WEBVTT - BONUS: And Soon There Will Be Two! 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:08.480 Hello, my loves, Welcome to the bonus episode of Give 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:12.920 Them La La Podcast. What a special special day beyond. 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:15.240 I'm so excited for you. 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.480 I want to be well mama, to be momma of two, 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:20.960 to be Okay, that breaks me out, does it? 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:24.040 Yeah? But I will say I'm so happy that the 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.960 picture finally came out because I've been rocking a beer 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:32.120 belly for like a few weeks now, and I'm Here's 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.320 the good thing is I always wear baggy clothing, so 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.920 like that part, it's like I'm not like, it's not 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:40.760 like I'm walking around in latex every day and then 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:44.720 all of a sudden, I'm in baggy stuff. But it's 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:47.839 strange when you can't wear skin tight things you want to. 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:49.960 I want a belly shirt on. 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:54.320 Well, now you can. You can rock the belly shirt. 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:57.720 No, it's kind of like you're you feel thick, but 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:58.680 you don't look pregnant. 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:00.560 Oh it's the worst, Yeah, it is is. 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:04.160 Yeah, it's kind of you can't you look, in my 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.399 opinion though, you have a tiny belly, now, don't you. 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:09.000 I mean, I look just like the Grinch for those 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.959 of you who don't look exactly like the Grinch. For 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:16.160 those of you who don't follow me on Instagram, yeah, 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.480 and only follow the podcast. First of all, thank you. 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:27.360 But I'm expecting my second child, which is very, very amazing. Congratulations. 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:30.760 We're all expecting. 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:36.480 It feels with child. Oh mom keep saying every time 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:39.199 I'm like I feel nauseated or like I'm so tired. 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:41.679 Why am I so tired? She goes, you're with child. 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:45.040 I know I'm about to Bitchla. Do not say that? 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:47.120 Why don't say with child? 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:55.080 Jessica. You can say she's pregnant, she's knocked up. I 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:57.680 don't care anything except with child. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.680 Oh, ild, I'm gonna be saying it all the time. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.320 You six feet I'm with child. 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:04.040 I will. 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:09.000 I totally see you doing that. So I've been off 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:13.600 social media because I wanted to create. I found out 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:15.919 on December twenty second, Oh. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.000 My god, get it, get into it. 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.800 We were going to head to Palm Springs on the 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:25.519 twenty third for Christmas. And here's the weird thing about 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:29.600 the way that I conceived this child, right is when 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:33.320 like you're bumping peepees with your partner, people aren't actively 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:37.639 checking in like did it take? Did it take? With mine? 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:40.760 It was like I'm going in for my IUI because 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:45.000 I got a donor, and so people who I would 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.600 tell I didn't think this went through. People who I 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:50.480 would tell I'm going in for my first IUI then 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:52.800 actively would text me the next day when do you 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.800 find out if it took? So I had people actively 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:56.640 asking me like are you pregnant? Are you pregnant? Are 0:02:56.680 --> 0:03:01.800 you pregnant? And it's so weird the first trimester because 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.600 it's you know, it's kind of touch and go and 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:06.200 you don't know what's gonna happen, and you just want 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.800 to make sure that that part you kind of complete, 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:12.359 which we've completed. We love that first trimester is over. 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:18.720 So I had people asking me. And Sheena and her 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.840 family were going to Palm Springs and I was gonna 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.600 take the test there because I was like, that's such 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.480 a like beautiful zen place and I but I'm thinking 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.160 about it as like I'm definitely getting a yes. And 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:31.239 I was like, what if I get to know, it 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:36.600 will ruin and it will ruin my Christmas. So we're 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:40.560 like in the apartment on the twenty second and Easton's 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.680 passed out on the floor. We're watching like something about 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:49.520 the planet and asleep okay, and I'm yeah, I'm fidgety. 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:51.280 So I'm just gonna go take it on my own. 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.120 I'm not gonna tell anybody. And so I go up there, 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:57.280 pee on my little stick and I'm a waitin. I'm 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.840 a waitin and I'm a paysin and it like double 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.960 lines and I was like, oh my god, that was 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:08.720 really fast and I'm tripping. What have I done? 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.000 Oh no, I don't expect. 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.720 It when I went into the fertility specialist because again 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.479 my obie was like, I can perform the procedure, but 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.400 I would much rather you have a fertility specialist to 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.839 it because you are getting a donor. It's not like 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:31.520 unlimited com boom boom, like if you have a man, right, absolutely, okay, 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.920 keep going. Hey we're still ling baby number two. There's 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:39.240 no changing the DNA. So I went to a fertility 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:43.159 specialist and they really treated me like I was having 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:45.760 fertility issues because that's what they deal with. 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:49.720 And the doctor was amazing though, he really was, and 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:53.080 the way he explained everything me at sixty three years old, 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:55.359 I'm like, oh, that's how it works. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:59.640 I was like, so that's what a fallopian tube does. No, 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.720 don't even know what that is. Apparently they have arms 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:04.920 and they like come down and they like they swish, 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:09.000 they sweep, the sweep the eggs, sweep the eggs. It's wild. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.559 It's like hungry, hungry. 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:15.000 In fact, the mere fact that people get pregnant, like 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.400 it's crazy, the way that everything's just got to be 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:19.680 right on point. 0:05:19.800 --> 0:05:22.880 Which is even more wild that you got pregnant the 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:24.920 first time. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:28.120 Because the doctor that did the procedure, he said like 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:30.240 he was trying to, you know, tell her he could 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:32.040 take between five and seven times. 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:34.240 Oh yeah, yeah, on average. 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:35.880 That's what it is. 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:38.320 That where you were saying that they thought that you 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:41.440 had fertility issues because you were going there because isn't it. 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:44.720 Women do what you do? 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:45.000 Right? 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:48.360 Wow? Three? What was that percentage? Well, I got my 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:52.400 my donor through the California Cryo Bank, and so when 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.880 I met with them and they worked with this fertility 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:58.760 specialist a lot like they were, they knew of each other. 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:02.120 And only to one percent of women who go into 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:06.720 the California Cryobank to seek out a donor because they 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.440 want to do parenthood on their own. There's only ten 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.080 percent of people who are like me, who are like 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:16.039 I just want a child, and I need a donor. Right, 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:19.200 most people that are coming in are like same sex couples, 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:24.960 or maybe the man doesn't he's sterile, So it's a 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.240 pretty I would say ten percent is a pretty low number. 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:31.640 But the California Cryobank, they were absolutely fantastic, like they 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:35.280 treated me, because it is a very weird and isolating 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:39.560 experience if you allow it to be. It's very scientific. 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.880 You know you're going in you look at all of 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.200 this stuff with your donor. And people kept asking me 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.919 what are you looking for in your donor? And I 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:52.960 have to say, looks were probably the lowest on the 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:56.000 totem pole for me. Yeah, and I hate to say it, 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:58.760 but I also didn't need them to be extremely smart 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:01.360 because I'm not. And I would hope that if I 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.120 was like donating eggs, they wouldn't be like, shouldn't go 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:06.680 to college? What I do? Ask you? You still text me? 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:13.080 So I didn't look at I just knew, like when 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:13.560 you had. 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.280 A defining moment when you pict your donor, when you 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:17.920 read his bio. 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.000 And which I am dying to get into, but I don't. 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:22.440 I want to make sure you go back because you 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.040 were in the middle of telling the story of how 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:24.640 you found out. 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:29.360 Oh sorry, emotional, we love yeah. 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:34.160 Ever excited with you. 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:30.680 You. 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:34.800 Say, you tell this journey however you want. I wanted 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:35.800 to remind you it's just. 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:38.920 Such a wild experience that I'm like, I don't even 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:41.160 know how to follow it because I'm like, this has 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:45.320 been the craziest like fourteen weeks ever. 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.880 Yeah, we're so proud of you, We're so excited. 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.800 So yes, there was a defining moment, but let's go 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:54.680 back to finding out. And then I want to venture 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.400 because sometimes when things happen so quickly, you know the 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:00.760 people around you, remember your reaction, actions, and what that 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:02.920 defining moment was. Where you're just kind of like living 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:08.480 in the moment. So I run down the stairs. I'm like, 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.520 I'm going to tell my family in Palm Springs because 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:14.800 then it'll be a really beautiful moment. And I look 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.320 at my mom and she's like doing dishes. It's like 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:23.320 such like not a cute space, okay, now at all. 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:26.560 We were just doing a daily routine, yeah. 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:33.000 Nightly routine, which is vegging to the highest degree, right okay, 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:38.200 and edibled out, passed out on the floor, and I go, guys, 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.640 I wanted to wait to tell you, but I really 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.720 really I need to tell you now. They're like, what, 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:50.960 just what? I'm pregnant and they're like you are. I 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:55.920 go Eastern Care, I'm having a baby. He's like, that's 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.480 so great. When did you find out? I was like 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:03.520 like five minutes. You were very excited, and then it 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:05.760 didn't seem real. So I just kept taking all the 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:08.560 pregnancy time. I felt like it didn't feel real. I 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.839 wake up and she's like, I'm pregnant. I'm taking Is 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:11.480 it a dream? 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:12.760 I would have done that. 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.160 I would have actually, I would have taken one and 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.880 been like, if it were me, this is probably wrong, 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.360 and taken probably ten more, and then I would have 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:21.560 been like, okay, so maybe I am. 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.920 Did you take him by the one? I certainly did, Lisa. 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:28.600 So I took a lot. It took a lot. I 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:32.480 just could not fathom that I was having a second baby. 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:34.600 On try one. I thought I had a little bit 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:38.880 more time to sink into I really did, and even 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:41.240 my fertility doctor was like, I feel like this was 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.440 just more of like a meet and greets, like, hey, 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.320 nice to meet you, here you go bye. It was 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:47.000 so fast. 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:47.839 It was so fast. 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.560 It was incredible. So you tell Lisa and Easton? Who 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:52.200 do you tell next? Do you tell me? 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:54.839 Is it? I tell you next? Okay, I tell you next. 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.440 So tell me this because I want to tell you 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:57.880 from my side where this comes from. 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:58.559 Okay? 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:00.040 So you yeah, well. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:04.560 Well I said I have to tell Jessica. So I 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.600 send you the picture and it probably was all of 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.600 three seconds that it took you to not respond, and 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:12.960 it was too long. I had sent it. It had 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:16.440 been three seconds you didn't respond. I'm calling you. So 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.400 I called you and I was like, hey, there's like 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:20.800 this like weird contract. And I don't know why I 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:23.280 thought that, like you would buy into, like you being 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:26.120 able to read a contract like instead of like Darryl you. 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:28.160 Know, but I did in my mind this second you 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:30.160 said that, I'm like, oh, I gotta read this contract now. 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.319 Yeah. I go, I don't understand it, and I'm hoping 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:36.119 you do. And so she gets it and she's like, okay, okay, 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.920 let me check it out. What paragraph? And I'm like, 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:40.720 just get in and I'll walk you through it. And 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:50.920 she says it just and she's just that was Jessica 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:51.920 never heard. 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:52.360 Anything like it. 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:53.040 I'm like, are you. 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.320 Okay, you said Jess, Jess, because she gonna hear me. 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.520 So what happened was, I'm laying in bed with Kyle. 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.360 I was just really tired that day. I was supposed 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:03.120 to go to Arizona. 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:04.640 It was my dad's birthday, and we did and we 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:05.600 had had a crazy day. 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:09.760 And Lala calls me and I'm like, hey, hey, and 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.800 she's like, hey, she said what she just said, like, 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:13.000 take a look at this contract. 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.320 I'm like, okay, okay, i gotta look at this contract. 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:20.120 And so you guys, when I say, truly the most 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:23.600 surprised I may have ever been in my life. I 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:26.839 was listening to you when you said things like it's 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.320 probably not going to take the first time. Many people 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:30.720 said that, so I was like, oh, it's not going 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:31.439 to take the first time. 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:32.360 That's just how it works. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:37.760 So I look at the photo and my breath is 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:41.200 quite literally taken away to where and I start bawling. 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.240 But Laala doesn't know that. So I'm like, I'm looking, I. 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:46.400 See the photo and I go oh, and then my 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:50.160 eyes and I'm like and I'm like, my eyes start watering. 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.360 And Kyle's like he like runs out. He's like of course, 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:54.000 Kyle's like. 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:55.000 So someone died. 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:55.680 Someone died. 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:57.640 Yeah, yeah, And so I. 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:00.440 Have to immediately turn and show him and and I 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:01.320 just start crying, and. 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:03.600 I'm like, oh my god, we're pregnant. 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:07.600 And then I'd like tell Kyle and he's like, oh, 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:09.280 that's so amazing, congrats. 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:14.720 It is the communal baby, it is. It's really wild 0:12:14.800 --> 0:12:19.280 to me because I've told Actually, it's crazy to me 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.520 that it didn't get out sooner. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:28.200 I mean the at All. 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:32.240 Break Well, the stylist at all Bright was with child, 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:34.400 and I felt an immediate bond with her. 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:35.640 No, you guys, let me tell you. 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:39.680 I go, is that a bomb? She goes, yes, I'm 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.000 doing April. And I was like, can I tell you something. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.840 I'm like six weeks pregnant right now. And she's like, 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:49.120 I'm so happy for you. I was like, I feel disgusting. 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:50.680 No, let me tell you. Lala. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:52.840 We were like, okay, we're keeping this on the download. 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.560 We're keeping the secret. Literally the next day was like 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:58.720 All Bright stylist or a few days later and within 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:01.560 a week or two weeks, because there was a vander 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.439 Pump premiere party. I'm standing next to Lala and I 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.840 hear her just tell at least six people liked. She's like, 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:08.559 don't tell anyone. 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.880 Worse at keeping my own secret. I'll keep yours till 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:18.560 the death. But me, I'm like, they kept the good people. 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:22.280 The second I hear her, I know, can I tell 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:22.760 you something? 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:26.440 I go here, she goes there, she goes yeah, Okay, 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.160 so you do. I told Dakota Fanning. 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:32.760 She kept a secret. 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:34.160 She's a bad bitch man. 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:37.199 Your circle is quite nice, quite secure. 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.800 Right. So when Andy Cohen last time I did wat happens? 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.360 Said these three, who would you trust the least? And 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:44.920 I said I would trust all three of them with 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:47.040 my life. I would all three of them with my 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.160 pregnancy secret right now. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:52.400 So that's a great question. Do they all know? Who 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:53.000 did you tell? 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:58.520 Yes? I better question the questioner, who did I not tell? 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:01.400 How did they react? 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.839 Thrilled for me? Can I tell you what's so incredible 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.640 is for me? And with like It was weird because 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.600 Easton expressed more concern about me getting a donor than 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:13.960 like my sixty three year old mother, which you would 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:17.240 think it would be the opposite, because Lisa comes from 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:19.800 a very different generation where it's like, but you're going 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:22.760 to find that someday, which is what most people her 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:25.640 age say to me. And I'm like, I know, great 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:29.000 and find it a lot of times. Damn, damn. 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:32.280 I love that. 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:36.640 So my mom, who's like the chillist of chill and 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:40.680 she's like, yes, do the donor fuck men? We don't 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:44.120 need them. You're a bad bitch. 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:50.920 I don't exact words, the complete opposite of those words, 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.320 but that's my interpretation of what you said. 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:58.160 You asked about who the people were that nailed who 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:04.000 I told, and you said their reactions, their reactions were amazing, 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:10.080 and because there this was just a different experience that 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.640 I know. It's not like the norm. It's most certainly 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:16.400 my norm. You always wonder how people are going to 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:19.840 react when you're like, I'm pregnant, because I think the 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:23.359 first thing people think is like, she doesn't have a boyfriend, 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:29.560 she doesn't have a husband, how could this? Oh, the 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:33.479 new neighbors, I'm sure are all the amounts of confused 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:35.360 by our whole dynamic. 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:37.680 I wonder if they thank you too? Are a couple? 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:39.960 No, no, no, she's my mom. 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:43.160 We went to the neighborhood watch meeting, and mate, you went. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:44.800 To the neighborhood watch meeting. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:48.160 Of course we're going to get into that on the 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:53.600 Wednesday episode, because me, I am a neighborhood watching you 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:56.480 don't want to. In fact, I think the neighbors are like, wow, 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:59.160 she's like really taking seriously. 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:01.560 I actually love this. 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.720 I can't wait to time at five h nine, a 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:07.160 suspicious car past all three of our houses. They lingered 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:09.560 three seconds in front of you, twelve seconds in front 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:15.640 of mine. Suspicion, call ADT. 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:17.600 I'm gonna love her, grim. 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:24.880 Joy, save the details, the details, mom? What was your 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.840 reaction when I mean as lame as it sounds, we're 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:30.800 a very comfortable family. I feel like Lisa and I 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.840 made this decision together to get a. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.760 Donor well, and you know what, I was so pro 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:38.040 for it too. I don't want to share a child. 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:43.200 Why it's so fun, it's just so easy and smooth sailing. 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:45.840 You don't want to nail to it again? No, I 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:46.520 don't know. 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.760 Had my feel, yes, how my feel don't enjoy, don't enjoy. 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:54.040 So this baby will be one hundred percent our baby 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:58.680 going to very like everywhere with us. I am don't 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.640 have to look at the calendar and don't have her 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:04.840 that weekend or oh like so over end. 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:08.680 See that's nice. I'm sure you feel not stressed about 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:09.080 that part. 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:12.720 I'm excited that Ocean gets something that we have. What 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:17.280 do you mean? I was like, what do we have? 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:21.320 No, you know what, She's going to be the best, 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:26.560 Like she's real cute. And when she looks Lauren and says, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:28.679 you guys, have a baby in your belly. 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:32.120 Baby in your belly, let me see. 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:35.840 I do want to ask you how you told oh, 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.679 but I'm also curious you've been. 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:43.040 Off socials correct when? How when did you decide to 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.439 make that choice? And is that changing? Is that going 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:46.080 to change? 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:51.840 I made that choice and why, like right after Christmas 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:54.479 because I wanted to obviously post my baby in like 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.119 her Christmasy stuff. And then I went off socials just 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:02.480 because I felt like I didn't want I just didn't 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:03.960 want to be a part of the outside world. It 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:07.440 doesn't affect me, I don't. It's not natural for us 0:18:07.480 --> 0:18:12.920 to see so much. You know, Yeah, you shouldn't. 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:14.800 Want it to remove yourself because you want to enjoy 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:16.080 your pregnancy. 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:18.800 That's exactly right. Not only do I want to enjoy 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:21.040 my pregnancy, but I also want to create, like a 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:24.719 really beautiful environment for this baby to grow. You know, 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:29.480 this is the first experience it's going to have with 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:32.560 its mom. I don't know the gender yet, but it's 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:37.040 I just wanted it to like be low stress, just enjoy, 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:42.000 get cozy. Mama's eating good. Mama's stress is low. Mama 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:44.919 doesn't know who's out in these streets saying what, Like, 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:46.919 we're just like very zen. And that's how it was 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:50.119 when I was pregnant with Ocean. Granted, it was the pandemic, 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:56.320 and a completely different experience pandemic pandemic pregnancy five star 0:18:56.720 --> 0:19:05.440 hop not top notch, real world pregnancy robe very different, right, right, Yeah, 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.960 I lived in my bathrobe and I ate amazing food, 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:12.560 and I watched housewives all day and it was just 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:16.160 so chill, and the whole world was doing the same thing, 0:19:16.200 --> 0:19:21.800 so there was no pressure, whereas now it's like I'm pregnant, 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:25.280 it's like great, see bright and early Monday. 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:29.080 That doesn't matter if you're nauseated or not. Life goes on. 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:33.280 You got you've got a baby, now you've got work. Like, yeah, 0:19:33.359 --> 0:19:34.919 a whole different experience. 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:38.720 I'm sure I do want to venture back into what 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:41.119 you were saying, Mom. The defining moment because I was 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:44.199 talking about the donor. You guys just roll with me 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:50.080 on this episode because there's a lot going on and write, yeah, well, episode, 0:19:50.480 --> 0:19:52.639 but now we've got the add from all three of 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:56.760 us plus pregnancy brain is just very hard to balance. 0:19:57.200 --> 0:20:01.320 Someone commented, just you have add on their podcast. 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:01.520 All three of us. 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:05.080 Yes, by the way, yes, by the way, okay, anyway, 0:20:05.600 --> 0:20:06.200 all three of us. 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:12.600 But the defining moment, what do you remember from that? Well? 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:14.800 He mentioned lions. 0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:17.240 Mm hmm. His they were animal. 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:20.800 It was a lion, and then some wasn't there a 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:21.639 song or something? 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:24.840 The song that he chose as his favorite and the 0:20:24.960 --> 0:20:29.840 poem both had to do with the ocean, which this 0:20:30.119 --> 0:20:34.280 is the donor. So what. I'm not sure how it 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:39.280 works with other sperm banks, but with California Cryobank, there 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:42.159 are certain My biggest thing was I don't want to 0:20:42.160 --> 0:20:45.400 see adult pictures. That makes it much too real, much 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:48.520 too personal. Like sure, I can look at them as 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:52.480 like a little kid, that's cute. Otherwise, and there's a 0:20:52.480 --> 0:20:54.600 lot of donors who say I don't want to show 0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:59.280 adult photos. This donor in particular did not grant adult photos. 0:20:59.320 --> 0:21:03.399 But California Cryobank could see them, so they kind of 0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:05.560