I know, I know, and you know what.
Speaker 1: I think that her story would and I think that
Speaker 1: her story would be that maybe it was before then
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know everything.
Speaker 4: You're still friends, can I ask, well, you know what?
Speaker 1: It was a very very big and very it caused
Speaker 1: a little bit of it caused a lot. Yes, we
Speaker 1: have absolutely since repaired, and I she was a longtime
Speaker 1: friend and I love her and she loves me, and
Speaker 1: absolutely there's been repair.
Speaker 3: But it was, it was, It was a big deal.
Speaker 1: So you look at these people who who you know,
Speaker 1: have situations where they feel like someone stole their name,
Speaker 1: and you're like, that's crazy, like what are people losing
Speaker 1: their minds about? But given that I had was in
Speaker 1: a situation, I you can can see why people lose
Speaker 1: their minds and and I think it's like not completely unforeseeable.
Speaker 4: Here's my opinion on it.
Speaker 2: I do think that if you have someone who's like
Speaker 2: my whole life, this has been the baby name that
Speaker 2: I've wounded, right, like, I think you let it go,
Speaker 2: Like even if you love the name, there are a
Speaker 2: million names out there and you have to let it go.
Speaker 2: I think that, Yeah, if if I you know, everyone
Speaker 2: sort of knew of my circle that I really loved Lucas,
Speaker 2: and if one of my very close friends had had
Speaker 2: a boy named and Lucas.
Speaker 4: I would have been pissed.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, even though.
Speaker 4: It's a common name, Like, I would have been really pissed.
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 3: I also had a friend. I mean again, I have
Speaker 3: four children. I did have a friend.
Speaker 1: During the naming process, there was a there was a
Speaker 1: we knew we were having a girl, and there was
Speaker 1: probably I don't know, five to ten names on the list,
Speaker 1: and my my friend knew what the names were.
Speaker 3: And then she got a dog and she named her dog.
Speaker 4: That is also not okay, are you kidding me? I was,
Speaker 4: but I was kind of like all right, I mean
Speaker 4: I actually didn't you didn't say anything.
Speaker 1: Uh uh.
Speaker 4: I was kind of I don't know, just had to
Speaker 4: make a joke.
Speaker 2: I would have had to be like, well thanks, woof, woof.
Speaker 2: That name was off the feelings really, like Benji wasn't
Speaker 2: available here, Peanut Butter, like literally, I mean, when it
Speaker 2: comes to a dog, like, you're dead to me. I
Speaker 2: used to friends with that person. Yes, why I hate
Speaker 2: this person, whoever you are.
Speaker 4: I don't like you. She's like Adam.
Speaker 3: I mean, but here's the thing.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is the point when it comes to
Speaker 1: this whole topic and and you know, reading about different
Speaker 1: people who lost their minds because of names.
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's how I feel.
Speaker 1: It's not personal. And I don't know if you noticed this,
Speaker 1: but it seems to me like sometimes not everyone gets
Speaker 1: c seed on like my most important thoughts, and then
Speaker 1: they are just like leading their lives and they do
Speaker 1: a thing and it goes against something or interrupts something
Speaker 1: of mine, and I'm like, okay, I have a choice here.
Speaker 3: I could either be like wound up around this and
Speaker 3: have this whole thing and melt on the floor, or
Speaker 3: I could be like, cool, that wasn't going to be
Speaker 3: my name. That's gonna be Woof Woof's name.
Speaker 4: I don't I really, I don't know if I agree
Speaker 4: with I don't know how her. I mean, you're so
Speaker 4: ndding on the floor, so nice.
Speaker 3: My children are so annoyed with me about it lately.
Speaker 4: About how nice you are.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, yeah, you got it.
Speaker 4: You gotta cut it out. I know, all right, it
Speaker 4: is ridiculous.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna try.
Speaker 2: So we started this conversation, and we got inspired by
Speaker 2: a People magazine article about a man who talked about
Speaker 2: how his sister knowingly used a baby name after Green
Speaker 2: not to I mean that basically sums up a story.
Speaker 2: I would be so frustrated about this, and people in
Speaker 2: the comments were suggesting that he have a conversation with
Speaker 2: his sister to express his feelings and to try and
Speaker 2: understand why she chose that name. I think that that
Speaker 2: would be the conversation I would have explain to me.
Speaker 2: I would have to say, like, listen, I'm not going
Speaker 2: to fake. This isn't hurtful, this is crazy, So explain
Speaker 2: to me why of the million names in the world,
Speaker 2: you were like, wait, that one's LA favorite. And then
Speaker 2: I'll also just still hate you after I'll hear you out,
Speaker 2: but like, I definitely hate you, definitely.
Speaker 1: Forever by the way I mean, given that we just
Speaker 1: dipped into something that was a sibling issue, yeah, I
Speaker 1: can divulge that you that if we were real sisters
Speaker 1: and I wasn't just your American version of a sister,
Speaker 1: you might hate me because it turns out I didn't
Speaker 1: know what I swear.
Speaker 3: I didn't.
Speaker 1: But my sister, Destrie, she asserts, and I believe her
Speaker 1: that she that Poppy was her baby name, but she
Speaker 1: was but she was fifteen when I had Poppy. So
Speaker 1: I mean, this one is where I the adult Jessica.
Speaker 1: I'm swear I'm not trying to be too nice. I
Speaker 1: just see everybody's perspective.
Speaker 3: I can imagine at fifteen when she was like, that's going.
Speaker 1: To be my name because it's a very specific name,
Speaker 1: like there's no other version of Poppy, and Poppy is
Speaker 1: such a great name. And I still, I mean, every
Speaker 1: time I say my daughter's name, I mean, all of
Speaker 1: them I love so much. But there's a real like
Speaker 1: snap to the poppy, right, like she's just like you
Speaker 1: can't say it and not be happy on some level. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's also hard because I know your kids and like
Speaker 1: your like their names. Just I can't imagine them not
Speaker 1: getting so well.
Speaker 2: I think that like, if you're fifteen and you have
Speaker 2: a name, I'm sure that, like Brittany was one of
Speaker 2: my names, you know, back when I was fifteen, Ginger Slice,
Speaker 2: because you wanted to grow up just like Britney Spears,
Speaker 2: it's gonna be yeah, exactly right. So I mean, I
Speaker 2: feel like you've got to enter an adult, fully formed
Speaker 2: brain before you can really claim it. However, if you're
Speaker 2: still claiming Poppy by you know, twenty one, that could
Speaker 2: be real.
Speaker 4: I know, yeah, but you.
Speaker 2: Then you gotta really announce it. I think you gotta
Speaker 2: really let people know, like listen, you.
Speaker 3: Know, well, Destri's my younger sister, so she would probably
Speaker 3: say I did. It's always the youngest.
Speaker 1: It's like, I'm talking here, Can you please listen to me?
Speaker 1: And it's tough and a family of seven.
Speaker 3: You gotta say aloud.
Speaker 4: You gotta email it.
Speaker 1: You gotta have evidence evidence, Yeah, you gotta yeah, get
Speaker 1: it trademarked.
Speaker 4: You got it trademarked, and then you yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: you can sue.
Speaker 1: You can sue.
Speaker 3: You need to get it notorized. You need to get
Speaker 3: that name outorized.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm glad that she's a poppy and I
Speaker 1: think the Destri's okay, and she's gonna come up with
Speaker 1: a great name for her daughter one day. Well.
Speaker 2: No, I'm curious because I like the idea of you
Speaker 2: saying that nobody just nobody talks about their baby names,
Speaker 2: because if you don't talk about it and then your
Speaker 2: friend names it that baby, you know, there's nothing you
Speaker 2: can really it is.
Speaker 3: What it is. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh, if we had never talked about it, and if
Speaker 1: I had never said what my name was, and that
Speaker 1: baby came and I named that baby. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: not like I wish this because everyone, listen, everyone ended
Speaker 1: up being named the right thing, right, So I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: I'm not worried about it at all. But it just
Speaker 3: it did suck what it created.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: But if the baby had come out and my friend
Speaker 3: just got the you know, announcement, what do you do? Nothing?
Speaker 1: So I do think I would stick with that. If
Speaker 1: I was going to continue to have some babies, I
Speaker 1: would not talk about it.
Speaker 4: It's hard though, you're so excited and you're not thinking
Speaker 4: about that. But there are there are some names dealers
Speaker 4: out there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, they're they're they're among.
Speaker 2: Us who walk among us, walk among us, and they
Speaker 2: will take your name. They'll get a hamster the name
Speaker 2: is John. Yeah, bird a bird, a goldfish, a goldfish.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's Hayden. There's Hayden. There's Old Hayden and Lucas
Speaker 4: swimming by. Yeah, oh great, those were just the names
Speaker 4: I loved. Never mind, look at.
Speaker 2: Old Poppy and Luke swimming away. To kill you, literally,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna kill you like I'm gonna name all my
Speaker 2: children your exes. Yeah, yeah, so you have to hear
Speaker 2: them every day.
Speaker 3: You can't name your kids, I know.
Speaker 4: And it's hard because one of my exes names was
Speaker 4: a good boy.
Speaker 1: Me too, me too, And actually it was a boy.
Speaker 1: Well he was a boy or he was a man,
Speaker 1: but he had kind of a name that could be both.
Speaker 1: And at one point it came up as an idea
Speaker 1: for a girl. But I was like, it was actually
Speaker 1: more me than anything. I was like, that name is
Speaker 1: done to me, that name because by the way, he
Speaker 1: was not.
Speaker 3: A good guy.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, see one of the guys I liked, he
Speaker 4: was he was a good guy. But I just you know,
Speaker 4: I can't do it because Matt knows my history, right,
Speaker 4: so he'd be like, I know they do.
Speaker 1: About that.
Speaker 4: They listen, well, they listen when they need to. Anyway,
Speaker 4: we want to hear from a calic crew.
Speaker 3: Yes we do. Has anyone stolen your name? Have you stolen?
Speaker 1: I want to hear from the people who've stolen the names?
Speaker 1: Come on, yes, that's you're not going to be seen.
Speaker 1: Why did you take that name? Why is the goldfish
Speaker 1: named that? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And why did you think you could get away with it?
Speaker 3: And were you see you feel any guilt?
Speaker 2: Guilt?
Speaker 3: All right, call it crew?
Speaker 4: We want to hear from the name stealers.
Speaker 2: We want, in fact, convince us why you're right, because
Speaker 2: right now we're not.
Speaker 4: We're not feeling, we're leaning out of it. We're leaning out.
Speaker 2: So I want to know why it's okay to steal
Speaker 2: a name. You tell us and we will hear from you. Yes,
Speaker 2: bring it on, all right, this is so fun.
Speaker 3: Let's call it the end of the episode.