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Speaker 2: Lucas is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can figure out why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: and when we call her in just a second. But first, Lucas,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Ella?

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Speaker 3: It's been like a week week.

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Speaker 4: So did you try contacting her after the date or

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Speaker 4: was that the last time you guys spoke.

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Speaker 3: I did contact her after and I hadn't heard from her.

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Speaker 3: There was no response.

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Speaker 4: Can you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So, well the way we met though, we'll do

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Speaker 3: that at the office party of the company that I

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Speaker 3: currently work at. Met there and we spent that night

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Speaker 3: just hanging out talking about oh why are you're saying

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Speaker 3: everything and this stuff, and I asked her to get

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Speaker 3: coffee a few days after that, and then that we did,

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Speaker 3: and I found she just like, really easy to talk to,

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Speaker 3: it really easy to get along with. I felt, you know,

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Speaker 3: I didn't feel like I had to try so hard

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Speaker 3: with her. She was really easy going and gorgeous. It's

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Speaker 3: funny time and yeah, and so then I did ask

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Speaker 3: her out again after And I just never heard of that.

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Speaker 4: You said you met her at an office party. Could

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Speaker 4: she be one of your bosses that you just don't

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Speaker 3: I have no idea. I mean, like I I don't

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Speaker 3: even know if she works with the company. Well, she

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Speaker 3: said that she was a guest of someone at the party,

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Speaker 3: so that's all I know.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 5: Was there anything that happened on the date that was

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Speaker 5: not want to talk to you again?

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Speaker 4: No, obviously you're lovely, Lucas. This isn't you know that, Lucas?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, I do have a tendency sometimes when

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Speaker 3: I'm talking, I raised my voice a little without realizing,

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Speaker 3: speaking a little bit louder than usual. And okay, I

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Speaker 3: like sometimes I get a little excited when I talk her.

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Speaker 3: I guess when I get really happy, I sometimes I

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Speaker 4: I can't control the volume of my voice. So you're

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Speaker 4: saying you yelled at her. She may not have realized

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Speaker 4: that was normal.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh god, I hope she didn't think I I

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Speaker 3: was the onelling at her for any reason I had.

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Speaker 3: I had no reason to yell at her. But if

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Speaker 3: I my voice was a little louder than usual than

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Speaker 3: I apologize.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I mean that could be you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: she thought you. You know, some people are very uncomfortable

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Speaker 2: with loud people. Yeah, in general, that could have been it.

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Speaker 5: I think I'm still kind of suspect as to who

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Speaker 5: she was even at that party with going back to

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Speaker 5: like the other thing, because we don't know if it's

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Speaker 5: like one of her friends. Maybe her friends got a

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Speaker 3: Oh I never thought of myself as off limits before.

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Speaker 2: Time to start to hit yourself that way, big boy.

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Speaker 2: All right, man, Well, let's play a song come Back,

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Speaker 2: and then we'll call her and see if we can

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Speaker 2: get her to tell us why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 2: maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, so I'm good, All right, plays song.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for the first Date follow Up,

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Speaker 2: we've got lovely Lucas on the phone. He's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a woman named Ella, and he doesn't know why.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call her and see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out. But first, Lucas, why don't you refresh

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Speaker 2: everybody's memory on the situation with Ella.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I met Ella at a party in office

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Speaker 3: party at the company that I work at. She was

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Speaker 3: But then after that coffee date, we just I never

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Speaker 4: Let's find out why she's ghosting you. Ready to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: All right, cool? Here we go. Hello, I me, I

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Speaker 4: speak to Ella. Please? Uh speaking Ella? How are you?

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Speaker 4: My name is Jewbile, host the radio show, and it's

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Speaker 4: called the Jebel Show. The whole show's here, Ella. My

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Speaker 4: name is Nina Hi Higan, I'm Victoria. Yep, so there's three.

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, what's up?

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Speaker 6: Hey, I'm actually fanning you guys, did I did I

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Speaker 4: Something or ella?

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you from somebody you want

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Speaker 2: on a date with. This is a first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing you know what that is.

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Speaker 6: I do, I do, but I haven't been on that

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Speaker 6: many dates lately, so I'm curious.

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Speaker 4: Well, his name is Lucas.

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Speaker 7: I remember Lucas.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and Lucas emailed us because he said he really

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Speaker 2: liked you, but you've been ghosting him.

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Speaker 4: Can you tell us why?

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Speaker 7: I didn't mean to ghost him.

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Speaker 6: I have been a little slow to respond, though, I'm

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Speaker 6: sorry about that.

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Speaker 7: I should have texted him back.

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Speaker 2: So you're.

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Speaker 6: It looks like it's a bit of a weird situation,

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Speaker 6: and I wasn't.

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Speaker 7: I've been like confused as to how to proceed. See,

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Speaker 7: it's even like hard for me to like finish that sentence.

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Speaker 4: You're making this real sketchy. What's going on?

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Speaker 6: I met him at like a work party, but I

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Speaker 6: went with my dad to his work party, and my

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Speaker 6: dad is his boss.

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Speaker 2: So your dad's Lucas's boss. Yeah, And does your dad

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Speaker 2: have a rule you don't you don't date the help?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean it's not that, but it's but yeah,

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Speaker 8: my dad is kind of a heart and he's very

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Speaker 6: It's like all he talks.

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Speaker 7: About he's I mean, I wouldn't want.

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Speaker 6: To work for him. He's my dad, but.

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Speaker 7: He's like a tough, tough guy. I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I kind of had figured it out earlier, but I

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Speaker 6: And then I felt awkward about that, and then I

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Speaker 7: I didn't know what to do, so I I should

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Speaker 7: have texted back, but it was like, how do you

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Speaker 7: text that? Like, Hey, my dad's your boss.

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Speaker 6: I feel like I feel like that's going to get

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Speaker 6: awkward real quick. So I wasn't sure quite how to

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Speaker 6: how to put that in text form.

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Speaker 7: It seems like a lot a lot for a.

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Speaker 4: Text speaking of getting awkward real quick. I mean, you

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Speaker 4: listen to the show, so I'm assuming that you forgot

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Speaker 4: a part of this.

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Speaker 2: What did I forgets Lucas is on the phone listening

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Speaker 2: and then this whole time wasn't talk.

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Speaker 6: To Hey, I did forget that.

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Speaker 7: Hey, Lucas, I I.

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Speaker 3: Apologize, you know what I'm I'm uh, it's understandable.

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Speaker 9: I what are the odds that I be interested in

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Speaker 9: the boss's daughter. So, so, Mike's your dad.

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Speaker 3: Huh, what are the odds? Yeah, yeah, well I know,

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Speaker 3: but still no, and I didn't.

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Speaker 6: I didn't think you were, and that's why I was

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Speaker 6: a bit at a loss for how to how to

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Speaker 6: tell you that. But no, I really enjoy hanging out

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Speaker 6: with you too. It's just I should have said something

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Speaker 7: But then I don't know. I mean, you you know

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's definitely a great at his job.

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Speaker 6: Great At that time, A very diplomatic answer, Lucas, I promise,

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Speaker 6: I promised.

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Speaker 7: He's not in the room with me.

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Speaker 3: I had a great time with view, and I completely

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Speaker 3: understand now. But you know, I'm still open to going

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I I really had a good time

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Speaker 6: anything to affect your job, not that nothing that it would,

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Speaker 6: but also you know understandably, you know you want to

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Speaker 7: My dad to like look at nothing that he would.

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Speaker 6: But I just don't want to create like a weird

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Speaker 3: I don't need to bring my work life up like

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Speaker 3: about work, uh while I'm out we're on a day

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Speaker 3: I'm doing it behind his back.

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Speaker 4: Ella, would you like to go on another day with

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Speaker 4: lucas We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, yeah, sure, I mean yeah, if you really,

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Speaker 6: And I do think my dad would would appreciate that

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Speaker 6: if you're and honestly, if you're up for sitting down

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Speaker 6: with him and saying that, then I definitely think we

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, it sounds like lovely. Lucas is an assertive

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Speaker 5: For everybody listening, this is also a lesson when a

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Speaker 5: man is into you, you will know this guy is

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Speaker 5: ready to go and talk to your dad about wanting

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Speaker 5: to go on a date.

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Speaker 4: And if some dude's not even texting you back, good point, I.

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Speaker 3: Will. I will talk to him and yeah, I am

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Speaker 3: definitely let's let's do it.

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Speaker 4: Sweet. Well, congratulations Lucas, you got another date.

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Speaker 3: Love this all right? Thank you guys very much.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: And thank you Ella, Yeah, thank you. I'm glad that

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