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Speaker 1: Karen, parents are forcing me to abandon my boyfriend of

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Speaker 2: It's not my boyfriend all abandoned.

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Speaker 3: Hmmm, So who's she gonna abandon them?

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Speaker 1: Everyone else in her life. She's gonna run away and

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Speaker 1: Everybody's getting abandoned except for the boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Wow, he's gonna have to juggle a lot of hats,

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Speaker 3: that's the case.

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Speaker 1: He's gonna have to bake croissants while filling her cavities.

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Speaker 3: I love that, dude. It'll be tricky whenever someone has

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Speaker 3: to show up for like, you know, domestic abuse or

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Speaker 3: something like. Cut that. Jesus man, he really really really

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Speaker 1: That one's just for you, editor. You got to cut

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Speaker 1: that or your your toast here, all right. I'll try

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Speaker 1: to make a long story short. I am an only

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Speaker 1: child and my current boyfriend and I have been dating

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Speaker 1: for six years, starting when I was nineteen and when

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Speaker 1: we started dating, and after that we went to different ucs,

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Speaker 1: went to different universities of California, I believe, which is

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Speaker 1: where your boy went for one quarter.

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Speaker 3: Gota love it.

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Speaker 1: My parents met him early on by joining us at dinner.

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Speaker 1: Everything seemed to go well. Then soon after we went

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Speaker 2: I expressed that.

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Speaker 1: This weekend was just for me to meet his family,

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Speaker 1: but it was clear that she felt almost betrayed by me.

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Speaker 3: You got your visit, Mom, Yeah, you got it. It's

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Speaker 1: Drive, drive ten more hours just to see me for

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Speaker 1: five minutes before you go drive ten hours back home, Like, no,

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Speaker 1: this is this is too much mom. Fast forward, my

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Speaker 1: we take my car because it was already loaded with laundry,

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Speaker 3: He's the man, he should be driving.

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Speaker 2: Blah blah blah blah blah. What your own bro. It's

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Speaker 3: Freaking sexist asshole, but to your own.

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Speaker 1: Daughter, like, come on, geez wow, Oh my god. This

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Speaker 1: started everything going forward on a sour note. The cabin

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend wore a sweatshirt with his hood up during

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Speaker 1: I'm of the time at the cabin. My parents to

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Speaker 3: Was he being weird in this sweasure too? Or was

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Speaker 3: he just like vibing like like was he like like.

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Speaker 1: Like like like trying to like rob them, just like

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Speaker 3: I gotta, I gotta, I gotta have the hood up.

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Speaker 1: Just in case I decided turn around and freaking rob.

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Speaker 3: These fool Was he like levitating on the floor like

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Speaker 1: The mentor like is he trying to suck their souls

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Speaker 3: What's going on here? Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: As we continue our relationship, it's clear that my parents

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Speaker 1: me to stop dating him, because they can't I'm an adult.

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Speaker 1: But they do tell me that I need to keep

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Speaker 2: Wow. That is that is Badikes.

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Speaker 1: They don't want to really hear about him, and he's

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Speaker 3: Wow. Wow, they tell me that.

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Speaker 1: If you continue to date him, eventually it will be

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Speaker 3: Yikes, dude, it's usually the boyfriend that does that, not

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Speaker 1: And we've seen we've seen people with unreasonable parents and

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Speaker 3: Just want to know, like, what did he do wrong?

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Speaker 3: Like did he like not close the cabinet door like Riley?

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Speaker 3: He wore a hoodie I forgot. How could you possibly

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Speaker 2: Are blocked by a wall of cloth. Disgusting.

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Speaker 1: I guess I can relate unforgivable behavior, among other things.

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Speaker 1: They would tell me that he'd never be an attorney,

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna be anything? Like, dude, that is like

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Speaker 1: After undergrad I started working at a financial firm. He

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Speaker 1: assuming from UC Berkeley. Like that is what is wrong.

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Speaker 3: Choose to be with my boyfriend. Sorry he wore a hoodie.

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Speaker 3: He wore a hoodie. Sorry. I can't just look at

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Speaker 1: You know what you're now? You're too focused on money.

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Speaker 1: You need to stop being so greedy. Okay, you wear

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Speaker 2: And now now you're.

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Speaker 1: Choosing the law and money over your own flesh and blood.

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Speaker 1: but it's it's you. You're doing this to us.

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 1: This man is the most despicable person on planet Earth?

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Speaker 1: To be honest, Oh, I told them that I would

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Speaker 3: Of this could have been profected. It would have been solved.

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Speaker 1: So all we have broy Yeah, they just hate him.

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Speaker 1: Among other ridiculous reasons to not like my boyfriend were

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Speaker 1: Berkeley isn't a man's college from my dad. One time

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Speaker 3: Wow, you know what? You know what, Riley?

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Speaker 1: I bet he was wearing a hoodie when he broke

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that would check out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Dude? I hate to be this way, but this is

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Speaker 3: What's going through your head? Like, there's what could he

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think we're just dealing with these parents

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah right, Wow, dude, that's a nice name for

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I think these parents are just grasping at

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Speaker 1: You know, there are times and places to be like

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Speaker 1: We got to make an ultimatum like, look, we will

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Speaker 1: Like extreme circumstances, the most extreme circumstances, right that is

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Speaker 1: a whole infinite galaxy away from where we are right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, the mathey mathing. It's truly not mathing.

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Speaker 2: But there's one thing that we can add to this equation, Riley.

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Speaker 3: Oh you got something for me the up day, like

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Speaker 3: my math pun there. Yeah, yeah, that was great.

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Speaker 1: So, after many hurtful texts from my parents that said

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Speaker 1: with only me about it. Clear manipulation, obviously, so I

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, people.

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Speaker 3: Coming through, Let's go.

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Speaker 1: But I can see you know, like literally when you

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Speaker 1: it's so easy. I'm sure to be misguided by your parents'

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was strange walking into your parents' house and

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Speaker 1: Kind of felt like having a twenty six year long

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Speaker 3: It's over.

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Speaker 2: It's over, Riley, they are done.

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Speaker 3: It's like all you've ever known just like gone. You know,

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Speaker 2: Imagine breaking up with your own parents.

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Speaker 3: Dude, I couldn't. I couldn't even fathom that. Honestly, I

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Speaker 3: have a great relationship with my mother.

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Speaker 1: After about an hour of small talk, we got into

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Speaker 1: A previous text that week had said, we don't expect

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Speaker 2: We just wanted to talk.

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Speaker 1: But it's clear that this in person meeting was a

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Speaker 1: into theirs. They came at me from every angle. He's

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Speaker 1: not a man's man, Dad said, I don't respect him.

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Speaker 1: I hate him. He's taking me away from the most

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Speaker 1: someone like that? He's not a Yeah, it's not a lumberjack.

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 5: A real man would wear a tank top and an

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Speaker 2: Now it all makes sense.

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even at some points my dad was physically threatening him.

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Speaker 1: Adding little tidbits and reminders of things that she doesn't

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Speaker 1: other way around. Just just any anything that can possibly find. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so like just any random bs. You get the gist.

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Speaker 1: It was an all out war on my boyfriend. They

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Speaker 1: They say he is selfish for not breaking up with

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about? They even just started blindly

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Speaker 1: throwing out shots like I don't even know if he

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Speaker 2: But I digress.

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Speaker 1: It ends up being a three hour long conversation where

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Speaker 1: reminding me, Apple Watch resident Riley. How how bad is

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Speaker 3: Is that? That's super high?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 3: It's like basically doing CrossFit for three hours, like yeah,

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Speaker 3: seventy beats per minute and one fifties. Like if you're running,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, damn, just all out sprinting three hours against your

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Speaker 1: They also don't fail to mention a few other shining points,

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Speaker 1: such as, we knew you would put this on us.

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Speaker 2: That this is not an ultimatum.

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Speaker 1: We are just reacting to your choices and decisions, was

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Speaker 1: their reply to me, saying this is not my choice.

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Speaker 1: This is an ultimatum you've given me, and neither my

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Speaker 1: us the bad guys because we're not hashtag team boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Any of your friends and family who say we will

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Speaker 1: not come around or it will get better is lying

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Speaker 1: to you and saying what you want to hear. They

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Speaker 1: asked me why they should like or be impressed by

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Speaker 1: replied with education doesn't impress me. I took God just Riley,

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Speaker 1: We're like only halfway through this. I told them how

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Speaker 1: saying when even my parents were coming down on me

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Speaker 1: about how I wasn't doing enough, They said, that's what

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Speaker 1: any boyfriend would do. No, Mom and Dad, it's not.

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Speaker 1: And the two of you were certainly making me feel

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Speaker 1: worse that entire time. They said, because my boyfriend's dad

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Speaker 5: Gosh, I don't want no silverstone.

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Speaker 2: I don't want no silver spoon raising my grandbabies.

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Speaker 3: How did you not get enough money before in high

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Speaker 3: school to go to college? What were you doing?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 2: I bet I bet they'll put it.

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Speaker 5: I bet they'll put our grandson in some wimpy honey

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Speaker 5: when he gets cold.

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Speaker 2: It is any cold like a man baby.

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Speaker 3: I love the What the alternative to this was he

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Speaker 3: has so much money and student loans, how could he

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 3: That's the alternative to that? Right? God?

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Speaker 1: Dad said, I think your mom is having an epiphany

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Speaker 1: We feel like you're not listening to us because I'm

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00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 1: not just blindly agreeing to break up with my boyfriend.

444
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: And Dad said, this kind of thing happens all the time,

445
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: as if it makes it normal or justified. At the end,

446
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 1: I have to break the news that in between all

447
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 1: of the hurtful texts and prior to this meeting, my

448
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I signed a lease and are moved in together.

449
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 1: Nothing they were going to say it was going to

450
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: sway me otherwise, even they said that, so we had

451
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: taken the leap and made the move. The weekend before

452
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 1: this meeting, I commuted about twenty to thirty minutes before

453
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 1: the move, and my commute is the same after the move.

454
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 1: The only difference is we now live in the same

455
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:05,360
Speaker 1: city that my boyfriend now a new attorney with crazy

456
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 1: early and late hours congrass Opie's boyfriend works in. Believe me,

457
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,120
Speaker 1: I had all kinds of requirements prior to this move.

458
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: It has to be safe, have an in unit, washer

459
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 1: and dryer, safe parking, et cetera, et cetera. And it's

460
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: only for a year or two while we save money

461
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 1: so we can buy a home. Contrary to my parents' belief,

462
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: I am capable of rational decisions. Opie seems like the

463
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 1: most like normal rational person on planet Earth. I told

464
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 1: them first that we signed the lease and where it is,

465
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: you know, to try and lighten the blow that I'm

466
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 1: outright disobeying them. They start going off about how, oh,

467
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,400
Speaker 1: of course making it easy on him again. They saw

468
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 1: me always going to my boyfriend's house as me catering

469
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 1: to him, even though the only reason was because we

470
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 1: were never comfortable being together at their house. Then, of

471
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 1: course he became essentially banished. Yeah, how dare you get

472
00:24:57,280 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: your own space when we refuse to let your her

473
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: boyfriend come over here.

474
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Like, dude, I can't. You need to just.

475
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: Perfectly, Riley, there's a perfectly reasonable solution to all of this.

476
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 1: If you want to hang out with your boyfriend, you

477
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 1: two just have to sit on the sidewalk outside of

478
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 1: our house without walking through the door, and you can

479
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 1: be together that way.

480
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: The only way.

481
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 4: I guess.

482
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 3: It's like Romeo and Juliet But Romeo's parents were chill.

483
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 1: And Juliette's and Juliette's parents were like, why are you

484
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 1: wearing a fucking hoodie?

485
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, a cloak?

486
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: Excuse me, gotta be gotta be time historically accurate, a cloak.

487
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.

488
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 1: So they see this move as me being some smitten

489
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: teenage idiot, not about how this is a relationship with compromise.

490
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 1: They tell me that my commute is going to be brutal,

491
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: and that I'm lying to myself if I think it's

492
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,160
Speaker 1: not so. I guess that's why she was talking thinking

493
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: so much about the commune and how it's basically the same. Again,

494
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 1: I have already been doing it for a week. I

495
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 1: know it's not any worse. It's a prettier drive even,

496
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: but it's clear that I can't slowly ease into it,

497
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: and I just have to rip off the band aid

498
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 1: because they are straight up just wrong and trying to

499
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: convince me that I don't know what I'm talking about.

500
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 1: So I say, we've already been doing it for a week.

501
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:29,919
Speaker 1: We moved in last weekend, Riley. If they didn't like

502
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,160
Speaker 1: a hoodie, they're gonna love the fact that they moved

503
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: in together without telling it. They're gonna be They're gonna

504
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, forget about this whole hoodie thing.

505
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: You're right, congratulations, Let's let's let's open a bottle of

506
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 1: champagne and have a little housewarming for just a test.

507
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: This is all the test. Could you could you imagine, Riley?

508
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 3: They just go like.

509
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 1: Daughter, We have been testing you rigorously for the last

510
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:05,159
Speaker 1: six years. We have been denying and throwing the most

511
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 1: unreasonable and dumb excuses of all time at you so

512
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: that way you could be strong and stammed up to us.

513
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 1: Now you have done the unthinkable and moved into you

514
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: with your boyfriend, which is exactly what you were meant

515
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 1: to do. We support you. Let's crack open a cold one. Congratulations.

516
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,119
Speaker 3: Wow, that actually might be worse because then their parents

517
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 3: are psychopaths. You got to stay in one lane. You

518
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 3: can't just do a one to eighty. What do you

519
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 3: think the reaction is going to be?

520
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,439
Speaker 1: Real quick, real quick prediction every one of the comments

521
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: right now, what do you think they're going to say?

522
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: I just think like they're gonna lay into it even

523
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 3: more and try to do whatever they can possibly to

524
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 3: get her to get out of it, But like you can't.

525
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 1: What do you think, like, cancel your lease, move out,

526
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: pay the year. The parents are like, it is literally

527
00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:00,399
Speaker 1: it is literally so bad, Like imagine he wore a

528
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 1: alone with our daughter.

529
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 2: Unthinkable.

530
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: Pay, get an advance on your entire salary, pay your rent,

531
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 1: just to get out of there.

532
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 2: Wow, that's the prediction.

533
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 3: Yeah that yeah, that seems about right. Yeah.

534
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 2: They are just dumbfounded, loll like I thought.

535
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,439
Speaker 1: You guys said you weren't planning on changing my mind,

536
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: So why so surprised that I went ahead with my choice.

537
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 1: My mom starts crying, my dad keeps saying, yeah, fed

538
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 1: up kid. It's about ten PM at this point, so

539
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 1: now that they know I have a slightly longer drive home,

540
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: they're kind of sweeping me out the door. So I

541
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 1: can get home before it gets too much. Later, your

542
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 1: drive five more minutes, the traffic is just gonna it's

543
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 1: just gonna go crazy, you know, two more miles. It's

544
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: just it's just too much. It's just to get get

545
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: out of here, Get out of here. My mom gives

546
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 1: me this big, sobbing hug. At this point, I've run

547
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: out of tears. I was crying throughout the entire conversation,

548
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: but at this point was just over the bs, which

549
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: you should be jikes. My dad, who rarely even tells

550
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 1: me that he loves me, gives me this awkward, desperate

551
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: hug that just kind of makes me roll my eyes.

552
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: I get in the car and drive home, just totally

553
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: exhausted and confused. Truthfully, they did a good job of

554
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: again making me question my own thoughts and choices. But

555
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 1: I got home and just start spilling everything they said

556
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend. He's not surprised, but as I said

557
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: in my last post, he remains Swiss as in neutral

558
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: as freak in all of this and doesn't say anything

559
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: crappy about them.

560
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 2: I mean that takes a lot of My boy is

561
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: a good one.

562
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 3: Damn.

563
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: I don't know if i'd be uh so generous.

564
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 3: No, I'd definitely be dropping some jokes or something.

565
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 2: Right, at least at least letting a joke fly here.

566
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: Come on, he needs to let out a little steam

567
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: after all of this freaking madness. He just holds me

568
00:29:56,280 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: close and lets me vent. Oh, he's a keeper, a

569
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 1: kind lawyer, Riley wife him.

570
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 3: Now wow, that is rare, right, yeah, for real.

571
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: Something else that came up during our lovely three hour

572
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: discussion was my anxiety. I previously shared with them that

573
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: I think they are a huge source of it and

574
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: had been throughout my childhood as well. Prior discussions have

575
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: always gone nowhere. You had it so easy. We don't

576
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: ask that much of you, et cetera, et cetera. All

577
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: we ask is that you dump your boyfriend of six

578
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: years because he's clothing is too warm.

579
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 3: That is literally all we want.

580
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 2: Is that too much to ask? Is that too much?

581
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 4: God?

582
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 1: So I brought it up again in this discussion, how

583
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 1: my parents are a huge source of anxiety and my

584
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: boyfriend is a calm rock in all of it. That

585
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that he's such a great partner. My

586
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: dad screams at me, how he never laid an effing

587
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: hand on me and how he was physically disciplined as

588
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: a child, and he just can't own that they could

589
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: have had anything to do with me being an anxious person. Yeah,

590
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 1: I didn't beat you as a child. Give me the

591
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:07,959
Speaker 1: Parent of the Century award.

592
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 5: Please.

593
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 3: Physical abuse and emotional abuse are not the same.

594
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 4: Come on.

595
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: He even says you need effing therapy, Like, yes, dad,

596
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: thank you, I sure do. And also f you also,

597
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: I said I had a hard time swallowing that I

598
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: had anything to do with your anxiety. You're going to

599
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 1: have to work out those demons with yourself. All of

600
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: this to say, the answer you've all waited for is

601
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 1: that I have moved in with my boyfriend. I'm keeping

602
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: my mom and dad at arm's length, and also I

603
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: have started therapy. It's twenty six years of emotional abuse

604
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: and narcissism to unpack and learn from, but I'm working

605
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 1: through it. Hey, congratulations, Opie that I am truly happy

606
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 1: you've broken out of their freaking messed up matrix.

607
00:31:58,400 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 2: So that is that is awesome news.

608
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: The guilt tripping and lack of boundaries is so real

609
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 1: and has been real for forever. I know my situation

610
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 1: isn't as bad as others, and is also worse than others.

611
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 1: But for all of you out there in similar situations,

612
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 1: seek therapy. It is really a good thing. There's so

613
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: much behavior to unlearn and grow from. Even if you

614
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: don't think it's bad and that you're doing fine, see

615
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: a therapist if you can. I wholeheartedly agree your abusers

616
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 1: have learned behavior too. They have learned how to get

617
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 1: you and how to manipulate you, whether it's vindictive or not.

618
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: They have learned how to make you do what they

619
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: want and think what they think, and then they know

620
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 1: how to make you feel horrible about doing anything Differently,

621
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: seek counsel, and family and friends whose advice you trust,

622
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 1: seek therapy, and above all, trust yourself. I still get

623
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: very emotional about all of this. It's still a very

624
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: fresh wound. I mourned the relationship I had with my

625
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: mom and the one I will never have with my dad.

626
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: My health is definitely suffering at the moment and from

627
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: all the stress, but I'm working on getting my mental

628
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: health back and I know my body will follow. Breaking

629
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: the wheel is hard and terrifying. It's like being a

630
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 1: crate trained puppy forever and finally being allowed to go outside.

631
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: But outside is unknown. The crate is all you know.

632
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: And even though you know the crate is confining and

633
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: freedom is in front of you, it's all so unfamiliar,

634
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: uncertain and frightened. You know what's behind you, and it's

635
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 1: easy to want to run back to it, But no

636
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: matter what is in front of you, it's better than

637
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: the crates. The crate is not living for yourself, it's

638
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 1: living for someone else. So go out and make your

639
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 1: own life. Oh my god, hold on, she's another freakin

640
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: round of applause.

641
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 2: Hauh ohp wow, I'm proud of you.

642
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 3: Op. That was took a lot. Yeah, that she saw

643
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 3: through all that and she like still stayed like focused

644
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 3: and didn't like veer off to what they said. That

645
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 3: that takes a lot of courage.

646
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: And also so like, you know, I think at this

647
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: point it's totally fine to be like, hey, I kind

648
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 1: of can't have you guys in my life unless you're

649
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: willing to, you know, come to reality and see reason.

650
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 1: And it seems like she's like, I am not going to,

651
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 1: you know, let them interfere anymore and keep them at

652
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 1: arms length. Like she's still being very reasonable and fair

653
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: to them. I think I think her exact words were

654
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 1: something like keeping them at.

655
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:26,439
Speaker 2: An arms length.

656
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you know, I really you know, what I

657
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: would really love to know is what the boyfriend thinks

658
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: in all of this. Yeah, because he's the one. Could

659
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 1: you imagine for six years? I mean, well maybe you

660
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:42,320
Speaker 1: can imagine a little bit, but uh, for six years

661
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 1: of this going on and happening, Like.

662
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, it's it's tough. I have a friend that

663
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 3: is actually it just popped in my head. She's actually

664
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 3: going through this same thing, except for they're in the

665
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 3: doctor path and not the lawyer path. That's the only difference.

666
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 3: And yeah, I feel so bad because I know, I

667
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,720
Speaker 3: know her parents, and her parents are like super awesome

668
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 3: and super great, but they're very like conservative, and she's like,

669
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 3: she's like on this other side where it's like, you know,

670
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 3: I'm a great person. He's a great person, Like already

671
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 3: I'm on the path trying to be a doctor or

672
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 3: something like that, and they just and she wants to

673
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 3: move in with him and they just aren't having it. Dude.

674
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 3: This is a whole nother Reddit story. But like her

675
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 3: dad tried to pay her money to like get her

676
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 3: to stay, but she was like, I'm not moving, I'm moving.

677
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 3: I can't do this. I feel really bad for her,

678
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 3: but like she basically had to do it. Like I

679
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 3: think they've stayed together the same amount of time, like

680
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 3: four or five years too. But yeah, wow, it sounds

681
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 3: so similar to what she's going through and she just

682
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 3: went through it. And it's so hard to see because

683
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 3: you know these people and like they're great people, but

684
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 3: like it's just beliefs and stuff they just don't ah crazy.

685
00:35:56,760 --> 00:36:00,080
Speaker 1: It sounds like it sounds like those parents that's like

686
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: like every most everything seems good, but then there's just

687
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 1: one area where you know, it kind of gets thrown

688
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: out the window a little bit. Op's parents were just

689
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: like straight straight sucked.

690
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 3: The whole way through, you know what I mean?

691
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 1: You know what those parents and Ope's parents should get

692
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,879
Speaker 1: together and start a subreddit for how to manipulate your

693
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: children into doing what you want? Because I think that

694
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: if they started a podcast then how to successfully manipulate

695
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 1: your children, I mean, all the narcissists and all these

696
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: people out there would be like, this is a banger,

697
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: you gonna listen to this episode, dude. They dropped some

698
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 1: fire on this where guy's go go like and subscribe,

699
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god. But on the real let's let's let's

700
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 1: let's break it down. So you know, we had Op

701
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: shout out to Op. I think she really like broke

702
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 1: through all the noise, seeking therapy, figuring out for herself

703
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,479
Speaker 1: what she wants and kind of like building and work

704
00:36:56,520 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: going into the unknown, like she said, with the boyfriend,

705
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: and they're probably going to have an incredible successful relationship.

706
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 1: I mean he's literally a freaking lawyer from UC Berkeley. Like,

707
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,359
Speaker 1: what are we are talking about here?

708
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:12,440
Speaker 3: Yeah?

709
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 1: I guess lesson of the day is, uh, if your

710
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 1: if your parents don't like hoodies, just just cut and run.

711
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 3: Man, just just just edit, cut it out, cut it

712
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 3: out of there.

713
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: But you know what, I don't want to get out

714
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 1: of Riley, what's that this episode? Because we have one

715
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 1: final story for y'all.

716
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: My mom lied and.

717
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 1: Let me believe my cat was missing for two months.

718
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: I am furious at her.

719
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 3: Am I the a whole two months?

720
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 1: I Mean, here's the question, Riley, what is it she

721
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: could have let her believe it was missing for three months?

722
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,720
Speaker 3: Oh four months?

723
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: She was so kind that she was like, hey, I'm

724
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna let you in on this. I'm not

725
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 1: going to drag it out for a three, four, five, six,

726
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 1: but no, no, no, just two months. That's that's all I'm

727
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: gonna do. It's just a prank, bro, just.

728
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 3: Just it eight weeks.

729
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:02,760
Speaker 4: Wow.

730
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: And this one. It was submitted to our slash Okayop show.

731
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 3: Baby who did it?

732
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 4: So big?

733
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 1: Shout out to Yobi two thousand aka Little Udon, thanks

734
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 1: for sending in a story again. And actually, Riley, if

735
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 1: they want to submit a story, where can they send

736
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 1: it in?

737
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,280
Speaker 3: Oh, if you would want to submit a story, please

738
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 3: go to our slash Okop show. Put in that nice title,

739
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 3: put in those words, and we will read it because

740
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 3: I read every single one of them.

741
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 2: That's right. Riley is the gatekeeper.

742
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,280
Speaker 1: He is the man that will decide if a story

743
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 1: gets on this podcast.

744
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 3: Make me laugh and I'll put you on here. Make

745
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 3: me cry and I'll put you okay, take that back,

746
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 3: take that back, take the back. Don't make me cry,

747
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 3: don't make me laugh.

748
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 1: Fuck and and ladies, you know, if you're trying to

749
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: get on this podcast, you know, I mean, he's single,

750
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 1: he's he's moving to Los Angeles. So I'm not saying

751
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: put your number at the bottom of the story.

752
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 3: I am saying that yeah. Or you can even call

753
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 3: us Andrew slash text us your number and be like, hey,

754
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:09,919
Speaker 3: what's good and what is that number?

755
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 1: John? Four four zero five zer wait six five six seven,

756
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,280
Speaker 1: without further doo, let's get into the story. Nice boom

757
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: love that will loud on here, what's up? Good to

758
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 1: see you again, Si, I cannot seem to catch a break.

759
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 1: Around two months ago, my fluffy cat cash you great name,

760
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: went missing, or so I thought. I assumed he had

761
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,439
Speaker 1: gotten through a hole in my mom's floor, and I've

762
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,720
Speaker 1: spent the last two months calling out for him, hoping

763
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:41,800
Speaker 1: he would come back. A hole, a hole in the floor,

764
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: in the floor Riley, he's gone, say what that's just

765
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,359
Speaker 1: so casual, just mentioning like that, there's a hole in

766
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: your in your mom's floor, all right, just the sponge

767
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 1: that is the bedrock of my mom's houses foundation.

768
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 2: I would come into my mom's.

769
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 1: Room late at night and cry that I had failed him,

770
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 1: and wondering if I was just.

771
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:06,479
Speaker 3: A bad cat mom.

772
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 1: Oh, about a month and a half ago, I got

773
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: more worried because we got the hole fixed. My oldest cat,

774
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 1: two plus years old, is a male cat named Chyron,

775
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: also got out and I found him in our yard,

776
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: right next to the house gone. He had been poisoned

777
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,959
Speaker 1: by a neighbor down the street who began to leave

778
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: out a bowl of water with rat poison in it

779
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: to keep the strays out of his trash. Oh dude,

780
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is Oh my god. Losing chyn

781
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: devastated me, and I spent a day crying on my

782
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 1: mom's bed that I had failed to protect my babies

783
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: and that I didn't deserve my cats. I repeatedly questioned

784
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 1: if I should surrender my other cats to a shelter,

785
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:57,400
Speaker 1: but ultimately did not because one of them is brain

786
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: damaged and three of them are black cats, so they

787
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: would not do well in a shelter. Oh man, Oh

788
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: peace a she's will udon. Oh my heart goes out

789
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 1: to you. My mom never said a word to me

790
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 1: until today for contact. About two and a half months ago,

791
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 1: a couple incidents occurred, and long story short, my older

792
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,919
Speaker 1: biological sister is legally not allowed to be less than

793
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,760
Speaker 1: a hundred feet away from me, nor is she allowed

794
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: to contact. Oh my goodness, well, little udon. If you

795
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 1: want to ever share that with us, you know where.

796
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 2: To reach us.

797
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 1: However, she had been holding some of my stuff hostage

798
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: in her trunk until I agreed to pay for half

799
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 1: of a storage unit I had zero legal claim to.

800
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 2: She and my youngest.

801
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 1: Biological sister dropped the stuff off while I was at

802
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 1: work and went to get some of my older biological

803
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 1: sisters things, which technically means she can't come back because

804
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: the judge banned her from my mom's property for two years,

805
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: aside from the one day she had to collect her stuff. Yes,

806
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: what she did to me was that bad. Apparently, when

807
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 1: they went to collect older sisters things, younger sister saw

808
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: Cashew and wanted him. Oh my god, put I see

809
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,799
Speaker 1: you if you see what is about to go down

810
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: in the comments right now. They both made my mom

811
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: promise not to tell me, and my mom let them

812
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 1: take him. Oh my god, you've.

813
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 2: Got to be kidding me.

814
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 1: I only found out today because their mother wanted him gone,

815
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 1: and my mom felt.

816
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 2: A shred of guilt.

817
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,439
Speaker 1: She says she did nothing wrong because she couldn't stop them,

818
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 1: but she snapped at me when I told her she

819
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: could have told me sooner.

820
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, you could have.

821
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 1: First of all, yes, you could have stopped him. You

822
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: could have been like, no, that's not your cat, and no,

823
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to ope about it, yeah, you know,

824
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 1: and be you could have told her like, hey, your

825
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: sister's took your bare minimum if they just like you know,

826
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: like no and like you know, did some covert operation

827
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: to steal with cat in the middle of the night

828
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: or whatever.

829
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 3: At least be like, yo, I'm your sister's took your cat.

830
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, especially after her other cat was poisoned.

831
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: Dude, you gotta you gotta like tell her these things.

832
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 3: You can't be You can't have a delay and message

833
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 3: with this kind of stuff.

834
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 2: Couldn't.

835
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 1: Dolly, this isn't This isn't a text you can mark

836
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 1: on red. Guys, this is not a freaking what are

837
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 1: we doing? She says she never lied to me, but

838
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: I told her she let me believe he was missing

839
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 1: or dead, even after seeing what losing Chiron did to

840
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: me one million percent facts like the mom knows what

841
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:42,720
Speaker 1: what happened, Like that's ten million times worse.

842
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 4: Uh.

843
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: She told me that she made her promise, and I

844
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 1: snapped at her, what kind of monster are you? That

845
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: you would let me believe my cat was dead after

846
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 1: you let them take him, because you promised them you

847
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't tell me, am I that unimportant to you and

848
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:01,799
Speaker 1: that my tears and my pain mean nothing to you.

849
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 1: When I finally got back to him, she went, are

850
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: you happy now? And I said, how could I possibly

851
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 1: be happy? That I'm living with such a lying, empathic snake.

852
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: Damn that op's dropping the hammer, which is deserved. She

853
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:25,680
Speaker 1: told me to shove my animosity up my ass, and

854
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: I told her to go to hell. I do not

855
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 1: have the money to move out right now, and this

856
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: is currently the only place I am legally safe for

857
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: my older sister for the next twenty one months. She

858
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 1: knows this and has told me if I want to stay,

859
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 1: I need to shut my mouth and leave her alone

860
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,360
Speaker 1: about it. My only option is to bite my tongue

861
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 1: until I can get enough money to move far away

862
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 1: where neither her or older sister can reach me, and

863
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 1: not let either of them know where I am. I

864
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 1: feel so hurt and betrayed, and the way my autism

865
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 1: affects me, it feels like I can't process any of

866
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 1: it at once, hitting me in waves, and I don't

867
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 1: know how to feel. She's providing me shelter and not

868
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 1: charging me rent until I get on my feet, but

869
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 1: I feel like what I don't pay in money, I

870
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: pay for with my mental health. She's hurt me in

871
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:16,439
Speaker 1: so many ways over time and recently, but this one

872
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:19,240
Speaker 1: just feels like a dull, rusted knife through my heart

873
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: and I don't know how to move past it. Oh dude, well, Oudon,

874
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 1: you are part of the Okay fam. Let's let's get

875
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: some hearts in the comments and maybe just take a

876
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: second to write a sweet, thoughtful message to the little

877
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 1: Oudon and show our love. I am so sorry that

878
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:39,879
Speaker 1: you're going through this, little Udon, And you know, I

879
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:43,320
Speaker 1: think even though your mom is giving you a place

880
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 1: to stay and is like, you know, not charging you

881
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,439
Speaker 1: rent or whatever, I think this can often be done

882
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 1: as a means of like having something to hold over you,

883
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And it's like, hey, I

884
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: don't make you pay rent. I'm doing all this stuff

885
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 1: for you, blah blah blahlah blah. You know you should,

886
00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 1: you know, listen to me, let me do what I want,

887
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:03,400
Speaker 1: except et cetera. But you definitely don't deserve that behavior.

888
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:05,280
Speaker 1: And yes, I think you're right. Your mom is almost

889
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 1: like making you pay for it with all of this

890
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 1: BS that she's putting you through, especially after your first cat. Mike, Yeah, gosh,

891
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: I am at least glad that she found the cat.

892
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 3: Yeah right, like it might be with the horrible person,

893
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 3: but like it's still alive, you know.

894
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, the cat is still alive and is with OP.

895
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: It seems at least OPI a little udon should start

896
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,839
Speaker 1: like a cat a TikTok cat channel.

897
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:33,919
Speaker 3: Dude, dude, dude. Fun fact, I met a guy at

898
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 3: a BOS that has a TikTok cat channel like legit,

899
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 3: it's just a cat doing so I forget what it was,

900
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 3: but he had like millions of views, had his own

901
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 3: merch and like said, it keeps the water running. And

902
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 3: I was like so shocked. So what's doable? Like loll

903
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 3: udan do that? Run that up?

904
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 2: Who do you remember the cat? Can we give a

905
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:55,879
Speaker 2: shout out?

906
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 3: Dude? It was so late at night. I feel bad now.

907
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 3: I gave him my number so we should talk, So

908
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 3: that's on him from not reaching back out to me,

909
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 3: because I would remember if we did talk again. But dude,

910
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:10,240
Speaker 3: he just missed out on the reals right there, dank Orp.

911
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: Dude, Wow, what a missed freaking opportunity right there.

912
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was just random.

913
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: But yeah, Op, that's crazy though, that you would run

914
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 1: into a random like confluencer in the wild in were

915
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: you in Knoxville, Knoxville at a bar?

916
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 3: Wow?

917
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 2: Maybe it's the hub of cat content.

918
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I could see that that that random person

919
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: just like that, that person is the okop like what

920
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 1: okop is?

921
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 3: So the like Reddit stories?

922
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:42,240
Speaker 2: That person is that content? Wow?

923
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: Well Op, We're sending all of our love to you.

924
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: Hope to hear from you again. I know, I know,

925
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: I know, little Udon. You've send us some stories in

926
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 1: the past, hoping things turn around. Maybe try some cat content.

927
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 1: Who knows? And if any of you watching want to

928
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: submit a story of your own, head over to our

929
00:47:58,000 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 1: slash Okop show.

930
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 2: We would love to hear from you.

931
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 1: You love to share some advice or if you just

932
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: want to hear us read your story because we love

933
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: doing it. Big big O'Reilly will lift up that big

934
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 1: rusty gate and let you in.

935
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 3: I promise, And if you want to.

936
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: Call us, you can call us at four for zero

937
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 1: five zero eight six five sixty seven. Love you Little Oudon,

938
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 1: Love you every single one watching this, including Riley and

939
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 1: We'll see you next time.

940
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 3: Love you too.

941
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 4: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

942
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 2: Time for okop relamd.

943
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: I refuse to give any of my inheritance to my

944
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 1: a fair baby sister to save her life?

945
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

946
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 4: I mean? Is she gonna die? You know?

947
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:38,319
Speaker 3: Ay?

948
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 2: She's an a fair baby sister.

949
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 6: I always like when we have these these multiple relationships

950
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 6: and like like family and friendship dynamics, I'm like, what

951
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 6: is actually going on here?

952
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll find out.

953
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, we are about to.

954
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 1: So when I was twenty five, we found out that

955
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,760
Speaker 1: my father had been cheating on my mother for years

956
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: and he had a seven year old daughter with his mistress.

957
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 6: Wow, we're coming out of this story swinging.

958
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, we are starting off with a bang over here.

959
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: In one split second, the happy family I knew was

960
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: completely gone, and I went through one of the darkest

961
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 1: times in my life.

962
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 4: Yikes.

963
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 3: Rough.

964
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,720
Speaker 1: My parents divorced and further prenup. My mother walked away

965
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: with most of their assets since she also contributed more

966
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 1: to the family income, and she never forgave my dad

967
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 1: for what he did. And never talked to him again,

968
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 1: though she grudgingly allowed me to have whatever relationship I

969
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 1: wanted to have with him. I eventually forgave my dad,

970
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:45,479
Speaker 1: mostly just because I was tired of carrying so much

971
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: anger and so much hurt in my heart.

972
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 3: I talked to.

973
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 1: Him, but I want nothing to do with his mistress

974
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 1: or my half sister, the.

975
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 6: Affair baby, the affair baby. Yeah, but you got to

976
00:49:57,800 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 6: be so mean to the affair baby. The fair baby

977
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 6: didn't do anything. I understand, maybe being mad at the

978
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:03,720
Speaker 6: mistress with the affair baby.

979
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,920
Speaker 1: Come on, caught in the cry, Hey, you're catching shrapnel.

980
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:10,280
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm shooting. I'm shooting, and you're catching trapill.

981
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: It's the affair baby.

982
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 6: It's John hates affair babies. John likes to shoot trapnel

983
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:18,360
Speaker 6: into affair babies.

984
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 4: You heard her hair first, Folks.

985
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 1: In twenty years, there's gonna be like the whatever Twitter

986
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 1: is in the future, and it's to be like John Fry.

987
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 3: Like shooting babies.

988
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 4: Want him to be.

989
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 6: Your next Say.

990
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 1: No to John Frod's right baby shooter, baby shooter. My

991
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 1: mother passed away last year and left me everything. She got,

992
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 1: all of her inheritance, her money, her real estate assets,

993
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: her business.

994
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:48,280
Speaker 3: Which I now own and operate.

995
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 6: Whoa, Like we're talking assets assets over here, and like

996
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 6: the mom was the richer of the two, so she.

997
00:50:56,000 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: Came had fat assets, fat oh jiggly acids.

998
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:05,040
Speaker 3: But doing good doing.

999
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: I'm in a relatively comfortable financial position while my dad

1000
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: is getting by.

1001
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 4: Yikes.

1002
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 6: Daddy's poor, hey, but at least he's got his mistress.

1003
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 3: Now he's he's got his mistress and he's got his

1004
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 3: a fair baby. Yeah, he's good to go.

1005
00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 6: He's young at heart and in the wiener got that

1006
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 6: young dick, that.

1007
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 2: Young cock.

1008
00:51:31,080 --> 00:51:31,400
Speaker 3: All right.

1009
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:32,240
Speaker 4: Uh.

1010
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: He was never a good businessman on his own and

1011
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 1: has lost a lot of money on businesses that just

1012
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 1: later went belly up.

1013
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 4: Yikes.

1014
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: This year, my half sister was diagnosed with a life

1015
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 1: threatening illness and she has been in the hospital for

1016
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 1: the last four months. The bills are mounting, and my

1017
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 1: dad came to me for help because they're now in

1018
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:53,960
Speaker 1: a situation where they are finding it difficult to come

1019
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:55,720
Speaker 1: up with the money for my sister's treatment.

1020
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 4: Oh geez.

1021
00:51:57,080 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 6: So basically, like if she doesn't get treated, then she dies,

1022
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 6: That's what it's.

1023
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:05,760
Speaker 3: This is a really, really, really really really tough situation.

1024
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: The thing is, I don't want to use my mother's

1025
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 1: money to pay for the treatment of the child her

1026
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 1: husband had with this other woman, even though it's not

1027
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: my half sister's fault. I like how she keeps saying

1028
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 1: like half sister, half sticking it in. It feels so

1029
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 1: unfair when I think that the money worked so hard

1030
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 1: for all her life will go to a child that

1031
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 1: neither my mother and I have any responsibility towards, and

1032
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 1: the very same child of the man and the woman

1033
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: who hurt her so so much. I'd really rather use

1034
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: it to grow her company and let my dad and

1035
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:47,280
Speaker 1: my half sister's mother figure out how to get money

1036
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 1: for the treatment. They are her parents after all, And

1037
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:53,360
Speaker 1: the only thing tying her to me is my father

1038
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:57,600
Speaker 1: saying she is your sister. And if she dies because

1039
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:00,040
Speaker 1: she doesn't get the treatment she needs, would you be

1040
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: able to sleep at night?

1041
00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 6: So the question is some emotional manipulation right there, the

1042
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 6: massive emotional minus.

1043
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 3: So the question is am I the a hole?

1044
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:12,720
Speaker 4: Oh god?

1045
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 1: This is this is one of the one of the

1046
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:17,040
Speaker 1: hardest because it's so cool.

1047
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 4: It's like the trolley problem.

1048
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 6: It's like, you know, right, like if you don't pull

1049
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 6: the switch, are you still are you murdering someone? Even

1050
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 6: though you know, like, well.

1051
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:27,320
Speaker 1: Except this, no, no one's the trolley one is like

1052
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: you like, what does it kill like one unhealthy person

1053
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:30,880
Speaker 1: or three healthy people or whatever?

1054
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 4: That is?

1055
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 6: Uh this, but it's like there's also the other trolley

1056
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:38,839
Speaker 6: problem if it's like if if you like, yeah, so well,

1057
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:40,759
Speaker 6: but you're there's that way if you kill like one

1058
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 6: or ten people. But it's like if you move it,

1059
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:47,720
Speaker 6: are you still are you now responsible right for killing

1060
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:50,440
Speaker 6: the one person right right? Whereas if you just let

1061
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:53,920
Speaker 6: it go, you're killing ten people. But but you're also

1062
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:56,560
Speaker 6: I guess you're also responsible because you have the power too.

1063
00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 6: But basically like OPI has the power to save a life,

1064
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 6: and it's like do you do it? And are you

1065
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 6: morally responsible? But on a also in a darker note,

1066
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 6: like everyone kind of has the power to save a life,

1067
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 6: like every day, like if you donate to like one

1068
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:12,839
Speaker 6: of those malaria foundations, yeah you could literally you could

1069
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:15,399
Speaker 6: literally save a life today today right now.

1070
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:16,320
Speaker 4: It sounds like we're doing it.

1071
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:17,799
Speaker 3: H It literally sounds like we're doing it.

1072
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:21,320
Speaker 6: Infomercial where it's like five cents can save this child,

1073
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:23,560
Speaker 6: give water for a gear for this child.

1074
00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 1: Literally, dude, this yeah, it's this is I think one

1075
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 1: of the toughest like moral quandaries we've had on the show,

1076
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 1: Like it's it's either way is kind of super fucked

1077
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: because honestly, she is I get the situation, and I'm

1078
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 1: not saying that she's totally responsible for her, but that

1079
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:45,560
Speaker 1: is her half sister, so it's not like the only

1080
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:48,400
Speaker 1: thing tying it to her is the dad's like words,

1081
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 1: she is related to her, Yeah, which doesn't necessarily mean anything,

1082
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 1: but it doesn't mean nothing.

1083
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, it there, there's definitely ties, and I think

1084
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:01,440
Speaker 6: like as fucked up as you know, Like the dad's

1085
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 6: question is like are you gonna be able to live

1086
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 6: with yourself? Like I think that's a valid question, right, Yeah,

1087
00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 6: Like it's like, don't do it for anyone else? Right,

1088
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 6: do it? Like will you if you don't do this,

1089
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 6: will you regret it? Will you be able to live

1090
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 6: with yourself?

1091
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1092
00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 6: And if you're like, fuck, if I care, I don't

1093
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 6: really care, then maybe maybe that's that that that tells

1094
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 6: you something. But if you actually look at it and

1095
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:25,239
Speaker 6: are like, man, maybe I will regret this, then then

1096
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 6: you probably should should help.

1097
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Speaker 1: I would, yeah, Like I feel like Op knows what

1098
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Speaker 1: she wants to do, but like I would just be lost.

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00:55:33,239 --> 00:55:35,759
Speaker 6: And it's also like, you know, you're you're kind of

1100
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:38,359
Speaker 6: going against your mother's memory too, you.

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00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:41,320
Speaker 3: Know, in in what way? Oh, by by doing it, bye.

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00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:42,880
Speaker 6: By giving, by giving, like if you were to give

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00:55:42,920 --> 00:55:46,160
Speaker 6: all this money away, right, you're you're.

1104
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 3: To the affair baby.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but you know, I think there's I actually do

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00:55:50,080 --> 00:55:52,439
Speaker 6: think there is a middle ground here, Like I think

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Speaker 6: I think what what Op could do is she like

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00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 6: like I feel like Op is framing it like she

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00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:07,839
Speaker 6: to help her dad and this affair, baby, she has

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00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:11,359
Speaker 6: to give away the entire fortune. Yes, yes, and I

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Speaker 6: can't imagine that's true. But even if it is, let's

1112
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Speaker 6: say it is. H Yeah, I think the middle ground

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00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 6: is like like here, let me let me give you

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00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 6: like twenty five like fifty K to keep going. But

1115
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 6: she doesn't have to sell the business to yeah, or

1116
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 6: sell the real estate or anything. Yeah, maybe she could.

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00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: What she probably should do is like, look, in order

1118
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:32,719
Speaker 1: to get this amount, you need to like you know,

1119
00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 1: start a go fundme, like get like figure out figure

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Speaker 1: out the absolute most the both of you can do

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00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 1: with this. I'm gonna give you this amount once you

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00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:43,919
Speaker 1: get all that, like the gears running, and then I'm

1123
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 1: out Like this, this is not my responsibility or problem.

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00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 6: So but yeah, but I do want to, like, I

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00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 6: do want to help in some way, So yeah, I

1126
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 6: don't want to just leave her defensive. So but damn

1127
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 6: complicated situation. Yeah, for sure