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Speaker 1: Sam here og host.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to these stories, but here's three

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Speaker 2: minutes fads from our sponsors. First, I caught my girlfriend

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Speaker 2: sending inappropriate photos to a friend. Oh no, they say

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Speaker 2: he's just a friend, but maybe not. For some context,

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Speaker 2: we have been going through a rough patch in our

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Speaker 2: relationship for the past five months. That's these amount of

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Speaker 2: time long.

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Speaker 1: Patch, that's almost a whole whole garden.

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Speaker 3: Right, But the stress of college and work life things

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Speaker 3: have been strenuous. She's in a nursing program, I'm in

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Speaker 3: a criminology course. Both of our schedules are pretty much full. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and the spare time we do normally have spent is

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Speaker 3: watching TV shows or playing games we both enjoy. By

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Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddits. So our

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Speaker 3: relationship has been going on for five years and a

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Speaker 3: long distance. I've always had doubts about the possibility of

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Speaker 3: hurt cheating, but nevertheless trusted her wholeheartedly.

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Speaker 1: I mean nursing.

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying it is the discipline where people cheap most,

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Speaker 2: but everyone else is.

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Speaker 3: I am just pointing to the number statistics. Statistics statistically

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Speaker 3: nurses cheap.

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Speaker 1: Most as Riley loves that one.

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Speaker 3: With the occasional fights happening over small, seemingly insignificant situations,

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Speaker 3: we have had a strained last few months. I knew

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Speaker 3: about her male friend strat What a name, that's cool,

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Speaker 3: who she met online through one of the games they

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Speaker 3: played together.

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Speaker 1: That's an awesome name. Yeah, I'm pretty high strat game player,

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Speaker 1: big strat man, big strat Man.

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Speaker 3: I had my worries, but nevertheless I trusted her. In

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Speaker 3: April of this year, we had a large, fright fight

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Speaker 3: about my brother's girlfriend. I'm currently sharing a house with

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Speaker 3: my brother and his girlfriend is living with us too.

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Speaker 3: I tried to avoid speaking with her, not because of

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Speaker 3: any issue I have with her, but more so than

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Speaker 3: I am too busy and have my attention elsewhere with

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Speaker 3: school and work. I have no interest in having any

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Speaker 3: type of friendly relationship with my brother's girlfriend of three months.

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Speaker 1: I mean, all right, sure, I.

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Speaker 2: Guess, bro, you know, I mean, you don't need to

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Speaker 2: convince us. Yeah, I swear I'm not into my brother's

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Speaker 2: girl for next square. Oh okay, that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: That makes sense.

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Speaker 3: I thought he was just saying, like, I'm so busy,

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Speaker 3: be friendly say hello. I could have used that half

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Speaker 3: second to, you know.

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Speaker 1: Do some more. Gosh, Dan's criminology. Come on, I don't

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Speaker 1: stop and I don't stops. You think these criminals are

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Speaker 1: taking time to say hello. No, they're getting right to

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Speaker 1: the straight straight to stabbing. Oh man.

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Speaker 3: So, however, my fiance has been adamant that I have

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Speaker 1: Ah see, there we go for Sam, what's right?

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Speaker 3: This whole argument lasted two days and ended us with

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Speaker 3: us not speaking for roughly one month and long distance

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Speaker 1: And how long have they been dating? Uh? Oh, what

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Speaker 1: was it again? I think it was five months? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: You're right, brof of your relationship you haven't been talking?

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Speaker 1: Is crazy? I don't know, man, this is not stable ground.

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Speaker 3: Well this was because I told her I do not

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Speaker 3: near conclusion. That solves the problem. So she's like, great,

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Speaker 1: That's hilarious.

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Speaker 3: We both had finals coming up and needed to study

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Speaker 3: and focus on what's important for our future rather than.

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Speaker 1: Bickering over something so small.

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Speaker 3: Well, yesterday I found out that during the last five

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Speaker 3: Five months Yep, big, strap and strat, Strap and strad.

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Speaker 2: I mean he knows, he knows the strat, he knows

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Speaker 1: He's a strapping young man. He has a strap on

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Speaker 3: Oh god, he's strapped on all his emotional intelligence, his

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Speaker 1: I e. She asked him for money and he gave

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Speaker 3: But as it turns out, she also took time spent

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Speaker 3: more spicy related side. He was consoling her over a

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Speaker 1: Babe, this one's cold, Wonderwall. Riddle me this what is

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Speaker 3: A spicy pick or a video of him singing Wonderwall

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Speaker 2: What is he saying back, you're my wonderwall Oh that

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Speaker 1: Game over, it's a marriage.

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Speaker 3: She claims to not remember much of what happened, even

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Speaker 3: she sent him new dy photographs of herself. Wait what Yep,

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Speaker 3: she remembered that, and that's what she did. She sent

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Speaker 2: During during during the month off during during the month

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Speaker 2: where they didn't talk because he was like, I don't

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Speaker 2: want to argue without a conclusion, so she said bet

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Speaker 2: and they didn't say anything to each other during that month.

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Speaker 2: I like to think that like nothing nothing was actually

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Speaker 2: like they were like, no, it's not worth taking a

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Speaker 1: It was just who was gonna not talk for long? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Game of chicken? Yeah, game that That's that's truly all lost.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, she initiated this spicy related encounter, and he

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Speaker 3: was hesitant to reciprocate. As she told me, man, she's

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Speaker 3: I mean, I got it. Seems like she's being honesty.

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Speaker 3: She's the play by play. She's like, yeah, I was

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Speaker 3: here's here. How about thirty more than that?

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Speaker 2: Change your mind down his pant he was wearing box

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Speaker 2: their briefs, like, well, if you can't took that little

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Speaker 2: you know, like the little hole they have in the

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Speaker 1: Oh man, right underneath groundhog Day is here.

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Speaker 3: I am crushed and hurt that she would sit there

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Speaker 3: life I would speak to outside of work for work

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Speaker 1: You're like, you didn't talk for a month.

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Speaker 3: Though It's it's true, but it's also like I think,

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Speaker 3: I think what he should have done is like, hey,

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Speaker 3: like where are we?

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Speaker 1: What are we? Like? Yeah, I know, I think I

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Speaker 1: think she she she definitely did.

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Speaker 2: Wrong, but I get a few days. Yeah, not talking

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Speaker 3: But like a month is like I would think after

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Speaker 3: a week you'd be like, hey, like are you okay?

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Speaker 1: Like can we can we like just figure out what's

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Speaker 3: Like what are you feeling? Yeah? Also, can we put

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Speaker 3: up a pole? Because I'm just too curious underwall or dpic?

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Speaker 3: The poll is up, so let me know I'm very curious.

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Speaker 3: I gave a considerable portion of my time and money

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Speaker 3: in order to try and make things work, despite the distance,

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Speaker 3: going as far as to pay for all of her

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Speaker 3: trips for us to meet Wow. This totaled roughly ten

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Speaker 1: Yeah, flying, flying dates, that's a lot. That is cot

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Speaker 3: That's you know, it's money. Not to mention the ring

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Speaker 3: I gave her when I proposed I thought it would

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Speaker 3: be a good idea to use my great grandmother's engagement

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Speaker 3: ring that was passed down to my mom. I asked

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Speaker 3: my parents' permission and used around seven thousand dollars to

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Speaker 3: redesign it while staying true to the original ring. This

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Speaker 1: We're in the hole here.

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Speaker 3: This money was used to resize the ring and to

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Speaker 3: have a large one carrot diamond sent set in the

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Speaker 3: ring as a center stone, using the previous significantly smaller diamonds.

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Speaker 1: To line the edges of the ring.

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Speaker 3: She was so happy and ecstatic to have been proposed

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Speaker 3: they were engaged. Yeah, dude, And it felt as if

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Speaker 3: lay awake at night thinking of possibilities for a wedding

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Speaker 3: or honeymoon, our future everything.

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Speaker 1: Let it all.

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Speaker 2: Came crashing down, All came crashing down. After finding out

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Speaker 2: how she so easily showed her entire body to another

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Speaker 2: the right decision choosing me over him.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, do you need another Like.

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Speaker 2: Why are we here? Why are we in this relationship?

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Speaker 2: Do you need another reason to stay?

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Speaker 3: I at this point, I feel like at first I

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Speaker 1: Now I feel like she's like kind of goating him

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Speaker 1: break up with her. You can go back with.

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Speaker 2: Strat strassh always with the strat Strat's like old straddle

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Speaker 2: strap a ringer on your finger.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you will yet here I got you, baby, Sophia.

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Speaker 1: Could you ponder for someone to.

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Speaker 2: Get a go go juice of some juice, any type

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Speaker 2: of go go juice will do.

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Speaker 1: Indeed, we might be irrations might be low. Or coffee

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Speaker 3: She was genuinely considering leaving me for another man after

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Speaker 3: all I have done for her. She's not remorseful about

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Speaker 3: her actions, and it makes me think that she would

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Speaker 3: do it again. She has told me that despite her

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's whack dang dang dang.

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Speaker 3: Well, I am torn on whether or not I should

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Speaker 3: put in the effort to continue the relationship. I still

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Speaker 3: I'm worried if it's even.

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Speaker 1: Able to be saved.

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Speaker 3: She says she wants our relationship to continue, but I'm

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Speaker 3: unsure if it's possible. Yes, it was just nudy photographs,

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Speaker 3: but I can't help but wonder if it was anything more.

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Speaker 1: Were there other guys?

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Speaker 3: And hey, Opie, even just you know, nudy photographs. It's

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Speaker 3: okay if you like that that is that's not perfectly,

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Speaker 3: that is enough, that is perfectly okay.

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Speaker 1: If you're like, hey, this is.

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Speaker 3: Not it for me, all of my greatest fears are

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Speaker 3: However, it didn't fit, which I already knew. I guess

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Speaker 3: As far as if I knew the guy existed.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I did. His strat was to be known.

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Speaker 3: I even expressed my discomfort to her multiple times, as

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Speaker 1: It took a long time to get cleaned, getting dirty Sudsey.

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Speaker 3: Following are some messages word for word from the time

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Speaker 3: I called her out. I am Sean and she is

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Speaker 3: Elizabeth Opie. Tell me the truth or leave me alone.

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Speaker 3: Don't BS me. I'm not cheating on you. Look at

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Speaker 3: what I sent you on TikTok okay, OPI, yeah, I

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Speaker 3: saw it. It's bs. I'm not effing stupid. There's another guy,

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Speaker 3: so tell me the truth. There's no other guy. I

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Speaker 3: a of course, so you make me think you're cheating

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Speaker 3: on me. Good idea dot dot dot. You weren't saying

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Speaker 1: Yesterday starts. Everything is fine.

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Speaker 3: I even come home from work on my break to

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Speaker 3: I would say so. Obviously I did something wrong to

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Speaker 3: I hung up, and you thought, you know what, let

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Speaker 1: So basically this is so toxic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, the tiding each other on social media publicly

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Speaker 3: So to spell out what's what's happened here, it seems

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Speaker 3: that she made a TikTok talking about Stratt and how

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Speaker 1: It was like, oh my god, what a great guy.

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Speaker 3: Whatever to what I believe in response was to him

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Speaker 1: Platonic, like pasta talk you know, yikes, yeah, big, yikes,

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Speaker 3: I don't I don't know if this relationship is the

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Speaker 1: But well, let's see the story. I don't know what's

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Speaker 4: Expressing gratitude multiple times is a heartful way to I

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Speaker 3: Why?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? What is til darbot? Who are you listening to?

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Speaker 1: Dingis bot? AnyWho?

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Speaker 3: And that it's a result of me not responding to

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Speaker 3: I don't buy it. I'm positive you are cheating on

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Speaker 3: me with someone else. Don't don't me. Just tell me

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Speaker 3: You didn't talk to me last night. You sent me

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Speaker 1: You reassured me by.

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Speaker 3: Telling me that it was an insignificant, insignificant fing convo.

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Speaker 3: And yet for me, I saw it differently, and I

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Speaker 3: I do not like this one bit, Obie says. At

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Speaker 3: I waited for you to do that. I waited for

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Speaker 3: it took you so long, and then I think realized

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Speaker 5: What?

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Speaker 1: I didn't even mute myself. Any person, even you would

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm not sure when the whole TikTok

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Speaker 3: All you had to say was that it's your fault

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Speaker 3: or explanation. You'll say, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it,

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Speaker 3: I love you, blah blah blah blah. But it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: Now you're only saying it because I asked you to.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. I'll let you get the last word in,

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Speaker 1: but afterwards you should go study. I'm gonna go to Betterly.

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Speaker 1: I have to get up at seven tomorrow for a

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Speaker 1: doctor's appointment. Are you clicking through? Oh my god? What

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Speaker 1: is it? More of this conversation. There's a lot more.

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Speaker 3: It's still okay, it's basically just this until the end

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Speaker 1: Is it interesting?

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Speaker 3: Let's close out, and I think this is just a

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Speaker 1: So by the way, if.

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Speaker 3: You love listening to us, Oh boy, do I have

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Speaker 3: some news for you, go to Apple, Spotify or heart

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Speaker 3: Radio and search. Okay, story time and Binge to your

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Speaker 3: heart skin two thousand episodes. That's a lot of good

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Speaker 3: what happens at the end of this story. Here we go,

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Speaker 3: so this will probably be the end of my story.

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Speaker 3: Thank you all for coming along this crap show ride

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Speaker 3: with me, and.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the advice.

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Speaker 3: It helps me kind of justify what I've already been

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Speaker 3: telling myself. If you want another update with like every

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Speaker 3: single message she sent me during those fights, oh my god,

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Speaker 3: I cannot.

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Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no, please to God know and you know what,

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Speaker 3: I can do so, but not tonight. I'm tired from

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Speaker 3: work and exhausted from what happened. I'm exhausted from just

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Speaker 3: reading your text. I also feel like the update more

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Speaker 3: than answered some of your questions. So thanks again for

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Speaker 3: reading and have a good life all who stopped by.

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Speaker 3: Best regards at s Z twenty three mail.

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Speaker 2: Twenty three year olds to be in love and to

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Speaker 2: be twenty three again.

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Speaker 1: You know that's a beautiful thing.

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Speaker 3: Your girlfriend making tiktoks about handsome men paying their bills

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Speaker 3: and looking strapping.

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Speaker 1: Yep, don't we love it? Don't don't we love it?

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Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

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Speaker 3: back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute

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Speaker 3: break from ask for more sponsors.

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Speaker 1: We got another one coming right up. We got another one,

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Speaker 1: come right up. My girlfriend said she quit smoking, but

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Speaker 1: I know she's lying. Okay, maybe you have.

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Speaker 2: A smoking gun. So my girlfriend twenty four female and

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Speaker 2: I twenty four non binary, have been together for two

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Speaker 2: and a half years.

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Speaker 1: We both met.

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Speaker 2: We both vaped pretty consistently. I, however, since childhood, have

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Speaker 2: had a few complications with my lungs. I know, not wise,

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Speaker 2: but I was stupid, and after a few years of

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Speaker 2: doing it, on New Years of twenty twenty three, I

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Speaker 2: decided that I wanted to quit. Hey, let's go. I

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Speaker 2: personally really wanted to stop because I knew it wasn't

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Speaker 2: doing me any favors. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: Unique Hero one one two. If you want us smit

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Speaker 2: your own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime stubrette it. So,

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Speaker 2: my girlfriend Leyla fake name, I continued to vape after

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Speaker 2: I quit, and honestly, I really didn't care if she

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Speaker 2: did or not. She's an adult and until she decided

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Speaker 2: she wanted to quit, then that was a choice that

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Speaker 2: she could continue with. Oh, he's quit and vapor but

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Speaker 2: doesn't expect her girlfriend to do so, can't control or

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Speaker 2: their girlfriend to do so. Then in April of this year,

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty four, I was hospitalized and admitted for five

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Speaker 2: days due to a flare up in my lungs.

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Speaker 4: WHOA.

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Speaker 2: I was really cautious for a few weeks about things

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Speaker 2: like vape smoke getting near me because of how reactive

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Speaker 2: my lungs had been. And Layla was incredibly respectful, loving

488
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Speaker 2: and awesome during that time and actively made it her

489
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Speaker 2: mission to not vape in front of me. Very good,

490
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Speaker 2: which I know is the bare minimum, but also it

491
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Speaker 2: was nice to know she was actively being mindful. In June,

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Speaker 2: Lailah sat me down and told me that she really

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Speaker 2: wanted to quit vaping because she feared for my health

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Speaker 2: and didn't want to contribute to my lung problem in

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Speaker 2: the long run.

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Speaker 1: That is sweet. Yes, I love that.

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Speaker 2: She didn't talk about her quitting journey much, which was

498
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Speaker 2: fair because I didn't either when I was going through it.

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Speaker 2: To help with the cravings, though, she was chewing on

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Speaker 2: nicotine gum, which seemed to do her good. The longer

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Speaker 2: time passed, the more I noticed she didn't need it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I feel like she's wean and off. This

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Speaker 1: seems great.

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Speaker 2: I was so proud of her and try to make

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Speaker 2: sure she knew it all the time.

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Speaker 1: In July confessed that she was struggling pretty hard mentally.

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Speaker 1: She then had a large breakdown. Oh.

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Speaker 2: I spent the weekend comforting and making sure she was okay.

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Speaker 2: But after that, unfortunately a lot of things started happening,

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Speaker 2: so we couldn't see one another for more than a

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Speaker 2: day or two each week. It was hard, but we managed.

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Speaker 2: Then fast forward till last night. It was the first

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Speaker 2: time in a while we had been able to hang out,

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Speaker 2: and we were going to be together all weekend. We

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Speaker 2: were sitting on the couch and I noticed a new

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Speaker 2: pack of one hundred and fifty nicotine gums on the

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Speaker 2: coffee table. Oh, that's a solid back. Seems like a lot,

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Speaker 2: But also I don't know so how.

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Speaker 1: Many how many nicotine gums does one go through in

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Speaker 1: a day? Let us know Chess.

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Speaker 2: I asked her about it because it seemed like one

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Speaker 2: hundred and fifty was a little excessive.

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Speaker 1: Okay, there we go.

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Speaker 2: She'd been doing really well, or at least that's what

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Speaker 2: I thought. She took a moment for confessing that she

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Speaker 2: had been smoking SIGs every day since her breakdown. She

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Speaker 2: had been showering every day, washing her hair and all

528
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Speaker 2: her clothes regularly, and actively hiding it from me. I

529
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Speaker 2: was so shocked. I asked if she would have ever

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Speaker 2: told me, and she said that the only questions I'd.

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Speaker 1: Been asking her were about vaping. What she had not done,

532
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Speaker 1: not smoking. Ah, the old pole, the old loophole.

533
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Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, which is worse vaping her cigarettes?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Obviously cigarettes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel it's like it.

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Speaker 2: It feels like, hey, like, babe, I really don't think

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Speaker 2: you should be like watching any corn anymore. Like all right,

539
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Speaker 2: all right, babe, I won't. And then you just start

540
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Speaker 2: hooking up with prostitutes.

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Speaker 1: They're like, I'm not watching porn anymore. I said I would,

542
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Speaker 1: said I wouldn't know. You didn't say nothing to do this.

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Speaker 6: Come on, she's a professional, a working woman, she has

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Speaker 6: a family, call and if I had asked, she would

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Speaker 6: have told me, but I had no idea.

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Speaker 2: We had a long talk last night about it. She

547
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Speaker 2: said that it has been just for me and something

548
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Speaker 2: that I didn't need to be clued in on, and

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Speaker 2: she likinged it to me reading smut. I don't tell

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Speaker 2: her what I'm reading all the time, but I do

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Speaker 2: tell her and that has to amount to something, right.

552
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Speaker 2: She talked about how she wanted to quit hence the gum,

553
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Speaker 2: because it made her feel gross, but she had just

554
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Speaker 2: bought a new packet and she wasn't hurting anyone but herself,

555
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Speaker 2: so she didn't think it was relevant to bring up.

556
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Speaker 2: But it isn't the smoking that I am still reeling about.

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Speaker 2: It's the line, which again, like I think in any

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Speaker 2: relationship that's actually what matters. Yea, yea, I think like

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Speaker 2: this is, you know, it would be great if she

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Speaker 2: didn't smoke around Opie and all that because of the

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Speaker 2: health reasons.

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Speaker 1: But that's like Opie never never asked her to quit smoking.

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Speaker 2: She like said it of her own volition, and then

564
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Speaker 2: spun up this whole lie about like pretending someone who

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Speaker 2: she's not.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well and correct me if I'm wrong.

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Speaker 3: It seemed like she was like doing good, was off it,

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Speaker 3: but then she had kind of like a like a break,

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Speaker 3: like an emotional breakdown, as she said, and then that's

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Speaker 3: when she just started like kind of like binging cigarettes

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Speaker 3: excee themes for that.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, it's it's still the lying. Yeah, No,

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Speaker 1: for sure, for sure.

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Speaker 3: I mean like I was gonna say, like maybe she

575
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Speaker 3: just felt like she like let her down or disappointed

576
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Speaker 3: her with everything, but it doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Never, it never justifies it. No, it doesn't. It doesn't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like, why especially about something that she

579
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Speaker 3: It's not like she it was an expectation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: I think again, like it's a trust and a partner

582
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Speaker 2: is so important. If you start to realize they're lying

583
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Speaker 2: about small things, you're.

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Speaker 1: Like, what else are you lying about? It? It erodes

585
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Speaker 1: at the trust foundation of everything. At a situation short, okay, storytime.

586
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Speaker 1: At a situation that happened. I've told you this story,

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Speaker 1: you know, the story about tragic I it is a good,

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Speaker 1: good one to hear.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean I was dating this girl and I'm like, oh,

591
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Speaker 2: you should buy this like skirt I saw. I think

592
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Speaker 2: it was looked cute on you and she's like, okay,

593
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Speaker 2: I'll buy it, and she's like I just bought it.

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00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 2: I'm like okay, cool. And then a week later, I'm like,

595
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Speaker 2: do you buy the skirt? And she's like, oh, it's coming,

596
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 2: it's in the mail. And a week later, I'm like.

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Speaker 1: Did you ever buy that skirt?

598
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Speaker 2: And she's like, uh, yeah, I did. It's like coming.

599
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 2: It's like you said it was coming like a while ago.

600
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Speaker 2: And she's like, well it didn't come, Like did you act?

601
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Speaker 2: I don't know if I believe you bought the skirt.

602
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 2: And then later that night she sends me a photo

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Speaker 2: at badly photoshopped picture of her like buying the skirt

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Speaker 2: and like the dates changed when she bought it, and

605
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Speaker 2: like like but she used like comic sands and instead

606
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Speaker 2: of like comics again.

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Speaker 1: What the I was?

608
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Speaker 2: I was so surprised that she would lie about something

609
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 2: so silly that literally meant nothing, and she I'm like, hey, like,

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Speaker 2: I don't think we could keep seeing each other because

611
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 2: she had like this was a relationship that where she

612
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 2: can kind of had lied before. And she's like, you're

613
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 2: gonna break up over something so small and I'm like, well,

614
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Speaker 2: it's not the fact that you didn't buy. I don't

615
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 2: care if you bought a skirt. I just cared that

616
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Speaker 2: you lied about it for weeks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and honestly, that you would lie about something that

618
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 3: small that it lends us to believe that there's a

619
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 3: lot of other things that could be lies.

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Speaker 2: That's what there was, oh dear. Anyway, actively, So it's

621
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Speaker 2: not about this vaping. It's the lying actively hiding something

622
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Speaker 2: this big for me when she knew that I didn't

623
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Speaker 2: care that she had vaped for a majority of our relationship.

624
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Speaker 2: I'm still at her place while she is at work,

625
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: and I don't know what to do about this. I

626
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 2: want to confront her properly about my feelings, but I

627
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 2: don't want to impose on her choices. How do I

628
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 2: confront her about this without making her feel shameful or guilty?

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Speaker 1: What should I do?

630
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 2: I love her so much and it hurts knowing she

631
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 2: kept something like this so secret. We have some comments,

632
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 2: we have some updates, but I would love to know

633
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 2: from from chat and from John, like what do you

634
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 2: think about the situation?

635
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: Is this breakup worthy? Is this? You know? Talk about it? Like? What? What?

636
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: What do you think should be done? Here?

637
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 6: Again?

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00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 3: The one thing I'll give her is maybe she felt

639
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: a lot of shame with uh, you know, with the

640
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 3: lung health issues she had, and you know also like

641
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 3: I guess, being in an emotional breakdown, like not being

642
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 3: in the right headspace.

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00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 1: So I think it's a sit down.

644
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: But basically be like, hey, like we need trust to

645
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 3: be the foundation of our relationship. Like it's again, it's

646
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 3: not it's not about the the smoking. It's about the lying.

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Speaker 3: And I want to make sure that like we're on

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00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 3: the same page. And like I do think they're any

649
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 3: any any time a lie is said, you know, it

650
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 3: puts into it can put things into questions. So as

651
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: Taylor at the Law at the Lost Toy says in chat,

652
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Speaker 3: a lie is a lie.

653
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I think, yeah, need.

654
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Speaker 2: To talk about that, And I think I think there's

655
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 2: a couple of ways to go about it. It's one

656
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 2: is like, is this lying deep into the relationship? You

657
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 2: find If it's like deep and it comes out in

658
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 2: multiple ways in the relationship, then maybe it's not a

659
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: relationship that you can build up upon. But if it's

660
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,959
Speaker 2: just this one thing and it's coming maybe from like

661
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Speaker 2: guilt and shame, which it sounds like it is Yeah,

662
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Speaker 2: there might be a path forward where oh, P can

663
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Speaker 2: basically be like, hey, like, I know it's hard to quit,

664
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Speaker 2: and I know you went through this tough time and

665
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 2: just know like for these things, I'm not going to

666
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 2: judge you for this. I but I will I will

667
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 2: judge if you lie to me. Yeah, but I will

668
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 2: never judge you for telling well never, But I like it,

669
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 2: like I I will always appreciate the truth rather than

670
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 2: a lie. Yes, you can work with the truth, yeah, exactly, exactly,

671
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 2: we can build a relationship upon truth. Yes, and so

672
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 2: uh maybe that is like like maybe you can assuage

673
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 2: some of the guilt feelings that this person is feeling

674
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: that's causing the line.

675
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's also just like how how deep this

676
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Speaker 1: is the lot do? Let's go indeed, but we got

677
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Speaker 1: some comments. Oh oh we got some updates. Oh Babby

678
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Speaker 1: cakes McGee, let's get into the comments.

679
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Speaker 2: So common one, she needs to want to quit for

680
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 2: her self, not anybody else. To me, that is just

681
00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 2: a white lie. And she just didn't want you to

682
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 2: be disappointed in her. If you truly love her like

683
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 2: you say you, Uh, it shouldn't be that big of

684
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 2: a deal too. Your girlfriend is struggling with being a

685
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 2: regular user and the substance use in a time of crisis.

686
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 2: If that's something that's unacceptable to you, then you'll have

687
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 2: to remove yourself from the situation. But in my opinion,

688
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 2: this is a health episode which demands empathy and teamwork,

689
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 2: not finger pointing. I advise you to stay in her

690
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 2: corner on our journey back to better health and hope

691
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 2: he responds, thanks for this. I do want to be

692
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: in her corner and support her, but I also think

693
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 2: I have some residual fears about my health since the

694
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: incident happened earlier this year. But I am reeling a

695
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 2: bit from the shock of it as well, I think,

696
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 2: And here's the update.

697
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: Oh, I do think there should be grace given, Like

698
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Speaker 1: I think I think so personally, especially if it's not

699
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 1: you know, the lies haven't worked their way into all

700
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 1: of the relationship. If it's this one segmented like like

701
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 1: we said, like, I think we could build it up,

702
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: but I think you're just like you know, closer and

703
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: now and work on the relationship is needed.

704
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:03,959
Speaker 3: The example you shared it kind of makes you put

705
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 3: everything into question. This one was like, Oh, I see why,

706
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 3: I can see how the guilt and shame and the

707
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 3: emotional breakdown, like what led you to you know, do

708
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 3: this wrong? And to me, if I was OP, it

709
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 3: would put me in less of a headspace of like,

710
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 3: oh is everything.

711
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: Other a ton of other lives.

712
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, but we got an up day we go.

713
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 2: So firstly, thank you to everyone who commented on my post.

714
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 2: Some were harsh, but the criticism of my thoughts and

715
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 2: actions was a really good wake up call. Reading the

716
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 2: comments that talked about how this is a sign of

717
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 2: a true regular user and that I needed to just

718
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 2: approach this with sympathy and patience were helpful because I

719
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 2: won't lie. I was pretty shocked and a little hurt

720
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 2: when I found out she had been actively hiding her

721
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 2: smoking for me. I resonated with the comments so much.

722
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 2: We sat with a Kappa and had a long chat

723
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 2: the night I made the post. It was actually really

724
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 2: nice and I felt good knowing how she felt. The

725
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 2: night falling was Saturday and I had my house roaring

726
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 2: party for my new apartment. My friends and both my

727
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 2: roommate's friends were coming over. I was super excited, and

728
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 2: Layla fake name came over to mine early to help

729
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 2: me set up the party to help to keep setting up,

730
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 2: and then we got ready together. The party started off awesome,

731
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 2: with about twenty five people squashed my little apartment. That

732
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 2: was until nine thirty when Leayla went out for smoke

733
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 2: with another girl. I had told Layla prior if she

734
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 2: wanted to smoke, she'd need to walk out to the

735
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 2: side street next to my apartment because there are some

736
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 2: pretty strict smoking rules, but I told her to go ahead.

737
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 2: I didn't know the other girl. I'd assumed it was

738
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 2: a friend of one of my roommates and gave Layla

739
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 2: a kiss goodbye before she left.

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Speaker 1: Do we have an icu icee us?

741
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 3: They might be popping up ladies and gentlemen. Are we

742
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 3: putting that in the chat?

743
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 2: Oh obay granted. Everyone at this point was a good

744
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 2: amount of tipsy, including myself. Laila was gone for forty

745
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 2: five minutes. Started to miss her and a little wasted

746
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 2: I was, and sent her a bunch of texts asking

747
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 2: when she was coming back. I got no response, so

748
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 2: I went into my room and from the vantage point

749
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 2: of my bedroom window I can see on the end

750
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 2: of my small street. Sure enough, I could clearly see

751
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 2: Layla and this girl making out against a brick wall.

752
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: Oh the lie lies, the lies, they keep coming. Oh

753
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 1: oh oh man.

754
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 2: Okay, Like I see what people were saying in the

755
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 2: Reddit comments, where it's like, all right, you know, the

756
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 2: substance users, it's a common habit to lie about the

757
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 2: substance because it's a hard thing to get over. And

758
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 2: I understand that, like that, yes, that that like or

759
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 2: I don't understand it, but like theoretically, I I get that.

760
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 2: But if someone's in that position, are they ready for

761
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 2: like to come together in a relationship that's supposed to

762
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: be built on integrity and trust or do they really

763
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 2: just need to focus on themselves and like figure it out,

764
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 2: Like maybe they need to do that, not in the

765
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 2: context of the relationship, ye, or in the content of themselves,

766
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 2: maybe with support from a distance.

767
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 3: Totally could be yeah, yeah, it's like and it gave

768
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Speaker 3: me the benefit of the doubt.

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Speaker 1: And then here we are, here, we are, here, we

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Speaker 1: are Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I know.

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Speaker 2: I also like I feel like the comments last one

773
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 2: were turning Opie's thoughts. You know, they're like, oh, maybe

774
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 2: I should give another chance, and then here we are.

775
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 2: Hannah says, Okay, I thought cheating, but wasn't sure. Yeah,

776
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 2: Taylor at the loss says, see if she could lie small,

777
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:30,240
Speaker 2: she could.

778
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: Lie big, and that was a big one.

779
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 2: It's a big one. That's a big one. So I

780
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 2: shut down and locked myself in the bathroom. I don't

781
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 2: know how long it was in there, but when I

782
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 2: got out, Laylah was back with the other girl. A

783
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 2: part of me wanted to cry and scream, but another

784
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 2: part of me wanted to deny it ever happened, and

785
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 2: so I did that. I drank heaps, party hard, and

786
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 2: then everyone left at one am, but Layla stayed over

787
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,839
Speaker 2: so she didn't have to drive, and obviously she's my girlfriend, right,

788
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 2: I won't lie.

789
00:35:58,000 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: I was wasted.

790
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,760
Speaker 2: We had spicy sleep at the party, and when we finish,

791
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 2: I told her what I'd seen. She said she had

792
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 2: a feelia I'd found out because I'd been acting weird,

793
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 2: and said that she'd been seeing Zara fake name for

794
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 2: three and a half weeks. They met through a mutual friend,

795
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 2: and Zara took my girlfriend to the smoker's area of

796
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 2: the bar the night after Lailah's breakdown, and they seem

797
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 2: to click. Lailah has been seeing her since sh I

798
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,880
Speaker 2: felt numb I can't believe I didn't see the signs

799
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 2: and yet I let Laylah sleep over, but when I

800
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 2: woke up, she was gone.

801
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Speaker 1: The next morning.

802
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 2: Oh it's been a few days since and she hasn't

803
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 2: said a single thing, no text, no calls, and I

804
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 2: have no clue what the heck to do. After two

805
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 2: and a half years in this relationship, this is the

806
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 2: first time I felt so alone.

807
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:44,359
Speaker 1: Wow, are we over?

808
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 2: Why did she walk out on me when she's been

809
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 2: cheating on me? I know I should break up with her,

810
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 2: but I love her so much. Nothing feels real at

811
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 2: the moment. But I thought I would update, and we

812
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 2: got some comments and we got some responses from Ope.

813
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 1: John, I mean, what do you think breakup? Or Nah?

814
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 3: I feel like this is breakup because it's like again

815
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 3: first thing, we were like, okay, you know, maybe you know,

816
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:13,280
Speaker 3: maybe this isn't indicative of other things. This is clearly

817
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 3: like it feels like there's just no care. There's just

818
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 3: no care here, like we're concerned for like Op's well

819
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,919
Speaker 3: emotional well being or anything like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I just super whack whack.

821
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 2: Whack, And we gave we gave her the benefit that

822
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: someone asked, what as the gender of op op is

823
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Speaker 2: don binary.

824
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: Yes, so whack, dude, so whack.

825
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 2: I do think our our thought process was sound, Yes,

826
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 2: where it's like, hey, you know, this could just be

827
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 2: one lie, one moment. But I think this combined with

828
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 2: this smooth chin.

829
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's it's so clear. It's so clear you

830
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 3: will just lie, you will just relationship.

831
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 1: And there can be no trust. It ain't there.

832
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 2: It ain't there. So we got some comments. Comment one,

833
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 2: she obviously doesn't care about you or the relationship. Even

834
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 2: when she hid smoking, she didn't come off as trustworthy.

835
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 2: I feel like you should end the relationship and move on.

836
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 2: I agree. I feel like at this point she kind

837
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 2: of already did this by not reaching out to you.

838
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 2: Sounds like she's been done with the relationship for a minute.

839
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 2: I'm sorry you have to go through this. You deserve

840
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 2: someone who will actually be upfront and honest about things.

841
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 2: If this affects you mentally, I think you should see

842
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 2: a therapist. I hope the best for you. And that

843
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 2: is where this story ends.

844
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Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here.

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00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a

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Speaker 3: quick three minute break from ASP For more sponsors.

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Speaker 1: Oh wowno Benito.

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Speaker 3: Hopefully hopefully indeed he went through that and just you know,

849
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 3: focus on yourself.

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Speaker 1: I hope so.

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00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 2: But man, what I also hope you go through what

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Speaker 1: Booh bomh yeah wow wow wow wow big one. But

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Speaker 1: we got we got more in store.

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Speaker 3: Ooh, your my girlfriend accused me of cheating because of

858
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Speaker 3: what my building security told her.

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Speaker 1: Oh, man building a security exposing people.

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Speaker 3: Maybe they said you're cheating. Basically, my girlfriend and I

861
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 3: have been dating for two and a half years. We

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00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 3: met at a party and hit it off extremely well.

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00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 3: We were friends for a bit, but clearly had feelings

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00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 3: for one another, so we ended up dating. She gets

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Speaker 3: a bit jealous whenever I talk to girls because she

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00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 3: has quote unquote firsthand experience with how flirtatious I am,

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Speaker 3: so naturally she's a bit iffy about me hanging out

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Speaker 3: with girls. By the way, this comes from deleted And

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Speaker 3: the r slash Okay Storytime so about it. So, the

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Speaker 3: thing is, I'm a naturally flirtatious guy. I don't do

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00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 3: this intentionally, but I am told that I am very

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Speaker 3: attentative and that makes girls go head over heels for me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, subtle, okay.

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Speaker 3: So a lot of times I learned later ter on

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00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 3: that my friends have been trying to get with me.

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00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 3: Usually I brush it off and establish strong boundaries in

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Speaker 3: our friendship through my actions. I make sure not to

879
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 3: let anything happen. I also want to emphasize that when

880
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 3: I commit to a relationship, I mean it quite frankly.

881
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 3: I think cheaters are pathetic and cowardly. If I wanted

882
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 3: to date multiple women, I would. However, I love my

883
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 3: girlfriend and absolutely enjoy committing my time and love to her. Anyways,

884
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 3: on to the issue. I bring my girlfriend to my

885
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 3: place often to hang out and whatever. Therefore, my concierge

886
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 3: is quite familiar with her. The thing is, recently, my

887
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 3: really good friend moved to my city and we've been

888
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 3: catching up quite a bit. I usually don't have my

889
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 3: friends over at my place, but since we are close,

890
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 3: I didn't mind hanging out with her at mine. Of Course,

891
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 3: I let my girlfriend know whenever she's over. However, thirty

892
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 3: minutes ago, my girlfriend stormed into my place and started

893
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 3: going crazy, accusing me of cheating and the sorts. I

894
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:58,879
Speaker 3: have no clue what's up because last I checked, I

895
00:40:58,920 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 3: wasn't cheating.

896
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, is there evidence? Let's see it.

897
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: I I really want to know what the security guard has.

898
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: All right, let's see. You're curious.

899
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:13,240
Speaker 3: I'm imagining it's like a like a sitcom scenario where

900
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,839
Speaker 3: he's like, oh hey, let me grab this coat, and

901
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 3: she's like in front of the coat hanger and there's

902
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 3: a security camera in the worst position possible, and it

903
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 3: looks like he's like reaching around her to grab her

904
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 3: and like bring her in and smooch, but really he's

905
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,720
Speaker 3: like just looking for his coat.

906
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it was. It was the angles.

907
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:33,800
Speaker 3: It was the angle totally, you know, like friends side

908
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 3: Felds type type stitch. Anyway, she goes off about how

909
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 3: the concierge told her everything and how I am apparently

910
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 3: effing my friend, and on and on about whatever.

911
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 1: She ended up leaving and.

912
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 3: Said we're done. Oh relationship over? Oh done?

913
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 1: Dang, that was that was quick. That was quick. So

914
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: what do you think about that story?

915
00:41:56,280 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 2: I think just kidding is that it it's not over

916
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 2: and over. I could get my two cents. We have

917
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 2: more to the story, Laser gentlemen, although the relationship may

918
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 2: be over. To be honest, I was quite shocked and

919
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 2: didn't know what to do, and I was really curious

920
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 2: about why she thought I was cheating, despite me explicitly

921
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 2: telling her all the times that my friends was going

922
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 2: to be over. So I go downstairs and confront the concierge.

923
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 2: He tells me that apparently he saw me and my

924
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 2: friend being flirty, and that when I came down to

925
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: drop her to her uber, she was giggling, laughing and

926
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 2: being touchy.

927
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 5: I didn't realize laughing was a crime. Lock me up, officer, Papa.

928
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 5: Laughter is illegal, so he felt something was off. These

929
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 5: were his exact words, by the way, So naturally I

930
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 5: got pissed off and I told him that it was

931
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 5: none of his business, and then he crossed a huge line. Now,

932
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 5: the reason that I'm writing this here is because I

933
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 5: have no clue what to do. There are so many

934
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 5: things racing in my mind, and I'm honestly confused. How

935
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 5: should I speak to even speak to my girlfriend? How

936
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 5: should what should I do about the concierge any advice

937
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 5: and we haven't edit, But really quick, how should we

938
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 5: talk to a girlfriend in concierge.

939
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:12,799
Speaker 2: Well, concierge is like definitely overstepping a little of bit.

940
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 2: Yeah crazy, Yeah, that's where was it? A honey b

941
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: eighty five says concierge is probably trying to shoot his

942
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:20,719
Speaker 2: shot with his girl.

943
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 1: Dude, ooh, I think that could be it.

944
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:25,919
Speaker 2: I mean, but it also it's like, is this girl

945
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 2: flirting hella back with him? And also how far is

946
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 2: this flirting going with this girl he's dropping off in

947
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: an uber? Yeah, maybe maybe the girlfriend already had some

948
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 2: like feelings about this girl, and the fact that the

949
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: concierge said something just confirmed it.

950
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 1: And all of a sudden she's like kind of jealous.

951
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: Well yeah, when this guy is being flirty with every

952
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: like when he's dropping off girl and us and being

953
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 2: hella flirty with a bunch of people, I would understand

954
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: being jealous. Yeah, but the concierge's definitely being a little nosy.

955
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 2: I feel like that like violates concierge protocol.

956
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: I think it probably does. It's like priest protocol.

957
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: It's like priest, Yeah, exactly, you know, you confess your

958
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 2: sins and uh nothing, nothing, nothing happens.

959
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 3: There was no there was no booth when he was

960
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 3: dropping her off from Uber. He dropped her off at

961
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 3: a door.

962
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: It's true. No walls, no walls, no walls, but we

963
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 1: have more because there is an edit. Wow.

964
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 3: Didn't expect so many comments, and I really appreciate you

965
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 3: all for taking your time to give me advice. I

966
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 3: feel I felt quite trash last night and I decided

967
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 3: to sleep. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do next.

968
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 3: I think the effects of last night are raining down

969
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 3: on me because I felt quite sick to my stomach.

970
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 3: It all feels like an elaborate nightmare. This definitely does

971
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 3: feel like a fever dream. Honestly, for now, I'm going

972
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 3: through the advice everyone has so kindly offered and.

973
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: Pieced together what I should do. We have an update.

974
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 3: But do you think OP should go back after her

975
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:56,439
Speaker 3: and try to, like see if she'll s I'm.

976
00:44:57,080 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 2: Like, my my suspicion is the con sierge was a

977
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 2: tipping point that that happened, and I feel like the

978
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 2: the problem that is in this relationship is way deeper

979
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:12,760
Speaker 2: than just the concierge because OPI admitted at the beginning

980
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 2: he's flirtatious.

981
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 1: Yep, and his girlfriend's jealous.

982
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I believe that he's flirtatious. I

983
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,400
Speaker 2: believe that his girlfriend's jealous, but I feel like it

984
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 2: might be because the flirtatiousness is.

985
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 1: A little bit overboard. Yeah.

986
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 2: And also if the concierge is like roll those guys,

987
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,920
Speaker 2: those guys put it in work like other people, and

988
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 2: girlfriend must also see that same vibe.

989
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, that's such a good point. If a concierge

990
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 3: is taking the time out of his day to go

991
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 3: quite frankly risk his job to tell this woman like,

992
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 3: it's probably really bad, it's probably really bad, probably really bad. Yeah,

993
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 3: and he's already acknowledged it.

994
00:45:53,040 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 2: So exactly, I'm and I don't think necessarily OPI did anything. Yeah,

995
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 2: Like I feel like I feel like the probability of

996
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 2: him have actually doing something is maybe low. But if

997
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 2: it's so flirtatious like that, that's still looks a cross boundary.

998
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

999
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 3: Like if he's just yes, schmoo's in every single girl

1000
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 3: he sees, what kind of relationship is that?

1001
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 2: Well exactly, I mean, there needs to be especially if

1002
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 2: the girlfriend's not okay with it. Right, It's like it's

1003
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: like one thing or like, oh, like we have an

1004
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 2: open flirting rule and then that's fine. But if the

1005
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 2: girlfriend's not okay with it, then it's not.

1006
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 1: Something you should do. Yes, but sam ay boy, we

1007
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: got an update. Ooh you know how I love those?

1008
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 2: Oh yes, swap it in my mouth hole, Oh, my

1009
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 2: ear hole and my nose holes all the hole.

1010
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: Let me here speak and breathe story.

1011
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 3: Let's go straight through the face bones, which is how

1012
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 3: you hear something like that.

1013
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: Anyways, updates.

1014
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 3: It seems like she's told a lot of our mutual

1015
00:46:51,640 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 3: friends that I cheated on her.

1016
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 1: Oh oh, the word is spreading. This smear campaign has begun.

1017
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 3: A lot of people are messaging me, and some of

1018
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 3: the messages are scary because they're quite hurtful. Others are

1019
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 3: curious about my side of the story. I honestly don't

1020
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 3: know what on earth to do. I feel like try

1021
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 3: and explain myself will just fall flat, which like, honestly,

1022
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 3: that is a top position to be explaining yourself. I

1023
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: am panicking quite a bit. Any advice, and we have

1024
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 3: another update. We're gonna dive right into it.

1025
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: Oo baby, Hi everyone, I have.

1026
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 3: A couple of questions because things have been have gotten

1027
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 3: a lot worse since. So she blocked me on everything

1028
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 3: after I messaged her to meet up so we can

1029
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 3: talk about it. Then she went on to tell all

1030
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 3: of our friends and everyone seems to know a lot

1031
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 3: of them have messaged me with some horrible stuff and

1032
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 3: it feels like someone gave the old one.

1033
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 1: Two dinny do tuma gut uh?

1034
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 3: I mean, for sure, I didn't even cheat, and it

1035
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 3: makes me want to cry when people just assume that

1036
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 3: I'm a cheater. I have always thought cheaters real the

1037
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:50,840
Speaker 3: lowest of the low, and being branded as one hurts

1038
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 3: a lot. Nonetheless, some of my friends were curious about

1039
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 3: my side of the story, so I decided to have

1040
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 3: them over and tell them all about it. My friend

1041
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 3: who was caught cheating with me is also going to

1042
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 3: be coming over. Any advice on how to approach this

1043
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:08,240
Speaker 3: because I don't want it to be simply my words

1044
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 3: against hers. That is true, he does, I mean, and

1045
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 3: I guess this is the woman he's alleged to be

1046
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 3: cheating on with, so she has also incentive to clear

1047
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 3: his name. But it's like she was with, you know,

1048
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 3: the one his friend who can say like, hey, nothing

1049
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 3: happened or whatever. But yeah, it's just like like like

1050
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 3: when when when someone just throws that out and you're

1051
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 3: like trying to explain yourself.

1052
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,720
Speaker 2: You're just especially with a past history of like suspicious behavior.

1053
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, one hundred percent.

1054
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 3: Oh baby, oh baby. Now I'm also not sure what

1055
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 3: to do about the concierge. This dude has single handedly

1056
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,279
Speaker 3: ruined my life. I mean, I have lost a lot

1057
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 3: of hope in saving my relationships and just wish this

1058
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 3: could all end and become normal. I really don't think

1059
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 3: getting him fired will do any justice. A few of

1060
00:48:56,920 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 3: you have recommended suing him for slander. Oh man, I

1061
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:04,240
Speaker 3: haven't brought the situation to my parents. Yeah, this seems

1062
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:04,720
Speaker 3: a little.

1063
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,359
Speaker 1: Extreme and sent is not gonna work. It's not Yeah,

1064
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. You could maybe get him fired,

1065
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 1: but I don't think you could see but that. Honestly,

1066
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 1: even at that point, I'm like, what is that? What

1067
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 1: does that accomplish?

1068
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:18,320
Speaker 3: You know, I haven't brought the situation up to my parents,

1069
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:21,320
Speaker 3: but I will do that if nothing improves.

1070
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 1: What do y'all think?

1071
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 3: Also, thanks a lot to those who have been gentle

1072
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 3: and empathetic of my situation. This would be extremely.

1073
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:29,320
Speaker 1: Depressing to go through alone.

1074
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: I feel a lot less lonely with your support, and

1075
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 3: it means an incredible amount to me. I will definitely

1076
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 3: find a way to repay those few and have you

1077
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 3: know that you have me if God forbid, anything happens

1078
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 3: in your own lives. And we have update number two

1079
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 3: staring us right in the face. Right, I hit it,

1080
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 3: Let's get into it. So basically, my friends came over

1081
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 3: and supported me quite a bit. We agreed on some

1082
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:54,879
Speaker 3: steps that I should take.

1083
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 1: Next.

1084
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 3: Number one is block her and all our friends from

1085
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,120
Speaker 3: social media. All in knowledge is to avoid that. In

1086
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 3: group number two, do not respond to any social media

1087
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 3: posts because it'll just add fewl to the flames. Number three,

1088
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:10,320
Speaker 3: get in contact with lawyers because one of my friend's dads,

1089
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 3: a lawyer, said that I have a strong case and

1090
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 3: I should really sue it.

1091
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:18,200
Speaker 1: I can't imagine that's true, but wow, I'm no lawyer.

1092
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: Dang golly goobers.

1093
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Speaker 3: Furthermore, demand an apology letter from the concierge. I've already

1094
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 3: spoken to my parents and they have got me in

1095
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:29,840
Speaker 3: touch with their friends who are lawyers. This is giving

1096
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 3: Daddy's money, so I will take it from there. Number four,

1097
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: move out of my building.

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Speaker 1: Even if the.

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Speaker 3: Concierge is fired, my at least will be ending soon,

1100
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 3: so it's not too bad. And apart from which also

1101
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 3: seems extreme. Apart from that, my friends just supported me

1102
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 3: and reassured me that I didn't do anything wrong. Since

1103
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:50,920
Speaker 3: every single one of you was attacking me for being

1104
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 3: a flirts, I asked them for their honest opinion on

1105
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 3: me being a flirts. Apparently they said they never called

1106
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 3: me a flirt, but they said they just told me

1107
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 3: that some girls can fight it in that they thought

1108
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 3: I was being flirty, which I.

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00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 1: Means maybe we're a little bit just maybe means you

1110
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: were a flirt, maybe a little bit a little bit. Hey,

1111
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 1: you know, it's like, nothing's wrong with being a flirt

1112
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 1: unless you're in a relationship with.

1113
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: Someone who doesn't want you to flirt. Indeed, you know

1114
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:16,359
Speaker 2: which it sounds like you were in.

1115
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 1: That is the thing. Uh.

1116
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:21,240
Speaker 3: They wrote that up to the girls reading into things

1117
00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 3: and not me. Nonetheless, I learned I wasn't one hundred

1118
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 3: percent correct in the way I approached my friendships. A

1119
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 3: few of my friends brought up some of the points

1120
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 3: you guys mentioned in the post and said that you

1121
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 3: guys were spot on with them. They offered me some

1122
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 3: suggestions on how to work on these points. Hopefully I

1123
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 3: won't have any more girlfriends leaving me because of my

1124
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 3: concierge's actions in the future. Well now, I haven't heard

1125
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 3: back from my ex yet either. Her friends are just

1126
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 3: spaming me with stuff, but I haven't replied to them.

1127
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 3: I don't think I will, and I'll just end up

1128
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:51,320
Speaker 3: blocking them. I'd like to speak to my ex in

1129
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 3: the future to get some closure, but it doesn't seem

1130
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 3: like it will be anytime soon. I'm still in shock

1131
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 3: because we've been together for nearly three years.

1132
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 1: That's nearly all all of my university life.

1133
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 3: It sounds like we're dealing with a young in here,

1134
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 3: which is weird to think about.

1135
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 1: I thought we were a perfect couple, but I guess not.

1136
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 3: I also have to say I got quite arrogant slash

1137
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 3: cocky in the past thread.

1138
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 1: I think maybe this is a reference to that all

1139
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: the girls.

1140
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 3: Just launching themselves at him like magnets, and I'm sorry

1141
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,840
Speaker 3: about that. I was just ticked off and overwhelmed, but

1142
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:28,240
Speaker 3: that was my defense mechanism. I didn't mean to flex

1143
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 3: that I've been with so many girls or whatever, but

1144
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 3: I just got a bit annoyed by people constantly saying

1145
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,919
Speaker 3: that I'm intentionally flirting to get attention from them.

1146
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:38,839
Speaker 1: It's one thing to brush off a comment or two,

1147
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 1: but when.

1148
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:41,439
Speaker 3: It gets to be fifty plus comments saying the same thing,

1149
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 3: one starts to get defensive. Regardless, I should have kept

1150
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,839
Speaker 3: my composure and I shouldn't have reacted badly. After all,

1151
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 3: it was my idea to seek advice from you all.

1152
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:55,720
Speaker 3: And if you want to seek some mother freaking advice.

1153
00:52:55,760 --> 00:52:59,520
Speaker 1: Some of the best advice on the internet, by god,

1154
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 1: do we have the solution for you?

1155
00:53:01,920 --> 00:53:05,720
Speaker 3: Apple, Spotify, iHeart Radio Search, Okay, story Time two thousand

1156
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 3: full episodes of good advice given, goofully, learnings and laughs.

1157
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 1: That's what we have to offer you.

1158
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:18,759
Speaker 3: Unlimited content, truly, unless you listen sixty days straight. But

1159
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 3: we have the finale of the story Sam, any any

1160
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 3: final thoughts before we dive into that.

1161
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 2: I mean, it feels like this relationship is what is

1162
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 2: just not going to work. Yeah, just in general, even

1163
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 2: if the concierge didn't say, yeah.

1164
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: It's something was going to happen. Yeah, and this just

1165
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 1: happened to be this. They happened to be this. Well,

1166
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:40,840
Speaker 1: let's get into the finale here right. Last night was

1167
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: a bit weird though.

1168
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 3: My friends and I went out to a bar and

1169
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 3: got a bit wasted on my way home. My cheating friend,

1170
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 3: she's going to unlive me for calling her that lmao.

1171
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 3: Offer to sleep over there to be with me?

1172
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 1: You want to do that right now? Is that what

1173
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:57,360
Speaker 1: you want to do right now? Is it not makeing

1174
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 1: you look better? This is not my friend and not

1175
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:02,400
Speaker 1: making you look better?

1176
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:08,040
Speaker 3: Well, things have happened, oh pe.

1177
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: When one door closes, another opens, somebody opens, someone opens.

1178
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 4: She's just pulling a John?

1179
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:16,839
Speaker 1: What's that?

1180
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 4: Because his girlfriend broke up with him, and then the

1181
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:23,720
Speaker 4: girl was She was like, hey, I'll come.

1182
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 1: Over, referencing my thirteen year old John.

1183
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 3: There we go, Yeah, referencing my thirteen year old story

1184
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 3: of asking out a girl today she got broken up?

1185
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:42,359
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, yes, it took me a sack to get there.

1186
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 1: You know all the time.

1187
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 3: You know that happens all the time, dude, thirteen year

1188
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:48,800
Speaker 3: old John was running around.

1189
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, Oh P, I'm sorry. I feel like ohp.

1190
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 3: He's totally lost me at this point, because like I

1191
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 3: think you got to say, like hey, and the relationship

1192
00:54:59,480 --> 00:54:59,959
Speaker 3: just ended.

1193
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, like okay, anyways, just just add to same. I mean,

1194
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 1: do you feel the same. Uh.

1195
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:08,399
Speaker 2: I think it's a little soon, yeah, a little soon

1196
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 2: technically in the clear technically yes, technically black and white paper, yes.

1197
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:15,640
Speaker 1: But it doesn't look good for the tabloid.

1198
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 3: Not good for the tabloid, said, listen the doormen and

1199
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:20,839
Speaker 3: when women are on on on the streets out there

1200
00:55:20,840 --> 00:55:21,880
Speaker 3: are already.

1201
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 1: They're already talking. They're talking, my goodness.

1202
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 3: Anyways, However, I told her it was going to be

1203
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 3: a one time thing because I don't want to rebound

1204
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 3: into a relationship or anything. I'm thinking of living the

1205
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 3: single life now, going to hit the gym harder than ever,

1206
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:38,360
Speaker 3: destroy school, and get into a master's program in London.

1207
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 1: Alpha brain, move on and just focus on me. No

1208
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:42,840
Speaker 1: more girls for a while.

1209
00:55:42,920 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 3: Also, I'm not sure if I will be allowed to

1210
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 3: update you on the concierge situation since we're taking legal action.

1211
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:54,200
Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, I'm actually crazy though that he's taking

1212
00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 4: legal action against the concierge for saying that he flirted

1213
00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:59,360
Speaker 4: with the girl that he then hooked up with.

1214
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:03,879
Speaker 1: Yeah dude, great.

1215
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 4: Cause, like your honor, I did not flirt with that

1216
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 4: girl yet at that moment, sir.

1217
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,160
Speaker 3: Two days later, Yeah, I didn't take up with it

1218
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 3: on Tuesday, your honor. It was on Wednesday after the breakup.

1219
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 3: Yeah dude, ridiculous. Should we do a doupe if I

1220
00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 3: am allowed to, though, maybe I'll post what happened. Not

1221
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 3: too sure though, And an edit, Uh, you are right

1222
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 3: about me being a wiener head for sleeping with my friend.

1223
00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:31,359
Speaker 1: There you go.

1224
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:33,799
Speaker 3: I accept that it just happened and that was that.

1225
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 3: Sorry to disappoint y'all. Edit number two, I think I've

1226
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:39,760
Speaker 3: said enough. See you on the flipsids.

1227
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 1: So cool and sexy and flirtatious. It can't help.

1228
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 3: Just every time I open my mouth, women just fall

1229
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 3: at my feet.

1230
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 1: Head over heels. Oh man, But that is where that

1231
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 1: story ends. That's it, that episode, Oh my baby. So

1232
00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:00,279
Speaker 1: if you love us, make sure to subscribe of you

1233
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: and see you tomorrow.